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Spent my life savings fighting my ex. I went broke and in debt. My advice is settle ASAP and move on with your life. These lawyers are not here to help but to enrich their pockets. The best way you can win is to settle, even if it means a shorter end of the stick now. The sooner you move on, the quicker you will rebuild.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:19 PM
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Sure thing. DM me and ask any questions.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 01:40 AM
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I went bankrupt fighting her. It's not worth it. See your child when you can, settle your case ASAP and focus on your career. There is no winning in divorce. DM me if you need to talk
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/25 05:07 PM
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Hey brother. I went through some horrible stuff in life so I understand your agony and pain. Here is what I did: Running 5km everyday 7x a week. I also go for 1 hour walks in evening. Open up the New Testament and start reading daily including Proverbs and Pslams + listen to Charles Stanley on YouTube. Be grateful and Thank Him for having a roof over your head, food to eat, and dry feet. Do the above daily and you will feel 75-80% better. Travel once a year. It doesn't have to be expensive. Just…
/r/askMRP22/04/25 12:20 AM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 05:31 PM
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save yourself the headache, lawsuits, and stress and settle as quickly as possible. You will 100% be better off. As soon as these greedy lawyers get involved they will pit you two against each other to line their pockets.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/25 02:43 PM
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Please do not listen to these men. I listened to them and ended up losing everything because the lawyers love to drag everything out so they can line their pockets. She is offering you a deal of a lifetime. Take it. You will do WAY worse if you get a lawyer, I guarantee it. I also did not move out of the house, so you know what she did? She called the cops on me and accused me of r*pe. Definitely do move out and the quicker you settle this the faster you'll move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 11:46 PM
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plz don't refer to it as 'semi-rape'. she wanted to get sex which is why she went to the bar, she got drunk, and now wants to deflect responsibility by saying she was drunk. she knew EXACTLY what she was doing and what she was going get.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 12:04 AM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 02:29 AM
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doesn't the Christian way say for women to submit to their husbands and show love and respect? (And vice versa). You can't have it both ways.
/r/RPChristians13/12/24 09:41 PM
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the strongest leverage a man has is the ability to walk away. If you're willing to walk away from her/your family, she'll see that and if she cares, she'll change. If she doesn't care, then that means she'll leave you eventually anyways.
/r/RPChristians13/12/24 02:20 AM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 10:23 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 05:49 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 11:45 AM
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that's all they need to know and hear. That's literally everything anyone would tell OP summed up.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 12:12 AM
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Be happy you learned your lesson at only 35. You have next 35 years to recover and rebuild your life. Just make sure you get a vasectomy.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:07 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:05 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:38 AM
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depending on the state you can be liable
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 02:29 PM
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"I’m 38, I’m just looking for a woman to be happy with and that will support and be nice to me. It’s seems like so Insanely hard" This is the problem. I can tell by this statement alone you come across as needy as you're looking for someone to make you happy. This tells me you're not happy internally and hence you're not ready to date. You need to do a lot of work on yourself first before you're ready. How to get ready?Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 01:15 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 01:12 PM
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This is almost always opposite where the single dad's are left with nothing but the shirt on their back.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 03:28 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/24 08:51 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do now?…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/24 06:59 PM
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please join us /divorce_men subreddit
/r/askMRP19/09/24 02:33 AM
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It's ALREADY over. Even if she changes her mind, it's short-term. She will eventually leave him either way. She has lost respect.
/r/askMRP19/09/24 02:33 AM
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Prenup doesn't cover what 90% of people fight over: Child support and Custody. So it's pretty much useless for people with kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:45 PM
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What to do now? Settle your case ASAP. The leeches (Judges, Lawyers, Therapists, Legal system will want to bleed you dry by leveraging your kids against you) The system gets paid by you fighting for you children. Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit the gym daily. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims their ex was abusive. Do NOT raise another man’s child. You may end up being on the hook financially (Child support) for the ki…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 05:03 PM
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Open up the new testament and read it as it will teach you about forgiveness Matthew 6:12 and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us. Matthew 6:14 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. Matthew 6:15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 9:2 Some people brought to him a paralyzed man on a mat. Seeing their faith, Jesus said to the paralyzed man, “Be encouraged, my child! Your sins …
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 02:06 PM
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hope u learned ur lesson to stay away from single moms
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 01:26 PM
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Do a programming/coding bootcamp and get into IT/Data science/Analytics. Start with a junior role ($60k easy) and after a few years you can get $100k +
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/24 01:10 AM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. • Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. • You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands. What to do …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 09:22 PM
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divorce_men subreddit 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. • Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. • You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands.
/r/askMRP15/03/24 01:48 AM
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go over to divorce_men subreddit to see all the stories of 5, 10, 15, 20 year marriages ending because the wife decides to cheat or call the cops on the busband. 95% of the stories on that sub are the same.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/24 01:38 AM
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There was a pinned post on why you shouldn't date 1 year after divorce, but the new mod of this sub took it down because they thought it was too red pill. This sub will slowly turn into the other divorce subreddit where men are silenced.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 05:56 PM
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Absolutely is a thing. You may be in a more friendly divorce state.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 03:36 PM
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you can absolutely pay child support for someone else's risk. That's the whole point of #6. Once you act as father figure, you are now on hook for potential child support.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 01:02 PM
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Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit the gym daily. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims their ex was abusive. Do NOT raise another man’s child. You may end up being on the hook financially (Child support) for the kid if you leave. Travel once a year. RedPill knowlege (Read books like No more mr. nice guy). Visit the subreddit theredpill and read the sidebar articles as well. Open up the New Testament and start reading daily …
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 12:27 AM
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50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. • Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. • You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/24 12:46 AM
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I speak from my experience. I was one of the guys here that fought the fought. Spent my life savings fighting her. Now I have debt I need to pay off and on going child support. Do you want to have a life after divorce? If so, end it by settling. In the long-run, you will come out ahead. These scum bag lawyers will make sure you go broke by dragging things out as long as possible
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 05:56 PM
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As someone who lost his savings, my advise to you is to SETTLE ASAP. Give her everything she wants. Become an every other weekend Dad. You will still be ahead. SETTLE ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 01:58 AM
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You're on the right path. The fact that you're acknowledging this is a great start. Start by opening the New Testament and reading a paragraph daily. Start listening to Charles Stanley on YouTube. Start attending Church. Forgive those you hurt you. You will change your life.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:50 AM
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Typical. If you read enough forums in here, you see your story is almost like 99% of all other stories. This woman has lost respect for you. Once this happens, the marriage is doomed, even if you decide to stay together. You will be in pain. Accept it. Move on. My only advice is settle your affairs ASAP otherwise the lawyers will eat up everything
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 01:52 AM
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Other things I suggest you do, where even if it fails, you still win, are /r/intermittentfasting /r/running /r/keto What do you got to lose? I started doing these and i'm healthier
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 04:19 PM
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Take Maca supplements. They're really good for libido. Start there. You can buy one at your local grocery or on amazon.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 02:08 AM
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Child support does not matter if you're living in your car or under street. It must still be paid otherwise you have your driver's license, passport taken away, and ultimately jail.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:40 PM
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" The red pill and MGTOW is all about protecting you so you don't get harmed by the injustice of this legal system that will punish you for being a good man providing for his family. Its about managing your risk." This.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:06 AM
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I had a bedroom right next to my parents bedroom post-divorce and I didn't bring any girls home. I paid for hotels. Now i'm at my parent's basement and have brought over 4-5 girls. Sound travels upstairs but I tell them to be mindful of the noise. My advice to you though is to get vasectomy. You do NOT want an accidental pregnancy under any circumstances. These women know that is a lottery ticket for them for the next 18 to 25 years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:01 AM
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Ok I think I see where our disagreement stems from, which is the definition of red pill. I agree with you about staying away from the cult aspect, but I was viewing it other terms, like hitting the gym, understanding the statistics of divorce (50% divorce rate, 90% of divorces initiated by women), and some basic understanding of mating strategies. Either way, glad to hear you're open to different perspectives. Wish you the best in your new mod role.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:14 PM
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I see your point, but keep in mind a lot of divorced men are feeling lonely, betrayed from losing their home, wives, and kids and seek comfort through dating when they are the most vulnerable... so it is somewhat interconnected. I noticed that the pinned "don't date for a year" got removed, despite it being a popular post. I encourage you to consider this perspective...
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 04:56 PM
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perfect. sounds like this sub is on it's way to be like the main divorce subreddit. Good job. I think we need a divorce_men2 or something if you are going to continue stifling literally the last place us men can vent
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:33 PM
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since when? Why is this sub banning discussion? It used to be open to all topics. Why shutting down discussion?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:13 AM
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$500k: false rape accusations not allowed to see kids kicked out my home had to get professional supervisors to watch me with my kids marriage in this day is a scam for men
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:16 AM
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you don't understand that forgiveness isn't about your ex, but about you. I have forgiven my ex for accusing me of rape. It was the only way to heal. You're a fool if you think you can resolve your betrayal any other way.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 12:14 AM
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serious relationships begin from dating, casual drinks, don't it? Meet people, but stay away from women for a year is the advice. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 07:12 PM
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Same. Accused of rape. Restraining order. 4 years in court. $500k down the drain in legal fees. You have to prioritize your well being above your children's if you're going to survive this and if you want to be there long-term for your kids. Hit the gym daily. Meditate. Focus on your job. I now have every other weekend with kids and they love me. Call me "best dad in the world". Before this, the ex withheld them for 1 year with no access. But I convinced myself that at last they had a roof over …
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 01:59 PM
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go on over to divorce_men subreddit to see how men lose their entire life savings, kids, and are put on child support + alimony for the rest of their lives at the risk of going to jail if they don't pay. If you still want to get married, then the power to u. But remember that: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. • Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, governme…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/23 03:39 PM
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Wow. Yes I sensed it as well. And yes my ex-MIL also worked to ruin the relationship. Modern day women/feminism. This is why all men need to not get married.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 09:05 PM
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Yup. I was charged with rape from the ex-wife. She basically said one of those paragraphs and was enough for me to get charged, without evidence. Marital rape is a very dangerous concept few men are aware.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 01:15 PM
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Child support destroys a lot of men's lives...so glass half full?
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 12:39 PM
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there is a subreddit called marriedredpill...or marriedrp...smtg like that maybe check it out....and see if it helps....but best of luck either way
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 06:42 PM
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What we come to realize is that whatever happened to end the marriage, even cheating, is small potatoes compared to asset split, alimony, child support, and more financial consequences. The anger comes from the long lasting financial fallout. Throw in irresponsible choices for your children and anger is natural. People have every right to be angry about giving money to someone who chose to end the marriage. If you don’t face any significant financial repercussions, the anger won’t last nearly as…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 06:21 PM
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Bro - settle with your wife ASAP. The lawyers will bleed you dry. Give her what she wants, divorce, accept every other weekend if you have to AND MOVE ON. You will save HUNDREDS of thousands of dollars and years of court battle if you are wise to follow this advice. Go online and look at the table child support + alimony, give it to her and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 12:16 PM
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Are you on the hook for Child Support or no? If so how much longer? How are you making ends meet? 2nd job? Hustling harder? Similar boat as you. Thx
/r/MensRights12/07/23 02:43 AM
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becaues they don't KNOW any better! It's only a small % of men on these forums versus general population
/r/MensRights12/07/23 02:42 AM
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unbelievable. What a fucking joke. I love how the media literally ignores men's plight in divorce court. You just know this would be all over the news if this shit happened to a woman!
/r/MensRights12/07/23 02:36 AM
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Brother - u need to heal. You have a lot of hurt. If you browse through my comment history, you'll see what I went through, including a false criminal charge of rape from ex-wife. BUT, after 4 years, I sleep relatively well and income is good so far. HEAL brother. And the best way you can do that is by forgiving your ex daily from your heart. best wishes
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 09:09 PM
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What people don't seem to grasp is "Child Support" really means "Mommy Support". Feminists don't want to admit it because it will bring on more hate for them, but that's the reality. It's not for the child because the mommy can spend the "child support" money however way she likes. She can go on vacation for herself, get manicures and you as the ex-husband are not allowed to question it. Let's call it what it is folks, MOMMY SUPPORT.
/r/MensRights07/07/23 02:11 PM
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Seems to be the norm in divorce and while everyone knows it's false, no one cares to do anything about it to change the laws. #Feminism #BelieveAllWomen
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 03:05 PM
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shared with dozens already. thanks
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 07:12 PM
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Focus on YOU, your relationship with your kids and thats the FKN.BTTM.LINE! This.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 02:29 PM
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$500k. Needed a criminal lawyer for the false rape allegations Needed a family lawyer as she withheld the kids from me. Needed a supervisor at $100/hr to supervise me. Needed to get a therapist for me to show I'm mentally stable. F*ck this system. Never will get married again. It's a system designed to milk you dry of every penny you have. Now I'm paying Child Support for the next 16 years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 02:25 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Settle your case ASAP. The leeches (Judges, Lawyers, Legal system will want to bleed you dry by leveraging your kids against you). You need to realize this and settle. Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a s…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:52 AM
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very well written - did u copy this from anywhere? thanks for posting
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:19 AM
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the concept of marital rape I am one of the men that was accused falsely of marital rape. She had no evidence but it was enough of an allegation to get me charged and I was kicked out of my own home and wasn't allowed to see my kids until i proved my innocence. Sick, disgusting system. I know many other men who are in same soes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 02:05 AM
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you're in a dangerous situation. I had a similar situation where the MIL poisoned and encouraged my ex to call the police. I was eventually falsely accused for historical rape (she had no evidence) and spent years defending my innocence. You're in a ticking time bomb. You need to buy video cameras and audio record 24/7 to protect ur self.
/r/askMRP03/07/23 12:18 AM
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When they get cornered by reason or when they get called out, they don't acknowledge where they fucked up and grow from their mistakes, they just visibly become very angry and double down. If you take the hostile way of trying to show her how much of a piece of shit she really is, she'll never accept it and she'll leave you instead because now you're abusive" This is exactly what my ex-wife did when I caught her cheating. She went to the cops and charged me with historical rape (false allegation…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/23 12:57 PM
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WOW! I find it amazing how much progressive these Republican states are! Amazing!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 12:58 AM
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You will never move on without getting closure for yourself and the best way to do that is by forgiving her. I was falsely accused of rape and that's how I was able to move on. I had kids/house taken away from me with 1 false accusation. Took me years to clear my name.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 07:13 PM
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It's actually until they finish college/university in most places, so up to 25 years.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 02:04 PM
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he wanted bareback and then she kept trying to take it off. This is why I got a vasectomy. These women are WAITING to get pregnant to use you as a child support check for 18 years. It's become very dangerous for men!
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 02:03 PM
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sorry to hear what happend to you but it sounds typical for most men. I suggest you cut your losses and move on with your life.
/r/MensRights25/06/23 01:05 AM
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domestic violence statistics ALLEGED domestic violence. There is cash prizes and incentives to make false allegations of abuse such as getting sole custody of kids, more child support, longer term spousal support, and government benefits.
/r/MensRights23/06/23 11:23 PM
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Folks, This happens all the time and 90% of rape accusations are from vengeful girlfriends and ex-wives. My own ex-wife falsely accused me of rape during our divorce (which is very common thing for women to do in order to get custody of kids, and hence more money). Remember, 90% of rape accusations are FALSE. They bury these studies that show these statistics because it looks horrible on women's vengeful nature and instead they falsely claim only 2% of rape accusations are False.
/r/MensRights20/06/23 12:50 PM
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Your ex deserves to lose custody. Any society with a half a brain should see that, but we live in a clown feminist-led society. Sorry to hear what you're going through. Sounds like the Judge may have made a mistake, so consult with a lawyer. May be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 02:11 AM
1

She filed for divorce once she started making more money Same
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:03 PM
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and said “that wasn’t meant for you, it was meant for Chandler, and no, nothing happened tonight, but we have had sex, most recently on our business trip to New York.” I said ok, I had a hunch, thanks for telling me. I went and slept in the guest room. Modern marriage. This is the 50% of couples who DON'T get divorced..... God Speed brother.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:47 PM
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But when she slept with her co-worker she blamed me. lmao...so typical. They all do that, including my ex!!
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 03:43 PM
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When I got divorced, my ex-wife did EVERYTHING in her power to make sure I never see my children again, including a false rape allegation. I spent 4 years and $500k (life savings) defending myself and trying to see my children. I know a few men who did not have money and were nearly homeless because they were trying to see their children, so they just gave up because the system punishes fathers who wants to be in their children's lives. There are lots of men who willingly walk out, sure. But the…
/r/TheRedPill18/06/23 10:48 PM
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Simple, yes. But it takes hard work and perseverance to get there. Like they say, if it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:43 PM
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Hey bro - same here! I was charged with *ape with 0 evidence with the ex when I found out her affair. Anyways, hope you are doing better and feel free to visit the divorce_men subreddit...lots of similar stories
/r/MensRights16/06/23 12:47 PM
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Being left homeless after a divorce happens all the time. It happened to me but luckily my family took me in eventually. Modern marriage is an absolute scam for men as 90% of divorces are initiated by women.
/r/MensRights16/06/23 12:45 PM
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happiness comes from within. Yes absolutely. But more importantly, as I have come to discover, true peace and happiness comes from our Lord and reading the New Testament daily.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 12:39 PM
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That's your problem. You're tying your emotional well being to someone else. Forgive her. Focus on yourself: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Settle your case ASAP. The leeches (Judges, Lawyers, Legal system will want to bleed you dry by leveraging your kids against you…
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 12:37 PM
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Hey man - one piece of advice I would give my self if I could back would be to settle ASAP. The attorney's love to drag on the case so they can improvish you. And yes, things will certainly get better with time, you just need to persevere and hit THE GYM DAILY
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 11:29 PM
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"I am devastated as I did everything I could for her. I planned my life around her" You'll notice most men who have a cheating spouse are the ones who would say almost exactly the same thing. You made her life so easy, so she got bored and craved drama. As someone said, "Show a woman heaven and she'll complain of the view, show her hell and she'll even ask to pay rent". Anyways, it's over. You will survive like the 15000 other members on this forum.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 05:25 PM
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Dont blame yourself you have been brainwashed to be a blue pilled guy. Go to theredpill subreddit and read the sidebar...lots of great content there
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:03 AM
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Tore apart our family for some cash This a 100x.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 07:53 PM
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I stress eat Stress eat on meat, cheese, vegetables. You will lose weight. It's called Keto. I did it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 06:10 PM
2

Amazing story. Thank you for sharing. It really shows to us that there is life after divorce, but you have to work for it and want it! This story gives me hope!
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 06:04 PM
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it's over brother. Your reluctance to accept is natural. Remember, it takes TWO to make a marriage work. You can only do your part, which sounds like you did already. God Speed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 04:34 PM
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She's most likely has met someone at her work that she wants a new life with. If you read the stories on this forum, most men have similar stories, including mine, where my ex-wife cheated on me with a co-worker. I was in denial for a long time until the proof was staring at me in the face. Move on with your life. Your marriage is over. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can bounce back.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 02:34 PM
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Most men don't even know that: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 90% of all divorces are initiated by women. 90% of all custody is given to Mothers.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 03:40 AM
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I will not marry again in any western country. It's a dangerous game for a man. If you're comfortable with having a 50% chance of divorce, losing your kids, being put on supervised access, your kids crying to see you but the woman you once loved forbids it, then go for it. If you comfortable living pay check to paycheck bc of child support + alimony you will be forced to pay (or be put in jail) then go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 02:24 AM
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except for #8. #8 saved my life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 11:45 PM
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How are we seeing the same story over and over again? Feminism. There is a cash lottery waiting for you in terms of child support, alimony, and equity. You have men lined up on dating apps waiting to pleasure you even IF you're 60lbs overweight. Feminism has done a wonderful job in breaking families apart with cash incentives going to the women. Who suffers? Kids, Men, and society at large.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 07:44 PM
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Well bud, join the club. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit the gym. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims her ex was abusive. Travel once a year. RedPill knowlege (…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 07:41 PM
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I know one guy who got divorced at 60. Lost his wife + house. He's keeping busy going to work + church and minding his own business. My advice to you is to settle your divorce with your wife asap so you don't waste money on lawyers. The sooner you settle, the sooner you can heal.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:38 PM
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MGTOW was removed because of toxic feminist lies. theredpill is quarantined but still up. don't believe what u hear, kid...toxic feminism is ruining modern society
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 03:48 AM
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You're right - you should now strive to be the "fun uncle". Maintain a consistent visitation schedule (every other weekend) for their sake. To me, it sounds like you are in a bit of a rut, which is normal after a divorce. Focus on getting back on your feet: Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit the gym. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any woman who claims her ex was abusive. Travel once a year. RedPill knowlege (Read books like No more mr. …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/23 01:09 PM
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You should celebrate! Rebirth of your life! Things will get better and they will get better the sooner you end things, forgive any past wrong doings, and move on with your life. The above statement is coming from a man who lost everything, was criminally charged with rape from ex-wife (without a shred of evidence), spent his life savings to defend himself and see his kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 11:00 PM
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You gave too much. Typical story that you will see here. You made things so easy that she got bored and wasn't getting the drama she crave. Either way, be thankful it's only 14 years versus 25 years that you see some people posting about. End it NOW so you can recover. Start reading theredpill subreddit but the sidebar portion of it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 10:57 PM
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There are reasons I don't believe so Me, and most men here, were naive just like you. We couldn't/wouldn't want to believe it, but as time progressed, we realized that's what happened. Our comments here are based on hard lessons learned that we did not take from other men. Anyways, good luck. Please end your marriage and do not waste time/money in repairing it. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 06:00 PM
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Hah! She found someone else. Accept it and settle your case asap. If you internalize this advice, you will move on fast and most of your assets in tact.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/23 01:47 AM
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You should not tolerate someone who does not respect you by gaining 90 pounds. Leave. You are too young to be trapped with someone who does not value your desires.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 12:21 PM
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YOU don't. You hire a lawyer that helps you file a divorce against your wife. You plan your move and do not let her know and move out the day she gets the divorce papers.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 12:20 PM
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wow thanks for sharing ur story! Inspirational!
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 02:00 AM
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head on over to the divorce_men subreddit and see how much they take from you when they leave u after u have kids with them....ur entire life savings destroyed: 50% marriages end in divorce 90% of divorce initiated by women Child Support up to 25 years for some states
/r/TheRedPill07/06/23 03:03 AM
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people women
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:04 PM
1

These dumb spouses go on their forums and speak to attorney's on how to screw you over to the fullest extent. So sad and pathetic. Same story with me except she made a 'historical rape allegation' without a shred of evidence which made things much more difficult. Folks, this is why modern marriage no longer makes sense. Same story after story.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 04:03 PM
1

if u don't know how to use google, i can't help you and not sure if anyone can
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 03:15 PM
1

lots of websites out there...this is even a subreddit here that discusses it....just make sure you stay away anything below 19
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 02:03 AM
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don't be afraid to explore professional services to get your gears oiled up
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 02:16 PM
1

Toxic Feminism for the win! /s
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 05:30 PM
1

It's a corrupt system. I hope you can get a vasectomy so you never go through this again. Good luck to you brother. We're all in this together. If you have no assets,think about bankruptcy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 05:29 PM
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100% normal. After my ex-wife accused me of rape and got me kicked out of the house because I caught her cheating and she was worried of losing custody, I was having sex dreams with her for a few weeks. Then after a few weeks the dreams turned into her apologizing for what she did. Now I never dream or think about her. And life is getting much better. In Jesus name, Amen.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 02:35 PM
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your situation is not unique, unfortunately. Plenty of homeless or near homeless men solely because of divorce courts. It's a system designed to punished males at the expense of females. Thank you toxic feminism. I hope you get a vasectomy. My advice: Make more money. Hustle harder and try to get paid in cash. I don't think you can fight the courts successfully. Lots of men just get a 2nd or 3rd job driving Uber.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/23 01:37 PM
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join the club pal. things will get better - just persevere!
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 05:40 PM
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Of the remaining 50%, most are unhappy especially for the man Yup...lots of subreddits to prove your case like deadbedrooms or survivinginfedility or breakingmom....
/r/TheRedPill03/06/23 01:15 PM
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If there is ONE thing I learned from 4 years of custody battle, is prioritize yourself first. You can only be there for your kids if you prioritize YOUR health and wealth. You can be a happy healthy dad if you prioritize yourself. Do not become homeless or in debt because of your kids/ex.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:08 AM
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90% of divorce initiated by women is incorrect, its about 70%. It's 90% for college educated women, which is the dominant demographics now. The 70% is for non-college women. Most places, including where I am, Child support is up to 25.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:02 AM
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when we don’t even build communities to support one another I disagree. We do build communities but these communities are routinely targeted by feminist lobbies. Lots of good reading material on the mensrights forum that educates you on these topics.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 09:23 PM
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It makes A LOT of sense when you think about how society constantly tells men they are worthless/stupid, that their sole purpose is to be a white knight and save a damsel in distress, that any masculinity is toxic. It makes perfect sense when you see that channels devoted to MGTOW or REDPILL are banned that try to teach men to act masculine..... it's all by design folks! Toxic feminism
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 09:22 PM
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There should be meet ups for divorced men in every city for this reason! There usually is but these mens groups get targeted by feminist and lawyer groups as right wing groups and get shut down as a result. They don't want men to get together to bring light to the situation
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 07:20 PM
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because it's men and men are disposable....
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 07:19 PM
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her child this is why this forum strongly suggests to stay away from single moms. Hope you learned ur lesson
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:44 PM
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Yup. I got a vasectomy to make sure I never go through this trauma of divorce + losing my kids again. The system is rigged. I will never play this game again as statistically makes no sense: 50% divorce rate. 90% of all divorce initiated by women. Custody is awarded to mothers 90% of the time. Child Support for up to 25 years if kids go to college. Absolute slavery..
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 06:42 PM
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same here! wow...scary how all our stories are quite similar
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 03:08 PM
8

