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That kind of passive income is awesome, no argument. ​ All he's got for reasons to not go to the gym are excuses.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 10:04 PM
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Then you're fucking lazy and unmotivated - prove me wrong. If you've got time to go to the gym and the freedom to do so but you've got bed sores, you need to figure out your life.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 08:00 PM
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That's what I'm thinking, Damn, I make what I thought was a lot.
/r/askTRP14/12/20 07:55 PM
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Abundance.Mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 12:57 PM
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Exactly, he's afraid of losing her
/r/askMRP30/08/18 12:52 PM
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This is the thing that matters. Fix your situation, maybe she notices that you don't need that shit (shopping/facebook - cheap dopamine) to enjoy your life and wants some of what you're getting. If not, then you're no worse off, and you're having fun anyway... Where's the downside?
/r/askMRP30/08/18 12:52 PM
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This too, if you try too much to show how great you are you broadcast blue. If you instead gently tear apart their magical pussy pedestal, then they begin to wonder what the fuck makes you so great, and they can't fucking leave it alone, so they have to try to figure it out.
/r/askTRP30/08/18 12:49 PM
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It depends on the type of your humor, If you're effectively self-deprecating to get people to laugh at this idiot (which is you) then you're not going to have it work in your favor. If you're just shitting on someone else, or everyone else, also a bad way to be. If you're rolling people's emotions positively and happily behind you, bringing them into your frame so that they enjoy being around you because of the jokes you make and the humor you bring to the interaction, and you understand how to …
/r/askTRP30/08/18 12:48 PM
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Yeah, I had passed by this, but had to come back to acknowledge that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 12:31 PM
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So since you linked it, I'm angry at myself. ​ I'm angry at myself for finding myself into this particular situation(shit-for-sex-marriage), with no exit plan (where's your pre-nup?). I'm angry at myself for never having done anything about my fitness(always accepting where I am, making excuses to keep my hamster happy). I'm angry at myself for buying into the bullshit I was fed by society about the whole thing. ​ I've been a beta-pussy my entire life. I'd poked my head into the manosphere once …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 12:24 PM
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The Trip Thank you, your point is solid. I'll make sure she knows we're going to have a good time, not necessarily all of the details. WFH I'm going to take the approach of borrowing space for working for now, I'm not yet aware of whether or not I can afford to rent an office. I've considered it, and it's in my longer term thoughts, but for now, I need to get my financials under control first. Thank you for the sidebar link.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 12:11 PM
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I've been angry for a long time. I've only recently realized that I need to quit trying to do something about it and start fucking doing something about it. I know myself, at least enough to know that in time I'll get bored by not seeing enough progress, then my buddy anger will be there. That's why I posted here, that's why I'll keep posting here. I'm still angry. I look forward to the point where I see the remaining tendrils of anger slipping away.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:26 PM
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Thank you, that's where I'll go next. I've read the post where he outlines the levels of dread and the approximate timelines, but I'll jump into these two.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:13 PM
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I know. That's one of the things I'm taking care of, that's one of the reasons I'm here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:10 PM
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I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 06:09 PM
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OYS #1 ​ Sitrep 35, wife 35, married 10 years, 2 kids:2/4 5'5" - 190 lbs I'm not currently attractive, but I'm not being unattractive either. ​ I'm not new to MRP, but committed to it now. I've read WISNIFG and NMMNG, none of the other material because I have made excuses. The decider is that my wife has decided she's done with sex and intimacy - hasn't said it, but her actions say it. To me, this is the notice that play time is over. I've come to realize that I've been angry, and "drunk" for a …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/18 01:55 PM
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Do you intend to have more kids someday? If not, get the surgery, it's an hour or two and I was up and running around with my kids that afternoon wearing compression shorts. It doesn't fuck with your hormones and you no longer have to worry about being tied to anyone you don't explicitly choose to, what's the point of risking that bullshit when you know you're not interested?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 12:54 PM
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This is good advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/18 12:22 PM
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That's what I'm currently fucking up, I keep making excuses instead of just going to the gym. Exercise feeds into sleep, and that feeds back into exercise. Stress can be regulated a bit by exercise. Stress probably isn't helping you any, but you already know that.
/r/askTRP22/08/18 05:24 PM
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no, you said it, stay out of her frame, you've got room to strengthen yours!
/r/askTRP20/08/18 12:08 PM
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Seriously, bluntly, get your shit together! I used to jerk off a lot, quit porn. I'm not sleeping right, and under a lot of stress at work. Not interested in sex right now. That's the short of it, get your shit together and talk to your doctor to make sure your hormones aren't fucked up, but seriously, take care of yourself. Your highest priorities need to be exercising (do you even lift?) and sleeping right, including eating right. Those three things can fix a LOT of ills. Not all mind you, but…
/r/askTRP20/08/18 12:06 PM
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It means quit looking for the easy answers in life and put in some fucking effort.
/r/askMRP27/06/18 12:52 PM
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I'm realizing I'm the one I need to be angry at. I've not posted an OYS for a while, nor have I read more than NMMNG or WISNIFG. I've seen behind the curtain, and there were noob gains, and then they went away. This makes me angry. I already realize this is my fault, I know I don't want to put in the work, but I will not finish life like I've lived it so far. I've not been owning my shit in life lately, and I realize that. At some point I realized that a lot of the posts of people here were vali…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:38 PM
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Really, who the fuck cares, you use the kitchen! If she wants to come along for the ride, great, if not, great!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 07:55 PM
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Yeah, that's not spinning plates...
/r/askMRP02/06/17 01:57 PM
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Absolutely. I continue to see things unfold, and just chuckle internally, shit is not my problem, and not my fault, and I just watch it unfold, and go on with my life. I don't have to carry other people's weight, the only weight I have to carry is that which I pick up and put down at the gym.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 01:40 PM
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I would call this the biggest epiphany I've had in my life. Between the first two books on the fucking sidebar, I've seen the fucking light. I read the books, but it didn't really "land" for me until my wife started losing her shit over something minor, and I felt myself getting anxious. Hit me like a fucking truck too, just dropped in my face, like I've never known before. "I am not responsible for how she feels, it's not my job to make her happy". God, it was freeing, it was incredible, it was…
/r/askMRP22/05/17 05:48 PM
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Great Success!
/r/askMRP02/05/17 04:26 PM
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one day she'll call my bluff and actually do it but hey, never mind! Exactly, because you'll have your shit together and be hot enough to pull other women, so it's not a problem for you if she chooses that choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 06:48 PM
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even if it's not [a side effect you experience] - and this is critical - it's all OK This is THE ENTIRE FUCKING TRUTH OF IT! It took me a few months (and the entirety of my earlier life) to realize it, but yes, this is the one and only truth here. Where's that faggot that wanted the cliff's notes, here it is motherfucker. If you want to do this for her, go back to the bathroom and beat the shit out of your dick, after you clean the shit off of it. If you're doing this for ANYONE but yourself, yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/17 06:35 PM
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Or "How will we find the answer if we don't want to do all that reading?"
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 08:42 PM
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I didn't realize it until reading, but I had been making covert contracts all along. Even worse I had been "punishing" people for not living up to them. I still catch myself thinking in that mindset and have to fight to keep myself from thinking like that. It doesn't happen so much since I know what I need to avoid. Most of the people who come here are probably that beta nice guy who doesn't realize. I was. NMMNG and WISNIFG were huge epiphanies for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/17 08:09 PM
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I think that was WISNIFG. I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 09:28 PM
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The mack truck that I needed to obliterate my fucked up view on the world was covert contracts. Once I saw that spelled out, that was swallowing the pill. I'd been doing it all along, and I know it's the base of everything I've been fucking up. There's a reason that book is a prerequisite. my life is good enough for me now. That was my view, that is what I fucked up; It was, it is no longer. Take your energy you get from being butthurt and put it into something you need to fix. This is it folks,…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 09:27 PM
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You're still hamstering it onto her...telling yourself it's not your fault if it goes the way you don't want.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:39 PM
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This tale is a little close to home... but in short, get attractive. The saying "Be Attractive, Don't Be Unattractive" is basically an answer for this particular case. You seem to have handled the second part well enough, but you don't sound like you have the first part nailed down. /u/VengefullyY0urs has hit the nail on the head. She's not attracted to you.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 05:24 PM
