mischiffmaker Archive

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1	“Just Listen” or Losing my Friend to the Alt-Right Manosphere Thanks! Fortunately most of my friends and family are not like this, although I do occasionally wonder about my niblings and great-niblings sometimes.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 11:26 AM
4	“Just Listen” or Losing my Friend to the Alt-Right Manosphere I've been following redpill and incel groups for quite a while. It's a concerning trend to me, but I follow it more for my own awareness than anything else. I find it valuable to hear what those who are finding or have found their way out of those communities have to say. I've been sucked down the drain of making negative responses myself, and I'm certainly old enough to know better. I've made a real effort to try to respond only in a positive way or when I feel I have something to offer, on con…	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 10:46 AM
3	“Just Listen” or Losing my Friend to the Alt-Right Manosphere I'm afraid it's just the old worldviews being made "normal" again. I'm an old woman, and I grew up without the internet. While I was fascinated from the early days, I've always viewed it as akin to walking out of one's front door straight into Times Square on New Year's Eve, with all the celebration and danger that entails. The world population has tripled in my own lifetime. This is such a time of upheaval in human society. So much knowledge, so fast, and so many billions of new humans trying t…	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 10:29 AM
2	“Just Listen” or Losing my Friend to the Alt-Right Manosphere Ahh, I see. I'm really sorry to hear that about your friend. It's something I've not had to deal with in my own life, but I always hope the ones who get lost do find their way back.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 09:40 AM
1	“Just Listen” or Losing my Friend to the Alt-Right Manosphere The article is from September, 2021. Who are they referring to?	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 09:24 AM
5	TRP is and always was stupid but the alternatives aren't better It's too bad feminism isn't called by it's real name, which is feminine anti-classism. For women's stated aims to be realized, men have to be included in a fundamental change of their personal stance towards other human beings. Respect and equality are not exactly compatible with classism and patriarchy. When children of any gender are raised to be respectful of others' rights, as well as claiming their own, society as a whole benefits. IMHO.	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/21 02:06 PM
2	I think this red pill stuff has given me Writers Block. A retreat isn't just 'going outside.' It's a planned disconnect from the world to reset your brain.	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/21 03:39 PM
4	I think this red pill stuff has given me Writers Block. It sounds like you still think about anime tropes, even if you're not actively watching. Really, though, you sound like you need to shake yourself out of your rut, and do things that push your comfort zone, which is why I suggested a retreat. Anything that gets you moving.	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/21 02:41 PM
6	I think this red pill stuff has given me Writers Block. Anime used to be a real art form. It's sad what happened to it after it hit the internet. I mean, The Tale of Genji and Akira made me fall in love with it, but then tentacle porn came along...it seems to have devolved sadly over the last 30 years. Maybe you should do a retreat of some kind, where you get your head out of anime and it's weird fetish tropes, and leave all electronics behind for that time, and put yourself into a different setting, preferably spending time outdoors. Just changing y…	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/21 09:41 AM
1	Help! I’m a narcissist and manipulative Those tests are so dependent on wording. And if you're already seeing yourself in a negative light, you're probably giving answers that reflect your fear of being that way. I've taken similar tests, and then taken them again a few months again, and my answers just reflect my mood at the time I took the test. We are always our own worst critics, which is why I hope you might seek some counseling, because helping you put things in perspective is part of what they do, along with observing patients …	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/21 01:41 PM
1	Help! I’m a narcissist and manipulative Every living thing could be called a narcissist; the impulse is to one's own survival (at least through successful reproduction) is imperative for genes to get passed on. For a highly-social and empathetic species as we humans, we always walk the line between self-interest and the common good. I was wondering myself if OP has self-diagnosed or is accepting someone else's opinion rather than having been professionally diagnosed.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/21 12:46 PM
5	Help! I’m a narcissist and manipulative There are low cost options if you have financial limitations. I worked at a university (years ago, in an abusive relationship with a narcissist) that had a psychology department and ran a clinic open to the public. I was just a lowly secretary at the time, and my weekly visits were charged on their sliding scale based on income. So that's one option to look for. OP, having lived with a narcissist--who wasn't bipolar--I want to say that the fact that you are willing to accept that designation may…	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/21 12:44 PM
7	The death of communal spaces The combo mother-maid-whore that their own mothers - even the feminist ones - all to often unfortuantely raise their sons to expect. That's part of the problem--you're explicitly saying women raise their sons to be like this, and yet ignore the impact that their father has on them, whether by neglect or through enforcing the stereotype by their own behavior. Parenting is not a one-person job. That's the whole point of the communal "village"--all the adults shepherd all the children towards adult…	/r/ExRedPill	16/03/21 07:52 AM
3	The talk of “dropping frame” says red pill to me. Is this really how red pill guys think? Why does the concept of giving pleasure not factor in? Why such a zero-sum game mindset? I get why some guy might not want to lick a girl's taint...but that's not where the clit is...	/r/ExRedPill	10/03/21 10:06 PM
3	Why do women get put off by insecurity in men Not OP, but relationships are like potato chips, you can't have just one!	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/21 10:40 AM
