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Same, I want free time to take care of my health and cultivate my hobbies, me not wanting kids doesn’t mean that my career will be my only focus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:40 AM
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You have worded this perfectly and it’s definitely why it makes me so angry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:39 AM
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Lol on top of being infantilizing he’s basically talking out of his ass. I have a close relationship with my grandmother, who got married in her early 20s, quit her promising job and her english studies and became a stay at home mother to “focus on family”. Her life advice for her daughters and grandaughters has repeatedly been to get an education and never give up your life for a man. My mother has a university degree but quit her job to be a stay at home mother when she married my dad. Now she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:38 AM
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this makes me sad tbh, to see how simple it is and how so many men aren't even willing to do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:50 AM
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Ikr? Unfortunately that was my first thought as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 04:52 PM
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Because girls are much more innocent and their lack of life experience makes them more vulnerable to manipulation and grooming. It’s also way easier to control someone who is confused about life and who she wants to be (as teenagers especially are). On the other hand, I remember reading something that said that when you’re a teenager your sense of danger is not developed as much, which makes teenagers more susceptible to risky behaviour than the regular population (such as going out with older m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:43 AM
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This is so abusive. I want to throw up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:54 AM
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Lmfao “exceptionally smart“ and has no clue of the lessons learned by the 1929 crash?! How can she passively allow this as well? You’re a mother, lady, the fucking well-being of your child is at stake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:20 AM
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Lmao why are they always like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:50 PM
2

Lmao this is like looking at a car crash from slow motion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:54 PM
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Idk man, if you’re in your 30s with kids and spend several hours a day talking to some married old guy from your office, I’m going to think you’re into him as well (or the “fantasy” of him, as he is most likely a narcissist from the things he says in the post) because this reads like an emotional affair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:25 PM
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Picturing how my imaginary daughter would be treated at the hands of my abusive ex was the push I needed to leave him and go no contact. There was just no way I would forgive myself if I brought a child into that mess and allowed her to believe that is how she should be treated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:51 AM
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As someone who was groomed at 16 by a 38-year-old man, thank you for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:14 PM
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Yeah, the only time an ex was this nice to me after we broke up was because he wanted to get back together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:10 PM
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Narcissists are compulsive liars. One of the main tactics they use when they lovebomb you is called mirroring. They will try to relate to you by copying aspects of your personality. So if you're a leftist, they'll say they're a leftist too. Maybe they mean it, even. That doesn't mean anything unless they're actually acting like an ally. My ex was a leftist yet was pro prostitution and regularly used porn. He saw no problem with neither. And he was abusive, despite claiming to be someone who care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:30 AM
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I was friends with guys who actively mocked my looks and treated me like crap because I was the "cool girl" in my teens. I was also friends with narcissistic pickmes who loved seeing me down and sabotaged my self-love efforts. I remember once when I changed my wardrobe and they had the nerve to do an intervention and tell me I had "changed" and "was becoming a slut". Yeah, never again. If you're not going to be decent for me, if you're going to constantly make me feel bad and not listen to me th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:03 AM
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Ahh, I see. Her user has 2004 in it so I assumed she was 17 lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:08 PM
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I completely agree with you, but she also looks super young so she's probably on the right track (definitely better than I was at her age!) even if she hasn't understood it completely yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:23 PM
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I relate to this so much. I was not fat but still ugly (was voted the ‘freak‘ of my school year) and people (guys and pickme girls, sadly) treated me like I was subhuman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:17 PM
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Besides, most people who have one cannot afford a live in maid and have one that comes every week/two weeks or so. So it’s not like you’re exempt from doing chores just because you have a maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:54 AM
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‘The Penguin History of Economics’ is not exactly focused on women, but it does show how state management has changed through history in different societies so I would recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:52 AM
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Thank you so much! As a 19 year old, I'm going to put these into practice !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 11:09 AM
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Holy shit, I never thought of it that way but it makes so much sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:58 AM
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"Because you're not the woman they want to be with." "People change for who they want." NO. NO. I don't like this message. At all. I've been seeing it in this sub for a while and, to be honest, sometimes I feel like I need to distance myself from this group because some of the things said here are borderline offensive and an example of victim-blaming. Let me start by saying this. You could be doing everything right. You could have a great job, you could be the most beautiful woman, the most soci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:14 PM
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This is one of the most important messages people need to understand. I relate to this closely, as it reminds me of the situation of my mother and aunts. Both of my aunts got married young to LV men who did not have economic stability (one of them only got married because she got pregnant within the first year of relationship) My mother, on the other hand, went to university and met my dad years later when she had a full time job. My dad had been working since he was 14 and managed to set up a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:12 AM
