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It is funny you say that. I asked him tonight what her plans were as far as moving out- he said she had planned on next Fall. Holy crap. I don't even know what to do with that one. I think its immeasurably cruel to her husband. I think you may be right that she does not plan on telling him. I don't know at all. It just seems to be a really deep rabbit hole.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/15 05:59 AM
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Our farm is rented. We will both be moving out. Sorry if I mis-wrote that. From my understanding her husband does not know she is leaving him yet, but they spent New Years together so that may not currently be the case. Today is not a good day. I feel incredibly weak so I haven't asked him for more details.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 11:10 PM
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I asked him that last night. He said that he was not going to answer that right now. I think it has a lot to do with his business failing awhile back. He seems to feel that he needs a completely new life. Truth be told our talk last night was productive. I was able to keep myself calm. I will be honest that tonight really hurts. I am having trouble with knowing that he is out celebrating with another woman. I sent the kids to Grandmas for the night so I would not be upset in front of them. I alr…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/15 09:02 AM
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I will try. I start a new job on Monday - hoping I can mentally focus enough to tune this all out for a bit. When we talked tonight he reiterated his love but he also said he is done. What a strange mix. I apologized to him for some things- told him I love him but I'm terribly hurt right now and cannot share our bed. He was wanting us to share it to hide this from the kids until February-March. My head is still in a tailspin but the tall was generally ok. We both listened a lot. Unfortunately he…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 05:11 AM
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I explained to him how painful it would be to lay next to him right now. How my heart is hurting and I need space to heal.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 05:02 AM
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We talked tonight and I did not do an ultimatum. I simply expressed my pain in a calm way. Asked a few questions and made arrangements to move into the den. He's taking her out for New Years Eve. I'm going to focus on myself and the kids - be the best mom I can right now. Keep working on me. It's all I can do.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 05:00 AM
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Ive lost 3 lbs in the last couple days - just can't eat. I am torn right now between confronting this head on as I think he is hiding money and taking your route. He tells me that he loves me but he is in love with her. One thing I know is that I cannot share his bed and be mentally healthy. I need to be healthy and continue working on myself.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 03:14 AM
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It's ok- I've done the same thing on my phone. Thank you for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 03:06 AM
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It's ok- I've done the same thing on my phone. Thank you for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 03:06 AM
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I know. I know that he is love-sick over her. But I also know that I cannot live for 6 months sharing a bed with him while he continues this affair.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 12:13 AM
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We have a den that he uses for a home office. I am planning to move in to that room as he has already stated that he will not leave. I have no idea what his and the OW's plans are regarding housing- but you may be right. My biggest goal for tonight is to keep my head straight- it's easy to lose sight of things when emotions are this high. I am hoping he will take choice number 1. But I have to prepar myself for the fact that he may choose her. I hope that I have the strength for it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 12:10 AM
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I'll try to respond as best I can. I have been asking him to talk for 2 months now as he was very cold and not wanting sex. I chalked the sex up to low desire as his libido has been and remains low. I was wrong in that. I was wrong about a ton of things- there are so many things that now looking back I can see and put together. The way I got to talk on Saturday was by forcing the issue- scheduling it and making sure the kids were at Grandma's house. I should have forced it earlier- that is compl…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 11:02 PM
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Thank you for this reminder. It is definitely something that I do not want to do and need to be extra mindful of right now.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 10:48 PM
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Thank you. I have a very good female friend who I've told. She's been married a couple years longer than I have and is very pro- marriage. I've always trusted her advice. I will never bad mouth him- it's just not productive. Although I am horribly angry right now. I plan to see a counselor to help me release some of these emotions swirling around. We're supposed to talk tonight. My plan is to offer him the 6 months that he wanted with the exception that he has to end it with her and work on us a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 10:35 PM
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I refused a BJ once- it was misguided and done out of frustration. I apologized to him that evening and let him know that I was in the wrong, explained why I was frustrated and told him it would not happen again. The only other time I have refused him in the last 2 years was when. I was coming down with a stomach bug and he initiated via text.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 08:10 PM
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I refused a BJ once- it was misguided and done out of frustration. I apologized to him that evening and let him know that I was in the wrong, explained why I was frustrated and told him it would not happen again. The only other time I have refused him in the last 2 years was when. I was coming down with a stomach bug and he initiated via text.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/14 08:10 PM
