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Escalation & Calibrationmitigated-disaster/r/seduction03/07/24 06:59 PM
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Lifestylemitigated-disaster/r/seduction10/12/24 09:59 AM
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Debatemitigated-disaster/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 06:33 PM
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Logisticsmitigated-disaster/r/seduction23/11/24 09:01 AM
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mitigated-disaster/r/askTRP22/04/21 04:57 AM
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Outer Game mitigated-disaster/r/seduction19/07/24 07:56 PM
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Question For Menmitigated-disaster/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:24 PM
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mitigated-disaster/r/askTRP17/06/21 08:14 AM
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mitigated-disaster/r/askTRP19/05/21 07:42 AM
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Mans spitting nothing but facts
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:59 AM
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It completely confuses me why people are so hesitant to accept that relationships are an exchange of value. Like what is so wrong in admitting that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:18 AM
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Not necessarily. Re read my last paragraph. While I may leave, the fact that she was with me prior makes her way more desirable than whatever her looks currently are. It is dependent on a man's character however.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:33 PM
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The use of stock was simply a metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:31 PM
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While I can ses your reasoning and can be a genuine thing to fear. You should view it like stocks and investing. Buy in while you can because it will be way more expensive when the stocks rise. For example. I was ugly growing up. I had a glow up and women that rejected me prior tried to get me at my finish line. But by then my standards has increased massively to the point I wouldn't date them even if you paid me. What women forget you still need to keep developing yourself even if you choose a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:09 AM
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Thanks for being a good sport
/r/seduction06/09/24 09:58 AM
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So, in other words. You are admitting you don't have enough energy to keep him? If you did would you choose him (obviously you would - this isn't gender specific) So you only choose the other guys cause the hot guys didn't want you? Please note. I'm playing devil's advocate here 😂 I'm not attacking you at all cause us guys do the same. Although I don't partake in hookup culture but I know tons of guys who do.
/r/seduction06/09/24 09:39 AM
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You are kinda agreeing with me tho. Notice I never said not attracted to at all but less attracted to. You yourself said you can't be bothered to put in the energy necessary to keep the hot guy. The other guy you need to put less effort in. Please note. I'm not attacking you or anything like that. It's the same with guys. I'm just trying to understand your thought process a bit more.
/r/seduction06/09/24 09:17 AM
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So this means any guy you date is seriously you will be less attracted to physically? In other words you'd be settling with him? And put in less effort?
/r/seduction06/09/24 06:34 AM
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Something I learned fast. If you are a weirdo, never trust someone who's a perfect normie popular person. Unless they did BIG things to convince you. This is actually very good advice. I'll keep it in mind. One of things that gave me peace of mind at the time was a few of her friends stopped speaking to her after meeing me. Cause they thought I was sweet lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 08:17 PM
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I think the worst part about it was I didn't even blame her. I blamed myself for not being good enough... as usual. It undone my acceptance that I'd die alone and threw me into emotional hell. Which I guess in hindsight was a good thing because self hatred is one hell of a motivator. I turned shit around and all but it remains to this day a cautionary tale for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:59 PM
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Appreciate the concern but I'm cool now. However it is the exact reason why I refuse to date women my own age especially being in the age range where many are ready to get pregnant and marry. She may not even like me but it'll be worse this time round. Kids may be involved and I may lose the life I've built for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 05:32 PM
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Tons but the one that stings the most. I was a scrawny loser who unlike most people was actually okay with never having a girlfriend or wife as up til this point women made it clear im hideous. So I found solace in my nerdy hobbies. Until one day some girl starts showing me crazy amount of attention. I keep my guard up (reread the 1st sentence). But she doesn't quit. So slowly I start to return her interest and we start dating only for her to ghost me. I at first am worried about her safety. She…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 01:53 PM
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Yep. You don't feel they are worth the effort or your A game subconsciously so you half ass it. Then consciously blame yourself for falling short.
/r/seduction07/08/24 05:54 PM
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Yes definitely. I also think it's cause of how I perceive them. Like I actually respect classy women and see them as an equal as opposed to a trashy women who the only thing I want from her is her pussy.
