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I feel this way everyday. Don't ever tell your wife you feel this way like I did. One of my major fuck ups that she uses as a 'go to' when she's trying to goad me.
/r/askMRP30/10/15 03:52 PM
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I'm currently losing on all fronts. These skirmishes with my wife, I can't be tactical, I suck at it. I have to think strategic, that's the only way I'll win. So my goal this week and forever is to not engage it. Working on my level 3 dread this week/month. I got back into one of my hobbies. Spent a weekend on a project. I's not a social thing but it's a starting point for me. I think it worked as she was complaining later that she has no life outside of the baby. Now I lost frame a bit and said…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 02:45 PM
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i like this, actually everything in here is really good. Thing is she ask that and I lock up. And just blurt out no, I'm not.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 07:47 PM
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Just from what you've shared, it doesn't seem that she wants to leave, or that she wants to seperate.... but you need to find out where the fuck this is coming from. Why the Dead Bedroom? Why does she want to leave now? What is she thinking? You can sit her down and ask... but DON'T GET SUCKED INTO A FEELZ CONVERSATION. I know the answer. She lists off all the times I've been mean to her. She can't let go, she can't forgive. She's not capable. I've just stopped it all and she's grasping at straw…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 03:36 PM
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0. You don't have to answer her every question. Sometimes the best response is to continue as though that question wasn't even asked. This one I use and she'll reengage with, 'are you not gonna answer me?' I usually say, I heard you then answer. I feel that's wrong. I feel not answering is entering her frame of being a child, e.g. silent treatment.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 03:22 PM
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This. Thank you.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 02:09 PM
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You know, now that you mention it. I did do that once back when I first found RP. She gave me shit later for it. You still worried about world peace?
/r/askMRP28/10/15 02:09 PM
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I did not want her to go along. I was doing the I'm doing x, you're welcome to join me, if you don't, I don't care. She came along and I messed up by engaging her silent treatment.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 05:33 PM
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Yeah, when she brought up separation on our walk, I went in with, "You know where the front door is, leave the baby in the rocker before you leave."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 12:27 AM
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You're right I did enter her frame. I hate her pissy silent treatment. I just remember last time I STFU on a walk she hit me the separation talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/15 02:31 PM
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Gotcha, that's a good idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 03:08 PM
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Good luck, don't let her goad you into calling her cunt. I made that mistake.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:32 PM
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It's not working b/c I'm not doing it right. My main thing is I cared and let my emotions get the best of me. You have to be cut from steel to do this right. I hope with nothing to lose it might turn around but seriously doubt it. I lift, yes. Both are SMV are 8.5 but she's pushing 40 and might be single mom soon. I had oneitis for this girl in highschool, i kept in touch 20 years later. Did the dumbest thing by moving out of state to be with her. I should've been an atypical give no fucks guy a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 04:01 AM
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Maybe it's postpartum depression. VAR? ELI5
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 03:55 AM
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God damn that's funny and resonates.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 08:48 PM
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What part of I'm going to implement this to a T is making an excuse? EDIT: never mind I see what you mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 06:09 PM
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Most likely she'll escalate. This is what she's looking for. She's not acting this way because he tolerates it, she's acting this way because he ACTIVELY REWARDS it. She knows that if she keeps needling him that he's going to break frame and say or do something "hurtful." When he does this, she gets the thrill of experiencing that drama first-hand. She obtains social currency from sharing that experience with others. Utilizing the male sense of honor, she gains leverage over the OP by reminding …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 05:34 PM
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Honestly, when I first found MRP way back when I did all things wrong and simply came off as an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 03:32 PM
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First, this woman admitted to me she does not love me anymore. I have no idea why I would want to stick around. But you know what BPP, I'm going to follow this advice to a T. I have zero to lose. I can't initiate sex yet, she's not medically ready b/c of tearing at birth. In fact, she shut me down for a simple good night kiss last night, didn't let it bother me. I assume I just keep it simple and initiate affection everyday instead while I build on level 3? Level 1 - I finally, finally. like in …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 03:29 PM
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God fucking damnit, I should've stayed active here or at least lurked. I need these kicks to the nuts to get me motivated. Yes, we hang out, etc. Last night I go to give her a kiss goodnight. She fully pulls away. I kissed her twice this week. What's wrong? Blah blah, it's not right. You kissed me early this week. Yeah, I want a separation. I missed an opportunity to 'show her the door, leave the kid in the bassinet' but I didn't want to deal with it at bedtime. So I simply state, 'you don't wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 02:30 PM
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I'm getting my emotions under control. Damage is done.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 02:11 PM
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I like to say, 'quit lawyering me' and 'can we turn off lawyer mode today?'
