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MALE DEPRAVITYmtan15/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 10:35 PM
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mtan15/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:46 PM
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5

Jfc.... was the word dic meant to soften this insult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 12:42 AM
7

AMEN! I barely got a phone call from ex-inlaws
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 11:36 AM
35

I'd be at my mums quicker than he could blink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:32 AM
55

Yes! Write it every where♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:08 PM
29

Nope. How hard is it to leave the first time?? Now they know your boundary and they'll teeter it until your worn down again before crossing it. Never go back. Familiar is nice... only when it's a pair of socks....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:07 PM
8

I just want to laugh in his face..... 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 06:47 AM
24

But he's "not a mean person"...... uh, wtf? Yes he is! Run!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 11:48 PM
74

Faaaaark, watch the men cry about the free bleeding 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:59 PM
9

And this is why my lvx got himself a nanny 20 years younger than him and then convinced her to quit her job...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:23 PM
4

Basically wants to know where he can do to get his D$£k wet and wants to know if she'll come back if it's a mess. No sense cleaning it first I guess.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:18 PM
15

So beautifully written. Thankyou
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 02:52 PM
44

My ex covert narc had himself admitted to psych ward a few times only to be discharged very quickly when it didn't get the reaction he wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 11:28 AM
20

Same goes for honesty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:11 PM
27

Well they're so great at everything else, surely we're too incompetent to do what they can't. Why bother. 🤣 I like your style
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:10 PM
9

Mummy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:59 PM
4

Sadly, some girls will feel like they've won the lottery as they cross off these numbers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 08:59 PM
35

My jaw just hit the floor. I'm .... speechless. WTF is wrong with men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 11:51 AM
6

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:52 AM
19

Bye boi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:50 AM
21

I feel you! I can't believe what I got out of, and that it seemed so normal to live under a blanket of emotional and psychological abuse.... until I saw it. Now I can't unsee it. Dating seems too risky after realising the quality of men out there and knowing that one I loved and trusted was able to convince me I was mentally unwell so he could hide his serial cheating. Single it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:44 AM
11

I love this. It's certainly intentional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:35 AM
2

Yes and now you get to rejoice in you. Finding you again is a beautiful, messy and rewarding journey. Enjoy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:27 AM
24

Why you didn't have the skills? No one was teaching girls our age (I'm a bit older) that men use us as objects. No one showed us that our value wasn't based on our usefulness to a man as a wife, mother, girlfriend, or even as his bang maid or forever girlfriend... No one told us that we don't have to worry about hurting them at the expense of becoming doormats, that they won't change... or that heaven forbid it is ok to be single and happy, so we stay. And communicate and work at it and try agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:32 PM
12

Oh my ♡♡ what wonderful advice. ♡♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 12:23 PM
5

We have paid attention to what you want .... that's our problem. Have you paid attention to us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:45 PM
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🤴of 🤡🤡 maybe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:12 PM
5

Not divorcing you is his excuse to not marry the next one. Take joy in your opportunity to throw him under the bus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:23 AM
23

I am not sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:00 PM
5

And who made them jaded? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:13 PM
8

Only some are reversible, depending how it's done. And even then it's not guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:13 AM
8

Run!!!! Control and contempt are not born from love. Just run. You'll eirher find someone better or learn to be happy single and free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:03 AM
24

I kind of secretly wish people would stop warning men of what their depraved behaviour will lead to and just let them all suffer...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:00 AM
24

Oh poor him... s/ Got himself into a situation of choosing porn and wa#king so now he has something to blame when he disgraces his marriage. It all starts with choices and lack of respect. So happy I'm single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:59 AM
22

I'll get you a donut. He didn't deserve your at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:59 PM
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Well atleast we know we were 🤡🤡 and it's very likely they still are 🤡🤡🤡. Lessons learnt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:54 PM
7

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:50 PM
15

Thanks for that new awesome word. Scrotedacity indeed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:49 PM
8

Took me too long to accept this but boy did my ex throw mantrums when I'd say "you do not!" After claiming he loved me .... hooker after hooker for 12 years....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:35 AM
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Exactly!!!!!!! And I didn't sleep with her, she just gave me a bj... it wasn't sex.... I love yooouuuuuuu not her. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:46 AM
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And justifying her choices by being a saviour to these poor lonely scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:44 AM
4

Ass#=£¥ husband isn't getting laid, goes to a hooker and plays the victim and justifies his cheating ... poor husband. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:43 AM
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Well, initially I thought the story was going up say he was collecting his hookups pubes, so I guess it could be worse....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:58 PM
10

Gf cleans out bf closet and finds a jar of pubes. She opened it, only she knows why!, and it smelt so she threw it out. Had a laugh with him about it and he lost it! He was maaaaad as he's been collecting his pubes for years. I don't recall if there was a reason actually given. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:53 PM
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Oh boy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:15 PM
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Oh jesus, the pube jar ....I wanted to forget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:52 AM
5

