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I would more likely to believe the guy was robbed in that case. If he is flashing money like that, of course he would get robbed. If a woman does risky behavior all the time, she is more likely to be sexually assaulted. Women know this and try to mitigate the risks when going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:05 AM
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Some of the studies use overbroad definitions of things like coercion or rape, which can inflate the numbers. But it has no impact on women's individual experiences. It is like someone saying they were robbed but then you deny it because one study said robberies were rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:04 AM
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I find that women prefer the man to initiate even if she wants it. And women aren't necessarily denying you as a person. They weren't in the mood in that moment and state of mind. It could change as the night develops.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:40 PM
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It is fine asking 2 times in the same night. Back off after the first rejection respectfully, wait some time for more chemistry to develop, then try again if things are getting hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:57 PM
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I "coerce" women by doing foreplay and turning them on to get them in the mood. Cuddle and kiss slowly, see where it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:38 PM
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Every woman in her 30s that is single has a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:08 PM
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If people suffer from sensory issues, then they are not a good fit for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:44 AM
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I associate sensory issues with kids. Vegetarians usually have a diverse palate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:21 AM
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I understand people have that aversion, which is why I chose it. I just find it a turnoff if someone doesn't like tomatoes. To me, it is a sign that they are not open to try new things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:25 PM
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Picky eaters give me the ick. I don't mind if someone is a vegetarian or has allergies. Those are legitimate reasons to avoid a food. But if someone straight up doesn't like tomatoes, that comes off as childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:52 PM
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People want a little foreplay before diving into the main act.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:26 PM
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One of the advantages of dating a high earning woman is that they can pool money together and live the DINK lifestyle. The type of guy who likes a woman like that would lose attraction if she decided to quit her job, stay home and go shopping all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:29 AM
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Sure, but leading them on for a year makes it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:53 PM
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People start off in casual relationships and it evolves into something serious. If they were exclusive, dating for a year and met each others parents, then I can see how someone thinks they are heading in that direction. For me, if I am in a casual relationship and it becomes evident that the woman wants to be serious, then I end it. I might be called afraid to commit or avoidant, but I don't like breaking hearts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:53 PM
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The biggest men's right issue has been solved where laws don't discriminate against men during child custody cases. No one cares about the draft because it doesn't affect them right now. If they do ever try to implement it, there will be a huge backlash. If you are against circumcision, you can choose to not circumcize your own kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:41 PM
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I am half joking Me and my ex wife had different styles. I liked mid century modern while she wanted everything white with tacky led lights. We pushed back when it comes to major purchases and ended up with compromises that we both weren't really happy with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:23 PM
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Straight men don't care about decor. They are happy with a mattress on the floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:07 PM
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Don't lie about things that they could later find out about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:35 PM
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This is a little over dramatic. It is not that hard to put a little more effort in the early stages of dating. It is better just to accept that rather than keeping score and trying to fight it. Picking out a place and time to meet isn't a humiliation ritual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:01 AM
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The problem with looksmaxing is the maxing part. It is like when women get too much plastic surgery that they look fake. Instead of chasing perfection, it is better to focus on subtle improvements that look natural.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:24 PM
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There is nothing wrong with it per se. The scenario presented by the OP was an attractive woman with an unattractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:39 PM
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It would be an app for ugly people. You aren't going to match with the slim blonde Stacy. You will match with the 300+ pound unattractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:53 AM
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Do you have studies and expert witnesses to back that up? In most places, the courts prioritize the best interest of the child and prefer both parents be involved in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:32 PM
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I don't believe that we should punish anyone for false accusations unless you have evidence that it was done maliciously.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:25 PM
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It isn't the best interest of the child to deny them to see their father.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:20 PM
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Limb lengthening is highly invasive and takes a long time to recover. Do you want to go months without walking?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:27 PM
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I don't mind paying for dates for mid women because it is fun. If I feel like I am being taken advantage of, then I end things. I was not expecting to date them long term anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:21 PM
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Lying is the easiest way out of the dilemma.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:52 PM
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There is a trope that crazy women are better in bed. It is not much different than women who like bad boys in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:17 PM
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My best sex comes from women who are crazy and toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:49 PM
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My ex wife was the best sex I ever had. Chasing the best sex ever is how you get into trouble. I rather settle for someone who checks all my boxes while being good enough in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 04:20 PM
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I am a single dad in my forties and don't see it hurting me. Some women like that I am a responsible father who can take care of the kids. I have 50% custody, so I do have time to go on dates too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:24 PM
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The call models mid these days
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:03 AM
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I don't think it matters that much. I match with some women with crappy profiles according to Reddit and had great dates. Even from bad texters.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:49 PM
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Pump and dump is like having post nut clarity to the point where you don't want to see her again. Going on multiple dates leading her on with no intention of committing is called a situationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:58 PM
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It is only fuck buddies if both parties agree in the casual relationship. If someone is hoping it progresses further, then it is a situationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:49 PM
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5 in one summer is rookie numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:21 PM
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Back in the day, there were no phones to create evidence in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 07:20 PM
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Seriously. I am not going to expect the woman I marry to be the best I ever had in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:21 PM
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You can always sue under civil law too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:58 PM
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The kid will have a closer relationship to the person who raised them in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:24 AM
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If you put 18 years of labor into a child, the child is yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:05 AM
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If she lied, you can get a divorce and be off the hook for child support. Get a DNA test at birth of you are concerned about it. You don't need to throw anyone in jail over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:20 AM
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That will create orphans. The dad will disown the kid and the mother will be in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:01 AM
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Being defeatist is lazy. Optimistic folks at least are motivated to try. Even if their strategy has flaws, they can eventually get lucky and find someone receptive to them
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:21 PM
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I know that some women can have bad experiences with men and need to vent. I don't take it literally though. Of course she doesn't actually hate all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:18 PM
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I don't believe women are being literal when they say they hate men. I view it as a fun challenge get with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:05 PM
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How do you know that you want three kids when you don't even have one? You could have two kids and decide that is enough. It could be that you have there, but decide you want one more. What if you find being a stay at home dad boring? What if you need two incomes to give your kids a better life?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:07 AM
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The claim that women can easily get over it and move forward shows the most inexperience. Even if she somehow doesn't divorce you, she will hold it against you for the rest of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:46 PM
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Do you have experience asking your wife for a paternity test?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:13 PM
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I prefer having a hotter partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:49 AM
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I had to look up what a hip dip even was. I don't see a scenario where a woman having one would be a turnoff to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:19 PM
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If you are struggling, take every advantage you can get. But 90% of the time, you need to take better pictures. Act normal on your prompts
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:20 AM
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Reddit is biased against kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:17 PM
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What is there to lose? Just ask her out for another day and see her response. Some women don't like talking to guys online and would prefer just to meet up in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:11 AM
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People can just lie about their n counts. There usually isn't a way to verify it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:03 AM
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Ask her if she has any plans this weekend. Then ask her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:56 AM
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They usually make those statements to put down women. You are only valued if you make a good house wife and are obedient. Everything else doesn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:52 AM
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Do men actually say they have no standards outside of making jokes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:49 AM
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Being strung along does not make you a victim. It is a common experience that people have that they get over and learn from. A victim would be if she scammed $30k from you while stinging you along.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:22 PM
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Most women see men as individuals. If you are a stranger to a woman, she doesn't know enough about you to judge you as an individual. It is normal to be wary in that situation until she gets to know you better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:49 PM
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That is why you stop worrying about it and enjoy things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:36 AM
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You ask what is the craziest thing you have done sexually?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:10 AM
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There is no contradiction. If you are cheap, then women are not going to trust your abilities as a provider. If she gets pregnant in the future, she might want to be a SAHM and you are expected to step up. She could think you will be too controlling when it comes to finances too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:12 AM
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It doesn't matter if it is hypocritical or not. Women like men who can step up into the provider role. Men don't have the same expectations for women. Half the time women insists on paying half anyways. I usually decline and tell them they can get the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 11:45 PM
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If your CEO takes you out to dinner, you would expect them to pay. If you are a successful man, just pay for the first date. Making a big deal about it makes you look cheep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:38 PM
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It is an insecurity because she doesn't have a penis and he likes penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:09 AM
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I rather be single having casual sex than single without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 03:53 AM
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Such women usually get tired of those experiences and decide to settle down with one person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:58 PM
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If a man is bisexual, that means they still like men. If a woman had a phase in college can grow out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:55 PM
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Don't take everything women say literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:39 PM
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My date tonight thought California bordered Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:16 AM
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I think they look good except for the septum ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:08 PM
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Some women have a harder time orgasming than others. Some men don't do any foreplay. Some men finish in two minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:06 PM
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Men don't buy lingerie as gifts anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:38 PM
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You are overthinking this. I initially suggest an idea for a date. If she doesn't like it, then I will ask her what does she like and go from there. If a she wants to talk more before meeting in person after asking her out, I will end things there and find someone who does want to meet up. Don't worry so much about pleasing a woman trying to figure out what she wants. Take initiative and come up with a plan you like and see how she reacts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:35 AM
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That is my point. Assuming there is no sexual attraction if you are not a Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:01 AM
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It pushes fear and insecurity. It's like your wife doesn't love you because you are not a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:46 PM
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The red and black pills are way to cynical when it comes too dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:16 PM
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It doesn't really matter much if you are just going for something casual
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:10 PM
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She didn't have sex with me within one hour of meeting. No point in trying anymore /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:07 PM
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Those who say nerdy interests are unattractive get downvoted too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:01 PM
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Or they can be normal and not define their whole relationship on whether they been settled for or not in the beginning stages. Attraction can grow, people fall in love, relationships evolve over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:34 AM
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When is the last time you reached out?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:21 AM
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Beta bux is not real the way the red pill describes it. Women go for the most attractive man who is loyal and has his shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:42 AM
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The one who is settled for is the lucky one. The settler is the real loser
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:35 AM
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For a one night stand. Foreplay is more effective long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:36 AM
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Looks are not the major factor in marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:23 AM
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It is a skill issue. Men need to learn how to get women in the mood
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:02 AM
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Of course you can do something free to avoid the issue. If it is going well and you end up walking to the ice cream shop, be the one who pays. It is just $6 and she will appreciate the gesture. If she wants to pay, tell her to get the next one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:32 PM
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If it is logistical, then go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:26 PM
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If you wanted it to happen, you would have acted at that time. There is a reason she was on the fence the whole time. Things will likely fizzle out just like the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:21 PM
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Is that strategy working well for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:17 PM
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Paying for the first bill says a lot about your character.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:16 PM
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Women can get the ick from men not paying then she loses attraction to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:00 PM
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She looks pretty good to me especially for someone her age
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 10:41 PM
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It is not worth the argument for the first date. If she wants you to pay for everything indefinitely, then that is something you can push back on later.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 09:36 PM
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Men should just pay on the first date. It gives you the best chance for a hookup or second date. This is not the hill to die on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 09:13 PM
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Isn't it just 1% of the female population who participate in OF or porn? The men who complain about it are terminally online.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:47 PM
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You can't always tell when someone is blacked out. There have been times where my partner would initiate sex drunk and then not remember anything in the next morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 05:30 AM
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If every swiped led to a match for men, they would be much pickier on dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:42 PM
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I clean up well when I am ready to settle down
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:30 AM
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Anora does not end with a rape scene. Just because there is no verbal consent doesn't make it rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:46 PM
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Partly ironic. I am recently divorced and am currently in a hoe phase. I do have the qualities of a good husband and am looking to remarry in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:12 PM
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The risk is incredible small. I am not worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:28 AM
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You literally don't have to do anything. Just ignore it and go on with your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:54 AM
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Getting angry at a woman when she says she feels unsafe makes her feel more unsafe. Saying that men are dangerous because of lack of sexual options makes it worse. Chill out and give space for women to vent. If you are not a creepy guy, then she isn't talking about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:42 PM
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As a man, learning how to make women feel safe is a good skill to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:12 PM
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Really? 3 dates is the normal pace of dating. First date is coffee. Second date is going out for dinner. Third date is cooking them dinner at your place.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:52 PM
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It is insecurity. If you are confident in pleasing your partner in bed, their history shouldn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:45 PM
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Men usually date ugly women casually. The reason that a ugly woman would date around is because no one will commit to her for something serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:59 PM
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I still swipe on what I like and don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:25 PM
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I do it because of boredom. I am waiting for people to reply back, so I start swiping. It can be addictive
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:01 PM
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It would be off putting and make it feel like a job interview. It is like asking what is your biggest weakness? It feels like a trap question and would be very careful giving the answer you want to hear instead of my actual opinion. My biggest weakness is that I work too hard. If you want to ask something light and fun, ask them who was their celebrity crush when they were on teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:33 PM
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I am on the apps and am able to get 1 or 2 first dates a week. Not looking for anything too serious at the moment, but I am open to the idea if I find the right person. I am here because it is entertaining. A lot of the dating advice on reddit is bad so you need to take everything with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:41 PM
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It is silly to miss out on opportunities for love and sex because over the $40 you save by splitting the bill. It is not that bad and I often find women who insist on paying the next bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:25 PM
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To get more lost in virtual worlds
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:29 AM
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Thigh gaps are hot
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:41 AM
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Can't you judge that on the current state of the relationship? If the woman falls madly in love with me, then I get that answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:12 PM
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If someone is dating a Chad, the sex could be great, but they could be compromising on stability and intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:52 PM
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I don't understand why there is so much fear of being settled for. I have my own strengths and weaknesses and expect a woman to make some compromises to be with me. I am not delusional and know my place. On the flip side, it could be that I wanted to be with a woman who is 5'6", but settled for someone 5'1" because everything else about her is great. No one is perfect and everyone settles at least a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 10:43 PM
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I have been over to women's places and they were a mess. They clearly weren't expecting to hook up that night. By the second date, they cleaned up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:09 PM
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Don't make it formal. Create a prototype then have some one stop by your computer for a few minutes and ask is this what you want? If there is a flaw in the specs or there is something that doesn't make sense, bring it up and work with them to come up with alternatives. That will increase your visibility at your company too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:05 AM
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Never trust the spec. It is always wrong. Build a rough prototype, show it off early to stakeholders, then they will tell you want they really need.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:48 AM
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They make a big deal about the gf/bf label. I remember asking someone straight up to be my girlfriend. Two weeks later, we broke up. It isn't a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:04 AM
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Beauty standards pushed by magazine and the media were pretty bad back then too. Women had to be super skinny. But mid boys would date mid girls. I think the difference is that people hung out more in person. Today kids stay home playing video games and going on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 08:39 PM
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20 years ago, it was expected that teens in highschool would have a boyfriend or girlfriend. 90% of teens were dating. Now half of them have never been on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 08:24 PM
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Men who care about body count will be at a disadvantage in dating especially as they get older. They limit their options by half and come off as insecure to the other half.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:41 PM
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For me, a mediocre relationship is better than being alone too. I rather be in a series of situationships than nothing at all. Going on dates and having sex is fun. A little bit of conflict spices things up. What to avoid is abusive relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:39 PM
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If women become to negative about dating, then it can also be a self fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:43 AM
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This is fantasy. Everyone settles a little bit. We all have flaws. You have to find someone who is good enough to be compatible with you and build something from there. The bond you create together is what will carry your relationship long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:08 AM
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It is a nightmare when a woman falls in love with you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:39 AM
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If she is with you, she finds you attractive. Maybe you just weren't her type originally, but after getting to know you, she changed her mind. You don't have to interpret things the worse way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:36 AM
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The red/black pills invent theories that make men paranoid and insecure. They act like if a woman won't have sex with you within one hour of meeting, the relationship is doomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:28 AM
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Why is that such a big deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:17 AM
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People will just unmatch after pics are revealed. It would be even more insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 10:11 PM
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I never feared being sexually assaulted or raped by a woman in my life. Most men feel the same way that is why they don't really care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:53 PM
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I interpret that as she is more willing to have sex on the first date. I am no Chad, but was able to hook up with some of these women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:24 PM
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I see a hookup
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:50 PM
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I followed that advice 20 years ago and became too nonchalant. PUA would say if you do not care, women will come to you. That might be true of you are a Chad, but not your average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:49 PM
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Such advice can backfire on men. You can't be totally passive and expect things to fall in your lap. Men still need to take initiative and communicate interest in a woman. Just don't over do it and move on from rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:11 PM
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It is fine to show that you are scared, but you need to face your fears instead of running away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:40 PM
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That is because he is on disability. If he was able to work, he would likely not get any alimony. But he can make the case that he can't work using disability insurance as proof, so he needs financial assistance. The lesson here is don't marry a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 07:23 PM
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Sitting in the husband chair while she tries on clothes in the dressing room.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 05:59 PM
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I really don't care what a crazy woman says about men online. She doesn't have any power. My boss is a man, his boss is a man and the CEO is a man as well. Men still dominate the positions in power in the US and have a bigger say over people's lives. A boss who overlooks promoting someone because they are a woman is far worse than a woman venting online saying "I hate men" after a bad date.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:32 PM
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On social media, incels will call such a woman ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:31 AM
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I am a millennial, but cooking is a common hobby. Find someone with that interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:30 PM
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There are plenty of American women who cook and pay for things. It is not that rare. People who are passport bros do it because they can get more attractive women overseas than they do in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:22 PM
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The reason they are looking for a LTR is because they barely get any likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:15 PM
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Every man thinks they are a "good man". I think of myself as a good man, but when I improved my profile, I started getting too many options. The structure makes it easy to play the field. I am going on many dates casually while waiting for the one woman who checks all my boxes. Most of the women probably think I am a bad man while only one will think I am good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:13 PM
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She will need actual evidence to support a legal case. Trying to damage your reputation is risky and can backfire on her. You can damage her reputation as well. Stop fearing women so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:52 PM
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I am stronger than 98% of women. I really don't have fear of being overpowered by a woman. Now imagine being significantly weaker than everyone you date.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:01 AM
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I am 41 in a major city. It is real easy to find women 35+ who want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:28 AM
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I left her
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:23 AM
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Life can get stale and boring in your 30s. Are you just going to work, play video games, travel and party for the rest of your life? Kids can give you new purpose and meaning in life. You are now responsible for raising another human. It encouraged me to focus on my career more since I have a reason to do it. It also makes life more exciting again. Christmas feels like the Christmas of when you were a child. I also went through divorce and have 50% custody of my kids. That is actually the best o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:42 AM
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You are supposed to show your date that you are fun to be with. Creative dates are fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:07 AM
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He obviously didn't think she was perfect for him if he initiated the break up. He could have thought he could have done better but struggled.ore after the breakup. He could have realized that looks aren't everything and found someone who is compatible personality wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:47 AM
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Alcohol is involved in most of mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:06 PM
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It doesn't literally change the way they look but you perceive them as hotter. The chubby woman with below average face starts looking kind of cute when you have your 6th drink of the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 09:19 PM
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It is crazy how alcohol makes unattractive women look good. I believe a lot of what we consider to be attractive is a social construct. Alcohol takes that away so you view women at a primal level.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:50 PM
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The best sex I ever had was with crazy women. I don't see how that is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:57 PM
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I hooked up with a woman last night who said her n count was about 200. But it was also the first time she had sex in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:07 PM
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You could probably could get pool house sex if you bring it up organically. You are so turned on by her that you want to have sex everywhere. But doing it just because she did it with an ex comes off as insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 11:04 PM
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Alcohol gives you confidence and beer goggles
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:48 AM
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Gen Z would be having more sex if they drank more alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:20 PM
3