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 02:09 PM
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Every single time she mentions divorce, tell her to file the papers > Every single time she mentions divorce, tell her to file the papers or shut the fuck up about it. Stop. Reacting. I do, she's got a knack for one upping it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 02:07 PM
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Gotcha, I was thinking dread levels but then it sounded like a phone number. No, not in the last two months. I blame having a newborn.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:34 PM
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no consequence There is now, having my son raised solely by her is my biggest motivation. I agree, even when I give her what she wants, that does not work. I'm vicious but I think it's misplaced/misguided. I devolved to name calling and I attacked her abilities as a mother.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:32 PM
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I know you guys say they are still women but I feel a prosecutor is it's own animal. I can never win going head to head in an argument. She lambastes my sentences before I can get one complete thought out. She provokes and criticizes. She knows my emotional triggers. It's really, really frustrating. Blah, blah, something something. However, I'm working on it. Being hyperaware. Slowing the pace of the conversation. I do revert and let my guard down when things are going well, then she fucking pok…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:26 PM
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1 - Tried it, a lot in the last six months. She reacts by threatening divorce/separation. Which made me react emotionally. I don't react emotionally anymore. 2 - I think I made a mistake here with the name calling, sinking to her level. I should treat those episodes more like a kid having a temper tantrum. She starts calling me names. I ignore until she calms down. Then I tell her she's being inappropriate and to never do it again. 3 - We have separate accounts and a joint account to pay bills. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:19 PM
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I never had emotional support from her at least in 2015 and I quit seeking any kind of validation from her. Despite all the b/s, there's something I do that I may not be aware of that makes her totally insecure where she goes straight for the nukes-- threatens divorce, separation. I think it's when I'm being cold to her so when MRP preaches take away all the affection as an example, to me, it doesn't work on her. Or I've made the mistake of engaging her hamster when she reacts to it. I will admi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:08 PM
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Did you even bother to get a single number close before blowing your marriage to high Hell? Explain please? When your wife was bitchy and pregnant did you join a club and get busy? Yes, I've done meetups with a hobby I've always had. Went to parties thrown by my gym. Do you even lift? Understatement. Just PR'd my front squat at 315 this week. Although the last few weeks with an infant have made it hard to go six days a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:02 PM
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But at least use the next couple of months as a testing ground for what things could be like if you actually stood up for yourself I suppose this wouldn't hurt anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 12:57 PM
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If she isn't having sex with you, she is withholding. ignore what they say, watch what they do. The "emotionally ready" line is a nice way of saying, "I'm not attracted to you." The "Physically attracted" line is her baiting you into staying and dealing with the emotional line. Regardless of what she says she is not having sex with you. That is withholding. I figured as much. The Brad Pitt walks through the door theory... Anyway, I basically had an epiphany about this line of thinking and your p…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 09:43 PM
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Masturbation is a healthy outlet for sexual release. I used to date a girl who was okay, HB6 or 7. I just wasn't sexually attracted to her all that much for whatever reason. I know why, okay fine her vagina had a pungent odor and her pubic hair was very course, there I said it. Anyway, when confronted with, 'why don't we ever have sex?' I blamed a porn addiction rather than tell her the truth. I dated this woman off and on for 5 years. I felt I had no other options and I was hitting some wall an…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/15 09:08 PM
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AWALT, let's not kid ourselves, it was probably at least 3 Handjobs (western society's rule of 3 with women). I see this post and it's full of rancor. So you've stated that you want to stay with this woman then you have to get past it, the naked HJ. And you're clearly in the anger phase. I'm right there with you, brother. I spent the weekend thinking, I get nothing out of my marriage. Anyway, my wife probably is running 50 lies of omission on me. Not because she's a devious person but because sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/15 05:48 PM
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You have every right to change your mind. That's what I've learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/15 08:28 PM
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You must work where I work. "I did zumba this morning and I'm counting calories today using my fitbit!" about an hour later, "I'm using my crockpot to make homemade lasagna and I'm making a caramel cake this weekend. Cheat day!!"
