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Some women flirt by being mean. Or she was kinda into you not flinching when she was giving you shit. Or she wanted attention from the guy who seemed like he couldn’t care less about her. Could also be kinda crazy. But who knows.
/r/seduction17/12/25 12:49 PM
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Experience is the key to success. Dating and seduction are skills that you need to practice and develop over time. I’ve been working for about 9 years to get as good as I am today, and I’m only decent. So don’t be discouraged. The biggest thing to work on is getting comfortable talking to people. Focus on listening, reading body language, honing in your sense of humor, and developing your own sense of self. A lot of guys are terrible at talking to women, they are boring, awkward, and are only ch…
/r/seduction10/12/25 06:27 PM
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A lot of conservatives are meatheads or are extremely ignorant, and liberal guys are pussies. So just be somewhere in the middle and normal. Either extreme is bad.
/r/seduction28/07/25 09:50 PM
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Yet
/r/seduction20/07/25 11:48 PM
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I won’t know anything about the attendies of the Met gala and don’t care, if that’s a deal breaker for them then so be it. But if you are curious about things that goes a long way. “No, I’ve never heard of that, what is it?”
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:43 PM
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I just start rolling them and people are always interested, then I just offer them one and strike up a conversation. Works like a charm
/r/seduction17/07/25 06:34 PM
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Could be a bit clueless and awkward, mixed with a bit of disinterest. Honestly just go talk to him in person again, don’t force it just be natural and see how he plays it. Touchy, eye contact, body positioning towards you would be signs of interest.
/r/seduction17/07/25 05:14 PM
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A lot of my internal metaphors compare it to fishing. Find a good spot with some fish, cast out and see if any of the fish are biting, if they do reel them in. Location- to me the best spots are areas where you can sit down and be near people without it being awkward. Cold approaching by walking up to someone on the street is tough as most people have their guard up and will dismiss you. So outdoor areas like parks, breweries, libraries, and cafes are prime locations. Women also tend to dress up…
/r/seduction28/06/25 03:56 PM
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It shows in a lot of people, usually I notice it most as insecurities and anxiety. People will literally just blurt it out as the guise of some self deprecating humor or their body language will give it away. I would say to avoid doing that, expressing your inner struggles is fine after you built up a solid relationship with someone. Focus on relaxing your mind and being present in the moment. If you can still at least have a good time in the moment or bring out the joy in those around you, you …
/r/seduction28/06/25 03:35 PM
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Confidence, mutual attraction, ability to hold a conversation, physical fit, good style, and good eye contact. I bet the same things you look for in a guy. It’s really not that complicated. If you can flirt and be easy for him to start a conversation with then you will be set
/r/seduction26/06/25 10:05 PM
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Solid list, I can attest to these being true. Also remember eye contact is very important as well
/r/seduction22/06/25 07:28 PM
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Go join some club, sports teams, community events, etc. Get out of your comfort zone a bit and do new things while going out of your way to be social. When you show up just assume everyone there is already your friend, they just don’t know it yet. Be friendly, chatty and have a good time. While going out for Day game can be fun, you put yourself into an outcome dependent situation. “If I don’t get any dates I failed”. Joining social groups on the other hand shifts the desired outcome from gettin…
/r/seduction31/05/25 05:08 PM
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I don’t know if I agree with that, to me models is a solid foundational understanding of what mentality you need in the real world and sets realistic expectations of success. Game is a skill like anything else and reading books isn’t where you really learn. To really learn and do well you need to get out there and fail a ton while building from your successes.
/r/seduction31/05/25 04:48 PM
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The more unique or unusual your clothes the more ‘polarizing’ it becomes. You will get more decisive rejections in some cases and more interest in others. Having different clothes on will make you stand out, everyone has opinions and not all of them will be in favor of it. Luckily you don’t have to give a shit what they think. You do you and find the women who are about it.
/r/seduction31/05/25 12:26 PM
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Models is really the only book you need. Other than that go get a job where you have to be social all day.
/r/seduction31/05/25 12:17 PM
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I can vouch that this is true. I always referred to these as “opportunities”, if you don’t seize the opportunity immediately it will slip by. So you need to learn to recognize opportunities and make the mistake of waiting to really learn that it’s important to maintain the momentum.
/r/seduction25/04/25 03:56 AM
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Critical thinking is hot lol
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:45 PM
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Being defined by your hobby isn’t attractive. Being your own person with cool skills like random magic tricks, that’s attractive.
/r/seduction26/02/25 01:57 AM
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End of honeymoon phase and normally is replacing it. Not a bad thing.
/r/seduction04/01/25 12:42 AM
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Dude you know how to treat a woman if you were in a relationship that long, just make them laugh and have more fun than everyone around you.
/r/seduction04/01/25 12:17 AM
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Just get back in the game, live for the chase a bit to get the fire going again. But be picky, don’t waste your time
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:36 PM
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If you actually enjoy being with her, then thats a great sign. Emotions fluctuate and your brain is dumb. But if you enjoy the time together don’t give that up lightly.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:33 PM
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Some guys just figure it out quicker than others. Took me like 4 years (17-21) to really understand what I was doing. Now, game respects game.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:31 PM
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Being resentful and bitter is a choice. It’s ok to feel frustrated and I agree when you’re in the weeds it sucks. But at the end of the day the biggest thing holding you back is yourself. You might not think it possible but there is a girl out there who will love you for who you are, in the meantime just figure out how to not fumble it when you inevitably cross paths. Get out there are talk to people and have fun.
/r/seduction03/01/25 10:22 PM
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Imma be real, delete all your social media for a week, pick up a book and go outside, leave your headphones at home. You might feel hopeless and lonely, and that’s honestly pretty normal nowadays. But you don’t solve the problem by doing nothing, you solve it by filling your time with interesting things. You will start feeling better after a day well spent, try and be more socially active. You will fuck up and embarrass yourself, but those blunders are necessary to learn. Live to minimize regret…
/r/seduction03/01/25 03:33 AM
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Reading this as someone who’s successful I would agree with what you’re saying. However most guys are so far behind that saying things like “be confident” doesn’t help them at all. What does that even mean? You didn’t even bother to try and explain. If you want to actually be helpful to the guys who struggle we need to reevaluate how we explain the nuances and subtleties of game. I’ve talked to too many women and watched too many men just absolutely fumble, to not want things to improve.
/r/seduction06/12/24 03:25 AM
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Play to your strengths, minimize your weaknesses. I do what works for me, other guys have different strategies. Just keep trying new things and see what works best.
/r/seduction27/11/24 09:24 PM
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Usually there is some kind of tension between you and the girl before you just walk up to her. For example I was at the bar last week and some guy shoved this girl while walking past her. I was just standing there and saw it happen and we locked eyes. I smiled and made a fake punching gesture towards the guy and made her laugh. You really have to be in a fun headspace to take the opportunities that you come across.
/r/seduction27/11/24 07:54 PM
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It’s definitely possible you just have to know what you’re looking for and be able to quickly filter out the girls who are a waste of time.
/r/seduction17/11/24 07:22 PM
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When you’re at the bar, do sketches of them on napkins.
/r/seduction16/11/24 08:39 PM
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I had a similar experience. Went out on a hinge date with a girl, and didn’t really go well, not really any chemistry. On my way home I decided I wasn’t going to end my night like that so I stopped in my favorite pub. Ended up meeting this really cute girl and her friend. Hung out with them for a while and we really hit it off, ended up getting the girls number. Long story short We are dating now.
/r/seduction14/11/24 05:41 PM
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Become friends with the people in your usual spots and expand your network. You will be surprised how many friends of friends you can meet. Go to clubs or change where you do things. For example go to a new gym every once in a while or check out a new bar.
/r/seduction09/11/24 09:25 PM
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“Says the girl who(s)…insert her red flag here”
/r/seduction09/11/24 09:21 PM
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I’m 25 and just got into my first serious relationship in the last few months. Yes it’s a bit awkward to say “I’ve never been in a serious long term relationship” but it didn’t really hurt me in the end. I briefly covered that I didn’t really find anyone worth committing to even though I dated a lot, and that I was young and dumb in the few instances where a possible relationship could have happened. Those were learning experiences for me. If you know you are a great guy then just be honest and …
/r/seduction09/11/24 09:16 PM
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Then just text them that your taking a break from dating or just text them less
/r/seduction09/11/24 05:08 AM
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Well I’ve hooked up with girls who I instantly regretted hooking up with the next day. Beer goggles are a bitch
/r/seduction08/11/24 05:28 PM
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The whole “will I be creepy” thing needs to be eradicated from your mind. You know your intentions and as long as you have a respect for women, and aren’t some guy who drugs them then you’re fine. Ask yourself if you are someone worth dating? If you are, then you should approach the women you find attractive and see if they are compatible with you. If not then work on yourself and fix those things that you don’t like.
/r/seduction08/11/24 05:25 PM
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It gets easier as you get older. Both parties have more experience and are more willing to have some casual encounters. Talk to women learn the basics and get a girlfriend for now. In a few years you’ll have more experience and it will be significantly easier to pull.
/r/seduction07/11/24 06:24 PM
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If you are texting him, say something like “hey I got a present for you” and then give him a cookie or a small chocolate bar when he comes over. Will be a natural way for the both of you to start interacting like normal people. He’s a young guy so is probably pretty dumb, just set him up for success. If he asks why you have them just say that you had extras and thought he would appreciate them.
/r/seduction07/11/24 05:10 AM
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For scenario 1: most people don’t care what you are talking about, and if they are they have a massive respect for you trying to chat up the hottie. Don’t let it phase you too much. Scenario 2: not really sure how to solve this, you really should never approach from behind it usually doesn’t start off with the girl feeling safe around you. For the last scenario: don’t walk directly towards them. Meander around a bit and approach them when you are closer. (Assuming they are sitting on a bench and…
/r/seduction27/10/24 02:26 PM
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I know the feeling, I’ve definitely missed some opportunities like that too. Gotta stay aware, those girls were giving you plenty of signs and opportunities to make your move. Just gotta jump on the opportunity
/r/seduction25/10/24 09:27 PM
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Usually if they bring up topics like that it’s kinda an open opportunity for to push it further. For example with the nude modeling girl, you could have said “maybe you could model for me sometime 😏” or “damn what a lucky photographer” Depending on how they react to that you can guage how horny they are. If it seems you took the wrong tact, then pull it back and continue the conversation like it didn’t really happen.
/r/seduction25/10/24 08:23 PM
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She will probably resent you more and what you did to her will probably stay with her for a very long time
/r/seduction21/10/24 04:23 PM
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Exactly, treat them like you are already good friends and build up from there (escalate as others would say) Body language is just a window into the mind, go out in public sometime and just watch people (don’t be weird though). Just from their body language you will be able to tell a lot about them, are they confident, strong, nervous, etc? You need to build your own confidence by accepting who you are and/or improving yourself. Go to the gym, get a good job, have interesting hobbies, and get so…
/r/seduction16/10/24 04:43 PM
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Flirting is usually fun and sexually charged conversations. (This doesn’t mean that you are talking about sex but more about asserting your masculine energy) In that sense it’s less about what you say and more about how you say it. You are trying to make them feel strong emotions while they are around you. Your body language, posture, eye contact, and internal thoughts all contribute to this. The words you use can help amplify these emotions. For me I like to have normal conversations and find t…
/r/seduction16/10/24 01:43 PM
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Actually Shia LaBeouf has a pretty good guide on getting good at talking to women: https://youtu.be/ZXsQAXx_ao0?si=Gfkb6UtzAK-zKiSl
/r/seduction16/10/24 02:32 AM
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I don’t let it faze me and just say “ok that’s cool”. Just be flexible and go with the flow. If she doesn’t want to have sex but making out Ok, then make out and get a little handsy if it feels appropriate, but respect her decision to not have sex and don’t go and try to take off her clothes. The fact that you are willing to respect her decisions, might change her mind in of itself. (Don’t go all nice guy though, you actually have to be chill with not having sex) when they change their mind like…
/r/seduction14/10/24 03:10 PM
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This guy gets it and put it very plainly. Keep this in mind when you’re going out and you’re set.
/r/seduction11/10/24 10:25 PM
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Another way to look at it is that you are a “genre” or stereotype of a person. For example there are metal heads, surfers, football players, etc. within all of those groups there are hierarchies. Saquan Barkley, or Messi are the top of their respective categories. the best thing you can do is be best at what you are. You can’t control what genre a person likes, but you can control how good you are within your genre.
/r/seduction09/10/24 02:09 PM
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Just live life more and be less available. It’s like a small fire, if you put too many logs on early you smother it and the fire dies. Let it breathe and build naturally.
/r/seduction07/10/24 02:46 AM
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Go join a club, start taking yoga classes, or something along those lines. Basically do an activity that you enjoy, or think you would enjoy that has a higher F:M ratio. When you get to whatever activity you decide on, go and be a chill guy who is approachable and easy to talk to. Feel free to mention it’s your first time and that you wanted to try something new and meet more people. Be willing to talk to everyone there not just the women. If you actually like the activity be a little flirty but…
/r/seduction19/09/24 02:16 PM
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Maybe stop making assumptions about what other people think of you and just go find out first hand. Stop making excuses for not going and getting what you want. Seize the opportunity’s or miss out.
/r/seduction14/09/24 05:15 PM
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Homie just put your arm around her. If that works out for you and she cuddles up great. Get comfy with her. When you want to kiss her just lean forward a bit and gently lift her chin towards you, then lean in and kiss. Don’t shove your tongue down her throat just gentle kisses to start and build up. If she stops you at any point just stop and go back to what she was comfortable with.
/r/seduction13/09/24 10:26 PM
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Yeah, that’s growth
/r/seduction07/09/24 05:30 PM
1

