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Find God
/r/RPChristians27/01/26 01:40 AM
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You don’t want to use her but then proceed to use her, just like you did with 60 other women
/r/RPChristians27/01/26 12:43 AM
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The writing is assertion driven... You need to prove to the reader the things you are saying I think. Imagine a secularist reading this- if you want to have any sort of explanatory power, you are going to have to tone it down. There is enough lamentation writing out there right now. Though I agree in general with the conclusions you’ve made, I see a lot of loquacious (see what I did there) drivel that even extremely well-read angsty Christian would not understand on the first pass. So it looks l…
/r/RPChristians20/09/25 04:16 PM
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There is still an individual left in there when you get married. Lol.
/r/RPChristians09/01/24 02:48 PM
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To some extent yes, but there will still be times where you are lonely. It does help being with someone that can hear those thoughts. Some thoughts shouldn’t be told to your wife. You learn very quickly that some of the pains you have are for you to deal with. You don’t want to destabilize her confidence in you. Not saying you can’t be truthful, but you don’t want her to bathe in your own pains/traumas.
/r/RPChristians09/01/24 02:34 PM
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Met her surfing about 6 years ago. Approached her, she rejected me. I remembered her though. Not many girls surf around her. Came Across her profile online and added her. I figured I had nothing to lose. She was pretty and we had this common interest. I didn’t tell her that I knew who she was until several dates in though. We are now married and I love her with everything.
/r/RPChristians09/01/24 02:33 PM
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It sounds like you have thought much about this issue. I was a virgin until almost 29 when I got married. I know the loneliness and I know the struggle.
/r/RPChristians08/01/24 03:39 PM
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Here’s what I did. I moved. I moved for grad school. Moved to a college town with tons of young people. There were lots of good women there. Then covid happened. Came back home, and found my wife on Instagram. I knew who she was because I had actually hit on her in the past while we were surfing. She brushed me off. Whatever. I remembered her for years. Figured out that she ran in some circles with good people. Wound up marrying her. So I left where she was to find a wife, only to come back and …
/r/RPChristians06/01/24 11:21 PM
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This is spot on. All comes back to the brain chemistry of Fapping. It’s freaking draining. You’re much better off channeling energy into lifting for many reasons.
/r/RPChristians04/01/24 03:56 AM
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I personally believe that going to other churches in search of a wife is completely fine. It’s a conscience thing. Small groups, Bible studies, making large friend groups that puts you in front of as many people as you can always widens the net. Don’t be afraid of online dating either. I know several people that met online. It is just flat out legalism to reject it as an option, in my opinion.
/r/RPChristians04/01/24 03:52 AM
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Nope. Just have to demonstrate that you can* get there. It’s a projection thing. Part of RP theory is that women will sh*t test you to figure out what you are made of. RP theory also talks about having a frame/mission. Women pick up on that very quickly too.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:45 AM
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I understand what you meant dude. Women value your ability to climb hierarchies. In other words, competency. That is what they want. You have the most free time you’ll ever have to figure out what mountain to climb. I don’t know if you’re a Chad or not, but in my experience that part doesn’t matter as much.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:35 AM
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That being said. God is gracious to forgive us our sins. I have found that when I am reading scripture every single day that my drive is much much different. I can’t describe what it feels like to bathe in Gods word but it does something physically. Temptation becomes much easier to spot and realize where you are being taken.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:33 AM
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That is the perfect time and place to find a wife. It gets much much worse after you go into the workforce. The women get worse and your time disappears.
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:31 AM
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This is incredibly tough to hear. Are you doing everything you can to find a wife?
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:30 AM
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There is no magic pill. Paul gives us the best advice- find a wife. I have a ridiculously fundamentalist friend that is 50lbs overweight, plays video games 4 hours a day, overeats on junk foods and sugary crap, lives with his parents. I have a strong suspicion he is a porn addict given how immobilized he is. He tells me that God will bring him a wife and that he has no part to play in it. I think this attitude is very sinful. He is not stewarding his time nor investing in his future by being chi…
/r/RPChristians03/01/24 04:28 AM
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Have you consulted your Bible first before coming here?