I lost a tonne of weight, 40kgs actually. It was a total mind fuck and now i have put some back on, and I have definitely noticed the difference. I could see and feel them looking at me and it wasn't a confidence boost, it was terrifying. I wish being fat wasn't going to kill me. I need to go back to therapy to learn how to deal with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:33 AM
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He is absolutely disgusting. Keep your hand jobs. Ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:19 AM
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Can't spell and calls women whores. 🤣🤣 bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:32 AM
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I know the person i want to be, I know what my girlfriend deserves! Go mate, good luck on your levelling up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:17 PM
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So basically he just learnt to wear a mask... and now he can gaslight her into believing he's a good man while that mask is slowly lifted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:46 AM
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Men get killed more often than women. BY MEN. Might solve everyone's problem to put a curfew on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:26 AM
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Well, I let it slide the first two times under the excuse it was an addiction. Actually, it was the first 2 rounds. As in, periods of time when he slept with only God knows how many hookers. And while that destroyed me, my soul, my trust, my belief in my own worth and my ability to believe i was enough, it taught him that he could get away with it, if he just lied better and gaslit me more. The third round saw me out the door but he couldn't believe it. He actually expected me to keep him proppe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:22 AM
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Yeah but I care deeeeeeply for you is enough right? S/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:12 AM
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My friends dad explained to her at the age of 8 that because mummy wouldn't have sex with him, it was her job. C?%t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:10 AM
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She does need to communicate. With the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:09 AM
2

Not all babies at breastfed, but they still know who attends to their needs. Even with 50% custody my ex still doesn't do 50% of the parenting. He off loads paperwork to me, homework, school notes, etc. And leaves me to parent the hard stuff that he can't face, like his daughters pulling away from him or giving him attitude. He expects me to address it. And just to further prove your point, he went through girl after girl, up to 25 years younger than him, until one (20 years younger) stuck aroun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:07 AM
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His idea that he would promote her to girlfriend just proves that they think we work for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:56 AM
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Disconnected scrote. It's not even almost amusing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:51 AM
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So if you're born on the 24th....?🙄🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:07 AM
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"You can't handle the truth"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:52 AM
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Cheers to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:30 AM
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he probably still can't work out why op is "such a bi#€h"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:30 AM
6

Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:25 AM
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Why is this comment violation of the rules and getting me banned??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:27 AM
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Imagine that pulling up on a date.... RUN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:22 AM
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I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:05 AM
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And they expect you not to leave and can't believe it when you do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:38 AM
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While his nose is planted firmly in the middle of her face too 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:44 AM
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Delete him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:30 AM
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We should name the masks men wear. My ex definitely wore and still wears, a trad mask. Not very many people see or have seen the lvm under that mask. Unless they've married him or been paid to have sex with him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:27 AM
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Well, in his defence she was being a bit big headed s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:00 AM
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Not at all. She's clearly not a priority worth his time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:03 AM
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I was with a guy once shamelessly checking out a woman, who turned around and showed she was pregnant. His response? Atleast I know she puts out.... gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:06 AM
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Some people drive 20 minutes to get to a grocery store....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:57 AM
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Always does! 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:55 AM
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Yep. After telling my ex husband new gf (half his age) everything she needed to know to RUN, she chose to stay and move in. I'll never see her as a victim. She's a willing participant who thinks she's so special that he won't do to her what he's done to his past 2 wives. Pickmeisha plus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:54 AM
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Yeah... what exactly he wanted terrifies me to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:16 AM
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In my opinion, it makes many relationships or situationships seem more important or long-term, or more relevant than what they are. If a girl knows or thinks he'll never marry her then they'll often adopt this term to elevate the relationship status or to justify it as more than 'just a bf' . The ones who adopt it, and especially early on are the ones to watch. Red flag in my opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:04 PM
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Yep. My ex of 44m has a 25f gf who has moved in after 8 months of dating, and calls herself partner like it elevates her status and she also sees herself as a step mother my children. I have no words...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:59 PM
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This thread is just reminding about time after time I've had to deal with this stuff, but this one makes me sick to my stomach. I was 6 months pregnant and grocery shopping and this guy just couldn't hide the fact he was watching me and was creepy and just happened to be around every corner i was. I didn't stop seeing him and then he checked out right at the same time so I went as fast as I could to my car and locked the door and sure enough, within a minute he's flapping his arms at me waving a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:46 PM
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My heart hurts for her. Why are we not teaching school age girls what grooming is??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:01 AM
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I heard a saying that this reminds me of. That cats are animals of consent, only those who don't care to gain consent hate cats. I'll never forget that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 09:48 AM
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She doesn't say she left unfortunately, I just hope she did. He's going to be fuming at this soon enough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:15 AM
51

