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So much truth to this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 08:20 PM
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I liked the part where he mentioned that it’s getting hard for him because of women like Lizzo giving women confidence I loved that. "It's becoming a PROBLEM." YES!!! And FDS is also becoming a PROBLEM for the same reason! Where did this video come from, and what is the context? Isn't this man afraid he'll be found out? Or is he so arrogant that he doesn't think there's a chance of that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:12 AM
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Scrotes need to shut all the way up about their agony over having to pay for the life they made because in reality, most of them don’t!! This! To the scrotes lurking who believe the myth that women make bank with child support, only 40-something percent of custodial parents receive full child support: https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2018/cb18-tps03.html Sure, we know some mothers are paying child support, but the majority are fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:09 AM
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if women just collectively refused to sleep with anyone ever who wasn't top-tier HVM olympic-husband material until they were BOTH married and financially ready (because that would literally be our only option, the only way to guarantee some sort of dignified, non-destitute standard of living for both ourselves and our children), we all know men would LOSE. THEIR. SHIT. Seriously. Vet, vet, vet, make him wait, wait for a solid commitment (preferably with a wedding ring) before engaging in behavi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:05 AM
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I am learning Spanish and watch Spanish-language television. A recent series "Vencer el desamor" addressed machismo straight-on. (I didn't watch the show's predecessor, but apparently it had a similar theme.) There was a storyline with a straight-up pedophile. He gets his comeuppance, as you can see in this "resumen" (review" of the episode). A minute or so in you can see the scene with the pedo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nCcZoGikEMg&t=74s&ab_channel=UniNovelasUniNovelasVerified (TRIGGER W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:29 AM
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This is so true and you clarified the reasons for it. Guys in the "manosphere spectrum" (I'll call it) are deeply resentful that women are finding more ways to enable themselves and other women to say no. Any time a woman—a "feminist"—speaks out against the exploitation of other women, or anytime a woman encourages other women to be more independent, to think more clearly about their own wants and needs FIRST, manosphere spectrum men view it as a threat. As a threat to their easy access to pussy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:12 AM
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The men who want submission are nothing like this at all. EXACTLY. They want all of the perks but don't want to put in any of the work. He's got to be focused 100% on his wife and family. He's not some petty dictator who barks orders and everyone must obey. He should be devoted to his wife and family. He's not a fuckboy. Fuckboys are not praised in the Bible. There are many scriptures that preach against men screwing around and warn them against that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:38 PM
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I told someone and they just told me off and said "you did it though so stop whining, it's not like you were threatened." This infuriates me. A 15-year-old getting lots of pressure is bull. You were not "whining" for talking about it and knowing that it wasn't okay. I was bullied when I was younger (lightweight stuff compared to what sometimes happens today) and my complaints were routinely ignored. So all this taught me was to not say anything when someone bullied me or crossed a clear boundary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:50 PM
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I worry that some scrotes are going to use mental gymnastics to tell themselves, "Well, I didn't threaten her." But you applied pressure, pressure, pressure. That has an affect on a person, especially a person who is smaller and weaker than you. Some types of pressure that I imagine are used are "social" pressure (you will not be considered cool or popular, I'll dislike you, you are making me feel sad, etc). Now a lot of us would consider these stupid reasons to succumb to pressure, but everyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:54 PM
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"If I do this,I'm not consenting and I can go to the police to report you for rape and/or sexual assault, is this what you want?" BRAVO!! Good for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:36 PM
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We need fellow human beings who contribute to the whole of society. They contribute, we contribute, everyone is supposed to contribute. So in that respect, we "need" men because they are part of the world and many of them do have jobs and contribute, obviously. Most of us are in favor of welcoming a high-value man into our lives but can do quite well without one who will cheat on us, mooch off us, or abuse us. This is a no-brainer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 08:33 AM
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Them mistreating us, talking shit about us, is so normalized that it doesn't even register as a thing to them. Us just speaking facts about our experiences, our feelings, and our desire to avoid LVM (not abuse them—simply AVOID them) is from a completely unfamiliar space for them. They cannot fathom it and are outraged. They don't even see it for the hypocrisy that it is. Because when they do it, it's "justified." When we simply push back (not want to put up with it anymore, discuss strategies t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:09 AM
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My dad only wanted to be called Daddy. So that's what we called him. He's been dead for a while, and I'm all grown up, but my siblings and I still refer to him as "Daddy" when we talk about him. I refuse to change that because of some porn-sick weirdos. We're not the weird ones, they are. My very HVM father will forever be Daddy to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:39 AM
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I'm over here clutching my pearls. OH MY GOSH. WOW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:20 AM
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Sis, any man who claims to be a Christian yet tells a brother or sister that they have not received the Holy Spirit is complete heretics and blasphemy. Agreed. Who is he to determine that? God bless you, sister. I'm so glad that you are escaping this man. God has something far, far better for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 07:38 PM
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Very good advice, especially for weeding out porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:20 PM
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And set your phone to filter out any calls that aren’t in your contacts list during the night hours. The only people who should be calling you after hours are family and friends. You’ll see in the morning in your call logs that an unknown number called in the middle of the night, and you can just block it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:37 AM
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So it's terrible for men to pay alimony, but when a woman is a stay-at-home mother and gets financially screwed, too bad, right? Of course! Too bad! He didn't make her decide to stay at home! So, she's suffering economically now because of years of childcare held her back, career-wise? While his career never suffered because he always had time for it (since she was the one at home)? Screw her, right? But some men will complain because women don't want to stay home to take care of the kids. But f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 09:10 PM
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LOL this is exactly why FDS is needed to avoid men like you. If she is a 2/10 why are you even on a date with her? Oh so she can pay and have sex with you and then you dump her for the 9/10 you would pay for?? Yes, you are asking the important questions! He actually has the audacity to sound a little butthurt because you wrote a guy off for wanting to go 50/50. As if you owe Mr. 50/50 anything? This is why FDS is so important. What woman wants to pay for dates because he doesn't think she's "wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 08:35 PM
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The more they demand the best of both worlds, the more they're getting neither. So true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:00 AM
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God bless them! Wow, how wonderful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:55 AM
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This reminds me when my uncle once said to his wife "I met my mother before you in my life, so she always comes first". That is so messed up. It makes no sense either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:47 PM
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and men become pickmes. Oh my gosh, I just realized that this is what one of my teachers was! She was in her early 60s and had this "forever boyfriend." I think he was a little younger than her and good-looking. She was beautiful and vivacious and looked younger than her age. I heard a few years later that she finally consented to marry him and when she said "yes," he cried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:39 PM
