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Which needs to be rectified. Seriously I've worked hard to get where I am battling through stacks of religious minorities, the last thing I need is to be given a free pass just because I have a vagina. I have a lot of distaste for social quotas...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 03:09 AM
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Interesting that you assume I'm talking about women. I'm talking about men. The question was about equality. I said that I believe that true equality is equality before the law and equality of opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/17 03:07 AM
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If someone is smarter, they will automatically do well. My issue with quotas is that those smart people have to gamble with success while someone who is less smart but belongs to a minority gets guaranteed a fast seat to the top. May I ask you by which category you look at people? I'm not making any assumptions, just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:40 PM
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Isn't RP all about how women divorce raped them and how they're all sluts and bringing down their own value? And if RP is based on evo psych, could there be a possibility that over the thousands of years humans existed, perhaps we actually evolved that logical framework and it is now part of our genes? I mean, intelligence is genetic to an extent, so perhaps?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:36 PM
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Just putting this out there as a bit of food for thought. Even though people say they prefer being alone/ are loners, there's a reason isolation is the greatest torture of all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:32 PM
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To me, the hamster is the forced justification of actions that certainly can't be justified, for example, cheating (he/she started it), branch swinging (we fell out of love), false rape threats (I really don't know how anyone can justify those. I'm studying psychology and even I can't understand them) and riding the CC (have fun/ you do you/ don't let people control you.)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:28 PM
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Definitely emotionally distant. I asked to interact with a human, not a fucking rock. If I wanted a rock I could just go outside and get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:24 PM
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Not really wrong, in fact hardly. Because even though men and women are different, I agree with that the most, they also belong to the same species, humans. Men and women have much more in common with each other than cats and dogs, hence they're also very similar. According to me, our intelligence is our biggest advantage as well as disadvantage. It's different from where I come from, so yeah. When I say that I treat men the same way as women, I expect them to put in the same amount of effort in…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 06:23 PM
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Perhaps "truly equal" just means equal before the law. We can't change biology, and that's the only sort of equality I'd be looking for, and that I'd have the same opportunities as anyone else. You shouldn't be judged just because you lack a certain genital.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 02:14 PM
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Seriously though, when I was little I did think all dogs were male and all cats were female
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/17 02:14 AM
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Maybe not, but the origins for a lot of makeup items are interesting. And of course, mineral makeup is said to be the least harmful to your skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 07:41 PM
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Depends on what kind of makeup. Foundations and stuff, yes, I agree, it's not the healthiest, but things like Kohl were used from the Egyptians to actually heal the eyes, and it's used in India as a healing medicine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:52 PM
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There's a reason why experts are called makeup artists :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:47 PM
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It's never truly a one way street. Nothing we do is only for one reason. For me, it did start off with being for myself. I was pretty insecure about my looks the past few years as I thought I had bad features. However, once I started wearing light makeup...well, you focus on highlighting your best features, you end up studying your features well, and I realized that I had a pretty good package. The added compliments were icing on the cake. I don't really have any intention of dating or attractin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:45 PM
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Question still stands, even as an expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:41 PM
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"To what extent can you smell desperation?" What are we, dogs?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 06:37 PM
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Well, it's never going to be the same, but that's just a trade-off when you have a family, isn't it? It's like having a cat. It needs a bed, regular feedings, a change of it's litter box and toys to play with. It needs to be vaccinated. If you travel, you can't just leave it at a cattery, as cats are very territorial and may stop eating if moved from their home. You'll have to leave them at home. This means that you'll have to get someone to come in and feed them twice or thrice a day and change…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 08:10 PM
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It depends about that "travelling with kids" part. I do know a neighbor's family with two sons who went to Singapore, dropped their kids in the resort and then roamed the city, on the flip side, my family and I regularly travel to many places (mainly wildlife themed). The very same city that they went, we'd seen a side of it that they'd never heard of. Family vacations aren't going clubbing and banging hot people in foreign night clubs, yes, but there's a separate fun in them. If the kids are ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/17 07:56 PM