/r/seduction07/08/24 02:33 PM
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It's happened to me...with the same woman. Another thing is. The kind of women who circle back have similar traits to one another so it's not exactly difficult to tell if she would be one of those types
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 05:53 PM
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You think? I was kinda unsure cause I thought the signals were mixed. Girl B being very forward makes sense due to me being preselected by Girl A. I assume Girl A is being forward now cause of Girl B and worrying she may lose out.
/r/seduction21/07/24 04:16 PM
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Thanks. Cunt
/r/seduction19/07/24 09:03 PM
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Exactly, obviously I know which one I should and probably will pick. But it gets me thinking. If one is looking for an LTR. It does kinda matter...or does it?
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:57 PM
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😂😂 of course I know what I should do. But the question still remains.
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:26 PM
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We do have privileges in some areas. Redpill to me means acknowledging the truth about both genders. Women have it harder in some areas. Men in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:17 AM
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As a general rule of thumb when a woman brags about how easy men are to get it usually means she's struggling dating wise. Why? Because getting male attention is so easy for attractive women that they don't even really acknowledge it. The same way you don't acknowledge the oxygen you breathe until there is none left. Keep that mind when reading this post lads.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 04:44 PM
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Threads like this are always interesting to me. When I was 26, I had an 18 year old trying to get with me. Even at 28, I have had 21 years tryna get with me. Yes they usually do but if youvare attractive you absolutely can pull early 20s women. And before any one says anything I'm 5'6.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 05:15 PM
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I know this response is late. But I just realised. Do you think this has anything to do with the fact that I'm quite short with a baby face. She leans toward questioning my masculinity due to my physical appearance?
/r/seduction07/07/24 04:44 AM
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Wouldn't I get more submissiveness from them then though? As opposed to constant bossiness?
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:31 PM
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It's not gentle. It does usually border on disrespectful. The energy is of "Do as I tell you. You belong to me" type of vibe. I even looked up BDSM dommes cause their energy is similar to that. Except these women aren't dommes or interested in BDSM relationships
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:28 PM
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Sorry I didn't answer the 1st part of your response. They start giving me flat out commands or drop their please and thank you. Almost as if I belong to them
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:18 PM
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I've gotten into arguments and ghosted a few just cause I'm getting sick of it. But still the bossiness continues.
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:16 PM
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That's does seem plausible. I've been told my energy makes people feel relaxed. I'm terrified of being settled for so I watch intently for it. All these women I have slept with so it's not all bad. But I think that may be it but additionally they all pursue me so its super confusing.
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:15 PM
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Yeah I know but I have no idea how to change it. I've got my life together, been lifting for 7 years and am quite driven so it's not like I come across as some bitch boy.
/r/seduction03/07/24 07:12 PM
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Other men get jealous which isn't a big deal until its in the workplace or they are around their girl. That player vibes is facts even if you aren't. You have to build trust not attraction which if you are unsure of. You get crazy confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 09:27 PM
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Alright touché you win 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:34 PM
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Nah my butlers do that for me. Remember I have a yacht.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:19 PM
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That's not true actually. If I can afford a yacht. I can also afford sunscreen and umbrellas.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:10 PM
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This one. People don't realise being attractive has drawbacks
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:16 PM
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Thank you for the honesty. I think my issue is assuming EVERY woman is like this simply because i got barely any attention when younger.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 05:31 PM
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Well. I'm suspicious of all of them. The thing is, if I'm going to be used as beta buck. I'll at least choose the most attractive ones - who typically end up being in their early 20's. And what changed? I spent 7 years in the gym. I got a good job. I went back to university and got a degree.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 05:26 PM
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I like this response. It speaks to me.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 05:11 PM
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What I'm basically asking how do I rewire myself to believe these women like me and are not just seeking a "beta"?