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And look how aggressively the toxic manosphere reacts to it, they fidget and hiss as if a bucket of holy water is applied to them. I love how you describe them! Perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:34 PM
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I didn’t hear from this guy for a WEEK and we even had plans that upcoming weekend. He finally texted me the following Monday to say he was so hurt that I would ghost him like that. I didn’t ghost him - he just never bothered to text me. Holy crap, that's his definition of "ghosting"? You not making the first move and texting him? He's just supposed to sit on his throne and wait for you to text first and if you don't, you're "ghosting" him? LOL. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 09:16 PM
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I'm glad I could help! I was gobsmacked at his audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:03 PM
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I think you're being overtly aggressive here, always accept criticism whether good or bad. Ordinarily, I'd say you have a point. But this was unsolicited criticism from someone who was not in the position to give such "detailed" advice. (Like he gave her notes! Notes!) I'm in a creative field and yes, I need to be able to take criticism graciously. I sell my work and it doesn't matter if someone is an expert or not an expert in my field, they should be able to tell me if they like my work or not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:02 PM
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The audacity. You just met him, he has no knowledge or background in your creative field and he gives you NOTES on how to be better?!? THE AUDACITY. I haven't gotten a lot of this from men, mostly I guess because I don't tell people what I do when I first meet them and most people (men and women) aren't that curious. I kind of like that. I don't have to endure a lot of bullshit that way. I did have a guy on a forum (who didn't like me because I was outspoken about some issues that made him butth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:53 PM
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Truth. This is all truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:44 PM
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Would your reaction be the same if a woman were to tell you the same thing ? I can answer that. Yes. Someone I JUST MET decides to give me NOTES on how I can do something better when they have no knowledge about the thing I've been doing for years? Oh hell yes, I'd be shutting that down, it doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:43 PM
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And to me, a small piece of property with a modest home, fit to my exact preferences, and a steady career with benefits that allows me time to enjoy my hobbies is ALL I want. And it'll make your life better and you'll be more comfortable with yourself. And then if or when a high-quality man comes along, he'll appreciate all these things about you that make YOU special. Furthermore, he will continue to encourage you to achieve more of your goals and dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:15 AM
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We're so proud of you! The more you have yourself together, have your education, are cultivating fulfilling hobbies, the more interesting you will be. The happier you will be. The more confident you will be. This will make your life better, which is the only reason you should be doing it. But the side effect may be: All these qualities attract like-minded, high-quality men. Low-value men don't give a crap that you are "interesting" and have great hobbies and a career you're proud of. They aren't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 10:12 AM
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Dont wait until you explode, this will feed into the stereotypical expectations these men will have of you. I agree with this. Don't let this kind of thing fester. Speak up early. Be polite, but have it on record that you spoke up. Then the scrotes can't come back later and say, "But you didn't say anything all this time, I guess it wasn't that bad." Trust me, that IS what they will say. They will find a way to blame you anyway, but if you speak up early that's one less thing they can use agains…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:42 PM
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The good thing is that he's getting absolutely ROASTED by every single person who has responded. They all are seeing through his B.S.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:13 AM
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They try so hard to discredit women. That's one of the ways they keep rape culture alive. I have come to the conclusion that most of the manosphere is very angry that women are allowed to say no to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:47 AM
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Rape to men is a man of a different ethnicity who is a stranger to the woman who jumped out of the bushes and beat her up. Sadly, that is often the case. (Edit: Among scrotes, anyway. High-quality men understand that a lack of bruises and scratches doesn't necessarily mean a rape didn't occur.) I would say that if she has bruises and cuts and reports the rape immediately, and especially if the man is a stranger to her, then many men will believe it is rape. If the rapist is of different ethnicit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:05 AM
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Oh yeah, 100%. I'm sure a lot of them congratulate each other for rape. They refuse to see most coerced or forced sex acts as rape. "She lied." "If she went to his house she should have known she was going to be having sex." "Why didn't she go to the police immediately?" (when we know how badly that can go), "He's a good-looking/rich guy, he could get any woman he wanted, therefore it couldn't be rape" and so forth. If she's got bruises and scrapes then they might believe she was raped, but anyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:24 PM
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Agreed, we can never win with them. Truth! We can't win, and when they're this hypocritical and selfish, it's best just to retreat and leave them to their porn or whatever. The heck with 'em!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:20 PM
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That's why this sub exists. To warn younger ones so they learn who to avoid sooner rather than later! Spread the word! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:20 PM
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This is hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:19 PM
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There was this guy... in a lot of ways he was a HVM (and we're still friends), but the money thing was always a bit of a red flag. He grew up poor and I don't think he ever got over it. I pity any woman he is involved with now. He was always "weird" about money and would get stingy about the dumbest things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:12 PM
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Imagine having to write some stupid shit like this because women won't give you the time of day That's the impression I got from this too. He writes this all out because that's all he can do. I only read a few sentences but that is a loooooong ramble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:18 PM
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I read a few sentences and that was it. This guy spent all this energy writing that out instead of doing something productive with his life. LOL. How pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:15 PM
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A lot of men just want a lower caste of women they can exploit for sex. Exactly. They want to forever cement any single mom into that caste. Doesn't she know that it's "scrote law"!? She is forever supposed to (and obligated to) be easy to get into bed. SMH. The goal of this group is to ensure we never associate with that sort of man. The only solution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:09 PM
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There was a single mom who started regularly attending church and decided on no more too-soon sex from then on. She had a lot of reasons for this decision, and church was no small part of it. Scrotes are like, "Nope, it doesn't work that way, she can't turn over a new leaf because she's a single mom. She's not allowed to...no man will tolerate that." Scrotes are gonna scrote. Thankfully they don't speak for all men. High-quality men do understand and respect a decision such as hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:56 PM
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The bottom line is, I don't want to be tied to a man who can't carry his own weight (thus leaving more financial burden to me). I don't want him to be carrying my weight either (since he can control me that way). I want us to be on equal financial footing. Watching how he spends during dating gives me a good clue as to how that will pan out. It's not about me trying to soak him for as much money as I can, but me seeing that he gives enough of a crap about me to pay for a meal without looking lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:46 AM
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I get very sad when this is used as an instrument to stay in an unhealthy place. Totally agree. It's supposed to be there to make life better, to make you better and more secure and content. It's so misapplied and that is tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:07 PM
