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7

It’s been over a year and I’m still waiting..🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/askFDS01/03/22 11:24 PM
23

In the years since, have you asked him what he was referring to when he said that? My ESP is down.
/r/askFDS28/01/22 07:40 PM
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I worked for an estate jeweler some years ago and we would see customers with this request frequently. The value of the minimal amount of scrap gold that is used in a ring does not amount to the labor cost of casting an entire new ring out of it, and your boyfriend would save little, if any, money this way. A better idea would be to trade in the scrap gold toward a new ring. He gets the value of the gold and you get your own new ring.
/r/askFDS20/01/22 04:47 PM
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I may sound like an old fart, but I have observed that many of the women in this sort of relationship have one or more children with their scrote without being married. Not sure if the scrote baby trapped them, it was accidental or what, but now there is the added pressure on the woman to not bReAK Up tEH fAMiLy, so she really can’t leave for the sake of their kids. At this point he knows she’s not going anywhere so he feels comfortable in the fact that he can easily leave the minute his dream w…
/r/askFDS08/12/21 03:13 AM
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They have a penis.
/r/askFDS22/11/21 05:55 AM
47

Invest your energy in friendships with women. That shit simply won’t happen anymore.
/r/askFDS11/09/21 02:56 PM
20

“Can’t get past the feeling he wants to fuck the chick and would if those two split up” 🎯🥇🤡
/r/askFDS08/09/21 03:51 AM
33

Bullet dodged! That’s something to feel great about!
/r/askFDS06/09/21 06:21 PM
3

My husband of 20 years keeps a box of memorabilia like this. They are letters and photos from previous relationships. I also have a few of these, as well as diaries that talk about previous relationships. We are sentimental people who acknowledge that our pasts are important even though we are now together. It doesn’t bother me at all that he has these and I wouldn’t dream of asking him to get rid of what is part of his personal history “just to see if he would”. Everybody has some kind of past …
/r/askFDS01/09/21 04:30 PM
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Penises like you describe are quite rare. I’m older and dated lots of men and honestly found only three that would meet with your approval. The downside to this is that it is very tempting to let red flags and bad behaviors slide when it’s only the dick that is just right.
/r/askFDS07/08/21 11:05 PM
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It just takes time, sorry to say.
/r/askFDS01/08/21 02:31 AM
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The only reason to revisit the past is as a teaching tool to remind you not to revert to old behaviors or let anyone into your life who displays those behaviors. Personally I believe in not wasting time beating myself up about things in the past that cannot be changed. That time is better used leveling up. When we know better, we can do better.
/r/askFDS13/07/21 07:35 PM
5

This. Return the gift.
/r/askFDS06/06/21 02:56 AM
11

You’re not crazy. Just no.
/r/askFDS31/05/21 07:34 PM
2

Brother: Deliberately pushes sister down flight of concrete stairs. Verbally abuses and mocks sister daily. Throws sisters favorite doll out car window at highway speed. Tries to sexually abuse sister. Invites friends to do so. Steals radio/disc player out of sisters car and sells to buddy. Father: Constant comments about daughters weight. Refuses to help with college because “you’re just going to get married anyway”. Peeps at daughter through window while dressing. Rejects daughter at puberty b…
/r/askFDS26/05/21 04:20 PM
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GOOD JOB! The only thing he was going to bring to the table is excuses and dick dust!
/r/askFDS24/05/21 11:41 PM
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GOOD JOB! The only thing he was going to bring to the table is excuses and dick dust!
/r/askFDS24/05/21 11:41 PM
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“I don’t think the penis is the tell all of porn usage, I had an ex who lasted like 3 minutes, and I know he watched and consumed at least a small amount of porn because he told me about some of his preferences.” True. My ex NVH was a premature ejaculator (lasted 30 seconds on a good day) AND porn addict. Absolutely useless in bed.
/r/askFDS23/05/21 10:32 PM
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“I just can’t win.” “I just can’t win.” “I just can’t win.” “I just can’t win.” “I just can’t win.” And you never will with a man like him. He’s a Good Time Charlie who doesn’t care enough about you to lend an ear when you need to talk about your family, but expects you to be there for him 24/7. That’s not love. Geez, he’s not even a good friend. Turn the tables and break up with him for a change.
/r/askFDS14/05/21 03:06 AM
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Even so, this will plant a seed and she’ll be looking for it. Dooo eeeet! Their situationship may not blow up when you do, but just be patient....
/r/askFDS02/04/21 08:45 PM
3

Think of him as a donut. Eating one seems like a great idea; it’s sweet and chewy and fun, right? Until you’re done eating it and there’s oil on your fingers and it didn’t taste quite as good as you thought it would and you wish you spent the calories on something more substantial and satisfying...
/r/askFDS17/03/21 08:42 PM
2

I agree with staying away from the mirror. It can ruin your day.
/r/askFDS13/03/21 05:03 PM
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I think meeting almost immediately like that is too quick and a bit presumptuous on his part. You’ve had no time to do your preliminary vetting and finding out whether you even WANT to meet for dinner. Give him one or two alternate days/times you’ll be available next week, then a bit of texting and FaceTime in the interim to find out what he’s about.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 09:13 PM
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Easy access to pussy until something better comes along. No mystery there.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 03:28 PM
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Though I’m married now, when I was single I loved being alone. I indulged heavily in crafts; sewing, knitting, painting. I recovered yard sale furniture in vintage fabrics. I painted furniture, too. I never had to stop what I was doing to take care of other people’s needs, which bugs me when I’m immersed in something creative.
/r/askFDS07/03/21 08:33 PM
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Yes you might get lonely and think you miss him. Call up a friend and invite them to hang out when you do. Distract your self with something fun and creative. Sew something. Paint your sneakers. Bake some muffins. When you think “Did I make a mistake?” remember that it’s never a mistake to put yourself first when dealing with a “situationship”. If a man uses excuses as to why he can’t commit, it is 100% because he doesn’t want to. And if you and he don’t want the same things, cut your losses and…
/r/askFDS03/03/21 07:58 PM
13