I don't like tattoos on women, but I would still marry one with a tattoo if she checks the other boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:30 AM
4

That is even more pressure on me. I am not waiting that long for sex either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:55 AM
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I am not touching that. If you waited that long, you must really value it and I don't want to take it away then break your heart afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:45 AM
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If I was the woman, I would call his bluff. If it was a dead bedroom situation, then others will understand why you left. If you said it was over a tattoo, then you will just look foolish.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:11 AM
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It's not healthy to threaten to leave a relationship over every disagreement. Are you really going to leave a 15 year relationship with two children over a tattoo? If that is the attitude you have going into a relationship, then I don't want to be in a relationship with you. Couples that last the longest talk to each other and work on compromises. They don't make ultimatums.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:17 AM
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If you go on dates regularly enough, it can become like practice. It also takes the pressure off any one date, so you can be relaxed and not afraid of making mistakes. You can use metrics like if a first date leads to a second date. Google what issues you may think you are having and sees if the advice is applicable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:46 PM
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Gaining experience going on real dates can improve your dating skills. You can analyze what things worked and did not work, then adjust and try new strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 08:23 PM
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I believe I have the qualities of being a good husband. I believe the guys in the red/black pill space are crazy thinking it is an insult. On Reddit, they act like it is a relationship ending offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:44 PM
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I assume good with kids is a given. Even if you don't have experience, you will get it quickly with your first child.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 11:35 PM
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He can't watch the kid for 6 hours without falling asleep. I doubt a two year old is able to open a window especially if is locked. I bet he never closed them when the kid was there
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 05:02 PM
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Location is important. I live in a major city and am the right demographics for the area.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 09:19 PM
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I believe that the average man has a shitty profile. I am doing pretty well and I am just an average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:03 AM
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As a man, I don't have a fear of SA from a women. If a woman gropes me, it would be awkward, but I am confident that I can push her off me unless she was Ronda Rousey. I see such a skit as someone dealing with an awkward situation than SA. If the genders were reversed, I would see it as SA.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:43 AM
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I am in my 40s and don't really see the lack of gym hurting my chances that much. I can still look good in clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:14 PM
2

Mid is not the same thing as unattractive. Mid is like an average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:45 AM
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Sorry but I enjoy having sex with mid women. Don't really care what some incels in the Internet think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:15 PM
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You should communicate these issues. She might not even be aware she is disrespecting you. You could be disrespecting her in other ways. After doing that, then you can work on setting the appropriate boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:30 PM
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I'm divorced after 12 years of marriage. I learned a lot, had my share of good times and got two beautiful daughters from it. What someone else labels the marriage doesn't really matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:11 PM
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Fear of being the safe option makes you look insecure. Can't you tell if your partner desires and wants to have sex with you? You don't need to analyze what they did with their past partners to figure that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 08:25 PM
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Even those using a woman just for her body want her to be enthusiastic in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:26 PM
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As someone who is divorced with two kids with 50 50 custody, child support played no role in the decision. It is about what is best for the kids. I would not pursue full custody unless the mother became unfit to parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:23 AM
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Falling in love with crazy is how you ruin your life. I can compartmentalize and set boundaries otherwise. Just need to be thinking with the big brain
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:47 PM
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I am not going to fall in love
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:35 PM
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I manage to get out of the friendzone. She ended the first date saying there is no romantic connection, but we should be friends. I took her up on that. Instead of trying to win her over, I opened up to her about other women I am dating. Now she wants to be FWBs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:26 PM
2