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as a relatively ‘petite’ woman myself, it’s disheartening having my fellow women insinuating a body like mine is ‘undeveloped’ and ‘unwomanly’ and that i can only ever hope to have a pedophile be attracted to me. This is a good point. I've got the big boobs (and have gotten shit for that) and I empathize with anyone who gets shit for big boobs, small boobs, whatever boobs. Also, it's not a bad thing to be slender (I'm not). I don't want to see women shamed for being short, slender, big, ample, o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:05 PM
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Hint: the unhappier a woman is in her marriage, the more likely she is to become excessively religious. I'm an unmarried religious person, and I think I can offer a theory. There is pressure within many denominations of the Christian church to not divorce (for both genders). So, once a woman is stuck with a dud of a husband, she's stuck.* If she has any religious upbringing, she'll use the church to help bolster her resolve to stick with her miserable marriage. She may also feel like her faith w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:31 PM
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But what's the point of deference to a guy? What do you mean? I look at some friends of mine. They are an older couple, been married probably 30 years. Both are extremely kind, sweet people. And smart. The husband absolutely dotes on his wife and will do anything for her. I call him "long-suffering" because she's so generous and always "volunteers" him to help other people and he just goes along with it because he loves her. But she is also protective of him because he's so easy-going and gentle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:02 AM
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I never understand why women who go from working buy into the whole "I'm going to stay at home and raise children from now on" mindset. There isn't a single situation I know of where the man retained his respect for his spouse. Okay, for a short time, but the more the man is bringing home the money, the more he dictates how much goes to you to run the household. In a perfect world, a home-oriented woman would do fine being a stay at home mom while her husband works. But this is far from a perfec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:54 AM
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Yeah, he had a pretty good response to the question. Succinct too! :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:57 PM
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That men's wall sub is hilarious. The whole idea of a "wall" for men or women is kind of sad, because we should embrace the beauty in everyone (and realize that everyone changes as they age). But the people who run the male "wall" satire sub know that. That these scrotes LOL over unflattering pictures of women is audacity. (Especially since some of the photos on the female "wall" sub are not even evidence of the women aging badly, but merely cherry-picked photos showing unflattering lighting.) T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 06:06 PM
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Holy crap. What a worthless waste of skin he is. I'm so sorry you endured this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:11 AM
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Again I say, let’s teach young boys how to grow into the men that we want in this world. YES! It's not hopeless. We need to start when everyone is young, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:09 AM
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Damn I fell in love with him just reading this. Me too. Glad to know that it's not all bleak out there. Good for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:07 AM
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To those men, the only purpose of a wife is to serve him: she did all the cleaning, cooked his meals, cared for the children, had sex with him, gave him a social life. When she suddenly becomes sick and isn't able to be his slave anymore he sees no purpose and will find a new slave. This must be the truth, because why else would these men bail if she gets sick? I know that there are good men out there who would never dream of such a thing, but the ones who do? This is the only explanation. His s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 02:05 AM
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And it's shitty art. I hesitated to say it before, but I have to say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:03 PM
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Ugh! Diana tells it like it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:29 PM
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I'm so glad it helped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 09:46 AM
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I've known women like this... oh my. They've never been allowed to be their own person. I get it, I do—we all have had this pressure on us and it affects our self-esteem. But it really holds a lot of women down. They think that their service to others defines them. The key is to find out what you're good at, work at that thing, feel pride in that thing, and when someone tries to put you down, remind yourself of what you've accomplished and what your dreams and goals are. Be active in improving w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:06 AM
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Wow, what a great video and a smart girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:09 AM
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I'm so glad she's doing this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:52 PM
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The lesson I got out of this is that even with the world trying to keep us small, there's many ways to thrive and still get what we want. So glad to hear! So everything turned out for the best! It sounds like you have done fabulously! The Internet can work for us. I can't tell you how many times I've been referred to "Mister" when selling my work online. I do not care. Just give me the money. LOL. (I don't deliberately conceal my gender, but people just assume. It's pretty funny, actually.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:41 PM
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My parents flat out forbade me from going to art school and as a teenager, I was very dutiful and obeyed. I hate hearing stories like that. I'm so sorry to hear you endured this. Yeah, I got a lot of discouragement. There was a concerted effort to get me to give up. But that fire in my belly would not be denied. In the end, it was my dad that made it all happen. Looking back, it was because he was 1) HVM, 2) saw that I was making money at it already. It's never too late to study art. That's one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:33 PM
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LOL. I always laugh when I see guys like this bitch about women's appearance. As if their appearance is so great? That the mere existence of a chubby woman living her life and minding her own business can send them into such throes of anger is entertaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:24 PM
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No, Brain, Heart, World.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:36 PM
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I hadn't intended to spend the time, but I watched all three episodes (over 90 minutes) of that film. It was very good. I always assumed porn was no good, but they really laid it all out. The third part was the most damning of all. And yet people insist on being in denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:58 AM
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LOL! Yep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 05:28 AM
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Noooo! Don't say that! How hateful of you! You're just jealous that you've 'hit the wall'! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 04:17 AM
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Exactly! And that's the last thing they want! To be left alone. I've seen them occasionally talk about sex dolls and sexbots and so forth and boast that we women will be soooooo sorrrrrry when all men just get a sexbot and ignore us. They're projecting. Women will not feel the loss for one second of a man who is happy and satisfied with a sex doll. We will instead be relieved, because that's one less man who will presumably be harassing us. We want such men to leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:52 AM
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They hate FDS because FDS tells women that it’s better to be alone then to be with a man and have to devote your life cooking, cleaning and catering to him while getting nothing in return. This is so true. All of it. There are decent, high-quality men out there who will give as much as they get, because they understand that's how it's supposed to work. They aren't on the manosphere sites. They probably aren't even aware of what the manosphere is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:25 AM
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They talk about and treat women as if they’re subhuman and incapable of love, and not worthy of dignity or respect. That’s the party line of those groups. Exactly. Some of the stuff on their websites and forums are horrifying. We do see individual women criticize (quite passionately) men, but "all of them are subhuman, this is their nature" isn't the party line for the whole sub. (Which it basically is with some of these manosphere groups.) If it were, there would be no such thing as the high-va…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:21 AM
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Standards are a threat to men who can't meet any. Or who don't feel like they should have to. Because women exist to serve them. Who is she to have standards and who is she to reject them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:10 AM
