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Can also attest as a "neuro-weird" woman. I can see why his previous relationships didn't work out, and why he works so well with me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 04:10 AM
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How do you find it supporting your man through his autism? You have to have a lot of patience, you have to be able to compromise, and do not expect them to be something they aren't. These types of people do not like change they aren't super spontaneous. So... don't expect to get together with them and expect to go on impromptu adventures or expect them to make a change overnight. Does he have meltdowns and if so what do you do? He used to, but not anymore. Honestly, I just didn't tolerate it. I …
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 12:04 AM
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It's synonymous with "classic", which is to say that it never goes out of style. It's axiomatic and does does not follow trends. So, it means a clean and healthy appearance. This means no talon nails, wacky hair colors, none of the strange "ugly on purpose" looks, no super glam makeup. Classic means to accentuate your beauty, not disguise it. As far as behaviors, it's the same philosophy: what has always been attractive? Kindness, listening rather than always talking, keeping your business to yo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 02:00 PM
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I think that you might be right in thinking about counseling. Perhaps if he can hear what an impartial party has to say, he might warm up to some compromise. Maybe he just needs to hear what you're saying worded differently, coming from someone else. I know that it's extremely difficult to get through these rough patches, which feel like they last a lifetime. I had a very similar one with my own husband when we were newlyweds. But this too shall pass.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 07:04 PM
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My time to shine lol. I am also dealing with a variety of mental problems/trauma issues. Just for context I've been diagnosed with schizotypal personality disorder/autism (nobody can decide which one) which means that I especially struggle with maintaining relationships with people. So I really feel your pain here. However, I've managed to form some pretty genuine bonds with other women over the years using a few methods. Don't talk about yourself unless asked. This is a general rule that should…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 04:46 PM
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Divorce is not the answer for a variety of reasons. First, and most importantly, you're not on the exact same page right now, but that is a phase. He loves you, he wants you to be happy, and you can work out happy mediums. Perhaps he can indulge in his travelling hobby once a month rather than every week or so. Ask to set up a budget that includes a saving goal as well as a healthy amount of spending money. It's all about compromise. You're never going to get everything you want, and you cannot …
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 03:55 PM
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All that matters is that you're sure, and you have other people you trust (like close friends) who also like the guy. Really, the only reason we like our families to meet our SO before marriage is to make sure we don't have rose colored glasses on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 09:20 AM
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Well, the answer to this is multi-dimensional. What other things do you want out of a relationship? Because if you're looking for someone who makes a substantial amount of money, they will likely have to move around for work if you don't live in a major metro area like NY, Chicago, Boston, etc. Is it impossible to find a high earning man within a smaller area, who is willing to stay there? No. But it's less likely. In regards to "putting your foot down", no, it's not appropriate. Either he wants…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 02:41 AM
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Well, let's define mothering first. When I think of "mothering" I think of a woman telling her child how to live their life, which is a mother's role. So, to avoid "mothering", avoid telling him how to live his life. This means not giving unsolicited advice, don't shame his hobbies/interests or talk badly about his friends, steer clear of "I'm right and you're wrong" arguments and adopt an "us against the problem" mentality instead. Nagging is a whole thing in and of itself. In order to avoid it…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 08:06 AM
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Wife goggles are very real. I met my husband at 19 years old. I’m almost ten years older now, but I know that because he met me then, he still sees me halfway in that light. The idea of him leaving me for someone younger is laughable because we built something solid and unshakable. It also helps to take really good care of yourself. I still look pretty much like I did at 19, but with a matured sense of style.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/23 08:41 AM
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Men aren’t predators/losers because they like women who are a bit younger than they are. That’s like saying you’re a gold digger because you like older, established men. These stereotypes exist because our current culture has decided that the innate female desire to be with a man who is mature and established, and the innate male desire to be with someone young and beautiful is wrong. Don’t get me wrong: there are absolutely losers who try to prey on young naive women but that’s not every man wh…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 10:58 AM
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I feel like most of the people were very one dimensional, overall. Even the mother and daughter. They had an opening to talk about something real (the mother dealing with fear of death and human imperfections) and it feels like they pulled back at the last moment. The writing feels like it was trying to do a lot of interesting things that got cut in favor of being a feminist narrative. I think that having Ken interact with a real man who actually embodies healthy masculinity would have been so i…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 01:21 AM
