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Discussionnemporisso/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 04:56 PM
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Definitely, which is why it's a characteristic of abuse victims. A lot of women stay glued to the toxic ideals they are raised with
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:22 PM
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If chad worship really wasn't allowed you would have nuked this entire sub ages ago
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:18 PM
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Is that change?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:00 PM
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I don't think you want the right men if that's the case
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:52 PM
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Refined tastes know that thighs and glutes >
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:46 PM
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No, that's dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:42 PM
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They only say it unironically, and young men believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:05 AM
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His delts br0
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:03 AM
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It's something else. I understood this when I had no relationship experience. I'm sure even children understand this implicitly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 11:49 PM
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13???
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:35 AM
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In what sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:18 AM
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You say this very cleanly but irl having a divorce pending for six years is highly abnormal, and I can't think of a situation where it wouldn't speak to something unresolved about the situation itself, rather than mere logistical disagreements. So you end up in situations like the recent ex of someone my friend apparently knows, where they broke up because he was still living with his ex fiancée. If he was really my ideal match, he would put the work in to set the table properly for our relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 01:16 AM
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Cherish her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:55 PM
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Who are they?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:33 PM
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While they're dancing? Bar seems like a better bet
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 08:29 PM
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I'm not sure why you're talking about any of this, but we will continue to admire the bodies of those we find attractive. edit: BUT to be clear, we should be mindful that we talk enough about our appreciation of people overall, as a general best practice. Nevertheless we should allow ourselves to appreciate legs or abs or hair piecemeal, because sometimes it's that kind of occasion. Hope the nuance helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 07:00 PM
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Neither are men, and yet here we find ourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:45 PM
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No, dad bod is general healthy male weight without obvious bodybuilding. Ben Affleck here as an example Steve Carell, Jon Stewart, and Stephen Colbert also good examples I don't know how you think anyone would find a shapeless overweight body more attractive than the alternatives...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 06:31 PM
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Yes, the bus stop hobo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 03:00 AM
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Not weird. Where were his friends? I feel so bad for people who are treated this way
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:34 AM
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There are fortunately a great number of countries that I'd be able to live out my days comfortably in, but I happen to have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 02:30 AM
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Adrien Brody type
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 10:28 PM
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Too bad, so sad. I have a future family to provide for!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 10:24 PM
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I wish you the strength to see through figuring your stuff out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 10:23 PM
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Lots of women like anal??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 10:22 PM
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I don't have casual sex, but I would move regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 12:48 AM
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My good friend was considering signing up to paid OLD because it would let her filter out tall men. I advised against
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:29 PM
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Weed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:28 PM
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I guess I never put that much thought into it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:28 PM
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Just a symptom of the current system doing too little for too many. Surely something else, anything else, is better
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 05:24 AM
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Let's be real, the man who sincerely believes this is projecting it for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:46 AM
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Cute, warm hearted and loves me . Everything else is just noise
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:40 AM
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Well in that Hemingway movie he did they specifically call him handsome in the script, so they wouldn't have cast him in it if he wasn't in fact handsome so everybody agrees with me actually!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:52 PM
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Generally among who? I've never heard that before in my life. I also really don't understand why that would be. Corey Stoll is the hottest bald man I can think of, and he is pretty pale.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:32 PM
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No. I'm actually not sure why it would be different
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:19 PM
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Be pale, that old trend of convincing people it looked bad was really stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:14 PM
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Nuh-uh you couldn't. He is imaginary
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:50 PM
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Traditionally it's a woman's obligation, so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:48 PM
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That sounds really enjoyable. Not sure what happened, but I'm sure you'll bouce back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:25 PM
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That sounds really enjoyable. Not sure what happened, but I'm sure you'll bouce back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:25 PM
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Yea, chad is a boogeyman figure lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 09:24 PM
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Online. Idk if it's pursuit if you reciprocate
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:25 AM
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What was really said was that levelling up won't make a woman love you. Ask next time if you don't understand. Also I am one person with one POV, I am not women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 04:29 AM
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Your OP's if-then = If men with their shit together were scare, then they would be treated as a scarcity In other words, women would be fighting to go out with each and every one of these men with their shit together, just like they fight to get on the reservation list for the trendiest restaurants. ^ Which you take as license to conclude that men like you are looked over because you are, in fact, in abundance as single men who have their shit together. After all, why would you be treated like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:40 AM
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For the last time, women would rather be alone than get with someone they're not very fond of. If you find yourself sidelined, it's either by choice, or because none of the women you meet are picking up what you're putting down, steady career or no. Easy to understand but harder to arrive to the conclusion if you swallow dumbass redpill bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 03:56 AM
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Yep, and they have a body of work that warrants confidence. Don't puff yourself up before a debut
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 05:10 AM
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Sure, but at the same time you also run into guys that just like to throw themselves around. If he was in the right morally, I would back him all the way
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:54 AM
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They range from 5'10" to 6'2" My mother made a bad choice, but it's not because of his height.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:30 AM
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He seems like an idiot. I wouldn't break up with him if I otherwise like him, but the disconnect between his actual skillset and what he believes it to be, is highly unattractive Very different if he loses a regular old street fight
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 10:43 PM
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I guess I avoid it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:17 PM
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Ie would the men that have been gross/nasty/otherwise horrible to you be in with a chance if they never had been gross/nasty/horrible? Don't know how you're supposed to determine that without a neutral sample to pull from, but yeah. Anything that increases the stock of dateable men increases your chances of finding a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:08 AM
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1) Sure. As much as the generalisation can be meaningful 2) No, but it's not an impossible outcome 3) Firm no. However, it may be the case that the world acts as if this is true 4) In a worrying few ways, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 03:03 AM
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I love it when a man frames his worldview as neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:42 AM
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I just saw Adam Driver's hotness for the first time. I feel kind of dumb now
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:39 AM
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It's either funny because you are a guy (and so naturally you would be on the better looking app) Or funny because you're a woman and asserting an opposing view on attractiveness of these men... without having ever seen the other half of the samples
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:51 AM
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That's the scrub to use definitely
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:48 AM
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No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:47 AM
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That answer equates to no
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 04:46 AM
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Pursuit of Happyness
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:43 AM
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No, I'm against it morally
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:42 AM
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I've never deprived myself of material I enjoy because it doesn't align with my worldview. The enjoyment is the point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/22 02:34 AM
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Yep, ur right
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:44 PM
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Frameworks of this kind fail often enough that the necessity is called into question
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 07:48 AM
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Yeah the last thing is a question likely more philosophical than I'm equipped for. Some of the strongest couples come from pairs that didn't think themselves romantically inclined. And some of them think they should bridge that gap, but are mistaken. Figuring out the mechanics of why love happens is going to make someone very wealthy someday. As much as I also want to know why, all I can do is be grateful when it happens. And I wouldn't. The logic follows, but regardless of it not being a marker…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:59 AM
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An easy example would be, say, religion. It's not high standards to only want to date a Muslim, but you will not find a match if you live in rural KY. Even if you are an upstanding person with a good career etc. I don't really ascribe a marketplace framework on people in this regard so I wouldn't say this person is ""low value"" - though that would be the case in the scenario you've presented Especially if it's people you like and wish liked you This doesn't indicate compatibility, at least to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:30 AM
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It's not evil but it hurts my feelings 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:39 AM
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I'd try to seduce him
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:37 AM
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I don't agree, because compatibility isn't oriented around worth, and it's the most important standard for a truly successful relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:33 AM
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In practical terms, I'm not often around straight men in social situations. And the ones I do find myself around aren't for me I also dislike texting to text. Generally attention averse. And I'm a little bit odd
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 02:30 AM
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If you're friends, all of them. There is literally no reason to be shy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:54 PM
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Money, height, muscularity, dick, and tbh go easy on the prettiness too. Character is the highest threshold by far. Most men don't hit the mark
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:52 PM
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Is the meanest person not the bitchiest??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:37 PM
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You see women with dicks in porn all the time, but men with vaginas hardly ever. Curious
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:36 PM
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It might be my luck, but I can't remember the last time I had a downright negative first impression of somebody. People either turn very quickly positive (those I cherish most) or remain some flavor of neutral, trending to positive. Most people I meet fall into the second group, and I've never been able to convert those into love.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:55 PM
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You sound like you're fun, but you can be too much. I think that's something you can glean within the hour if you're paying attention, and the people that you became friends with decided, consciously or otherwise, that the fun was the most important part of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:35 PM
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Nooo it shouldn't take an hour to swipe left. It takes about that time to stop for a coffee though. People generally are often wrong. I, on the other hand...!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:30 PM
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no one will completely understand you Lol bro wdym??? Have you never watched Disney????
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:22 PM
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Aw man, I'm so sorry. I have felt like this a lot, but I also have experience with connection and belonging, so there's always that understanding to ground myself on. Maybe it's a little bit like art. I don't really enjoy visiting galleries, most pieces get about a glance and a hmm from me, but a few months ago I saw a few that were actually really great and awe-inspiring, at least for me. Maybe that's the goal? Also, try to dance a little
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:20 PM
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I think that the concept of growing on someone, or vice versa, is a myth. Everything you need to know about someone, especially in regards to compatibility, you find out in the first hour, if that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:10 PM
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I've never dated a man like that, but would feel less comfortable with him if I were to find that out. No one likes a hypocrite
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:08 PM
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High crush factor index(TM)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:08 PM
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I think any person can be those things at any given time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 12:18 AM
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Swapping out sexual partners like that makes me feel not great about myself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 02:38 AM
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Refuse to believe this Dior Homme Sport ad was made for straight men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 02:37 AM
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Black Mirror s2?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:13 PM
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Big, like posture
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:13 PM
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You think the first one is cool? :O
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:21 PM
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Same way I feel about car enthusiasts. "Good for them" 90% of the time, and "I should probably get a little more into that" 10% of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:19 PM
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It loses its lustre a little bit if it's for work. You want to look like that around the people you love!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:17 PM
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It's a rare opportunity to dress up. Always take it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 07:59 PM
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Inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:47 AM
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Men and women look good with salt and pepper though.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:40 AM
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He tried to talk to me about some other girl he had been seeing, but with the silly little tone. Then we had sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:33 AM
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Earlier this year. Still smashed, idk what he thought he did lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 06:27 AM
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It's not an obstacle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:27 AM
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The only men I have ever fallen for were cat men, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:26 AM
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I have money, only ever dated broke
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:25 AM
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I'd like to think it's just the people I encounter that are different
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:20 AM
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Unless I'd like them for them, and they for me. No point if you don't click, everything else in terms of preference is secondary
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 12:01 AM
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As in they aren't right for me
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 04:43 AM
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That's a great visual
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:42 AM
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Snipers not machine guns buddyyyy sobs
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:26 AM
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Yeah exactly. But then it's a string of nos😵‍💫 Definitely won't make me good at dating
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:22 AM
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I don't want to be good at dating, I just want to find the right one. Snipers not machine guns
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 11:53 PM
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Every attractive quality ties into this, so yes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 11:50 PM
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Maybe I met her as a baby, but no
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:02 PM
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Yes, it was the fallout from the whole thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:01 PM
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It's not really for me anyway, I am just thinking aloud. I don't know how anyone is supposed to expect something like this, or to equip themselves to deal with it. It just seems impossibly horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 07:00 PM
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My childhood neighbor's adult daughter committed suicide. Her husband left her for her best friend. I cannot imagine the grief. It feels senseless and hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:46 PM
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Not me. It's all incredibly annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:35 PM
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I think it's less immoral
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:09 AM
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It depends on the joke and its execution. Some self depricating jokes are just violent comments wrapped in laughs. Doesn't make them funny, does raise flags a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:28 PM
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Only in the extreme, but I don't think that's the kind of person I attract anyway. I've never asked or been asked
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:24 PM
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No. Although the last time I felt compelled to approach was a while back. I only thought about him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 05:22 PM
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Yeah I think you've said it. This post is odd because it implies you suddenly metastasised into a relationship without taking stock of why, or how you think it's going. And you only start to feel some kind of way because of what you saw on social media? Not realistic, or at least incredibly immature. Irl you'd either never be with him in the first place, or you would have had words about this beforehand.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 10:24 PM
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I can't imagine reacting to this
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 10:18 PM
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Gratitude is just positive ruminating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:46 PM
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I did once a few years ago. Still cringe occasionally. Never ever again
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:28 PM
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I don't get 'em
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:01 AM
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The lower classes are the majority
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:00 AM
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In our society we inherit everything (name, for example) by means of our fathers. Jewish heritage is inherited strictly through the mother's heritage; it does not matter if your dad is jewish or not
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 04:48 AM
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What level of drool on the floor intelligence do you have to have to go on a date with a fan? Don't date people that have terrible ideas like this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 02:04 AM
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My dream partner has sex with me ... ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 01:58 AM
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fucked up traumatized autists Wait until I tell you about the rest of mankind!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 01:57 AM
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That's spoilers! It's a young man trying to figure out how to navigate his life after his LTR breaks up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 08:44 PM
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Has anyone seen surprisingly redpilled netflix original I Love You Stupid? They said some things!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 06:46 PM
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No. It's a contradiction though because I do get nervous if I feel I'm being scrutinized too closely. Mutual distance makes me feel "safe" in that I can get to know someone at my pace
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 01:08 AM
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If he's cute and interesting and likes me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:58 AM
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Deeply sorry about this situation
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:57 AM
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Bro, idk. Church? Ugh
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 08:47 PM
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Anything with a ball and/or a camera
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:52 AM
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Except for the ones that make you obscene amounts of money
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:19 AM
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Apparently vitamin D will help
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:40 AM
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Not strange, very literally life or death for many women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:39 AM
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Basically how you are using diplomacy. Like I was listening to a marriage podcast, and they didn't say it in as many words, but once the conversation was essentially "This modern trend of 'communicating' is just code for whining incessantly, and it's not going to help your marriage survive." Of course your intimate partnership is somewhere you'll find refuge from the harshness of the world, and of course you do need healthy channels of communication open, but no, you don't need a 2hr postmortem …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:58 AM
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There's no arguing experience though. I'm just telling you that those aren't the only criteria. You can come to a conclusion as to why
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:52 AM
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Hey man, the snort is a real commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:51 AM
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I don't think that there's a contradiction between honesty and composure like you are suggesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 02:39 AM
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Me too
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 12:31 AM
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No, except when it's at an odd time like crossing the street
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 11:32 PM
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Not the case
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:53 PM
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What about telling them to not do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:51 PM
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When he went to the bathroom once I grabbed his phone because I had a feeling. Sure enough, in his photo album circa 2018, there was a video of him chatting with another woman!! Where he'd ask her about herself, and pay attention to the answer. Where he'd follow up and wait his turn, and talk about things that mutually interested them. It was a real shock to the system, so I threw up everywhere and left.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:21 PM
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Was it... was it you? 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:07 PM
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No, it's definitely him. Thanks though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:53 PM
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Taking a bleach shower and starting a new life
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:43 PM
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You know, I finally figured it out. I used to date a guy who was decent company, but a really subpar conversationalist. I thought it was just who he was, but he actually got that way because he gave his best conversation to some other stacy. Men are really something else!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:41 PM
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I'm a big fan of buzzcuts, but possibly a bigger fan of grays. They're just dreamy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 04:49 AM
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Wow, human beings are amazing. That sounds like hell on earth; I hope you fall in love
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 04:04 AM
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That's a morbid thing to wish
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 02:55 AM
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I can think of two girls I went to school with who have kids now. Both look their usual selves
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:39 AM
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Why would I not see it? Although personally these are the kind of things you either take with you to the grave or break up over. But what if it's the love of his life. Impossible. Hilarious, but also very difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:27 AM
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All the time. Perspectives and experiences I've not been exposed to. That's why I read these comments
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:25 AM
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Not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 03:56 AM
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Yes. You know it was immature of you to feel offended No I don't
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 10:15 PM
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What? Yes they do :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 06:59 PM
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You deserve better than this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 08:00 PM
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Let's be real, it's 3
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 07:59 PM
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How would you know? You did not write it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 02:41 AM
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There's no spin here, nor is there evidence either one is at fault. Try to relax
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 01:15 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:14 PM
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https://reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/r78zg2/i_28m_am_extremely_bored_in_my_marriage_and/ I thought sex prevented this from happening!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:10 PM
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No, average
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:23 AM
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You find away to apply whatever you derive from this in a way that doesn't show patent disdain for the woman you're "partnered" to
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 02:05 AM
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Hard no. Cannot stress this enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 02:04 AM
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Oh, I see. Yeah, and IMO good violence means it balances out regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:58 AM
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No, I'm confused too, as someone that's not a fan of that particular aesthetic
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:48 AM
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I believe adult men are generally able to think and act on their own behalf (as are women, wrt handwringing around consent) but still, sheesh... I can only imagine the kind of stories bouncers swap around.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:43 AM
4