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They hate FDS because we call them out on their bullshit and teach women how to best identify their tactics, avoid their bullshit, and walk away from their games. Exactly this! We take nothing away from anyone that they're entitled to. Nobody is entitled to a women who gives them easy and accessible sex, with minimal expectations, and a high tolerance for their bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:09 AM
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But don't tell other women to change their standards when most men don't even brush their teeth twice a day and the bar is already on the floor. Exactly. Height isn't an issue for me (since I'm not very tall) but by damn, when guys have so many "requirements" with appearance, there's nothing wrong with women having a few as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:37 AM
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so no don't feel bad Me neither. They got what they wanted. They don't get to turn around and blame women for what they always wanted. I hope every 'nice' girl shuns them forever. (Unless, of course, they have a sincere change of heart and acknowledge that they've been a-holes and change their ways.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:56 PM
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But then they would fall for those same girls and then complain that the girl is a bitch or crazy etc. Now they say they want nice girls. Yes, and they blame ALL GIRLS for these choices. They also blame all women because the supply of virginal nice girls has dried up. Because why? Because either the nice girls don't want anything to do with these guys anymore, are already settled with a guy who appreciated them, or they stopped being 'nice girl' because they finally succumbed to the pressure fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:20 PM
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Women below their threshold don't count or even exist to them. A lot of those guys are extremely delusional about this though. Exactly my thoughts. They are lower on the attractiveness scale but still expect women that are several levels above them. And if they don't get that? The "system" doesn't work! LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:10 AM
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Yes, that's a common theme among some in the manosphere. I've even heard some suggest age 12 as being an acceptable age of consent. Crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:37 AM
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Of course. And what a shame it is to love a man so much, while he doesn't love her at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:32 AM
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Men don't do those kinds of things. Why do we That's the thing! And we all know that! I think I knew that when I was really young. If someone is going to give up something, it's going to be her. Every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:31 AM
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Same here. I've never loved a man that much. It's not about love. It's the opposite of love. A man who would expect that of you can't love you and why would you love someone who doesn't give a shit about you? I mentioned this in another post—my dad was my mom's biggest cheerleader. My dad wasn't perfect but one of the greatest gifts he gave all his children was that example. To be proud of your spouse and lift them up. My mom did the same for him too. That's what couples who love each other do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:27 AM
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The woman in a relationship is always expected to jeopardize their career prospects for their man, but when it's time for the man to do the same, they just don't. That's the thing. AND WE KNOW THIS. WE'VE ALWAYS KNOWN THIS. A family member "gave up" a potentially promising career in a creative field because her boyfriend browbeat her out of it because he was afraid there wasn't enough money in it. Now, to be fair, I emphasize "potentially." One teacher told her she had great promise in this part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:18 AM
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I can't fathom giving up my dreams for even a HV man. I've worked my ass off for the life I have. And no decent man would ask. His admiration and enthusiasm for your dreams should be a prerequisite. If he doesn't care about your dreams or thinks they're disposable, he's not the man for you. I instinctively knew this was the case with many boys I knew. (Not that they were beating down my door to date me, lol.) I saw other talented girls with dreams "not have time" for them anymore because of thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:06 AM
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Exactly! And a true HVM would never ask you to. This! And almost all women would NEVER ask this of a man. Because we know it would be a deal-breaker for most if not all men. As it should be—FOR EVERYONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:59 AM
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Statistics have proven that mothers don't fight for custody of their kids because fathers give away that right happily. An online acquaintance who is a divorce lawyer has confirmed this. He said that fathers may think they want to see their kids a lot at first, but when they get a taste of "freedom" and living the "single life" again, they don't fight as hard to take on more responsibility for child care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:11 AM
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And people still deny that this garbage escalates, warps and destroys the mind, and helps encourage social and sexual deviance. They escalate to more extreme and degrading porn because the normal stuff doesn’t do anything for them anymore. This is what worries me. I live in my own insulated dream world and know almost nothing about porn. As far as I'm concerned, the Internet is for cat videos, lol. I don't imagine that the men I see frequently indulge in porn. Probably many of them don't. (I am …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:07 AM
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I think if men are socialized better and raised in an environment where empathy is encouraged, then fewer of them will be would-be rapists or rapist sympathizers. Our society is broken and porn is prevalent and this is making things far worse than they should be. This is a symptom of the "boys will be boys" mindset where they are continually allowed to be the lowest they can be. There is fear of being caught and punished for assault, harassment and even rape (and you see scrotes complain about t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 12:56 AM
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they act like they just wanted a good girl, nooo they didn't they were banging every chick and then expecting some virginal beautiful woman would be theirs at the end. It's like they think there will always be an unlimited supply of attractive women always available for them—and all these available women will remain at 21 years old no matter how old the man is. So there will be unlimited hot women willing to bang on the first date. And then when the guy is finally ready to commit, there will be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:54 PM
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No one EVER would expect a father to quit his job or dissolve his business because his wife couldn't handle one three-year-old at home. NEVER EVER. Maybe if the kid was extremely special needs or something, but that clearly is not the case here. I am sure that a three-year-old is a handful, but could you imagine EVER someone excusing a wife for not being able to "handle" the care of this child, to the point that the husband has to quit work and worse yet, shut down his business? EVER? Oh my good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 09:41 PM
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Oh yes. Very true. I got a lot of verbal abuse and bullying when I was young, and invariably, someone close to me would try to make "excuses" for why those people were shitheads. I think they were trying to not be "judgmental" or felt it was unkind to soundly condemn other people. Even if by doing that, it sounded like I was to blame for what happened. If only I did this or that. If only, if only. I always knew the excuse-making was wrong. I always knew that those people who were shitty were shi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:37 AM
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my mom did the same. honestly just improved my self-steem because if your mom treats you like shit, you are kind of prepared for the world and nothing can offend you as much. Wow, this hits home. My mom was in most ways a loving mom, but she had this way about her—she could suck the hope out of you when she felt like it. She was "doing it for your own good" so you wouldn't expect much from life and give up before you try. Because I survived that, other people trying the same crap don't make much…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 02:41 AM
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For me red flag would be wanting to meet during a pandemic. Yes, this. He also seems very eager and impatient. Not a good sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 01:21 AM
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The narrative that your worth is based on your appearance was literally created by men hundreds of years ago lmao not by instagram It's been around FOREVER, way before the Internet. Way before television. Charles Dickens left his wife and complained about her gaining weight. I always loved Charles Dickens' books but he was a genuine NVM in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:43 PM