1	Why do women get put off by insecurity in men I like to offer people good luck as my sign off. Should I stop? Good luck to you!	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/21 10:39 AM
4	Why do women get put off by insecurity in men If you stay in your house and never leave, you are at risk of missing out on many great things life has to offer. ...including food!	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/21 10:36 AM
9	My redpilled brother ended up in the mental hospital women think as a hive Men think as solitude or single units. You kind of seem to still be into that binary sex stereotyping. That's some rather romantic male POV bullshit in those two sentences: "Women can't think for themselves; Men are the ultimate individualistic thinkers!" Yes, Redpill is absolutely a hate movement; you don't get to "other" an entire sex and pretend you're not hating on them. Missed this one: "We must participate, but never know what's considered offensive. Dude, there's thi…	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/21 11:33 AM
6	I'm ex red pill but the silent treatment really does test me For the Silent Treament, you forgot the unforgiving body posture and other body language expressing extreme disapproval while refusing to engage and communicate in order to resolve the problem... But yea, there's that critical difference in intent. No Contact is literally ending the relationship. Silent Treatment is all about control and manipulation.	/r/ExRedPill	20/02/21 09:48 AM
1	cual seria la solucion a los problemas de pareja actual? Thank you! I don't care about downvotes, but a chance to discuss things is nice I mean, all you have to go is go on any social media and see just how non-monogamous our species is, amirite? I could go on a patriarchy rant and how fixed-field agriculture and sedentary living created a class system that values property and ownership. But for people struggling to overcome redpill thinking, it's probably a bit too abstract. Cheers!	/r/ExRedPill	19/02/21 08:37 AM
1	cual seria la solucion a los problemas de pareja actual? I've read many more than one book, on evolution and many other topics, but thanks for the recommendation. Also, I've never said the earth was flat or denied science(??), I said we were not evolved to be monogamous. Not sure where that correlation came from. But the point I was originally trying to make is that sex and infidelity are not the problem. The real problem came about with agriculture and the desire to possess more things than could be readily picked up and moved to the next campsite. W…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/21 03:41 PM
1	cual seria la solucion a los problemas de pareja actual? I said "primates" not "primitive." We still function like our hominid ancestors in many ways. From what you're saying, I don't think you have a full grasp of how our ancestors lived, in mutually-supportive groups. Kind of like how we live today, in fact. Personally, thanks to contraception that works, I was able to avoid childbearing altogether, which suits me just fine; being an aunt was my contribution to my own 'group.' Shared child-rearing has been a thing for longer than we've been human, w…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/21 03:10 PM
-2	cual seria la solucion a los problemas de pareja actual? ...And how's that working out for us? At heart, we are still primates who want to fuck, and to get along with our 'villages.' Very few humans are truly living a monogamous life, and the advent of effective birth control has a lot to do with it.	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/21 02:26 PM
-3	cual seria la solucion a los problemas de pareja actual? Infidelity isn't the issue. Trying to control someone else's sex life is the real issue. Humans aren't evolved to be monogamous. We're evolved to be serially monogamous, with a lot of fluidity. Our species has always depended on the group to survive, and part of that is managing interpersonal relationships. There's an old saying, one of many on the subject: you can't hold water in a closed fist. Other people's behavior is water. The tighter you close your fist, the less water you will have in yo…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/21 11:34 AM
5	Redpillers often contradict oneself's What's funny is that from the PR girl's perspective, she probably just thinks she lucked out and fucked a hot guy one night. None of this alpha/sigma/kappa over-double-think bullshit, she was horny and took care of herself. Had a fun night, hopefully no regerts. Just like a guy, go figure.	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/21 02:21 PM
2	Relapsed and spiraling out of control Do you really think girls go through life with unending adoration from guys? Get a grip. It isn't like that. I had plenty of crushes on guys who never looked at me once, let alone twice. But guess what? That never stopped me from looking or making efforts to get to know them. I had a guy tell me once he thought I was "stuck up" but what really happened is that he judged me without talking to me. When he came up with another guy who was flirting with me, I ended up flirting with him instead. We w…	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/19 01:29 PM
2	Relapsed and spiraling out of control Hm. Perfectly normal level of teenage awkwardness, have/had zero incel/MGTOW tendencies due to being an old woman, love scifi/fantasy/literature, got laid at 18 in the due course of time, no issues. Have had plenty of sex, several LTR's, and never went the married with kids route. Happily retiring and rooming with longtime friends. It's perfectly normal and no angst required. Just pointing that out.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/19 12:36 PM
1	Relapsed and spiraling out of control Let's talk.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/19 10:11 AM
3	Relapsed and spiraling out of control A surprising number of us are single, and prefer it that way, even though we also enjoy the occasional fling to liven things up. OTOH, we're not hanging around subreddits complaining that we're single orthat it's definitely someone else's fault we're suffering--no, we're just out here living our lives and enjoying the perks of not having to share the remote control. Just want to toss the thought out there that being single is perfectly normal and doesn't require feeling like a martyr.	/r/ExRedPill	07/10/19 10:05 AM