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 07:32 PM
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Recent RP with prego wife here. It's been a roller coaster for me, with my anger phase, internalizing RP and since I'm so new, failing at executing proper RP, frame, etc. I realized most of my wife's shit tests were actually comfort tests. I've abandoned dread for now. Still haven't been laid in almost 5 months. She looks amazing too and it's killing me but I focus on my shit and getting the 'nest' ready for baby.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 08:34 AM
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Have you and your wife established a way in which you'll evaluate if therapy is worth tour time? No, but that's a good idea. I suppose my criteria would be sex on a regular basis.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 12:46 PM
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Okay, so some of the folks here know I see a marriage counselor and I've weighed in on threads that have to do with marriage counseling. You can go into my profile and find the other posts. So yesterday was session #3. Our therapist is a dog with a bone when it comes to getting on to my wife about her behavior during therapy. She keeps bringing up stuff we've hashed out previously. We actually had a good week since our last session. No blow ups, just a few hiccups nothing to write home about. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 09:03 PM
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Good luck, don't fuck it up tonight b/c I'm living vicariously through you. As a beta I asked for sex, her response was lackluster, I acted like a giddy school boy who got an Oreo in his lunch. Then my wife shit tested me as an LMR when we were both naked on the bed and I was rubbing her you know what. I failed miserably and now have a dead bedroom b/c of it. That was before unplugging, knowing then, what I know now... Dominate, otherwise OI, OI, OI.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 07:25 PM
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I do state what is wrong with me and I'm working on it. I've made progress here but I could use a little more work here. I have 30+ years of behavior I need to fix that's hardwired in me. It takes time. And these are all true statements, btw!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:28 PM
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I probably have no useful advice since I'm still trying to fully internalize RP, I'm just going to relay my recent experience with marriage counseling. I've gone to two marriage counseling sessions so far. She picked the counselor basically out of a hat. She chose a male counselor because she felt that I would be more comfortable witha man. We both met with him individually. I basically said my problem was lack of intimacy (among other things), she said her problem is me being too mean (among ot…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 08:24 PM
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MRP+68, reading Grad Level Books. I had an epiphany today. My grandfather and my dad instilled in my brother and I life skills such as carpentry and general home improvement. I can never thank him enough for that. Dad passed in 2008 and the lion's share of his tools went to me. I spent my youth respecting his craftsman cast iron table saw, it was a heavy powerful beast who could take your fingers off in an instant. They don't make them like that anymore. When I moved in with my wife, naturally h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 07:46 PM
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I've had a dead bedroom since January.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 04:05 AM
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Oh geez this is kind of off topic. My wife, when we were dating she got it waxed barer than the day she was born. Friends told her to do it, she was reluctant but did it. I guess she wanted to land me quick and it worked. First time and last time waxed according to her. So from a few months before the wedding and well after the honeymoon, she basically went wookie down there. I didn't care too much at the time. Then she started talking about having kids. Beta me, just went along with her agenda.…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 08:46 PM
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Oh good, I was going to say fix the 'N' on the original pic.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 03:19 PM
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I have to second meetup.com. I moved across country and work from home in order to be with my wife and her career... sacrificing friends and family in a new, scary city. Talk about oneitis. Anyway, I joined a few groups. Where I've found better success is crossfit and got the wife on board. We joined a place nearby. Lots of SAHM during the day but you get the dude-bro's in the evenings. If you're looking for hot, young coeds then join a gym near the college, great eye candy. Anyway, I'm introver…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 06:44 PM
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Great stuff. I do have to give it to my wife. She's a pretty savvy linguist and gets on to me when I take an accusatory tone. I've found that if I just use the words, "I feel like... " at the beginning of my criticism, it goes a lot further than "You do this... "
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 05:10 PM
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I made a poor decision to run dread game on my pregnant wife over the weekend. The sad part is it worked, she actually hamstered herself into a tizzy. I also ruined what I did by engaging with her hamster. Anyway, I need to back off right now, I'm falling into the trap of being an overzealous, anxious noob RP'r without fully understanding it. Lift more, read more.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 12:11 PM
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Almost two months with RP.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 11:02 PM
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Oh, my wife is pregnant too, so I feel your pain. I hope it's just the hormones that are dictating this behavior but she was this way since day one of our marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 02:35 PM