No lol. Take this example: it has no effect on me whether an elderly person I don't know lives or dies. But if you hear about someone fending off a would-be elderly mugging, you can understand that as an instance of morally acceptable violence, despite the fact that it had no effect on your own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:27 AM
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Agnostic. Overall, generally, personality changes are the DLC of who we are as people. You're not ever going to be playing an entirely different game
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:22 AM
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I mean, it does, though. Because morally acceptable violence exists, as well as morally unacceptable violence. Men commit the vast majority of both, but women only approve the vast majority of one kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 01:20 AM
1

I think very deeply about my own existence and am happier for it. Can't be both grateful and ignorant
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:51 PM
1

Regardless of cause, no limit. Because those causes can be really terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 06:49 PM
3

Yes, it's pathetic when people of any gender obsess about past partners. Got us
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:00 PM
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All more attractive? That's not possible. Guy 1 please. Guy 2 is disqualified because he 1) doesn't have the will to get work he likes and 2) would let me walk over him. I wouldn't, but you can always tell, and these boys let life walk all over them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:47 PM
1

Crooked teeth are awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:38 PM
1

We're in agreement - it's a post confirming the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:06 AM
1

So, you don't plan nice dates for people you don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:52 AM
2

Yeah man, it's hard when you're left out to fend for yourself! I'm thinking the same, maybe skipping the part where we pretend we might fall in love
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:19 AM
2

Are you serious? Pregnancy is horrifying
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:40 AM
1

Compatibility over """quality"""
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:40 AM
1

It didn't cause a baby boom, that's a myth
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:36 AM
1

This is probably the most normal thing anyone has ever posted to reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:29 AM
3

The idea of dating doesn't fill me with hope any more. First time in my adult life probably. Oh well. Career max time!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:27 AM
2

Yeah he specifically fucked around a lot, lmao. And that's not to say the message wasn't also supported by grandma too
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 08:40 AM
2

Well that's good. I think this sounds too specific for broad advice to be relevant, but best of luck however you choose to deal with this. I will say I'm grateful for the last man that let me go, because I was not brave enough to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 04:27 AM
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You love yourself first. When you're with who you need to be with, your best side will speak for itself. Similarly if you're thinking there's a better person out there for them, it's likely true, or you wouldn't think it. Unless you lack self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:40 AM
1

Can't go wrong with a star
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:35 AM
2

Honestly, none of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:28 AM
3

Yes. The world just isn't as small as people think in that regard. I believe everyone's personal accounts, but they might as well come from aliens sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:22 AM
1

Gardening is a girl hobby, not that I'd judge
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:21 AM
1

That wouldn't make me feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 03:03 AM
1

No, it was actually grandpa more than anybody. ie the one who knew exactly what would happen if they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:38 AM
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I don't know how it's supposed to make me feel, because the opposite applies for me. It has always made me feel sad that my father doesn't particularly like my mother, and that she feels like this is preferable to divorcing. She's amazing, and deserves better than him
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:34 AM
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That sounds like women who weren't into you. All that happens with sex is you stay around a little longer because the sex is good. You wait for someone that truly captures your intrigue. At least, I would
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:31 AM
2

Haha no. I don't know why, probably the reminder that family is as family does
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 07:26 PM
2

When an older woman in your family asks if you have an SO. Often directed at young women and often complained about because it can be exhausting, but I this time around it made me smile
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:23 PM
1

To be honest, I got donde-está-tu-novio'd yesterday and it felt amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:18 PM
2

I miss home constantly and go back as often a as is feasible
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:17 PM
1

Ha, figures
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:16 PM
2

It's just a status thing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:15 PM
5

No. Without compatibility, your devotion will be received as nonsensical, or insincere. Or it simply won't be reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:04 AM
4

Or she hasn't found the right person
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:00 AM
1

There's a way to understand self respect without referring to other people in such depraved terms. That shit sinks in first.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 12:21 AM
1

No. I'm exactly like you, hostility towards sexual/romantic advances is high(er than usual!) after a break up. The idea of someone new only becomes palatable once it stops sounding like a pathetic story I'm telling myself
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 12:12 AM
1

We know
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:55 PM
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I always thought that the term was made up because it implies a lack of reciprocity. Like you're an absolutely pathetic simp if you're alright cleaning up after your guy like he's your son, making his food, paying his bills, and coddling him when he would never have the patience to do the same for you. This was the default until like our parent's generation and is one of the most common source of dissatisfaction for relationships But if you're the mommy mcbangmaid to his daddy dick nurse... well…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:52 PM
1

Poor why? You walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:47 PM
2

Can't believe the gall of people!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:45 PM
1

You seem like you hang out on tumblr
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 11:37 PM
1

It could also be perceived as a leadership quality. But I also see what you mean, and it might not be worth trying to walk that line :/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 08:48 PM
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However often it is, he has several orders of magnitude more sperm than the next 1000 women have eggs. Think flowers to pollen, it's really not in the same universe in terms of numbers
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 08:28 PM
2

I believe you can be outspoken about your principles. Who would push back against you expressing concern about e.g literacy rate of young boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 08:26 PM
2

Mathematically, no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 08:20 PM
1

Nothing turns me on more bby
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 06:09 PM
2

Usually 9-10, but some days I just don't know. I don't know if women are unhappier these days. There are so many flavors of suffering to choose from in modern society
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:59 PM
2

It's only fake because he is bi not gay
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:49 PM
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Big emphasis on "it may just be" And that's where the heartache comes from. He'll likely never know either way, but it seems he's feeling self conscious about it, so he'll always assume that it was, regardless of what the actual truth might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 02:00 AM
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Nah. Male ego is very intimately tied to sexual performance. I hope he knows it may just be her enforcing her level of casualness on their situation, rather than it being a commentary on how good or not he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:40 AM
2

That's really strange. Like I am strange, but this is stranger
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:29 AM
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https://reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/qyv0pm/blocked_after_sex_as_a_guy_and_i_feel_used/ It's hard out there in these streets
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 01:25 AM
1

Shit tests aren't relevant to friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 11:57 PM
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Sorry but I don't know how any self respecting man allows themselves to do this for a non-SO. Of course they're going to say it's a waste of time🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 11:55 PM
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Immaturity doesn't show itself when a person is having fun, it shows itself when shit gets real and you are not able to step up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 11:50 PM
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That's what you do when you're attracted to dysfunction
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 08:39 PM
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There’s only one ex I would “take back” in a way but he’s the one I don’t talk to. Because if we spoke again I might say yes and I couldn’t handle having to say goodbye to him again. So we don’t talk anymore and I watch his life through the pictures that his mom posts on Instagram and hope he finds what’s meant for him. Crying-in-the-club.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:49 AM
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Not really possible to say unequivocally in terms of men as a group. Only thing that's unequivocally demonstrable in terms of being a contributing factor is age. There's never been a better time to find a male partner willing to do his share of work around the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 04:25 AM
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Except for the part where you exist and are treated as a woman? Femcels aren't "effectively men" because you don't personally sexualise them. If that were the case, well...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:05 AM
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I get to whine sometimes, that's pretty fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:38 PM
2

Lightness, stillness, warmth
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 07:33 PM
2

"Thinking of you" 🙄 I wish you wouldn't, but okay!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:42 AM
0

Every first I love you story is frivolous tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:26 AM
1

You get happiness from fulfilment, and some of us mostly or solely find fulfilment in creating and maintaining relationships. They should be viewed as labor, yes, but as the fun kind. Like how millionaire popstars perform labor, as opposed to insurance brokers. I'm like 80/20 relationships/career in terms of where I find fulfilment
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:21 AM
2

With bated breath as always!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 03:17 AM
1

We all know what happens when you let people in!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:45 AM
1

My weekend was great fortunately!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:45 AM
1

When have they ever?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:44 AM
3

Letting white hairs show
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 02:13 AM
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Quoting us both exactly here. Me: But the vast majority of women that have experiences with abusive relationships don't bring it upon themselves You: I'll agree to the majority of people, as it isn't a gendered thing. I don't think the specific example you gave should necessarily be counted here. I am saying that those are fringe cases that one could consider "justifiable" - though I don't personally believe abuse is ever justified. What I was addressing was the people that will experience an eq…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 12:09 AM
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Who says they are? You! Tf?? I'm happy to let our conversation speak for itself from here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 11:35 PM
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The part where I said "as you have described them" is literally defining the term lol, but yours works too. I don't understand why you're pussyfooting around fringe cases like you yourself don't have an intimate understanding of what abuse is. You do. So why are you talking about 'kids these days' as if that has any bearing? Why not consider those who, to use your own example, are beaten into a coma by their significant others? The vast majority are regular people, as you have agreed, so why are…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:38 PM
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Yea, absolutely. The vast majority of people. Nothing you said negates the idea that most people don't deserve abusive relationships as you have described them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 09:47 PM
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Q4rp: is awalt a central tenet of trp?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 09:06 PM
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No, I didn't state that. Having no empathy for ≠ wishing harm. We disagree. I'll ask around. I appreciate you sharing, and I can only imagine what suffering it caused your friend to go through. But the vast majority of women that have experiences with abusive relationships don't bring it upon themselves, or have backstories like your friend's ex where it's easier to paint them a villain. Most are just regular people who want to love and be loved. That's who you're saying deserves to be beaten in…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 09:04 PM
1

Not toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:15 PM
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Nothing, but that's everyone. So you're using a limited space to say not much at all about yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 08:15 PM
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I'm not sure what you're trying to say. It may be different to what I am saying. Let me know if so and I'll rephrase I do not know what EWALT stands for, but saying that awalt (ie, a central tenet of trp) is a projection is wrong on its face, factually. It's fine to believe in karma, but once again, believing that karma applies to these situations means you believe women are bad and deserve blame for entering into abusive relationships, or really any sort of relationship that ends. It is patholo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 07:34 PM
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Hold on, I wasn't saying you have to physically harm someone to be red pill. I'm saying you have to believe awalt, and believing awalt necessitates believing that women have it coming because they choose men that are bad. That's the schadenfreude you mention. It's a terrible opinion but such is life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:43 PM
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I don't see how. It's a necessary aspect of the 'awalt' mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 06:08 PM
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Conflict avoidance until you're five years married? Couldn't be me (except it actually really could lol) If you're a generally patient person and a generally happy person, you won't really have a moment where something like this makes you snap. You shrug it off and live with it. Right up until the point where you'd sort of rather not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 05:35 PM
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To what extent do trpers/manosphere feel empathy for the women Not at all, obviously. Even when they're just regular crappy, the company line is the women have it coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 05:30 PM
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https://reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/qs7847/im_29m_wanting_to_leave_a_loving_marriage_of_5/ Hahaha he's about to ruin this woman's entire life
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 04:54 PM
1

Yeah. It's not healthy though, on the inside
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 02:26 AM
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Not nearly as bad. Some people will still like the way you look as is, and you'll age into your attractiveness anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:28 PM
0

Ten days without a word? People handle their intimate relationships like airport cargo guys handle packages marked FRAGILE.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:10 PM
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You'll know if he sticks around He'll stick around if he likes you. Has no bearing on if he ""deserves"" you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 11:07 PM
3

I hope you find something a little more sustainable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 12:37 AM
1

You should cut it out. Once is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:25 PM
1

Kyle Kuzma, Yoo Ji-tae Others that don't come to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 05:10 AM
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Oh my god, I'm in bits😂😂😂 More in a "damn I'm lonely, why do I feel like this? Let's ask the internet " way
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 12:40 AM
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Yes It was loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:24 PM
2

This is hilarious. I've always maintained that ideal hair length for men is right around pool table felt
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:04 PM
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Nobody will hold it against you for not wanting to date a woman. Don't worry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 09:00 PM
2

I love that shit. My favorites wax and wane, but one year I spent just blasting Sleigh Ride so probably that one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:41 PM
3

Seriously? I wish I had a crush. It's a lot more interesting than most of life's BS
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:35 PM
2

Yes, it means you're a respectable person, and lucky to have generous friends. The great thing about people like that is begging to return the favor, which means more fun hangouts in the bag
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:28 AM
21

I'd sooner set myself on fire
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:19 AM
1

But being a totally laid back cool girl is how women end up being like the wife in the BBC OP Ah you're right tbh. Good thing there's always work to fall back on
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:08 AM
1