/r/RPChristians24/01/21 09:37 PM
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You gave your heart to this women in 3-4 weeks...? What? You don’t miss her dude. Lol Edit: your pp likes her.
/r/RPChristians17/12/20 01:43 AM
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^ yep. OP knows what the right thing is. Just coming to the internet for someone to give him a tricky justification. He came to the wrong place lol
/r/RPChristians15/12/20 04:32 PM
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Op thinks he’s unique in some way. lol.
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 08:13 PM
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How about no
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 08:11 PM
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Do not do it. Do not do it. Do not do it.
/r/RPChristians10/12/20 05:40 AM
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I get that. I think I am capable and that I actually want to, I just don’t know for sure. Also I haven’t read that book. But I’m interested now.
/r/RPChristians08/12/20 05:01 PM
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Thanks for the advice! We are 26 and 25 respectively
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 03:07 PM
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Wow. Congratulations. I really admire that.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 07:03 AM
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Thanks. Overall I’d say this thread has been really helpful actually. Very interesting. I am sure you can tell that I am an “analyzer.” I tend to think myself out of things or overcomplicate them. Were you both believers when you got married?
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 06:10 AM
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Yeah. So me and her have kissed a lot every time we’ve seen each other since September. Every single time. So I do have an attraction to her. It’s just I have been more attracted to other girls I’ve dated. So it’s a matter of what my threshold of attraction is supposed to be? And you could say “well it’s up to you.” But that’s part of why I’m here. Haha
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 05:19 AM
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Yeah exactly. Okay okay. So I think I can see that difference. Like, this girl is objectively a beautiful person too. She has a pretty almost like a pin-up girl face. Beautiful hair, and she tans great. We kiss pretty passionately on the regular. So I know I am attracted to her- I just don’t know how attracted I am supposed to be. This gives me a little more insight. So I appreciate you a lot.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 05:15 AM
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Okay. So this is the kind of realism that I’m looking for.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 04:45 AM
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Well, I ultimately know that. I know there’s a lot of wisdom here, hence why I came. I just think she’d feel pretty crappy about it. Maybe she’d feel just as crappy for asking anyone about it.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 04:39 AM
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I definitely am physically attracted to her. We surf together a lot. So I’ve seen her that way. She has a great figure and she is a pretty person. I just don’t think she’s drop-dead knockout gorgeous. Am I supposed to? I feel like most husbands feel that way about their wives.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 02:29 AM
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I do agree with what you are saying though.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 01:08 AM
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Yeah I understand. It wouldn’t be for long. The field I am in has a much higher ceiling, she just happens to be at a point where getting this next credential is a big pay jump for her. I for one actually think it’s pretty impressive that she’s gonna make what she does. That isn’t something I’d expect to rely on though. I have been quite successful myself already. I make almost double the median for a family in my area.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:58 AM
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Thanks man. I appreciate it
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:33 AM
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This is good advice. Haha.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:32 AM
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Yeah, the kid thing is super freaking important to me too. The girl I’m seeing is down for kids. Also wicked smart and like I said, about to have a masters in nursing and will probably make more than me in the next year or so. In that way, she’s a rare bird.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:30 AM
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Yeah. I can see that. I think she’d be pretty devastated if she knew I was talking about this on the freakin internet.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:29 AM
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That’s not talking about the heart of a righteous man. That’s talking about a heart of flesh.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:28 AM
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So do I just chalk this up to being an experiment to see what I like? It just feels kinda crappy to do that. Like, we both share the same beliefs and values in a way that I haven’t come across ever. Like I said, I think I’m going to give it some more time and prayer. It doesn’t really hurt to do that for a little while longer. I don’t want to break it off too soon.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:20 AM
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Yeah, I understand what you guys are saying here. She made it pretty clear to me that she wanted to be exclusive about 9 weeks in. I wasn’t seeing anyone else, and I do enjoy being around here. I suppose my OP is really doing some serious soul searching and raising questions to you guys that need to be answered before I can move forward whichever way that takes me. I wouldn’t be dating her if there weren’t major positives as well. But to me, I’m just trying to define what my thresholds should be…
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:17 AM
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I agree with that. That is part of where this comes from- I have dated 10s before. The problem is that they don’t have the depth that a “normal” but attractive person has.
