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File for divorce and focus on getting getting permanently sober.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:51 PM
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Dude, one of my best friends has been divorced twice, is in debt, and hardly has any money. He could be depressed every day, but he keeps a good attitude, laughs alot, and has fun as much as he can while being a responsible dad. My buddy has a ton of friends and really great family. The happiest times of my life were when I was poor and unmarried so maybe it'll be that way for you also. Basically the only direction you can go is up now. Have your fun and if you are interested in money, then make…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:48 PM
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Dude, I understand she is your wife and you love her, but it doesn't sound like she is right mentally and it doesn't sound like you have a fulfilling relationship with her. I don't think there is any way to have a sensible talk with her. I tried that, and my wife instead filed the next day and accused me of abusing her as some sick way of saving face. She'll play mind games with you and keep sucking you back into the marriage. If you one day give in and have a kid with her it'll be 100 times wor…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 02:46 AM
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Way better for everyone involved after divorce. I was just staying miserable in marriage for the kids and that was not a good move as everyone is negative. Now we are all happy and negativity very much reduced.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 10:14 PM
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Talking about marital problems is taboo and they don't want rumors to spread, so they just don't talk about it. Additionally, the wives will harass them if word gets out that they aren't good wives, so they don't want to risk that. Good marriages are definitely the minority.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/26 09:59 PM
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Yeah, sounds like she is going to get an ex parte injunction. It's so selfish and stupid. It's gonna drive you nuts, and that's the point. There's basically no repercussions for women doing this, so they hope you crack and do something illegal so that you lose the divorce and they don't have to get a job. The only way they get a lopsided judgement in their favor is if you are abusive. Often it works because the guys are literally having their lives fubar. I was prepared and it still was a beatin…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 05:15 PM
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This is a tough one. I think you are absolutely right in taking this seriously, especially based on the inaction of your wife. In my own nightmare situation, I learned that children are very much like their parents and mental illness can carry down a bloodline. Also that wives will turn against and attack their spouses. There's not much protection against false domestic abuse allegations other than physically being away from the person. For your own safety and support network, I would move back …
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 02:19 PM
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Dude, I felt great like 1 minute after divorce and just keep feeling more like myself over the long run. What felt crappy was trying to date again. It brought down my mood and distancing myself more from it. Don't have to deal with crazy of toxic women and don't have to get stressed or waste money. I can just have fun, focus on my kids, and spend more time with family and friends.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 11:51 PM
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Their team is gonna try to scare you into making a deal - don't - they won't win. If you agree you are screwed. You will lose divorce and you will be a criminal. Trial will suck. You will have to sit through hours of accusations. Just remain calm. If you win, they have nothing for the divorce and will eventually settle.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 06:21 PM
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Me and my ex couldn't do your schedule. We switch pretty frequently (almost every other day besides long weekend) and both rest or clean up on our off days. Could you switch your schedule? (The longest we have our kids is 4 days)
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 12:56 PM
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They'll be better without the fighting. Also they will get to spend 50% time with just you
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 11:46 PM
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The other guys are right - you are better staying away from the toxic girls on the apps, but if you dare: -Facebook dating - totally free, lots of profiles, no bs. -Hinge - regionally popular, takes more effort so less time-wasters. -Bumble - seems to have the most fake or advertising accounts. like this the least, especially their matching system.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 09:01 PM
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Dude, I've faced a lot of the same stuff and I'm basically at peace with it. With the dating stuff there's a lot of toxic women and who they choose is out of my control, so there's no point in getting frustrated. Honestly, I'm probably better off without them and saving my energy and resources for myself vs them is kinda refreshing. With the kids you just gotta understand that they don't know any better and make alot of mistakes. Just enjoy life wherever you can and mock the rest of the stupid s…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 12:15 AM
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Shower with soap before you meet up and try not to make yourself nervous. Chill out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 01:05 PM
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Yeah, my understanding is that basically none of the facts matter and you'll either fairly negotiate a settlement quickly, or just gradually transfer your family's wealth to the lawyers the longer you take to do that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 11:37 PM
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The more important thing is to file for divorce asap and demand your lawyer set trial date. I went through this. It's highly likely your spouse will start false abuse allegations and get an ex parte protection order against you. After filing divorce, if she does the sleep disruption again, call the police and then you will have some record of the problem. At that point your claim that you are not safe around your wife is more credible. Even if you don't end up calling the police, it's still bett…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 09:01 PM
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learn to dance argentine tango.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 10:39 PM
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if you call the police when she throws/breaks your stuff at least you have it on record. if you get lucky, she may admit it. unfortunately, if you get a bad officer and she lies, the cops may turn on you. my ex was yelling in my face while i was trying to sleep in bed and the cops started threatening me. another time i called the cops because she kept intentionally disrupting my sleep. that time the police did help somewhat, but also just told me to get a hotel. massive double standards
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:09 PM
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if you call non emergency they will immediately deem it an emergency and send a unit over - fyi