5	I like this girl but... Try to get rid of the idea that girls think any differently than guys do, when they're looking for someone to date. Girls are human beings. They eat, fart, piss, shit, burp, walk on two legs for the most part, and have the same human DNA as boys, apart from the XX/XY thing. They are, at your ages, just as nervous about approaching boys as boys are of approaching them. Putting on a fake persona isn't just depressing, it's just...exhausting. Having to think all the time about what this fake person…	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/19 12:13 PM
10	Imprinting women is legit? Not even a dog. A frickin' just hatched duckling. The education gap is real.	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/19 06:31 PM
9	Imprinting women is legit? Are you a duckling? Is she? If, as a human being, you think the other sex is a different species, you have some serious education to get.	/r/ExRedPill	03/10/19 06:30 PM
6	Feel like time is running out for the sexy/dating times. If my younger sister can get hooked up with a new guy at age 60, yea, I think you got a few good years left, here. Don't let anyone who claims to have 'figured it all out' fool you. None of us has it all figured out, the world is constantly changing and so must we. Life is more like surfing than swimming; we learn to ride the waves and occasionally it's a fun ride towards shore but more often it's paddling out to where we can catch one. But the ocean and sky are still beautiful regardless of whe…	/r/ExRedPill	01/10/19 09:29 AM
3	i made all the girls who treated me with cruelty regret it (by improving) but now im lost Most people are not cruel narcs. They're normal people who sometimes learn narc behaviors because that's what they've been exposed to. However, where a narc will refuse to change their behavior when called out, a normal person with narc "fleas" will change, because they're empathetic and understand why they should change.	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/19 03:33 PM
4	i made all the girls who treated me with cruelty regret it (by improving) but now im lost I just want to add some words of encouragement, particularly about finding for yourself what gives you joy in your day-to-day life, and only adding the people into your inner circle that are positives. Visit the relationship subs and look at what people of both sexes regard as 'red flags' in relationships. It's similar for each sex. We are the same species of social animal that thrives by cooperative behaviors. You seem very willing to improve yourself, so congratulations on taking charge of you…	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/19 02:36 PM
3	i made all the girls who treated me with cruelty regret it (by improving) but now im lost Wise words.	/r/ExRedPill	30/09/19 02:27 PM
3	Mindhunter (TV series) I think psychopathy is on a spectrum, just like other traits; people can be persuaded to go down certain paths but how far they'll go before saying "fuck that shit!" depends on the person. People with normal empathy can be brought a certain way down the red pill rabbit hole, but at some point they tend to have enough self-awareness to realize that they don't like the kind of person they're becoming, and get back out. If they keep going and like what they find...those are not people I personally …	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/19 09:30 AM
7	Mindhunter (TV series) Since being a serial killer kind of includes not having empathy for others, it makes sense they'd be in the narcissism/psychopathy realm. Red Pill ideology asks regular people to start being unempathetic towards others; where the "other" is both the opposite sex, and other men, as well, since they're always supposed to be trying to 'one-up' the other guys in the sex department. I think normal guys might buy into RP ideology as adolescents, when they realize that while they may have figured out t…	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/19 03:56 PM
4	Field Report/Technical Breakdown(Girl next door cute German girl(You don't need to approach 1000 girls) TBH, it reads like you're trying to sell your own method that's 110% BETTER than PUA!!! These simple tricks will leave you AMAZED!!!	/r/ExRedPill	13/09/19 06:23 PM
16	Competing with older men. You sound like you don't pick up on social cues very well. Maybe you should work on that aspect of yourself. It probably has a lot more to do with you feeling like you can't compete than your current age. As a former young girl, I really wasn't ever attracted to men more than a few years older or younger than myself. Within two-three years of my own age was my preference. I couldn't understand other girls who went with men 10 years older than they were, but then my mom married my dad who was 14 …	/r/ExRedPill	04/09/19 02:27 AM
4	Found this ridiculous shit on TRP Not someone you'd want to trust your dog to, but other than that, a creative writing exercise.	/r/ExRedPill	03/09/19 08:03 AM
4	The manosphere has ruined my dating life A man can't be fearful or have anxieties unless he finds himself lonely for years. I don't understand what you mean by this. Men--and boys--can be both fearful and anxious at any time just like women and girls. Those are human emotions, not sex-related characteristics. If you think men can't express those emotions, well, that's what the definition of "toxic masculinity" applies to. Just like girls are being encouraged to be assertive, rather than to be "nice" at the cost of expressing their ange…	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/19 03:08 PM
4	The manosphere has ruined my dating life You can be alone and still be scared to death of being alone. What u/hexalby is pointing out is that you need to learn how to be comfortable with yourself, to like yourself, to treat yourself well. Part of learning those things is also learning how to treat others well because it makes you feel good about yourself, even if the other person isn't even aware of what you did for them. And by others, I mean everyone, from babies to old people. If the only people you're trying to impress are hot date…	/r/ExRedPill	02/09/19 01:32 PM
7	Stories like these is why I’m still afraid of marriage, what are your thoughts? How can you convince me it is still worth it? Or neither the husband nor wife exist at all. I'm leaning towards the 'nice try at creative writing' column. But yea, if you're married for 30-odd years and are that clueless about how your partner really feels, you weren't paying actual attention.	/r/ExRedPill	30/08/19 09:40 PM
1	Thoughts on Corey Wayne? Clearly someone doesn’t know their history.	/r/ExRedPill	13/08/19 03:47 PM