Making comments on things that are happening around you makes it a lot easier. Having a shared experience and showing off your sense of humor as well will typically get the interaction off to a great start. Turn it into a little inside joke between the two of you. Once you’ve started it’s much easier.
/r/seduction06/09/24 03:16 PM
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Ok if you make eye contact with a girl, hold it for a second and see what she does. If she smiles, smile back. If you are interested in her go and talk to her, she should be at least receptive to you talking to her. Can you fuck it up? Yes, but that will be something you can fix with practice and skill. Go in with the thought that you two are already friends or partners, but she doesn’t know it yet. It will give you an air of confidence and warmth. Get some general information about her but main…
/r/seduction05/09/24 04:45 PM
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Finding the balance between too much attention and not enough is key here. Don’t ignore her, just be busy with your life and give her attention when you have time. If you want a good fire, you don’t smoother it.
/r/seduction29/08/24 04:41 PM
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If she likes you, and you give less effort than her. The girl I’m talking to right now is chasing me. She is very into me and I’m talking to other girls as well. Abundance and non-neediness.
/r/seduction29/08/24 02:46 PM
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If you are a loser with zero social skills, style, ambition, or confidence you probably should stop being that person. Instead you need to focus on building yourself up. You can’t start playing a new game and expect the discourse of the high level players to apply to you. What are they going to say? “You gotta get experience and grind through the bullshit for awhile but it’s worth it.” You can either pay for your success with your time and commitment or you can quit and stay where you are now. Y…
/r/seduction26/08/24 04:31 PM
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Go on a date and just imagine the sex you’re going to have when you get home. Do this while she’s talking and just look into her eyes. Your body language will do the rest. She’ll get flustered if you do it right. Also helps if you know what her turn ons are. For example if she’s into forearms just slowly roll up your sleeves while you do this. In general embrace the sexual energy
/r/seduction14/08/24 04:37 PM
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When you are bantering and having a good time with your friends do you think about it super hard? Just let loose and have a good time. It’s not an interview and you don’t need to necessarily talk about anything important.
/r/seduction14/08/24 04:28 PM
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You gotta take control over your life. You’re in the drivers seat and you won’t get anywhere if you don’t steer it where you want to go.
/r/seduction03/08/24 06:25 PM
1