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You can tell your own story. And people have no reason to do anything but accept it. Do you care if they don't? I am going to tell my own story, and I don't honestly care what anyone else thinks. At the end of the day, I have 1 single soul to answer to when I wind up in a pine box, and he's the only motherfucker who needs to approve of my story.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 02:30 PM
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I think this is the root of it. You commit 100% and go as hard and fast as you can with the internal / self-focused changes. The external perception of you will fall in line behind that, but you have to know it is the truth of your reality before anyone else will believe it, and by the time that they realize it (12 weeks), you should be believing it too. If you're faking it and can't convince yourself, you're not going to convince anyone else, especially your harshest external critic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 02:26 PM
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So who is Billy? Billy is simply a representation of the ideas Billy consistently conjures in my head. He is not a person, he is not an individual, he is a group of thoughts in my mind of what I think of when I think "Billy". And most importantly those thoughts can change over time. I will always know what Billy used to be, but the more Billy is something different, the more my mind's image of Billy changes to suit that new image. Do I have any say in what Billy changes into? No. Can I hold on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/17 02:24 PM
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This advice is legit. You need to figure out how your life runs without your wife. Then you need to actually run your life without your wife. You need to commit to that attitude and live it. Thoroughly, through and through, 100%. If she's interested in being a part of it - fuck that, that's what I've got to let go of - there is no conditional. Run.Your.Life. - see what happens, without expectation of anyone else (other than your kids - teach them how, and expect them, to be awesome).
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:49 PM
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Sure, I'm not here to be a semantic pedant.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:40 PM
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They discovered them together.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 02:04 PM
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MRP and askMRP are here to fix the man. I'm not fixed, but I see the path. It's not easy.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 01:58 PM
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The Fuck? Do what makes you happy. Are you happy when you go to sleep at night?
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:23 PM
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Yup, OP - are you seeking our validation, permission? Who the fuck cares? I'm not going to give you permission, nor validation, and I don't care whether you care or not. So...
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:22 PM
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who gives a fuck? Exactly
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:21 PM
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I'm going through the same. I'm bored with shitty sex, and that's what's on the table. The conclusion I've come to through a lot of reflection and mental gymnastics is the same one presented here: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/5l954i/feeling_unattracted_to_ltr_although_sex_improves/dbu0j0p/ , I'm not attractive enough to warrant more than shitty sex yet. As state elsewhere in this comment thread, she'll be slow on the uptake because you're floating in blue shit-water (that's on you, b…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:18 PM
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That's a hamster with a keyboard right there... You can see the hamster hamstering away.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:03 PM
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The last bullet there needs the insanity definition, Insanity is the act of doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. If you're busting your ass and they're not noticing, then change the vector of your ass busting (for you, instead of them, dumbass). If they notice, then they've noticed, and if not, you're better off. FUCK, live for yourselves.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 04:02 PM
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Meh, I got here from there, someone gently tossed a hand grenade in my inbox, and I realized what I needed to do.
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:59 PM
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Others have said it, you did great until you gave up ground. I agree with your response until you ended up on the couch. I'd have done the same, kick the fucking door in, say the same, and then lie down in bed and go to sleep. With the correct attitude, this can convey the very clear message of, "You don't run this shit, I do." period, full stop. knock it the fuck off! Now, following that action up with you going to the couch, now you're admitting that you're an emotionally driven being who's no…
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:55 PM
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Agreed
/r/askMRP03/01/17 03:51 PM
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Nope, here's where you entered her frame: I sent a quick reply asking if she also filed claims for a couple of massages she received. Because you wanted to poke, and prod, and annoy her. There was nothing attractive about this, it was just annoying. The correct response would have been something closer to, "Got it, thanks babe". That's how you text logistics. Jesus, do you want your fucking cookie for rubbing her face in it?
/r/askMRP20/12/16 03:49 PM
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Yeah, this is too clean and easy and pretty, and oh look, there's a goddamn bow on it! REMEMBER KIDS, DRINK YOUR OVALTINE.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 03:04 PM
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I Kino frequently, I've just been lazy. I've realized that the most unattractive thing I do is being lazy, so in the vein of "Don't be unattractive", I need to quit my whining, quit being lazy, and actually seduce her instead of waiting and whining. I don't truly intend to enhance my psycopathic tendencies, I will put forth more effort and abolish the laziness.
/r/askMRP14/12/16 08:39 PM
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This is 5 days old, and I've gotten laid 3 times since I put the post up, got my beating, and started initiating. Thank you to everyone who responded. I need to constantly be initiating, I stopped, and pretended the good thing to do was wait. So I've been the one keeping my life shitty. Thanks gentlemen.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 08:48 PM
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I think you're right here. I've been waiting for her to throw herself at me, and just been a blind shit. I've got the first 50% of the problem covered, it's the psychopath part I need to master. Thanks for the suggestion, I'll keep at it.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 08:45 PM
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I keep thinking I'm past the anger phase, but then I realize I'm not quite yet, I'll start initiating.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 08:44 PM
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I hear your point about going to the gym, and while I have read it, I am sure I could stand to read it again to get my head around the material more firmly. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 08:44 PM
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thank you.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:19 AM
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I've had that on my mind, thinking in the fashion of abundance mentality. I'm aware it's not actual abundance mentality, but it's not-oneitis mentality. There have been brief glimpses behind the curtain where she's directly shared that she's afraid I'm going to leave her. My responses to these have gone from "oh why my darling, I'd never" blue vomit to just not saying shit. What follows the "oh no, I think you're going to leave me" is mate-guarding sex, right?
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:18 AM
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I do, but not a lot lately, I have excuses, which matter not, good point, I'm going to increase my fucking with her. Thank you
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:16 AM
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And I've learned to allow and accept it, feeding it back into itself. fuuuuuck. thank you
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:15 AM
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Thank you
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:14 AM
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I think I'm starting to get it. thank you.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:14 AM
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I know for a fact she doesn't owe me shit. That's part of something I realized earlier when the responses started rolling in, not really is the answer. I've gotta get it through my thick skull that I need to keep at the gym like it is the sole thing for which I live. thank you.
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:13 AM
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Empirically proven, thank you
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:12 AM
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valid, thank you
/r/askMRP07/12/16 01:11 AM
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60% chance you're trolling here, but you've got to be giving her the tingles, and I'm clearly not doing that well enough for her to rip 'em off and hop on, but the insistance on telling me about it is giving me a headache.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:59 PM
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I can see that point as well, the road goes both ways, "acta non verba".
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:57 PM
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I didn't even answer the question in my original response, I was initiating but at this point I've stopped. I'm full of nothing but anger right now, I'm not feeling any attraction to her, and I've got better shit to do with my time (especially raising my kids and hanging out with them) than trying to figure out her complicated bullshit. I just don't feel motivated to try to get into her pants, so I'm doing me and enjoying my life better than I would if I were trying to get into her pants. The IO…
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:54 PM
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If you're dry, good, if you want to get wet, go out in the rain. Your advice is well taken though. I have considered responses along the direct line, "I don't believe you, why don't you show me how much you appreciate me", etc. I guess I've just been too much of a pussy to try. Fuck it, I'll report back how it went after the next time I hear that shit.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:49 PM
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Affirmative, I have no fucking idea how to address that though.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:33 PM
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This is too direct, that's why it's not working for you. If I say "Then rip off those panties and ride this motherfucker" while swinging my dick around, she's going to go cry in a corner. You've got to remember that she's not motivated by tit-for-tat, she's motivated by feeling that this is a good idea and her idea and what she wanted to do in the first place.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:29 PM