It will prove that you’re willing to wait around for more low-effort bullshit like his Valentines gift. Don’t be that woman! Block and delete!
/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:44 PM
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Is he a LVM? Seriously, you gotta ask?
/r/askFDS25/02/21 03:18 AM
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DO NOT answer any more of his invasive questions!! He is looking for ammunition to control you with.
/r/askFDS24/02/21 10:33 PM
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Power walk right by him and say “Sorry, no time to chat- Have a great day!”. Men will happily suck up hours your time if you allow it, and so far you’ve allowed it. This man is nothing to you, so why are you letting him do this? You owe him nothing. Shine up your spine and control the situation.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:00 AM
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Then if you’ve come to FDS, you’ve come to the right place. You have the support here of over 100,000 sisters who are on your side and will call it as we see it.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 10:36 PM
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This is some double-talk horse shit. To not even be able to have that conversation and wrongly calling it an ultimatum means he is NOT on the same page. He wants to keep you as an option without any real commitment. You need to tell him that you are “ideologically opposed” to wasting any more time with him in a LDR when there isn’t a firm commitment in place, and then break up. Stop giving him all the power here.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 08:57 PM
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You deserve your own man, not a public penis that you share with random strangers. This type of relationship only benefits men. ETA: One cannot be so desperate to be married that they accept this sort of deal. If you expect monogamy in a marriage, there are plenty of men who do as well. Find one of them. You’ll also want to read the FDS handbook, especially since you posted this.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 06:05 PM
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Wow. You want a man who cannot stand to be apart from you. Who wants to start your future together ASAP. Who is all in on getting married. Who is not afraid to talk about what your life together will look like. Dear lady, read the FDS handbook if you want to understand what exactly this man is doing and what you should be doing in response. Do not continue to waste your 20’s in a “wait and see” situation like this.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 05:59 PM
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I think you do know. I’m around your age and been married for some time, but had a lot of previous experience. If my husband were to die, I’d call it good on dating men. I honestly can’t say that any man I’d dated previously was worth a 💩. To find a man who would put in the effort needed to maintain my interest would be like finding a needle in a haystack. At this point, living for me and keeping my time, energy and resources for myself would be way more attractive than starting another serious …
/r/askFDS21/02/21 03:31 PM
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He just showed you how low value he is. In some places, this is illegal. The proper response is to block and delete.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 04:30 AM
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Not sure what makes you think he treats her better than he treated you, but I’d bet my 401k that he doesn’t.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 02:08 AM
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I think much of your not being able to let this go is that you’ve never been able to get your “nut” around having been dumped when you know you should have left long before. Perhaps then what you need to work on is forgiving yourself for not protecting your heart, for ignoring the red flags, for going along with what he wanted when your gut said you shouldn’t. That is the only thing you have control over here, so take control and actively forgive yourself and tell yourself the numerous ways you …
/r/askFDS04/02/21 07:01 AM
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Wow. Things seem way more unsettled with the SO than I personally would be comfortable with, even without the issue of selling the house in the mix. He previously wasn’t ready to even have you stay with him. There is no engagement or wedding date. There was no real interest in a house until you bought one. Yes, I understand that you are still divorcing, but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t put a ring on you. That would mean he is invested in your future. As of now, he expects YOU to make the inves…
/r/askFDS03/02/21 06:45 PM
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Yeah, I was banned forever (I guess) a month ago and still have no idea why. Thought I was a contributing member of the group. In any event, I agree with the statement that if it keeps a single man from getting in, I’m good with it. I can still read FDS and make my contributions here.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 12:25 AM
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At this point after four months of therapy, it might be a good idea for you to separate from him with the caveat that You two will continue to date (no more than three times a month and no sex) and you vet him while he levels up. By separating he will feel your absence and the absence of wife privileges as motivation. He should know by now what you expect and what he should be working on. If at the end of six months there has not been significant change from him, you can go ahead and initiate di…
/r/askFDS01/02/21 04:33 PM
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I just entered my sixth decade yesterday. Believe me dear, at 26 time is most definitely not running out. I married stupidly at 26 to the first man who asked because I felt the pressure you’re feeling now and regretted it every day for 11 years until I got myself out of that horrorshow. I met my current husband at 38 and vetted the shit out of him for three years because I didn’t want to make another mistake. The pressure you feel is put on you by society and the patriarchy. It’s the lie that wo…
/r/askFDS29/01/21 07:10 PM
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The only people who are upset by you having boundaries are those who stand to benefit from breaching them. If those friends actually did want to foster a platonic friendship, they would have worked around the parameters you laid out. Lunch or even breakfast instead of dinner, thanking you for your concern about untoward appearances or asking you out for dessert instead of wine and chill. And the massage guy? Oh hell no!! That was just blatant! You’re Second guessing yourself because you’re so cl…
/r/askFDS17/01/21 04:31 AM
6

The monkey doesn’t yet understand that if he stops dancing, his audience loses interest.
/r/askFDS17/01/21 01:36 AM
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If he asked you out, he should pay. He offered to pay as he knew he should. If he shot you any kind of glance when you thanked him and he had some sort of thoughts in his head about that, it’s not your problem. You responded properly. If he was expecting you to go Dutch, he should have said so when he asked you out (whereupon you’d have declined). This is not culturally specific but high value is high value no matter where you are.
/r/askFDS17/01/21 12:31 AM
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Are you exclusive with him yet? If not, a bit of making yourself mysteriously unavailable might shake the dust off him.
/r/askFDS16/01/21 01:08 AM
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We’d all love for the LVM in our lives to suffer when we leave them, but realistically until more women waken from the pickme fog the best you can expect is to save yourself and never become trapped by any of these losers again.
/r/askFDS14/01/21 01:06 AM
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Huh?
/r/askFDS11/01/21 03:58 AM
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Interestingly, those relationships that started so “hot” have all ended. Perhaps if he is looking for something long term, HE needs to adjust the way HE vets a partner, not you.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 07:19 PM
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I get the guys looking for free therapy since I’m a bit older. I do not entertain that sort of imposition.
/r/askFDS05/01/21 12:42 AM
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Look at the time spent as being necessary for your education and if in any new relationship you start to see or feel history repeat itself, get thee over to the FDS manual for a reality check. Yes, it sucks to waste your time on a LVM. That’s now done. Don’t beat yourself up over it any more and resolve that you will do better now that you know better.
/r/askFDS30/12/20 06:18 PM
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That eye-fucking other women in front of you is a huge red flag. This is disrespectful to you and your relationship. Add it to the other ways he disrespects you (not taking your needs seriously, turning your concerns around on you) and I only see more of the same in store for you. As my long-gone ex LV husband used to say “If I don’t see we have a problem, we don’t have a problem.” No relationship can survive that attitude from either partner. Cut your losses and send him packing.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 10:56 PM
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Wow. That really hit home. You’re onto something there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:59 AM
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Congratulations and here’s to a long engagement while you continue to vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:31 AM
2

Who says we do 50/50? He pays all the bills, my money goes in my bank account for saving and fun stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:31 PM
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I’ve been self employed, working from a home office for the last 25 years. At this time, I work about 3 hours a day and make as much money as my husband who works full time, blue collar. He used to have this jealousy issue as well, but realized that if I worked away from home 8 hours a day he would not have a hot dinner ready for him every evening, clean clothes folded and put away, his errands taken care of, a full fridge and pantry, a clean orderly home, or the peace of mind knowing that I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:53 AM
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My ex LV husband consistently gave me nothing on birthdays and Christmas while my pickme self would give him several gifts. I got sick of it after the 4th year we were married. The next year in September he started talking about a rifle he wanted, presumably to give me enough time to save for and acquire his gift. He gave me lots of little details, even the name of the guy to ask for at the gun shop. This would end up being a $600 gift. The shock and audacity of this request, especially after th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:17 AM
13

I recall saving for months to buy my college boyfriend a vintage pocket watch for his birthday ($525) on my part-time waitress wages. He opened the watch and was floored; absolutely over the moon about it. He said it was the best gift he’d ever received. Three hours later he broke up with me. The next day we were at school, he was standing around with a few of his friends showing them the watch. At that moment, I walked up to him and asked for the watch back, saying it was classless to accept an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:47 AM
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Wow, now I don’t feel so bad that my wasband gave me nothing on birthdays!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:50 AM
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Honestly, this would be like asking my boyfriend to watch me knit. I want him to cheer every time I finish a row or twist a cable.🧶🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 07:17 PM
21

Bingo!🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:09 AM
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She told him he had nothing to apologize for?! What??!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:02 PM
9

Sending her somewhere online will not have the impact that a hard copy will have. Very easy to just click away from it online if she doesn’t like what she’s reading. Perhaps one of your friends or siblings (or hell, an actual print shop) has access to a printer. She isn’t going to like it because it will not agree with her fantasy thinking, but she Won’t be able to dismiss it like she has her friend who has lived the experience. A bound copy of the handbook given to her by her children because t…
/r/askFDS17/12/20 08:06 PM
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Print out the FDS handbook and give it to your mom. She’s in need of an intervention. This is a pure case of fantasy thinking. The idea that he will leave his wife when he has “wanted” to for 3 years, yet hasn’t, then marry mom and not cheat on her is delusional. She is an adult with children and does not have the luxury of engaging in this situationship. She has handed him all her power and now she’s waiting around for him to take some kind of action. He will drag this out for several years (he…
/r/askFDS17/12/20 07:30 PM
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Picture this discomfort you’re feeling as huffing and puffing up a huge mountain. Portray this mountain in the form of a calendar. At the top of that mountain is something you want. Could be a new pair of Chelsea boots or a nice hardback novel you’re wanting to tuck into or some other treat. You will buy yourself this treat after 30 days of climbing. You may want to sprinkle a few small treats at the end of each week, like binge watching something fun on Netflix or making a root beer float after…
/r/askFDS16/12/20 10:14 PM
6

