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Maybe.... maybe... You make a plan of your life. List the things you want to do, the things you do, the things you never tried... Entertain the idea of reaching that goals: how? What are the steps? Leave your comfort zone a bit. You haven't seen it all. You need a purpose for your life, something that defines you. You are smart. Gift yourself some experiences. Stop being boring to yourself.
/r/askTRP20/07/20 08:50 PM
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WTF? You were TEXTING? Shame on you. This girl has far better game than you. And seems a lot of fun. But she also may be a disrespectful bitch. You know how you know? You observe what they do not what they say. But alas, you cannot observe shit because instead of having some fresh air and laughts you are hamstering at home "gaming" a girl. What is wrong with you. Have some real life fun. Stop deprecating yourself. She was not disrespectful, just playful. At worst she could be your wingman, you h…
/r/askTRP20/07/20 08:11 PM
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The most alpha male celebrities on the planet, wanted by millions of women, do self deprecation regularly and are beloved for it. Oh, that is interesting. I am not really following "the most alpha male celebrities on the planet", is maybe something to learn there?. Since off the top of your head you mentioned so many of them... could you provide some example where they do that self-deprecation after receiving a compliment? Taking a compliment straight on is OK. But any other response can also be…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/20 11:43 AM
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Yeah let me enlighten OP (disclaimer:not lawyer advice) : this is not happening. You don't have the means to change international laws. You cannot change the environment of your children without the mother's permission, unless you get full custody or you are in a shitty country. Yes, you may kidnapp them, but in a few weeks/months they will be back with her and you will have a hard time with the laws (restraining orders, prison and fines, and btw losing contact and respect from your kids). Other…
/r/askMRP16/07/20 01:45 PM
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You se the deleted deleted? This is what these kind of "men" do.
/r/askMRP09/07/20 09:32 PM
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Nope nope. It might seem we are saying this, but alpha is just a trait. You need some beta sometimes. The problem is most guys that come here are so beta that they could not be alpha even if someone would accidentally put them in Valhalla. You can add these things you mention to your mission. Your happy family of two submissive bitches. Nobody has a saying in what you want. Just don't make it your mission. Your mission is YOU. These steps you mention you are changing to better yourself. The thin…
/r/askMRP09/07/20 09:18 PM
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Yes. Lift. Yes. Lots to learn. But your life is not so fucked up as it could be, imho. Take everything easy. It's not the Bible. You mention somewhere she is anxious about you cheating but doesn't give you the sex you want. I guess this requires further introspection, go to OYS and have conversations there. You asked somewhere about the goal. Discovering your potential as a man is the goal. Changing your mindset from searching validation in others to do things because you want to do them. Findin…
/r/askMRP09/07/20 07:53 PM
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Someone give this man a role as HBO writer. Other than that, if you want to change anything of this true story(tm) , read the sidebar, lift, and come to the weekly OYS to confess your sins. But don't expect any softer than this. Either you grow up or sink.