Can you add also Losing your Liberty? Most men get falsely accused of a*use which can lend them in jail. I personally got charged for grape by my own ex-wife and had to hire a lawyer. Clown World! Thanks Feminism!
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/23 04:50 PM
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I’m a single father no one mentioned single fathers, but single moms. His comment about single moms may be trash but most men have had the same exact experience with single moms. Why can't we point out the patterns we see without being called every name in the book?
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 01:08 PM
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do the math between those two options and see which one checks out better. I'd be careful about the no child support thing - check that option out with a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 06:17 PM
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10x worse with a kid involved .
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 02:24 AM
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I'm speaking from experience. I fought for 50/50 and joint custody. But at the end of the day all you do is waste years of your hard earned money to the greedy lawyers and greedy system who wants to see you impoverished. Give her what she wants. The money you save, the peace of mind and energy you get can be spent back on travel, hobbies, career, side-hustles. Be the best dad you can be when you see your kid.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 05:53 PM
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End it. Why? Because as soon as you have issues with her (like any relationship) she will post it publicly and share intimate details about you. Another huge red flag: A woman that claims abuse from previous relationship will most likely claim you were abusive as well when the relationship ends. You have been warned.
/r/MensRights28/05/23 03:26 PM
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My friend. I went through a 3.5 year custody battle to end up in huge pile of debt. I fought the fought, including hiring the PI, expensive lawyers, therapists, etc. My advice? Settle ASAP. Give her custody, accept every other weekend, and move on with your life. Ohterwise you will be financially destroyed and have to suffer and pay back your legal debts. The kids will eventually grow up and no amount of "custody" will prevent them from making their own decisions. A kid can walk out on you at 13…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 03:18 PM
2

That was me...false rape charge was enough to waste 4 years of my life and $500k legal expenses...
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:47 AM
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Folks, this is why women had no rights up until 70 years ago. Our ancestors knew women are vile and evil when a little bit of power is given to them.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 01:46 AM
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I see what you mean but I don't give a rats ass. I worked hard all my life, I continue to be a good human being, and if you don't like, I could not care less. I rather be viewed sus than be with a cheating C*nt
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 08:26 PM
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Put yourself first. Prioritize your career and your health. Get a vasectomy and stay away from single moms. If you do the above, you will be very successful. For further reading, go read the sidebar on theredpill subreddit.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 12:06 PM
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You are a naive man. You clearly didn't learn your lesson the first time if you're speaking of "love". Get some Red Pill education (read theredpill subreddit sidebar) and wake up.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 12:01 PM
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I doubt they care about love. They look to exploit for their own gains.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/23 02:17 PM
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Women today literally fuck random men off of the internet. This. I met this Asian girl off the app, and I kid you not, she was trying to fool me she was a virgin (and stated she was). Yet she slept with me on the first date, and after a month, offered to have s*x with me for money. When she found out I ain't playing her game (by turning down the idea of marriage + kids) she moved on to some other fellow. She now is trying to start an OF account.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 01:19 PM
2

Is your new job remote? IF so maybe look into OE (Over Employment) - there is a subreddit for that
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/23 12:55 PM
7

Well bud, join the club. There is a reason statistics exist: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Find a hobby. Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money. Hit the gym. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims her ex was abusive. Tr…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 03:53 PM
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Well bud, join the club. There is a reason statistics exist, hopefully you will pay attention this time? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Find a hobby. Hit the gym. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims her ex was abusive. Travel once a ye…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 01:56 PM
2

I was never embarrassed from day 1. Couldn't give 2 sh*ts. But the financial hit...
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 12:44 AM
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Your net is freedom. What freedom? The freedom to pay Child support for the next 18-24 years and living paycheck to paycheck? If you miss a payment, they take away your driver's license, then your passport, and then in jail? The freedom of women/others in society looking at you as a failure because you're divorced? I know a few men make it out better/stronger, but the vast majority suffer greatly for it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 08:31 PM
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exactly this! OP's story is an anomaly. Majority of men, myself included, end up in debt. I am in debt bc of false allegations and having to fight for custody. BS!
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 08:29 PM
3

lmao
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 01:00 PM
2

only here bc I got banned from divorce....i bet 90% of men here are in the same boat lol....
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 12:59 PM
8

Well bud, join the club. There is a reason statistics exist, hopefully you will pay attention this time? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Find a hobby. Hit the gym. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims her ex was abusive. Travel once a ye…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 06:12 PM
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Single moms are cancer of society. Nearly all issues in our society stem from children being raised by single moms. It is Men/Fathers that teach discipline, accountability, and responsibility to their offspring, not women. Redpill teaches men to stay away from single mom's. they are the worst possible choice you can make as a partner. Your case is a prime example. Stay away from SINGLE MOMS.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 03:26 PM
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Stop being her emotional tampon. Women lie. Women lie about rape. False rape accusations are as old as the Bible (story of Joseph). My own ex-wife accused me of rape to help her custody case. 90% of rape accusations are FALSE. Go no contact with your ex and stop being a blue pilled simp.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 01:01 AM
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none of this because we were raised by good old parents who raised us right...but toxic feminism has changed the modern women and the old rules no longer apply....you need to educate yourself on theredpill philosophy....start off with no more mr nice guy book
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 09:11 PM
7

pay attention to what all the men are saying here...don't u see the pattern?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 12:58 PM
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"She had everything a woman could want: 2 kids, a house, a supportive husband, a big fat cat. Like what else do you want?" Drama. We all made it too easy for them. They got bored and now they're willing to burn the entire house down for some drama. Yes, they're sick.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/23 01:31 AM
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I want kids, but not a wife. Most men who are bitter and angry are so because they have their kids taken away from them...not that they got divorced. It's the kids that are used as a weapon by the ex-wife that makes men so bitter and angry. Keep that in mind.....
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 07:29 PM
5

why don't u say fuk it and move to a cheap country and live a good life?
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:52 PM
2

It's damned if you damned if you don't. It's been purposely designed this way to screw men over on custody issues. Thank you Feminists!
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:09 PM
1

movement is closely associated with incels it alienates women I frequented MGTOW and the above is a very common misunderstanding. A lot of folks on MGTOW had girlfriends but their message was not to cohabitate with one or to marry one.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/23 01:08 PM
3

Feminism is cancer.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 06:02 PM
7

Who supports men ? Only men who have seen the travesty and trauma of divorce support men. Everything else is shamed/covered up as hate/incel behavior. (i.e. shutting down of MGTOW)
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 05:50 PM
13

My ex was CAUGHT red handed committing forgery AND perjury. Nothing happened.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:38 PM
37

You hear a lot of people say "Do not Leave the House". Well, this is what you can expect when you don't leave. I also didn't leave my house, so my ex filed a historical rape allegation against me. That means she told the cops that I *aped her 6 months earlier. No evidence. That was enough to get me arrested and criminal charges filed. I spent the next 3 years defending my innocence. The system is so horribly biased against men that any woman can destroy your life if she puts some thought behind …
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:08 PM
1

End it and live how you want to live. My parents are still married and still hate each other's guts, and due to my recent upcoming divorce/seperation, and being a truck driver, I'm now stuck back at my parents house. And I hate it. Lol...i'm back at my parent's house also due to divorce....omfg.....it's BAD out there....
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 01:39 PM
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Here is my advice: Stay married. Start living for yourself. What does this mean? Start travelling the world. Start finding new friends and hobbies on your own. Do things for YOURSELF. You feeling miserable has nothing to do with your wife, but your own inner state of mind. Get up and leave next week to Europe, SOLO. What's stopping you?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 01:38 PM
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I was married and had kids and made a good living....until my ex-wife cheated on me, made a false rape allegation against me, and prevented me from seeing my kids for 12 months, and then put me on supervised access (that's when a social worker comes and watches how you spend time with your kids). During this time, I had to dip into all my savings and go into debt to pay a criminal lawyer to defend me against the false allegations, a family lawyer so I can get my kids back, and also pay the super…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 01:25 PM
3

Forgive your ex and bless her. Do it from the heart. I can't answer that for you, but you can always pay a professional that is hotter than your ex to get it out of your system.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 01:04 PM
1

yes! wow - they're all alike....mental illness!!
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 11:31 AM
3

Join the club pal! You and the rest of us. Here are 2 words for you, that the sooner you internalize, you will heal: Move On. You're just another # in the matrix that got divorce raped. Lots of men recover from divorce, but make sure you don't get married again and you get a vasectomy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 11:25 PM
3