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 02:13 PM
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As in attract alot of women that pursue me. However the only ones I feel comfortable giving a chance to are the ones in ther early 20s. Prior, barring one girlfriend who didn't even like me I attracted no one.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 02:12 PM
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Yeah, I had a very fucked up life up until about 21. Forced to be more responsible than my age should allow
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 01:53 PM
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So it has been over the years. From friends to acquaintances. I think the worst though was an ex girlfriend who only dated me to spite her ex.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 01:51 PM
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Funny thing is. I'm no longer romantically unsuccessful. I do quite well with women but because I've heard this since I was 19. When women show interest in me now...I'm immediately suspicious.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/24 01:46 PM
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Glad you got what you needed from it. Then don't make stupid fucking comments to what may be disrespectful to others lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:21 AM
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Why would you assume that? See dumbasses like yourself assume shit like that just cause I didn't match the stereotype
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:16 AM
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Cause we aren't considered attractive unless we match a specific stereotype. As I black man who grew up around white people. I was too white for the black girls and too black for the white girls. It ain't an issue now. All races find me sexy AF but it took alot of work to get here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 08:44 PM
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I found it at 18. Thought it was bullshit and misogynistic. Got into a relationship with a girl who is exactly the red pill describes to avoid. Found it again. Rejected it again. Started lifting anf focusing on my career to forget about her. The red pilled start showing its truth in my life. Found it again at 23 and couldn't reject it this time as it matched my experiences perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 10:31 AM
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Yep. Exactly the point of the post. For a man, ask for commitment too soon without "earning" it = ick. For a woman, ask for sex too soon without "earning" it = also ick. People seem to really not understand this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 10:22 PM
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This has happened to me alot. It happened again recently. I liked her to begin with but in the same way a woman feels like a piece of meat when dudes want to jump straight to sex. Us guys feel like a means to an end when she immediately wants to jump to commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:56 PM
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I never said it was coercion. And I never said that being a woman means shes pushing for commitment. The above comment explains it perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 09:42 PM
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Exactly. It's surprising how few people seem to understand this
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 08:55 PM
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This is exactly it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 07:50 PM
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I would but as long as she hasn't fucked anyone I know in person. I know that doesn't make sense but yeah. Also she has to be super hot
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 03:57 PM
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You're not wrong. But the caveat here is that the kind of women you want to settle with abhor this kind of behaviour. And just like riding the carousel...It is an extremely hard mindset to get out of simply due to habit formation....that's exactly how we end us with the ones who get away.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 08:24 PM
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Same here bro. Same here. If anything they seem to like the reservedness. Shame I'm disgusted by them tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 05:20 AM
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How much time do you have? Lol It was a culmination of many experiences (from watching lose all self respect because he us tall) but the one that really snapped it all in place was an ex only choosing to date me to get at a friend. She ended up actually falling for me, then came to her sense stating I wasn't attractive to be with long term. So she cheated and ghosted me. Even in the think of the relationship she was abusive. But the red pill doesn't just warn of bad things... I got jacked, money…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:12 AM
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Its really funny hearing people comments on men's aging and how it affects dating. If a man has worked on himself. Got a good iob. Stayed in the gym. Went to therapy to improve himself, he absolutely will have better options as he ages. Even if he doesn't he will still have better options because women (some) are declining....there is always some form of movement. Even myself. I'm 28 and done all the things above and right now have a choice between 7 women who currently want to date (ranging fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:34 AM
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This guy gets it. Although telling the truth is fun sometimes just to watch the blowup.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:53 PM
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Dodged a bullet. Overweight and loves cats. She pretty became a red pill caricature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:45 AM
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With some disorders maybe. I'm an man with aspd. When I can't be bothered to mask, women love me. When I do mask, people like me but women care little for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 06:34 AM
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Even with guys who decide to make up for lost time. They typically don't decide to settle with these 'rebounders'. They choose more down to earth or flat out more attractive women. I never decided to make up for lost time because these rebounders still benefit from associating with me (as arrogant as that sounds). If anything my glowup has functioned as sort of a vetting tool for low quality people.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 06:05 PM