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Lmao, why would you even have sex in the first place (assuming you’re not doing it simply to get pregnant)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:58 PM
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Lol sorry if I offended anyone for saying I don't like being degraded. Holy fucking shit. How did we get to this point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:23 PM
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Sort of off topic, but if I remember correctly the book Intercourse by Andrea Dworkin talks in depth about Tolstoy and his mistreatment towards his wife. Totally recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:58 PM
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Girls, girls, girls is pretty good as well !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:23 PM
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To be honest, I'd be surprised if the majority of men do more than 30%. I completely agree with you, and it's a big reason why I'm childfree as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:17 PM
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God this almost made me cry. I’m so happy for her. This is wonderful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:35 PM
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Oh, but did you really communicate about how important it was to remember your birthday? What is she, a mind reader?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:44 PM
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Hello, I would also be interested in an invitation to Ovarit if it is possible :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:50 AM
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We live in a world full of narcissists and flying monkeys. I’m not even surprised, most people don’t have an ounce of empathy towards women. They feel uncomfortable because we express how men have traumatized us. They are obsessed with deflecting and blaming both sides when one side is being systematically more harmed and terrorized. They’d love it if mysandry actually existed so they could feel more validated in putting women in their place and abusing them. I’m grateful for this sub, I think i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:23 AM
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Not only that, but a lot of them justify theirs and the cheating man's actions with "Oh, he's so unhappy because she's so bitchy/selfish/doesn't appreciate him/doesn't put an effort to look good for him". A lot of women have internalized misoginy after all, so they are willing to go through mental gymnastics to justify themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:11 AM
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I don't know if this is a controversial opinion here but I wouldn't say you're a pickmeisha for being upset at the other woman. If you know someone is in a committed relationship and still choose to get romantically involved with them, you lack empathy. Having someone betray your trust is a traumatic experience, and the pain often does not end there. You're in a perpetual state of confusion. If your partner is a narcissist he may use the other woman to triangulate you and make her his flying mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:08 AM
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God, massive creep vibes. Please stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:45 AM
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This is why I only consume horror media made by women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:08 PM
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Gen Z women are expected to have the same productivity rates at their job as their male counterparts in a hugely competitive market despite the fact men get paid more, on top of the fact that women are still expected to do the emotional labour in the house AND take care of the kids, just to get little to no recognition (everyone loses their mind at "bad mothers" but wonderful mothers have never been valued by society). Don't forget the fact that men have consistently used babies to trap women in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:41 AM
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Who do you think writes these fictional women, after all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:24 PM
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God, I was that girl. I really hope she can see through his manipulation. Grooming is one of the worst things you can do to someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:04 PM
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2022: *ghosts with no explanation*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:00 PM
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Girl I had an English teacher that would let 14 year old girls sit on his lap. He also insisted that people would call him ‘Master’ instead of the usual Mr. There were rumors that he had fucked a former student after she turned 18. Blows my mind how he could get away with it, but he taught a small class and people would dismiss him because he was “quirky”. Even at my pickme phases I was so creeped out. Side note but I also had a teacher that would say stuff like “girls mature faster than boys, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:31 PM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. I blocked him. I don't know which were his intentions, but I can tell they weren't good at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:50 PM
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You're so right. Thank you. I blocked him, he's not worthy of more of my time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:49 PM
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Yeah, I didn't think I needed to block him because he wasn't abusive but I don't see how him having access to talk to me will ever affect me positively, so I ended up blocking him. And I was quite vulnerable when I replied. I don't drink often, but it was New Years and I was a bit tipsy so I guess that clouded my judgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:48 PM
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Yeah, you're right. At the time I thought he said sorry because he matured and saw how he had behaved, but now I think he just didn't find anyone who treated him as well as myself, and on quarantine his options were even more limited so he turned to me. You're so right about the closure part as well, I'm trying to fight it but a part of me still craves to know I'm not the crazy one. But I guess the only way this feeling gets better is becoming someone who loves herself, which I'm already working…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:47 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I've only dated two people, and my other ex tried to hoover me before, but not on holidays so this was the first time. Lesson learned. Now 2/2 exes are blocked :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:44 PM
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You're right. I blocked him without saying anything. He's not my friend at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:42 PM
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Thank you. I ended up blocking him. Part of me regrets replying to him in the first place, but I can't change it so I'm just going to make sure it doesn't happen again. And you're so right. I need to invest time in loving myself, and I shouldn't bother with anything that doesn't add to that equation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:40 PM
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I did it. You're right, thank you for taking the time to comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:39 PM
