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My rule is you should start working towards a kiss about halfway through the date. (getting physically closer, kino, etc). A one of attempt is bad because it's just a sad hail mary attempt and getting her. If for some reason you don't kiss, she'll know you want to and if she's interested, want a second date.
/r/seduction24/10/22 06:10 PM
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Quality content. I spent a few years in this rut. Once you learn to put yourself first. Not in a selfish way, but in a self loving way. Where you believe you deserve to have a good life where you improve a little every day do the right women come into your life.
/r/seduction22/10/22 05:41 AM
3

I get hit on more often when I'm WITH my girlfriend. Like literally right next to her. A few weeks ago some girl asked to smell me while I was with my girlfriend. The gall haha.
/r/seduction12/10/22 02:35 PM
6

I prefer being called pretty over being called handsome. Maybe its because when I was younger my aunts and mother would call me that and pinch my cheek and I hated it. Sexy girls call me pretty or hot then fuck me and I love it.
/r/seduction04/10/22 04:55 PM
1

You gotta find that bare minimum where you text enough to show interest, but not so much that you're telling her about your day before you even meet/fuck.
/r/seduction21/09/22 04:33 PM
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I need to start getting used to throwing out compliments like this. Yesterday I made eye contact with a girl at the park, she was fucking FINE. But I couldn't think of a compliment that wouldn't sound creepy, since she was in a swimsuit tanning.
/r/seduction08/09/22 03:28 PM
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I like this. Each item is possible to improve. I believe I have improved all 3 recently, especially charisma. One thing I realized not to say is talking about sex on a date. As a man, you should never bring it up, but instead just hint towards it with innuendo and a sexual vibe. Flirting, eye contact, etc.
/r/seduction17/08/22 04:30 PM
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Well, on a date I saw some other girl I knew walking down the street, the girl said hey, hugged me, and said "oh sorry, you're on a date, i'll let you be!" The girl I was on a date on definitely got a little jealous, and I smashed. So, say hi to other girls you know. If you really wanna be insane about it, ask a friend of yours to purposely run into you on a date, if you have a female friend willing to do that, that is.
/r/seduction11/08/22 10:52 PM
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Yeah, this part isn't really talked about much but some girls will not like it when you initiate flirting. This will happen no matter what. All you gotta do is just stop and move on to the next one. As long as you don't keep flirting when she doesn't want it its no harm no foul.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:58 PM
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complimenting people really does work but I can only do it if it’s a sincere compliment Yeah! I too only do it if it's sincere. To me the main goal of flirting is to show intent. Wit is fun and useful but it's not flirting on its own.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:37 PM
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I still don’t really know how to intentionally flirt with someone, I only seem to be able to do it if it arises naturally Honestly, same. It pays to watch some suave men on screen like James Bond and act like them. Stand in cool, dominant masculine ways when talking to girls, like leaning on the wall with arms crossed. Look into their eyes, complement stuff they wear (don't just call them beautiful, that is slimey).
/r/seduction03/08/22 03:51 PM
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Thats good that you are only into 1 or 2 girls in the club. Being selective is important. But converse with and flirt a little with everyone you can. Talk to people on the street, flirt with cashiers, baristas, etc. Fingers and tongue are a great option. No girl is going to be mad that you made her cum with your fingers. And as long as you don't cum instantly girls kinda find it a complement that they made you cum quickly. Tell her something like "god damn that was so good I came so quick". Also…
/r/seduction02/08/22 07:35 PM
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Abundance mentality and Competence (in bed, fixing their own car, making friends, a sport or two, music, dancing, their job, etc). These things come across and women can tell that these men view themselves as capable so they want him because they want a capable man in the end. When you have these things, women view you as masculine. Women are observant and see things like other women checking you out, the ease at which you talk to other people. How you move from point a to point b with little st…
/r/seduction02/08/22 07:21 PM
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Push for a kiss. If she wants you, she'll bring up sex.
/r/seduction01/08/22 10:17 PM
49

Validating a woman, as long as it comes from a place of abundance and genuine attraction, is one of your best tools.
/r/seduction17/07/22 02:19 PM
2

To add to that, what is is diet like? Is he eating enough? Not getting enough food also lowers libido and for me, being busy and stress can kill my appetite.
/r/seduction11/07/22 11:49 PM
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I wanna say, you just know. But the sign that I think works is that if you are sitting close, and your legs/knees are touching, and she does not move them away while having the option to (not in a crowded place or stuck in a car), she's 99% attracted to you.
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:15 PM
2

Birth control is a thing bro...
/r/seduction10/07/22 10:33 PM
12

You are a gentleman
/r/seduction08/07/22 08:20 PM
2

You are the best. Say it. Say it again. You deserve love and quality, passionate sex.
/r/seduction08/07/22 06:41 PM
1

Nah, my girl is. She lifted up her legs and I pulled them up off her and threw them somewhere I can't recall. Get the picture? ;)
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:44 AM
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Nah, we're about to lose some G-strings.
/r/seduction08/07/22 12:39 AM
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For bonus points, I whisper it into her ear in a low whisper while on top of her ;).
/r/seduction07/07/22 10:14 PM
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Ok, this works in making her think about you more. But it also only works if she is already into you imo. So why not just work with that than play this game. What really works is being genuinely too busy to check your phone all the time, so she is thinking about you while you're off at the gym, with your friends, working on something important. And when you text her because you actually have the time she feels appreciated because your spare time is going to her.
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:24 PM
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Are you older than her? Not so uncommon. I'm 26 and have dated girls 19 years old. What does Colorado have to do with this? Are you too old to be making a move on this girl?
/r/seduction07/07/22 04:43 PM
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I am so confused as to what you mean man.
/r/seduction07/07/22 06:07 AM
2