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What people are usually talking about when they discuss “toxic femininity” is really just gossipy or mean-spirited behavior from women. Agree. There are definitely women who can be vicious, but usually, it's not physical, it's verbal. Not that I want to minimize some of the crap some women do (if it's bad, it's bad), but typically it's not nearly as scary as actual violence. And usually, women who are strangers to you aren't much of a threat to you. Men who are strangers to you can still pose a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:28 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:17 PM
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antidote to all the toxic manosphere crap. That's exactly what this sub is! Perfectly worded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:41 PM
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Avoiding abuse is apparently considered man-hating by these hypocrites. Very true. She wants to be financially independent? She doesn't want to have sex too soon? That's man-hating, lol. Some of these scrotes talk about the good old days when women stayed home and the men provided. Women had to get married because options for careers were limited for them. So they put up with a lot of male shit for the privilege of having a roof over their head. Why would women want to go back to that? We can ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 02:34 AM
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My dad's father (my grandfather) died when my dad was a kid. I always could tell it was a traumatic event for my father. One of the things I think it did was make him extra diligent and involved as a parent. He had a decent job, and seniority meant he could have climbed the ladder and had more responsibility (but with more hours). He purposely didn't take some promotions because of the added stress and the time away from family. He said it just wasn't worth it. The thing I remember was that he w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:10 AM
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Yeah, and they think it's okay, but only when they do it. (The shitty ones do, anyway.) But it's never okay. It doesn't only suddenly become not okay when a woman does it to a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:41 PM
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I agree completely. The reasons this woman gives for leaving are all material and superficial. Men leave women for reasons this superficial all the time and some of them justify it which is disgusting. If it's not okay for him to do it, it's not okay for her to do it. Let's raise the standards of everyone, not lower them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:36 PM
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I mean if he’s a good man don’t leave him! Those men with bigger house and nicer cars only started liking her because she’s “hot” now. What happens if she gets ill or gets old and can’t look or earn that way more? I agree with you. I do think part of the point of the post is that a lot of men justify leaving because she got fat, she's not attractive, etc. But when the shoe is on the other foot, suddenly it's not okay. But it was never okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:47 PM
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Certain types of women will treat you bad. The first type believe that their good looks makes them entitled to the top of everything, and if you, who are not as attractive as they are, have something (an ability, talent, or great boyfriend) they hate you. Because you don't deserve it. Only attractive girls should be accomplished, smart, and have hot boyfriends. Edit: Also, if you aren't sufficiently impressed by the superiority that their beauty affords them, they hate you. I actually think thes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:40 PM
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Oh yes, he's totally making this all up. All the Mods here are articulate. That rules him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:31 AM
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To them, women are men’s property. I came here to say this. Only you said it better. They view women as a product that someone should be consuming. If he can't have this product, then someone else should. There aren't enough of this "product" to go around (because unattractive products don't count), so any product that is available should be used. For the product to make itself not available for consumption is terribly wrong and wasteful and shouldn't be allowed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 07:11 AM
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The way most men seem so mean and dismissive to women they aren't attracted to. Nope. They're mean to the women who 'don't count.' The ugly women. Those women don't even register. If they are mean enough to enough women, they can get the reputation of just being a mean asshole. They somehow think that these girls don't have family, friends, and people who care for her who won't find out how these guys treat her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:45 AM
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I can answer that. If he showed himself to be a decent person, I'd consider him. If I wasn't attacted to him, I'd still treat him like a worthwhile person instead of a waste of skin. That's the difference, I think. It's okay to not want to date someone you don't find attractive. But if you treat them like they are a waste of skin and an inconvenience by existing, you are telling everyone that you are an awful person. Decent people wouldn't do this. They'll be polite to everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:37 AM
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If men have abused me and raped me, by his logic, I can act like a total asshole and abuse my fiance, because I'm just a product of my treatment. Exactly. If someone who is abused makes a hyperbolic statement, it's in response to all that they've endured. A mere hyperbolic statement sure as hell shouldn't be used as an excuse for others to go out and be abusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:43 PM
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Women saying these things is the reaction, not the cause Exactly!! Abusive, crappy men are crappy and abusive and then a woman who has endured too much utters "men are trash." She doesn't say it before she was abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:40 PM
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Saying "men are trash" is hyperbole, but I get why it's said (by women who have suffered trauma). But this is a sub where we frequently talk about HVM (high-value men). Obviously, we don't think all men are trash if we regularly discuss the high-value ones. So, the guy in this meme is trying to say that because some women engage in hyperbole that this causes men to be violent, toxic, and abusive? Hyperbole is enough on its own to get them to be that awful? Just that? How about the awfulness was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 10:05 PM
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I hardly even remember guys trying. But if they did? It was so inconsequential that I don't remember. Don't get me wrong, I could get very hurt when negged for other things, but my creative work? Nope. I think this is because I started showing interest in creative things at a very young age, had already survived many discouragements at a young age, persisted, and was determined to never give up. After all of that, some random idiot talking crap wasn't going to even register. I do remember one ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:54 PM
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I think this is a story of a remarkable woman (Harry's mom), a good egg (Harry) and 70+ years of remarkable women. I just love that Harry took his mom's advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:24 AM
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Holy crap, I didn't know that. How appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 05:42 AM
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This is so true, and so simply stated. A male friend of mine liked to get into these pointless, escalating email arguments. He'd decide he was pissed off about something, and nothing I said could change it. He would misconstrue what I said, twisting things around. It was like he was determined to have an argument no matter what I said. So I learned to clarify myself once, apologize "if there was a misunderstanding" (because sometimes I did explain myself poorly) and then to go silent. Either he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 09:29 PM
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She's fantastic! I love her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:08 AM
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This. But let's assume for a moment that the man is trustworthy. His phone can still get stolen or hacked. Or his computer or email can get stolen or hacked. It's just not worth the risk. I'm an artist and sometimes study nudes in class or use photos to draw from. (Like what you see here: https://www.posespace.com/ ) If you want to pose for nudes, pose for artists. Don't pose for some individual person who may betray you or be careless with your photos and don't do poses that you'd be ashamed fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:58 AM
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THIS was the worst they could find? These attractive ladies? This really tells you all you need to know about these idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 09:08 PM