No, I base my value in being loved. Other accomplishments to a lesser degree
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:00 AM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:55 AM
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I was thinking this but with like, a super strong burning sensation downstairs if you do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 11:13 PM
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The first paragraph isn't true at all, and is far less true, I'd imagine, at your age. It all depends on her individual attitude towards social media. The extremely beautiful women I'm friends with don't update their Instagram accounts at all as it happens. And the others vary - I actually am thinking of one friend who also didn't post when I met her, then a work thing got her into doing social media and now she posts a lot because she's incorporating it into her career. One other simply doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 09:05 PM
2

should-be-a-flaw I reject the framing outright. It's called character!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:08 PM
2

You commiserate a little bit. "Oh the paths life takes us" or something. I honestly think this is what people want most of the time, not a solution or a call for optimism
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:01 PM
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No, it's just one of the many ways you can handle stress. You don't cum because you can handle being horny?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:57 PM
2

Try to make her happy, while being your best self. It sounds like that has been more than enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:55 PM
1

I lose weight
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:42 PM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:41 PM
1

Okay, but he wasn't, so... Are you trying to complain about your love life on my post complaining about my love life? To be honest you should go right ahead
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:40 PM
1

someone hotter Err... I feel like men can get off to anything at the drop of a hat. It's a grainy little video on a shitty little screen, idk why it would threaten you as an in the flesh human being
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:54 PM
2

No, I was talking about romantic compatibility. You don't have to be aggressive or pushy to show you want sex anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 09:14 AM
2

I am weed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:37 AM
2

Not into me enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 05:36 AM
3

It's just my life :')
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:20 AM
1

Freedom, and considerate men. I believe, though have no way of knowing, that men today are more respectful as a whole than they were, and that doesn't happen without feminism becoming as huge as it has.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:10 AM
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I think I'll try douchebags now. Nice men are not interested in dating, so maybe it horseshoes around and it turns out they're actually perfect for me. Who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:02 AM
3

Settling is just reasonable compromise. Nothing unhealthy about it. She has an annoying laugh, and you whine too much, so what? You shouldn't get with somebody who repulses you, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:00 AM
1

Ha. Of course I would have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:50 AM
0

If you have to ask
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:23 AM
3

Still not quite. This passage references a comparison between the top 20% and the bottom 20%. For it to be 5% and 50% we'd need to see a comparison between the top 20% and 100% of the people studied. Half is actually a stunning statistic tout court tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 12:16 AM
3

Women generally tend to cuckiness imo. It's a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:37 PM
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No, that is a meaningfully incorrect takeaway. If 5% of women overall state strawberry as their preferred ice cream flavor, but 8% of promiscuous women do, it doesn't mean that promiscuous women tend to prefer strawberry ice cream.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 07:10 PM
4

I'll echo others and say it's not really what I'm looking for when I'm out and about, but I'll never take exception to someone coming to say hi
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 07:05 PM
2

UV from the sun (or anywhere) ages your skin, so you'll want to use spf if you don't want to end up looking like those old time leathery farm workers
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:15 PM
1

Yes. I hope you aren't being sarcastic, it's a part of seeing where things go
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:12 PM
4

I'll probably ignore you. With one guy I just wouldn't leave him alone. But I was down especially bad
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 04:04 PM
2

I'm trying to think which of the older women in my family haven't had to spend time mothering some other woman's child. And not in the wholesome reconstituted family way 😬 Very likely he's still very deep in grief. I don't imagine I would react this way but grief is the most scarring/psychologically impactful emotion you can have. It might even make you do something as crazy as abandon your own kid. I don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:27 AM
2

You made this point very well, and very profoundly. Said as someone who initially came away with the opposite conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 03:22 AM
1

But that's unkind 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:43 PM
1

Yes, no
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 05:39 PM
4

Concern first, and sympathy. There's never much worth saying but I'd hold him if I'm in a position to or showing negative emotions That's a little bit more broad. I don't tend to react to any of them but sorrow. This has happened before so it's not like it's theoretical or anything, it just doesn't turn me off of a man I already like
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:26 PM
2

Thank you so much for this!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 06:06 PM
4

Everyone is crazy. Maybe some handle theirs better than others. I don't know why you would avoid someone who is handling and living with their condition properly. But that is your right
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:24 PM
3

It might be the people you're around
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:21 PM
1

It's a vague preference
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 02:21 PM
1

Why are you in the minority of men who think this? I would say the same...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:57 AM
5

Yes. Bad faith begets bad faith
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 08:40 PM
3

When you have a familial relationship with someone, and repeatedly ask something of them that you feel is a duty/expectation. I've not really heard anything like the injury example, if you want to elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 06:58 PM
1

Absent all context, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:16 PM
2

Insecure ≠ low value imo but the tactics are designed to provoke unhealthy responses from people. If it works, you lack self esteem, but so many women lack self esteem. You'll always find success, I just think it's cruel to exploit another person's vulnerabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 04:03 PM
1

By 1/100th the amount of people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:37 PM
1

You did it for yourself, because that's who you want to be. Doesn't mean you were around the right people though
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:36 PM
1

coddle your social anxiety as little as possible Emphasis. Remember they are just as (im)perfect as you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:34 PM
1

It should tell you that you don't really grasp the English language.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:11 PM
1

I'm pretty sure asexuals can still enjoy orgasm, just not with another person. Otherwise there's always weed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:38 AM
2

Yeah but if I fucked an alien and had its babies out my asshole, would you still stick around in the relationship????¿¿¿¿ where are you going In all seriousness, whoever wrote that, the aptness of a hypothetical does have bearing on the legitimacy of the point you're trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:47 AM
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An IMAX theater will have better picture and audio quality than whatever you have at home. In a nightclub it will be better speakers and a person that's taking the time to queue up music that hits, in a way that flows well. Plus, it's really enjoyable as a communal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 09:19 PM
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I do! But it's a bit like watching a movie at home vs on IMAX
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:58 PM
8

To dance with my friends! She was out to cheat though, it's just way easier in a club. Sorry she hurt your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:00 PM
2

Soonest possible appropriate time is 6mo. Harder to say a maximum because different people have different/evolving views of marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:53 PM
2

I'm sorry you've experienced this😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:51 PM
17

No, women are in a place where they can choose to do either without facing judgement. Women that don't want to do this just don't do it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:46 PM
1

You'd probably have to ask a guy. It's a tricky balancing act though! You can't approach someone like they're just the gas station attendant because the goal is to build intimacy there. But you can't also lean too hard into the fact that you want them to make a decision on you, because the pressure there is what will make them feel self conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:56 PM
4

All agreeableness means is that you're good at following orders. Not at all. Diplomacy may be a better term here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:24 PM
1

When you don't make somebody feel self conscious as you are seducing them
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 06:21 PM
1

But I might just be! I'm being annoying lol but it's my recency bias. Last night my friend went home with a guy who wasn't the smoothest initially. But he had it in him! Maybe everything's possible with a good wingman and a prayer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:58 PM
1

I suppose. It has never happened to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:47 PM
1

For sure. But what if I'm right? 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:45 PM
2

It's more within your grasp than you give yourself credit for
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:16 PM
2

You probably only need to be smooth
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:48 AM
4

No. It has been difficult, but that isn't why. Feminism has already done what it can in terms of love/career issues, I can take it from here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 08:40 PM
9

Yes, unfortunately. Doesn't make it shallow though. Don't give these people any of your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:54 PM
-1

Expressing dislike for sports or babies. Appearance-wise, hair that covers the ears on a man will be a no 98% of the time. Flat-rimmed baseball caps. Pretty much all piercings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:28 PM
7

I need to see!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:22 PM
24

Er, shallow? This is a fundamental character flaw my dude
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 07:19 PM
3

Find yourself a moneybags spouse! A job isn't a waste of life if you're doing something that feels important to you. But yes, pushing papers at some insurance firm would feel like a slow death, and maintaining a household would carry significantly more meaning in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:59 PM
3

The choice invariably is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:49 PM
2

Project will likely be scrapped
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:45 PM
2

Glad someone else said it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:35 PM
6

No I have low sociopathic tendencies
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:34 PM
6

This is not a study on human attraction dynamics, and it does not support the claim you are making.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:35 AM
2

Just got done reading the journal article that was posted. Of course, not once does it support any of the claims made in this post. But it does say women are more honest than men. Perhaps OP might try believing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:27 AM
1

"Taken" usually
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:31 AM
3

Yet men that want happiness and partnership (rather than exploiting others) will find it by acting in a manner consistent with their own values. They can do it, why can't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:30 AM
6

Yeah but actually when they first met she only got with him because he saw him spit in an orphan's face. Sorry, I don't make the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:28 PM
6

Blocking obtrusive thoughts makes them grow back twice as fast. Let them come, but always try to follow with "but I'll meet the woman for me some time soon."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:25 PM
1

Texting isn't important imo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:03 PM
2

It does actually!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 10:01 PM
2

Yes, but that's not Chad energy, it's well functioning adult energy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:36 PM
7

Ew, love? Gay
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 09:30 PM
1

You have. She is out there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:58 PM
4

I know the media No, it's been a thing for the white women that have been getting together with black men already.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:10 PM
5

Why does it hurt? This is one person. Many other viewpoints out there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:29 AM
6

It's the saddest thing I've read all day
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:27 AM
1

Hey man thanks, that's a great example. All you've done is tell the story of a man with a healthy self esteem. Healthy boundaries, healthy maturity, whatever. Anyone who chooses an option other than 3 lacks the above - and perhaps more importantly, they lack appropriate esteem for their partner too. If "blue pill" even exists, it's just a reaction to red pill, which makes it really easy to strawman. Nobody ever said you had to be a doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:22 AM
1

I'm going to go ahead and believe you. I've not experienced anything like that but I am often bad at recognizing subtlety
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:38 AM
5

How much less toxic would rp be if you replaced the word "frame" with "self esteem" & would it make them any better at writing analogies?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:17 AM
3

No dude, that's literally when dating is fucking really, really easy. The block button exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:13 AM
1

I'm not saying that you are complaining. I'm saying that when you say your friends' experiences show you that a certain opinion has worth, you aren't made to pay attention to what's at play when things go right (ie the opposing opinion.) So you won't be weighing their worth in your own mind with any parity. In other words: "Millions of citizens make it home from work healthy and intact" will never make headlines. "Fatal crash on hwy 1" inevitably does.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:11 AM
1

Shit proves blue pill right every time I take a breath. You just won't see anyone complaining about it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:04 AM
2

See above comment, it's too circumstantial. He just hasn't trod a familiar path
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:03 AM
1

Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 02:01 AM
5

They are beautiful and sweet, and holding them feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 01:25 AM
3

Depends on your own height, but I think there's a bell curve distribution with the ideal height at +6-7". I think the upper limit starts coming at around +1' but there's nothing love can't overcome! I'd prefer the 5'9 man I'd rather stay single than date a short man I'm not fond of. I'd rather date a man I'm fond of than be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:11 PM
1

They made you leave Walmart? Congratulations! Always happy to help :D Hug tickles are your best bet next time you're with a bro. Your fingers are right by the armpit already, it gets me every time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 10:05 PM
2

Women are thinner skinned so it probably is. I don't, and presumably never will, have experience tickling a man. Why not? Don't let your dreams be dreams!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 08:49 PM
2

OK. What is your understanding of a high value person? Is it character-based, finance/class-based, or a blend of the two?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:04 AM
4

Only low value women love sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 11:49 PM
6

If you mean why do I think most men get this wrong, I speculate it's not most men. But it's common enough for it to be worth saying this aloud. If you mean why do I think many men get this wrong, my most charitable bet is exposure. Not being raised around women, or not noticing them in your life except when they are (often distant) objects of desire. Many men also just have a preference for misogyny, which might be an easier option for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:13 PM
12

Biggest one would be personhood. I'm a person with thoughts, hopes, and principles of my own. Just like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 09:31 PM
3

That's what I think but I don't know that it's a majority opinion any more. I wouldn't contemplate it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 08:33 PM
2

Yes. Usually the ones who intend to become mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:46 AM
1

Emotional
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 07:08 PM
1

lack of community. Yes. All of the evils you have mentioned have this to blame
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:50 PM
1

Yes. Scary every time. Worthwhile though, I love my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:39 PM
3

Free/low cost community centers with incentivized participation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 05:36 PM
2

Yeah, it doesn't seem to make much sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:53 PM
1

None of the misogynists. So like... four men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:20 PM
3

Yes and no. She is worthy of a pedestal because you understand she is your equal. You should be on one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 09:18 PM
8

It's true, it's obnoxious. But I'll never take an option that doesn't appeal to me at the time. Shrug!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:11 PM
1

These hypotheticals are too unhinged to get anything meaningful out of them. Who in the hell, why in the hell, how in the hell? We'd be on the phone to the police sooner than we'd think about any of these things
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:09 PM
9

"Not hungry."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:07 PM
2

Christmas heads >>>
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:05 PM
7

Your main point is correct, but not so much the conclusion. Just try harder is ultimately the only response when somebody is after something they either need or want really badly. Although the more compassionate rephrasing is "try these different things, but it may take a long while, if it comes at all. You will feel frustrated that it seems to come more readily for others, and for that, I am sorry." Because the alternative is to tell them to quit, and that's no alternative at all. It's a lot li…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:39 PM
2

Probably that sex work is illegitimate
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 08:14 PM
1

Mine is too😭
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:50 PM
1

Oh yes, likely. There's a reason you don't hear the quiet part said out loud though lol, could you imagine?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:27 PM
1

It's just soap.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:03 PM
1

It's your sweetheart in another life :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 06:00 PM
2

Ohhh. I am so sorry. No it isn't silly to feel hurt. It's really admirable when a person uses thought and effort and takes initiative with gifts. The thought is the entire point of gift giving. So while arranging a cheese platter is a wonderful thing to do in this case, it's possible that the thing in itself just wasn't very good in terms of what it was meant to be. I think you should believe her when she says she appreciated the gesture. But you did kind of give her the platter equivalent of ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:49 PM
1

I personally use it as short hand for "this happens because we live in a society that was built for and around men." Sometimes it's blood boiling, sometimes mere artefact.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:38 PM
3

1) Maybe... 50 usually? Around menopause 2) When you're definitively separated from the height of your beauty, and not sexualized like you once were 3) Children are tiring, but a lot of it is a mental concession on the woman's part. Like, I'm not playing that young woman's game any more, all of my energy is on my kids, so it's fine that I haven't really done my hair well, or I'm wearing kind of ratty clothes, or that these last 15lbs just aren't going away (last one is often a direct consequence…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:34 PM
1

Nothing like a good day of hard manual labor! It's been a good one, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:28 PM
1

