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5

How are you qualified to write this?
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 06:30 AM
1

I was married to the daughter of two alcoholics.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/25 12:36 AM
1

Ah. Of course. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:43 PM
1

What does MLC mean?
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:37 PM
3

Can you please expand on this school of thought? It’s very close to home for me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 11:23 PM
2

It’s called Projection.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 08:04 PM
10

My daughters treating people the way their mother treated me is my greatest fear.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 02:09 AM
5

Send the cops around for a welfare check then call your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 01:21 PM
30

My ex wife made the rounds of all of our friends and my family, telling them she still loved me. She didn’t want to be known as the one who had destroyed the marriage and broken up the family. Thankfully, after some tough times, my family now knows the truth, but the friends are all lost. I don’t think she regrets what she did, but she doesn’t want people to know she did it. She’s just a liar.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:22 PM
1

I know this is bordering on semantics, but there are no errors here. Her actions are all very deliberate, towards a very deliberate goal.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 11:08 PM
0

r/ParentalAlienation
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 09:58 PM
7

Her communication was very persuasive in the early days. I subsequently learned that this is an early sign of narcissism. I remember being parked outside her house one night after going out somewhere, and she was lecturing me about the evils of a particular chain of hardware stores.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 02:47 AM
6

That's pretty funny. If she's catholic, she doesn't even need to involve you. She can just confess, do her penance, and leave you out of it. Maybe you should remind her how her religion works.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 05:12 AM
14

I had this experience too. It took me a while to understand it, but I get it now. If I had accepted those invitations she would have been able to tell herself (and others) that she hadn’t treated me dreadfully - see, he came to the beach with me, I can’t have been an awful and abusive. It was one of several ways she tried to deal with her guilty conscience.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 02:35 AM
0

Sure mate.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 10:22 AM
1

Missed the point spectacularly.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 10:19 AM
0

That cuts both ways. If it's not worth any trouble at all, it shouldn't be a problem to return it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 09:29 AM
3

It absolutely is possible and it happens a lot. r/parentalalienation
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 09:34 PM
8

r/parentalalienation
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 07:21 PM
3

My ex wife never told the children why she left. The kids came to me, asking why their family was now split up, and I didn’t know what to say to them. I told them that I didn’t know either (I genuinely didn’t understand what had happened) but that it had been their mother’s decision. They told me later that they asked their mother and she had given them a half-arsed answer that they didn’t understand. Obviously it was all far from ideal, but the upshot is that the kids now come to me and not her…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 10:01 PM
8

They do this so they can tell themselves they are not being awful. My abusive ex wife did it and I refused to participate. I wasn’t going to play that game.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 10:03 PM
7

In my family videos I can see two different people. It’s been remarkable to look back and see the change. I’m glad I have the videos that make it so clear.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 06:55 AM
7

Every time I drop my kids off to their mother’s house, the house I painstakingly renovated over years, I notice more neglect. It’s really sad to see.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 12:10 AM
3

Absolutely. It’s so helpful not to expect normal human behaviour from them, after the years of pain.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 08:17 AM
10

I have asked myself that, and the answer is very simple. I didn't want to break up my marriage or my family. I really valued them and wanted to save them. I am very comfortable with that - proud of it, actually.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 02:14 AM
0

Why do you think you know better?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/24 02:13 AM
7

I agree with this, 100%. I actually appreciate that she doesn't reciprocate. I can see the children starting to understand a little more every time it happens. Of course, it's not ideal, but she's doing it to herself.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 05:50 AM
1

No it’s not. Women do this with boys as well. I have two friends dealing with it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 11:22 PM
3

What a wonderfully helpful comment. Well done.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 05:49 AM
3

I write things down as they crop up in mind as significant. It has been like a snowball effect; it started small and slow but then really sped up until I now feel I have a pretty exhaustive document capturing things that are important to me. It has been good for my mental health as well as for remembering.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 02:03 AM
1