"A BJ and a sandwich" Oh, now you're asking for too much! How dare you assume a woman will ever be subservient to her husband like that? If anything HE should give HER a BJ and make her a sandwich. /s
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 01:54 PM
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Women initiate divorce 70% of the time. 90% of the time when they attend college, which is majority of the women these days.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:28 PM
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she’s the one who wanted to get married so bad. Why not? Getting married for them is like hitting jackpot. Getting pregnant is double jackpot (Child support $$$$)
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 06:21 PM
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so it sounds like the case is already finalized - it's not like she can go back and change her mind. So if it's ALREADY a misdemeanor, just move on with your life and take ur fair share.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 10:56 PM
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e she is keeping me out of prison and keeping me from getting a felony…I assaulted her when a PI told me another man was in my house. Does she have any proof? You need to be VERY careful here. I was falsely accused and I know the consequences. PM me if you want to discuss but you may want to play it cool and find out if she has any actual proof or not. BUT having said that you should not put the rest of ur life in financial trouble bc she cheated on you and "u owe her".
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 09:35 PM
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Hey Bro - there is a reason why MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) got banned under the pretense of it being "hate speech". In reality, it was a lot of divorced man posting about how much their enjoying life focusing on their hobbies, spending time with friends, traveling to new countries, while doing well in life. It preached that you can enjoy life to the max by focusing on yourself and hobbies and friends rather than women. The reality is that The Matrix does not want you to leave the system. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 02:00 PM
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I know a guy who lost everything at 60! He's still working, making ends meet. What's stopping you from getting a job as a cleaner and making ends meet? That's $18/hr in most places. I'm thinking of even doing that to pay off my debts, even though I already have FT job. Keep going brother. Things will get better but you have to get out of the victimhood mindset. Also, open up the New Testament and start reading it daily.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 02:04 PM
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I know. It's all counter-intuitive. I was the same as you. None of this made sense because you and I (and many other men) are blue-pilled simps who were taught to provide everything for our women. But, women have changed, thanks to feminism. The old rule book no longer applies. I suggest you read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and begin to get some understanding of female behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 01:26 PM
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you need to go to theredpill subreddit and start reading the sidebar extensively (not the posts). You will understand.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 11:19 PM
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You answered your own question as to why you're here: You gave her everything and she got bored. As they say, "Show a woman heaven and she'll complain about the view. Show her hell and she'll offer to pay rent". Many of us on this forum are same as you. We provided our ex's with everything, had a good life, but they got bored and decided to cheat and burn the house down. Hope you realize that the concept of marriage is doomed in western civilization and you learn your lesson as 90% of divorces a…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 11:17 PM
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Ha! My ex-wife accused me of rape after I caught her infidelity and I was charged. This is very typical. Eventually this will pass, I couldn't believe it at first, but it indeed will go away. In terms of advice: Take care of yourself. Start hitting the gym or running DAILY. Meditate/Pray daily. Do NOT focus on your kids right now. You need to focus on YOURSELF. I know this is a hard concept but she will use the kids to agonize you. Be patient. This is a slow and possibly 1-2 year process. Accept…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 11:40 PM
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Honestly, you're not that bad as you have a place to live. I know many men who ended up homeless or sleeping in their cars. Start running everyday and praying/meditating. You will get out of us this just like the 10k members on this subreddit have done the same. Just push through.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 05:51 PM
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Hey - you're one of us now and we've all gone through what you're going through. I was criminally charged with rape bc of my ex-wife during the divorce. Apparently it's more common than you think. Never thought I'd get out of it, but 4 years later....it's all over. Just keep pushing through....if you hit rock bottom then it's only up from there...
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 01:06 PM
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Great post. I would only change the sentence that states "Single Parent Households" to "Single Mom households" as 90% of custody is awarded to Single mom's in family courts. When you use "Single parent households" it implies a 50/50 relationship between the mother/father, whereas it's 90% mother's raising children due to the way courts favor single mom's and dad's are just seen as child support payers.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 02:46 AM
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More than 50% of marriages end in divorce And 90% of divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 02:33 AM
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Anytime. It's important to share our stories to protect other men about the flaws in our "Justice" system.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 06:40 PM
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worst thing you can do is “expose” her with some gotcha! moment. It’s not only immaterial in value, it will kick her FYO (fuck you over) instinct into turbo. I exposed her cheating with a co-worker and I ended up getting falsely accused of rape.....huge mistake.....
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 01:52 PM
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"We still have a good relationship and she talks to me like we aren’t moving in this direction. Even took me out to eat for my birthday. That just makes it much harder for me to process" Ha! My ex did the same as well! They are gaslighting you! They are buying their time until all their plans are in place and to make sure they throw you off. BEWARE! She's checked out! Be on your guard. My ex did this and eventually accused me of false rape allegation to kick me out of my house!
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 01:50 PM
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100% agree. He's a simp, but not his fault as back then nobody had reddit to tell them about the dangers of a single mom. I hope he learns his lesson and can teach his sons about staying away from single moms.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:23 PM
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Hey pal, you described your situation perfectly: You had a perfect marriage. You made it too easy and good and she got bored! Now she wants the drama. As it's been said: "Show a woman heaven and she'll complain about the view. Show her hell and she'll offer to pay rent". So what now? Forgive her and move on with your life. The sooner you do this, the sooner you will get back on your feet and find happiness. It's over pal. Just accept it and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:22 PM
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sounds like the book my ex read when she falsely accused me of rape when i caught her infidelity....
/r/MensRights17/04/23 07:37 PM
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yup. same here. looking for another job to pay off my divorce related debts....
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 02:56 AM
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I can barely tread water taking care of myself after child support This.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 01:50 AM
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Lawyers tell this to their stupid female clients in order to milk you and her as much as possible. Here is what you do. STOP interacting and SETTLE ASAP. Do not waste your life savings on 50/50, get the standard "Daddy schedule", and move on with your life. DO NOT make these scumbag lawyers RICH.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 02:39 PM
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no kids? Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 01:02 PM
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The table amount is the table amount. You're looking at this the wrong way "Destroying her financially" instead of "improving my children's life through full table amount child support". Fix your thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 01:14 AM
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you are not thinking clearly if you want to have more kids. Enjoy LIFE! Get a Dog! Explore the MGTOW philosophy! Travel! Hire an escort! Kids?! What are you thinking?! go to theredpill subreddit and read the sidebar articles
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 02:55 AM
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17 years if they attend college, which most likely their mom will make sure they do. Any advice?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 07:01 PM
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what a crappy system for men....unbelievable. congrats on emancipation though! I'm currently paying 50% of my income to my ex...it's very difficult....slavery
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 05:21 PM
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Yes, financial incentives. Usually divorce comes with child support, alimony, half of a man's assets, and potential government benefits.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 01:13 PM
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they were there half assed so mom could continue getting cs. It doesn't look like either one of them will graduate. this is exactly my fear. not to mention college is a huge waste of time / money these days unless you're going into STEM/Nursing
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 01:12 PM
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Wow...can't wait. Would love to hear more how life has been for you. Was it CS + tuition or just tuition once they hit 18?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/23 01:31 AM
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These are the statistics you should be comfortable with when tying the knot: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 11:10 PM
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Well bud, join the club. There is a reason statistics exist, hopefully you will pay attention this time? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate. 90% of all divorces initiated by the women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers. False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. What to do now? Find a hobby. Hit the gym DAILY. MGTOW Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and any one who claims her ex was abusive. Travel onc…
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 03:50 AM
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lol....wow...very similar experience....I have been studying redpill philosophy and understanding my errors that led to such disrespect from the ex. checkout theredpill subreddit and read the sidebar articles....good readings.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 05:46 PM
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Wow...sounds like my ex. Her primary motivation was $$$ and did not give a damn about ANYTHING else.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 05:07 PM
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DO not waste time/money on marriage counselling. Desire cannot be negotiated. Your marriage is over given your wife cheated. If you forgive her, she will lose even MORE respect for you and end up leaving you eventually. Smarten up, grow some balls, and prepare for divorce. Sooner you end it the better off you will be.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/23 01:12 PM
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A lot of us are forced to work multiple jobs to make ends meet.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 12:53 PM
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"the fairer sex" /s
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 03:09 AM
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yes bc the judge will look at ur last 3 years of taxable income and make a negative determination ur trying to game the system
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 03:06 AM
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too late. should've been a bum from the beginning
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 01:54 AM
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Only if you're a man trying to be in your child's life. If you're a deadbeat with no job, they leave you alone.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 12:49 AM
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Hey - feminism! Equality! #StrongAndIndependant! Be lucky it's ONLY 9 years. A lot of places have lifetime alimony PLUS child support. Hence why 80% of all suicides are men.... If you have sons, make sure they're aware of the risks. Also don't get married again and get a vasectomy. You're still young.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 10:42 PM
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Please don't be fooled. They all change once you put a ring on it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 03:18 PM
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please enjoy the MGTOW philosophy and do not get married again as 50% of marriages end in divorce and 90% of divorces are initiated by women. Just enjoy your life and warn other men of dangers of marriage in western society.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 02:37 PM
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I don't bother arguing with those delusional groups...
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/23 01:56 AM
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All women are equally pitiful and vengeful ...there is a reason all major religions did not treat women as equals to men....that was ancient wisdom.... look at society now and how it's collapsing since feminism has come on board full throttle...90% of divorces are initiated by women.....and these divorces are usually coming with false allegations of abuse to maximize child support payments
/r/TheRedPill03/04/23 11:21 PM
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I've said this a few times on this forum. I fought for 3 years and lost everything for 50/50 only to end up every other weekend. Do not waste your time + energy + money on getting 50/50. No point in having 50/50 if you're broke and in debt. Kids will eventually get older and can decide for themselves where to live and no judge can say otherwise. Kids will also gravitate towards you if you have $$$ but not if you're broke + miserable. Use the free time for hobbies and rebuilding your life, get a …
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 05:36 PM
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I talked with my wife about want to communicate more and be closer, but she took it as a personal insult lol.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 02:54 PM
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My judge was a million years old this pisses me off so much. no private sector would allow these DUMB idiots (literally that's what they are) to be working, let alone making important decision SINGLE-HANDEDLY, yet when it comes to men's lives and children's lives, it's ok. My judge was also an OLD imbecile who couldn't understand basic law and it was painfully obvious.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 09:08 PM
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hence why you derserve what you get, for clearly you cannot see what's happening.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 03:30 PM
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that men have it really great now following the sexual revolution of women - sex is ubiquitous and potentially near 'free' in transactional and short-term relationships. This is only true to the top 10% of men as women are hypergamous. The other 90% of men suffer in silence or must pay for it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 09:44 PM
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And if I do it'll be with a grain of salt and an eye on her at all times. That's no way to live. I'll take the one person I can trust, me. And my kids of course. They haven't been poisoned yet. Exactly same sentiment here. Except, I don't think I can trust my kids either. They're still young but I've had to deal with a false rape allegation and go to trial. I am not sure if my ex will try that again down the line just to punish me or not, so I can't even take the chance of trusting my own kids. …
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 07:25 PM
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Wow, responding to this post is bringing up some strong feelings in me that I have been trying to keep buried you need to forgive and come to peace with it. Forgive her everyday.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 07:21 PM
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But in the end, it's cheaper than a girlfriend (and cheaper than an ex-wife!), and, most critically, it's most honest relationship I've ever had with a woman. This is why they made prostitution illegal. Because their entire society would collapse as no man in their right mind would get married with these feminazi family laws in place. So they basically FORCE men to get married so they don't get in trouble with the law.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 07:20 PM
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Your story is why they banned MGTOW from Reddit and the entire internet. They didn't want your message to relate to too many men because then the entire system would brake as all women would be on food stamps and government funding. Can't let that happen...governments would go broke...much better to get niave men who believe in modern marriage to pay their ex-wives forever.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 07:17 PM
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please drop your ego and listen to the collective advice you're getting on these forums. We are all speaking from hard earned lessons. You can save yourself A LOT of grievance if you listen. Otherwise you will learn the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 04:49 PM
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Lol...I actually know several woman, including my own ex-wife, who told me they KNEW they were going to divorce their husbands but wanted to have a second child BEFORE they divorced him. Their reasoning: They wanted a sibling for the other kid + more child support. She already knows she will divorce you, just wants to have another kid before doing so.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 02:37 PM
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"This woman was my world". That's the problem right there. Putting her on a pedastool.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/23 02:34 AM
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Why did they took back your equal custody? It took 3 YEARS for trial + verdict. That was enough for her lawyer to argue new status quo was built. Absolutely ridiculous system of law. She basically got what she wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/23 06:06 PM
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after several months of 50/50, my ex decided not receiving child support money was not acceptable, so she walked into a police station and made a retroactive *ape allegation against me. I had proof that she wasn't even home but I still had to go to trial. Even though I was found innocent I was not able to get my 50/50 back as a new 'status quo' was built. This system is a SCAM. This is why they shut down MGTOW and similar forums - they don't want men warning and waking up other men. Marriage/Chi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 11:27 PM
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my ex was found committing PERJURY AND FORGERY....nothing happened....
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:03 PM
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those were the first flags you walked right past and I’m sure there’s plenty more. Exactly my thoughts. This is why redpill teaches men to stay AWAY FROM SINGLE MOMS.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:10 AM
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WOW...story after story of the system destroying men's lives....this is why they shut down all men's rights forums / MGTOW...they don't want men to revolt against the system. Your story IS VERY familiar to my case. I was ACCUSED OF RAPE by OWN WIFE and she had ZERO proof and I still had to go TO TRIAL. I actually HAD PROOF that she wasn't even HOME when she accused me of it but that didn't matter. What kind of CLOWN world are we living in???
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:05 AM
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Listen bro. I know a guy who fought for 4 years to see his kids. We're talking about criminal courts due to false allegations, and then when that was resolved, family court. In the end, the Judge told his ex that she can take the kids to a different country and wanted him to still pay child support and alimony. He literally fought till the end for his kids but that's where he drew the line and said I'm not playing this game any longer. He packed up his bags and moved to Latin America and is livi…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 01:01 AM
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Yup. This is why they ban MGTOW / Men's forums...they don't want men to find out women's true nature and find out realities of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 12:56 AM
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visit theredpill subreddit and read the SIDEBAR links
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:59 PM
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It was barely 2 months ago we were swapping highly emotional texts for hours every day. This is basically she was already cheating and wanted to throw you off by being overly emotional with you. It was all lies, amigo. Move on and go no-contact.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 05:59 PM
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Please listen to experienced men who have commented here. If you do not divorce this woman, you are a fool. You may be able to bring some temporary logic to her, but she has already made up her mind a while ago she will not be with you. The sooner you internalize this, the sooner your life will be easy. None of us wanted to be on this forum but here we are. Let go of her. Plan your escape carefully as she can really screw you over by a false allegation, as 75% of men here have had to deal with t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/23 03:01 PM
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some places have it until 25!!! who made these laws?!?!
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/23 02:02 AM
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because feminism aligns with the current cultural norms and mensrights doesn't.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 10:33 PM
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I'd hate for her to show up now when all I'd have for her is a heavy sigh and look of tremendous disappointment. Ouch.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 01:18 AM
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incredible. incredible how easy it becomes for them to walk away. It's a shame society allows a party to destroy such a beautiful union so easily (no fault divorce + feminism)
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 01:17 AM
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Ok. Wait until your daughter is 18. Start planning for divorce now. In the meantime, start working out, start finding hobbies, start finding friends. You CAN live a healthy life and prepare yourself for 6-7 years from now.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 12:53 AM
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it's also exhausting. Yup.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 03:45 PM
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Yea except the laws are already stacked against the man in divorce + criminal courts. TROs are primarily used by women to keep the house and kids right off the bat. How are you supposed to compete in this scenario?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/23 01:31 PM
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Feminist courts and laws.....literally clown world......
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 02:38 PM
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If you do not listen to the experienced men in this group about filing a police report, you are a FOOL.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 07:24 PM
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Very typical story. Unfortunately, my ex accused of a 'historical' rape incident and I was charged. Took me 3 years to fight for my innocence. Very corrupt system. Your ex is now your enemy. Keep that in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 02:45 PM
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Get a vasectomy and don't get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/23 07:02 PM
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Waste of time. Here is your therapy: Daily gym (Consistency is key. Make it a habit. No gym? Go for a run. I do it daily). Daily reading of New Testament Daily Prayer Daily Journaling.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/23 02:56 PM
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go on theredpill subreddit and read the sidebar. lots of great points as to how body count directly is linked to higher divorce rate. Why do you think our instincts evolved to worry about a woman's body count? We try and fool ourselves by not listening to our instincts. Also remember these stats: 50% of marriages end in divorce 90% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of custody awarded to mom's (meaning child support for 20 plus years) Do NOT get married and get a vasectomy
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 06:18 PM
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please do not give this advice to men. This is horrible advice. Counselling has been linked to higher divorce rates. Also, counselling is about negotiating desire, which is really not practical. Look it up on some red pill community and you will know what i am saying.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 03:03 AM
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My ex was CAUGHT red handed on forgery and perjury under oath. She made a dozen false accusations against me (including rape). Nothing happened to her and my lawyer advised to move on with my life versus suing her. #feminism #equality
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 02:19 PM
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With a false rape accusation.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/23 02:16 AM
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go for dev ops I hear a lot about dev ops. What skills do I need to get into it? Any tips?
/r/TheRedPill07/03/23 09:11 PM
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I'm the same position as you. Any thoughts on what programming language you're looking to take?
/r/TheRedPill07/03/23 07:21 PM
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Isn't feminism amazing? Very liberating indeed!
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 12:52 AM
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It's called Feminism. Feminism/Feminists support big Daddy Government and reduces Individual Rights. Feminists vote to have the male replaced by Government (Child Support and Alimony laws for example).
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:46 PM
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She has already divorced you in her head. It's just a matter of time before she files (90% of divorces are initiated by women). Reading your story reminded me of the below quote: "Show a woman heaven and she will complain about the view - Show her hell and she will even offer to pay rent".
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 08:14 PM
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It's also me. Scary how accurate it is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 04:01 PM
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Are you aware of these statistics? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 90% of divorces are initiated by women. 90% of the time custody of kids are given to mothers. Are you aware you can have your kids taken away from you and forced to pay child support up to 50% of your income? Why don't you adopt? Or get a surrogate? Please be careful. Last thing you want is financial devastation in your 50s/60s.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 02:40 PM
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Why don't you start by working out every day? That's the #1 advice given to men who are miserable. Give yourself a goal and do it every day even for 20 minutes. Start small and things will eventually get better.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/23 02:06 AM
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beautifully put. thank you. I can vouch that this post is spot on as someone who dealt with courts/vengeful ex-wife for 3 years.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/23 09:34 PM
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the only thing she has given me is my beautiful daughter. any woman could have given you that so don't even give her credit for that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/23 02:49 AM
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You don't realize that feminism enabled your ex-wife to do what she did. That feminism and the feminist court system let her walk all over you. Anyways, wishing you the best.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 03:12 PM
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Almost all our savings was spent on lawyers. this. Thank you #Feminism. /s
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 01:52 AM
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Yes this is very common. Single/Divorced women love to see their married counterparts become just as miserable as them. Women Power my a**
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 01:50 AM
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condoms
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 01:49 AM
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I would not shy away from working girls. It saves a lot of time and energy. Once you have that out of your system, you may have more luck with regular women as you won't be as desperate and they will smell the confidence in you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 02:10 AM
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No woman is worth dying for. Keep your chin up and push through. Lots of success stories on this subreddit on people who are much happier post divorce but you have to want it. YOU. Not me or anyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/23 04:01 PM
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you need to learn to love and accept yourself first. It is hard indeed. but it can be done. Open the new testament and start reading. That would be the first start.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 02:17 PM
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Horrible advice. Men who get divorced are usually traumatized and are lost. A woman can easily take advantage of that vulnerable state and before you know it, the men have new problems before even finishing off their old problems.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 03:48 AM
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You are not an entertainment monkey for your gf. You can't be a hard worker, fit dude, and a comedian. We all have different values. Society puts so much pressure on men to be everything for women. Be happy with who are and remember that 50% of all marriages end in divorce and 90% of divorces are initiated by women. Go MGTOW and get a vasectomy.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/23 10:54 PM
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start getting into red pill philosophy..."She's not yours, it's just your turn". Once you understand Red Pill philosophy, you realize she was never yours to begin with. She was nothing special. You just had your turn. Be happy and move on. Get a vasectomy and do not have more kids. And look into MGTOW (Focusing on your health, career, and hobbies).
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 08:51 PM
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My concern is lawyer fees. Lawyer fees bankrupted me. The faster you can settle your case amicably the better off you will be. A lot of people here say "50/50 is the hill to die on". Well, I fought for 3 years and lost everything. I say settle your case ASAP. Give her what she wants and what is fair and MOVE ON. You will be 100x better off.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 02:47 PM
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I didn't move out and got accused of rape. This is something not mentioned by most people. You don't want to piss off your ex to the point of her making false allegations.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 01:58 PM
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As someone who has dealt with a toxic ex whose goal it was to destroy my life - I completely understand and sympathize with your decision. It's all about protecting #1, which is you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/23 02:25 AM
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Bro - just walk away as fast and as amicable as possible. Serve her with divorce and be as friendly as you can be. Aim for 50/50 but Accept every other weekend if you have to. I lost everything for my fight for 50/50 only to end up with every other weekend. The sooner you settle this the faster you can move on.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 11:37 PM
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Every story is nearly the same as yours. No wonder MGTOW is banned. The more men find out about the reality of women's behavior, the entire society would collapse as men would no longer get married/have kids.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 02:14 AM
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My ex makes more than me and I have to pay her 50% of my NET income. The way the law works is who has primary custody of the kids. Most women make false allegations in family court in order to get courts to favor them. Happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 02:09 AM
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What's been the number one lesson from your divorce process? SETTLE ASAP. The longer you drag it out, the poorer you become and the richer the lawyers get.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/23 02:05 AM
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banned also...this was over 3 years ago....was crappy advice anyways
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/23 02:16 AM
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Now you're running the risk of a false domestic violence accusation removing you from your home and from your child's life. This is exactly what happened to me. Was accused of rape! Without a shred of evidence, it was enough to entangle me with the courts for 3.5 years!!!
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/23 06:16 PM
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Make sure you get a vasectomy. Just invite her back to your place if you like her. Don't think too much about it and go with the flow. I just started a FWB situation after 3.5 years of a nasty divorce. Good to finally be over it. Will never get married again. Biggest scam.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 03:40 PM
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Are you me? I was charged with rape of ex-wife and all they had to go by was her word. I couldn't believe it. Even though I was innocent, it still did the damage in terms of finances and not getting 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 02:19 PM
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Take the job. Kids will want money as they get older (i.e. car, tuition for college). You need to be able to provide for her needs while you are at the peak of your career.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 08:15 PM
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Don't tell her SH*T. Silence is power.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/23 04:38 PM
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Forgiveness has nothing to do with the actions of others. Let her send all the hate in the world your way. You forgive her, and in fact, bless her, from your heart. Also remember, if forgiveness was easy, everyone would be doing it. It's NOT easy. It requires you to put down your ego, humble yourself, and to let it go. I forgive my ex every day. I have graduated and in fact I have begun blessing her. Why? If you read the Bible, Jesus actually says to Bless those you wronged you. Who am I to do o…
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/23 03:59 PM
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I was accused of rape and criminally charged by my ex-wife when I found out she was having an affair and she accused me so she doesn't lose her shirt in divorce. Spent $500k and 3 years defending my innocence. During this time, she withheld my kids from me all the while being forced to pay child support. "How do I become indifferent"? This is how I did it: Forgiveness. Forgiveness from the heart. I didn't want to do it. But Forgiveness allowed me to move on with my life and be at peace. In fact,…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 10:18 PM
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My gosh...I feel for you as I was in your shoes for a long time. I stayed because of the kids, but ultimately that made her resent me more and led to a nasty divorce. Although my situation was different - she was not a good wife or mother. But you say yours is. I see two paths here: Divorce. Stay with her but focus on your well-being: Find hobbies, friends, activities that you do by yourself. You are very young also. I know you're in a difficult position. It is so sad to see so many men sufferin…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 10:12 PM
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Luckily you have kids. I don’t, so I need to figure something out. Get a surrogate. That way, no one can take away your kid from you. Or you can look at adoption. But do not get married/have kids with a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 07:10 PM
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But, i still want to have kids ( 0 ) at some moment in future Are you not reading all the horrible stories of father's losing their kids? What about the parental alienation? Kids having to ask why they can't see Daddy anymore? Bro - do not have kids. Get a vasectomy. Get a dog and find meaning in other ways. 50% divorce rate and 90% of divorces initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/23 07:07 PM
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Wow...so this is how some people win the lottery? Get married to someone well off, free load for several years, and get HALF of everything + on-going support....no wonder men's issues are never discussed in the media....
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 03:14 AM
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Thank your lucky stars it's over. Nothing worse than having an unfaithful woman in your life. You will get over this like all of us in this subreddit have done. You get yourself a dog who will give you unconditional love. Focus on your health and yourself and you will do much better.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 02:52 PM
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Prioritize your self first. You are no good of a father for them if you are miserable/unhappy. This was a hard idea to grasp for me but it makes sense. When you're happy, you can add value to others, including your kids. Do what you have to do to be happy and healthy. You can still visit your kids regularly and make a deal with your ex to have your kids come visit you during holidays.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 08:36 PM
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Have you every thought why there is a divorce_men subreddit? Literally we're all the ones who got banned/bullied from the main divorce page. We dared to speak a different angle than others.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 08:27 PM
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I disagree. My ex-wife is a highly intelligent psychopath. She makes so much money she can get the best possible attorney. She made a false rape allegation and then got free legal advice by sleeping with her family lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 02:09 AM
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Huh - that's it? I was denied visitation for 1 year. Then they allowed me supervised access and now I have every other weekend. I lost everything. Now I found out she's pregnant by the lawyer who took away my kids and put me on supervised access!! You will get through this. This system is horrendous for males and every male in the western world needs to know what's lurking behind the curtains of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 02:25 AM
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however i pay $2500 a month for child support and alimony because she refuses to work. Unbelievable...that much $ despite having 50/50? How many years you got left until CS ended? I'm paying a similar amount but I have every other weekend
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/23 04:32 PM
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You're lucky your ex didn't accuse you of false abuse allegations. Mine did. Despite being found innocent I only got every other weekend because the time it took to resolve the criminal charges was enough to establish a status quo. It's a disgusting system specifically designed for ugly feminazi's to take advantage of.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/23 04:22 AM
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Your wife, like most women, has probably gained weight and no longer taking the effort to look desirable. She feels secure because she's married. I'm divorced so please take my experience into account: Divorce happens to 50% of marriages. You will be on the hook for child support + Alimony. 90% of divorces are initiated by women. So what can you do? Start preparing yourself for a 50% likelihood you'll be divorced. Make sure your wife has a job so you don't have to pay lifetime alimony and child …
/r/askMRP27/01/23 12:30 AM
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Unfortunately, these stories are not uncommon. Do a google search about "daughter false grape allegation father" and you'll see there's quite a few. Our system allows it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 05:51 PM
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This happens a lot. My own ex-wife accused me of rape without a shred of evidence. And I had to go to court to prove my innocence.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 02:50 PM
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Brother - Get your wife a lawyer ASAP to sign this deal. If you do not, I promise you she will come back and ruin your life. Do NOT delay. Let them go while they're happy.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 02:48 PM
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Folks...this is the 50% of marriages that are not yet divorced but wish they were divorced. Modern marriage is a an absolute scam for males.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/23 02:33 AM
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Kill the institution of marriage. We're living in a clown world where your wife who you trusted your life with can do untold damage without any repercussion whatsoever, and will most likely be believed. Your own wife can accuse you of rape without a shred of evidence and you get charged criminally. Happened to me and many men I know.
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/23 02:24 AM
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99% of Reddit is feminist BS/misandry. Sorry, 99% of the world wide web. Why do you think they're shutting down MGTOW/The Red Pill? They don't want men to really understand women's behavior. Read: The Manipulated Man. Free PDF online.
/r/MensRights23/01/23 01:06 AM
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Meh...you had no kids so it doesn't really count. All these horrific stories are usually because of kids being involved. I went through it during COVID and I had kids and let me tell you I get skinned alive...so many false allegations......
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:45 PM
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She's not capable of love? Translation: I want different sausages because I'm bored.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 05:26 PM
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Yup. Just visit the deadbedroom subreddit or survivinginfedility subreddit to get a glimpse of what the married couples are experiencing
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 03:02 AM
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I just want someone to share my hobbies with it doesn’t matter if she has to be into it , it’s a plus that if we have something in common. Hang out go see a movie watch a show cook dinner go on a trip have sex The first two things you can do with a friend. Find one in a divorce/men's group (that's what I did) and the last one just pay for it.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 09:30 PM
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Do you like these odds? If so, proceed, if not, do not proceed: 50% of all marriages in divorce. 60% of 2nd marriages and 70% of 3rd marriages end in divorce. 90% of ALL divorces are initiated by women. 90% of custody for kids given to Mother's False allegations are RAMPANT in divorce proceedings, often times resulting in criminal charges (I was charged for rape by my ex-wife during divorce proceedings). That's all any man in North America needs to know in order to make a decision.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 09:29 PM
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Peace!
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 03:07 PM
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Trust your heart. But if you have doubts, go on vacation for 2-3 weeks by yourself and have fun. Come back re-evaluate.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 06:25 PM
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Please realize I fought for 3 years for 50/50 and now in debt. My thoughts for your case: Why not settle on your current schedule of Tue/Thurs and every other weekend? Kids will eventually get older (teens) and can make their own decisions where to live and no Judge can tell them where to live. Use the time that you don't have your kids, to find a part-time job/business to make side cash. Or use it to find a hobby or heal and move on with your life. Secondly, yes that is a common tactic by women…
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 02:33 PM
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Yes I've gone through this process for 3 years as well. What are the outstanding issues that they're not agreeing to settle on? I can give you a few pointers. Feel free to DM me or reply here. BUT I will say after fighting for 50/50, settling on every other weekend is not a bad option. If you can settle on that, I highly urge you to do so, because losing your house/going into debt for more parenting time isn't worth it. I did and lost everything and now I have a mountain of debt to pay back.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 03:02 AM
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but when you’ve been on the side of being accused for just walking into a building to defend yourself you gain a new prospective Buddy - I was accused of rape by my own ex-wife. Spent 3 years proving my innocence. But I draw the line when it comes to strangers around my kids and my kids saying they get creepy vibes from the new man. All this makes me think you're the creepy one in your step-kids lives. I agree the arrangement isn't ideal for anyone and false bias/accusations are always made but …
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 01:38 AM
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lol...I can easily tell you have no kids. When you have kids, a father (or mother) become a Mother Bear. Hyper sensitive to any potential threats to their offspring. You completely missed OP's fears and his children's concern regarding the new threat. But go enjoy your feminist readings/pamphlets.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 11:25 PM
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This ain't about video games. This is about her trying to dominate you. Once she feels that she has succeeded, she will lose all respect for you. Tip: Start reading The Red Pill to understand female behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/23 03:45 PM
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Gotta love the feminist courts and society we live in. A Father has no right to know which potential pedophile is spending time with his own kids......as long as this potential pedophile is sexually satisfying his ex-wife...... There used to be a time when a man had rights over his kids...
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/23 04:31 PM
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Unfortunately, a large number will ignore and do it anyway. lol...so true...."I'm built different" they'll say
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 02:13 AM
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No even a FWB ? FWB can quickly become emotional and turn into a gf, no?
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 02:12 AM
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Any time! Pass it forward and warn others as well!
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/23 01:22 AM
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As someone who was falsely accused to keep the kids away from me for a year, I suggest you prioritize your life and well-being FIRST. The logic being that you can only be the best dad for your kids if you yourself are healthy (financially and emotionally). You are clearly in emotional trauma. You need to first get back on your feet.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 10:14 PM
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Men - stay away from single mom's. Their priority is always to have someone bailing them out financially. They never truly see you as part of their family. The reason OP wants a divorce is probably he noticed that he's literally the 3rd wheel all the time and only there to pay the bills. OP - Do not tell her your plans. Speak to a lawyer, make a decision and go from there.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 02:48 PM
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These are the statistics you will likely face: 50% chance of you getting divorced. 90% chance that your wife will ask for divorce. 90% chance that she will get to keep the kids (and you pay child support for 18+ years). Get a vasectomy. Focus on your self (Career, hobbies, Travel).
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 05:14 PM
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Reading your post, nothing screams abnormal. Any two humans living in the same place will eventually butt heads. If I were to suggest anything at all, I would say find a hobby / activity you can enjoy by yourself or a team of other guys.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 02:38 AM
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As a divorced man, my advice to you is stay married. Grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 11:27 PM
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You're at fault for staying with her when she cheated on you 3 times and letting it get to this stage. End it now and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 06:25 PM
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I wrote in a diary and told her "goodbye, this is the end, thank you for the memories but I have to let you go in order to heal. I forgive you for what you did to me (she accused me of rape and I spent 3 years defending my innocence). " I did that several times and it really helped. Give yourself closure, let her go, say goodbye (in a diary).
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:42 PM
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For sex, there is quite a lot of effective solutions available these days that you should look into This is the best/safest way, ironically. No need to worry about false rape accusations (which my own ex-wife did during our custody dispute), no need to worry about them taking half your stuff, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:40 PM
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Bro. I was in same situation as you. A woman that calls police over nothing is very dangerous. She has lost all respect for you as a man, and when that happens you're in a ticking time bomb. Get out now while you can. Please do not learn the hard way and leave now.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:39 PM
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I think my STBXW's was/is being driven by mental illness. 95% of them are. But feminism would have them believe they're strong independent women.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:36 PM
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"She went out with coworkers after work. " You can bet your ass she's talking to her "co-workers" about what a pig you are. And you can bet those co-workers are telling her to divorce you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:34 PM
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Just make sure that when you have your kids you don’t take the new one Excuse my french here, but only a dumb, half-witted, low IQ, idiot beta male simp would take the new one in.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 07:04 PM
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Hollywood likes to glorify White Knighting/Simp behavior to keep us men in a beta mindset. It feeds the feminist agenda/courts/politics. You rarely see a Red Pill man in a movie tell his wife FU when she's acting strange/cheating. It's all by design folks!
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 07:02 PM
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It's over. Even if you reconcile, you're only kicking the can down the road because she no longer respects you. I learned the hard way, but hoping you can learn from our mistakes.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 05:51 PM
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Go to Asia or Eastern Europe or South America.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 03:13 AM
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100% but I was talking about an obese man trying to lose weight. You're the polar opposite (a bodybuilder) who HAS to watch exactly what he eats. Two different things. I never would have given that advice to a bodybuilder.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/23 01:22 AM
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Ah ok. Gotcha. Sorry - I just thought it was like "I wet my pants when a hot girl talks to me" anxiety. I know a couple of guys like that, that's why. No man, I hear you. All the power to you. Take care of your health!
/r/TheRedPill08/01/23 04:19 AM
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Why are you on anxiety meds bruh? Everyone has anxiety. But there are outlets to calm your nerves. For example, when I do not workout for 1 hour, meditate for 40 minutes, and go for evening walks for 1 hour (everyday), my anxiety is through the roof. You need to get off your anxiety meds and spend more time caring for yourself/your body.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/23 02:18 AM
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"She is also refusing 50/50 custody so this douche would be around my boys more than me which pisses me off." Gotta love our feminist family courts where a woman can simply refuse 50/50 custody and then allow a complete stranger to spend more time with the kids than the bio dad. What has our society become? BTW your story is very typical. Nothing you can do. Just don't talk about it, don't be jealous, because the more you are, the more she will try and rub it into your face.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 02:12 AM
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Bud - all you need to do is intermittent fasting. It's the FASTEST way to lose weight. You can probably drop 30-50 pounds in 2 months if you do it properly. I tried it and worked for me.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/23 11:55 PM
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U know who else doesn't take responsibility? Children. Yes, I said it. Men take responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:04 AM
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It's by design. Reddit has quarantined these subs and users who posted have been banned/flagged. Society does not want men to know RP knowledge as it goes against their feminist doctrine.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/23 06:26 PM
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Based on OP's story, that was my advice. The advice may be different for someone else whose ex is abusing the kids and leaving the kids with a pedophile, don't u think?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/23 04:32 PM
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I went through the court system for 3 years and spent nearly $500k (entire life savings, now in debt). I spent money on the best lawyers to get access/custody of kids. Here is my insight from those 3 years: Lawyers are greedy and will bankrupt you. They know your ex (and you) are emotional and they will take advantage of you both until you're both bankrupt/in debt. I fought hard for 50/50. I lost. I now have every other weekend. My proposal to you is to settle for every other weekend so you do n…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 09:32 PM
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Incredible... Well, I know ONE guy who is like that. He picked up an obese woman and took her back to his place. He couldn't get an erection because she was too large. So he started watching obese porn to get desensitized so he can bang her. I mean - I know he's a little sick but that's just nonsense. I would never do that, like what's the point? Sex should be enjoyable and pleasant to look at.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 04:17 PM
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I'm amazed really.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 04:14 PM
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.I'd suspect your wife is cheating. Amazing how an obese woman can cheat. Who in their mind would be into that? No offense, seriously asking here.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 03:16 PM
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"Equal split of assets"....by the time you're lawyers are finished there is literally nothing left. Source: Spent my life savings on a nasty custody litigation to only end up every other weekend. Now in debt.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 08:59 PM
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Feminism has destroyed marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 06:35 PM
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I've noticed this trend of more women on these subs and I don't like it. Why? Because before you know it they'll be seeking to ban this sub for misogyny or some other BS. It's just a matter of time. They HATE anywhere where men are by themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 03:01 AM
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More like trying to see if they can learn a few tricks to screw over their husbands....
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 03:00 AM
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Bro - I spent $500k and had 4 different lawyers. THese lawyers only want your money. Settle and save your money. It's just not worth it. Now I'm in debt
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 02:59 AM
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You’re just peddling the typical “man up” narrative to manipulate dudes into not looking out for their best interests This. As if men aren't being told this literally from a young age! Gosh forbid someone just outlines a couple of statistics (50% of all marriages end in divorce, with 90% of divorces being initiated by women)
/r/TheRedPill30/12/22 09:23 PM
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You are smart to be afraid of women. My own wife of 8 years accused me of rape. Yes, rape. I was criminally charged and had to hire a lawyer to defend myself. She had no evidence. I on the other hand had evidence of her texting me "love you", pictures of us holding hands, but it didn't matter. I still had to go to court. I thought I was very unfortunate to be accused of rape, until I attended a few Men's groups and got to see that many of the men there were also falsely accused by their ex-wives…
/r/TheRedPill29/12/22 01:43 AM
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Blue Pill advice = Feminism. Feminism is the default status quo of our courts and politics. Red Pill is anti-Feminism in essence, hence why it's always being banned. They (Feminists, and Feminist Lobbies) don't want men to know that: 50% of all marriages end in divorce 90% of all divorces initiated by women. Child Support/Alimony can go up to 50% of your net income and you must pay or end up in jail. Blue Pill Advice/Men are basically a welfare system for irresponsible feminists who rely on blue…
/r/TheRedPill28/12/22 03:17 AM
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sorry - that's something i had to learn the hard way as to why my marriage ended despite providing for everything to her. Some people just don't want to have to hear the truth?
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/22 12:51 AM
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To clarify, I've been here 3.5 years. But my divorce has been done 6 months. I try to enlighten men on their situations which always seem to be the same: Wife cheated on me, I gave her everything she wanted, She made false abuse allegations and isn't letting me see my kids. Hopefully word gets out about the dangers of modern day marriage (50% divorce rate, and 90% of all divorces initiated by women).
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 06:24 PM
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You went to HER home country. (A sign of Beta attitude, usually) You conceded in the argument she started out of no where. (Another sign of being a beta, usually, not always) "It sucks because I sacrificed so much to build our life together. Gave up so much to move here." (Another sign of being beta, usually) She had lost respect for you a long time ago (as most women do not respect Beta's) and been planning on leaving you for a while. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can heal. Always…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 05:13 PM
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As a divorced man who lost everything, I tell ya, you're focused on the wrong things. Chase excellence (Career, Health/Fitness, Hobbies), and girls will come. If you're super horny, just pay for it.
/r/TheRedPill27/12/22 03:14 PM
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Same. I've been done 6 months but am here daily!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 02:16 PM
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I would argue it's actually MORE than 50%. 50% assumes a clean split without spending money on lawyers and custody battles. I would venture to say it's around 90% of assets are stolen after lawyer fees, custody battles, GALs, and what not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 03:56 AM
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Is there a reason why you didn't get a prenuptial agreement? Prenups do not work. They also do not cover child support/access to children which is what 99% of people with kids fight over.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/22 12:11 AM
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NO kids, that's the key. I'm not even sure if you belong to this sub lol....but anyways congrats! Most of this groups issues/problems are because they have kids and are now screwed over loyally by the system/ex-wife.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:41 PM
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Glorious story. If I were you, I would go No Contact and never speak to her again. Get your closure and go no contact
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 03:36 PM
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I think you're conflating two different issues. I'm not advocating for people to try not to fly (get in a relationship). I'm advocating for people to not become a pilot for the rest of their lives, because doing so will involve having a 50% chance of them losing their license (i.e., home, kids, dreams), not caused by them, but by a 90% chance of the plane crashing. If they are OK with these statistics and are aware of these numbers, they can make their own choice.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/22 03:34 PM
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lol....why are you so offended by some statistics that are largely hidden by the mainstream media? Do you have something to gain? All I'm doing is sharing statistics that I myself was not aware of. I personally lost $500k, my life savings, in my divorce when my ex-wife took everything. These are statistics for North America. I think you should go and hang out in your feminazi forums...
/r/TheRedPill25/12/22 03:35 AM
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Only truth you need to know: 50% of all marriages end in divorce 90% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of all custody awarded to mother's False abuse allegations are a very common theme in family courts (I myself was accused of rape by my ex-wife). Child support will ruin your life and if you don't pay you end up in jail
/r/TheRedPill24/12/22 04:10 AM
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There is such a thing as "imputed income" which means the Judge can allocate a higher salary to you than you actually make. I know several men, including myself, where my income has been imputed higher because my ex was more believable. That's all it takes for a judge to impute. Is she more believable/likeable than HIM? I'm living in a basement with 50% of my NET INCOME being stolen from me every month while she bought herself a new car + new house. This is where my child support money is going …
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 04:09 AM
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Yup. I got kicked out of the regular divorce subreddit just for voicing my opinion as to why I believe I should have 50/50. All the feminists who wanted the child support money attacked me (if u don't know, if you have 50/50 the woman gets less child support money)
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/22 01:53 AM
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(dick’s length?) lmao
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:09 PM
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2nd marriages have a 60% chance of divorce. 90% of divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:07 PM
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NEVER thought I’d be on this sub! Same!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:06 PM
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Can’t afford to make any more mistakes. So much this. So muuuuch! This is our one last shot to recover from the divorce disaster and possibly live a decent life!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:06 PM
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I'm so glad my parents never celebrated anything....hence Xmas and holidays and birthdays have ZERO meaning for me....I don't' get to see my kids on most holidays (she withholds them) but it doesn't impact me whatsoever lol.....I'll just see them after Xmas
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:04 PM
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This sounds like she has no respect for you. A woman that has no respect for her man is a ticking time bomb. Please get ahead of this before she suprises you. You've been warned.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:05 AM
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Bro. Whatever you do, Please make sure you DO NOT have kids with this woman until you're in a better place. Child support /Alimony will destroy your life. In the meantime, get her to start working so your alimony payments are reduced in case you divorce (50% chance of divorce and 90% of divorces initiated by women). Lastly, if you're feeling like this, I guarantee you she's feeling the same exact way. If you do not end it, she will eventually, and it will be worse.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:02 AM
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If you want to have kids, get a parenting plan giving you full custody when she is pregnant. Keep the parenting plan in your pocket to use as insurance against future child support claims Dude - you are giving BAD advice. No way in hell would any form of a parenting plan hold up in court upon divorce. Throw in a couple of false allegations, and you're lucky if you see your kids every other weekend. In fact, I did have a 50/50 parenting plan with my ex-wife for 3 months. At the end of the 3rd mon…
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 12:22 AM
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If you were the one struggling she would be saying "You see? This is why I am divorcing you. Enjoy the rest of your life while struggling!".
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:28 PM
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Brother. Just go with every other weekend. Save your money. Stop the bleeding. If you need to talk, DM me and we can talk through your case. You have like another 20-30 years of life....why waste it away living in debt? Your kids will eventually grow older and will decide for themselves where they want to live and NO ONE (including a Judge) can tell them otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:26 PM
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Somebody has to do something about this shit. Many men, father's, and men's rights organizations have. Yet they are always shut down by feminist lobbyists or lawyer associations. Imagine a world of automatic 50/50? Whose going to make money from THAT?
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 05:24 PM
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As someone who has gone to $100k debt fighting the custody battle for 3 years only to end up with every other weekend, please save your money. It is extremely difficult to pay back that debt at the end of day as I now realize. Also, if you're a Father, you will be discriminated against regardless of the GAL.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 01:51 AM
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Additionally, if my experience helps a GAL doesn’t matter. GAL came down heavily in my favor and it meant nothing to the judge. She still got full custody and I get Thursday nights for a few hours and every other weekend. This. At the end of the day, father's get screwed. #Feminism #Superiority
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/22 01:49 AM
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How the fuck did I get myself into this situation? I am 43 years old and now single again, have to pay child support for the next 20 years, lost half my shit, lost the house I solely paid for on my own. Same here brother. It's AMAZING to me no one is talking about the suffering of men caused by family courts/divorce laws! How in the world would anyone sign up for marriage/kids knowing this can be the outcome one day?
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 04:09 PM
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Why oh why do men keep getting married and enabling these retarded individuals who can get by with doing whatever they want? Men - please warn other men! The juice isn't worth the squeeze!
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 11:41 PM
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Can you just tell them you're super stressed bc of you're divorce and was cursing your ex? In any event, keep strong brother. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise....
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:19 PM
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It just seems like these women transform into the same monster. Nope. She was a monster to begin with she just hid it very well.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:16 PM
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She might as well be a stranger, because that's not the person I was in love with. She was. She always was. She just did a great job hiding it to secure her future (i.e. marrying you). I'm sure you saw red flags that you ignored early in the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:15 PM
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They're happy destroying themselves as long as it destroys you even one bit. #feminism
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:11 PM
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lol...ok feminazi....i'm sure you would benefit from marriage.....
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 03:08 PM
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Wow. GTFO out of here trying to trap a young man. The downsides of marriage has the potential to completely wipe a man out. Majority of suicides and homeless are men. I always wonder how many of these men lost everything because of a horrible divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 06:55 PM
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Ask all politicians to support a rebuttable 50/50 presumption of shared parenting upon divorce. [Canadian Bar Association against this] Paralegals to be able to practice Family Law so that it can become more affordable to Canadians. The current rate for a Junior Family Lawyer is $300/HR which remains out of reach for most Canadians average salary of $50,000 ($25/hr). [Canadian Bar Association against this] Clear and Convincing evidence on any allegations being used to limit a parent's access. Cu…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 06:29 PM
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Yes brother - that's the only way
/r/TheRedPill19/12/22 03:29 PM
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You got off so lucky because you never had kids. I did and she wiped out my 20 years of life savings. Now i'm in debt paying her child support while living in a basement. #feminism #equality #believeallwomen
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 12:17 AM
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Everything you described is considered abuse. What you do Start recording in a private journal/email all the abuses/controlling behavior with dates. Talk to a lawyer about your rights to see your child upon divorce. Also document when/how you're involved with your child such as doctor's appointments, school pickups, etc. File for Divorce first and get ahead of the false restraining orders and false abuse allegations.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 12:08 AM
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life got too easy for her....we hit all our goals...house...vacations....she got bored, cheated with her co-worker, and then made a lot of false accusations to keep me away from my kids. Fought her for 3 years to get some custody and after losing my life savings I won.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:46 AM
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Do you think the family courts care about how you live off of $600/month? They'd be happy if you're living on the streets but paying your child support. Stories like yours are why feminists try so hard to shut down any discussion about men's rights. Because if more men saw what divorce is like, no one would fund their irresponsible lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 04:38 PM
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Much worse things in life than being dead. Going through divorce where you're home, your kids, your family, your life savings are taken away can be worse than an easy death.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/22 02:35 PM
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I know a guy who moved to Colombia and is loving it. He was ordered to pay 50% of his net income plus a few hundred thousand to his ex who wasn't allowing him to see his kids. The catch is, if you make a move, it will have to be permanent.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:27 PM
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These are the stories they need to teach all young men before they get married. Yet, they purposely hide these stories because society would crumble if men stopped financing irresponsible women.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:20 PM
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The system is designed for these women to make false allegations. 95% of all these rape cases/abuse cases are vengeful girlfriends/wives rather than real victims of violence. But the media/feminists will have you believe it's 2%. Hang tight bro - you will make it through.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:15 PM
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I never wanted it but knocked her up and felt forced to marry her. Get a vasectomy if u can.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/22 03:40 AM
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Any man not divorced is a winner in my books. I have lost everything I have worked hard to achieve in my 20s and my 30s and lost it all when I got cheated on by my ex-wife (and then falsely accused of rape). Go read the divorce_men subreddit. Do not get married and you're 10x the winner on all these men who lose everything.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/22 02:39 AM
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the amount of hot models that money could have bought you.....
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 02:16 AM
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Yes I dealt with these narcissitic traits from the ex. They derive their existence on drama. What I had to learn to do was ignore. I literally ignored/didn't respond to anything from here unless it was a must. Oh, you're making another false accusation? Ignore. Oh you're belittling me again? Ignore. She's now learnt to STFU as she knows she will not get her dose of drama from me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 03:48 PM
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Their go to phrase is “I am out of an abusive relationship” which makes me think that anytime a respectable man calls them out on their shit they scream “abuse.” So much this.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 02:15 PM
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It makes you wonder why everyone is hell bent on silencing forums like MGTOW where men were simply warning other men about the dangers of marriage and single mom's. The entire system is dependent on men bailing out irresponsible women and their kids.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 02:12 PM
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I had a working ex-wife and she still managed to take everything by make false abuse allegations. These days, no man is safe from the wrath of our feminist run court systems and western politicians.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 12:04 AM
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The version of love that your grandpa and great grandpa taught you no longer exists. This needs to be taught to every male born.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/22 02:43 AM
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Bro - I went through 3 years of this hell. The best advice I can give you, is "Let go". Be super patient, take a L, it will all eventually work out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/22 03:22 PM
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Ya I fought a false rape allegation from the ex-wife...for 3 years...without her having a shred of evidence #feminism The whole system works against men. Good luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/22 01:48 AM
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Same here. My ex-wife accused me of rape during our divorce proceedings. She had no proof but the damage was done. Unbelievable how we allow this system to exists.
/r/MensRights07/12/22 08:40 PM
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I couldn't understand it. She had no proof, no pictures. In fact, I had proof that she was sending me "I love you" texts well after the date in question. Absolutely crazy bizarro world.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 03:17 PM
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u need to stop paying bills otherwise the courts will force you to pay until you die. talk to a lawyer before u continue paying all the bills!!!
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 07:09 PM
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And she moved out. She won't be coming back bro. She's been waiting for this moment. Please prepare yourself mentally and move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 07:07 PM
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My ex-wife cheated on me with a co-worker, and when I found out she accused me of rape, and I was charged criminally for raping my wife. I spent 3 years fighting to prove my innocence. In the meantime, she didn't let me see my kids that I was the primary parent for, I lost my house, and lost everything I had worked hard for. False accusations are a serious issue, especially from ex-gfs/wives that no one is talking about. Anyways, I learned/forced myself to forgive. I still do it daily. Put your …
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 02:10 PM
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No. Feminism is. Feminism is the root cause of modern society breakdown. Feminism and single moms.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/22 04:01 AM
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Very well put. I don't bother arguing with feminists anymore - it's like arguing with spoiled kids. They conveniently ignore facts when it does not suit their narrative. True equality is 50/50 right up front for custody. The reason literally ALL feminist/women's lobby against this is because of Child support! $$$ The greed is unreal
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/22 03:33 PM
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I feel bad you feel bad. Hope you don't feel bad anymore. Take care of yourself pal.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 11:38 PM
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you have no idea how corrupt our "laws" are until you enter family court with a penis between your legs. yet the feminists will have you believe otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 11:37 PM
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Perfect - resort to personal attacks rather than my arguments. Very typical of certain types of people. I tried having a logical argument with you but it seems like you have an agenda.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 04:48 PM
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I want children eventually. Here are some stats to think about and make sure you're comfortable with it: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 60% of 2nd marriages end in divorce. 90% of all divorces are initiated by women. 90% of the time, custody is awarded to mothers. Child support can go up to 40% of your NET income and lasts up to 24 years. Prenup WILL NOT cover access or custody to the children, which is what 95% of couples fight over. False abuse allegations are VERY COMMON in divorce, esp…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 03:30 PM
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So I checked your sources and your sources are off topic. I'm not interests in the statistics of Single mom's, but impact on children growing up with single mom's. Please note the distinction. Secondly, I just picked one source out of dozens. Just google a bit deeper and you will get sources that cite studies to backup those claims. Please also note what I referenced is actively censored from the media (Just like the sources you provided) because it's a bad look for all the politicians/feminists…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 02:02 PM
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Statistically, single moms raise horrible children. The children of single moms end up with the highest incarceration rates and highest teen pregnancies: 70% of drop-outs, and 70% of teen suicides come from single mother home 70% of runaways, 70% of juvenile delinquents, and 70% of Child murderers, come from single mother homes https://www.fixfamilycourts.com/single-mother-home-statistics/
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/22 03:09 AM
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single mom.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 08:25 PM
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Her boyfriend broke up with her and now she wants you back. That's what happened.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 03:31 AM
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maybe check out the marriedredpill subreddit for some advice...
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 12:23 AM
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Ok brother. I'm not going to tell you what to do. But please be realistic about your odds and prepare yourself for the likelihood of a divorce. Have an exit strategy and expect it so you're not emotionally damaged.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 12:14 AM
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Oh wow. How do you feel about 2nd marriages having 60% divorce rate and women initiating 90% of the divorces? I guess if you're not having kids it shouldn't be too bad even if you do divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 09:40 PM
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Same! It's been several years since I dated. I feel I need to focus on myself first and foremost, get into a really comfortable place in life, and then consider dating. Dating just takes so much energy/time that can be spent on self healing. How are you approaching it?
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/22 09:09 PM
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Very normal. Unfortunately, feminism has allowed women to make any accusations they want against their husbands/boyfriends without any accountability. Oh it's a false accusation? It's ok, please try and not do it again. I was also falsely accused of rape. I had pictures/texts of us holding hands, her saying "I love you", but none of that mattered. I had to go to trial, spend a fortune, to prove my innocence. #Feminism #Equality (Sarcasm)
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 05:44 PM
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I was told not to kiss my child because I would spread “my nastiness” Wow. Lol. Funny now but I'm sure anger when you first heard it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 05:41 PM
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Ok brother. As someone who has been falsely accused of rape by the ex-wife (charged criminally), I suggest you record all interactions (audio or video) until you have a final order. You want to always be able to back it up if need be. Just keep in mind, what you're going through is NORMAL and it's a shame the system allows women to have this power over father's who just want to spend time with their kids. Very sad what Feminism has done to family courts. Lastly, I would focus on YOU. Work out ev…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 05:40 PM
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Gotta get 2 more kids Be prepared to pay child support. That's a lot of money for 2 kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/22 01:31 PM
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You're so lucky you're so young. So many men in their 50s are in ur shoes. Remember: 50% of all marriage end in divorce. 90% of all divorces initiated by women. Second marriages have 60% divorce rate. Get a vasectomy and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 11:59 PM
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You're very lucky to be the way you are. It allows your divorce to be amicable. A lot of men get completely destroyed by their emotions. Keep it up!
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 04:13 PM
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Yup. And I know at least 6 other Fathers who have been falsely accused of rape by their ex-wives. It happens very frequently as the female lawyers tell their clients to make false allegations in order to maximize their chances for custody/access. It happens a lot yet no one is talking about.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 12:38 AM
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after 3 years and $500k later, yes.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 10:19 PM
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Hey man - as long as she hasn't falsely accused you of rape (like mine did), you're good to go.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/22 07:41 PM
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Well, for me, the New Testament thought me about forgiveness, hope, and persistence. Not to mention the Proverbs/Psalms. I don't think you can just blanket dismiss all the wisdom/learnings like that.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/22 11:52 PM
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Bro. As someone whose ex-wife accused me of rape (charged criminally and spent 3 years dealing with it), I can tell you will come out on the other side. But you must believe and take the following advice: Exercise daily Meditate daily Read the New Testament daily (or listen to Charles Stanley on YouTube) Of course you're going through hell but keep pushing through. You will make it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/22 04:09 PM
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She found another dude. All these posts have the same exact story if you read through them. Move on. Any reconciliation will only lead to future failure.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/22 11:02 PM
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I suggest you read some red pill articles or listen to Rollo Thomasi or something. You're clearly out of the loop.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 11:59 PM
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I have come to the realization that we are fundamentally incompatible, that is men and women. Only in modern feminist society. I think pre-feminism, there was good harmony and everyone knew their roles without being confused.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 06:19 PM
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Parents can't "abduct" their children Right - only Father's can abduct their children. Not the mom's.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 02:35 AM
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Lol. I've noticed the same pattern as well. I wonder why?
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 02:34 AM
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There used to be a time when a woman did the house work and was grateful for a working man. #Feminism. Happy birthday!
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/22 12:56 AM
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The issue is lack of education on mens rights, feminism, gynocentricism. These issues are purposely quarantined away from mainstream to men can continue funding feminism
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 02:31 PM
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My gosh - what kind of system to we live in where one party (the woman) can dictate terms and the "Judge" will agree to it? When will men speak out about these injustices? When will the system be fixed?
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 01:50 PM
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Modern marriage. When a guy who is not your child's dad get's to spend more time with your child than you. And to live in your old house. Advice?? Ignore it. As long as your son is healthy/happy, focus on your self and quality time with him when you have him. And make sure you don't get married/have kids again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 01:49 PM
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lucky bro. happy to hear.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 02:15 AM
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Some times it's not up to the parent, like me. I spent 3 years fighting only to be told to get EOW with my kids, even though I live 5 minutes away. Why? Because my ex pulled EVERY allegation/trick in the book to ensure she gets the child support money. The system makes ZERO sense for fathers.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 12:50 AM
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The system incentivizes women to divorce men by providing alimony, child support, and government support. Oh, and if she claims abuse against you, the ruling will be more in her favor. Why would anyone get married with this system? Media deliberately does not speak out about divorce system, feminist lobby, and impact on men, children, and society overall, in order to protect the feminists and all who profit from them, including lawyers, judges, and the entire system on the backs of men. Hence a …
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 10:00 PM
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this is from august, well before the suicide. I was asking why the articles about his suicide isn't mentioning the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 04:00 AM
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Why does the article not mention anything about him going through divorce? Why is the media consistently ignore the impact of divorce on men/children? (Answer: Feminism. TO protect feminist ideology and feminists). 80% of all suicide are men.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 11:19 PM
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You get used to it. I do things for myself, go out with friends, watch TV. It just becomes like any other day. I know eventually I'll see them. Just treat it like any other day.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 05:59 PM
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Mine was CAUGHT RED HANDED committing perjury AND forgery. NOTHING happened to her. Unbelievable. I asked so many lawyers and they said just move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/22 02:56 AM
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Hang in there! Mine took 3 YEARS including criminal court as I was facing a false rape allegation from the ex-wife. I can't tell you the hell I had to deal with with that allegation over my head. Oh how the system enables vindicitive spouses!
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 08:38 PM
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Get a vasectomy. It's not the marriage but the children that will enslave you with child support.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/22 08:36 PM