Don't women find firefighters hot?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 07:09 PM
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If a woman doesn't like you, then she wouldn't have agreed on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 06:10 PM
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If you can't even have a successful date now, you are never going to be a top man who gets top treatment. It is better to go on dates now. If they are all bad, then learn from it and develop better dating skills. Doing that is much better than hiding away at the gym reading self help books.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:58 PM
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I think dating can be fun. Meeting someone for an hour over drinks is not that painful. The more dates you line up, the less pressure you put on any one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:42 PM
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Strategies that work for the top 1% of men are not going to work for the average guy. Instead of waiting and hoping for a woman to approach you, take initiative and do it yourself. That will lead to more dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 04:27 PM
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I don't buy that girls are punished harshly these days. I am a girl dad and I am pretty lax when it comes to discipline. And I do think some boys need to be disciplined more. There are disruptive kids and the parents try gentle parenting techniques that the kids ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 08:09 PM
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They are mostly divorced women with kids. They complain about lack of sex in their marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 10:24 PM
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Women in their 40s have a higher sex drive than men in their 40s. That is my experience with the women I meet on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 08:14 PM
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I don't know. Being with a woman makes life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 05:59 PM
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Being real is good advice for the average guy. If you constantly saying inappropriate things, then you need to work on that first.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:49 PM
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Is the OP speaking from personal experience, or is this just theory crafting?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:25 AM
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Being single really isn't social death. You are not going to be shunned from a group for not having a girlfriend. The value a partner can add to your life is intrinsic. I would still date someone even if no one in the world knows about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:45 PM
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That is going to be an awkward converstion and she will likely say you match her standards even if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:22 AM
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How would you even know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:07 AM
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This doesn't apply to allergies or a vegetarian eating meat. If you are a vegetarian and hate most vegetables, then I am judging.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 10:28 PM
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I don't mean white kid picky eaters. In adults, it is more about people who don't like to try new foods. If they are ordering a sandwich, they have to make modifications like no pickle and tomato.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:55 PM
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Last woman who confirmed my theory was black
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:45 PM
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I assume if someone is a picky eater, they will be more prudish in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 09:21 PM
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Sometimes I will just have one shot to calm my nerves before a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:12 PM
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You shouldn't be harassing men either. Why did you have to search that man up and tell him that he is terrible?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 08:03 PM
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Women don't want to share a man. Even in the cases where they do, they don't want to acknowledge the other women involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:55 PM
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You shouldn't be harassing women even if they are shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:46 PM
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Seriously, if she is enthusiastic about sex and meets your needs, that is all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 07:44 PM
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Is he educated? Dating someone like that is fine when you are on vacation, but back in your home country, she will have no skills. It will be like dating a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 02:54 AM
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I get the ick if a woman is too clingy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:21 AM
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I find it more rude and presumptuous if someone says they don't have interest in dating me after a few messages. If you aren't interested, just unmatch me. That gets the message across.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:23 AM
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Apps already have a feature where you can list your dating intentions. You can use it to a filter so you can only see those in the group. The issue is that more men want casual sex than women, so they will lie about their intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 01:12 AM
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That method helps filter out people who aren't that into you, but I don't see how it stops people looking for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:07 PM
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You don't need absolute proof to feel like you have been used.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:18 PM
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After being with my crazy hot ex wife, I would happily settle for a mid who is sane and aligns with my values.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:44 AM
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That's why they rarely touch a man's body during sex Speak for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 06:34 PM
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Paid $50 for an Uber for a woman to come to my place
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:09 PM
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Women gossip embarrassing stuff about guys all the time. If you can laugh it off and act normal afterwards, it probably won't stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:16 PM
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Just don't ask someone else out quickly after being rejected. If you take your time building a connection with someone else in the circle, then it will look genuine instead of desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 02:44 PM
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Men can be delusional. They think they can still have kids in the future, but in practice, it is going to be harder to find a suitable partner the older they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:07 PM
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A woman falling in love with me makes me feel desired than a one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 07:27 PM
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Men don't have a biological deadline to have kids like women. They are not panicking. Even if it is true that men want kids more, they are in no rush.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 06:02 PM
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A 20 year old can't even go to a bar in the US. I am too old to deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 11:15 AM
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When telling a joke, tap her arm. Hold hands while walking. Put your arm around her when sitting on a bench. Guide her back while walking through a door.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:26 PM
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In practice, saying "I need you" comes off stronger than saying "I want you". "Needing you" doesn't mean that the woman literally needs you to survive. It means that she yearns for you so much that it feels like a basic need.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 03:02 PM
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One strategy I do is breaking the touch barrier. It signals your intentions and helps you get a better read of the situation. From there, I let things flow naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:52 PM
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No, it is fine being single temporarily, but in the long run, being in a relationship is much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 04:04 AM
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Just have the child now. His income will go up with the added responsibilities. I was making $100k when I had my first child. 5 years later, it was $200k.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 11:18 PM
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But look at what he is packing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:37 PM
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I find that women like it when I do nice things for them. The key is to match their energy. Let things build up naturally and don't overdo it especially in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:35 PM
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They were friendzoned
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:23 PM
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Looks matter more in online dating. People are making quick decisions based off of static images. In real life, your personality and confidence is part of your first impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:11 PM
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The women who primarily want resources from me are at least 15 years younger than me. They want to be spoiled and have the princess treatment. If I date someone with an established career and closer to my age, there is no issue there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:36 AM
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Why do you want to shame single moms? This sounds very immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:47 AM
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I've dated lots of single mothers and never heard rants against men as a collective. Most of these women say that they married the wrong man which is why they are single. Many will say their ex is a good father to their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:45 AM
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How can you kiss and cuddle then not have sex? Does dry humping cross the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:57 PM
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Men who don't think it is a big deal won't ask about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 09:19 PM
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Younger women are also more annoying. It might not matter for a hook up, but when looking for a life partner, I prefer an attractive woman closer to my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 04:25 AM
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If you can't tell, why does it matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:54 AM
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This is like saying it is gay to like women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 05:19 PM
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It is what I value in being a man
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 05:14 PM
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I notice these days that the red/black pills will see a normal happily married man and call him a simp and a cuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:37 PM
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Being a provider is more of a mentality than a financial arrangement. I expect a woman to be able to provide for herself in 2026, but I still like taking care of her at times and can step up into the role if she has a baby and wants to stay at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:31 PM
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You can work with a therapist to help you gain the confidence to ask a woman out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 05:06 PM
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Most men don't care about those issues. They mostly just bring it to win Internet arguments. If they really cared about men's health and suicide rates, they focus on encouraging men to seek therapy and lessen the stigma around it. The main issue men complain about lack of sex and romantic relationships. There is not much of a solution there except encourage self improvement. You can't force women to date someone they don't find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:25 AM
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What specific men's rights should we be advocating for? Divorce and custody laws are now gender neutral. That battle has been won. The only legitimate issue I see left is the draft.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:45 AM
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They could solve this problem by deprioritizing men who swipe right on everything. The more selective a man is at swiping, the higher they will be on a woman's stack.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:54 AM
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If you want to look more productive, you need to lead projects and coordinate meetings. She will be able to see and hear you taking charge and being a leader
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:15 PM
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It wouldn't make a difference for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 08:39 PM
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She doesn't need to sleep with you on the first date, but there should be at least sexual tension after a few. The desire is there, but she is holding it back.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:14 PM
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I thought most women aren't dating bisexual men because they are afraid he will leave her for another man. It is the same as lesbians being reluctant to date a bisexual woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 02:39 AM
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This is not a competition between men and women. The choice between men dating or being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:55 PM
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Regular sex and companionship is a pretty big pro. You could even find your partner for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:34 PM
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Are you in any level still hung up on an ex or previous sexual relationship in anyway? If you had multiple partners or jumped from partner to partner for awhile, what have you done to prepare yourself to live a monogamously(if that is what you want).. Has any intimate relationship/situation heavily affected in you anyway which may hinder the development of our intimacy? Whether it be things you no longer do or things you want to continue doing... I agree what you are saying in principle, but the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:26 PM
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Bad sex is still kind of good for men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 08:19 PM
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I wouldn't take advice from my mother, but I do find the perspective of a woman who is actively dating to be helpful. I've learned that a lot of women get frustrated if a man is too patient and takes things slow. If one woman is making you take things slow, you could be dating multiple people at the same time until you are exclusive. That is what women would do in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:16 PM
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Men still need to take the initiative and lead when it comes to sex. A woman might not be interested in having sex with me initially, but after making out for a bit, then she is begging for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:51 AM
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Are you hookup material if you have sex on the third date?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:04 AM
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Misogyny and the male loneliness epidemic are both issues. You could work on helping male loneliness without pushing misogynistic content. They aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 04:42 AM
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The red pill is causing boys to become misogynistic. That is why it is so criticized. Taking advantage of lonely boys to earn money is a secondary concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:18 AM
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The more sincere you are about calling a guy gay, the more they will feel insulted by it. They view is as you seriously questioning their masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 12:12 AM
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OF models are overrepresented on social media since they are always promoting themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 10:18 PM
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They don't like oral sex but still like regular sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:45 PM
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He meant using hands while giving oral
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:35 PM
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The initial question is missing the point. You can't just reduce love to a few tactics and strategies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 12:27 AM
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It usually naturally happens if you like each other and spend enough time together romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 05:29 PM
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You and the woman fall in love with each other. That is how you determine it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:51 PM
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Childcare is really expensive like $2000 a month per kid. If you have 2 or 3 kids, it could make financial sense to be a SAHM. Having a 9 to 5 job gives you a nice break from raising kids and allows you to interact with adults. Being a SAHM is not inherently easier. It is a sacrifice women make because they think it is better for the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:55 PM
10

Those views are often held by the same person. They are upset that girls who are below their standards still won't date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:00 PM
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This is like gay conversion therapy for straight boys. You are not going to change their desires. They will see the popular boys at school pulling girls. Their parents might say that it doesn't matter, but the rest of society says it does. It is better to teach boys social skills and how to interact with girls. Provide them dating advice if they want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 05:03 PM
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Even women who want to have sex with someone when they are in a relationship usually have had at least one causal experience in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:59 PM
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Why do you care if other men date women that you don't want?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:18 PM
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Or the woman would waste 10 years of her life with the man waiting for marriage that will never come.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 01:40 PM
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Are you not capable of being a good companion? You can't add any other value to a woman's life? Believing that women only care about extracting resources from you is just sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:09 PM
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They want a woman who is also successful. They aren't interested in a young gold digger whose main qualities are youth and beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:19 PM
2

High status men want a power couple relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:02 PM
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I am already a single father 50% of the time so I can make the adjustment. It would just be more of a struggle to find time for myself, but I would figure something out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:12 PM
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I like it when my woman looks hot in public. To use your car analogy, if you have a nice car, wouldn't you want to keep it looking nice and show it off?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:11 PM
9

That is a unicorn. The toxicity itself was part of what made the sex so great.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 11:33 PM
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The best sex I ever had was with a toxic crazy woman. It's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:17 PM
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The issue is that men will lower their standards significantly for casual sex but not for marriage. Women can get casual sex easily but have a hard time securing a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 07:29 PM
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Men lie about offering commitment in order to obtain sex. It is going to be risky for a woman to leave for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:08 PM
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Women can get casual sex easier, but it is harder for them to secure a committed relationship. If my woman has sex with another man, then I will break up with her. She loses the committed relationship built up over many years for a fling. This is leverage for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 05:16 AM
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He looks almost human
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:26 AM
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I heard it as a good dad is an average mom. If the dad knows the kid's doctors, teachers, gets them ready to school and puts them to bed, he is praised as a good father. For a mother, it is the bare minimum expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:32 AM
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It is debatable if your no manual labor until official boundary is reasonable. I can see how this would turn off a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 01:59 AM
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If a woman says she normally doesn't have sex on the first date, I see it as a challenge to turn her on enough for her to change her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:55 PM
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I assume if a woman is much older than me, she wants something casual. If an older woman wants a guy significantly younger for a relationship, then something is off about her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:18 PM
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The manosphere calls beautiful women mid these days. I really don't trust them when they say the guy is 2 leagues better than the woman. I need pictures for proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:33 PM
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I assume that women say that to be edgy and cool. Maybe they tried it one time, then went back to vanilla sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:22 PM
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Fear is the reason women are safer. If more women walked outside at night alone, then more women would be victims of crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 10:02 PM
1

Drinks are more likely to lead to sex. It is not really a calculated move to specifically to get her drunk to take advantage of her. Alcohol just loosens people up so it naturally happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 08:21 PM
4

With a gun, they can do equivalent damage
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 10:05 PM
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That is cynical advice. You should find someone that you want to grow old with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:40 PM
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If you are in a dead bedroom situation, get a divorce then pursue other women. You don't have to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:31 PM
4

I cared when I was in highschool. As I got older, it became less of a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:25 PM
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Mine childhood crushes were Britney Spears and Jennifer Love Hewitt
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:28 PM
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Don't ask, don't tell is the best way to handle this. I am in my 40s and expect every women to have a history. I don't need to know the details.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:09 PM
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This was before meeting her. I don't even know if she looks like her pictures. If I met her first and had a great first date, then I would be more motivated to respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:57 PM
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I got annoyed by the questions and didn't answer them. I thought a lot of the questions were irrelevant to a long term relationship which felt like busy work so I was turned off. I would much rather meet up first and can answer questions in a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 10:04 PM
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Woman from Bumble gave me a 15 question test that I had to answer before she would agree to a date. The questions were like "What is something you wished your friends knew about you?" and "What is your biggest weakness?"
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:41 PM
5

As long as you are satisfied in bed, why does it matter about what she has done in the past? If you want freaky sex and she is not giving it to you, then you guys aren't sexually compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 07:41 PM
1

The manosphere has given up on dating women in general. They don't need to single out single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 05:53 PM
1

A woman might go into a date with no intention of hooking up, but after a few drinks, some flirting and a makeout session, she changes her mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:11 PM
5

I don't trust women when they say they won't hook up with someone. All it takes is getting women in the right mood
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 01:59 PM
7

Men marry women with high body counts all the time. It really doesn't matter that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:49 PM
4

I rather have a girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 08:43 PM
1

It depends on the bar and drinks. Signature cocktails are usually expensive but a beer is like $8. You can meet up during happy hour if you want to save more. If the date is bad, you only have to pay for one round.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:40 PM
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I am just one person and can't change societies expectations alone. If women find it attractive if a man pays, then I am going to do that. I usually go out for drinks for the first date so it isn't that much money anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 03:15 PM
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Not every preference is based on fear and insecurity. I prefer intelligent women because I want someone who I can connect with on an intellectual level. I prefer women with curly hair because I think it is hot. And often guys won't commit mainly because they don't like the woman enough. It isn't necessary about fear of love and being vulnerable. Some men date a woman for 10 years never proposing, then break up and marry someone else in a year. He wasn't afraid of love and commitment, it just nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:35 AM
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It's not about the money. Coffee dates are boring. Invite the woman for drinks instead. It is not that much more expensive and women think it is a proper date.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 11:00 PM
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I can easily have casual sex if I lower my standards enough
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:58 PM
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I don't want to date the type of woman who steals a man from their friend. That is red flag behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 04:32 AM
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Emotional love will make a relationship last long term. I could be extremely physically attractive, but lose my muscles and hair in 10 years. What will keep her around then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:04 PM
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It really is impossible for a woman to filter out all the guys who want to use them for sex. You can make the guy wait for sex and some will drop out, but other men are more persistent. If you make a guy interested in a relationship wait too long, he will likely lose interest. It is always going to be a gamble about the guys intentions until you have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 09:55 PM
2

Sex
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:06 AM
0

I really don't care about receiving romantic gestures myself as a man. Women care much more which is why there is an imbalance. And you don't have to spend that much money to make a woman happy. A cheap thoughtful gesture that shows your really paid attention to her is better than a generic expensive gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:06 AM
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Companionship is the reason to be in a relationship rather than being FWBs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 12:12 AM
3

I avoid women who don't make much money or expect to be spoiled. Sex is a part of it but it is more about the chemistry and vibes than a specific amount. I know some women are shy about initiating so not really expecting that, but she should be excited about having sex especially in the beginning of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 11:41 PM
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I am not insulted
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:46 PM
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I am in my 40s and MILFs look like the women that I would hookup with and date in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 06:43 PM
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I mean you can stop saying things that make you look insecure in front of women. That kills attraction more than anything. Be confident that you can pleasure the woman instead of obsessing if they slept with a Chad back in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:59 AM
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Most of the time, men claiming they want to date young are real incels stuck in online gender war rhetoric.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:51 AM
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Women aren't calling men cucks because they dated a woman with a history
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:18 AM
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These are mostly red pill and incel ideas. I only see this policing from men on the Internet. The average man in the real world isn't doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:59 AM
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Men don't care that much if the woman is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 08:52 PM
8

Getting tipsy at a bar with a woman then having sex is pretty damn fun. Even if there is no sex, it can be fun hanging out and meeting new people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:35 AM
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It is not surprising that a 35+ year old childless woman is a little jaded after meeting another man who doesn't want to commit. If you just want something casual over 35, go for single mothers with nice careers. Someone who doesn't need a man, but still wants to get some action.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:01 AM
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I expect everyone to compromise a little bit in a relationship. I know I am not the best looking person, but I have other qualities I bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:28 PM
2

Lower your standards, go on some dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:55 PM
1

I don't believe women will wait as long as they claim for sex. If you get them in the mood, they often will make exceptions for their rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:18 PM
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You can want sex and a relationship. It isn't an either or thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 12:19 AM
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Woman who wants to have sex with me now. vs Woman who would make me wait 3 months. It isn't a hard choice
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 05:19 AM
2

I really don't mind going on dates. Worst case, it is an awkward 30 minutes. Best case, you get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:18 AM
0

