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THEORYnonamanuensis/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 05:30 PM
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It really is quite lonely feeling knowing that I do not connect with my overall culture, in this way and in many many other ways. I understand! For instance, I thought I was the only virgin my age and worried about it every once in a while ("is something wrong with me!?") and felt like an odd person in the midst of popular talk of casual sex and such but as time marches on I haven't ever once regretted it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/18 08:30 PM
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Depends on the definition of what leading a perfectly happy life would be, huh? Everyone will experience setback or disappointment in relationships from outright devastating betrayal to periodic conflict that can be resolved well. Sex is one part of millions of variables of human interactions and relationships. I think it's best to tell young women (who are asking for advice, or whom you are parenting or mentoring) that there is a lot of nuance. just that they should look inside themselves to de…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 11:29 PM
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I have read your post twice and I'm just not understanding what you are asking. You want to give advice to women about when to have sex, they tell you they don't want to wait, and you want to go back and tell them why they should wait?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 05:23 PM
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Are you married? You're depressed because you have money struggles and a bad relationship. You own that your part in the relationship was acting like a shrew, being emotionally unstable, having emotional outbursts. What is your plan for changing yourself? If you are resentful and ashamed and confused then practice the opposite: gratitude, ownership, and clarity. You don't have to have big goals but maybe a daily gratitude list, say thank you to your partner when you authentically can (LOOK for r…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 11:57 PM
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"Red Pill" explains sexual strategies in a world where men are encouraged to act more like women, act the way women SAY they want men to act, women are encouraged to act more like men, and act the way women say men want women to act. RP is a breath of fresh air and explains a lot of the common and uncomfortable patterns we see in the world. So I think most RP subs agree on certain truths (female hypergamy being core) but how they accept and change their behavior given those truths is very differ…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 06:36 PM
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Another vote for both: Be patient and calm. There really isn't anything you can or should do except... Look into prenups. He is smart to be cautious about marriage. I would add have a timeline for yourself - if there isn't a ring and wedding date by X date, move on. I have seen far too many women "be patient" for years and waste a lot of time on a man who didn't want to marry and they just kept waiting. If you do stay together and he continues being so anxious, I think it might be worthwhile to …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 06:11 PM
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Single ladies, do you find yourselves thinking about your future husbands as well? Do you have these thoughts? And married ladies out there, how do you deal with your husband's past relationships, if he has had any? When I was single and after I had learned about RP, I didn't think much about my future husband. I didn't want to build a fantasy. I did work on myself and being someone who would attract a good person. Before RP I do remember daydreaming more. (Not saying RP should shatter hopes, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 05:14 PM
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Wow...will consider further but this is a good catch!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 05:00 PM
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My sole female role model in the media.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 02:58 PM
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I burned something in the microwave on my honeymoon. It was really embarrassing. I was NOT proud to be a woman who couldn't cook and decided I should learn to do better. I was also vegetarian during my teens and in college and so I was really uncomfortable and insecure in my ability to cook meat but I've gotten to the point where I can safely make a decent steak. I'm proud to report that my husband (the main cook in our home - he loves to cook) has declared that I am a "good cook" now. I am also…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 10:46 PM
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Does anyone else buy into redpill truths but at the same time feel that it is futile to follow them? No. We will all die but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to live well and enjoy life as best we can in the face of existential futility. I don't think sleeping around for the joy of the highs associated with beginning a relationship is living well. https://www.reddit.com/r/JordanPeterson/comments/78rgrf/sexual_partners_marriage_happiness_depression/ Whatever we practice we get better at - if yo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 04:05 PM
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Thank you. Good luck and you've got this!
