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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Custody Moderation		oohtheyhateme	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/22 05:53 AM

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1	Collaborative Divorce They do, because they take a gamble on us looking like babbling idiots trying to defend ourselves. It's all a game and if you can compose yourself explaining the allegations, you'll overcome. It goes from a simple disagreement to remain married to a bunch of things thrown on the table to inflate the fight time, court time and lawyers time. I composed myself well when fighting the protection order because it was at the beginning and no lawyers were given time to complicate the issue more or even …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/22 02:44 PM
1	Collaborative Divorce 🤣🤣 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/22 05:53 AM
1	Collaborative Divorce My pleasure. I'm making sure it gets out there and more specifically- outta my head.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/22 05:51 AM
5	Collaborative Divorce That file first part. Sadly, after agreeing to 50/50 with me, I told my ex to get the paperwork and we will sit down at the table and fill it out. She agreed. She chose to ignore the plan, moved out and began bar hopping with her toxic, dying to be a single mother, best friend. Entertained the men at her new job, even met up with one...a doctor, while bar hopping with her toxic bud on Thanksgiving (kids were with me). She then gets a lawyer to "draft" the paperwork for "us" and after the 2nd tim…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/22 02:29 AM
2	Just when you thought you have seen it all. Among other bullshit, mine said that I told her to put her loan dispersements for her degree towards our bills in the papers she served me, claiming I'm responsible for the loan that she was already milking for 6 years prior before we even got married. I literally laughed out loud reading that. That education never helped our household income. She finally got the job her degree could get her and then decided ignoring me and hitting up the bars on the weekend for a month straight was more benefic…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/22 01:53 AM
2	Just when you thought you have seen it all. I'm pretty sure it cost that much because discovery proved it can cost that much. Mother fuck family court.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/02/22 01:31 AM
3	What’s the longest you’ve gone without seeing your kid(s)? Damn...BRAVO! Read this post everyone and then read it again.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/22 07:08 PM
6	War Appears Over Same. After getting over what I was given, I started to realize what she got compared to what she wanted and it feels sooooo good.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/02/22 04:55 PM
2	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? You made me smile thinking of having a child around me full time without the BS interrupting that lifestyle. Your cost explanation was so right that it's depressing. Good luck to you, sir.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 04:16 AM
2	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? Good on you. Stay strong and do not succumb to the bullshit. I honestly got less because I refused to be CONTROLLED. If the GaL did her job and exited after the typical 4 months, I would've faired better, but this person tainted our custody battle like no other and gassed the flames to an uncontrollable level. I still have the emails to prove it. We do have similarities, here's another one that'll knock you over...my ex is a social worker and I waited patiently for her to throw her degree and jo…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 04:12 AM
3	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? Man, you are speaking facts. Turning fathers into visitors. One of the many suggestions I read that resonated with me was taking the financial discovery nonsense out of the process. To know what the parents make gives these legal bastards insight on their room to play. My legal folk literally told us, "you guys don't make enough to take this to trial." and then fell back on their involvement/help. Ummm...what the fuck? Guess where we went? Trial. Fuck these gaslighting lawyers.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 03:45 AM
5	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? Jesus...that stood out to me too, lol. 👏🏼👏🏼	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 03:38 AM
3	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? If you two are married, it should be an automatic 50/50 until a court order says otherwise. A lawyer will say whatever just to bury you so don't let that bother you. If you do have a mental issue that's on record, then it will be used against you, greatly. This situation will be the most disgusting thing you've ever witnessed/be involved in. You'll watch your abilities as a father go from fully capable to- "Oh my God, he did (insert something insignificant and possibly not even relatable)...he's…	/r/Divorce_Men	31/01/22 03:30 AM
3	Anyone here want more kids but are afraid of the risks of what the mother might become afterwards? It's wild how easy women turn on you and then drag the children along with her who absolutely do not share her sentiments. My ex changed her reasonings multiple times for the custody battle throughout the 2 and 1/2 year divorce and never did they align with reality or the children's desires. It was all based off of her emotions and insecurities for the moment. For example, say I didn't do as she said and disagreed because I'm a capable parent myself...now I'm not accountable. One reason said I w…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/22 07:32 PM
