nelvonda Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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8	My wife just dropped the bomb today during our couples counseling session. Call a friend etc. go for a walk, got to move the energy	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/23 03:03 AM
2	tremors Yes, speak to your physician. As others have also stated, your symptoms sound related to the stress response. Many ways to unveil that slowly and safely with a skilled therapist. My preference would be to start with Somatic Experiencing. Traumahealing.org and search for the practitioner directory in your area. Please update as time progresses.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/23 01:38 AM
2	I need help! The first rule of thumb is to get a lawyer. Take the emotion out of this, and follow lawyers advice. Expect 50/50 custody, and expect to share assets/debts as per your States precedent equations. Relationships end, and you are likely both 50% responsible. This is normal. Continue to be a great Dad, you are not responsible for your STBXW in any other way. She will find her own path to the new reality. Please reach out to friends and close family to get the social support you likely need. Our ment…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 06:23 PM
1	Getting hard to find a reason. All of those hard things are real. And it’s healthy to feel into them. It isn’t the whole story though, and imagine the depth of love you have for your kid, and the years ahead of just being a great parent to them. Feel and imagine into what you want that to look like. You are not how your ex paints you, you are so much more than that one perspective my guy. Let this day pass (hit the gym, make some food, and start connecting (even through text) to some people. Then go to bed and wake up and you…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/23 10:52 PM
7	Getting hard to find a reason. This too shall pass my guy. Keep talking it out withstood friends and family. If one of them needed an ear, I’m sure you wouldn’t hesitate to be there for them. They are equally here for you. You are enough, you matter just as you are. Take a breather, get out in nature. This too shall pass	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/23 09:44 PM
1	Divorce while broke Any chance that the divorce costs can be split as a percentage of comparative income?	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/23 03:57 PM
-2	My pregnant wife left the house and told me over the phone she wants a divorce. I am devastated You likely have different attachment styles. Relationships take a lot of effort to navigate. If it’s not too late, consider counselling either personally or together. This could be one of those times when you will deeply benefit from a professional ear.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/23 02:44 AM
10	Seperated but don't want too GAY Vent away my man	/r/Divorce_Men	22/01/23 12:11 AM
5	The Luckiest man alive Have never heard “emotional tampon” before. Omfg! Love it	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/23 10:32 PM
2	101 - Intro and Preparation to Divorce People tend not to change. Unless they are up for a long and deep commitment to therapy, and lifestyle change. She isn’t going to change. She isn’t going to change. How does that land with you?	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/23 12:19 PM
3	Why the hell im I still thinking about her What “fires together, wires together”. The feelings that motivates thoughts in the present come from a different (often childhood) time period. It’s not just the ex which need healing, it will go much deeper than that for many of us. I think we all need therapy, and time.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/01/23 01:39 AM