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Im 39. He is 41
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 08:47 PM
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I have always been pretty sexually open with him- very few limits- and one thing that we worked on for awhile but have been enjoying for a few years now. Its actually his libido that tanked a little over a year ago- he turned me down constantly. Weight- I now weigh less than I did when we married. I can leg press over 300lbs and run 10 miles. However I did not reach this goal until this last Summer. She does have a 6 oack though and is very muscular. Over the last couple months I have tried to p…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 08:45 PM
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My kids are 5, 7, 9, 12 & 14. 3 boys and 2 girls.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 07:35 AM
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I'm taking a couple of days to compose myself. Then make a plan. You're right that I'm angry. But the anger is mostly from hurt. From humiliation. From losing love. My primary concern is my kids. I have 5 souls depending on me to be their voice in this. I want them to have their father in the end- I will have to be bigger than him for now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 03:22 AM
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I'm not perfect by a long shot. I think there are likely things I could have improved sooner or more or just caught on earlier.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 03:17 AM
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Evidently he doesn't know yet. I cannot get over the selfishness in all this. Ripping apart two families for lust.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 02:55 AM
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I think the man is delusional. He seems to think that we will practically be neighbors and not much will change. Personally I do not want the arrangement he's talking about but then again I don't want the divorce at all. I want to fight for it. I'm not making any decisions right now. It's so raw and painful that I don't trust my logic right now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 02:52 AM
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Yes in a way. Looking back now a lot of little things make sense. But hindsight is that way I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 02:16 AM
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I agree. The problem is that he's brought this woman to our house for familyou events. They're going to put it together at some point. My mom is looking for a counselor for them and myself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 02:14 AM
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He says he wants joint custody but he wants to see the kids almost daily.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/14 02:12 AM
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To be honest I think it could be. He just kept repeating that he wants a different future- one with her and our kids. She is 45 - fit but not really attractive. Married with 2 boys. So yeah- not sure what tod do with that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/14 11:52 PM
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I begged him to stay last night- to fight for us. But he said they had been planning this since October. I was so blindsided. Going over things today there are things that make sense. She works at the gym he goes to. She's actually older than me and has two children. They struck up a friendship and here we are.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/14 10:32 PM
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This was last winter- about 10 months ago I think. I need to double check but his level was somewhere between 500-550. He hasn't been tested since, but his libido has dropped more since then.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/14 02:07 AM
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I agree! Thank you for the insight. I was going to come at it more as a relationship issue- as in wanting to keep us close and connected, but health is likely a better way to go. I definitely do not want to damage his self esteem here. It's really a delicate issue.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/14 12:33 AM
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I am familiar with them- I read the book a few years back. From what I can tell his is acts of service. Extra things done with thought for him. I try to do one every other day. An examle would be that its gotten cold here (well cold to us). We have electric blankets so I make sure to get his turned on about 20 minutes before bed so he gets into a warm one. Stuff like that. It could be that his language has changed and I have not picked up on it. However I don't know if that would be the complete…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/14 11:32 PM
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Thank you! I actually really like to cook. But I work/run an internet retail business and this is truly my busiest time. While I haven't been ordering out or anything- but they have been missing their normal fare. Sometimes I think it's just really helpful to get a reminder that putting in extra really does matter to them- husbands included- and can express your love in an unsaid way.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/14 09:50 PM
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I have 5 kids as well. Due to the fact that we have a farm my kids probably have more chores to get through- but I would agree that this isn't practical. I'm in charge of getting the kids out the door in the morning. As good as I am at it I still wouldn't have a list that the kids check off- it simply adds more tasks to my morning to manage them all doing it. In my experience the best teacher for this stuff is consequences. When you make a kid uncomfortable they tend to avoid the behavior in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/14 06:06 PM
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As a wife who is currently on the receiving end of frequent rejection - I agree. It stings like hell. Makes me doubt myself. Makes me doubt my marriage and generally sucks.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/14 06:54 AM
