mojothebarbarian Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
51	You never know who’s reading	mojothebarbarian	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/21 02:45 AM
23	Letter to my wife	mojothebarbarian	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/21 03:18 AM
20	Momentary lapse of judgement	mojothebarbarian	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/21 01:50 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Momentary lapse of judgement Dude, I’m on my second time through this book. Holy shit. Thank you man, you sent me on a different path.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/21 05:31 PM
3	How long does it take men to get over a divorce? Different for everyone, and it can be permanent only if he lets it. Long term grief sufferers are not suffering from the loss anymore but are suffering from themselves. I’m in the middle of grieving, but I’ve made a conscious decision that this won’t be the end of me and that I’m not going through all this pain for nothing and that I will rediscover myself through this. What happens is they become familiar with the grief and end up making that there home, like a prisoner who gains freedom but go…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/21 06:36 PM
6	I can't keep it together anymore. I’m sorry man. Like other guys said focus on your daughter and yourself. No booze, if you want an example of where that leads just ask me. I know it takes away the pain but the problems will add up from it rapidly and take what little you have left. Your hangover this morning is making the anxiety even worse than it should be. Find counseling, friends, family, support groups virtual and/or in person…anything other than long isolation periods. Again man I’m really sorry and I share your internal …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/08/21 04:05 PM
3	Still uncertain Your uncertainty sucks. You have to admit that. You’re in a turbulent time, and it’s supposed to and going to suck. There are a few things I would recommend. Go to the library or get on Amazon or whatever a few books. “Too good to leave too bad to stay” is one to help out with the ambivalence of your situation. That’s one. “No more Mr Nice guy” is another that is a must read for guys in our situation. -It has destroyed my self worth This resonates with me, because I felt/still feel this but am l…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/21 01:51 PM
1	Accepting Feelings too soon? In all reality you’re probably still in shock and haven’t let it register yet. My STBX and I broke up in early June, I didn’t shed a tear until July. There’s the possibility that you were already checked out and grieved while still together as well. Either way the emotions at some point will have to come out even if it takes all the way to the day you finalize. When it comes out we’re still here	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/21 12:14 AM
1	Spousal Support Michigan Same state, same situation except 3 kids, similar income disparity, 2nd time filed, haven’t been separated until 3 days before she filed and still cohabiting. I haven’t been served yet but I can GUARANTEE that spousal support is being requested. If you get a solid answer please share. You might be luckier as you’ve been separated for 2 years and she’s proven to be able to support herself but that’s just me spitballing. A family friend lawyer I talked to briefly did say if she’s awarded it you’re…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/21 02:25 AM
2	Recently Divorced 💯…This is the way	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/21 02:12 AM
3	Things are hard Exercise and journaling…it really helps. Hard exercise too, make yourself sweat. I feel you, I know what you’re going through and it sucks…but that’s ok…we’re allowed to feel pain and sadness.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/07/21 01:59 AM
4	Desperation That’s pretty wise man. That’s definitely something to practice and remind yourself in emotional states	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/21 01:42 AM
1	Momentary lapse of judgement That makes sense. I mean yea I felt rejected, but I think the bigger issue was me feeling like I gave away my dignity and letting her have it again.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/21 11:27 PM
3	Momentary lapse of judgement Alright my man, I went to the bookstore after work and just bought it.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/21 09:59 PM
1	I feel like putting a bullet in my head and be done with this shit. Read “Too good to leave, Too bad to stay” trust me. It’s not infallible, but it is incredibly helpful. I wish I would have read it BEFORE the divorce was filed, however it confirmed my intuition. It’ll help you look at your relationship in objective 3rd person terms. As for the bullet in the head, if that was just in general sense of wanting to be gone or not present through the marriage or divorce or your ambivalence I understand that. I’ve daydreamed just catching a flight to Europe and saying…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/07/21 02:58 AM
2	Losing my mind Been there, been called a narcissist. Mines actually playing my 14 y/o against me and just last week yelled at me and called me a narcissist too. Sometimes I think my stbx suffers from BPD with some narcissistic tendencies, actually I’m nearly certain of it but sometimes i think that’s just a lot women and how they act. A scorned woman does not think or act with logic or reason, they think and do with their emotion and that emotion ain’t pretty, and normally as petty as can be. It’s primitive, i…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/07/21 06:10 AM
4	Letter to my wife Definitely. So I just started learning about emotional codependency and how I realize I suffer from that. The advice everyone giving about staying single at least a year is not lost on me, and it’s definitely what I intend to do. I’ll be happier on the other end too if all goes well. I’ll find myself and my confidence and relearn old passions and some new ones and get to a point where I can just generally accept my life as meaningful and content without a woman	/r/Divorce_Men	09/07/21 10:39 AM