I hope you both enjoy yourselves
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 05:24 PM
3

You are doing well for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 02:56 AM
2

It's the guy on the phone meme come to life
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:28 PM
1

We do. You'll notice there's a personality type that's just chomping at the bit for a soapbox. Ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:37 PM
1

It's the patriarchy if you ask me! Ironically I see this mostly interacting with men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:47 PM
1

Maybe half of the time during foreplay. Most of the time during PIV. I'm not trying to call it a responsibility at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:44 PM
1

That's not dehumanizing, that's having a healthy sense of self
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:17 PM
2

What does she see in him? Have you tried telling her he is a bum
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:00 PM
2

They are a boy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:40 PM
2

Of course. Can somebody else make you laugh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 01:50 AM
1

You aren't reiterating my view because you don't understand what I have said. (which apparently is not a matter of opinion) Apparently you haven't understood this either. You also know nothing about me or my view of sex, but have unsurprisingly misrepresented it, too. And you learn nothing. Figures!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:57 AM
1

What a joke. Up is not down. Me having to tell you about the way the world is is a function of you not understanding it. Carrying on a conversation despite the fact is still something that can happen! Feel free to try your best, but making out like this was me not responding to you is really foolish
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:10 AM
2

It's not just Dave Chappelle. I want to say every polemic cultural conversation will have leftist takes that are like, not only is this person CANCELLED, but what they said is STUPID and WRONG. Here's why 🧵 And then will talk around what they don't like about it, without actually getting to the heart of what's being said. Reminds me of a few people here, ha-ha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:30 PM
1

I usually agree. Insecurity should by no means be seen as an achilles heel for a conversation, but you have to acknowledge that some of them lead to disproportionate responses from some. Sharks are frightening and it's perfectly reasonable to fear them, but maybe it's also a shame if you never go to the beach because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:16 PM
2

You aren't actually responding to what I'm saying, you're just using me as a bounce-off to soapbox about whatever the fuck it was you felt like saying. At least try to look like you're engaging conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:13 PM
0

That is only if you consider a sexual partner as someone that is reducible ? It's not a matter of opinion. You are reduced to different things as a matter of course when you live life as an adult in society. We shouldn't reduce our partners because interpersonal relationships are one of the only places we can (and should) be taken as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 09:56 PM
1

Not hate, but it can be very annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 09:40 PM
0

Mommy mcbangmaid isn't derogatory because it shows desire. It's derogatory because it denotes a woman whose presence has been reduced to caretaker and sex provider (an utterly replaceable woman) without reciprocity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 09:38 PM
4

You weren't a priority. Looks like there's a connection and established rapport on her part now. Grats
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:32 PM
3

The response 😂😂😂 Why is the idea so offensive...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:04 PM
1

That's no problem, thanks Hold on though because you're establishing a circular argument. I think you want to say I don't have a real sense of sex scarcity because I always had access to potential sex, and if I didn't pursue it it was because my need was already satisfied. But sex can't be a need only because I didn't pursue more sex than I did, if the claim is that sex isn't a need in the first place. To reiterate what I said previously, I only felt differently/positive after sex if it was a co…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:36 PM
1

I didn't start at 16, that's just what I figured was a reasonable earliest age for sexual debut. I was 21 most men are stratified at a year in between Wdym by this? In any case, I figure you'll agree that several months to years is enough to know what sporadic sex looks like. I lived well regardless during these periods, having my unhappier moments like anybody. So I can't say that not having sex was a need that went unfulfilled. And when I'd have sex because my real want (an LTR) was not showin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 06:36 PM
2

Love how this extremely reasonable comparison needs a catastrophic injury to even begin to be plausible
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:57 PM
2

Since I turned 16... 5 years at a time was the longest stretch, and I've done a couple of runs at just over a year. It's usually the case that I'm not having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:47 PM
1

I don't know that the two options you've provided are at odds. Sex is about a lot of things, depending on who you're with and where you are in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:44 PM
2

I have and I do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:17 PM
1

Lol, is mommy mcbangmaid women's equivalent to husband material ? Please don't refer to someone you presumably care about that way :')
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 04:12 PM
1

6' is acceptable and fine tbh. I am 5'4" tho
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 02:44 PM
4

Even if most women want their man to be all these things I wouldn't even concede that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 11:46 PM
1

I didn't say that women don't weight looks. Looks are one factor out of a myriad, and different women weigh different factors differently. but in cases where you're actually not first You have no way of knowing, except for what she tells you. You can however choose to believe you aren't in fact first. That option is easy and readily available at all times, but it won't get you any sort of happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:24 PM
2

Wow, I wrote about this not thirty seconds ago. Yes, you are right. A huge portion of the topics that are discussed here are this, paired with the never believe women thing that is popular. It's why ""Chad"" is as boogeymanned as he is. If I could force anybody to see differently, it would be to accept that they are not lesser than.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:21 PM
1

visibly not as good as the previous guy The problem is men usually don't make these assessments the same way that the women dating them do. Don't be so used to calling yourself second best that you don't believe a woman saying you're first. That's not the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:10 PM
1

Always be nice. Simping is great, but it must be kept private.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:22 PM
2

Ohh, great news. It is a bit more anxiety inducing but I am 100% for being generous with people that aren't around to respond to texts right away. In person is the only thing that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:04 PM
2

Who's being mean to you? No need to interact with somebody that's making you feel bad
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:02 PM
1

It does when it starts to color how you see yourself and your interactions with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:00 PM
1

No, holy hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:54 PM
1

I like it too. You're bizarre, sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:46 PM
1

It is a wonderful height, 100% heaven sent. Source: main squeeze
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:40 PM
1

We don't know anything about the situation. But when in doubt, give space.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:20 PM
2

Sincerely asking, what kind of message is it that you would want to receive?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:20 PM
1

I see that. For sure fuckboy is one of those words that is only used once a woman has had the experience to know as much. So it's less a coping mechanism, and more just the nature of finding out about someone. Husband material is the same way. Using both when you don't really know a person is insincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 06:37 PM
3

I mean, not really. Or at least not entirely. If you pick any NHL team I'd bet decent money the majority are married or have serious significant others. A more pedestrian example would be army wives. A lot of women do have real adversity vis a vis "aggressive" occupations, but for many others it's a secondary consideration, if it is even one at all. In Ngannou's case he's a soft spoken guy with a trad background and a well paying job. And obviously he looks like that. Total husband material, alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:29 PM
3

Mostly bad. All I ever looked for was a best friend who'd hold hands with me. Save one or two moments, it hasn't gone to plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:57 AM
2

It's mutual understanding mostly. How much easier is it to talk to an old college friend vs your aunt Gladys? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:51 AM
1

Yes. Is it always guiltless? No
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:46 AM
3

It very well could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 03:15 AM
1

Yet again we have the "I don't think this way, therefore nobody does" of these conversations coming up again. There's no point engaging if you refuse to accept that people aren't the same as you. Why is Francis Ngannou not husband material?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 01:16 AM
2

One leads to the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:20 AM
1

I'd rather not compete at all, and don't know what would go wrong for me to be in this spot... But if it's his domain, he should beat me gently. Enough that he's in control at all times, but where I also have the space to explore what's going right/wrong, where, and how. This is the only correct response for anyone in a position of mastery, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 12:11 AM
2

A man without an aggressive edge is neither protector or provider. Not Husband Material.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 11:57 PM
8

I believe the term in Yiddish is mensch.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 11:55 PM
3

Women want to marry fuckboys Not men they consider fuckboys. Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 11:54 PM
1

Have mercy, not the sharks😱
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 03:48 PM
3

I'm so glad for you, but I'm not reading your life story. "It's raining" "No, it's sunny." "I SAID IT'S RAINING!!!" We don't live in the same place, and we aren't around the same people. Go figure we haven't experienced the same thing. Just sex from men is easy, finding a guy you want to be in a real relationship with (at least in my experience) isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:19 PM
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By me? 20% Think of all the sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:10 PM
5

Think you dropped this 👑
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:09 PM
2

Your experience is SO OUT OF TOUCH No, it's not. That's likely why it was upvoted so much. Men here are obsessed with claiming things never/rarely happen when it doesn't fit their narrative
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:08 PM
1

Emasculate is to make one less of a man, the opposite is to make one less of a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 04:22 AM
1

I would hope not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:32 PM
2

You are filtering for what you're looking for, and that's great. I have none.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:31 PM
1

Barren, shrew, prude, cold etc are all insults made to make a woman feel like less of a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:24 PM
2

I love a modern man too. I despise a misogynist, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:20 PM
1

I'm convinced it won't be him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:19 PM
2

He's just doing him. Eventually he'll find someone who likes that kind of dynamic, and you'll find someone who prefers something similar to what you do. I personally think you should know how you should feel about someone in that period of time, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:14 PM
1

Oh. On an individual level, it's probably the same, because being shunned or disparaged hurts whoever is doing it, and for whatever reason. On a wider scale, we've denied people their rights, livelihoods, and actual lives because of racism, and that abuse gets inherited too. So it's caused far more suffering and evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 11:08 PM
1

I don't think I understand your point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 10:17 PM
1

It's just a very broad "I'm going to treat you differently (worse) solely because of what you look like"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 09:14 PM
1

They are also very different in nature, as you have generously spelled out
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 08:40 PM
1

Of the men that I have dated came from apps. It would have helped if I had finished reading the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 08:39 PM
1

100% and I'm nearly 25 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:26 PM
1

But why? That's what a lot of women love too
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:25 PM
1

It is a real, unmeasurable impediment, much like racism. But I won't place them on the same level out of respect to people that have died due to racism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:24 PM
2

Oh dear. Sounds like a man who doesn't take himself seriously. If she leaves, he will have deserved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:22 PM
2

Damn, yeah. When people mention "ambition" it is always reduced to bla bla bla CEO bla bla bla six figures. I don't think that's the most meaningful interpretation of the word for most people. This, however, likely is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:16 PM
1

But you aren't comparing to a pool of sexually unsuccessful narcs. Tbh you usually aren't comparing to sexually successful non-narcs either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:07 PM
2

It's something you discovered concretely, like she said as much to a friend? That is definitely a different situation, and I think most people do understand that an explicit "I am only with you because person X is unavailable" is a huge red flag you should stay far away from. But we also can't let ourselves be victim to the general idea of other men/women, because they are unconquerable boogeymen, and will start running your life if you let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:00 PM
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You left your girlfriend for this? Oh, man. I just read a post from a married man like that said something along the lines of, he has great sex with his wife, but she's not on the level of this one woman who gave him the most mind blowing sex. I plan on finding someone to settle down with one day and there's also a decent enough chance I won't be his best sex. Does that bum me out a little? Yeah. Is there anything I can really do about it though? You have to operate with the sincerely held belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:30 PM
2

It is the only marketing strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 05:36 PM
1

Fine if you aren't interested in family or partnership. In all sincerity, many people aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 04:41 PM
2

Is it your wife
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 03:25 PM
1

But did they, in fact, decide that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:53 PM
5

Thought I was going crazy. And it makes the conversations around physical appearance sound even more batshit
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 02:47 PM
2

Why'd you have to go and ruin the fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:14 AM
1

Pay more attention
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:07 AM
1

Grossly inappropriate label, and a sickening story
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 12:06 AM
2

Haha thank you:)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:29 AM
2

I did want to, micro level. I'm a big believer in seeing where things go, especially if they don't have vibes that make me feel like running away. Macro level, why do I believe in seeing where things go if I have no direct evidence it works? I tried the exact same last year with someone else (less cute but still cute enough) and went out with him I don't know how many times, and pretty much felt the same way I did on the first or second date. Heart boner was not there. So why would it be differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 12:56 AM
2

Me, it was me! I'd say that's a fair assessment. I felt weird too lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 12:20 AM
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and theyre not hard to find Cmon man
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 10:22 PM
6

Surely spending your youth having meaningless sex is better than this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 04:33 AM
1

Why would she say that? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 01:30 AM
3

So you just... look up hot dudes online for fun? Same!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 11:33 PM
1

I don't know what the literature has to say about where it might come from. But in terms of attraction, there's still considerable overlap between maternal behavior and male attraction, and ditto vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 11:24 PM
1

According to some, it's the only way of knowing that a person has experienced true adversity. I resent that view.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 09:25 PM
3

Very silly sweeping statement, but it gets to the heart of what I'm saying. I guarantee that a lot of these men lead lives that are just as cushy. But that's okay somehow because they have a penis.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 07:10 PM
9

One of the recycled complaints on here is that women on PPD have good lives and shouldn't be posting on here. But most of the men do too. Why's that not an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:44 PM
1

Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:41 PM
4

Oh. Aww. If you want more sex, say so. Saying this gets you broken up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:39 PM
0

The answer is probably you deserve better, but do tell
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:35 PM
1

You're just trying to find true love. Plus, ghosting a near stranger is more compassionate than direct rejection imo
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:33 PM
1

Your husband is total husband material
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:37 PM
2

Stay alone, stay lonely. By definition dealbreakers are things that would make relationships a nonstarter.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:02 PM
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Should be two people who are attracted to each other and have each other's backs. Das it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:00 PM
1

Nah, sweet caring men that are attractive get snapped tf up and stay that way. That's why you never hear from them. It is so, so unhinged to claim that women are conspiring to keep some collective vast conspiracy on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 07:50 PM
1

No. But thanks?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 02:40 PM
1

F Generally speaking, circumstance 100 I don't think that's exactly "the world" but w/e
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:49 AM
1

Fucking sorcery
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:43 AM
1

Nothing comes to mind at the moment but I hope you'll feel better soon
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:41 AM
1

Antiquated view.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 09:33 PM
2

Why is this a revelation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:16 PM
2

https://reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/pv28um/i30f_think_my_husband35m_doesnt_like_the_recent/ Reflecting on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:09 PM
1

I am for legal abortion Context as to why you are accusing someone of hamstering when they are in agreement with you. Details as to why you think abortion warrants the same level of attention and care as... colonoscopies. Unless you are just being insincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:25 PM
1

I am for legal abortion. Controlling where? Make it make sense :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:32 PM
2

How? It affects humanity. A small relative portion, but even at 1-2% of humanity being affected, that is an enormous amount of people. If the local chemical plant started illegally dumping, but it was only harming the health of 1-2% of people in town, that's nobody else's concern?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:45 AM
2

Tact? Grace? Fym?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:01 AM
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Because they don't interrupt a process that can lead to new human life. I am for legal abortions. They are a lot less misery than the alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:00 AM
1