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What? Dogs don't exist? They're called "Man's best friends" for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/17 06:58 PM
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No, not a lot of friends, hardly any close ones. Big city. My lack of tons of friends actually comes from the thing that even though I interactions with everyone, I find it hard to truly click mentally with someone. I was also incredibly shy for the past few years and am only just emerging from my shell, and will probably start talking to people when I go to college. I would say that the shyness issue is the most prevalent with women on here looking for friends. I could be wrong though, but this…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/17 08:22 PM
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Trust is given, not demanded- my dad.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 03:43 PM
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My two cents as an Indian girl in India. The same culture that gave the world the Kama Sutra was hijacked by countless foreign invaders over centuries, and the last invasion of the British took a deep toll on the country, and specifically culturally. India was a very sex positive country before, and equality did exist, but someone came along and fucked everything up, and hence you have Indian women treated like dirt and being burnt on their husbands' pyres. Hinduism just went down hill from ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/17 12:59 PM
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That makes sense, but won't that just raise her social status, because at the end of the day, he gets no benefits, since he's sending her away. I just wanted to understand your perspective on this, and see where you were coming from. It is slightly clearer, only slightly, because from what I know, sons are still better than daughters since they can raise their social standing as well as the family's, since they carry the family name. Also, they can provide old age care to the parents when they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 06:36 PM
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Maybe there's also a domestication factor to the hidden ovulation thing? I'm not sure, but in the wild, animals generally go into heat during winters so they can have a spring litter, giving their offspring enough time to grow and a chance to survive the winter. However, domesticated animals tend to have two cycles a year, and at seemingly random times. Could that same thing also apply to humans?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 04:58 PM
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How though? In most cultures where a dowry culture exists (daughters are sold to the groom, and the bride's family also has to throw in something else), girls are seen as burdens. Maybe it was alright when families could have seven daughters and three sons to make back the money, but in increasingly progressive places where lesser number of children are preferred, this model doesn't work too well. Hence families just prefer having sons rather than daughters. Also, China's one child policy did pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/17 04:55 PM
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Anecdotal evidence yes, but I'll still share this. I changed my board of study during 11th and 12th grade to a state government run establishment. Until then I'd studied in a private school, and the crowd there was roughly equal, mostly upper middle class kids (including me) Then in the state board college, the crowd is more geared towards the lower classes, and most of them got into the college due to the minority quotas. What I saw was a voluntary segregation of the males and females the secon…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/17 03:51 AM
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I once saw a study saying that the more you look at someone the more attractive they become to you, because apparently human brains are wired to see familiar faces as attractive. So you will eventually see yourself finding him sexually attractive as well. I did see this happen with me too. I started watching this singer who I didn't think was the best looking, but the more I saw of him the more attractive he looked. If he really is a decent guy, you will develop physical attraction to him over t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 05:56 PM
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True. True. I do have a question relating to females though. What would men think about a woman who can shift voices? Such that she has an average voice out and about but can do a sultry and husky voice in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 04:50 PM
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Momoa is still a bit too dark for my tastes. If it's a beard you want, then there's always this Aquaman. On the other hand, Lobo seems to fit more with the actor's physique and feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 02:19 PM
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"Life is attracted to confidence" - my Mom
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:51 PM
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That would have been interesting, if they'd cast another person instead of Momoa. It just doesn't speak Poseidon, just "make everything dark" just like they did with Arrow. I stand by my statement that Jason Momoa was just cast wrongly. He would have made a fantastic Lobo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:49 PM
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Making him the absolute opposite...I don't even think of him as Aquaman when I look at him, but then again, Heath Ledger did make an iconic Joker. Maybe Momoa may surprise us yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 01:38 PM
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Wait...Jimin? You're a kpop fan too? I second Ben Whimshaw! I saw him in Spectre for the first time (James Bond movies aren't really my thing) and he instantly caught my eye. I watched the other James Bond movies he was in just for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 12:24 PM
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Drogo is cool, but Jason Momoa as Aquaman? What were they thinking with that casting choice? I personally see Momoa as Lobo rather than Aquaman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 12:04 PM
