Lost 6 figures, credit, lifestyle, community, proper influence over the kids, etc... all by doing the "right" thing as a co dependent enabler people pleasing simp.

1- Being right does not matter. Proving your righteousness doesn't matter. Let me repeat that for those in the back ...BEING "RIGHT" DOES NOT MATTER. It is the injustice system. Women are victims and mothers are better parents. That is what the system defaults to...

I don't care what you think is right, you will not beat social norms.

Unless it is overtly wrong (think offenses that will put you in jail), you being right and she being wrong doesn't matter. That is what "no-fault" fucking means. The sooner you accept, the less pain there will be.

2- Do not be nice to someone who is cruel to you. She will lie. Taking the high road means you lose more. It might be worth it but smart, covertly shitty people win in divorce. Women put on more than just make up - its all a facade.

3- Boundaries are everything. Communication is key to relationships, partnerships, and controlling conflict. Demand a communication protocol and stick to it. Period. Do whatever you can to reduce conflict, even if that is practically going no contact. It's better to work directly with the lawyers than some fucking hybrid. Either no lawyers or all in on lawyers. https://cnfc.org/documents/

4- Like I tell my kids - life is unfair and you do the best with what you got. This process is unfair and the dream was actually nightmare. Picture yourself like the dude in Shawshank Redemption - wading through 500 ft of shit to get free: https://youtu.be/9Iuxx9HnoSY . In the end Andy had nothing and no one, but he found his happiness.

5- No one can bail you out but yourself. Look in the mirror first thing in the morning, hold yourself accountable, and live your life

6- Fuck what people think about you. You HAVE to turn up your do-not-give-a-fuck-o-meter.

7- Your goal is indifference to it all. It just is.