nomadiclives Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Converting sex into intimacy	nomadiclives	/r/seduction	13/02/20 08:07 PM
2	Copping-out on dates	nomadiclives	/r/seduction	18/08/19 09:25 AM
0	Possible to pull a girl with a boyfriend?	nomadiclives	/r/seduction	19/08/19 12:32 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	High Energy + Deep Energy = Seduction Stfu + Stfu = you	/r/seduction	08/08/24 11:42 AM
1	How to deal with a 0 sense of humor girl? You don’t	/r/seduction	25/07/24 11:43 AM
1	Male from India. Need some advice on escalation. Specifying the country because the dating culture here is different compared to the west. Nahi degi	/r/seduction	03/07/24 06:22 AM
1	It feels like the seduction community was in its prime 10 years ago and now there are hardly any personalities Yeah how many of those things involved manipulation and objectification of other people? Don’t get me wrong, I benefitted a lot from some pua material - just the bit bout inner game and maximizing your best aspects but everything else was a proper shitshow and it attracted a certain kind lf crowd	/r/seduction	28/03/24 02:29 AM
24	It feels like the seduction community was in its prime 10 years ago and now there are hardly any personalities Thank god for that coz it was pretty cringe for most parts	/r/seduction	26/03/24 04:26 AM
21	3 dates in - how to move forward? There’s no hard & fast rules but if you are into this girl, 3 dates in and this much progress made is a good time to have a direct conversation bout your expectations and desires. Be assertive bout where you are and what you want and respectful bout hers. Clear communication & boundaries is attractive. Playing games like “ball’s in your court” is not.	/r/seduction	05/03/24 06:14 AM
3	Can't stop thinking about this girl. Please help understand why she ghosted me so I can improve my game! Did you ever physically escalate on any of these “dates”? Are you even sure they were “dates”?	/r/seduction	17/02/24 05:52 AM
8	How to Make out with Women on the First Date My first reaction when I saw the wall of text was to skip but I’m on holiday and it’s a lazy morning so I decided wth! Let’s take a look! I must say this is really good stuff! I remember when I first started going out on dates after my first longterm relationship in my early 20s, I was like a deer caught in headlights. I had absolutely no idea where to begin or what to even do on dates. And material like this really helped give me some structure and substance to try out. Eventually, as I got the…	/r/seduction	15/02/24 03:32 AM
4	32 years and yesterday was my biggest win Even if it’s true, why does it matter to us as men?	/r/seduction	13/02/24 11:08 AM
1	I slept with 56 girls in a year and this is what I learnt... Great post! Agree with all but number 1 is really funny to me coz it reminds me of this one time when I was still just getting out and about, being out on a date with this gorgeous slovakian girl who was basically eating out of my palm before the date. I was overeager to practice some routines and when I look back at it now, I can literally pinpoint the moment I wrecked my chances of sealing the deal! But that incident helped me learn how to calibrate and my conversion rate from date --> sex sin…	/r/seduction	29/08/22 08:06 AM
1	Guys who are successful with women, how long do you wait until you kiss a girl on a date? Lol as soon as i feel ready! certainly not at the end of the date for the first time if i want it to go somewhere	/r/seduction	24/08/22 09:40 PM
2	Are women ever truly single? Just coz there’s a goalkeeper doesn’t mean you can’t score!	/r/seduction	04/08/22 03:22 PM
63	I want to bring a board game to make my coffee dates better. What are some good games? If you are gonna do this, this is the only way!	/r/seduction	09/05/22 07:18 AM
1	Should I continue to ignore and move on or text back? A little hurt over this one! This. And she’s put you on the backburner	/r/seduction	13/04/22 07:00 PM
1	Cologne/Pheromones I have used the same fragrance for almost a decade. Literally, every woman I've slept with has marvelled about how good I smell - a few have marvelled about it even after we stopped sleeping together. Don't underestimate the power of a unique olfactory signature!	/r/seduction	30/03/22 02:58 PM
2	Just experienced the worst cock-block of my life Lol! I have nothing against spontaneity! And I have nothing against having sex in a bathroom either! context is key! Blocking up a solitary bathroom at a party so you can have sex is entitled and inconsiderate - neither of which are attractive qualities, at least to me. L secondly, the entire incident hints at putting in the bare-minimum effort, which is not my idea of fun either!	/r/seduction	20/03/22 07:25 AM
308	Just experienced the worst cock-block of my life Dude wanted to give this girl “5 mins of her life” on top of a shitter and is surprised when she finally realized how low she was settling for. Learn from this and be better!	/r/seduction	19/03/22 03:48 AM
16	Lay-report from last night Women get shamed and conditioned by society for having too much sex or be known as too easy! Also, coz a LOT of men will say/do whatever it takes to get into a woman’s pants and quickly stop treating them like a human being immediately after! This is why many of them do this. As a cis-man, your job is to be firstly honest about what you want, empathetic and understanding of what they deal with and secondly not “expect” or “demand” sex. My experience has been that when you face resistance, the ke…	/r/seduction	18/03/22 12:49 PM
0	Best way to ask girls if they want to go somewhere else to have sex? That’s really not the point tho is it? The dude literally asked for advice on how to close when you are aiming at taking it back to a hotel room as opposed to your own place. Interest isn’t binary and not withdraw-able. Some will sleep with you in a gutter. Some others would balk at having to walk 5 mins to your own apartment. This bs about “if they are interested it doesn’t matter” is juveline advice again - the whole point of being good at this stuff revolves around being able to calibrate to …	/r/seduction	13/03/22 06:35 PM