What does that mean? Legal weed?
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:25 AM
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And next time, once you start getting heavy with it, tell her "I wish I'd done this last time" She might feel a little bad/insecure that you didn't go for it last time. She might be wondering if you think she's not pretty. So make sure she feels that next time.
/r/seduction07/07/22 05:12 AM
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This sub is going wayy downhill fast
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:19 AM
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If you do jerk off, jerk off to girls you talk to irl/are having sex with/have a potential thing with
/r/seduction09/06/22 10:17 AM
4

That's honestly a good strategy and the one I used haha. I also gotta recommend hinge. Slightly less volume but I got higher quality convos on that app.
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:01 PM
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It effectively gives you Tinder plus for the first few days, and then sends you down on the ELO score to make you want to pay for that hit you got on the first few days. It's pretty fucked.
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:44 PM
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What you need is a hot girl who didn't get hot until after high school.
/r/seduction27/05/22 11:48 AM
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The only definitive sign is when they give you that look imo (long staring/looking at you multiple times) And/or brush up against you.
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:55 PM
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Never, ever, ever take the submissive route. Even in a joking way.
/r/seduction19/05/22 05:55 PM
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I think you are speaking with some sense u/ThatDamPlatypus. This girl loves me deeply, and I her.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:35 PM
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Even then, avoid it. Bringing up sex too soon is the easiest way to label yourself a creep in her eyes. No matter how much she likes you before hand. Trust me bro, I speak from painful experience. The idea of sex should all be subtextual until you are in bed with her.
/r/seduction16/05/22 10:11 PM
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Assuming OP is a man, I do agree that it is generally best practice to let the girl bring up explicitly sexual topics first. Any time I tried it never went well haha. If you ask her about sex before you've kissed her you've effectively shot yourself in the foot. A girl might tell you what she likes in bed before you kiss though. Why is it like that? Cause girls choose when to have sex. u/Acid_In_My_Eyes, you do have the power to escalate early on physically (like sitting close), strong eye conta…
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:25 PM
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Bruh, google a picture of Ryan Gosling. He has a crooked nose and is as handsome as they come.
/r/seduction15/05/22 08:54 PM
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It's weird that she is suggesting it. Normally I would get coffee or drinks and if I like her continue the date to somewhere medium nice. Like ~16 USD for a plate. I would then pay if she's shown genuine interest in me and I like her back. Also, if a girl NEVER offers to pay: red flag. Thankfully, I have never encountered that.
/r/seduction13/05/22 02:53 PM
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Thats ok! Try and hold it for .1 seconds, and if you do, congratulate yourself, then .2, then .4. etc
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:20 AM
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Its normal to be scared. But find it in you to do one tiny thing that scares you just a little. But VERY little. Like first just say thank you to the cashier at the cash food store. Then make eye contact. Then do it to the barista that you think is cute. Keep escalating slowly like that.
/r/seduction13/05/22 12:20 AM
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No i don't get the gist. Edit your post so it makes more sense.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:32 AM
1

I bet those social media posts were paid for by a sneaker company lol. Just wear decent looking shoes that go with your outfit. And you'll be fine.
/r/seduction09/05/22 05:58 PM
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This is next level.
/r/seduction07/05/22 08:12 PM
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Women don't like being treated like shit.
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:53 PM
1

I had this problem too. Especially with someone new. If the person you are with is a little faster paced than you, ask her to slow down. Sometimes girls forget that it can take guys a minuite to get warmed up. Ask her to give you head while you lie down, and just take some deep breaths and enjoy. I realized that for the longest time I was afraid of experiencing my sexual pleasure with someone else. Kiss for a bit, grab her breast or ass and maybe just talk, dirty talk or even just shoot the shit…
/r/seduction03/05/22 03:17 PM
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Fuck no. Don't be ashamed of who you are. Even if you lie and say you're a high powered lawyer/football player and they believe you. Girls will still be able to tell that you hate yourself and not be attracted to you.
/r/seduction02/05/22 09:13 PM
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Its tinder. Convos go cold all the time. Just keep matching, chatting, and being yourself until something sticks.
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:01 PM
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Where the fuck are you hearing this dumb shit?! If you don't escalate on the first date she is going to think you're not into her. And find someone else who is.
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:21 AM
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If you get blue balled with her, you will then have the opportunity to hook up with other hotter chicks that you actually like because you'll have more time and focus. Karma is a real thing.
/r/seduction24/04/22 04:59 PM
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Lying will come back to bite you. This girl asked if she was my girlfriend right before we had sex and I said yes just to get laid. She eventually caught on to that fact and broke up with me. We didn't last very long, like 2 months. I wonder if I could have had her as a longer fwb if I had been honest, because the sex was good but I didn't feel romantic about her. She tried really hard to be a good girlfriend and I still feel a little shitty about what I did. I haven't done it again and my life …
/r/seduction24/04/22 04:38 PM
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Not every girl wants giants. I'm dating a girl who is about an inch taller than me. (I'm 5'11" and she is 6'). She's dated guys even shorter in the past, her ex was 5' 8". And i've dated another girl taller than me before too (I've got a type). Get good at sex and be strong so you can pick her up and being 5'9" won't be an issue. My mom is slightly taller than my dad too. But my dad is a strong man who is capable and goes after what he wants. He's only 5'6". You're average global height, that me…
/r/seduction15/04/22 04:28 AM
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"Dew it" - Emperor Palpatine. This is a great move, guys love it when girls make a direct move like the one you described above.
/r/seduction05/04/22 06:20 AM
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Normally saying something like that would be creepy, but she's already picked you. I think she would probably find jt sexy that you'd talk back to her friend a little in order to have her. Shows that you really want to fuck her and you don't take shit.
/r/seduction04/04/22 02:29 AM
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I have had stuff like this happen, and I never knew what to do. One time on my birthday this girl told me "I could have anything I wanted for my birthday" in a very seductive tone. Her friend (who was also kinda my friend too, but no longer) was listening in and chimes in with "Except for sex...", in a very angry, almost scolding tone towards us. Totally ruined the moment and I for some reason did not come up with a comeback. Like you, I was drunk/in shock and taken aback. Looking back I wish I …
/r/seduction03/04/22 09:54 PM
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I can't relate to this. There are tons of girls who have hobbies. My current girlfriend does stage plays, sword choreography, directing, etc. She skis and hikes as well. My ex made clothing, and even made me a shirt for my birthday. She also joined me in rock climbing, and camping from time to time too. Both these girls were witty and could make me laugh, and were hot too. What hobbies do you have, how much effort do you put into things? Clearly not much, as you left the letter 's' out of your t…
/r/seduction03/04/22 08:56 PM
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Pick her up, throw her onto the bed (safely). Tell her to get on her knees and suck your dick. Stuff like that. A lot of girls like to be submissive to at least some degree, and if you can't, she'll find someone else who can.
/r/seduction03/04/22 05:15 PM
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Your caption in one of your photos is "when you just don't care anymore" Beyond your appearance, which u/Lakeyute pointed out (and accurately too, I might add), no woman would want a man who doesn't "care anymore" If you don't care about life, how do you think she predicts you would care for her in a relationship.
/r/seduction02/04/22 04:22 AM
2

