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It's almost like Feminism isn't about helping or promoting young women/girls, but feminizing young men and producing equal outcomes, which isn't feasible.
/r/MensRights07/01/21 06:32 PM
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Having emotional reactions is pointless. Reiterating to women who are looking for money that you merely want attention will NEVER get you that attention. Any time this happens, you make zero response. Any other response is not necessary and instead just makes you seem less valuable as a result.
/r/PussyPassDenied06/09/20 01:37 AM
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Yeah, old successful dudes are pretty cool to talk to. There was this middle-aged guy that mentioned he had a lot of farmland to me as a customer the other day. So I started talking to him and this dude ended up telling me all about how he sprays the crops and ultimately harvests them. It was a bit more succinct and interesting than I'd anticipated it would be and this at least briefly applicable because I may at some point in the future consider acquiring some farmland. But, in all honesty, I'd…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 09:51 PM
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I take it you're just fucking with me at this point...
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 09:38 PM
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Is there any resource for guiding someone out of monk? I've lost a ton of weight, I feel a lot smarter than before, I actually have great money rolling in soon and I won't have to work anymore before too long. That really is the problem, I think, though. I don't really have any friends these days and I've kept all women at arm's length. I mean, it's not like they don't try to engage me, at least at work and shit. What I really want is just to hear about some places that you guys enjoy meeting wo…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:13 PM
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Nah, I've just been monk for too long now I think and I'm pretty sure it's just skewed my perception of things. Yeah, the problem seems to be a lack of a social life. Maybe I should just start there.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:04 PM
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It's pretty funny how OP can mention a line he used that he enjoyed, but if someone does it in the comment section, they then get socialized like some little kid sitting at the grown up table. What's so wrong with me recalling being enthused about sometime I said something I thought was funny to a woman once... I'm generally not getting it. You guys just pilled on the bandwagon on me and I'm genuinely not getting it. Help me out here.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 04:01 PM
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last part Yeah, I've noticed. Frankly, yes, that's pretty much the gist of things. A big thing is a woman that doesn't take birth control. But if we're doing semantics, then, fine, I mean "women that don't bore me, aren't promiscuous, annoying or immodest and preferably one that has an adequate relationship with her parents".
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:58 PM
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Yeah, it probably is the wrong sub for this, but I just don't care about getting laid that badly. It's not like getting laid is really that difficult. I want to interact with higher quality women. Maybe that should've been my question... Alright, fine. Where do I find higher quality women at, not just some women? I was thinking of going to a small community college and just learning another language. What do you think?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:19 AM
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Do you really think so, Dad?!
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 04:49 AM
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Pretty soon I'm going to have a lot of time on my hands. I'm thinking of still working a part time job a few days a week though. Probably a restaurant or something where other young people work. I'm mid twenties. I think my big problem is that I'm pretty introverted and just smart enough to be impatient with dumb people but also just dumb enough to drool at chess club or something like that.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:47 AM
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It's funny you say this. I've recently made huge changes. Over the past few years, I've lost nearly seventy pounds, climbed my way incrementally to the 100+ pushups a day model (I do some body weight squats too and will probably get a gym membership or free weights down the road), have made significant spiritual progress (I'd like to think), have worked my way in to a nice 5x on my port and have turned that in to a livable hobby/occupation, have grown in to more grown up beliefs like an interest…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:20 AM
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Most people cannot stand the success of those around them. I'm not a ball of sunshine or anything and I'm well aware, but you can mention a single time that you don't particularly need to be conservative with money and people will look at you differently for the entity of your proximity. There's a good chance you're a bit tone deaf though. I've certainly been told that I am a time or two and would naturally explain in this type of setting that I'm also rather successful. Of course, the only diff…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:10 AM
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I've been told I'm tone deaf a time or two.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 04:02 AM
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Heh. One of the pitfalls, you'll find, with places like these is that most guys have all of their mistakes piled in to the forefront of their brains every time they discuss these topics and all too often it's simple to point out typical trends they observe in others. While I'd guess most just assume they're helping each other, it often comes off as dismissive and results in the listener having no interest in further assisting because they won't just let the guy make the mistake and move on to ot…
/r/TheRedPill31/08/20 03:51 AM
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Cool. I'll try to stop being a pussy and get another hobby or something.
/r/askTRP23/08/20 05:49 AM
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Oh, by the way, she hardly ever talks about her boyfriend around me... that conversation I mentioned before when her boyfriend actually got brought up for once was indeed a rarity.
/r/askTRP23/08/20 05:32 AM
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No, I'm not asking about when we're already alone outside of work. I mean, she'll inevitably bring up her boyfriend when I insist we should "spend some time together" (however that might come out). The other guy down below just made me think of these two things: I don't do the whole mask shit, so I'd be pretty limited on where we'd be able to meet up. On top of that, she's only 18, so drinks aren't an option (she turned 18 just a few months ago... which is why this is only coming up now). But, c…
/r/askTRP23/08/20 05:20 AM
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Heh... maybe my issue all along is I didn't just pull the trigger when I started noticing some signs. Won't she just, "Um... I have a boyrfirend." when I mention we should spend some time together? Also, is there no pandemic where you guys are or something? Is "just ask her out, dude" really viable where you guys are? Where I am, a lot of shit is closed or restricted and I'm not a mask bitch.
/r/askTRP23/08/20 04:48 AM
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I get it. It probably does seem like I think about her too much, but I'd chalk it up more to me just being verbose and feeling spergy about this. I think what I'll do is just say fuck it and go with your plan and when she inevitably mentions having a boyfriend throw out the ol' "I'm sure he's great but he's not me and you don't really have much time to decide." and just stick with it. It's getting shittier and shittier to work there anyway, so I really don't want to stay even if she bites. I'll …
/r/askTRP23/08/20 04:37 AM
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You're already fucking up because you're trying to make this SPECIAL approach for her. My plan is to leverage her having a boyfriend against the way she acts around me. This is to say that I'm specifically reframing the dynamic we're operating under by reminding her that she has a boyfriend. In my experience (I've gotten it to work plenty of times...), DHVs and reminding them of their boyfriend is usually enough to force the issue. Oneitis, again, may apply, but I don't see the value of that way…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 03:55 PM
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Maybe the issue that I'm having is that I'm not trying to game for promiscuity's sake anymore and that this is the kind of place you'd get advice if thihs was your pursuit. Before, I was always caught up on how much sex I wasn't having. Nowadays, I think I've graduated from the folly of this sort of community, wherein young men desire sex above all else. Don't misunderstand, I entirely appreciate and understand your position, but I've found Roosh's insight in this regard to be quite valuable, sp…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 03:42 PM
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I already don't need the job, or at least, can freely leave when I want within the coming weeks (maybe two months or so max). But, yeah, the lay would be nice. I'd consider dating her short term though if I could be alone with her for long enough to feel her out better. Also, I'd prefer her to not have a boyfriend... but that's not a huge must for me or anything.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:49 AM
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Thanks for replying and all, but I'm not really sure what you're trying to communicate. Do you think the general and brief plan I laid out is sensible, or should I just say fuck it and worry about the women I'll meet when I move?