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Wife and I saw a marriage counselor on Tuesday. She picked him out because he was a man and thought I'd feel more comfortable talking with a man. We both met with him individually leading up to our couple's session. We both discussed what we felt was wrong. Me - lack of intimacy and respect, her addiction to mobile devices and she's constantly pushing her agenda. Her - he needs to be nicer to me, communicate better. Anyway, he keyed in on some things. She's A.D.D. and I'm more laid back. It's a …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 02:32 PM
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I watched a few episodes of season 1. The shocker for me was the pretty one - HB 8.5 (a former reality show Bachelor widow), albeit damaged childhood, got paired with the goon - 5. She was totally not attracted to him, he even got busted in a lie. He had/has total oneitis for her. She admits she would have nexted him if it wasn't for the show and the therapists talking her out of it. (maybe some sort of validation?) He was at her beck and call and she gave him zero sex. He was a total Beta. At t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 07:14 PM
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Yeah, wife is giving me static for going my own way. She comfort tested me this morning on disappearing without saying anything, the few times I have done it. I told her I'd order the ankle monitor ASAP. But I deliberately caved, she's midterm prego and needs that security blanket of letting her know where I'm at.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/15 07:05 PM
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Sorry for your loss. It's a horrible feeling not being there when you could, it happened to me. I recommend having another memorial service for his friends and family. Doesn't have to be a big deal but it will help with the grieving process. A photo in his prime, some folks speak about your dad, potluck. If you feel up to it, you can invite stripper widow out of courtesy. Also, let us know if the stripper has already latched on to the next branch.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/15 05:10 PM
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This. Read it twice - NNMNG. It was a revelation for me. And lift. Luckily I been lifting since I was 13, I've found it gives me that 'runners high'/natural endorphins that gets me out of a funk. That's why I've never needed to medicate. And once you get into a routine, it's a great addiction to have.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 04:49 PM
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Yeah, I was sort of being rhetorical with my last point. I'm not sending this to her. She'd take it the wrong way or rationalize it to her benefit. I learned my lesson a few weeks back. I tried to get her off using the iPhone right before bed. I (incorrectly) used the nice guy approach, saying it's hard for me to get to sleep. So her solution was to go into the other room. She would then come in and wake me up anyway. So I sent her an article on overuse of mobile devices affecting sleep. She bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/15 04:38 PM
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Wear your work/dress clothes a little longer in the evening before dressing down. I work from home on the west coast during east coast hours. It's difficult for me to dress up. But, since RP I do get dressed, brush my teeth and comb my hair so I no longer look like a shlub who rolled out of bed when she kisses me goodbye to go to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 05:50 PM
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Haha, I have two of those paintings on the wall at home. It's full of good looking women who bitch about their SO's. Back before marriage I took my wife to them. I'm a bit of an artist so my painting would always have all this detail. Plus wine gets you a different kind of drunk. I think half my game back then was just getting her drunk and railing the crap out of her. Now that she's prego, I can't rely on the old standby.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 05:44 PM
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We closed on a new house a few weeks ago and there are some updates I'm working on. It's good soup for the man soul. I get to work with my hands and if I'm sick of the wife being boring and surfing pinterest all day, I just grab the dog and go to the new house. It has a hot tub too. I wonder if she'd be okay with me moving out early and just living there full time. I lost frame this weekend. Luckily my wife knew to disengage. It should of been me who did that. She set me off with a snide shit te…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/15 05:27 PM
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NMMNG, I borrowed from the local library in audiobook form. It was on a bunch of CD's. I dragged and dropped the files onto my computer and now they are on my iPod.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 07:23 PM
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Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 07:21 PM
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However, her being at the gym with you is a great social proof/preselection environment. She may notice women looking at you (even if you don't) and she can see you interacting with men. Bonus points if you can pull of AMOG while there. This happened to me. Wife and I go to group fitness together. One day I must've been just on my game. All the women were talking me up for some reason. And my wife started flirting with me after that. The old beta me would've avoided these women b/c I didn't want…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 05:42 PM
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I'm in a married guy's version of monk mode. I work on the house which takes time away from her. Put my earbuds in, reflect. I also close my eyes and meditate sometimes. Lift. Driving range. I think someone else said, 'it takes time.' Very true. By nature, men want instant gratification but I've found there's a lot of work involved.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 05:30 PM
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It's frustrating... infuriating. I'm there too and have mostly accepted my wife sucks and AWALT. You may also have been a 'Nice Guy' like I was. Reading NMMNG was a revelation for me. I have it as a book on tape on my iPod and listen to it while I do housework. Internalizing it. I work on pausing before answering questions. Formulate my thoughts. I take breaks from her if stuff gets too heated. I'm trying to ignore that rush of anger hormones that hits me. It's all difficult. Ultimately, here's …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 03:32 PM