First, I think a nice soap is the most important piece. Nova Scotia Fisherman Soap, Seabuckthorn & Shea is what I'm currently using. For cologne, pre de provence 63, but only enough that a person hugging you can smell it. Every girl I've been with has complimented this combo. For example one girl told me she likes how my scent lingers in her bed after I leave. I only use roll on deodorant when at the gym, not for dates. The important thing is using small amounts of these scents, so they sort of …
/r/seduction30/03/22 02:48 PM
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Exactly, if she really wants to meet you, texting for a week or two does not matter. In fact, texting more can be good. To build a little bit of rapport and excitement.
/r/seduction30/03/22 02:28 PM
2

Say Hi! Compliment her outfit. Girls put ALOT of time getting ready for parties and they will appreciate if you notice. Say your name, ask for hers. Make a witty remark about the party if something interesting is going on.
/r/seduction24/03/22 12:35 AM
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Become more than a regular guy.
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:43 PM
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Agreed. Communicate, and if she doesn't understand, then so be it. Likely she will. Slow down and enjoy.
/r/seduction18/03/22 06:08 AM
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Where in my message did you get unwanted touching? Have you ever had someone you desire just grab you and kiss you without saying something? Its pretty fucking hot. Every step I mentioned before creates non-verbal consent. By the time you are hugging her you'll be able to tell she wants more. If the vibe is there, at that point she'll be leaning in for the kiss too man, trust me. And at that point, asking for consent will seem odd and ruin the mood.
/r/seduction17/03/22 08:41 PM
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Thank you. All this stuff I mentioned is field tested and proven. Once you meet a girl, always have a goal. Then you can lead the date in that direction. Your goal is to fuck? Plan how to get her to yours/her place. Kiss, then get a second date? Make it romantic, and easy to be close. Is she not your vibe? Say something to piss her off and end the date early (jkjk...). Dating become easier when you clearly know what you want, rather than trying to make something flirty happen cause you think it …
/r/seduction17/03/22 08:38 PM
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What exactly is gross? Girls go out on dates because they want to be fucked.
/r/seduction17/03/22 04:53 PM
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Very bad idea. Not saying you should start the date guns blazing. But she should know within the first hour that you want to fuck her. Do this by sitting close to her, strong eye contact, and even checking her out a little. If she's got a shirt on that makes her tits look good, then look (reasonably)! Compliment her clothes and the effort she put into getting ready. She should notice you noticing her. Think strategically a bit. Do the coffee shops you pick have a couch? Choose those seats. That …
/r/seduction17/03/22 03:23 PM
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If she makes a move on you early, and you don't fuck her soon, she might feel her pride hurt, and then label you as a friend to protect herself. Women too have a fear of rejection, especially if they are undressing in front of you to try and get you to have sex with them. Now, I don't think that is the only reason why women friend zone. But in this situation that is what I think happened. Clearly she was still attracted, cause I turned her on, but I guess the ship had sailed.
/r/seduction12/03/22 12:40 AM
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Thou must remember to always strike while the Iron is hot. I had a girl show me her breasts, she asked to see my cock, and both times I shied away. A year later of us being friends and we were cuddling one time. I had more confidence so I started to massage her breasts and she said I had to stop 'cause I was turning her on and she didn't like that. Moral: if you don't show her you are able to fuck right away, she'll keep you in the friend zone.
/r/seduction12/03/22 12:18 AM
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A friendship is always worth risking for something more with a woman, 'cause being friends with a woman you desire will destroy you.
/r/seduction11/03/22 11:53 PM
14

Grab her hips and start dancing with her. Try guiding her hips with your hands and your body to the beat. If that is going well pull her in a little tighter. You can play with moving your hands up her body a bit, or on her thighs, if she is being responsive and flowing with you. If you get hard, good, make sure she feels that. Turn her around and you can ask her name if you want, or you can also kiss her. Look into her eyes and if she is looking back like she want to be kissed, then just go in s…
/r/seduction11/03/22 09:19 PM
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This sounds like a guy who has never got nudes... Some guys do show them to their friends. But those men are not 99%.
/r/seduction09/03/22 07:56 PM
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I second what competition flair is saying. Girls want to know that you find them attractive, and more importantly that they turn you on. Strong eye contact is good and all, but a line like the above will make her feel powerful and sexy and want to get on her knees and blow you.
/r/seduction08/03/22 11:38 PM
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What steps did you take to move on beyond it?
/r/seduction20/02/22 06:11 PM
2

Yes. Your "female friends" either want to keep you as a docile pet for later, when they wanna settle down. And/or are jealous if you go for other girls and get with them.
/r/seduction20/02/22 09:03 AM
1

Thank you for not mincing words and reminding me of the harsh consequences of being a nice guy. I need that sometimes. I'll read that book as soon as I can.
/r/seduction16/02/22 04:13 AM
1