Step away. Just no.
/r/askFDS16/12/20 12:22 AM
19

Your ex was a manipulative piece of shit. He dug around in your psyche to find out what your currency was and saw that you wanted to hear that you were loved. So he used that as a carrot to try to get what he wanted--unprotected sex. Kudos to you for not taking the bait and upholding your boundaries..
/r/askFDS15/12/20 06:44 AM
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“This is so true! It just shows their laziness and unwillingness to work their brains... what better than a WOMAN to work it for them...” Fixed that for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 05:15 AM
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The day my divorce was final was one of the top three happiest of my life. I would divorce my ex again if I could just because it felt so good!💃🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:09 AM
10

The old adage “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” holds true here. Kids aren’t stupid. They NOTICE that all dad does is grump at them. They HEAR the tone their parents use with each other. They SEE the lack of connection. These are shitty things to model for children, that this is what they can expect from relationships. I see no reason for them to stay married and in fact would be doing everybody a favor if they don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:30 PM
11

Is he rich? Did I miss something? Otherwise I can’t see ANY reason for a beautiful young woman to truncate her life path this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:15 PM
95

God bless you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:59 AM
17

That came later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:55 PM
34

You’re right, they view us like I view my car. I don’t need to know how it works; I just wanna ride in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:13 AM
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I don’t love to cook, but in spite of that I’m pretty good at it. My husband was brought up with “food = love” mentality and when he comes home after working hard for us all day and I put down a plate of grilled salmon, roasted potatoes and steamed asparagus in front of him he is absolutely over the moon. Will tell anyone who will listen about my cooking. He’s no slouch in the kitchen either; he was a professional chef for some years so his delight over my cooking is an enormous compliment. You …
/r/askFDS08/12/20 01:01 AM
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You’re just going to have to call him out on this behavior and set a boundary. Both you and your sister together. “We have noticed how often you stare at our chest while speaking to us which is inappropriate and makes us uncomfortable. We don’t want to have to go no contact with you and Mom, so if you want us around you’re going to need to knock it off starting right now.” Having both of you confronting him will help keep him from thinking he can gaslight you both. The next time he does it you s…
/r/askFDS05/12/20 11:23 PM
8

As if it needed to be laminated so it would last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:21 PM
8

“I don't know why a promising and upcoming public transport professional like me was dating you anyway.'” So he drove an Uber?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 06:37 AM
39

Low value all the way! This is the guy that would demand a PS5 from her too.
/r/askFDS03/12/20 04:28 PM
30

If it wasn’t that, it would have been something else, I guarantee.
/r/askFDS02/12/20 03:47 AM
129

If this man was that into you, this comment would a.) have not come out of your mouth because b.) men who are into us let us know they are and that makes us feel secure. You were feeling an undercurrent of...something. Perhaps it’s the attitude that he can take you or leave you. All this to say, if all it took for him to dump you was that one little comment, you were wasting your time.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 11:19 PM
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Let me translate: “ I can say whatever I want to you, then stonewall so I don’t have to be accountable for it, then twist things so that you feel like an asshole for even bringing it up again while still not being accountable”. Fixed that for you. You will never be heard in this relationship.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 09:14 PM
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I do see the issue. Sweeping conflict under the rug is a red flag. What would make me leave would be the drinking. BIG red flag. I’ve had dates who become different people when they’ve had a few beers. Seems like this is when the mask slips and the caring boyfriend who listens to you now minimizes whatever you say. Good for you on seeing the flags.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 07:35 PM
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Yes, I consider it a red flag. I’m sure his next thought is “she plans, so it’s her turn to pay”. We do not pay on dates.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 01:04 AM
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He sounds like he might be autistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:34 AM
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When my ex husband proposed, I thought I was happy but what I really was was anxious as fuck. I would go to sleep and wake up around 2am with my stomach in knots and get up to vomit. My mind was ignoring all the red flags, but my body was screaming about them. Yes, I married him anyway and it was horrid. Horrible man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:37 PM
20

Geez, at least buy her an adult coloring book, crayons and some snacks for when she (inevitability) starts feeling bored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:44 PM
65

Yes, I loved them both. They were best friends. We lived together for just under a year, all in our mid twenties at the time. Romantically it was lovely for a time. They both lavished me with attention and got a special thrill by taking me out in public, both holding my hands and kissing on me. We certainly got the side eyes from other people. I had sex with them both together and separately. one was a better lover than the other and I found myself wanting to sleep with him more because he reall…
/r/askFDS28/11/20 03:46 AM
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I’ve been in a mwm poly relationship. While in theory it should be wonderful, the reality is that it’s a lot of work sexually. Also, even with two men,It’s still doesn’t guarantee an orgasm for the woman every time. I went right back to monogamy as soon as that was over.
/r/askFDS28/11/20 01:35 AM
1

From what you say, your bf is adding nothing but stress and insecurity to your life. He is putting no energy into your relationship. You might want to try a little experiment. Go dark. Don’t text him, message him or let him know when you’re online. See how long it takes for him to notice you’ve pulled out. If it’s more than a couple of days, I think it says volumes about where you stand in his list of priorities and you can decide at that point whether it’s still enough for you or not.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 07:38 PM
15

Honey, you need a wife!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:45 AM
62

Interestingly, home improvement stores work exactly the same way as grocery stores with the labeled aisles, but the don’t have a problem there, do they..?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:45 AM
78

You ask a man for comfort and he can only think of what you do for him, not that your LIFE might be in danger. He does not care about you. Block and delete.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 05:39 AM
3

Actions do speak louder than words. Listen with your heart.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 12:36 AM
14

Always some scrote that thinks they’re going to knock you down a peg. No response is the best response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:14 PM
32

He cheated, so he lost you. Cause and effect. Consequences of his actions. You didn’t victimize him, he victimized himself. You are not responsible for his pain. You’ve blocked him so you’re done.
/r/askFDS23/11/20 10:57 PM
15

Because white women are ALWAYS believed.🤡😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:41 PM
83

I’m there with you. When I was young anal was something only gay men did. Choking, facials, spitting, dEStrOyiNg PuSsY, gaping and other depravity wasn’t even on the radar. I fear for society with people’s current inability to connect emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 11:05 PM
92

Please, please believe him when he says that it will happen again. All men DO NOT do this. It is disrespectful af to do this when you’re sitting right in front of your girlfriend. Believe me, if he disrespects you in this way he will do it in other ways too. My ex husband thought it was his god-given right to check out every woman who crossed his path whether I was there or not. When I told him it wasn’t cool, he fought me tooth and nail with “yOu DOn’T OwN mE! YOu’rE sO inSeCuRE!” I wasn’t at a…
/r/askFDS16/11/20 11:21 PM
23

That would have made my vagina snap shut to him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 07:03 PM
14

The thinking from the women who saw you with your friend was that you are already with a lady so you’d not be sniffing around for pussy, therefore were safe to have a pleasant chat with.
/r/seduction16/11/20 07:00 PM
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I’m taking Covid as an opportunity to do just that ! I’ve not dyed my hair with permanent dye since last December, so I have a good 5-6 inches grown out. I actually love it, as my signature style includes lots of sterling silver jewelry and jewel tones that look wonderful with grey hair. Bonus: Buying more sterling with the money I save not going to the salon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:37 AM
8

And your standards did exactly what they were meant to do; chase away the LVM and keep you from accepting less than your value. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:21 AM
9

Oh yes, and the tantrum thing when you say you don’t want sex (getting up and leaving when denied is a tantrum) also reiterates that he is in the relationship because of what he can get. Somehow you manage to not throw yourself out of the car when he doesn’t hold your hand; leaving because he can’t use you sexually tells you exactly what your importance to him is.
/r/askFDS15/11/20 07:02 PM
24