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 10:13 PM
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I'm confused how you can "fall in love" with someone before being in a relationship with them (since they have to chase you?). You can become infatuated or intensely attracted/obsessed...but fall in love? This doesn't sound like love. I agree with other comments: vet better. This means DATE, not immediately enmesh with someone and become boyfriend/girlfriend. You can date and practice appropriate vulnerability as you get to know people. The more dates you go on the more you may be able to practi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 10:07 PM
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Your husband's past is not to blame for this. Getting married is a LOT of stress. And putting all that focus on the first time having sex together is also stressful. You've spent a long time practicing saying "no" so it's a change to say "yes." I think what you should do is keep coyly indicating your attraction and desire to him. Make it safe for you to both be together sexually despite your fears. The goal is not to have an amazing wild night each and every night in the beginning - you're just …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 09:48 PM
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I agree with others: I do not think there is potential to ask the Red Pill community for dates, your virginity and "no drama" does not need to be put on a resume, I would reconsider how you explain your flexibility about children, and I would explore your local religious communities and online religious communities for potential partners. I'm curious as to why, if we're using resume talk, have you been "out of work" in the dating scene for so long?
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 09:23 PM
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Well, I have had very strong boundaries with my dysfunctional parents (I haven't talked to them for over half my life - they are both very sick and both abandoned their kids over the years when we were young). When it got to a point to tell my husband about them I was factual. Most importantly, it was clear that I didn't expect him to have to spend time with them at any point as long. When we had kids it was clear that he wanted to protect our kids from them and I agree of course - if I were to …
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 09:08 PM
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I don't think you're missing anything. I think you should just keep living a fulfilling life and put yourself out there. How can I safely escalate romantic interactions to see if he & I are on the same page emotionally/spiritually? What I crave is a really intense bond that goes beyond “are we compatible?” I don't think you can escalate this safely. I would be scared to bond emotionally/spiritually immediately with a man. It would be a red flag to me because emotionally healthy people have appro…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 08:43 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 08:08 PM
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I think you're looking at this in extremes and worst case scenarios. I am not a religious or super-traditional Red Pill woman. But I have found it to be the viewpoint that encourages women to be simply more respectful and grateful for their partners in a non-condescending way (it's not a "Oh, here we go women have to do ALL the work for the poor guys. Again. Hahaha men wouldn't get anything done without women!"). Popular culture will pay lip service to "equal and respectful" relationships but us…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/18 08:00 PM
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You're not going to find someone to marry while you're living with someone, especially if the person you're living with doesn't seem to want to marry. The idea of just dropping it and acting more feminine for a while seems manipulative to me - if you aren't already feminine becoming nicer to get a guy to marry you is controlling. You can still practice more femininity but would you want to do it with him if you knew he won't marry for 5 years or while you're tying to attract someone new and star…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/17 05:23 PM
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It's still got wonderful volume! (the grass is always greener - my fight with my limp straight hair is for volume and yet people who have wavy full hair want my hair)
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 03:59 PM
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I wasn't necessarily a tomboy but I eschewed "girly" stuff and refused to wear pink. I wore a lot of jeans, work boots (spent a lot of time with horses), and funny t-shirts with text phrases on them. I figured out the point of "looking good" served two main purposes - to show other women I belonged with them and confirmed the rules of the social circle (like team uniforms - you know you're on the right team and encourage cohesiveness and trust), and to attract men to the aspects of my body that …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 05:26 PM
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Oh man college was very low level active - I feel like a caged animal working in an office compared to walking to classes and most social activities. Yeah on the deep cleaning. We have made such technological advances in cleaning and food prep that it's no wonder our activity has declined.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:24 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 04:23 PM
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For a time I thought I was asexual. (In hindsight I think that was to my advantage as lack of interest in "bad boys" and crushes kept me from making bad hypergamous dramatic decisions and it kept my n count low) ....And then I met my now-husband. It makes any talk of a sexual life or desire prior to him laughable. He ignited something in me that I had no idea existed. He is very masculine and overall a perfect mix of alpha/beta traits to me. I personally raise my eyebrows at your description of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 04:55 PM
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Why do you think you're incapable of a long term relationship? Here are some ideas that I worked on when I was in nun mode. First exercise: Make a list of what you want in a partner - what you will need for your future goals together (i.e. doesn't matter if he's a good father material if you don't want kids). And a (hopefully smaller) list of what you don't want - red flags, deal breakers, etc. Then look at yourself and ask if you bring the equivalent female qualities for the wants, and what red…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/17 03:13 PM
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For some not-common ideas.... Overall cycle of restriction/binge and while calories-in-calories-out matters if you restrict calories then the body alters its metabolism. https://notpoliticallycorrect.me/2016/08/11/the-calories-incalories-out-myth/ It starts with restriction, which often means "eating healthy" (lean meat, low fat dairy, no sugar, plants....overall less calories) and I think the Western world does this to an extreme degree. Restriction causes reactions of weight gain, which causes…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/17 11:03 PM
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http://www.drsharma.ca/post-weight-loss-fat-gain-in-us-rangers https://notpoliticallycorrect.me/2016/08/11/the-calories-incalories-out-myth/ I don't think you read my comments. I did IIFYM and weight lifting for 2 years and did in fact shed weight. I also had amenorrhea and bone loss, which was part of the many things that made me reconsider my commitment to "health and fitness."