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I wasn't talking about sexual needs but you did. People don't have affairs for sex but for feelings of being desired/wanted/appreciated. How do you know he didn't communicate his needs? Also whose talking about Red Pill? Unfocused much? Good day to you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 07:26 PM
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Women are the best when it comes to building narrative. She doesn't want to be blamed by family or friends or her kids for the breakup of the relationship. In short, she does not and will never take responsibility/accountability for her actions. 90% of all divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 01:50 PM
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Don't feel guilty. You cheated because she wasn't providing what you needed. She didn't care enough to meet your needs. Heal and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/22 01:05 AM
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Yup. It's true. Male relatives of the women were always the protectors of the females. So even if the husband did abuse/rape his wife, her brothers/fathers/cousins would punish the husband. I'm not trying to argue with you - I'm trying to provide you all the context.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 02:21 PM
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I am in a LDR with a woman who is (morally) conservative, but very educated and intelligent. I swore I wouldn’t do a LDR, but here I am Should have stuck to your promise.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 06:46 PM
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Get a vasectomy!
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 06:37 PM
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Yeah, because everybody was better off when a woman couldn't escape an abusive marriage, had no economic agency of their own, or when raping a spouse was impossible by definition. This is a false narrative that's being spewed by feminists to justify current divorce laws. This was never the case. Yes there were cases back then as you described but it is just so today. Go back to your feminazi page
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 05:58 PM
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Join the club. This is what they don't tell men so men keep funding irresponsible women's lifestyle through marriage/kids. Best advise is never get married again or have kids. If you do this, you will rebuild your life. Last advice is move on with your life. Make it as amicable as possible, and end is as quickly as you can so you don't waste money on lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 01:29 PM
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I wrote in a journal saying goodbye to her and forgiving her, over and over. It helped a lot. Oh, and this was after I was accused of rape and wasn't able to communicate with her until I proved my innocence.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 02:32 AM
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People think 50/50 split is easy. They don't realize that you end up spending hundreds of thousands of dollars to try and get 50/50 and eventually have nothing to show for it. Be patient with your son. It's typical for children to pick sides. Give him his space. He's in a tough spot. He will eventually come around but you need to be patient. Focus on you, your health, your career for the time being.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 02:28 PM
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Again - very typical story of how the system assists women in literally destroying a man's life (you attempted suicide). I was also falsely accused of rape and spent 2 years proving my innocence. She had ZERO proof yet I was charged, kicked out of the home, and not allowed to see my kids. Overnight, I went from being a primary parent of my kids to not seeing my kids. How in the world is that fair? If you reversed the genders, what would the media say? Would there not be mass outrage and protests…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 03:38 PM
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The 3 numbers that needs to be shared: 50% of all marriages end in divorce 80% of divorces initiated by women (90% if college educated women) 90% of the time, custody is awarded to mothers upon divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 03:09 PM
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I know exactly what will happen next. a) a snip b) never again will I end up in a "serious" relationship. Smartest decision you can make from here on.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 01:53 PM
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Sorry to hear pal. It's astounding the amount of stories like yours and mine and it's a wonder why all these stories are brushed under the rug by the media or just out right banned (like MGTOW - which was a forum of divorced men warning others about divorce laws and not to marry). I'm in the exact same situation as you. 50% of net income going to child support while I struggle. Keep strong.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/22 12:57 PM
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Very motivational. As someone who has been divorced-raped so horrendously (was accused of rape by ex-wife as a method to win custody), it's very refreshing to hear what you're saying!
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 02:47 PM
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"but by and large I feel like most are either heavy, let go, dont work out, etc. I know this makes me sound like a pig" It doesn't make you sound like a pig. It makes you sound like a healthy male who has healthy desires. A lot of divorced fathers I know are doing MGTOW and focusing on hobbies/career/travel. For companionship, they go the escort route as it's much less complicated. Lastly, do not shy away from dating someone younger if that's what you desire/can get. Feminists love to shame men …
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 02:44 PM
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https://www.cor-law.com/blog/women-get-child-custody-90-percent-cases-isnt-gender-discrimination/ Statistics show that women are awarded child custody in nearly 90 percent of all cases. And while a bias against men in child custody cases has been around for decades, let’s explain why this is happening from a legal perspective. Our lawyers explain that just because women are considered culturally better at parenting than men does not give the court a legal right to award more child custody rights…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 10:16 PM
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Yes me, after I was falsely accused of rape by ex-wife during divorce to give her an advantage in family court over custody and matrimonial home. Given the below stats: 50% of all marriages end in divorce 80% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of the time custody given to Mothers It only makes sense to mitigate those risks and MGTOW/Stay single. Lots of posters here who regret their 2nd marriages and only got married again to spite their ex's rather than being happy. I've been taking up hik…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 07:50 PM
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The best book recommendation: The New Testament. Read it daily. It will change your life.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 04:29 PM
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most places make you provide your financial statement/taxes every year. Simple as that.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 04:22 PM
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#SingleMomPower #Feminism #GirlPower /s Hang in there bud. Mine took 3 years to resolve because I didn't play it cool like you. Be patient and it will eventually be over. Workout daily if you can.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 09:45 PM
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Here is what happened: She cheated on you with the bf. The BF broke up with her during the trip, so now she wants to go back to you. If you get back together, it will eventually end up in the same situation, she will get bored and will want drama and will find another bf. Therapy is a complete waste of time/money because a person cannot negotiate desire. Save your money. Next steps: Play it smart and get 50/50 with your kids and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 07:26 PM
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Ultimately it’s about what you can prove as a male. The burden of proof should not be on the accused but the one making the accusations. I was falsely accused of rape by my ex-wife and she had ZERO proof. I still was charged and spends hundreds of thousands defending myself. The game is rigged!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/22 01:02 PM
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90% of the time custody is awarded to the mothers 2nd/3rd marriages have a 60% and 70% chance of divorce. Child support lasts longer than 18 years in most jurisdictions if the child goes to university, so in reality it is 24 years.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 02:46 PM
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Very typical. Courts ignore it and media doesn't report the amount of false abuse allegations women use. Please teach/redpill your boys about these things, namely: 50% of all marriages end in divorce 80% divorces initiated by women False abuse allegations always involved in divorce proceedings. Prenups do NOT cover child support/access to children/false abuse allegations. 5.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/22 02:56 AM
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All of them. Literally all of them are written from a female perspective. Any male suffering is always discarded as weakness and you're usually banned for speaking your mind as a male. Hence why this sub exists.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/22 06:31 PM
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Hey brother. I've been on these forums for 3 years and have gone through a nasty divorce myself. Here are my thoughts: DO NOT blame yourself for the marriage failure. It always takes two, even with your alcoholic condition. Seems like you may be hurting and have a big ego. Try reading the New Testament daily and discovering God. If not, try meditation. Daily exercise. I cannot emphasize this enough. You don't break habits (drinking), you replace them. Focus on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/22 03:29 AM
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try "Do or do not. There is no try".
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/22 02:48 AM
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You must forgive her. Only way to healing for yourself. Yes it will get 100% better. Keep your head up high and focus on your work and your health.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 10:40 PM
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I spent 3.5 years. The bulldog attorney will sense you're angry and will milk you dry. Been there done that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 10:38 PM
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Hey bro - as someone who has spent $500k on litigation and now in debt I URGE you to not let your emotions get to you. At the end of the day, it's just not worth it. Let the whinny ex get her ego boost. Play the sad/poor loser. At the end of the day you will be happier. Trust me bro. I've been where you are and I am speaking from experience. DO NOT waste your money. Let her think she's winning.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 10:38 PM
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nope. they usually don't persecute false accusers ..... #feminism
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/22 01:16 PM
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When will society/family courts wake up to these narcissistic traits? HOw much longer will we allow our kids to be in this situation? It seems like they're all the same.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 08:22 PM
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This article doesn't mention false accusations. I didn't move out and my ex ended up forcing me out of the home by accusing me of rape (criminally charged). Took me 2.5 years to clear my name.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/22 12:34 PM
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Yes it's normal because you haven't given yourself closure. One of the first things I did when my ex-wife went to the police station and falsely accused me of historical rape, is write in a journal and telling her goodbye and thanking her for the marriage. Tell her goodbye in your journal and that you will be moving on as you have to survive.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/22 06:33 PM
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don't give in to her demands, otherwise she will lose respect for u. Do what makes u happy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 03:24 PM
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This is why theredpill is banned. Redpill expressly warns men of these signs so men don't make these mistakes. It all makes sense. MGTOW
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 12:35 PM
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Oh these stories are VERY common but the media won't report on it to protect the feminist agenda. #feminism #equality /s
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/22 02:05 PM
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Focus on your work. Get a second job to fight lonliness. Exercise daily. Find hobbies/events/meetups Enjoy life. We're all in the same boat. But we all push through. Things will get better but you must persevere.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 09:39 PM
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I don't think it's misleading. One is assigning a probability to a time period, and one isn't. So over 40 years, it's 67%. But regardless of time-frame, it's lower at 50%.
/r/MensRights19/10/22 08:36 PM
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Great read. With so many inspiring posts, it's a wonder why they are trying to banning this subreddit. Same with MGTOW. Lots of successful posts about exceling in your field, sure there was the occasional bad post, but mostly positive posts.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/22 11:45 PM
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Her side man dumped her as soon as he found out she's getting divorced and wants to get serious with him. Now she wants you back. That's what happened.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 08:59 PM
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I would absolutely get back with my wife if she thought we could save the marriage. I think she is that important to me You're still in denial. It's ok. It takes time. You should NEVER be with someone who doesn't want you. Your marriage cannot be saved. Once it's over, it's over for good. Any reconciliation will be temporary. The sooner you accept the above statement, the happier you can be.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/22 01:57 AM
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Bro - stop blaming yourself. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. You're not special, you're just a statistic. Start working out, and move on with your life. You were not STUPID. Lots of men here treated their wife like princesses only to get cheated on/betrayed. Redpill yourself. Workout. Focus on your health. DO NOT TRY TO get back with her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 10:34 PM
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Give it TIME. Be patient. Let things cool down. She will come around.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 10:31 PM
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Welcome to the club, pal! Don't worry, you're one of us now :-) Stats: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 80% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of custody awarded given to mothers.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 12:33 PM
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haha good point.... #feminisim #equality /s
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/22 02:45 AM
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luckily yes - although she didn't let me see them for a year. I suggest to stop spending too much money and wait it out. u don't want to be homeless in the end.
/r/MensRights17/10/22 02:44 AM
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Convince her to get a full time job ASAP. Do whatever it takes. Tell her you want the both of you to save up for a nice vacation to Hawaii. Once she works full-time for a year, your alimony payments will be reduced. I highly encourage you to get her a FT job and pretend your not divorcing. If u don't want to go that route, be generous in your divorce and give her 50% of everything and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 02:45 PM
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You can actually get her kicked out of the house. Go to police and report the historical abuse incident. She will get arrested and will not be able to enter. You will then have "exclusive possession of the matrimonial home". Make sure you go with proof/evidence and tell them ur afraid of ur safety. Lots of women do this to get the man out of the house and it works.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 02:34 PM
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Be happy your daughter and ex are with a wealthy man and are well taken care of. Put covetousness aside. Do you rather your ex/your daughter were living in a bad neighborhood in a basement? Because I know quite a few single moms who are doing just that. Be happy that you're a highly skilled/educated man. Your income will increase exponentially. Be patient. Do not fight/pay a lawyer. Stick with the current schedule so you can focus on yourself and your career and to heal. I fought and lost everyt…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 02:32 PM
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Dads are fully qualified equal class parents. I tried explaining this to 3 different judges in 3 years and spent $500k on legal fees. They did not think Dad's are fully qualified to be equal parents. In fact, 90% of the time custody is awarded to Mothers.
/r/MensRights15/10/22 07:14 PM
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"Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life". Congratulations and welcome! You are just another 50% of the men who is getting asked for divorce by 80% of women. No one can answer that question for you. Don't fight the pain. Work out daily ( I run daily), focus on your job, …
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 06:41 PM
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Supervised visits HAPPEN ALL THE TIME to Fathers. I was watching my children full-time because my ex was always away on work trips. She comes back and makes me have professional supervision for 1 year as revenge for leaving her (she had an affair). These things need to be taught to all men before marriage.
/r/MensRights13/10/22 08:56 PM
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Can't you pursue your own happiness while still being married with her? I mean you can travel the world, get a gf, find friends/hobbies. Just a thought, albeit unorthodox. The only reason I suggest this is because you say she was a good Mom, which 75% of men in this group can't say.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 09:06 PM
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Humans have an uncanny ability to adjust. We are capable of enduring great suffering and through the suffering can make significant achievements. Stay focused on your health by working out daily, staying focused on your work, and you. Sounds selfish, but that's what you need to do to survive.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/22 03:06 PM
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Thoughts, point by point: "The feeling of never getting the time back, and that I’m old?". I know so many men in their 40s and 60s who got divorce raped. You are VERY lucky. " I catch myself ranting for good 20/30 minutes speaking as if she was in front of me hearing all of it. I’m tired of doing this as it’s draining me mentally to the point where it’s hard to get up of bed sometimes." Folks, this is what happens when you cannot forgive your ex from your heart. This is the price you pay for bei…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 02:14 PM
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The hardest advice I had to learn: Forgive the ex. It was a matter of letting go or continuing being angry/hurt. Staying single and focusing on myself rather than women.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 07:15 PM
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It gets easier. But before it does, it will get harder. Stay strong and focus on working out, meditating, and your work.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 05:16 PM
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It's VERY common. The amount of HUSBANDS I know who have been falsely accused by their OWN WIVES in divorce proceedings is crazy! A false rape allegation basically ensures the wife gets everything in divorce. By the time the poor sap has finished the criminal proceedings he's too broke/damaged to fight back. It also happened to me as well.
/r/MensRights10/10/22 01:16 AM
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More than 50% divorce rate and more than 85% initiated by women Statistics every male needs to know.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 01:03 AM
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I recommend "Transcendental mediation" (TM)...it's about 20 minutes 2x a day (morning & evening). I do recommend taking the paid course.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 08:47 PM
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This may be an unpopular opinion but that is NOT a bad choice. You do what you have to do to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/22 12:22 PM
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"The thing is, I still have daily "internal" discussions and arguments with her. How what she did can't be forgiven" Here is your problem. Next time you have a dialogue, close your eyes, visualize her, and forgive her from your heart. Daily. Take it from a guy who was falsely accused of rape, charged criminally, had his kids taken away, lost over $500k and in debt. (Things are better now, see kids a few times a month, have a job, but still in debt) I forgive my ex around 5x a day. It helps me fu…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 11:44 PM
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Your post is more articulate than 90% of other posters. It's all in your head. If you really want to make improvements: daily running intermittent fasting meditating lots of great available youtube videos. I noticed #1 and #2 really helped my cognitive health (and #3)
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/22 11:37 PM
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Your story needs to be shared with every naive male that is getting married. The Feminist Divorce laws make marriage not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 03:52 PM
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Ah yes....when you're raised with a single mom..... folks...this is a byproduct of a single-mom household.....they're all like this....#feminism
/r/PussyPassDenied02/10/22 12:13 AM
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You end up carrying a huge weight on your shoulders and angry at everyone. You limit your future.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 12:30 PM
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You must forgive. That is the hardest thing you will ever have to do. Source: Me, someone who has been falsely accused of rape by ex-wife during divorce process and was criminally charged.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/22 01:14 AM
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It's eerie how similar these stories are. I could have written your entire post/comment.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/22 03:12 AM
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Folks, pay attention: This is a case study when they say 2nd marriages have a higher chance of divorce than the first. And 3rd marriages even a higher chance! First marriage divorce rate: 50% 2nd marriage divorce rate: 60% 3rd marriage divorce rate: 70% 80% of all divorces initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 06:34 PM
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Trust your gut. Always. Fastest way to lose a woman? Putting a woman on a pedestal. Let her Go. (checkout theredpill subreddit). Focus on YOU. Workout more. Focus on your career.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 02:08 AM
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You need to ask yourself if you're comfortable with these risks: 70% and 80% of 2nd and 3rd marriages end up in divorce. 80% of divorces are initiated by women. 90% of the time custody is awarded to mothers. Oh - and prenups do not work when it comes to child support, custody, and access, which is what 99% of couples fight over.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 02:03 AM
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People need to stop mentioning prenups. Prenups DON'T work. 99% of people fight over custody and access to their children, which prenups do NOT cover!
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/22 02:02 AM
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Start documenting what you're doing with the children (i.e. whose taking them to dentist/doctor's appointment, teacher conferences). Beware of false abuse allegations. This is a very well known tactic. She will be claiming you were abusive (emotionally, physically, financially). Take proactive steps to ensure she can't make false BS claims. Talk to several lawyers and have 2 criminal lawyers and 2 family lawyers that you can retain. If and when you do decide to file for divorce, do so while keep…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 02:29 PM
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better start planning. for one, get her to find a job. two: get a lower-paying job/stress free job or start your own business. make sure your kids aren't in private school or classes. Sell your assets There is A LOT you can do if you're willing. But it must be done for 1-2 years prior to you pulling the trigger. It will take big balls too. Good luck and welcome to the feminist paradise.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/22 02:57 AM
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No. That's the beauty of it. The things that 99% of couples fight over are not enforceable in a prenup. But most people don't know that!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 11:34 PM
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This may be a very unpopular opinion, but sometimes taking some time to heal and get your head together is a sane option. Lots of people leave stressful environments only to come back stronger/better. Do what is right for you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 08:32 PM
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What couples argue over the most aren't covered in prenup and that's Access and custody of children. Also, false abuse allegations, where 90% of father's face in divorce, also aren't covered in prenups. One allegation from her and she gets everything she wants.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 12:28 AM
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Can't be more complicated than my story. Was falsely accused of rape (criminally) by my own wife after I caught her cheating. Spent 3 years fighting.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 12:26 AM
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Welcome to the club! We're happy to have you! You will get through this - just like the rest of us! :-)
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 12:25 AM
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"but I also try to motivate her to do SOME things like eat properly and clean up after herself." Wow...is she 6 years old? It's incredible some people need to be told to eat properly/clean up. But the mistake is equally on u for being too weak to walk away from this mess.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/22 09:29 PM
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By the way, what do you mean using Bumble for meeting friends over coffee? You mean dates that didn't turn into romantic relationships and ended up being friendships? Or specifically looking for coffee buddies to hang out with. The latter. There is a section of the app that you can just meetup other guys (or girls) for friends.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 12:23 PM
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What you're not realizing is she was done with the marriage YEARS ago and it's just hitting you. That's why it appears she's having fun/nothing happened, because she had checked out minimum 1-2 years before she made it official. So that's how long it will take you. MOVE ON. It's over. You're in love with the old her, not the new one. As far as you're concerned, the person you married no longer exists on this planet.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 01:27 AM
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It's all about what you prioritize in life. "Ask and it shall be given to you, knock and it shall be answered". Instead of wasting time complaining: Meetup app. Download and meet up groups. Bumble app. Not only is it good for dating, but also meeting groups of people for coffee as friends. Go to your local Salsa clubs...it's like $10/lesson and you meet so many women. Go to Church weekly and meet your community Go downtown by yourself! I did this today literally the whole day and enjoyed free mu…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/22 01:23 AM
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My wife accused me of rape without a shred of evidence. I was criminally charged as a result. Spent 2.5 years and hundreds of thousands to defend my innocence. She conveniently did it when I left her ugly ass after I caught her cheating. Lesson: You can get falsely and criminally charged with ZERO evidence. Testimony of one person is all it takes.
/r/MensRights14/09/22 01:29 AM
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and have literally begged him to just love me back no need to beg him to love you. just listen to what he's asking u to do. maybe seek answers in /r/RedPillWomen/
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/22 01:22 AM
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it's not typically 50/50. It's 'typically' every other weekend...even if you live a block away.... source: me and many other fathers
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/22 02:10 AM
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You are the anomaly. You are the 5%. 90% of father's get every other weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/22 02:07 AM
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Ah yes - the typical TRO....happens all the time....#feminism #equality
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 11:19 PM
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Conclusion To me this ultimately proves why these issues come up in manosphere groups more often then male sexual assault. Because its being used as a weapon to try to push society and law to a more regressive state then before. MRAs are a Regressive Wolf in a Progressive Sheep clothing. They don't really care about victims of false allegations. Instead, it's a means to justify "Moving the burden of proof to a reasonable level" that makes it impossible for many legitimate victims to seek justice…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 01:09 AM
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False Accusations Are Rampant Enough That Only Segregation Can Solve It This covers harassment as well. Plenty of people have been using the fear of false rape accusations against men as proof that women should be "isolated". They also openly state to each other that they "won't hire more qualified women because I am too scared of a lawsuit". As stated before the case of someone falsely accusing someone else in the workplace environment is ultra rare, as most false rapes come from children or th…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 01:08 AM
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Why Do False Rape Accusations Happen? Many people who fear false rape accusations claim that women in the work force will make a false accusation against a man in a higher position, or a student who is going to fail an exam will accuse a professor of rape, or a vengeful ex or a woman who regretted sex later. But the reality of this is very surprising. According to a review done by the LAPD, the reasons for a false rape accusation are unwanted pregnancies or more commonly "Missed Curfews" by youn…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 01:08 AM
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Three years ago we had a post by a now-deleted user that we deemed so good we added it to our sidebar. Since we lost it when the author deleted their account, this is my attempt to recreate it while editing minor things for clarity, plus adding a section on race that was left as a comment on the original post. Fact Checking False Rape Accusations and Why We Shouldn't Fear a False Rape Epidemic. One of the main points of resistance to changes in how police and society handle rape, sexual assault …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 01:07 AM
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that's the beauty of it all. Your wife can make a rape allegation without a shred of evidence when convenient to expedite custody and matrimonial home for herself. Feminist paradise! Oh, and she doesn't have to go to police when it happens. She can wait 2-5 years, when you leave her ugly ass for cheating, to go to police and like magic, she gets what she wants! Feminist paradise I tell ya!
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 09:38 PM
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lots and lots of false allegations
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/22 01:36 AM
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I went through exactly the same thing as you. The lawyers are there to bleed you dry. You need to find a fixed rate lawyer. And you need to go SLOW, otherwise, even if you make it out, you will have a lot of debt.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 10:19 PM
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Standard daddy schedule that 90% of dad's get is every other weekend and a mid-week visitation.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 10:17 PM
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3 years battle. She first made a rape allegation against me where I got charged criminally, so spent $150k in criminal lawyer fees. The rest was for family court. She became a vile heinous beast who couldn't stand to see ME leave HER since she thought she was always better than me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 10:16 PM
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sure
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 10:14 PM
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100% Agreed with you. If OP can follow indifference/stoicism as a tool to get to where he needs to, all the power to him. Either method though requires daily effort.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 10:13 PM
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yea wish I could redo a lot of things but was too emotionally charged to think straight
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 01:57 AM
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I agree. I had both. This is how I deal with it. If you know a better way please share.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 01:31 AM
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He very clearly states that he has resentment, which means he can't move on. I gave him the ONE avenue he can use to move on, which is forgiveness.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 01:12 AM
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It depends how you look at it. I choose to look at it from the new testament perspective, which says: "If you seek forgiveness, you must first forgive those who wronged you". It also says, before you ask me (Him) of anything, forgive. Trust me, I sympathize with you that some things are unforgiveable. I actually think false allegations are worse than infidelity. But I have chosen to accept that I do not know better than the Father.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 01:10 AM
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you sound niave. Did you not read the comments on this thread? Of course there are always exceptions. No one is talking about that. Did you even read the post? Right up front, it says "most", and not all. Anyways, not going to argue with you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 12:26 AM
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Ummm- so? Don't do the custody battle? Let her suffer and watch the kid. You go for your money. Stick to every other weekend which is what you're guaranteed to get. Bro, I spent $500k in legal fees. Just get the standard 'daddy schedule' and get your alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 12:21 AM
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My gosh. I swear it feels like I could have written this post.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 12:20 AM
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You won't over the come resentment without being able to forgive. This was one of the toughest things I had to do. But it works. And take it from me. She accused me of rape. With held my children from me for 1 year. And to this day i'm paying her 50% of my net income. I'm still resentful from time to time but I remember to forgive. Don't give her room in your head. Forgive. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/22 12:12 AM
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As a dad who has spent nearly $500k in legal fees and now in debt - I would suggest you stop ruining your financial life. Always be there for your son, reach out to him, but you need to put an end to your own financial destruction.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 11:57 PM
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What happens is the resentment just builds up and before he knows it he'll be defending against false accusations in divorce court Yup. 100%. My false allegations made it to criminal court. She accused me of rape and I got charged. Spent 2.5 years of my life defending my innocence and not allowed to see my kids until it was done.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/22 06:02 PM
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This shit works...Until..... Until you have kids. That's when majority of men no longer have or can afford to have the IDGAF attitude. Because once you have kids, a divorce means up to 24 years of child support, alimony, and seeing your kids every other weekend (4 times a month, but if you're lucky, maybe 50% of the time). That's when the tables turn and the women threatens to leave. Don't believe me? Just check out the divorce_men subreddit and all the stories are the same. I'm also one of thos…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/22 06:01 PM
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Thanks. lots of more indepth posts at /r/theredpill
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/22 01:59 PM
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Your dad is lucky. I was accused of rape by my ex-wife. She had NO proof but I still was charged and spent 2.5 years defending my innocence. Why did she do it? I caught her cheating and left her ass.
/r/MensRights04/09/22 05:52 PM
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They ALL re-write history. I provided my ex with 2 homes, 3 vacations a year, private school for kids, 2 cars, and at the end of the day I got cheated on and was falsely accused of rape (criminally). Lost everything defending my innocence.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/22 02:38 PM
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Bro - take your time. Stay away from dating and focus on yourself and your kid. Workout daily. Focus on your careers. You are wise to be doubtful as soon as it gets serious. Another relationship is more headache than it's worth.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 06:07 PM
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you are on VERY dangerous territory. Divorce will mean you will pay child support and alimony, which can be up to 50% of your NET income. If you can't get her to work ASAP I suggest you leave your job for a year, divorce her. Or start your own business. You will still come ahead long-term.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 03:12 PM
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nothing like naivety and arrogance....I was like that....deadly combo. all the best
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 01:36 PM
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you sound like a nice yet naïve guy. lots to learn for you about what women say versus what they actually do. If I were you I would read Rollo's book and get educated on the red pill.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/22 01:23 AM
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great point - the chicks probably just want a no-strings attached sex, so it's perfect
/r/TheRedPill02/09/22 02:52 PM
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From reading your story, you have it A LOT better than most other dad's. You're just in the middle of it. Be patient, exercise daily, mediate/pray. You will be happy again.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 02:34 PM
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Welcome to the club. You know what you did wrong? You gave her everything. Just like most of us on here. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but the more you give them, the more bored they get. They crave drama. If you browse this sub, you will see 90% of the stories are just like yours. Good, hard working men being handed down divorce from their wives. My best advice to you, after fighting in court for 3 years and losing hundreds of thousands is this: The sooner you leave, the sooner you accept…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 01:53 PM
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Women can easily become the center of your life. Thinking about plates, frame, attraction, sexual strategy is addicting. That’s why it hurts, because people are obsessed about it. Very true! Such an easy distraction from your life goals. I'm trying to rebuild after a nasty divorce and I am trying to go MGTOW in order to stay focused on my goals. Interestingly, I am noticing more focus/concentration.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/22 12:58 AM
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The other left with a taxi driver. really? I've heard these stories but always thought it was a myth. Do taxi drivers actually have game and get laid? Wow...that's nuts....
/r/TheRedPill02/09/22 12:56 AM
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It's a math exercise. How much money do you have to spend to get what you want? Is it really that bad if you see your kid every other weekend? It will allow you time to focus on you and your life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/22 12:47 AM
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I think most of us had that idea run through our head. But, what I can say is that eventually your case will come to a close. It's a test of patience. I got through it by keeping myself busy at work, running everyday, going for long walks, and forgiving her (forgiving was THE most difficult thing I ever had to do). You will get through this. But you have to want it. Also, if you pull through and happy, this is THE best revenge you can serve her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 09:31 PM
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I made the exact same mistake you did and she reacted the same exact way that your ex did. She filed a rape allegation against me. Took me 2.5 years to resolve.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/22 01:09 AM
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Bro, Welcome to the club! Nearly 50% of the population are divorced. You didn't let this happen. It takes two to make a relationship work. It's Over. The more you try and repair or reconcile, the more disgusted she will become at you. Don't believe me? Try it yourself. Even if you reconcile, it is only a matter of time before it's over. You're still 'middle age'. Count your blessing. I know several men in their 60s who have been divorce raped. Move on as soon as possible and don't try and get ma…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 11:23 PM
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Hey man, Mine accused me of rape after I found out about her cheating. Spent 2.5 years fighting the false allegation in criminal court. I am now broke (financially) and need to pay a huge chunk of my income as support to her. Can you believe the system? This is a game of patience. Focus on your health.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 10:23 PM
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Typical story. I fought for 3 years and lost hundreds of thousands. My advice? Give her what she wants and move on with your lives. You will save money in the long-run. I know it's not a popular advice, but take it from someone who spent half a million dollars to only end up with every other weekend visitation.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 07:24 PM
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Therapy is a waste of time and money. Couples who do therapy actually have a higher divorce rate. End it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 10:45 PM
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but they won't marry you. anyone naïve enough to get married these days......well...they deserve the onslaught of divorce rape
/r/TheRedPill21/08/22 03:09 PM
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always bitching....if u don't like it don't do it but stop bitching
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:56 AM
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Love hearing success stories. I've been in litigation for 3 years and am hoping to see the light soon. Do you mind sharing how you doubled your salary? Right now with my CS payments, it's hard to live beyond paycheck to pay check.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 01:52 PM
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Remember these numbers: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 80% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of custody awarded to mothers (Custody, Access, Child Support cannot be put in prenups)
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/22 01:56 AM
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15 years of life savings down the drain my friend. 15 years of saving, driving 20 year old cars, wearing old clothes. 15 years.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 09:20 PM
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Bro. Advice from a man who was in court for 3 years and spent $500k in legal fees. (And now in debt). Give her everything she wants. And move on with your life. I lost everything fighting her. You are young. You will recover. Do not fight her on anything. Future advice: Never get married again. Divorce rate for 2nd marriages are higher. 80% of all divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/22 02:15 AM
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I’d say unless you both have the same amount of assets and same salary, marriage is too risky My ex-wife made double what I made, around $200k. She filed a false historical rape allegation against me (no proof whatsoever) to ensure I do not get 50/50 with my kids. She still makes more than me and I have to pay her child support, despite beating her false allegations in criminal court. But because the damage was done, she still got what she wanted. My point is even if she makes more, there is sti…
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 02:02 AM
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Dang. When will men wake up to these stories and refuse to get married? Why would people willingly sign up to this shit - unless of course, it's actively brushed under the rug and hidden from the public?
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 01:49 AM
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You're spot on with everything you say. HOWEVER, Please realize that your argument only applies to one gender: Men. Women are given ample excuses and forgiveness through the court system. They can literally do anything they want and still get awarded custody 90% of the time. It's MEN that have to deal with the adversity society throws our way. Society excuses women to no end.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 01:42 AM
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She divorced me about 6 years before I started peaking. Wow. Love hearing these stories. Please create a post on this subreddit when u have time detailing your success/story. Good motivation for us all!
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/22 01:38 AM
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95% of rape allegations are false. 95% of rape allegations are from ex-wives/ex-girlfriends seeking revenge. Or, they had consented but they changed their mind. I know MANY husbands who have been falsely accused of rape during their divorce proceedings in order for their wives to get better custody. It's very common.
/r/MensRights16/08/22 02:18 AM
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Just watch out. I refused to move out. She then filed false rape allegations against me and I got kicked out of my own house and spent 2.5 years fighting her false allegation. Be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 07:47 PM
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Lol at all the same stories..."my wife cheated too"...same here actually :-S But crazy how this trend is so prevalent in our society .....young men need this subreddit to educate themselves
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 02:07 AM
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Once a woman looks outside, it's over. It will never work. Just a matter of time. Do not engage with her or tell her your intentions. If you're leaving, just leave (after consulting with a lawyer).
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 02:06 AM
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But I do not know what to do on days where I've had very little sleep the previous night :-(. Should I still force myself to workout? Actually, I was working out 7x a week. During the days I was not working out, I was walking 5km/day. YES, you work-out even during the days you didn't sleep well. You exercise regardless of what happened. Eventually it will help you. DM me or msg me if u want to talk more
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/22 01:15 AM
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I wasn't religious but I suggest going to Church. It does help with meeting people. Also, the LAST thing you want to do is find a woman while you're feeling lonely. Why? Because you will be taken advantage and ignore many of her red flags just so you do not have to feel lonely. Until you can be comfortable in your skin by yourself, stay away from dating/women. Women, at your stage, will only bring more hardship in the long-run. All said and done, just know that you're not alone and many men are …
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 11:09 PM
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"What should I do"? You should divorce her ASAP. Women plan a divorce 1-2 year in advance. Make it as amicable as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 01:58 AM
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I work out daily. In fact I run 5km a day. It helps with mood, appetite, mental well being, and hormonal balance. You can check out /r/running for starters. NOT working out daily (or at least going for a 1 hour walk) is not natural.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 12:42 AM
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Read "The Manipulated Man" - there is a free PDF online. It will explain the status of western society and women well https://selfdefinition.org/psychology/Esther-Vilar-The-Manipulated-Man.pdf
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 01:30 AM
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Congrats and welcome to the club! You will be fine. Focus on yourself by working out DAILY and focus on your job. Lots of men on this sub have met their other partners and have succeeded financially. Just stay focused and remember that 2nd marriages have higher rates of divorce (60%) and most divorces are initiated by women (80%).
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 05:07 PM
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"if a separation of this magnitude is to happen it is because the marriage was in-fact the de facto life sentence of death." WOW. What an insightful comment. Never thought of it like that but looking back, I can 100% agree to this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/22 01:10 AM
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You know why you can't help it (not calling her)? Because you have a big ego. Your ego will destroy you. Humble yourself. Neither she nor the system owes you an explanation. You need to accept that. Nobody owes you anything. The sooner you realize and accept this, the sooner you can begin your road to recover. The longer you fight this, the harder you will make your own life.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 02:25 AM
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Respect. I'm trying to figure out what side business/hustle I can do to make something out of it. Hopefully I'll come up with something. Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/22 02:20 AM
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I used to frequent the original MGTOW subreddits and the motto really was: Chase Excellence, Not Women. Most of men there had girlfriends on the side, were well-off (due to hardwork) and vowed to never marry again because they got destroyed in divorce.
/r/MensRights09/08/22 03:33 PM
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Yes, many places child support doesn't end at 18 but after the child finishes college, which can go up until the age of 25.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 03:29 PM
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The OP probably got banned/mistreated like the rest of us from the original divorce subrreddit - which is why we're all here. That page is run by feminazi's and beta simps
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 02:01 PM
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Can you embark some wisdom for the rest of us? How did you earn 4x what you did? I just finished a nasty 3 year divorce battle, am stuck with child support payments for next 20 years, and in debt (from lawyer fees). Any advice/help would be appreciated.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 01:57 PM
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You lucky lucky son of a gun. Congrats! Sounds like you're in a great position. Enjoy!
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 01:55 PM
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Brother - same situation here. My ex actually accused me of rape and I was criminally charged. Spent 2.5 years defending myself against a woman who didn't have a shred of evidence but still had to prove my innocence (versus her proving my guilt). Same story as you - she also didn't let me see my kids. Had to see them supervised for 1 year, even though I was the primary caregiver before the false allegations. Now 3 years later, I'm seeing them like a human being should. What can I say? This is th…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 02:03 PM
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"I’m to old for this shit. I told her day one I did not want a serious relationship" You need to take responsibility for your actions. We can blame our ex's all we want, but at the end of the day, you made a decision to get into a relationship with an unstable woman. It's Ok - I'm not blaming you. But recognize what I said, learn from it, and never make the same mistake again. You can explore the MGTOW philosophy that got banned recently, which is "Chase Excellence, Not Women".
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/22 01:57 PM
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I agree. I think a lot of people are missing the entire point of your post. They either are offended because they don't hit the gym and are overweight or this post went entirely over their head.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/22 03:55 AM
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You're 100% spot on. It's the child support that will make your life difficult. I'm currently paying 50% of my NET income to my ex in the form of child support. I used to have 2 properties and go on vacation 3x a year. Now I live in a basement in debt. Do not have children in any place where 50/50 access/custody to your kids is not automatic. Otherwise child support will destroy you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 06:52 PM
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I was cheated on and when I dared confront her and then leave her she filed false allegations against me. Overnight, I went from being the primary caregiver of my kids to now being criminally charged and not able to see my kids as she now had all the power. Anyways, you need to understand this is a huge waiting game. Mine took 3 years and I'm only now finishing it with lots of debt. But what I did was I went running everyday, meditated, kept going to work, prayed (forgiveness). You will heal eve…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 02:22 PM
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I would take kids and go to your home country. Do not trust her. Why? Because she doesn't respect you and your feelings. It will be a matter of time before she leaves u. Be very careful.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 04:04 AM
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My ex was caught with forgery AND perjury. The Family court judge admitted it in her ruling. There was undeniable proof in family court. NOTHING happened. In fact, she got everything she wanted.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/22 02:14 AM
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Bro, I am so tired. I can't deal with this anymore. You need to start working out everyday bro. This is going to take years. Mine took 3 years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/22 01:10 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:35 PM
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that was my life savings I spent 15 years saving. I'm broke now and almost homeless.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 02:36 AM
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Forgive. I was accused of rape and I had to learn to forgive that c*nt to move on. Forgive brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 02:18 AM
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Please understand the relationship is over. Do NOT try to get back to her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:58 AM
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We all were bro. We all were.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:55 AM
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honestly bro, try forgiving her. It sounds pathetic and very hard to do, but if you can do it, I think it will help. I have to forgive my ex everyday to function but I think there is something to it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:47 AM
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Well, your story is NOT unique, so don't feel sorry for yourself. I was criminally charged with rape as a way for her to kick me out of the house. Took me 2.5 years to get out of that one. Didn't get to see my kids for 1 year as she didn't let them. 3 years on, I'm paying child support to her, I'm seeing my kids every other weekend. Struggle continues, not going to lie, but I just finished court like 3 months ago, so I'm hoping it gets better. Advice? She was done with you at least 1-2 years ago…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:43 AM
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Stories like yours, which is like 90% of other men, need to be taught in highschools just like homosexuality/gay pride is taught, so more boys are aware of what having kids and getting married is all about.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 09:23 PM
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Yes I was found not guilty but I still lost $200k, 1.5 years of my children's lives as she didn't let me see them, I'm now in debt, and scared. These things happen all the time yet the media hides what's happening
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 01:37 AM
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She created the fight to give a justification for the separation. She was already seeing the person BEFORE and cheating on you before you two went on vacation. Women plan divorces 1-2 years ahead of men. If you reconcile with her, it will be a matter of time before she leaves you again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 09:19 PM
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Post VAWA you need nothing but an accusation. There is no due process in rape cases. This. All a lying woman needs is say "i was raped". No rape kit, pictures, dates needed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 09:18 PM
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Can confirm. My ex-wife had accused her ex-boyfriend of raping her. She then accused me of rape (I was criminally charged) during our divorce proceedings. Spent 2.5 years and hundreds of thousands defending myself.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/22 03:17 PM
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Holy shit...that's some crazy shit! "Now I would never diss my own mama just to get recognition Take a second to listen 'fore you think this record is dissing But put yourself in my position; just try to envision Witnessing your mama popping prescription pills in the kitchen Bitching that someone's always going through her purse and shit's missing Going through public housing systems, victim of Münchausen's Syndrome My whole life I was made to believe I was sick when I wasn't 'Til I grew up, now…
/r/PussyPassDenied27/07/22 03:13 PM
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What were the original lyrics that she sued for?
/r/PussyPassDenied27/07/22 02:36 AM
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ooooh yes....is this what feminists call equality? Honestly, if this is how it's going to be, don't bother with getting more time, as it will cost u more AND you have to pay CS
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/22 04:55 PM
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"months'. lucky you. Mine was 2.5 years. Was treated worse than a dog.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 06:12 PM
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"We do hug and stuff. I have to say it been 2 good days, she shares her issues I listen, no getting involved to help, I sometimes offer my thoughts." ​ Here is your problem. Stop it. Then maybe you'd see some success. But I doubt you will.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/22 02:25 PM
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Taking dating advice from a woman means you're shooting yourself in the foot long-run. What women say versus how they behave in reality are diametrically opposite. You are setting yourself up for long-term failure. Take dating advice from men, especially men you want to emulate.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:01 PM
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Respect. my take home pay is 60% of yours, so less money per month for me. Currently trying to figure out ways to increase my income. None of us are winning. Not sure why men continue to let this system continue.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:30 PM
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Well, if you make $15k/month but paying $5300 you're still winning. You should mention % of income. I'm paying 50% of my net income in child support alone!
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:15 PM
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Yes, that was my reaction. Apparently her 'words' was evidence. Such a pathetic system. They don't dismiss them because they want to show that their tough on domestic violence. But they conveniently ignore the amount of women that are using the system to their benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:14 PM
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Here is my perspective as a dad. My kids were used as a weapon against me. She made so many false allegations to police and children's services that I was emotionally unable to see my kids for long periods. Many dads don't see their kids because it's too hard emotionally, especially with a high conflict ex-spouse. Also remember, the system is against dad's. The dad's are required by law to pay child support but have no legal right to see their kids. I demanded to see my kids 50/50 and the system…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:07 PM
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Hey bro, I'm in the same exact predicament. I'll be paying 50% of my NET income to my ex, so I'm looking for business or work opportunities. I'm also in debt and will have to pay that back over the next few years.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:29 AM
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$200k in legal fees just for criminal case.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:17 AM
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Bro - haven't you learned the first time? Why would you commit to anyone you do not want to commit to? Just enjoy your time, look into the MGTOW philosophy (chase excellence, not women), and live life. Stats for 2nd marriages getting divorced at 70% and 80% for 3rd marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:42 PM
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That's why they say stay away from women claiming their ex was abusive. My ex had accused her own ex of rape, only to then accuse me of rape at the end of our marriage. I spent 2.5 years defending the false allegation.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:40 PM
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Just make sure you're recording audio 24/7 and educate yourself on false abuse allegations and how they're used in family court to win custody, child support, and many other favorable outcomes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:39 PM
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Ummm....you should be going for FULL custody and giving her every other weekend. This is the reality for 90% of mothers who are stay at home. You can leverage her desire for 50/50 for a better negotiation.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:19 PM
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Son, this is the reality of most men. I would look into getting a vasectomy. These stories are happening everyday but the media never mentions it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 03:07 AM
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on your trip back you will wear that i got my balls completely drained smile, that will get you more female attention. This is so fucking ironic (but so true) it's not even funny. Kind of sad too.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 01:31 AM
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Send me a zoom invite with a few different times....thx
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 11:15 PM
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Sure, DM Me
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 11:14 PM
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Impressive! Appreciate the perspective. Is there something special about Tijuana? Like why there vs. LA or NYC? Also: "Shit you not, after that i can remember at least 3 times where i just plainly invited, normal i dont break a plate girls, to a hotel, and they just said yes, no fuss, no 10 dates before kiss, just a wanna go fuck and have fun attitude." Fuck - I need to do this versus spending hundreds of dollars on a date to only go for a kiss. Respect.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 11:13 PM
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50-50 custody of kids.... legal fees ran high because i had to defend against false abuse allegations too
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 09:56 PM
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Respect. At least you got something in the end. I didn't even get custody or a new wife/gf.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 09:55 PM
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You're right. I think there is a right way and a wrong way to do it. The right way is getting the laws changed and electing politicians that support mens rights and 50/50 shared parenting. The wrong way, as was with me, was fighting the court system, depleting all my life savings trying to get more access to my kids, and only ending up with every other weekend. This dude should definitely fight for 50/50 but at what cost? How is he going to support 3 kids living paycheck to paycheck living in a …
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 03:40 AM
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Brother. I've spent 3 years in litigation and $500k. My best advice after suffering for this long and losing everything: Giver her whatever she wants and move on with your life. You'll still end up ahead and happier in long-run. 50/50 time with your kids is not 'the hill to die on' as many father's say here. Humble yourself. Don't fight her, don't fight the system. I did and I got absolutely destroyed. You're still young and you can enjoy life. Realize that you're just 50% of all the other men w…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/22 02:41 AM
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Haha...women have been doing this for the past 60 years and now poor men are finally waking up...... Men need to be educated on how the system is inherently designed to fuck men over from their money, their kids, and their livelihood. Imagine paying 50% of your net income in child support and seeing your kids 3x a months....this is 90% of men out there
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/22 05:31 PM
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I didn't leave and she she accused me of rape to get me out of the house. I was kicked out and spent 3 years defending myself. Had I just left, I would've been far more ahead. This is one thing that people don't mention about "not leaving the house"
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 05:29 PM
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My advice, after years of soul searching is once a woman decides to leave, it's over. Even if you two reconcile, it will only be temporary. You want advice? I'm not sure you can handle it, but here it is: Understand that the relationship is permanently over. Be on friendly terms with her and LEAVE, even if she changes her mind. Once you actually decide to leave, she MAY want you back, but you have to be strong enough to stay away from her. I'm sorry bro - I know you won't do any of the above and…
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 01:39 PM
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Don't have kids bro. SO many men like myself have our children taken away from us from our ex-wives and we are then forced to pay child support of 50% of our NET income. Just go to the divorce_men subreddit and read all the stories.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/22 01:34 PM
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Been there done that bro. We're all on rollercoaster rides here. However, my advice would be to work out every. single. day. This will limit the high high's and the low low's. The key is consistency. No one can make you happy unless you first make yourself happy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 01:30 PM
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it's not the women. It's the system that allows ANY woman to destroy your life, including making a false rape allegation (which happened to me).
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/22 02:12 AM
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You'll be fine. You know how I know? You haven't been falsely accused of rape and criminally charged which my ex did. Spent 3 years just fighting the false allegations. I'm fucking broke but at least it's over and I can move on with my life.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/22 03:04 AM
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Deep down, we all want love and that's good and healthy. It means you had a good childhood. However, I encourage you to go read through some of the divorce_men subreddits and see how 15-25 year marriages are ended because the wife decides to cheat. I myself got cheated on my by ex-wife and then falsely accused of rape by her as a tactic on her part to win child custody. Marriage, but especially kids, in this day is a dangerous game for successful men.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/22 02:40 PM
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This will only help when it comes to alimony but NOT child support, custody, and access, which is again, what 99% of people fight over.
/r/MensRights10/07/22 01:50 PM
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post-nups are even LESS valid than pre-nups. It's almost a waste of energy/time. You can't beat the system.
/r/MensRights09/07/22 10:39 PM
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Good luck sir! Thanks for sharing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/22 02:36 PM
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I like how literally NO media talks about this. It's literally happening ALL over the place, yet you wouldn't know about it. Male suffering is something society does not care about.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/22 12:24 AM
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thanks...already got the referral from the doc a month ago but too scared to proceed...but yea think need to revisit it
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/22 01:36 AM
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This was a great reminder. Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:43 PM
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Ok bro. You're right. Keep loving your ex.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:42 PM
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Be really honest. I also put on my profile all the red flags: divorced, father, not looking for partner, etc. at the bottom of the profile. This is valuable advice. I think I've been hiding it for the most part and I should be honest. Have you gotten a vasectomy? Any side-effects?
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:41 PM
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Worse yet I think I still love my ex wife I would go to an escort just to get over this. This is unhealthy bro. Do whatever you can to get over it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:14 PM
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I have lots of friends with benefits I have real connections with. How many? How did you find them? How do you communicate to them you want to be FWB?
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:13 PM
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every single relationship I have been in has been a net drain on my resources. I am 100% not in a better place financially than I'd have been without having been in a relationship. Wow. So true! My divorce has cost me $500k so far and it doesn't seem to end.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/22 11:11 PM
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They do not like to prosecute women making allegations. Simple as that. Logic being that they don't want to dissuade real victims coming forward. Yet you have tons of women like Amber Heard who are using the legal system to extract revenge on their husbands and maximize child support payments. Also most men don't have money like Johnny Depp to sue. You need money to go to court.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/22 02:45 AM
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False accusations. My wife claimed I raped her, had ZERO proof and I was put in jail. I got out the next day but it took me 3 years to go through the entire court process to prove my innocence. She walks away scott free and I have to pay her child support.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/22 03:20 AM
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Can confirm. This very thing happened to me but I was fortunate enough to have my parents nearby to pull me out of the trouble she put me through. I know lots of men in the same exact situation described in this post. Very sad! And once you see all this, it makes sense why they're shutting down subreddits that talks about women's nature. Because it's happening all the time.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/22 03:18 AM
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False allegations will ruin you. My wife made a false rape allegation. You need to tread VERY CAREFULLY. I suggest you start looking for a criminal lawyer in the case one of the family members goes to police. You need to assume that you're being recorded at all times. Start documenting daily what's going on.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 02:52 PM
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They get so beaten up mentally they can't think straight. And they're desperate to see their kids so they'll do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/22 01:44 AM
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lucky...mine was smart and fucked me over royally
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/22 01:44 AM
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These stories need to be shown as business cases to every male in high school
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 10:19 PM
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typical whore of a cheating wife story. All these story on these forums are eerily similar.....
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/22 02:09 AM
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if she leaves you will be so fucked in terms of child support payments. you need to REDUCE your hours IMMEDIATELY otherwise courts will force you to pay child support based on your current income/hours.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 02:57 AM
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Child support covers many things like bathing suits, etc. A judge wouldn't get you to pay for those other expenses. I've looked into it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 09:12 PM
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Dude women like this are the absolute worst. I disagree. Mine decided to falsely accuse me of rape. Got charged criminally despite no proof. False rape accusers (like Amber Heard) are the scum of the earth.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 09:11 PM
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"especially after we had 9 years of a great life together." Seems to be the general trend. Give them everything and they want to burn it to the ground because they get bored and crave drama. Don't feel bad. This is exactly what she wanted. We went on 3 vacations a year, had multiple properties and she decided to burn it all to the ground because she wanted to cheat.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/22 09:09 PM
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She was messing around with her boss Same! Hahaha...all our stories are similar....they need to teach boys about female hypergamy/behavior in high school....we're all being scammed here
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/22 01:26 AM
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I've spent 3 years on these forums as my ex put me through the criminal courts and family courts. Absolute Hell. I am so happy feminists haven't yet shut down this forum, as it really helps desperate men see their not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 02:11 AM
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Yes, I noticed she kept making fun of his sexuality. Typical feminist. Never taking accountability but always blaming others for their problems.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 02:08 AM
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after $350k, yes. see them now regularly but not enough as 50/50
/r/MensRights16/06/22 02:06 AM
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You women have literally shut down all of men's forums on reddit and the media, and now you want men's advice? Gosh forbid if a man dares speak his mind in any forum without being called a bigot, incel, sexist, racist. Aren't all men trash? Or rapists? I guess not when you need some real advice, but who knows, you'll probably report half the commenters here because you don't like to hear what they have to say.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 02:41 AM
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Mam, with all due respect, 95% of men do not like their wives/gf to gain weight. How much is 'a little' exactly? Just lose weight and see if he changes. Best way to lose way is /r/intermittentfasting
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 02:39 AM
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These horror stories are so common. My own wife falsely accused me of rape so that I could get kicked out of the house and not be able to see my kids. Why is the media so silent on these issues? Every day you hear horror stories from men but you wouldn't know about it from the media.
/r/MensRights15/06/22 02:02 AM
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hang tight brother. All the best to you!
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/22 01:42 AM
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Wow. Very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story. I myself am trying to come to terms with paying 50-60% of my income to my ex in the form of child support. But you raise a good point about paying the money but having the freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 02:50 AM
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when he's ready to talk. No my man. You need to be bigger person here and humble yourself. He didn't ask to be put into this difficult situation with high conflict parents. The way you're going, you should realize and accept that you can alienate your son in the long-term. If you're ok with that, then that's OK I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 02:43 AM
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such liars. Professional liars. Especially the ones claiming 'abuse'.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 01:41 AM
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I don't think I'm on the hook for child support. Most places, a step-parent is liable for child support regardless of they legally adopted the step kids or not. Check your laws. It doesn't hurt to pay a lawyer their hourly rate or just google to find out. In anyway event, we're here to tell you to walk with your eyes wide open. Arguing with us won't get u there. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 01:41 AM
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Buddy, you better get out before she pulls the rug from under you. When a woman loses respect for her man, as is evident based on your writing, it is only a matter of time before she leaves him. I suggest you smarten up, talk to a lawyer. You're potentially on the hook for child support and alimony. Lastly, read some redpill knowledge...it would help you see red flags better.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/22 10:49 PM
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Well, at least a sex worker is less likely to file a false rape allegation like my ex did when we got into a custody dispute. Yup. My own wife. She had no proof but I still got charged and had to go to trial.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/22 04:15 PM
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It's scary that these false restraining orders and/or abuse allegations do not get shared more. These tactics are very dangerous and a lot of men do get falsely convicted and have to deal with the rest of their lives with a criminal record.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/22 04:14 PM
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You're ONLY 30. Don't rush anything. You can still hook up with 25 year olds when you're 50. Take your sweet time and focus on yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 10:38 PM
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Good point. I've fought for 3 years, faced criminal charges, only to end up with every other weekend. I'm at a point where if she makes one more false allegation, I may just say fuk it and not be in their lives anymore. At one point you have to cut it off and live your life. I can't afford to keep paying lawyers AND child support while neglecting my life.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 06:39 PM
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I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and, behold, all is vanity and vexation of spirit. I was reading this today in Ecclesstians or something...(in the Bible)
/r/TheRedPill10/06/22 02:27 AM
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Here are the stats for the ones that get married: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 80% of all divorces initiated by women. 90% of custody given to mother's. I lost all my life savings during my divorce because my ex wasn't letting me see my kids. She also made horrible false abuse allegations that I had to fight in criminal court. These are the things you normally don't hear but happen all the time to men during divorce.
/r/TheRedPill10/06/22 02:25 AM
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A good advice I heard is you don't break habits, you replace them. So see if you can replace your habit with daily running or lifting, meditation, yoga, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/22 12:29 AM
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Congrats. Sounds like you got off the hook easier than most. Go enjoy and remember that divorce rates for 2nd marriages are 60%.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/22 03:38 PM
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Honestly, let her do what she wants and you keep the peace. Let her think she's winning. Don't cause drama. Also, carry a recorder with you to prevent false allegations.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 03:53 PM
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Join the club brother. Read my post history. I was also falsely accused. 3 Years later, life savings destroyed, and in-debt, this is what I can advise you on: Do NOT fight for your kids right now or spend any money on lawyers. Your focus needs to be on resolving the criminal case. I was stupid enough and family lawyers took advantage of my emotional state and took me to court while my criminal situation wasn't resolved. You need to find yourself a good, but cheap lawyer who can do your case for …
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 10:23 PM
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Read this; https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/22 05:48 PM
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Even if we have this all in writing, agreed and signed Yes. A judge will overturn that agreement and make you pay all the child support arrears. Make sure you consult a lawyer before you make any decision. I sincerely hope you listen to us otherwise you will regret this move.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 10:26 PM
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I regret is that the bitch didn't give me a threesome with another chick before she filed. Stank bitch LOOOOOL
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 09:44 PM
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This is why they say, "Islam is right about women". We in the west have made a huge mistake in giving women the same equal platform as men. The reality is women are governed by emotions rather than logic. And we all know that emotions always end up ruining things.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 09:43 PM
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My man - I'd be very careful. I'd be setting up recording devices everywhere. What got me was that she made lots of 'historical' abuse allegations. So there was nothing. no evidence, or pictures, that could be used to verify anything. Yes I still got charged and spent hundreds of thousands defending myself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 09:40 PM
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filed for divorce and accused me of being abusive for the entire 14.5 year marriage and 17 year relationship. She turned into hell like a light switch being turned on Wow. Literally almost 90% of all women do this going through divorce. Mine did exactly the same thing, accusing me of abuse. I had never even heard that word until the police knocked on my door and took me away in handcuffs. It was a traumatizing experience (and still is)
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 09:39 PM
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That's when you find out that nobody but other fathers going through it really care. And they're too tired, abused, broke, and indentured to really offer any help. Men/fathers that haven't been through it and never think it could happen to them have no idea what happens....until it's too late. This. SO much this. No one else can understand your pain and anguish except another Father who has gone through what you've gone through. And yet, you constantly see the media and sites like reddit shuttin…
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/22 09:34 PM
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Yes, my thoughts exactly. They will deport you and you will be arrested for child support arrears.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 04:11 PM
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After fighting for 3 years and losing everything I had to see my kids because my ex was using the kids to hurt me, I think you're making a wise decision. Protect yourself first. Having said that though, most schedules are 'step-up' schedules. So don't expect to get 50/50 right off the bat. No Judge will give you that.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 03:24 PM
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I feel bad for the amount of men who do not set up prenuptial, trusts, and keep their Financials separate All of this goes out the door with false allegations. Majority of the fights are around Child Support and access to the kids, which none of the above cover.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 03:12 PM
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​ Mark 10:12 "And if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery" Technically it says she commits adultery, which is a sin. So, it's implying it's a bad decision to make to marry a divorced man (because she's committing adultery)
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/22 01:27 AM
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"We met after her divorce". First mistake. There is a reason Bible warns against divorced women. Yet society keeps trying hard to make divorced moms/women heroes of our society. Yet in reality, they are cancer (90% of incarcerated men and teen pregnancies are from single mom households). Secondly, she clearly doesn't respect you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/22 11:45 PM
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Nobody wanted to hear about the down years. This. As a man in family court, this is true.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/22 10:15 PM
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When I caught my wife cheating with her co-worker, I left and asked for 50/50 with my kids. Within 2 months, she accused me of a historical false rape allegation, without any proof. That one false allegation was all it took for me to lose my kids, pay her child support money, and go through the courts for 3 years proving my innocence. False rape accusations ARE real and they happen. 90% of rape accusations are actually made by wives or girlfriends for revenge.
/r/MensRights31/05/22 10:55 PM
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$340k in legal fees over 3 years...false DV allegations
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 07:26 PM
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It would be better if you had 50% custody My ex pulled every stunt in the book (including false DV allegations) to ensure I don't get 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 05:21 PM
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We have two properties worth equal value. So she's keeping one and I am keeping another. However, since she has custody, I am the one that needs to pay child support to her
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:58 PM
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What should I do? I can keep the property and pay the extra child support in hopes the property value increases. Or I can sell it and cash out. Thoughts?
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:50 PM
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Pay an Escort.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:48 PM
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Imitation adults Gold.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:47 PM
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Lol...I got banned too....I think most guys here were banned from there :-P Snowflakes can't handle any different views then their own.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:46 PM
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Suggestion: Never bring gifts/flowers on a first date. These are actually a turn off for women (despite their suggestion otherwise) as they indicate neediness.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/22 05:43 PM
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What you're experiencing is 100% natural. It's part of the grieving process. What I found work best for me is I went running everyday regardless of how shit I felt. Even if I barely could run more than 5 minutes, I still made sure I went. I suggest you start reading some redpill material. https://www.forums.red/p/theredpill/4918/i_have_been_practicing_stoicism_for_3_years_now_and_the_qual
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/22 01:27 PM
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How did you get there and how long did it take you to get there?
/r/TheRedPill25/05/22 02:32 AM
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Quit giving up on becoming sober or quit the drugs?
/r/TheRedPill25/05/22 02:32 AM
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There is a reason why women shame men who date younger women. It's because older women want to keep the supply of men, especially wealthy men, to themselves. Since they can't do so naturally given their diminishing looks, they attack men by calling them predators to shame them from dating younger women.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/22 02:16 AM
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Because the government incentivizes them to get divorced (child support, alimony, government tax credits). So for them, to get divorced is financially more rewarding.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 09:59 PM
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If you were reading your own post, what would your own advice be?
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 02:35 PM
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Same thing happened to me.
/r/MensRights23/05/22 02:30 PM
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Got it - thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/22 02:25 AM
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Tell them (the feminists) that it is harming our children when losing a father, including severe mental illness and suicides Ah, we told them. They don't care. They want their money.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 10:05 PM
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Judges/Lawyers do not want shared parenting because it means less fighting between parents and less money being used on the system. The lobbies strongly against shared parenting are lawyers followed by women's rights groups.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 10:04 PM
1