If touch is something you know you need and after asking him for it he still doesn’t deliver, chances are very high that he never will. It’s not that he doesn’t know how, it’s just not important enough to him to make a lasting change. This says a lot about his intentions toward you. If doing something as simple for you as holding your hand isn’t something he can remember to do, he is just not invested in your relationship. Use this knowledge to adjust your expectations of him and perhaps make th…
/r/askFDS15/11/20 04:50 PM
15

“I always enjoy chatting with you, but I have some chores/homework/exercise I need to get to. Talk later?”
/r/askFDS15/11/20 05:42 AM
40

Right? And this is the “next level” above pump-n-dump. Don’t just use a woman for a night when you can go on to use her AND her friends indefinitely! LVM truly have no souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:22 AM
41

Jean Luc Picard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 04:17 AM
10

He spoke about her in such a condescending and arrogant manner, there was no fucking way I was going to let his shitty attitude slide by without a good spanking. Honestly, I was very turned on by his good looks (much better than his photos) at the beginning of the date, but by the end I could not get away from him fast enough. Yeah, I guess I was supposed to cluck and empathize with his crazy ex tale, but all it did was piss me off because he told me everything I needed to know about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:39 AM
16

I hope it does! You can be sure his ex rarely gets a good night’s sleep being the single parent of three babies, so he doesn’t deserve to sleep either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:46 PM
83

This! I went on a date (Pre-FDS) with a movie-star good looking guy who I found had 3 kids with his ex girlfriend and an on-off relationship with her. He told me all about how cRaZY she was and a loser, etc.. I sat silent and just let him go on about her. As he spoke negatively about the mother of his children, those good looks faded away replaced by a nasty, disgusting scrote. When he finished, I said, “So you have the first child with this woman, fight all the time, decide she’s crazy, break u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:55 PM
9

Aren’t they the most put-upon manbabies? 🎻 They need some Pepto Bismal for all that bellyaching !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:01 AM
10

I agree. It’s like the price of admission and they think it gets them in the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 06:27 AM
13

My husband does this too. Married for 20 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:47 PM
12

Size Queen energy!💪🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:14 PM
16

JFC dude, boil some pasta, throw a can of marinara and some parm on it and call it good! My special needs son can do it; why can’t you?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:02 AM
31

Years ago my then- boyfriend took the initiative to plan my entire birthday. First there was a boat ride to Catalina Island where we spent the day doing fun, touristy things. Then dinner at one of the restaurants there. When we got home, he handed me a card that had the first clue to a treasure hunt he made up for me. Each clue led to a small gift that had the next clue attached. The final clue let to a beautiful bracelet that I’d eyed months before when we were out shopping. It was a total surp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:14 PM
2

I’m sure you’re right, that there was in her mind going to be some kind of punishment if she didn’t do what he wanted, when he wanted. Admitting that he specifically went into the kitchen to pick a fight when she was cleaning up the meal she made for HIS friends; how is that even reasonable even if she weren’t ill? That admission right there says he is an abusive POS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:30 PM
22

Not trying to victim blame at all, but Holy crap girl, grow a spine!! When she came home feeling like shit is when she should have advocated for herself and said, “I’m afraid if we can’t reschedule you’re going to need to order take-out to feed your friends. Im going to be in bed because I’m sick as a dog.” The wife appliance should have taped an Out Of Order sign on her forehead and gotten in bed! We women are so used to putting ourselves last that we forget that NO is a complete sentence. NO, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:53 AM
194

And who has cause all of these men’s woes? Society = Other men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 07:57 PM
13

No matter how this ends up, his behavior was very sweet and empathetic.❤️Also, I’m terribly sorry for your loss.😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 09:56 PM
21

I agree. To me, he always looks like he smells like onions and old cheese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:37 AM
40

Sorry sis, Bill Clinton did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:45 AM
3

If a date opened with politics and wanted to debate I’d be all, “Gee, look at the time; I have laundry to do..” Bye.
/r/seduction06/11/20 03:54 PM
1

It is not worth it. A first encounter is not the time to do this as you’ve not established anything for her to compete/be jealous for. She might just say to herself “He’s seeing someone yet flirts with my friends and I. Dude’s a player; no thanks.” Women are wise to triangulation.
/r/seduction06/11/20 05:24 AM
87

Hey, we’re here to satisfy the male gaze; remember? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:26 AM
14

What a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:27 PM
22

Since he said this publicly and she still sticks around, it’s hard for me to feel too bad for her. She knows beyond a doubt where he stands and yet still holds out hope that he will somehow do a 180 and give her what she wants if she just hangs in there. Sis, if he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 02:44 PM
23

In my opinion, new girlfriends should be vetted just as hard and long as men. I just got screwed by this myself with a new friend whom I now realized I trusted way too fast because she made all the right noises. Lesson learned.
/r/askFDS05/11/20 03:25 AM
162

This is what my exNVH said when I told him we’d be divorcing. “YoUrE jUSt gOInG tO trAsH EvERyThInG WEvE bUiLt?!” At that point we had bought a small house with money I had saved and a small inheritance I’d received. It needed work which he didn’t want to do or pay for, so it was up to me to take care of. We had built nothing together. It was all me and my efforts. I made a deal to take reduced child support if I could keep the house and being terrified of the horror stories he’d heard re child …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:24 AM
10

Is she Gladys Knight with her Pips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:26 AM
58

This is a Low Value Man. He videos himself having sex with a woman, sends it to friends then keeps it on his phone for five years? After he’s married? No. Just no. Fuck no. At the very least this is some sort of trophy. At most it’s a careless sign of him having a secret life. While the video would not indicate positively that he’s cheating now, I would have to dig around to see what’s what. Your gut is telling you somethings up. Don’t ignore it like you did the other red flags.
/r/askFDS04/11/20 04:37 AM
103

And pay for them yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:40 AM
67

I was married to this guy. My response after 10 years of being told he had no attraction to me because I was old was to cheat on him with a guy younger than him who thought the sun shined out my ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:49 PM
7

If you’re going to make something for somebody it should be something that you’re halfway good at. I teach knitting and it never ceases to amaze me when students take their first lesson in October, and suddenly everyone on their Christmas list is going to receive a hand knit scarf. Look Karen, that three inches you just knitted is full of holes and dropped stitches; you should probably become proficient at this before forcing crap on other people! But I guess when your hobby is gaming, you don’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:48 AM
123

This! I went on a date (Pre-FDS) with a movie-star good looking guy who I found had 3 kids with his ex girlfriend and an on-off relationship with her. He told me all about how cRaZY she was and a loser, etc.. I was silent and just let him go on about her. As he spoke, those good looks faded away replaced by a disgusting scrote. When he finished, I said, “So you have the first child with this woman, fight all the time, decide she’s crazy, break up and move out, then somehow figure it’s a good ide…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 07:16 PM
2

Women are tired of dudes just wanting to get their dicks wet. It devalues them as people. It shows no respect for the fact that there is a lot more risk in casual sex for women. Hookup culture has peaked.
/r/seduction02/11/20 03:35 PM
137

The beauty industry is worth hundreds of millions of dollars annually. If we were all happy with ourselves it wouldn’t survive. So it behooves them to peddle the lie that there is something wrong with us just for existing as women and successfully changes the playbook every decade so that the newest crop of teens can be indoctrinated in the self- hatred needed to keep the industry wildly profitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 06:43 AM
17

Go no contact and tell your mother why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:21 AM
176

This laughably says so very much more about who MIchael Bay is than Megan Fox. Sounds like she wouldn’t let him in her pants...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:57 AM
7

Show some class. Take her to a motel.
/r/seduction01/11/20 05:08 AM
11

Doesn’t it work that way for everybody? I didn’t realize good manners were a race thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:20 AM
17

It’s great that they tried getting that vintage look, but the fact that all up-to-the-minute modern cars were everywhere in the outdoor shots left me with a head tilt...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:02 AM
7

Can I get an A-men!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:39 PM
49

Yeah, clapping back at him like that the next day really helped ease being dumped as did his 😢sad face over getting “his watch” repossessed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:42 PM
175