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 03:39 PM
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What a great point! I do think common fitness recommendations are meant for men's bodies more then women's now that I think about it. When I was in recovery to get my period back a lot of women (including myself) had to be coaxed into resting instead of exercising in order to become fertile again. Women's bodies need a certain amount of fat and it's not the amount on most fitness covers. There are naturally slim women who are hormonally healthy but the amount of women I met and interacted with w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 05:58 PM
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I don't think you read my entire comment, which is understandable as it was so long. I didn't starve. I ate 1600 (weight loss) to 2500 (maintenance) calories a day consistently for years, high protein IIFYM. I exercised at what I thought (per my trainer) was a moderate level. And I experienced adverse health and my metabolism and hormones were wrecked. You are right when you say this: This is a pretty bad example of saying that men are fine with fat women. You're saying "My husband would rather …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 02:53 PM
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Thank you for your comment. I was unable to get an eating disorder diagnosis because I weighed too much. I was eating over 2500 calories a day but exercising everyday and STILL obsessed with food. I was involved in many fitness and IIFYM communities and if I had an eating disorder, there a LOT of people with similar issues. In the pursuit of health. I agree - people shouldn't diet they should eat balanced and enjoy fun activities. But that's not what I see people do when they are told "don't get…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 02:41 PM
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If it were possible to do this long term, I would agree. I still think it's important to keep in my mind but hard to do anything about - it's like telling a man he'd be more attractive if he were taller. Well, of course, but it doesn't mean he should go to dire measures to get taller. I think weight manipulation in the long run is a Chinese finger trap. And so I also think women should take advantage of their youth to find a man when they are young instead of trying to look 20something when one …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/17 07:50 PM
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It is hard! I suppose some people can do it alone but I was not one of them. None of my kids slept through the night until past their 1st birthday so those years are something of a blur for me. So I don't have advice on how to do it alone but I think figuring out a sitter is a good idea. We started with a "mother's helper" - a preteen family friend girl who later became our go-to sitter. Just having someone over who could hold the baby while I did X or who was willing to do light chores was a hu…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 09:07 PM
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I think your way of thinking of this is great. My only critical comment, and I wish I knew how to say this lovingly without being condescending - regards the veganism. I was vegan for a few years and later changed. Being older I look back on it as a phase (one of many) when I was figuring things out in my late teens/early 20s. Given how few men are vegan I think it's worthwhile to consider if this is something so important that you're willing to pass on a huge amount of potential great men (I di…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 07:35 PM
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Signs of fundamental differences so I knew we weren't compatible in previous relationships/dates: didn't want kids complete political opposites lots of drama (broke up at least once and/or relationship started while one person was in a relationship, one person wasn't equally "into" the other person and had to be convinced or carried along) demeaning and disrespectful interactions didn't like my body type (in hindsight I was so dumb to stay with this guy, for so many reasons) intelligence gaps ba…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:54 PM
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Basically my question is, should I be keeping my having taken the red pill a secret, and just appearing very neutral on social media (ie, not following any anti-feminist people, or liking controversial posts) so as not to take away from my appeal in any way? If your motivation is to be appealing....I think that's just flat wrong. Be who you are and appeal someone who likes that. Do you advertise your stance on feminism by the things you like on twitter / facebook / any social media ? I stay very…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:53 PM
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I will never forget being in a relationship seminar where the facilitator asked all the women to write down the list of their dream man's qualities. And then she said, "Ok, do you bring those qualities or their equivalent to the table?" Embarrassed silence and realizations occurred. "If not, how can you expect to attract such a person? Why would they pick you?" That was how I dated (I didn't make a list of what I wanted, but I made a list of what I offered and what I expected in return from a pa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 03:28 PM
