notathrowawayatall77 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Becoming more confident/driven.		notathrowawayatall77	/r/seduction	12/04/12 06:31 PM
0	[FR] Just do it.	Field Report	notathrowawayatall77	/r/seduction	01/11/12 04:20 PM

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2	If you could give 5 tips on being more outcome independent what would be the highest ones on the list. Thank you for this, as well as the replies below - I'm going to ask a girl for her number early next week (out of town till then), and these points will be key.	/r/seduction	15/05/13 10:17 PM
1	[FR,MV] Enjoy Your Minor Victories! I would say my story (not an attempt to hijack the thread, but an attempt to relate to your post) is more the first category then. I was forcing myself to maintain eye contact, appear confident and interested (I usually am, I just don't convey it enough). The realization afterwards, as opposed to "Oh, that went really well and fluidly" was "Hey, you thought it would be totally weird and awkward to talk to her about work, her schedule, etc. but it wasn't" That's where I consider it a victory for …	/r/seduction	18/10/12 09:11 PM
3	[FR,MV] Enjoy Your Minor Victories! The minor victories must be the "baby steps" that people here talk about. Backstory: went to this game-related night with a bunch of people I knew from my school (graduated now). Hung out, mostly dudes, got drunk and just talked and focused on winning the StarCraft tourney :P This particular girl was there, nothing major happened because it wasn't my aim. This was a month or two ago. I went to this new particular restaurant with my buddy and a couple of friends. It's relatively new, and we've be…	/r/seduction	18/10/12 08:13 PM
0	I don't understand the obsession of getting someone's phone number. I was discussing this point with my female roommates on the weekend. For all their flaws, they at least don't mislead guys by giving their number and then not following up. For them, if you get their number, they are genuinely interested in following up. The only scenario that's misleading (but seems not as bad as giving out numbers) is they ask for yours, and then never follow up. But I think that's only for the pushy ones.	/r/seduction	17/09/12 05:46 PM
1	Women shit too. I know. And I feel terrible now because I went out tonight with two great, cute women and got along very well. I just can't be that machoistic jerk who always hits on women. I can never tell if they are interested or not. Are they just being polite or social in talking to me? It was just us three (and met up with people later) at a weird play-type thing, then a bar. Kind of danced with one. Again, abiguousness on whether or not she was actually interested in me, especially considering she leaves…	/r/seduction	15/09/12 11:44 AM
1	Women shit too. Ok, so you got me. The answer to that question is zero. From what I've gathered from this subreddit, I thought it was more about being a more genuine and confident person first, then work on interacting with women. Not that I'm trying to criticize you, but I am most definitely still working on that part. I've lurked for several months now, and using a gradual approach to the concept. I can be quite rigid and "stuck" on my ways psychologically, so I'm trying to just be a better, more social perso…	/r/seduction	14/09/12 06:04 PM
1	Women shit too. That's a good point, I hadn't thought of it. I think for a lot of people here (myself included), that's honestly the hardest part. It might be shameful to admit, but I haven't had sex in almost a year (since my ex dumped me), so that could be the giant mental hurdle for me. It's frustrating for me, but maybe through lack of trying, I'm not sure. Because it's just the singular occurrence: there was none before her, then only her, and none since, it's big mental block for me. I'm just slowly (VERY…	/r/seduction	14/09/12 03:12 PM
2	Women shit too. Now I know :)	/r/seduction	14/09/12 06:53 AM
2	Women shit too. It's funny that you mention this. I realize, of course, it's true but I had no valid confirmation of it until today (and not because of your post, but bear with me). I live in a shared house with 3 dudes and 3 girls. The girls are the "hot", flirty kind, who regularly get laid because they basically bat their eyes and guy are all over them. So, one roommate gets a text from a dude she "hung out with" (code for banged) who was like, on The Hills or something, I didn't know who he was either. Rega…	/r/seduction	14/09/12 06:48 AM
2	What are the motives behind girls going out? Understandable, but I wish they'd just fuck off with the mind games and come clean if they do/don't have one. I'm just a bit frustrated, and it's clear why I mostly lurk here. -.-	/r/seduction	01/09/12 12:44 AM