8	Best way to ask girls if they want to go somewhere else to have sex? No offense intended but your advice reeks of someone who consumes too much pua material and has little/no experience in the real world. Of course bringing a girl back to your place is decidedly different than taking a girl to a hotel room that you weren’t staying at in the first place!	/r/seduction	13/03/22 07:36 AM
5	Best way to ask girls if they want to go somewhere else to have sex? The dude literally said he can not bring them back to his place…	/r/seduction	13/03/22 05:51 AM
1	[deleted by user] What part of this story belongs on r/seduction? Besides there is so much detail and context missing from this. How tf is someone supposed to know you live across 2 different continents? And how are you expecting to meet regularly if you live across 2 continents? To me it sounds like you are lonely and latching on to the one person who gives you some attention. I’d be very careful about this…it’s not only unhealthy, it also means putting a lot of pressure on your “friend”	/r/seduction	28/01/22 08:04 AM
3	My 10 Year Journey To Dating Freedom As An Asian Guy I am ethnically South Asian and I live in western Europe. I’d figured out the basics of how attraction works and had a good level of success with women before I moved here, but when I first came here, I definitely had a lot of hangups about my ethnicity and what this could mean for my dating prospects. For the first couple of years, I really struggled to get past this, but then I started to have some success and once it clicked that some women found the same skin tone and hair color “gorgeous”, …	/r/seduction	24/01/22 08:49 AM
5	My coworker lately has gotten used to stare at me, and we just look right in each others' eyes for a long time A long time ago I had this attractive girl (let’s call her Div) reporting into me. I flirt on autopilot, so there was also some occasional banter between us, but she had a long term, long distance bf and she was my subordinate so I wasn’t trying get somewhere with this. This one time a bunch us from work decided to go out drinking on a Saturday night, and as we had too many dudes in our group, I invited one of my female friends along to join us (this was one of those places they care about male:…	/r/seduction	23/01/22 08:03 PM
1	Need Feedback From My First Ever Date This is what the escalation ladder exists for - gradually crank up the physical touch and calibrate according to their response. What’s the point of fearing rejection? How is getting rejected at the end of a date better than getting rejected midway? I’ve never had the experience of being rejected for a kiss, mostly coz it’s not a big deal - this person is out on a date with you, which means there is at least some attraction and curiosity. If they stop you, they’ll give you a reason - either to s…	/r/seduction	21/01/22 03:19 PM
1	Need Feedback From My First Ever Date I think you did fine. I would recommend not waiting till the end of a date for a kiss if you are feeling the vibe earlier. You don’t have to full on make out with someone at a bar but a kiss at some point through the date is a good way to build some yearning and tension for more later. And I’d almost never ask someone home before I’ve kissed them and I know they are into it.	/r/seduction	21/01/22 01:00 PM
2	Need Feedback From My First Ever Date What the fuck?	/r/seduction	21/01/22 12:58 PM
2	Flirting vs. Socializing - Key Differences Not at all! Flirting is a skill - the more you practice the better. Esp when I was single, outside of professional situations, I would flirt on autopilot - be it with friends, acquaintances or people I just met. In fact, I find it hard to switch it off now, even when I am in a committed relationship. Having said that, my style is very direct and I tend to be a pretty sexual person anyway, so it works with my overall personality. You have to find what works for you.	/r/seduction	16/01/22 04:53 PM
5	[FIELD REPORT] 10 minute pull Because it doesn’t matter what they say. It isn’t rocket science tbh. It’s a numbers game. You put in enough numbers and effort. Assuming you have good basic social skills and are reasonably attractive to begin with, logic suggests the more often you do it, the better you get at it and every once in a while you will hit the right targets. Whether that is the most efficient use of your time or not is totally up to you. Personally, I never had much patience for pua or cold approaches coz they are …	/r/seduction	16/01/22 11:51 AM
5	Wtf is banter?!? [Week 2] Hahahaha well said! Although I have to add that reception to banter almost always depends on the other person’s tolerance. Some people are uptight and will take offense to everything. Others will let you get away with anything. Some others will raise your worst with their worst and one up you. The point is be reaction-agnostic. Do it coz you enjoy it. A good reaction is just a bonus!	/r/seduction	16/12/21 01:56 PM
1	want my main plate to be ltr. help Oh never mind, I just read this bit…yeah I hope she dumps your ass!	/r/seduction	13/12/21 09:27 AM
0	want my main plate to be ltr. help Don’t listen to this dude, OP! If you know what you want and you feel reasonably comfortable that she wants similar things, be assertive and talk about what you think you should do. There is nothing sexy about waiting for women to take the lead.	/r/seduction	13/12/21 09:26 AM
1	What should be my next step with this girl who almost friend-zoned me but now we are heading in the right direction? What your apartment building looks like is quite irrelevant here. Sounds like an excuse you are making up to not invite her home. Is your place clean/well maintained? That’s all it should matter. Just offer to cook together and watch a movie maybe. Escalate from there	/r/seduction	11/12/21 07:18 PM
3	My friend said I should treat women harsher…? Your friend is an idiot but he makes a fair point - what he means is saying “hey I like you” is both low-effort & boring. There are better ways to demonstrate intent through flirting, banter and teasing.	/r/seduction	08/12/21 01:28 PM
3	[deleted by user] Today in “never did this ever happen”…	/r/seduction	06/12/21 11:54 AM
7	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl There is some awful advice on this sub usually, so I will come out and say it - this is by far the best post on this sub.	/r/seduction	03/12/21 08:52 AM