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:12 AM
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I should also add, I am not at the point where I’m deciding to marry her. I just tend to live ahead of myself. Do you have any insight into point 1? I guess I’m inferring that I should feel completely ecstatic about being intimate with her?
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:11 AM
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Right. I agree that it can happen. I’m just not sure how it would happen in my case?
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:09 AM
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Would you care to elaborate? What should my angle be?
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 12:06 AM
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Okay, fair enough. I assumed by your comment that you’d think talking to pussies on the internet was a waste of time. Thanks for the assessment. I definitely have thought about this a lot. I don’t want to exclude a good person out of my life because of something deficient on my end. I am trying to figure out if I am the problem, or if the situation can be fixed. I don’t want to waste my time or hers. I agree with you about those basics. I think that I have been riding a little bit of the past (I…
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 11:18 PM
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That’s fine. I’m not even saying I disagree. I probably should be in the weight room. But that comment is not the same as “I’ve never spent this much time talking to a pussy” I just don’t find your last comment to be edifying at all. You are the one that has claimed you’re wasting your time, so I’m not sure why you’re even still responding. I’m not the one pounding my chest on the internet to anons. Lol. I came here for a Christian response. Most people responded that way, however you have shown…
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 10:10 PM
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-thinks lifting is the only measure of athleticism -insults strangers on the internet (why aren’t you in the gym, bro?) -claims his wife is the hottest in the room (of course) I appreciate the relevant advice you’ve given. It’s something to ponder. I just don’t really care what you think of my athletic ability, nor do I think your ending comment reflected any kind of Christian charity. You are in the correct sub, right? Either way, you have zero knowledge of my athleticism. I also don’t feel the…
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 10:02 PM
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Lol. I appreciate the advice, but I don’t need to be insulted. you have zero knowledge of my athletic ability, lol. Yeah. A guy that calls strangers on the internet “pussy” also definitely has the hottest wife in the room. I’m sure. I’m sure you do.
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 09:54 PM
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I’m not really sure why this got downvoted twice. It def seems to be going against the grain on here, but I think it’s reasonable advice too.
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 08:52 PM
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Yeah this is totally possible. She may be feigning interest just to get closer to me. I have thought about that before. I used to think that those deep conversations were a must have for me in a wife. But now I am not so sure for the reasons you’ve mentioned.
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 08:51 PM
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That is totally possible. She hasn’t dated much. Her Social media isn’t littered with self absorbed stuff either. She is extremely grounded in who she is. Part of why i respect her so much. She doesn’t feel the need to ooze sexuality I guess. There have been a few outfits she has worn that have been more feminine that I make sure to positively reinforce. She wears them again. I know she listens...
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 08:50 PM
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Yeah. I agree that the first is a bit of a problem. She has seemed to open up quite a lot. I also don’t see her as lacking confidence. I’d describe her as having quite a lot of poise- she is quiet but not in the sense that she wants to disappear. It seems that she only wants to speak when what she has to say is important. I don’t mind that part of it. To your second point, I agree that it’s a big deal. I don’t mean to sound like an arrogant jerk. But most people (including my family and friends)…
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 08:48 PM
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Yeah I agree with that. And I understand what you meant. The problem is there is no “tight dress” in her wardrobe to start out with. Lol. There have been some things that she wears that I have made to sure positively reinforce. She seems to listen.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 07:02 PM
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That’s really good. So yeah. I definitely feel like I have a connection with her. I respect her and have the same values. I do choose to do thoughtful things and all that too. Those things are choices. Like I’ve said in a few other comments- this may be really freakin selfish, it’s just I don’t feel like I’d be getting a good deal out of marrying her. I want to feel like I’ve hit the jackpot.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 06:12 PM
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Second worst comment so far.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 06:26 AM
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I think the stimulation is asymmetrical in our case. It seems to me that she is more interested in me than I am in her... so it’s tough. I do feel a connection with her. I’m just not sure if it’s enough or the kind of a connection that merits moving forward. For example, I have tremendous respect for her. But respect alone is not love, right? You bring up some good points worth thinking about. Thanks
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 06:22 AM
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This is the kind of comment that made me post. I really appreciate these questions. I think I know the answers but I agree that I need to think about them more. Thank you.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:56 AM
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Those are definitely valid points. Thanks for commenting. I need to think about this a little more.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:49 AM
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I have felt that burning before, but not with someone I respected or shared the most important things with. I suppose I only felt so passionate about such a person because of what I wanted her to be, not who she actually was. But that’s a different thing. I feel like I could do better. That sounds awfully superficial for me to say. But yes, I have generally had women to choose from. She is really the first or second one that the most important things have been present on. Which is part of why I …
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:48 AM
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Right. So how much value should be put into attraction and infatuation?