But what field/language? Thank you for your response.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 09:46 PM
1

Can you elaborate what IT field? I'm not in IT but like your proposal. What should I study/start.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 01:48 AM
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Put yourself first. Your financial, mental, physical health is #1. If you do well, so will he.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 01:48 AM
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oh ya? I thought that was like after 6 weeks or something...not an outright ban
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/22 01:47 AM
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Get an abortion. Pay her $50k-$100k to get one. You don't want this kid raised by this woman.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/22 09:29 PM
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Which could end up leading to abuse allegations, TRO's, and a nightmare of bullshit to deal with This happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 07:31 PM
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So I was falsely accused of rape and was criminally charged once I found out she was cheating on me and wanted to divorce. That one false accusation was enough for me to go from being a primary parent to not seeing my children for a year. I've been fighting for 3 years and it may seem like I may get every other weekend. How did I forgive? I couldn't until a friend said, "If it was easy, everyone would be doing it". I also realized the reason I wasn't able to forgive was my ego. "She doesn't dese…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 01:59 AM
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These women divorce raping their husbands are like hitting the jackpot. I really hope more men wake the fuck up and see what marriage (divorce) has become about: Robbing you for everything you've got.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 02:26 AM
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i've been dealing with false rape charges for 2.5 years just so she could prevent me seeing kids. I'm in my 3rd year and things are looking better. I'm sure yours will too soon. Hang in there - we're all in this together.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 02:45 AM
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Single mom's know that 'child support' is in reality 'mommy support'. that's why they get triggered when someone corrects them. All of reddit, except this forum, the red pill, is all mainly run by single moms.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 02:42 AM
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Guys, don't respond to posts by women. They literally shit over men in every other subreddit calling men "Incels" for wanting to talk about MGTOW or mensrights or anything where we try to give a men's perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 12:12 AM
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Alright, if you do get married, remember the following: 50% of all marriages end in divorce, 80% of divorces are initiated by women. Now, if your partner has had only 1 previous sexual relationship or is a virgin, the chances of it succeeding are higher than if she's had more than 1 relationship. Other than that, does she respect you as a man? Does she let you lead or is she competing with you in making decisions?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 12:09 AM
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Everyone here says "it's the hill to die on". Well, as someone who wasted $240k and ended up getting falsely accused due to a vengeful ex who did not want me to have 50/50, I would say IT IS NOT THE HILL TO DIE ON. Get your every other weekend schedule, save your money for yourself and your kids. When the kids are teenagers they get to decide where they live anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 12:05 AM
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1 Year? $30k? Man you're lucky. 3 years and $270k so far and not over yet.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/22 02:31 AM
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For me, I find this 'intensity' tends to come when I lift. I guess lifting --> testosterone --> confidence.
/r/TheRedPill09/05/22 01:33 AM
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Others will not make you happy. If you're trying to fill the void externally, it will fail. Find it internally through meditation, prayer, and exercise. It's hard work but worth it. What you're experiencing is very normal. It will take time. Accept the feeling and don't beat yourself up for it. I've been 3 years out and only now I'm starting to somewhat get better. THREE years.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 02:47 AM
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Well, as for me, I was criminally charged with rape of my ex-wife after I caught her cheating with her co-worker. I spent my entire life savings proving my innocence even though she did not have a single ounce of evidence. She didn't let me see my kids for an entire year even though she was never around and I was the kids primary parent.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 06:54 PM
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Crazy how fast women move on Because they've already moved on 1-2 years prior to asking for divorce, of which 80% of divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/22 06:52 PM
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You're talking only about 10-20% of men that left. 90% of divorces are initiated by women.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/22 01:27 PM
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I've also been falsely accused criminally. Is there anything you can do in regards to the new boyfriend? Honestly, I would say to befriend him. Become buddies with him. Gain his trust. Invite him for a beer. I know this is difficult, and I'm not in this shoe, but I think you can get more out of it this way.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:19 PM
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A woman must feel that you can leave her at any moment, that you are prepared to walk away from her, in order to keep her on her best behaviour. This. This never used to be a problem when child support/alimony weren't enforced by the courts/police/jail. But now, women know even if YOU DO LEAVE, they can have it all, even more. This is the reason why they're banning MGTOW / TheRedPill discussions. They do not want more men to find out the truth because their entire society collapses.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 11:14 PM
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You're absolutely right but a lot of men are too weak to pull the pin. Instead they try to "fix" their problems by cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 01:52 AM
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What is a man supposed to do when he was in a dead-bedroom for years? How long can a healthy young man go without sex? I agree infidelity is wrong but so is a wife denying sex.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 11:05 PM
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Bro - once a woman gets the authorities involved it's over. Even if you reconcile it will only be a matter of time before it's over. Understand and internalize the above statement and you will know what to do. Speaking from experience.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 01:34 AM
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Men cheat because their needs aren't met at the home. How hard is it for a woman to stay fit and provide a warm meal every day? If more women did this, no man would cheat. The problem is women these days let themselves go, gain +100lbs, are smelly, and tell you "cook your own god-damned food". What man wouldn't cheat under these circumstances?
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 01:31 AM
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please go back and read the posts here from 2012-2016 how do u do this? Can only sort by "TOP" by year or "all time"
/r/TheRedPill03/05/22 03:11 AM
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Record these interactions via audio recording. Send an email to her/her lawyer that bad-mouthing is happening and is against "best interest of the child". Threaten to bring a contempt motion if it continues. If it happens long enough, you can make a case for sole custody. Also: Can involve Children's Services to start building a paper trail.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/22 07:28 PM
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Can confirm. It has happened to me. Lost my $1 million dollar house and kids. And paying her support.
/r/MensRights02/05/22 01:37 AM
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Real story: She does not even need to bruise herself up. My own ex-wife falsely accused me of rape and abuse. How did she succeed? She said it happened "months ago" and "years ago". No evidence, no pictures, nothing. I still got charged. I ended up hiring a lawyer to defend myself. I was found innocent but she still won. She got the kids, the house, and is getting paid $2500/month in support from me. It's a "win-win" for any woman making false allegations. Oh, and she doesn't let me see my kids …
/r/MensRights02/05/22 01:35 AM
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This happens EVERY DAY to MILLIONS of men yet the media is completely silent about it. As long as the single moms getting paid, no one cares about men.
/r/MensRights02/05/22 01:29 AM
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Ya'll go on over and look at /r/divorce_men subreddit and read the horror stories....this post is very accurate
/r/MensRights01/05/22 06:20 PM
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There is a (very) high correlation between couples going to couple's counselling and divorce. I, as well as other men, have been one of them. You've been warned. It sounds like you're on the path to getting divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/22 03:55 PM
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I filtered out all single moms. Stay away from them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/22 02:14 PM
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Also, YouTube Patrice O'neal
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/22 01:30 PM
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you should read /r/theredpill side-bar...tons of material there to understand what to look for.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/22 01:30 PM
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After my divorce I went on a dating app. The amount of 39 year old women who were single who were looking to "get married and have kids" was shocking. Like what have you been doing the past 19 years of your life? Oh right, eating up the feminist garbage. Now I just focus on working out, my job, and friends and hobbies. And if i meet a girl here or there, great. If not, I won't stress about it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 01:11 AM
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Same here! My ex-wife all the sudden started becoming friends with a single mom and within a year she falsely accused of rape during our custody dispute. I hope Karma catches up to these scammers.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 09:44 PM
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28? Damn - respect!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 03:06 AM
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I was falsely accused of rape and had to get a criminal lawyer. Forgiveness is a start. Also, work-out everyday. Literally.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 03:05 AM
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Omfg....poor simp....can you get him to visit this sub to read some of the stories?
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 01:54 AM
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Sounds like you JUST described my story. I swear, they learn this stuff in high school or someone teaches them what to do. While us SIMP men are left walking around clueless.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 01:54 AM
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My ex was much more crafty and was often doing unethical to probably illegal things in order to get more $$$ from everyone around. It was like she was a completely different woman after 2 weeks of marriage. I thought that I would eventually see the characteristics of woman I dated, but nope… She pretended to be someone else until she was sure I wouldn’t annul, then she gaslighted me every time I mentioned the radical changes. It started with the excuse that birth control makes woman a bitch, the…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/22 01:51 AM
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Here is one: Wives (like my ex) who accuse their husbands falsely of rape to get the upper hand in custody negotiations. Had to hire a criminal lawyer and lose my entire life savings. I've met countless husbands being accused of rape by their own wives. #feminism
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 10:40 PM
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Bring an urgent motion for custody and access and supervised access to her
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 11:01 PM
1