I was thinking saying something like "let me set the pace", or "ill ask when I want it". Do be commanding and direct, which she wants, and to set my boundaries without going into some emotional spiel.
/r/seduction16/02/22 03:36 AM
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I've read it, and yes, I do have Nice guy syndrome. And you're right. Fuck that shit. I just gotta man up and do what I came here to do.
/r/seduction16/02/22 12:40 AM
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That's a baller move.
/r/seduction16/02/22 12:14 AM
2

Its not about being fashion forward per-say, but wearing clean clothes that fit well, and no garish color clashing.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:23 PM
9

I've started making small talk with girls at the gym. I'm average fitness. My rule is that if I see a girl look at me more than one in a short time frame. I MUST say something to her. Compliment her shirt, or something. Be aware of girls IOIs because they are subtle but they are there, and you don't need to be some roided up dude. Just be in good shape and presentable.
/r/seduction02/02/22 06:00 PM
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Power. My female friends in college always would cock-block me, talk shit about girls I was into. I feel like they liked keeping me as theirs as they wanted, and my attention. Solution: don't have CLOSE female friends. Be friendly and have aquaintances, but not more.
/r/seduction19/01/22 05:52 PM
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I agree with being more extroverted in general helps. But I disagree with saying yes to every social invitation you receive. Thats an easy way to get burned out, and hang out with people that are not worth your time. Only say yes to events/people you are genuinely excited bout going to seeing. It makes it more worth while.
/r/seduction10/01/22 05:56 PM
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Why not? Just respect the fact that they get hit on every day and deal with 100s of people.
/r/seduction08/01/22 05:23 AM
2

Reminds me of when Adele lost weight.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:32 PM
1

I'm in a similar boat to you. I'm also South asian and hairy. I had insane amounts of back hair that I elected to get laser removed. It works and has had a huge effect on my confidence. I kept the arm hair and chest hair cause i'm a man. sometimes I trim the chest and torso with a 7mm guard. As for height. I'm 5'11" and also feel insecure about it sometimes. I know super tall guys who are also insecure. And I know super short dudes who are the baddest, most confident motherfuckers i've met. We'v…
/r/seduction30/12/21 07:53 PM
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Swipe left if all photos are the same angle or have heavy filters. Easy fix.
/r/seduction28/12/21 10:27 PM
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I try a smile, or a smile with my eyes if I'm masked. I've also started waving. It usually gets a wave back, or sometimes the girl shies away. I do find my posture start to shrink sometimes, if I get nervous. So i should probably stand up straighter and make more intense eye contact, or raise eyebrows?
/r/seduction24/12/21 11:13 PM
4

Whatever happens, happens
/r/seduction08/12/21 06:02 PM
2

Is this ahead enough to warrant quitting?
/r/seduction02/12/21 02:59 AM
1

Nice! Starting off with a gym is great. The vibe of other people working out around you is super important. Learn what you like and don't like by watching people. If you see someone doing an exercise that looks badass, give it a shot.
/r/seduction19/11/21 04:40 AM
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The most important part about building a good workout routine is thay it should be fun, and not feeling like you should be doing it. If you get bored just lifting at your house (assuming thats what you do) try a gym or something activity based. Bouldering, crossfit, and martial arts are is trendy right now for that reason. People go there for the sense of community before the desire to be "strong" or healthy. Especially working out with other male friends will make a HUGE difference, provided th…
/r/seduction19/11/21 01:26 AM
1

Bring a bottle of wine, or maybe go to a nice dinner as close to her place as possible. Crush a bottle or two, and have fun my friend.
/r/seduction01/11/21 05:57 PM
1

In all fairness though direct seems to do the trick, followed by completely leaving.
/r/seduction23/09/21 05:28 AM
2

Tell her "It is but a shadow and a thought that you love, I cannot give you what you seek" Works every time.
/r/seduction22/09/21 07:19 PM
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Haha same, but it also depends on the women. I too am 5'11", and have dated a 6' tall women, she never mentioned it. Also went out with a girl 5'9" on tinder and she wouldn't shut up abut how short I was. I think that if you meet a girl not on tinder you automatically have more value. (the whole more men being on tinder phenomenon inherently lowering your value, no matter who you are), as well as you approaching raising your value (less men approach).
/r/seduction20/09/21 04:48 PM
2

Cool move writing your number down! I've been working on myself and getting more IoIs, but am never sure what to do about them. Your post and this story have given me some good ideas.
/r/seduction31/08/21 05:03 PM
1

Tell us the waitress story!
/r/seduction31/08/21 03:11 PM
2

A smile goes a long way. I too get characterized as serious and have a hard time with this as well. So i try and make a conscious effort to smile more.
/r/seduction27/08/21 01:36 PM
5

One way is by being a good listener. People love talking about themselves so giving them a chance to talk about themselves does well. Be careful not to use this too much and let yourself be talked over however.
/r/seduction26/08/21 09:47 PM
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I wish i knew how. I'm pretty quiet, and I can use that to be charming but I want to find a way to balance my quiet personality with enthusiasm for others. Simply being loud and extroverted for me feels fake.
/r/seduction26/08/21 07:45 PM
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This is underrated. Alot of the guys with great game I know flirt with everyone, and have a crazy magnetism about them.
/r/seduction26/08/21 05:49 PM
3

I think we may be talking about different things here. For women I am not pursuing I absolutely treat them like a decent human and expect nothing in return. But, the goal of this subreddit is to attract people.of the opposite sex, and my main point is having too many platonic friends of the opposite sex is a detriment in my experience. I feel the need to say this cause i've seen the advice "have female friends" be given to men. But i caution against having too many (a mistake I made)
/r/seduction09/08/21 07:12 PM
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I guess maybe one step down from what the guys in mad men do. Not solely looking at them for their body, but still expressing to eachother the girls we would wanna get with and why. And including things thay aren't purely physical (her talents, personality, etc)
/r/seduction09/08/21 08:33 AM
1