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Yes. I'm not tempted to unsub, but I constantly must resist saying, "But...but not all men are like that." (I avoid saying it because since we regularly talk about HVM we already know that not all men are like that.) The percentage of men that "are like that" will depend on whom you ask, what their experiences have been, and so forth. Plus, some ladies need to vent, and I get that. I certainly do not feel like "all men" are [whatever negative term you choose] but the type that we often are talki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 08:41 PM
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Pretty sure this guy is a hero and deserves to be remembered everywhere. Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:51 AM
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It's always supposed to be one-sided. She gives, he takes. The thought of giving something to her? It never enters his mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:33 AM
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I agree. Many men wouldn't tolerate mistreatment, lack of affection, bitchiness, etc from their girlfriends. They'll bail. What's the point in being in a relationship if it's miserable? (When there is marriage, it's harder to bail... but many men will feel justified in cheating.) If men won't tolerate selfish, thoughtless treatment from their SOs, why should women? If you knew that he'd dump you if you treated him the way he is willing to treat you, then you have your answer. If he can't treat y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:32 PM
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They cherry-pick which parts they want to follow. The Bible as a whole, especially the New Testament, doesn't tolerate sexual misbehavior from anyone. We can argue about how it was then and how patriarchal it was back when the Bible was written—and it was. I wouldn't want to be a woman in that culture back then. But there are churches today who do teach men to behave better. It only works when both men and women are held to the same standard. I cannot stand so-called "Christian" men who think th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:42 PM
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Now I’m quite artistic and I post a lot of photos to Instagram. Never once did this guy like any of my photos in our 2 years together. That hurt me because the easiest thing you can ever do in your life is double tap on a post. This should always be considered a major red flag because it shows how little he values you as a person. If a guy can't even feign interest or pride in what you do, then he just doesn't care about you. You are there to serve him. You are nothing outside of what you can gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:27 PM
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He might treat the new woman better for a bit, but not for long. I have to agree that if he's treating you badly, it's because he treats everyone badly. He just has that bad attitude. He thinks it's okay to treat people that way. It's what's inside of him, not about how she is. I believe people can mature and learn and change, but probably not overnight. If he goes from treating you like crap but turns around to treating the next girl better, it's doubtful that he's miraculously changed. It's a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 09:23 PM
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I came here to write that. It's not "I can't," it's "I won't."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 01:49 AM
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Well, women have it easy and they don't have it easy. Yeah, that crossed my mind too. The swarm of men coming out of the woodwork was a big wake-up call for her fetish-diaper-wearing husband, which is good. He's working under the assumption that nobody else wants her, and so he can keep wearing his diapers and going on as usual. I'm glad he was shocked out of his selfish complacency. But most of these men probably weren't high value. Few of them were, to be honest. But still...if they aren't wea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:11 AM
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I hope this dating experience makes her realize she CANNOT stay with this freak, for the sake of her own health and her children Yes, she needs to leave. He's made his choice, and it's his fetish diapers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:25 AM
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adult diaper fetish men are truly my worst nightmare. I know, I know. A few years ago I was helping care for an elderly family member who needed adult diapers. They can be pretty expensive so I was looking up which ones were the best before I ordered them. That's when I found out about the fetish diaper people. There are reviews on Amazon and YouTube for these people. (They were reviewing which diapers were the best.) Holy cow. What a bunch of weirdos! I guess people can do what they want if the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:23 AM
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Oh my... She needs to divorce this useless husband, at least on paper. They can still live together for the kids if they like. They're living like roommates, so who cares. I wonder if the kids know about his kink? What kind of example is that sending them? I just feel so sad about the whole situation. She deserves SOOOO much better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:19 AM
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What are they, five?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:31 AM
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THIS. What kind of incredible dolt ghosts a girl after her first time? That is all on him, my dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:15 AM
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If you delay sex, that gives you time to discover the man's true colors and then you can use your brain to walk away from a LVM without having put yourself through the danger of sex. You took the words right out of my mouth. EXACTLY. He'll show whether he's worthwhile either way. Sex just adds risks and muddies the waters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 03:08 AM
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They're making terrible choices and need to gaslight us all so they can feel superior about it. Or they need to feel validated, like they're making a right choice. Anyone who chooses a different path is, by default "judging" them (even if they aren't judging them) so they "shame" them. I don't want to judge a woman or put her down for her sexual history. I mean, the scrotes do that all the time, so these women don't need me to do it. But I won't be "shamed" by her either. That's ridiculous. Edit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:56 AM
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Why do so many women “prude shame” these days? Because they think we're "judging" them merely by making our own choices. It's all in their own head. Just like someone with an alcohol problem will try to "shame" someone who turns down a drink—even if that person does or says nothing that is judgmental. The mere presence of someone abstaining sets them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 02:53 AM
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The takeaway from this video is that when he's got enough money for HIM to have a better seat, a better meal, a better view, but cheaps out on HER, it's a total red flag! Who does that?!? You invite someone, you don't purposely give them the crappier seat while you are in luxury. That's insane. A male friend of mine (only a friend as we are not each others' types) is so poor he barely has two pennies to rub together but he is always generous with what little he has and is always protective and k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:40 AM
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Well, not that I consider myself the epitome of high value, but maybe making a pact with yourself to focus on self-improvement and setting new habits and routines. Take a break from dating for several months. Look into getting a makeover. Work on some area of your appearance or health that you feel you are neglecting, whether it be your diet, or exercise, or whatever. Read literature that interests you. Reading popular fiction is fine if that's what interests you, but some of the classics work t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:49 AM
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You did the right thing. She can never say she wasn't warned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 06:07 AM
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It makes me FURIOUS! I'm so sorry that you and other widows are having to endure this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:38 AM
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Yeah, just don't ring back. You are doing what he's asking you to do. You will never stop being a "dickhead" as far as he is concerned, LOL. You're doing him that favor by blocking him and forgetting him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:31 AM
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So sorry to hear about your loss as well. Under a decade is TOO DAMN SHORT! Dammit! But I'm glad you got the time that you did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:28 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. A family member just lost her husband recently and it's so very hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 02:27 AM
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ano-genital distance Now you made me go look that up. Fascinating reading! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anogenital_distance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:02 AM
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Two years is long enough. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:37 AM
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DUMP HIM Oh my gosh, when I got to the words "HARD WORK" I was already exhausted. And then the rest? Forget this. Get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:07 AM