1	Thoughts on Corey Wayne? Not sure where you’re getting that ‘feminism does this all the time to men’ business from. Red pill is based on “othering” women, specifically, not men. If there’s a double standard it comes from the RP side.	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/19 09:43 PM
1	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? Men are just as fickle and illogical. But you’re right about there being reasons unrelated to OP for her behavior. It isn’t always about you, but if you don’t ask, you’ll never find out.	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 01:29 PM
3	I almost ended up hooking up with a girl from tinder, but feel like I’ve shot myself in the foot? The problem is though I’m not going to be in the area for a long time Then just say that upfront. I lived on a military base as a teen/college student and liked dating guys for however long they were on base for. Sometimes they were there a couple of years, and we had time to develop the relationship normally, other times they were only there for a few weeks. I didn’t expect anything long-term, but I wasn’t a one-night-stand type of girl, either. But we always talked about it.	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/19 01:26 PM
3	I want to go to the gym and get a more attractive body, but I’m worried that I would then only attract women that only value looks? Speaking as an older woman who was once a young woman, I was never attracted to bulky, muscular men. Lean men with toned muscles are pretty darn sexy. As people, we women also have a wide range of body types we’re attracted to. But much more importantly, you have to be ok in your own skin. That’s the most attractive thing of all—someone who likes themselves without requiring perfection. We’re all just human. If you can accept yourself, it lets us know you won’t require some unattainable level of…	/r/ExRedPill	03/08/19 11:26 AM
3	What's the appropriate confidense level acceptable for a guy to start dating? When is he ready? How much confidence does he have to muster? Whenever he's able to open his mouth and have words come out in a conversational way that's not offensive to the person he's speaking to. Is confidence overrated? No. Confidence comes when you've achieved goals or mastered a pursuit. You say you're bipolar, are you being treated? If so, is it effective and are you managing it well? Are you living with your grandparents because you're pursuing a life goal or an education that living wi…	/r/ExRedPill	24/07/19 11:42 AM
2	Catch 22. Chicken or the egg type of situation with virgin men. If it makes you feel any better my dad was a virgin when he married my mom. He was 36 (it was a time when that was not unusual). He'd spent his 20's helping his dad raise his younger brothers after their mom had died. My mom told me this after he'd passed. She said it took them three days after the wedding to finally accomplish the deed. After that, well, nine pregnancies over the years, six living children raised and grown, and he was still in love with my mom when he passed. Even though he had…	/r/ExRedPill	17/07/19 10:41 AM
5	The Parable of the Two Paths Once there was a woman. She wanted to go places, and spent years learning how to walk and even run, so she get to them. One day, as she was walking along, she passed a store that sold gum. A true novelty! She went inside. She talked to the sales clerk, who sold her a pack of the confection, showed her how to unwrap the gum, place it in her mouth, and bring her jaws together in a chewing motion. Soon, she and the clerk were standing there, chewing gum and enjoying the flavor. After a little while…	/r/ExRedPill	13/07/19 03:29 PM
2	Am I a new type of "pill"? All (younger) humans worry about getting sex until they figure it out. Women worry about getting sex, too, because despite your belief, we actually do have sexual desire. We get horny and want to scratch that itch just like men do. We have to be more careful about it, because we're the ones who have to deal with the physical fallout if we get pregnant. You can get up and walk away; we can't. Once you get that part--that women's bodies are the ones that bear the consequences and impart a certain …	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/19 11:13 AM
4	Am I a new type of "pill"? The whole "looks" thing is way overrated. Most adults go beyond looks to the whole person, unless they're just looking for casual sex. And the whole "alpha male" thing is based on bad science that's long since been corrected--the wolf study that started it was based on wolves kept in captivity. Once long-term observations were made of actual wild wolf packs, it turns out the captive wolves were as representative of normal social behavior among wolves as human prisoners are of normal social behav…	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/19 11:00 AM
2	Can someone help me sort this out in my head? As far as the whole 'dating a slut' thing goes, what would she call you if your experiences were reversed? If you had been the stripper? Would you expect to be called out as a 'slut' by any woman you dated if you confided in them your need to earn money at a time in your life when your own parents didn't bother telling you the pitfalls? That's the way the experience is feeling from her end. Also, regarding nudity: I was raised in a large household, and we were taught to be modest and not flash o…	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/19 11:39 AM
2	A question Oh, I didn't take it that way, I was just really taken aback by the way the mods of that forum acted. Not only was I banned but not one mod responded to my questions about it or really explained what was so offensive about what to me was a genuine question. Businesses share society; they're obligated to pay for their fair share of the expenses for our shared infrastructure. It's also to their benefit to have a population that can afford their products and are educated enough to work for them. By…	/r/ExRedPill	23/05/19 09:54 AM
1	A question As for your forums being taken over by "radical lesbians" I do wanna ask, what makes you wanna call them radical lesbians, I'm just curious. It was the tone of the forum, tbh. One of my nieces is lesbian and was an activist to change the marriage laws in her state so she could marry her fiance. So I'm not new to lesbian politics, but this was beyond what I'd ever come across and definitely in the "men are the enemy" camp. I'm straight as they come, but I do love my gay brother and niece. And men…	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/19 08:11 PM