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:24 AM
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Holy shit... I had a very similar thing happen to me once. A girl found out we had the same birthday through casual conversation one day. A few days later, she wrote her name on something and then asked how to spell my last name. I asked, "why?" and gave her a weird look. She groaned briefly and continued to write out my last name next to hers... with no spelling mistakes or anything. But, hey, you should check my post out and tell me what you think since we're both still here. Just filter by Ne…
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:16 AM
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Thigh touches are 100% checks. Just like chest or upper arms... Sitting on lap is also 100% check. Go for it.
/r/askTRP22/08/20 05:07 AM
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Don't we all collectively already cut single moms a deal when we pay for the taxes they use which subsidies their poor sexual decisions?
/r/PussyPassDenied31/07/20 01:13 AM
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Woah. Slow down there cowboy. I'm not sure where you got that impression from, but you need to keep in mind that confidence is of the utmost importance. It's better for people to think you're a pompous ass than a push-over niceguy.
/r/askTRP15/03/19 01:09 AM
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Yeah, maybe screening pretty much everyone is a bad idea... I guess it's sort of a bad habit. I just thought she was attractive and haven't really been sure where to start with her because girls even a few years older than her tend to be a little more laid back and sure of their expectations. I'm beginning to think I'm just overthinking things. Not that I've looked a significant amount or anything, but, to my surprise, I've found little to nothing about how to interact to teenagers. It seems tha…
/r/askTRP15/03/19 01:04 AM
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Alright, I'll start wearing contacts again more often. But, these indicate desperation? I'm pretty aware of how to not look like a virgin, I'm more concerned that I don't come off as desperate so as to show them I'm a virgin.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 04:51 AM
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See I think I over did that a little too. People give me shit sometimes about always giving really vague replies to things. I'm thinking that makes them feel like I don't really care that much about what they're saying. But, I'm familiar with the idea for sure. Also, do you think a girl that has lost interest in that situation would still flirt with me? I honestly thought one in particular was always very forward with her emotions, which makes it seems like she just does too much. Maybe she's pr…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 12:25 PM
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I half-expected someone to pull their dick out. Thanks for not disappointing me.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 06:26 AM
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If I was going to do anything with a woman tomorrow it would be have her smoke a blunt with me and then escalate. There's no woman in my life I would want to spend tomorrow with or anything like that. This wasn't particularly on purpose, but as of late I've teased her about a boyfriend she broke up with. She's responded most recently by saying she's "single 'AF.'" I think this helped let that sink in for her, while also giving me a green light. I've been alone with her twice. The first time she …
/r/askTRP14/02/17 06:22 AM
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Maybe you should give me/us an example of something that went wrong on a past Valentine's Day and then another example of something that went right. I think that could be helpful.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 05:32 AM
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Maybe it seemed like I was begging for a political stance with which to align myself. Reading it the next day is sort of making me think that. A girl I've been considering mentioned the other day in a random conversation that the pill "made her sick all the time." I simply noted that for later, but totally assumed that meant she isn't on it anymore. After thinking about it a little bit, I concluded not having a fucking kid is the wisest direction. However, after remembering having read what seem…
/r/askTRP13/02/17 05:43 PM
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Holy jesus please don't send her texts that make you look like you're begging. Try something like this: "I met you the other night at the bowling alley. I want to see you again. Are you free X day at X time?" If/When she responds, you get to decide if she's telling you yes or no. If she says no, you don't respond. If she says yes, you tell her where you'll be and when you'll be there and then tell her what you want her to do instead of asking. Not "I'm going to be at X at Xo'clock. Want to go wi…
/r/askTRP12/02/17 08:39 PM
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I'm sure this is the straw that broke the camel's back. Why are you putting all your shit on this camel in the first place, man?
/r/askTRP12/02/17 08:34 PM
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Seems like too much thinking is going on. Stop being so negative. You had a girl with you, and whether or not she was all that attractive is only going to apply within certain demographics. Was everyone else that was there super rich and attractive? This is rather binary in my eyes. Having a girl around you, at first glance, makes you appear valuable based on the fact that there's a girl around you. Don't over think that. If you're using her as a pawn, do so without reservation. Also, the sooner…
/r/askTRP12/02/17 08:28 PM
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The way I see it, your next move is simple. You have a few significant options. I can briefly outline them for you. Stick around. Keep feeling shitty. Go see her again and torture yourself while you listen to her problems. That's worked out for you great so far, hasn't it? Keep that frame. The guys telling you that you shouldn't have said what you said because it makes you look shitty don't get that nice guys care what women think of them. If you honestly don't care about her reaction, "stop mak…
/r/askTRP12/02/17 08:16 PM
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The latter would be more accurate. Sexual dysfunction induced by an over-consumption of pornography coupled with excessive personal stimulation would most likely result in impotence or attraction fatigue. People here need to be careful though. Eliminating masturbation isn't exactly the answer; limiting it, however, can do wonders.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 07:38 PM
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No... Good god, don't just stop masturbating. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. The ones that are saying don't masturbate are throwing a slippery slope at you. "If you jerk off, you won't be horny enough to fuck women." Ignore that shit. Starting with understanding logic would be much more advisable though.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 07:33 PM
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Getting over that hump is hard. Cold showers will help.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 07:29 PM
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The biggest thing to help me lately was realizing that I'm not going to get anywhere if I don't have the experience. I'm not saying to rely on experience, but with increased experience comes decreased anxiety. In other words, the ones that say something like, "the more times you get rejected, the easier the next approach will be" are on to something. It's not bullshit, and respecting that concept will do you a great deal in the long run. Just gotta get over the early stages of approaching.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 07:27 PM
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If this was about one girl, it would be easy to conclude it's nonsense. Since I keep seeing it, I thought I'd see what other people think. Besides, she ran off pretty quickly. I didn't expect it.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:55 AM
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I mean it wasn't super obvious... Like I said, she hid it. Do girls use masculine appeals when they think you're a pussy? Maybe she does. I had my hand on her upper thigh for a short time. She didn't react much at all so I kinda backed off. Damn... did I butcher it? It turns out we have the same birthday, and she said we need to hang out then, if it helps.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 04:20 AM
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This was the first time I was ever alone around her.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 03:43 AM
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These are actually examples of two really important to remember psychology theories: groupthink and vicarious reinforcement. The former, as I'm sure is well known, basically means people in groups are more likely to follow the "social norms" to fit in, so as not to stand out. The latter, which I'm less sure is well known in the community, is a learning process often seen in young children wherein an individual observes praise in a second party after a certain action is taken, which enables them …
/r/askTRP30/01/17 03:34 AM
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Alright, I'm being generous. But, I can without doubt see a difference in the dynamic. I guess what I'm saying is it as easy for me to gain status there.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 04:21 PM
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Oh I'm not though. I've got them right where I want them. And frankly, I don't think it'd be that hard to get what I want out of them in short notice. With that being said however, I didn't plan on nor desire this much attention and therefore drama. I want to spoof the radar here, just not in a way that draws influence from myself.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 03:06 PM