You learn about how to do cheap dates. I never do dinner for a first date and usually go for drinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:09 AM
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You can say you like trying new bars, restaurants, museums etc. Those are things that women want to talk about during a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:54 AM
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Going on many dates knowing that I can easily get a date with another woman boosts my confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:40 AM
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A hair transplant isn't hard
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:29 AM
2

It is just a small increase that doesn't really affect decision making. Instead of 1% chance of problems, it is 1.2%.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:35 AM
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This is just fear mongering. Both men and women in their 30s have healthy babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 03:23 AM
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The pair bonding thing is the reason I don't want to date a virgin. I don't want a woman saying "I love you" acting clingy after the first time having sex. I don't like breaking hearts especially from a virgin. It is too much pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:49 AM
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You need to be passionate about saving puppies, not playing video games
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:26 AM
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It's hot when a woman has her mouth slightly open where you can see their teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:22 AM
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What is wrong with validating feelings? You can validate someone's feelings and still disagree with them. Validating means that you recognize things from their perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:12 AM
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If it takes you 10 years to decide to get married, that is a sign that it isn't meant to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:42 PM
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One new partner every 5 years is too prudish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:37 PM
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Most women won't criticize you for making errors as long as you are respectful and know when to back off. And in the worst case, who cares if a random woman calls you a creep? Nothing else will happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:23 PM
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You vet the woman when dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 01:06 AM
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It's not that hard to plan a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 12:32 AM
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What price is he paying? He is having sex multiple times a week and has a committed wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:38 PM
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I call women cute when I want to compliment their appearance without being too forward sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 11:06 PM
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You are not entitled to anything. If you are more open about new sexual experiences than your partner, that could be a sexual compatibility issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:39 PM
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It is normal to try things then later decide that you don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:52 PM
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I don't want to date a Karen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 10:32 PM
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I really don't see the big deal. Both the guy and the girl seem happy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:42 PM
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You can just state you are looking for a long term relationship. It doesn't imply that it will be with that person unless you already been on many dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:40 PM
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Gender roles become more pronounced when kids come into the picture. Although there are more men who stepped up these days, women are still seen as the primary parent. Men are praised for performing basic parenting duties, while it is an expectation for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 01:21 AM
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I would argue that believing looks don't matter can help you date even if it isn't true. Confidence is attractive too, and sometimes it requires you to be a little delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 09:03 AM
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I really don't want a woman telling me she had better after the first time we had sex. Ignorance is bliss.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:56 AM
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It depends on their personality. It is nice to trust someone enough that even if they are flirty with others, you know that they are still loyal to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 04:52 AM
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Get a king size bed. It is big enough where you won't notice the other person, but you can still cuddle if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:46 AM
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Sometimes sex doesn't happen for logistical reasons. It is hard to make a coffee first date lead to sex. I wouldn't stress about immediately having sex as long as she seems into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:44 AM
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Have some kids and life will have meaning again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 01:46 AM
2

A woman flirting and teasing with you doesn't increase your lust and desire?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:19 PM
2

It is up to the man to make the woman lust after him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:14 PM
2

I had a good time. A ONS can be fun
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 04:16 AM
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I didn't pay for anything. I was just horny and it clouded my judgement and who I was attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:57 AM
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In my experience, it is women who are more likely to get attached after sex. I have had sex with women, then completely lose interest afterwards. Post nut clarity is real. It is only if I really like her that I would want to continue seeing her.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:33 AM
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Do your guy friends regularly have casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:06 AM
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You don't hope that attraction develops, you actively develop it. If a woman goes on multiple dates with you, she is at least a little visibly attracted to you. You have opportunities to grow that further especially if you have game.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 08:08 PM
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Men should stop being so insecure and paranoid. It is not helping. Be confident in your own ability to generate a strong attraction. Sometimes that can be done during the first impression, other times you need to work on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 07:20 PM
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I have over 100 matches on hinge and never met a woman like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 04:57 PM
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In my experience, flirting, teasing and foreplay increases attraction in the carnal sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:28 PM
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Calling people simps is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:05 AM
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It depends on the state, but infidelity can screw you over more in a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 03:35 AM
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You really can't tell age of someone on the streets either. A man could look 30 but is really 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 11:06 PM
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People can judge the 40 year old woman for wanting money too. If she is an attractive 40 year old waitress and he is a doctor, that will be viewed suspiciously too. This has more to do with income disparity than age. Younger women are more likely to make significantly less money so that is why people make such assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:58 PM
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If she doesn't want to be pursued, she will ghost you or say she doesn't feel a connection. It is pretty obvious. The trap that guys fall into is getting friendszoned. Pursuing a woman who isn't romantically attracted to you but gives you attention as a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 11:02 PM
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How is that strategy working for you? I tried playing hard to get in the past and it did not work. The only women who expressed interest in me were the ones I did not have interest in. You have to make your interests known and some women like to be pursued.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 10:58 PM
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It is expected that men lead in the early phase of dating. It is fine for the man to put in more effort during this time Just don't overdo things and don't put all your hopes on one woman. Know when to cut your losses.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 06:50 PM
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I don't have sympathy towards a man who can cut off ties to a child he raised for 9 years just like that. Stepdad and stepmoms exists. Adoption is a thing. People raise children that are not genetically related to them all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:48 PM
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You are still young and don't need to obsess about this. As long as you are faithful and good person, you are marriage material. The issue could be with your bf too. He could be afraid of commitment and doesn't want to get married. If he is stringing you along for years, you should cut your losses and date someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:12 PM
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If a woman is 22, then there is a good chance there will change their mind. If they are over 35, then I believe them more. There are also women in their upper 30s who still haven't made up their mind. They will have know kids if they meet the right man, but they aren't going to force it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 11:42 PM
2

Crazy women are better in bed
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 07:37 PM
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A little craziness can be fun. A plain low maintenance woman is boring in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 06:08 PM
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That could be a goal, but it can go out the window if you are making out at someone's place. Some men will be respectful and wait up to 12 weeks and others will try to escalate things quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 02:10 PM
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Those looking for a relationship will usually have sex by date three. Even if they want to take things slowly, they will make an exception if they are in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 01:48 PM
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I prefer skinny women, but think it is rude going around advertising it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 04:33 AM
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Sex is fun for both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 11:50 PM
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How would you address poor performance? Most boys do fine in school, but there is a small handful who can't sit still and disrupt the whole class. Do they need to be disciplined more?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:03 PM
1

I am not going to seriously date a woman unless she makes six figures. I want the upper middle class lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 11:12 PM
1

My parents just talked about safe sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 08:08 PM
1

Men need to lead early on in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 02:12 AM
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Most men move in with their gf and share expenses before getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:15 PM
2

Women have a bigger support network beyond marriage. Men rely on their marriage as their support network.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:58 PM
2

As a man, I love women in leggings and tight pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 09:09 PM
3

Old paintings of naked women were overweight with small boobs. Beauty standards change over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 03:03 PM
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Being overweight used to be a sign of beauty and fertility.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:57 PM
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It is a green flag of a woman says her love language is touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 01:45 PM
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I am far from a Chad but do fine on dating apps. There are too many people with defeatist attitudes on reddit. In reality, there are lots of things you can do to improve your profile to get matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:04 AM
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You are arguing that sex doesn't count if the woman is mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:28 PM
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I hope someone out of my league settles for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:26 PM
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You don't need that many options to play the field as a man. If the average man improves their dating profile enough to get two matches a week, then they have options. You are not a chad, but you don't have a strong incentive to settle down with someone just for the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 06:14 PM
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Always reminding someone to do a task is annoying. I had to do that with my ex wife and the trash was one of the issues. I would bring it up with her, and she would be more on top of a task for a week, then it was my responsibility again. She would say she is too tired, but so am I but I still do it. It is so much nicer when you can trust someone to get something done without you intervening.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:01 AM
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Ask why are you upset. Be curious and act like you really care. Not every problem needs to be solved. Sometimes people just want to be appreciated for what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 03:13 AM
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Both men and women should validate each other's feelings. Even if you don't agree, showing that you understand the problem from their perspective makes them feel heard and they won't be as defensive. After doing that, then you can focus on resolutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:51 AM
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I don't care about any of those red flags if I am just looking for a hook up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:50 PM
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I would personally rather be with a woman who is out of my league.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:23 PM
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I am 40 and view 18 year olds as immature and annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:43 PM
1

Not for a first date. Movies are expensive especially if you get snacks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 08:06 PM
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Sex kept me in a bad marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:11 PM
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Over half my first dates don't lead to a second one. I usually make multiple dates in the same week with different women to see who is the most compatible. It is more efficient that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:00 AM
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It is not that hard to win if you are an active father and fight for custody. You could get screwed if you give up early and let the mother have the majority custody for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 10:10 PM
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"Talk to women like people" is an intermediate skill to learn. A lot of men can't even do that. After you are comfortable talking to women, then you can ramp up the flirty energy and be more successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 07:19 PM
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You pump the breaks when the woman doesn't seem interested anymore. If she is enthusiastic, then you keep on progressing. It isn't that difficult to read social cues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 03:49 PM
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Looks aren't everything. All that matters is if I turn her on and get her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 12:23 AM
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Getting the short end of the stick is why you end relationships. It is completely normal. If she said it was FWB, it would imply that she is more promiscuous. Situationship implies that you are looking for something more serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:32 PM
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I've used the term as a man. FWB means that both parties are aware of the arrangement. It is mostly about sex. Situationship is when you do relationship type activities but at least one party won't commit. They are distinct scenarios which is why the term exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:21 PM
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Average looking men and women still want relationships. It might not be a need, but life is better with a partner who cares about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 11:13 PM
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Women like sex
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:48 PM
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Divorce in those cases
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 09:36 PM
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You can claim that you want to wait, but don't necessarily follow through with it. She is supposed to be so hot and turn you on so much that you make an exception to your rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 04:28 PM
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You escalate slowly and the woman will let you know what their limit is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:54 PM
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Someone who is able to fit in with your social class. When at a social event with other rich people, they need to be able to answer the question "what do you do?"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 09:04 AM
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A woman was hitting on him at an after party. Normal adults can handle the situation without getting HR involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:08 PM
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You don't have to tell a woman that you paid for sex in the past. It is really a weird topic to bring up and the more you talk about it, the more weirded out someone would be about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:32 AM
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I never go to the gym and am doing just fine. I am not planning on walking around shirtless. Just be fairly normal and have your shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 08:49 PM
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I could match with 10 women in a week but only have the energy and time to focus on 3. I like having other options available so I don't get all my hopes up investing in one person. If someone doesn't work out, then it is easier to move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:29 PM
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It is based on vibes and timing. I often have multiple matches at once so I will put my energy in the few I like the most. There could be someone I was undecided on based on their profile, but they grew on me as we talked. Other women will turn me off after a few messages. This can be a good thing as I didn't waste my time on a bad date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:06 PM
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It is better just to accept the fact that not everyone is going to message you and that dry conversations are common. Ignore them and move on. As a guy, it is easy to control the pace of when to meet too. I can ask someone on a date in the first few messages or I can wait for weeks of chatting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 02:40 PM
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I find it easier dating at 40 than I did when I was younger. The difference when I was younger was that it was expected that guys dated in high school. I felt left out of my peer group until I had my first kiss at 16. Having friends who date also helps give you advice and set you up with women. People would put in more effort in finding a partner instead of of giving up like they do these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:27 AM
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Divorce can be a good thing. Being stuck to a partner that makes you miserable is a big downside of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:36 PM
1

On Tinder, I get 10x more matches when I pay for a subscription. Those who have decent profiles but no success are likely being suppressed by the algorithm. Unless you are top tier, you need to pay to get your profile visible. That is how they make their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:51 PM
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I assume if a woman is dating me, she finds me attractive. That is what most normal people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 05:41 PM
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I have my standards and boundaries. I don't care about how they affect the entire dating collective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:29 PM
2

I don't care about women's egos. I just want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 05:52 PM
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You can find your friends attractive and still just be friends. Have some self control. If you are truly good friends with someone, the friendship is valuable enough where you don't want to mess it up with sex. My best friend is a woman and that is the dynamic we have. It does help if you can get your sexual needs met somewhere else. It is easier to replace someone I am having sex with. It is harder to replace a good friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 10:31 PM
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Ignore all the talk about beta bux. It causes more insecurity. If he is a stable successful guy, he probably just needs a few tweaks to become more successful with women who are looking for a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:12 PM
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Drinks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:15 AM
1

You probably aren't even going to get a kiss after a coffee date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:40 PM
2

It has nothing to do with money. Coffee dates are just boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:13 PM
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Opening with coffee signals that you are boring
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 05:10 PM
2

A fun fling can be worth it if it is what you are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:04 PM
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Find a woman to have your babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:51 PM
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It would be a red flag to ask about body counts at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:29 AM
1

An older man going for an 18 year old is settling on personality and maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:41 PM
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I got divorced and want to marry again. Having a companion for life is pretty nice. Divorce isn't a life destroying thing. It sucks for a bit, but you get over it and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 03:26 AM
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Playboy is much more tame than modern Internet porn. Most boys were using the Victoria's Secret catalog. In the 90s, if you wanted to play a multiplayer videogame, you had to go to a friend's house. You socialized more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:56 PM
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He rejected her because she was taking too long to get physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:49 PM
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Just get a lawyer and initiate the divorce. If you make the first move, you will be the one more prepared.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:19 PM
21

Women seem to prefer drinks for a first date in my experience. If the date is bad, they will usually just have one drink too. It isn't a big commitment for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:35 PM
5