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I'd say that women have it easier with the voice thing, because different men like different things. Soft, sultry and low voices are sexy and mature, while sweet and high voices are cute. Different voices can attract men with different preferences. Men on the other hand seem to have only one thing with the voice: the lower, huskier voice. Keep in mind that it doesn't have to be Idris Elba type voice, even if they have a naturally higher voice, speaking softer can also be effective, though I'm no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/17 11:08 AM
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Wouldn't it also depend on what every woman constitutes as "travelling"? My family and I enjoy travelling and seeing new places, but we particularly go for wildlife themes holidays. So we mostly visit national parks and wildlife sanctuaries, and build all sorts of connections so that we can see the animals. Also, when we travelled abroad, we took our time researching and getting into the culture, right to using their public transportation. Other people I know just spent their offshore holiday sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/17 10:38 AM
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People don't really "know" whether they want kids or not. In this day and age, it is a decision purely made by the couple. Don't get put off just because you didn't have the greatest parents, because that can manifest in quite a few ways. My father was emotionally abused by his mother for the longest time, she was also a pure traditionalist "women cannot do anything except pop out kids and cook" type of woman. She compared my father to his younger brother harshly, running his sense of self-estee…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 08:37 AM
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"Zoos are apparently bonobo frat parties." Shelters, in a small area, everything is given to them at timely intervals so they don't have to do much for their day to day survival. Sounds like a college to me. And that analysis makes more sense the more you think about it. Zoo living bonobos are virtually living in college, and hence tend to get pretty frisky. In the wild, however, it is the real "dog-eat-dog" world of adulthood. Bonobos cannot exhibit the same social processes that they did in ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/17 02:58 PM
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I'm not really sure, but I would say it's similar to how musicians learn music by ear. Even when learning, if I listen to the notes being played, I can understand them better than just reading them. Yep! And my sitar teacher was taught from the same man who taught Pandit Ravi Shankar himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 05:37 PM
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Nothing very wrong with that! I've been frequently complimented by my sitar teacher who says I pick up stuff very fast, he likes to say that music is in my blood. Probably also the reason I react to music differently than others do. In this case, I'd stick close to the tree.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 05:18 PM
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Not really my mother, but my father and grandmother sang a lot, and my granduncle was a famous blind violinist in my home region. My youngest uncle also plays violin and my young cousin, my oldest cousin plays the piano and also sings. Pretty much everyone in my family has training somehow or the other 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 04:59 PM
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Nah, not even close. I just love the sound of a violin, and have a soft spot for string instruments. I play one myself, and violin has run in my family, so I guess that has something to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/17 08:14 AM
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Female. Just graduated too. Spent most of the time at home in front of the computer because classmates were weird. Still managed to top the school. How bout that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/17 02:37 PM
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Dancing, specifically hip hop and breakdancing. Also, being able to play a string instrument (special points if it's a violin, but guitar works too.) And drawing. If he can draw like his life depends on it, I'd definitely fall for him 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/17 02:32 PM
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You realize it's not just about getting the resources necessary to support a family, right? You have to know what the heck to do with those resources in the first place. And no, even SAHMs can be terrible mothers at young ages simply because of lack of life experience. Even marrying a billionaire isn't going to change that. I feel like the debate has changed to number of kids vs. quality of kids. If we're talking about number of kids, then yes, women who begin to have children at 20 can happily …
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:26 AM
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The less children the better, since you can focus entirely on them. If you have something for 30+, then let's say late twenties. However, I will seriously advise against early twenties. It's one thing to pop out ten kids, it's another to raise them into good human beings. There was a study that did say childbirth late was better, but I can't link it right now since I'm on mobile. A woman in her twenties is less likely to have her shit together, even if she has the maturity of a fifty-year-old, h…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 02:48 AM
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Not really controversial. Heck I see people looking at it like that, and I come from a very traditional country. Then again, it doesn't have to be that big of a dichotomy. While grandiose weddings may be too much, I also look at it as a family function, where both sides of the family can meet and chat, you can meet distant relatives and you can catch up with relatives you don't see all the time. Weddings are a fun occasion to bring everyone together. In the West it's different, obviously. Neithe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:54 PM
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Science says that dopamine secretions recede after 3 years, however oxytocin stays long after. Looking at this, I'd say a minimum of three years, but then again, to each his own. There is also benefits to getting married in the late twenties rather than early twenties, and if you're looking at kids, children born to women in their thirties have shown greater brain development as compared to children born to women in their early-mid twenties. That is also a factor you might want to look into. Per…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:44 PM
