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This list gives great ideas for brainstorming. As pointed out already, being present is the most important thing. For example, let's say you have a coffee date. You both order, and sit down, and she's still not offered a topic to start the conversation. No problem, the most obvious questions have to do with where you are. For example, "So, are you new to <the town you're in>?" If you're a native or an old-timer, there are two possibilities. If she is new, then you can use things about this place…
/r/seduction05/01/20 07:52 PM
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It seems from this comment that you are very lonely. I have experienced extended times of loneliness, as well, so I'm not just spouting off. I sympathize with what you're expressing. If you have an unusual social handicap (e.g. a medical condition), this can cause serious obstacles to finding your dream partner. But what I'm trying to say is that obstacles are difficulties, they are not impossibilities. From a place of loneliness and discouragement, this can seem absolutely false. But even in th…
/r/seduction02/01/20 07:19 PM
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It's a complicated topic because it just depends on context, body language, etc. If you meet a girl and she digs you and you guys agree to go for a drink and she signals that she is comfortable with kino, then it's perfectly appropriate to "lean in" and make physical contact, right away. In fact, if she's initiating kino, that's a sure sign you need to reciprocate or get friend-zoned. But most of the time, this won't be the case. So, as a rule-of-thumb, you should just get it out of your head be…
/r/seduction02/01/20 07:38 AM
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I'm not actually responding to what you said, just want to clarify that when I use the term "perfect-10", I only use it to denote whatever other guys think that means, because I entirely reject the whole 1-10 scale. In my view, she's either "got it", or she doesn't. Assigning numbers is an exercise in absurdity, IMO. In any case, lots of guys use the 1-10 scale and I'm not hating on it. It's just not how I roll. Carry on...
/r/seduction02/01/20 05:46 AM
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The whole boys will be boys culture, locker room culture, etc., discourages development of emotional intelligence It also drives away young men with emotional intelligence from those activities. So, it's a double-loss. Who knows how many great football legends never came to be because a smart, athletic young man who would have been gold on the field got fed up with the vulgar talk and behavior that defines some locker rooms and just left the sports program. This, in turn, fuels the myth that "ni…
/r/seduction02/01/20 03:52 AM
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If you have a 5% chance of making it with a perfect-10, and let's say that just 10% of women are a perfect-10 (a ridiculously low percentage unless you have some weird fetish that prevents you from seeing beauty in most women), then there are 20 million perfect-10 women out there that you could make it with. It's true you're going to have to search for a minute. Sooner or later, though, you'll find the one. Numbers aside, the real issue is that you have no idea what a woman is going to think of …
/r/seduction02/01/20 03:35 AM
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Fair enough. I'm just explaining the thoughts I had about this. I don't discourage anybody who wants to go into the coaching profession from doing that. I have sometimes felt the calling but I'm pretty on the fence about it. Maybe I'll dip my toes in the water somewhere down the line, and see how it goes.
/r/seduction02/01/20 01:55 AM
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I've thought about doing it but the problem is I can't get over how obscene it is that there is even a need for this in our society. The problem is caused by years of indoctrination in toxic schools that tear down the natural self-esteem we are each born with. I'm not saying there aren't a few guys that have naturally low self-esteem and need a leg up in life. There's those guys, too. But the toxic modern school system is a manufacturing plant for low self-esteem. So why should young men just gr…
/r/seduction02/01/20 12:29 AM
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I mean, I'm not going to force you to leave your prison. If you want to stay shackled under self-imposed limitations, that's your choice. It's a free world, do as you like.
/r/seduction01/01/20 11:58 PM
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Perfect-10 publicly admits her closet relationship with a freak outcast, even at the cost of extreme public humiliation because she really likes him as a person... and they end up together in the end. (Sorry about the spoilers, folks, lol.) IMO, it's hard to imagine a better example. In my experience, most perfect-10s don't think of themselves as perfect-10s and are carrying around a lot of emotional baggage from the tsunami of misogynistic treatment they've been subjected to, as a direct result…
/r/seduction01/01/20 06:00 PM
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gain more confidence! Confidence is key, don't let anybody else define who you are, not even me... Happy New Year!
/r/seduction01/01/20 05:41 PM
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^ This Also, a good rule-of-thumb for someone who is a strong eye-contact individual (I am also a strong eye-contact individual) is to try to reflect their overall eye-contact ratio back to them. I'm comfortable up to about 80-90% eye-contact with someone I like speaking to (male or female, it's not an attraction thing, it's just how I talk). Some people are also strong eye-contact individuals and will meet you at that 80-90% threshold. 100% is unnerving for anybody, in my opinion... it quickly …
/r/seduction01/01/20 05:36 PM
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Movie viewing homework: The 40 Year Old Virgin and Long Shot (2019). For starters, I was never popular in highschool. I wasn't the loser or the weird kid, I was just there. I know I'm not a 10/10 or even an 8/10. Popularity is a categorization that exists only in your own skull. Meditate on that. Write it 100x on a sheet of paper until it sinks in. Frame it and put it on your wall to remind you, daily. You talk as though you have a "popularity score" stamped on your forehead. Nonsense. You're wh…
/r/seduction01/01/20 05:25 PM
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haven’t experienced any funky or strange odors yet On many occasions, I bodily tackled my ex to the bed when she got back from the gym, dripping in sweat, because she was sexy as hell. We didn't 69 but that's only because she wouldn't let me (too self-conscious) not because of any objections I had to it. When you're that intimate with one partner for that long, you've sniffed everything. So, OP's remark, "Sniff it. Is this what you've been chasing?" makes me think that (a) OP is likely a virgin,…
/r/seduction01/01/20 05:12 PM
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Seriously. Next time you fu*k a pretty girl—have her lay on her stomach, then spread her asscheeks apart and look at it. Sniff it. Is this what you've been chasing? Yeah, I stopped reading here. OP creates an air of knowing what he's talking about but these are the ramblings of a pretentious virgin. Any woman that showers regularly and cleans herself properly will smell great down below, as anywhere else on her body. Is there something objectionable in the view of a hot girl's spread ass cheeks?…
/r/seduction01/01/20 05:44 AM
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I think the maximum of sex is reached by getting in an LTR with a nympho. She will bang you until you're sore, and then ask to go for another round. You'll never pick up enough women to do that, there just aren't enough hours in the day.