Woke ism is a byproduct of feminism. Who do you think the majority of people getting triggered are? Karen's. And feminists.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/22 01:35 AM
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You're trying too hard. Focus on working out, hobbies, your career. Shift the focus away from women to yourself. Then it will happen naturally.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 02:42 PM
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Feminism is the biggest cancer in the western world. Prove me wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 11:37 PM
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She will do the same and will do everything in her power to get what she wants. Even if it means false accusations, lying in court or trying to alienate your children against you. Hopefully it won't come to this, but be prepared. Set up hidden cameras to prove your innocence, do not raise your voice when she tries to provoke you (and she will) to get a barring/protection order against you and read about divorce stories here This. Be very careful of false alllegations.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 03:01 PM
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Well, you're just part of the statistics that over 50% of men get divorced! And 80% of these divorces are initiated by women. So, you're not special! You WILL eventually come out of this happier. The sooner you accept it, and the more amicable you can be with her in the divorce process, the happier you'll be faster. You need to do the following EVERYDAY to heal: Work-out. I personally run 5x a day. Focus on YOU. Your health and job. Follow the advice MEN are giving you. Also some future advice: …
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/22 02:59 PM
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80-90% of divorces are initiated by women. Hence, majority of these responses who initiated the divorce don't constitute the majority of men.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/22 10:39 PM
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I still respect your ex that she at least warned you what she was going to do. My ex didn't. I also refused to leave the house and she then decided to walk to the police station while I was at work and make a series of allegations. I WISH she had given me a heads up so I would have known but she didn't.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 06:28 PM
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"She Wants it, I don't" This is all I had to read to know your relationship is over. Any reconciliation will be temporary and the inevitable divorce will be MUCH worse and adversarial if you do not leave ASAP. Why? She will build up resentment in her for having to continue to live with you and it will all come out way worse in the end. What do you do? Leave now. Mentally get in shape and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 04:43 PM
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"She would never make false allegations to prevent me from seeing my kids". She definitely will make all sorts of false abuse allegations. This is the MOST under-talked about fact amongst men, possibly due to shame of even being falsely accused. I personally was accused of rape (against the ex-wife) and had to hire a criminal lawyer to show what a liar she is. But, during the 3 years while my case resolved, she was still able to keep the kids away from me because Family courts want to play it sa…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/22 04:39 PM
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Great advice. Unfortunately, a lot of men including myself end up learning the very hard way. More men need to realize that the odds are heavily stacked against them.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/22 11:41 PM
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In fact, try to make time to take them each out individually too so each understands that they are special and uniqu This.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 06:40 PM
3