20	What are the motives behind girls going out? I would definitely say the vast percentage of them go out for attention. It makes them feel better about themselves when guys hit on them. I mean, let's be honest - put yourself in their shoes. If a whole bunch of girls wanting to jump your bones starting hitting on you, you'd probably go out a lot more too, right? Sure, you have to sift through a lot of fugly ones, overaggressive ones, or just plain losers, but you'd definitely feel the self confidence boost, right? Although, most might SAY tha…	/r/seduction	31/08/12 10:42 PM
1	How can I go from approaching an attractive stranger to following up, before it's too late and I never see her again? You don't game at work because of the potential HR mess it can create. Say you break up with her, should could go directly to HR and claim sexual harassment, or any number of things. It puts your job at stake and is an unnecessary risk.	/r/seduction	26/07/12 09:38 PM
1	Are these shoes too feminine or should I look for a darker color? /r/malefashionadvice	/r/seduction	31/05/12 10:58 PM
2	So I started a dating blog. Woot! Vancouver represent. Not to disappoint, but I probably wouldn't consider your services, but I appreciate the goal.	/r/seduction	31/05/12 10:47 PM
1	I don't flirt with girls my friends like. Tell me what you think. I feel the same way around a particular friend of mine, especially because we have similar taste in women and all the girls he hangs out with are definitely my type/pretty chill. He's had way more relationships/SO's than I have, and got laid more times than me, but I feel I'm smoother and more social than he is. Here's the way I see it: It's good practice, especially if you already have a FWB/SO. If you're single as well, then you might lay off a bit or just play uninterested to help your buddy …	/r/seduction	30/05/12 08:47 PM
9	[FR] Feel like a 4 year old coming out of a candy-store. If they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you.	/r/seduction	14/05/12 11:17 PM
1	The only person you need to impress is yourself. I am impressed with myself, if I am a better person than I was yesterday. This past weekend I went to a big nerd/sci-fi convention. It was my PRIMARY fear that I would bump into my ex there of 5 months, messy ending, ALONG with the guy she's now dating (a mutual friend). These fears were not unfounded, as I saw them first and started freaking out. Instead of just avoiding them and being all weird and stupid about it, I just went up and said hi. They seemed genuinely surprised/happy to see me, and we stood around shooting the shit for about 30 minutes, catching up and …	/r/seduction	23/04/12 04:46 PM
1	Seddit, what are your concrete goals you've set while practicing pickup? Get out more. Solo is tricky, but I don't have many friends who are single, so this is generally the hardest step. Just be comfortable in social scenarios with either men/women. Smooth conversations, less awkwardness, just get along with people. Practice reading IOIs, conveying intent, kino (I'm not very touchy-feely unless I get to know someone, so this one is tricky for me). Still working on the basics, so anything like a K-Close or #-Close would be pretty astounding at this point.	/r/seduction	13/04/12 07:46 PM
2	Becoming more confident/driven. It's not really about work, it was more just a general life discussion, and how this aspect applies to life, not the workplace. My workplace is great, everyone is super friendly. She's quite extroverted and sticks up for people, and all that, so she can definitely tell what's up, and I totally agree. I just wasn't sure how to start the process of getting over this irrational pussyfooting around and caring what other people think, but now I have a much better idea.	/r/seduction	12/04/12 08:36 PM
2	Becoming more confident/driven. Sorry, I missed that section in the sidebar. I didn't realize there was such a volume of resources in those links. Thanks!	/r/seduction	12/04/12 08:04 PM
4	A lot can be said about stephano's suave style. What does seddit think?[starcraft x-post] And here I was thinking you were talking about his 200/200 mass Roach style...	/r/seduction	12/04/12 06:37 PM
1	Text game question? Upvoted not only for advice, but for "a plentory of sweet liquid karma".	/r/seduction	22/03/12 08:31 PM
1	Alternatives to bars and clubs for people who can't tolerate the typical "bar and club" music? Goddamn hipsters taking over Main Street and East Van...how I hate them! (present company excluded, of course :D)	/r/seduction	21/03/12 11:36 PM
1	Alternatives to bars and clubs for people who can't tolerate the typical "bar and club" music? LOL Awesome. How is the Waldorf anyways? It's down in hipster-ville...which is where I tend to avoid in general (I don't go out clubbing/bars that often period)	/r/seduction	21/03/12 09:22 PM
2	Alternatives to bars and clubs for people who can't tolerate the typical "bar and club" music? Yay for a fellow Vancouverite! Makes me feel like I'm part of a secret club.../highfive?	/r/seduction	21/03/12 09:10 PM
19	Ladies/gentlemen of seddit: I'm a woman who would like your advice on how to get asked out more. This.	/r/seduction	06/03/12 04:24 PM