14	How would you define a "bad" boy? I agree! Abundance mindset isn’t about how many girls you are talking to. It’s about how content you are with your life irrespective of the girl you are talking to. Any potential partner/mate (whatever you are looking for) is a nice bonus to add to your already full and colorful life, but you wouldn’t lose sleep over it. Period. Also, you can fake it till you make it but I have realized there’s no point faking this. Why not focus on building a life you are truly content with anyway?	/r/seduction	27/11/21 08:48 AM
4	I really fucked up fellas. I feel terrible. You are an awful person, or at least behaved like one and the woman found enough self respect within herself to cut you out of her life. I have absolutely no idea why you’d even mention stuff like not letting her dog in - is that somehow relevant to the story at all or you just enjoy boasting how much control you had over this girl? I would suggest to work on yourself and build some emotional maturity. Treating her like a sex object is not the way to go about building any meaningful relationship…	/r/seduction	26/11/21 07:30 AM
1	Cute guy at gym: Will he ever notice me? Brilliant comeback incel	/r/seduction	18/11/21 12:08 PM
-2	Cute guy at gym: Will he ever notice me? Stfu dude. There’s nothing simpy about acknowledging the fact that men are more likely to be perpetrators of grievous sexual assault than women. This isn’t speculation or an opinion - it’s documented fact (source: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_report2010-a.pdf). So stop pedaling your dumbass incel-ish commentary all over this thread.	/r/seduction	18/11/21 08:15 AM
-2	Cute guy at gym: Will he ever notice me? I think with this particular act, it is possible to simultaneously acknowledge that OPs behavior is creepy, while also acknowledging why it’s potentially worse when the genders are reversed. It doesn’t have to be either/or.	/r/seduction	17/11/21 08:52 PM
7	My strategy for tinder and bumble There’s some very good advice in your original post, followed by a very very frigid checklist here, which has frankly surprised me. I understand the feeling of having age on your side, but someone with these many things on their checklist of what an ideal partner should look like, imo, has some serious intimacy issues (i am no psych. expert btw). I just hit 30 this year, so I have definitely grown into the person I am today, but as my younger self might have definitely related with you to a cert…	/r/seduction	15/11/21 11:53 PM
8	Males who are great at texting and get a lot of results using text, what are your tips and advice ? All the people on here suggesting you shouldn’t text have absolutely no idea what they are talking about. Texting is a very powerful tool to create tension. The same rules apply to texting as to real life encounters - dont be a bore. Be bold. Use sexual banter. Create emotional journeys. I also use lots of memes	/r/seduction	02/11/21 07:49 PM
32	Girl keeps sleeping over but won’t have sex? Could have kept her on and started charging her rent 😂😂😂	/r/seduction	20/10/21 04:05 PM
11	Guys who have slept with 100+ women. What's your secret? I don’t have much patience for pick-up material tbh. I’ve read the Mystery Method & Models (by Manson) and parts of it were useful. The aspects of pua I really found useful were primers on core confidence, body language, tonality and describing attraction in the form of a sequential model that my rational brain found easier to process than something ambiguous and uncertain - which helped with nerves. I wasn’t exactly bad at attracting women. I just lost the plot after a bad relationship and need…	/r/seduction	18/10/21 07:46 PM
28	Guys who have slept with 100+ women. What's your secret? The only comment worth reading. This is it. This is absolutely it. Of course the “best” version of each individual may look a little different depending on the things you value, but some basics remain uniform. And can totally relate to the fact that it’s not as fulfilling as you imagined. It gets old very very quickly and you wonder what the big deal about it was in the first place. Still, just being able to overcome something you thought was a challenge for you will give you immense confidence …	/r/seduction	18/10/21 02:36 PM
2	Girl names top five things that make a guy attractive ( outside looks) This is such BS! “Acts hot! The women will know what I’m talking about” hahahahahaha!	/r/seduction	10/10/21 03:53 PM
-1	[deleted by user] This is sexual harassment. Don’t do it	/r/seduction	10/10/21 10:54 AM
5	My formula for setting up dates from dating apps PiperBigBell great to see someone on this sub actually know what they are talking about! I'm off-market these days, but this was exactly my frame when I was pulling a 100% date-to-lay conversion too. My life's honestly always been too full to go on countless dates with women who are not compatible with my appetite for sexuality!	/r/seduction	24/08/21 12:24 PM
20	Cold approached cute woman and later her boyfriend confronted me for "making her feel real uncomfortable" Pick up/cold approaches is intrusive by definition. Part of the reason I have almost never done it. Also, if you are only ever getting rejected might be worth it to pause and figure out what you are doing wrong.	/r/seduction	21/08/21 07:18 AM
1	How do yall fuck girls that live anywhere from 30 minutes drive to an hour away? Find a bar that’s reasonably close to your place (say a 15 min uber ride) and have all your dates there. This was my routine when I was still on the market. Generally speaking I like to be in control of the date and I have only ever gone over to the girl’s place after a 1st date thrice and in each case there was a exceptional reason. Every now and then, I met girls with whom things would ramp up enough pre-date that I could just invite them home straight up, but I stopped doing this after a coup…	/r/seduction	20/08/21 06:45 AM
6	[deleted by user] I don’t know what I find more hilarious! The post or the fact that other people on this sub are actually asking this dude for tips/advice 🤣🤣🤣	/r/seduction	18/08/21 07:52 PM
0	[deleted by user] Is his seriously not gonna be censored/banned????	/r/seduction	18/08/21 05:29 PM
28	[deleted by user] You either don’t understand how racial implications/stereotyping works or are living in denial on purpose. If you really care, I’d recommend doing some research instead of laughing this off.	/r/seduction	18/08/21 11:38 AM