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Yeah but they're cute ass little girls and a lot of the guys that work here or have worked here date and dated a lot of the girls that work(ed) here. Beyond that, and I'm not saying I specifically want to date anyone I work with anyway, I could totally fuck one of them at least. It's free, it's right in front of me. I've been stupid enough to deny someone under these circumstances and I won't do it again. You know what they say about low-hanging fruit? Well, I'm pretty short.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 03:01 PM
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That's about the best thing you could possibly do for yourself. Give No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert A. Glover a read sometime.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 04:23 AM
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Believe me, I know. She's post-wall. Has a couple kids, but my first instinct was to knock her off her pedestal. This bitch literally walks on water. She emasculates our owner all the time, calling him "Billy!!" and shit instead of "Bill" like everyone else calls him. Shit like that. My intention wasn't really to screen her or anything, but more contest frame. I can easily see she's pretty controlling, and appears to be jealous of the younger, typically attractive wait staff (which I'm not a wai…
/r/askTRP02/10/16 07:02 PM
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I think I have a good idea of what you mean. I met a girl I work with for the first time a few weeks ago. I shook her hand and looked her in the eye when I introduced myself, something I'm sure she doesn't get much of because good god she is a gorgeous girl. She has these pretty ass eyes, I'm sure other girls are jealous of her hair/smile/huge ass - and it's obvious. She's essentially queen bitch of the waitresses at the place I work at. After one of our first conversations I was teasing her abo…
/r/askTRP02/10/16 03:23 PM
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Can you be more specific? I'd like to look in to what you're talking about but if I just search polarization, I'm not sure that's the definition you're going for.
/r/askTRP01/10/16 09:29 PM
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Are you saying this is a shit test? The first girl kept not saying my name. Once it happened more than just a few times, I asked her in front of people if she knew my name and then made her say it out loud when she said she did. I don't think that went poorly.
/r/askTRP01/10/16 09:20 PM
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They aren't having meetings to conspire against me. The first and second girls don't even know each other. First girl was from a previous job. But at least you've given me a more reasonable, yet still vague, answer. Frankly, I recognized it to be anomalous once I got a new job. What reason would they have for avoiding use of my name? The second girl I might be able to understand. If her SO/brother/someone she's pretty close with has the same name as me, maybe she feels awkward calling me the sam…
/r/askTRP01/10/16 09:17 PM
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They know my name. They didn't forget it. I'm very certain.
/r/askTRP01/10/16 02:22 PM
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That's the plan.
/r/askTRP01/10/16 02:22 PM
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They know my name. I'll give two examples: the first was a new girl at the small private owned business I used to work at. I eat one of three guys there when she started, and there were around 12 maybe 15 people at the most that worked there. I once asked this girl, since she was obviously actively avoiding using my name, if she knew my name. She said yes but when she responded quietly and looked around at the other people around us maybe waiting for someone to rescue me her or something. So I t…
/r/askTRP01/10/16 02:21 PM
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I was the youngest of the senior staff at my last job and it seemed like I generally had more opportunities for interactions with new people, so at certain points I'd use those opportunities to feel them out. There were specific days I would pick out where I just wouldn't talk to one of them the first part of my shift. I just wanted to see how they'd react. There's one girl that, after a lack of interaction one day, asked another coworker (while I overheard) if I was in a bad mood that day. I di…
/r/askTRP01/10/16 04:39 AM
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Oh I've done low level Kino with her man. I guess I should be more specific: this was at work, and in order for me to do anything other than subtle or ordinary Kino, I'd have to isolate. I asked her one night to smoke with me after work, she said she hadn't been smoking lately but was down to drink. I'm a dumbass and didn't just get her number on the spot. Now my only option is to get to her through other means since we no longer work together.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 08:59 PM
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The issue with that is I'm not sure when I'm coming across as needy. Besides that, don't I need feedback in order to gauge myself in the future? I feel sort of lost without any feedback. Without legitimate physical results, it almost seems like it's back to square one each time, even though I know that's a really shitty mindset to have.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 07:29 PM
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She's stubborn and literally told me before that she wouldn't make the first move. What's your opinion?
/r/askTRP30/09/16 06:59 PM
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Done. She didn't respond the last time I hit her up though. What gives, you think?
/r/askTRP30/09/16 06:54 PM
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I did. I'm pretty sure I didn't respond and changed the subject, if not I threw in a joke but still rerouted.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 06:39 PM
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Where does being persistent end, and being needy/desperate begin? Maybe that's what I'm most confused about.
/r/askTRP30/09/16 06:39 PM
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Oh I don't think you're wrong or anything.
/r/askTRP28/09/16 12:27 AM
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The change happened almost instantly once high school was done. That's how old they are. They were friends in high school. Both in college now. By the way, I can certainly see what why you'd say that.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 11:26 PM
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That's weird, I'm not sure what question you're answering.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 11:25 PM
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Some girls, when maintaining eye contact for long enough (or maybe just so often they're convinced you're like that with everyone), will begin fidgeting, bite their lip, keep looking at your lips, be visibly unable to prevent them self from smiling, etc. For me, this is usually a sign I can move on to the next step/jump ahead a few steps. Like the guy before me said, it's a very easy way to see if they're at least interested.
/r/askTRP27/09/16 06:06 PM
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Mostly it came up because she just mentioned like five minutes prior that she was 19. I'm a couple years older than that, so I thought I'd see how her reaction went. Truthfully though, it wasn't exactly meant to be flirty. I was just surprised by her reaction. Maybe I should have stated in the OP that this isn't a girl I'm trying to plate or anything, I simply wanted to understand why girls in a general sense (not potential plates or anything) act in such a way when you reduce them to an age. My…
/r/askTRP24/09/16 04:00 AM
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Wanting to have an effect on her IS having an intention. Though you're in denial you want this girl to want you. If you read that again, you'll see that I clearly stated "it had the effect on her that I would have wanted." This is very obviously hypothetical. Again though, whether or not she is at the very least interested isn't up for dispute, and certainly isn't the reason I came here and asked what I asked. Reread what I've said, this isn't about me wanting this girl to like me, she's dude's …
/r/askTRP24/09/16 03:51 AM
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If anything man, it had the effect on her that I would have wanted. When we don't use nuclear options ie. kiddo, sweetie, etc. to screen, and they feign being upset and bring up how the comment didn't sit well with them after expressing clearly fake anger, it's obvious they're thinking about that comment that bothered them. Women don't dwell on things betas say, they write that shit off. It bothered her at the time and she smoke screened to deter me picking up on her disappointment in the disqua…
/r/askTRP23/09/16 07:17 PM
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Rephrase the first sentence for me, I'm not sure what you're saying. Yeah, I'm not doing that with dude's girl... lol
/r/askTRP23/09/16 06:27 PM
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Trust me, that's not the case. Someone was pretty accurate down below - it was something like a "i'm gonna be dramatic about this to get attention" kind of thing, super forced. It was like fake flirty anger or something. In the past, this same girl has dropped basically random comments like, "I'm glad newguy889 is here." Typically really unprovoked shit - no one brought up my name or mentioned anything about me. As for something a little more telling: she used to date my best friend. He had gone…
/r/askTRP23/09/16 05:05 PM
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Yup, it may have been the latter. I've been trying to branch out and be a little more... alluring maybe. I'm not sure what the right word would be in this context. Recently, I've made a few attempts to gauge myself. It's not like I can practice on myself or something.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 04:56 PM
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Yeah, that's what I was going for. It was more a raised eyebrow with half grin thing.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 04:54 PM
1