Divorce makes marriage less risky. Instead of being stuck to someone who doesn't make you happy for the rest of your life, you get a second chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:09 AM
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I initiated my divorce along with 30% of men. This doesn't need to be a men vs women thing. People shouldn't be stuck in miserable marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:41 PM
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My ex wife was kind of like that. She still did stuff, but it was at her own slow pace and always falling behind. I had to always had to do the stuff she forgets and carry the mental load. It was fine when she was looking after our kids when they are young, but once they were off to preschool full day, she watched TV all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:30 AM
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Dad bod
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:17 PM
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Men are more weird talking about it. If you said, "I am dating a wonderful woman. She is younger than what I usually go for, but she is mature for her age and we have a great connection" then more people would be fine with the age gap. But if you make young women your main preference, then it comes off as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:57 PM
5

It is fairly easy to avoid. Most women aren't expecting expensive gifts by date three.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:06 PM
7

Men are less worried about women using them just for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:32 PM
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I am 80% up front. I say I just got out of a divorce, I am just dating around and seeing where things go. It is technically the truth but it can be interpreted different ways. Half the time women don't even ask about intentions before hooking up. If a woman acts interested in having a serious relationship with me, I will be 100% direct with them about wanting casual. Sometimes they would still want a hook up later, but I find it best to avoid those women. I don't like breaking hearts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 03:08 AM
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They don't know how to interact with women. If you are complaining about paying for dates, then I am not surprised you are having trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:11 PM
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Not really. Most people live close to their parents and if they don't, they will travel to visit for the holidays. Parents can also move to be closer to their kids. You can still talk to your family members every day if you don't live in the same place. Modern tech has made it much easier to maintain connections with others over long distances.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 02:06 PM
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It is not that hard to get sex by the third date. In the process, you could get lucky and have sex earlier. I would rather do that than deal with prostitutes and sugar babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:38 PM
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You start making out and let things flow from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:09 AM
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But I like being in a relationship with a woman. A good woman adds value to your life
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:41 AM
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Hair transplant made me look 10 years younger
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 03:09 PM
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Back when I was younger, it was called how many people you did you have sex with. It was mostly a topic in highschool and early years of college.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:33 PM
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I don't know how normal it is, but it does make a big difference for me in matches. There are more men than women on the platforms and having unlimited priority likes can push you to the top of the stack.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:55 PM
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Yeah it is worth it. I just decided to let my subscription expire for a month to see the difference. Everything dried up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:18 PM
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Tinder is definitely pay to play for the average man. On the free tier, my profile must have been hidden because I barely got anything. You basically need to pay to get ahead of the line to have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:21 PM
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Sure women value looks, but they don't do it more than men. That is just crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:54 PM
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Sex is far superior to a BJ. And women make a funny face when giving them. I don't find it that hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:10 AM
2

All I expect is for a woman not to take advantage of the situation. Don't order the most expensive things on the menu and rack up a huge bill unless I do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:50 PM
3

A real provider doesn't keep score. They provide because they enjoy taking care of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:42 AM
2

Remaining single without kids increases your chances of being alone at an old age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:11 AM
2

Those aren't love marriages. It is asking a woman to give up on true love for economic benefits. It is not much different than a gold digger marrying an old billionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:30 AM
3

You should relax when interacting with women. You can still focus on improving outside of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:39 PM
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What do you mean by dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 04:04 PM
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I see no issue. It is just the talking stages on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:47 PM
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Women are awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 05:45 AM
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That's on him. You shouldn't wait 6 months before having sex with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 10:30 PM
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Deadbeat dads are primary fond of themselves. They will be with a woman as long as it is convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:56 PM
2

Sure if they keep on reaching out. A lot of times there just isn't a strong connection and it is fine to let things fizzle out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 04:52 PM
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I don't even consider it ghosting unless you been on more than 2 dates with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:45 PM
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If a woman doesn't respond to your messages, take that as a clue and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 02:34 PM
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Going on many mediocre first dates in a row can lead to burnout too. You spread yourself too thin and get desperate for a win. I found more success slowing down and being more picky on who I went on dates with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:28 PM
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It is an uphill battle if the man gives up custody and wants it back. The courts will favor the status quo. If he fights early on, he should get at least 50% custody.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 12:57 PM
9

She looks like a lot of women on online dating. Cute face, but hiding a massive body.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 04:46 PM
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Before the days of online dating, I didn't really cold approach. I met women through my friends, work or school.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:43 PM
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A financially stable partner to build a life with and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:05 PM
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What type of date is it? Do you want to be carrying around a succulent the whole evening of activities? I would wait to bring a house gift when you actually visit his place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:08 PM
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It seemed to work out for him and he learned a valuable lesson at a young age. It is not much different than someone older sacrificing their career for their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:02 PM
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I get turned off if a girl is too eager too soon. You don't need to play mind games, but you should pace things properly in the early stages of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 09:42 PM
3

Sex was the only good thing in my marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 08:12 PM
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Transactional implies keeping score. I pay for dinner, so you owe me sex. In healthy relationships, people do things for each other without expecting anything in return. Sure if you completely neglect your partner, then the relationship will suffer but that doesn't make it by definition transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:27 PM
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I like showing off my partner too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 02:08 PM
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Where are all these women hooking up with beta bux on the first date? Asking for a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:27 AM
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He is likely not asking the women out on dates. If you just ask women out on the first conversation, you should at least have a 20% success rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:37 PM
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I don't believe a woman will wait that long for me unless she has a low libido. Sure she might say she wants to wait, but I expect her to make an exception by dates 3 to 5. If it is longer then that, then I don't think she is interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:11 PM
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Sell yourself as a late bloomer. It is fairly normal for people to have bad dating experiences in their high school years that they grow out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 02:35 PM
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There is no universal threshold. It depends a lot on how much the woman makes. A woman making $50k will be impressed with a $70k salary.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 01:59 AM
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Men mostly lower standards for casual relationships. Women have dating privileges for FWBs and situationships, but they can overinflate their value when it comes to long term serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 07:46 PM
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If you are married, you have already proven your value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 08:04 PM
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Guys will use them for sex but don't want a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 05:23 AM
5

I like smart women with nice careers. Someone with similar values that I can build a life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:04 PM
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I have much lower standards for hookup material. It doesn't mean much except I am horny. If she is somewhat stable, I could see her regularly like a FWB. Girlfriend material is someone who checks most of my boxes for a long term partner, but I still think I can do better down the road. I am hesitant to commit forever. Wife material is the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:16 PM
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I am 40
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:22 AM
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I prefer driving
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:20 AM
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I have more success at Bumble pretending I am husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 03:19 AM
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Some women who are overweight wear it well. Body shape matters a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 02:33 AM
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People are especially judgemental talking about single mothers too. You need be tactful stating your preference there without looking like an asshole and the smartest play is to not mention it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:23 PM
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I take it as a compliment. You can have your shit together, be a good provider and satisfy a woman in bed. These aren't mutually exclusive traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:13 PM
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Coffee dates are lame. Take her out for a drink
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:28 AM
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Find a FWB, then be picky about LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:02 AM
3

I just refused to accept my parents were still having sex at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:50 AM
2

Isn't that what happens when people are married for 20 years with kids? During the beginning of a relationship, sex should be fun for both parties. It is literally how babies are made.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 01:46 AM
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Desire can grow over time. You don't need to be perfect, just good enough to get your foot in the door. The more experience you get with dating, the better you can generate desire in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 06:11 PM
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You can also just date normally and see where things go. Sometimes there are people you don't have a super strong attraction to at first, but it develops as you get to know each other. If it doesn't, you move on. The challenge is not getting stuck in something mediocre.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 05:46 PM
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Bios are overrated. Most are bad and people lie about themselves and intentions. A lot of people prefer to learn about someone by having a conversation too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:05 PM
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People ask that all the time about women. It is a big problem that society is trying to solve. What specific actions would help men? Do they need battered men's shelters?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 10:43 PM
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You can use proportional force to leave the situation. Push a woman off of you and walk out the door. And if the abuse continues, leave the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:14 PM
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Serious abusers start out as "casual" abusers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:04 PM
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If a woman was threatening a man with a gun, it would be taken much more seriously than a slap. That would be the reverse role situation. And of course women can be abusive and shouldn't be tolerated. I just don't see the situations and inherently the same when there is a big imbalance of power dynamics between the parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:51 PM
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Men are generally strong enough to defend themselves if it is a life or death situation. Being slapped in the face by a woman isn't expected to escalate to strangulation. That is the big reason why abuse against women is treated more seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:29 PM
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This is literally what rizz is. Be funny and confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:43 PM
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The best I can offer is to not make fun of them too much for being a big Swiftie
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:31 AM
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The best pizza is obviously fresh. I am just not pretentious about heating leftover pizza. It is 8 am in the morning and I am hungover
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:23 AM
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And there are relationships where both parties felt they settled for each other
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:15 AM
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Soft gooey pizza bread is still fucking delicious
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:09 AM
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It is leftover pizza, not a gourmet experience Microwave it for 1 minute. The best part is no extra pans to clean
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:03 AM
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If you don't want to be settled for, date below your league
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:55 AM
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Having a beautiful woman for life is nice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:26 AM
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That is the honeymoon phase of most relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:21 AM
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Doesn't that happen in most relationships? Like you should be having regular sex
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:18 AM
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Date a woman with a degree. Even if you make more in tech, they aren't going to be that impressed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:17 AM
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Find women who make the same amount as you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:00 AM
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Usually lonely guys will fall hard for the first women they are with. If you aren't having options for sex, you can afford to be more patient.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:22 PM
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You don't use penis size to attract mates. If you get to point where penis size becomes an issue, there should already be lots of attraction and spark between you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:55 AM
7

Then there are fit women who don't have conventional attractive body proportions too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:35 AM
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When men say they value fitness, they usually mean they want someone who looks good in a bikini. Actual fitness level doesn't matter if they have they have genetics for looking good. It is more socially acceptable to say you prefer someone fit than it is to say you don't want to date someone who is fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:03 AM
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Sex creates babies. Men work on building a family and legacy for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:56 PM
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Average men who are serious about marriage will go after average women in a similar social class. The rhetoric online doesn't represent how the average person behaves in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:33 AM
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I have 2 dates scheduled on Valentines Day. One is a first date, the other is a second date so nothing serious. I didn't even realize that Friday was Valentines day when I made plans. What is the best excuse to use to get out one of the dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:51 PM
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They might go for a young lawyer, but not a young waitress. If someone was just being a waitress on the side while in school, the guy won't define her as a waitress. He would say something like she goes to Harvard Law School to his friends and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:15 PM
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Men of higher socioeconomic status care. It's not really about the money as it is having similar goals and values. They want a partner who can fit in with others of the same social class. Sure men are willing to date down some, but there are limits. A doctor might marry a school teacher, but he is not marrying a waitress.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:46 PM
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Marrying a 25 year old waitress is low class. The rich want a partner who is able fit in with other rich people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 05:46 AM
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If he got 5 million in child support, I think that is fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:35 AM
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I have kids with 50% custody. Both parents are active in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:18 AM
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Because I am an average guy. If I had millions of dollars to give, that means I will remain with millions myself. I wish I could be in that position compared to where I am out now. She could get the house, but she will have to offset the amount, so I end up giving her less cash. And long term alimony is really a thing of the past outside of special circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 03:06 AM
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Divorce is not the end of the world. No saying it is all easy, but most people are able to move on from it and live happy lives. There is too much fear mongering here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:21 PM
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But people usually adjust their acceptable age range to date as they age. If you are able to age relatively better than your peers, there is no wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:03 PM
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Even shy awkward guys eventually got a girlfriend half the time back then. There were more opportunities to hang with friends in real life and learn from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:05 PM
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You could want to go for someone slightly above your league. Having confidence that you can win someone over can make you more attractive. If someone goes on multiple dates with you, that means they are at least a little attracted to you. That is something you can build off from and observe if it develops over time. If it doesn't, you can cut your losses and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:27 PM
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I agree that marriage is too long of a timeline to develop lust. I am thinking that there should be a honeymoon phase in a relationship, but it doesn't have to start immediately. You might not think someone is special at first, but after spending time and getting to know them more, you fall for them and they are literally all you think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:20 PM
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This is terrible advice that will make you insecure and sabotage your relationships. Attraction can grow over time. As she falls in love, she will want you more and more. That is how normal healthy relationships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:30 PM
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Part of the reason married men live longer is their wives tell them to go to the doctor and help make them appointments. There are many old men who are lost without their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:48 AM
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Single men are too cynical. I lost half my assets in the divorce and would still get married again. Most divorced men remarry. Lifetime companionship and a family that you grow old with is a nice benefit in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:33 AM
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If you have kids, you will have more incentive to move up the career ladder.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:23 AM
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Huge deal breaker. It would be like dating a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 05:31 PM
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30 y/o virgin says it all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:43 PM
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Past property won't be split 50 50 in a divorce unless you did something to convert it into a marital asset. Some types of assets are easier to keep separated than others though. A prenup will give you extra protections.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 07:28 PM
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You need to take risks in life. Just because you go to college doesn't mean you will get a job. And being a well rounded person in general will make you more attractive to women. You will benefit from making more money even if you never attracted a partner with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:50 AM
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Lifting weights a few times a week will make you more attractive. You are being healthy and taking care of your body. The problem is when you make weightlifting your whole personality. The key is balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:40 AM
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Getting married and starting a family is a legitimate life goal for people to have. That can lead to a more fulfilling and complete life. Obtaining a relationship is a necessary first step in that. If it is what you want and are having trouble, then you should work hard towards that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:32 AM
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I don't see that happening. Parents want full legal rights to their own children and won't give up control to others like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:15 PM
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That is not really how dead bedrooms work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:01 PM
5