64	[deleted by user] What do you expect? This dude got laid by accident and is here on reddit giving “tips” on how other simps could/should do the same. Your argument is beyond OP’s EQ level for sure, but I absolutely had the same question too!	/r/seduction	18/08/21 11:18 AM
143	She sends me her photos, selfies, random tiktok videos ,but upon talking to her she only replies ''yes'' ''hahahahah' should I stop talking to her? General advice: if you ever have to ask “should I stop talking to her”?, you already know the answer is a resounding YES	/r/seduction	16/07/21 08:58 AM
0	How I Text Women Yeah you missed the memo, coz that is a 1 line sermon. This dude wrote 482728282 pages on how not to invest energy in dead ends. And how is that “texting” specific advise?	/r/seduction	03/06/21 06:56 AM
5	How I Text Women Lolololol i couldn’t get past the first paragraph. Yes you can absolutely build attraction over text. I have had women I’ve never met lap it up from my palms. You need skill, as much as in person as on text (if you text a lot, i.e.)	/r/seduction	02/06/21 08:36 PM
7	Nice guy vs being kind We’ll just have to take your word on the fact that you are a genuinely nice, kind, helpful person that likes to look out for other people. In this case, I think you don’t have to really worry or change anything. Women in particular are great at smelling BS and they can almost always tell when a dude is being nice just to get into their pants. If the women you are interested in are telling you you are too nice - take that as a compliment. They are not using this to not be with you. A lot of women…	/r/seduction	27/04/21 10:09 PM
1	Couldn't get hard - again - with a wonderful girl Pretty convinced this is porn/masturbation related. You might wanna google “Your Brain on Porn”, especially as you claim viagra didn’t help at all. Once I read through that stuff, I could never really go back to porn. Second - try to divert your brain from thinking about this stuff getting around. I understand your fear and it isn’t irrational at all but thinking about this is going to become a catch 22 situation. If you have friends you trust, tell them about this incident and laugh it off - fo…	/r/seduction	14/03/21 08:22 AM
4	Do I sit in front or next to her on the first date? I dont believe in universal truths and I am not trying to pass my opinion as such, but there’s nothing intrinsically creepy about not wanting a physical barrier between you and your date. A creepy date is just as creepy across a table as without one. It’s not about the table. And getting to know someone is also not necessarily mutually exclusive from eliminating barrier to touch. You are in a seduction sub, commenting on a seduction thread. There is plenty of behavioral science and anecdotal evi…	/r/seduction	18/02/21 04:39 PM
9	Do I sit in front or next to her on the first date? Lol why is this getting downvoted, it’s absolutely true. In fact I choose first dates that ensure there won’t be a physical barrier between us. Even if you go to dinner or a bar where there’s a table, sit diagonally. You don’t have to sit side by side in a classroom but sitting across a barrier simply adds a layer of formality not required	/r/seduction	18/02/21 03:01 PM
1	Does teasing or pulling the leg of a girl in a friendly/fun way somehow gets her to like you? This is me in my teenager years and me again now. It was also my boss, mentor and very good friend in the years in between where I somewhat lost my mojo. Watching him do it really helped me rediscover this lost skillset. It works coz you are confident and you are actually not worried or bothered about offending anyone. It also works coz you aren’t inherently malicious. Finally, it works coz and when you are in fact actually funny/witty. I have seen another friend of mine who isn’t actually very …	/r/seduction	15/01/21 06:12 PM
24	Does anyone else have trouble ending things when it's time to "move on"? This! Absolutely this! When it starts clicking, it becomes autopilot and honestly, I have done a fair deal of substances in my life but nothing has felt as intoxicating as this. I really hit a wall when I finally met a girl that I really wanted to date-date, we fucked on the first date and she didn’t want anything more with me. I’m not saying that this broke my heart or anything, and I definitely had a very fulfilling life on the side - professionally & socially, but I honestly realized how jade…	/r/seduction	10/01/21 09:54 PM
21	Tucker Max Wrote a Dating Book? It's Actually...Good! Tucker Max possesses ridiculously high social intelligence. I loved his fratire books and I have listened to his former podcast on and off. He might be a bit of an asshole (at least he comes across as one in his books) but I think he has a very good handle of how to be successful in social scenarios. I think where a lot of people struggle with his stuff is they try to be him - this doesn’t and won’t work for 99% of the people. Better if you understand the underlying dynamics of his behavior and …	/r/seduction	21/12/20 04:03 PM
-8	Why do girls become disinterested in me after first date? this is definitely racist, but there’s something to think and take away from it too. Curry is not an all-encompassing term for Indian food btw - there’s like at least 28272 different spices that have nothing to do with “curry” If your racial background/countrymen have certain negative connotations attached, are you doing things/telling stories that dispel these? As an Indian dude, I take great care of my body. I use a fragrance that people identify as MY smell, and I get told very often that I s…	/r/seduction	07/12/20 12:05 PM
35	Why do girls become disinterested in me after first date? PS. If it’s important, I’m an Indian dude living in Europe Coz you are building no attraction on your dates. Your first dates, esp with dating apps need to focus on building attraction and not on building comfort or getting to know each other. I go into first dates with the objective of bringing the girl home at the end of it. 9/10 times we don’t talk about what I do for work. What my hobbies are etc etc. I spend most of my time teasing the girl, telling stories about how fun my life is (coz I h…	/r/seduction	07/12/20 11:51 AM