20 years difference? Looks like 40 years difference to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:12 AM
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Fuck that. I'd be ripping it off at very random numbers. And wth, he's touched every bit of that paper.... I hope he had clean hands
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:06 AM
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Natural = low maintenance. Be beautiful, but don't let that cost any money or time that might take away from me and my peepee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 12:26 AM
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Single for 4 years and happy AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:28 AM
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All I see is love bombing. And now she gets to do his legwork looking for his house. Money doesn't equal high value... and money is essentially all he's shown her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:21 AM
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So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:13 PM
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You forgot porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:22 AM
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Well, it is "chestfeeding" now after all. What's the fuss? (Please hear that sarcasm)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:16 AM
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Gee I wonder why he's the ex .... But I guess this explains their absolute need to replace wives with the next girl that sticks. So long as she plays wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:40 AM
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"Always be in a position to tell a dude to step. Once they know you're in a position to tell him to step, he stops that nonsense". AMEN. She hit the nail on the head here. They el get away with every scrote neuroscience behaviour they can if you let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:27 AM
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That they really are mostly the same entitled, porn sick pieces of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:09 AM
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Start by not letting his poopy ass hands any where near you.... how on earth has she been reduced to mute on this conversation...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:06 AM
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Ooooh so true!!!! I'll remember this if I ever bother with men again. 4 years single, so that's not looking likely though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:51 AM
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My ex won't divorce me, so he's got the perfect excuse not to marry his pickmeisha bangmaid who desperately wants marriage. She lives with him and plays wife and mummy in my place. I'm praying he won't suck too much of her time before she runs. She's 20 years his junior and wanted babies until he settled for him. He can't have any more. The delusion of 'some day' is strong. But someday... I'll be able to afford to be the one applying for the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:39 AM
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Listen to me.... the me that's been you. It does not matter what he reduces you to within his world. His world is no longer your world, his people are no longer your people. They will think what they like and there is not a single thing you can do about it, or need to do about it. All you need to do is get therapy to get your own head right so he can't reduce your opinion any further. Onwards and upwards. You're worth more than his shitty projection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 10:01 AM
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This is why I can't stand the saying "scream like a girl". Like we are the only ones that do it, or its innately bad. I watched the Oscar pistorious documentary lately and I won't comment regarding my opinion, but I will say, that the fact that people heard screaming automatically put their timeline of events into question as it was assumed it was Reeva, because of course it wasn't Oscar... he's a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:55 PM
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It feels good to backspace doesn't it. Well done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:10 PM
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Oh wow..... I wake up with my battery on less %
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:08 PM
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No of course it's not, he just wants her to do it. But they're so dumb they think we believe they can't 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:06 PM
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He knows how to write a grocery list, do laundry and vacuum. He just doesn't want to. Make it hard enough and she'll stop asking.... scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:28 AM
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28 and he still thinks his high school achievements matter. 28 and he's about to become qualified..... and 28 and wants someone else to help him make life's decisions. Sad pathetic boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:19 AM
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This solitude is a blessing. If friends were checking in regularly, you'd be going over your reasons and experiences for leaving, and almost justifying why you left or why you stayed. This kept me in a perpetual cycle of grief and anger and until I stopped talking about it with friends and chose a therapist instead, I made little progress on understanding what went wrong, where and why and how to build myself and my future back up. As much a my friends were my rock and my shoulder to cry on, rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:13 AM
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Thanks for the new word for my vocabulary. Lugubrious...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:00 PM
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I see through the scribble the user name appears to be low bar. Huh. Go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:25 PM
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So women and young girls who are raped can't fall pregnant. Such an idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:13 AM
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Wish I could upvote the shit out of this. Rock the damn boat and protect your kid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:00 AM
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Yes! This. Stand up for your daughter! If you see something that is not right, don't wait for your child to be bothered by it. Tell her you feel yuck about it and will speak to him and have her back! He's 100% grooming her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:58 AM
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Maybe more would be if they kept each other accountable to the shitty narrative they tend to go by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:49 AM
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I love this post, it's so true. Can I give a shout out to the mods on this too ! They do an awesome job keeping this space sacred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:39 AM
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Invented by men. For men. Fuck men ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:18 AM
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And a strategy to become the victim, who was never happy but married her anyway and now deserves to be happy too. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:11 AM
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Omg 1000x this!!! And they'll settle for anyone prepared to take on wife duties....20 years younger than them or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:09 AM
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Yep, while actively convincing me and others that I had bipolar (I do not) he was telling me "we're not going to work are we?" As though he was sad about it yet he was trying to push me out the door. He had a second phone i found and 19 missed messages from 1 girl in particular, but others from 4 girls all up. This was his third round of cheating I'd caught him out on, usually with hookers. But this time he made it so obvious he was cheating because he thought he'd found better. Until reality hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:07 AM
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Not even almost a surprise.... pos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:04 AM
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I cried with relief saying the words "I'm free" over and over, not really knowing where they came from. I didn't see the control on so many areas of my life until long after I left. But those words and that sense of relief got me through many more months of heartache and always came to mind every time we stupidly tried to reconcile. 4 years later... I'm truly free ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:56 AM
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I need to unread that.... help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 12:03 PM
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If men still need to pay money for the technology, they'd rather just get a woman to do it for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:17 AM
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Absolutely. My friends all knew it too thank goodness. It was like a weight lifted off my shoulders when I confirmed he was cheating again, then I knew it wasn't me, it was him who was ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:03 PM
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And because sex is off the table and their attention is elsewhere too. Men know logically that's the right thing to do for the baby but .... mUh pENiS....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:03 PM
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I could have written this. Only, mine did manage to make me believe I was ill :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:57 AM
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This, and little ones tend to go to mum for their needs to be met and big kids tend to require more of dad eventuallt and can see when he's shit or selfish. and if they have attitude, or guts, they may even call him out on it. So they move on and get a new bangmaid and new kids who think he's awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:41 AM
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Why the hell are they trying for a baby......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 12:00 PM
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I also had hip issues and pain down to me knees. It was extreme and every day. It hasn't gone, its a result of pregnancy, but it decreased by a tonne literally the day I moved out. Kind of like I was carrying a man child on my hip and the moment I put him down I started to heal. It's now manageable and most days are pain free... and my gut issues are gone too... funny that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:23 PM
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They have penises...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:39 AM
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You spelt scrote wrong.... you wrote man instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:39 AM
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And let me convince you to settle for something you didn't want while I convince you you're not worthy of more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:23 AM
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I hope he does too, so he never bothers you again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:21 AM
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😂😂😂 thankyou. I needed that laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:19 AM
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He wanted you to leave so he could be the victim....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:12 AM
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When you consider that most of the time a women comes off worse in a separation than a man.... you can assume most of the time that a single dad is trash. Most women stay and stay and stay to try and fix things before finally getting out. Not all. Most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:12 AM
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Came to say this. Fuck him. He's sexualised and objectified his daughter. Poor HIM???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:31 AM
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I read that..... the bar is truly in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:40 PM
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Spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:36 PM
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She's learning how to not trust herself or her friends :( so sad. Please just keep being there for her so she knows where to run to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:32 PM
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Wtf...... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:30 PM
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Like my gaslighting ex and his therapist trying to tell me that he wasn't doing all these things he did and he "didn't mEaN it like thaaaaat" when i called him out on shit...and it was all just my "PERCEPTION ". That session ended in me telling her to get fucked, storming out and going home to write a rather lengthy email explaining to her exactly who I knew my husband to be. Our marriage sessions ended with her telling me he was passive aggressive and highly manipulative and suggesting I gtfo, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:29 PM
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"I don't know why you ask, you know I'm always right".... my exes favourite saying has given me ptsd.... he used it alot as he slowly gaslit me to believing i was not only useless and incapable and waaaaaay beneath him, but also had me believing i was mentally ill. Trust men more my ass. Never again. I trust myself. Men have no place in my life anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:05 PM
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Oooh BOOM. Best comment!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:57 PM
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Not good enough, judged, tormented, objectified ... the list goes on. Happy as single though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:56 PM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:48 PM
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It's much harder being married to a lvm than being a single mum. In so many ways. He'll never choose to understand the concept of emotional labour or value the 12 years of bangmaid labour be got from me because that didn't bring in the $$ .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:43 PM
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When you're following your intuition and getting evidence it's still snooping.... s/ Yeah, because asking nicely will get you the truth from these scrotes. Not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:31 PM
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Ewww. Is literally stating they're a LVM. Just Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:59 AM
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This made me think of something my ex did. Still does. If I had a headache, his was worse. If I mention my car needs repair he lists all that he's had to do to his car lately too... always one upping me. Is this a tactic to play victim, shirk responsibility and maintain control?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:56 AM
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What a piece of manipulative shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:46 AM
5