Eye contact and body language are very very important. Be in control of the Conversation, like a tennis match put the ball in her court where you want it.
/r/seduction03/08/24 12:52 PM
2

This is common knowledge. When you arrive you have to get into the social mode, if you are stuck in your logical work brain you won’t be picking up women. The voice pitch thing has some merit, but it’s more about being relaxed and being deliberate with what you say. That slows down your speech and lowers your tone. Anxiety speeds up your speech and raises your tone.
/r/seduction03/08/24 12:39 PM
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Then match the vibes. Keep flirting but use the new subject of the conversation.
/r/seduction31/07/24 01:43 AM
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Pro tip, never directly talk about sex until you are naked. It’s all about clever innuendos. Just keep it light and fun. Remember you aren’t in a porno, and she isn’t an object, she is a person like you. She also wants to have sex, so don’t talk your way out of it.
/r/seduction31/07/24 01:37 AM
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You are single, so go do the things that you enjoy doing. There are always going to be women who enjoy those same things as you. It’s not weird to start late, you won’t have as deep a connection as some of the others but it’s just as easy to join the group. Be willing to try new things and get out of your comfort zone a little. Go take a yoga class or a painting class. They’re fun and you can meet cool people. College is by far the easiest and most fun time to meet people your age, take advantag…
/r/seduction30/07/24 05:26 PM
3

“When are you free then?” Put it in her court, if she wants to she’ll make it happen, otherwise move on.
/r/seduction29/07/24 04:38 PM
4

Living closer to the city is really good for your social life. You gotta ask yourself if that is worth the other costs. longer commute (less time at home) more expensive (rent and car costs) But the logistics are really nice when you are at a bar that you can just walk home from
/r/seduction22/07/24 03:12 PM
1

Honestly I just stopped wasting my time with girls I wasn’t into.
/r/seduction19/07/24 11:13 PM
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If you just go for hookups, yeah it get old. If you are looking for the truly awesome women, there really is nothing better.
/r/seduction17/07/24 09:35 PM
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Personally I won’t approach women if I’m not attracted to them. So if they aren’t your vibe then why would you go for it? On the other hand if you are into a specific type of girl that doesn’t typically go for you, then that is where your game will have to come in and do the heavy lifting.
/r/seduction17/07/24 08:22 PM
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Don’t be afraid to make eye contact. That’s the first step.
/r/seduction17/07/24 06:18 PM
10

This guy knows what’s up.
/r/seduction16/07/24 04:41 PM
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You gotta get back into reality, delete your apps off your phone, like Reddit, Instagram, tinder etc. all of them. Get a good book and read in your spare time. Leave your headphones at home. Don’t do anything else special, just live. After a few days you will feel amazing and very in touch with reality.
/r/seduction16/07/24 02:39 AM
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I’ve never thought about it like that, don’t be a social liability.
/r/seduction15/07/24 11:04 PM
1

If you play video games and lose one game does that make you a bad player? No. You lose about 30% of the time no matter what you do. You also win about 30% no matter how bad you play it. But you have some control on the other 40%. So take your rejections on the chin and try and learn something from where you went wrong. Sometimes you do nothing wrong and that’s fine. You are trying to find a girl who likes you, if she doesn’t like you then she isn’t right for you anyway, so move on to that next …
/r/seduction15/07/24 04:37 PM
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Night before, around 6 or 7 Or morning of text and confirm if she’s still up for it.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:56 PM
1

Did you not ever have to write a persuasive essay? Don’t use a question as your hook. Pretty simple.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:17 PM
2

Stop assuming their intentions and thoughts. If they want to end things either they will tell you or show you through their actions.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:58 AM
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Literally a rule of persuasion that you learn in elementary school, never start with a question in case the answer is no.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:53 AM
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Don’t stress about it too much, if you put some effort into your looks (clothes, haircut, fitness, and hygiene), and social skills you will be significantly better off. I’m not saying you will be able to get Margot Robbie. But when you bump into that cute girl you should be competent enough to not instantly fumble it and hopefully skilled enough that she likes you too.
/r/seduction10/07/24 10:51 AM
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If you know you are being boring or overly logical, just remind yourself to not do that and be intentional with how you act. Once you get back into the rhythm of having fun and emotional conversations you won’t have to think about it anymore.
/r/seduction29/06/24 08:38 PM
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Is it critical? I don’t remember any time where I showed a girl my insta and we had sex after.
/r/seduction29/06/24 08:02 PM
1

Confessions are the simplest way to harm a relationship. Just be a cool person.
/r/seduction28/06/24 10:44 PM
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Being cool with who you are is super important and it’s good to hear that you’re giving it a shot. Where you might be going wrong is not applying a filter. This is not to say that you stop being you, but you need to be showing off the best version of you that fits into the social games of conversation. Think of it like this: to make good orange juice you gotta put it through the strainer to get most of the pulp out. What’s left is more refined, and a better end product. But it’s still the same t…
/r/seduction28/06/24 10:23 PM
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It sounds pretty simple but stop caring about what they think about you. It is important to realize that others do have opinions about you, some are good some might not be. But at the end of the day you have no control over what they think, you can only control what you do and how you react. So start doing things because you want to do them. For example, put on an outfit that you think you look good in. If someone doesn’t like it, that’s their problem. If a girl isn’t vibing with you will you ch…
/r/seduction20/06/24 03:28 AM
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It’s ALL about momentum. If you don’t keep the momentum going or you just let it spin out, it’s over. When you are on the date you need to be pushing the momentum forward. If you don’t you lock yourself in the friendzone.
/r/seduction19/06/24 05:25 PM
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Either experience or friends. You can’t get better at a video game by watching others. You might find new strategies or alternative approaches to issues. But you need that basic understanding before it makes sense. Same goes for game, only way to really learn is to grow a pair and talk to some women.
/r/seduction19/06/24 04:24 PM
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Be a man and get her number. But it’s hard to say exactly if you played it wrong but you shot you shot and it didn’t pan out for you. Just move on don’t worry about it.
/r/seduction19/06/24 03:35 PM
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More often than not you are the one holding yourself back. Since most guys absolutely suck with women, just being relatively competent makes you exceptional. If you put yourself in situations to meet beautiful women, the opportunities will come. It’s your job to recognize them and take advantage of them when you can. Expanding your social circle is much better than cold approaching.
/r/seduction18/06/24 04:29 PM
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Sounds like you should take a break focus on you. Do what makes you happy and pursue your goals. It’s funny but not focusing on women has the unintended consequence of them being interested in you.
/r/seduction18/06/24 02:15 PM
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Homies got opinions lol
/r/seduction17/06/24 10:56 PM
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Yeah anyone can learn, you might have a harder time though. A good to start is reading Models by Mark Manson. It’s really the only book you need, just gives you a good framework understanding of how to shape yourself into an attractive person. After that go join some social group and just start interacting with people. Go into the group with the mindset of “I’m going to be friends with you soon”. learn to read people, everyone gives subtle clues to what they are thinking though facial expression…
/r/seduction17/06/24 10:54 PM
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It’s called the pygmalion effect. High expectations leads to improved outcomes. You told her she is beautiful and a great person and now she wants to maintain that image you have set for her.
/r/seduction17/06/24 04:19 PM
22

OLD doesn’t work that well anymore, basically just gambling your dating life. Hinge is the only one that may work.
/r/seduction13/06/24 04:37 PM
24