Why on Earth is this on a divorce sub?
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 10:00 PM
1

10 and 11.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 07:53 AM
3

I ran thousands of kilometres. Leaving the emotions out on the trail made it possible for me to function normally for the rest of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:47 AM
4

No, I haven’t. I feel sorry for my children who, at some point in the future, will work out what their mother is like and will have to grapple with it. I think my oldest daughter has already started to understand a little.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 01:44 AM
1

Best advice? But not a single mention of his children. Yeah nah…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/24 05:21 AM
2

Heritable mental illness must be disclosed.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 07:07 AM
15

That message wasn’t an apology. She’s blaming him.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 05:39 PM
10

Please don’t. Many of us have had these thoughts and understand; I know I do. I (think I) am through the worst of it and I see clearly now how it would be the worst thing I could do to my children.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 12:49 AM
1

Not the same situation, at all. If you read the post, it is clearly about picking a fight with the intent of breaking up a marriage. It is not about a post-separation situation.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 03:08 AM
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👍
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 01:36 AM
2

Sure mate. You really have to sift through the simplistic garbage to find the good stuff in this sub.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 01:20 AM
1

Yeah. So simple.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 12:33 AM
14

Months! Rookie numbers. It was years for me. It’s amazing to look back on now, and what I put up with to try to keep my family together.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 03:35 AM
10

Yes, they do. It’s a strategy for avoiding unpleasant sensations of guilt and shame, and they’ve been doing it for a very long time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 11:35 PM
2

Same here. I think the worst thing that can be said about how I conducted myself in my marriage was that I enabled her terrible behaviour. But I haven’t worked out where the line is between being a generous and supportive husband, and enabling a selfish, entitled wife.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 12:09 AM
6

My ex wife went to “therapy” with the specific aim of getting organised to leave the marriage. Paid thousands of dollars for it, too. It’s a thing, and I know because I saw the contract she signed after she left.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 04:02 AM
3

She didn't "give" you kids, like it was some generous, unilateral gift. You gave her five beautiful kids just as much as she gave them to you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 02:13 AM
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In my experience, "It's what's best for the children" is manipulation, in the form of an appeal to a righteous cause. My ex is notorious for using it, and I find it pretty entertaining that what's best for the children always seems to align with whatever selfish thing she wants in the moment. She didn't seem to care about what was best for the children when she destroyed a perfectly happy family.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:31 AM
1

LOL. ChatGPT as relationship adviser. That's a new one.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:04 AM
19

Serves you right for marrying my ex wife.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 07:54 AM
1

Why are you asking here?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 12:33 AM
23

My ex apologised for “hurting me when she left the marriage.” I asked exactly what actions she was apologising for and she immediately got defensive. I’m pretty sure it was something some kind of counsellor told her to say; it really had nothing to do with me. I rejected it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 08:52 AM
2

That is simply not true.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 08:08 PM
8

Same here, brother. I showed them a letter from her lawyer in which she was trying to bribe me to give up time with my children. I considered it concrete evidence that she was trying to take my children away, like I told them she had been trying for years, but my family didn't give a shit. My dad is like yours; he sees what is going on, but he's too weak to contradict his wife. At this stage I just hope my mum dies before my dad so I can have a relationship with him again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:08 AM
2

Or the lives of everyone around her on the road.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 12:54 AM
4

I play a lot of guitar, and I'm getting a band going. When my kids are with me we play a lot of music together and I help them learn and practise. I'm a better musician than I've ever been and my kids are exceptional for their age. I feel like I have literally forged the worst thing that happened to me into musical skill.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 07:29 AM
9

She's not advocating for your interests, or for your son's. Her advice is self-serving - stop listening to her. I have 50:50, and actually end up with my children more than half of the time because my ex-wife can't organise her life as well as I can mine. My kids and I adore each other, and our relationship is good for all of us. You wouldn't think you would have to fight to achieve this, but some of us have to. So be prepared to fight, and take care of yourself so you can.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 09:30 PM
2