/r/askMRP09/07/20 06:06 PM
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What is not really clear to me is what do you want from your relationship. Pushing for a divorce, but mentioning in two occasions that "things" might work out and you don't discard it. That does not make sense, does it? You do you though... It's your life after all. I am just trying to help and missing the information to get a perspective. I want to take back the insults though (the swearing stays, for fucks sake! We swear three times every two words in my hometown). I don't know you or your jou…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 05:56 PM
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Congrats, cool recovery from a bad OYS. In life, I got everything I thought I wanted, but found it was all just external validation - wife, kid, house, degrees... there’s a difference between vanity and fulfillment. Don't be so hard on you. Probably you have been proud of these things as well. At least a few you did them for yourself, right? I make this reflection because the following: Have you ever read a disease symptoms list and started to think you have this desease? It is pretty common. We…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 09:56 AM
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Cool. The stay plan is the go plan. This is an attitude that helped many. Anyways, let me tell yo something... your stay plan sucks. Where the fuck is it, further than "it may work out buddie" thanks for the hug? Are you doing anything?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 09:24 AM
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I read some of your comments before, and have seen you trying to add perspective and focus in some OYS's, trying to help others. I appreciate that. That said, I will be a bit harsh now: what about trying to help YOU? Let me elaborate: Man your OYS is a piece of crap. You decided to use a "customized for myself yeah" structure... it really works for you as I see, right?. Start by doing this properly. Give the guys here the information they need to help you. Or to your future self. There is nothin…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/20 09:18 AM
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Little shit tests, comments trying to see if I would get pissed off. Get out of your wife's head. ​ I have been setting boundaries, bettering myself, not engaging in her depressive episodes, resetting every day, and all I have been thinking lately is that she is most likely never going to change. I do not want to go Rambo at this point, but that is probably my oneitis talking Keep going. This is not about her changing. It is about having a better YOU. You are still in the angry phase, and it is …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 03:39 PM
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OYS #9. Stats: Age: 46(m) 39(f) Together: 11 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 207lb BENCH:202lbs OH PRESS: 121lbs DEADLIFT: 238lbs, BARBELL ROW: 160 lbs, all at least x5 BF: 20% Reads and Audiobooks: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill, WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One, NMMNG, The Game, Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill, MRP Beginner's Guide for the Career Beta. The Mindful Attraction Plan (paused) Book of pook (paused) Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (current). TWOTSM (…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 02:01 PM
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I have seen quite a few post like this lately. Are we the fucking cosmopolitan now? The national statistics agency? Dude imho, own your shit ant take your own decisions, stop asking for recipes. If only you had a REAL question, like... you know... following the guidelines in the pinned post, that would be nice.
/r/askMRP28/06/20 05:58 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/20 07:33 PM
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I wish her good recovery. That said... (disclaimer: not a doctor) You know this is in most cases caused by a STD, right? Was it you, or Chad? I can find arguments for pussy drying both ways. Bring her to a fucking doctor, "she thinks" does not fucking sound as a diagnosis. And get tested as well, you bastard, before going in your validation carrousel, instead of bringing us your bullshit story ignoring the elephant in the room.
/r/askMRP20/06/20 07:57 PM
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That was a nice read. You are on the right path, and I like the mental status you are and the work and effort you have put in. Thank you for sharing, and enjoy being the captain of your life. I wish you the best for the future. Still, that is kind of normal, isn't it? Or is the normal thing to have ruined your life and yourself already before having kids or marrying? At this point, nexting puts you in ground zero for rebuilding yourself with no fucking consequences. Is red pill in easy mode. Whi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 11:44 AM
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Please go off keyboard. Don't DEER and argue with the people here. Not until you put some effort on yourself. Go for a walk. Take an OYS printing with you, and a copy of the "cut the shit" post in this sub. Buy couple of the recommended books right now. Switch off the phone. Make a plan on how to improve yourself. Write it down. Sleep over it. The beating part is misunderstood. I would never beat someone without a legit reason. Stop DEERing. This is the past. Now you control yourself. Better for…
/r/askMRP17/06/20 09:23 PM
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He may have been expressing himself in a "literature way", meaning he was somehow telling her "I told you, you are a bitch haha I was right look at the messages I was right me right you wrong bitch I got you I hate you but I am captain faggot be with me now would you be with me? I take you back". Otherwise I would have not done the effort. But let him talk for himself.