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If all they had of you was photos from the neck up, best believe they’d try to figure out what your weight is. Don’t feel bad, men are way more ruthless with women. This is true. I have a soft spot for shorter men, so if it were me, I'd probably go on at least one date...but you're not me, OP, so who cares what I think? Twelve inches difference in height is a pretty big difference. I agree that saying "the vibe felt off" is vague enough and still a refusal. If it's given with the utmost kindness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:48 AM
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If all they had of you was photos from the neck up, best believe they’d try to figure out what your weight is. Don’t feel bad, men are way more ruthless with women. This is true. I have a soft spot for shorter men, so if it were me, I'd probably go on at least one date...but you're not me, OP, so who cares what I think? Twelve inches difference in height is a pretty big difference. I agree that saying "the vibe felt off" is vague enough and still a refusal. If it's given with the utmost kindness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:48 AM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:40 AM
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you're demanding a reciprocity they never intended to give you. Very well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 10:38 PM
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Thank you for laying it all out. You sound very reasonable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:43 AM
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The ideal end result in this sub is a loving, mutually invested relationship with two people who treat each other like gold. It's not about manipulating or exploiting, like male subs they say are like FDS. Yes. Yes. Yes! I'll admit, when I first saw this sub, I wondered if it was the flip side of some of the manosphere groups. But then I realized, no, some of the posts may vent a lot, but the core principle has been, "Watch for red flags and remove yourself." That's it. No trying to deprive them…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 05:00 AM
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I don't agree with everything in the sub so if there is something that gets brought up I just don't respond to those threads it's pretty simple. Same here. I'm not even saying that there's anything big that I disagree with, but if there is, I'll not respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:46 AM
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That’s why the financial aspect is only one part of the inquiry. It means nothing without other forms of investment - emotional (caring about you), physical (spending time with you, being there for you), sexual (being a sensitive and loving partner), etc. Yes, thank you for pointing that out. Yes, if a guy has enough money, he can throw it around as part of the game but still have nefarious intent. Spending money is not "proof" of anything of itself, but can be a good sign. Not spending money (w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:23 AM
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Yep yep yep. I’m here for the red flag descriptions and leveling up. Good to hear; we're on the same page. I couldn't be here if there was anything encouraging gold-digging or lying or doing anything that I wouldn't want to be done to me. I'm seeing nothing like that here. All the complaining about FDS is just based on their own imagination--not on what is actually here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:17 AM
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If someone doesn't want to spend money on me it's obvious their goal is free sex. Go check out what men say themselves, they'll agree with that sentiment. If they have nothing to lose (like some money spent on nice date) then they can "afford" to date a different chick each night until they find one who will put out. If that's all they're aiming for, that's what they'll do. If she's someone they're really trying to impress for something more long-term, then he'll make more effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:07 AM
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Yeah, their weed and video game money. YES! That's the thing. If he's able to afford enough for weed, his games, his car or other priority items, but refuses to spend much on dates, then he's sending a message. Why shouldn't we pay attention to that message?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:02 AM
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The whole point of spending money is to show you're invested. And the current culture of dating is to be as LEAST invested as possible. Yes. If she sees him spending a lot on his phone or his gaming system or other items for himself, but he hesitates to spend pennies when it comes to dates with her, he's sending her a message and she should pay attention to it. I believe the handbook says that his spending should be consistent with his budget. It's not like anyone is expecting a guy max out his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:53 AM
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Preach! Lot of people here seem to think that financial INDEPENDENCE isn’t one of the foundations of FDS. SMH! I know, right? I took a peek at another sub who was bitching about this place. They think it's all about women getting men to buy them stuff. That's not my takeaway at all. At all. No, we don't want a guy to be a cheapskate who acts like expending even minimum effort (financial or otherwise) is too much—that doesn't portend well for the future. I don't want to bleed him for every cent e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 01:25 AM
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It IS the truest statement. It's often said (in a roundabout way) by some on the manosphere. Boys will be boys. She's the gatekeeper of sex. She should have known better. Men can't refuse if the opportunity presents itself. They honestly believe it even when confronted with how ridiculous and selfish they sound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 12:01 AM
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I don't know if this belief is commonplace among the majority of men. But I do know it's prevalent among the manosphere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:49 PM
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Because it's her fault she let him have sex with her. He couldn't control himself and it's not his fault. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:45 PM
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Yeah this is ridiculous. Men just want to have single handedly the choice to decide what they do with women with women having as little rights as possibl Pretty much this. The rules are fluid and should be shifted depending on how it benefits him the most. If he wants a kid, she has to carry it to term. If he doesn't want the kid, she should get an abortion. It all depends on what he wants at that particular moment. It's a moving target that may change at any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 11:44 PM
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But TRP also had a fundamentally good message for self improvement, but it has a reputation for hating women. AWALT (all women are like that) vs our "Block and Move On" over very strict criteria. Agreed. TRP has a whole game plan of gaslighting and (basically) abuse. And they feel contempt and hate towards women, "they're all like that," etc. We are just "block and move on" as you say. Some women may talk like "all men are like that" but if all men were, there would be no such thing as an HVM. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:42 PM
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I saw one post like this before posted by a doctor who practices using her maiden name. When asked why she does that she said, "well, he didnt go to Med School, I did" That would be my thinking if I was faced with this same thing. My dad paid for college, he didn't. That's why I'd use my dad's last name (my last name). Plus I already have a website with my name and a whole body of work under that name. I'm not changing them all. I can see a woman hyphenating the name after marriage, or even chan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 10:31 PM
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It's pure evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 06:11 AM
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Hope karma gets back to them Me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:18 AM
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Just because they did the research in Brazil doesn’t mean it’s a “Brazil thing” I know...I was just being naive... because this is so depressing and depraved. Those poor animals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:11 AM
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You should ask him about it in a casual way. There's a pattern there. The explanation could be perfectly innocent. You should be curious if nothing else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:07 AM
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Who knew, sex with animals is a Brazil thing? I hope it's not that prevalent in the USA. (I hope!) But I sometimes live in a naive dream world and give humankind too much credit sometimes. Holy crap. Penile cancer = karma. The hell with them. I agree; they deserve far worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:58 AM
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To be honest, that was my first thought. But, I can see him passing out as well. I mean, TRIPLETS!!! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:54 AM
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Apparently, he ranks engagement as a higher commitment than marriage...wtf. LOL. Adios to him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:55 PM