Jfc you're eeeerily correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:35 AM
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Or have to change big diaper and little diaper for years....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:19 AM
9

And to claim he didn't understand what she meant when asking if any one needed an ambulance and then hang up again..... I'm not sure I want answers but this boggles my mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 04:15 AM
37

That was chilling to the core. He's clearly got issues with women. I do wonder what would have been different with a male operator or how he'd respond to female cops. I hope she's ok and far far far away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:05 PM
1

🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 01:10 PM
37

Ugh. My ex did this. My body was his body.... 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:57 PM
33

"There's your sponge... don't ever ask me to go alone again..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:55 PM
94

This is my ex to a t.... the hounding, the guilt trip, the unwanted sex and the bullshit that just turned sex into a chore. He cheated on me countless amounts of times but that was my fault for but giving him what he needed. So I was then obliged to make sure I did (yes I stayed numerous times...) and nothing changed. So to the op asking what to do next..... GET OUT. It will never ever ever get better for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 12:46 PM
4

🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:40 AM
6

Clearly the vagina is the only barrier to birthing a baby. Never mind that cervix and damn pelvis on its way out. I felt every bone in my pelvis move to birth my second without any drugs... the vag was the easier bit. But try educating a pos like that....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:58 AM
6

Ooooompphhhh. Ouch. Yep..... I'm getting there though. Esp after finding fds and a fabulous psychiatrist to help me understand how he got me believing his crap. And that I was clearly a pickmeisha.... not any more though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:16 PM
7

They've banned me from commenting and I seriously don't know why... I asked and didn't get a response 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 12:10 PM
15

When in reality the exes are probably celebrating the lack of man child and aaaaallllll the problems that come along with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:09 AM
3

As a single mother, I see men as a massive threat to my girls. I would rather be single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:07 AM
12

I guess they're not yellow flags anymore....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:01 PM
57

Or they know it 100% and just don't want to be called on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:00 AM
3

