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MINDSET SHIFTopen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 12:44 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTopen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 05:28 PM
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GREEN FLAG 🟢open_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:01 PM
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QUEEN SH*Topen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:49 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESopen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 10:51 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTopen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:09 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYopen_heart_shrink/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 06:47 PM
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Bootstraps 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 02:36 PM
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Good friends tell it straight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:19 PM
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I would never get mad at a friend for giving me sound advice. I actually feel bad for unloading all my problems on a friend for a year and not following her advice until now. If I had listened to her, I would have saved myself a ton of trouble. So now I just listen to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:15 AM
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The crumb bullshit is so demeaning. I hope she gets there. It’s hard when we can’t get our friends to see they deserve better. One of my best friends is getting married to a person who has completely demolished her self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:58 AM
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I love how low effort men try to use songs for manipulation instead of mature, adult communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:36 PM
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You’re welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:35 PM
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You’re welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:35 PM
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Actions speak louder than words. Live by it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:35 PM
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🙌🏻 anything to help other women harness their power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:22 PM
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This is exactly why they get so bent out of shape about women coming together and calling them out on their bullshit. Power in numbers. Women supporting women is an indestructible force.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:21 PM
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Religion has been a huge factor in devaluing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:19 PM
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I’m sure he will try because he doesn’t want the truth to come out. But I find most people I know detect liars easily. I knew he lied when I befriended him. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and recognizing people lie to hide deficits in self-esteem. What I’ve learned, though, is that this pattern of lying is their avoidance of ever dealing with their problems. This will generate a further devolved self and reckless behaviors that harm themselves and others. You cannot have any type of healthy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:18 PM
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DARVO does seem to be more of the norm in men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:57 PM
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😂 yes, don’t get worked up over stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:30 PM
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Exactly. I find that these type of people usually end up alone. People catch on. And if someone chooses to listen to them over an honest person, that’s not my loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:30 PM
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And validation. Our worth is not tied to their behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:09 PM
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Narcissists love smear campaigning. My reputation speaks for itself, and it’s only going to make them look like a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:09 PM
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👏🏻 blocked for life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:10 PM
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I recently implemented this with a guy I was friends with. Blocked him off everything. It’s clear I don’t want to talk to him. He then started messaging a bunch of third parties inquiring about me and saying he was “worried about me.” Men know they have bad intentions. Men know they have lied and engaged in deviant behavior. I don’t need to hear his bullshit explanation. He now is trying to make it look like I jump to conclusions without getting the full story, like this situation is some charac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:08 PM
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It makes a lot of sense, but I think women are strongly conditioned to give people the benefit of the doubt. So the ability to do this has taken a lot of maturity and self-reflection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:11 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 12:16 PM
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💯 because love is a two way street and takes work, these toxic trash feel so entitled to this perfect person walking into their life without them putting in any effort. But even if a nearly perfect person comes along, they find a way to devalue her because there is no good in them. Let them die alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:31 PM
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It’s not manly to be a lazy, unmotivated, uninteresting piece of shit. It’s not manly to lie to multiple women at once just to stick your dick in them. It makes you a sad, pathetic waste of time. It makes you emotionally stunted. Listen men, stop playing the weak victims in your own lives. You only have yourself to blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:41 AM
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These scum get around. I got tested 3 times when I realized I had opened myself up to a soulless human who probably has no idea how many people he’s slept with and found out later also engages in sexual activity with men without any disclosure to me about this additional health risk. And had absolutely no regard for my feelings or health. So I believe this visual representation is a perfect depiction of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 04:23 PM
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I think we dated the same person 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:15 PM