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I don't know if I'm allowed to comment (I'm a dude). But I was a late bloomer and had alot of women from exes to old classmates try to return and hook up with me. Having women circle back to you (especially if you have glowed up in some manner) is never really a compliment. It's more of an insult if anything so it's usually very easy to ignore, ghost or flat out reject. Maybe your guy also feels similar.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 04:50 PM
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I'd be cautious of her intentions but provided they are 'pure' I'd be happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:28 AM
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How exactly can they take advantage? They can't force you to do anything you truly don't want. An inexperienced 30 year old is clearly not her 1st choice so she clearly had fucked up somewhere (I say this as a relatively inexperienced 28 year old). "Plan b is always more important than plan A because you NEED plan b to work in a way you don't require of plan A" So I ask again...How can they take advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:13 PM
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Holy shit. This was something that caused a lot of resentment for after I had my glow up. Girls trying to be your friend to get into a relationship. Preying on your vulnerabilities. Nagging etc. It made me way less trusting of women (not like I trust anybody tbh but still). Great and true post op
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 06:46 AM
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Wanted. Being needy means you more likely to deal with manipulative behaviours
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:20 PM
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You would be surprised. I got better results when applying social skills without masking how little I care about people than when applying social skills pretending to care. This was the exact same for me as well when I couldn't care less to mask.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:01 PM
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You know. I actually never have. Part of me wonders what's its like though...I hear they give amazing head 😂.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:39 PM
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Thank you. Some of us handsome motherfuckers actually have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 08:40 PM
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I literally had someone today tell I look 19...I'm 27. Despite being jacked. I still can't escape the curse of the baby face 😂. So this is nice to read
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 09:53 PM
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Amazing comment. It's also exactly how 'beta' men feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 10:09 AM
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I had a girl try to use me as a Steve....she had a fucking mental break down when I rejected her. Ahhh, good times.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 11:55 PM
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Yeah, I know. The question was more for others than it was for her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 10:02 AM
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Are you in a polygamous relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 07:04 PM
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Of course relationships are a man's currency. Sex is a women's currency. Women rish more in sex. Men risk more in relationships. Not to say both don't have risk in each area. But women risk pregnancy in sex. Men risk financial (or resource loss) in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/23 09:15 AM
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This has been the COMPLETE opposite of my personal experience and I'm 5'6 and jacked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 05:26 AM
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Lol. This a fucking stupid argument. You (men and women) can do what they want. But just be aware that some people will do what they want and that it may directly contradict your desires. E.g A woman wants to sleep around. More power to her. I don't want to date a woman who has done that. More power to me. There are consequences for EVERYTHING. You just have to choose what consequences you want to experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 12:05 AM
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No you're not. Don't be stupid. Boundaries are not for controlling other people's behaviour but for protecting yourself. Have strong boundaries and dont tolerate behaviour you don't want in your life. Redpill is just an ideology..not a way of behaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:33 PM
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Honestly. Probably not. But if it's any consolation to you. 1) I wouldn't date a woman who didn't also lean redpilled and 2) Not all redpill guys want to fuck around and treat women like shit. I personally prefer LTR's where we are BOTH happy. Redpill for me means viciously rejecting the phrase happy wife, happy life. And that only one side should benefit in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:21 PM
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This is it. I'm redpill but you'd never know at first glance. I even have to tell my other friends who are as well to shut the fuck up about it. Because alienating yourself because you can't control your emotions is fundamentally opposing to redpill ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 12:10 PM
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It's was gradual for me. I've always been observant. I found the red pill when I was 18 and thought it was bullshit. At 21, I got my 1st girlfriend. She only went after me because she was trying to get back at an ex boyfriend. She cheated on me. So depressed I started hitting the gym to forget about it. As I put on muscle and saw the night and day treatment I got from women. My nerdy hobbies were no longer cringe but interesting and quirky. My dark sense of humor was no longer offensive and rude…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 11:02 AM
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Both. The lying more but even if she had been honest I'd still have rejected her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:09 AM
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Yes I have. She was stupid enough to lie to me about it forgetting we had mutual friends. But beyond that you can usually tell when she is high N count despite what people like to say. Because they usually have certain tells.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:12 PM