Close enough. I get the same feeling, man.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 04:15 AM
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I'm a pretty sarcastic person. It was meant to be humorous. I never expected her to seem disappointed or annoyed or whatever. I hadn't expected it to sound douchey... but alright I guess.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 04:05 AM
1

It was my dude's girl. I didn't mean for it to be flirty, man. She got kinda heated on me though for some reason.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 04:00 AM
1

Weird you bring this up, because I've been thinking a lot about how I seem a lot more like an asshole to people now without noticing it, seemingly out of habit. The good news, however, is that I realized it was a habit. There really are times when you have to tone it back to fit in, save face, etc. Either way, it's cool to be able to notice changes in my personality.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 03:41 AM
2

Women really really love obscurity. That's something I got to learn first hand. The more I learn about persuasion, the more I feel like I've been conditioned by people in my life to always be honest, despite how honest they're willing to be with me. It seems like a large portion of people either get off on being lied to, or get off on lying to other people. Admittedly, that makes me pretty uncomfortable.
/r/askTRP11/08/16 04:48 PM
1

Don't get me wrong. That's precisely what I've been doing ever since I noticed this whole thing.
/r/askTRP10/08/16 07:10 PM
1

I've given her shit about never hanging out with her friends around us before and she just kinda ignored me... Should I just ignore her?
/r/askTRP10/08/16 06:58 PM
1

I'm already aware of all of that. It's why I came here and asked, to see if you guys felt my hunch was accurate. Reread the title of my post: "Should I avoid revelaing that I'm poly?" Clearly I already concluded before that it might not be a good thing, which is why I used those specific words. I don't feel that revealing myself was a mistake. However, it could have gone better. This wasn't an internal inquiry, because I've already personally concluded that I don't like the results, so clearly i…
/r/askTRP10/08/16 05:23 PM
1

Literally the first line says that I quit my job. Good advice totally noted.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 05:40 PM
1

Honestly, poly is what I would have called myself before getting into anything seduction related. I've never given a fuck about monogamy. But lately, I've seen the value in exactly what you've expressed. I was unsure of my past judgments and wanted to have a better idea of what ways I should come off to women. I was confident someone would say the same. It makes sense now that that line of thinking is what you guys would call bp.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 05:39 PM
1

Value. If people have committed time to me in the past, I must be worthy of someone else's time.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 05:36 PM
1

See, I agree.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 05:34 PM
1

Come on man.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 04:36 AM
1

There's a portion of the sidebar that talks about SMV. Read that. Just don't forget that it isn't only about appearance.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:50 PM
2

In "The Game" by Neil Strauss, Style actually mentions that Mystery told him once, "leave them better than you found them." This isn't a new concept, and it's actually a pretty popular idea in PUA. Actually, I'm pretty sure women call us woman haters because of people from TRP. People here are assholes, not gonna lie.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:48 PM
2

Alpha literally means the one that leads, which I'm sure we all know to define leading as masculine.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:47 PM
1

I don't disagree. I should have deflected, but I didn't. Besides, it took like a whole shift to get that out of me. Back to the question.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:39 PM
1

He isn't saying graduate and wait until you get a big boy job. He's saying establish an income by which you can afford to game with actual currency. You shouldn't be worrying about how you're going to afford food, clothes, rent, etc. next month while also worrying about who you're going to fuck tomorrow.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:23 PM
1

There's this thing called inner game. Yours is shit.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 11:01 PM
1

Ever hear of inner game? You need to work on yours. There may objectively be certain personality traits that appeal to the other sex more, sure. I can't deny that. People that embody these traits are typically what the community refers to as "naturals." With that in mind however, you're not unique. Most of us are very very similar. However, some people have certain traits that come a little more natural to them. TRP combats that difference by supplying people with knowledge pooled from individua…
/r/askTRP30/07/16 08:58 PM
2

Hey thanks I wanted a book to read today.
/r/askTRP30/07/16 08:44 PM
0

Why does that matter? You knew what you signed up for.
/r/askTRP30/07/16 08:42 PM
1

If you don't want to dance, go find some girls to talk to and work on your game. What are you so worried about? They're handing you opportunities to improve and you're anxious about what might happen before you're even there or anything. Shoot the fucking puck, man.
/r/askTRP29/07/16 02:15 AM
1