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Exactly! It might be one of the few honest statements you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:51 AM
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“Nice guys” can fuck off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:31 AM
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I would say the #1 or 2 reason for teenage overdoses I see is break ups or toxic relationship drama. They are not equipped to handle these heavy emotions. Sending my daughter to a female only high school sounds appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:01 AM
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It creeps in before you even know it. You did not deserve to be treated this way. This forum and strength of the women I encounter here helps me vent my anger, and I hope it can lead to calling out these assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:19 PM
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So true. I worry about young women with the insidiousness of this behavior. They are too young and inexperienced with developing self-esteem and these assholes prey on their naivety. It’s not their fault. It’s not our fault. It’s these asshole men pretending they are something they are not. They are abusers. And they need to be held accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:17 PM
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Don’t be hard on yourself if it’s difficult. Toxic men use intermittent reinforcement to create anxiety and confusion in their target. You are understandably anxious and confused because they are intending to do this to you so they have power over you. It’s sick. It’s abusive. Get support and get out of this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 06:28 PM
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The complete loser I dated actually told me he was trash! Ladies, listen when he says shit like this; and then run, block and don’t turn back. I watched a funny YouTube video about fuckboys awhile a back. The woman had a good point: if you had the pick of 1 million homes for the same price, would you pick the one that’s condemned? Of course not, so don’t pick condemned men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:16 PM
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Painful but true. I could have saved myself so much shit if I had just trusted my instincts. Nope. Actively ignored them, and I really paid for it. Because my career is understanding human behavior, I actively try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Otherwise, I can already anticipate the whole saga in the first encounter and I feel too shielded from the experience of going through it. But I ended up stalked and harassed. For women, this can mean life versus death. And no person is worth sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:49 AM
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He also has things to hide and knows you won’t stick around when you figure them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:22 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻the projection part is perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:16 PM
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So adorable❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:33 AM
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Absolutely this. Women generally communicate how they feel and what is bothering them. Women get pushed to a point of having to set firm boundaries because either a man decided not to listen or intentionally pushed her there in a plotted “crazy-making” attempt. Don’t fall for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 12:29 AM
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🤣🤣🤣so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:39 PM
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Internal validation > external validation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:15 PM
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Women don’t ask for much most of the time, just respect, love and attention. Why is this so confusing to men? Our extra X-chromosome is neuroprotective and results in lower proportion of neurodevelopmental disorders in females. Makes me wonder if most men just have limitations in their cognitive capacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 01:02 AM
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I agree a lot more about human behavior and psychology should be taught in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 11:11 PM
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Haha, well, based on other behavior of his I deduced it’s also the hour he’s feeling grandiose from cocaine use and can overcome his tendency to run away from everything like a child. But witching hour seems fitting, too. I went no contact a long time ago, but I can’t help but wonder what he could have possibly wanted at 3 am. Mainly, he doesn’t like that I hold all the power and he doesn’t get the final say. Also, these type of men like to haunt their ex’s when they don’t have fresh prey, like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:37 PM
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Yes! I did encounter a person who demonstrated wanting to resolve an issue but then the same week played push-pull dynamics trying to take control of the relationship. So again consistency is key.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:53 PM
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Yes, feeling confused is a signal to run. I had a nightmare experience because the hot/cold intrigued me. I wanted to figure out what was up with the person I was dating. But these LVM are not interesting; they are actually very predictable because once you know one you know them all. The person I dated turned out to be a NVM covert narcissist/sociopath. After making it clear to him, and some people I thought could hold him accountable, that I’d get a restraining order if he ever contacted me, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:44 PM
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🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:38 PM
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It’s definitely helpful to observe how they treat other people in their lives and interact in a work environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:32 PM
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I can definitely see your point, especially early in relationships. I think, possibly, green flags may have more merit later in established relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:31 PM
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Absolutely. No slack for women. Even if we are going through a tough time and have a bad day, we are still expected to meet these standards. If a girlfriend is in a bad relationship, I find myself having to point out the guy isn’t meeting any of these. It still seems hard for women to break free from toxic relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:46 PM