1	New car divorce Yup, before my ex left the marital residence, before her plan kicked into gear, I split our account in half and moved mine to a new account that she didn't have direct access to. Which was genius because 3 days later, her $26,000 spending spree began. She came home that night and said, "you split our bank account?" Looked up from what I was doing, looked her dead in the eyes and said, "yup" and I kept it moving. That was our separation date that I stuck with, she physically left 15 days later. M…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/22 04:53 AM
1	Music to cope with I didn't listen to anything that was relatable to "get me through", but literally what you listened to at the time became the soundtrack to your divorce, lol. I finally got my hands on a shelved, unreleased album after 18 years of searching and gosh damn it...it was before my divorce was finalized. I'd be lying if I said it didn't taint the listening experience by stamping memories of the divorce a bit when I now play it.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/22 04:26 AM
-3	I really hope that this movement is not siding with conservative right-wing or anything like that. Dude ain't lying, conservative men are on that gender BS big time. It's the reason why conservative states keep failing fathers in family court. They feel a woman's place is with children and so toxic females get to raise more toxic children while the father remains a dunce in societies eyes because he "dOeSn'T kNoW hOw To NuRtUrE". Possibly why the white male is being portrayed as a bumbling idiot on these shows...as someone posted about recently.	/r/MensRights	26/01/22 03:00 AM
3	Alimony and Child Custody/Support in Michigan Funny how moving out is bad for the male...my ex-wife did that on an amicable divorce verbal agreement, spent $26,000 to furnish a rental home, then filed for divorce disregarding the agreed 50/50 split and NOT ONE WORD was spoken about it by any legal folk involved.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/22 07:32 PM
1	Something I always get stuck on as I contemplate Divorce (pretty sure I've asked about this in the past) See? This shit pisses me off because it all comes down to how mature the wife is. If she's secure and mature, yes...this will all work out logically. If she's immature and insecure...you're about to walk through hell. ...and the courts work off of her emotions just the same. Never about the children.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/22 06:44 PM
3	Just told the STBX I want to terminate Agreed.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/22 02:25 PM
3	Stop Asking Permission. There are certain things that need discussion and things that do not. If this is speaking on children, then you need to weigh your options on how you communicate with your ex. There's this wild idea that men are incapable and the fact that there's an issue of asking for permission to your wife, or ex wife, is just nonsense. This is why women are empowered, they look at men as pets and spout off about it for days on end. Not knocking anyone or trying to be a brute here, but asking for permission …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/01/22 02:21 PM
2	Judge dismissive of mother’s ‘cowardly allegations’ in access case Your last sentence, I keep telling myself that this happens.	/r/MensRights	25/01/22 02:07 PM
3	Narrative (venting) These comments...I agree and am patiently waiting. No story will be told by my ex to our children because the true story reveals just how disgusting she is internally and rather than exhaust herself lying to two little detectives, she will possibly remain silent. I'm certain if they eventually hit her with something on a small scale, she'll listen and not respond, sucking up any info they provide, dismiss them and then return to the convo after having webbed out her lie that covers their info sh…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/01/22 10:25 PM
7	Man has to pay $30,000 for child that not his Bottomline is, to correct this fuck up means a long line of the pockets that get filled from this corrupt system would need to be put under a spotlight. Because if they let him go on a wash, some questions would be asked and a dam of corruption would then break. So, back to limbo he goes. Having media coverage on this is a gift and a curse. Had the news not been there, he would've been jailed. This is why reconsiderations and appeals fail...hard. If the wrong doings of jurisdictions could be rev…	/r/MensRights	24/01/22 09:54 PM
7	Get a Lawyer and protect yourself Greedy as all hell. I could just see my terror of an ex being in that thread posing as a victim, per usual. Having minor children, she sits back looking smug because she got more custody and receives her free check. She never thinks logically or towards the future to realize that our children will see right through her because her lies can't top a great father. If I was an actual deadbeat or an incapable male, she'd be able to shine like the sun.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/22 05:18 AM
1	I just can't imagine why this is happening? Maybe I misinterpreted your prior words, because what you just said, I totally agree with.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/22 04:03 AM
2	I just can't imagine why this is happening? Not sure what you're getting at here. Especially saying that a father is fighting for more than he deserves and is just an asshole. I'm a prime example here that can trash everything you've just said and fully support the court fuckery statements. It's all a pathetic joke and I laughed at the accuracy of the comment above with the lawyer cracking his knuckles and challenging a man who is an excellent father. It's so true.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/22 03:38 AM
1	beginning to explore divorce in NY state. Damn....congrats.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/01/22 08:55 PM
4	Anyone seen people pushing single parenthood and step parents these days? That's exactly it- they want 'a simp that does what you want'. My emotionless ex wanted to wear the pants. I wasn't having that because I was actually the man that said, "let's do this together". When she got tired of me not just bowing down to her undying need to control, she pulled off her greatest silent treatment that lasted a month long. That was enough time to convince me that we're done after 13 years together, 5 1/2 of that being married. To teach me a lesson, she reneged on our 50/50 am…	/r/MensRights	20/01/22 08:58 AM
