I’m going on a short vacation and due to constraints had to pick days that I’d usually have my kids (have 50/50 custody). Arranged to have my ex cover the days, and agreed to reciprocate for the same number of days when it benefitted her. All good. Bought non-refundable tickets, made other arrangements. You know where this is going.

Ex suddenly wants 3 changes to the divorce decree. One change is great. One change I don’t like but I’ll give it a try as it’s fair and reasonable to do so. Last change directly backs out of a post divorce agreement that she signed and I paid her for. She claims it’s a financial hardship now. I point out that her solution will cost her 10x more. She gets angry, surprise.

She suddenly says she won’t watch the kids. Fuck! So, fine, I won’t play her game. My kids are mid teens and I made new arrangements for them while I’m gone that don’t include ex. I message her: you made an agreement with me to watch the kids, all done in good faith. I explained these plans to the kids. I made non-refundable plans based on that. You are not honoring your agreement. I have made new arrangements for the kids and am still going on my trip. I will tell them they can’t stay with you in two days.

I very quickly get messages that boil down to: fuck you. You always win. I will watch the kids.

Ha.

Moreover, she then goes on about how everything she’s done has gone through her boyfriend. I like her boyfriend. But this all seems out of character for him and I doubt she’s been honest with him. She says she is now blocking me (god, yes) and if I need to reach her to message her boyfriend. I ask her: are you suggesting I have a private conversation with your boyfriend to talk about these events? Please have him call me when convenient.

She then responds, no, not needed. She’s already told him and doesn’t think he’ll call me.

LOL. Fuck her, always kicking up drama for no reason. Called her bluff twice.

I’ve now realized that this always happens when I try to go on vacation with my beautiful fiancée. I’m not going to include my ex in the future if I can avoid it.

So, sometimes we win. Call their bluff folks, especially if you have smart kids. They will see what’s going on. Don’t include the kids in the drama of course.