There's an important part in the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. He explains that nice guys often feel that they can't change their current psychological state. He mentions that the worst thing a recovering nice guy can do for himself is believe that he can't change the way he thinks or acts, that it's all set in stone. In reality, it's quite far from the truth. Throughout all of our childhood, we experience a plethora of different situations, all which shape the way we view the …
/r/askTRP29/07/16 02:08 AM
1

OP asked this question after reading the book, which tells you to inform your spouse/SO of your journey to becoming less of a nice guy. I'm not saying someone is right or wrong, my intention is to inform the lot of you reading this that the book actually does say to tell people in your life about intentions to make a transition. You guys aren't licensed family therapists like Dr. Robert Glover. Maybe he has sound advice. With that being said though, OP totes makes it sound like he wants permissi…
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:48 AM
1

It looks like you need to think about why you came here in the first place again. Was it because you had all the girls you wanted? I doubt it. How did you think you'd feel when you started making progress?
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:37 AM
2

Set boundaries like a big boy. Don't want her to upload pictures of you to facebook? Tell her not to upload pictures of you to facebook. We're not your mom, man. Use your words. She's young, what did you expect?
/r/askTRP25/07/16 07:14 PM
1

"You can only unplug yourself." It's in the sidebar somewhere.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 07:08 PM
5

Awesome, I've been thinking about this a lot. There's no reason to disregard spirituality when you learn game. Yeah, this is red pill, I get that. But a lot of guys here seem pretty extreme and it's sort of funny sometimes. We're all here to learn about persuasion, right? I'm not sure there's any disputing that. With that in mind, analyzing modern day organized religion brings one to conclude quite simply that today's big organized religions are a joke and more or less all they do is persuade pe…
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:47 PM
1

I remember the first time I met her. Before I could even say anything, and before anyone we were with spoke up, she goes, "So, I've heard a lot of good things about you!" I'm not so sure about the second part.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:11 PM
1

I guess that was pretty vague. What I meant was that I've not escalated while alone with a girl for the first time before, and still sensed sexual tension the same girl the second time I saw her alone. I certainly see where that is flawed, don't get me wrong though.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:10 PM
1

I think that's the biggest thing to take away from this. Thanks for pointing it out. But, I couldn't escalate with the girl I worked with since we were never alone. I still think it's weird that she would seem interested and then not want to be alone with me. I guess there could be any number of things going on that I don't know about though.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:08 PM
1

Yeah I remember a specific time guided her by her back and she was all smiley. I hung out with her once. I tried to get a friend of hers to smoke with me and she wouldn't. She acted weird for some reason. So when I went to hang out with the girl you mentioned, she got brought up. I learned that the girl that didn't hang out with me is a virgin. So, I disqualified her verbally to the girl I was hanging out with. Afterwards, she started asking personal questions - where I live, where I went to sch…
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:05 PM
1

Maybe I just need more exposure... I do live in a small town.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 12:24 AM
2

Beta game? Kino... obviously besides the one I worked with. The girl I mentioned that said something about breaking down walls was pretty touchy with me. Now she fucks a friend I used to work with. I went no contact with her about a month ago. I was thinking about seeing what's up with her now. Actually, I have done like light kino with the one I worked with. I think she spent a lot of time trying to figure me out. I probably just didn't build up enough comfort first.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 12:22 AM
1

Blaming pot for bad things that happened to you seems kind of silly. But do what you think is best for yourself.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 11:48 PM
3

Yes, the subreddit is literally ask the red pill. This isn't something rp can decide for you. Some people will have strong opinions, others won't. It's a great excuse for you to get some alone time with them. That's usually what I do. It just costs money. Other than that, it's up to you whether or not you want to smoke weed with girls and try to fuck them. I think it's fun.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 11:40 PM
2

Are you asking us a question, or reminiscing?
/r/askTRP24/07/16 11:15 PM
1

When your advice consists of "do something obvious that should be easy for you" it comes off as condescending. I'm in the IT field. I have to start at entry level positions. Once I'm done with that, from what I understand anyway, I don't have many options other than move out of the town I'm in. Currently however, there's no magic switch that I can flip that suddenly casts me away from my current residence.
/r/askTRP22/07/16 06:37 PM
1

Alright guys, I can admit, I'm not endorsed. I haven't been here for years. I don't know a ton about game, and I'm sure a lot of you have a ton more experience with seduction, game, or what have you. But I do know about the healthiness of masturbation. We certainly shouldn't discourage masturbation. Let me be clear on this - saying we shouldn't discourage masturbation is not the same as saying we should tell people to masturbate. They're going to do it either way if that's their desire. We're in…
/r/askTRP22/07/16 06:30 PM
1

"You can only unplug yourself." It's in the sidebar somewhere.
/r/askTRP22/07/16 06:14 PM
1

I know most of the people that go to bars/parties in my area. It's not a very big town. I've tried Tinder and saw a lot of people I knew. Maybe I shouldn't say it's not practical. It very well might be. It's just that a lot of people I see in the areas where I know a lot of social young people gather tend to either be familiar (as in I know them personally and have met them before), know a friend/family member of mine well, or has at least heard of me before. There aren't any big colleges in my …
/r/askTRP22/07/16 06:01 PM
2

It looks like it's sixteen where I'm at. So we're good?
/r/askTRP22/07/16 05:56 PM
1

She just broke up with her girlfriend and might do something she'll regret. Give it a month or two? If I'm not around her regularly anymore, especially in a work environment, I can just cut her off if she gets weird, right? Besides, I have witnesses that she essentially protested my unwillingness to have sex with her. Isn't that... like basically consenting?
/r/askTRP22/07/16 04:00 AM
1

but just actually try to enjoy the conversations you're having (not just with women, but everyone). If you take some of the red pill truths and do this, not only will you gain confidence, you'll be a natural at just talking to people. The most important thing to remember is no bodies going to think your stupid for talking to them Actually this is really close to the kind of stuff I've been thinking about lately. It's cool to have someone else tell me that. It makes me feel like I'm on the right …
/r/askTRP22/07/16 03:33 AM
1

The last line may have been good advice, but I don't need nor do I have time for arbitrary numbers. I live in a small town, so I can accept that it's going to go slow unless something changes dramatically from me. At this point, "just talk to 100 girls man" isn't really helpful, or even really practical for me in any sense. Nonetheless, I appreciate that you read my post. Thanks for trying to help.
/r/askTRP22/07/16 03:31 AM
1

