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Oh for sure, I know I am and I’m trying to work hard on it. Especially with my family since how I was raised is where it all began. Update: the last ex did in fact pay me back after about 2 weeks post break up. The ex from a year and half ago that was with for years has yet to reach out/pay me back. Which is hard because I see his family every Sunday at church now since they just moved to my area. He avoids me like the plague. I honestly can’t believe my dating life has turned out like this. Now…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 01:06 PM
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First, thank you for comment! Second, I hadn’t considered that my upbringing may have normalised this for me… but when I think about it, it’s true. I grew up seeing my mum’s side of the family asking for handouts all the time, even until this day, and she’s almost at retirement age, still working to give away her money. For context I am Nigerian who was born and raised in the west, the only people that have ever asked/borrowed money from me were mostly Nigerian men, now that I really think about…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 04:41 PM
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These questions were definitely asked way too late in the game. I need to take ownership of that
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 08:32 PM
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🫶🏾 much love! I appreciate this
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 08:30 PM
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Y’all he does have a PhD, I didn’t call up the school or anything - didn’t feel the need to. But he’s got pictures of his graduation. I’ve seen his degree, his resume, his LinkedIn. Heck I’ve spoken to his family who can all vouch for him. It’s just an unfortunate situation of money issues and I did a terrible job of keeping my boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:19 PM
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I do but it’s not like that. He met my family in person, I’ve talked to his family over video calls. I met him too. This was a serious relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:14 PM
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To be honest, even when he broke up with me, it was all about him and his timeline. That I’ve messed it up because I wouldn’t get married to him right now (court/legally married) - I told him I didn’t feel comfortable with that, we’ve only known each other a year and saw each other in person one time, and the current circumstances weren’t going to be a great foundation for that. Adding in the factor of our different religious backgrounds, yea… it wasn’t going to work. Fun fact, he asked me if we…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 03:31 AM
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You’re the best! Thank you so much for breaking it down and also for the encouragement! I agree about my time ticking, it does really feel like it. But there’s no point rushing into another relationship like I did for this one, when I haven’t worked on my self worth. I’ll try to juggle working on myself, putting myself out there and having friends/family involved in vetting for me 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 03:09 AM
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Oh… I hadn’t even seen it as financial abuse. Thank you for the eye opener
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 03:03 AM
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Thank you. I think I’ve definitely learned my lesson for good.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 02:56 AM
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I appreciate the honest feedback 🫶🏾
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 02:55 AM
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I appreciate it. I’ve definitely learnt my lesson. I do not want to repeat the same mistake for a third time
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 02:53 AM
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The hard part is he waited to ask for me to do this stuff AFTER he had already met my parents and I had talked to his folks over the phone. I think if he asked me early on I would have definitely not allowed it, but this is at a year in 😩
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:45 AM
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😬 ouch, the truth does sting a little. What I have learned is to listen to my gut, it told me a long time ago to watch out
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:42 AM
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Honestly I do think he’s a good man. I just ended up not having a lot of faith in his capabilities because it seems like everything went to shite as soon as we got to together. We’ve only known each other for a year. Should I have waited it out to see if he improves? Is that what you mean by the last sentence?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:39 AM
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The crazy thing is he has a PhD, I just have my bachelors, so I don’t really understand why I still ended up in the same position 😭 I’ll admit I’m insecure about some things that in turn make me feel like this is what I deserve low key.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:35 AM
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I did yes, 1 time for 4 days, he lives in the same country as my family, just different city. The trip surprised me because at the time he was supposed to be making money and the quality of that trip was that of a really broke college student. I don’t think we even went to one restaurant, just fast food. But of course I didn’t complain, since it was my first time meeting him I just wanted to have a good time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:32 AM
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To be honest he really did try, at least with his words. He couldn’t really with his money because he didn’t have the means. The reason we broke up is because of our different faith backgrounds, not even the money. I’m mentioning it here because it honestly really turned me off/rubbed me the wrong way prior to this breakup. And I was afraid that I had begun another cycle of becoming a bank to my significant other. Honestly, it’s a good thing he broke up with me. Cos I probably still would have f…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:28 AM
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See the long distance didn’t help. He couldn’t take me out on dates. He showed his appreciation by sending me flowers once, and money for Uber eats or getting my nails done. I really don’t feel like he was a user, but I guess out of desperation, despite knowing my history, would hope that this would bring us closer somehow, if we acted like we were already married. He’d constantly talk about how I’m not sacrificing enough and I’m not acting like he’s my husband etc. I do admit I have a boundary …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:23 AM