You're making a big mistake partnering up with a single mom. A lot of men have warned against this type of partnership.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/22 06:39 PM
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From the video comments: "Learn from other men's experiences. I met my ex in the mid 1980's, we dated for two years and then got married in 1987. I worked hard beginning in my teens and I already had the house and furnishings and car and everything by 25, she came into the marriage with just her clothes. The same night that we came home from the church she changed, into her real self I assume, when I confronted her about that in the first week of the marriage, her reply was, and I quote: "I acte…
/r/MensRights16/04/22 06:38 PM
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Why aren’t there any men rights activist writing articles or protesting (peacefully) about mandatory military service? They are not given the opportunity to write. Men's rights activists are routinely shut down and ostracized from universities to the media to about anything else. And it's usually done by the powerful feminists lobbies.
/r/MensRights15/04/22 02:11 PM
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Make sure you get what you're entitled to, including support and equity in the house. It's you're right and you deserve it. Be prepared for false abuse allegations. It will be your word against hers. But if you're smart, you will get ahead of it such as either filing for divorce first or recording everything. Stay away from single mom's. They are horrible partners. Hope you learned your lesson and don't repeat the same mistake. Many men have warned against them in these forums.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/22 01:46 PM
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67% of first marriages end in divorce in a 40 years span These numbers need to be drilled into every man's brain from high school onwards. I'd love to see women's reaction when they realize nobody wants to support their lifestyles. Right now so many irresponsible single mom's are being supported by hard working men who have no access or rights to their child.
/r/MensRights14/04/22 09:53 PM
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lmao!
/r/MensRights14/04/22 09:52 PM
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Oh man, here are some stats: 60% divorce rate for 2nd marriages. 80% of women initiate divorce/separation. Worst of all, you're going to marry a single mom. You are potentially on the hook for child support for her kid as well if you two divorce. Single Mom's are NOT good partners. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 10:19 PM
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She only wants the son so she doesn't have to pay you child support. She doesn't give a shit about him.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/22 12:52 AM
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same.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/22 10:26 PM
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Weirdly though women tend not to generalize in that way on this sub.” Maybe because they take out the man to the cleaners for everything they've got? So they're not bitter because they literally get everything and more while the husband is out on the streets?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 08:11 PM
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usbands point of view. Guess that’s a big no-no. That group only comments should be yea can't see it too
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 08:10 PM
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We’ve all been banned from r/ divorce , that’s how we ended up here So true! Lol that's how I found here
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 08:09 PM
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Yup - any forum focused on men's issues gets banned or severely restricted in speech. Why? They want to keep the gravy train going and don't want men to find out about the true horrors of family court and women's nature that all major religions warned us about. This is one of the last places on the internet where men can speak freely. Wouldn't be surprised if it gets banned in a while.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 08:08 PM
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This forum has helped me a lot. And feminists are trying to hard to shut down these forums. Please spread the word to your friends as it may help them too.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/22 01:17 AM
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"It is through trauma that the we die in the fire, but it is through facing our trauma that we rise from the ashes" As soon as I read this quote, I thought of this quote from the Bible: "Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life." As a man who has been divorce raped, I agr…
/r/TheRedPill11/04/22 01:16 AM
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I mean not sure about ur situation but u can pick up hobbies and just avoid her
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 01:04 AM
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There is a reason why all major religions didn't allow women have any rights...because they knew they would ruin society
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/04/22 02:02 AM
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Welcome to the Western World! Does not matter what your wife says or do, she will get away with it because she has a vagina! What should you do? Talk to a lawyer, do not tell her, and plan to leave as amicably as possible. Sounds simple, but if you can pull it off you'll be more successful than 90% of men who were divorce raped.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/22 06:39 PM
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Don't listen to these people saying not to leave the house. What a lot of these folks don't mention also is that if you don't leave the house, she can make a false allegation that you raped her or beat her "6 months ago". It's happened to me and a lot of other men on here.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 07:12 PM
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Typical female behavior during divorce. #Feminism. When will men wake the f*** up to these shenanigans? How many more millions of children will go without a father and men who lose their livelihood? All men need to talk about this and raise awareness of the pandemic where they get fleeced!
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 01:01 AM
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(only women can be victims). I've noticed this theme throughout the entirety of reddit. As soon as a man runs into issues, it's "suck it up" or "forgive your wife for cheating on you".
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 02:28 AM
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We’ve all been banned that’s how we got here - welcom LMAO - this is SO true!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 02:26 AM
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I got banned from commenting there a couple years ago for a similar reason. I stopped visiting that subreddit and only exclusively comment here now.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 12:36 AM
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She has moved on 1-2 years ago, you are just noticing now. You need to be very careful. Around separation, lots of allegations of abuse will be made to tip the favor in family court. You need to be audio recording every interaction as one police call will get you kicked out of the house. Be smart and strategic. You should've had a lawyer yesterday.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 07:01 PM
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$300k in legal fees, dozens of false accusations, and living in poverty after losing everything I worked hard over 2 decades, I can say this is accurate.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/22 05:03 PM
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She will text him later in the week asking him to come over for Netflix and Chill. Unfortunately, a lot of them like to be humiliated as it's a sign of dominance. This is also why they routinely turn down 'nice guys' who open doors and buy them flowers as it's a sign of being beta.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/04/22 05:02 PM
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100% agree. I've been in the courts for over 3 years and have not dated given the high conflict nature of the custody battle. I cannot imagine how dealing with a new girlfriend would impact my job/case. As a man, there is no rush to jump back into the dating world. Yes, it gets lonely, but you will save yourself lots of heartache.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 01:05 PM
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It's called the light switch effect. Really good read on it on theredpill subreddit on the sidebar...explains everything...
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 10:59 PM
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Started the gym again last month, Needs to be daily. Not 2 or 3x a week.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 10:58 PM
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If you don't want to go the meds route, you need to be highly disciplined, which, being depressed, I'm not sure if you're able to. But if you are: Daily 5km run. Daily meditation. Daily Journaling Daily praying Daily walks. I literally do and did all of the above ....hang in there bud....
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 02:55 AM
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100% can confirm this. However, this is one of those 'easier said than done' things. Great in theory, but only a few will be able to put it in practice.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 05:17 PM
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Congrats. We've all going through exact same thing. Be vigilant.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 12:58 AM
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It's by design. There is a reason they're banning MGTOW or THEREDPILL where older men are warning about the dangers of divorce and false accusations to one's financial freedom. I kid you not, these men's forums are next.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 01:38 PM
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From a mathematical perspective, incorporate the following probabilities into your formula: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. 80% of all divorces initiated by the woman. 90% of custody is given to mothers. Divorce means losing access to your children, facing false abuse allegations, and paying your savings to a lawyer for a chance of surviving. Source: Me and thousands of other men on this forum.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/22 01:37 AM
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"Why do so many people sign up for this crap if the risk is very high" Because too many people don't know the risks or they think they're special.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 09:59 PM
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Well to me, it was a pretty clear misunderstanding Because you're a naive individual. If you don't start listening to what we're saying here, you will end up where you were 3 years ago. You need to look into the red pill
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 09:57 PM
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If someone is willing to dump you over a misunderstanding, that's a huge redflag. So you avoided a trainwreck. Thank your lucky stars. There is a reason why a lot of men are preaching MGTOW (before it got banned) which is about self-fulfillment. You cannot become happy if you're relying on someone else. You first need to find it within. I've also been divorced 3 years and I'm taking my sweet time. There is no rush.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 09:55 PM
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Here's the thing, every single mom with kids in my age range all tell the same stories of trauma and abuse. Yup! And they're all liars! In family court, if you make a abuse claim, you get more child support, alimony, and government benefits. So, there is a VERY big financial gain to make false abuse allegations.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 04:48 PM
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He abused her physically, mentally , and emotionally Don't buy in to this bullshit narrative of abuse. It's a pathetic attempt to not take accountability for herself. 95% of women claiming abuse are lying and are only looking for sympathy or financial gain (especially in family courts).
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 04:47 PM
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Nearly all women claim "Abuse". Why? Because it's so easy to blame others rather than take accountability for the failure of the relationship. 95% of abuse claims are false and this should be a HUGE red flag to anyone who dates someone that makes this claim.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 04:45 PM
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it not fair for her and I know this will break her for months "It's not fair for her"? Wait until she divorces you and asks you for half your assets, and lifetime of alimony. You're lucky you don't have kids, because it would have been way worse such as not letting you see your own kids. Nearly every MAN on this subreddit has gone through what I'm describing. Leave her. She'll be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/22 04:37 PM
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That's why we should start calling it "Mommy Support". Oh wait, women are children after all since they can't work for themselves after divorce, I guess, so "Child" support makes sense.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 05:16 PM
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This is 100% spot on. Reach out to a God fearing faithful man who had been through this and overcame Absolutely this. All the other non-God fearing "friends" just disappeared or couldn't understand why I was upset. Luckily I found one friend as part of a divorce group and they helped me tremendously during my most darkest days.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 05:13 PM
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Like 140-150 IQ smart They're only smart in one aspect. Their retardation shows in literally every other area of life. Source: My ex-wife.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/22 01:33 AM
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Because the system incentives them through child support, alimony, and government support. They can actually make MORE money leaving their husbands than staying with their husbands. Not to mention that they can get free legal representation if they are not working.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/22 01:27 AM
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Your kid will be fine....but your kid won't be find if you are miserable and end yourself.....
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 11:44 PM
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Well you made it so far...so you're doing something right...just keep going and find a hobby? Salsa? Running? Biking?
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 11:41 PM
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Forget the group. Go straight to the source: The Bible. Read it daily (New Testament). All the self-help books or "spirituality" do not come close to the wisdom and strength that the New Testament gives.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/22 11:40 PM
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Wow....all same story...same here...as soon as she made more money she wanted a divorce.....
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 11:42 PM
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Not usually how it works. You have to find a criminal lawyer to deal with your matter. I suggest you find one on a fixed price.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 01:18 AM
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Exact same story happened to me. It's absolutely unbelievable that these things happen to men daily yet NO ONE in media talks about it. If genders were reversed, this would be talked about daily. It's a sick system. What can I say? You can go to court on an URGENT basis to bring a motion to reinstate access to your kid. Lawyers like to delay, write a ton of emails, make a ton of money, and then go to court. But you can bypass that and bring an urgent motion, either on notice or without notice. F…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/22 01:17 AM
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Here are the issues: Your high salary/over time you're putting in is going to kill you on child support and alimony obligations. Solution: Stop working so hard/much, because WHEN (not if) divorce happens, you'll be expected to keep it up. You need to file for divorce first to prevent false abuse allegations from her. I did not and she made lots of false allegations to maximize support. Realize IT'S OVER. The sooner you realize it, the better off you'll be.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/22 09:55 PM
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fuck bro same here....3 years fighting false allegations and living back with parents and in debt.....horrible system.
/r/MensRights28/03/22 11:20 PM
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What most men don't know is that this literally happens EVERYDAY. It's the best way for the woman to get a leg up in family court. My own wife of 9 years accused me of rape and I spent 3 years fighting it. You're not alone.
/r/MensRights28/03/22 11:18 PM
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https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374 use this as some sort of a guide
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 05:29 PM
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Yes, where I live and most places. This is the problem. Majority of men have absolutely NO clue what divorce actually means. if they even knew the basics, 80% of marriages today would not be happening.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 02:34 AM
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Call the police and tell them know your wife made such a threat. You will create a paper trail. Even better, get some evidence (audio/text) that she has threatened to falsely accuse you. This is serious. My ex-wife did accuse me falsely of rape and it cost me 3 years and my life savings to prove my innocence. Do not take this lightly. You also need to find a criminal lawyer just in case so that you're ready.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 05:57 PM
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The problem is Modern Marriage. Divorce laws and culture has changed from the time our parents got married. Being a single mom in our parent's day or being divorced carried significant costs, to the point that the child was called a "bastard child". Now, being a single mom is prized and heroic. I mean why not, when they get child support, alimony, and government assistance? If you're ok with paying child support for 18 years, which is around 30-35% of your NET (after tax) income, go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/22 02:07 PM
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One reason why she's probably with him still is because he didn't give her the commitment she desperately wants.
/r/MensRights27/03/22 01:13 AM
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Tried to explain to my ex how we're pissing away $800/hour and blowing our savings on petty bickering instead of a mature, civilized, sit-down negotiation. They don't care as long as they bury you, they're happy. My suggestion to you is give her what she wants and move on. QUicker you do it the better off you'll be.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 10:55 PM
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Did you get to the part where 90% of college educated women initiate divorce? It's actually broken down by sectors, ethnicities, and education level.
/r/MensRights26/03/22 06:51 PM
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. It rounds 44% up to 50% and who knows what else is inaccurate Article states: Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation.7. Researchers estimate that 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce.8. 60 percent of second marriages end in divorce.9. 73 percent of all third marriages end in divorce. ​ Maybe the average of ALL marriages get to 50%? For instance, while first marriages are 44%, second marriages are 60% and 3rd marriages are 70%. So t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 06:47 PM
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All these are backed up by facts https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/#:~:text=Almost%2050%20percent%20of%20all,end%20in%20divorce%20or%20separation.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 03:07 PM
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Thank you for calling that out. THat's what I meant to say. I made the changes
/r/MensRights26/03/22 03:05 PM
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You're a lucky guy you have no kids. End it and stop playing her games.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 02:02 PM
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Here are some stats for you: 50% of all marriages end in divorce. (60% and 70% for 2nd and 3rd marriages). 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. (90% for college educated women). 90% of the time custody of children is awarded to mothers. I hear a lot of talk about "pre-nups". Some thoughts: Pre-nups do not cover child support or custody issues, which is what 95% of parents spend hundreds of thousands of dollars fighting over. Pre-nups do not cover allegations of abuse, which is very common…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 01:40 PM
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Do NOT worry. My own WIFE accused me of rape and it was a 2.5 year process. You WILL be fine. Just hold it together and don't even think about it. It will be over soon.
/r/MensRights25/03/22 07:32 PM
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What you're going through is called "Typical Single Mom garbage". Many of them do this so they can then ask for increased child support down the line, like mine did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 05:36 PM
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Typical single mom garbage.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 05:35 PM
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cow....could be for having "milked " him continuously..and him producing...? wow...lol...
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 05:32 PM
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Hey bro, You need to take pictures and back those pictures up. DO NOT tell her you know. Gather your evidence and file for divorce before she pulls one on you. It's over bro. https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374 Join the club.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 05:31 PM
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Ummmm....welcome to 95% of men on this sub? We've all been there...we've all faced the woman's vile lies so she can get more money.....move on and take care of yourself....stop wasting your time, effort, and money on court.....become a weekend dad and move on......
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 10:24 PM
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Don't beat yourself up. It happens. I did not do mediation. It was a waste of money as I realized she wanted trial. You need to be saving your resources for trial. Let her know you will do one last mediation session and then off to trial it is.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 09:00 PM
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Small businesses also don't have false rape/abuse allegations tied to them. My ex made false allegations that I had to defend in criminal court. Unbelievable.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 10:51 PM
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You're not punishing anyone. You've gone through hell and you are choosing not to allow that to happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 10:49 PM
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You said it way better than I did!
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 02:22 AM
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Because he spoke the truth. He spoke the truth about female behavior, specifically. That cannot be allowed so as to keep beta males from waking up and seeing the reality.
/r/PussyPassDenied23/03/22 01:05 AM
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start here: https://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/index.php Says ottawa but applies for ontario
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 12:52 AM
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Ok. Make sure you have doctor records and audio/video evidence around her behavior. It will come handy. DO not make a move until you have all your ducks in a row. Read this: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?t=13374
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 06:29 PM
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OK. I would just be careful you're not making decisions out of emotions, because that will back fire against you tremendously. Does she have a diagnosed mental illness? In the meantime, you should be carrying an audio recorder 24/7 as you could be falsely accused of abuse. It happened to me so be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 01:08 PM
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God Bless Florida. As someone who has spent close to $250k to get 50/50 access with my kids - and still lost - this is amazing. I am now forced to become a weekend dad because I have lost my entire life savings fighting for my kids. There is a reason Lawyers are considered the absolute scum of the Earth.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/22 01:39 AM
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If the genders were reversed it would "rape" in the title and not "sex". #dualstandards
/r/PussyPassDenied21/03/22 11:33 PM
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Can I ask what you're fighting for exactly? So if you say, "Custody/access", what's your current schedule and what are you seeking?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 11:30 PM
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This. You know you've really moved on if you don't care what your ex thinks.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 11:29 PM
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You will always be last as they put their children first. You can end up paying child support for kids that are not yours. Single mother's are looking for a 'financial bailout' by finding a beta male to support their financially irresponsible lifestyle. Single Mothers often engage in 'bait and switch' techniques. They'll be lovey dovey up until the point you commit. After that they cut off sex and affection once they know they have you locked down. Her children will not show you respect.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 10:12 PM
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Big mistake. Should've proceeded with assault charge. Now she will go do it to someone else because she didn't learn.
/r/MensRights21/03/22 02:27 AM
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Same.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 08:03 PM
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Please remember these stats if you are considering a second marriage: 50% of all marriages in divorce. 60% and 70% for 2nd and 3rd marriages. 80% of divorces initiated by women. 90% of custody given to mothers. Other tips: Stay away from single mothers, especially! Focus on your health and your career. You will either learn from other men's mistake or learn the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/22 08:02 PM
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"Am I wrong for wanting to be a weekend dad?" No. I think it's a great idea. Lots of fathers lose hundreds of thousands of dollars fighting for 50/50 only to end up getting every other weekend. Go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/22 04:12 PM
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I was tempted to -- and I wish now I had -- ask the judge: Would you rather be insulted with schoolyard profanity? Or falsely accused of abusing your own children whom you love? It's unfortunate that I think the Judge may have said "falsely accused of abusing your own children". Sad state of affairs.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 09:27 PM
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I said that through text and it came up during trial. Oops.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 01:41 AM
1