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-Should i even bring it up to him i know that he has been cheating the entire time? No. I don't think he'll really care if you're one of many. -If i do bring it up how i could i do it respectfully ? Respectfully? For him? It would be most respectful for you to just move on. -My hamster heart is crumbled what would be the suggested time of monk mode to recover from this ? Until the list of what you can give and what you can ask for (i.e. committed long term relationship) is strong. If you have on…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 03:21 PM
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I was thinking of this: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/billion-wicked-thoughts/201104/why-gender-equality-does-not-always-work-in-the-bedroom
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 02:05 PM
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Thanks for the comment. Do you have any advice on how to embrace "une femme d'un certain age" for this sub?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 09:32 PM
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Thank you. I also find some RP content very difficult to read because of the hostile attitudes. As to your specific question - I don't have a black/white opinion on infertile women and marriage. While the historical context behind the concept of marriage is for two people to have children and provide a stable home - with the woman to exchanging her childbearing for the man's protection and resources - I don't think it means that infertile people shouldn't marry. And certainly today that's not ho…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 07:19 PM
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As someone who struggled with acne I can understand how potentially devastating it could be to have this happen. But, I think you should try to take it as given - a useful and thoughtful gift. He didn’t give it with a cutting comment right? Like other said, he was coming from his area of expertise and wanted to help. Aw. I had a piece of furniture that had a broken hinge and my then-boyfriend came over one day with some tools and new pieces and offered to fix the hinge. He wasn’t trying to insul…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 06:52 PM
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I’m confused too. But I don’t understand texting without plans to meet in person either. Maybe going forward save yourself some time by having a communication timeline and let the guy know? I don’t think you did anything wrong. Like someone else said, the guy didn’t want to do more or has his own hang ups.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 06:47 PM
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I can understand why it would seem that way based on my comments. I am very happy to be a woman though.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 06:05 PM
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I think gender roles often work because the expectations are clear, and often the roles are suited to what the wife/husband generally think are important, well suited to, and appreciate that someone else takes the task. Examples: rearing young children for a nursing mother, yardwork and repairs for the husband. But I don’t think gender roles are magic. My marriage does not use traditional gender roles. However we understand the expectations of each other and what we bring to the family so it wor…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:35 PM
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Everyone ages, you can’t run from it. I am contrarian on this sub - I think the focus on weight is a surefire way to be unhappy with yourself - the long term success of manipulated weight loss is awful. Look at pictures of indigenous women and accept that bodies age. Women do get hit worse so it’s harder for us to age. You can flirt at any size. Better to be yourself than white knuckle your weight and balloon after marriage and kids and upset your husband. Find a fun hobby that makes movement fu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 03:59 PM
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I agree - it was inspiring. Made me think of how much I love my husband. Aw.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 02:05 PM
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You're right, your statement specified monogamous men. Teenage boys are not applicable in the context of discussing marriage/long term monogamous relationships but I was thinking of a wider scope and extended the context when the subject came up.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 01:36 PM
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Ok, I didn't read well then. Thanks for the clarification - I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 04:38 PM
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You stated this much better than I did.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 02:00 PM
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I don't think women are biologically driven to commit to a single partner for life though. During pregnancy, childbirth, and infanthood it would be useful to have a partner but after the kids is walking and weaned it would make sense for a woman to look for a biologically more powerful partner. And women can have sex with a higher testosterone man during ovulation but be more attracted to men with more bonding attributes during nonovulation - so a woman is kind of biologically able to cheat very…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:54 PM
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True. Numbers are a construct - but they are useful for us to achieve other goals. Money, property, laws, etc - they are all constructs but it seems to me we as a whole are better off with them overall. And I know logic by allergy isn't the best but there is a similar argument to be made for the foods we all eat and the technologies we use, right? Not natural? And yet here we are, making use of it because we find it beneficial. Monogamy allows a more even distribution of male/female pairing, con…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:51 PM