1	I'm trying to write a story about a man who is deciding to get a divorce, but I'm having trouble making it realistic. Please help! Hahaha, no. Dear God no. This will set the movement back hardcore and empower the opposition.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 04:49 AM
2	Can somebody talk me through this? A healthy dose of contempt is a marriage death sentence these days.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 04:42 AM
1	Can somebody talk me through this? Being jaded is a by product of the ride man. No shame in that. You hit the bullseye with that 3rd paragraph. They try their best to find fault with ANYTHING just to justify their attacks. Once they have ganged up on you for the most insignificant shit that has fuck all to do with children, they vanish and move onto the next host to leech off of. Try to get accountability from these "professionals" and they act as if you never existed. It's a cesspool for narcissism.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 04:40 AM
2	Can somebody talk me through this? 🤣🤣🤣	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 04:34 AM
3	Can somebody talk me through this? A LEGIT family lawyer. A lot of these moving violation specialists place family law under their fields of expertise and are only good at submitting paperwork to the court and will not fight one second for you. If they list what they handle and family law is at the bottom, move on. If they list 6 things and family law is amongst that list, move on. Too many men have lost an easy "win" because these lawyers just want to invoice and not do their fucking job. Mine appealed to the Guardian ad Litem. …	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 04:32 AM
2	Vacationing with young kids as a divorced dad, how do I do it? 😆...preach.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 03:50 AM
1	Vacationing with young kids as a divorced dad, how do I do it? Look, I'm not knocking you at all, but will state the obvious here...this is why those that can handle it get shafted in court. This is why women take these situations and run with it. Have confidence in yourself fellow dad. You can do this, you're just nervous because you haven't put that 1st foot forward. If you were a single guy this whole time, you would've taken care of yourself I assume? So apply that to two mini you's. There is nothing to fear after a child is potty trained. Their indepen…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/22 03:47 AM
3	AskMen: What equality for men are you hoping for? To be seen as a functioning parent. My children know who their dad is and what I'm capable of. I build resentment towards society as they grow, because reality is going to try to knock them over when they are old enough to see just how BAD father's are treated. It will be an atomic bomb of appreciation from them towards me, but major heartbreak when they see how we're portrayed. When they understand what their mother did to a good man...gonna be crazy.	/r/MensRights	19/01/22 12:34 AM
1	If you are newly separated, please heed this advice. 4 months out, here are my biggest regrets and the best things I've learned. Pathetic...	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/22 11:06 PM
3	Being second best In every aspect. 👏🏼👏🏼	/r/MensRights	17/01/22 04:39 AM
2	Sending Love! My ex and emotions are like oil and water. She's a good actor when she needed to be, but our last vacation...she was stone cold towards me, like I was a stranger. Because 2 weeks later, I got hit with a protection order for events that "took place" before the vacation. We went to Disney by the way and shared a suite with our two minor children. 🙄 Edit: Divorce was already agreed upon. The PTO was move one, you all know...😉	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 08:47 PM
1	Sending Love! Nope, nope...just the fire system going off. Was too numbed by this much needed post to even notice.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 08:43 PM
1	If you are newly separated, please heed this advice. 4 months out, here are my biggest regrets and the best things I've learned. She walked away from mom responsibilities too?! I'm jealous.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 08:41 PM
2	How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex? My kids are under ten, I already started teaching them about manipulation. If they are able to see through their mother, then I've done my job correctly.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 01:33 PM
1	How do you fight brainwashing and alienation of child by ex? But then she'll lose her side income and leash.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 01:30 PM
1	Another reason getting married is pointless… Yeah, but I love my kids...	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 01:05 PM
1	How do I prepare for the inevitable? I have time. ...and after reading and acting on this great advice, best it could do is minimize the penalty they've already got lined up for you. If your wife ain't an addict or beating the kids, you gon' pay. 😠	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 12:53 PM
3	Should I divorce before or after vowel renewal? Jesus Christ, this is the runaway generation. Support your wife for crying out loud. Get her some help. Everyone treats marriage like some regular ass relationship you can toss away when you want to run. My ex-wife took EVERYTHING for granted as this is the me me me times and bullshitted throughout our marriage as we brought 2 kids into it. Rather than just divorce and move on, she read the "Now That You Identify As Single" female handbook and I all of a sudden became a "physically abusive" husb…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/22 01:04 AM
1	False Allegations In Family Court: The Hidden Agenda Of #BelieveAllWomen A-fucking-men.	/r/MensRights	13/01/22 05:04 AM