26	If she doesn’t leave immediately after the date for ****’s sake GO FOR IT Waiting till the end of the date to kiss is a bit of a mistake imo. Try and do it at some point on the date if it’s going well. Leaving it to the end is a lot of pressure on you, firstly, and it also doesn’t give you a chance to calibrate if she’s not ready or feeling it yet. Needless to say, there’s no kissing without building chemistry and gradually escalating, non-creepy kino	/r/seduction	06/12/20 12:46 PM
2	How I got loads of dates as a University Student Agree with every single point! Great tips! Like you, I learned these as I went along, but would 10/10 pretty much pass on the same set to younger friends. Can’t say enough about number 5 though - abundance mentality is everything in life. Not just with dating.	/r/seduction	21/10/20 11:18 AM
3	Approached 2 girls sitting with each other last night at the bar That’s 5 mins too long. Here’s the one and only thing you need to learn - treat your time like it’s a privilege and people you decide to spend it on/with are privileged to receive it. If they (or you) isn’t enjoying your interaction, you couldn’t make an exit fast enough! Just politely say “was lovely to say hello but I’m gonna go now! Enjoy the rest of your evening!” The objective of approaches should not be getting numbers/dates/lays. Go in with the goal of simply enjoying another human/social…	/r/seduction	19/10/20 07:55 AM
20	Is it possible to be monogamous ? One girl for life? A lot of what you describe sounds very similar to my experience. Except that I started with a very intense relationship and as a fallout from that, dabbled into years of casual sex. I think for me it was also a lot of seeing other guys have a lot of success with women and it just important to prove to myself that this is something I could do. Now I have met someone I actually like and have a genuine connection with. The sex isn’t the best sex I have had but honestly, I don’t even care about it t…	/r/seduction	14/10/20 02:42 PM
3	Is there an "ultimate" reason for a girl to stop being interested in a guy she was really interested in? I am not condoning ghosting, but sometimes women do that coz lots of men do not handle rejection well, get aggressive, abusive and borderline dangerous. Nobody needs to deal with that kind of drama/nonsense. This is why it’s just easier for many women to just ghost you coz you know what, they don’t actually give a shit about you, which is totally fine btw. You may not be a person who does these things but understand that there’s no way for women to know this. Another reason might be that they ar…	/r/seduction	30/09/20 09:35 PM
1	How exciting of a life do I really need for a girl to want to date me? The simple answer is if you don't value the life you have, nobody else will. Build a life that matters to you and is based on your values and you will automatically attract people that resonate with it. Of course, if what matters to you is playing video games 10 hours a day, showering once a fortnight, eating pizza for breakfast, dinner and lunch, then I wouldn't have too many expectations of attracting anything except perhaps an army of rats, but you get my point. Don't go out of your way to pr…	/r/seduction	02/09/20 04:41 PM
14	I thought this was very interesting. Wdy think? Exactly this. Although i must say i have also had women friendzone me, then flirt the fuck out of me, then remind me again that they are not interested that way when i try to escalate. This is a minority and i think probably also a fringe element. Mostly it’s just men being passive about their intentions and then getting offended when women they are into do not see them as sexual prospects. Still i wanted to add this perspective as well, coz I think there’s a bunch of people out there who just e…	/r/seduction	31/08/20 07:02 AM
3	Ex Model Finds excuse to not meet me ( Shit test?) This post gave me cancer 😂	/r/seduction	20/08/20 08:05 AM
14	Pro Tip: Stop using women for “practice”. You are looking at it the wrong way tbh. The assumption that first impressions are everything is BS. Did you never have people you went to school with who you always thought were a bit of a dick but years later you reconnected and found out that they were actually really nice? I think the idea that your opinion about something or someone can not change as you discover new information about them/it is very immature. You are just getting into your own head. Get over yourself and enjoy your time to…	/r/seduction	14/08/20 08:02 AM
1	LPT: If ur talking to a girl and some other dude approaches to hit on her just interrupt and say “I’m sorry, is this a friend of yours? Hi nice to meet you” This is extremely passive aggressive and would come across as insecure. If I’m out with a woman and other people hit on her, I take a backseat and smirk at the exchange. Later I laugh about how juvenile most of that exchange was. It helps uplift my value that a woman desired by several other men eventually chooses to spend time with me. It honestly depends on you and your frame, not on what other people do at all.	/r/seduction	14/08/20 07:39 AM
1	This Is How You Stop Creeping Women Out Or Stop Feeling Creepy Around Women I think this has been one of the better posts on this sub in ages. I think “advice” in itself is typically an oversimplification and generalization. So you really don’t have to bust a gut about how you or someone you know is an exception and doesn’t relate to any of this. There will always be anecdotal evidence that suggest any generic advice is bad/not good but I think lots of men (and women) on this thread have related to this advice, and offered positive feedback. A lot of people have also ca…	/r/seduction	10/08/20 10:55 AM
2	This Is How You Stop Creeping Women Out Or Stop Feeling Creepy Around Women i agree with you and these are not the people I am talking about. I think you also have to know that these are all narcissistic, toxic people and genuine assholes. Is that who you are inherently? I see absolutely no reason why anyone would want to aspire to be this kind of person. There are always going to be exceptions to this norm but I dont think these people ever really manage to have fulfilling, healthy relationships. Is getting laid worth this much? And I think there’s also a causal fallac…	/r/seduction	09/08/20 08:58 PM