Nice. Does "acceptance" also describe the way you think about your ex?
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 02:25 AM
9

I couldn't agree more. "Forgive" is trotted out on the main divorce sub all the time, and then there's this big conversation about what it actually means. I think the problem starts with the word itself. If you have to go to all that trouble to define what forgiveness means, and it doesn't mean what everyone thinks it means, then there's a fundamental problem. We need a better word. And I agree with your thoughts about your own situation, especially your sympathy for your daughters. I anticipate…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 01:19 AM
1

I know. What an idiot. Trying to save his marriage. Better get on reddit and shill some redpill garbage at him.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:18 PM
0

LOL. Literally every snarky point you think you have made here could be made against you and your post.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/23 07:17 AM
7

My mother and two sisters in law have been hanging out with my abusive ex wife, and now my whole family is alienated from me because I refuse to play the game and pretend everything is ok. Both of my brothers have called me to tell me what a terrible person I am (I'm not), and I haven't seen a single member of my family since about Christmas. I have become an orphan at the age of 50. The only good news is that I shared an email from her lawyer, which made it absolutely clear that she is trying t…
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 03:57 AM
8

"I want this to be amicable" = "How dare you hold me responsible for my shitty behaviour!"
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 12:51 AM
8

My kids came and asked me why the family wasn't together any more. I honestly didn't know, and told them that. I apologised to them and suggested they ask their mother, and god knows what garbage she told them. Poor kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:50 PM
8

It takes one to flush a marriage. I wish this stupid "it takes two" platitude would die.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:49 PM
0

Mine didn’t either. Now, several years later with things still not finalised because she wants to control everything and I’m not having a bar of it, she wants to explain it all. Too late; I’m not interested in your post hoc rationalisation.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 08:21 PM
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Mine didn’t either. Now, several years later with things still not finalised because she wants to control everything and I’m not having a bar of it, she wants to explain it all. Too late; I’m not interested in your post hoc rationalisation.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 08:21 PM
5

Not me. Counselling was just another channel for her abuse, and the counsellors I experienced were oblivious.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 05:47 AM
6

Don't worry about this guy OP. He doesn't get it. It's obvious he doesn't understand what parental alienation is, and he's being ridiculously aggressive with it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 10:29 PM
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Mine did that too. She spent years shitting all over that marriage and smashing a family apart, and then cried when it was done. I don’t get it.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 07:54 PM
14

I ask people not to refer to my ex wife by the short version of her name. A cute nickname isn’t appropriate for someone who did the awful things she did.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 12:43 PM
3

If I have this right, it was the inattentive type of ADHD, rather than the hyperactive. So disorganisation, untidiness, losing things, inability to focus. The biggest problems, though, were inabiity to listen and rejection sensitive dysphoria. It was pretty wild when I worked out that there could have been a reason for her complete inability to have constructive conversations about issues. That had been baffling to me, because all of the techniques I had developed in a career based on negotiatin…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 02:14 AM
2

I'm pretty certain about post natal depression, and I also think ADHD. The more interesting answer is that she never told me at the time, but now, years later, she seems to want to give me more information and I have completely lost interest because I suspect she only wants to assuage her conscience. The other interesting thing is that I started to suspect ADHD when someone was describing his wife's behaviour on reddit, and it was incredibly similar to what me wife did. Someone piped up and said…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 01:46 AM
3

Well played.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 01:21 AM
2

I actually don’t think I could have saved it in any way that would have left me with any dignity. She was mentally ill. I don’t regret doing all that I did because I can look back and know that I did the best I could, and far more than she did. It’s obvious now that her behaviour weighs on her, while my conscience is clear. I want to add that this perspective has come after several years. It’s clearly still raw and fresh for you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 09:00 PM
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I did this. Now I look back and see that I was enabling her. It’s easy to see now, but it was a very confronting realisation at the time. That said, she was the selfish one taking advantage, so I feel like I was a bit dumb, and that doesn’t make a bad person.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 08:47 PM
7