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Is your long term goal to have open breast play with her? I suspect that for her the breast play is a turn off. Everybody has different ways they like to be touched sexually and it sounds like this one is in the red for her. One solution would be to work on this when she is really aroused. This worked for us. I don't like having oral performed on me- never have- it was a turn OFF. However we gradually worked on it when things were really hot and heavy and it gradually became something that wasn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/14 07:04 PM
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Hmm. It sounds two fold to me. She is lacking desire- either for sex or for you. If you're grumpy and not OI this just feeds into it. I know the OI part is really hard- I'm the HD partner right now and it stinks. She is selfish combined with not understanding sex as a need the way you do. I think all women are guilty of this at some point. We simply don't have the same wiring and tend to be unable to think about it differently because the triggers just aren't there. Acknowledging it as a need an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/14 06:21 PM
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Female here- sorry to intrude. I had an issue similar to your wife's a few years back- period just never stopped. It challenged our sex life as well as it took awhile to get under control. The largest problem I had during this was a lack of desire for sex- my hormones were so out of whack that I never even thought of sex until he brought it up. I even took to putting reminders on my phone to try and keep things going. Are you still initiating and building desire during the day? One other questio…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/14 09:11 PM
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Look through some of the material over at The Red Pill Room blog. He has a lot of advice for wives who want to improve things. Do a search for "Girl Game" - I've linked one of the posts here: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2013/02/girl-game-extend-invitation.html
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/14 09:15 PM
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I don't have much in the way sexual advice to offer. But I do have experience with sexual disfunction and being out of sync with my husband- in fact it's a problem I'm currently working on if you want to PM me. However I can say keep trying. These aren't easily solved most of the time and can get really frustrating (ask me how I know this), but if you're able to keep pushing forward and get creative it will really pay off.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/14 08:53 PM
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It's the getting him to go. Right now he says no to anything further (doctors) and that the orgasm issue is mine to handle. Today just isn't a good day. The odd this is that he's generally a happy guy. He feels good most of the time, has a positive attitude and a good disposition- he just has no need for initmacy be it sex, touching, hugging etc.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 09:01 PM
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His Serum was at 550 last winter. I'd like to think that going to another doctor would help, but as of right now he's refusing to.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 12:35 AM
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His testosterone came back normal. I wanted him to go for an additional test, but the Dr said it was a waste of time/money. Personally I think the Dr is just lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 02:04 AM
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Hubby is coming off a long diet this weekend and starting a bulking phase to put on muscle. I'm really hoping that it helps a bit- should be able to make some of his favorite foods now. Anyhow- thank you for the encouragement.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 04:22 PM
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And I think you're on to it. I know when we've talked about it he says that he doesn't flirt or touch because he doesn't want to turn me on and the not follow through. I really want to find something that just cranks his engine so much that he can't resist it. Maybe that help with the evenings?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 06:47 AM
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I cannot orgasm in the morning. I can in the evening. I have no issue with morning sex- but it's become the only sex we have. That would be fine too- but he doesn't want to help me out later in the evening. I don't think it's unreasonable to want to orgasm with the person you're having sex with at least some of the time. Should I have rejected him - no. It was a mistake and I fully admit that. What I want to do is find a way to meet both of our needs so that neither one of us is feeling this way…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 06:35 AM
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Our sex life used to be pretty high. His libido out paced or matched mine almost all of the time. We were fairly kinky- nothing was really off the table to try at least once. It started dropping off a year ago May/June- so June 2013. It didn't much taper as it went from very high in April 2013 (going for it daily if not twice) to medium ( going down to 2-3x per week) to low (2-3 times a month) by July. What can I do better? I can work to seduce him more. Ive been trying to learn different techni…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 06:30 AM
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I explained above that we went through a rough financial patch. In this thread I was working through all of the anxiety associated with this. I was concealing all of the anxiety from him in an effort to not burden him. But I also was finding it hard internally to continue submitting at the time. I tell him daily that I'm really proud of the way he has turned things around. During it I cut everythign back that I could think of, went to work for our company and tried to screw him in the office- I …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 06:12 AM