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That only happens in the West. In Asia, especially East Asia, the people at the top, boys or girls, are usually the most studious ones. The ones who are bitches or assholes get bumped to the bottom of the hierarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/17 12:34 AM
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I remember one post a long while ago on TRP where this user, most likely a troll but I wasn't sure, bragged about abandoning his newly divorced wife on the road at 2 in the morning. TRPers called out his bullshit and that post was deleted at once, and they did have some choice words for him too. Whatever they do, at least they've got it where it counts. Anyways, Reddit is free to do as it wishes. It is a private company.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/17 05:55 PM
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I study arts because that's the field I wish to enter (specifically psychology, but in 11 and 12 grade you choose streams.) I saw very less boys in my class, most were girls, and most of the guys weren't there because they were interested, but because they hadn't scored well enough in 10 grade to qualify for a good science college. Well, to be fair, the arts stream is seen as giving up in my country, regardless of gender, but lots more girls go for it than boys. The girls may be passionate, but …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 04:20 PM
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I don't think so. It might seem like that on the surface, because all I've talked about my family is a couple of paragraphs, but their relationship goes much, much beyond just a simple "phobia" of sorts. My father is not a perfect man, and neither is my mother a perfect woman. It is just one of his few flaws, that actually take a backseat when you look at him objectively. The things he does overpowers the few flaws in his personality. I just put up this example because someone attempted to put m…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:48 PM
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You and me both, buddy. But do fantasy SOs count?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/17 06:35 AM
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That sounds interesting, but it's not really the case in my house. My father knows his way around the kitchen well, and he actually taught my mom how to cook in the first place. Now she can manage the house amazingly. It somehow seems like because my mom is now doing her part of the arrangement he's just given up on doing anything that even resembles housework. It's at a stage where I sometimes feel lucky that he takes time out of his day to study with me (I do feel lucky, but it is a part of hi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 06:10 PM
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That's funny, my dad's the eldest of four as well! Not only that, he's also a top level management and is known to take care of his juniors, no matter who they are. And from what I can tell from my mom's stories, he did help out when I was a baby. I'm not sure where this shift happened where he doesn't even step foot in the kitchen to help out when his wife needs him. Also, while he loves our cat, he absolutely refuses to do anything for him other than feed him and smother him. I'm the one left …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 05:11 PM
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There's a lot of answers to your question, and all of them contribute at least a bit. One thing I can think of off the top of my head is that men are more disposable than women, so women have safety nets no matter what they do. Men don't, hence they tend to gravitate towards jobs that pay more in order to build a family, but they are a lot more stressful. It could also come from the male desire to work for success. Men tend to work a lot harder, much more stressful jobs and make more money becau…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 03:32 PM
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Interesting. So you're saying that if access to bare chests was restricted, then magazines like Playgirl might flourish? I had just asked a question that popped into my head when I was reading this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/17 02:00 PM
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It seems to be a mixed reaction, because the "bare-chested hot men" book covers sell, but also the magazine "Playgirl" which was focused on "bare-chested hot men" was cancelled because it didn't appeal to the perceived demographic, ie, women. It was instead popular with gay men. How would you react to that? If women were truly as visual as men, wouldn't Playgirl have sold as much as Playboy and to women, not gay men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/17 11:42 AM
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Heh, that sounds so hard! However, I wouldn't say that all men do this. Most don't. And since we're sharing anecdotes, I'll share my experience of watching my father and my uncle. The last couple of months, my mom fell and broke her hand, and the doctor refused to put her in a cast because she would just happily get back to work and not allow it to heal. In that time when she was in excruciating pain, what did my father, her partner do? Nothing. He didn't even step into the kitchen, no, he expec…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 07:21 AM
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Yep, it just keeps going with the flow
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 07:15 AM
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That makes sense. I've actually had the reverse happen to me. Although not a relationship, but I've been told by a male friend that he thought I was just a studious "always studying" type before he got to know me, but he thought I was pretty cool and interesting. Then my self esteem was so low that I thought I wasn't interesting at all. But I have seen that a lot of women feel like marrying or such leads to them becoming boring.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 06:02 AM
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This. Every member of the family is essential, and every role is extremely important.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:47 PM
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It definitely did, but that doesn't mean everyone was happy as well. People should go with the dynamic that makes them happy. The Mental Load occurs because people take on too much all at once, hence the exhaustion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/17 03:29 PM