13	This Is How You Stop Creeping Women Out Or Stop Feeling Creepy Around Women This is such solid advice. Absolutely agree with everything. It’s taken me 6-7 years of work to go through this entire cycle and of course, it’s a never ending process but it feels so so fulfilling when you see where you began and where you are after a few months/years. This is quite simply the best part of it. I must confess I adopted most of these principles because I wanted more success with women, but now I’m just glad that I did all of this for myself. I’m so much more happier and content w…	/r/seduction	09/08/20 07:25 PM
10	This Is How You Stop Creeping Women Out Or Stop Feeling Creepy Around Women This is BS. Women appreciate Emotional Intelligence a lot and empathy is a big part of it. As OP rightly pointed out, you don’t have to put them below you, you have to put yourself first. Yes, men that are totally inconsiderate can also get laid, but these are often extremely good looking/naturally attractive men, and a lot of them struggle to convert this into a meaningful relationship.	/r/seduction	09/08/20 07:21 PM
6	Cut Some Slack For Men Who Don't Want To Approach Women A lot of men here are talking about the threat of being labelled in the metoo wave. While this is a very valid point, I also think it paints men as victims, which is not really the case here. For every unfortunate innocent person that has suffered through a false/trivial metoo allegation, countless other men have escaped consequences despite being predatory. I think there is no call for saying stuff like this that dilutes a very important movement. Having said that, I think movements like metoo …	/r/seduction	09/08/20 07:16 PM
1	[Rant] Tired of being told I’m not hook up material Nobody’s suggesting having a “conversation” about hooking up. Please understand that attraction and dating is rooted in emotion, not logic. You can’t approach this methodically. Use banter, humor, teasing, roleplaying to create sexual tension. You will be surprised how many women are open to the idea of casual sex, but (almost) nobody likes to be reduced to a piece of meat. There are very very few scenarios where saying something like “I’m looking for a hookup” is going to turn out well for you.	/r/seduction	25/05/20 05:33 AM
1	Getting ghosted after a ONS. I actually like this one... It’s nothing. She’s keeping you on the backburner for a rainy day. Do the same.	/r/seduction	23/05/20 02:28 PM
3	[Rant] Tired of being told I’m not hook up material This! It’s more or less this - you are not creating any sexual tension in your interactions. There are no specific tips to offer but I am generally kinda edgy and sexualize a lot of conversations - lots of innuendos/creating scenarios where the pair of us might do some hot & nasty stuff. Some women dig it, a small % don’t and/or find it a turn-off, which is fine - I don’t want to date people who are uncomfortable with my/their own sexuality, so it also acts as a qualification mechanism. You are …	/r/seduction	18/05/20 08:06 AM
5	The Brain is the biggest sex organ! Female here sharing my own experience— what has been extremely effective with me. Lol! No offense but you are pre-attracted to this guy! And secondly, there’s some good advice here but mostly riddled with a lot of generic crap. Intellect, wit and shared interests are always great points of attraction and comfort but it’s misleading to suggest your experience as a template for people to attract other people in general. The takeaway here is that confidence, cockiness, risk taking, having a life outside of the woman or man you are trying to get with and knowing how to use shared…	/r/seduction	13/05/20 09:12 PM
2	The best way to impress girls is to have better things to do than trying to impress girls. A dating coach in my city once told me he always tells his clients to have at least 3 things more important to them than girls. Now in isolation, it's a good time to figure out what those 3 things are for you. Yes sir! Just because you wrote something, it must be true! PS. I do agree with your point though - sociable hobbies is what I meant, but personally I have also felt a lot more secure just by nurturing solitary hobbies such as “writing”. Of course hobbies can help you meet people, but the larger point being made here is that hobbies do help your mental health, stability and frame of mind when interacting with other humans.	/r/seduction	11/05/20 07:46 PM
2	The best way to impress girls is to have better things to do than trying to impress girls. A dating coach in my city once told me he always tells his clients to have at least 3 things more important to them than girls. Now in isolation, it's a good time to figure out what those 3 things are for you. This is literally the only and best dating advice you ever really need! This, and having a small circle of really good friends who can be your support system. I know that there’s no validation better or bigger than an attractive person desire you but the more you have going for you in your life, the less and less this will matter. This simply means you are more grounded with your own life, are secure, have a strong support & belief system and actually have things to do with your time that don’t …	/r/seduction	11/05/20 05:19 PM
1	2 Years Of Cold Approach, 15 Lays, And Right Back Where I Started I don’t really know what pickup material you were consuming there qt the start but about 70-80% of pickup material is terrible advice and aimed at incels. The only truly useful pickup advice is the parts that focus on self-improvement, genuine core-confidence and inner-game and it appears like you skipped exactly those parts in your early game. My story is nowhere remotely close to yours but as a minority cis male in a predominantly caucasian society, I relate with some of your racial-inferiorit…	/r/seduction	11/05/20 10:21 AM
2	I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do it I like the “creating opportunities” attitude - it’s a healthy approach in life for everything, not just dating. Look, this isn’t a competition and it isn’t an either/or thing. I have just been trying to explain that there’s no need to knock what’s being described here. let me give you a sales analogy - cold approaches is outbound sales, while what is being described here is inbound sales. You probably don’t deal with as many cold leads, but the conversion rate is higher because the ones you do h…	/r/seduction	06/05/20 06:34 AM