Oh another good one!! "How dare you accuse me?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:43 AM
4

Oh that's the king of lies!! I'm teaching my girls this exact thing....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:43 AM
37

Yep, my exes doctor told me in front of my ex that the chlamydia he gave me that nearly killed our unborn child was probably dormant in his system. After we'd been together atleast 5 years... the most hell on earth course of meds when you're pregnant, but for him? 1 pill. 1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:32 PM
45

"I'm not lying to you".....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:26 PM
3

No it's definitely not to benefit the women.... hence the name of it. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:24 PM
14

The husband stitch, if I'm correct, is an extra, unnecessary stitch male doctors have apparently been known to put in when stitching a woman after child birth to make them tighter for their slim dick husbands...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:32 PM
2

All in the shape of a sausage....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:32 AM
17

Hahahaha..... if only their extra 'work' hours weren't just excuses to have time to find a hooker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:24 AM
13

She probably just sells the damn bread and could care less to deal with more bread outside of work... Lucky for her though, his lies lead to more effort than he wants to make and hop she didn't have to see him and bread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:22 AM
12

This is a very good point and a very good argument for the next person that tries to tell me its 'just porn'....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 11:19 AM
7

Yep, I think that's what makes me uneasy. How does he treat women in his life that do have a voice and an opinion :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:23 AM
6

The true narcissists are above rules anyway. They aren't an obstacle, they just don't apply to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:34 PM
27

Thankyou ♡ it was harder to leave with nothing than it was to stay through his incessant cheating with hookers.... among many other abusive behaviours, so it really should tell you what you need to know about that man....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:12 PM
16

Ah, but women 2 decades younger do not think this way and yet women take it personally when their ex finds a younger woman..... honey that's got nothing to do with who you are and has everything to do with them knowing that's the only chance they've got of replacing their bangmaid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:10 PM
45

They're probably not actually broken up....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:05 PM
16

This is fortunate!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:31 AM
5

Fiction i hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:30 AM
3

Oh boy....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:29 AM
4

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:29 AM
15

My issue is that it just reinforces women as literal objects. I just don't know where to sit with this ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:28 AM
5

Yep.... some one mentioned it's possibly performance art. We can only hope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:27 AM
5

God I hope you are, but it reeks of lvm attitude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:26 AM
8

Thankyou for unpacking that...I just.... couldn't...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:24 AM
7

I'm so happy single at 42 after 12 years of daily mindfuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:05 PM
23

Well you probably didn't put out on the first date, so he asked you for a second to make sure he wasn't the problem. You said yes so he ghosted you to protect himself from potential rejection and make you think you were the problem. Again.... men 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:53 PM
15

Men...... 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:49 PM
6

Thanks for that giggle!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:23 PM
28

So, this made me think of the fact that people you're trying to impress will never be happy, they'll still see fault. Like when I edit images, people might spot the 1 tiny pimple I didn't remove, but they can't spot that I removed a dozen bruises, 15 scratches and 6 other pimples because they're only seeing the final product, not the before and after comparison. If the final product of surgery is for you, and you alone, then do what makes you happy. Scrotes will only focus on that one imperfecti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:55 PM
39

Its like he's claiming you as he parades past strangers silently telling them he's intending on taking you home 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:50 PM
7

I came to say exactly this.... creepy AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 01:45 PM
30

And 100% pain free childbirth would be mandatory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:49 PM
58

Not to mention 100% pain free child birth would be mandatory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:48 PM
7

I know how she can lose a whole stack of weight real fast ..... bye bye asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:44 PM
181

And that they're no good in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:36 PM
16

I laughed when he said they're happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:14 PM
10

I think my ex wrote this. He did it to me Is currently exercising the same instructions on his live in pickmeisha who's 19 years younger than him. Given up her job, and her apartment and is about to sell her car and move onto a rural property with him. She desperately wanted kids he can't give her sh she decided marriage was more important. She'll be his 3rd and he won't divorce me because then he'll have no excuse.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:08 PM
2

That's why it's important to get help to plan to leave. You don't threaten. You don't let on. You plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:04 PM
4

And we end up in therapy after he destroys us.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:13 AM
30

And she'll probably buy him the doll to make him feel better and assuage her guilt for hurting him..... oh boy......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:38 AM
29

Hard to do though when they've made their content downloadable. Any decent lawyer will already have what they need.... let's hope so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:13 PM
10

Well that's what most men want..... 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:56 AM
17

If you're tripping I'm tripping. Tried to make sound so many times! Then realised I had to read it after it played through several times 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:55 AM
1

I try to teach my girls they're a team, not competition but they're kids and naturally will see it like this at times. I would guess that increases alot more when you literally put one in charge of the other/s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:38 AM
3

Yes!! I love this comment. And dream.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:09 PM
2

Holy crap, I just watched that...... wow wow wow..... incredible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:06 PM
1

It definitely isn't ideal for everyone. I'm a single mum with 50% custody and my job is mostly at home so I have time without kids to get prepared for my time with them and have appointments etc without them. I worry about the kids who are used as baby sitters more regularly that they'd be resentful and not appreciated and not have their own lives, but for some it's a matter of survival to work and get food on the table, so I get that. But in my personal situation, I don't feel it's necessary or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:52 PM
2

