nightwillalwayswin Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
61	Things I learned when going up against norms		nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/23 08:30 PM
42	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy ....		nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 02:26 PM
39	What you need to hear	Success Stories	nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	19/07/26 01:48 PM
3	Conflict		nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/23 09:11 PM
2	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce...	Dating After Divorce	nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:16 PM
1	The patriarchy?		nightwillalwayswin	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 11:40 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	What you need to hear I agree with that	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/26 06:52 PM
1	What you need to hear I mean, yeah of course things change. So boundaries and values and desires. Do you grow together or do you grow apart? How do you communicate about that growth?	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/26 06:50 PM
2	Can’t stop the tears It is your emotional brain, your nervous system, which is millions of years older than your thinking brain. Look into breathing and tapping exercises. Esentually, when you feel all worked up - exhale for a longer amount of time than you inhale,	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/26 02:16 PM
12	Can’t stop the tears Brother - it is the hardest thing you will have to go through. But you WILL get through it. Go lift heavy shit. Walk 10+K steps a day. Eat Healthy. Get good sleep. Rekindle old friendship and hobbies. Develop new ones. It a long game but you have the opportunity to be a better man.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/26 01:01 PM
2	Trying to understand what this means I empathize completely. Once you heal you'll realize she is not one IN a million but one OF a million. You need to build yourself back, and relearn what women are actually attracted to. This is a great video (Ignore the red pill slant): https://youtu.be/RB1Ed_kvZNM?si=qJThYCuanUziFM0G	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 02:50 PM
3	Trying to understand what this means If you've been divorced and dating a while - you've learned the hard way NOT to date someone going through a divorce or recently divorced if you want a serious, non casual, non FWB relationship. Take a year of peace. Logically it is the best thing for anyone. Emotionally you are feeling weak, invalidated, abondoned, a failure ... which is why anyone wants to date right away. But you have a lot of work to do before you are ready for a healthy relationship.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 02:01 PM
2	Ex wife pics This is my approach as well.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/26 01:41 PM
6	Men of Reddit, what’s the best way for a woman to navigate with separation? No need to confront him. Do whatever you can to control your emotions and treat it like ending a business contract. The sooner you can get it over with in an amicable manner, the better for you, your kids, and him. Be introspective and grow from it. Look for your part and what you can control. No one wants to be the bad person in their own story. Fighting over right / wrong is where divorces get messy. Remember no one wins in divorce but the lawyers.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/26 05:54 PM
7	Men of Reddit, what’s the best way for a woman to navigate with separation? She is coming here looking for validation from men. Her ego is hurt. It’s better than getting on the apps immediately I guess.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/26 05:49 PM
5	Being single after divorce has made...question As someone in the top 20% … I’m telling you the apps turn men into fuckbois. If I’m open and honest, transparent communicate well, take my time the women find some little nick picky thing to end it. Either something they heard on one of their true crime podcast, or something dating story from a friend, or something an ex did or whatever. If I’m aloof mysterious non committal and just charm them and let them talk about themselves they will fuck you on the first date. They have all the power, and …	/r/Divorce_Men	23/03/26 03:36 PM
9	Seriously? An email? OP is being emotional, which is understandable as its still fresh. I fought tooth-nail (and a lot of lawyer fees) to get a detailed list from my ex for asset separation. The tone of OP message is why lawyers make so much $$$$$$$$$$. The sooner he can get over the hurt and treat it like a failed business partnership, the better.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/25 05:52 AM
1	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... I've grown and changed a ton. I've self reflected and been introspective on my part in it. My kids now prefer my house because I provide discipline, routine, structure and consistency while remaining emotionally stable. My ex doubled down on her ways because she was doing nothing wrong and had the support of all her mommy friends telling her I was an evil abusive man who tried to take way her kids. Plus in my free time I bang thirsty hot but damaged divorcee's. So I lost a ton during the divorce…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/25 11:49 PM
1	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... no one asked you. Even if that is the case, I guess its better than being a bitter, damaged person suffering from CPTSD	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/25 11:41 PM
1	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Just opened my son's report card (last day of school). He had 22 tardies this semester. She lives 1.5 miles from the school. Think of all your girlfriends ... I'm sure you have one who's life is chaos and kids are out of control. But you are still friends with her because she is fun and quirky. That is my ex wife. Hard to be a "peach" married to and now coparenting with that and watching the trauma she causes my kids on the regular due to her lifestyle choices.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/25 11:32 PM