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I give BJs all the time- heck I even learned to deep throat as I thought it might help our situation. This is the first time I have turned him down. I'm not at all proud of turning him down this morning, but I don't know what else to do. He does not want to help me out in the evenings- he wants me to learn to climax in the mornings. So far I've not been able to do it. I've tried everything I can think of- but my body is not cooperating.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 05:58 AM
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Yes- I was in a dark spot then. Things were pretty bad financially and I was trying to keep my anxiety hidden from my hubsand and the kids. I admit to being cold at one point. I was at a point where my anxiety was so bad that I could not handle everything. When I went to him to ask for help he shut me down. My coldness only lasted for a couple of days before I got it turned around. Fair Weather- hmm. I don't know. We've stuck it out through so many things (our son died 7 years ago- now that was …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 05:53 AM
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Barkerofpies - Actually your words were so much help during that time. I wasn't sleeping well with all of the anxiety and you really did help me. I tend to keep things bottled away from him in an effort to not burden him- you called me on it then and it really did help. So- thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 05:34 AM
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Up until the last year his libido has matched or out paced my own. We were doing great. When his libido went so did a lot of his affection, flirting, teasing etc. I can handle this because when we had sex it was really gratifying for both of us- I could completely relax and focus on us. I have tried all kinds of things from offering massages to learning to deep throat (sorry for the TMI), but it just seems to get worse. The past few months have definitely been more challenging as he gradually sw…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 05:25 AM
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Yes I did. I know it was wrong. I fully admit that. But I've been available every single time for the last 7 months. Not trying to defend my actions this morning, but I honestly felt like I couldn't handle how lonely it makes me feel in the evening.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 01:03 AM
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I missed part of your message or hit reply in the wrong spot. He is definitely at his best in the morning. He won't allow me to even try in the evening. I'll initiate (send sexy pics, lingerie etc) but he usually just says he's not interested. The other night he walked in on me finishing myself- I invited him to join and he declined. His job is hard, but no more so than its been in years past. I've been reviewing my contributions to see if there's an area where I'm lacking. I can def use improve…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 01:00 AM
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I use toys in the evening by myself. I don't need to finish each time. Honestly I don't. But I would like to on occasion. He just doesn't feel up to helping me in the evening.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:48 AM
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Again- he says it's a no go.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:46 AM
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I'm sorry- I'm not trying to have a bad attitude at all. I'm just frustrated. I'm not opposed to morning sex. I just can't orgasm and that is all we are having. If we were having sex in the evening as well that would be awesome- but we're not. Toys- they don't help in the morning. Trust me- I've tried. I just want to be able to orgasm with him again. What we're doing now leaves me feeling wanting. I'm just so lonely always having orgasms by myself.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:39 AM
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He has no libido in the evening- comes home and says he's too tired or just has no desire.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:32 AM
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I don't think you read my post completely. I cannot orgasm in the morning. I've tried every which way- but it just doesn't happen. I'm not trying to be confrontational and I love giving him pleasure, but I'm having trouble walking away from our sex never being fulfilled. It just feels lonely. I spend all day worked up and wind up masturbating instead. Constantly orgasming by yourself when you have a partner is just sapping me. How do I find balance with this?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:31 AM
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What I meant is it's not coming from a place of being vindictive. I simply didn't want to face the loneliness of it today. Right now our pattern goes something like this- He wants and gets sex in the morning. I cannot finish no matter how hard I try. I wind up finishing myself of without him later that evening. It's lonely. It's literally been this pattern for almost 2 months- not to mention the issues prior to this. He has no interest in helping me out in the evening- says he's too tired and no…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:25 AM
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I'm 38- he's 40. Actually I love giving blow jobs. They're usually a staple of our sex life. The problem right now is that nothing is happening outside of morning sex (even that is not often) and then to be asked for a BJ on top of it just feels - frankly- lonely. It's not that I haven't been willing. Like I said I haven't had an orgasm with him in well over a month. All of that sex & BJs were great, but I am consistently left to finish myself alone later that day. There's only so much selfless …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/14 11:15 PM
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I have a broad skill set from lotion/ soap making to cooking to running a ranch. Running a ranch is not feminine work. I'm in the process of building our stock up to supply our meat consumption. I know how to process all of the stock as well. In our case DH stays out of the barn (he's not really involved) so it's out of his sight. He does appreciate it at dinner time though and when I'm outside of the barn I'm dressed in a feminine way. My point is that you can have a mix of skills/hobbies that …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/14 10:27 PM