“How about we go get drinks”
/r/seduction13/06/24 04:33 PM
1

You don’t need to cold approach in college, you just need a good social circle. Go get involved, do intramural sports. They are usually once a week and a ton of fun. Join a club with your interests. There are definitely at least a few girls who like the same things as you no matter how obscure. Be a yes man and always try to have fun for its own sake. Stop bringing headphones or use your phone with you out in public. (This may be a hot take) from my experience you won’t talk to anyone if you hav…
/r/seduction13/06/24 04:30 PM
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You know when you are with friends and you aren’t really talking about anything? Just bantering and laughing having a great time. That is what you want, it’s an emotional conversation rather than a content based discussion. You want to make her feel emotions while talking to you. And as the conversation continues you continue to amplify those emotions and sexual tension until the point of, “can we stop talking and just kiss already”
/r/seduction25/05/24 02:54 PM
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Rejections suck but they shouldn’t be affecting you this much. When I get rejected it’s not an insult to me (most of the time) it’s just a matter of their taste or mood or a million other reasons. That’s why it dosent bother me, their reaction is out of my hands so why get all worked up, there are 4 billion women, one of them at least is bound to like me. For you, stop focusing on women and focus on yourself, go do things that you want to do. Make yourself happy, healthy and successful. If you c…
/r/seduction24/05/24 05:34 PM
1

I have a ton of attractive friends now, and you are right. It broadens your social circle so much and removes the stranger factor. “oh you’re friends with her? You must be pretty cool then” This happens with other guys and women. Having mutual friends makes things so much simpler in the early stages.
/r/seduction24/05/24 05:05 PM
2

Sounds like you need to pick better friends
/r/seduction24/05/24 04:52 PM
1

I go out solo all the time. Granted going out with some friends is more fun and you can have better success. When you first arrive go sit in a high traffic area, by the bar where people are getting drinks is ideal. When they come up just start a conversation with them if they seem cool or down to talk. Once you have a beer or two in your system you can get up and start approaching a little more actively. Aim to have fun not take any women home. If they ask where your friends are say that none of…
/r/seduction12/05/24 02:54 PM
3

I go out solo all the time. Granted going out with some friends is more fun and you can have better success. When you first arrive go sit in a high traffic area, by the bar where people are getting drinks is ideal. When they come up just start a conversation with them if they seem cool or down to talk. Once you have a beer or two in your system you can get up and start approaching a little more actively. Aim to have fun not take any women home. If they ask where your friends are say that none of…
/r/seduction12/05/24 02:51 PM
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The idea was right the execution was off. You came off too presumptuous, instead just make a mental note of it and try to find a good reason to start a normal conversation. If nothing comes of it you don’t need to force the interaction. Most women will make it easy for you if they want to talk.
/r/seduction06/05/24 02:45 PM
2

If she’s not interested be polite and move on. “Oh no worries, have a nice day” or something like that. General tip? Go live a full life, get off your phone and get off your ass and random opportunities will show up. Doing approaches just gives you the confidence and skill to take action and execute effectively when those opportunities come around. You don’t want to be a anxious reck when you accidentally bump into your wife.
/r/seduction06/05/24 08:10 AM
2

No one cares, in fact more often than not people will be hoping you pull it off.
/r/seduction05/05/24 07:50 PM
3

Depends, some women are really hesitant to go back to her place, some only want you to go over.
/r/seduction05/05/24 07:47 PM
5

My aim when I first started was to pull women who were about the same attractiveness as me then worked my way up as I got better. Sometimes you shoot your shot and miss when you are aiming up but that’s how you improve
/r/seduction05/05/24 07:46 PM
1

The more specific you are the harder it is to find women. You can go two routes. 1) find women with the personality traits that tend to match. For you it would be more domineering/aggressive women. 2) find a girl who really likes you and will do things because she knows you like it. Women in number 2 are also very open to most things, but your kink might not vibe with everyone. Play it by ear and see how it works out.
/r/seduction05/05/24 07:39 PM
2

Why not just be friendly and talk to her?
/r/seduction04/05/24 03:21 PM
18

Think of it like Pavlov’s dogs. You don’t reward your dog for shitting on your rug, but you do when it goes outside. Same with women’s behavior, you don’t give a girl attention if she’s being a bitch. If she’s being friendly and flirty on the other hand , you can reward her with your attention.
/r/seduction02/05/24 02:06 PM
4

Women want sex and want to be seen as sexy and feel it. If you make her feel sexy and she finds you attractive you will do well. (Attractiveness is not only determined by looks) Nice guys don’t make women feel anything, which is why they never get the girls. It’s boring and safe in the guise of “not trying to offend” and “she will see the value in me and want to date me”. Take some risks, put your neck out on the line and show her how you feel, this will put her in a situation where she will pol…
/r/seduction29/04/24 02:36 PM
3

When we say approach, most of us aren’t just walking across the park and striking up a conversation. Most of the time you are already in close proximity and you lock eyes which opens the door for conversation. My favorite place for this is waiting for a drink at the bar. Most people are close together and all doing the same thing. Makes it easy to strike up conversations and have an easy excuse to leave.
/r/seduction28/04/24 04:25 PM
4

For me personally I have very low success with dates that are more than a few days ahead. Mostly because this is a very momentum heavy endeavor and keeping things interesting just over text for a week + is tough.
/r/seduction27/04/24 05:06 AM
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It’s a by product of the dating apps. When someone has 10+ people all willing to go on dates it’s much easier to let people go than if you are only talking to 1 or 2. It’s exhausting to have that much attention, and thus less effort is put in to the relationships.
/r/seduction26/04/24 02:31 PM
4

Probably not smart to mix work and relationships. Just keep it friendly and flirty. If you see a clear opportunity than go for it though.
/r/seduction26/04/24 12:53 PM
3

You have to be quick to capitalize on any opportunity. If you lock eyes with a girl and she smiles, you shouldn’t hesitate at all, just maintain momentum and approach. If it doesn’t happen and no girls are showing interest then you are just having a good time with your friends and it doesn’t matter. If you’re upset you didn’t talk to any girls then you should have been doing some approaches.
/r/seduction26/04/24 01:09 AM
2

I think it’s less about novelty but an outward display of personality. At the costume party the guy was wearing cool costumes that he probably spent a good amount of time putting together. Show’s creativity and taste. At other times he probably had on very typical or boring clothes that didn’t make him stand out at all. If you invest in some new clothes find stuff that makes you stand out and shows off your personality. Adding accessories like watches, rings, necklaces etc. will help you stand o…
/r/seduction25/04/24 04:32 PM
3

Why would you care, past experiences are what shape us in to the people we are now. If you like who she is as a person then the amount of boyfriends shouldn’t bother you.
/r/seduction25/04/24 04:15 PM
6

“She could be Canadian and is just being polite”
/r/seduction25/04/24 01:22 PM
21

Learn social skills from being social. Go out where you enjoy and talk to the people there.
/r/seduction25/04/24 10:50 AM
8

If you’re going to read any book it should be models. It’s a solid base of understanding to calibrate on. After that it’s gaining experience, and confidence.
/r/seduction24/04/24 01:50 PM
5

Read models and then go talk to women
/r/seduction22/04/24 04:16 PM
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Sounds like you need to get off the internet and start just talking to women. Do you have any hobbies or interested in doing things where women are in abundance? Yoga classes, rock climbing, art classes, Dance, etc. These are natural ways of just meeting new people and women. Going to bars and clubs can work, but there are specific types of people who are there which you should consider. Instead of going into interactions with the goal of sex, go in with the intention of having fun. This removes…
/r/seduction18/04/24 04:40 PM
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1)don’t put her on a pedestal. She’s just a person. 2) Be a naturally funny person with a good sense of humor. Women are people too just talk to them like you are already friends with them.
/r/seduction17/04/24 04:05 AM
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Don’t fucking apologize unless you actually did something wrong. Did you do anything morally wrong? No, so Just go on with life, be funnier in your next interaction. If she asks, you were in a crappy mood. Don’t let your anxiety get the better of you. You haven’t fumbled yet, let it play out.
/r/seduction17/04/24 03:55 AM
2