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No, I appreciate thinking more about what you are pointing out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:34 PM
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I definitely think that is true about people adapting their behavior, but you will still see their words not matching their actions. When we think about what makes a relationship unhealthy, we still need to define components of a healthy relationship. While these might seem like common sense, long-term relationships still have conflicts and one needs to know when it’s worth working through deficits versus when it’s downright unhealthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:28 PM
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Relatable...true...also sad af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:03 PM
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I wish there was a better way to protect these women. I know that’s what the last sociopath will be doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:33 PM
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I think this is a clear indicator these people are not ready to be adults, therefore also not ready to have an adult relationship. Lots of lost boys out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:50 PM
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Futon sleeping seems highly correlated with lack of empathy. Men don’t sleep on futons, only manchilds in adult bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:47 PM
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So true. Was watching animated Beauty and the Beast with my daughter and thinking all these boys are narcissist assholes. Difference between Gaston and the Beast is that the Beast has had to face some consequences. But no way is that old lady scorning douchebag changing into some Prince Charming. Then I realized how much this shit influenced my willingness to tolerate red flags because it taught me these LVM just needed to be understood and then they’d turn around. FALSE. Think about Belle toler…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:47 PM
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Yes. I think this post downplays some of the florid manipulation some of these men employ and practice knowing full well what their real intentions are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:00 PM
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I don’t think this is as much of a gender issue as an identity formation one. I don’t think emotionally available men lose interest after sex. There are men who are looking for emotional connections and bond quickly. Emotionally unavailable men LVM/NVM will be either unaware and only motivated by sex or are more predatory and are looking for power over someone else. Psychologically, these people are stunted. Emotionally unavailable women may also feel no bonding after sex. I can recall a period …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:47 AM
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Honesty and no bullshit would be a simple first step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:24 AM
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Trans generational transmission of abuse is always present in some capacity. I agree that the influence of this forum, as well as giving all women a voice to demand better treatment, is powerful and can shape the future. We really need to support each other as women and stand up for each other. It can be hard when we are emotionally invested to see clearly; my friends have certainly helped me see my situation more clearly as I try to help them. It seems some women are so shaped by their history …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:08 PM
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Wave of change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 02:41 PM
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Unfortunately every woman will have heard this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:34 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:33 PM
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Their toxic shit can light a 🔥under me. You realize they are weak and pathetic when you exercise your badass woman powers, and they have no skills in comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:33 PM
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Sorry you’re having to deal with that at work. Life can be hard if there is a narcissist at work. I had a narcissistic female boss once who made my life a misery. She always had to have one target in the workplace. Highly unprofessional forcing her political views on everyone and using her position to silence yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:31 PM
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delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:48 PM
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Brad Anderson, the name alone...stereotypical white male with lack of self-awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:41 PM
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How about bent dick with prison tattoo of his initials? I know this is pretty specific, but this should have been immediate BINGO. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:44 AM
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Truth can be difficult to hear 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:14 PM
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You’re welcome 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:13 PM
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You’re welcome ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:13 PM
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I hope it was helpful during this process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:12 PM
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Thank you for sharing your personal experience. Yes, I agree they are very envious of empathetic, good-hearted people. This is why they aim to harm us. Jealousy can be very dangerous, especially when directed towards someone in which you are supposed to be in an intimate relationship. Narcissists are so empty. They look for people like us who are alive wishing they could fill themselves with our brilliance. They are endlessly on this quest because they never accept that they have to heal from wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:12 PM
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I have never really understood why women change their names. I remember being at a party with friends, and one of our male friends seemed personally offended I hadn’t taken my husband’s last name. Why does he give a shit about my name? Male fragility knows no bounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 04:13 PM
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If only this was a joke and not the truth. Real life is scarier than fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:05 AM
