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I'm the opposite, I would never date a monolingual. Maybe it's because where I'm from it's relatively normal to speak 3+ languages. I feel like knowing and learning various languages opens your mind and teaches you to respect cultural differences. However, I do see your point about polyglots online who go to their local china towns just to film/ exploit foreign workers for clout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:17 PM
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The concept would've been good in theory; a hypocritical senator gets his life ruined by strong women who have "lower social status". However, I wasn't a fan of the execution, as OP says men aren't scared of women who sexualized themselves for the sake of their fantasies. I couldn't fathom how such a disgusting man would be scared of women twerking around him, I bet it would be heaven for him. Which isn't exactly what we want...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:16 PM
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Thanks for the advice, my pending math degree is already on it! Not too sure what I'll be able to do with it, but I'm sure it will be more fulfilling than a fruitless relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:07 PM
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This advice is absolute gold, thank you so much! I used to aggressively defend my values and beliefs but now I simply walk away from disrespect, it is not my job to let them know they're disrespectful. Despite being naturally argumentative, I try not to do that anymore. It is useless and a waste of my time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:38 PM
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I needed that extra push to learn about investing... I've been putting it off for too long with the excuse that college is taking up my time. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:58 PM
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Great advice, thank you! I'm not sure what I plan on doing with my life but there are so many things I want to do before the traditional notion of "settling down" with a family (if that happens at all, because it's not even a goal of mine anymore).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:55 PM
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Congrats on your PhD! Thank you for the advice, I still have a terrible vice of downloading dating apps every couple months, just to remove them a few days later. That is definitely a weakness of mine that i should work on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:51 PM
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I'm definitely proud of how far I've come, but sometimes i cant help feeling disgusting. If I had just listened to certain people and not given in to the lies of liberal feminism, I would have saved myself so much trauma. It took a massive depressive episode and the discovery of FDS to pull me away from my pickme trauma. Which I'm grateful for, but regret and pure disdain for my past self is very strong at times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 02:11 AM
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if you're in school, do a group project with them. I guarantee 100% that you'll hate their guts after that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:37 PM
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I was raised "like a boy". I was treated like one because I had traditionally male interests too. I has such terrible internalized misogyny until a few years ago. It only became painfully obvious that I was a woman when I lived through the traumatic gender based violence that almost every woman is subject to. Only then did I understand the fault of treating women like men. I had to learn to be a woman, learn to love my fellow women, because no one else will have our backs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:52 AM
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Oh I remember reading this story! They met in India and they fell in love while he drew a portrait of her. They got married and when she went back to Sweden they wrote each other letters. He decided to leave everything behind to bike to Sweden to see her. He didn't know she was part of the monarchy up until he arrived to Sweden by bike. It's so heartwarming, 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:52 PM
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This movie was ahead of its time. Elle's transformation embodies true empowerment and what feminism should be about; decentering men to become successful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:13 PM
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This post is sooo accurate. These peter pan boys are good with words, appear to be respectful and generally have their life together. However they're just as bad. They'll gaslight you with pretty words and you won't know exactly why you're going crazy, or why you're feeling so emotional. It will only be clear once you leave (or if you're already immersed in FDS) that they were love bombing you and lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:48 PM
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Like another commenter said, don't do this. Just leave if he doesn't meet basic criteria (thoughtfulness, attentiveness, appreciation etc.). You are not his parent, it is NOT your duty to teach him how to treat you. And for all it's worth, even if you tell him explicitly how you want to be treated, he's probably not going to do it. Instead he'll complain about how you're trying to pick a fight while you're communicating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:06 AM
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I love this! Another point I'd like to add to 7) is that leveling up to become someone of high value can take YEARS. First you need self awareness to realize you're in need of improvement, then you need to take the necessary steps to improve yourself. These can look like going to therapy, working on your own goals, cutting off toxicity, practicing positive affirmations etc. All of these steps take time and consistency. Do you really believe someone who treated you like garbage is capable of this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:05 AM
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I had the biggest crush on nam do san, he was so cute and nerdy 🥺. The only thing I had issues with was his temper. He never projected his anger problems on the female lead, and previously used knitting as a coping mechanism (again, superrrr cute) but at some point he starts physical fights with the second lead, which ruined it for me. I still loved his character though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 06:34 PM
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basically i was brainwashed into it. When I left for university I was finally surrounded with better people. I reread my diary and straight away noticed that getting a girl drunk, making out with her on a bed and trying to remove her clothes until she finally pushes you off is basically attempted rape. If drunk me wasn't conscious enough to push him off and yell "No" he would've raped me. That was my first kiss, and i had gone out with that guy before until I ended it because I refused to have s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:55 AM
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I reread my journal and realized that too. I'd write down things whenever i got male validation Oh and I also realized that i was almost raped... I was brainwashed into thinking it was romantic 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 12:56 AM
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One guy who had a crush on my in high school kept doing it. He thought it was funny that i flinched every time someone touched me. He continued disrespecting my boundaries even after i told him it was a trauma response due to previous sexual assault. I ended up throwing his backpack in the trash can and throwing his open pencil case right at his face. It definitely hurt him but he finally stopped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:10 PM
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This. Being uncertain is alright, especially at the start, it means you have your head above your shoulders and you are not so infatuated with him that you lose your rationale. However, if you start doubting yourself by thinking that your distrust for him stems from your distrust in men, you're gaslighting yourself. It happened to me too, if you find yourself distrusting him there is a reason. Listen to your gut
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:18 PM