Getting rich is easier said than done, talking to a cute girl Is easy. You just have to grow a pair and do it.
/r/seduction17/04/24 03:45 AM
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Homie just wait
/r/seduction16/04/24 10:42 PM
1

Use small talk to find a mutual topic of interest. Asking good questions stimulates better conversation. As someone said above the weather is pretty good because it’s so neutral and you can find some interesting branch topics from that.
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:39 PM
7

Just go into class, if you see her make eye contact and smile. If she smiles back just walk over and ask if can sit. Just ask her about something, it can be something you talked about, how the rest of her night went, how she did on the test, it really doesn’t matter. Once you chat for a bit and get her laughing just say something like “hey I never got your number at the party, we should go grab coffee/study for the next test/help each other with the homework” you can then either go back and sit …
/r/seduction16/04/24 04:36 PM
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They aren’t being confident by being talkative or mysterious, they just are confident and their personality is usually one of those. Imagine a portal opens next to you and the best version of yourself walks through from an alternate reality. What is that guy like? How does he hold himself, etc?
/r/seduction16/04/24 03:49 AM
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They don’t know you and the person you are, doing things which won’t catch your attention is a defensive tactic. Women will do this to pretty much everyone. You need to get yourself in social situations for them to not be so guarded.
/r/seduction16/04/24 03:22 AM
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If you’re on a date with her, shift your odds of her wanting to kiss you to 60:40. The 40 being she was turned off at some point during the date, but if she’s laughing and touchy near the end of the date, go for it.
/r/seduction15/04/24 05:13 PM
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Strong eye contact is extremely important! If you are listening, maintain eye contact. Don’t necessarily stare but your attention should be on her: body language, eyes, ears, and mind. It feels uncomfortable because you haven’t done it before. Just remember that it is natural. There are plenty of times that it is okay to break eye contact, like in a conventional lul. After a while you should start to understand the flow of it. On a wider level Eye contact is actually a way humans dictate rank an…
/r/seduction15/04/24 04:35 PM
171

That checked her ego hard when you were just laughing at her.
/r/seduction12/04/24 04:25 PM
1

When you are talking with these girls you are trying to learn about them but you are approaching it wrong. You’re coming at it too “logically”, there is probably a better word for it. Instead you should be asking, “would I want to hangout with her all day?” What’s her humor like? Does she get along with you and think your funny? The same kind of things you look for in a good guy friend. Have a good conversation and weave in banter and jokes as you would with your friends, tease her and have fun.…
/r/seduction11/04/24 03:03 PM
1

Rock climbing, yoga, reading, exploration.
/r/seduction09/04/24 10:24 PM
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Maybe she’s not into you? If you are feeling uncomfortable she definitely is. You need to be relaxed and at ease. It’s like trying to pet a scared cat or dog, you need to earn their trust a bit and have them feel like you are no threat.
/r/seduction09/04/24 04:43 PM
4

“Of course my queen, Why don’t you come over and have a bite?” She killed her own joke, just ignore it and keep the fun vibes going.
/r/seduction09/04/24 04:27 PM
1

You kinda get what I mean though, and girls are often willing to go on a second date if you offer, so long as the date wasn’t too bad.
/r/seduction05/04/24 10:40 PM
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I think losing the weight, getting fit, eating well, and getting a good job should be your priority. Don’t worry about where other people at your age are at, just worry about how you are doing on your path. Fixing these issues will help in a lot of other areas of your life as well. You will be more interesting as you are knowledgeable about health and fitness, and you will gain confidence because of your body and finances. These traits are attractive and will facilitate your love life, but the g…
/r/seduction05/04/24 10:37 PM
2

Sounds pretty decent for a first coffee date. The walk is always a nice move, can always go for the handhold if you’re feeling it. You can usually gauge if she wants to hangout again by the way she says goodbye at the end of the date. If she says something like “it was nice meeting you” then she had a good time but didn’t you as a potential partner. In that case wait until you are going to the live music event (go with other friends) and tell her she should show up as well. If she actually goes,…
/r/seduction05/04/24 10:26 PM
2

In person>text, sooner>later. If you see her alone often ask her in person, if not just text her tonight and get it setup. The date is more important that how you ask her.
/r/seduction04/04/24 05:48 PM
6

Your actions speak louder than words, but invite her out to get coffee or a drink somewhere. Have fun and maintain good eye contact.
/r/seduction04/04/24 05:30 PM
2

Just go for drinks or something cheaper. Girls will agree to most dates because they don’t have to pay, you just have to be better than the other guys she’s gone out with.
/r/seduction04/04/24 04:52 PM
1

Don’t shut yourself out of society completely, just shift your focus away from chasing tail to making gains.
/r/seduction31/03/24 02:54 PM
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Just take a break, go focus on you. You’ll hit highs and lows for no apparent reason, but you need to recognize when you need to step back and reset. Eventually you’ll get back into main character mode and start pulling baddies again. But for now just go grind work on bettering yourself.
/r/seduction31/03/24 02:41 PM
2

Sounds like you just need to go shoot your shot with the 9-10s, you’re settling.
/r/seduction30/03/24 11:14 PM
1

If you are on a first date you have to go from the small talk questions and get to interesting conversations as quickly as possible. There isn’t any avoiding it, but you can find quicker lines to the conversation. Think of it like playing worldle you start with you go to and adapt based on context.
/r/seduction27/03/24 04:43 PM
2

Whenever I hit a long negative streak, I just take a break and refocus on myself. After a few weeks your old mojo will be back in full.
/r/seduction24/03/24 03:34 PM
4

Have you ever had a random interaction with someone where they accidentally run into you then you exchange a little joke? For example, someone drops something and you help them out by picking it up, they look at you, smile and say something like “oh thank you, I’ve got such butter fingers today”. This is the type of opener you are going for. It’s casual and a lot of potential for good humor. Once you make that initial comment you can gauge their interest based off their reaction. Her interest is…
/r/seduction22/03/24 02:36 PM
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I’ve found this to be true too, their “approach” is to just remove any barriers for you. They might get closer in proximity to you so you might start talking, or linger in an area that they are about to leave.
/r/seduction18/03/24 04:26 PM
2

While they are talking you will probably have a follow up question regarding something they say. Just remember your question and wait until a lul, you can either ask that question, circling the conversation back to something you found interesting, or continue on where they left off.
/r/seduction18/03/24 01:32 PM
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Stop trying so hard. You thinking about intonation and all of that is like sticking your head in the sand during a conversation. Just be present and listen for the most part. It’s good to be aware of them so if you make a small blunder you can understand where you went wrong. For example, sometimes on dates I get anxious and start talking very fast and my filter loosens up (not attractive), if I catch myself doing that I just slow down take a breath and fall back into the pocket of present aware…
/r/seduction17/03/24 05:37 PM
7

If its just sex hit her with a "Wyd?" either she is down or she isnt.
/r/seduction16/03/24 02:52 AM
7

Don’t get your kidneys stolen
/r/seduction15/03/24 01:31 AM
2

Homie you got to start loving yourself, and doing things that are in line with that. Treat yourself like you’d treat someone else. All this negativity is not helping you at all. Learn to be confident and content with yourself, go out and do things in spite of not having anyone to go with you. You should not wait for someone else to show up to start living life, that isn’t how it works. Get in good physical shape, pursue your interests, and become more social. Don’t worry about the women in your …
/r/seduction14/03/24 10:33 PM
2

For me it’s not about what you say but how you say it. Tonality, eye contact, wit, humor, and some targeted teasing. You want to make her feel things about you. You want her having fun. You also bringing up things she told you earlier and joking about it shows off your humor and that you were paying attention to what she said. A good idea of your style should be a more targeted and sexual version of how you banter with your friends or family.
/r/seduction14/03/24 04:18 PM
10

I find it hard to pull when going out at a bar, they are usually out with friends, but getting her number is easy af, and making out a bit is simple too. I usually do better when we go on a date first (getting drinks) then afterwards we end up back at my place.
/r/seduction14/03/24 04:11 PM
1