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The mouth lies like nobody's fucking business. This is one fact of which I'm thoroughly aware. AWALT. Your advice is sound and actionable - thank you. It demonstrates to her that this is what happens when that happens, she should be able to put it together from there.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 09:27 PM
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You're still clinging to that big covert contract - If I do this, if I check these boxes, everything will get better! If you don't recognize that, you're short changing yourself. You have to accept that she may not be a part of your life tomorrow, and if that happens you'll be ok. Build yourself. Be the man you want to be. If she is attracted to that man, then you'll know, and if not, then you'll know. Improve you. If you're making progress you'll get other offers. Then you've got to decide what…
/r/askMRP06/12/16 02:59 PM
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I see how it could seem tedious, I understood the point of it.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 02:43 PM
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children are the real commitment. Marriage or money I could have walked away from. Hits the nail on the head.
/r/askMRP21/11/16 03:01 PM
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That's a million dollar analogy, you fucking nailed it!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/16 02:57 PM
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Reflection has led me to observe that you may realize you're not interested in her either, or instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/16 10:02 PM
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I agree. aren't gonna do shit to stop it. They'll keep whining alright, but it's still the same noise, so nothing to worry about. It's really not difficult. Who has the most confidence, most sureness in the assertion of their own will? This is the AMOG - and we have one as president elect.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 07:39 PM
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Everything RP advocates has an underlying air of "leadership". Trump's victory tells me that this country wants a leader who will take charge and make decisions (men and women both). This is the whole point of "be alpha" - take leadership, make decisions, and push forward, overcome bullshit, and continue pursuing what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 02:27 PM
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Sometimes the FRs definitely seem like made up masturbation material, some of them are likely trolls too. The theory is that you'll need a month of solid RP behavior for every year of your marriage that you've been BP - you're approaching the halfway point of your slog, based on the assumptions present. The reason is that she's become convinced she knows you over the past X years, and this new bullshit will soon pass. You're going to need to have actually changed in order for her to be able to m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/16 02:22 PM
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"Honey if you want to scream, that's cool, but here go to your room." Sounds like fogging - I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 09:23 PM
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They're tools to reframe criticism. Fogging is a tool to pull an aggressor into your frame, you reframe their criticism as a thought spoken aloud by you, but you own the criticism at that point. Negative assertion is a request for their reasoning, again, you're pulling them into your frame and asking them their opinion, but it's coming from your frame!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/16 03:35 PM
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I saw that, but the story grew. I was going to leave that alone, he has more serious shit to take care of than him right now, he needs his kids out of there immediately. We did notice that he's got 2 kids, not just his daughter. He never says where the daughter came from, but the son is his wife's it sounds like.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 07:54 PM
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DO THIS IMMEDIATELY, not this weekend, not tomorrow, not even "tonight".
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/16 07:51 PM
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It's a serious tool, put to use correctly, sure, you can build greatness; swing it around like it's a toy, and you're gonna get hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 10:53 PM
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"You too" works fine, so does "Yup, you too" or "yep, back atcha babe". Not sure who said it, someone said that they don't use the word unless she's fucked him good within the past 48 hours (reinforcing the good behavior).
/r/askMRP24/08/16 07:40 PM
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Along the same lines, lately I've made it a point to treat my wife like I did when we were dating. I flirt with her, I mess with her, I joke with her, and I make lighthearted fun of her, and she does with me. I don't cry about it, I take it and roll with it and turn it around on her. We we playfully verbally spar all day. I enjoy her company and enjoy messing with her; sometimes I take it too far, but too far is a lot farther than I used to believe it was. This is me, I have fun, and it keeps he…
/r/askMRP24/08/16 07:36 PM
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they work frighteningly well if you do them slowly and methodically This is the wholesale truth. TAKE YOUR FUCKING TIME - poke the situation, observe the results, learn what works, what doesn't, and what you did wrong, adjust your approach and view of the world, repeat again and again ad infinitum. You didn't get where you are in a day, you're not leaving in a day. Understand that you need to fix yourself, and you can only fix yourself - the rest will either fall in line behind you, or fall off …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 07:28 PM
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I admit that I lost ground, I need to gain it back. That's why I'm here, owning it. I'm not there yet, but I know I'm not there yet, and I know part of the vector required to get there, so I'm going to close that gap.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 07:15 PM
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/u/fuckMeRedFuckYouBlue - this is what I was referring to. There's a saying that she's the most responsible teenager in the house. I intended to illustrate that there is an opportunity for leadership here, based on what your beliefs on the situation are. There's nothing weak about considering her input; weak would be just blindly doing what she says because it said so on the internet.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 07:03 PM
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Sounds like she's trying to lead, not being led. What do you want for your children? In the same position I'd make it a point to get them up and get healthy breakfast in them and her, on the regular (oldest teenager, right?), because I believe that children need to start the day with breakfast.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 01:38 PM
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I realize that it's not about me, my anger is directed at myself, my past behavior, and my blind acceptance of what I was fed. I continually re-examine how I got to this point, and reconsider what actions I need to take to move beyond it; the anger lessens every time I do. This is my fault, mine to deal with and mine to fix.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 01:35 PM
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Not as easy to spreadsheet thank god. I uhh, I totally read the war art by that sunny guy, but uhh, can I get a cheat sheet, there's a lot of words in there...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/16 01:12 PM
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Careful, your nickname might change to "Smokey"
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:37 PM
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That's my expectation, and I've told her that exact sentence before. "I'm not a mind reader, you tell me what you want and I'll consider it, but if you don't say it, I'm not going to beg it out of you." When I read NMMNG, just the name of it was an epiphany for me. That's probably the biggest RP truth I discovered upon self examination, covert contracts everywhere. I don't do it anymore, when I find myself thinking along those lines I figure out why I'm trying to do it, and how to either forget …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 07:35 PM
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You know that "Only you get to decide what it is you want out of life."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:29 PM
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I'd been a beta supplicator in the past. It felt awesome to plan it and go, and she was entirely happy with it. In retrospect I realize that I have, in the way that I acted, been the cause of a lot of the shit that I've experienced. Interactions have gotten easier for me, overall, since I discovered MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:27 PM
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OWNING Reading - I'm at a point with WISNIFG where it feels like I might be able to sleep better by rubbing sand in my eyes than reading another page, but I'm pushing through it - going to finish the motherfucker. I'm reading the book of pook next - I'm comfortable with confidence and assertiveness, I have 0 fucking game though. Reddit/fuckaroundtime/videogames - I'm going to spend some time reading this weekend, and working, instead of fucking around on reddit or playing videogames. If I get al…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:24 PM
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Time is the one thing that you cannot buy, at all, no matter how rich you may be. You got yourself into this situation, accept it and get over it. Sunk costs and all that - you can spend time being mad at yourself or fix it today, and tomorrow, and the next day, so that you're not mad tomorrow about today. I'm trying to figure out my anger, I think mine is more at being fed a lie and having to unfuck it based on what I've internalized. When you get mad, take it out on the iron. Sounds like LMR -…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 07:00 PM
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It all depends on the execution. Good: You build it, and take her on it. "Don't make any plans for Friday, I've got something up my sleeve.", and then your answers mainly revolve around "It's a surprise", "You'll see <wink>", "Don't you worry", AM, etc. If she gets really insistent you can take it a step further, "I'm going to drop you off at your mom's and go gamble our life savings away - this could be our big break!" You find coverage for the kids, you make reservations, you drive the fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 06:25 PM
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I'll take "Yes" for $2000...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 05:52 PM
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She doesn't ask for help beyond the immediate, and when that comes up, it's a situational read (most frequently as I get home from work). If there's shit to take care of, I just do it without asking or talking about it. I usually step in, gently push her out of the situation, and just run it like I would were I there solo the whole time; I don't say it, but she needs to concentrate on herself at that point. Most of the time she collects herself and rejoins, and other times, not, either way, I'm …
/r/askMRP23/08/16 05:38 PM
2