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My mom was also the only asian patient in a white, conservative city hospital... so that pot brought even more negative attention to her :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:59 AM
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This reminds me of the time my mom gave birth to my brother and had complications. She had to stay in the hospital and my dad had to bring her food. Instead of packing it up nicely he gave her a whole ass METAL COOKING POT and big wooden cooking utensils. My mom was so embarrassed. Why do men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:54 AM
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They'll sexualize the skin between our eyes if we were covered from head to toe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:43 PM
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Imagine invalidating a woman's skills by objectifying her 😝😝 just men tingz amiright?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:40 PM
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Pre covid i used to dress down significantly just to hide myself, but I noticed that the more timid and small you make yourself the more you'll get catcalled. I actually did little experiments to see which type of style gets you the most and least attention. The most attention was brought on by skimpy clothing (a short body con dress for example) and high stilettos heels. If you don't wear stilettos, the attention you get is automatically less. The second was shorts. It doesn't matter whether yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:39 PM
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I think it also shows how porn addiction is so normalized. I've never even compared any of my acquaintances to characters from my favourite movie. You really need to have pornography imbedded into your brain to be able to instantly make connections to every day life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:27 PM
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Disagree with #5, especially with the use of the word fuck. You can do those 3 things with pretty much anyone, they're the basics, it doesn't guarantee he's a keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:42 PM
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Oh of course, but saying it in such a way that implies "you're really not that great" to someone who's trying to hype themselves up and love themselves after heartbreak is not the move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:02 PM
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After a "breakup" i once said 'statistically speaking, this guy is never going to find anyone better than me' and she replied 'No, you have to be realistic, he probably is'. The NERVE. Let's see both of you find someone who speaks 5 languages which is only one of my qualities Pickmes are bad for your self esteem, cut them off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 01:54 PM
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Yes exactly. The reason why she was against marriage was because she stated that it was a way to trap women intellectually and financially. Back then, divorce wasn't as easy as it is now and sahm was the norm. If the man decided to divorce his stay at home wife she would be completely lost, de Beauvoir was against financial dependency on mena nd this, the idea of marriage at the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:50 PM
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I love Simone de Beauvoir! I'm currently reading the second sex and it's very interesting. I remember in an interview she bashed the sexual liberation movement because it benefited the patriarchy. An absolute queen. The only thing I disagree with are her views on marriage, but I guess it has to do with historical context
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:55 AM
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I would upvote this 100x if I could. Ladies, never date a man who has no sense of curiosity. If he can't learn about the world around him, don't expect him to be attentive and learn things about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:32 PM
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So I'm a college student that tutors kids. My new student is a 17 year old girl, we scheduled weekly meetings and had our first lesson last week. Today, she texts me 1:30h before telling me she doesn't "need tutoring". I told her I thought this was a weekly arrangement and she has the audacity to reply that "she will text me whenever she needs tutoring". I was annoyed and told her I would not be tutoring at her convenience, but will only clear my schedule for regular hours. This seems off topic,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:02 AM
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I was scrolling down just to look for this! I said this on another post but my ex was a finance guy. He thought europe was socialist, justified western intervention in the middle east (ie. he doesn't believe the US committed war crimes), thought studying math (which I do) is useless, talked about how more was expected of men in society, thought feminism was useless, said we should kill off those who aren't productive, said poor people are poor because they make bad choices... And I fell for all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:41 PM
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Hard relate. I study applied math and the amount of men that have told me or have implied that it is a useless subject to study is sky high. My ex especially. He was a finance major who wanted to work at a hedge fund... He didn't even know hedge funds hire mathematicians and computer scientists nowadays, yet he had the nerve to tell me what I was studying was useless? Pfffft. I am ashamed to have dated that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:41 AM
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I've had this exact same "dream" since childhood. I suffered from a lot of trauma growing up, and for some reason always wanted someone to "rescue" me from it. I did go to therapy but it didn't help me that much so I decided to journal, self reflect, read psychology and philosophy. I'm much better now, and I'm still working on that "rescue complex". It's almost gone and I think it stems from lack of self love or the constant wish for outside validation. It will go away once I internalize the fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:37 AM
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YESS! Absolutely! Also congrats on your chemistry PhD 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:47 AM
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We love a confident queen 👑 I've always worked on being confident in my looks, now I need to work on leveling up my spiritual and intellectual confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:46 AM
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I'm still in undergrad (I just realized I probably didn't word my post properly) but the PhD in mathematics is 100% on the list of future goals 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:44 AM
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I got an extra piece of fried chicken from Kennedy's yesterday just for being pretty. Sis, use your beauty to rob these men ✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:44 PM
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I wish I could tell that someone else to RUN but alas, I blocked him ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 08:55 PM
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Reminder that gaslighting can be super subtle too. It's anything that makes you feel crazy. Whenever I'd tell my ex I felt clingy because I kept initiating communication, asking for time together etc. He'd just say "but you're not clingy". Making me feel as if my feelings were invalid despite also saying "your feelings are always valid [insert disgusting pet name]". Another thing that the post outlined is reaction. He'd always have issues with my reaction, saying that I'd resent him while commun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:59 PM
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I'm in the same situation. My first ex and I broke up 2 months ago, and although I'm mostly fine I still have my moments. He was the same as the man you're describing, attractive, took care of himself, had a life and was respectful. But he just didn't put effort into me, didn't appreciate me, yet put me on a pedestal, never kept promises, treated me like an afterthought, would forget time together because of video games, wanted me to do intellectual work for him (read a book for him and give him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:31 PM
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