Hey, dope response man. That was fun to read. So here's my actual dilemma, coach. I work with three girls. One had a boyfriend, I asked her if she'd marry him and shortly after they broke up and she was super happy to tell me about it. I acted on it and just didn't follow through for some reason. She tried to hang out not too long ago though so that's a weird maybe. Second one thought me and the first one fucked or something, which was funny because she confused that with some other girl I talke…
/r/askTRP22/07/16 03:26 AM
1

I just finished No More Mr. Nice Guy! and Seduction Community Sucks. I'm starting to think working on yourself is more important than working on girls. We're all naturals, some of us just seem to have issues implementing natural habits. It looks like we've just been trained to feel shitty about ourselves and seek external validations. I guess it's what people big on RP would call blue pill.
/r/askTRP05/07/16 03:51 AM
1

But what if she doesn't know her? I have an example of this I didn't know applied. There's this girl I used to know. I used to work with her a couple years back. A couple months ago, I saw her in passing after I completed an exam. I told her I was all stressed and I was about to go smoke a blunt and that she should come with me when she's done. She gave me some bullshit excuse and I didn't respond or took long enough to respond that she was suddenly "done with the class" she said she had to go t…
/r/askTRP05/07/16 02:35 AM
1

What if I seem curious about something, ask a couple of vague questions and they bring another girl up, does that mean they might be directing me to her or avoiding getting in the way of me pursuing the one she mentions? I guess I'm confused about what you mentioned before? Also, keeps coming back like she keeps bringing that girl up kinda prying trying to get more info out of me about her?
/r/askTRP04/07/16 02:02 AM
1

So basically just avoid her?...
/r/askTRP03/07/16 11:56 PM
1

Lol dude all I said (to the group, not to her) if they knew a certain girl. She jumped up and started yelling about how she has a girlfriend... But good look.
/r/askTRP03/07/16 11:01 PM
1

So it's safe to assume it may be an ioi if it wouldn't be in a situation where they could think I was prying or something?
/r/askTRP03/07/16 10:29 PM
1

Common conversation between someone I used to orbit. She knows of her, and I knew that. Wanted to feel her out since I've been no contact with her for a few months. I ended up around her with a friend while we were hangin out and she hit him up to smoke. It wasn't something I planned on or anything. But, if I'm not asking advice or doing something that makes me look like a pussy, why can't I talk about women in front of them? As for the second girl, I've been orbiting her and needed to break orb…
/r/askTRP03/07/16 10:27 PM
3

Yeah that still wouldn't bother me.
/r/askTRP27/06/16 01:20 PM
1

I think I know what you mean. I know a girl who very openly talks about fucking a lot of girls. Let me tell you what man... they're all hot. Some are super hot. But, this girl is a walking shit test. She's super loud, obviously needy, and will literally shit talk you loudly to you face and in front of everyone just to take over the room. Oh and she fucks guys on the low because she "can get whoever [she] wants." I think you've given me a good understanding by helping me see the contrast. Thanks …
/r/askTRP27/06/16 02:51 AM
2

Didn't know her very well at the time. I asked a girl I used to orbit around about her. First thing she says is that she heard she was dating some girl. I heard from someone else that she used to date some girl. So I simply told her, "Someone told me you had a girlfriend." She replies, "No, but I used to date a girl. But, the last person I dated was a guy." "Oh, so you don't have a preference?" "I like people that like me." Held with a smile and wide eyes virtually the entire time. Earlier that …
/r/askTRP27/06/16 02:46 AM
2

What if I ask her about it and she totally wants me to know she likes guys too? I said something about her liking girls too and she mentions she's attracted to who's attracted to her.
/r/askTRP27/06/16 02:02 AM
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This doesn't sound different from any other girl though...
/r/askTRP27/06/16 01:40 AM
1

I've actually started at the top on the sidebar and I'm going through to read everything I didn't the first time. Just finished Confessions of a Reformed Incel. I know where to start. I was curious if someone had made a compilation of links or has written an overview or something of the sort.
/r/askTRP26/06/16 11:00 PM
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I can't lie to you man. I'm having the same issue right now. I'm certain the both of us need to learn self respect. I've been reading a book recently that might help you. It's called No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. I'll give you the pdf. https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf
/r/askTRP25/06/16 01:42 AM
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Look man, even if I'm wrong about the definitions, I know what sexual tension is like. I've been under the impression that she was nervous about me making a move on her and that's why she didn't want to be alone. I know you're under the impression that her not deciding to hang out with me means that she's no interested. That may very well be true. But, I've known plenty of girls that were attracted to me before. I appreciate the advice I've gotten here. With that being said however, I'm going to…
/r/askTRP25/06/16 12:55 AM
1

I haven't saved time for her, or given her more attention than other girls. ...but... I've thought about just starting a conversation with her like, "So, there's this girl that I've been trying to get to hang out with me. The first few times, she gave me weird ass excuses. The last time I asked her, she came up with some bullshit about her car. But, I figured out the other day that she has a boyfriend! Oddly though, she never mentioned that the last time. Any idea why she might not have brought …
/r/askTRP24/06/16 11:35 PM
1

So then what's the difference between a low level plate and oneitis? She hasn't prevented me from gaming other women. She hasn't prevented me from having fun with my friends. I haven't saved time for her, or given her more attention than other girls. Can't this just be a learning experience? Maybe she doesn't bite after I bring it up with her. Here's the thing, cute girls have tend to have cute friends. Why can't I have her hook me up with one of her friends? Edit:I'm not going to tell you you'r…
/r/askTRP24/06/16 11:09 PM
1

If wanting to see her is preventing you from making yourself available for other people or preventing you from taking your chances with other people, then it certainly is oneitis. Yes, simply drop her from your life. This will have one (most likely) of two results - either she hits you up in a few weeks/months and tries to see you despite you not giving her any attention, or she's out of your life and you no longer have to worry about that problem or try and qualify yourself to her. So long as y…
/r/askTRP24/06/16 10:28 PM
2

That's a dope idea. Thanks for that.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 02:50 AM
1

All of that makes sense to me. I guess my question now is, is it imperative (or close even) that I change my perspective on fashion?
/r/askTRP16/06/16 02:25 AM
1

I don't need to go spend a bunch of money on new shoes or a bunch of clothing so long as I don't have crazy facial hair, look/smell super dirty all of the time, or look like I don't give a fuck about myself? I guess I've seen mention on RP related sites and such about how improving your fashion sense will increase SMV.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 01:50 AM
2

If you can avoid texting them, that. Secondly, stop caring so much if they're offended or whatever. Finally, emojis.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 01:36 AM
1