Not even remotely true.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 06:27 PM
1

That sub seems to be dominated by female voices, and they can rationalise the most appallingly selfish behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 12:11 PM
1

It would have been entertaining to see the responses this would have got if you had posted it on r/divorce. The mental gymnastics would have been spectacular.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 01:34 AM
3

Absolutely not.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 12:52 AM
23

Hard no. Some possibly good news is that she has a guilty conscience and this is an attempt to create a narrative in which she is actually not an awful person.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 01:44 AM
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What a dumb take. OP is absolutely ok to care about this. OP, this is called Parental Alienation, and it's a form of child abuse. Not enough people know the name of this phenomenon, but it's very real and many men commit suicide because of it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 01:03 AM
3

Teachers always seem to think they’re the smartest person in the room because they’re used to calling the shots in rooms full of children.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 11:56 PM
4

My parents are getting awfully close to being cut off because they do this. They don’t realise they’re being manipulated and are just pawns to make her feel better about herself. It’s evil.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 11:08 PM
2

Got to make sure they're ALL in a healthy place mentally...
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 05:16 AM
4

Define "a lot."
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 12:37 AM
17

Because parental alienation, most likely, a form of child abuse that not enough people are aware of.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 07:41 PM
1

Why are you letting her call the shots? She’s not the boss any more.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 01:05 AM
-3

Supercilious from first word to the last. Helpful? Not at all.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/23 01:59 AM
41

It’s called parental alienation and it’s child abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/23 09:42 AM
3

There's no need to be kind for the sake of it. If you're like many of us, you have been relentlessly taken advantage of in your marriage. You've also likely compromised a great deal in an effort to keep your marriage together. Now is the time to stop doing that, and to stick up for yourself. No one else is going to.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 11:08 PM
14

Word salad. Try it again in plain English.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 03:54 AM
3

You’re so charming and delightful; I’m sure I would have remembered.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 10:49 PM
4

Wow. It’s like you know me. Have we met?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 10:42 PM
4

Spot on. Mothers who barge in on fathers’ time with their children, and manipulate the children to do it - straight shit.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 09:53 PM
-4

How many times have you told this story on reddit?
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/22 10:44 PM
3

Australian women too mate.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/22 10:39 PM
-2

But saying irregardless matters? Right.
/r/MensRights25/10/22 11:34 PM
-3

What about the social perception of not using capital letters at the start of a sentence, or commas?
/r/MensRights25/10/22 11:24 PM
-6

What about using apostrophes?
/r/MensRights25/10/22 11:09 PM
2

Maybe. Possibly a man who won’t accept being treated that way. Certainly not a man who enables shitty, selfish behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 06:20 AM
1

That's an interesting comment. My #1 parenting goal is to raise girls who treat people better than their mother treated me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 02:44 AM
1

I jam with my kids quite a lot. It’s brilliant.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 01:48 AM
3

I’ll add something a bit different from what is already here: look after yourself, particularly your mental health. Running and playing guitar, helped me a lot. I spoke with a psychologist, and also with three very kind and generous friends. It’s been a tough few years but I can honestly say I’m stronger and wiser than I have ever been.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/22 04:27 AM
6

Stay at home with no kids. That's amazing. Imagine having that dream life and destroying it. I would love to read that.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 03:29 AM
2

Who cares. Get better friends.
/r/MensRights06/09/22 11:08 PM
3

"And I'm the father of yours. So what?"
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/22 12:48 AM
2

Who cares what she says? They love to use odd words to make you question yourself, and wonder if you're doing something wrong. It's manipulation, and it's probably projection.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/22 12:16 AM
1