0	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Of course. I actually asked for divorce over her selfish, shitty parenting as a SAHM. That was literally the reason. I lost the fight for primary, lots of women (moms) in child services and family law. Just the other week she wanted to check my 11 yo daughter into a mental hospital. She was crying this morning as she dropped the kids stuff off because my middle one made her morning hell. I have them 43% of the time. Just started week on week off over the summer.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/25 10:49 PM
3	How many of us were actually abused? It is hard decision and I personally don’t fault someone for leaving that all behind if it is for your own survival. Maybe one day your daughter will reach out when she is an adult and try to form a relationship. Maybe not. But you can only control what you can. I’m happy you found the opportunity to build a new life.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 06:10 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... For me, it was the standard - a couple of 9's, mainly 8 - 6's, and a couple of 5' because why not.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 03:46 PM
5	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Hinge, FB dating, Bumble. Pm me and I’ll share with you my profile that did very well.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 02:00 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Just the conversation - I have a look where I can look deeply in their eyes (I have green eyes) and really listen. They are really into it. Nothing sexual. Then when it is time to go a walk her to her car. That is where we kiss, then really make out. I open their car door, we get in the back seat, keep making out, I slowly stick my hands down her pants, finger her and get her all worked up, then I pull my dick out and she starts doing her thing. Its like the saying goes, a girl will think your h…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 12:04 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Yes exactly. I've found that most women dont want a FWB situation or a situationship. I think it is because of the social stigma around it.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/25 11:28 AM
3	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... You are probably right	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 11:09 PM
7	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... On 2 different occasions, after a 10 AM coffee 1st date, two different women were giving me head in the parking lot in their SUV by noon. These women were ones with good white collar jobs and had their "shit together" The thirst is real. If you are decently attractive and charming, they will do some nasty things. As I mentioned in another comment, I did 7 different women in row over a 7 day period just to see if I could. I think I'm probably a 7, maybe an 8. But as I mentioned earlier, none turn…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 11:04 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Exactly what I was thinking. She actually said her friends consider her the “hoe” of her divorcee friend group very nonchalantly.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 10:28 PM
3	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... What I hear is the counter to this from women .... "but getting ready for a date takes so much time and energy, and then the man could be boring and/or a creep, why would I want to do that?" One of my ex's was really vain, literally had a new outfit via amazon every day. She enjoyed getting dressed up and going out. She like when men would buy her dinners. She also texted me the other day that she was SAed and filed a police report because he expected to get laid. When I was dating regularly I r…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 08:35 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... I think I agree with you. Thanks for your perspective. I wouldn't mind a few high quality FWB situations ... but I think that is probably a pipe dream.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 08:28 PM
6	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Very dependent on your area. I live in a well off liberalish area in a large metro which helps. I haven’t been on the apps in a year but from what I’ve heard they get worse by the day. Most of the good people have logged off.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 07:57 PM
6	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Fair enough. I had no problem dating in a major metro city because I'm relatively attractive after hitting the gym and losing 30 lbs. Also, I think I'm a charming person ... I'm in sales so I know how to actively listen and shape a conversation). However, I am single because as others have mentioned I'm just not attracted to the modern tiktok woman and her values. I'm enjoying being single and hooking up. I wish you luck my friend.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 06:08 PM
0	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Yes the til tok, instagram women has really fucked up their world view… and then my kids. When they are with her my 11 yo daughter is on her iPad 7-9 hours a day. When they are with me they get electric nova for an hour, and no social media, just texting friends.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 03:40 PM