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Really happy it could help someone! This came out of the thoughts I had when I also spoke to a few friends. It seems that the common sentiment they express against marriage is that they will stop being individuals and only be relegated to the kitchen to wait on someone hand and foot until they die. It seems common among us youngsters, but also sometimes among elders as well. So I felt this post needed to be made, haha. I didn't exactly expect it to help someone right off the bat, but since it di…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 03:15 PM
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You're welcome! I've been thinking about this for a while and wanted to make a post on it, but with exams and all (which in my country is literally a year long ordeal) it slipped my mind. I really wanted to share this on this forum though.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 02:51 PM
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Heh, my mom says virtually the same thing, although she does say that I will be crushed if someone leaves me rather than saying other men will not want me, but I guess it's implied. Sex is openly discussed in my house tho, guess we just have the boundary of "discuss and debate, but don't do." Your location will factor into this a lot. I live in country where sex is seen as taboo, and many people are virgins until marriage, so having an n count of 0 is expected from us. On the other hand, if you'…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 01:58 PM
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It depends on your specific end goal. For example, mine is to marry and have children as the end goal for the family sphere of my life. So a MGTOW for me is just avoidance behavior. If, by any chance, my end goal was instead just to share a connection with someone, then I wouldn't see any difference in between a MGTOW man or a normal man. Everything depends tldr;
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/17 02:37 PM
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Will definitely not argue with you there. It's a legitimate addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/17 01:49 PM
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So basically what you guys are saying is that when out with other people, women should rip themselves away from their phones at least for the interaction, am I correct? I can understand that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/17 01:35 PM
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I'd say not always. You can have differing views, but if you're unable to keep up with each other, then the relationship will fall. It's difficult to define what a wavelength is. Some would attribute it to intelligence, others to an ability to connect (not always equivalent to charisma.) I would say it's a mix of then and other factors. I hope this helped even a little bit. Being on the same wavelength doesn't necessarily have to mean similar interests and hobbies, although they're a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/17 12:57 PM
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Would the usage of social media count? I know the image that we have of women using social media is posting selfies all day long, but it is possible to use it for networking as well. Basically, you use social media for the reason it was created, to connect with people all over the world and hence build opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/17 07:44 AM
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To the being engaged part, it can still happen! My mother got engaged to my father before she went and got her Master's degree, she married him only after. He waited for two years for her, so if you can do it, go on ahead!
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 11:00 AM
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I think it depends on a lot of factors such as culture, values and the individuals' personalities. The culture I was raised in looks down on cohabitation prior to marriage, and I have taken upon this views. However, I do understand that living with a person changes how you view them, and a lot of people are happy while dating but then realize that their partner has a view that is incompatible with them, but they can't do anything since they're already married. I feel like these kinds if situatio…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 10:58 AM
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And how do we define that "magnitude"? Does it have to impact the entire country at once? Or should it eventually lead to suicide and depression? Please, tell me your parameters. It's never going to work out when you try to one up an entire gender. If we're talking about the West it would be a different situation, but we're talking about India. India, buddy. Not the US or UK. In India everyone suffers and then spend eternity fighting over who has it harder, just like what we're doing right now. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/17 06:51 PM
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I think you hit the nail right in the head. Just for the record, I don't believe in a patriarchy, but I do see that in India, mindsets are taught. Women believe themselves to be property the same way parents believe Arts to be for those whom society has given up on. I have seen the stats showing divorce rates and for really stupid reasons. However, there are even more people (put aside men and women for a sec) stuck in toxic marriages but can't get out of them. No one studies them because it is …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/17 06:40 PM
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"How is it misogynistic when the woman herself is perpetuating it?" It was never about it being misogynistic or not. Matter of the fact is that she is still seen as a piece of property. Why should the bride's family pay someone to marry their daughter? It's as if the groom is doing them a favor by marrying their daughter. Tell me how this doesn't perpetuate distaste for the female child? "I believe men still get the short end of the stick." So not being able to walk through a somewhat deserted r…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/17 05:58 PM
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That's adorable. We feed crows, and they're pretty demanding when we don't give them their rice exactly when they want it. Do I count as a Disney Princess? Or more Disney Villain?