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Large family checking in too. I actually make the Duggars Recipe. Every morning I have the kids put their dirty stuff in the laundry room - I've usually started a load at about the same time as I get them up. With 5 kids I'm rarely out of dirty stuff :( We hang our laundry out so I seperate towels and fuzzy stuff from clothes. We also use a lot of rags during the day (plus cloth napkins) as opposed to paper towels- these go in with the towel and a bit of bleach. I almost always have a load of th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/14 12:21 AM
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God I hope not. Kidding- but no, he's not attracted to large women.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 02:48 AM
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I know. I have considered asking him to take a day off of the gym, but I'm pretty sure that wont't go over well.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/14 02:47 AM
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I don't think he's depressed. He seems to have a decent outlook and is able to go out and have fun. He is under stress with work- his position changed a little while ago and it been an adjustment. However the issues were present before the job change. The morning sex is a double edged sword for me. I love givng him pleasure in the morning, but I'm physically unable to climax in the morning. I OK with it if I can get some relief later in the day/evening. Right now that's not happening. I'm beginn…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/14 04:37 PM
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I would agree except for the cut has only been for 4 months. This has been going on for a year now. I have noticed that the last month has been worse than normal. The cutting has likely attibuted to this.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/14 04:22 PM
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It's not a hang up or rule- its a physical issue. I literally cannot acheive it no matter what I've tried. The spirit i is willing but the body won't get the memo. I'm fine with having sex in the morning and not orgasming and really enjoy giving him pleasure. The issue really comes in later in the evening when I'm still worked up and get no relief.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/14 04:20 PM
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I would hope he sees a wife who loves him deeply and wants to figure out what her role in this recent issue is or ways to help solve the problem. I wouldn't want him to see someone who is nagging or adding to his work load- but to be honest I'm so sexually frustrated that I'm sure some of it comes across as complaining. It's a confusing issue for me. On the one hand I have this need and memories of a hot vibrant bedroom- on the other I know that he is working hard and that he knows the situation…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 06:04 PM
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I could certainly improve on this front- I do send him pics about once a week- but maybe I need to up the frequency or get more crative with the shot :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 05:41 PM
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I understand this. In fact I think its true for women as well- the same person for almost 20 years now can get dull. While we've always been pretty adventurous in bed it's not the same as being someone else entirely. With that being said I'm fine if he fantasizes about other women- I'll even point the hot ones out to him. I think what he was meaning was that while he finds them attractive, he finds the idea of bedding them to be too much work and says he lacks the desire to do anything about it.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 05:39 PM
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No- he says he can't remember the last time he masturbated.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:57 PM
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He is cutting in fact. He's at the end of a 4 month cut right now. He's at about 9% BF right now.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:56 PM
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I love giving him BJs. Actually I set a goal to learn to deep throat. I offer them to him out of the blue pretty often and am usually turned down. Other times he'll take me up on it- usually if I can get to him on a weekend afternoon, but it's not 100%.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:54 PM
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He has had ED a few times- maybe 4 in the last year. He also says (when I asked him last night) that his random erections aren't as frequent.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:51 PM
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So I actually talked about this with him last night. I think the man has wife goggles on because he seems to think that I'm sexy as heck. For him my body is good - but he loves how free we are with each other. Theres really not much that's off limits in bed. I don't think he was lying or sugar coating- just knowing him for as long as I have.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 04:50 PM
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Most certianly not. He's much more fit than I am- has a 6 pack coming out. Women hit on him often- I'd say I'm a good 2 pts below him. I'm not obese or anything and my legs look fantastic in heels (thank you squats and spin bike)- but 4 pregnancies (1 of which was twins) with large babies (smallest singleton was 10lbs) and my belly isnt quite flat. Add to that the fact that I have 20lbs more to go and you get the picture.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 12:30 AM
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He says he's attracted. Honestly going off his actions it would seem to be the opposite. He says that he looks at other women - thinks they're cute but doesn't have the desire beyond that. He does have up- swings at times too. There was a week (about 2 weeks ago) where he initiated on a couple of mornings. I can't orgasm in the mornings- but it was still enjoyable. We're trying to figure out if it's medicial- but I also want to make sure that I'm paying attention to other things that could be ca…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 12:23 AM