2	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Yes, the opposite is true for us for sure. Getting someone in a relationship is easy. Finding a woman id want to be in a relationship with is tough. For your 6 months part… I waited a year after filing to start dating. I hit the gym and lost 3lbs. She was dating within a month. I put together a great app profile (did a bunch of research on how) and my first time on the apps I did a 7 day bender … 7 different women in 7 nights. Don’t worry brother, keep working on yourself and it will all come to…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 03:26 PM
5	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... Idk, I haven’t had any luck with younger women on the apps. I’ve been with 20 or so women in the past 4 years, but all within 5 years of me (41). I’m not a bad looking dude obviously, but I have 3 kids and don’t want any more babies, so maybe that’s it. The 31 yo old women seems to be looking for marriage and to have kids, unlike the 31 yo old dudes she is dating that just want to bang (and are probably being turned down by the women their own age).	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 03:18 PM
4	I didn't expect that divorced women would find hook ups so easy .... I’m indifferent to my ex, have been for a couple of years now. Yeah, I guess maybe a little jealous how easy she can get a roster of younger people wanting to just bang on the regular. When I was a fuckboi, they were all pretty much one night stands from the apps because the women were looking for relationships, not regular casual sex. But deep down she wants another sucker who will put her up in a big house and spoiler her. So it’s all about perspective.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/25 03:15 PM
10	New GF asking for too much? She does m’t sound secure or have a strong self worth. If she can’t understand you are focusing on your kids and needs all your energy, that is a red flag. But you know this.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/25 12:19 PM
4	Getting your motivation back I went from $500K net worth (which would now be worth probably $1.5M) and an 850 credit score. We divorced over the worst thing possible- the kids - she couldn’t control them as a SAHM and all three had behavioral and emotional issues. I buillt a great case over the 1.5 year process. Any woman would have won with the evidence ai have. But because she wasn’t blowing crystal meth smoke in their face or beating with an iron rod … the GAL said it was just different parenting styles but because I tho…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/25 11:09 AM
3	What's the pettiest thing she did? I’ve already spent $200K and had to filed for bankruptcy. I have them 42% of the time. I had a 25 page evidence document with many recordings and videos. The GAL said it’s just a difference in parenting style, but she should get primary because I think mine is better. It is bullshit. I’ve educated my daughter on what it means to be institutionalized and to fight against it. The kids often want to be there because they can do whatever they want and be on electronics 6+ hours a day. Hence their st…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/25 11:33 PM
9	What's the pettiest thing she did? My late mother gave us a handmade painting one Christmas. My ex argued it was a gift just to her. She labeled me as abusive for going for primary custody of the kids (her parenting and lack of control of our kids as a SAHM is why I pushed for divorce). The mediator turned arbitrator was a woman and awarded my ex my moms painting. My ex pretty much got whatever she wanted, including primary custody. My ex is now talking about putting my 11 year old daughter in a mental hospital because she can’t …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/25 02:50 PM
18	What do you wish your lawyer told you during your divorce? Don’t use me as your therapist. Work out whatever you ca.n directly with your ex. If that can’t be done, communicate with them as little as possible and focus on the next step…finalizing it. The goal should always be to finalize it ASAP. (That is why that lawyer didn’t mention mediation). The longer it is, the more you fight, the more it costs. Just go by what the law says and take your medicine. Fighting over the small stuff or what you think is right is stupid. If your ex is unreasonable and w…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/25 01:51 PM
6	The avoidant Yes, it was great in the beginning, then she got bored and nothing I would do could make her happy. Then when she broke up with me and I immediately stop caring ... she was a wreck and pleading with me asking if i "missed her." She was back on the apps a week after the break up. She needed some more validation and attention. I saw her one last time getting my stuff and she said she'd been on 2 dates with a guy. I banged her one more time and then just went no contact. i feel sorry for dude.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/25 11:23 PM
6	The avoidant I just got out of 2 relationships post divorce - great sex, totally selfish avoidants. The last one I got serious with and it was a nightmare. My ex wife was like that too. As a recovering people pleaser I think this is who I'm attracted to and I'm self reflecting and being introspective about it.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/25 11:01 PM
2	Im scared and need advice As a recovering giving people pleaser, you have to start standing up for yourself and expect reciprocity in a partnership. You live by the golden rule - do to others what you want done for yourself. Often takers find givers and this dynamic happens. Not just it romantic relationships but in families, business, and friendships. My guess is she will never change. During the divorce I spent time alone and really focused on myself. It was great and I thought I was ready to date. However, I’m just ge…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/25 01:11 PM
8	I married a single mom. Did I screw up? Brother. I'd rather live in a van than live in that situation. Become a simple minimalist and fucking dip. Don't say a word. Fucking act like they dont exist. Get whatever money you make and put it in a separate account.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/25 04:00 AM