Then he has to actually have self control as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/16 05:27 PM
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Direct fucking hit, well put, and pertinent. Thank you!
/r/askMRP23/08/16 01:55 AM
1

NAWALT
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 07:53 PM
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If you own that you fucked up, there's not much more to talk about. It's similar to fogging, pull it in, own it, and then move on from it. edited to add, apologizing turns it into a discussion and a negotiation. If you're both on the same page, there's no negotiation, and nothing to discuss, so moving onto the next pertinent subject is the only thing left to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 07:49 PM
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I tend to have a short temper and a short tolerance for bullshit; manipulation (attempted or successful) falls into that category for me. I know this is real, and not a manipulation tactic - again, thanks.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 07:36 PM
1

This is the second and final one. I make sure she gets time away - she's a SAHM and she's lost her identity to that. I've been stepping up and taking care of the shit I need to, removing stuff from her plate. I'm going to find opportunities to sign her up for out of the house and on her own time things to get her mind off of the suck. I don't have anything to ask, I see that I just need to weather this storm and keep the ship afloat, whistling and smiling, and we'll make it through this one to f…
/r/askMRP22/08/16 07:14 PM
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I've been doing that, and then I try to fix it. I know I need to not try to logic it away or fix it. Thank you.
/r/askMRP22/08/16 07:09 PM
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calm, stoic, confident leadership and an upbeat frame That's what I've been doing, Stoney said it and I'd read it before, but just being the oak, or the anchor, holding it all down and trying to push us through into the sunshine and happiness. sex on the regular and not getting denied. Your last two paragraphs are what I was thinking, and I'm glad I'm on the right track. This is where I ended up mentally after my hissy fit. Glad to hear I've got the right idea. I've got enough shit I need do to …
/r/askMRP22/08/16 07:08 PM
1