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I disagree. I think internet porn is worse than that and cannot be taken lightly, especially for teenage boys (https://yourbrainonporn.com/). Magazine images are one thing but the limitless and varied options of internet pornography cannot be without its effects. And I think porn can affect relationships although I think it's less "porn causes relationship issues" than "relationship issues cause a need for porn." And keep in mind I've come to the conclusion that female emotional and status-seeki…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 01:41 PM
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To be radically honest and judgmental I'm going to outburst: forget cheating, someone getting drunk and hanging out with a crowd that enjoys strippers/prostitutes would be a deal breaker for me. And if they ALL cheated? What does that say about the kind of person your husband is if that's his preferred crowd? Water seeks its own level. I know hindsight is 20/20. And I can't imagine the pain you're feeling right now. Not only are you dealing with it but you are opening yourself up to random stran…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 01:54 PM
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Well, I don't think there's 100% RP doctrine. I just take the things that make sense (the legal importance of marriage and the primal sexual strategies and default behaviors of each sex) and don't deny them. I'm certainly not going to drill into my kids' heads that this ("RP") is THE truth but hopefully my observations and understandings can help them when they are going into the world and making their own decisions about who to marry. I wasn't counseled when young on how important and serious t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 10:05 PM
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So true. Thanks for your common sense - balances out those of us who get too analytical. I especially agree with 25 being a good age to get married.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 01:39 AM
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Well, maybe just chill out about the phone stuff for now and see what happens. Experiment - tell yourself "for the next month I will not say one thing about his phone use" and see what happens in a month. If he does give you what you want (more time and attention) be very grateful and appreciative of it. (Not in a passive way like "Oh yay! I'm more important than your phone today!" but in a direct and sweet way, "It is so nice to have spent this hour with you. You are ____!") If you want to clea…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 02:08 PM
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I agree. Your flair says "feminist red pill" - can you tell me more?
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:47 PM
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Like any model, it's imperfect. My experience has been different from yours - I know many single women in their 30s and older who held out for their dream man and their pool of available men get smaller and smaller. Women who did marry later had to settle. They wonder why this is happening when they are such a "catch" meaning they are educated and have a solid career - but that isn't the driving force behind fertility cues for women. And I am acquainted with a large amount of women who publicly …
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:44 PM
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Good point about the emotional/physical violence aspects. I agree. Haha, and yes it is very long.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:26 PM
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Thanks! Although I'm sure someone who doesn't want marriage/kids would have a very different take.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 01:25 PM
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To stop being nice be honest and kindly and firmly hold your boundaries that respect yourself. Nice isn't the same as kind and honest. We are always teaching others about our boundaries - boundaries show where one person ends and we begin. If someone is "nice" then they have no boundaries and they just open themselves up to takers as they give and give and don't put up any boundaries. Imagine a "nice" person who has a yard with no fence and there are neighbors who are constantly adding on to the…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:16 PM
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Why don't you think you have the right to ask him to cut down his phone use? You think he deserves the breaks but you are suspicious of him being on the phone? Do YOU want to clean more and cook more? It sounds like the opposite of attitude in your situation is patience and calmness. If you are getting mad (even justifiably, if someone is disrespectful to you) the reaction of anger isn't going to help in the moment when emotions are high. And if you are being unreasonably upset then you can lear…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 07:53 PM
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I just know I'm not giving it to him and I'm not sure how to fix it What are you not giving to him? The best? Have you straight up just said to him, "Given your demanding hours and the extra time I have, what do you want me to do? I'm thinking X,Y,Z but I want to know what you want." And listen. It seems he's asked you to not be on your phone and you are bothered that he is on his? Tell us more about your "attitude."