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:01 AM
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I do like a man to be traditional, chivalrous and all of that stuff. This is the point that irritates me about all the modern SJW stuff. I believe men and women are and ought to be morally and legally equal. But many women and many men desire to play the chivalrous roles with one another because... it's sexy af. If both parties want to do that, then it's 100% consensual and there's nothing "patriarchalist" about it. The other thing that is irritating is this new breed of woman that sends a non-s…
/r/seduction09/12/19 07:06 AM
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Also abt the forehead tip are u sure I should put on makeup? I guess I will try that out so hopefully it helps. As we age, many of us men use a little highlighter/shadow makeup to reduce the visible effects of aging on the face. A little highlight under the lower eyelid, for example, can do miracles for removing that "tired, baggy-eyed" look. The key is to do it properly, otherwise, you'll look like a clown. Done right, no one will know unless you tell them.
/r/seduction08/12/19 09:00 PM
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I have also been reading GTD This is a great book. Implement it and you will go places, seriously. It's not about the flowchart, it's about the basic mental habit of, literally, getting things done. I kinda have a big forehead I highly recommend watching the TLC series What Not to Wear if you have access to it through subscription. If not, you can pay to watch it a al carte on YT for $2 an episode. That's pricey but given that overcoming this flaw in your looks is, obviously, important to you, I…
/r/seduction08/12/19 04:50 AM
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I didn’t follow a particular structure, no lines or stories. I didn’t go out expecting to meet someone. Life just kinda happened. This! A thousand times this! In the mad rush to find "The Holy Grail Formula to Automatically Get Laid with Any Girl" (sorry, folks, this doesn't exist), so many guys miss the fact that IRL connections are virtually always of the kind you have related here. She could have been frigid when she turned around and given you the "Umm, can I help you?" snapback. If that had…
/r/seduction08/12/19 04:27 AM
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this is the biggest burden on my life i want to change that now I think it's safe to say that most males in your age bracket feels exactly as you do during those years. There's nothing I'm going to say here that's going to magically get you a date but here are some tips that will hopefully help you: Don't measure yourself against other guys, ever. Be yourself. This is not automatic, it takes time, determination and, most of all, courage. You have to become willing to be criticized. Let the criti…
/r/seduction08/12/19 04:13 AM
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In a club, the rules are different because a significant percentage of the adults in the room are there for one reason -- to find somebody to sleep with tonight. Approach is expected and if you're waiting to get eye-contact in a club, you're not doing it right.
/r/seduction06/12/19 04:25 AM
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Is there really any risk at all, why is it so hard to say "hey, you're cute, can I get your number." I find it so unnatural and yet it seems like some people use this approach on a daily basis and people don't bat an eye, so why do I freeze up and not tell someone what I'm thinking. Don't worry about what other people seem to do or not do. Just be you. Context is key. If you're walking through the mall and see a cute girl with three of her girlfriends, you're probably going to seem socially awkw…
/r/seduction05/12/19 03:19 AM
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Keep in mind that eye-contact does not translate to any specific message. You might remind her of her brother or a friend from class and maybe she was just checking to see if she knows you. There is no "guaranteed formula" and that seems to be what a lot of guys on this sub are looking for. Getting turned down can be painful (it's really not difficult most of the time, but it can get a little uncomfortable on occasion). Accepting the possibility of that pain is key to making solid approaches. "H…
/r/seduction02/12/19 02:09 AM
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In non-clubbing contexts, this is a good rule of thumb. "She looked twice." Doesn't mean she wants to date, necessarily, but it does mean that there was something she thought she saw that was worth confirming/looking over a second time. As for a guy annoying a girl who isn't actually interested in him, the easy solution to this is to approach, briefly and politely express interest, allow her to respond on her own terms (don't pressure/"frame"/sales-pitch), and if it's negatory, just move along. …
/r/seduction02/12/19 01:56 AM
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Not really. The point is that it doesn't matter. It's a free world and a pub or club or any similar venue is a public space. She could have stayed at home but, instead, has chosen to put herself in this public space. So, it's fair game to walk up to her and introduce yourself. tl;dr below You are going to get more cold reactions than warm reactions for the same reason that a cold-contact salesman does -- most people are going to assume you're trying to sell them some overpriced gadget that they …
/r/seduction02/12/19 01:48 AM
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post-MeToo era LOL, shit just got real...