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If the roles were reversed in this film, nobody would like it, as per usual. I liked the fact that Barbie told Ken that he needed to find himself outside of his love for her. I think that was a nice moment. But, outside of that, I felt like it was a sparkly pat on the back for women, because we finally addressed the fact that men are killing themselves in record numbers because they feel useless and unloved by essentially implying that they ARE useless and unloved, but we guess they can have a s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 11:21 PM
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I’ll say this much: You spend more time with him than I do my own husband (i’m lucky to get an hour per day, most days) and my relationship is not broken. So, please don’t believe that this is something broken in your marriage. It’s just an issue that needs to be addressed. My guess is that your husband is feeling the stress of providing for a wife and baby. Lots of men worry that they’re going to fail and that their family will suffer, so they throw themselves into work full-force. I completely…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 12:12 PM
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Coming up on ten years. We both feel a lot more loose, like you might feel with family rather than a partner. Like, I don't feel the need to filter myself at all. We are especially free with our senses of humor, which are very biting and sardonic. You tend not to be like that with someone who is fresh in your life. However, we have also become more aware of how to disagree in a healthy and productive way that ensures that we can both get what we need.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 09:34 AM
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I wanted to say it to my now-husband about a week in, but I actually said it after about a month. I knew it was the right time because the connection we had was undeniably love, even if it was a young relationship. It felt like I had found the person who I could be my complete and honest self with, and like he was being completely honest with me. Like, whatever comes into my head (no matter how weird the thought it), I know he'll entertain it, and never judge me for how I think or who I am, so l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 04:35 AM
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I mean, a very good majority of people have gone through a traumatic event in their lives and deal with mental health because of it, so I feel like that's excluding more people than necessary. However, I do think how one chooses to handle their problems is important. I've known people who handle it with grace and resilience, and those who don't. I feel like it depends more on the person than the issues themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 10:57 AM
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As someone who has been married for ten years now, I can say with absolute confidence that you have to be willing to discuss uncomfortable truths, especially when it's hard. Yes, that is his friend and project partner, but he's being extremely inappropriate. If his friend is being disloyal to him and making you uncomfortable, then your bf needs to know that so he can handle it accordingly. He cannot deal with a situation that he is not aware of. Don't subject yourself to that discomfort, or your…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 10:48 AM
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This mindset will turn you into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Are your chances slimmer? Sure. Impossible? Not at all, especially if you take care of yourself. Women can remain sexually attractive until they're quite old with proper care, which is the initial pull. Even if you meet someone past your fertility prime, you can do something like adopt. Is that ideal? No. But life is not ideal. You can still get what you want if you're willing to make concessions, and you do the work.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 10:37 PM
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You knew what his spending/saving habits were before you married him, and you decided to financially bind yourself to him anyway. You have made your bed. Men do not want you to nag at them about how they use their personal money. I've been there, I've done it, it just makes them feel like you don't trust them to care for you. Which you don't. You decided to maintain separate accounts, and now you're upset about how he uses his account. That defeats the purpose of having separate accounts. Stop t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 09:22 PM
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Put yourself in situations where you meet men who fit the type of person you want to be with, and you will find him. If you want to be with someone ambitious, attend networking functions. If you want to meet someone in shape, go to the nicest gym you can afford. If you want someone brainy, get involved with the local university. As someone else mentioned, don't be desperate. The time will come. You are still very young and have plenty of time to find someone.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 10:29 AM
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You don't. He set boundaries, and you're trying to cross them. He doesn't want to be with you. You need to accept that and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 11:45 AM
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Since you asked for personal experiences... Personally, getting married was the best thing I ever could have done. Real marriage is so much better than the rainbows and butterflies that are portrayed in sappy romances, or the sad pathetic thing that rom/coms or dramas depict. It's made me a strong, intelligent, hard working person who knows how to work on a team, rain or shine. My husband and I have been through the trenches together. We got together when we were sleeping on friend's couches, an…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 10:59 AM
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These women were born into the second-wave feminist generation, which explains why they feel the way they feel. They were the first people to start being fed lies. But that is not how all women from that era think. It's unfair to women of that age to generalize and stereotype.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 10:26 AM
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The point of this of this post, and the advice you're looking for, is unclear.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 10:24 AM
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I live in the midwest if that helps at all lol i can’t even imagine saying that to someone 😬