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 05:48 PM
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Thanks - done!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 05:31 PM
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How to Balance Male/Female Desires: The solution most human cultures have come up with is marriage - a man and woman giving their equal power to each other and the family unit. The long term goal of family building is met, men get consistent sex and loyal women so they know the children they are putting resources into are actually theirs, and women get protection and resources to raise those children and their short term, life-threatening investment of creating children is matched with protectio…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:35 PM
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What Men Want - Sex and loyalty; the balance depends on their goals (many children with little resources given or devoted resources to a few children). Varied experiences and surprise/shock experiences drive up dopamine. (This is why pornographic images are so powerful and, I believe, dangerous - our brains can get overloaded with the billions of images of women and other sexually varied opportunities. I think men need to be responsible with their drives because there can be an intolerance to re…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:35 PM
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Taking the "red pill" means that I see the uncomfortable realities of male vs female sexual strategies and goals and I take them into account in my own relationships. RP does not mean that I necessarily like these realities or think they are super awesome but it doesn't matter if I think 2+2 is unfair or immoral - it is what it is. I have come to really appreciate the interesting ways the differing strategies have shaped humanity and the solutions we've come up with to balance the pulls. And wit…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 04:35 PM
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I'm not sure how to respond to this. The answer is mostly up to you. And then luck/life factors in. My husband and kids could die this afternoon in a car crash and then I will be alone. It's easy to get depressed and in analysis paralysis but taking action usually helps. My brain usually just wants a decision if I feel myself spiraling. So what are you going to do?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 07:44 PM
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If you have an eating disorder get help. It's dark and harmful. Submission does not mean you must accept everything without regard to your own health and safety. If you weren't aware of this behavior of his and it would have been a deal breaker I think it's still a deal breaker. Just because he hid it doesn't mean you have to stay. However, you signed a contract under certain terms and if those terms aren't in place you can void the contract and move on without thinking you failed or it's all hi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 07:29 PM
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If you plan on staying there then from how you've described it, it sounds like what you've done so far won't get you what you want....and if you want to get married I'm not sure how you'll offer something the men there want. Even if you do meet someone at the gym. And what can you offer a man that a 25 year old in the community can't offer, especially if she doesn't want marriage and you do? It's the stark reality of being in your 30s in a community where it sounds like demographically there are…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 07:16 PM
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With a new baby it's all the minimum. I had four kids in less than 6 years so here is my advice: Ask your husband what he expects for all of this stuff and that will help you focus. Other women's opinions and trends don't really matter unless your husband is into status and then I guess you'll just have to make it work as hopefully that was clear when you got married. I am very minimal with all of this stuff and my husband loves how I look and very much appreciates that it takes me very little t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 05:13 PM
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I suspect guys don't want to deal with the emotional reactions from others if they do bring up prenups, but yeah they aren't hard just possibly intimidating I guess. Most people shell out money and time to inspect a house before buying - why they wouldn't do the same for a marriage baffles me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 02:41 PM
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Dress+hair down+(classic jewelry)+no makeup for my husband, or he likes athletic clothes+ponytail/french braid. Doesn't notice anything else so those are the looks I concentrate on. And that's what I end up wearing for work most often - A-line simple dresses+classic jewelry+minimal makeup. When it gets colder I will wear business casual pants and top+cardigans but I have enough tights and completer tops to continue wearing dresses most of the year.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 06:13 PM
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You're right and it makes sense to leave. Men are treated terribly and shoulder so much with so little recognition. Boys are taught to hate themselves and female craziness is institutionalized. Grown men don't get hugs/human touch for years. They are financially raped for doing nothing other than what they think are the right things. The list is long. It can be deeply depressing. Your post makes me sad for my children but if I let every negative possibility get to me I'd give up. And I don't wan…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 02:42 AM