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Yea literally today, I was supposed to help him with an MBA application so that he can come be here in America, he’s not from Europe but that’s where he is currently. At the end of the day he dumps me. No mention of paying me back the money he borrowed from me just 2 weeks ago. He explained it to me like this: -he had a great job initially and was pursuing me seriously (sending flowers, Uber eats, things like that) -we’ve known each other a year now and he’s not asked me for money before this -h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:18 AM
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Thank you so much! Now that you’ve broken it down like this, here are some warning signs I missed early on: -frivolous shopping but he didn’t have his own apartment (lived at shared/student/staff housing - even though he graduated years ago now) -complained about not having money for necessities -had invested in bitcoin before and lost it all -constantly worried/concerned with how to get rich quick -being jealous of me/backhanded compliments about my finances because I have my own place, my own …
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:06 AM
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Either that or they’re making excuses for how they have behaved in the past
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 04:58 AM
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Thank you so much, I really appreciate you breaking down the cultural differences that I didn’t really understand. Regarding “spreading the seed”, I got the impression that it was meant that men have the physical need to release/ejaculate and therefore have more of an urge to have sex, not necessarily to go around impregnating women. I will definitely keep those examples of questions to ask in my back pocket! Seems like it would provide a lot of insight. Most of the time I don’t know the questio…
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 04:56 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story, I’m glad there was a happy ending for you at the end of all the mess. Sending internet hugs your way! 🤗
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 04:22 AM
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Haha thank you for the comparison, that really drives it home that it’s a self control issue 😅
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 04:20 AM
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Would you be willing to explain the correlation between the two? I don’t really understand 😅
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 04:19 AM
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That’s a great point, lack of self control. It makes me wonder if that kind of desire ever truly goes away, especially if the person already has a track record of a promiscuous past.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 04:13 AM
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I think that’s what it boils down to for me, misalignment of values. I wonder what kind of teaching he’d pass down to our children, especially a boy. Sigh. I may be overthinking. But I’ll just have to talk to him about it again
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 04:04 AM
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It’s usually brought up when we discuss our past, and I guess now that I think about it, it’s probably triggered by me mentioning that I was cheated on when asked why my last relationship ended.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:13 PM
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They say they are and really stress that they are looking to get married. It really throws me off honestly
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:11 PM
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This is what my heart is telling me
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:11 PM
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Wow that’s interesting! How long were you in the open relationship? And did it start off that way or how long did it take for him to suggest to open the relationship up?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:10 PM
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Majority are, or at least go to church. That’s why this is so confusing for me. I am a Christian woman, I only want to date Christian men. For context though, these men are African, so maybe it’s a cultural thing after all 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:09 PM
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Usually it’s brought up when we’re discussing our romantic past. Several guys have initiated the “why are you still single” “what happened in your previous relationship” conversation. Maybe I should stop mentioning that my ex cheated on me 🫤
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:07 PM
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This is what I’m thinking too. The current guy I’ve been talking to, I really like and he is serious. What bothers me is his sense of pride/lack of shame about his promiscuous past. It’s really a turn off that there’s a lack of shame about sleeping around and even made “mistakes” in a previous relationship, when he was in his early 20s. He’s 30. On one hand I feel like I shouldn’t judge him for his past but the attitude is what really gets me, he’s nonchalant, heck, even proud of it. He’s also b…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:05 PM
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See this is why I get confused, it’s not mentioned on the first date or anything. But it may come up when we talk about exes/why the last relationship didn’t work out (usually the man asks me this). But these are seemingly solid men, good careers, family oriented, come from two parent households, have married siblings even. For context: these are Africans. I’m starting to think it’s a cultural thing. It’s off putting nonetheless.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 09:57 PM
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Thank you for breaking it down like this, I thought maybe my flag-o-meter might be a bit broken but reading all of these comments just confirms that my concerns are valid.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 09:53 PM
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I know this is off topic, but I’m wondering because you mentioned the Bible. Why didn’t you get legally married or do you plan to?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 12:27 PM
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Thank you for sharing your happy ending story, I appreciate it thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 05:53 AM
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Who suggested it and why? Personally, mine asked me to share my location and I was quite taken aback. I’ve never felt the need to do that in any of my previous relationships and it appears like a lack of trust in your partner. I still said no though, feels like an invasion of privacy but that’s just me. I would consider sharing location for example if I was traveling to somewhere far or foreign and I want a loved one to know where I am for safety. But for day to day, it’s a no for me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 03:16 PM
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This is great, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 04:19 PM
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No, it seems like the general consensus is don’t do it 😅
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 04:19 PM
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Lol good to know, thank you 😅