/r/askMRP17/06/20 01:02 AM
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I came here from MRP because you linked this. And man, you need to grow up. I know that's partially my fault because she lost all respect for me and thinks that im still the same guy who failed all her shit tests and allowed her to walk all over me. I also think you are still the same guy. You fucking say that she insults you and you lose your shit and call her a slut. Is that what you call "being mature"? When talking about your fucking children? Yeah you are so cool and red pill now. Some guys…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 12:47 AM
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Wow. Just wow. I hope I misunderstood some parts of this, like: I got upset and beated the shit out of her. That wasn't the only traumatic experience for me If it means what I think it means, you are lucky this woman did not fuck your life forever and you are not being ass-fucked in prison. That said, you are confused. You did not fuck up your life. You just need to grow up. First thing first, do not just take advice from internet strangers, specially if you are asking for recipes to apply to yo…
/r/askMRP17/06/20 12:12 AM
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I am also guilty of fuckarounditis, so I will give a try to answer your low effort shitpost, but don't expect kind words. I'll skip all the bullshit and cut straight to the question. I've read the sidebar, I'm not "Red Pill Aware" (the fuck?!?), my lifts suck ass and I'm a skinny fat faggot. But I'm owning my shit and working on it. Yeah, you have skipped all the bullshit for months. I saw one of your posts here 7 months ago. Still, no OYS, your lifts suck and you are a skinny fat faggot. And th…
/r/askMRP14/06/20 12:53 PM
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Thank you for your comment. You are right, I totally missed the comfort test in the middle of the storm and you read perfectly the situation. There was no meaningful boundary to set, and the reason for leaving without explanation was only a childish and angry "fuck you" because I could not deal with the emotional situation. Thinking on that, I was also influenced by reading "some" advice in "some" comments "some" time ago related to "do not tolerate bad behavior". I created a false "action plan"…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 12:25 PM
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"now rebuilding"... Bullshit. You are thinking on how beautiful your life with her would be "if only...". And this is the cause of your depression (disclaimer:no doctor here). You asked. You got your answer. Be a man and divorce her. Start a new life with all you have learnt.
/r/askMRP09/06/20 05:08 PM
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This. One. Million. Times. I could understand you would want to work on this for the kids. I could understand a complete life of being conditioned to have a structured family, the doubts, the fears. I am on that boat. And even then I am working on the go plan. Without kids? After she has been lying to you so many times? Think of any of your 20's girls. I am sure you were very emotional with them, that the breakups were hard. Do you ever have a second thought on them now? The answer is no. Divorc…
/r/askMRP09/06/20 05:01 PM
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Thank you for your comment. I believe I am not trying to win. I am getting better at shit tests, I default to STFU, or to change the topic, or I try Amused Mastery, or negative inquiry, or grab one of her boobs with a smile... in general everything goes fine and life continues, the boat moved a bit, I don't even remember one hour later. I think I have improved my OI. Other times, I do what you suggest, and yes, she jumps to my throat, she chews me up and down and pushes all buttons, and I am sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 03:47 PM
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OYS #8. Stats: Age: 46(m) 39(f) Together: 11 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 207lb BENCH:202lbs OH PRESS: 121lbs DEADLIFT: 238lbs, BARBELL ROW: 160 lbs, all at least x5 BF: 21% Reads and thoughts: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill, WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One, NMMNG, The Game, Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill, MRP Beginner's Guide for the Career Beta. Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. The Mindful Attraction Plan (not finished) Book of pook (not finished) Audioboo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 12:58 PM
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OYS #7. Stats: Age: 46(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 207lb BENCH:198lbs OH PRESS: 114lbs DEADLIFT: 229lbs, all x5 BF: 20. 8%. Read and thoughts: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links), need to reread. WISNIFG – Learnt a better way of communicating, I am not anymore the “conversation finisher”. Letting the hamster DEER is better than confronting it. MMSLP – Got horny just by imagining doing all the things there. Shit, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 09:35 AM
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Man I feel your pain. Many of us have been there. It will get better, really, just stop the inner dialogue and focus on the "now" . Start doing things. Whatever. Productivity will be shit until you start. Cut drugs and alcohol. This shit just postpone the thoughts, but you need to face them sober and let them go. Meditation helps. Go to the mirror and smile to yourself. It's gay but you like you, don't you? This motherfucker there has done a lot of things he is proud of, has had a lot of fun and…
/r/askMRP02/04/20 08:16 PM
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OYS #6. Stats: Age: 46(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:191lbs OH PRESS: 119lbs DEADLIFT: 220lbs, BARBELL ROW: 160lbs BF: 20. 5%. I see a shadow of abs, need to do some body recomp I guess. Read and thoughts: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links), WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One NMMNG - I understood I have been a nice guy for life. I learned to listen and to be more assertive during conversations. …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 09:50 AM
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OYS #5. Stats: Age: 45(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:1785lbs PRESS: 114lbs DEADLIFT: 198lbs, BARBELL ROW: 154lbs BF: 20. 5%. I see a shadow of abs, need to do some body recomp I guess. Read: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links), WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One NMMNG - I understood I have been a nice guy for life. I learned to listen and to be more assertive during conversations. Listen more. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 08:32 AM
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Thanks for the reflections, it is something I have doubted myself, and came to the conclusion that it is good advice to work on myself, no matter if it comes from her. We have three kids together. Otherwise I admit I would have nexted and followed being a career beta for the next woman. Been there, done that. I know now that kids need happy parents independently if they are together or not. I have explored all options. Yes, I do realize she wants the best man for her. I want it for myself. These…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 06:51 PM
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Just a tip about the CPAP machine. If you have your energy levels going down, give it a try. I have seen people (not obese people) feeling far more energized by that. It is noisy and you will probably disturb your partner with it. But the description of a close person regarding his energy levels was "It is like you were having a small car that could not speed in the highway and now you have a ferrary".