3	A question Adding to the comments about feminism, I became a feminist back in the 70's, and the type of far-left "feminism" I encountered when I started engaging in online discussions in the mid-00's was stunningly not the feminism I grew up with. It was toxic enough that simply questioning it got me banned for an innocent question, and made me wary of the "f" word for a while. So, these various doctrines change and morph over time depending on who takes them up. I have a feeling I might have been in a for…	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/19 11:32 AM
3	Any comments on this essay? The facts are that humans cheat a lot and change partners through life Exactly. This is not a gender difference, it's a gender similarity. It just goes against the 'mate for life' rule that legal asset-ownership has tried to impose; before familial interests in land-ownership became involved, people were less concerned about legalities around interpersonal relationships.	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/19 12:09 PM
10	21yr virgin male struggling with redpill ideas And never pity yourself. For men, this is extremely damaging. It's pretty toxic for women, as well. Although sometimes a nice self-pity party is a way to start introspecting on what's actually good about your life after you've sobbed a bit about what's wrong, in my experience. I mean, not dating a supermodel is pretty much a first-world problem, after all.	/r/ExRedPill	18/05/19 12:00 PM
2	Thoughts on Corey Wayne? I think we've reached a solid middle ground in our opinions. Rather rare on reddit, but this was a pleasant discourse. Thanks for the replies. Same here, thank you!	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/19 02:58 PM
6	Thoughts on Corey Wayne? I get where you're coming from, and agree that on the surface, it sounds fine. But, in every relationship there's a power dynamic, and based on my own experiences thus far, when the woman is in power she loses attraction, plain and simple. You think this doesn't also apply to men? In my experience, it does. What I find disturbing in the RP, etc., is the "othering" of women and the deliberate attempt to manipulate the "other," with little to no empathy for the actual human being; all their emphas…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/19 01:59 PM
9	Thoughts on Corey Wayne? Seeing women once a week, not texting much in between, focusing on your purpose foremost, doing things for yourself, not seeking a women's validation, a woman's attraction growing when they're unsure about you, being a challenge, being the prize, teasing and cockiness, disqualifying, being mysterious, not putting women on a pedestal. This sounds manipulative as shit, though. If this is who you are as a person you don't sound like a very nice one. If it's a facade, then who is the real you? Being…	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/19 01:14 PM
6	This PUA Youtuber says men should leave women "past their prime" to "low value men" who can't get "late Teens/early 20s". Agree or disagree? What was your experience with older and younger women? Not only that, but women past menopause--and men their ages--also still have sex! WITH EACH OTHER!! Blows the mind, I know; we just assume that once a human's not "prime" they fade soundlessly into oblivion, but nonetheless, those humans continue to have real, busy lives, including (gasp!) having sex!	/r/ExRedPill	11/05/19 12:24 PM
4	Is it true that women aren't interested in guys who live with their parents? I dated a guy who was living with his parents in his 20's. In all fairness, I was living with mine after I was through with college, at the time. In fact, even after I moved out on my own, my first long-term relationship was with a guy who had moved back with his parents after a bad car accident that broke both his legs--he needed the help. I think it's all in the circumstances. You're actively searching and educating yourself, and working towards independence. That's what matters. As far as dat…	/r/ExRedPill	09/05/19 11:19 AM
1	How can I stop worrying about my height? Well, this guy was taller than me! But I wasn't short enough for him. Oh well.	/r/ExRedPill	22/04/19 10:56 PM
7	How can I stop worrying about my height? As a woman who is also 5'8" that sword cuts both ways. I've been broken up with for being 'too tall'--by a guy that was 6'! Why? Because his personal preference is for really short women. 5'2 max. Did it sting? A little. I can't change my height any more than you can change yours. But you know what? He was a great person. He was honest about his preferences even though he dated me to see if he could overcome that one. He couldn't. We broke up--but remained friends! Go figure. The point of that a…	/r/ExRedPill	20/04/19 11:03 AM
5	I stopped reading TRP a couple years ago and I’ve grown into a very bitter and hateful person. Perhaps you guys could give some advice. Have you tried mindfulness? Take the time to assess your situation as objectively as you can. Then rather than compare what you have or don't have against those who have more than you, try comparing it against those who have less. I used to sit around my apartment, at one point, feeling incredibly sorry for myself because my relative whose business I worked for could afford two or three trips a year to Europe, where I could barely afford one to go see my elderly mom. So one day I was having this…	/r/ExRedPill	16/04/19 11:14 AM
3	LTR casualty of TRP. I found out yesterday. Still in the relationship. Need advice. I was in a toxic relationship with an abusive ex in the pre-redpill (ok, pre-internet) days. The slow build of anxiety, the constant manipulation and degrading language and then behavior...After 4 years together, it took a year of therapy to realize I wasn't the crazy one, and another couple of years to divest myself of the relationship altogether. Even then, he still tried to reel me back in a few years later. Do not go down that road. The ones who can effectively operate as 'red pillers' are o…	/r/ExRedPill	13/04/19 01:16 PM
1	Women who left the red pill? Women, members of the red pill? That sounds like an oxymoron...	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/19 09:06 PM
6	Red Pill "abundance" is not abundance. Actually, it just requires normal mental health, or even just being on the path to normal mental health. Everyone has problems, no one is perfect, no one gets through life without scars. Once you understand that, and develop empathy for the pain others go through as well as for your own, the red flags are fairly obvious. And as humans, as members of a highly social species, we're actually fairly well-equipped to notice them. We learn from our mistakes. It does take a little experience, but so do…	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/19 11:54 AM