Yeah. It’s easy. All you have to do is read the post then summarise it down to about two sentences.
/r/MensRights27/08/22 10:54 PM
3

Discussing things before marriage doesn’t eliminate the potential for people to change in ways that blow marriages up.
/r/MensRights15/08/22 10:24 AM
3

I've been surprised in the past when I've heard mothers of sons spouting misandrist propaganda. I'm less surprised now, and more sad for those boys growing up in that environment. I'm no psychologist, but it seems to me it can't be good for those boys to hear those sentiments from within their own family.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 06:44 AM
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I don't know if it's normal, but my mother does this too and I am absolutely not ok with it. My ex went on a campaign of recruiting mutual friends and, as it turns out, my own mother, in the months before she finally left. In the case of those friends, they've shown their true colours and demonstrated that they're not the kinds of people I want around me. If you can be friends with an abuser over the abusee, then you're at best ill-informed and quite likely a shit person. It's not so clear cut w…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/22 01:49 AM
4

The people I know who don't have contact with their children are in that situation because the ex-spouse alienated the children from them.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 11:15 PM
1

Deserve what?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 11:57 PM
-4

LOL. Yet another person telling me what to do. The irony.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 05:13 AM
-2

Many of us have been lectured by the women we are now divorced from, and lecturing is an excellent way to make the audience disengage as a result.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 04:02 AM
0

If only it were written that way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 02:57 AM
-7

Why are so many posts on this sub lectures?
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 11:14 PM
1

This is r/mensrights mate. r/relationships is that way...
/r/MensRights03/07/22 10:24 PM
7

My ex insisted that the accounts I had set up for my daughters when they were born, and supplemented a few years later when I got a windfall were included in the settlement. Stealing from her own daughters...
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/22 03:04 AM
8

Mental health Selfishness
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/22 04:16 AM
9

And there's plenty of simps on there to give it to them. I find it pretty pathetic.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/22 09:42 AM
0

What a strange, contrarian perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 03:31 AM
10

There's a distinct different between posts by women and posts by men. Posts by women are often about getting support for divorcing for the flimsiest reasons, and these are inevitably cheered on by the peanut gallery. The comments sometimes astonish me; they call the husband all sorts of names and suggest taking off with the kids. It's revolting. Posts from blokes are much more sensible.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/22 01:01 AM
1

Ahh, yes. Pompousness. Classic Reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 08:42 AM
0

It’s convenient, isn’t it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 05:42 AM
1

Ah yes, "bad form." Classic gaslighting. Other words to describe this apparent "bad form" from a different perspective are "selfishness," "gold digging," and "whore."
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 02:59 AM
6

It seems very reasonable to me to be concerned that resources that are supposed to be for our children are being used inappropriately.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 03:38 AM
6

You don't have to meet to plan a kid's birthday party. You definitely don't have to meet for lunch. You don't have to live on her terms at all mate, and you don't even have to explain to her why you don't want to.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/22 12:12 AM
3

Seems like it will be more of a hop in the park.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/22 12:13 AM
1

She doesn't get to call the shots like that. And you don't need to just roll over and take it. If you're anything like me, you're emerging from a situation where you compromised much more than you should have to keep the peace. Well, it's a different scenario now and that approach will see you and your children getting short changed. It's time for a different philosophy because that situation is gone.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/22 01:20 AM
1

That's funny. If you really want a taste of the craziness and downright awfulness you're avoiding, go and check out the responses to any post from a woman on r/divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 10:15 PM
3

This made me laugh. Why on Earth are you on Divorce_Men?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/22 09:21 PM
6

I suspect he would appreciate it. In my experience many so-called friends pick the other side when a divorce happens. If this guy is like me, it would mean a lot to know that good friends are sticking by him.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/22 03:59 AM
2

Did you come up with this yourself EERMA? Because if you did you're a very insightful person. This is excellent
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/22 11:09 PM
11