So the beta male not accepting their looksmatch was able to get someone out of their league. How is this a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:34 PM
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Women want more foreplay, not less penetration
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:00 PM
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It depends on the woman approaching you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 02:31 AM
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It is a mainstream idea that single women in their 30s want to settle down and start a family. There is nothing red pill about it. If you want to date casually, then go for single mothers in their 30s which the red pill seems to look down on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:10 PM
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The majority of men on apps want short term relationships and don't care about deal breakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:21 PM
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If you legalize it, both parties in the divorce would rush to withdraw all the money and hide it in duffle bags. It would be chaos.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 11:05 PM
2

That seems reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 06:55 PM
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The current system is pretty fair. Courts and lawmakers aren't completely stupid. It is usually based on a formula based on parents income and custody of the children. Some women will go for 100% custody for more support. Some men will go 50% custody to pay less, but in practice still make the mother see the child the majority of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:29 PM
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They are going to award custody based on the best interest of the child. It is not a reward or punishment for the parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:55 PM
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At fault divorce is unnecessarily complicated. You don't need fault to fairly divide assets or have a custody arrangement that is in the best interest of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 08:52 PM
2

In other words, just be yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 12:29 AM
1

What if a woman gained weight from pregnancy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 09:18 PM
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Because women aren't viewing you as second best. If a woman settles down and wants to have kids with you, she is offering you something no other guy in the past experienced with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 12:10 AM
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True, but in practice, men are not doing that when they are opting out of the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:09 PM
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I 100% know my kids are mine without a paternity test. My ex was faithful and we had sex during the time of conception. The kids looked like me when they were born which further confirms everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:31 PM
0

You can start off as the fifth option, then become the first option as she gets to know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 04:53 PM
0

If you go on 100 dates and can't find anyone compatible, luck isn't your issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:19 PM
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Getting a woman to orgasm usually results in good sex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:08 PM
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It is mainly extremely online men who think husband material is an insult. They believe being husband material and hot are mutually exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:40 PM
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It doesn't set a precedent because relationships usually evolve to 50 50 after a few dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 01:33 PM
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I gave her a kiss before saying goodbye and she seems interested in a second date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 09:27 PM
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I went on a date last night. I took an Uber and she drove to the bar. Towards the end, she said "do you want to go to your place?" She drove me back, I invited her inside, then she said she can't and has to go back to her place. I thought I was going to get lucky, but she was just offering a ride.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 09:21 PM
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She treated me better than all her ex's from what I've seen. Never cheated either. I was the one who left a hot woman who was the best I ever had in bed. My next partner might not measure up exactly in those areas, but I value personality and compatibility more now. As you mature, preferences and priorities change.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:58 PM
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I don't really care that much as a man. I look for signs that she cheated or abused her partners in the past, but not much beyond that. I am not expecting my partner to be the best in every possible category and there will be compromises. I expect she will compromise in some areas for me too, but as a whole, we will be the best partners for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:26 PM
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You won't be filtered out for being in your 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:56 PM
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18 years old really sets off the alarm bells. It is the lowest legal age so they probably prefer younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:38 PM
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That is how most people behave. They could get angry or shocked at first, then learn to accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:43 PM
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I expect my partner to have occasional desires to sleep with others. I have no issue unless it becomes an obsession. Whether someone cheats or not is based more on their temperament than raw desire. It is in their values and their ability to control themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:58 AM
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Some people are natural people pleasers. They aren't just putting on an act to get pussy. They are "nice" to both men and women. Over time, resentment can build up which leads to hidden asshole behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:31 PM
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He killed a greedy health insurance CEO. They view him as a Robinhood type criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:15 PM
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That is what approach I took when I met my ex wife. Now I have a list of requirements
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:04 PM
27

I have zero sympathy for deadbeat fathers. It is a good thing that they are forced to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 05:06 AM
16

I would argue that women do the majority of planning in relationships on average. It is the beginning stages that the man takes initiative. One year in, it is the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:45 AM
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If she is asking about bedroom preferences on the fourth date, that means she wanted you to make a moved earlier. It really isn't about vanilla vs rough sex. She just wanted you to be more confident and initiate. Getting kisses on 35% of dates is pretty good. You need to get better escalating things go the next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 08:34 PM
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It is expected for me to plan the first date too. I don't make a big deal about that either. The point is that these are symbolic gestures. I am showing that I am able to provide if times are hard or she needs to take time off to take care of a baby. If a woman takes advantage of my generosity, like racking up a bill ordering the most expensive things on the menu, then I won't continue to date her. I can test her as much as she tests me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:37 PM
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I pay for the first few dates at most. It is more of a symbolic gesture than actually about the money. After that, the relationship will become 50 50 more or less. It really isn't a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 01:13 PM
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If he is attractive, she is not going to make him wait long. Women want sex too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:00 PM
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I have success on the apps and I am no way near the top 5%. If it was all about hookups, I would struggle more, but most women are looking for relationships on the apps. There are some issues with the apps, but in the end, you are dealing with real people. As long as you are able to connect with someone and set up a date, it doesn't matter what the Match Group's agenda is. It is not all doom and gloom.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 02:44 PM
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Just ask her on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 04:01 PM
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It is much easier to improve yourself than it is to convince women as a whole to lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:45 PM
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I come off as too fake and stiff putting on a facade. I do better if I just don't give a fuck about impressing a woman and not being afraid of being my true self.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 04:44 PM
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When I was 18 years old. I haven't asked a woman that question since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:22 PM
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Men's stated preference here is different than their revealed preference. Sure most men want would rather have someone with a lower N count, but they also prefer a woman who sleeps with them by the third date. If a man has options, he will choose the woman who will have sex early over the low N count woman who makes him wait 3 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 03:16 PM
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Looks aren't the main reason long term relationships fail. A woman is not going to leave you because you developed a dad bod. It is better to put more effort investing into the relationship. Plan more date nights instead of spending all your time at the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 01:06 PM
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It is fine wasting your time with fun women. Not every relationship has to be serious. Just know what you are getting into and manage expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 04:56 AM
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Women are better at developing and maintaining support networks than men. Married men rely more on their wives for this support.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 06:51 PM
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I will carry water for women who want to sleep with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 01:15 AM
2

After a certain age, you assume everyone has a history and it is better not to bring it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 12:05 AM
2

Matching on a second app means you guys were on the fence on the first app. If you guys really wanted it, then you would made it happen the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:58 PM
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If a woman isn't available for your first suggestion, you can ask when she is available. Don't just randomly guess new dates and times. Have a conversation. Once you agree on a day, you can take the lead on suggesting a place first.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:55 PM
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If you are a 40 year old established man looking to settle down, then you will have more success with a woman in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:54 PM
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They are also betting on the fact that those men would want them instead of a woman younger than them. Men of high status also want women of high status. As long as the woman is reasonably attractive, she would have some options. Women with nice careers can afford help like nannies to make their lives easier. That is how it is done.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:19 PM
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With dating apps, women don't have to be outgoing to get asked out on dates. Most men would avoid modest religious women still, but that is because they often have boring personalities and make the men wait a long time before sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:59 PM
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Women's rights have been historically pushed as equal rights. Currently, men and women are treated the same legally for most things. One big exception would be conscription laws, but that could change if men were actively being drafted for war. I am not trying to say that men have issues that need to be addressed, but it is not the result from the lack of rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:19 PM
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I just expect to pay for the first date or two. It is more convention than me worshipping her. After that the relationship evolves towards 50 50. I usually date women with nice careers and notice that they want to show they can take care of themselves too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:26 PM
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There is no urgency for a serious relationship now, but you should still date around and see where things go.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:08 PM
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It would be easier for a 45 year old man to find a woman in her late 30s to have a child. The age gap is lower and they both should have similar urgency if the man is actually serious. Sure there is more risk of fertility issues, but that is what you signed up by waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 02:34 PM
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Education is an indicator of of the shared life experiences, values and goals. They don't necessarily have to have a degree, but you could want someone who has a similar drive and ambition as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 10:10 PM
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I know many women who have nice careers in good marriages with 1 or 2 kids. Men with high paying professional jobs like doctors aren't marrying uneducated women. They want a partner on their level.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:53 PM
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I am not as worried about a boy being convinced to forgo his education to marry a provider woman to take care of him. If I was, then I would bring it up. I don't even bring this reasoning up with my daughters. I mainly want them to value education and be capable of supporting themselves. The reasoning will depend on what will motivate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 04:41 PM
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I do teach them that too. Being educated with good career prospects opens up lots more opportunities on how to best live your life. They can later decide to be SAHM and live the trad lifestyle too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 02:37 PM
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Those men aren't being their authentic selves. They are being too respectful worried about turning off women instead of showing their true personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 01:51 PM
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I am raising my daughters to be modern women. I don't want them trapped in a bad marriage when they are older.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 11:53 AM
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You don't have to get married again if you prefer being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 10:48 PM
7

I am going through a divorce right now and still think marriage is worth it. Divorce gives me the opportunity to try again to have a happy marriage with someone better. It is not all doom and gloom. Most people who divorce will remarry again.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 07:57 PM
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A lot of women are attractive in their first photo and I swipe on that. When I look at the rest of their photos after matching, I notice they are very overweight and lose interest. I adjust my swiping strategy depending on how many matches I am getting. If I have a lot, I will be more selective to not be overwhelmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 12:55 PM
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It is a mistake to go into sales mode when dating. It is better to learn how to be comfortable being yourself around women. Show your true authentic personality and don't be afraid if they reject you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:14 AM
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This might be an unpopular opinion on reddit but in the real world, there is more stigma against childfree women than single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:57 PM
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He wants multiple women and you are not their top choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:17 PM
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When women are ready to settle down, they are going to prioritize the most attractive safe option no matter their age and experience. Sure if she aged poorly, she would have to lower her standards, but she also wouldn't have "Chads" competing over her either. It evens out. She will still go for the best option she has at the moment just like she did when she was younger. There is no difference in these scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:55 PM
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Most men aren't getting overwhelmed by the number of matches. They are more likely to have days with zero matches killing their confidence. Sometimes I match with women who are attractive but are otherwise not compatible for an ego boost. I usually don't get more than a handful a day so it doesn't matter. In the rare cases I do feel overwhelmed, I become more picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 09:11 PM
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As a guy, I don't understand the issue with being the safe option. You can be the safe option and sexually desirable at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 02:37 AM
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I have no issue being a 40 year old single dad on dating apps. It sounds like your issue is that you are hiding the fact that you have kids on your dating profile. I am a proud father and let that be known. Some women are attracted to that and are looking for that in your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:09 PM
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I have a job and my own bank account. That is my go bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:09 PM
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Settled for. I prefer to date a woman above my league than below it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:56 AM
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Influenced by kings, religion and culture
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:49 PM
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Humans have evolved to be social creatures
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:40 PM
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Society has always influenced what people find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 04:35 PM
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For such women, waiting for exclusivity is more aspirational than a hard rule. They say that to scare away men who just want sex. But they still have sexual needs and desires. If you generate sexual tension, they will often make an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 12:55 PM
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In the past, people married within their social class and it was arguably more rigid. The woman might not have had an income, but she would came from a wealthy family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:16 PM
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The "doesn't matter" position is that you don't discuss n-counts with your partner. Ignorance is bliss and if you start obsessing about it, then it will lead to insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:57 PM
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It is more about age and maturity than the actual count.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:48 PM
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After a certain number, both parties stop asking
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 08:08 PM
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I prefer having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/24 06:49 PM
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There is a very fine line between passionately making out and sex. It is basically a hookup with the only thing stopping you is being in a car instead of someone's private place. Guys who aren't into hookups are not going to bring that type of energy out on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 05:07 PM
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This. Chances are that the husband is even a bigger fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 03:44 PM
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The OP probably complains about his dating woes, then his friends get frustrated when he is unwilling to follow their advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:14 PM
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Sex certainly helps a lot. It is more about the physical intimacy and being vulnerable together than the actual sex part. It can be really healing if after experiencing stress or a fight together. If you are able to share this physically intimacy, sex is a natural product of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:31 PM
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Even if women weren't turned off by virgins, it is still an insult because it indicates that the man can't get laid. You being a virgin isn't what is stopping you. Something else is wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:15 PM
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These are more done for engagement than being 100% serious. "Pretends to listen when I talk about Taylor Swift" is a joke. Lighten up a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:08 PM
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If you can date attractive women in their 20s, then go for it. The advice is more about keeping your standards realistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:13 PM
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Slightly tacky, but not enough to turn me off from a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 07:22 PM
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Men need individual consultation rather than everyone taking the same class. Dating advice can be contradictory and is often context dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 02:03 PM
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I like independent educated women. I want a partner who shares the same values as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 03:23 PM
1