15	"Ex-redpillers" what is your understanding of what it is to be an alpha? The man, Dr. David L. Mech, who came up with the whole 'alpha male' theory 40 years ago is now very sorry he did so: The only problem for all the men claiming to be alphas is that Dr. Mech does not say this anymore. Nowadays, Dr. Mech says there is no such thing as an “alpha” male. In fact, Dr. Mech says it is all a big mistake and admits he is the one responsible for this error. Nowadays, Dr. Mech wishes he could just take back everything he originally said. There's a video in the linked articl…	/r/ExRedPill	03/04/19 05:45 PM
5	AWALT is BS. What is really means is, “I have bad judgement, I make poor choices and act selfishly, and I’m confused as to why all women eventually betray or leave me”. If people keep treating you a certain way, they’re not the problem, you are There's truth in any stereotype--that's why they're stereotypes. "All men are like that" also works. As does "All black people are like that," "All musicians are like that," "All religious fundamentalists are like that," etc.	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/19 09:22 PM
2	How can I start trusting again? Look into cognitive behavioral therapy. It's nothing fancy, just techniques to disrupt obsessive thought patterns of any sort that are being detrimental to your well-being. Good luck to you!	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/19 11:13 AM
2	relationships and Backup-man Not really, but if you're gonna do an invalid study for the goose, you oughta do likewise for the gander. You know...for science. And with all the options open to them, guys are just as likely to have options lined up as well. Again, humans gonna human, and we're not a monogamous-for-life species.	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/19 10:19 AM
3	relationships and Backup-man I'd be interested in seeing the same study done for men in marriages. I think humans gonna human, regardless of gender, so I'll predict that just as many, if not more, men likewise have backups.	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/19 04:00 PM
6	Ladies. When do you consider a guy ready for a relationship? The whole "alpha" thing is based on some really bad science. Humans are social animals. We survive as cooperative groups. If you're an asshole, you might make it to the top of the heap, but that doesn't mean you'll either stay there or be a good leader. (Just see current WH occupant for prime example of that.) Women are neither mentally incompetent nor socially inept, for the most part, which is why the whole red pill line only works on women with major issues of their own--and do you really nee…	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/19 11:21 AM
12	my thoughts 19M Your entire post discussed women as "the other." That was my point. TRP's philosophy is centered around manipulating and controlling "the other."	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/19 02:43 PM
9	my thoughts 19M Well, you're at least thinking about life...that's a start. Respecting women as human beings with agency, rather than as game NPC's to manipulate, will go a long way towards choosing a partner who will respect you in return.	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/19 12:10 PM
2	TRP severely fucked me up emotionally & am now paying the price in my relationship; looking for other perspectives on how to be a good SO If this was a different type of post, where you couldn't get thoughts of someone who broke up with you out of your head, I'd recommend a book called "How to Fall Out of Love." But you know what? It sounds like you're still a little in "love" with TRP even though you're trying to overcome it. So maybe it does apply, in a way. Look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. That's what the book uses to help people who have obsessive thoughts about an ex to wean themselves off those thoughts. Heck, look at…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/19 12:03 PM
22	What made you realize that trp wasn’t exactly telling the truth? Yea, but dating what exactly? A porn star? An 8-year-old child? The girl you saw in the grocery store last night? None of those are your grandmother, sister, or cousin, but every single one of them is a human being, just like you. If you have to trick another human being into spending time with you, how valuable is that experience? You might as well get a blow-up sex doll and call it a day.	/r/ExRedPill	06/01/19 10:45 AM
11	Why I will be no longer reading anything related to any of the “pills” I have a feeling you've outgrown the 'pill' ideology all on your own. When you're ready for relationships beyond friendship, you'll pursue them, and won't need any 'pill' to do so. And if you never feel ready for one, that's ok, too. Not everyone wants to be in relationships. Good luck to you!	/r/ExRedPill	03/01/19 02:06 PM
4	The redpillers I sympathise with and the ones I don't In OP's defense, adolescence is exactly when one is vulnerable to the red pill manipulation. Young humans develop in stages, and early adolescents are so aggravatingly smug about what they know simply because they've worked really hard to figure out what the rules are. All of a sudden, their bodies change and the rules don't make as much sense as they used to. But kids are programmed by evolution to see the world in black and white simply because it's how they survive childhood, so when they tra…	/r/ExRedPill	30/12/18 02:39 PM
7	Why do most women I see and read about on reddit all like older men? I fear that women my age want men older than me Some do, some don't. When I was dating, I was never attracted to men more than five years older or younger. I just don't feel like I have anything in common with them. OTOH, my mother was 22 when she married my dad, and he was 36. One sister's husband is 10 years older than her, another's was 2 years younger. People like different things.	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/18 09:52 PM
18	I almost posted on MGTOW but I’m trying to be better So much this, OP. Gossip is gossip. It's generally unkind by it's nature, but it's also a way to vent. To put it in perspective, you stated they were gossiping about one particular person, who apparently got on one girl's bad side for whatever reason, whether real or perceived. They had a nice little girl-to-girl go at him, privately, they thought, and probably forgot it as soon as they finished the topic. Realistically, you can't extrapolate from a specific instance into a generalization. Gener…	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/18 12:48 PM