Would you ever have sex with them though?
/r/seduction09/08/21 08:32 AM
1

I did figure that out eventually, unfortunately men and women really can't ve friends.
/r/seduction08/08/21 04:42 PM
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I used to have so many female friends. And around them it was hard to be open about my sexuality, I was afraid of coming across as a creep. I since moved to having mainly male friends, and the shame of my sexuality has since vanished. I'm not afraid to be open about my desires, and objectify women (in a healthy way), when it is sex i want.
/r/seduction07/08/21 06:04 PM
2

Damn, i'm sorry to hear that.
/r/seduction02/07/21 07:26 PM
2

Where do you live? I thought the pandemic is ending in most places.
/r/seduction02/07/21 07:01 PM
1

Can you give an example.of number 10? "Answer the question you wished you asked?"
/r/seduction22/06/21 04:19 AM
1

My girlfriend is slightly autistic. She is unlikely to make a move on you, so you will definitely need to lead the escalation but she may be inexperienced. So read her cues and talk with her. Find out what she wants. So... not different than any other girl really.
/r/seduction16/06/21 05:28 PM
2

Then you spread her legs and get between her.
/r/seduction19/05/21 06:49 PM
2

For me desire comes from when you see the person is really looking forward to seeing you, and puts effort in. In the early stages saying something like you are looking forward to seeing her. On the date it can be bringing something like snacks, or a blanket to lie down on. Something to show that you actually care about it going well. Also, don't be afraid to let her see you checking her out, or making deep eye contact with her. Let your carnal desires be easy for her to see. Don't be ashamed of …
/r/seduction13/05/21 05:11 AM
1

Do you make them feel desired?
/r/seduction13/05/21 12:05 AM
1

If you find her attractive, always be pushing the interaction. Shoulder touches, innuendos, and dancing are few of the strats I use.
/r/seduction08/05/21 02:37 PM
1

Man, I've had a girl get me drunk, fuck me, and say she only did it cause she was drunk. People have weird post-coital guilt.
/r/seduction19/04/21 09:13 PM
1

Doing small actions like that is huge bro, it creates a habit of being open towards people, so when opportunities arise, you will start taking them.
/r/seduction17/04/21 03:36 PM
2

I really like the culture of (some) of the people I trained with. It was not so much about winning, but letting yourself get comfortable with failure, and a freedom to experiment. Also the type of sparring you get to do is basically full on. You fight till you get to a place where you could literally kill or incapacitate the other person, but in a safe manner. It really pushes you in a high pressure way while also being relatively safe.
/r/seduction09/04/21 05:15 PM
57

And the lord sayeth, "He who acts without haste, shall be the one to masturbate"
/r/seduction08/04/21 11:55 PM
6

do Jiu Jitsu
/r/seduction08/04/21 11:54 PM
2

Build it and they will come.
/r/seduction25/02/21 03:17 PM
2

That's some poetic, hard hitting wisdom man. Another way to get this sample size: look at successful guys's around you, and their 100 girls. Give you a better clue as to what it might be.
/r/seduction22/02/21 03:16 AM
17

Stonks
/r/seduction12/02/21 10:38 PM
2

I love it when a girl puts her arm around mine randomly when we're walking or waiting in line somewhere. It really makes me feel like we're "together". During sex, wrap your legs around him, that's a killer move.
/r/seduction08/02/21 05:51 PM
9

Applaud yourself for the small changes every day, don't look for the big changes. You've got this brother/sister.
/r/seduction05/02/21 05:29 PM
2

Watch standup and/or funny movies. Listen to lots of music, read books/pop culture stuff, watch TV shows so you can make lateral references.
/r/seduction30/01/21 07:23 PM
5

True, one of the most attractive non-physical traits for me is someone who likes to look to resolve issues and move forward.
/r/seduction20/01/21 06:32 PM
1

That line about having fake names, and giving her "Gaia" when she came up with "tree" was brilliant. You kept the momentum going and were witty even though she was a little... boring.
/r/seduction19/11/20 05:38 PM
2

Hey man! Just started reading this book and I'm already super into it. I love the idea of really syncing up the reinforcement with the activity.
/r/seduction30/10/20 05:22 PM
1

My goal is to learn to care for myself. And of course there are contradictions, life is full of them man. I can enjoy a workout, and then balance it out with some beer at the end. I can strive for perfection, but also understand i'm human and make mistakes. Both those things can be true. Yin and Yang baby.
/r/seduction28/10/20 03:57 PM
6

Fair point. For full context. I met her at a party and we chatted for a bit she seemed warm so I decided to shoot a message. I messaged her after asking "wanna get drinks, if you're single?" To which she said, "ahh I am seeing someone. We're not serious, but I don't mind making new friends". At the party she was there with a few guy friends who seemed a little bit like orbiters and my instinct said she might look to friend zone me/ keep me on the side burner which I just didn't feel super down f…
/r/seduction28/10/20 03:30 PM
3

It's not the allowing someone to drink but the reason why we let someone ahead of us.
/r/seduction28/10/20 05:07 AM
1

Thanks bro they are delicious. Bout to make some right now actually.
/r/seduction28/10/20 05:06 AM
1

Good point, I do wanna avoid over correcting.
/r/seduction28/10/20 12:56 AM
55

Haha I too couldn't comprehend it before either. It's less about that specific scenario and more of an exercise in being able to quietly accept kindness from others and not bending over backwards for others in hopes of their favor. Cause honestly, when I used to let people go ahead of me it was because I wanted them to be "happy" with me.
/r/seduction27/10/20 11:27 PM
7