Oh. Well it absolutely do be like that, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 12:25 AM
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Hahaha, no she did not. But it's a lot easier to think of doing all of that with someone who looks good, rather than with someone who doesn't. It would have been my shot to take her advice, for once. No, I couldn't kiss him, much less have sex. The thought was eventually I'd notice something about him, and his ~inner beauty~ would reveal itself to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:54 PM
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Because my mother always said that you have to look beyond sexual attraction to find the right one. That infatuation is immaterial, that character is what's important, and so on. I'm only going to find out about his character if I see him and get to know him. From what I saw, he seemed to be a good guy. It's true that I think about everyone I've gone out with lately. I think that this is normal. I don't think it would make a good facebook post, as I'm not fifty years old! Also not sure what is j…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:23 PM
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I see what you're saying, but everybody I've felt attracted to has been nice enough as a bare minimum :/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:03 PM
2

Why bizarre? I thought it was the done thing to try carrying on in situations like these
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 09:01 PM
2

Yes if I feel happy about myself. No if I'm feeling self loathing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:57 PM
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Thinking about this guy I went out with who was facially one of the best looking I had ever met up with on OLD. He was nice enough but for some reason I didn't feel that way towards him. I wanted to see if he'd go on a third date, but he stopped responding. Probably sensed I wasn't attracted 😬 I wanted to wait and see if that would develop, even though I know from experience that that doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:06 PM
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You know, I started reading this exchange really confused at your perspective, but I really do understand it now. A lot of men have a similar reaction to being called cute. I've never said this out loud about anyone, but as a contrast, here is what comes to my mind when I think of husband material: someone who I do all of the usual fun life things with, trips, outings, dinners etc, and someone who I also have an obscene amount of sex with. As opposed to a guy who you don't share very much in com…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:26 AM
2

Usually rock and/or roll
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:13 PM
3

Polyamory is male driven tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:05 PM
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When was the last time he took a day off, and around how old is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:06 PM
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Sweet Young Man Syndrome™ is ideal tbh. You might hit peak attractiveness a bit later, but you'll probably stay there until like 50.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 10:35 PM
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that more and more men are turning into abusive assholes Pretty sure this isn't happening
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 09:26 PM
1

Lol he reminds you of the character? Daaaang
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 08:40 PM
2

Many do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 08:39 PM
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https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/22/opinion/economy-education-women-men.html Would be cool if someone was able to copy paste the whole thing, as there's a paywall. It's crazy that the effects of single parenthood are so much more pronounced in young boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 08:26 PM
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If your gut feels off about it, walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:37 PM
2

A date a fortnight is too little anyway. You're definitely better off if that's all the time he could afford you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:03 PM
3

Wishing you both luck in this!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:00 PM
1

I wasn't a fan, but that is also possibly the only appeal to nature post I've seen here from a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:33 PM
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But it's not central to the argument in that case, if you see the slight difference? Like if I said "men cheat more because they crave variety," that would be a direct appeal to men's nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:32 PM
1

What makes them special is mostly not transitory.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:26 PM
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And I'm not saying that sexual freedom is a bad thing, it's good that other people are able to have casual sex. But it did make my own dating experiences very frustrating. No, I hadn't assumed. I just wanted to hear your story.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:38 AM
1

You're the only one I've read who has said yes. How/how come?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:12 AM
1

I agree with this. The popular refrain is "pump and dump" but I've never had sex with the aim of obtaining commitment with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:06 AM
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Yes, tf? Full hair full mouth pretty eyes, well defined features in general. You're a super beautiful guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 02:30 AM
2

Any other fun money purpose too if gambling isn't preferred.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 02:21 AM
1

Agreed. But how do you find out what people send out in DMs? Could have a plain page with generic photography/art, and the private messages just spamming the same OF account.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 05:00 AM
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Same. But, (no boys) I once hooked up with this horrendous kisser that made me cum repeatedly just with oral. I think his tongue was so fat and gross and wet that it was just better adapted. I doubt he'll happen again though because otherwise I'm on the "leave it" end of take it or leave it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:49 AM
2

What's hilarious is all I'm seeing around me is how the left are hypocrites for turning a blind eye to the ostentatiousness of AOC's dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:27 AM
2

Take pride in them both.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:13 AM
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Why do you follow her? It's a bit like "You're not stuck in traffic, you are traffic" except for giving women attention that you don't think deserve it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:10 AM
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First series: 8-9, 8-9, 8, 7-8, 6-7, 6-7, 7, 6-7 Second series: 9, 9, 8, 8-9, 7 Smokeshows imo. The second series were a little verall,more aggressive in their attractiveness overall My personal tastes are reflected in my ratings, as are everybody's
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:02 AM
2

Netflix Pablo Escobar w the shitty accent
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 07:49 PM
2

Huh? No
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 07:48 PM
1

Highly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 11:52 PM
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Nothing to make of it really, it is a sensitive topic and will remain so for as long as people prey on developing children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:06 PM
2

Lol that's never been something I can realistically comfort myself with. In my limited experience it's been a) "Well, maybe now I'll find someone I could really fall for" and b) "He should eat shit for 10000000 years" (not before I cry about it for around as long)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:03 PM
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All of the men are gay, and they are already a huge minority 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:33 PM
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Not many people are that level of distractingly attractive. 'grats!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:43 PM
2

Q4 short haired people How many of you bought a pair of clippers during lockdown and don't plan to visit a barber regularly again
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:53 PM
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Met one last month, and before that it the last time I was really enthusiastic about wanting to carry on with somebody was two of the guys I met in 2018. That's not how often I meet good (straight) men, just ones that are truly compatible with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 09:00 PM
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Doing sewing, alterations, maybe even making some clothes dor myself. I actually find it shameful I can't even do the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 03:34 AM
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Why does it feel scummy? It's a net positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 03:33 AM
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Wow, I hope you recover quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:17 PM
2

What kind of scumbag actually says this to a person
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:35 AM
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This post is the biggest chad humblebrag Chat is luck of the draw.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:31 AM
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Damn this might make me very naive, but I didn't realise Kanye was a SUPERSTAR like this. I feel like there's a different level of excitement and reverance for this new release. I guess I'll listen
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 06:28 AM
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Neither are men. Nor should they be. Loneliness is poison.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:37 AM
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There is no one ideals. The most important thing for anyone is understanding their own values, and acting accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 06:42 PM
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Yes. Even tetris
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 06:01 PM
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Don't have a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:40 PM
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Avg 1 Avg 2 Above 1 Above 2
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:32 AM
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Lol I think the second girl is prettier than the first. She doesn't have fashionable posing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:05 AM
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Wow, when you put it that way... what a stunner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 04:42 AM
1

Why, what happened
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:08 AM
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I thiiink so. But would have been for a really short time, like less than a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:23 AM
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I don't think we'd get along
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 10:07 PM
1

Not demonic at all. This is science's most important virtue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 08:54 PM
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Don't do that to yourself. Love and want children because they are a gift in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 07:48 PM
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I sincerely am, because it's actually been raised multiple times and I'm willing to bet it's recency bias from concerned young men. You gave modeling and fitness/bodybuilding communities as your examples... They have always been on steroids. I think the internet has made it more visible, but they're carrying out the same conversations their predecessors were having decades before them, but via text on a message board instead of in closed conversations. General acceptance is going to vary based o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 06:35 AM
1

Source for steroids being more commonplace
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:43 AM
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Yes, it's the female analogue to the self-proclaimed alpha. If all you can do is talk about how much you are, you're still trying to prove it to yourself. So... are you, really? Or are you trying to latch on to a label?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 05:29 AM
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I mean... There is a lot wrong with society, so I guess you aren't wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:44 AM
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The first "woman's haircut " is James Charles😂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 10:33 PM
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I associate the latter with budget friendliness. So, 1st
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:24 PM
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Is this satire? It had better be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 05:13 PM
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I'm sorry. It's very difficult struggling with these feelings, but you must know that your situation isn't an indictment of your character.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 04:24 AM
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Probably the specialist. Lots of people are good at lots of stuff. The all-rounder is still attractive too though all else equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:09 AM
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If you're in a monogamous marriage, it absolutely is. Both people need to be explicitly aware they are not in a monogamous marriage, if that is the case. Even then, it's morally gray if you start in a monogamous marriage and then "mutually" decide to open it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:07 AM
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So you agree that it's the women here who speak in good faith
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 02:36 PM
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I think it is just because you get to see what dynamics play out independent of physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:20 AM
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And here I was about to respond in good faith, like a fool!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 04:17 AM
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Trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:38 PM
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But the advice is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:29 AM
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I wouldn't believe it, but I've seen the boyfriends in my social circles, so yes, somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:44 PM
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And this is the saddest of all. Fortunately not one that affects the majority of people, but you'll never be happy with a woman if this is something you believe in earnest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 02:21 PM
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No, I mean the present day ivory tower types that get paid to think about these things. The Stanford Encyclopedia usually has good thorough summaries for these topics, and basic exploration of the ideas. Just checked now and they do indeed. They mention a number of people, so you're good with just finding the one(s) that speak most to you and forming your own ideas around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:50 AM
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I think it's worth you reading around the philosophy of love, in order to clarify your own views about it. When these conversations stay strictly in layman's terms they are very rarely worth it, just because terms get interchanged, people talk past each other, and struggle to identify even basic commonalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:25 AM
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They're both handsome. The one with the narrower face moreso though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:15 AM
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https://reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/p1ro3n/my_husband_just_told_me_he_wont_charge_me_for_the/ Betcha they went dutch on the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:18 PM
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I don't think it's necessarily petty. He may have been more sensitive to loudness than most people. To me, when you're in the dating stage, you're seeing the broadest strokes of a person that are the fundamental aspects of their personality. Is it more reasonable to ask someone to change a fundamental aspect of their personality, or to leave them to find someone that can appreciate it? Open question, but I sincerely believe in the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:11 PM
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It's definitely a leap of faith, and it can rack up if you have a long string of unsuccessful first dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:42 PM
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What about if she pays half of the time? You should nevertheless expect an offer to pay. You should rebuff it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:22 PM
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Indeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:55 PM
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Soccer
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:30 PM
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No automod? That happens, and it makes sense intuitively. The concept of asking somebody out is based on finding a stranger or distant acquaintance that you want to develop a connection with. You aren't going to know much about their attitude unless they are a notoriously vile POS, which is thankfully an extreme minority of people. Thankfully, it's also an extreme minority of cases where people are actually brazen enough to use this as an excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:28 PM
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Or friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:06 PM
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Every successful straight relationship is built around a woman that's both unreasonable and delusional? Could it be that your view of women is unreasonable and delusional instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:02 PM
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I think everybody that feels frustrated at other people's standards should focus more on compatibility. Nobody ever mentions it, but it's a lot more relevant most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:29 PM
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It's working right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:26 PM
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The entire booty shirts + hairy chest + stache look literally does so much for me Not surprised at your edit haha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:26 PM
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I bet it looks great
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:52 AM
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That isn't a lie by omission. It's actively a red flag if you mention who made them unprompted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:17 PM
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Spend years and years alone then. It's far better in every way that subjecting yourself to bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:12 PM
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My time. I get my sense of value from my loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 07:09 PM
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Ostensibly I don't like it, but I keep seeing dreamy long haired guys so I don't know. Longer than shoulder length though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:17 PM
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I had a very similar experience though, which is why I am so disappointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:39 AM
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Maybe he is both! It's still not a reality that he should have to be confronted with
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:36 AM
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It is, indeed, a little tease.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:15 AM
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https://reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/oxdox0/the_fact_that_western_society_is_more_sex/ This thread makes me angry, honestly. Sad and angry. Had to stop reading when someone called the poster a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:45 AM
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unironically better than every post this user has made
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:27 PM
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Don't be so quick to label yourself a jerk. Unless you were purposefully mean about it I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:49 AM
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I wouldn't laugh, but yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 06:43 PM
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One. Ex boyfriend kind of a dud, but she always wanted to be a mother and was in a position career wise that she can afford it single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 06:37 PM
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There's no practical distinction, but the distinction is nevertheless meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 04:36 AM
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They're actually the best thing we have going for us. Even when it stings.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:38 AM
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-when your spouse has contempt for you or vice versa -you can't really reverse contempt imo. I've never been married so can't say, but apparently the greatest prevention is not being a burden housekeeping-wise -no? I can't wait to see where you're attempting to lead this -safe/all they've ever known/not really known or seen examples of how it could be different. Same as how men get to the point they find it normal to call their wife a ball and chain
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 03:36 AM
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We prefer the term DUFF
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 02:38 AM
1

Whatever helps you sleep at nite
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 01:23 AM
1

A curved beak baseball cap, or beanie.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:47 AM
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Finding somebody that likes them, and has a compatible lifestyle and values. And who is single
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:32 AM
1

I think understanding is the easy part
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:04 AM
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Definitely an aspect, don't know how big. One aspect I'm wondering about is the death of housewifery. Cooking for yourself is something that a significant minority of young people just don't do, and (I speculate) that's rooted in who you have to pattern yourself against growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:03 AM
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Ramy's dad on the hulu show imo That is a bizarre shitpost
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:58 PM
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Trying to get a read on where your mind is. It seems like you're checked out already. You want to play the field. I personally feel like it's difficult to go into those conversations wholeheartedly if you already have another person on your mind. So if your intention is to take the therapy session sincerely, waiting before getting involved with other people is best.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 03:12 AM
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Your best bet is to end things before therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:18 AM
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Is this actually true?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 03:45 AM
2

omg, I thought it was true love 😩 If it's behavior I'm guessing she was prone to tantrums
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:38 AM
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Why does chad ≠ moral character and personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:36 AM
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I was fishing for this comment 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:59 AM
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Simones net worth is 6 million. Shocked it's that low. I didn't think it was a feminist act, but Biles' exit was the right move. Our obligations are to ourselves first and foremost. She's put the work in to become the best ever gymnast already, so it's going to have to be a serious one if she feels the need to step aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 01:55 AM
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How familiar do people usually act after a first date in your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 12:09 AM
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You've got to detach it from its literal meaning and understand it's just a popular 2020s term for jerk, cad, creep etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 04:10 AM
2

Just use the camera timer Trees are nature's tripod
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:17 PM
2

It means she's not the one for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 12:56 AM
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Don't be ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 02:02 PM
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I think youre buying in to the "American Dream" of it a bit too much. Many (most?) people don't have this magical upward progression from mailroom to eventual CEO. This makes intuitive sense - how else is there only a small and limited minority at the very top? Most people go from busboy to waiter, and that's it. Or cashier to gas station assistant manager. You simply aren't focusing on the amount of jobs that are out there to be keeping 95% of the population fed and housed. So much of it just d…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:39 AM
2