/r/seduction30/11/19 08:16 PM
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1) Signaling. When you look at her and you're interested in her, it shows on your face and in your behavior (you don't need to "do" anything, it just happens automatically, you can't hide it unless you specifically practice how to do that and, even then, it's hard.) The same is true for her, so read her signals. You know when someone likes you because they will act playful and open and they will solicit your approval -- this will show up in what they say, their tone-of-voice, their facial expres…
/r/seduction28/11/19 01:25 AM
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Don't approach women who have headphones in (gym, street, etc) On the street/bus, this is a pretty decent rule as one of the primary reasons for having headphones in is to avoid unwanted interactions ... and there are plenty of those in the public context. But in the gym or in a cafe, not so much. The reason is that you "belong" in that context (since you are a gym-member or paying customer of the cafe), so there is a much lower probability (from her perspective) that you are one of those highly…
/r/seduction28/11/19 01:12 AM
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OK, I'm going to give away the crown jewels on this subject (I'm just in one of those moods)... you won't find this in any pick-up book and it's not really about pick-up anyway, it's about dealing flexibly with social situations in general. 1) Always have a pretext. Pretext is any superficial reason for initiating polite contact with a stranger. In certain cultures, there are ready-made pretexts available to pretty much everybody in pretty much all social contexts. An example is the common prete…
/r/seduction21/11/19 06:51 AM
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how ... is rating woman bad? Give me a better thoroughly explanation and I would write mine. Read my responses carefully -- I did not say it is "bad" to rate a woman's appearance. It is juvenile, however. Everybody has done it or still does it in the right context. The point is that it's no way to pick a date or regulate your love-life. This has nothing to do with morality, it has everything to do with achieving your own stated objectives. If you would like to sleep with women you find desirable…
/r/seduction20/11/19 02:51 AM
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If you don't like my advice, feel free to ignore it. But don't ask for advice and then complain when someone gives it to you. As I said, it's not the advice you want but it is the advice you need.
/r/seduction19/11/19 08:57 PM
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not as attractive as I desire That's because you're asleep. "Every person you look at; you can see the universe in their eyes, if you're really looking." - George Carlin Wake the f** up and stop complaining.
/r/seduction19/11/19 08:56 PM
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Then stop bitching that you can't get an 8 or 9. Put a bag on her head, bend her over the bed and go to town.
/r/seduction19/11/19 08:55 PM
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What's wrong with him wanting to fuck better-looking girls then he currently is? The real question is why is he fucking girls he doesn't find attractive?
/r/seduction19/11/19 04:27 PM
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Agreed. I especially liked the idea of shifting one's focus from the end-result to the path that leads to the end-result. The purpose of shifting focus is not because you have despaired of reaching that end-result. Rather, the purpose of shifting focus is to amplify the probability of success (actually achieving the end-result) by re-training the brain to stop resisting the ingredients of success. In the case of getting ripped, one of the necessary ingredients of success is regularly pushing hea…
/r/seduction19/11/19 05:09 AM
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hoping for some advice Well, this probably isn't the advice you want but, based on what you've said, it's the advice you need. Ranking women by appearance as "1-10" can be fun when you're bullshitting with your buddies. Which Swimsuit Edition model is hotter. And so on. But that's just time-pass BS. If you take it seriously, then you have an emotional problem and this is going to show, socially. It's ugly, and women can see it in you a mile away. Always go for your 10. Note that I said "your" 10…
/r/seduction19/11/19 02:38 AM
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The mentality itself is the problem...
/r/seduction19/11/19 02:31 AM
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NG in PUA theory is defined to be beta. But that's what's wrong with PUA theory. Of course you should be a decent person, in every sense of the word, "decent." That means being a gentleman, holding the door for a lady, listening intently when you're in a conversation, not always taking the last word, and so on. Anyone who says otherwise is, well, a beta according to their own system of classification.
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:22 AM
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Do you think that ... you are the only one that going to make her day by asking for her number or out? It depends on the individual. Given that she has a boyfriend of 3 years, she's probably not signed up on dating apps and aggressively marketing herself on social media (not always the case, but often). So, the "worst-case scenario" (she already has a boyfriend) isn't so bad... you're still giving her a compliment and she's gonna feel that. It's just one more reason for guys to stop clamming up …
/r/seduction12/11/19 03:47 PM
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beta and alpha males Alpha/beta is pretty much a steaming pile of horseshit. The evolutionary roots of the human psyche are in what evolutionary psychologists term the Ancestral Environment. In that environment, there really was an alpha/beta division and hierarchy. This division and hierarchy did not disappear with the Agriculatural Revolution that all but completely changed the way humans interact with one another, but it has become increasingly irrelevant and, in the 21st-century, the only co…
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:53 AM
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At this point, the conversation became more lively Guys, if you're taking notes, write this down. As long as you're not creeping, asking a girl for her number or if she's single and available for a date, etc. is probably the best compliment she's going to get all week, or maybe even all month. If you play it cool and don't get all bitchy that you "got rejected", and make a little chit-chat afterwards to break any tension in the air, she's going to have a smile and you're going to get a massive c…
/r/seduction12/11/19 04:51 AM
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they ain't got shit on women when it comes to that HELL HATH NO FURY
/r/seduction12/11/19 03:47 AM
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1) Never wing with somebody who's game is next level to yours. You need to ratio match with somebody who's in a similar confidence bracket as yourself. 2) Remember, you're not trying to "get laid", you're trying to improve yourself, as a man. Building self-confidence is part of self-improvement and it pays dividends in all areas of life, including romance. But if you're just focused on "getting laid", you won't build real self-confidence and that will show you up every time you find yourself sta…
/r/seduction12/11/19 03:42 AM
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Clean is your baseline. You need to be clean at all times and you will smell clean. People who bathe in cologne often do so in order to cover up the fact that they are lazy and neglect personal hygiene. This creates "the worst of all worlds" since a cologne does not actually remove the offensive odor, it's just a (poor) distraction. With proper hygiene, a quality cologne doesn't need to be applied in heavy doses. Have you ever walked into or past a Nordstrom's and been hit with "the scent"... th…
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:50 AM
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What people refer to as "soap scent" is actually lavender. It's one of the most common cologne ingredients. While lavender is an excellent note in a full-bodied cologne, you're basically advising to wear a shitty cologne.