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:42 AM
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I guess now that you mention it, I can see a few examples. But I suppose I've just met so many real people from there that my impression of them just overrides anything I may have seen in pop culture.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:01 AM
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I genuinely don't understand why you think they have a bad media image? Pretty much everyone knows that India is on the rise as one of the leaders in tech right now. They're smart, high earning, and generally pretty nice people. I haven't seen much, if anything, to the contrary.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 01:27 AM
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Thanks very much :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 11:53 PM
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Really, maturity is a synonym for "responsible", and so that is the core of what it means to become mature. You dress responsibly, understanding that people will think certain things based on the way you present yourself; you take accountability for your actions without excuses; you interact with people responsibly, with the understanding that what you say will have consequences, good or bad; you manage your time with responsibility... Etc, etc, etc. So, there is no one wrong or right way to be …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 11:19 PM
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Sure, I can do that. I'll post it in the next couple of days.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 05:27 AM
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If you want to look feminine, it really comes down to basics: Clear skin (including body skin, not just the face) Modest, quality clothing that fits and suits the tone of your skin Healthy hair Working out, eating well Well-maintained teeth Everything else is really up to your personal taste. However, if you want an aura of femininity, then you want to work on things like: Posture Soft gaze Smiling a lot Speaking with grace Being quick to laughter Generally being kind
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:04 AM
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The issue I have with the SB/SG lifestyle is that it treats men like bank accounts. Men are worth more than their money, and using them for it is no better than men using women for sex. Obviously it's a goal to be with a man who has resources, but he should mean a lot more than what he's able to give you. However, you're gonna do what you're gonna do, and I really do wish you happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 02:53 AM
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I'm slightly above average in looks, a solid 8.5 in real-people-land (as in not Hollywood-land), when I'm in shape. I wouldn't say people treat me like I'm dumb, but it's pretty isolating. I've had female friends that ended up being really nasty towards me when their boyfriends dumped them for me (which I did not reciprocate or encourage). I found out that two guys I considered my best friends had a pact to see who would sleep with me first (never happened for either of them). Nobody really inte…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 05:43 AM
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things you wish you would’ve known before dating in college I wish I'd thought about what I wanted long-term, rather than going for what was fun and exciting. An adventure is great, but you are dating to marry, not to have a travel buddy or party partner. Vet meticulously: look for someone who knows what they want, works hard to get to his goals, knows how to save his money, etc. I wouldn't look for the perfect guy, because young men are works-in-progress, but someone who is obviously on his gam…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 05:28 AM
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Depends on the movie. Her character in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes was a parody of vapid gold-diggers, which was funny, but not exactly something to emulate. However, her characters in something like Some Like It Hot or The Seven Year Itch are great.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 07:59 AM
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Miss Congeniality is a great one. I related to it a lot because I was a tom-boyish, gruff sort of girl, and I had to put in a lot of work to become something in the middle: polished, but not naïve. I think this film is incredible at highlighting the reasons it's important to embrace ourselves as women instead of trying to be men, even in a male-dominated space. I'll also add some that are good examples of what not to emulate: the rom-com girl in general. The witty, sarcastic woman with a drinkin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 07:55 AM
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I think that this is the most obvious way that these women are outing themselves for what they really are: grifters. They say one thing, and do another. I see these types as the counterpart to the cringey "alpha-male" content that targets young men. It's a caricature of the conservative woman: hyper-sexual, hyper "feminine". In extreme cases: talking about how to gold-dig, discussing ways to manipulate men, etc. These types come on a spectrum, not everything is as bad as someone like SheraSeven.…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 10:48 AM
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I really needed to hear this, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 10:30 AM
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Marriage is important to you and so you won't file yourself, but you're wanting to date? Those two statements make no sense in tandem. If the marriage meant that much, you wouldn't be asking this question. File, get the divorce, move on. In that order. Don't drag a new man into this mess before its resolved.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 10:27 AM
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I agree with the other commentor: you need to get more picky in addition to bettering yourself. Ditch the men you're hanging out with right now, period. No friends is better than bad ones. This will also allow you the room to reinvent yourself without as many people questioning you. Mrs. Midwest makes some great content about how to be feminine and alluring to men in a way that isn't overtly sexual. You want to be beautiful to start off, and then the sex appeal can come out later on. They have t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:22 AM