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Thank you. It is one of the most painful things I’ve experienced. You’re left with your pain and the projection of their pain. It’s double the normal amount of pain one person should experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:00 PM
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If they aren’t adding to your life, it is because they have nothing in their soul to give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:51 PM
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Fact. If you’re a dick, at least have the balls to admit it. Nothing is worst than a cowardly chameleon. I don’t even know how some of these Lost Boys can even look in the mirror.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:59 AM
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Some people are incapable of love and live empty lives. You sense their emptiness and try to fill it with your love, only resulting in you feeling depleted and used. Walk away, don’t look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:47 AM
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So instead you harass your exes until they get restraining orders and then your career is fucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:46 PM
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Once is 1 too many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:43 PM
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We get addicted to the drama. That chemistry is like heroin. Feels good at the time, but we know where regular heroin use leads us. In contrast, love is calm and quiet. And if we want to be honest, sometimes we get bored of it and can ruin it looking for the thing we dread the most. Dating a narcissist feels like going to a rave blindfolded with no escape. Love feels like basking in the warm sun on a tropical beach with the sound of crashing waves in the background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:41 PM
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I think OLD attracts narcissists who want to establish harems to feed their ego. When I was on dating apps, I noticed the same residents were always on there. It’s clear they aren’t looking for something serious. I think people need to be really careful if using OLD. It attracts some really abusive personality types. The concept kinda grosses me out now: swiping through profiles like I’m online shopping. Feeds into mentality that people are commodities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:38 PM
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Yes, they are detecting your positive traits and good energy. They are like parasites finding a host. They take your energy and leave you depleted. The key is forming firm boundaries, as well as noticing the feeling you get around these people that makes you drawn to them. That feeling of chemistry is a warning. I used to misinterpret it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:27 PM
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It’s not letting me post there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:07 PM
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Scrotes can’t self reflect and see how their actions further support the accusations against them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:52 PM
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No response and block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 12:50 PM
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Their trash table that symbolizes their garbage soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:05 PM
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Love ❤️ May every woman find a man who loves her like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:11 AM
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Never walk alone at night. Predators do not have a code of ethics and do not care about following social distancing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 12:14 PM
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Can men start holding each other accountable? Spread the word that LVM behavior is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 04:05 AM
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I think we can do both. Sadly, I think the proportion of what we see on here is related to the likelihood of finding a HVM being similar probability of spotting a unicorn. So instead of having anything positive to say, we are constantly venting about the trash we encounter on a regular basis. In the last year, I’ve learned that likely all the men I allowed into my life had ulterior motives. Even had a guy friend from medical school try to hack into my FaceTime when he has a girlfriend. Degenerat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 06:58 PM
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It frightens me that this might work. Why do it if no one responds? Please tell me women are wiser than this. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:55 AM
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I think it is important that they can self identity this or they will project it. Why waste time finding out later they can’t handle their feelings? I dig this question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:53 AM
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Outward appearance isn’t something people get to choose and is completely superficial. It’s also entirely subjective what is found to be attractive. I’m sorry you don’t feel confident in your appearance. But men are stupid. And the men you are talking about would likely treat a model the same way. These LVM could have a subjectively beautiful and successful woman and still fuck it up because they are idiots with a garbage soul. When you find the right person, your souls connect and you love each…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 12:47 AM
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I know it’s hard not to feel like a fool (I’ve been there) but they are the only ones who should feel bad. You shouldn’t feel bad for being a kind and giving person. They are the shitass. I googled other names for fuckboy and shitass is my favorite. They are parasitic scum who used your good nature. Be wiser and protect your beautiful energy, but don’t allow their depraved bullshit bring your self esteem down in anyway. These shitasses will get their karma while we live beautiful lives without t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 06:52 PM
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On point. It infuriates me that there are so many trashy men out there simply using women with no intentions of respecting the relationship. I’m so glad you are ok and did not subject yourself to this person any longer. It makes me want to vomit 🤮 when I think about the last loser male who was given access to my life and abused it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 02:37 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻my daughter asked me why I was dressed up when I wasn’t going anywhere. I told her I always dress for myself. She responded, “that makes sense.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:38 AM
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