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:42 AM
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Whatever you choose; buy from a reputable store! Macys etc. Not amazon. Confirmed! I got burnt big time buying "half price" cologne from Overstock. They shipped me some tester shit that was watered down with knockoff that doesn't smell like the original. NEVER AGAIN. As with any cologne; USE SPARINGLY!! You don't need the scent to enter the room 20 mins before you do. 1 spray. Maybe 3. NOT 8!! This is such a struggle. Some of my favorite colognes have all the right notes, but they are just not v…
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:40 AM
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it’s success is it’s downfall This is so true. I'm not the kind of guy who spends a lot of time shopping for clothes -- I just find the whole experience irritating and I have pretty mainstream tastes, so I just buy basic, mainstream clothes that look good to me. But fragrance is another matter, altogether. Sure, you can buy the big brands that get splashed all over the Super Bowl ads. But then, you will literally smell like everybody else. And that shit is boring. Invest some time, buy a fragran…
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:36 AM
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About 10 years ago, I noticed that the cologne section in all the big department stores began to shift away from rugged fragrances (woodsy, leathery, etc.) into aqua/floral/citrus/candy fragrances. While there is nothing wrong with these youthful fragrances, they don't send the message I want to send in most situations. If I'm chilling at the beach and just want to enjoy the sunset, drink a beer and connect with the moment, a good aqua scent is perfect. But if I'm putting on my game stance in th…
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:24 AM
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any cologne from John Varvatos Yes. Slay them all with this cologne (original is best, IMO).
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:09 AM
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Get her talking about herself, especially her past (assuming it's not traumatic, some people seriously can't talk about their past due to all the negativity). Camping trips, traveling, vacations, good times hanging out playing games or sports, stupid shit that people said or did. While she's talking, think about where to go next... arcade, movie, whatever. Get her talking about herself to create a little momentum and then change contexts to keep that momentum going.
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:08 AM
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Not all of us are Stacys I disagree. You have an inner Stacy, every woman does. Find her. I have given this same advice to guys on this sub, so this isn't a gender-specific thing. It's a self-esteem thing. And it's not superficial, like "learn to love your curves" (or whatever flaws you have, we all have flaws). No, it's about finding the beauty you have and learning to evaluate yourself on that basis, instead of accepting the assessment of your inner critic who is always telling us, "You're not…
/r/seduction09/11/19 06:56 PM
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This question is a great opportunity to clarify confusion I see frequently on seddit. Guys tend to think of "intentions" as binary -- either we're seriously on a date, or we're just hanging out. Women do not think this way, in general. For them, it's a sliding scale. This is so important because the whole concept of being "friendzoned" is mostly bogus[1]. Hanging out with a girl as "just friends" automatically makes you 50% a date. If you're in a group with her, it's not 50% but it's still maybe…
/r/seduction09/11/19 06:08 PM
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"Do not break the touch barrier at work" is a good rule but there are (important) exceptions to it. It is appropriate in Western countries to shake hands when greeting (especially on the first greeting). Elbows to fingers is, in general, a "safe zone", given that we're talking about brief, ephemeral contact, like "tapping a shoulder". But unless she's your wife or girlfriend, you really want to stay away from any other contact. Even if she is OK with it, your coworkers may misunderstand what is …
/r/seduction09/11/19 05:56 PM
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You get bonus creep points if you're her boss... sheesh
/r/seduction09/11/19 05:44 PM
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Sorry for OT post but is Reddit acting weird for anybody else? Number of comments for threads doesn't match the number of actual (visible) comments...
/r/seduction27/10/19 11:51 PM
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Honestly you’ve made me feel pretty foolish about all of this, but that’s probably exactly what I needed. Thank you stranger. You're not foolish, I'm just trying to reconcile the obvious importance you place on keeping sex inside of marriage only, while neglecting the pathways that are most likely to bring about the desired result (dating within the Christian community). Note that the vast majority of Americans are nominally Christian (if you were baptized as an infant in the Catholic church, fo…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:22 PM
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Reddit ate my post, I guess? Here it is, again: I'm trying to defeat my low self esteem and self confidence. You're on the right track and you're doing the #1 most important thing... you're doing something! A big factor is that I basically go from "holy shit im actually hot af and it's my personality that's holding me back severely" to "holy shit when did I become THAT ugly???" Over and over and over multiple times a day. Have you seen those websites with pics of celebs at awkward angles? The ho…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:15 PM
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As far as me flirting with a girl and being myself, I physically ache attempting to maintain eye contact with any girl that meets my minimum threshold for "i wanna fuck her" - I feel like a creep just looking at them. Even though I know there's nothing wrong with it and Im a regular person. Don't try to solve every problem all at once. You're doing some of the most important things already... you're taking action, you're improving yourself, and so on. These are not a complete solution but they a…
/r/seduction27/10/19 08:13 PM
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I'm trying to defeat my low self esteem and self confidence. You're on the right track and you're doing the #1 most important thing... you're doing something! A big factor is that I basically go from "holy shit im actually hot af and it's my personality that's holding me back severely" to "holy shit when did I become THAT ugly???" Over and over and over multiple times a day. Have you seen those websites with pics of celebs at awkward angles? The hottest 10 (male or female) can look like a comple…
/r/seduction27/10/19 07:39 PM
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Insecurity. Many women have become trapped in the "beauty rat-race". Just like some guys always have to buy more and bigger toys to feel like a worthy human being (value comes from what you own), so some women are trapped in the feeling that there is some imperfection/flaw that they have to eradicate in order to get to the "next level" of beauty/perfection (value comes from physical flawlessness). She needs constant validation that she is attractive and when she throws an IOI at you and you don'…