For some reason, no one has mentioned "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover yet. Read that shit and stop acting like a pussy. If you still need convincing to stand up for yourself, put yourself first, and ignore other people that don't have worth to you, read "The Selfish Gene" by Richard Dawkins. Sure, it's a little more out there, and certainly conceptual, but if you learn to apply what he talks about, you'll have a good understanding of what I'm talking about. Remember, don't just exerc…
/r/askTRP16/06/16 01:22 AM
3

Maybe this will help you out.
/r/askTRP11/06/16 07:44 PM
1

The other day I hung out with a friend who orbits her. She wasn't around. But, he mentioned having seen her within an hour before I saw him. From what he told me, she made up some convenient excuse about how she "had something to do." After telling me that, he revealed that he was going to see her after we hung out. She's avoiding me if I'm around orbiters it seems. Should I try again, or just let her come to me?
/r/askTRP11/06/16 07:19 PM
1

She's acted pretty different after I broke rapport. It's like she's upset I'm not trying to orbit her anymore.
/r/askTRP11/06/16 02:22 PM
0

I don't work with either of them. I don't have contact with neither of them. I recently saw the mutual friend (the one I knew before) and she seemed weird. When I was with her, she mentioned her by name, saying she just hung out with her. I guess she was prompting me to say something about her. So after she broke up with her boyfriend, I DM'd her on Twitter. I told her I didn't forget that she needed to get me back and that she wasn't off the hook just because she doesn't work with me anymore. I…
/r/askTRP11/06/16 03:36 AM
0

"Chill, B."
/r/askTRP06/06/16 12:37 AM
1

Look up the term projection. They're the selfish assholes if they call you selfish after calling them out for them only wanting to hang out with you when they need something. These people are toxic. You don't need to qualify yourself to them. Ignore them.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 11:48 PM
1

Look up pheromones. Basically each time a girl smells you, or tells you you smell good, she's probably into you. It's pretty primal/innate.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 10:32 PM
2

I've been struggling with the same thing man. But there's one thing I can think of that seems to set me on the right path each time I come across this same problem: there's a lot of girls out there. I've been thinking about this a lot. Don't get me wrong, I'm not endorsed to give advice, I still see myself as struggling and in need of a lot of change. But, as I've stated before, this is a big thing I've been thinking about. Most people here bring up oneitis each time you ask about a specific gir…
/r/askTRP05/06/16 10:22 PM
1

It's starting to look to me like this is pretty valuable advice.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 10:04 PM
1

Oh it's certainly playful.
/r/askTRP05/06/16 10:02 PM
1

Okay, I got the first part right. So kinda like training a dog, when they do something bad, ignore it and show them how to act properly, then reward them when they act properly? Dope help man. Haven't been getting much from the sub recently... :/
/r/askTRP05/06/16 08:52 PM
1

I tend to be pretty socially aware. I don't think that's an issue I really have. I was simply wondering if that's a positive thing for women to think about me, or if it's a negative thing for women to think about me. I won't disagree that I should care less what people think. That's a specific thing I've been working on. But, I didn't ask her what she thought of me, or seem interested when she was talking about it. It came up randomly, as she just started talking about it after I prompted her. I…
/r/askTRP05/06/16 08:33 PM
0

It's not a "please talk to me" kind of thing. It's an "I'm bored and you aren't saying anything, so say something" kind of thing. It's to pass the time at work. I'm not planning on sleeping with this girl. Maybe I need to rephrase the question like this: "If a girl tells you you're intimating and "rudely sarcastic" is it a positive thing, or a negative thing? Also, other girls have told me similar things. If this was one girl who said this to me one time, I'd simply move on and not care about it…
/r/askTRP05/06/16 05:05 AM
1

I think that's the healthiest response someone could've given me. In hindsight, I started thinking about the things that brought me to TRP for a very specific set of reasons. After a certain point, I was expecting to have my lifestyle change dramatically. Maybe it wouldn't be sudden, or even very extravagant, but I was expecting some noticeable differences. I was expecting something I wasn't expecting, to be honest. But what I got from TRP was different. Most of the times I sat down and just tho…
/r/askTRP04/06/16 05:44 AM
1

Oh sweet thanks for that explanation.
/r/askTRP24/05/16 05:41 PM
3

Learning to cook would be great. Programming is also a great idea. Maybe you could build something, like a mailbox.
/r/askTRP24/05/16 05:22 AM
1

I'm only two or three years older than they are. I don't think you're wrong or anything, man. You offered me things to read, I read them, and felt like those things didn't really apply to my workplace. I've had this job since highschool. To be honest, it's probably holding me back. Why not get something out of it, like a way to gain some confidence before I jump into the big boy world? Maybe you need to spell it out to me though, man. Why do you purpose I'd get fired for having sex with a woman …
/r/askTRP24/05/16 05:14 AM
-1

I'm confused. I've already facilitated a lot of those relationships and my work has no HR. It's private owned and the owners are rarely there. There are two managers who I guess fit the whole post-wall thing (one married other single mom) and I've made sure they'd have nothing bad to say about me besides things that make me fit in I guess. Plates I would spin are easily replaceable highschoolers that are probably going to quit in a few months anyway since we have a high turn over rate. I've work…
/r/askTRP24/05/16 04:56 AM
1

Noted. Thanks
/r/askTRP24/05/16 02:16 AM
-1

It won't be an office romance. I've mentioned to them before that I wouldn't date a coworker, and that I don't really "date" girls. Besides, I don't know that I have intentions to date anyone I work with regardless. I'm not concerned about other women, and I deal with shit tests all the time, I'm pretty used to it. Despite all that, I'll certainly head the advice you guys gave me. Don't let me make you think I disagree with you or anything.
/r/askTRP24/05/16 02:10 AM
-1

Even if I'm pretty confident that it wouldn't go wrong? I just want to know if this is on par with like a single mother, for instance.
/r/askTRP24/05/16 01:53 AM
1

Well the reason I asked this was because there's one maybe two that I find have potential. I feel pretty confident that the two specific ones I have in mind wouldn't be crazy if things "went sour." So, is the part in the sidebar we've mentioned more of a suggestion? I don't plan to have this job more than maybe six months or so, but I feel pretty confident that most people don't have any negative opinions about me. With that being said, I've spent more time on the sidebar recently and I'm not su…
/r/askTRP24/05/16 01:51 AM
1