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The reason it's not more widely discussed is three-fold: it's way too much work for most women to regulate their own hormones to the extent that they would be incapable of conception, there's a lot of money in birth control pills, and there isn't a lot of evidence available to the general public to show whether or not "natural" contraception is effective or safe. Personally, I find altering the sex hormones to be really frightening, "natural" or not, because you can do a lot of damage to your bo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:06 AM
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From the moment he approached me at school, we non-stop talked for the next five hours. We even skipped all the rest of our classes that day just to sit and talk. Everyone else had left, and we were still there. I eventually got in his car and we listened to music together, and we just looked at each other for a while. We both felt how the other was feeling, and we knew that this was the real deal. It felt like catching up with a best friend that I hadn't seen in a really long time. I felt so co…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 11:18 AM
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Personally, yeah, I knew super early on that this guy was it. We'd had such an immediate, intense connection that it was hard to deny that we were gonna be together for the rest of our lives. However, that is not how every great marriage starts. I would say that the only thing that matters, as far as emotional attachment, is that you should feel intimacy with him. Can you be emotionally honest? Can you show him the things you don't like about yourself? Can he do the same with you?
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 08:01 PM
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These tips for keeping things looking clean when you're busy/feeling lazy are amazing. This is a great video about the basics of keeping up with basics. Caroline Winkler also has some videos about organization ideas and interior design that are phenomenal.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 07:29 AM
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I agree. My mom could pull great guys up into her 50's. That stopped after her last marriage, which put her in a much more negative space than she was before.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:54 AM
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A comprehensive list of hard skills that have served me as a woman/wife. Being able to cook above a basic level. Food is the gateway into the hearts of your husband, his friends, your friends, family, etc. If you cook a mean brisket, bake the best cookies anyone has ever tasted... They like you more. I love sending my husband to work with cookies and other desserts, because now everyone is always asking him when he's bringing more, and so its a gateway for him to make more friends at work and bu…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 08:38 PM
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Blue collar men are where it's at imo, especially tradesmen. If a guy gets into a trade, he makes amazing money (especially if he can open his own practice after apprenticeship), has great job security, usually pretty down to earth, usually has family values, extremely hardworking, etc. Great dudes. Underappreciated.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 07:50 PM
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Trauma does this to people. I had a very traumatic childhood and I have a similar issue: I do not cry easily, I'm not super bubbly like I was, I have an intense drive to succeed at my goals, etc. Abuse changes you, it strips away things that didn't serve you when you were trying to survive and provides motivation to get yourself together once you're out. It's a very powerful experience. I would suggest therapy to ensure that you cope with this properly and learn to use the changes in a positive …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/23 07:48 AM
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This is why we vet. If a man does not respond to positive reinforcement, laying on negative reinforcement isn't going to solve anything, it's just going to create resentment. If you're not getting what you need with that method, you shouldn't be with him. What each woman needs will be different than another. Personally, I'm willing to live without presents and Valentine's Day because I don't need those things from my husband. However, I do need him to fix things around the house, to be in shape,…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 11:48 PM
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I've been married for going on ten years now. Something that nobody talks about, really, is that nobody will tick all of your boxes, so you should know what boxes are the highest priority for you and which ones you're willing to let go if need be. I don't think you're being overly picky, I just think you need to understand what those priorities are and date accordingly. If you need to be with a man who is physically your type, then that's what you need. But maybe you're willing to deal with some…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 11:36 PM
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As someone with resting bitch face, I concur, it's not a turn on lol. Everyone always just thinks I'm mad about something.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 06:49 PM
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Sheraseven strikes me as the female equivalent of those cringey "alpha male" creators that make videos with boobs in the thumbnail, and with titles like "How to Make Women Beg For It". Weird vibe.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 06:43 PM
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Get off the apps, man. That is not a place for serious relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 05:11 AM
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Because I realized that I was killing my own attraction to him by ruining our dynamic. I spent a really long time looking at the micro reasons that I wasn't excited by "us" anymore, but didn't really think about the macro reason, which was that I had spent years degrading my own opinion of him without giving him a chance to prove that he was capable.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 09:46 AM
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Very accurate. This is why vetting is so important.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 09:43 AM