If you are on a date with a guy, look at him and think about what kind of dirty things you are going to do to him when you are alone. The look on your face should be enough to get him going.
/r/seduction14/03/24 01:03 AM
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I feel that, I enjoy the chase more than the girl themselves. Hanging out is fun but once they leave I’m pretty indifferent if I ever see them again or not. It’s hard to fall for a single girl when I can line my week with dates in a single afternoon. Not really sure if this is good or bad, but I understand you.
/r/seduction13/03/24 04:23 PM
3

I’ll go out this weekend and see if I can find a solution for it. Will let you know.
/r/seduction13/03/24 02:48 PM
1

The way I do it is when my brain pulls up the information from the depths and says “use this” I don’t argue and talk about that. It works that way for jokes as well, your subconscious is much better than you in most aspects, but it doesn’t communicate the same, it presents ideas like servant removing the lid off a dish. So it says “…” and you use your conversational skills to convey what it can’t.
/r/seduction13/03/24 03:52 AM
1

Other people here have the right idea as well. But you said you are a nerd. Do you ever read? Books have a ton of interesting stuff in them? They make for great conversations and you learn a thing or two. Quoting books or literature is also great.
/r/seduction13/03/24 01:03 AM
2

Not sure exactly, I’ve noticed it happening recently and haven’t been able to investigate it further. Could be both individually
/r/seduction12/03/24 09:11 PM
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I’d say I’m relatively successful overall but I’ll talk about where my weaknesses are because I’m nowhere near perfect. 1) too friendly- I find myself in the friendzone with a lot of women, which I personally don’t mind because women can be really good friends if you aren’t sexually interested in them. But this can lead me to not being flirty and seductive to women I actually like. 2) anxiety- I find myself anxious around confident women when I first meet them. This happens if I’m caught off gua…
/r/seduction12/03/24 08:43 PM
1

Why not just talk to them and figure it out? Stop worrying about theory and just go make mistakes and learn.
/r/seduction11/03/24 12:31 AM
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Just practice, and be willing and able to talk to anyone. One thing you should also work on is talking to people much older than you. Your parents friends, professors, bosses etc. it’s one thing to be able to communicate well with peers but those above you in age and status as well. Most people are bad at communicating when they are older because they didn’t start when they were young, work at it and ask good questions on this sub and you will be very successful.
/r/seduction10/03/24 04:34 PM
5

You can still do it, but it might be clunky and awkward. It’s like going for a run without a warmup or stretch. Like you can do it, but your more likely to fuck up than if you warmed up.
/r/seduction10/03/24 02:17 AM
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Ok here is the thing you should work on. NETWORKING!! you just transferred and and you’ve made some casual friends. Get their numbers and start coordinating more. Do this with way more people and learn their names and remember them. Connections will get you laid way more than tinder ever will and is a lifelong skill I wish I taught myself in college. Just talk to anyone who is willing to, be good at casual banter and transfer that into introducing yourself. Women are just people, it works the ex…
/r/seduction09/03/24 07:55 PM
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I used to go out alone all the time, and when I go to the bar with friends I tend to separate throughout the night to explore the bar and scout. For me the best ways to succeed are going to crowded bars where there aren’t many seats. Tables and chairs up the difficulty. When you arrive be ready to talk to everyone, you need to get the social wheels greased so your anxiety is less for the women. So just strike up conversations and joke about with the people you find. By find I mean there are a lo…
/r/seduction09/03/24 07:44 PM
3

Let yourself have fun again and not let your happiness be outcome dependent. I remember a time back in college where I was out and I was just being boring and not that fun to be around. I just said to myself “what are you doing, just have fun”. Just forced myself to crack some jokes roasted my friends a bit and then within an hour my head was out of my ass and I was actually having fun. With game it works the same, just stop caring and have fun with it. That’s why they call it game.
/r/seduction16/02/24 05:15 PM
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I disagree, if you delete and restart you’ll get a higher ELO faster and it gives you a free spotlight since you have a new account.
/r/seduction30/01/24 01:16 PM
1

I’m no expert but some therapy may be good for you if you aren’t already. Besides that social skills are just that a SKILL. Some are better than others but anyone can learn. You are no exception. One thing you can do right now and will help you significantly is to slow down and listen. Listen to what they have to say and learn to ask good questions. Most people don’t have anyone in their life that will actually listen to them being that person is refreshing. Have you ever tried teaching the thin…
/r/seduction07/01/24 06:35 PM
1

Totally wrong?? If you think Europe is only Croatia then yes but Europe comprises something like 30 countries, all with a wide variety of cultures. You can cherry pick data all you want to prove your own point but that does no good for anyone. I’m speaking on Western Europe in general, the countries that Americans most likely interact with.
/r/seduction01/09/23 06:28 PM
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Great summary. Sounds like such a fun time. To the American guys reading this. European women are much more receptive to sex, it’s not as taboo for them so they are more willing to just hookup and have a good time. What this guy did still works in the US but just not as effectively. If you haven’t been with a European girl you are missing out.
/r/seduction29/08/23 04:34 PM
4

Homie is out here spitting facts, take notes
/r/seduction05/06/23 07:07 PM
2

“Excuse me, I thought you were pretty and wanted to come talk to you, my name is fire-guy”
/r/seduction30/05/23 09:46 PM
7

This guy night clubs
/r/seduction11/07/22 10:03 PM
1

Each person is different and thus confidence is different depending on the person. But generally it’s not caring what people think of you, saying and doing what you want. (Within reason) Too much of this you get narcissism, not enough you have a nice guy.
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:43 PM
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Sounds like you are overthinking, just do your own thing and if she keeps avoiding you move on. She seems like she has a busy life but you shouldn’t tolerate flakes, you told her already so the ball is in her court to follow through on plans.
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:33 PM
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Get out of your head. I’ve been there, don’t try to be funny just know that you are and do your thing. I’m sure your family has fun discussions where everyone banters and it’s super easy and fun. That is what you are aiming for in conversation, flirting is taking that energy and shifting it to something more sexual. Being flirty is not about what you say but how you say it. You could say some dumb stuff and as long as she likes and you are confident in yourself she will make it easy.
/r/seduction12/04/22 04:54 AM
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The best conversations are those with mutual experiences and interests. The easiest way to find mutual things is through the stuff around both of you at the moment. Interesting stuff is always happening and you can show off your humor easily. Comedians do this by taking known things and reframing it in a funny way. That’s how teasing works too, you point out something about her and show her the funny way of seeing it.
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:28 PM
3

I personally like to build some sort of connection before having sex. Even an hour or two of talking and getting to know who they are is enough. Like I want to know who I am having sex with.
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:19 PM
1

Change your strategy, I don’t know what your bars are like but where I am the lines to get drinks can be pretty long. While waiting in line I like to just strike up random conversations, I don’t really need to get anything out of the conversation except my own amusement. Intentions are also a big thing that you don’t really think about. Hypothetically, if you are out with friends and someone is trying to sell you the Bible, you’re gonna be annoyed. If they strike up a conversation, everything is…
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:12 PM
3

You know that banter you have with close friends and family? That is what you want, fun low stakes conversation. The only difference is you are trying to show your attraction to the other person while doing so. Everyone’s humor is different, and so is everyone’s flirting. For example my humor is based around quippy one liners. So I’ll have a solid conversation with a girl and tease her on things she’s said, then go right back to asking her about herself. I’ll bring up things that we talked about…
/r/seduction07/12/21 08:56 PM
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Maybe change you mindset to have a girlfriend before getting hookups.
/r/seduction31/05/21 03:29 AM
2

The less you prioritize girls and more on yourself the easier it is to attract women. It sounds counter intuitive but it’s not. Would you rather a girl where the only good factor about her is that she wants to have sex with you, or a girl living a super cool life and is also down to have sex? Obviously number 2. You need to do the same thing, go get some cool hobbies enrich your life and schedule, the less time you have for girls, the more that girls will want to spend time with you. Make your t…
/r/seduction12/05/21 11:16 PM
3