Same dude! When I started going for the gym mainly for myself, I started making alot more friends there, and people even came up to me asking for climbing tips. Which I was surprised by. Realizing you deserve a genuine break for your recovery is so important too. Number 3. is such a powerful one that I'm currently working hard on. I want to gain that directness with people, for when they do stuff I am irked by, but I still have a bad habit from my youth where I don't quite express my discontent …
/r/seduction27/10/20 11:11 PM
11

Get on the recovery train with me my friend! I highly recommend reading No More Mr. Nice Guy if you haven't yet. It'll be a bit of a slap in the face in how it points out some pretty toxic behaviors, but a much needed one.
/r/seduction27/10/20 11:08 PM
9

It doesn't have a direct relevance, no. But its training me to learn that I can do things well consistently, for myself. I gotta be able to do things well for myself before I can do them for others, like a girlfriend for example. Another small thing I do is giving myself a perfect shave, without cutting myself even a little bit, every day. And finishing it off with a nice smelling aftershave. Probably wont be noticed by many people, but it feels fucking good.
/r/seduction27/10/20 11:06 PM
3

Just started BJJ about two months ago. Physically its not so bad, but damn, mentally its fucking tough. It's forcing me really quickly to get comfortable with failure, and then re-evaluating and approaching differently.
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:52 PM
1

Damn I may try this. I think they are opening up again in my city.
/r/seduction05/10/20 03:41 PM
5

don't agree with the RP philosophy below (play stupid games, win stupid prizes) but seeing or even just hanging out with others, is important. True that. Even if I am dating more than one person there is always one who I like the most, and I'll end up idealizing her because i'm prioritizing romance in my life. If I try and play games like that I always end up finding girls who also play games. I dated a "Penny the Presenter" for a bit earlier this year, and if I'm being honest, I was a "Peter th…
/r/seduction01/10/20 04:11 PM
41

I find myself doing this too much. I hate to admit it but when I start seeing a girl I'm into I find myself looking up her social media way too much, thinking about how good the next date will be, anticipating the reply to my text, etc. I definitely fall into the "physical connection" daydream category. I often times also find myself doing things with the intention of meeting someone. Like I go out hoping to run into someone I connect with, etc. Interestingly, the only times I do have that happe…
/r/seduction01/10/20 01:19 AM
1

That's damn savage.
/r/seduction14/09/20 01:41 AM
10

Gym is huge. I've been going consistently for just about the past month and a half, and my game and focus in life has gone up tremendously. I feel more comfortable in my body, I have more day to day focus, I am a much better conversationalist. Simply knowing you are physically capable and feeling that capacity for growth is powerful for becoming a man.
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:30 PM
8

Solid post. My two biggest cures for Oneitis and Nice guy syndrome is having lots of activities. If you sleep with a girl, you're bound to think of her, but if your life before her was already filled with other interests, Like sports, arts, (male) friends, etc, the chances of that sliver of thought multiplying into something cancerous become much much lower. I've focused more time climbing, playing guitar, working at my job, and it keeps my mind off girls I don't really care about for the most p…
/r/seduction08/09/20 11:17 PM
2

Don't just ask what, as how. ​ Don't as what their major/job is, ask how do they feel about it. Ask how their favourite band makes them feel or what memories they have associated with it, rather than having them just list off their favourite music.
/r/seduction08/09/20 04:26 PM
3

Could you DM me some of these fingering tutorial videos?
/r/seduction08/09/20 04:08 AM
2

I'm downloading No More Mr.Nice Guy now. It sounds like it fits in the path I'm working on at the moment. Which is being more assertive and honest about my feelings. Both specifically towards women and in life in general as well. Solid post, mate. Keep on the track brother, it sounds like you're headed in the right direction.
/r/seduction22/08/20 04:16 PM
2

Eye contact, sitting/standing physically close. If you start to get into her personal space and she doesn't back off, that likely means she's receptive, and knows you're coming onto her.
/r/seduction21/08/20 08:33 PM
2

Do you watch the VonTooCut channel? I feel like he said something similar lol. I totally agree with not sharing too much, although I feel that when girls want to date me they start sharing literally EVERYTHING. And I find it hard to hold back when they seem to want to tell me every little detail of their life. I struggle with creating that balance.
/r/seduction21/08/20 04:16 PM
2

Wait if you wanna date you tone down the info? As in to keep a sense of mystery?
/r/seduction21/08/20 03:54 PM
1

The movie before sunrise has two kiss scenes, played out by the lead man Jesse, and I think he does a great job of balancing vulnerability with that alpha male "taking the lead" vibe. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CDmVOW4AWA0 https://youtu.be/QV1tiEDvkkw?t=201 The first one he's not afraid to be bashful, but also ask for what he wants. Sensitivity in the right amount is absolutely essential for a kiss. The second one (start the vid at around 3:10). He surprises her with that "let me tell you a…
/r/seduction18/08/20 07:13 PM
0

Always dress well when you leave the house for starters. Not just for the sake of picking up but for your own confidence as well.
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:21 PM
1

Be well dressed, cleanly groomed, and don't approach with solely sex on your mind (but still a little bit). The trick to not being creepy while flirting is finding that contextual balance on making your sexuality clear but also realizing you're dealing with a real person, with emotional desires too. It really just comes with practice. I'm better than I once was but still become creepy every now and then. Be too covert about your sexuality, and she'll see you're hiding sick intentions about her. …
/r/seduction17/08/20 06:38 PM
2

True! And forward, honest girls are my type anyways. I should really just focus this into motivation to do more approaches, and get more direct and assertive as I practice.
/r/seduction17/08/20 05:20 PM
1

Man, thats what I wanted to say, but I just got quiet for some reason and instead said something dumb about how different the gym is post-covid. Baby steps I guess. I have this insecurity that women are only receptive to me when they're bored, reaffirmed by previous relationships that start out on fire and end in apathy. I suspect I'm not giving a strong masculine energy consistently, so i'm hoping through more practice doing approaches and on myself I can obtain that.
/r/seduction17/08/20 12:58 AM
3