I recall saving for months to buy my college boyfriend a vintage pocket watch for his birthday ($$$) among a few other smaller, nice items. He opened the watch last and was absolutely over the moon about it. Three hours later he broke up with me. The next day we were at school, he was standing around with a few of his friends showing them the watch. At that moment, I walked up to him and asked for the watch back, saying it was classless to accept an expensive gift from a person you’re about to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:52 PM
3

On the bright side, having to care for a child full time when he’s not at work will keep him from going out and making any more unwanted children with some unsuspecting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:33 PM
3

I may be rare, but when I had my son it took about six weeks after the birth for me to bond with him in the way we’ve always been led to believe happens. Up until that point I could have adopted him out with no regrets and never looked back. And I was in a marriage with a man I loved. I can absolutely understand why this woman did what she did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:28 PM
7

Methinks this might be satire.
/r/seduction30/10/20 05:02 AM
13

He had neither. It was all him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:03 AM
26

My exLVH was this way as well until I divorced him and dropped his son at his apartment every Friday afternoon until Sunday afternoon. THEN he figured out how to take care of his kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:31 PM
8

Because all women exist to be objectified! Witness the existence of granny porn. 80 year old women giving bj’s and receiving anal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:22 PM
61

A HUGE impact!🍆🥖🦴🌭 (Sorry, couldn’t resist..)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:16 PM
12

I grew up in a time before plastic surgery was common and nothing came between Brooke and her Calvin’s. I did not have the ideal WASPy flat ass nor was I tall and slender. Buying clothes sucked, being put down for my shape sucked. Now I’m old, and have the exact body shape of the day; extreme hourglass with a projecting bust and ass/ tiny waist. Young men hit on me in public with weird frequency and it alarms both me and my equally old husband who has witnessed this. We both believe it is my bod…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:54 PM
1

Not sure what this has to do with feeling safe in the bedroom with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 11:47 PM
8

Although this is not something FDS recommends, I do think this has some value with regard to helping you move on. There is just something about being able to have the last word and letting the person who hurt you know that you know they treated you poorly and they didn’t just slip it by. In other words, calling them out on their shit. This is not an opportunity to try and revive this dying relationship; no begging or asking why, etc. Just the acknowledgement that you see what he’s doing, that yo…
/r/askFDS25/10/20 08:00 PM
94

A HVM does not ghost. When given an opening as you gave, a HVM breaks up with you properly, not simply ignore you. What you had was a LVM whose HV mask finally slipped. He is seeing someone else and wants to keep you as an option until he sees how things shake out with the other interest. At this point, save yourself any humiliation of him trying to keep you on a second string and block & delete. I’m sorry you caught feels, but pull them back consciously. Yes, it’s going to hurt for a time. Trea…
/r/askFDS25/10/20 05:31 PM
25

I really hope you didn’t go back for more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:01 AM
72

If it was staged, why in the world would she participate in this? If my boyfriend asked me to do this I would say hell no and ghost!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:51 PM
10

💩?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 11:13 PM
13

Jeffrey B. Tuggin 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:46 PM
57

This would be the end of the relationship for me. Time is the one resource humans have that cannot be replaced and anyone who wastes my time carelessly like this dude is gone. I’ve ended friendships for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:03 PM
38

That IS something that Aniston said about Pitt in an interview; that he seems to be missing the empathy gene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:37 AM
5

Player and womanizer mean “Male slut” to a woman. Maybe guys care less about that (fucking easy girls), but women don’t like it and are more likely to avoid a man they perceive as that.
/r/seduction20/10/20 03:56 AM
8

You use it as medicine; not irresponsibly or recreationally. As such, I don’t think it’s anyone’s business but your own just as would anything else in your medicine cabinet be. Just because you’re dating a man doesn’t mean he has to know every little thing about you down to your medications. You’ve already seen what problems it can create when you don’t keep that kind of information about yourself private. People can be judgmental about cannabis without understanding that everyone who uses it is…
/r/askFDS20/10/20 02:31 AM
1

Use reverse psychology. Tell him you don’t love him anymore and you need space. Don’t return his texts or calls. Ghost him. It will drive him nuts to see that suddenly all the energy/attention you’ve been giving him is gone. Men want what they can’t have.
/r/seduction19/10/20 05:59 PM
5

The right HVM will stay. ETA: Since when are church ladies fortune tellers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:48 PM
69

“It’s not that I can’t find a man, I’m simply not looking for one.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 05:40 AM
82

Oh yes, he should lose his license for the way he behaved with you. My bestie has a similar story in that her therapist suggested she become a prostitute/call girl to deal with her daddy issues, “take control of her sexuality”. He actually set up an interview for her with a Madam of a brothel. She worked there for almost a year. This was about 20 years ago before I knew her. These are men in positions of trust. I have to wonder if the therapist got some kind of “finders fee” for this.
/r/askFDS19/10/20 02:14 AM
122

I booted my LVex and on the way out he made some comment like “Good luck finding another man who will want you and your retarded kid”. This was our special needs son he was speaking of. 18 months later I was engaged to an HVM who, on his own, took classes so he could understand the challenges of having an autistic child with moderate mental retardation. We’ve been married for 20 years. My husband gave my son and I everything and completely considers him his own child. LVex lives in another state…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:05 AM
8

YOU DON’T GET A FUCKING OPINION, SCROTE!! 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:17 AM
14

THIS!! My life is so much better for learning and implementing this principle! Walking out on Terminator 4 and my shit first marriage spring to mind, both testament to the idea of cutting your losses immediately when you realize this shit just is not gonna get any better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:44 AM
4

I know this story. It does not end well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:28 AM
30

My husband, his stepfather, deserves all the credit; I will pass along your compliment!. HV men train their charges to be HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:52 AM
29

This was in late February, just before the lockdown, so a bit early to be Covid related. His starting to bend down was his natural inclination and he seemed to consciously choose to override it, for whatever reason. I would love to be able to make some kind of excuse for him as well, other than him just choosing to be a little bitch. Edited to add: The ONLY reason I can think of that this behavior would be reasonable is if he, upon bending slightly, had just inadvertently shit himself and needed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:44 AM
107

My son is 25, autistic and moderately mentally retarded but still high functioning. He and I were in the grocery store; he was about 20 feet away from me getting the snacks he wanted and I was gathering a few things up in my arms. It started to get a bit awkward for me with my purse and other items, and a can of soup slipped out of my arms and fell on the floor. A man of approximately 40 was right next to me. He started to bend down to pick up the soup for me AND SUDDENLY CAUGHT HIMSELF, straigh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:39 PM
42

I have as well. Big, buff athlete. 6’3”. Dick maxed out at 5” with no real girth. He was a mediocre lover as well, when if he had any self awareness at all should have known he needed to step up his game to make up for the small D. Nope. I’m not proud of having ghosted him after the second time we had sex, but could not bring myself to tell him his dick was just too small.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:20 PM
23

Sweetheart, if he never took you out do you really think he was going to pony up for your tuition and a house? There is a thing called future-faking where the LVM talks and talks about trips he’s going to take you on, things he’s going to buy/pay for for you, how great your life together will be. See, that’s why we don’t listen to their words, but pay close attention to their actions. If you don’t see their actions backing up their words, you can pretty much count on the fact that they’re full o…
/r/askFDS11/10/20 06:06 PM
11

That’s an oxymoron right there. If a man cheats he cannot be loyal by definition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:17 PM
8

Little dick energy. Taking his teaspoon of power and trying to drench you in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:03 PM
71

Women feel fear when they hear a man yelling. Their instinct is to flee because there is no telling what a man will do if he escalates. Men just don’t get this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:58 AM
17

As am I, especially now that I’m letting my hair go grey; it’s a relief actually ( both the hair and the cloak of invisibility). However, my husband doesn’t treat me like her POS spouse either. He makes me feel beautiful and desirable which is what people in marriages are supposed to do for each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:19 PM
6