I am a lot like you, pretty quite most of the time and can be pretty boring and analytical if I don’t shift my mindset. I have a good sense of humor but it really improves the more I know my audience, first impressions are always the hardest for me. But what really helped me get good at flirting and first impressions was realizing that my best self was the same one that I was at home. Why was this helpful? Because I don’t try to be anyone fake at home. I don’t put on a show or anything, it’s jus…
/r/seduction10/05/21 04:43 AM
2

I don’t like the mentality of “she’s testing you”. I don’t like it because you can “fail” and failure will cripple your confidence. I shift it to, I’m testing her. That way no matter the outcome I was successful. I can be myself, and truly gage the type of person that she is compared to mine, I’m not going to match my personality to her, and I don’t want her to match hers to mine. You don’t force two puzzle pieces to fit together, you have to sift through the pile to find the one that matches.
/r/seduction25/01/21 04:32 PM
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Why would you want to get with a girl who isnt 100% into you, and has even lost attraction. Sure show up with the hotter girl, but don't do it in order to impress the other girl do it because you wanted to go with her. Girls can sense your intentions miles away. Move on and find a better girl.
/r/seduction22/01/20 02:39 PM
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take a moment and truly reflect on the things that are making you insecure, find the root of the cause. Now after you understand your insecurities, accept them as the thoughts that they are and not the things that define you. You define you, show people who you truly are not who your insecurities say you are.
/r/seduction22/01/20 02:46 AM
1

No, definitely don't stop telling jokes. What you need to do is stop telling jokes in order to impress people, I used to do that all the time and now I try to only say something funny when something pops into my head that I truly think its funny. Trying to force jokes just never works as well as just being yourself. Be present in the moment and trust your gut.
/r/seduction10/01/20 09:26 PM
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My Dad gave me similar advice recently. He told me that when I got out to have fun as a primary goal. If you go to a party or bar and the girl you like is flirting with another guy, leave and go somewhere else, you don't have to torture yourself watching them and you wont seem needy. He also said that getting women is like fishing, you wait until you find a girl who is very into you then you pull them in, don't do it early or you wont catch anything. His biggest tip was to REMEMBER THEIR NAME, t…
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:30 PM
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just slide in, next time she posts something funny, hit her up if you have something to say. Don't overthink it
/r/seduction26/11/19 06:41 PM
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It's a healthy mix of both, go about each day with a relaxed, go with the flow vibe, while on the flip side you also have a schedule that you maintain. Whether that be going to the gym everyday, working hard for that promotion, or the A in class you stick to it because it matters to you. Essentially you say to yourself "Im doing xyz today, and anything else that happens is a plus" have a plan with no expectations.
/r/seduction11/11/19 07:25 PM
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I believe you, need to stop caring what others think and just live my life. Any advice for starting up conversations, once it gets rolling im solid but the beginnings are always super rocky for me.
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:50 PM
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Damn that first part is very relate-able.
/r/seduction12/10/19 04:21 PM
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Don't think of it as flirting but more as fun conversation, when you do this, its light and no pressure and people usually respond well. Girls do all the time which is why guys think they are flirting. The difference between this and actually flirting is that flirting is more direct conversation, not necessarily telling them you like them but rather the conversation is directed at that person. For example teasing is very flirty, while making a funny comment about your surroundings is just good c…
/r/seduction30/09/19 05:23 PM
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not mentally masturbate about what to say. That's hilarious and accurate.
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:53 AM
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Please, for the love of god, use better grammar. to, too, you, your, you're, yourself its not that much harder and will make it seem like you aren't twelve years old.
/r/seduction19/09/19 12:11 PM
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Dude this might be a game changer. I’m more of the introverted type so the typical advice on this sub is just not my personality. This however will be so much easier to learn and I won’t have to change who I am in order to win over women.
/r/seduction16/09/19 11:04 AM
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Best thing to do is not read books, instead go get involved talk to girls in you classes. Do what you want girls will see you having an amazing time and things just fall into place.
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:41 PM
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Adding on to this, girls don’t want to be labeled as a slut. So essentially you need to give the girl plausible deniability that she isn’t just coming over for sex, because she can explain to herself and her friends that she is “just having a few drinks at you apartment” then sex just “happens”. Give them the old double message.
/r/seduction12/09/19 01:41 AM
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dude you played it perfect by leaving, if she actually likes you she will knock that shit off next time
/r/seduction09/09/19 02:06 PM
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It’s free online tho...
/r/seduction03/09/19 12:42 AM
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It’s not that simple, there is your body language and some other factors that show your value. However when I finally started picking my head up and making eye contact, I noticed girls interest in me, which boosted confidence which leads to more approaches and successful encounters. Essentially the eye contact helps with other parts of your game and makes things just easier.
/r/seduction30/08/19 02:58 PM
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You were in a little pond before, now you are in the ocean. Might have been the big fish before now you gotta compete with sharks. I guarantee that if cute girls liked you in Highschool they will like you in college. Ugly girls make liking you super obvious while the cute girls hide it a little better. If you wanna find some quality girls, just make eye contact with people and smile if you lock eyes, it will tell you right away if they are interested or not.
/r/seduction30/08/19 12:01 PM
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As a former nice guy I have to say, learning a better mindset, being yourself, and being Unafraid of rejection (escalating) will instantly improve your game. The reason is because most nice guys have a bunch of girl friends who they can talk to, and who obviously like talking to them, they just lack the confidence to hold their ground and take some risks to actually woo the girl.
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:01 AM
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I really liked the part about seeing through their mask and how uncomfortable it makes them when it’s pointed out that it’s there. It shows your own confidence, self awareness, and giving them a taste of betterment in that part of their life.
/r/seduction27/08/19 05:43 PM
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Dude, honestly fuck that girl. She rejected you, you shouldn’t be caught up thinking about what she thinks of you. If she is actually interested at all and sees that you don’t give a fuck and already moved on she will chase you, or she doesn’t like you and you’re saving yourself so much time and mental energy.
/r/seduction23/08/19 03:00 PM
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I read your comment wrong my bad.
/r/seduction21/08/19 05:22 PM
1

Is it because you are scared of being sexual or coming off as a creep?
/r/seduction21/08/19 05:15 PM
1

But if you are too scared to talk to them you will never get anywhere. plus if the no pressure interaction goes great ask for their number at the end. The major point is if you can have a conversation with anyone it becomes much easier and much more natural to pick up girls and you wont be worrying about the little things.
/r/seduction21/08/19 04:49 PM
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I honestly don't like cold approaching, it doesn't suit my personality which is relatively introverted ( it is effective though). I prefer the "warm approach" essentially you are near the person and you strike up a conversation with them based off surroundings, their clothing, literally anything notable. lets say you're in check-out line at the grocery store and right in-front of you is Cutie Mcbooty, y'all are just chillin there and you see the lady in front of her buying like 15 pineapples so …
/r/seduction21/08/19 04:29 PM
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you might have fucked it. However you can possibly salvage the situation in person, focus on eye contact and just being yourself (the same guy that you are with your best friends). You will read the vibe pretty quick and possibly learn that you are already in the friend zone, if that's the case move on and don't waste you time and thoughts on her. If not invite her on a date. good luck, and remember this is just one girl out of the thousands you will meet in the rest of your life.
/r/seduction21/08/19 04:02 PM
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then next time you see a beautiful woman, get your head out of your ass and go talk to her, when you do, don't have any expectations, don't think about fucking her or any of that, just talk to her like any regular person, i think you will surprise yourself.
/r/seduction21/08/19 03:40 PM
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No, girls want you to show initiative and seem like you always "have a plan". What you should have done is create an open invitation at a specific time. If she cant because she is busy don't keep sending her random times, that comes off as needy. Think of it like this you have a full schedule doing cool shit all the time, when you send the initial date time you are fitting her into that that packed schedule, if she can't oh well you got so much other stuff going on you can fill that time no prob…
/r/seduction21/08/19 03:22 PM
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I agree with the first half. Go out and meet as many people as possible, get involved in whatever interests you, that could be fraternity life, sports, or whatever thing you love to do. Then be true to yourself, and have fun. If the idea of going to big to big frat parties doesn't sound fun to you, don't do it. Live your best life at college and ooze confidence, everything else will follow.
/r/seduction21/08/19 02:58 PM
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A good place to start is reading Models by Mark Manson, overall a good book. However the general consensus is to just approach and learn, everything will then come with time. Good luck man, and welcome.
/r/seduction20/08/19 03:22 PM
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Exactly ,Don't waste your time with her if she isn't down and only wants to be friends, she will either reconsider because of your confidence or move on. Win win either case. sending a flirty suggestive text will have the opposite affect.
/r/seduction14/08/19 06:13 PM
2