Dr diagnosed, currently feel (she's not a fan of going on meds, nor am I). She's doing fitness to help, diet is eh - same as pre-kids, and I'd guess no on the mental exercises. I objectively believe she's trying to fight her way through it, I don't think she's revelling in it. She's not enjoying her days, and I'm happy to get up and get the kids at night so she gets solid sleep. I'm trying to lead her out of it, in as much as "go to the gym" in the morning, instead of slapping the alarm clock an…
/r/askMRP22/08/16 06:56 PM
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Thanks for the response, I appreciate your perspective on this. The whole OI with rejection thing, it's really crazy to me to watch things unfold with my current understanding. It boggles my mind. I've seen exactly what you're saying. I don't have my shit under control, I'm faking OI while I mentally resolve that the outcome doesn't matter, and it's just ridiculous to me to watch the events that follow. More and more, as I do it, I'm starting to paint a picture of the other side of the interacti…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/16 03:25 PM
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I've got to get over my anger, and quit letting my dick drive me
/r/askMRP22/08/16 04:56 AM
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That's deserved, It sounds like I'm blubbering in my wheaties. Upon re-examination, she didn't share that she had to use the bathroom until she lost control of her bladder during a position change. I wanted to continue after she took care of that, and she was just going along for me at that point, and decided she didn't want to anymore a few minutes later. Afterward she went back into the emotional bullshit from earlier in the night as I started to clean up and she took that as me throwing a fit…
/r/askMRP22/08/16 04:54 AM
1

I'm clearly not OI, rather than just going the fuck to sleep I had to come here and whine to the internet. Things to fix: OI IDGAF Keep Reading Keep working to increase SMV
/r/askMRP22/08/16 04:14 AM
1