I don't think I've had this moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:09 PM
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I think you've perfectly illustrated why this position is morally untenable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 07:15 AM
2

Yes there is, but causal relationships are in fact more complex than a > b, or a+b > c. Not sure what you mean by "already rare without statistical support" here. I meant to qualify that with "given perfect knowledge." Given perfect knowledge, you cannot meaningfully attribute some illnesses to controllable human behaviour. Often, our actions are. Often, they are not. It's inconsistent to not account for the people in the latter group, because they are as deserving of care as any injured person.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 06:06 AM
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Not being magical does not mean these illnesses can be meaningfully attributed to controllable human behavior. Why should you be excluded from receiving care for a health condition that cannot be attributed to your actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 05:11 AM
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Finding joy for himself and his loved ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:24 AM
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Not caused by external trauma, yes. People don't tend to get brain tumors from negligence. Why should they be excluded from receiving care because their illness came from within them?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:23 AM
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How is a physical injury different from, say, a brain tumor?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 03:22 AM
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If they identify with a pill they are too far gone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:11 AM
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I don't know why this strikes me as romantic, but it does
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 08:02 AM
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A man wrote this
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:54 AM
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Courage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:35 AM
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If you're attracted to gay dudes, doesn't that make you gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:33 AM
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considering I barely have the experience to know what to do Doesn't exist. Glad you found out the easy way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:33 AM
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I'll bear that in mind if I have one, thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:43 PM
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That's why average women don't care about exclusivity that much Who are you surveying?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:09 PM
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That sounds like my lucky day/month/year
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:04 PM
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Is that a majority of women, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:27 AM
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Not at all - it's not possible for someone to be ignorant of the experience of getting to know someone. Point being OP is perfectly aware women have good reason not to blame themselves. The comment was curt, but that doesn't have to mean uncivil.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 02:48 AM
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Any active role you play in your life to better yourself and those around you, really. Though it's usually ancillary to the guy - eg I don't give a shit about an ultramarathon, but if a guy I'm crushing on is training to run one, then that's super cool all of a sudden.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:52 AM
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I can't tell if you're being serious
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:01 PM
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He's probably 5'10, stocky, bearded, short dark hair. White in my mind, but that's because of where I was raised. Had a great chat with an average man over the weekend. Good dude, his friends too. That tends to be how I react He's definitely less manicured than guys I've been with. Less educated overall too, but my male friends are PhD types, and the dates have been heading to some form of graduate school too. I'd date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:50 AM
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A will-they-won't-they that eventually will-theys In terms of fictional couples, I'm only on season 1 but Donna and Gordon from Halt and Catch Fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 05:06 AM
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I don't think you disagree. If nost people can't fathom it, it's precisely because it is a thought rooted in insecurity. It's like hearing about someone locking the door to their house because they're scared of someone sneaking in to add stuff. That's what it sounds like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 04:35 AM
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Thank you! This post is trying to elicit sympathy but all it does is expose the fact that it comes from a place of insecurity. To people who aren't insecure, the scenario makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:22 AM
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"Better than me in every way except stability and income/career" Hard to imagine. And I see what you're getting at with this post, and it gets to the heart of a lot of it. I sincerely don't think this should be a situation that's easy to conceive of if you are a person with a healthy sense of self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:19 AM
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It never was, according to researchers in fields around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 11:58 PM
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"Excluding live action" was too much Reddit for me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 11:09 PM
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America is... Hilarious, and fucking awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:14 PM
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There is so, so, so much more involved in childcare. If you have the means, absolutely do hire a live-in nanny if you're planning on two children. I hope it all pans out well for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:11 PM
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Isn't protagonist syndrome thinking everything is about you? Anyway, no. I don't identify with the bad behaviour mentioned on here, and my own bad behaviour is given the appropriate level of reflection.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 09:08 PM
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I'm officially an XS for a few of my favourite stores now. Thing is, I'm not. Some of my cousin's hand me downs bought in Europe fit perfectly well, and they're size M. Sounds more reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 03:42 PM
2

You too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:32 PM
2

Works for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:29 PM
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It is somewhat, in the sense that "I like you" is more meaningful to people than "I like everyone" People with lots of different sexual partners like everyone, so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 07:28 PM
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Struggling to think of how it has, except learning about my body, likes, and dislikes. Maybe I'm more sexually confident, but from a 2 to like a 6. I've enjoyed experiencing how tender some people can be to complete strangers. On the other hand I've found it repulsive how some men can treat you like a sentient sex doll. It's felt great, physically and emotionally. It's felt miserable, physically and emotionally. So.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:57 AM
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Break into her house, but kindly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 12:13 AM
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That's a relationship dynamic and those guys get boned. Enthusiastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 08:47 PM
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Gen z thing I guess. Aesthetic is the name of the game. So is being sad, if you are gen z.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:42 AM
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There's fortunately a great big space between feminine men/femininity, and toxic masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:29 AM
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Yes, but consider this: I can use a mailbox to send Christmas cards to sick kids at a cancer ward. I could also use it to send death threats to same kids. Mailbox is not a "sick kid death threat enabler" just because I conceive of it that way. Similarly you're thinking of social media as a "temptation" above all else, but it's ballooned into something far bigger than what I think you're seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:24 AM
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It may be due to the STD potential of stealthing. But the comparison is otherwise parallel on its face
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:19 AM
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Women who are open to male attention just give off a different vibe Is this true?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 06:25 PM
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Hilarious idea. There's no correlation whatsoever between attractiveness and likelihood of requesting NSA sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 01:06 AM
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What are permissible and impermissible instances?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:14 AM
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I don't get it either. You let experienced men sling terrible dick already, why is it more burdensome coming from someone who's never done it before?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:14 AM
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Well their goal is not to date, it's to lock down a prince charming. From that perspective they're absolutely right, no amount of Beyonce glow will prevent you from being cheated on, dumped by, or generally mistreated by a Jay Z.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/21 03:03 AM
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They aren't anointed, they just hustle for it. You can become a scientist too. Then you could argue among them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 05:40 AM
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People beam back at me when I walk around the city. Could be they're scared of you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:06 AM
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A Black Lady Sketch Show S2 is so good, and almost all of it is about gender dynamics. Very hilarious nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:04 AM
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You're explaining by yourself why you're incorrect. Sub/objectivity is a spectrum. Randomized couples, as you put it, are common enough to point to the significant subjectivity of beauty. Matched couples are common enough to indicate it's largely objective too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 12:39 AM
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Isn't a unicorn a woman that has sex with a couple?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:11 PM
2

they pronounce 'L'Occitane' correctly This is an amazing post
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:11 PM
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I disagree with this retroactive framing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:08 PM
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"Extremely" anything is unattractive, but a strong neck will likely look better than a skinny one
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 09:07 PM
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Anyone that's not being completely ridiculous will tell you, like everything, it depends. I have a working theory that it might be youthful pretty-boy type guys that get the benefits of aging gracefully, though I'm not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 06:01 PM
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No it's not, it's a sign of a failing company trying to claw its way out of irrelevance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/21 03:39 AM
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Regarding last note, the orientation allows for "the right one will" phrasing. Whereas shotgun approach to casual sex means you can't really use that logic
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:52 AM
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I'll cosign this but he was still pretty hot
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:47 AM
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What is your concept of romance? I'm not seeing the idea that alpha actions and romance are incompatible What are the beta actions that you think exclusively make up romantic behaviour on a man's part?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:24 AM
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It's easy to understand if you wilfully ignore large portions of women I, personally, cannot believe that men are only attracted to blondes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:11 AM
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All I know is if you didn't do the thing properly, you're not really red pill, so you can't blame anyone but yourself if it doesn't work for you apparently. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:56 AM
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5'4" Looking at everyone else though I think I benefit from material experience of hot men my height. Never seen a 5'0" hottie (though he might exist?...) edit: That's wrong, I once knew a guy that was like 5'2" and a hottie. It's just really rare to see men much shorter than this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:54 AM
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The most physically attractive man I've dated is not the man I liked most
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:31 AM
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What makes you think women want men to become betas?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:24 AM
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A beauty my exact height? Say no more! I'm generally not attracted to average looking dudes, so it'd be a non-starter really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:21 AM
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1) Don't know. Somewhat? 2) Probably like 5'5" (I'm 5'4") 3) Probably like 5'4" (5'5"?) then 5'6" 4) I think 6'5" 5) I went 6'5" because I got to know him over the longest period of time. But it's close between him, 5'4", 5'10" and 6' You didn't ask, but the one I liked most was 6'
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:16 AM
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A lot of office labour also fails to foster intellectual growth
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 01:08 AM
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I personally will never know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:19 PM
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I'd probably try to seduce men
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 02:55 PM
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I think so too. But, if it's not a minority opinion, it certainly goes against the prevailing mindset. At least it definitely seems to. The modern era really sucks to come of age in because of that. Being sexually conservative is unfashionable at best, and a moral failure (as in the eyes of that woman who mocked you) at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 10:24 PM
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I agree with you. Maybe it's pearl clutching. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 08:40 PM
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Finding people I really like, that really like me. I think that's the universal one
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:39 PM
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Cankles have always been a thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:58 AM
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I feel this, though I haven't quite put the time in that you have. I figure I've probably had more than my fair share of luck, what's a bit of an unlucky love life ¯\_ (ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:57 AM
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Scrap everything after #3 tbh. Too much fuss. None of it makes it more likely for you to get to 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 03:48 AM
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They'll assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 03:54 PM
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I'm going to tell you something very surprising about a lot of men... 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 10:01 PM
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The list deviates from actual feminine virtues, to what men commonly perceive as such. Valid difference but important to note
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:48 PM
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I don't think anyone would call this fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:57 AM
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Society, I guess. Traditionally speaking, men have not been the ones to feel the urgency about household tasks getting done. Your analogy isn't apt.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:56 AM
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Or be an equally handsome random insurance broker idk
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:54 AM
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Yep. Riz Ahmed and Dev Patel have the same issues, snif
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 12:10 AM
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I, too, watched this Brazilian Netflix original series.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 08:25 PM
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I just evade the ones about sexuality because I don't know about all that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 08:20 PM
2

Whose dick she notices? ... inside her??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:51 AM
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You think men should get highlights?????
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 02:43 AM
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It does not cover human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 03:30 AM
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Yeah. Just based on life really, I tend to believe the most fatalistic predictions of future state of affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 01:27 AM
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Certainly. How does that differ to when you fall in love, or men generally speaking?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 08:28 PM
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What does it look like when a woman falls in love with a man himself, as opposed to the idea of him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 08:07 PM
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The in-between: to wait for a nice boy who I am attracted to and feel comfortable around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 11:23 AM
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Not really, we all know what they say for both sides. I just doubt it helps with anything besides beating yourself up needlessly, and being angry at the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 04:15 AM
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Definitely not as people, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:51 AM
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This is easier to swallow than reality, so definitely a good thing in that sense. But I think well adjusted adults should ground themselves somewhat more concretely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 03:47 AM
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Zero? I might be missing a joke though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:58 PM
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So the women that have the opportunity and ignore it aren't worth it, because fuck women. I mean sure, I guess. As long as we get to be angry at something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 03:58 PM
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You understand me ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 10:25 PM
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I am a three, obviously. Lowest I'd be willing to go looks-wise is a nine.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:04 PM
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You really can't beat authenticity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 09:25 PM
1

What do you think the word "preying" means?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:32 PM
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It's not an idea that's mutually exclusive to grey areas. I don't think the disproportionate attraction we feel is usually explained away easily by some feature a person doesn't realise they're fixating over. It isn't present in most people's lives, but everybody wants it to be, that's what I'm saying. That's why the obsession with physical attraction. That, and obviously wanting to bone. I may be projecting here to be fair, but my best speculation really is the allure of an authentic romantic p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:36 AM
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She isn't much of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 04:27 AM
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Probably spirituality and religiosity. Most of us are attracted to/infatuated with people in a way that defies logic and meaning to some degree. So when that happens we feel like we're dealing with the occult, or something that connects us to a higher meaning. Like when a couple is "meant to be." Everyone wants that for themselves. If the initial spark wasn't actually there, that means there was no divine intervention (however conceived) and so by extension you/the pairing aren't special.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 04:23 AM
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Please do ! If it's been ages and she still hasn't left... yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:50 AM
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Or it was like, he makes sleeping with women seem great, I should really give it a try
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:48 AM
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Lol you would charge her rent? May be a cultural thing. ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 03:40 AM
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Not really. Read the sub and you'll see a lot of commentary that isn't blowing smoke up women's asses, that also isn't misogyny. I'm also not entirely certain why I'm getting pushback on this when posters here are actively proud of their misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 05:21 AM
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Have you ever heard of The Taming of the Shrew? It's not just "look hot" it's "be more agreeable to men's nature" however that presents itself, such as in behaviour. Plus, go on AskWomen on any given day and sooner or later you're bound to hear the 'work on yourself to find a bf!!!!' spiel. Perfectly echoed in AskMen, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 05:07 AM
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Personally I get most of my dates from OLD, so anything past the second date is because there's clear mutual attraction. I feel a lot more at ease currently with the men I'm seeing than I have for a while, precisely because I'm taking things at my own pace rather than worrying about what I should or shouldn't do when. I feel positively about the people and the situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 05:01 AM
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Who is people? Women are told this constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:42 AM
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See - you're speaking to why it's wasted on other men. You think it's women's social justice trope indulgence, but it's more like when kids won't eat the egg yolk because it's "icky." With men being the kids, and yolk being any body without particularly prominent muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:36 AM
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The misogyny is laid on a lot more thickly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 04:25 AM
0

Not necessarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 03:16 AM
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Men are fixated on the "top" (according to bodybuilding) physiques only. Only women appreciate the depth and variety of the male figure
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 03:06 AM
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Faced with the level of misogyny that's commonplace here, you may be surprised at how some women can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 03:04 AM
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lol men especially do not change
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:47 PM
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Being aloof will come across as playing games/being high maintenance. Don't ask me how I know, sob Can a woman also be not good enough Of course. Cruelty, for one, makes a woman undeserving of a man. Vice versa too obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 09:31 PM
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I think like with anything, friendships are circumstantial. Whatever "wavelength" you're on is dictated by who you're raised around, and you'll spend your life searching for people who fit that pattern. If I were to speculate (since I've never heard of a woman literally having no female friends,) I'd say there was a moment in adolescence where she decided she didn't fit in with the girls around her, and held onto that narrative throughout her life. But again, really don't know how prevalent this…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 09:26 PM
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It's mainly because he's very physically attractive though lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:23 PM
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Not being above average isn't a person's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:09 PM
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They are averages lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:07 PM
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they think that a woman who looks like her is within his range of attainability This is delusional. On your part, because nobody believes this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 04:05 PM
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It's you, isn't it!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:04 AM
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No. I have no expectations for them. But to be honest I'll engage in conversation with who and whatever in a friendly way. To some people this is flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 05:01 AM
2