Time with the kids is a zero sum game in a marriage too. I didn’t get anything like a fair share because she wouldn’t work enough to allow me not to. I had to get divorced to get a fair share of time with my children; how ridiculous is that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/22 10:33 AM
2

Your life is ticking by mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 01:16 AM
3

Just listen without judgment, which will help him process and eventually understand what is happening. Then he will be able to act the right way for him.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 11:50 PM
17

That's some top shelf gaslighting there.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 06:12 AM
2

How old do they have to be have the right to choose?
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 01:31 AM
16

Why are you blaming the victims?
/r/MensRights14/03/22 02:51 AM
-3

This would have been an interesting opinion if you had the courage of your convictions and didn’t undermine it with that crap about downvotes.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 08:46 PM
1

Yes. Do this.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 11:08 PM
3

Good luck. You’re going to need it with that attitude. You’ve already capitulated.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/22 02:17 AM
3

Mate. Come on. They’re your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/22 02:00 AM
3

Why does she call the shots about you attending school events? Feels like a significant overreach from her, and not one that you need to abide by.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/22 01:51 AM
4

Absolutely. Feminism is a great stick to beat a bloke with, but it seems to provide no incentive whatsoever for many women to pick up an equal load in a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/21 06:44 AM
9

Of course you're neither wrong, nor the arsehole; you know that already. My own experience and perspective on this is that it is vital to enforce the agreed arrangements. Flexibility is ok, but within bounds that have been negotiated. My ex-wife relentlessly took advantage of me when we were married, and it is now very important to me that I do not allow her to take advantage of me now she is gone. Sticking to my guns is unfortunately costly in emotional terms, but for me the reward of no longer…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/21 02:01 AM
2

I find myself wondering why people do it. It seems to be really important to some of my friends that I should be partnered up, and they get kind of annoyed when I’m ambivalent about it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/21 08:21 PM
8

I am the only person my ex said no to. She bent over backwards for everyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 06:21 AM
17

What on Earth does that have to do with anything? Surely the relevant point here is that the Sun bothered to include the glamour photos in an article which is about a woman's criminal behaviour.
/r/MensRights27/10/21 02:16 AM
13

Which is a perfectly reasonable thing to do.
/r/MensRights21/09/21 01:21 AM
-1

Fair enough then. One whole day! Yeah, totally give up now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 09:02 AM
-1

Come off it mate. Why would you give up on your daughter so easily? If you need to fight, fight.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 08:45 AM
1

I chose not to talk directly to my ex wife, and my only reason for that was because I just couldn't handle it. The mediator picked up on my stress very early, thankfully, and he did shuttle negotiation which proved very effective. I know this is not directly addressing your attorney's concerns, but in my experience there are other reasons for not wanting to sit down and talk.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 02:37 AM
0

No need to apologise mate; I have no skin in this game. I just found it interesting.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 03:59 AM
-13

No gender was mentioned in the post.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/21 02:50 AM
4

You need to look at the picture, read the caption, and the article.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 04:11 AM
6

Yet look at her running towards him with a massive smile on her face. What a leech.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/21 12:29 AM
3

There were three aspects to it for me. First, I decided to make the most of the free time that I suddenly had, with music and running. I am now a far better musician than I was, and I can do things that I have wanted to be able to do for years. And I ran thousands of kilometres. Running is mostly about managing emotion for me, and there have been times when I have cried uncontrollably while doing it but that then enables me to function. Second, I talked to patient friends and professionals. Talk…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/21 12:19 AM
0

Why?
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 11:02 PM
7

Keep the kid with you mate. Easy. Why would you just let her take your child?
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 10:52 AM
17

My wife was a “feminist” too. Turns out that label was utterly worthless when it came to her working, or equality in any other regard really. Good luck mate.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 08:52 AM
3

It’s ok to vent on the internet.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 03:04 AM
3

Holy shit. Teach me your ways, maestro.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/21 11:09 PM
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