Wow as in you can't believe that? I'm open to discussion on this... but in my opinion, if something happens to a child when a child is in charge, it's grossly unfair. Just because your older child can baby sit, doesn't mean they should. I'm talking 2-5 years difference though, not a mid teen looking after a youngster. Having said that, I know not every ones situation is easy and sometimes mums just have to do what they have to do to survive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:02 AM
1

Screw those people..... "you obviously don't understand abuse and the major head fuck it causes while you try to work it out"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:23 PM
2

100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:20 PM
2

🤣🤣🤣 fuck that. I fought. And fought. And fought for my marriage. Do you know what I won?? The belief that I had bipolar and a massive heartache. Fuck that. I'm fighting for me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:19 PM
5

None. Maybe keep an ear out on a younger child while you duck to the shops, but no child should be responsible for their siblings beyond that imo. They shouldn't have to get meals, run schedules, supervise homework or uphold rules. More like hang out with her while I grab some milk....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:17 PM
2

If you're having children to help you raise other children or tasking them to be your carer in old age, please don't have them. You're better off being with a lvm you can walk away from without responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:13 PM
2

I love this song. It's on my play list and my teen actually introduced me to it but it reminds me every time that he did this. He pushed me me to leave. No matter his reaction, his consequences or his narrative about me leaving.... he did this. And it's not my job to care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:03 AM
2

You're right, I'd rather gtfo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 01:28 PM
19

Wtf....... I'd rather a dead bedroom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:25 AM
11

Sad widdle man can't accept he's got less experience, control or power in this area to his 14 year junior gf. Some one get him done tissues!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:19 AM
17

Spot on. And now he's got the proof that he's a better person then her. But he already "had his suspicions" about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:17 AM
3

You're nicer than me. I want to chain some concrete blocks to him first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:11 AM
21

Oh honey I hear you....I grew up like this too. And let me tell you, at 42, one thing I know.... they cannot stop me speaking my truth. They don't even have to like it. But at the right time, with the right intention behind it, they WILL hear it . My voice is my power and I will use it. One day, you will too.... you do not need to quieten down. Rise up. Speak up....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:00 AM
3

Any time it gets hard, just remember this message. Onwards and upwards for you... You keep valuing yourself and teaching your little girl what a strong woman looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:28 PM
1

Holy shit.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:21 PM
2

This wouldn't be an issue if he wasn't EXPECTING sex. Is her period the only reason she can ever say no. Run girl. Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:19 PM
6

This was worth scrolling for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:59 PM
103

Hmmm... yes I think they do. I was always the one apologising to my ex after he hurt me, because he'd become an emotional wreck and feel shameful and sad that he was a piece of shit i couldn't ever love again and he was soooorrrrrryyyyy ...... atleast he got he piece of shit part right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:54 PM
8

Manlet 🤣🤣🤣 thankyou sister. Best word ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:48 PM
3

Widow has to be better than nurse maid though. Feeding them and wiping their ass when you should be enjoying your retirement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:10 PM
27

Or "partner"... like it's actually a step up from girlfriend.... pmsl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:55 PM
3

She is great at proving people wrong too, weirdly enough it often involves challenging them to do the "worm" .... she's in high school too :) bless her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:42 PM
7

Hmmm maybe, but there was a Turkey being cooked 😅🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:57 AM
48

I agree. My body changed. After going through an amazing process. It's different. Yes. But it's not destroyed. Just different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:26 AM
14

That's my ex to a t, only he was very partial to cheating. Regularly. And used his hv traits to cover his tracks. It literally didn't matter who he replaced me with, she just had to play the role. She's 19 years younger than him :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:13 AM
15

My comment didn't get approved the other day, regarding men who cook and clean being hv. My ex was a hv man to everyone who knew him. But he was a serial cheat (with mostly hookers) who had me fully believing I was bipolar until the day I left. He had full financial control of my life and made it difficult for me to work. But he cooked and cleaned and it took me and others a very long time to see how manipulative and selfish he is. He wears his mask so well that his new girlfriend, 19 years his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:11 AM
82

I can't tell you how many times my daughter has defended herself to comments that dance isn't sport. She trains 10-15 hours a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:06 AM
3

Oh I love this post xx love love love it! Thankyou xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:51 PM
15

I love that you repeated that line. Bless you xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:23 AM
19

Male mods. Can't be seen to be helping the vulnerable ones and giving women a voice and a choice. My heart breaks for her :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:21 AM
9

Yeah that got me too..... wtf ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:49 PM
22

Not that we'll ever see it. I was instantly banned from there the second I interacted here, like I assume you all were. Never heard of that sub until they banned me from it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:07 AM
2

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:36 PM
2

Omg i almost snorted coffee out my nose!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:38 PM
3

Its also a great way for a pickmeisha to literally beg to be able to help and earn the right to. So when he shits on her, she can't complain about everything she's done because it was her choice.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:18 AM
28