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 04:34 AM
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Hmmmmmm, my score was higher than I thought it would be… I don’t agree with it but it was a pretty interesting experience
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 04:46 AM
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Ooo do you have a link?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 04:44 AM
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Wow thank you for breaking it down. I just recently joined hinge! I need to get rid of my selfies for sure
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 04:41 PM
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I would actually warn against looking up red flags online because all these articles don’t take into account the context of someone’s relationship, which is to be expected, they’re just generalizations. You’re better off listening to your own instincts and/or seeking advice of trusted individuals who know you or your SO really well.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 07:15 PM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this ☹️
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 07:05 PM
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For me it was he started caring about his appearance a lot more than usual. Revamped his whole wardrobe, was getting serious about weight loss, started getting more frequent haircuts. Started spending less and less time with me giving every excuse in the book, it felt like I was getting breadcrumbs of in person time. It was a month already the last time I saw him in person before he broke up with me over the phone. Edit- another thing. He was suddenly too tired for everything; movie nights, driv…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:00 PM
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That’s what I was encouraged to do by my entire family 😩 It really really sucks because I wish I had a different outcome
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 01:37 AM
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I’m interested as well
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 02:29 PM
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As someone who is about to turn 28, you’re not old. Age aside, ask yourself: -Does this man treat me well? -Will he treat our future children well? -Would I advise my future daughter to stay/marry someone like him? It’s not too late for you I promise.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 04:43 AM
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Hmmm I watch her regularly, but more as a source of entertainment. I don’t think I’ve learned anything in the several months that I’ve watched her, that I hadn’t already learned from Kevin Samuels.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:25 AM
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Of course!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:23 AM
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Yea I wish I knew earlier. I’m about to turn 28 and I’ve always been told by friends/family/media, live your best life, you have plenty of time. Since I turned to red pill content I really became aware of things I should have been taught by my parents, so I consider myself a pretty late bloomer. Now I have to be really intentional with dating (not that I’ve ever casually dated), but now I feel like I don’t have the privilege of experiencing dating in my prime and getting married young enough to …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:21 AM
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I’m in the exact same boat
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 11:08 PM
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How is your situation going?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:24 PM
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Oh really, what’s your reason for going to therapy specifically? If you don’t mind sharing
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 07:23 PM
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Definitely not over text, probably FaceTime, we do live 45mins from each other. I don’t feel pushed by you guys, if anything I feel pushed by him. He keeps making me feel cornered, like I somehow have to prove myself to him when I’m not even sure about him. And I’ve told him I need to get to know him better before agreeing to be in a relationship. Yesterday for example, we were supposed to go to a movie and dinner. He cancelled on me because they didn’t have “good seats” left and he’s particular…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 05:35 PM
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I think we’ve gotten more comfortable over our dates. The humor thing does concern me though, I don’t want there to be constant misunderstandings. It still seems like he’s holding back from me, maybe he’s just a bit rigid like that naturally.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:41 AM
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Definitely not jumping or that excited over here, it’s more so I’m aching or longing for that connection that just isn’t there
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:37 AM
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Great point, I have my answer really 😅
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:33 AM
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I hate letting people down 😬
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 04:31 AM
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I think you described it perfectly. I don’t have that soul connection with him yet.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 02:41 AM
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Thank you 😊
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 03:36 PM
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That’s my fear but I no longer want to operate from the scarcity and fear mindset. It did not do my any favors in my last relationship because I stayed for far too long out of the fear of not finding someone else compatible, yet he ended up leaving me in the end because he changed his mind about marriage and wanted to date around.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 03:07 PM
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Oh, I should probably take it as my warning sign then
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 03:03 PM
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I guess I already knew the answer but I wanted to make sure that I’m not giving up too quickly. I’m terms of authenticity, I think he is genuine with his intentions but I can’t quite get a read on him personally. For example, he could be having a hard day and I ask if he wants to talk about and he always says no. I ask him if there’s anything in particular I can pray about, he just says pray for me. This is despite him telling me that he really thinks I’m special because of my listening ear and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 03:02 PM
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Yea I feel like I’m at a crossroads. This guy is really intentional, last time I had that was when I was 20 and in college and I foolishly let that go. Even my long term bf didn’t have that kind of seriousness towards marriage. I just want to things differently this time around, no more wasting time. Thanks for the book recommendation!
