I have been on a few dates lately but feel like I am blowing them somewhat. Specifically my last two - both had playful, flirtatious banter over text building up to dates. On dates, I executed a mix of attraction/comfort routines. Some went well, some bombed. I did some light kino escalation but nothing overtly sexual.

First girl came home and started making out but categorically stopped me to say she didn’t want to have sex on day 1. (I understand the slut-shaming dilemma). This girl had history of sexual trauma which she told me about, so I didn’t push through. She went cold couple dates later.

Other one I escalated all night long but had very little reciprocation - i teased her about being shy - she explained this away as being cultural saying how close we were seated was already too intimate. When we parted she still leaned in when I went for a kiss. Hasn’t ghosted me yet but I’m wondering if I should have done more! Feedback welcome