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Thanks for the reply. Dryer- I can't physically move it- it's locked in a corner beside the washer which is pretty heavy- it's an older Speed Queen and feel like you're moving a brick house. In order to get the dryer out the washer has to be moved first. Since we have linoleum down I'm not sure I can move the washer without tearing up the flooring. Coaching- The offer this time was just on the diet end. Our schedules don't match up in a way that would allow us to go to the gym together. What I m…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 11:59 PM
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His position at work changed a few weeks back. There is a higher work load since the promotion. That could surely be part of it- but I don't know if it's the whole story.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 10:48 PM
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Not gay. We've been together for 18 years. Up until a year ago our libidos were pretty evenly matched except for when I was nursing- that always killed it for me. He does say that he's tired when he gets home which is why I was thinking of asking him to take 1 day off. A weekend away would be nice too. Depressed- I don't think so, but he is certainly stressed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 09:59 PM
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It could be. However we tried this before for about a month. He literally watched everything I put in my mouth. I did lose some weight but I would never care to repeat that. It's not so much that I wanted to cheat during that time as I felt like I was a science experiment. Childcare issues prevent us from working out together most of the time. I think he also sees this as his time and doesn't feel that he gets a decent workout in if we're together.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 09:33 PM
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Most certianly- I need others' input to help me identify things I may not have thought of. Personality/Attitude- I make sure the say thank you everyday- be it for something small or for a larger picture thing like going to work or support. I make the rounds on the house each night to cleanup or make sure things are ready/settled for him before he gets home - try to make it peaceful. I have slipped in the grumpy department and could use an adjustment there. Hiring childcare (still on the Nanny hu…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 08:56 PM
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You actually made me smile with the towel girl one. Logistiacally I wish I could. His office is about 35-40 minutes from our place- he goes to the gym in the evening on the way home. On the weekends we swap days when we can go- he gets Saturdays & I get Sundays. He is 40- I'm 38. Also- he says he's not fapping at all.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 08:32 PM
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His testosterone came back as normal last time. There is another test that he will get next month that is supposed to be more in depth- I don't have the name of it off hand. Supposively it's a more complete panel.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/14 08:14 PM
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The priority has always been the quality of the nanny and how she fits in. All of our nannies have remained family friends and still come out to the kids birthdays- often bringing their own children now. My issue is occuring more when all their qualifications are the same. As an example I interviewed two girls over the last couple days. Both were borderline on my minimum age of 22- I don't think anyone younger can be responsible enough. Both had similar experience and were cheery- happy girls. B…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 12:41 AM
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I get that it's jealousy. I'm pretty unfamiliar with feeling it this way. I think a large part of it is the big 40 creeping up on me (I'm 38). I'm not so silly as to think that I can compete with a 22 year old, but I'm pausing at the idea of having said 22 year old hanging out at our pool while all I offer is a body that, while I work out, watch what I eat and am working towards my goals, has still pushed 5 babies out. I hate the green eyed monster and I fully admit that it's my own insecurities…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 12:21 AM
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Unfortunately due to my job I have to have her 2 half days a week- I also require them to work Friday evenings for a date night. Hubby typically works from home as well. He's currently working a contract- but that will end and he will be back home in a couple of months. I've tried someone older- but we live on a farm. The job requires that they can physically keep up with the kids around the property- the older nannnies just don't seem up to that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 12:13 AM
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I don't openly dislike them- if their qualifications were better they would ceratinly get the job. Truth be told I've hired an attractive nanny before- she was awesome and far more qualified than the other candidates. I'm simply finding that I prefer not to. Regarding "I rarely see men adopt this behaviour when met with good looking dude" - I'm not a man. I wouldn't expect myself to react to a situation the same way a man would. I'm not saying that bad behavior should be excused- I haven't done …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 12:09 AM
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I don't have much in the way of actual advice other than to say that I wading the same waters right now. I actually cam on here today to make a similar post. My husband is very fit, hardly drinks and never does drugs. Yet he has no libido. He's not having an affair, watching porn or even masturbating. In his case we can't find the reason- his blood work so far has come back normal. We're getting a couple more tests done. He's also having issues with ED. Its depressing not to be desired. For us I…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/14 05:17 PM
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I use the plastic drop in sheets! I don't color code so much as I just allow him to make requests at the beginning of the week.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/14 10:52 PM