I wholly agree. Im working to figure out why I was whiny and work to address that.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 10:37 PM
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Excuses do not alter performance, give it as much or little effort as you're willing to own after it's over. Own your shit
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 10:34 PM
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I'd say he has one right now, luckily for him, it's only 1 deep. You condition them with your presence the same way you would a harpy wife. Instead of fucking you to get your comfort and presence, they need to not be controlling whiny bitches, otherwise, you're supposed to have better things to do with your time.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 06:22 PM
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I've still got miles to go, but holy fuck - looking back I can clearly see how beta my dad was.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 06:19 PM
1

I'd say it depends on whether he can do it from his own frame, or if he has to mimic yours by using your exact words and phrasing.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 06:05 PM
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I don't do ultimatums. I'm stealing that. Everything turn into a knock down drag out fight? I've noticed that conflict has pretty much disappeared once I discovered and worked to maintain my frame. I can see when the shit starts brewing and I make a point to stay in frame and it blows over.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 05:46 PM
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Stone said this yesterday and then I'm seeing the same thing here, he'd said it was TFA who initially said it - "have the memory of a goldfish". You can fix things going forward, you can never, ever, change the past.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 05:20 PM
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The only thing that I can really change is myself, the rest is out of my power. That's the whole goddamn point.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 05:15 PM
1

Time is the one thing that nobody, no matter how rich, or strong, or beautiful, can ever recover. Do you want to waste more of it crying into your wheaties about fucking up in the past, or do you want to fix your shit so you can maximize the amount of time you spend being awesome? The journey of 1000 miles starts with a single step, that's behind you, you're on the road. Stick with it, and enjoy the ride.
/r/askMRP18/08/16 05:13 PM
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Still working on whatever it is that makes me want to say "but it's hard, I just want blowjobs for days". Yesterday I definitely felt that, and just swallowed it because I would rather show happy, confident and independent than whiny and needy validation seeking behavior. I also recognize the covert contract there, and need to get over that bullshit too. I need to improve myself, the rest will either follow, or fall off. All of my good bragging, and yesterday I couldn't close for shit, stuck wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 02:13 PM
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Good: I heard second hand about positive comments about me, and saw the hamster engage tingles. Not sure if it was mate guarding, but I enjoyed it. Persistence (kino, teasing, idgaf) after a direct statement of disinterest leads to great sex, watch her actions, don't listen to what she says. OI with rejection led to sex as well, these are likely noob gains, but I'm staying the course. Bad: I don't think ahead far enough sometimes, and an attempt at playful teasing led to hurting my child (only t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/16 01:39 PM
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Kinda like that AWALT thing... I agree
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 12:23 PM
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Do you know what you want out of life, what you wish you had? If you do, start working toward it, TODAY. Don't burn your house to the ground and murder your family, but start moving in that direction. It sounds like you're going to have a lot of inertia to work against, so you'd better get started now. The rest of it will fall into place, or fall away. You decide what you want from your tomorrow, and YOU work toward making tomorrow closer to your ideal than today was.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 12:20 PM
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This is the anger phase, as mentioned below. You're right, you're actually angry at yourself for fucking up, feed that back onto itself, you're the one to blame, and the ONLY one who can fix yourself. The rest will happen - it may not be what you want to happen, but it will surely happen. You need to fix yourself, and commit to fixing yourself, and if you feel your resolve slipping, remember this, feed it back in again. Edited to agree with /u/FistFullOfBitches - you're the only one to take it o…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:39 PM
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same here, my initial victim puke happened there under a different thrown away throwaway, thanks to the asshole who pointed me here and got me started fixing my shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 03:35 PM
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It's an indicator of the effort one is willing to spend. Why the fuck should his wife care about him if he doesn't care enough about himself to express himself clearly? You want easy answers, go elsewhere. NOSEXPLZHLP
/r/askMRP12/08/16 01:37 PM
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You can fix yourself. It wont be easy, and it won't be quick, and it wont be easy. What do you want out of life?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 12:53 PM
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I bet the guys she let fuck her in the ass didn't make her dinner, and then massage her for at least an hour every night, after they worked at a similarly paying job. They didn't dote on her every whim and then hungrily thank her when she rolled over.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 12:51 PM
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Holy shit, this sounds like you're her slave. Does she let you sleep in the same bed as her highness? What does she do for you? What value does she add to your life? She makes you feel all warm and fuzzy wuzzy by holding your hand and then freezes you out when you go for the pussy. You need to fix you. Your perception of a good relationship is broken, your perception of your value and worth is broken. You need to spend time reading the sidebar, and reflecting. Decide what you want out of life - …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 12:48 PM
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IF he's wise he'll cut bait, do a lot of reading and extremely brutal reflection, and fix himself before he tries again. I wont hold my breath though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 12:44 PM
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Persaeus - I had the same realization, recognizing that this exists is part of swallowing the pill. OP - this guy owns his shit, he recognized that he was fucking up, what he was fucking up, how, and fixed it. Keep it up.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 05:24 PM
1

Most speed past that section of the book looking for how to get their wives to X them.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 05:21 PM
1

When you make it the reason for following your MAP, that's when it becomes a covert contract. You do you for you. Be fucking awesome and see what happens.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 05:17 PM
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This
/r/askMRP11/08/16 05:16 PM
1