3	Emotionally just not getting better Take it day to day brother. Learn to take pleasure in the little things. Live in the present. Don’t focus on right / wrong of the past and realize everyone is living in their own world and living by their own narrative, including your ex and female relatives. You have to look out for you first and learn the art of not giving a fuck. Once you find your own internal happiness everything else will come together. I say this a recovering nice guy people pleaser who used to live by the gold rule of “d…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/25 06:21 PM
5	Why do people not try harder to see things from other’s perspective? Here is the thing brother … no one wants to be the bad person in their own story. People will lie to themselves all day to protect their ego. Don’t go looking for resolution or for her to “figure it out.”	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/25 07:49 PM
4	Are there women that are devastated by divorce like we are? I agree with a lot of what you said Also, you could only meet women close to you, and them of men. They would replace you with your best friend after you died, not some rando fuckboi. Woman also died a lot during child birth. And half the children would die before adulthood too. The only people who had a "good life" were the rich and royalty.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/06/24 04:22 PM
11	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. remember lawyers can say whatever they want. judges will not see you that long and lawyers have to justify why they need something. high conflict = more money for lawyers. Period.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 02:56 AM
6	Shaking with anger after court hearing today Like I tell the kids, “life is not fair.” I just had to file for bankruptcy being saddled with all the CC debt and only breaking even each month after paying child support and rent ($5K per month) My industry took a big downturn and the people in family law say I’m “underemployed.” Keep your head held high brother. Focus on what you can control and how you react to things you can’t.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 12:21 PM
2	When people say sorry People who have been through a divorce and came out on the other side say "congrats!" I know I do.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/05/24 07:11 PM
3	How do you deal with cheating ex- (apparent) success ? I have also gone through those peaks and valleys, over and over. I want to be indifferent so bad. But both the peaks and valleys are starting to flatten out over time. Once they look like the vast flatlands I will know I'm there. You will get there, and take solace in the fact that the highs and lows will continue to lose their intensity, until you reach total indifference.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/24 06:25 PM
8	How do you deal with cheating ex- (apparent) success ? Indifference is the only answer brother. Acceptance the key to peace and serenity. It took me years to get there, even though I’ve been saying it to myself for two years.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/02/24 05:48 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... apps mainly	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/24 10:53 AM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... get it!	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/24 10:52 AM
-1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... Funny everything I said is true. Everything I said is true, but I’m a troll too. I actually like having convos with people to, watching them get turned on. I never needed sex workers and my way is cheaper. You do you though. Top men, get sex workers if you want.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/24 12:02 AM
0	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... sex workers are not for top men. I had met a chick for a coffee date at 10 am, she got there early and bought, and she was giving me head in her car at 12:30. I've never paid for sex. but if you need it, I agree, do it	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 10:13 PM
3	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... Hell yes brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:55 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... copy it because this post will self destruct	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:54 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... I was exhausted but I was also proud of how little money I spent. I only bought 2 dinners Fri Sat night and they were not that expensive.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:50 PM
2	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... you can tell the truth in satire, right?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:37 PM
3	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... That is exactly what I did brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:35 PM
-1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... I have an average dick, but no ED. But I'm good kisser foreplay and oral.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 08:02 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... rage bait yes, I'm retired troll from back in the day. You should have seen me in r/divorce and also r/datingoverforty when I was at my lowest. This is pretty low effort tbh	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:59 PM
2	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... dude, some of the best crazy stuff. but definitely one and done	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:55 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... I followed this! 1 year no dating no drinking.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:51 PM