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That's a very wise rule, it's gonna be my new years mantra haha! Thank you so much for your comment, I blocked him. I'm not going to make the same mistake again :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:38 PM
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You're completely right. Thank you, your comment brought me a little sanity after my drunken hesitation haha. I blocked him :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:38 PM
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Haha, he's currently living in a different country, so that made it more confusing since I don't think he expected sex. But I agree completely with everything else you said. I blocked him and one of my main intentions for the year is to love myself ruthlessly. I've been doing a lot of reflection and I think the reason I let guys treat me this way is because of my low self-esteem, so I'm trying to fix that to heal. Thank you for your kind comment, it's been very helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 07:37 PM
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It’s not that simple. Most awful, narcissistic men disguise themselves as Prince Charming for months, even years. By the time their spell wears off you’re so dependent on them and have idealized their mask so much that letting go becomes akin to a heroin addict trying to abstain from drugs. There is documented scientific evidence for this. It’s not just a matter of ‘valuing yourself.’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:51 PM
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Most sex workers are victims of sex trafficking and/or addiction. More often than not, they are women who emigrate because they’re promised a better life and are then betrayed by their family or their boyfriend. They’re not the ones to blame, the depravity of men and pimps are. I was very close to being recruited at 16 because I was in a dark place in life. We shouldn’t start shaming and blaming them just because a small fraction of sex workers is formed by stupid, privileged, ‘sex positive femi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:18 PM
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Lol I relate to this so much. I put up with lies, the silent treatment, him threatening to break up over minor things, him watching porn and flirting with other women and a variety of abuse and so on but the tipping point was something relatively small. One night I told him I was feeling especially sad and anxious, and he did comfort me that night, only to later ignore me for days to play videogames with his friends. At that point I lost it. Like, I actually realized how he was affecting my ment…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:51 PM
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And if he's abusive, chances are he'll make you feel bad anyway, no matter how "valid" your reasoning is. So your best bet is to actually leave them as soon as you sense something is wrong with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:40 PM
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Years after ending a relationship, I somehow never think: "Oh crap, I should've waited around a bit more to see if he changed." Instead, it's always something like: "Why the hell did I put up with that? Why didn't I leave sooner?" and that's quite telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:39 PM
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Lol, same here. Guess what? He ended up being a narcississt who would drink because he was not willing to look for healthy coping mechanisms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:32 PM
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I keep thinking about how traumatizing it would be to have someone "famous" abuse you. I feel like the women who get out of that have an extra ounce of bravery because of how often flying monkeys come to harass them after the smear campaign, so to have literally millions of people do that... I wish she was able to quit social media and move somewhere where she can have a peaceful recovery. People are the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:09 PM
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Aw I have a soft spot for Bridget Jones haha. To be fair, Natasha wasn’t Mark’s significant other, she was his partner at the law firm. Furthermore, his ex wife cheated on him with Daniel, so I thought it was reasonable that he didn’t like Bridget when she kept defending Cleaver. Also, the scene where Darcy complains to his mother about Bridget does not exist in the book. But yeah, the movie does perpetuate harmful stereotypes about single women so I have mixed feelings about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:44 PM
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Damn, that's great. None of my exes ever expressed interest in anything I liked. I love it when examples like yours happen so I actually know it's not too much to ask, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:09 AM
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Hope she gets picked tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:13 AM
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I‘m so proud of her. I really hope she has a strong social network so she does not fall for his manipulation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 09:20 PM
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Interestingly, you never hear about men cheering their girlfriends while she knits or does yoga. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:54 PM
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I swear that post and the comments made me want to delete reddit altogether. That's it! I'm never lurking on subs outside of the ones focused on women supporting other women / healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 05:48 PM
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Lmao oh god. 7 years letting some greasy man use you as a live in sex doll. I feel so bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:02 PM
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She should just leave and go no contact straight away. That way he cannot manipulate her again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:55 PM
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I agree completely. My ex didn't start verbally abusing me until we had known each other for about a year and a half. Narcissists put on a huge act the first months /years so it's harder for you to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:49 PM
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My dad is an engineer and I would say he’s a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:51 PM
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My biggest piece of advice, as someone who was also groomed when she was 16, is the following: knowledge is power. Show her videos about narcissism (liveabusefree and Dr ramani come to mind). Link her "Why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft. Spend with her as much time alone as you can and offer her your support. Show her through science how grooming works and how her feelings are of addiction, not love. Research testimonies from abuse and grooming survivors and show them to her. There is a cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:59 PM
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I actually think that that's one of the biggest indicators of being LV. My abusive ex's friends all indulged in the same shitty habits (weed, sedentarism, mmorpg games, etc.) His friends also were perfectly fine with him bad mouthing his ex every time he had a chance. Honestly, no decent person would put up with that. It's different if you're forced to be amicable with that person (I try to do that with my coworkers, regardless of whether they're high or low value). Bonus points for paying atten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:19 AM