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You see, it's interesting. My mum was abusive growing up. She has changed now but is sort of clingy now. I have no problem telling her to fuck off when needed but it only gets through when I'm aggressive about it. I'm always curious as to how women would view it? I haven't allowed to meet any of them women I've seen. But I'm sure there are worse men to date tho
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 12:45 AM
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This right here, ladies and gentlemen is the correct answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 07:30 PM
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This sounds like something that will happen to me. I'm in my late 20's and was always looked over. Similar to you I just wanted a nerdy girlfriend but could never get one. I started lifting in my early 20's and am very muscular. Despite being in my late 20's, women between the ages of 19 - 22 adore me and actively chase me...its weird but i like it. Women older than me or my age treat me like I'm out of their league which means dealing with them constantly negging me and shit. I've been worrying…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 08:04 AM
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Physically Fit Feminine Kind I am very physically fit. I am quite masculine (not just by my own estimation but those around me as well) Kind, is a bit iffy because I'm constantly described as a good guy but not a nice one. So I could work on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 05:53 PM
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The issue isn't getting one. It's keeping it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 11:21 PM
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Alright fine... I'll bite. Why do you have a high body count?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 08:15 AM
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Which is self destructive. Something that they typically end up figuring out.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:13 PM
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Is that a problem though. If someone avoids dating someone they would hold resentment for... Isn't that a smart dating choice?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 07:15 PM
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I'm not so sure about that. To successfully partake in hookup culture you have to reduce people down to certain uses and no more. I know 2 people before they joined hookup culture and both were healthy people prior. They just wanted to have fun. They are both around my age (late 20s) and they are both pretty damaged. Everything has its drawbacks - and while they did have fun. They also experienced the bad sides (objectification, unmet expectations, the emptiness and hollowness that comes with be…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:11 PM
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Sounds harsh but every person I know who has slept around (man or woman) is a paranoid neurotic mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:58 AM
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She dated another one of our friends who is objectively a terrible human being. I like women with standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:02 PM
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They typically act the same way entitled women do. If they get annoyed they will just leave her but if they really like her, they usually act so beta she leaves them. My childhood friend is a perfect example of this. Girls throw themselves at him, yet he has been in 4 relationships and all of them have begun to resent him as the relationship progresses. But it's worse for him because they don't let go because he is handsome...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:13 AM
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Man, how much time do you have. I have soo many of these stories. One that comes to I was sitting on the train (with my headphones in - this is important). I was 15. A group of girls comes and sits in the carriage next to me. One of the girls was smiling at me, I thought she was cute so I was mentally preparing to approach her. I paused my music but kept my headphones in. Being right next to me I overheard the four girls conversation. Girl: That guys is cute Her friends: Who? looks over to me Ew…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 07:12 PM
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Exactly I work in fine dining right now and it's the same just better hidden.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 03:01 PM
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I work in hospitality and while you are sort of correct that they are studying while working. I'd argue they are even more promiscuous than the average woman. So I wouldn't look here. Drugs, partying and sex are rampant in restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 11:38 AM
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Yes it is. I have accepted I was worthless when I was younger. And that was the cause of the shitty treatment I received. But it absolutely was not easy to accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 11:44 PM
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I had a female friend like you. We had an amazing connection. Like a girl bro as you say. As a friend 100%. As a girlfriend... Not in a million years. Even as a friend, I could very clearly see why she would be a terrible partner. And those things I noticed were verified when I saw her relationships. She was conventionally attractive (think blond, green eyes, slim with a fat ass) but holy shit was she irritating to deal with in a relationship. The things that typically make a girl an awesome bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:35 PM
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When I was back at school as a below average dude (nerdy, socially awkward, few friends who bullied me) I was known for saying 'you can't fuck a personality'. Everyone thought I was an asshole for thinking that. Fast forward 15 years. Red pilled late bloomer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 09:01 AM
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This sums it up. Growing up I wasn't average. I was below average which meant dealing with the loneliness on top of animosity from others as well for existing. The idea of being beta bucks terrifies me. More so because it confirms that I am truly worthless but the external things I've created are what is valued about me and if I didn't have them it will be a recap of my youth until death.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:57 AM