2	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... I agree, I'm getting burnt out. I have some big life events with the kids coming up, so I'm about to take a year off, and then do a long burn and focus on just getting into a relationship.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:50 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... Yes, I go on specific bender time periods and then don't do it for a number of months. Some bad sex yes, but some of it was the best sex of my life. Usually that happens in the second or third meeting.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:45 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... sexual market value	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:44 PM
3	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... No nurses, teachers, therapist. Hairdressers are a maybe.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:39 PM
1	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... lots of fucking. I did 7 different in 7 nights on one of my benders.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:37 PM
4	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... Fist bump	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:36 PM
6	For all of you that struggle with dating after divorce... I'm attractive, 6 ft, no dad bod, good job The Apps - I did a lot of homework. Time of year is important - best times are end of Spring, right after the kids go back to school, right between Xmas and News Years. I have good and diverse pictures (photfeeler.com), mainly all full body doing different things activities with different backgrounds, I smile in every one. Every prompt is funny but the joke is from a woman's perspective "i.e. Dating my is like finding the perfect top on the clearance ra…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/24 07:35 PM
1	Sex after divorce Huh, I don’t need nor care if she is “an available vagina.” Did your mom not hug you enough when you were kid?	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/24 03:54 AM
4	Sex after divorce my comments in this thread would be downvoted over there because the women and simps don't like my truth (like me having casual sex for a bit [aka fockboi], or that good men have a higher market value post divorce than good women). too much group think and not much self reflection or accountability over there. again, the question "What are you doing to hook up with women who are divorced?" and then her story sparked good conversation between men. my comments are focused on men, not answering her…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 08:59 PM
9	Sex after divorce agree. I'm commenting on this post giving advice to men, not her. her post was a catalyst to spark conversation, which is why u/SkeptiCynical allowed it. (I'm banned from divorce, that place is a cesspool)	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 06:48 PM
3	Sex after divorce you got this brother. when I first was getting divorced I asked my dad if i would ever be loved again and was so scared of being single and dating. his first instinct was kinda a nervous laughter because he knew once I was healed I would crush. I look back on that version of me and just think how much I was an ignorant simp, happy wife happy life tool. but you have to put in the work. its not easy. eat right, workout, get good sleep, focus on your family, focus on your work, focus on getting to …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 06:22 PM
3	Sex after divorce If you’re looking for a very good and stable compatible partner, it is extremely hard, it’s a needle in a haystack. you are right my friend and I see your point for sure. I just got my first girlfriend and it took me what ... 40ish different dates to find her. i'm super autistic so I was very methodical and formulaic with my approach to online dating. For example the time of year is really important - I only fire up the apps for a week ("new here") after school gets back in and right before xmas…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 03:32 PM
3	Sex after divorce get through your divorce bro. I spent a year once we filed not drinking nor dating, hit the gym, and fell back in love with myself as a former co dependent simp. and even after a year I still wasn't ready but got laid a number of times, then i took another year off. if you play your cards right and put in the work, you will realize it is the men who hold the best hand in the dating card game once we are past 35 years old.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 03:19 PM
2	Sex after divorce i've found middle aged women have a ton of baggage and trauma that they "think" they are over, but they are really not. I get a lot of entitlement from these women as well, as they think they "know your worth" but they really dont. 3's thinking they are 6's, 6's thinking they are 9's. I have a lot of the success on the apps, but I'm attractive and put together a kick ass profile (every prompt is funny, but specifically humorous to women and references their lived experiences as women that most m…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 03:03 PM
1	Sex after divorce unfortunately, like I mentioned in my comment, for men that most woman want to fuck is just so easy for them to fire up the apps verse going through the now awkward interaction of meeting someone new in person. I didn't even try. from the apps and when I was in my fuckboi stage during my separation, one of the benders I went on I had 7 dates in 7 days, and had sex wth 5 of them, and the dates were low cost (coffee, one or 2 drinks). These were not whorish, low value women either - attractive, "i…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 02:57 PM
3	Sex after divorce This is good advice. Unless you are in the top 10% of the pool of women you really have to put in the work.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 02:49 PM