Can't have wit without intelligence
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:04 AM
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Intelligence is very important, just because we need to be able to have good conversations. But that's not as tightly bound to education as it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:04 AM
1

Women who don't know how often to wash their bras
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:55 AM
1

I do not know how to tell body fat just by looking, but someone made a convenient lil fan page about the best male body type IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:45 AM
0

Definitely ignore. Anxiety for what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 03:26 AM
2

I think the focus is misplaced tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:40 AM
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I didn't react viscerally to it but taking command of a situation like this is one of the most masculine things you can do As an aside, I don't know if I should be shocked that that punch made her bleed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:10 AM
1

What is with all the hand wringing about standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 09:20 PM
2

It was highlighter for me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 04:23 AM
1

Yes you can lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 09:22 PM
9

It's pretty much a sex ed gimmick. Great for them, changes nothing in terms of people going about looking for sex and relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:50 PM
0

A rather strange conclusion to draw but I suppose to each his own
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:47 PM
3

Every sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:00 AM
18

Of course. A man's politics are his principles.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 12:24 AM
3

So like you're in love with him orrrrrr
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 04:29 PM
2

That's tough.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 04:28 PM
74

The hilarious twist in all of this is slowly realising OP has never experienced love
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:47 PM
2

You're not wrong! Though there is still a very large percentage (possibly a majority) of wfh population for which domestic help is not financially feasible. It makes a big difference to the point where arguments like these become moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 12:11 AM
1

Hopefully this changes in the new work from home age we're in. Guess who can fold laundry in between zoom meetings?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:19 PM
15

Yes, this is called the virgin-whore dichotomy. There's literature around it if you care to look
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:57 PM
1

Some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:54 PM
4

Ah. I'll try to explain: I adapted the original quote to show how the same dynamic applies to a situation that is far, far more serious. Similarly to how people that have never entered a physical altercation wrongly give themselves a false idea of how they'd respond, no one that hasn't been threatened with rape by armed SS would confidently be able to say what they would or wouldn't do. So the quote is originally about fistfighting, but it can also be made applicable to war crimes, as is the cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 02:30 AM
5

That's great for you. Nobody's talking about fights, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 11:27 PM
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No, women are evil. We must ascribe negative intent to every action they take.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:27 AM
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Why do you think of her that way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:26 AM
1

Not just attraction, but like... harmony. Say less, imo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:07 AM
12

Everyone has a plan until there's a gun in their face.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:49 PM
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Damned if you do, damned if you don't. No higher truth than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 08:19 PM
2

No. In terms of "show off points" (lol) it's more advantageous to have a handsome husband-husband that takes care of himself to retain his good looks. Life happens and I wouldn't be ashamed if I ended up falling for a younger guy, but I definitely wouldn't be peacocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:45 PM
2

Aren't mothers already the head of a household, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:46 AM
4

Not who you responded to, but the minimum has always been my own age for me. Fully prepared to say it's probably dumb. I think there's too much of an association with lack of maturity/masculinity if he's younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 04:44 AM
1

Women with no direction will not care about whether or not a person is marriageable. That doesn't mean there's no such thing as marriageable people
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 11:54 PM
1

That landscape is saturated with hobbyist bodybuilders in a way that reflects their preferences rather than women's at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 11:40 AM
2

It does?? It's the majority of a very large group of people... Men that you work with, or that are your neighbours. Millions of men that achieve an ideal physique while living a normal lifestyle. Still not sure what point you're trying to make but that's fine tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:38 AM
2

Of fit/athletic men. I don't understand how you don't understand It's as subjective as "most women are physically attracted to unnatural bodies." Women's preferences will converge onto a point, which as I suspected is a lot further towards the first pic than I think you realise. That landscape is saturated with hobbyist bodybuilders in a way that reflects their preferences rather than women's at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:10 AM
25

So you admit you're attracted to your boyfriend??? Checkmate
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 04:03 AM
25

Gold digg- Wait hold on Women only date chad!!! There.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:33 AM
18

Where would she meet an HVAC technician? If it's true that women are the choosers, then she won't go very far out of her way to meet a partner, which men in lower income jobs will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:30 AM
2

The greatest trick god ever played was making women dream of motherhood. Can't wait to have my own someday😍
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:21 AM
2

Most men's muscles don't look like roid muscles at all - since the majority of fit/athletic men are not on steroids. The most attractive male physique is perfectly attainable working out consistently (which is a bare minimum,) especially as many women's ideal is far closer to this than what I imagine you're envisioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 03:19 AM
1

Definitely not 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 05:44 PM
4

So John Mulaney cheated on his wife with Olivia Munn, and is now filing for divorce to be with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 07:56 PM
16

Life of the party is a straw man. There's a reason why people with severely disabled relatives often end up placing them in care homes - there comes a point where the stress, fear, and uncertainty are too much for a caretaker to withstand. Men and women both reach that threshold. Sarah Palin's daughter iirc was severely beaten by her husband, but because he suffers from PTSD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 01:56 AM
2

But only he knows if he's doing it for a woman or for his fellow (hu)man. You don't know that, so you're not going to be in a position to scold somebody for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 11:30 PM
1

If you're within those circles, they appear to be 70% of women. If you're not, it seems like 30%. It'll be frustrating for the men that are inside, because renouncing your social context is kind of easier said than done. And yeah, men outside find women outside, and they love and coexist peacefully without the psychoses people inside these spaces evidently develop.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 11:28 PM
13

The blessed thing about this 6'6 millionaire is the first thing he's hiring is domestic staff
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 11:13 PM
1

They don't tbh. Have you ever visited?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:33 PM
3

Always approach people at parties and social gatherings. Elsewhere idk
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 03:20 AM
1

Do you mean awful how? The physical sensation is unpleasant. Initiation has literally zero to do with how good or bad a kiss is. What woman wouldn't be turned off by me asking if I can kiss her? To reiterate, this has happened to me at least three times. Twice with men I liked, whose company I enjoyed. Once with a man I did not want to kiss. Them asking had no bearing on any of this. It is literally of no consequence. BTW, I think it's important to put what other men appear to be like out of min…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:07 PM
5

I'd rather be fuck zoned
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:43 PM
1

AMALT
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:29 PM
0

IMO dating is inherently awkward, and I've had awkward first kisses with experienced/confident guys. I liked them though, and they were wonderful kisses. I've also had middling to downright awful kisses with confident men (to be fair, no way of telling experience because I didn't ask, just assuming based on age, but that might be saying something.) But even the awful ones didn't make me think they'd never done it before. They made me think they were awful. I'd have trouble with being on the spot…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 07:03 PM
1

Who cares what they do? The right one won't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 06:49 PM
2

Next him immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 06:36 PM
2

The right one won't make you monkey dance
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:57 PM
15

There's a high chance it doesn't come up organically. Past experiences really shouldn't be coming up on the first few dates anyway because it's not really proper to speak about. This also happened to me once on a first date. The hushed confession was very oddly placed, but I was also exactly as attracted to him as I was before.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 05:53 PM
1

Working on it!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:40 AM
5

Because female empowerment specifically is the engine that brings about those wider changes, under feminist ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:56 PM
2

It's all sea water to be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:38 PM
0

Especially when you are talking pure shit 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:36 PM
2

If that's how she comes! I want my first born to be a daughter idk why. The rest can come as they like Taller than me, but tbh would prefer no taller than 6'2 or so
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:57 PM
2

I think if you want to be serious about having and keeping a strong relationship, you have to step out of the romantic framing a little bit and treat it as a serious mutual obligation. The work of it is the least glamorous, most important part. It's easy to swoon over pretty boys/girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 06:49 PM
1

I'm really sorry. Hope you get it back some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:09 PM
1

Her loss!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:06 PM
3

Most of the generalisations that are made here exclude a large part of the population. But I think people are looking for heuristics that work well enough for the situations they find themselves in personally, so more fool them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:05 PM
0

Yes personally. That doesn't happen to me often, but I wouldn't rejoice if it happened, because I value human interaction It tends to be men because it's the hope that kills you edit: to be clear, I always thought black pill meant either you have it or you don't
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:03 PM
1

Oh okay. I feel like those almost go without saying though. I've never met anyone that dismisses the importance of being personable in order to get a date, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:23 PM
4

That's a new dystopian term I didn't need to read today
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:45 PM
8

Personality improvements work for the ~10% of guys that never realised they are hot. For everyone else it's not helpful advice, and conveniently ignores the fact they're probably already perfectly decent people
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:43 PM
2

Good Time is A24 I'm pretty sure. Also that Jonah Hill one I always forget the name of
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:32 PM
1

The way you've described it is men consider it righteousness, while women consider it righteousness AND other quite basic qualities (mutual attraction, steady employment etc.) That's not a huge difference if one already encompasses the other. Women also talk about the individual qualities around "goodness" quite a bit, so I can't say I see a disconnect
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:27 AM
1

What's "it's just nice to be close" in this context
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:50 AM
1

He's so cute 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 11:35 AM
2

Someone here does amateur MMA. I, however, am pro,
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 10:47 PM
1

This isn't true!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:28 PM
2

I would not respond well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:18 PM
1

Gonna be very bold and say plenty of non chads also date!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:47 AM
3

Echoing all others. Physical danger is not a game.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:32 AM
0

Interesting people need relaxation time too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:18 AM
3

I think you are conflating being nice to perfect strangers vs being nice in social environments. We don't pay attention to strangers in the way you're implying people have claimed. They are appreciated in the moment and then let go. But they are nevertheless appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 02:22 AM
1

Well put. It's the same brain dead story every time. Women only like X, but as soon as you see a woman liking Y, it's because she's a gold-digger. Or if she's not, then it's anecdotal, one exception that you happened to have found among the sea of reality that is superficial or gold digging women. It's a worldview that depends on wilfully ignoring half of the female population, not the "reality" it is constantly peddled as. Their wanting it to be so does not make it so, but it sure seems like it…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:51 AM
1

1% is something you have fabricated so has no bearing on how likely or unlikely it is she feels that way. Why are you criticising her about something that she never said? Her post is there for you to read. Respond to it, not what you wanted her to have said.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 11:19 AM
7

most women For god's sake
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 11:04 PM
2

You'd like to think she's used it in the past, but that doesn't make it a reality. Her dating preferences are neither here nor there and I fail to see why you bring them up
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 10:45 PM
2

Actions such as what? Quite bored of the virtue signalling narrative tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:58 PM
4

Why is a woman making a salient point just trying to do it for the sake of other dudes? She is right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:25 PM
2

Most people don't think about others that deeply
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:03 PM
2

They get to be hot, you get to be more hot
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 08:24 PM
7

Some people are attracted to those guys
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 11:19 PM
1

TRP men don't actually like women, they just want to sleep with them. What comes next is irrelevant unless it has to to with maybe sleeping with them again. Anything outside of that is met with insults and cynicism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 12:04 PM
3

I thought it was a prank being collectively played by the trendsetting media outlets
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 09:10 AM
3

Western countries too. If you know any married couples with children you can point to what they're wearing and it was likely bought by their mother. They tend to furnish according to their tastes, maintain household inventory etc
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 09:08 AM
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Yeah. Men are often more abundance oriented so they don't really appreciate this perspective, and usually make it about their wounded pride over """chad""" or whatever. It's not particularly that, since high value men aren't all too rare. It's about finding the right fit. And as amazing as potato chips are, they don't pair well with gummi bears, which are just as great.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:56 AM
3

Not enough money in the world!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:47 PM
2

You're a romantic?????????????????
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 04:46 PM
2

Why is it something she'd need to "admit?"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 02:50 PM
3

The virgin is far preferable to the john all else equal. I'd keep this one to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 02:46 PM
2

If it's not just physical, then people should still be able to be attractive without being physically attractive Not really. It's one ingredient but it's still a necessary ingredient. There is nothing inherently sinister or disingenuous about acting in a way that you think will make people like you. Everyone wants to be well liked, and everyone tries to put their best foot forward when meeting people, because why wouldn't you? Likewise you are your actions, and people that act in a way that gets…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 11:24 PM
1

That is a child!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:19 PM
5

Love my silly weirdo life. I read this reddit to get recreationally pissed off
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:32 AM
1

Firefighter because of the importance of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:29 AM
1

Oh, you have a far less charitable conception of dad bod than I do lol. Agreed on body 2
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:28 AM
1

That was a nasty line by you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 03:54 PM
2

People would deny it and life would go on I'd do nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 02:43 PM
3

So the question we should ultimately pose is why do we have yet another generation of men who hate women?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 09:37 PM
2

They're jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 09:55 PM
1

Are they crazy or are they honest is a weird one to throw up. All crazy people think they are just honest. Does not stop them from having crackhead energy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:21 PM
1

Yeah likely because the physical inferiority is immutable. Young girls tend not to want to grow too tall because it's seen as unfeminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 11:05 PM
1

That's exactly what a lot of fit men accept though... The point about dad bod hype though is to draw attention to the fact that the barrier to entry isn't as high as the media might at times have you believe. Women are attracted to dad bods. They would indeed (I'm making a reasonable speculation) be more attracted to the same bodies more toned/built, but that doesn't mean attraction wasn't there initially
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/21 10:53 PM
2

Ha, good point! The tall AF one
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 09:28 PM
5

One of the most blue-pilling things out there is attractiveness differences between actors and their characters. Just found out the idiot from Veep is actually hot irl. Still shaking
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 08:24 PM
3

Shame/exclusion/judginess definitely the worst part. Without it being single would be a smudge below neutral, and I'm a romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 08:24 PM
1

Arsenio Hall Eric Andre Michael Zegen maybe more I can think of
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 05:57 PM
3

It's not something she needs to "admit" - the (actual) science has established this. Swap vacations with promises, outward affection, other positive experiences etc
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:23 PM
2

Oh. Yeah, and I'd be one. That isn't love. Love is first and foremost founded on mutual adoration. Lust etc additional components. Like if I said an acquaintance of mine is one of my best friends, I'd struggle to say it's a friendship at all since only one side considers it so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 11:00 PM
3

If stranger, concerned If spouse, 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 Nothing like being drunk on other people. Agree with you on female stalkers but my impression has always been that forever love is usually received with admiration or envy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 10:42 PM
3

Armie Hammer!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:05 PM
1

Yes. But that was never the point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 09:03 PM
1