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I think its quite realistic. I in my personal life seen this play quite a few times. It's happened to me a few times and it happens to both genders. But there are some conditions. 1. The relationship has to have actually been good. No abuse. No cheating. 2. The person leaving usually leaves for shallow reasons - such as I want someone hotter, I want to have fun (party, travelling, drugs etc). 3. The other person actually attempts to move on (doesn't bombard them with I miss messages etc). Bonus …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:12 PM
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In all fairness to him, I've had the exact same experience and I'm 5'7
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 10:18 PM
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I have had the exact same experience. I'm trying so hard to not let it make me bitter but holy shit is it difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 09:57 PM
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Man everyone that I know that fits into this category. Did not take it well. Denial is the most common result which comes with a belief that they can get away with things they no longer can. This then leads to people not wanting to be around their shitty attitude which further leads the into states of anxiety and depression....which of course they deny. 'It's not me, it's everyone else' Note that this doesn't just happen to women (even if it is more likely) and has happened to a few men I know. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:17 PM
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No of course not. Only bicep curls there 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 11:07 AM
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It's happened to me quite a few times. Despite not being in my 30s. I'm in my late twenties where the hoe phase is beginning to come to an end. Every single one. I told to go fuck themselves. Not just cause of their past actions but while they were riding around, partying etc. I was in the gym, working on my financial situation. I'm out of their league now. I would maybe consider if they were hot or hotter than before. But they never are... They never are. They are worse in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:34 AM
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Her personality. She wasn't my type at first but she was such a kind and caring person that I literally couldn't keep my hands off her. We only split because she moved country and I didn't want long distance because I didn't want her to not find someone to make happy if I couldn't be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:54 AM
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So it's was more so you didn't want to commit and she responded to that?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:34 PM
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I ended it. I got tired of her being wishy washy about what we were I respect that. Good for you man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:28 PM
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Yeah, I'm constantly thought of as a 20 year old. I'm 27 this year. I'm constantly described looking like I should be in a boyband (not sure how to feel about that).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:23 AM
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The interesting part is these women aren't ugly. Just fucking annoying. Especially seeing as how despite my "cute" demeanor. I'm into BDSM (a dom), grew up fighting alot etc and overall have the least innocent personality otherwise but I look young so it seems to override everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:09 AM
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What demographic does the guy have in question?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 05:38 AM
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Lol. This thread is so validating. I'm always described as innocent or cute. It turns off alot of girls but also attracts girls who are quite masculine (I hate it). But I do also end up with other low n count "pure" girls so it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:07 PM
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Despite the fact that your sample size is ridiculously small (to the point its sort of useless). I have noticed a similar thing as well. Also the definition of a bad boy is important here as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 09:54 AM
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This is a fucking spot on comment bro
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 11:32 AM
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I agree with this. The more attractive the women, the less she has to overtly use sex to get what she wants. E.g. A really attractive woman can have attractive guys for an LTR easier than an unattractive women (Of course there are exceptions). But an attractive women can afford to not put out and not lose him. An unattractive women can't really. Even in my own experience, the most attractive girls I will wait for when they are ready but if I'm only partially attracted...put out or fuck off. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:23 PM
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Thank you man. I'm the exact same... Borderline anorexic to bulky and its like night and day
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 10:14 PM
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I disagree. The reason why self improvement helps with women isn't because of looks. You can't change your height or your face but you can change your mindset. And it's that that makes your more attractive. Of course someone who has only started going to the gym for women and continues to do so is going to remain unattractive. That exactly why you have physically handsome guys who bomb and ugly motherfuckers who fuck. Of course in the short term dating market. Ugly guys lose and will always do. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 12:26 PM
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Same, I had a girl do similar to me. This was before I found TRP. And even then I just ghosted her. She ended up losing her shit but even looking back, I don't regret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 07:53 AM
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Because I grew up as an ugly person. For like 80% of my life girls thought I was hideous (and didn't hide it). Its hard to overcome that line of thinking. I sway between thinking I'm handsome and thinking I'm hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 04:49 PM
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Not very (on my opinion). I'm short and ethnic. But I'm very muscular if that helps. Although I've been told that my looks make up for me being short
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:41 AM
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It sets the stage for the rest of the relationship. I like women who like being feminine, and am unattracted to women who like being masculine. I'd much rather her lose attraction to me than force herself into her masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 02:06 AM