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 08:57 AM
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As an another Indian, I'd say that India is terrible for everyone. Men have so many issues, but women have them too. Case in point, safety issues (for men it's more of a killing and for women a more rape type), societal pressures, a preference for the male child and illegal abortions and sex determination. I know sex determination is illegal, but it is still carried out massively and illegally. Also just the fact that something like "kanyadaan" exists is proof that Indian society sees the girl c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/17 08:33 AM
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Maybe, maybe not, but PPD is a debate sub. The purpose is to debate. And yes, if that means even debating terrorism, then so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/17 02:08 AM
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...I'm sorry...but what was the point of this post? (On a lighter note, congrats!)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/17 03:52 AM
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I will just say that I haven't had a boyfriend in my entire 18 years of life, so I haven't exactly felt that kind of attraction yet. However, I will base the qualities of my ideal guy somewhat off my own father: A natural leader. No matter the situation, he should be able to stand up and take control. Humble. Knows when he's done something wrong and owns up to his mistakes, as well as defers to his elders and takes their views into account. Confident. Is mentally sound and fit. Is comfortable in…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:58 PM
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They also have different roles for different people. My mother is the designated "food giver", so whenever he's hungry and my mom's in the room, he'll go and sit in front of the cupboard where his food is kept. He treats me like a litter mate. My dad is the random guy who comes late at night, but when he goes on tour he still misses him XD
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:33 PM
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Yeah, I know cats are different from dogs. Even though I am a dog person at heart, I've become pretty attached to my cat. I see him as my brother, and I'm an only child. I will say that from my experience, interactions with cats are mostly on their terms. They'll come to you when they want to, and you're expected to leave them alone otherwise. My cat, for some reason, wants to be in the same room as me all the time, but doesn't like physical contact all that much.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 02:50 PM
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While it is an interesting trend, the number is still very low. Even though there are more Gen-Zers likely to be conservative, the truth is that youngsters are more likely to be liberal, slowly shifting conservative as they grow
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 05:48 PM
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That's so amazing! The only squirrels I may see are dead ones if I let my cat out '
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:40 AM
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She has per squirrels??? I'm so freaking jealous right now XD
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:02 AM
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That is also a dynamic that exists. Bottom line, whether girls or guys, hardly anyone wants to commit at this "young" time in their lives and just want to play and "have fun." I will also say that peer pressure is also a factor, if you look at the stories on this subreddit
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 03:01 AM
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When people say that women have it easier in the dating world, they're referring to the casual dating world and the world of casual sex. It's no secret that a lot of younger women nowadays are just after sex and short term relationships, and that's what people refer to. When it comes to sex, women have it a lot easier. It also works because guys follow this mindset and think "well, since I'm young, might as well enjoy some sex with lots of women, right?" Men and women don't look for commitment f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 02:21 AM
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I'm not very familiar with the LGBT crowd (although I do suspect that I'm bi) since there aren't a lot of them where I live. I'm basically in a situation where there's talk of these people and I'm like "where are all these gay people?" Note I did leave out trans people, since I sometimes see trans women in the train. But I do think that regardless of sex or gender, everyone ages, and that's just the wall. The expression "hitting the wall" came from the fact that many youngsters engrossed in part…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 02:15 AM
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There are a lot of things that I could look over in my hypothetical relationship, but I draw the line at infidelity. If you want to be with someone else, divorce and then be happy, I don't care, but I do not see the point in screwing around with someone but staying married to another. Why even do that? I agree that struggles make couples stronger, but somewhere a line needs to be drawn in the sand. It differs for many people, but for me, it's drawn at cheating. I refuse to cheat on my SO no matt…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 02:07 AM
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Well, that's just marriage, I guess, and an even longer one if it's a cross cultural marriage :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:31 AM
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In India, consider it as Asia if you want to or not, but I find a similarity in the way conversations go here too. Since I was young, I was taught to listen when someone is talking and not interject. Basically speak when spoken to type of stuff, and its worked out fine for me till now. My mother and father lead me by example. When one of them talks the other does nothing but simply listen. Something must have gone right, because they've been married for 27 years. Since you're married to a Korean…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/17 04:22 PM