“I would say we’re acquaintances, not actually friends. Why do you ask?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:14 AM
32

Pot metal and plastic “stones”. For a marriage proposal. Seriously dude? At $100 this was way overpriced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:24 PM
20

I’ve been in business for myself for 20 years. The only thing I use Social media for is promotion. Period. And still I get strange men trying to follow me on Insta and Facebook, sending flirty DMs. Dudes, fuck off unless you want to buy something; I’m workin’ here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:02 PM
19

I have to say, it is shocking just how much porn completely ignores the existence of the clit. Hours upon hours of PIV and anal but don’t touch or lick that clit! No wonder all these pornsick dudes are bad in bed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:16 PM
13

Same. That is a piss poor percentage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:38 PM
11

Right? I am unable to reach orgasm in a car and I don’t know any woman who can, so why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:56 PM
1

In ten years the internet will spit this back in her face and she will feel the cringe-y embarrassment that we are all feeling for her right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:58 PM
8

“Sweet nothings” are exactly that. They sound sweet, but actually mean nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:41 AM
1

I agree and that is simply the bottom line. I don’t hear anything in your description of her that says she is a friend worth keeping. You can always make a list of the pros and cons of keeping her. That usually proves rather eye opening when one list is longer than the other.
/r/askFDS03/10/20 02:35 AM
14

-My home being used for a crash pad. -The insensitivity for my mental illness. The lack of apology for the insensitivity. The fact that all we have in common anymore are some mutual friends and the past. -The jealousy of my dating life. Already backing off because she can’t be trusted not to throw details of my life in my face. The wanting to flop at my place during Covid, showing she has as little care for my health as she does her own. Need I go on? This is all LV behavior and if we’re levelin…
/r/askFDS02/10/20 07:55 PM
13

If it were me, I would seriously consider ending this “friendship”. It Doesn’t sound like she adds any sort of value to your life and hanging onto friendships that are based on past history becomes tedious at some point.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 07:35 PM
2

My ex used to say that they are “diFfeRenT” sexually. I didn’t even ask what that was supposed to mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:42 PM
10

Thank you; yes it was over 20 years ago so I’m over it and now in a marriage where my HV husband thinks the sun shines from my ass. I guess it took scraping the bottom of the barrel to wake up and refuse to accept NVM treatment. I’m so sorry you went through something similar. Ugh. BTW, my ex never apologized, didn’t think he did anything wrong. “wELL i’M mARriED tO YOu, AReNt I? I’M mARriED, nOt DeAD!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:32 PM
10

Thank you. It was an awful, emotionally abusive relationship and I eventually divorced him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:17 PM
17

This is exactly my story, except I was 27 and married to the redhead fetishist. One time we got together with two couples for drinks, one we’d never met. The woman in that couple was a red head and also a LINGERIE MODEL, about 5’10” and drop dead gorgeous. To my horror, my husband absolutely threw himself at her with flirting, compliments and practically crawling into her lap. She loved it and totally embraced that bullshit, flirting hard and heavy right in front of both my self and her husband,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:30 PM
16

If she ever questioned his feelings for her, now she knows without a doubt that he does not love her or care about her well being. Let the axe fall; block, delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 11:24 PM
8

My exLVH said repeatedly that I looked like a tick that was getting ready to drop off a dog., a pretty disgusting visual. I thought I was quite lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:29 PM
15

See sis, this is why FDS recommends dating several men at a time. This way you don’t get overly sprung on any one of them and none of them get all of your emotional energy. If one of them acts up and becomes less attentive or shows LV traits, you simply boot him out of your rotation. I did this when I was young and single and it really does work. This method gives you the power to make very rational choices about who you spend your precious time with and also keeps you from getting more and more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 05:22 AM
4

According to my therapist mocking, sarcasm and mimicking are also abusive. All designed to humiliate.🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:18 PM
7

“DaTE iS SuCH A seRiOuS WoRd!” So is NEXT...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:29 AM
29

Oh my god, how horrible sis! Was that dude 12? What a clueless POS!! I’m so, so outraged for you 🤬👹!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 05:15 AM
156

“I’m not much of a drinker, but dinner would be lovely”. Since a couple of rounds of drinks are monetarily equal to Thai or Chinese food, there should not be an issue if you want to eat rather than drink. The only reason a man insists on a drink date would be to get you in a state where it would be possible to have sex with you. If he declines to buy you dinner, you can decline to date him.
/r/askFDS28/09/20 08:53 PM
4

She means if men were like women, that would be the definitive way of handling their communications. That’s how I handle texts from friends. However, they are not like women or friends. She is very, very naive to think so and I’m betting she’s been shit on plenty because of it. Wake up, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:19 PM
12

Agreed. I’m honestly a bit surprised at all the diminishing comments. Clearly this dude is not one who knows his way around a kitchen, yet stepped out of his comfort zone to please his partner. Not once, but multiple times even though he failed the first few attempts. That isn’t nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:35 PM
7

Hence the OP’s appropriate response to that kind of bullshit laziness. If women stop responding to low effort, men have no choice but to up their game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:04 AM
56

It’s not just young women who are getting sucked into online-only relationships and falling in “love”. A dear friend of mine went through a divorce a few years ago and started online dating. We are in the US and somehow she started talking to a man in Australia. They began a “relationship”. He talked about coming to the US to meet her. Talked about sending for her to come there and marry him. She was heavily wrapped up in this dude and actually told her boss that she would be moving to Australia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:10 AM
117

Complimenting a woman’s looks has become a reflex for men. It’s what they say to get a foot in the door. It’s old and tired, not really worthy of a thank you. Scrote, if you must compliment us on something visual make it about something we have control over like an interesting piece of jewelry we’re wearing or our nice leather backpack. Personally, I’d find a compliment on my taste much more genuine that “hey beautiful “. It shows they’re paying attention rather than just lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:53 AM
21

I give them two years and one or the other will be screaming all over social media about their marital cheating drama. Meanwhile, you will have moved on, leveled up and be navigating your new HV relationship and enjoying a little schadenfreude from your back row seat🍿. Karma is a tasty, tasty bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:08 AM
8

I agree with you. It is the HV response to LV behavior. The subtext being “you may be a tightwad and think your behavior will drag me down to your level, but I am a Queen and nothing you do or say will make my crown slip because you are just not that important.” If you have done the work and leveled up you are not wearing any mask, you are wearing a crown and it comes off for no one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:45 PM
1

I’ve read Tarot for many years and interestingly have found that the men who are into it are REALLY into it. I have two clients who are men who will not make a move in business without a reading first. That’s not to say that that is the only advice they use to determine what direction to take, but one tool in their arsenal. That said, it is mostly women who want readings and mostly their love life they want to know about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:42 PM
84

Fortunately, I don’t have any friends who act like this scrote. My friends and I take turns picking up the check. I’d certainly not be friends with anyone who was so petty they want to SPLIT THE TAX!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:41 AM
27

Not gonna lie, it’s hard. You have bonded emotionally with this person and those bonds are hard to break. Even if you had been the one to break up you’d still be feeling terrible right now. Be very, very kind to yourself for the next few days. If your best friend was going through a breakup like this, what would you do for her? I would buy my friend flowers and some nice bath salts, take her to a 🍿movie, give her a fresh journal and new pretty pen to write out her feelings. Ask her to list all t…
/r/askFDS26/09/20 04:30 AM
26

Don’t for get the photos of guys flipping off the viewer. So offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 03:14 AM
9

Wow. That pair on the right. Crotch rot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:30 AM
152

Oh yeah, this was absolutely a test. He knew what he was doing; he didn’t “forget”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:23 AM
22

I’ve been lurking over at r/pornfree watching guys waking up from the porn-induced haze and working on breaking their addiction and I have to say, it is heartening. The descriptions of the depression, the sense of time wasted and the lack of real connection with the women in their life shows self-examination and awareness. There may be hope for these scrotes yet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:17 PM
45