It depends on the rapport I have with her, but I would playfully say something like "you are such a ditz"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 06:15 PM
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When I make out with a woman, my visceral attraction escalates 10x even if she is just average looking. Sexual tension and chemistry develops. I don't have the urge to rip off a woman's clothes just by looking at them initially.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:22 PM
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I am 39 and would prefer to marry a woman at a similar stage of life as me. An 18 year old would be way too immature. There are also lots of hot women in their 30s too. As you get older, your standards adjust.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 04:23 AM
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Sometimes women need foreplay to get in the mood. That is what your girlfriend is asking for and wants. If done correctly, she will enthusiastically give consent if it escalates to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:53 PM
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he knows that it will make her happy and the night will go more smoothly for him. So he relents. It is fine to do things when you are not 100% in the mood because you want to make your wife happy, but if it is to make things go more smoothly, then it can be coercive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:38 PM
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It is still the main metric to choose if you only had to choose only one. I could buy an argument that other metrics can shift the balance to be more equal between men and women, but it is a huge stretch to say that men have it worse off. Men do have some advantages in society that you can't ignore. Women are advantaged in other areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 01:51 PM
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Because it is the main metric to determine how well off someone is. It is that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:32 PM
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That shows that men make significantly more money than women despite being less educated. Until that income gap goes away, it is hard to argue that men are worse off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 12:21 PM
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It is not about being a bad boy. Be confident with your abilities and make the woman feel desired. Let your animal instincts take over and channel that energy into sex. You don't need to be a bad boy to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:45 PM
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That makes you seem too picky and could have commitment issues. Relationships are about compromise. Saying you have solitary hobbies makes you seem anti social. It would be better if you say you focused on your career and studies first and are ready to settle down now. If your lifestyle matches your story, you could be given benefit of the doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 12:03 PM
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People want to know why you haven't been in a relationship. The guys in your example seemed like they are afraid of commitment. That is the red flag to many.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 05:54 AM
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Women are better at forming social bonds and a support system outside of their partner. For men, is it easier to find friends who you are able to open up to or a relationship with a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 02:06 PM
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The chance of divorce is 30% with 2 partners, 33% with 10+ partners according to that chart. What are you trying to prove?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 04:52 AM
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Because he is getting pussy in return. Desperation plays a big role too. Most men don't have lots of options at all times and still want to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:57 PM
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These men are viewing sex as a conquest rather than punishment. Men will put up with BS from women if they can get sex out of it. The talk about pumping and dumping is about advising the man to not get attached and to move on afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 04:25 PM
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Different people give different sexual experiences and chemistry. If you are having good casual sex with someone, you could pursue a FWB situation to keep it going. If it was just mediocre, you move on from the ONS.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:45 PM
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A lot of times women desire sex but are reluctant to initiate it. They could be afraid of rejection or think that it is usually the man's role to initiate. Maybe the woman didn't realize that her lack of initiating was making the man feel less desired. This is the type of scenario that communication helps resolve. Things are usually more complex than what is on the surface level. And the act of communication itself usually results in more emotional intimacy which often leads to more physical int…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:06 PM
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Half of it is just cope that their men aren't doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 05:17 PM
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You don't need to be a CEO to date women. Get a new hobby, lose weight, gain 10 pounds of muscle, go to therapy, expand your friends, improve your style and social skills. Learning how to date is also an important part of self improvement. Maybe you can only attract someone mid first and after years of self improvement, you can find someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 12:18 PM
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If you are working your butt off self improving, you shouldn't have to wait more than a year to start dating. Waiting until you turn 30 is running away from the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 04:09 AM
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Guys do it all the time especially after they had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:24 PM
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I dated women who shared all the details of their friend's boyfriends. It is not all women, but some friend groups share a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 10:35 PM
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The moment you start talking with someone, your personality becomes a factor. Looks matter a lot in online dating because you are just judging on pictures initially. In real life, it is easier to show off your personality with your first impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 07:09 PM
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He probably meant "looks aren't everything" which is different than "looks don't matter."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 06:59 PM
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Agree. It is fine to show you are scared, but you need to face your fears instead of running away from them. If you do that correctly, it will increase attraction. It is like the bad boy with a secret sensitive side trope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 04:17 PM
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Real life is more nuanced. Shy guys are more likely to be loyal. Some will marry the first woman to show interest in him. Some women highly value that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 03:48 PM
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What incentives are there for women to do this? There are some women who like shy nerdier guys that this can work for, but they are not the majority. Men also need to at least meet women in the middle. You need to at least show potential if you want someone to take a chance on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:50 PM
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If the person is obviously not interested after talking to them, you can back off. That is a big part of reading the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:30 PM
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You shouldn't give a chance on someone you have zero attraction to. It should be someone you normally overlook or isn't usually your type, but there is potential even if it is just 10%. If a woman normally goes for jocks, maybe she can take a chance with a nerd. He doesn't look terrible, so you never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:15 PM
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To be fair, some people just don't like taking pictures and it shows up that way even if the person is generally more relaxed and confident in real life. Some candid shots can come off much more natural though. You might need to put more effort in if that is the case, but the amount of effort is also conveyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 03:56 PM
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Pictures convey a lot more than just your looks. If you look awkward and insecure in your pictures, women can pick up on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 02:07 PM
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Lack of looks and charisma from the man is not a major cause of dead bedrooms. Most women want to feel desired more than actually being with someone hot. If the man is not desiring her, then that is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 08:12 PM
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Not necessarily if he was already friendzoned. Inviting someone you just met to your place for dinner implies something different than someone you known for a while. Even then, it can be nuanced. Inviting a woman to your place for dinner is coming on strong. A woman is not going to accept it for a first date unless you already established romantic chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 02:55 PM
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You can technically leave for any reason, but in practice you need to be a little forgiving if you want to sustain a marriage for the long term. These hard rules people have on reddit over everything is not how the real world works. Most women are not going to divorce you if you mention a paternity test, listen to her feelings if she is offended then apologize. They will divorce if you ignore her feelings and still insist on it as an ultimatum.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:14 PM
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I disagree about leaving if it is a one off incident. People aren't perfect in marriages and sometimes behave irrationally in the moment. You talk to your partner about how it made it feel and work through it. That is what happens in successful marriages. If she continues accusing him of affairs and doesn't change behavior, then he is justified for leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 02:26 PM
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I had more success in dating when I was no longer afraid to be my authentic self. Trying to tell women what I thought they wanted hear didn't work. It made me come off as boring and disingenuous. If I show my authentic self and she is receptive, I am much more free with her and form deeper connections.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:17 PM
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A guy who is better looking with more charisma will have more opportunities to hook up at drunken team building parties. But one major factor there is alcohol. A man who likes to get drunk around other women will be more likely to cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:04 PM
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The common scenario at age 50 is that both the man and woman are divorced. Both people know what they want in life at that stage and choose better. And everyone settles some. In the first relationship, you could have prioritized looks while ignoring some red flags about their personality. Later in life you decide it is better to prioritize personality over looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:16 PM
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I believe you can improve your dating prospects the more dating experience you have. I interpreted your comment through that lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:54 AM
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You don't need to settle forever either. If a relationship isn't working out, break up and use that experience to find a better one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:40 AM
0

I find it better treating women like they are your bratty sister. You don't need to make sexual innuendos. Light playful banter is enough. Keep the conversation fun like they are your actual friend, not just someone you are nice to because you want something.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 01:44 PM
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Women usually don't make a man wait that long even if they want long term relationships. This is more to signal that they want to make sure the man is serious. Instead of sex on the first date, they make him wait to date 3 and even then, they can make exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 03:24 PM
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This is true especially for upper middle class men. Even if they have a wife who stays at home, she went to a good school and had a career before. Men can marry down social class some, but there are limits. A doctor might go for a teacher, but he isn't going after a fast food worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 03:07 PM
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He wanted you to be upset so that he has the power between the two. Likely he was hoping you will still be open to a FWB situation. Since you easily accepted the no, it is like you were rejecting him back and took away his leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:28 PM
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Stop being mediocre at sex then. Even if you are not good in the beginning, you can improve within the same relationship. Half of it is just enjoying having sex in the moment with your woman rather than worrying about her past.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 04:09 AM
2

A woman can be physically attracted to a man initially, but is later turned off by his behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:24 PM
7

Giving job interviews taught me to not always judge a book by its cover. Some people are better at bullshitting than others. Those who are really talented can be modest about their accomplishments. Over time I picked up on some biases and adjusted the way I judged candidates but I still get things wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 12:24 PM
4

I am talking about making a guy wait until date 3 before having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 09:19 PM
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Women who aren't afraid to have sex with guys they find attractive are labeled "easy" and not relationship material. That doesn't matter for a hookup, but it does if you want a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 08:47 PM
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In the third scenario, women can still hold back some because it makes them look like "wife material". The desire is still there, but there is more restraint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:58 PM
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Most men don't know if they want to invest long term on day one. It is common to expect sex before making the decision to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:33 PM
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People don't really care if the woman is 27. She is considered an adult who established herself at that point. If the woman is 18 dating a 43 year old, then it is seen as more creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:05 PM
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It is true if the man is drunk and horny at 1 AM. Not all men of course, but enough for the statement to be valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:19 PM
1

If you can think of a better term for me, I am open to suggestions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 03:11 PM
6

The definition evolved over time. It is more common these days for both parents to have an active role in their kids lives after a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:45 PM
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I have 50% custody and consider myself a single father. I am single and am an active father.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 02:05 PM
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It is their life. Most will relax their views as they get older. It is the young and inexperienced that care the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 12:04 PM
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If she has committed decades to you, why does it matter? Most of the arguments against high n count women is that they will be less loyal or can't pair bond. But she proved that wrong by staying with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 05:01 AM
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Life is better if you get over your insecurities over n counts. Be confident in your own ability to please a woman instead of worrying about their past.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:47 AM
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The same women can change their behavior when they are older looking for serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 06:46 PM
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Western women get upset because you throw insults at them. They are going to insult you back. If you date a foreigner and mind your own business, no one cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 09:31 PM
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I would argue those men are still in love with their partners. If you never been in love before, the feelings can hit you hard. Experiencing intimacy and an emotional connection for the first time will offset the feelings of settling. The issue is that it will blind them from other incompatibilities long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:39 PM
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Seriously, most women don't care as long as you aren't weird about it. A lot of passport bros have a chip on their shoulder and complain about western women. Those ones will be called losers. If you just marry a foreigner and live your life, no one really cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 01:14 PM
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No, unless she is having sex with others. I had an ex who tried making money webcamming. I didn't mind other men looking at her as long as I was the only one who could touch her. I wouldn't let her strip or do anything in real life with someone. That is the boundary I set.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:50 AM
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Learn the skills to avoid abuse. You are not going to do that sitting alone in a cave. You need to experience the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:16 PM
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You are not going to grow as a man secluding yourself from society. Getting into bad relationships is not the end of the world for men. Learn how to get out of a situation and move forward. Use that knowledge to find a better relationship and it will bring you more happiness in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 09:23 PM
3

I am happy to have been circumcized as an infant. Most American men feel the same way which is why the practice continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 04:33 PM
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If she is content with being single until the right person comes along, it could work. Jumping into a bad relationship quickly is not a winning strategy. That is what she is changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 10:40 PM
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There are plenty of independent single mothers out there who don't need a man to help take care of them. That is who I would date. The only reasonable requirement is not meeting the kid. That shouldn't be done for 6 months at least. Everything else is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 02:06 PM
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Ignorance is bliss. After a certain age, you assume that everyone has a history. I don't want to know about every detail.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:07 PM
7

High value men will choose someone who is 35, but looks 25
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:00 PM
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I've seen it before. It doesn't work if you have an average personality, but it does if you are in the top 10% of personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 12:14 PM
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A drunk woman coming on to me too strongly could be pressure. Even if she touched me inappropriately during that, I wouldn't really consider it sexual assault most cases. A key point is that I am physically stronger and don't have a fear of being overpowered.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:18 PM
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The floor is divorce and that isn't the end of the world. And you can mitigate the risks of marriage significantly by choosing the right partner and being a good partner yourself. That is the advice that men should hear about rather than "don't get married" cynicism.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 01:59 PM
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If they are married the whole time, there is nothing to pay back as it is shared money. It is no different than if the spouse spent all the money on drugs during the marriage. There is just no money to split up during the divorce. I do think the man should get more favorable terms in the divorce if this happened, but you can't dish out punishment more than what remaining assets they jointly have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:44 PM
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She will have more experience with flirting and attracting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:04 PM
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It isn't controversial if it is a baby. But if a man raised the child for 10 years, then it is murky. Does being a father just mean giving DNA or does it mean being the father raising the child? Take a reverse scenario. What if both "fathers" were fighting for custody of the child, who should the courts side with? Should a man who hadn't raised a child in 10 years get it because of a DNA test?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 11:53 PM
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There are some things I would trust women over men on like choosing pics for an online dating profile. Men shouldn't blindly follow women's advice, but they shouldn't dismiss everything either. It is better to listen to both men and women's advice. There is truth to both sides and reality is often in the middle of the two perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 06:28 PM
3