Fuck with her a bit to make her panic, slip into a pub after she pops around a corner... Chasing her down or speeding up to walk at her pace is entering her frame.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 05:16 PM
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To the point, do something, don't give her something. She can't throw away an experience, whereas $$ burns and you can pawn most everything else.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 04:02 PM
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Older kids don't want to hang out with you, maybe you're boring. Go do interesting, fun, enlightening shit with them (and the littlest too), without asking permission. Have a great time, enjoy yourselves, help them grow into worthwhile, high value humans; Going home will then be the disappointment to them that it is to you.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 04:00 PM
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If you want to complain about it, go get a volleyball, put a handprint on it, and use wilson to hear your problems. That's fucking gold! Trouble with validation seeking, try this one great trick! See if the volleyball cares! Fake some irrational confidence This is how you end up going back to the place you got the volleyball for a life preserver, because you're going to be drowning in it if you can internalize this instead of faking it.
/r/askMRP11/08/16 03:56 PM
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My understanding is that buying her lingerie is a DLV, you want her to go shopping for it, which may or may not happen as you increase your value, but buying it for her is blue-pill. Figure out what you want to do, then decide which of those things you want her to follow along on, and get her something (small) that gives her an anchor into the activity. That way she's got a reason to follow you on your awesome adventure, and something to contribute, and then she gets to see you having fun and be…
/r/askMRP11/08/16 03:54 PM
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If you're doing your work right and owning your shit, she should be getting nervous and start asking about lifting or pursue fitness on her own. It's a fucking arms race of SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:57 PM
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Exactly - OP did what he wanted with his life with the best knowledge he had at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:54 PM
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This is the truth yeah I got time to hit that and then defuse the bomb but this whole reply is well put.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:51 PM
1

Fools! The instructions explain how to get all the box you can handle!!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:48 PM
1

It's cheaper to check if you're on mobile when you visit the desktop site, and to assume you want to stay mobile if you're already on mobile. It's also generally assumed that you'll visit the desktop site from mobile and actually want the mobile site, whereas if you visit the mobile site from desktop, it's assumed you want the mobile site. Let me go ahead and STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 02:47 PM
1

While I no longer fantasize about divorce, if she wants to hand it to me on a silver platter I will laugh all the way to the pussy bank with my kiddos firmly in tow. I think that's where I am mentally.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 07:20 PM
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Stick with it.
/r/askMRP05/08/16 06:41 PM
1

I told her the idea and she agreed. You asked her for permission, and she gave it. she doesn't agree Meaning you asked again. How many days a week do you want to work, and how much stuff do you want to do that you're not for some reason or another? How much of her stuff to you not want to do? Once you've figured that out, figure out why you're not living to make you happy and including her in your life.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 07:10 PM
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DONT "red pill rambo", just fucking read the sidebar material at MRP first. Seriously, read that sentence, read it in your head, read it aloud to yourself, and then read it again. Don't do anything before you have fully internalized what that sentence means. Go ahead and read it again. This is a brutal journey, not something you can slap some fix onto overnight. She won't notice for a long time, and you're going to get sad, and that's when you'll learn more about yourself than you have likely ev…
/r/askMRP04/08/16 06:31 PM
1

Nice summary of the whole deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/16 01:29 PM
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Reading through WISNIFG, and even during some parts of NMMG I really felt a lot of analogies to martial arts. Instead of resisting the attack, you agree, pull it into you(r frame) and redirect the energy out (of your frame) so that you don't let it affect you. Your critic spends all of their energy coming at you and you just slip past it - they're exhausted/frustrated, and you couldn't give a fuck because it just went around you.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 01:18 PM
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I know what I've been fucking up, that's why I'm here, to learn about it and how to fix it, and to own it. If I come to the point, I'll post a "where the hell am I and how did I go wrong" later, but I'm not deep enough in to even be considering that kind of thinking yet. I'm new, I know this takes time, and I'm no chihuahua. Just judging myself honestly.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 02:55 PM
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I wrote a whole victim puke - was this an invitation to victim puke? Sometimes I become a little bitch mentally when I realize I'm losing the glossy disney glasses and coming to terms with the reality of the matrix; rather than swinging wildly in the dark hoping to connect, my eyes are able to adjust and I can see things for what they are. I'm finally adjusting to it and I'm beginning to see the machinations behind the scenes that control the actors. -not that anybody cares, nor should
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 01:27 PM
2

I feel happy that I think I understand proper form, I don't know shit. I'm happy that I'm starting to hit the point where it's a struggle to finish the sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 08:40 PM
2

Shit I am not owning Not much - if anything still remembering to nod up first Wife oneitis and abundance mentality - I'm somewhere between hoping she notices that I've got my shit together and wondering if I care anymore about her even noticing. Shit I am starting to own Reading - This is slow going, but I'm getting better, and I feel better for it. Home Maintenance / Tasks - I cross at least one thing off of my "shit to do" list a day, lately it's been closer to 3, I'll consider myself happy wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 08:25 PM
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Another way to phrase what /u/The_Litz said here: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4uzjcn/rp_early_days_how_to_initiate_morning_sex_in_bed/d5ubgve is you either get the fuck that you wanted, or end up where you have in the past, so you've nothing to lose, and morning sex to gain - is the risk worth the reward for you?
/r/askMRP29/07/16 07:39 PM
1

You need to realize you can't make anyone else do anything. Read that again, and again. That includes feeling as shitty as you felt when you discovered this. You need to decide what you want out of life. It's not going to be easy, but once you realize exactly what it is that you want, you should also realize that it's worth the fight. If you want pats on the back and acceptance of her shitty behavior, this is NOT the place for that. Fix yourself first. Take care of yourself first. Make yourself …
/r/askMRP27/07/16 06:28 PM
1

Fuck, there it is. Keep with it!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 05:36 PM
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It sounds like they tried to abuse the sunk costs fallacy, and you saw right through it! Sunk costs are gone, they're sunk, you can't spend them anymore. Where are you, and what is it going to take to get to where you want to be? If you cut your sunk costs will that allow you to be there sooner?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 05:28 PM
1