3	well read in feminist theory but scared that i find myself being convinced of all this redpill ideology... please help me refute some of these points To add depth to your understanding of what patriarchy is and how it entered our social sphere, there's an interesting book by James C. Scott, "Against the Grain: A deep history of the earliest states," which examines how patriarchal societies arose as people began moving from hunting-gathering societies towards sedentary farming, and why it specifically occurred in grain-producing communities. As a long-time feminist--I grew up with the 60's and 70's era feminism, which was about parity between …	/r/ExRedPill	25/11/18 12:55 PM
5	I'm pretty angry about how bad I've been duped. I grew up with the feminist movement that started in the 50's and 60's, and was so surprised when I encountered the term "feminazi" and people accusing me of the most bizarre forms of what they called 'feminism'--which bore very little relation to the feminism I knew. Feminism from when I was young was all about correcting the view of women as property (which is where the original feminist movement in the 1700's came from) to women as co-equals to men. It never included women supplanting men but…	/r/ExRedPill	23/11/18 02:10 PM
19	I [28M] am trying to leave nine years of RP beliefs behind I don't know if this is helpful or not, but I was listening to someone on NPR discussing dating apps. They pointed out that dating apps feed into the negative feedback loops that seem to make it harder to connect with other people. Specifically, they pointed out that because dating apps rely on images to initiate the exchange, and because self-image is what it is, people were always trying to date several attractiveness levels above their own level. So, for instance, a guy would approach a girl …	/r/ExRedPill	15/11/18 03:18 PM
1	For those of you who are still straddling the fence - That's kind of what I thought, but I'm willing to hear people out. Thanks for your insight.	/r/ExRedPill	11/11/18 12:34 PM
2	For those of you who are still straddling the fence - Thanks for the insight. I'll look a little deeper into it.	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/18 06:26 PM
6	For those of you who are still straddling the fence - appropriately adapted red pill From what I've read about red pill tactics and philosophy, this seems like a oxymoron. Care to explain a little?	/r/ExRedPill	10/11/18 12:07 PM
4	Feeling torn While it is true that some good women get taken advantage of by bad men, there are by far more good men who are taken advantage of by bad women, [emphasis mine] Any source for that claim? I'd argue that humans being what we are, it's about the same for both sexes.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/18 01:12 PM
3	Feeling torn I think if you look closer at the specific relationships, you'd probably find there were other issues that coincidentally cropped up at the same time as going off the pill. "Correlation does not equal causation." Understanding that principle is what separates pop science from actual science.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/18 01:07 PM
2	Feeling torn I think you'd have a better chance of orgasms with the cinnamon roll guy. At least he's trying to please his partner. Chads/alphas seem to be pretty much one-way with the orgasms and only worry about their own, at least the way they're portrayed by RP and incels.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/18 01:01 PM
7	Feeling torn Men respond to pheromones, just like women do, though. It's basic biology.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/18 12:59 PM
9	Feeling torn Women are just people This is what it boils down to. We're literally "all just people." Your post is an excellent summary of life, because the truth is, there are very few concrete answers, just some basic principles. As you said, putting people to boxes and turning them into commodities just doesn't help in one-on-one interactions, which is what RP does.	/r/ExRedPill	09/11/18 12:58 PM
8	Do women love conditionally? he said that women tend to put all their emotional issues on men instead of dealing with it from a problem solving perspective. Lol! Women tend to call that "mansplaining," which can be a pretty dismissive meme, except that memes become memes when there's a kernel of truth to it. In my experience, some men (not all) are uncomfortable dealing with vulnerability, and when a woman expresses a concern--which may simply be her venting about it--their first reaction is to tell her how to fix herself o…	/r/ExRedPill	08/11/18 02:06 PM
6	Do women love conditionally? So what kind of love do men give, does he say? Men are human, too, and presumably also capable of love, which is likewise conditional since they, too, choose their mates based on their own criteria.	/r/ExRedPill	08/11/18 01:54 PM
7	Do women love conditionally? Not necessarily so. A lot of parents do love their children above everything else, and yet... There are plenty of abusive parents in the world, so clearly one size does not fit all. Some parents are absolute monsters.	/r/ExRedPill	08/11/18 01:49 PM
6	Red pill lacks empathy. Any group of people who define themselves by their complete lack of empathy for half the human population deserve OP's conclusion. If it were "just one person," it would be an outlier. But it isn't. TRP is all about control and manipulation, and treating women as an inferior 'other;' it's the basis of their philosophy.	/r/ExRedPill	05/11/18 01:10 PM
12	My Thoughts a Year After Leaving The Red Pill you must treat these situations as person specific rather than gender traits That's basically what my dad taught us. Treat each person as an individual, and not as whatever group they're associated with. It's how to overcome prejudice of any kind. I like your write-up!	/r/ExRedPill	02/11/18 10:05 AM
15	Is a women's body language a subconscious message about how she really feels? Does it show hypergamy to be true? Exactly. The photos are all posed shots for publications. They aren't candid shots taken without the couples' knowledge. The people in those photos are media specialists, in that they use media to project an image. Reading deep "relationship" messages in publicity shots (and I include "selfies" in that category) is chasing a never-ending rabbit hole into nothingness. There's no real truth to be found because those shots are posed shots that reveal more about the photographer than the subjects. E…	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/18 12:01 PM