That guy is really funny.
/r/seduction04/08/19 02:31 PM
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I totally understand what you mean by your 'charismatic state' I call it 'the flow'. However my flow is slightly different from yours, and I would imagine that everyone else has their own style as well. Essentially what you are trying to describe, is to get out of your head and just start interacting with people in a confident way in an effort to showcase your true personality.
/r/seduction03/08/19 02:53 PM
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When you are making sustained eye contact with a girl, pretend that both of you are in on some inside joke that is exclusive to you two. It sounds odd to do but in practice it’s super easy. When you do this you end up smiling, laughing, or just give a sly grin. If she is interested she will smile or laugh back at you. When she smiles back that is the invitation to go talk to her.
/r/seduction01/08/19 02:02 PM
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Why do they do this, I feel like that has the opposite effect if they are trying to impress.
/r/seduction31/07/19 03:30 PM
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i am exactly the same way, its to the point now where my mom jokes about how i will tell them that i have a GF by the engagement announcements.
/r/seduction19/07/19 05:53 PM
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I think you answered your own question. Girls are attracted to him because he flirts with every girl he knows. he flirts with every girl and he probably isn't even thinking about it, he is just out having a good time playfully bantering. For me, and maybe even your friend, the best way to get into a good flow of fun flirty conversation is with my best friend, we just dick around and I end up being super flirty because i'm having a blast and not really caring how things turn out. If a girl is cre…
/r/seduction13/07/19 01:32 AM
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You might not realize it but losing weight, gaining muscle, and taking care of yourself in general will boost your confidence tremendously, also being overweight is unhealthy and subcommunicates that you don't take care of yourself so you wont take care of a relationship.
/r/seduction10/07/19 12:40 PM
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If you are lightly intoxicated go for as you have liquid courage in your blood. If you are very drunk you have too much liquid courage and will say whatever is on your mind I.e insert awkward romantic confession here
/r/seduction04/07/19 03:50 PM
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If you are doing shots that night please do yourself a favor and try not to talk to her, being that it is your first time ever drinking you will 100% do something you will regret. Just stick to beer (5-7 total beers should be enough), the same mixed drink all night (3-5 drinks), and if you are doing shots don’t go over 6. I say this because you don’t want to be getting blackout drunk and throwing up all over yourself your first night out ever. Good luck man have fun stay safe
/r/seduction04/07/19 03:23 PM
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That guy is under no obligation to be respectful of that guys relationship, he doesn't know him and wont affect his life whats so ever if he does find out, it is solely the girlfriends responsibility to curve advances of other guys and same goes for the boyfriend. Obviously I would never get into a relationship with that girl because she cant be trusted, but that doesn't mean the guy is at fault, it is 100% on the girl to make that decision on whether to cheat or not.
/r/seduction04/07/19 12:13 AM
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When a girl is into you and they want sex, they will make it very easy. By this I mean they will be subtly be trying to set up a situation in which sex is possible. ​ In this case, when the girl was joking about smoking together she was implying "i want to hangout with you 1 on 1". OP picked up on this and invited her over, which led to sex. This is one thing of many that this girl did in order to make it happen that night. ​ Girls want sex too, but want a confident guy to make the moves. So for…
/r/seduction03/07/19 11:56 PM
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Congrats man, gotta love it when the girl sets everything up and you just have to follow through.
/r/seduction03/07/19 08:01 PM
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Also, If you think you could go in for the kiss you probably could have done it for the past 5 min if not more, so don't think about it and just do it. good luck brother
/r/seduction20/06/19 12:41 PM
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Obviously there is noting wrong with being shy or introverted and these guys for sure have value to women, but its the fact that they need to demonstrate that value in some way. The shy guy could have so much to talk about but if he struggles approaching, that value will never be known to the women. I always fixed this by going to the same place all the time getting to know the other people there and getting super comfortable, making it easy to start random conversations leading to great connect…
/r/seduction20/06/19 12:04 PM
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when you go in for it pick a lip, either top or bottom and stick to it. Essentially massage her lips with yours, use a little bit of tongue ( DON'T THROAT FUCK HER WITH IT). After that just kinda do what she does with your mouth. To escalate use your hands, grab the belt loops on her jeans and pull her close, whatever feels natural (watch romantic movies for some good pointers). don't stress about it too much its really fun
/r/seduction20/06/19 11:43 AM
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I hate to say it but being shy and cute doesn't get you anywhere as a man. I have been shy all my life and only had a few girls that initiated on me, however lately I've been going the confident route being myself and its crazy how effective it is at getting the attention of women. being yourself is important but being a truly confident, self assured man is 100x better than the shy guy in the corner.
/r/seduction20/06/19 11:34 AM
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those hobbies might not attract women directly but if you take a women out on the lake or river for just a fun day with a little fishing you could have a lot of success. Use your knowledge explain to her how you know where the fish are, why you are using specific lore's etc. Don't just tell her about your passion show her. It indicates that you have a life outside of her, shows off your soft skills like, attention to detail, and dedication to your craft. Its the core values that are attractive n…
/r/seduction08/06/19 07:01 PM
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the being friends is just you building rapport with them and showing that you are not an asshole and are cool, but most guys fuck it up by not flirting, building attraction, then not following through. The Spark then goes out and BOOM friendzone. And even if they have a crush on you, if you don't make the move nothing will happen.
/r/seduction08/06/19 06:33 PM
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Vienna is the best city ever, also great content. Its definitely true, Austrians shit on Germans all the time.
/r/seduction29/05/19 03:31 PM
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It's crazy how much girls dig the "I'm smirking at your comment, but pretending that I wasn't listening"
/r/seduction26/05/19 02:39 PM
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FWB, focus on what you don't like about her to keep a distance. Relationship focus on what you do like. This is the great simplified version of FWB that I have been looking for, thank you Sir.
/r/seduction09/05/19 03:46 PM
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You should reply but be super minimalist and disinterested, if she is actually interested in talking to you she will make the effort, if not who cares.
/r/seduction08/05/19 06:22 PM
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I don't know if this has ever happens to you but for me, it seems that girls that I have no immediate attraction to always seem to have crushes on me. I was always confused why this was then I realized it wasn't because I didn't like them it was because I was chill and being myself, not caring what they thought of me. People like confidence and that comes with not giving a fuck. A good way of implementing this is always go into an interaction with zero expectations and a care free attitude, when…
/r/seduction08/05/19 05:59 PM
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I like this analogy.
/r/seduction16/04/19 02:56 PM
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you should send those rejects my way.
/r/seduction08/01/19 05:08 AM
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No need to fake it, I just live my life and enjoy it for what it is and how I see fit and if someone doesn’t vibe with me I just move on.
/r/seduction08/01/19 05:05 AM
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This is kinda interesting, the other night I unintentionally used the "so what" and in the end it worked out. Now i'm curious how much that could have affected the outcome or if it was just the summation of everything.
/r/seduction08/01/19 04:36 AM
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get a shitty mattress but get a really good mattress pad to go on top. It is just as good at half the price.
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