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It it horribly terrible to be in love with someone and the relationship is not working out. It sucks to be bonded and want to be with someone but part of you knows it's not right. Relationships that work out well are a thing to be celebrated - they result in harmony and the sum of the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Two people who want the same things can make great things happen. If you want my advice (advice from a stranger about a short internet post) I think you should leave and …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 03:58 PM
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hahaha thanks I just realized how it could look like I tried to make my perspective sound original but you're right - marriage IS A CONTRACT and should be treated as such first and foremost. I keep meaning to write out some sort of guide to give to my kids especially as they get older (I have a girl and 3 boys) and this point will be the top of the list when it comes to marriage. I'm sure my husband will remember to hammer the point home if I forget somehow. Especially for our boys. Yes, I don't…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 02:01 PM
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So you're worried about telling your SO (husband?) that you're having trouble with your new job? And you forsee that you have enough anxiety to spend all of your time with him talking about it? I think you're setting yourself up by calling yourself "needy" in a normally stressful situation. New jobs are hard. You aren't "needy" to be finding this stressful. And that label + your new relationship's time limit is perhaps making you spiral a bit into the worst possible scenarios. Breathe. :) Do you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 09:21 PM
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I think of marriage like a business partnership - I got married to create and maintain a family and have a partner to achieve our visions of that life. There are a lot of bonuses and love is part of this arrangement but it's not the focus. The energy of love certainly helps keep everything running well. :) "Dating" is holding job interviews for someone who wants to create that kind of company/family. I have this position of "husband" open for someone who wants to create more people, take care of…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 03:47 PM
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Don't sleep in on the weekends. If you wake up at the same time every day your body will create that circadian cycle and you will want to go to sleep earlier. But you have to do this daily. It took me a few weeks but the payoffs were worth it - no alarm and sleepy at the right time. Plus I got to have nice long mornings on the weekends - that was new to me when I first started this change. I was a terrible night owl and had insomnia until I started waking up at the same time each day in my early…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 03:00 AM
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You can't change your boyfriend's response. There is no way to "fix" it - just be honest, own what you did without excuses, and figure out how to not repeat the behavior in the future. I am also confused by how not using social media is a negative for your boyfriend. I guess it is important to you to be seen? If that is so important then find someone else who shares the value and move on - do NOT try to change other people especially partners. Just because he looks good on paper and there is phy…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 12:36 PM
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You told him you wanted a serious relationship - what does that mean to you? What you think is distant he might think is normal. If you want to text daily and see him X amount of times a week with a timeline of dating for X months before a proposal and he considers a serious relationship exclusive messing around and texting 2-3 times a week and no marriage until 30....it could get confusing and painful. I think daily texting just a month in is very needy and shallowly demanding. If you are datin…
/r/RedPillWives09/09/17 02:02 AM
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I agree with a lot of what you said. I don't think there's any purity test for red pill ideas - I have found them helpful for my life and I take what I like and leave the rest. I also don't think a high partner count is great for a man. It seems to me that it affects one's ability to bond to a partner and I don't think casual sex (especially for women because of pregnancy risk) is a great goal. But if a 30 year old man had never had a sexual partner it would be the equivalent of a women having a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 10:44 PM
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People are free to get them - nothing in particular is stopping them. But most people think very distastefully of prenups. As I understand it, the idea is that by agreeing to one you're "dooming" yourself to failure or think that the marriage won't work and setting up for an easy out. I think that's all total BS. People don't set up businesses without exit plans (well, smart people). People don't sign contracts just stating "oh, if we don't set terms then the incentive will be to work it out!" I…
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