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That seems like a GIANT red flag. How is that comment emotionally intelligent? Why would you discourage anyone from doing something they're passionate about? Even if you never plan on publishing it, he should be positive about it. I think so too. I have had some gratifying successes pursuing projects that, had I listened to my family, I would have abandoned. I even had some family members do an impromptu "intervention" to get me to give up on something that is now earning me a significant portio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:53 PM
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that the publishing industry in our country is run by a specific sort of people who I would not mesh well with (basically he said most YA lit authors are upper-class, bitter, and clique-y) You can self-publish and sell on Amazon, KOBO, etc, and sell e-books. Who cares about what the publishing industry is like in your country? I self-published some non-fiction books that are doing decently (and I'm very grateful!). Go search for "Writer's Cafe" on the kboards.com (kindleboards) forum for help. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 10:48 PM
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not giving men attention is apparently abusive and toxic lol. Exactly! We've got a lot of nerve! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 09:47 PM
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Anyways, he proceeds to say how tOxIc tHaT sUB iS!!1! Yes internet man, talk over the other women and the advice they give, because if you call this sub toxic, then it must be so. Male opinion trumps all, remember. I check his post history, what is in it, you ask? A slew of posts about wet and tight pussy. Cringe. These are the losers who criticise the sub. I only wish there wasn’t so many of them. And THIS is why I come here and lurk (and occasionally post). The "manosphere" subs are sooooooo o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 08:32 PM
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Most decent human beings know traits they prefer and just naturally seek out or swipe on people with traits they find attractive without announcing it. Precisely! You don't broadcast what you don't like. You gravitate to what you do like. And you can do it quietly and with discretion and tact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 06:23 AM
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"Feel sorry for me, I hurt my hand when I hit you."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:08 PM
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I have literally seen men say this online: They want her to be a stay-at-home mom and not have a career, but if there is a divorce, she shouldn't get any sort of financial support from him, because she chose to give up a career to be a stay at home mom. It's not his fault... The selfishness and hypocrisy boggle the mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:06 PM
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They have no interest in what these women do for a living, for a hobby, or anything else about her. It's of zero importance to them. Only later on, if they're married for a while, then they'll bitch if they don't like her interests or don't think she has the "right" ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 11:03 PM
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Wow she sounds toxic, imagine promoting a lifestyle where you must completely depend on someone else financially, all of your life It's terrible advice. 1) she might never meet and marry Mr. HVM. 2) He could be a scoundrel who will leave her 3) He could die before his time, leaving her alone to raise young children. I see no downside to a woman being educated and trained in a skill that enables her to earn a decent living. Purposely choosing not to do that makes zero sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:59 PM
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My advice is to find a HVM that values building each other up and enjoying your accomplishments together! Exactly, and what's wrong with that? My dad set the standard. I saw how he encouraged my mom, pushed her even (in a loving way—she appreciated the push!), to achieve her goals. He was so proud of her accomplishments and he was proud of mine. 100% supportive. It was a total shock when I found out that a lot of men are not like my dad. My dad set the bar very high, it seems. But I will not set…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:51 PM
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Yeah, I don't care either, but I can understand why some women care. Men certainly have enough deal-breakers and if height is a deal-breaker for a woman, more power to her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:46 PM
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So true, and so sad that it even has to be said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:22 PM
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But the guys that objectively were uglier than me always tried to put me down in a subtle way or make me feel like shit about myself, and guess what, yes they wanted to bang with me and they liked me. I knew a guy who was somewhat like this? I don't think he had malice in his heart (I'm still friends with him) but he had NO social filter or horse-sense. If a guy implies that I am not his type or negs me in some way, at the very least I assume he's not interested. I won't even be butthurt—it'll j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 10:13 PM
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level 2savagecarebear2FDS NewbieOriginal Poster34 points · 6 hours agoYeah, I think that’s the key here. There’s nothing wrong with thanking your partner, but our culture tends to treat female labor as expected and male domestic labor as a favor. The bolded part is very true! Same with child care. If he does it, it's "babysitting." If she does it, it's just a regular day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:18 AM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:24 AM
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They beg and expect things of women that they later turn against them, mock and blame them for. So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:16 AM
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I agree, because that might make them think they're off the hook and didn't do anything that bad, to begin with. Besides, forgiveness can be only granted after a person apologizes and is sincerely sorry. If the other person isn't sorry, I don't see how "forgiveness" is really possible. They won't acknowledge that there is anything to be forgiven for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:38 AM
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I've made my peace with what happened and I can put it behind me. That sounds like a healthy way to deal with it. It might qualify as "forgiveness" in that you're not still dwelling on it. I have mixed feelings about what "forgiveness" means. I know it doesn't mean that you have to put yourselves in harm's way again and risk getting burned by the same person. I know it doesn't mean that you have to say that what they did to you is okay and you don't mind. I'm not sure what is required to qualify…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:40 AM
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So true. You can let go of the anger without making yourself vulnerable to being victimized again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:34 AM
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i've seen this so many times. I remember one discussion, the guys were asked why they loved their SO. Many of the responses were exclusively about what she looked like and what she gave to him, but not about her character or personality. When this was pointed out, it was like crickets...they didn't get what the point was... lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:29 AM
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Agree totally!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:19 AM
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I agree with this. Let's normalize kindness and compassion! That's what this video attempts to do. The guy probably got an ego boost from it too, but let's hope he sets a good example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:32 AM
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Yes, it's an exit, not an entrance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:41 AM
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I think you're probably right. That's the only thing that makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:33 AM
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BRAVO!!! Well done! Stay strong! You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:57 PM
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Yes, that last sentence nails it. If you're "pretending" then it's not real. You don't get rewarded for things that are not real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 12:02 AM
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An uncomfortable 24 hours of comforting would mean the world to his wife, and he can't even do that. Pathetic. Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:41 AM
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I've been lurking for a few weeks here and am absorbing all the content still. My main impression of this place (and the BIG difference I see between FDS and toxic "men's rights" subs) is that mainly what you do here is warn women to stay away, avoid, run away, leave and so forth. You just want to encourage us to get the heck out of useless, harmful or dangerous situations. The "men's" subs have a lot of advice about how to lie, manipulate, gaslight, etc. They want to take something away from ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:12 AM
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