/r/seduction27/10/19 06:53 PM
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I love Jesus and believe that sex is made for marriage. I'm a little confused as to why your family (parents/relatives) isn't helping you out with meeting somebody. I was raised Christian and most Christian families I know tend to try to help the females get connected (sometimes also the males but it's not as much). At this point, I’m very happy to say yes to an actual date. But my worry is that we have different expectations for how it’s going to go. I’m not gonna have sex with him, but I’m als…
/r/seduction27/10/19 06:32 PM
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Biology ensures that you already know everything you need to know. Stop over-thinking and just be present. Don't form preconceived expectations for any particular outcome. Just enjoy yourself and she will enjoy herself and that's the key. If everyone is having a good time, the outcome doesn't matter. This is the true meaning of non-attachment to outcomes, not all the BS about negging or pretending that you've gotten laid a million times before when you're actually a virgin or that you have a mil…
/r/seduction27/10/19 06:08 PM
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1) Be yourself, your real self. This means: stop caring what other people think about you. Nature is heartless. She has programmed our young brains to be deathly terrified of the negative opinions of our peers because, in the Savanna, we had to learn quickly or we'd be eaten by the next large predator that happened to walk by. By the time you're 14-16 years old, this natural programming no longer serves any useful function. Stop caring what people think and just be yourself. 2) Meeting women is …
/r/seduction17/10/19 03:12 AM
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interesting points on older women, would the same (similar) apply to girls my age as well? so 21. Maybe, maybe not. I know it's not a popular subject (even on this sub) but the fact is that Nature has geared the young adult female mind to prefer a mate that is more mature/well-established than she is. This is the reason why many boys who had an easy time making female friends (or had a girlfriend or girlfriends) before high-school suddenly find themselves unable to get dates in high-school and c…
/r/seduction17/10/19 02:43 AM
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But I literally never catch women looking at me, when I’m on my way to places in malls, downtown, busy areas, in classes, etc. If you think the cougar in the ticket booth selling you movie tickets or bus tickets isn't mentally undressing you and having all kinds of dirty thoughts about what she would do to you in bed, you're, well, you don't realize how the female mind works. Which is perfectly OK, none of us completely understands the minds of others. Start by noticing how women who are a bit o…
/r/seduction14/10/19 04:26 AM
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i'm ok with public embarrassment. OK. But that's not really my point. The point is that who you truly are inside (the thoughts/feelings that you believe no one else knows) is accurately reflected by your face and body language to the rest of society. Evolution actually built these involuntary mechanisms as a way to signal relative reproductive fitness. One role of involuntary signaling of internal states-of-mind (through facial expressions, body language and tone-of-voice) is improving the colle…
/r/seduction14/10/19 02:10 AM
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can a bad attitude be spotted in someone by their appearance? Yep, from a mile away. do girls avoid us because they know we have a bad attitude, do they know before we approach or is it while we are talking? Both! how can we fix it? By changing your attitude. This is the only non-douche way to fix it. Douchebags want to keep their bad attitude but then try to "hack" their appearance to seem suave/chill. There are some girls who fall for that, at least once. But the right way to go is to fix your…
/r/seduction14/10/19 01:53 AM
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I think you answered your own question. You really can't know that she's single, you can only know if she considers herself available. Basically, look for anything/everything that is the opposite of cock-blocking. I would argue that one of the most reliable indicators of availability/interest is if she laughs at things you say, even if they're not especially funny. We all do this when we are subconsciously eager to convey to the other party that we consider their attention valuable. This is why …
/r/seduction04/10/19 01:25 AM
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Do you have fam? Just do/say the same things you would with them, just tone it down and don't be offensive. Also, don't use so-called "negs" until you really know what you're doing. The only right way to neg is to use it as a springboard to give her a compliment or to make her laugh, I don't care what the PUAs say. "Ribbing" is a better description. The goal is to elicit a laugh and the best way to do that is to use self-deprecation. "Oh my god, your hair got totally soaked from the rain, you al…
/r/seduction01/10/19 05:01 AM
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What are you doing, right now, to improve yourself, as a person? I'm asking about things like job, school, life skills, civic participation, etc.
/r/seduction30/09/19 12:20 AM
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So would it be best to go up to her and ask her out on a date instead of a “hangout” for this upcoming Saturday the next time I see her or just carry out with the hangout, and if things go well, ask her out on an actual date? If you guys hang out Saturday, just treat it like a de facto date. When you have the opportunity, ask her out on another date (this time, propose something more well-defined than "hanging out.") See what you did there? :)
/r/seduction29/09/19 04:42 AM
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bad bot
/r/seduction29/09/19 04:40 AM
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I'm pretty traditional in my approach. Just do it like they show in the movies. Create a lull in the conversation, make eye contact, and begin to move in. If she holds her stance and closes her eyes, that's a green-light... just do it.
/r/seduction29/09/19 04:39 AM
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Just ask. Don't ask her if she would "like to start dating", just ask her on a date. This lowers the commitment bar and it's a de facto yes to dating. The worst case is she declines. No big deal, if she declines, just brush it off, "No problem, school comes first. Maybe sometime later." Give it a term or two and then ask again, if you're still interested.
/r/seduction29/09/19 04:25 AM
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assuming she wanted to get to know me first This was your mistake. Assumptions are always dangerous. The correct mental orientation for a date is, "If You Like". We can get another round of drinks, if you like. We can go somewhere more private, if you like. We can make out, if you like. And so on. This leaves the door open for her to walk through as far as she likes. You're not creeping on her by trying to drag her into something she's not ready for, but you're also not closing the door ahead of…
/r/seduction28/09/19 07:22 PM
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Great post. Everyone is unique. Conventional taste is common, by definition, but the world is a big place and there are lots of people out there with unconventional tastes. Your goofball-misfit self is somebody else's dream. Go be the dream!