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Disagree there. I'm a guy who hates being approached (it still happens and is an ego boost) but a girl who approachs me, indirectly tells me she doesn't understand the masculine-feminine dynamic. Fair play to her for having the courage to do so. But it will turn me off her no matter how attractive she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 01:35 AM
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It's quite interesting hearing that but it seems to align with my experience. I'm short (5'6) but am very muscular as I've been weightlifting almost 5 years. But I do get chosen over tall skinny guys. Tall and jacked. I have no chance but I generally can't help but respect the L.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 07:04 PM
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Oh my days that is fucking facts. When I was in my early 20's and I mainly dated Italian women... They were all very passionate but my god they were insane.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/03/22 12:43 PM
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Not by a woman's definition lol. But I see what you mean. Ghosting, shouting at her if she annoyed me, hell I called one a stupid slut to her face once. Effectively just being a bully. It was partially an experiment I was running. Because going from ugly to 'hot' left me bitter as hell with everyones new treatment toward me. I wanted to see how far I could push it. I have since made peace with my new reality but I keep my distance from people now and absolutely refuse to make female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 10:58 PM
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But you miss the part where I actively treated them like shit? How do you explain that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:34 PM
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I disagree. Growing up I was ugly. Girls made it very clear to me. But I also heard women don't care about looks. So I thought yes! There is hope for me. I worked on my confidence, intelligence all of that internal shit....Nothing. I was still ugly. I went from being a loner to having a bunch of female friends (it's an upgrade I suppose). Then I finally got a girlfriend who didn't even like me, she was using me to get back with an ex. As she stayed with me began to fall in love and when she fell…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:25 PM
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This is incredibly true. Whether they care or not is another thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:59 PM
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Diasgree. I've had multiple women develop crushes on me due to my personality. So much so that if a woman is immediately attracted to me (my looks). I end up ruining it simply because I have no idea what to do. The cycle is always the same for me. 1. She meets me and thinks nothing of me. 2. She noticed despite me being an NPC, I'm very sure of myself. 3. She starts thinking 'why is he so confident?' 4. Decides to test it. But by rude or some shit. 5. I tell her to fuck off or stop being an assh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 09:52 AM
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Not really. I've been approached by almost all the women I've been with and I'm not no adonis either. Women don't typically approach me for sex though primarily relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/22 07:51 AM
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This is exactly it. High N count people tend to have personality traits not really conducive to a healthy LTR. Arrogance being one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 04:21 AM
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It was nothing major. Just small shit that I knew would irritate her. Like making jokes, or poking her until she became annoyed. Nothing that would warrant purposely trying to trigger someones trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 08:50 AM
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Ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 04:47 PM
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It definitely will. But I don't recommend doing it for women. Honestly the best rewards I got from it were how it helped my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 04:45 PM
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4 years. In those 4 years, Ive been going to the gym 4 to 5 times a week. I have only missed 4 sessions throughout these four years. I drink VERY rarely. I don't smoke, do drugs. Eat very healthy as well. I consume around 3500 calories a day. Honestly I don't know what my body fat is but my six pack is very clearly visible _ if that helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 02:07 PM
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Maybe...but in my anecdote, I was actively trying to get her to leave me alone. I didn't want to date her, sleep with her or even talk to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:58 PM
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I weighed like 50kg. Now 77kg. And I'm 5'7.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:50 PM
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I've done this before. Keep in mind. I didn't want to date her. She was adamant about being my friend, seriously she wouldn't leave me alone. So I figured 'fuck it'. Let's play a game. I told her I had some trauma and because of this I hated being called 'good boy'. This was a lie... A few weeks later, I decided to purposely piss her off, to see her response. I already knew what she would do but wanted to confirm it. And as expected, she got pissed off and she started calling me good boy with th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 01:45 PM
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I would agree with this. I am turning 27 this year. And have been lifting ever since 22. Younger girls 19 - 22 love me. Women my own age and older do as well but I typically avoid them. I only imagine that if I stay consistent it will get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 07:14 AM
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I started because I wanted to distract myself from the fact my ex gf cheated on me. Turns out it is really fucking fun so I kept doing it. I will stop if it ever stops being fun though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 11:57 AM
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I didn't really have a bulking phase per se. I was borderline anorexic. So I just had to learn to eat. Which is challenging in its own right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 11:22 PM