My husband was like this and it was a big fucking deal whenever he would grill. I got tired of asking and the drama that came with it, so I went on YouTube and learned how to do it myself. This summer I grilled a ton of chicken, Tri tip, London Broil and salmon. Also asparagus, corn and broccoli. The house didn’t get heated up and I didn’t have to wash a bunch of pans so cleanup is nothing. How come there is no drama when I grill?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:06 AM
53

“Never get the chance”. The chance to what? Pumpndump? Drag a woman down? Leave her humiliated and unsatisfied? Gaslight her into mental illness? Make her a single mother? This is one of the stupidest posts I’ve ever seen. If you were worth fucking, we’d certainly be fucking you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:56 AM
7

After seeing how the gym’s assistant manager was stuck not knowing what to do with the information I was able to give her, there was no way I was going to go to the police with a hearsay conversation that I was eavesdropping on. I’m really not sure that anybody could’ve done anything about it without more details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:59 PM
18

Yes, I told the assistant manager who was a woman, but I’m ashamed to say I didn’t do so until the following day. She asked if I’d heard the name of the person that was being victimized and I had not. The best I could do was describe the guy who I thought was #1; I never saw guy #2 at all. I was afraid to look at them as I was walking away with my friend, did not want to give any sign that I’d overheard their convo. I don’t know if anything ever came of it but I doubt it due to the lack of detai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:45 PM
79

Well, I surmised that guy #1 had been victimizing guy #3 this way for a while, so I wouldn’t say he’s completely oblivious. I really hope guy#2 refused the offer to become a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:53 AM
17

It’s ok, she will learn what a fools errand this was when he yells at her for touching his shit and doesn’t even thank her for the food. Sometimes we just have to touch that hot stove...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:15 AM
69

Yeah, notice that she doesn’t post the video of his delighted reaction upon seeing his clean room and his grateful appreciation for her time and effort in doing this for him. Because clearly it doesn’t exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:10 AM
90

I think a pickme has to hit her rock bottom and actively WANT to find another way before she can open herself to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:38 AM
6

Yeah, I was married to that. Was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:26 AM
11

Your father should have explained to you that while older men seem like they are being nice, their intentions aren’t usually nice and you need to be very careful of them. Dad was a buffoon who shit all over an important teachable moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:06 AM
10

Genetics! My dad was short and plump and So am I. He always negged me about it and helped me feel like shit about myself until I realized I was built exactly like him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:52 PM
60

There is that fear that if we do finally get men to express their emotions, all we will find is that they have the depth of a birdbath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:31 PM
3

I love her even more after reading that; she’s so badass!💪🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 11:01 PM
39

“I’m IdeNTiFyINg aS a wOmAN tODay!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:05 PM
59

This is a painful, brutal lesson dear, but you are doing the right thing. Alcoholism is no joke and you will never be an alcoholic’s first love. You will never be able to trust him or rely on him. He will always be more of a burden than a pleasure. He will embarrass you in front of family and friends. You will be judged by others for his behavior. There will never be true clarity in your relationship because the goalposts will always be moving. Nothing will ever be his fault. He will be selfish …
/r/askFDS19/09/20 03:25 AM
42

Yes there are. I have a friend who was seeing a LVman in his FORTIES. They were getting intimate one evening. She goes to blow him and catches a whiff of shit coming from behind his balls. She tells him To go take a shower. He comes back from the shower and his junk is clean, but she is still smelling shit. So she says to him “did you wash your ass?” And he squeamishly admits that he did not because it’s gay. She said it was like turning off a light switch for her. Her attraction for him evapora…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:24 PM
6

Well, he certainly got the fun back for her didn’t he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:21 PM
16

Yeah, I hope he’s stuck watching two toddlers and all that entails while she’s dressed up, out on a wonderful date having some good food then great sex! Be careful what you wish for, scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:02 PM
20

It’s ok. You slipped and you saw what it got you. Now promise yourself that you won’t fall back into that behavior. Be your own best friend. Take yourself to the library and find some great books to read. Take up Embroidery and decorate your panties. Buy some little snacks to treat yourself with when you’re done studying. Learning to comfort and treat yourself well will keep you from going backward and trying to get comfort from outside yourself. This is a valuable life skill that will serve you…
/r/askFDS18/09/20 03:57 AM
9

You don’t have to complain that he’s treating you poorly. He knows.
/r/askFDS18/09/20 03:34 AM
41

I completely agree! I have a friend who has been unemployed for a time and when her birthday rolled around I gave her $100 in cash to go replace some of her used up beauty items. She commented that she has rarely had a man be so thoughtful, which is a crime really because she is so HV. LVM really have such a low vibrational rate. The trickery, The cheapness, the lack of pride in themselves and their homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 11:37 PM
7

Is That yellowed sneer supposed to be a smile? shivers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:38 PM
13

Thank you for leaving him. Why do these walking garbage cans even bother us in the first place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:56 AM
21

As far as I know, he came over to the US in his mid 20’s to work in tech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:45 AM
57

A Caucasian friend of mine married an Indian man. They’ve been married for 30 years and she is very subservient to him. He corrects her constantly; it is disgusting to watch. They live in a 3 million dollar home, yet he expects her to pay for her own upkeep and they split the living expenses, utilities, groceries, etc. He gave her $75 as a 30th anniversary gift. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:34 AM
5

I will never forget my LVex husband walking through my parents living room on Thanksgiving Day while everyone was sitting around talking. He stopped, lifted one leg as if to take another step and cut a loud juicy fart, then kept walking. I wanted to fucking die. No one laughed, they all just looked at me. Even my gaseous dad was horrified. LV ex was indeed, a white guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:50 PM
61

Lazy is right! It’s usually them lying in a thrashed bed, holding up their dick in one hand, phone in the other. Usually with pj’s pulled down or worse, naked except for black socks. Extremely unappealing and 1000 miles from anything like sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:33 PM
30

Yes, women with small breasts are so shamed by society that they are encouraged have surgery to stick plastic bags under their skin and spend thousands to do it. Why don’t balding men go into debt to have hair plugs? Yes, they can’t help it, but it can be fixed with time, money and commitment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 06:15 PM
1

Let me help, please approve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:36 AM
13

These collages are brilliant. They dramatically illustrate what to watch out for when vetting the next man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:13 AM
5

Been there, married that. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:52 AM
5

So what does a marriage license cost these days? $100? Courthouse wedding, $200? Girl, if $300 is all that’s standing in your way, ain’t never gonna happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:33 PM
38

Agreed! My husband doesn’t use porn, never has. We saw a trailer for the movie “Cuties” on Netflix this weekend, and he was horrified and angry at the blatant, disgusting sexualization of the pre-pubescent girl’s in the film and called it pedo-bait. We cancelled our Netflix on the spot and let them know why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:54 PM
105

You’re not married till you’re married. If your man is serious about you HE KNOWS THAT and will do what it takes to assure that he doesn’t let another man sweep you away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:13 AM
13

The thing is, it would take very little effort for this guy to get in shape. But even that is too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:55 AM
32

But they’re already pigs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:39 AM
23

And vacuum cleaners!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:15 AM
14

Wow, you got that right. My pornsick ex LVH decided that sex every six weeks was plenty and after two years of that (and the sex getting stretched to every 8 or 10 weeks) I insisted we go to counseling. The male counselor said the problem was my “hounding” him for sex and that I needed to leave him alone and let him come to me. This gave the spouse carte blanch to completely ignore my sexual needs and over the next few years sex dwindled to once every 6-8 months. It was when he had not approache…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:50 PM
8

He was very confused at first, then he got pissed. I simply stopped “doing” for him. Stopped doing his laundry, buying his groceries, cooking, cleaning anything that didn’t benefit me only. Moved into the spare bedroom because he didn’t deserve the comfort of sleeping next to me. After two weeks, he confronted me angrily with lots of verbal abuse and threatened me with divorce. I had covertly seen an attorney and told him it was already happening and that he should look for a place to live. Obvi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 06:30 AM
5