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:53 PM
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I’m wondering if it’s something that’s coachable though? Or people just likely don’t change?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:45 PM
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Thank you that was a helpful video! I’ll give it a bit more time and see if things improve with the physical connection.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:41 PM
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In my head I’m making such a big deal out of something “small” in the grand scheme of things
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:32 PM
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I’m glad you found someone! By risk levels, what do you mean? Potentially not finding someone?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:29 PM
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He told me recently that he’s not very good at reading sarcasm and I wouldn’t even call myself a sarcastic person overall. Like he can’t tell when I’m making fun of myself in a situation or when I’m poking fun at him (he goes on to explain himself when I expected a laugh or for him to say something witty). That’s the thing about the chemistry, in hindsight, I think what my ex and I had was pretty rare, but we couldn’t get on the same page when it came to conflict resolution. That’s why I’m confu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 05:09 AM
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We’ve been on several dates, we kissed on the second date and I just have not grown to like it so far. How does one manoeuvre that? Like people can change that right?
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 05:01 AM
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Actual dates, about 6 times.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 04:58 AM
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Ah yes… don’t explain why you’re doing what you’re doing. I’m not super talkative but I do have to learn to shut up about my intentions and what I’m looking for. I need to become better at simply observing instead of asking about someone’s character and intentions. I still think some fundamental questions should be asked from the start but to take it with a grain of salt because people can just tell you anything you want to hear. In addition I’m learning how to ask questions in a less direct man…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 06:20 PM
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Do you have any tips for online dating? Do HVM even use dating apps?
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 04:46 AM
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Although I’m older than your target audience (I’m 27), this was a fantastic read! Incredibly insightful and I wish I knew these things earlier. I’ll keep pushing 😊
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 07:49 PM
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I’d like to know too. I’m turning 28 in February and I’m newly single 🥲
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 06:00 PM
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Thank you, this is really helpful I appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 09:26 PM
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I see, that’s what I need to do, write a love list of some sort so that I’m not clueless walking into this dating game. The thing about children and having been married before, I’m not being too picky am I? Cos I’ve experienced neither of those things, however I do expect to marry someone a little older than me, I’ll be 28 in a few months. I want to know at what point/age am I narrowing my dating pool too much by requiring a childless/never married man?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 05:19 AM
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Information about his true character, his values and goals, his past. How to tell if what he says actually is true. I’ve had a seemingly perfectly mature and ready to get married guy before and in the end he finally revealed to me he had a very young child with a past fwb and had been married before in his early 20s. Like I’m sure there must have been signs that I must have missed that he was hiding something.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 08:02 PM
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My issue is I don’t know how to weed out men. At the moment I’m only still 1 month post breakup but I’m sure my dating skills are rusty. How do I find things out about a man without outright asking? Because I’ve certainly been lied to/had truth withheld from me in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 06:45 PM
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I think this is my problem. I should have dated when I was younger but I didn’t. I had young men show interest but I was always reminded by my parents to focus on school. Now I’m almost 28 and alone and don’t have much dating experience. I’ve had 2 long term relationships though.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 05:21 PM
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I’ve never feared cheating but I do feel like I wasted my early 20s on a guy who was never going to marry me. He didn’t cheat on me that I’m aware of, but like he did monkeybranch at the end of our relationship 😬
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 02:30 AM
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Take this with a grain of salt as I say this: My ex boyfriend of 3 years who broke up with me last month, wasn’t much of a planner either even from the very beginning. If we did something new or out of the usual, it’s because I made it happen. Well he monkey-branched from our relationship into another and he’s told me about the new wonderful things he’s doing for his new girl (I know I should cut off contact). He’s taking her to art exhibits, pottery class, going to a soccer game etc. Turns out …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 05:30 PM
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I don’t have any tips to offer but from what you wrote, it sounds like he does not care if this trip happens or not. It’s telling that he didn’t feel the need to talk about it even if he assumed that you both got the email. Other than that, so he’s not much of a planner… Was he like that from the beginning of your relationship? When you “lean back” do you give him hints and positive reinforcement when he does plan stuff? It’s definitely worth it to try to encourage him and see if he’s willing to…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:34 PM
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What the heck is there to work on? He either accepts you for who you are and your past, or just move on. Like why keep bringing up the past especially if it’s not affecting your current relationship? Like I’m trying to understand what he’s so hung up on. Has it affected your sex life? Are the past men still in your life or something? Is it literally just a numbers thing, there must be something else that keeps making him hold this against you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 09:09 PM