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Lmao. Run, Jenny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 01:31 PM
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Damn, that's my dream!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:05 PM
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Wow, this happened to me just recently. I was friends with this guy and we had a conversation months prior about birthdays and so on, and we found out his birthday is exactly two weeks before mine. Time goes by and his birthday comes up, I send him a "happy birthday!" text and he replies saying he appreciated it and asking me when my birthday is because he doesn't remember and he says he wants to say happy birthday. I think no biggie and tell him. Two weeks later and it is my birthday... Dead si…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 07:42 PM
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I disagree tbh. I doubt most women wear a full makeup look when they spend the day at home, for example. Whenever I wear makeup, it’s because of societal pressure, because I know every other woman in the room is going to wear makeup and I do not want to stand out. I shave my legs for the same reason. It’s normal to feel conditioned to wear makeup given how we’re bombarded with messages about beauty and avoiding the “tired look” at all costs since we are teens but i’m not for internalizing the me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 03:19 PM
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And this is why I used to love going to a woman only gym. I really miss it (as soon as the pandemic gets better I will go back!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:47 AM
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I love her channel, she’s great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:33 PM
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Lol hail to the queen of pickmeishas. A cautionary tale, if you look at what pandering to low value scrotes did to her. She was dumped by her fiancé of 5 years in her 29th birthday, and now he’s thirsting in the internet over an 18 year old that looks just like her. Her fans can’t care less about her anymore now that she’s “almost hit the wall.” But yes, June, feminism is the problem :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:18 PM
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I fucking love her, she’s everything I aspire to be LoL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:05 AM
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I’m a childfree woman as well and, at least from what i’ve seen, the reddit sub is awful. I don’t want to have kids because it personally doesn’t align with my life goals, but I’m no better than someone who decides to have them and viceversa. There is zero compassion over there for women in general (pregnant, married or single mothers) and it’s disgusting the levels of pickme behaviour you see in there. Not to mention the males who are childfree because they don’t want their partners to gain wei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:02 AM
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I watched the show on and off when it first came out and I didn't see anything wrong with it. Honestly, discovering radical feminism was like taking a veil off my eyes and analyze the culture I consume more critically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:48 PM
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I completely agree! These kind of shows also tend to downplay the struggles of motherhood as if it's something every woman would be passionate about. The reality is that most sad stories in real life from women don't come from staying single and childfree, but from being in a marriage with a narcissist, getting discarded by one or giving up all your dreams and health for your family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:46 PM
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I definitely agree with your opinion on mainstream entertainment, I wish there were more options available. And yes, not everything can be justified in the name of love, or what we think is love anyway. Honestly, to still have feelings for your ex years after she gets married, you have kids, you get married... It doesn't come off as love to me, but obsession. True love lets people go and move on. We shouldn't be advocating for this interpretation of love. Love is not a once-in-a-lifetime thing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:33 PM
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Yes, I had a similar journey regarding Sex and the City! When I was a pickme I didn't really like Carrie but I thought Steve was such a nice guy when he's actually a LVM insecure about Miranda's success. Even Charlotte's husband convinces her to convert to his faith to be with him. Big ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:23 PM
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Thank you so much for your words! I think it says a lot about the attitude the writers have towards women. Tracy is a vessel for Ted to get his kids, while the number 31 (they don't even reveal her name, my god!) is a vessel for Barney to find the love of his life in the form of a daughter. Women are constantly portrayed as objects so that the male protagonist can achieve what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:19 PM
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Yes, now that she's gone he can finally go after Robin AND have kids. Isn't that amazing? Great ending for Ted. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:00 PM
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Oh, I actually couldn't stand watching Big Bang Theory past season 4 even as a pickme!!! It's insane how they presented women like Bernadette and Amy as strong and intelligent because they're on STEM fields while simultaneously making them put up with the emotional labor of being in a relationship with manbabies and putting them into the mother/bangmaid role. I wish more people started to realize that you can literally have the most "feminine" career and hobbies while being a high value woman. Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:56 PM
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The same thing happened to my mother. Was a lawyer with dual citizenship and most of my dad’s family thought she was a gold-digger/after the green card. When my mum just had a miscarriage my dad’s mother told her “We’ll see if you actually end up having kids”. She lasted five years in that house and ever since we’ve lived anywhere she wants (and have been happy with the results!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:46 AM
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I‘m currently half way through the book and it is excellent, even if it can get so truthful it hurts sometimes! Totally recommend it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 11:51 AM
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Holy shit, I swear every post on relationship advice seems straight out of a horror film. My heart goes to these women who have been so effectively gaslighted and isolated that they describe abusive actions in an online forum without a clue that it's abusive. It's so sad. This is why we have to be extremely careful. Always. There are too many narcissists. Freaking ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:57 PM
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Ha, that’s the exact same sentence my friends would use referring to my abusive ex when we first started dating. Never lower your guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:34 PM
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