/r/seduction28/09/19 02:48 AM
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It's like dancing. There is an ebb and flow. If you're all flow, no ebb, you're going to suffocate her and she's going to get rigid and the experience will stop being enjoyable for her. She may have started out willing to sleep with you but then got talked out of it by your pushiness. Feeling her out means finding where her boundaries are, non-verbally, in a way that allows her to clearly signal them without having to bodily throw you off of her. When you hit resistance, it might be a red-light …
/r/seduction26/09/19 07:54 PM
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She means that she's not going to sleep with you since she already has a boyfriend.... <.<
/r/seduction26/09/19 04:04 AM
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won’t even let me hug her for longer than 4 secs goodbye Uhhhh...
/r/seduction26/09/19 04:02 AM
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Context is key. Work, grocery store, nightclub, vacation beach... these are all very different contexts and how women behave is very different in each context. It absolutely does happen that women initiate. It is usually subtle but if you're paying attention, you will definitely notice it.
/r/seduction26/09/19 03:59 AM
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To clarify, "Make yourself the focus" means making yourself the focus in that moment. For example, a clown making a balloon animal for a young child at a birthday party is entertaining to the child precisely because he is doing all these goofy/fun things while making the balloon. But he's not bleeding all over the kids about his abusive parents, his shitty exes, his boring job and his pointless existence. Nor is he bragging about how many hot women he's scored and the grades he got in clown scho…
/r/seduction24/09/19 04:02 PM
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Looks matter in the sense that, if you weren't born with the chiseled features of a Greek god, you will want to emphasize the other things you have to offer, which is the point you make in your post. In other words, people born with good looks don't have to try quite as hard. But, as long as you're willing to try, you too can succeed. 99% of the whining on this sub about "Chads" is really just the result of laziness. You don't want to put out the effort required to put your best foot forward. So…
/r/seduction24/09/19 03:48 PM
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When you say "25-30", are you going to be checking IDs? I'm not far from your age and, I don't know about other people, but I find it almost impossible to guess the age of some women, for example, some famous singers/actresses. We talk a lot about gender-fluidity but it seems there's an awful lot of age-fluidity out there, too. Some women look like they're in their 40's, but they're only in their early 20's. Others look to be in their early 20's but are much older. I'm not saying that age doesn'…
/r/seduction24/09/19 02:07 AM
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^ This is the correct answer. Many women out there are still discovering themselves, just as you are likely still discovering yourself. She may have had past experiences that she regrets and she may be having overall doubts about the "singles life". While it is generally expected that, if she comes home with you, you will sleep together, you also need to keep in mind that she's a human being with feelings and moods that can shift in the course of an evening, even if everything goes right. There …
/r/seduction24/09/19 01:55 AM
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Looks matter but looks are not decisive. If you have the good fortune to be blessed with the features of a Greek statue, it will not require very much effort to get people's interest (male or female). If you have more alternative features, there is always a way to leverage them to your advantage. Look at some of the top wrestlers or top music stars. Look past the stage makeup, wigs, and so on, and you will see that most of them have imperfections. But they've learned how to leverage their strong…
/r/seduction23/09/19 01:38 AM
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If you're having thoughts of self-harm, please do call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), they will help you find resources immediately. The cause(s) don't matter, just call. I mentioned in a recent similar post on seddit that nobody should ever experience feelings of desperation in respect to sex. Your money's sorted, you're in good shape, you have good fashion sense... great! Book a trip to Vegas. For a reasonable price, you can get laid with an impossibly hot woma…
/r/seduction22/09/19 03:42 AM
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You should always go for your 10. Note that your 10 doesn't mean a cover model unless that's really your type. Your 10 is the type of woman that you find really attractive. There are so many beautiful women in the world that you have to have some selection criteria besides a number. Does she have a cute laugh? Do you find her way of talking attractive? Do you find assertiveness attractive? And so on. We could call this "personality as opposed to looks" but I think of it as her overall aura. Do y…
/r/seduction22/09/19 12:11 AM
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why do I find myself making eye contact with her in class? One way to tell if she's looking at you or just in your general direction is to blatantly look in the direction she is looking, then look back. If she's not the shy type, she will look right at you to let you know that, yes, she's looking at you. Should I keep eye contact, or just look away? Either is fine but you should follow up with her to make your move. If you're sure she's giving you looks, you can return the favor with some light …
/r/seduction22/09/19 12:07 AM
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a lot of advice seems intimidating to me like "go out of your way and just touch her shoulder." I don't dare to do that. I can't imagine what would happen. Naw, you gotta do what comes natural to you. Some people are natural huggers, others are natural shoulder grabbers, and so on. They're not creeping, that's just how they are (result of upbringing, etc.) If you have absolutely no physical contact with anyone ever, that's going to make this difficult for you, no way around it, because you just …
/r/seduction21/09/19 11:47 PM
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Naw, you can trust her judgment. If she feels comfortable taking a couple minutes to chat with you, then that's her call. She knows her boss better than you do, so she knows what's appropriate. You can open her with chit-chat and if she doens't reciprocate, then you know that she's too busy (or maybe she just doesn't dig you but you'll never know, so you can always just tell yourself she was too busy).