Agreed, the being social part is good. But being a fake is gonna get girls to resent you after a while.
/r/seduction13/08/20 04:38 PM
2

Number 3 is the one I need the most work with. I get so sex obsessed I'm always playing the date like a game of chess to try and get her into bed, without really looking to read her emotions such as insecurities, confidences, desire to be wanted on an emotional level. Does it get me laid? Sometimes, but it makes for some weak ass relationships. I wanna practice slowing down and reading more than just physical queues.
/r/seduction09/08/20 08:32 PM
7

Being in shape + having an activity where you are focused solely on self improvement is one of the most attractive things a person can have.
/r/seduction07/08/20 07:23 PM
1

I guess that makes sense. If the person you are talking to is truly your adversary, its not the best. But if its someone who you want a friendship, partnership, or relationship (and like you said they reciprocate a respect towards you) then it works quite well. Also I believe there are ways you can still be steadfast in your own opinions while respecting others. You don't need to side with them, but just recognize that they come from a different place. One simple seduction related example I can …
/r/seduction05/08/20 06:49 AM
1

Which advice of his specifically? He basically is giving you avenues of being genuinely empathetic. Unless you use it in a sociopathic way its gonna work. (has for me)
/r/seduction03/08/20 06:34 PM
2

Dolce and Gabbana light blue is my favourite day to day, versatile scent. Like you're fresh out of the shower but with a little musky hit.
/r/seduction29/07/20 05:56 PM
10

In the case of cologne, less is never more /s
/r/seduction29/07/20 05:55 PM
1

• Be yourself. Most women can tell when you put up an act. It takes a lot more confidence to be yourself than to pretend to be someone else. And that makes you more attractive. I need to work on this so much. I have some skill at flirting and 'game' now. I can say the things that need to be said, but its coming from a place of fakeness and a empty desire to just get laid. I wanna learn to trust myself enough to be "myself"
/r/seduction17/07/20 04:58 PM
3

Ultimately your problem is that you're not being true to yourself and acting on your feelings. Damn, you put the feeling I was having last night into words so well. I have not been honest to myself and am kinda just going through the motions as of late to get dates and laid. And you are absolutely right about faking and lying leading to loss of attraction. There was definitely a air of fakeness towards the end of that first little fling on both sides. The thing that frustrated me about that the …
/r/seduction10/07/20 12:08 AM
1

And an easy way to not be desperate about getting laid is to actually act like you're single when you're single. True that man, I definitely also find myself putting too much thought into people I don't really care about cause of some deep set scarcity mindset I think I have. So I put too much value on to empty little gestures I receive from women. Thanks for the advice.
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:38 PM
1

True, perhaps my ideas of "being in control" are misplaced.
/r/seduction09/07/20 09:17 PM
3

Ask yourself do you feel any sexual chemistry? If so focus on that. Let your mind wander to what you find attractive about her. If you can get into that mindset the act of free association to sexual topics will become much easier. For example I was on a date last night where we were talking about school, and because I was in that mindset I just randomly brought up how teachers were so attractive when we were younger. And we both kind of riffed on that topic for a while. ​ Granted, I didn't actua…
/r/seduction09/07/20 08:57 PM
18

Or if the date is not fun there is no easy escape from the date when you're miles into the wilderness.
/r/seduction16/06/20 11:15 PM
3

Just experience. I'm 24 now so i've been through some relationships, had them end. Moved cities a few times. Said goodbye to friends. (low-key this is even harder) I realized I now have the abilities to make things happen and start a-new with the social skills I had picked up, so I started feeling less doom and gloom about it. Listening to songs about "being on the road" and stuff I find particularly empowering. Specifically the song "It's all over now Baby Blue" by Bob Dylan. Listen to it and y…
/r/seduction09/06/20 03:42 PM
95

Things in life are valuable because they are finite. Keep this in mind even with girls you have a deep connection with. Your lives will intertwine. You will learn things, lose things, experience things. And its all part of your and her story of growth as an individual. And then you can take those experiences and do more with it. Apply them to other relationships, write poetry, deepen your appreciation for art and the outside world. etc. I too used to struggle with this, and felt that every girl …
/r/seduction08/06/20 07:19 PM
3

Honestly, and this might sound stupid, but listen to your instinct. If you feel a kind of shift in your "being" when said person is looking at you or talking to you, its pretty damn likely they are flirting with you. This could either be you getting a little flustered (if you like them back), nervous, or uncomfortable (you probably don't like them back). Listening for specific signs is hard, cause every girl flirts a bit differently, especially at the start of the interaction, some girls are EXT…
/r/seduction03/06/20 04:30 PM
2

You've gotta not only be really good looking, but also have excellent photos of you taken to get those girls on tinder.
/r/seduction03/06/20 03:35 AM
1

Beyond body type, also the way she walks. A girl with a confident, upright gait who walks with a purpose never fails to catch my eye.
/r/seduction26/05/20 03:52 PM
1

How do you deal when the girl wants to rush into a relationsip?
/r/seduction17/05/20 10:55 PM
8

Looks get the girl, game keeps the girl.
/r/seduction17/01/20 10:43 PM
2

True, back in my previous city (Vancouver BC) I had a large network of friends so I was easily able to round up some great roomates who were super intelligent and positive influences on me. Unfortunatley here in Seattle I dont have that, and looking on craigslist hasnt found me anyone interesting. But maybe I should just settle with anyone remotley chill to live with, just for that consistent human contact/network.
/r/seduction12/01/20 08:00 PM
6

I'm currently living in the suburbs with my parents but am planning on moving to the city into a studio. I lived with roommates in university (graduated in the summer) but wanna try the completely solo route now and get a studio. I've got a well paying job now as well. Anyone have experience with this?
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:30 PM
7

You have major value young king. Good work!
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:27 PM
2