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:33 AM
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Okay. So are you saying that marriage should be based on the logic and rationality of things?
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 05:32 AM
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You are correct in saying that I don’t have a ton of experience dating. Neither does she. What do you mean by spinning plates? Just dating more women? Perhaps my OP was a bit misleading- she actually prefers that I talk about those things. She’s literally told me as much. She doesn’t mind me driving- this is more of a question of “is it healthy that I’m driving all the time?” And do I want someone else to be able to drive sometimes too? (About different topics, presumably) I think you’re right a…
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:50 AM
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Thank you for the advice. I understand I’m saying that “I feel” a lot but just bear with me... I feel almost like pressured into feeling attracted to her as well because of all the other things I mentioned- like the other positive things. She does have a great sense of humor, and she’s taught me a lot about the medical field and stuff. So we do have a good relationship. I just don’t feel anything burning yet. And I’m trying to figure out when or if that will ever happen. Or if there is something…
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:34 AM
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I agree 100%. The question is, do I somehow get past this feeling? I’m surprised that no one has tried to tell me that “love is a choice” yet. I’ve had a few friends tell me that. I think that’s kinda weak tea. That’s something you say to someone after they’ve made the promise of marriage, not someone trying to figure out if marriage is worth pursuing with a person.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:25 AM
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And yeah, we’re both in school right now anyways. I don’t see any harm in sticking it out a few more months. But if I still feel this way after another 3-4 months, I’ve gotta be out.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:21 AM
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Thanks so much for commenting. So, I don’t think she’s “hot” in the Instagram-sense. She is an objectively attractive and pretty person. I just think she’s “homely.” For example, we went to church once and I assumed she’d wear something really nice so I’d get a chance to see her look that way. Well she wore a very loose fitting sundress and leather Birkenstock’s?? Something like a preteen girl would wear. Just trust me, it was bad. Even my mother said something about it. I agree it’s harder to t…
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:20 AM
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I totally understand man. Thank you so much for commenting. So my situation is a bit different than yours. I have spent the last 3 years more or less completely single. The last fling I had was with a model who worked in CA and NY. It was the exact opposite of what I have here. The most physically perfect person I’ve ever met, but had absolutely no substance. It would have crashed and burned. That being said, I don’t want some sort of deficiency on my end to be what keeps me from giving this per…
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:16 AM
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“There’s no pleasing some people.” “Admittedly divorced guy criticizes stranger on the internet” I’m not going to respond to this
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:09 AM
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Yeah, so I don’t expect her to have the same interests all around. That’s not what I’m saying. I think she enjoys my musings on these kinds of topics because she has told me as much. The hard thing for me is that she doesn’t seem to know how to do it with topics of her own. For example when we talk, I usually leave lapses in the convo just naturally to gauge interests. I have tried to help her bridge into other topics with these lapses. But she just doesn’t get it. As far as social interactions …
/r/RPChristians28/11/20 09:24 PM
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So I have definitely learned more about the kinds of things she wants to discuss. In that way, I have grown. I just feel like she wants to watch me play the game rather than be in it with me sometimes. Is that a bad thing? Is it really just personal preference as to whether that will work in the long run? I definitely agree about the attraction thing. I don’t think men just wake up after years of relationship and see someone through “lovers eyes” or whatever. I am attracted to her. We do have ch…
/r/RPChristians28/11/20 09:20 PM
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I think this is a pretty solid evaluation. Thanks.