/r/seduction21/09/19 05:18 AM
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Chat them up. If it becomes clear from their body language that they're into you, it's OK to directly ask their number. If it's 50/50 (most girls will conceal their feelings pretty well, especially if they're on the clock), then you can ask if she's free to hang out later. Something like, "Hey, I really enjoy chatting with you... If you're free later would it be OK if I dropped by after your shift and we could <fill in the blank with some kind of interesting activity>?" The direct and obvious ap…
/r/seduction21/09/19 04:23 AM
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Great post. Like anything, it all comes down to the basics. Just do solid work on the basics and the rest will take care of itself. A note for guys (or gals) out there with different body shapes: getting in shape doesn't necessarily mean being an underwear model. It means being your best self. Take care of your body (get nutrition and some kind of regular exercise) and you will feel healthy and your constitution will glow from the inside. That is what people will see and respond to. When you are…
/r/seduction20/09/19 06:14 AM
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Cheesy pick-up lines can work in some contexts but they can also back-fire (badly) so care must be taken. Being creative and contextual is a plus -- in other words, your pick-up should ideally have some spontaneity. Much easier said than done, of course. It's generally a bad idea to do body compliments as an opener, unless you're at a nightclub or some other context where blatant objectification is within range of being permissible. The girl shopping over in the organic produce aisle probably is…
/r/seduction20/09/19 03:20 AM
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I was 16, socially awkward, etc. no need to explain any of that to me. When I say "you can survive another 2 years", I mean that to help you get rid of the feelings of desperation that are blocking you from success, right now. I'm not telling you, "Oh, you have to wait." I'm saying that the worst-case scenario really isn't that bad... but the more you fixate on it, the more likely that is exactly what is going to happen. Just accept that you might not find someone for another couple years. There…
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:32 AM
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I can't go to Vegas. I'm 16 and I don't have a job. OK, but you've survived 16 trips around the Sun without getting laid, you can surely survive two more. This is a very temporary problem. I just wish I could be in the position of other guys I sympathize with you more than you can understand. But that's another part of adulting -- as you grow into an adult you have to learn to stop measuring yourself against other people. Nature has programmed us to do this when we are young so that we will comp…
/r/seduction17/09/19 03:07 AM
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Are you employed? Can you save enough money to travel to a destination like Vegas? Then you can certainly get laid with an impossibly hot woman, legally, and for a reasonable price. I'm putting that out there to note that you should never experience feelings of desperation in respect to sex. If you're just looking to get laid, it's 100% do-able, even if you're on the spectrum, even if you have Asperger's, even if you're sexually disabled. Now that we have that out of the way, it sounds to me lik…
/r/seduction17/09/19 02:57 AM
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Okay I have been with women but never a relationship. Because I am afraid of women . Afraid that they will reject me , afraid that they will ridicule me , afraid I will not impress them . I wasn’t good with women at an early age and was called prude and a bad kisser that shattered my confidence. OK. Here's some thoughts that will hopefully help you. 1) This is incredibly common. Most guys start out with bad game and then they get verbally back-handed by their peers and/or the girls they showed i…
/r/seduction17/09/19 02:37 AM
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You need to be a little more specific. What kind of fear? What triggers it? What specifically about women are you afraid of? Etc.
/r/seduction17/09/19 02:11 AM
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Just do it. Beware that you are showing symptoms of oneitis. We've all been there. Just be prepared to be an emotional wreck if things don't work out the way you had hoped.
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:27 AM
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If you have already built some rapport with her, then you're probably going to win out, so don't be in a hurry to run off. It's always possible she'll switch her attention to him. Deep down, every woman wants to see two guys get in a fist-fight over her attention. So, if you play it cool, you can "get her off" a little by going toe-to-toe (verbally, not physically) with him a little. This is not "alpha" crap, it's about showing the lady a good time by doing a little good-humored, verbal jousting…
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:22 AM
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Im looking for a relationship with a girl i actually like and care about, not some random hookup at a party. Perhaps surprisingly, it doesn't make much difference what sort of girl you're looking to match up with, the methods you employ are going to be roughly the same... So what are some tips for both being more attractive and getting girls to like me and then actually starting to flirt more and see if they are interested. Given your self-description, I would say that you not only have everythi…
/r/seduction16/09/19 01:14 AM
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Yeah, that's actually a great story. Rework it a little to increase the humor factor and tell it to your next date to make her laugh. Never let a failure go to waste. Unless she is unhinged (possible, there are some crazy-hot girls out there, emphasis on crazy), she may have just been having a shitty day and, being as she's a 10, you were the 15th guy that day to take it to mind to compliment her when she's just not in the mood to deal with the world, let alone getting hit on.
/r/seduction16/09/19 12:50 AM
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When she's on the fence and you can't tell whether she's in or out. If she'll talk to you, don't just walk away because she didn't immediately agree to go on an insta-date. Tease her and see where it leads. This allows you some time to feel her out and give off some positive vibes. If she's looking for company, she might just respond to those vibes. Teasing is a great way to keep a channel open.
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:25 PM
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r/MandelaEffect/
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:14 PM
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Exactly. Social leaders: "We've changed every parameter of human culture in the modern age and, behold, what a marvelous world we have created!" The rest of us: "It's great that you fixed a lot of the problems that people used to have. I mean, flushing toilets and electric lights are pretty damn awesome. But now we have a lot of new problems that people didn't used to have. Sometimes, it seems like we have a lot more problems than our ancestors had. What should we do?" Social leaders: "Nobody as…
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:07 PM
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They are victimized by what perpetrator? Trapped how, and by whom? Why does it matter to you? The point is that our comfortable generalizations are not as widely applicable as we like to imagine. Some people get kidnapped and put into physical cages. Other people get put into invisible cages.
/r/seduction15/09/19 05:06 PM
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As other redditors noted, the incel phenomenon is mostly the result of bad attitudes. However, I will point out that some people out there really are being victimized. Just refrain from painting with a broad-brush. Some people are causing their own problems and, for whatever reason, won't be helped. But there are some people out there who are trapped.
