Ladies. When do you consider a guy ready for a relationship?

mischiffmaker · 2019-03-18T11:21:52+00:00

The whole "alpha" thing is based on some really bad science.

Humans are social animals. We survive as cooperative groups. If you're an asshole, you might make it to the top of the heap, but that doesn't mean you'll either stay there or be a good leader. (Just see current WH occupant for prime example of that.)

Women are neither mentally incompetent nor socially inept, for the most part, which is why the whole red pill line only works on women with major issues of their own--and do you really need or even want a partner with major issues?

Wanting to be in a relationship, rather than being able to manipulate some susceptible, broken person, is the starting point, and you seem to be there.

After that, you need to offer something in return for what you're getting. For us social creatures, being able to rely on and trust the person (male or female, works for friendships as well as romantic relationships), is a major component of a good relationship, along with respect for the other person.

When you have those things to offer--respect, reliability, trustworthiness--you'll be ready for relationships. You'll find you have better friendships with other men, too.

Oh, and you also need to offer yourself respect, reliability, and trustworthiness, as well. You can fool other people for a little bit with fake versions of those things, but the one person you can never really fool is yourself. People know when even you don't like yourself.

Learning these things is how we mature as humans. Good luck to you! You're on the right path.

SirNemesis · 2019-03-17T23:49:21+00:00

Chicks dig artists and musicians dude.

SHAKIRAISHOT · 2019-03-17T22:08:02+00:00

so much about ur post makes zero sense to me.

you say you arent alpha enough or interesting enough or just "good" enough to be attractive enough for a girl to want you. and you proceed to say that a girl was recently interested in you and you turned her down. wtf? obviously some girls find you attractive - forget alpha.
" Im obsessed with art and music and colors and designing and drawing and writing stories in reviewing things and that's basically always been me but once again those things don't really scream alpha male. " there are TONS of girls that are really into art. again forget alpha. it is a meaningless word in general. what do you think alpha means btw?
" When I fantasize about being with a woman I barely think about the sexual things but how we would be together going on dates in Adventures and traveling and learning about each other. " so basically you dont care about sex and want to give commitment - which is what women want. they want commitment, they like sex but isnt their top priority. so...not sure what you are worried about there. if a girl is interested in you, she wont really care what you guys do. sex,dates, whatever. so find a girl whos interested in you and date her... i highly doubt that you cant find a girl who doesnt want to date you and only wants sex lol.

find an art girl and date her. whats the problem here?

if a girl is interested in you, you are ready to date.

if she wants a relationship with you, you are ready.

thebassoonist06 · 2019-03-18T03:19:07+00:00

Typically you want to see someone self sustaining, or able to do it. I'm a lesbian so my perspective may be a bit off. I look for equal partnership. If you are able to make a living and support yourself that's a big plus, but humans aren't naturally independent, so even just seeing that you add to the household that you are a part of is important. Be involved in your hobbies unabashedly. This will attract people with similar interests which is important for looking term compatibility. Even if it's just video games(one of my personal hobbies). I also look for people that aren't too needy, treat people around then with sincere compassion and warmth, can engage in an diverse and interesting conversations, and have opinions and can back then up but evolve them based on evidence. Those are things that are hard to fake long term.

Looking at maslows hierarchy of needs, it's hard to reach these kinds of self actualized behaviors without first having a strong support system and self esteem first. What are you doing to build a foundation for your personality? I've found trp tries to fake self actualized behaviors without the foundations to support it. There is a lot if hard work that goes into being a well rounded adult.

Moldy_Gecko · 2019-03-18T12:42:35+00:00

You can be an artist AND have a regular job.

WatchOutItsAFeminist · 2019-03-18T13:33:41+00:00

I don’t think you should be focused on “being ready to be in a relationship,” because you’re clearly going through a lot right now. Relationships really complicate things and they’re poor goals to set for yourself because you can’t control something perfectly if it involves two or more people. It sounds like, whenever you’re ready, you won’t have any trouble finding a relationship. So instead of worrying about it, I would just focus on improving your own mental health. I’m honestly more concerned about your perception of your manhood. If you identify as a man, you’re a man. No one can withhold masculinity from you, and if they are telling you a specific version of manhood, they’re probably trying to control you. If you can work on being a good person and a good artist and achieving your goals, you’ll eventually realize that you are ready for a relationship or whatever else. I wish you the very best of luck!

Title	Ladies. When do you consider a guy ready for a relationship?
Author	defo18
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	March 17, 2019 9:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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