27	I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do it Nobody’s selling you anything anyway, dude. Nothing is a “sureshot” method. You aren’t making a god damn applepie ffs to follow some given number of steps and viola, you receive the forbidden fruit. Understand the dynamics at work here and adopt them in your own skillset - you’ll only benefit from it. Cold approaching in itself fails more times than it works. In the end, if you’d much rather spend time cold approaching women that don’t even know or care about your existence over doing things you…	/r/seduction	05/05/20 10:19 PM
53	I am extremely good at picking up women, here's how I do it This is both true and false! Energy attracts people! I bet you have seen at parties how one person or a group is the center of attention and everybody seems to gravitate towards them! It’s the same thing. When you are out there having fun, doing things you’d do anyway to have a good time with people you like spending time with (or yourself), you will attract people that feed off that energy. Some of them will be women and no they aren’t approaching you with the intent of sleeping with you like m…	/r/seduction	05/05/20 09:50 PM
1	Told a girl no today Great stuff! Keep it up my man! Self respect is BOSS	/r/seduction	26/03/20 09:36 AM
2	Are you TRULY happy single? I know that's part of the philosophy here, but I'm struggling to get there after a break up. Everybody has their own path but having all the things you just mentioned helps infinitely when you are trying to overcome loss of this kind. I remember when my 4 year long relationship ended in my very early 20s, I was entirely at sea. I had very few friends, poor health, few hobbies, little confidence and only the prospect of my first real job to look forward to. I spent the next 3-4 years of my life reinventing myself entirely and got to a point where I was entirely comfortable in my own comp…	/r/seduction	22/03/20 11:52 AM
56	Date and a kiss. this was an intensely creepy read! “i didnt see your butt, that is bad, i dont know if you have a nice ass” really? Who says that man!? Any ladies on here that can confirm how this might make them feel?	/r/seduction	28/02/20 07:18 AM
4	Second time a girl tells me before date that she has to leave at xx:xx o’clock First dates are taxing and particularly for women, they are fraught with potential danger. Whatever the reason, there’s no reason to take this personally even before you meet. As a matter of fact this is an immense opportunity to add a qualification step yourself. For a while, i used to get a friend of mine to call/text me midway through a date to “check on me”. This is a great way to also communicate that you go out on plenty of dates and feel the need to use a qualifier. As somebody else menti…	/r/seduction	24/02/20 07:11 PM
5	Second time a girl tells me before date that she has to leave at xx:xx o’clock Depends a bit on the situation, of course but this comes across as immensely needy to me. A first date should hardly take beyond a couple hours tops.	/r/seduction	24/02/20 07:02 PM
5	Second time a girl tells me before date that she has to leave at xx:xx o’clock This is solid advice. Take it, OP! Doesn’t matter if it’s obviously a lie. It is then a validating step for the other person as you chose to spend longer with them than initially intended. It’s positive reinforcement. You just have to frame it right and not be a wad about it.	/r/seduction	24/02/20 07:01 PM
1	Thursday Upscale Bar Field Report What’s stopping you from being sexually explicit after you have established that women are interested in you? I dont get it tbh. Nobody’s going to give you a magic cure for this. You have to start doing it and the more you do it the better you’ll get at it. Probably not what you want to hear but it is what it is. And you don’t even have to be explicit tbh. You can make up any kind of excuse to take someone home (watch a movie/funny video you discussed, see some art/weird collectible you own/view…	/r/seduction	10/01/20 05:52 PM
3	Men, please don't be like this guy at the club Agree with the general sentiment, but the bigger takeaway from this is don’t invest time in women (or men) like these. It feels off to me that she didn’t correct him when he claimed her as his “girlfriend”. It’s possible she was leading him to believe there was more than friendship on offer. Plenty of other fish in the sea. Congratulations OP for having the courage to walk away.	/r/seduction	04/01/20 07:38 PM
3	Holy Shit She Said Yes (update) sounds super organic! good on you, mate! i think you might have found someone you'd like to hang out with long-term (and vice versa). this is usually a good time to start making some exceptions on seduction rules! seduction rules are great for building attraction, they aren't the best for building comfort and/or building/keeping a relationship long-term. good stuff! keep the buds updated!	/r/seduction	28/11/19 10:35 AM
1	I'm confused move on bro! not worth it! also she wasn't interested in the first place. everybody likes attention. Some will gladly accept/even encourage it even if they know you want different things. Some who actually care for you/your well-being won't. no points for guessing what category this person falls into.	/r/seduction	24/10/19 03:05 PM
1	What do I reply to this?! also, why would you ask her out this weekend after ignoring her texts for days on end? it sounds to me a little like you are still hoping this would go somewhere and simply starving her of attention partly out of spite. I'd reflect a little on what I were doing and why, if I were you, tbh!	/r/seduction	15/10/19 04:19 PM
2	What do I reply to this?! don't answer that text in any committal manner. turn it into some sort of a joke and laugh it off. In a general sense, i get that you don't want to invest energy in someone that wants different things than you do, but you have to do one of two things: i. either you explain this to her emphatically once and for all and make sure you lay down what this means for your equation in the future. if you want to try and be friends (which I don't understand, but ok, can happen), tell her what this means a…	/r/seduction	15/10/19 04:17 PM