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It sounds kind of obvious saying aloud, but... I started thinking of him as an authority figure. Like, I sort of started thinking in terms of "would I question this or say this if I actually thought of him as the leader?" That made a huge difference for me. It allowed me to really think about "Do I need to say this? Or am I being picky? Am I being disrespectful? Would I appreciate him saying this to me?" Idk, some people prickle at the sound of the word "authority" when it comes to male/female d…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 09:41 AM
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My mom would clean up, and put herself together before my dad would come home. They both tried to look good for each other. I think this is a really important aspect of marriage that is often overlooked. We tend to see "getting comfortable" as an excuse to let ourselves go because we start to take the other person for granted, setting aside what initially attracted them to us. I think that putting in the effort not only ensures that you stay attractive, but also sends the message that you care a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/23 11:37 PM
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This is the definition of a toxic relationship. You need to get out of this situation, you need to learn how to communicate effectively and calmly, and you need to figure out what you're doing with men in general. This is not about him and what he's doing, this is about why you are in this situation at all. You say you didn't feel like you two were compatible, but you moved in with him. Why? Why are you giving this man the time of day, when you obviously don't like him and don't treat him well? …
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 08:06 AM
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I have had the exact same issues, and I agree that it's so helpful to understand why we act and feel certain ways. Once you can look at things from an objective point of view, things get easier to change. I've been working on myself and my mental health for a long time now, and I'm happy to say things do get better when you put in the work. Glad your man is willing to stick with you through your struggles, but also call you on your s**t. That's such an important trait in a partner when you're he…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 07:52 AM
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How nice of you, happy to share :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 11:56 PM
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I'm so glad you could find the path to being a great mother and wife, and learning from your mother's mistakes. Not everyone is so wise.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 10:07 AM
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It's never too late to find love. Makes me so happy that your mom could finally find her man after all of that! Definitely agree with the lessons you learned.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 03:59 AM
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So great that you're finally feeling free enough to spend on things like getting help to organize! It's definitely easy to fall into being too frugal. Just looking at the crazy corners being cut over at r/frugal gives me anxiety lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 03:26 AM
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I would also suggest ensuring that you work on frugality. Men really appreciate women who make a dollar stretch. Perhaps pick up sewing, so that you can alter ill-fitting clothing instead of getting rid of it. Learning how to keep an indoor spice garden is a nice money saver and makes the kitchen look really homey. Things like that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 01:33 AM
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Andrew Huberman (a neuroscientist at Stanford) has some amazing podcasts about how to use sleep, diet, and exercise to help mental health. It's been an unbelievably valuable resource on my mental health journey.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 08:26 AM
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I don't think being in those fields is a negative in and of itself, but rather the personalities that tend to come with it. I've never met a man that said he would never date a model or pageant contestant. However, those industries do tend to pressure women into going against their morals, and that is something to consider and men who want to date you will consider that as well.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 07:47 AM
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He's taking meds, and she didn't say that he said no to therapy. Why would she leave him for "not taking it seriously"?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 04:37 AM
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Well, I'm late to the party, but whatever. Here's the thing: it's not always joy and motivation. Sometimes it's counting down from ten and crying through the work. I get pissed off when people act like they smiled all the way through everything they did. Life sucks, work sucks, people suck and it's really hard to keep up your drive. Relying on "joy and motivation" will get you nowhere. You bite down and you do it when you hate it, otherwise things will not get better. As far as having no family …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 03:45 AM
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Well, I mostly agree with the people here saying that it's not likely. However, I am just like you and I found a traditional guy that also did not want kids and allows me to stay home to work on my hobbies. So, while it is absolutely not likely, its not impossible. I really do wish you the best of luck. And who knows, maybe when you find the right guy, you'll want kids.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:56 AM
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Lean on classic style rather than current trends. This will keep you from dressing too maturely, but also elevate you out of feeling quite so childish. I would look at style inspirations like Audrey Hepburn and Kate Middleton, who have that classic style down pat. Obviously, allow some room to make the style your own. Nothing is wrong with having a round, chubby-cheeked face. What makes a bigger impression upon people is how you carry yourself, how you talk to people, and how you style yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/23 02:51 AM
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