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I haven't been around long but I try to start my posts with the following... MRP+81 (so that means 81 days since I swallowed RP). Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, TRMYr1, 16CoP. Currently reading TMAP. Gives a nice first glance of where I'm at.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 03:27 PM
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My now wife was a fuck monster when we were dating. She loved when I shot it on her. I found the one. I popped the question, put the ring on. I was thinking sex that weekend was going to be epic. It was mediocre at best. The tap was slowly turned down a bit leading up to the wedding. Not too much to notice but the stress of planning a wedding, seemed at the time a valid reason. She got the wedding she wanted. I had to ask for wedding sex and it was sort of a let's get this over with I'm tired. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/15 03:03 PM
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Beta Shit Goblin, the male hamster who likes to piss and moan and be super beta. He sits on your shoulder and whispers in your ear like a demented Jimminy Cricket and all you do is victim puke. I want to run him over with my truck. Anyway, a term that was recently used in these forums.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 06:14 PM
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GD, perfect. I suck at AA.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 04:36 PM
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Not entirely sure, other than she was batshit crazy. I kept hearing him always say, why did I walk into that pizza joint so long ago. From what I can gather he was probably beta going into the marriage, joined the Army, stuck around for the kids as long as possible and 17 years later hit the eject button himself. He was over joyed when his youngest turned 18, "I'll never have to talk to her again." I also think he was having problems initially with his new wife. Talked about moving out and sayin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 04:05 PM
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He got married young and regretted it. Prior military, pretty alpha. Probably in his hey day, he was a 7.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:47 PM
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I had a coworker say that he bought new tits for his ex-wife's new husband to enjoy.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 03:21 PM
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MRP+47. Finished TRM-Yr1, 16 C's of Poon, MMSLP, WISNIFG and NMNG which I read twice. That book really resonated with me. Currently reading TMAP. Last week, we had a soft event. I told her, "I deserve someone who respects me and I won't raise a kid in a loveless marriage." She 'slept' (couldn't sleep) in the guest bedroom for two days. I was thinking, yes little hamster, spin, spin, spin. I invited her back to the master bedroom. Her attitude change and we had a great 5 days. Until last night...…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/15 01:06 PM
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AF
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 04:53 PM
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This hit home. Geez I'm embarrassed to say I'm an O-4. My problem is I let emotion cloud my judgement at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 03:39 PM
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Welcome, the response by /u/archwinger summarizes it pretty well.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 03:18 PM
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You pretty much nailed what happened. I was near the store for something unrelated and made the decision to buy it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 06:14 PM
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Last night's preview of the cabinet work just solidified this point for me, ten fold. I think why I'm conditioned this way is because my gf prior to my wife, (~5 year relationship), loved when I did this kind of home improvement stuff. Unfortunately her SMV was lower and I wasn't truly physically attracted to her. My wife's is about equal with me, well I know mine should be higher now since we're both mid-30s (post wall for her). Thinking about it now I'd probably be happier with the lower SMV g…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 04:48 PM
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I have so much to learn. Thanks. I made the mistake of showing her all the work I had done so far, expecting some sort of appreciation and she didn't give a shit. Actually she wanted to hire someone to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 01:05 PM
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What if you have a wife who gets upset because you're making decisions without consulting her first? For instance, wife wants (well I do too) cabinets painted white. I take my happy ass to the hardware when it was convenient for me and buy the stuff without her. I come back to a ration of shit about her not being part of the process. I told her, you gave me the requirement so let me execute it my way. "How would you feel if I went out and did?" I said, "You did, you bought the baby's stroller wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 12:48 PM
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She also stated, "She can't tell whether or not i'm being sarcastic when I agree." It was driving her nuts.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 12:33 PM
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My wife and I might've had a 'soft' event last night. She called me out, saying, "Is that your new thing now, you're just going to agree with me." I said, "I feel you don't respect me anymore." Without being blunt as to say, 'yes', she pretty much said yes. So we start having a conversation about how to communicate better, I thought it was productive and then she does what she always does, hides her head in the iPad or TV. I left it as 'that's pretty disrespectful.' I've noticed lately she runs …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/15 12:07 PM