7	Sex after divorce Its 2024 - apps are the best way. Men don't approach women anymore besides at your standard places (bars, parties, public pool, beach etc) which are a certain type of guy most women are not really attracted to. Personally, I have plenty of them giving me the buying signals when I do encounter them in person (double take eye contact, slight smile, going out of their way to interact), but I really don't engage. Especially given that a lot of them are married women in bad/sexless marriages and are …	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/24 02:47 PM
4	How did you deal with false accusations Simple 1 go as no contact as possible. BIFF communication via email and Grey/yellow rock. Always show you are trying to avoid conflict 2 play dirty and try to catch her in a traps yourself. Any type of hybrid or “doing the right thing” you will probably lose. Divorce and custody is dirty fucking business.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/23 10:35 PM
3	I finally pulled the RIP cord Brother, remove all emotion, divorce is the worst type of law besides maybe personal injury. I repeat, remove emotion. Be done with emotion. It is now a business transaction. https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/33845-wisdom-cannot-be-imparted-wisdom-that-a-wise-man-attempts	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/23 08:48 PM
1	Divorce Realization: We are all dating our Exes. pretty much. just like they changed the usage of word "abuse" and "narcissist," now I guess a man being "emotionally available" in dating now means they want you to be a push over simp so we can "treat them well." its the entitlement that gets to me. they are very entitled to getting a man to treat them like they think they should be treated.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/23 07:13 PM
3	Why are the simple words so hard to say? Pick your difficult: A bad marriage is difficult A divorce is difficult The reason your words are so hard is because you are afraid to be alone. You will have to learn how to butter your own bread, not just bring it home. Most of society is built on at least two people doing it together. Once you simplify your life, and you focus on what matters and what you care about, you would be happy. But it is a very difficult road to get there. Is it better than your difficult marriage? No one can tell yo…	/r/Divorce_Men	21/11/23 12:44 PM
22	No plan in life Focus on be a great father when the kids are with me. Gym, eating heathy. I got into motorcycles and now do more back country camping. Fire up the apps every 6 months or so to bang some thirsty divorcees. I enjoy my alone time now, I'm living how I want.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/11/23 08:15 PM
8	Why are we telling men to wait a year before dating? Do to current societal norms men develop a dependency on women which becomes hardened during a marriage. Being alone 1) allows us to form personal value outside of sex and a relationship 2) creates a better opportunity to find better partners once we find that value in ourselves (given the amount of garbage single women post divorce that will love bomb the shit out of you). It allows us to recalibrate and set ourselves up to live a fulfilling life alone and/or with a higher quality partner. No m…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/10/23 04:54 PM
3	Did I fuck up? Sick Women are really good at eating your soul. I have a boy and two girls. My boy wants to forcefully dominate when he is mad. Do what he want and not listen, hit me or physically alter the situation, joke around to change subject. My oldest girl wants to hurt my soul when she is mad. Fuck me up with words and things that bother me. I never try to say it to her, because I can see the changes I'm working on, but she is similar to her mother.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/09/23 02:25 PM
2	Did Anyone Else Divorce a Slob? u/17throwaway-scorpio ^^^	/r/Divorce_Men	24/08/23 04:58 PM
3	Did Anyone Else Divorce a Slob? Lazy and narcissistic is a hell of a combo Lazy and narcissistic is a hell of a combo. This describes pretty much my ex SAHM's family. I'll raise you with a well educated, connected covert passive aggressive avoidant. Refuses to put anything in writing so I've gone no contact parrell parenting as possible. Email on weekends only. Of course I'm the narcissist controlling asshole for staying sober/single and focusing on work and my 3 young kids. I "make her look like the bad guy" and I'm manipulat…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/08/23 04:54 PM
8	How are you guys able to live alone? Freedom. Embrace it brother. Get rid of your codependences from marriage (it takes a lot of time, worst thing in the world). You lost a lot but in the end you gained your freedom. I lost most everything as well. Once you accept it all. You can find happiness in yourself. Even in your 1 bedroom apartment. Embrace your freedom.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/08/23 09:25 PM
2	Three years later and her delusions took over My ex did me dirty and is a hot mess. We got divorced because of parenting styles and lifestyle choices and their influence on the kids. But I have young kids. Her going off the deep end would not be good for them. That is what women often want us men to do, just like your exs actions you mentioned, which wouldn't benefit the kids either. Maybe when the kids are young adults they could handle that better. I'm sorry you and your kids have to deal with that, but I would still suggest indifference …	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/23 06:21 PM
1	Kid's birthdays after divorce I would go if my kids asked me. My ex does the same thing with SM, I'm there for the kids during my time and when I can during her time (extra-circulars). She always tries to portray herself as the super mom while I'm quietly behind the scenes making sure they turn into well rounded adults. Recently I took my kids their first concert which was our favorite band. I had to get her permission because it was during her time. I was there with the kids (sober) the entire time and she came up for a cou…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/07/23 07:38 PM