1

It's definitely something in between. I've heard that advice a lot too, and I know that they meant that we shouldn't date or marry a guy to manipulate him into becoming the man of our dreams. Doing so would turn us into those nagging shrews that we all hate and fear. On the other hand, as his partner, you are supposed to be supportive and offer a helping hand when he asks for it. All in all, don't manipulate, grow with him, because time changes people whether you like it or not. Just go with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/17 09:19 AM
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Can confirm. Since meditating I feel lighter and more positive
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:04 PM
1

Vipassana? I may need to check it out
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:03 PM
1

Have you thought about doing a bit of meditation at home itself? My mother and I meditate in a closed room with a small lit candle.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 02:02 PM
1

I can relate to that. Never have I felt more at peace than when I'm in a forest or in the presence of an animal. Nature is amazing
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:49 AM
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Interesting...have you by any chance also checked out the Vedas and the tripitakas? They're the holy books of Buddhists (although I may not be spelling it right)
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 09:48 AM
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I may be uneducated on this, but last I heard, Ancient Egypt was pretty egalitarian. Both men and women held similar views, wore makeup and women could own property as well. Correct me if I'm wrong. I will also say that Ancient India before it had any contact with foreigners. Outside forces as well as time skewed with the teachings of the past generations to end up with the kind of misogynistic society we have currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/17 07:22 PM
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India
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 03:26 PM
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Are we entirely sure of the situation and the reason she's a single mother? I'd say, until we know everything, reserve judgement. I come from a culture that looks down on divorce and single Parenthood, so I have picked up a few views from there, also my own upbringing. I know no one who was raised by a single parent, and both my parents are my heroes. The thought of not being with either scares me. I will state that my country looks down on divorce, but it glorifies widows and wives of martyrs, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 02:39 PM
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It's a wide spectrum as well! Not pregnant (too young) but from what my mom told me, I was an extremely baby. When her water broke she expected to be put on a stretcher and then taken to the delivery room with everyone freaking out (she saw all that in movies.) Imagine her surprise when her doctor told her that she was perfectly fine, handed her an IV and then walked her to the delivery room. I was out in the second push and my parents do tell me I was easy to raise as well. Too many horror stor…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/17 09:21 AM
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The best reply I have ever seen!
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:50 AM
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Religion has different facets. As a Hindu, some people take it literally, some people just are and others are virtually atheists. For me, RP behavior and religion have nothing to do with each other. The things preached by religion are preached as common sense as well, so whether you are religious or not it doesn't matter.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:18 AM
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There are a lot of variables to take into account that no one can find a solution for all. Personality, ability, situation, education level, number of kids and their personalities, family situation, inflation, etc. All of these impact different people differently and there's no "one size fits all". I will say that it might help mothers to get back into the work force once their children are grown up. I find that once their children become independent and with all the technological advancements, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:07 AM
2

The entitlement is so strong with this one I couldn't even get to the end
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 09:48 AM
1

Keyword being "good"
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:41 PM
1

India, liberal metropolitan city but moderate-conservative upbringing
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:36 PM
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In a way, that's literally how society forms
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:34 PM
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I definitely agree with you there. I don't agree with daycare, but I would push for grandparents, as they've already raised you before. So while you're looking down at the baby like "what's this pile of flesh?" they're already reading the baby's signals and guiding you. Then again, different cultures. Even in my country I'm seeing parents raising their kids by themselves, but I will say that parenting books and blogs can only get you so far. As far as I've seen, families with elders have general…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:30 PM
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But are we absolutely sure that she's a full on narcissistic ego driven asshole who cares about herself more than her own child? I mean, we only know the child's point of view. That being said, a child without parents is definitely a ticking time bomb. It will show up, if not now then later.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:27 PM