I agree this is not always true. I'm teaching me children to put them selves first. Not boys. And boy to play games and to understand what's behind male entitlements and so called compliments. Oldest are 11 and 12
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:52 AM
94

I'd be firing her ass. The 10 year old is not her therapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:50 AM
17

And at the end of the date too.... didn't find any other suitable time to mention this..... lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:55 AM
1

There are apps you can take pics of plants and they'll identify it for you. I use to use one to decide what I wanted in my garden. I can't remember it's name sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:45 PM
2

Ooomph. I felt that to my core. So true though. I'll never hear this sentence the same way again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:34 AM
26

This is so true. I was mature because my father chose to do mature things to me. I'd rather have been a child....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:32 AM
12

SPOT ON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 02:31 AM
7

Ugh, so true. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:55 PM
12

As can their camera shutters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:15 PM
4

She could get arrested :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:11 PM
2

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:56 PM
19

Yessss!!! Poor widdle boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:45 PM
21

Said the fuckwit on Facebook....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:43 PM
11

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:42 PM
26

😅😅🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:41 PM
48

I reckon. I'm not settling for anything little and cheap next time. Show me what I'm worth to you buddy.... in the meantime I'm planning a kick ass divorce ring and showing myself what I'm worth ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:41 PM
7

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:39 PM
20

And block their asses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:35 PM
4

Still waiting....... I'll make coffee...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:31 PM
45

And this was a planned pregnancy ... he still had to go process that? Sounds to me like he went to sulk about his wifes priorities inevitably shifting. Poor boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:26 PM
8

That last sentence x10000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:07 PM
36

Bingo! Any man who uses "you're special, you're different " is TROUBLE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:05 PM
34

And don't rush. Treat him like a best friend and get to know him. Require him to do the same. Don't fall for any 'if you loved me you would...." bull crap. Decide your boundaries and be true to yourself x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:04 PM
30

Choking :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:01 PM
34

That and choking..... :( way too normal now days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:00 PM
5

Only after they've forgiven you for your awful behaviour and you understand how lucky you are they're giving you another chance 🤣 and you better be good this time. Asshats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:59 PM
7

My ex is the same. He admitted that he never thought I'd leave him. But deep down (or maybe I should say deep in every hooker) he had to have known i would or he wouldn't have been setting me up to be the bad, lazy, unstable one he's convinced his family that I am so that he can be the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 12:56 PM
4

Oh, how nice of his mummy to do all that. Puke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:26 AM
20

It's just as bad as continually talking over you. It really triggers me into being irrate. I'm much better at standing up to it now. Men suck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:24 AM
9

Even lower than lvm is the one who blamed me for his depression that caused him to systemically cheat on me with hookers. And it was my fault and up to me to hold him up through his hurt. Because it was my fault and I had to level up. God it'll feel good to serve him with divorce papers... his pickmeisha can deal with him now. Funnily enough, I'm the only one who can currently see that he's on the brink of the next depression....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 12:22 AM
18

For now.... :( poor baby girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:38 PM
22

Well he's with a girl 19 years younger than him. She's 13 years older than our oldest daughter so I'm going with a no in that one.... :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:36 PM
4

Or they've convinced them to quit their job so they can't afford rent and he'll financially support her and they'll sell her car.... and oh boy..... it's never going to be her house, her car or her kids.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:34 PM
58

Especially when mums like me don't take their shit! You want 50% custody? Great, now you can level up and do 50% of the load like school notes, clothes shopping, doctors and dentists appointments and dance commitments 🤣 idiot had no idea how hard it was being a full time mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:26 PM
31

New mummy can never have his baby... Lucky for her. But everything you said is so true i thought he was levelling up and changing until I realised he was just impressing her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:19 PM
146

Mine only wants 50% so he isn't required to pay more than 50% childsupport. He's never been able to handle it, until he got a 25 year old bangmaid that was a nanny, until he convinced her to quit her job. ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:09 PM
7

From a severed penis injury...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:07 PM
6

I thought that too, but I'm more of the honest opinion that I was reactively abusing him, ie reacting to his abusive in a crazy, hence abusive way. I didn't know that was a thing until FDS. Could it be that for you too? Either way, it's hard to admit sometimes so well done ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:01 PM
8

Aaaah yes, 18 year old me got busted looking for a better pizza delivery job by telling my co-workers I found one paying more and they should change jobs too. My arrogant boss fired me on a busy Saturday and said I could hand my shirt back at the end of shift. I clarified he was indeed firing me and he said yes. I laughed in his face and told him he I wasn't doing my shift and I left. With the shirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:12 PM
2

Thankyou!! I sure am levelling up. ♡ thanks to FDS ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:43 AM
7

Good riddance to him! I'm sorry about your grandpa though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:01 PM
4

Amen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:47 AM
7

♡♡ I'm sorry you met that pos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:47 AM
8

Yep, but they push you to react to their abuse and call you violent and abusive for yelling... I'm so glad I found FDS. I thought maybe I was abusive since the woman I loved most in this world (mil) told me so.... but fds taught me about reactive abuse. And it's the result of being gaslit to the point I believed I was bipolar. :( I'm free now and rebuilding me ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:46 AM
12