I don't know man. It's a cultural thing. You will never be on top of everything. You're trying to make yourself into something you're not. I suggest you accept who you are and be content with it. After all, that's one part of being alpha: Confidence in your own skin.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/22 11:51 PM
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Get her to find a job. Any job. Before divorce. That way your alimony payments will be reduced. OR become unemployed/self-employed.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 11:43 PM
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Bro - it's over. No amount of therapy will fix things. In fact, studies have shown couples that go therapy sessions have a HIGHER chance of divorce. Move on and the faster and quicker you do it, the cheaper it will be. If you're smart you will learn from other men's mistakes rather than finding out the hard way 3 years from now and hundreds of thousands of dollars of legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 10:15 PM
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BE VERY CAREFUL. Do NOT discuss anything with her without a audio recorder 24/7. I actually ended up getting falsely charged with rape against my ex-wife. Spent 3 years and $250k. You are in very dangerous territory. Keep silent and do not talk to her. Here is what you do: Find a criminal lawyer and retain them. It sounds like you may need one. Find a family lawyer. Do NOT provoke your ex-wife. Right now, give her what she wants, and keep things as amicable as possible until you have your cards …
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 10:14 PM
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/r/theredpill /r/whereareallthegoodmen /r/marriageisnotworthit also check out: Taylor The Fiend on YouTube Tom Leykis (- on YouTube) Tom Rollo The Manipulated Man (Free PDF online) No More Mr. Nice Guy book We were all once like you until some one educated us. Good to see you're willing to learn.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 10:03 PM
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Thanks! Where I live it's not that easy but appreciate your advice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/03/22 11:45 PM
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Your signature is invalid because you signed out of duress and had no legal advice. She pressured you to sign it and you did because of the stress of breakdown of relationship. Don't stress. It's reversible.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 01:21 AM
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You're allowed to change jobs as long as you're income doesn't deviate more than 20-30% range they won't necessarily impute you for it, from what I heard.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 08:00 PM
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67% divorce rate over a 40 year period!
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 07:58 PM
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Here are your stats for getting married: 50% divorce rate. 60% and 70% divorce rate for 2nd and 3rd marriages. 67% of all marriages end up in divorce within a 40 year period. 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. 90% of the time, custody is given to the mother's. More: Pre-nups do not cover child support issues, access to kids, nor deal with false domestic violence claims that enhance a woman's case for custody. Talk to 90% of the father's and they've dealt with false abuse allegations. Go…
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 07:54 PM
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You're a motivation for divorce-raped guys like me who lost everything by showing that it is possible to rebuild back. I am in debt currently but hopefully can claw my way back :-S Thanks for sharing your story and wishing you the best in your future. More men need to wake up and smell the roses.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/22 07:07 PM
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you can use the following also to help grow your page /r/mensrights /r/theredpill /r/whereareallthegoodmen /r/pussypassdenied
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 02:52 AM
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Fine - I'll give you that point. I have re-read my comment and can agree to your point to some extent. However, I will point out that this individual did not learn his lesson the first time, so perhaps he needs to hear it more bluntly so he doesn't make the same mistake a 3rd time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:27 AM
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Fired @ 35, so kind of know what I'm talking about Care to explain how? I've been divorce raped and literally lost everything while I was on my path to FIRE :-(
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/22 01:24 AM
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Well played brother. So sad that they can't just move on with their miserable lives even though they have a boyfriend. One stat i'll throw out here: Second marriages have a 60% divorce rate. Please be mindful. Last thing you want is another repeat.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:18 AM
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Hey bro, there are lots of feminist / feminine forums on reddit where tone is policed carefully. I suggest those as a better alternative for you
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 01:10 AM
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If you don't move out you need to be recording 24/7. I got falsely accused of rape by my ex-wife just so she can kick me out of the house. Spent 3 years defending myself.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 11:01 PM
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" i am 36 years old and got problems with my second marriage. " Second marriage? Do you not know that 2nd marriages have a 60% divorce rate? And 3rd marriages have a 70% divorce rate? Please educate yourself on the red pill and avoid marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 11:00 PM
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If I can give you any advice - be more than generous in the division of assets so you can have a FAST separation agreement. I'm telling you, if you go the court/trial route, the lawyers will bleed you BOTH dry. ​ Give her exactly what she wants, move on. You can rebuild later. Please don't learn this hard lesson the hard way like me and many other men did.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 10:58 PM
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She doesn't like you because: You gave her exactly what she wants. (This tells her you're a beta, rather than alpha who sticks to his desires rather than the woman's). She found someone more alpha than you. I know the above sounds "cliche", but having gone through a horrible divorce myself, and after a lot of reading and researching on the red pill, I found out the above are the reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 10:50 PM
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I went through a similar thing. The BEST thing you can do for him is get him to realize his marriage is over and there is never going any back. Tell him lots of children grow up in single parent household. He will be OK. His Kids will be OK. But, you must get him to accept the fact that it's over and for him to approach the family law litigation amicably so it doesn't financially devastate both parties. This is from my own 3-year divorce journey.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 09:23 PM
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Many concerns with this judgement: The article notes, the man faces pending criminal charges of assault, which shows that he is not yet proven to be guilty of violence, which is the basic premise of the judgement. Looks like he is facing punishment even before being proven of a crime. The alleged claim of violence is not within the jurisdiction of this court or not convicted in a foreign court. Hence violence is not established as a fact, but the court seems to be taking it as a proven fact. Cou…
/r/MensRights12/03/22 12:26 AM
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In the developed world, it is certainly illegal. Really, eh? I guess that would depend on how you would define 'slavery'
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/22 12:21 AM
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Has slavery been abolished yet, in your opinion?
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 04:36 PM
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what's the alternative that you propose?
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 02:03 AM
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yes yours
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/22 12:36 AM
1

What's so bad about the quote?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:22 AM
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My ex-wife accused me of rape when I wasn't agreeing to anything less than 50% parenting time. I got charged criminally. These are your typical women these days. To throw you under the bus. I've met countless fathers who have similar stories as mine.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/22 02:20 AM
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"She's a traveling consultant and decided to cheat on me with her boss" OMFG - same here. All these stories are like 90% alike. You start off by first prioritizing yourself and your health. Focus on your job and your health and NEVER consider taking her back. It's over. Mine falsely accused me of rape so I'm 3 years in and still not over.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 02:19 AM
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Thank your lucky charms you don't have kids with her. It would not have been this easy. I'm 3 years in and still not over. Please remember that getting married a 2nd time increases your chances of divorce by 60%, so stay away.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/22 02:17 AM
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67% of all marriages end within 40 years. You want those odds?
/r/MensRights02/03/22 02:41 AM
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Respect. Been divorce raped and going through family court for 3 years. hate it.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/22 02:20 AM
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As a divorced man who lost 12+ years of his life savings and is in debt because of divorce, I will NEVER get married again. Any man getting married in this day and age is naive. 67% of all marriages end in a 40 year time span. Modern marriage and family court is designed to destroy men's livelihood.
/r/TheRedPill02/03/22 02:15 AM
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Things they say is he abused me the entirety of the relationship. Almost 95% of them say the same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/22 02:40 AM
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"This is family court. The only court where no proof is needed and any proof to refute false claims is ignored".
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 04:35 PM
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90% of men on dating apps will feel exactly what you're feeling: Unhappy. That's because women choose the top 10-15% of men to date. I stopped going on dating apps when I realized this. You first need to find happiness within. Find a hobby. Once you're happy by yourself, then try again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/22 12:28 AM
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Don't follow rules. Anything above 18 is fair game IF it's what makes you happy. Older women in their 30s will shame men who date younger women because they want to guilt trip the men to continue funding their (the older women) irresponsible lifestyle. This is especially true of single mom's, which you MUST stay away from.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/22 02:34 AM
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God Bless Florida! Honestly, why aren't ALL states default 50/50? Absurdity! As for you, yes you will definitely get increased access to your kids because it's considered "material change in circumstance". So go for it and get your 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/22 02:42 AM
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31.5 months so far, beat a false rape accusation once I told her dirty ass I'm leaving her and want 50/50 and I'm still not done. Here is what I did: Run daily Forgive her (daily) Focus on your job.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 11:53 PM
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Dude...it's only been 2 years! Have some patience! It will take longer than that, but be patient.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 11:46 PM
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Obtaining sex through "deception," "concealment," or "artifice" could violate consent. A group of New York lawmakers is trying to redefine consent in a way that would make it a crime to be less than fully truthful with sex partners. Under the new proposal, antics now considered merely caddish or immoral—like lying to a prospective sex partner about one's relationship status, social standing, or future intentions—would count as criminal sexual misconduct https://reason.com/2021/04/08/deceiving-yo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/22 11:43 PM
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100% agreed with you about the hypocrisy of the law. Unfortunately, 4th wave feminism is doing more and more damage.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/22 11:41 PM
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Quality post. As a divorced man, I can confirm most of the points made in this post.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/22 07:42 PM
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You can't be used for sex if there was consent. Actually, laws are being made where even if consent was made, it can still be considered rape if the male gave a false 'impression' about his status (i.e. he is married but portrayed himself as single). Very scary times and it's only getting worse. EDIT for Link: https://reason.com/2021/04/08/deceiving-your-sex-partner-would-be-a-crime-under-bill-backed-by-new-york-democrats/
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/02/22 07:36 PM
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Excellent story. I can confirm that condoms DO break from time to time.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 12:52 AM
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Wow. This sounds like the typical story a divorced woman has who gets to walk away with everything. Good job, glad to see at least a little bit of winning here.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 12:43 AM
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This is what really scares me. I'm at a point where I have to make a decision to keep fighting and losing everything I have or just walk away at some possible chance of having a life. It just hurts me because they have a shitty mom and the kids adore me.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 12:39 AM
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https://ia903005.us.archive.org/17/items/TheManipulatedMan\_201905/The\_manipulated\_man.pdf
/r/MensRights21/02/22 12:37 AM
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Read "The Manipulated Man". There is a free PDF online and it explains this so well.
/r/MensRights21/02/22 12:37 AM
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lol...that's exactly what I did until she went to police and made a bunch of false 'historical' allegations of abuse....that ended the agreement and now spent 3 years trying to see my kids. not that easy
/r/MensRights19/02/22 11:20 PM
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close to $300k so far. Same. Never again.
/r/MensRights19/02/22 11:18 PM
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50/50 ACCESS or "Custody"? Two different things. Someone can have 50/50 "custody" but almost zero access.
/r/MensRights19/02/22 11:17 PM
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Prenuptial Agreement doesn't cover child support and access, custody, and access
/r/MensRights19/02/22 08:21 PM
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80% of divorces are initiated by women. 90% for college educated women. Don't get married again and especially stay away from single moms
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 04:14 PM
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Why do they give it back instead of throwing it out themselves? Mine did this as well, and I ended up tearing it apart and throwing it out.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 04:13 PM
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The key word to all these was "daily". Not 3x a week or 2x a week. You won't see much difference. But Daily. Keep it consistent and you will get out of this.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 03:09 PM
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Even if you lose, at least you show your ex you take this stuff seriously. But a court will agree with you most likely.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/22 02:44 AM
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"If so, what did you do to overcome it? How did you think through it? What was the key?" Daily workout. Daily Bible reading. Daily meditation. Daily focus on my job.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 11:55 PM
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please go to other subreddits you feminazi. literally thousands of subreddits for your feminazi propaganda. leave us alone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 11:54 PM
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"Paid for some pit bull lawyer to limit the boy’s father to just a few days a month contact." K.A.R.M.A. Making another man suffer just so he can see his son a couple times a month deserves the worst of all karma.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 11:53 PM
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Most of these people commenting such ways are undateable people themselves and they take out their frustration by making retarded generalizations. For instance, 40 year old single moms HATE on men in their 40s who dare to date 20+ year old females because that means they are no longer being picked and financially supported by these older men. So it's a shaming mechanism designed to benefit themselves. Your fault lies in the fact that your life revolves too much on reddit and caring about what a …
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 11:50 PM
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If they taught men about the dangers of marriage, child support, alimony, false allegations, I don't think any man in their right mind would get married. It just destroys men and enriches entitled feminists.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 07:47 PM
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They're jealous that they ended up with a 35 year old obese single mom and you were attractive enough for a young gal. I respect you brah. Keep it up! Make sure you stay away from single mom's in your future dating life. They're all angry bitter women.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 07:46 PM
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Well, let's say 90% of guys on this forum have gone through a cheating wife and are in same shoes as you. You're no exception. Leave her. You will survive just like the rest of us did. Not going to be easy but if you work-out daily you will survive.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 07:42 PM
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They're all so vindicative and bitter. So sad.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 07:39 PM
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Cool. Your good nature though may get you pressured into comitting to someone. As long as you're well. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 02:42 AM
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My man, you sound like a nice guy. Please recall that 60% of 2nd marriages and 70% of 3rd marriages end in divorce. Please recall that 80% of divorce is initiated by women. Please be careful. It sounds like your nice and niave and may be targetted by women who see you as a resource. Lastly, stay away from single moms
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/22 02:23 AM
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WTF were you thinking when you wifed her up, my man?
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 11:43 PM
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Single Moms. Any woman who claims her ex was "abusive". This is a HUGE red flag. Stay away from these women as they know how to use the legal system against you.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 11:42 PM
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I understand that but we have laws that will allow for very frequent visitation. If you strike first, she will have a hard time making false abuse allegations AFTER you serve her papers. Mine accused me of rape. Talk to a lawyer and understand what you need to do to prepare. A woman that is hiding things will always hide things and you're asking for trouble if u stay.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 11:40 PM
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"Child" support (reality is it's Mommy support), which 90% of divorced men pay, is not counted as income to the Mother. I wonder what the numbers would be if Child support was used to see true income.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/22 12:44 AM
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"The whole report talks about how shared care would be recommended, and then the conclusion says that the kids should live with their mother." Nothing like social services/family court logic! This is why you don't hire "gender studies" or "psychology" grads for issues that can destroy people's livelihoods. Can you imagine an engineer having this "logic"?
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 07:53 PM
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10 more years. This is what I keep telling myself.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 06:44 PM
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Be patient. I've been supervised access for 2.5 years
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 06:40 PM
1

Same.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 06:38 PM
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Never believe a woman when she cries in public. It's crocodile tears intended to gain sympathy. The real tears are when she's crying alone.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/22 02:33 AM
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I'm 3 years in. $250k so far and counting. She started with a false rape allegations which I beat after 2.5 years and now I'm fighting her on the family front. All I can say is, you have to protect yourself first and foremost so if it means not seeing your kids for a while so be it. You MUST record everything, video preferred, but if not, audio. It can mean saving $100k if she tries any funny stuff. Be patient and take care of your health and then when you feel the time is right, you can pursue …
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/22 02:29 AM
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Tell them you're not saying goodbye, just moving to make money to help them with expenses. IF possible, call them via zoom everyday or when you can and send them gifts or letters once a month.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/22 12:26 AM
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But I have to keep reminding myself that that really is only true if she keep her half of the partnership up, and IMHO she didn't. Things have never been great, lots of ups and downs; but in October she told me to leave the house. I asked to stay in the guest room and could we just avoid each other, she said no needed me gone. Then took off he ring and said something to the effect of don't come back and she wouldn't put the ring back on until my vows meant something. So SHE told you to leave. Wh…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 10:56 PM
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Listen, it takes TWO people to have the relationship fail. She was equally responsible. You're still VERY young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Work out daily, meditate, and pray, and you can get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 10:54 PM
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Listen man, I spent $200k in legal fees and I still don't have 50/50. You made the right decision to every other weekend. Nothing says you can't get 50/50 in a few years when your son is older. BUT you have to prioritize yourself as #1. Your comment about your son being the only thing that makes you happy isn't good. You need to at the very minimum have a CONSISTENT workout regime. For me, I run daily which helps tremendously. Your life WILL improve but it will take time. PM me if you need to ta…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 10:52 PM
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3 months later she has a boyfriend that she's introducing to my kids now She had that "bf" before she left you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 08:44 PM
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"hell I'm not fighting the divorce because I love her" you have to be very careful. This could have unintended consequences where she wants to leave u and if you don't let her, she may claim false abuse allegations and get u kicked out of ur house. Be careful.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 08:43 PM
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Well, he can't fight her back because then everyone would call him a woman beater. It's one of those damned if you damned if you don't situation.
/r/PussyPassDenied09/02/22 03:06 AM
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Call the police and tell them exactly what she said so you have a paper trail. Then plan your exit. This stuff is serious. My own wife accused me of rape to get an advantage in family court.. Spent 2.5 years fighting it and $200k in legal fees.
/r/MensRights08/02/22 02:55 AM
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have you looked into being an expat? I have but with young kids it's difficult to make the jump. I am assuming you don't have young kids? When are you thinking of making the move? I know several people living in singapore and thailand and they only say good things and never want to come back.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 02:48 AM
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Listen here man, from a man who lost his kids and falsely accused of horrible things by his ex wife (i.e. rape) so she could advance her custody claim. Forgiveness. No amount of therapy or pills will get you past it. Forgive her and bless her. It is only then can you really move on. She is not acting out either. She has been planning this for several years but like most men (including myself) we were naive and ignored the red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/22 12:15 AM
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The kids are too young to be involved in adult conversation. I would not tell them anything beyond that sometimes marriages don't work and it had nothing to do with the kids. You need to be focusing on your kids mental health and telling them it's not their fault. If they ask you why you're getting divorced, just say that's between your mom and I and change the conversation to them.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/22 11:23 PM
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Agree with your points that the system needs to be reformed but who knows how long that will take.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 05:49 PM
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I thought marital rape was extremely difficult to prove than regular rape You're right, it is difficult to prove. But I'm not talking about proof here. Even if you're found innocent, you end up wasting 2.5 years of your life waiting for trial, and spending $200k in legal fees like I did. The strategy here is that they want to drain you and punish you so you have nothing left even after you're done.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 04:27 PM
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But I don’t recommend joining groups like MGTOW, those people are toxic and are usually the source of their own problems I used to frequent MGTOW after my divorce rape and I saw nothing but others in same boat as me sharing their hobbies and motivating others. Sure there was the occassional bad post, but 90% was good motivation.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 02:30 AM
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That's impressive! lol I'm going to be setting up my home too going forward.
/r/MensRights04/02/22 11:50 PM
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