It's hard to speak on behalf of others, but I feel you begin to like someone because of the ways they're different to other (physically) attractive people. And when you try to ask women about it at this stage it always sounds nonsensical unless it's just a plain "I think he's really cute"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 03:42 PM
1

Ergo mean women that entertain multiple people aren't locked out of satisfying relationships just because you wish it were so
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:33 PM
1

I've never heard of someone just liking another person unless it was about their appearance Could be you're placing emphasis on appearance where the liker does not. Most people who like people "just like" them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:04 PM
2

What kind of point is this? Emotional intelligence can be learned, but not by people with high cognitive ability, because they're stupid?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 11:58 AM
2

My aunt, apparently. Makes me want to take a flamethrower to everything I know and love
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 11:41 AM
1

Wishful karmic thinking 🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 11:36 AM
1

It's worthwhile and important as a standalone thing. It won't necessarily get you a sweetheart though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 08:35 AM
1

You're right, that's the most important part ultimately
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 09:18 PM
1

Wish a museum was still a cheap date!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:57 PM
1

It's people that like to hear themselves that speak like this. Always with unwavering certainty, and full of opinions about lives they know nothing about. Telling someone that wants a partner not to focus on finding a partner is what you tell someone you don't want to see succeed. On reddit people toupee fallacy desperation a great deal precisely so they can justify shoehorning their worldview in. It's just such a hugely unsympathetic worldview and people feel the need to repeat it because sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:56 PM
1

It's people that like to hear themselves that speak like this. Always with unwavering certainty, and full of opinions about lives they know nothing about. Telling someone to find a partner not to focus on finding a partner is what you tell someone you don't want to see succeed. On reddit people toupee fallacy desperation a great deal precisely so they can justify shoehorning their worldview in. It's just such a hugely unsympathetic worldview and people feel the need to repeat it because saying "…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:54 PM
7

Nothing grinds my gears more than the self improvement crowd. Don't focus on finding someone because they'll smell the desperation on you!!!!! Work on being a better person instead you flawed, hideous POS!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 09:42 AM
2

You'll like sleeping dogs but I don't think there's a n online component. Plus fallout
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 09:39 PM
1

Yeah exactly. I think we're still in the learning curve phase of celebrating the fact we have that liberty. But erm, divorcing someone to "find yourself" still shouldn't be a done thing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:28 PM
1

What did you hear
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 06:44 PM
2

Guy B How does Guy A love me? Guy B is gregarious, which would at least explain my initial attraction; Guy A has nothing going for him as it stands. That changes completely if I'm allowed to build him a personality though. As written though, Guy B you can at least get into some silly shit with for a while until you find someone you actually like
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 08:15 AM
3

I tried that once. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:01 AM
14

Yeah. Children are also the only viable retirement plan for low income parents to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:35 PM
2

Then I'll find my joy with a "valueless" man
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:31 PM
2

I'd certainly hope that no one thinks reddit dot com is a place that lets you feel superior 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 02:30 PM
3

This is what you meant? Some men want this but it makes no difference being aware of the fact if that's not what you want for your own life. I think that's what you missed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:11 PM
3

Don't forget misting twice daily
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 01:08 PM
1

Not at all. For that you'd need to know male n count and rates of unsafe sex
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:10 PM
2

Oh. I guess? If others are like me they're looking for someone who they share values with. And then you find out the important stuff from there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 12:04 PM
1

It's certainly not for me
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:51 AM
3

Why don't you ask men? I'm reading a dating reddit in my spare time; I certainly don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:50 AM
8

I have heard this, too
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:37 AM
7

That wouldn't make it so that STDs don't magically spread
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 11:35 AM
2

Yes! You just have to get to know them. Or ignore and judge from afar
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 06:43 PM
3

Plenty of wonderful women love acrylic nails. Plenty of horrible ones can't stand them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 05:41 PM
2

He's going to propagate that undesirable characteristic though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 05:40 PM
3

You completely misunderstand why some women are against prostitution. My post is referring to the op, which broaches the idea of these AI being a threat to relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 02:30 PM
3

How is it going to enter your life? Unless they sell selective amnesia as an add on you're always going to know your girlfriend came out of a box. And you'll always wonder about having one that didn't
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 02:29 PM
1

Yeah, and people will pick the human being every time if one is presented as a viable alternative. Hence no threat
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:24 PM
9

About as useless as their male counterparts
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:16 PM
2

2CB and lean are apparently drugs that exist
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:15 PM
2

Oh evidently. Zuckerberg is a young man still, he's got so much evil ahead of him!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:11 PM
2

There's no name for it because women aren't taught to have a complex about it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:09 PM
1

Only fine young men punch OAPs in the back of the head
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 08:07 PM
11

There's no threat. Kind of like how prostitution is no threat. People will crave genuine companionship for as long as people exist, though I hope and expect that VR/AI will reduce the burden of loneliness where it does exist. That seems like a far better alternative to the only fans/twitch streamers we have today
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 06:57 PM
2

I couldn't do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 03:39 PM
2

The proper comparison is actually wage negotiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:15 PM
2

The deepest companionship develops concurrently with a sexual relationship imo and ime. They really don't have to be sequential, or mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 07:14 PM
1

That's the dating sub
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 06:20 PM
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Basic kindness and decency, single, gets along well enough with you that she'd be interested in going further, and in a social context where that'd make sense for her. That kind of compatibility, revisited, is the foundation for many (most?) relationships. It doesn't seem like a high barrier of entry, but it kind of is
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 05:58 PM
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Nothing wrong with it - y ou wouldn't express love towards someone that you don't love, I imagine? Edit: what I want to say is, the circumstances you need to find and fall in love with someone are the same circumstances you're looking for to find someone to have sex with. It's really difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:53 PM
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Your own sister does not = the experiences of all European women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:50 PM
3

It seems you're more conflicted about the fact you haven't found love yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 02:46 PM
1

Russia or China if you're suicidal. Cayman Islands on the off chance you sniff out someone famous money laundering
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:26 PM
1

Doesn't that affect you hormonally? I think it's rash to prevent something that's less likely to occur
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:18 PM
1

I'll remind you that some of us are women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:16 PM
0

As well as a risk far better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 07:18 AM
1

Nobody feels this way in earnest. The second guy is more attractive, if we're keeping score
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:38 PM
22

That's ridiculous, I read those. Wayment
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:36 PM
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I would build a man that is affable, gracious, and kind. Whichever flavour of attractive is fine, as long as he is those things. He would be active, deeply knowledgeable about any particular thing, principled, quieter but not necessarily serious... He would take pride in himself as a person, and care deeply for his loved ones. Similar cultural background to mine also ideal. I'm not sure what is meant by status, but that reminds me, he must also be unambiguously single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:34 PM
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Yes the hell you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:21 PM
2

Why is it artificial? Also, what context are you making this claim regarding?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:40 PM
2

Every man is. How humankind treats a thing is no way of measuring its worth. See: planet earth
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:39 PM
3

Not necessarily. Some of thee idea behind growing as a person is you no longer tolerate what you once did.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:11 PM
1

You are valuable independent of your material contributions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 03:01 PM
1

No. Just to start a family post haste
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:59 AM
1

I'd ban school lunch fees. Extend paid ma/paternity leave. Stuff like that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:55 AM
2

That's just the misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:46 AM
3

No, that's weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 07:55 PM
5

Probably more masc let's be honest
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:45 PM
3

I think it's probably helpful for attracting a certain kind of man. Like how redpill will help you with a certain kind of woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:37 PM
9

It encourages bad faith engagement with the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:31 PM
5

You overemphasise the importance and impact of male attention
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 09:51 PM
1

This isn't an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 07:21 PM
1

"I am definitely ugly on the inside"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 04:08 PM
1

I'm perfectly free, but thank you for your concern
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 11:08 AM
3

I think this might be me honestly. You try finding someone else to love
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:28 AM
1

🅱️enis
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:27 AM
2

She's Spanish? I feel for her either way, the US ethnicity classifications are weird uncomfortable BS
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 11:55 PM
1

That's where it gets difficult to understand you. A person's intentions clearly, obviously aren't genuine if the baseline expectation is a certain $ figure being dropped on the opening outing. Very much by definition. There's everything wrong with this. There is no female complement because unless you are mother Theresa herself, you are bringing the same to this potential relationship as he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 11:53 PM
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You're talking about a first date. There's not many other aspects relevant to a first date besides the monetary, and if we legitimise one form of selfishness we can hardly complain about falling victim to other kinds further down the line. Not sure what you mean. If I don't like cheap men, why should I like cheap women? Neither are interested in the spirit of partnership, or dating in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 10:26 PM
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Appealing to nature doesn't really work for moral arguments, not that this comparison holds up. We aren't in the stone age any more, simply. It's self centred and rude to burden another person with costs you aren't willing to shoulder yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 09:47 PM
5

Just because they've accepted it doesn't mean that it's right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 09:34 PM
3

No experience to say either way, but this is a very amusing post
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 09:30 PM
3

I'd be more into women, at least to potentially have that option available
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/21 08:00 PM
15

The wall isn't real
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:40 PM
4

Domestic violence was men's top asset in the SMP, didn't you know. That's why men these days have no game
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:51 PM
3

Probably niche attractive, like mint chocolate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:50 PM
2

No thankfully. But I think the best approach would be to upstage her and prepare a meal the correct way. Backstage driving is not a good look and it reinforces the principle of partnership
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:49 PM
1

Today's purple pill pinned post is better than anything I could come up with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:44 PM
1

Yes to the main text, no to the body. Implied social contract is hugely important, it just doesn't describe the dynamics you're discussing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:46 PM
1

Yeah of course, if he's someone whose company I enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 03:41 PM
2

Yeah imo and ime. I feel like it's the female equivalent of being cucked
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 04:24 PM
2

No. Very sorry to hear that, but I'm glad your wife knows what's up
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 04:20 PM
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It eventually became one, yeah. Try to talk about how you feel men should behave without attacking the character of random women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 11:49 PM
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Sooo... prostitution, yea or nay? I suppose that can be opened up to sex work more broadly but the issues I have with prostitution apply less to other areas. I've been for legal prostitution since forever but I started questioning this lately. How is it that women arrive at a point where they feel like this is their best option, and how strongly is that path influenced by abuse or similar? Wouldn't legal prostitution be glossing over those more concerning social ills? If you did a mental health …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:51 PM
1

Yep, but you're mixing things up slightly here. The women likely realise there's value in their physical attractiveness, and in OP's mind this is how they (and women everywhere) extract material value from men. That is different but related to the implication that was also made in the post, that it is a demonstration of their flawed character that they apparently see no value in the attention they are receiving from strange men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 08:38 PM
3

The cbeebies logo is making me think I ate the onion. Did I?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:58 PM
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Taking for granted implies inherent value in strangers' attention in and of itself. It's not an indictment of these women's character that they don't see it that way, and I don't understand how you come to the conclusion that it does unless you are incredibly conceited
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 07:54 PM
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You know it's a sub-appropriate post when a "this is why women are terrible" post is illustrated by them walking down the street minding their own business
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 06:22 PM
2

Trying to make sense of this
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 09:43 AM
2

Definitely feel that, which would make it that much more of a turn off! Agreed with your overall philosophy as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:59 PM
2

Leadership and courage mainly
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:10 PM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202101/sexy-actually Somebody linked this article and I think it's the best reference I've read regarding this. It's difficult to say who a person should be dating-wise because tastes will differ, but whoever it is will have some form of these traits underpinning their personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:47 PM
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I love paying for my dates! It's an easy way to say I like them without it being a big to-do. And it makes me feel appreciated when they insist on paying for me. I've never dated a cheapo but I imagine it would be a useful way to weed one out as well
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:38 PM
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Of course men care who pays. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:34 PM
5

Wow, how fascinating
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 09:33 PM
2

Yes. I need all the friends I can get. No to both Probably the same as I see them, verging on acquaintances. Say hi once in a while or when someone is in town Yeah they lack the depth of my female friendships. That's just circumstantial though Most recent friend hangs were with a roommate. We'd go to bars and talk about life, men, dating. Otherwise literally just park hangouts. I can't remember the last time any friend needed my help We say hi and share memes No
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:39 PM
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None for LTR, however many for casual Ignore the casual options except for once a year when you feel bummed about no LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 07:08 AM
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I've caught glimpses of this throughout the day and wouldn't have caught wind of any of it. Cannot believe the SRD was deleted. I think it is genuinely, honest to goodness stunning. A shocking story I would simply not believe if it had not been covered by some outlets. In part hilarious because they have managed to create a literal she-who-shall-not-be-named. In part confusing because having this background is the kind of thing that would get someone fired by a website of this size, in this day …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 09:00 PM
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I don't believe in being romantic partners and not sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:54 PM
2

Why did you marry at the 1 month mark
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 05:57 PM
1

Nah it's about having a vision of/for yourself. The guy that stacks shelves and is really into his art has a lot more going for him than the white collar professional that floats through life without any apparent desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 11:03 PM
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This thread coming mere minutes after the one about our hypothetical son's genitals. It's beyond concerning. Figure yourselves out for god's sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 10:45 PM
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Men that misbehave and/or have little going for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 09:52 AM
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I meant in terms of character. The male analogs of the women you describe seem to be everywhere, and it doesn't really compensate if they just so happen to be physically attractive. I don't think I believe in the crisis of masculinity, but people that do talk about the really frivolous stuff like physical stature. If only that were the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 09:15 AM
0

Women = immigrants
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 09:02 AM
3

Men too, that's the sad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 08:42 AM
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The caricatures you've sketched are loaded with really stupid assumptions. Regardless you should indeed strive to be a man that puts effort into himself above all else. No reason to aspire to it though, just start today.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:28 PM
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I was very nearly swayed to misandry reading some posts. But then I remembered the men here don't actually represent the men in my life and there's no point getting disillusioned over a random subsect of internet strangers. I think the value in it is less changing people's minds and more understanding how they work, and on that side there are occasional questions that do actually manage to cover newer, more nuanced ground. The rest as you say though is people reinforcing the worldview that makes…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:23 PM
5

What agenda? Read the comments on this thread. These statements are being made freely. Those are what you should address if you are upset at people making men look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 11:18 PM
3

At first I thought myself against the idea, but to be honest, eating a lot more would be cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:27 PM
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Yes lower standards, yes based on feelings. You know how there's people in your office or wherever that make very pleasant acquaintances, and nothing else? That's casual relationship material
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 08:18 PM
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I'd do this to anyone that I felt a personal connection with. Don't know I've ever done any of those things with a romantic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 03:48 PM
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If a man is truly lonely, he can make friends. It is definitely this simple!!!!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/21 01:19 PM
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