A bangmaid... all for free!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:43 AM
21

This!! Perfectly explains why they choose dates over paying prostitutes. They're forever going to have to pay the prostitute, but what they hope is that eventually the dates will be cheaper or free, or better yet, turn into therapy plus free sex plus a housemaid. Puke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:42 AM
6

Oh like the time my ex put petrol not diesel in our brand new, 4 week old car and proceeded to rev the crap out of it over and over when it wouldn't idle. I ended up screaming at him to please just stop while I was on the phone to the dealer. He sulks off and I later confirmed he had infact filled it up and it wasn't just empty and he realised what he'd done. Needless to say, it was then his problem to get it towed and repaired. Because funnily enough, revving it didn't work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:09 PM
6

Hold up.... he matched with fat boring girls.... so he has to have swiped right on them to match too yeah? What a tosser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:56 PM
20

So much this..... the hardest years of my life were being mum to little ones. I'm finally starting to breathe again with my youngest being 6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:00 PM
7

👏👏 amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 11:51 AM
11

I'm so glad to see you here. It's been a rough year for you. I'm proud to see you pull through and seek out brighter days. I read a quote today you might like. "To truly love yourself, you can't hate the experiences that shaped who you are". It's a tough one, but so true. Much love, peace and healing to you, from me ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:39 AM
3

This is how my father got away with sexual abuse. The army would transfer him every few years, either leaving behind his victims or worse still... moving them interstate with him away from friends and family. They fucking knew what was going on.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:18 AM
3

Well, being indecisive means he's best off making the decisions. For her. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:01 AM
7

Good job ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:56 AM
3

I hope plenty of us do. We need to be HVW to attract HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:52 AM
30

Her delusion is also real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:46 AM
2

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:42 AM
20

They fucking deserve it too. I'll join your patrol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:41 AM
1

Exactly what I was going to say.... us finishing makes them feel so accomplished, it just makes it end faster to fake it. Sad that we all know this. Never again. I love FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:29 AM
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I need to think this way..... time to buy me flowers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 01:44 AM
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Thank you kind lady ♡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:36 AM
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Making this my screen saver. It's been my mission since I left 4 years ago. Wash me soar buddy. You can't control me any more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 06:58 AM
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My ex husbands therapist use to see us together for marriage counselling and then see him separately in between. She told me once that things I was reacting to were a result of my 'perception '. I understood what gaslighting was, just not yet to the extent that I had suffered from it, so I knew in that moment that she had given him a get out of jail free golden ticket to continue to do and say what ever he liked to me, and then if I ever called him to account it would always have just been my pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:34 AM
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Could you imagine his tantrum after that. Poor little boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:23 AM
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Same as people asking on community forums for something google can answer... like those people probably looked it up to answer anyway.... but I get toasted for my answer... google it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:59 AM
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That's my entire inlaw family. I'm non contact with any of them for this reason. It was my fault he cheated over and over again on both wives. My fault he had depression he'd had since before I met him. My fault he felt intimidated when I finally lost my shit at gaslighting cheating behaviour after 12 years and 3 kids. My fault my 'sil' told my nieces and my kids I'm no longer part of the family. Byeeee fuckers. Can't talk sense to stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:05 AM
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I'm so throwing this in the faces of my ex and his family. They all think I've mooched off him yet I busted my ass to get my degree before I met him and started working until I fell pregnant and under his financial control 3 years later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:04 AM
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Oh lord...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:28 PM
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I've got 3 kids with him so I'm a little more invested in who he brings into their relationships too. Plus I'm seeing his cycle of abuse all over again. I chose to tell her what I wish I'd known. It's up to her what she does with it. The things she didn't know about his history in general shocked me, but they shouldn't have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:27 PM
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I think my 44yr old ex took this route with his 25 yr old girlfriend. So I told her everything. She's still there though.... so maybe she agrees with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:53 PM
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My ex is currently 44 dating a 25 year old who says she thinks she'll be OK without a baby. My eldest daughter is only 13 years younger than her. This will be her in 10 years. I've told her everything he did to convince me I was bipolar... now I just pray for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:47 PM
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Hmmm. I'd never considered this. I was Waggy. After the dog on scooby doo I believe. Because I sounded like that when I lost my voice being sick. Makes me sick to realise this now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 12:35 PM
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My ex is 44 dating a 25 year old. I see history repeating itself in that she's quit her job and about to move in with him after 9 months. And with my girls, 13, 12 and 19 years younger than her. So I warned her. I told her everything. Emotional, financial, sexual, mental abuse to the point he convinced me I had bipolar. Multiple affairs with hookers and a drug history she had no idea about. Yet.... she stays and convinces herself she'll be OK without the baby she always wanted. As long as she ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:40 PM
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Holy shit I'm glad I'm here. My ex taught me to be low maintenance. I thought I was doing a good thing for us.... saving money, less fuss, good little housewife. guess who totally lost her identity in that marriage? until I walked out after numerous affairs, major gaslighting and financial abuse. He needed me to be low maintenance to afford his hookers. I'm increasing in value every day and I'll never settle again. So glad I'm on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 11:50 PM
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