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Grew up as a 5'7 black man in a predominantly white neighbourhood with a single mother. It was only after moving away that I realised I was not as hideous as I believed but even then I struggle sometime. However having said that, I learnt how to deal with women and their shit thanks to being surrounded by emotionally unstable women,
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 09:28 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah, I do actually. I've been working on trying to expand my social circle but I'm also very selective because I don't want bad influences but still try to be open minded. As for recipes, I usually stick to things like salmon sea bass, steak, chicken (of course), turkey. Avocado and nuts are also very good for the diet too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:12 PM
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On myself: It gave me so much self belief. I was in a really dark place when I started lifting. But the 1st time I walked into the gym, for 3 hours it was quiet inside. I loved it. So in the beginning I chased that feeling. It started as a distraction that became a form of therapy to passion (which it remains to be). Because of the gainz (lol), I stopped drinking, learnt how to cook healthy meals. The confidence I got from it also bled into other aspects... For example I decided to go back to sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:02 PM
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On dating or myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:47 PM
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I know this is a Q4W. But as a guy... ALOT. I went from underweight to muscular. Long story short... I don't really have to approach anymore. Almost all my female friends tried to hookup/date me. Take that as you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:25 PM
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This is definitely true. I would be considered a late bloomer. If I wanted alot of causal sex, I could probably get it. But I do want that true love, close to first pick. Maybe I should just plate for a while
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:31 AM
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I had a girl try it with me... I ghosted her. It left a bitter taste in my mouth. So personally I hate negging.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:04 AM
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I waited 3 hours for a date with my girlfriend at the time only to be realise she was already inside with her friends. Me and my gf. We agreed to meet for dinner at 6pm. I get there and waited outside so I could greet her and walk in together. 7pm comes she texts I'm on my way. I called her before this but straight to voicemail. 8pm nothing. At 9pm, she says I'm here, sitting at this table. Bare in mind I'm waiting outside and haven't seen her. So I head in and what do I see. Her and her friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:44 PM
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She's not wrong. I ghosted a girl who had me as her husband end goal. The result was hilarious. She completely broke down. Still to this days tries to get with me. She didn't choose me earlier so she can't have me now.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/11/21 10:06 PM
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I think you're right man. Reading your comment and then rewatching the video. It seems obvious.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/10/21 08:35 AM
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Of course. That's why you BECOME a man. The Feminine has no such journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:05 AM
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I agree. More so than that, how a person treats their body is extremely underrated. Why would you purposely do something that you know is toxic to your body? You clearly don't give a shit about you...why should I?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 05:49 PM
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In my experience she loses her shit. She thought she had me wrapped around her finger so it was extremely satisfying watching her lose her mind after I started fucking her friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 10:41 PM
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Underrated comment. And lying about it doesn't work. Girls who like to have hook ups have certain tells, that you stare you in the face if you know what to look for. Yet it still doesn't stop them from seeking you and eventually repelling you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 11:43 PM
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I am unattractive but put on a lot of muscle and sort began experiencing the shit attractive people complain about. And I sort of get it. People see you as a conquest and not a person. Good luck having friends of the opposite sex. People get possessive and insecure. God forbid you reject someone (as a guy I get the 'he's clearly gay' or smear campaigns run on me) People you are attracted to sometimes write themselves off as you 'are out of their league' which sucks when you actually like her. Al…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 04:19 PM
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Of all the posts that have hit this sub. This one speaks to me on a deep level. It's the exact same thing that happened to me. I was 21 so was she and said pretty much the same thing, it threw into a pretty severe depression. Honestly the worst time in my life and I grew up in an abusive home, been homeless etc. All I can say is I'm 'grateful' it happened. But even reading this post makes me say 'ouch'.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 07:50 AM
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You know, instinctively that is what I feel. But feelings aren't facts so I was hesitant to go along with that thought process. Either way, negging is a shit way to attract people, man or women imo.
/r/askTRP17/06/21 03:47 PM
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I really appreciate this response man. I definitely see where you are coming from. I probably do need to be more assertive. About this being a reoccurring thing: almost all girls I seem to get with or there be interest (mutual) end up being extremely possessive over me. Even girls that are not as obviously damaged like the one in my main post. It's gotten to the point where I expect her to act shitty toward me, its only a recent development that I want an LTR. But navigating these waters are pre…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 11:41 AM
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Absolutely I'm 5'7 and jacked. I get attention from girls I'd consider out of my league. Girls taller than me too. But I'm also very confident in myself. Others not so much.
/r/askTRP31/05/21 11:45 PM
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