This might require a long explanation, but I've felt her out and I don't think she's isn't attracted to me. I told her once to come smoke with me, but she used some LMR, claiming she's going to quite smoking until she goes on vacation. But told me she'd still drink (not really in, but not really out I guess). Recently, I told her about a girl I know (I've mentioned this in another post) that is moving into an apartment with a boyfriend, who forgot to mention the boyfriend part and still told me …
/r/askTRP22/05/16 06:15 PM
2

Those bringing up things about cheating and shit should really look into something called polyamory.
/r/askTRP10/05/16 05:37 PM
1

I certainly agree. We know a lot of the same people, so I'm not really sure how the whole bf thing will work out...
/r/askTRP10/05/16 05:37 PM
2

Yes.
/r/askTRP10/05/16 05:36 PM
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So is this a good example of a time to use jealousy? I've asked other girls what they thought about a situation i was in with another girl before and it seemed to make her jealous. Am I being dumb, or is this actually a good idea?
/r/askTRP10/05/16 01:23 AM
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Hey thanks a fuck ton man. I've spent the past few months learning more and more about this shit. Only recently (past month or two) have I begun being more social and felt like I was picking up some kind of momentum. Not gonna lie, I saw this particular girl as a guinea pig, and wanted to see if I could actually put knowledge I had built up to the test. For me, it was exciting and stimulating. I feel a lot more optimistic after getting that awkward, overly emotional "I just wanna have sex" talk …
/r/askTRP20/03/16 05:51 PM
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Awesome advice man. Lately I've been giving a lot more thought to the idea of chemistry. With this girl, there had been very little. It seems like she tried to qualify herself a ton to guys, and that was kind of off putting. It made me feel like she needed a lot of verification, and that was certainly a turn off. Anyway, I noticed that after I thought she may have changed her mind about me, she didn't seem all that responsive when I was playful with her. I felt like a lot of the attraction I sen…
/r/askTRP20/03/16 05:12 PM
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That was insightful. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 06:15 PM
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Good look. Thanks a lot man. You've guys have been super helpful.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 02:26 AM
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They're friends I'm not familiar with. Getting them to like me without meeting them seems optimal. That's why I'd refer to her as a pivot. For instance, a reason I knew she was into me was because one of her other friends told me "(virgin girl) said you were cool as fuck!"
/r/askTRP06/03/16 12:50 AM
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Do you know what a pivot is?
/r/askTRP06/03/16 12:32 AM
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I don't think there's any reason why I can't be friends with her instead of trying to escalate considering she's a virgin. The reason I'm bringing this up is specifically so I can remain sensitive to her feelings while not putting myself into a ridiculous position.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 12:22 AM
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I understand the primal nature of attraction, and I don't intend to reject its validity. What I'm suggesting is that sometimes people can enjoy someone's company and not only think about being intimate with them. Sorry if that seems condescending. I'm concerned with being the one she loses her virginity to, only to fall in love with and be dramatic once I can't offer her all the attention she desires.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 12:12 AM
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Maybe I'd find out I don't want to bang her after I hung out with her though... I'm not sure she's really wasting my time. It's not like trying to get her to hang out is preventing me from doing the same thing with another girl. I'm not reserving time in my day for her. Regardless though, I see your point and it's certainly noted. I appreciate the response.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 12:03 AM
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Thanks, man! I'll try.
/r/askTRP20/02/16 11:09 PM
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No, man. I appreciate the response regardless.
/r/askTRP20/02/16 10:36 PM
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Push and pull, got it.
/r/askTRP20/02/16 10:19 PM
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Check
/r/askTRP20/02/16 10:18 PM
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Okay let me explain that part a little. I think I need to reword it, actually. I've recently read somewhere that a girl will (maybe implicitly, but still) reveal to you exactly how to seduce her. I've picked up on annoyances she had with the bf before I took any steps towards seducing her months ago. He likes to be very controlling and tell her all these things she can't do. So I wanted to highlight some form of contrast that conveys the differences between me and him: ie freedom vs domination. …
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Nice, that's exactly the problem I thought I had. Is there something I should read or watch that you or other people found helpful? Maybe a guide or something? There's been times when I've noticed I pushed a bit too far, and want to make sure some things I'm doing aren't just making people feel uncomfortable.
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Okay. So don't worry about her being a virgin? I guess that's what I was more concerned about after all.
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Do you think it matters that she knows of another girl our mutual friend is friends with that has a thing for me? Because that final sentence is, at least from my perspective, the case. I fucked up the original wording on this, my bad. I meant to suggest that she knows of other girls that are attracted to me.
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So you're saying wait a week and tell her to come hang out with me again so that she could think there's a chance I don't just want to fuck her? Oddly enough, I've already done that. Twice. Aside from ASD (which is one of the first things that came to mind), do you think she'd have an ulterior motive?
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Just because I don't get to fuck her, doesn't mean I can't have her help me with other girls. She has some cute friends. You're awfully pragmatic. :P Maybe I should add that we have mutual friends. I'm not really going out of my way here.
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What if every girl always thinks I'm needy? Shouldn't I then address whether or not I'm needy, then figure out how to change that?
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I tried "what kinds of things do you do for fun?". She wasn't too responsive with that, but seemed super nervous. Thoughts?
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I'd have to isolate to escalate physically. She's hesitant when I attempt to get her alone.
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I'm not sure that matters at this point for OP. Either way she's responding to his invitation for private time with the opposite. It seems like she's going to add to her oribters...
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She'll be hanging out with guys. I guarantee it.
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Look up the book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. Remember, you can only unplug yourself.
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Once again, I have no intentions of operating under the assumption that coaxing a woman into having sex with someone else will somehow improve my chances. I understand that won't help me. When made this post, I suppose I wasn't precise enough. My question was this: will this situation harm my chances with her? I'm well aware it won't help me have sex with her. I guess it shows disinterest. Regardless, you've answered my question. Nonetheless, I appreciate the help.
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I'm simply asking if telling her that he's a cool dude and that if she asked him to hang I'm sure he'd be down is hurting my chances. I didn't mean to imply I was under the impression that trying to put my friend on would make her more attracted to me, that seems self defeating. The interactions I have with her in which I have established rapport I feel exist beyond whether or not she sleeps with my friend. Is that making her think I'm uninterested, when I encourage her to be sexual with people …
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Yeah, I always tease the hell out of girls. Maybe I go too far though. What would that look like, do you think? Also, women laughing a lot when interacting with you is an ioi. Beyond that, people, when interacting with each other, will sometimes give a submission laugh/smile, which quite literally indicates comfort.
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