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 06:20 PM
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I know I know. I fucked up my complete OYS by closing the phone before sending and the content was vanishing. Then I wrote things again in a hurry and probably mixed sentences. It was not even 8 hours... 2 hours later I was again at it. And yes, I did not STFU completely, and it is a (fucking reality check) complete month! I still have to grab the concept. Let me elaborate: To put things in perspective, I did STFU. I did not engage most of the time, I listened carefully and without being emotion…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:52 PM
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I know. I just did it a few minutes ago again. Fixing me is the only way to go. Being totally unnatractive by showing all my insecurities is not the way. Fixing this (one thing at a time) is my short term goal. To your question: two affairs. The breaking point I discovered recently and other one years ago that she was confessing this days. That one vanished by itself it seems, without developing physically. Plus some hiding of things (like seeing old ex that she consider a friend on my back) bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 02:42 PM
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OYS #4. (fuck I lost it with the reddit app, need to use a different editor) Stats: Age: 45(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:176llbs PRESS: 88lbs DEADLIFT: 198lbs, BARBELL ROW: 132lbs BF: 20. 5%. I see a shadow of abs, need to do some body recomp I guess. Read: NMMNG, Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links), WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One. Reading: Book of pook, The Mindful Attraction Plan "Not just…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:51 AM
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Thanks. No, it would not be. You are right. It helps with the reflection that I do the things because they need to be done. Period.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/20 05:23 PM
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I will (at least compulsively like now). I am using it because I am overwhelmed with the situation. DEERing, I know, but it's as much as I can do now. A decade of building something and the wrong path I took while doing it has ruined my trust. Reducing is in the plan for this week. I will face my issues one at a time. First I need to overcome oneitis. And I have a mental breakdown everytime I think on that. Not sure what analogy to use in order to rationalize oneitis out of my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 12:07 PM
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OYS #3. Stats: Age: 45(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 180lbs SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:176llbs PRESS: 88lbs DEADLIFT: 198lbs, BARBELL ROW: 132lbs BF: 22%. I see a shadow of abs, still my scale says 22%. I have a lot of fat in my legs, need to do some body recomp I guess. Read: NMMNG, Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links), WISNIFG, MMSLP, The rational male Year One. Reading: Book of pook, The Mindful Attraction Plan Myself: I was skipping o…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 12:53 AM
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OYS 2. Drifting apart Stats: Age: 45(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 185lbs Diet: improving. SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:176llbs PRESS: 88lbs DEADLIFT: 198lbs, BARBELL ROW: 110lbs (changed a bit, will update next OYS) Read: NMMNG, Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links). Read everything before but learn as much a snail could learn if you leave a book next to it. Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP Myself: State of total awareness. All the time. I do…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 07:43 AM
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Thank you. That is the plan already. Got the gym membership and was there last night. Good idea about the audiobooks!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 02:07 PM
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OYS 1. Enough mrpfuckarounditis Age: 45(m) 39(f) Together: 10 years. 3 kids. Height: 5.9'; Weight: 185lbs Diet: shit. SQUAT: 198lb BENCH:176llbs PRESS: 88lbs DEADLIFT: 198lbs, BARBELL ROW: 110llbs Read: Steel's Guide to Married Red Pill (and down the rabbit hole on all links). Read everything before but learnt as much a snail could learn if you leave a book next to it. Reading: MRP Beginner's Guide for the Career Beta (current plan), NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP About me: Career beta to the point. Alas…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 12:00 AM
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