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Wow I’m a black 27 year old woman not married yet, but I resonate with everything you said. The major reason my relationship ended a few weeks ago was due to communication and attitude problems I am working through that are honestly a pretty direct reflection of how I’ve seen my mom behave with my stepdad. It’s sad honestly, to see how my stepdad over the years has a diminished spirit, he’s even developed depression now that he’s retired and is forced to spend more time at home around my mom. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/22 03:14 PM
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Honestly I do get of likes but I’m so overwhelmed I don’t even go through them most of the time. Maybe I’m being too picky? Also… do you mind if I message you and you can take a look at what I currently have on my hinge?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 03:57 PM
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Omg please tell me more about your story! What did you put in your profile, what did you notice about his? How did you transition off the app? I would love any insight please
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 03:09 PM
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I feel you, I’m also a 27F. I don’t necessarily feel useless but I do feel “expired”, “overlooked” because every RP YouTuber I watch says men seek younger women and I’ve missed the mark. I literally only found Redpill in my 27th year so for most of it it’s been “woe is me”. I’m changing my tune now. I am childless, in good shape, have a good circle of friends, I’m averagely cute, and know what I’m looking for. There is certainly hope for me at 27 vs 37, look at it that way 🤷🏾‍♀️ My advice to you…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/22 01:12 PM
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That’s going to be route for now, patience. I’d honestly be surprised if he had the time to see other people, but what do I know. I’m not dating him exclusively but I’m not going to entertain any new guys because I don’t want to set myself up for failure by always looking for the next best thing. I’m going to take a chill pill 😅
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 05:33 PM
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Will do :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 08:22 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 09:36 PM
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We did talk about that initially, like his overall goals. He does want to get married and have children. I guess now that I think about, he didn’t exactly say that he’s pursuing it right now. He said initially when he met me, he was going to take a break on dating because he’s very busy. But once he met he changed his mind and wants to pursue this with me. I’ll ask for clarification the next time I see him :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 06:57 PM
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I definitely want to cook for him as soon as possible! Win him through his belly ha ha 😂 All jokes aside, that sounds like a good idea to help make his life easier when he’s not working :) The only thing is, where do you draw the line though? Like at what point should I reserve some things for a relationship as opposed to the getting to know stage?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 06:49 PM
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I think so too. I’ll try not to put all my hopes and dreams in this guy but I’ll continue to see how it goes :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 06:44 PM
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He’s not asked me to be his gf, no. I’m new to the current dating climate/market so I’m honestly very much clueless. I’ll just have to swallow the uncomfortable truth that he potentially just isn’t that into me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:35 PM
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Hmm great point about flexibility and availability , I’ll need to stamp that on my heart ha ha. To his credit, he’s never cancelled on me though, so that’s a good thing :) Thanks for understanding me so well, that’s why I made my post 😊 Glad it worked out for you and your now boyfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:31 PM
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At the moment I do have my own things going on in addition to my regular 9-5 so I can definitely get occupied. I’ll ask him about the future of his work, thank you 😊
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:27 PM
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I’m okay with it, but I just want to know how to determine if he’s actually ready to date without asking.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:24 PM
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My bad, I thought about it and we’ve had 4 dates so far actually. I’ll make the edit in my post. Not bad at all in my opinion honestly, considering the nature of his job. Plus we live 35mins apart, but that’s not the biggest deal.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:22 PM
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To be fair this is a new job. I’ll ask him what his plans/goals are with that in terms of how long he plans to sustain this life/work (im)balance. See where his head is at and if he wants to do this for the foreseeable future.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:19 PM
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I don’t think he’s already wealthy, he’s definitely a high income earner in his building phase. I’d like to be part of it, like a cheerleader or helper. I’m not sure how to proceed since this is so new. I definitely want him to stay on his purpose but I don’t want him to forget about me. How do I show him my value?
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:13 PM
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I’ll try that! Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 04:02 PM
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Fair enough, thank you for the nuggets of reality checks in there! I’m just now getting back into dating so this is helpful stuff to keep in mind. So his current job is new, he started it at the beginning of summer and since then he’s been traveling. I just met him recently. Any suggestions for how to impress him? Also, to his credit, last weekend he flew back a day early from his work and surprised me. We spent the afternoon and evening together and it was a lot of fun and I felt closer to him …
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/22 03:50 PM
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