I bet women cheating on their partners are more likely to do other high risk behavior like having unprotected sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 01:41 PM
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Divorce is not a life of death thing. It is not the end of the world. You are exaggerating the financial incentives for people to leave. Most cases, both parties are worst off. Even if you take a financial hit, you take it and move your life forward. Living the rest of your life in an unhappy marriage is not worth any amount of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 07:11 PM
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If you need mandatory prenups to feel comfortable with marriage, you should just not get married. This is not something the normal couples worry about. These rules would place more burden on 95% of the population who does want to get married just to satisfy the neurotic 5%.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 06:55 PM
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Men judge celebrities on a different scale than women in real life. Instead of comparing them to the average woman, they are compared to the average woman in Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 10:05 PM
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If you are hung up about waiting for a few dates before you have sex, it makes it seem like all you want is sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:21 PM
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Is he having any issues dating? What is his problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 07:42 PM
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Can you give some examples of the girlfriend's disrespectful behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:31 PM
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Isn't the solution for that fixing the courts so they aren't biased against men? Many states today prefer to give 50/50 custody and permanent alimony is falling out of favor too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:27 PM
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She can also give permanent silent treatment and refuse to do any work around the house. Women can make men's lives hell too. If she refuses to work on the marriage, there is nothing you can do to fix things.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 02:19 PM
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Single mothers don't always need someone to support their children. Not everything is transactional. She could just want to find a new life partner after her first marriage failed. Celebrities marry other celebrities with children all the time. I wouldn't group them into being "beta."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 02:46 PM
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Asking the wife also buys you time if you are undecided about going out. I want a day to think it over instead of committing on the spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:18 PM
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If you are able to get married and start a family, then you are good enough. The advice to constantly improve is mainly directed towards single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 11:13 PM
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Making you wait means waiting for date #3 instead of having sex on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:35 PM
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It depends on how #2 behaves the 90% of the time we aren't having sex. Will she just ignore you and let you do your own thing, or will it be fighting all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 05:45 PM
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Women usually find someone in the middle of the two extremes for long term relationships. The majority wants someone with some alpha qualities but will also remain loyal and faithful to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 03:01 PM
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It means that the woman is not conventionally attractive. There is something about her that he finds still attractive, but he is saying that his standards are usually higher so don't judge him by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 01:55 PM
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Men are more likely to go to clubs for the potential to get laid. Women enjoy dressing up and dancing with their friends for the sake of it. Straight men in the US don't behave that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:59 PM
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Social skills improves your social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 12:11 PM
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Men are taking the bear scenario too seriously. It is something that prompts discussion about men are capable of being as dangerous as a bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 02:14 PM
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There isn't much consequences of a high n count for women. Enough men don't care or not going to ask about it to matter. Even if they did care, you can just lie about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:46 PM
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1 out of 50 is evidence that paternity fraud isn't a widespread problem. If it was 20%, then you would have a stronger case. 2% means the existing system works fine and you can still get a test if you really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 12:31 PM
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Body count is a poor indicator of that. It is better to know if a woman cheated on their partner in the past. That is something that such groups can facilitate. Trying to keep track of random women's body counts online is just creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 12:27 AM
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It has always been my experience that women find the average man more attractive once they fall in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 05:50 PM
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They care about social class. They want a woman who has similar goals and values that can relate to their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:15 PM
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To be fair, the story makes more sense if he experienced this with a woman he met when traveling to Thailand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 01:49 AM
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Growing up as a liberal in the south, non-traditional gender roles mostly meant than men should do their part to clean, cook and take care of the kids. There wasn't any demonization of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 09:23 PM
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Women are better at planning things in general compared to men. Men just have a few assigned tasks they must do to start a relationship, then they can wing the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:01 AM
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While men are more horny on average, there is a big overlap between men and women. My wife has a higher libido than me for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 04:39 PM
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Those men are just insecure. I am not going to marry a woman just because she was the best I ever had in bed. It is just one factor out of many to consider. They don't need to be the absolute best, just good enough to satisfy my needs. I expect most women to think the same way about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 04:02 PM
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It just feels cheap making the woman split the bill on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:54 PM
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It really doesn't matter. Most guys won't ask about your body count. The ones who do care about body count are young and insecure. When you are in your 30s, it is expected that everyone will have some experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 04:34 PM
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It is proof that the man is low class.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:06 PM
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That scenario is just lack of compatibility. Not wanting to move to another country is not a sign of weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:56 PM
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The common scenario is that someone becomes a stay at home partner after having kids. You make a sacrifice in your career for the interest of the kids, which is a full time job raising.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:50 PM
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Dating a single mom is easier when you can afford a full-time nanny.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 02:19 PM
0

Reject the idea of betabux and work on being a well rounded person. Being a provider is just one quality out of many that women find attractive. You don't have to be "alpha" in everything either. If you have below average social skills, you will benefit a lot by improving those skills to average.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:27 PM
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There is still a lot of truth that men care more about looks than women. I agree that women care about looks more than they admit, but saying that it is equal to men is an over correction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 02:43 PM
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Most men don't care unless they have to wait unusually long to have sex. There is a big difference between waiting for date 3 and waiting for 6 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 04:59 PM
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There is more to life than having a harem of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 03:37 PM
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Being a provider is part of being a man. It is mainly extreme online types who view it as a negative. It is only an issue if a woman sees it as your only good trait. In the real world, that is rarely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 10:23 PM
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Marry someone trustworthy. Look for signs of cheating in the relationship. Have unprotected sex with your partner when they are ovulating. Check to see if the baby looks like you. There is lots of things you can do to lower the risk of paternity fraud. If there is something suspicious, you can ask for a test.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:52 AM
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It is not bad advice if you interpret it as being authentic and confident in your own skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:29 AM
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not acting like someone i'm not. In other words, be yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 11:07 PM
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Be confident
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 10:52 PM
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I put on pants and style my hair if I am home by myself. That is more for feeling productive than feeling sexy. Clothes don't really make guys feel sexier outside of just being presentable. If guys want to feel sexy by themselves, they will pose in the mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 03:35 PM
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The adorer vs adored is too much black and white thinking. If one person adores the other person 5% more, it doesn't mean that the other person is ambivalent. It is not exactly the same, but they are in the same league in how much they adore each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:54 PM
0

Children are a big part of traditional marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 12:54 AM
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Being 100% financially dependent on a man in your early 20s is a risky strategy for women. Even if a man can support a family on one income, there are lots of incentives for women to focus on their careers first. They don't want to be trapped in a bad or abusive relationship they can't get out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 02:33 PM
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You age relative to those your peers. If you age gracefully, you will always be attractive to those within your age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 02:23 PM
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I have been married for 12 years and still don't know my wife's count. The only thing we did was get tested for STIs before we had sex without a condom. What matters is how a woman behaves and treats you today. She gave many signs that she was loyal to me and that is how I judged her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 03:04 PM
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I love it when my wife dresses sexy when going out. I am proud and like showing her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 02:39 PM
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Going straight to divorce over a go bag sounds fake. Too many things in that story seem off.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 05:23 AM
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Playing hard can make a woman appear higher value. It is a strategy that works in certain contexts. If it works, it can lead to real confidence. Fake it until you make it. Agree that those who are genuinely high value don't need to play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 10:09 PM
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Most dating advice taken to the extreme is bad. If a woman is insecure, then telling her ways to be more confident can make her more attractive. If a confident woman is still playing hard to get after being in a relationship for 6 months, then it will likely backfire.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 04:59 PM
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People's standards change, but it is through life experiences not therapy. A therapists might convince someone slightly above their standards to give them a shot. If the dates go well, the attraction can grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:37 PM
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Songs about love and heartbreak are popular. It is something that the average person can connect with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:08 PM
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Taylor Swift is relatively modest and doesn't promote her sexuality like most celebrities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:55 PM
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Serial monogamy isn't hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:19 PM
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Most young people wish they could afford to buy an average house these days. Their standards for housing are not any higher there than it was 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:19 PM
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Having a partner who helps with the cleaning, cooking and shopping reduces stress especially as you get older. There is lots of benefits of marriage for men. Studies show that married men are happier than single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 01:03 AM
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It is pretty average for those in the middle class. People usually date within their social class so for some folks, it is what the average guy is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 02:51 PM
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She could be attractive too. My point is that it sounded like she was offering commitment to other guys in the past, and is offering it to him now. It isn't a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 10:37 PM
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Those points are something that the majority of blue pillers would find common ground with. It really isn't controversial by itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 08:01 PM
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It benefits you if you are looking for an exclusive relationship. If you just want casual sex, then you guys are not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 04:20 PM
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She was offering you commitment and exclusivity. That sounds like the better deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:14 PM
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Being insecure about it makes you less attractive to women. You might not be able to choose how you feel, but you can choose if you want to work on overcoming your insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:51 PM
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It will be as socially acceptable as sex dolls are today.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 02:24 PM
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Both men and women don't want to be lonely, so they will find ways to make it work. Even in modern times, most people want to settle by the time they are in their 30s. As long as there is a 50 50 split between men and women, birth rates are not relevant in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 06:41 PM
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Women who want the traditional lifestyle want it with men in the 98th percentile of income.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 05:41 PM
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Tradcons and TRP share similar values when it comes to misogyny. Content that blames women for problems is more popular than content about self improvement. Such content appeals to both TRP and tradcons so that is where the movement gravitated towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 04:53 PM
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Maybe for young inexperienced guys. After a certain age, dating a virgin would just be awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 02:55 AM
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They are also venues for people who want to dance. Half the time women are just dancing in a group together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:10 AM
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I like showing off my wife wearing a sexy bikini at the beach.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:38 AM
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Sure some people are always going to cheat, but culture has a big influence too. If your partner knows that you have a zero tolerance for cheaters, then they will be reluctant to cheat. Sex with one person isn't worth ruining your family over. But if they know you will forgive them because "everyone cheats", that is asking for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:38 PM
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So no kids. It is easier working 70 hours a week when you are mainly responsible for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 01:42 PM
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That is the point. If he is working 70 hours, then he doesn't have time to help with the kids and house like the OP claims. Most women prefer a provider who works 40 hours a week too. Working 70 hours could be a source of problems in itself. It could mean that the man is struggling financially so he has to take out a second job. Alternatively, it could mean that the man is a workaholic that would rather spend time working than with the family.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 01:33 PM
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If you are working 70 hours a week, you are not doing much help with the house work. Something is off with that story.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:12 AM
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You can settle for someone in the early stages of dating then later fall in love. Your second choice can become your first choice in time. But if you still feel like you are setting when you are getting married, then that is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 03:28 PM
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There have been lots of studies showing that obesity is negatively correlated with income for women. It is a large effect too. Women of high socioeconomic status are much less likely to be single mothers too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 02:03 AM
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College educated professional women are more likely to be fit than average and are concentrated in major cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:35 AM
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A SAHM can be acceptable though. Raising children is a full time job and childcare is expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:45 PM
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It depends on how a man deals with their emotions. It is a sign of strength if a man shows emotional vulnerability, deals with it in a healthy manner and is able to move forward. It is unattractive when you have issues that don't get resolved. Even if you suppress them, once discovered, a woman knows it is always there beneath the surface.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:59 PM
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Upper middle class men do want wives who are educated. Finances might not matter as much, but a woman should have the skills to get a high paying job. They could have looser standards for casual dating, but for serious relationships, they usually stick to their social class. Even when highly successful men have a SAHM wife, the women are usually highly educated and had successful careers before kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:50 AM
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Men don't care as much on looks for a one night stand. Men do care a lot more when it comes to a gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:09 PM
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She could be dating a man for a month, then he ghosts her after they have sex for the first time. Could be dating another man for 6 months then he cheats on her. Even if the woman is interested in a long term relationship, the men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:33 PM
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It is common knowledge the women value stability more when they are ready to settle down and want kids. Most guys are just not insecure about it. Getting a girl in your 30s that you couldn't get in your 20s means things are improving for you. Why get upset about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:51 PM
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The guys who care a lot about ncounts believes a woman is permanently damaged after each new partner. It is similar to the mentality of wanting a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 04:47 PM
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You are arguing high level theory without taking into account that having children is a much greater burden on women. A lot of this is biology, so don't act like it is just a perception. Sure that the current system can be unfair to men in some circumstances, but making it easier for men to avoid paying child support will harm women far more than help men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:25 PM
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100% of the burden of pregnancy and childbirth is on the woman. This can cause health issues, permanent body changes and death. Women are expected to raise the child too which can mean big sacrifices to their education and careers. It is much easier for men to walk away from these responsibilities. Worst case is that they have to pay for child support. That can be seen as a tax for getting someone pregnant. Being forced to give birth and expected to raise the child is not the same as paying chil…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:45 PM
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That would encourage men to be more reckless. Imagine one man fathering 15 children because it is so easy to avoid responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:16 PM
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I would argue it is the rule. The exception is an ugly person dating someone who you consider attractive. Sure being ugly hurts your dating prospects, but that can be offset by lowering your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:06 PM
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Ugly guys have ugly wives and gfs on average. They find partners within the same league as themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:25 PM
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The net result would be that more children would be raised without fathers. It might only work if every man in the country has their DNA stored in a database so it can be used to help find the correct father. Even then, it will break up families being a net negative on society. Under the current system, you can still get a paternity tests if you are concerned, so that is fair to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:39 PM
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Women aren't sandwiches.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:25 AM
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In the end, she chose to be exclusive with me. I won.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 01:07 AM
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Upper middle class men will care about a woman's career and education. They usually go for someone with a similar social class as them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 05:58 AM
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I love it when my wife dresses sexy when we go out. I get to show her off and get turned on looking at her. The only time I say something it is inappropriate for the situation. Has to look classy not trashy. But seeing my wife in daisy dukes in the summer is fucking heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 04:19 AM
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People would rather spend their 20s focusing on their careers or having fun without the responsibility. They only start thinking about having children in their 30s. For some, it could take several years finding a suitable partner, so it can delay things to their late 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:59 AM
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College educated women strongly prefer college educated men for long term relationships. A degree and white collar job brings you social status beyond money.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:52 PM
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Most shy guys are seeking long term relationships too. You don't need to pick up a new woman each week. All you need is one good partner and you could be set for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 08:16 PM
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They handpick what interviews they want to publish and promote. If you wanted to get the trashiest takes from hot women, you would handpick Miami as the city to do it in, then target women who like to clubbing at night. If you want to get the opinion of the average middle class woman in the US, then you would choose a different setting, like a random college campus during the day. Even then you can select interviews to make whatever narrative you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:06 PM
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The skills and abilities that allow you to earn more money makes you attractive. Lucking into a lot of money won't make you attractive outside of gold diggers. Working hard to build a successful high paying career will.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:00 PM
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You can have a relationship and get married in your 20s, then wait until your 30s to have kids. If things don't work out and need a divorce, it is much better before kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:58 PM
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