Personally, Even if the marriage was a good one up to this point, this conversation would be the beginning of the end for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:31 AM
12

“Our culture brainwashes WOMEN to do 100% of the labor of keeping a relationship/marriage alive..” This.^ When I was getting ready to toss my ex LVH overboard, I just stopped. Stopped doing the physical and emotional labor of keeping the relationship going. It took TWO WEEKS for the whole damn thing to implode. He had no idea what to do, how to verbalize what was happening, how to pick up my slack. It really was confirmation for me that I was doing the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:20 AM
32

People don’t. Men do. There is no pussy involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:03 AM
21

Flame on!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:35 PM
17

They don’t care about women’s heartache. That would imply they have empathy for us and you KNOW that they honestly have no fucks to give. The above conversation totally demonstrates this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:58 PM
73

Right? Well, think about it... Until this forum, much of the abuse we suffered from LVmen was not openly spoken of. Most often it was kept within the confines of the relationship, or only whispered among trusted friends due to the shame factor. But here we are, out in the daylight telling almost 100k other women our stories, comparing notes and waking the fuck up. They can see the writing on the wall that cheap, easy pussy is about to evaporate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:05 AM
9

Yeah, I would love to divorce him again just because it felt so damn good! WRT my eye, when the skin tore it felt like literal crepe paper tearing so I now understand what all those skin experts are saying that the under eye area is so delicate. The doctor who sewed it up was great. He made sure to clean the little particles of mascara out of the opening before sewing up because he said it would always look like a dirty smudge and would drive me crazy if he didn’t. It took 5 very small stitches …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:39 AM
133

Years ago, my ex-husband and I were at home on a Sunday afternoon and one of our cats had gotten into something stinky so I decided to give him a bath. Foolishly, I was holding the cat in my lap and reached over to turn on the tub. He flipped out and climbed my face to get away from the water, opening up an inch and a half gash in the delicate skin underneath one eye. The ex-husband refused to take me to the emergency room saying it was Sunday and he deserved to relax on his day off from work. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 07:09 PM
50

I went to pick him up from his work one day when his car was being serviced and there she was with a big lunch tote beside her, just as he described. They worked as programmers in a very casual office environment, but I still couldn’t believe this was allowed. We also went to dinner at their home once. Her cooking was fabulous, but she didn’t say more than three words all evening. Her English was quite limited and she was very shy. She busied herself with serving. I got up to help with the dishe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:43 AM
53

Oh, but they can. I recall an LV boyfriend was so excited to tell me about a coworker of his who had gone over to Thailand and given the family of a young woman the equivalent of $1000 USD as her “bride price”. He married her there and brought her back to be his wife. She would come to work with him every day and sit quietly next to his desk. When lunchtime came, she would unpack a beautiful lunch for him, not eat any herself, then clean up. She would return to her chair and wait for him to fini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:10 AM
93

Truly, the day my divorce was final was to that point the happiest day of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 10:19 PM
8

Not always. I’ll give nice things away if I have no use for them and they’re in my way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:53 PM
6

I’ve never wanted flowers from a man because to me it’s a gift that says “here’s something beautiful but short lived...like our love”. It’s such a temporary gift. This frustrated my husband because he enjoys flowers in the house and I took his excuse to buy them away. So he planted me a cutting garden that blooms all spring and we have flowers in every room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:24 AM
14

I think sarcasm is just thisclose to emotional abuse. Thanks, ex LVH..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:04 PM
19

I find that men call you beautiful just to get their foot in the door. That statement has completely lost its value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 02:17 AM
94

Yeah, the wife had five years to do her research so she could be ready for the next time he did this to her. Well played, Ma’am...well played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:27 PM
58

Cute kid. Wise beyond his years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:38 PM
91

Anger, the default male emotion. Mofo receives further proof of what a loser he is when the ex is cruising in a new ride that she obtained on her own and he can’t even keep up his minimal child support. How about shame; that would be a more appropriate emotion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:58 PM
23

It’s called Taking the High Road.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:26 AM
29

One of the reasons I allowed myself to get serious about my husband was that he didn’t use porn and still doesn’t. He’s not into any bad habits like smoking, drinking to excess or ogling women in front of me. We have a nice vanilla sex life for that reason, and it’s just fine with me. This is a guy who would never THINK of asking for a threesome or anal or try to choke me when we’re having sex. He is a good, enthusiastic, generous lover even after 23 years together. That said, don’t ask about my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:40 PM
10

It’s just like buying a boat; you think that the day you buy it is the happiest day, but it doesn’t compare to the day that you sell that floating money pit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:31 PM
11

Right?! It felt so good divorcing my ex, I wanted to do it again just for the fun of it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:08 PM
4

That is insane. Right in front of everyone ‘s eyes and no one stopped him? WTF?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:02 PM
4

Wow!! Honestly, those gifts sound worse than no gifts at all. They make you face the truth about what a LVM moron you’re with. And they never learn to be better when you’d think they’d be horrified seeing how much this hurts you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:06 AM
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Oh, we were married to the same guy! My ex LVM husband consistently gave me nothing on birthdays and Christmas while my pickme self would give him several gifts. I got sick of it after the 4th year we were married and decided that from then on I was simply going to follow his lead. The next year in September he started talking about a rifle he wanted, presumably to give me enough time to save for and acquire his gift. He gave me lots of little details, even the name of the guy to ask for at the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:26 PM
42

He deserved what he got for being such an attention whore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:03 PM
7

I actually loved Deadpool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 02:24 AM
34

And so he continues to emotionally abuse you. Way to prove her wrong, scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:21 PM
58

This young man has some very female supportive posts on his Insta page. I hit follow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:50 AM
19

Hillary loves money and power. Bill was her ticket to that kind of life and she actually almost made it to the White House TWICE on his coattails. She doesn’t care about Lewinsky, rape allegations, The Epstein debacle, etc; those were just complications.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:25 PM
23

And if I might add, treat yourself extra special for your birthday. Don’t wait for someone else to remember and hopefully honor your day. You do it. Shop for you. Buy yourself a little cake. Schedule a facial or massage. I began doing this years ago when the latest LVM “forgot” my birthday yet again, as if treating me well one day a year was completely alien to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:36 PM
47

^ THIS!! Don’t give them the gun and trust them not to use it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:38 AM
65

Yes, I had a LV ex try to pull that with me. Trying to gain control by simply repeating verbatim the “script” of a previous breakup as I’d told it to him. It was so obvious what he was trying to do that it didn’t fool me for a second and I picked up my things and left (for good). He thought he was pulling some DREAD on me, but it was just secondhand negging. I was so insulted that he actually thought I wouldn’t recognize my own words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:35 AM
45

“he will see the effort you took out of your day and there will be reciprocity on his end.” No. No there won’t. Do not make the mistake of paying it forward with a LVM. They will screw you every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 11:28 PM
13

Just a little more food for thought: Women actually have no last names of their own. They take either their fathers name or husband’s name. If you try and circumvent this by taking your mother’s last name, it’s really your grandfathers name. We need our own names.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 08:20 PM
13

3.5 hours of driving to “hang”. He thinks she’s a pussy delivery service. N. O.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:52 PM
83

She looks delighted with her life...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:45 PM
5

Urban legend that I’ve read various versions of. Cash apps require log in info to use. How would a random woman bypass that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:00 PM
5

Be proud that you made the conscious decision to no longer put up with poor treatment and that the choices you make forevermore will be ones that benefit YOU first and foremost. That is some big shit right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:44 PM
17

Years ago, I dumped a good man because we wanted different futures. He swore he would never marry and I wanted children which I wasn’t going to do without a husband. So we were at an impasse. When he stated his position I knew that any more time spent with him was a waste and called it off. Although I was sad, I would have been sadder if I’d compromised what I wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:12 PM
5

You can bet that if there were a need for men’s DV shelters, they would already exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:38 PM
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