15	Kids...get out... Most men (and women) cope/deal with the bad parts of the relationship/marriage/divorce for the potential upsides. "It can't happen to me." Also, we are sold a bill of lies from when we are young about being codependent / best friends with your partner and relationships being "hard work." My grandmothers favorite phrase is "its take two to tango." But it only takes one to make lives miserable. TL;DR Societal norms are too powerful.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/23 09:06 PM
2	Divorce feels for most men like a discharge -Robert Bly I like this quote, thanks for sharing	/r/Divorce_Men	25/05/23 12:06 PM
2	Anyone else’s wife lose her mind after kids? "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." -Proverbs 21:19 “I follow the example of the rider who wishes to become an expert horseman, none of your soft-mouthed, docile animals for me. The horse for me to own must show some spirit: in the belief, no doubt, if he can manage such an animal, it will be easy enough to deal with every other horse besides. And that is just my case. I wish to deal with human beings, to associate with man in general; hence my …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/23 06:02 PM
2	Don’t worry fellas Everyone is statically a snow flake immune from statistics	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/23 06:10 PM
1	Don’t worry fellas post nut clarity is a thing. Just like your buyers remorse after your Home Goods or Target purchase.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/23 06:08 PM
1	Don’t worry fellas If good, desirable men do divorce right, they come out of it not wanting a women for any type of relationship . Which of course single divorced women love to project and tell themselves - "we don't need a man" As a man, pound for pound, I can do more than a woman. I took one of those stupid personality test and am very balanced when it come to my masculine and feminine traits. Now granted most men can be lazy and not want to do the "feminine" ... "make me a sandwich" Hence the preverbal divorcee…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/23 06:05 PM
1	The patriarchy? Thanks for engaging and for sharing your thoughts so play accordingly, try to change the game (become a politician, influencer, author), or don’t play at all. But it’s not worth wasting time just complaining about how the game is rigged since nothing is going to change in the short-term. Fair statement and you are right, this was more of a vent post than anything, although I have enjoyed the thoughts shared I know you’re anti-consumerism and anti-capitalism, but an important consumer product we’…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 05:19 PM
1	The patriarchy? I don't expect you to believe me. No one else did. I guess that is why seeking validation from others is such a shitty way to live.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:46 PM
1	The patriarchy? Fair enough, thanks for answering!	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:40 PM
1	The patriarchy? I've had these views most of my life. My JR year of high school I went to the FL coast on spring break and partied. I hated it. The next year, my SR year, I went and hiking the Appalachian trial while the rest of my friends went back down to FL. I also realize that they don't pay people to do what I enjoyed and the things I value are not part of normal society. So I cope, adapted, and fit in. I found a job that would give me the most amount of money for the least amount of work, so I have a ton …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:37 PM
1	The patriarchy? I'd like to know the answer to that question as it relates to this in-group. Yes, I'm looking for insight from others. It doesn't matter how smart I am. My insightfulness means nothing. Please answer the question. I will not respond to your answer to demonstrate I'm not "looking for a platform to use big words and try to sound smart about how insightful you are". Thanks	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:23 PM
1	The patriarchy? why don't you answer the original question in the post?	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:18 PM
1	The patriarchy? Give it a shot? If not for me, than for others reading? It kinda seems like a cop-out tbh. but you do you.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:13 PM
1	The patriarchy? If I didn't have kids I would agree with you much more. I have a sense of guilt for bringing them into the world knowing what I know now. Wokeness is a joke. Being truly woke now is a guilt soaked proposition. If you believe modern western society will collapse in the next 10 years and humanity will probably be extinct in 100 years. Were your solar panels built with solar energy? There are 8B people in the world but we consume the resources of 3.5T natives. We are an anomaly in astronomical and …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 02:10 PM
1	The patriarchy? My kids have behavioral and emotional issue stemming from a life full of distractions, consumption, and keeping up with the Joness. I would argue that our overall decline mental health while our standard of living increases is because we are so far removed from humans natural state within the ecology of the earth. I was a people please enabler for my ex who was a SAHM. I gave an ultimatum at the end of our marriage. Lets sell the house, move to a mountain college town and buy a house with cash (…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 01:48 PM
1	The patriarchy? can you explain what you mean by "walking red pill contradiction"?	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 01:37 PM
1	The patriarchy? Right on. You are right. BTW many of the people I share my views with have an "engineering" background	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 01:03 PM