I met/Kiss Closed a brit girl on new years. She was very friendly and open. I think this is an unwarranted assumption. I'm also Canadian and i've met a mix of them too. Some girls very bitchy and some super open. Don't go into an approach with all these stereotypical assumptions. Girls can see that you're on your guard and they do not like that. It makes them apprehensive to respond positively.
/r/seduction09/01/20 06:49 PM
19

But don't do it too much. Girls only have so much patience for the hard to get game.
/r/seduction10/11/19 04:29 PM
2

I know a couple. The girl in the couple, is always lusting after her boyfriend. When I see them together she's always trying to get an arm around him, get close to him. He never moves away, but always acts a little detached and stays focused on whatever social situation he is currently engaged in when she's around. He's far from a bad boyfriend, in fact a good one, they communicate and spend good time together. But in public he always shows that he has obligations besides her, and after observin…
/r/seduction01/11/19 04:19 PM
1

I agree, back when I was in school not doing classes I was particularily engaged in, I would spend the weekend mostly alone, go to house parties to try and 'pick-up' and socialize, but ended up not accomplishing much. When I started getting more into my classes, speaking up more, and working hard during the week, I would walk into the party with a new found confidence and I would both put in more effort to meet people + they would gravitate towards me.
/r/seduction04/10/19 11:35 PM
3

Yes. I've gone through periods of my life where I get laid and am also getting occasionally approached and periods where I get no attention. What I have recently noticed is that it all comes down to whether or not you're playing the game. And that simply means approaching, flirting, being open about your sexuality. Most people have a intuition for this and will seek out people who they see are participating in the game. You've got this my man.
/r/seduction01/05/19 01:07 AM
3

Search up 'mewing'
/r/seduction14/04/19 12:08 AM
1

Yes! I'm 5'11" and prefer girls who are around my height/slightly taller. A girl who is aroubd 6'but not too skinny is my main type. Also when they dress in boyish clothes.
/r/seduction09/02/19 07:37 PM
2

To add to cocky comedy, sexual humor is another great one. Not 'haha 69 bro lol', but just talking about sex and desire in a comfortable way establishes the fact that you are an object of potential desire.
/r/seduction08/02/19 04:45 PM
1

The first step is the hardest, great job. You do have a lot ahead of you, but the fact that you did this is great. I sense a bright, confident future ahead of you.
/r/seduction27/10/15 04:43 AM
3

Yeah, the way I worded that made it sound kinda formulaic and heartless. But I'll say it in the words of Mac Demarco instead: "Treat her better boy, If having her in your life’s really so important to you now"
/r/seduction15/10/15 08:41 PM
75

In my experience, you never really win her over. Either you keep doing the things that make her wanna stay, or you don't, and she'll be gone.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:06 PM
1

1) Thanks fellow trekkie! 2) Yeah, in my last little fling (I'm just now realising thats all it was), I tried to talk to her all the time. Open up about personal things way to early. And when she started to talk about doubts in our relationship, I tried too hard to keep her and convince her it will work out, to the point of obnoxiousness.
/r/seduction10/10/15 07:44 PM
5

You sound like most girls I've been with. That may sound like an insult, its not. Just the way people are. And my fault for being too needy once something like a relationship starts to form.
/r/seduction09/10/15 05:16 PM
1

Less is more. I've learned this the hard way, and trust me, you don't wanna either. If she really likes you, the silence will just make her think about you more.
/r/seduction30/09/15 05:54 PM
14

Here's my problem: I am fine keeping myself entertained until I meet a woman I like, then all I wanna do is be with her. Its kinda like becoming a heroin addict, everything else seems unimportant after. Something I gotta work on.
/r/seduction26/09/15 05:25 AM
3

Thats also what I meant by it. Like most guys desires wander, and so will hers. And i'm also saying that yes, she has a right to do that and theres nothing wrong with it.
/r/seduction17/08/15 06:17 AM
17

Very fucking true. The "mine" mentality is a pretty bad one imo. She is her own person after all.
/r/seduction17/08/15 06:08 AM
2

You can still be nice, yet at the same time strong, and out there to get what you want.
/r/seduction09/06/15 04:22 PM
7

Physical contact is the best way open up a door to being more comfortable around that person.
/r/seduction30/05/15 07:10 PM
1

Simple as that, you just kinda start off having sex, and immediately either go the relationship route, or the FWB one. If you bring up relationships from the start it plants the seed.
/r/seduction20/05/15 04:19 PM
8

Oh god... This is me
/r/seduction06/04/15 03:24 AM
1

Retrain your brain to look at conversations with girls you're interested in as just any other convorsation, and the flirtation/ badassery will just flow naturally. You already have all the social skills you need, its just extra expectations you have blocking you. You're going to fail at this many times, but look at the way you approached the last conversation and fix it for the next one. In a months time I bet you that inner bad ass will begin to show himself.
/r/seduction20/02/15 09:57 PM
1

Or ritalin. Cheaper and lasts longer
/r/seduction10/02/15 10:12 PM
1

Getting me and her in a comfortable position for you to initiate kino to lead to a kiss. As a beginner, sitting next to her/standing side by side makes me the most comfortable while face to face feels awkward for me while doing kino. Try those out and adjust to where you feel the most natural.
/r/seduction09/02/15 03:31 AM
1

Do you think you could link us to any of your stand up acts?
/r/seduction03/01/15 02:01 AM
2

Canada
/r/seduction19/11/14 05:51 PM
4

Saved, thanks for this Mr. Nick Notas
/r/seduction13/11/14 09:25 PM
0

Could you elaborate on the "Avoiding any deep or meaningful conversation"?
/r/seduction22/10/14 04:11 PM
1

Truth, you can learn skills by reading on here but you don't really understand it until you're out in the field falling flat on your face.
/r/seduction27/09/14 03:49 PM
2

Would it be bad to say you don't drink? Could it lower your social value? I drink but am just curious.
/r/seduction02/08/14 05:38 PM
2

When you start asking that question, is EXACTLY the time to do it.
/r/seduction25/06/14 05:34 AM
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