1	Went out with women, learnt she has a boyfriend, did I mess up here? This is such complete rubbish. Dude, next time you hang out with her, just escalate. She will either reciprocate or tell you she has a boyfriend and that will be that. You can then tell her that you received mixed signals from her and/or misread them and decide for yourself if you want to continue to hang out as friends and the boundary is clearly drawn. You are both playing the game of plausible deniability. Lots of people enjoy attention from other people despite being in loving, satisfying re…	/r/seduction	27/09/19 07:51 AM
4	Always go for the kiss on the first date Asking for a kiss will work sometimes but most women will find that awkward or unattractive. When it comes to a kiss, i think it’s better to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission. Even if you get rejected you can turn that round on her usually and tease her about being shy.	/r/seduction	29/08/19 07:21 PM
6	Always go for the kiss on the first date I have a question - i have had a few dates lately that ended with some pretty intense kissing followed by getting blown off after and not seeing these girls again - wtf is that all about? I’m not getting hung up here but I’d like to figure this out and fix it. I do get that some women will kiss you even if they aren’t into you, but a polite peck is one thing and full on french kissing is another, or isn’t it?	/r/seduction	29/08/19 07:19 PM
1	Copping-out on dates Update: I went on another date last evening. Not a great start as the bar we picked was closed for a private event and i was in an unfamiliar territory. I lost momentum to lead and she actually took us to another bar she knew. Things looked reasonably up from there. Light kino, playful teasing. Some pretty personal conversations about our childhoods and dreams. She also made a remark about me being very mysterious which I take as a good sign. She mentioned we should do this again and we said goo…	/r/seduction	23/08/19 11:25 AM
-2	Possible to pull a girl with a boyfriend? Appreciate the concern mate. I clearly didn’t come here for an evaluation of my moral compass but I will engage you for a second. Have been on each side of that equation and I know how it feels to be each of those people. Even so, it isn’t really my problem. If you can’t contribute to the question being asked, with all due respect mate, perhaps show the same restraint you are preaching and not comment. There’s no point in making this a moral discussion. It isn’t a stand-up thing to do and if you…	/r/seduction	19/08/19 01:39 PM
-2	Possible to pull a girl with a boyfriend? I mean it isn’t really a moral question. I know it isn’t a great thing to do and I can never have a meaningful relationship if it begins like this, but have you never had an idea take shape in your mind and you know it’s bad but you gotta do it anyway?	/r/seduction	19/08/19 01:05 PM
2	Advice needed: My relationship is on the edge of break up! Don’t get emotionally invested in this type of women. Your story displays very clear signs of manipulation on her side. The pitfall of all guys in your place is that we think “but no! It can’t happen to me...what we have is special” but it happens anyway. These women typically operate in a pattern and it is sad but they need some degree of therapy and calibration to really break out of that cycle. It’s hard to do but just cut her off and move on. You will find someone else sooner rather than lat…	/r/seduction	19/08/19 11:58 AM
3	Should you even invite a girl out to a date? Or what am I doing wrong Definitely some hindsight bias here but a lot of missed opportunities here dude! When you bump into a prospect accidentally more than once always playfully ask if she’s been following you with a raised eyebrow - this sets a great frame for any future interactions. When she caught you checking her out, why on earth would you say “nothing”? You have to tease her my man! Even so, it looked like she was still into you, given she asked you/your friend over and when your friend left you had to pull th…	/r/seduction	19/08/19 06:30 AM
3	Should you even invite a girl out to a date? Or what am I doing wrong ‘Get sex’ is the wrong terminology tbh but yes aim for physical intimacy asap. It doesn’t matter that you are looking for a meaningful relationship that goes beyond just sex. If that’s your goal and you have substance you can easily build it on top, but turning emotional investment into more is just fraught with way too many dangers. I think I have had some of my most emotionally open conversations with women just after i’ve had sex with them - i think it is also something that endears you to th…	/r/seduction	19/08/19 06:22 AM
1	Struggling with a few issues in certain interactions Great question - would love some feedback on this as well. I feel certain I’m doing something that’s lowering my attractiveness on dates coz I can’t seem to get women to truly reciprocate my escalation. Is it simply a case of core confidence/becoming an inherently attractive person? I feel like that’s the answer I often see from dating coaches and there’s value in this but some of us are physically bang average and even if we make big improvements on attractiveness/core confidence, this is a lon…	/r/seduction	18/08/19 10:48 AM
1	Copping-out on dates I have in the past been too safe and gotten friendzoned so it’s a feckin tough balance to break. I don’t know about the first sentence though - it’s not always easy to tell. Especially as my text game is VERY strong and if a girl responds to that I usually take that as a good sign sexuality-wise. I suspect I might be overplaying it compared to my date-game where I’m a bit more unsure about how to proceed	/r/seduction	18/08/19 09:52 AM
3	Double standards with sex and promiscuity? most women are terrible at giving advice, especially when it comes to things like this. a lot of women live in denial about their sexuality and the thing to blame most is exactly what you are worried about - slut-shaming. Just look at some of the comments on this thread and you will see what it means. A small % of women will openly agree that they (like your friends) will go to bed with a hot guy they are attracted to or a guy who has good skills with pulling women, without waiting to ask if he …	/r/seduction	02/08/19 03:04 PM
3	Pulling a girl who might have a boyfriend great comment man! 100 points to Gryffindor!	/r/seduction	02/08/19 02:56 PM