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I've worked on being more stoic. I'm starting to see a glimmer of light at the end of this long, dark tunnel in my marriage. I'm less angry than last week. I suck at agree and amplify. I'm not witty with my responses. So when I fail, I've started to reflect, "What could I have said there now that I have time to think about it?" I was giving the wife a neck rub and I caressed her giant prego tit (gawd they taunt me everyday), she said, "It feels weird when you manhandle me." The beta kicked in an…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 08:54 PM
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which work the best for you. That might be it too.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 03:27 AM
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She takes half the dose now that's she's pregnant. She took full dose while we were dating and was a maniac in the sack. It's since marriage that the well has been running dry. It might be a mix of meds and hormones, I dunno. Here's what've found to work. If I'm not forcing what I want and calmly tell her my opinion, it works better. She comes around days later after internalizing it in her thoughts. For instance, if anyone recalls, we had a blow out about hyphenating my boys last name. Well yes…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 03:25 AM
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My wife puts up a shitty buffer before bed time. She plays candy crush on her two iPhones (one's for work). I went down the path of it bothers me when I'm trying to sleep, which is true. The outcome I wanted was for her to just stop doing it so we could hang out in the dark having a little banter. Instead it backfired. I go to bed and she'll go to the other room and play her lives and then come to bed when I'm asleep or trying to sleep. By then it's just too late in the night. I tried to bring i…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 06:04 PM
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It's part of married red pill, maybe someone other than a newbie like me can explain it better. Essentially you initiate sex, she rejects you and then you go do something else like it doesn't bother you. i.e. Outcome Independence for you and you don't come off as a begging, whiny butthurt beta. The leaving to do something else, well typically what's recommended is to leave the house without saying anything and let her hamster wheels spin.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 12:38 PM
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Well, here's the vicious cycle I need to break. - Initiate sex - Get rejected - Lose mood - Become more skittish to initiate sex The OI helps but damn it still hurts.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 12:30 PM
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I actually lose the mood when I get rejected. Same here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 11:49 AM
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It should actually turn you off. So much this. Before unplugging, I was so hard up to bang my wife and when she denied, I would pout. Since RP, One of the tips of a sexless marriage was to initiate every night. Well she was such a raging cunthammer that I was just mentally turned off to having sex.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 01:59 PM
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Yeah, I realize this now. That was pre-RP and I was pretty much the Stevie Wonder of the Matrix back then.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 01:15 PM
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I think my wife is currently doing this to me, withholding sex. Background: We had a blow out two months ago and the sex dried up which led me to here and MRP. Prior to TRP, she told me to my face that she isn't withholding sex from me as punishment, she just doesn't feel like it. It made sense, she's still reeling from our fight and oh BTW, pregnant and, then, in her first trimester. Understandable-- morning sickness, soreness, etc. Now, she's well into her second trimester (horny phase for mos…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 01:02 PM
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Fogging... don't offer solutions or become emotional That makes a lot of sense. It's like after reading this material, my gut reaction is go out and practice without a true understanding of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 03:28 PM
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I just finished WISNIFG and when I got to that section on fogging, I was like 'Oh, that's what they mean by A&A.' I been trying it on the wife but I run into broken record territory and then she turns into a broken record and it devolves into a petty game of tennis. Next thing I know I'm operating in her frame. Mostly, I think it's my delivery and she can see right through the fog and realize I'm just pissed. What was that movie? '40 Year Old Virgin' - Be David Caruso in 'Jade'. Okay I know that…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 03:02 PM
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Fck, you're right. I'm a gym rat but skipped tonight. I did have a good talk with my brother in lieu of it. She came home and I was Mr. Cool, so it was good to vent all that frustration to a literal bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 03:55 AM
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The only thing I have going for me is unplugging early in my marriage even though I've absolutely shot myself in the foot prior to swallowing.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 01:31 AM
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I'm absolutely in the anger phase and am struggling to get out. We just had another altercation and here I am sitting with my thoughts. I feel parts of my brain are being accessed that are synonymous with getting into a bar fight with an obnoxious dude. I think it's just time and conditioning that's going to save me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 01:30 AM
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Gawd, I'm so amateur RP still. I fall into this trap all the time. It's frustrates me so much. I just want to figuratively drop kick my wife sometimes. She can see it in my face. It takes every bit of my being to not to engage but I still fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 05:29 PM
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I'm on page 72.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 09:00 PM