Fuck 'em now, you may get hit by a bus tomorrow. Watch out for busses, you may wanna fuck bitches later on in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 09:25 PM
1

When you're lying on your death bed, you're the only person you've got to answer to. I don't want to be a pretty corpse, I don't want anything left over. If I get an opportunity to do something, I give it everything I have, I may never get another chance to do it again, so "I'll try that next time", or "Maybe next time I'll do better" aren't thoughts in my mind, "here, now, this" are. Edited to add - if I want an opportunity, I will fight to get there, so I understand how important it is to take…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 09:23 PM
1

It took me too long to figure this out.
/r/askMRP25/07/16 04:01 PM
2

It is so tough to stay on the straight and narrow with a feeling of constant rejection. constant rejection (from her). This is still a covert contract, it's SUBTLE, but you're still equating "if I just keep at this a little longer she'll want to fuck me" - you need to find within yourself the drive to do it for yourself, and only yourself. Beyond that, get her medical shit sorted, that's important!
/r/askMRP22/07/16 02:08 PM
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On that same note, "There is only one person to whom I have to answer at the end of the day."
/r/askMRP22/07/16 02:03 PM
1

If you're asking this, read more, and slow the fuck down. It's literally in the first book on the goddamn sidebar.
/r/askMRP21/07/16 03:09 PM
1

I'm on the right path then! You need to figure out what's important to you chief, full stop. From there, you can figure out what to do about it.
/r/askMRP20/07/16 09:21 PM
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Absolutely, I wholly agree; it's the 10,000 hours discussion. Practice is required, if you want to become proficient - and it's why everyone says "Don't go redpill rambo". If you jump in a running helicopter and start yanking on shit, you're likely to kill yourself, you need to understand a lot before you're ready to solo.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 09:01 PM
1

You build the mental muscle memory and actually internalize enough of it that you become it (and quit having to fake it).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 06:36 PM
1

That's what I've been thinking afterward, I need to recognize before I respond though.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 06:00 PM
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Just because you share genes with someone, doesn't mean you get to break your boundaries. How many men are here because a ring gives her that privilege? and If you aren't willing to enforce your boundaries when it counts, then you weren't serious about it. Exactly. Who do you have to answer to before you can die? That list should be singular in nature.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:23 PM
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OP - This is why WISNIFG is on the list - If you haven't read it yet, you should.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:21 PM
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Shit I am not owning Reading - Fuck this - must read more. I've been stuck in WISNIFG - I don't feel like I'm getting it, and I've had to re-read some sections to try to internalize them. The nod - I nod down at people as a way of greeting, I keep feeling that I shouldn't do that. Shit I am starting to own Home Maintenance - I cross at least one thing off of my "shit to do" list a day, that'll do for a start. Being the prize - I stopped chasing my wife and fawning over her, I'm working on accept…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/16 04:11 PM
1

Ahh, I see.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 12:37 PM
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In this situation, I'd probably buy a cake CD and look for other things that say cake but are not edible sugar bread with icing. In my mind, that's A&A, but I don't think that's the right approach. Asking the experts - what would be wrong with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 09:18 PM
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Thanks - I'm working hard to internalize fogging; Now I see where I'm likely to use it.
/r/askMRP13/07/16 03:38 PM
2

If you're done with her, why do you care? Learn from it, grow from it, who cares about her at this point?
/r/askTRP13/07/16 02:44 PM
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Fixed the permalink, thanks. I don't care that nobody cares, I'm not worried about that - already there. I keep getting sad that things aren't the way I'd like, but that's why I'm here, so I shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/16 02:37 PM
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You may remember me from here Shit I am not owning Reading Still read more reddit than sidebar material, but I've cut down the reddit and kept sidebar volume the same. Not a win, I'm not doing what I want here, I'm going to fix this. Home Maintenance - I've not been able to maintain my goal, that's why this is in not owning. I've been making small headways, but I need to keep going, harder. Shit I am starting to own Procrastination I emptied out my TODO pile, and will not be making another one. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 06:40 PM
1

Either she also broken recorded you or you hear her as broken record on you, "I am not a child". I don't have any advice here, but is what I saw incorrect?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/16 06:17 PM
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I don't have any new realizations - it's just the same shit, I need to quit whining and _want_ing things to change, and just start addressing them. I dont remember who said it the first time I saw it but 'When you feel sad, just remember you're a little bitch and nobody cares' - right now I'm just realizing that I've been a little bitch and nobody cares - most of my life. So that is what I'm fixing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 08:06 PM
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Shit I am not owning Procrastination I often let things sit when I receive them, especially bills, but anything requiring a response. I'm going to clear out the backlog of things that need attention today, and I will respond to future things the same day I receive them. Finances I do not have a budget. I will make one today for July, and then for August before 8/1. I do not track all of my family's spending, I often wave my hand and plan to address it later - I will reconcile our spending today,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/16 01:48 PM
1

What do I want to do? What do you want to do?
/r/askMRP07/07/16 06:32 PM
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I'm new here, so disregard if it makes you feel better. You do you, if your sister can't handle you, then that's her issue. If you still feel the need to DEER and you can't ignore it, let your parents know that you're cool with them, just not with your sister's raft of bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 07:44 PM
1

Absolutely. I'm still working on internalizing all the stuff in NMMNG and WISNIFG
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 02:42 PM
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...Or they could STFU and RTFSB
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/16 12:19 PM
1

a giant covert contract
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 11:04 AM
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