6	What evidence is there for the 80/20 rule? Stands to reason. Tinder is a visually-based approach to dating. However, what determines whether someone is attracted to you is how you smell. Pheromones don't do any good over the internet. You'd do better going someplace where women are and talking to them. But don't be an asshole about it, because a negative personality will overwhelm any positive pheromones you might emit.	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/18 04:56 PM
10	Is labor pain a big hoax to get sympathy from men? Brains too big, pelvic girdle too small. Thanks, bipedalism!	/r/MGTOW	16/02/18 04:36 PM
1	"What Will We Concede To Feminism": UPDATE Thanks for this...I've been slammed for the mildest of feminist statements. I guess my feminism stopped evolving with ... humanism?	/r/MensRights	03/07/13 04:33 PM
1	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. It's amazing how well you know me and the people I know.	/r/MensRights	20/03/13 10:55 PM
1	Well put. "If Women only made what essentially breaks down to 75% of what a man made for the same position...WHY WOULD ANYONE HIRE A MAN?" They don't hire men...except men of color. And women. "The wage gap exists, in part, because many women and people of color are still segregated into a few low-paying occupations...Studies show that the more an occupation is dominated by women or people of color, the less it pays." TL;DR: Whatever, you obviously want to win, so ok, you win.	/r/MensRights	20/03/13 10:31 PM
1	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. Not sure which "feminists" you're talking about. Certainly not the ones I know.	/r/MensRights	20/03/13 12:34 PM
1	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. Yes, I do agree that gender-neutral laws should be in place. It's not an easy question, though. When does a victim become re-victimized? The VAWA may not have had the intended effect, but I don't really want to go back to how it was prior to such legislation, either, where women "asked for it" and "got what they deserved." As far as stopping domestic violence goes, I'd like to see a lot more emphasis placed on supporting women and families, better social services that help with education to stop…	/r/MensRights	18/03/13 04:21 PM
1	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. Actually, my statement about men as a group "keeping women down" is based on historical facts, not my personal fantasy. Here's some "Heart Balm" for you: (Lovely term, thanks for bringing it to my attention!) (From http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Heart+Balm+Acts) "Seduction: The right to sue for seduction belonged to a father who could bring an action against a man who had sexual relations with his daughter." Note who the injured party is in this little tidbit. Fortunately, "A majo…	/r/MensRights	15/03/13 09:34 PM
1	Well put. I'll let the US Dept of Labor explain it to you. (http://social.dol.gov/blog/myth-busting-the-pay-gap/ for the whole report.) Edit, it isn't $0.73, its $0.77, my bad This is from their "Myth-Busting the Pay Gap" page: "MYTH: There is no such thing as the gender pay gap – legitimate differences between men and women cause the gap in pay, not discrimination. "REALITY: Decades of research shows a gender gap in pay even after factors like the kind of work performed and qualifications (education and …	/r/MensRights	15/03/13 07:33 PM
1	Well put. The studies generally take into account the differences in types of work each gender is more likely to be able to take. I don't have the link, but the study I looked at showed, by age range, the gender wage gap. Women's starting pay (at the beginning of their careers) is closer to the $0.73 range. Then it rises (as women presumably finish their college educations and start working in their chosen field) closer to $0.80. Then, as women near their 30's and the ol' biological clock starts getting l…	/r/MensRights	14/03/13 07:14 PM
1	Well put. "Does the mother not have any financial responsibility?" Average monthly cost for daycare (usually needed if the custodial parent is working) $972.00. Average monthly child support payments: $350.00 month. Yea, I'd say the custodial parents have financial responsibility.	/r/MensRights	14/03/13 07:01 PM
1	Well put. lol, my original comment was just commenting on the biological reason we are impelled to make whoopie. But ok. Biologically, it's his genes being passed along to another generation. He has a vested (if sometimes limited) interest in his own procreation. From an evolutionary standpoint, humans found that cooperative parenting provided the best way to ensure those new genes reached adulthood to reproduce the next generation. From a societal standpoint, men who procreate but don't participate in ca…	/r/MensRights	14/03/13 06:36 PM
1	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. Acknowledging reality isn't the same as being a victim. A movement was needed...because men as a group did (and still do in large portions of the world) keep women as a group down. The 19th Amendment to the US Constitution wasn't ratified until 1920. Women were considered male property for millenia. It's why we have the legal institution of marriage--it was a way to transfer property rights, including the right to children (who are still considered the 'property' of their parents until they reac…	/r/MensRights	14/03/13 05:10 PM
11	I'm surprised how few people call bs on this kind of thing. It's odd that feminism is now associated with victimhood. I remember feminism as empowering women to act on their own without having to be 'taken care of' by the men who (formerly) owned them--their dads, their husbands. What a difference a few decades can make!	/r/MensRights	12/03/13 04:45 PM
2	Well put. I hate to break it to you, but the actual biological function of sex is ... that's right, to make babies! Contraception is nice, and usually works, but it is no guarantee. Both partners need to be aware, before the sex, exactly what their bodies are thinking! ("WOOHOO EGG HERE I COME" "WOOHOO SPERM"S A'COMING, GET READY TO CATCH!"--actual thoughts of sperm and egg on collision course.)	/r/MensRights	12/03/13 04:39 PM
6	Well put. If ALL men could be trusted to put their previous family(-lies)' welfare on the same footing as their new(-est) family, then there would never have been a need for the government to get involved. Don't forget the reason why child support is mandated. It's because too many men demonstrated they would stop supporting their children by previous spouses. If you're not old enough to remember the days when this very thing happened--men conveniently forgot about the family left behind--then read up on …	/r/MensRights	12/03/13 04:27 PM