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I'll let everyone know how it goes in six months.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 08:58 PM
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Thanks for all the responses, everyone. It helps a lot. There are a few main reasons why she kept her last name. Professionally she is an attorney and a hard nose one at that so she wanted to continue practicing under it. Her original plan was to drop her middle name and use her last name as her middle name and my last name as her last name. She would continue using her maiden name professionally. We got to the county clerk's office and they wouldn't let her change her name that way. Anyway, she…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 12:08 PM
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She was the last unmarried person in her family. All her cousins are female, her last name dies with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 11:28 AM
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Maybe we should just take them up on their offer right away. I was thinking about keeping a daily journal to help my memory. It's not that I don't have a good memory, I just tend not to remember the stuff that doesn't matter. Not that it matters anyway, I feel the hamster will rationalize like the dude abides.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/15 03:17 AM
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I opened a fortune cookie tonight, "You will receive unexpected support over the next week. Accept it graciously." Initially, I thought maybe they mean my wife. Fat chance. Just finished reading MMSLP. So my wife and I were discussing baby names the other day. She kept her last name in the marriage and I just assumed the newborn will have my last name. So far in the pregnancy she's referred to our baby as 'your baby' (as in husband's). We just found out the gender this week. Well it quickly beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/15 01:54 AM
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Replace back rub for the promise of sex later and you have my life. Well had my life when I would at least have infrequent sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/15 11:15 PM
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If I could do it over again, I would swallow TRP while dating and see where it went from there. Now I certainly won't ever get married again if this marriage tanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/15 02:54 PM
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I think patience is the second hardest thing to swallow. The first being, you might lose your wife or LTR in this process. It looks like you got me beat on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 04:42 PM
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MRP+10 I had a blow up fight with my wife about my unhappiness that eventually led me here. While I was standing there baring my soul to her, I said this is what is wrong with me and it stems from things during my childhood. She told me to go see a therapist and fix myself. She didn't care nor want to know. I stood there completely exposed and hurt, not knowing that was the absolute wrong thing to do. I went to a counselor but that was a waste of money. I swallowed this pill and am doing okay so…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 04:33 PM
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I don't remember the exact scenario but here goes... Wife is pregnant with our first and she's talking with her BFF who has two small children. Story goes... She's talking about recliner/rockers we looked at earlier that day. And how the furniture guy was saying, it's mostly the wives who use the chair and realistically in the middle of the night the men can't really do in anything, anyway (breastfeeding). So I grab my wife lovingly and it wasn't even deadpan, "Honey, don't worry, I will fully s…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 03:59 PM
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MRP+8 I have an extremely dry sense of humor and dead pan deliver. My wife says I'm not funny. If you realize I joke all the time then I'm funny. People at work understand it and think I'm hilarious. I just don't get why my wife doesn't but that's not the point here. Her social circle doesn't get me either, mostly female friends. Well one in particular, her BFF basically. I feel when we go out, it's gang up on me time. I say something and they like to pick it apart. Sure, I guess I make off colo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 03:28 PM
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I get of accused of saying hurtful things unintentionally. I usually respond with, 'you're taking it the wrong way.' My wife said, 'if everyone takes what you say the wrong way, maybe it's you and not them.' Complete shit test, I had no response. She totally shut me down and got to me. It might be true. My humor is extremely dry and my delivery is extremely deadpan. I've been known to hurt feelings and people who don't know I joke like 99% of the time get offended. I wouldn't mind an example AA …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 02:44 PM
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Wow, this sounds exactly like my life but without the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/15 02:16 PM
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Maybe the older Rose Dawson character said it best at the end of Titanic. Rose: I've never spoken of him to anyone until now, not even to your grandfather. A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets, but now you know there was a man named Jack Dawson, and he saved me, in every way that a person can be saved.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 07:44 PM
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Extremely new to MRP. Still in the required reading phase. I pop off the term 'I'm sorry' way too much. It's a hold over from my beta days (let's be honest, I'm still beta but working on it). It's almost like a verbal tick. In fact, I said it this morning when my wife was complaining about how much she had to do at work. I'm not sorry, it's not my fault you have so much work. I have nothing to do with that. I need a better phrase like, 'that sucks' or 'I'm sure you'll get it done.' I need to str…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 08:06 PM
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