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Heh, I guess. All too often I have to remind myself that I'm from a different country entirely, and things over here are different, sometimes even the concept of "family" can change drastically.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:24 PM
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She did? She should take a parenting class! We'd all join! I mean, look at us measly little paupers with two married parents and grandparents who stayed and helped during the child's infancy. Not to mention the continuous mentoring and guidance throughout the years! Clearly we must be doing something wrong. /s
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:22 PM
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Is it? Because it's thrown around a lot where I'm from. Maybe the contexts we're looking at it from are different. Where I come from, all it says is that a child needs two parents and during infancy the grandparents are an asset. If you assumed that I was implying that society itself should raise children, I apologize. Children are only the responsibility of the families they belong to and the society should focus on other things rather than raising children who should be raised by their parents…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:13 PM
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There is a saying that always goes around; "It takes a village to raise a child." But I really don't get when people complain that raising a child was hard. Did they think they were a breeze to raise? What were they expecting, a stuff toy?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 08:02 PM
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She probably is only in her 20s or so, the right age for all this stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 02:30 AM
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I'm not sure whether this is considered "feminine", but I write a lot, and it's one skill I really pride myself by. Also, music, I play the sitar. So...Art, writing and music for me. But truly feminine stuff? I make a mean bowl of ramen
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 09:56 AM
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I'm unsure where I heard this, but it's stayed with me for a long time. "(S)he who has more gratitude, will get everything they asked for. Whereas s(he) who has less gratitude, even what they have shall be taken from them."
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/17 05:32 AM
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I do see why women would prefer to work part time. Beyond a certain age, as the children grow independent, taking care of the house is also done by machines most of the time. Hence, many women end up sitting on the couch watching TV. They'd rather use the extra free time they have to bring in some extra cash
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/17 04:09 PM
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It doesn't have to be dangerous to her. It's the way he flipped out that was scary. Just so we're clear, I'm not a feminist, but only someone dumb would say that the Beast was not a dangerous creature or was not mentally ill
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 05:21 PM
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The moment when he goes crazy and begins to thrash the room around him. Okay, maybe I worded it wrong, but needless to say, that creature was screwed up big
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 05:15 PM
1

Oh, I meant the extremely dark themes. The idea of Stockholm's Syndrome, is pretty dark and pretty fucked up in my opinion, especially as Belle had to give up her freedom in order to save her father. Also the blatant domestic violence doesn't escape me now. It was one screwed up story
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 04:45 PM
1

I used to read a lot of Dark Fantasy and High Fantasy stuff a few years back. Now I write more, and my stories are influenced by dark themes
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/17 03:05 PM
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Being a teacher is one of the greatest honors in the world. The opportunity to guide the next generation into being better than the last? I'd see that as the greatest job on Earth! (For the record though, I do plan to go into Animal Behavior, although I hold teachers and guides in very high regard)
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 08:25 PM
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I grew up watching the animated Beauty and the Beast. Only today do I realize the sort of stuff that went on in that movie. Probably added to my interest in dark stories
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/17 07:45 PM
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Big difference between insecurity and submission. Insecurity is never attractive as it is a personality issue. Men are attracted to confidence, I would say life is attracted to confidence. Submission =/= Insecurity. You can be submissive and confident, and you can also be dominant and insecure. What you talk about is insecurity, which is an issue meant to be addressed. It is not the same as submission.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/17 11:07 AM
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I've seen this situation once, and yes, it was an arranged marriage and the girl didn't do a thing like you did, but it ended one way. Suicide. Get the hell out of there, because you're lucky to be in a culture where your parents support your decisions, and can help you get out of that situation. The girl I knew? The poor thing had no choice but to stay with her husband because her parents refused to hear her pleas. Eventually, she found her own way out of it. Even normally, cheating is inexcusa…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 04:27 PM
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You and I are a lot alike in that regard then! I too have no relationship experience, but I don't think you should let that bother you. I would say college is a good place to lock down a man, because the current trend is that people pair off in their twenties and get married in their late twenties. And like people on here say, vet, vet, vet!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/17 06:05 AM
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