1	The patriarchy? Yes was from alt account. So you can't answer the question? I asked a question, but my context will not allow you to answer. Humanity is built on hypocrisy, we all lie to ourselves. I'm no better or worse than you. I call myself a hypocrite in my post, I am one every day. As are you. What you call dystopian, I call reality. Most people are blind to reality and rightfully so, it can be quite depressing and nihilistic.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/23 12:38 PM
10	Did this kill anyone else’s Sex Drive? And those newbie gains. Eat right and lift for 3 - 6 months. u/Throwaway_858493. You can do it. You could even do it via calisthenics right off the bat and see returns in 2 weeks, and then start lifting. Just need an arms length of space and your body weight. In 1 year you can look and feel better than you ever have, and a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. Men do so much better after the divorce if they can make it through without eating a bullet and/or abusing alcohol and drugs.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/23 04:57 PM
3	1 year post divorce. I am in a place I feel I can move on, she wants to reconcile. i lost everything. but I have a great relationship with my kids and I have peace. If you go back to her ... I will have more than you. Repeat, I lost everything. But I have peace. You do not need her. You can do it. Peace is on the other side, brother.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/23 04:03 PM
4	Who else has noticed... I am right there with you but i just hit that light at the end of the tunnel and I actually have peace. Once you rid yourself of the need to rely on others it can be quite librating.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/03/23 12:21 AM
1	How did divorce change you emotionally? I heard death by 1000 bee stings from a woman on a podcast about narcissism. All the phrase are not new. The ideas are just an evolution of other ideas with modern context biases. Shitty people do shitty things. Divorce is more favored towards women because the shit men do is often worse. Plus women are more cunning. But all the MRA and red pill stuff blaming just women. Its shit people brother. Shit people win in divorce. The shit a woman can do to a man is worse. Its that simple	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/23 08:37 PM
1	Things I learned when going up against norms right on and great addition	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/23 11:46 AM
2	Life after The Raging Rapids I was just speaking with a woman and confidant who has been through this. She is 10 years my Sr. Speaking from the other side ... she thinks it is crazy how women will use their kids as pawns. But she has an engineering, logical mind. Here is what it took me so long to understand : If you are trying to engage with some based on how reality makes them "feel" - then right/wrong, good/bad, whatever goes out the window. Their "feelings" are right above everything else. Because their feelings can not…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/02/23 09:49 PM
2	Is there even a point to marriage anymore? Are women really this immature in the aggregate? Therapists seem to be a common theme among these “ empowered “ women who become so empowered they rely on a strangers opinion ding. ding cognitive behavioral therapy is BS science. It is so far from being hard is practically pseudoscience. hint - what type of normal, well adjusted people become therapist? Do you know any? what are they like? https://www.paulminotmd.com/blog/where-is-the-wisdom-in-psychiatry	/r/Divorce_Men	16/02/23 10:01 PM
2	Just a story to give hope for those who may need it. The GAL ruled against me and after 6 figures of costs and 1.5 years I couldn't fight anymore and take it to a judge. My ex is starting to crack already and the long game is the kids will see her lifestyle and parenting style for what it is, and is the reason for our divorce. Its good to read a story where a man won the fight for their kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/23 08:48 PM
6	Use me as your example of how to not behave/feel Suffer the pain of discipline rather than the pain of regret. I'm gonna use this quote!	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/23 01:45 PM
16	Use me as your example of how to not behave/feel first off, do a google image search for theory of multiple intelligence. Just because you may be lacking in the kinesthetic intelligence ... doesn't mean you don't excel in others. body weight and health is all about calories first, then exercise. Count them daily with an app and just walk. I highly recommend weight training, even calisthenics. the sports thing - mid age adults are assholes about sports - whether it be adult rec leagues or youth sports for their kids. when people invest heavily …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/23 01:42 PM
2	If you have found, much better women after divorce, where? if you want kids and you are not ugly or short while having a good job, and can make a women laugh, you will do fine finding a women who wants to have kids. I love the online videos showing how small of a percentage the above is.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 03:31 PM
4	If you have found, much better women after divorce, where? the quality of women online is poor, as is the quality of men, which makes it tough for the quality of both sexes. I've been on plenty of dates from online, and all of them had emotional / trauma issue or are way to picky. Online dating turns good men into fuckbois. and that isn't really worth it to me, and I enjoy sex. I'd rather not have regular sex than deal with that again. I'm focusing on the young kids and if something happens, it happens. And honestly that is what a lot of the quality wom…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/23 03:29 PM