/r/seduction15/09/19 04:48 PM
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I feel if you start dating women, and then only offer them something a bit casual, you're somehow short changing them. That's a broad-brush. Nowadays, many women are in exactly the same situation that you are in -- between job, school, working out and whatever else they do, they have only a certain amount of time left over during the week. So, lots of women out there want exactly the same thing you do. Find them.
/r/seduction15/09/19 05:49 AM
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Whether you kiss is up to her. If you get the green-light, how the kiss goes down is up to you. When you go in for the kiss, follow the 90/10 rule -- you go 90% of the way, let her go the final 10% stretch. If she declines the kiss (this can happen), give her a suave smile and do something innocent like squeeze her hand, fist-bump her chin (pal-style), put a hand beside her cheek or whatever, while you exit the awkward stance you put yourself in. A woman will usually signal that she is open to b…
/r/seduction15/09/19 05:38 AM
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"Great! What time should I pick you up" This is so important and so overlooked. It's often better to just throw something out there and let her object if she doesn't like it. "Great! I'll swing by to pick you up around 8pm." If 8 doesn't work, she'll let you know. If it does work, you come off like a boss. Worst-case scenario, she says, "No, I won't be ready at 8, can you come by at 9?" and you say "Sure, see you at 9."
/r/seduction15/09/19 01:03 AM
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IRL game is completely different from text/online game. When you have her attention IRL, her response is a function of her mood at that moment. The moment you walk away, she might be in a completely different mood -- hanging with her girlfriend, chatting up one of her exes, who knows. Instead of asking her number (a delay/deferral strategy), ask her if she'd like to get coffee or a drink or go to a local hot-spot that you were headed to. If you have her attention, she's already into you but you'…
/r/seduction15/09/19 12:14 AM
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im fed up with rejection guys This is the root of your whole problem. No one owes you acceptance. No one owes you acceptance. As long you feel that you are owed some acceptance, you will continue to get 100% rejection. Women (or men for that matter) can feel that shit coming a mile away and it makes them feel creeped on. The fact is, you need to learn self-acceptance before you can expect anyone else to accept you for who you are. I got rejected many times in a year than they had in their lifeti…
/r/seduction14/09/19 06:36 AM
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You're looking for something more like this. But yeah, it appears that this sub is more oriented towards PUA topics.
/r/seduction14/09/19 06:27 AM
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Ah. Well, let's just put it this way -- there are more kinds of sexual activity out there than you (or me or anybody) can possibly imagine. Among those countless millions of people, there is some group of people who are just like you. They attract friends and partners who are interested in somebody just like that. So, stop worrying about it. As you figure out who you are, you'll also discover the kind of girls who dig that. Don't worry about her expectations, just do you. The right one(s) will b…
/r/seduction14/09/19 06:22 AM
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this hasn’t gone away for years OK, maybe it will next month. What is the emergency?
/r/seduction14/09/19 06:13 AM
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Is there a pressing need to think about it right this minute? Sex (including how you feel about it) is something that changes dramatically as you age. I would expect that, within a year or two, you will disagree with much of what you wrote in this post today. Just give it a little time. There's no rush.
/r/seduction14/09/19 03:31 AM
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See a response in another thread I just posted here. The #1 obstacle that will prevent you from meeting the girl (or girls, who knows) of your dreams is the feeling that it is something to be achieved. You are sitting in the position of not having achieved this goal you have (to meet a girl) and you feel like there is some mountain in front of you which you must climb. When you have gotten to the top of this mountain, you will finally be able to see what's on the other side and you will have fin…
/r/seduction14/09/19 01:02 AM
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"I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work." - Thomas Edison
/r/seduction14/09/19 12:44 AM
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Wolf of Wall Street. Topic of discussion in the film was masturbation in public restrooms.
/r/seduction14/09/19 12:41 AM
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Accept and love yourself. Part of this involves honest self-critique, but not tearing yourself down or shit-talking yourself. Learn the meaning of the word "objectivity" and try to develop some. Now, when you feel confident about yourself, you'll understand it isn't just your self-centered opinion, it's because you actually f'n rock.
/r/seduction14/09/19 12:39 AM
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Quick rule of thumb: Never be more explicit than she has already been in the conversation. Like any rule, there are many exceptions. It's just a mental guide. Innuendo is a great way to feel her out. Start with some sort of dirty joke (not filthy dirty, just make some kind of adult wisecrack that's actually funny and contextual), and gauge her response. If she laughs conservatively and doesn't return her own dirty comment, just play it cool and wait a suitable amount of time for another opportun…
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:04 AM
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But don't forget that there's a shit-ton of guys that would kill to be in your shoes... they literally cannot (yet) overcome the fear of asking a woman out, or they've been dealt so many rejections that they've just given up. Rather than frittering away this friendship+, you should invest your time with her upping your game. It sounds like she's probably keeping you in the friend zone as "backup" but so what? Who knows, maybe 3 years from now you get a DM out of the blue from her and she wants t…
/r/seduction11/09/19 03:56 AM
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Many times, people avoid eye contact because they've been hurt. If you've been hurt and you need to heal, find help. But many times, we end up in a position where we avoid making eye contact and there doesn't really seem to be any reason for it. Here are some of the reasons that people develop a habit of avoiding eye contact: A feeling that other people will know the wrong things you've done. If you hurt people in one area of your life (say, by shoplifting), your brain keeps reminding you of thi…
/r/seduction11/09/19 02:18 AM
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How do you guys think about building an exciting, attractive life? Be happy, truly happy. Happiness and positivity is like a hidden electromagnet inside of you that just pulls people towards you. The only way you're going to be happy is if you are content. And the only way you are going to be content is when you get laid drop all of your unrealistic expectations, especially your unrealistic expectations from other people (including women). Be real, that is, stop lying to yourself. If "getting la…
/r/seduction10/09/19 04:25 AM
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