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 03:07 AM
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What I meant by your original quote is that Im not going to let this thread turn into a defense of my attractiveness. I have had plenty of options over the years, but none that I have deemed wife material. I do agree that I have taken myself off the market, and there are reasons for that. That doesn't mean that I don't have "game," but you are right in that I should probably be out there taking out the 6s and 7s. I think there is alot of meat here that I need to digest. Thank you.
/r/RPChristians21/07/17 03:05 AM
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Sure, I think my tone has been mixed for a few reasons, but I won't get into it here. Of course I agree with 1) and 2). You are right.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:28 PM
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Nice, see this is actually helpful. Understood.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:26 PM
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I agree 100% here. Glad we are able to reach this!
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:25 PM
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By the way, the fact that I have not kissed anyone since my last girlfriend means literally nothing. I have made that choice on purpose to save it for my wife. While I agree with your ending conclusions/summary, I think you make a series of assumptions that aren't related to the OP.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:40 AM
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Dude, I more or less said that at the end of the OP. I can see that very clearly now-but at the time, my oneitis kept me from sobriety on the issue.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:37 AM
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I agree with this, obviously. Of course the man is intended to be the leader and head. I will come back and read more on this comment, but I agree pretty much. Im well aware of how dismal it is- I have dated/talked to church girls only to find out they have dabbled in homosexuality, one night stands, etc. So I know that this maturity is vastly uncommon- however, that shouldn't make someone lower their standards for it. I think the jist of what you are saying is to keep your standards high, but d…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:36 AM
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What would the RP move would have been? What RP options did I have at that point in the game? I appreciate the response.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:31 AM
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This is good stuff. Thanks. I will will learn from this.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 03:24 AM
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What is the hamster?
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:28 AM
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I appreciate the hard truths, I realize that I have had strong beta traits in this scenario. To all of your bullet points- yes- I did all of those things. She had me by the balls for sure. I will say though, as far as your breakdown on how the convo went, I think it's mostly spot on. I will say though that me saying that I did not want a friendship with her needed to be said I think, because she responded by asking if we could still be friends. She like legitimately almost started crying about i…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:27 AM
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Im not going to even waste the time of saying "Of course Im attractive," because that is not what this about, but there have been probably a dozen church girls that have shown legitimate interest that I have not pursued because I don't see them as high value women that will help me any better than how I am doing now. And she was interested in me at one point, its semantics dude. The guys that I talked to were married dudes, so yeah, they've had successful LTRs so far. You are right about knowing…
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:21 AM
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Im an electrical engineer so this speaks to me. Thank you. All of this is in the past. So I have learned from it.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:18 AM
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This is probably the most helpful comment in the thread. Thank you gentlemen.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:16 AM
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I appreciate the commentary, and I think you've shared alot of truths here. I am not going to take the time to defend myself on every point because there is no need- this was just a description of what happened. I won't defend the past few years, but the convo I recently had with her was what needed to happen. I left on my terms- the fact that it hurt had nothing to do with it being on her terms. Her terms were using me for my resources. I could have stayed friends with her and kept letting her …
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:15 AM
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She could have been. She did still wear a purity ring, as far as that goes.
/r/RPChristians19/07/17 12:00 AM
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Sure, yeah and I think that is what I did. It just took time.
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 11:59 PM
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Wait, so are you a girl or not? lol. I actually did really like the girl and my intentions were an LTR. So I was honest with myself. She was a high-value woman, I don't hide that from anything. Thanks for the comment, but not really. Lol.
/r/RPChristians18/07/17 11:59 PM
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"Everything TRP/MRP seeks to understand was identified in the Bible first." This is fantastic.
/r/RPChristians17/07/17 02:03 AM
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Good- Nailed my Engineering Materials exam. Deleted all forms of social media on my phone. Diet has improved. Bad- Failed original goal of running 2 miles every day for the week. Only ran 3 times.
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