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When we first got married I started a binder with the goal of accumulating a months worth of recipes. I had some that were already favorites, but I would try a new one every week or so. If it was a hit it went in the binder- if not then no real loss. I then organized the binder to have a weeks worth of dinners and then made a list othe needed supplies for it. Now when I plan the weekly shopping I just pull out a shopping list for that week- check off what I need to buy and it's all set to go. Ea…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 11:23 PM
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I use that app daily. No- My diet is high protein, moderate nonsugar carbs and moderate fat.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 07:43 PM
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The few times that I posted there (back when I was really struggling before my break) I got a lot of male responses (despite posting in the female area) telling me that I just was not working hard enough. One guy - in a msguided effort to offer advice- posted a video that started off with "Hey Fatty". Really not what someone who is struggling needs to hear. I will go back and check my macros- I eat almost the same thing everyday with a variation in dinner so this should be pretty easy to do. Im …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 09:07 PM
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Thank you for the referrals. Ive been on bodybuilding.com before- and have an account there but I have found posting there to be troublesome. To answer a few questions- Im 5 ft 8 inches weighing 170 with a goal weight of 145. I started out at 220 about 18 mths ago and hit a major wall at 50lbs- took a break for 6 months then restarted 2 months ago. My BF at last measure (a couple weeks back) was 24%. I dont like weight lifting- doesnt mean that I dont do it. I understand the need for sacrifice a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 07:45 PM
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Thanks- I added HiiT this week for my cardio days- I'm hoping it will be the difference that I need. I found a good starter program http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/ultimate-8-week-hiit-for-fat-burning-program.html I also do 20 of cardio- steady state- on my weight days. Something has to work!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 11:38 PM
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Don't you just hate that! I love him- I really do- but I don't think he understands the difference in what is required for me to lose weight vs him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 10:56 PM
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I wish I could say that the clothes were fitting better :(. I don't mind sacrifice or hard work at all. I'm just having trouble keeping at it with no results. I know he's trying hard to be supportive. He sends me the pics via text- I can't help but see them. He's offered to coach me as well - which I turned down. At this point its just better that we not talk about the weight loss because it just turns into an argument.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 10:49 PM
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2300 is my maintenance- I eat 1600 per day. The issue with showing me these women is that I see how far I have yet to go and it is tremendously disheartening to me- something I explained to him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/14 10:43 PM
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Exactly this. We lived together for close to 4 years before getting married. I still experienced this leap in closeness after marriage- it seemed more solid. To the OP- If you want a woman to be truly committed to you and to open herself fully - then you need to fully commit. LTRs just aren't the same commitment. Most women allow themselves to be vulnerable in stages- you won't get the full woman without the full commitment- they would always hold something back from you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 10:30 PM
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Same here- I have a small ranch. Girly does not go well with mucking stalls and milking goats. I do put effort in when we sit down for dinner. Not a dress or anything- just make sure I'm clean, hair pulled up and nice shirt & jeans. I save the dresses for town.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/14 04:39 PM
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Laws vary by state - but you may be eligible for funding through a public charter. Funding pays for things like lessons, curriculum, classes and tutoring. Try looking at sites like this to find local groups - they are the best resource for information: https://www.hslda.org/orgs/Default.aspx Www.a2zhomeschooling.com - one of my favorites for resources, groups etc.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/14 05:40 AM
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We homechool all 4 of our children and work. Being that we're self employed we have been able to accomplish this. There are a large number of homeschool charter schools that provide funding. There are also a lare number of homeschool groups that get together for activities. In our area there is a learning center geared exclusively to homeschooled kids- plenty of social outlets. Also I will say this. We live in the country on a farm. The kids would be considered undersocialized by many on the out…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/14 05:04 PM
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If any woman was a script for daddy issues then I am. Background - Both biological parents are drug addicts. I went into the foster care system at age 2 and spent the next 8 years bouncing between that and my parents. While with my parents I would witness all kinds of abuse and adult activities. While with foster homes I was shunned as an outsider and often witnessed abuse from them as well (one foster mother beat my sister black and blue from her neck to her thighs). I was molested in my last f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/14 07:17 PM
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When I met my now husband I wasn't too concerned with the number of women he had been with. I was more concerned that the difference in our experience levels would be a problem- meaning that because I was less experienced he would be bored with our sex or lose patience with my need to go a bit slower. However I soon learned that I had found a man who was interested in building our sexual relationship (learning included) together- that the process had value for him as well. So while I know he's h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/14 10:49 PM
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