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:03 PM
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yeah, she alienated our kids and claimed abuse in almost every possible way. couldnt see my kids for months and destroyed most of our savings. sat through accusations in court for hours and refused crappy offers, but had a good judge who saw through it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 11:53 AM
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Demand your lawyer set trial date asap! Stop giving her money. Don't agree to any less than 50/50. She's gonna drag this out if you let her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 12:46 AM
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no where but up dude. bottom is in.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 06:39 PM
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The only way this is fair is if you are some drug addicted maniac who's been found guilty of repeatedly abusing your family. If not, this is gross injustice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 10:02 PM
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You need to do what all the women in your position do. Get a lawyer, complain, and ask for the world. Have the lawyer ask for full use of the house during your joint custody with her paying for it because you were the main caregiver. Don't let her skimp on the alimony, child support, retirement, bank accounts, and make her pay for your lawyer. Eventually your ludicrous asks will get whittled down to what's fair a bit before trial after your wife has spent all her savings and is an emotional wrec…
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/26 10:47 AM
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Looks like you are on the right path and staying with her would certainly end in a dumpster fire. You were most definitely right in not getting a house with her - you would have been big-time screwed. The $25k CD is a tough one - you might have to split it with her unless you have some sort of documentation from your Dad that it was only for you and not for her. Since it doesn't sound like you filed for divorce yet, I would recommend using marriage money to prepay some of your efficiency apartme…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 11:18 PM
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Either the judge ordered it or he agreed to it. The laws are asinine, but society isn't changing them much. I will say some states have gotten a bit more progressive.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 09:18 PM
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it's not the vasectomy dude, many chicks are lazy or selfish and dont wanna date a guy with kids. you are not the problem.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 09:30 PM
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The sex isn't worth it. Heed the red flags.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 12:01 PM
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asked for divorce because she was terrorizing me and the kids. in return she filed first, claimed abuse, and alienated the children. life is awesome (previously felt like i was in a horrible prison) and i am thankful each day to not be married to her and the toxic environment she created. my zest for life returned and i look forward to the future.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:09 PM
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happened to me and the level of selfishness from someone who i continuously sacrificed for was sick and disgusting. very idiotic also as it threatened my employment and hence her payments. i'm committed to warning younger guys about this kind of stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:01 PM
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the sun bathing and alcohol is turning them into beef jerky
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 07:52 PM
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dont forget to set trial date if she is unreasonable. there may be a backlog of 6-12 months.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 05:12 PM
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I usually clean up after them. (Do dishes, wash their laundry (clothes, towels, sheets), clean up their toys / art supplies / mess.) Catch up on the newest episode of Euphoria or Maul, surf the internet, go on an exercise walk, thrift shop, go grocery shopping, take a nap, etc...
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:51 PM
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Sounds like a tough situation man. Been through similar heated discussions and I hated them. Objectively, I think you'll be better off without your ex and I hope you come to that realization also. Mental beatings take their toll physically, so it's understandable to take time off work.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 11:42 PM
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You need to have the attorney file asap and also demand he set trial date asap. In the meantime you need to prepare for injunction and secure your assets. If you have any shared accounts, transfer at least 50% to your personal accounts. Make sure your ex does not change all the vehicle titles into her name - if your vehicle is not just in your name - get it changed. If your state allows recording private conversations, find a way to do that. Try to minimize interaction with her. Get a small stor…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 10:27 PM
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Yeah, he needs a sense of purpose. Ideally most people get that through work and should be helping people in some kind of way.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 11:43 PM
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No problem, that's dodging bullets till a really good one comes along.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 11:23 PM
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Yeah dude, it's toxic. I tell people it's like shopping at one of those shady little used car dealerships. The way I have to navigate it to keep from getting frustrated is to: keep very low expectations; go slowly so the red flags can surface; match effort / ignore low effort / wait for high effort. I'm quickly learning that chasing tail isn't as cool as relaxing, saving money, and waiting for it to find you.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 11:12 PM
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np, mine got greedy also and got less as a result
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 08:41 PM
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Good thing you got out of that deal. Lump sum alimony is financially a bad deal. Alimony in your state may go away if she gets remarried or dies. It's very likely she will get remarried. Mine's getting remarried 6 months after divorce. Also see if your state cancels alimony once you retire. You should be able to impute income at least at minimum wage if not higher. Regardless use that as a bargaining chip. Your half of the 401k and equity interest/yield may pay a good chunk of alimony on it's ow…
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 07:50 PM
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Spend time with him and be positive - hopefully that will rub off on him. Get him out of the house and getting fresh air and exercise. Frequent sex would help as well.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 05:17 PM
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ha, you need to gtfo now while you can. what a nut.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 12:58 PM
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Yeah, divorce soon so you'll be able to impute that prior income. if you wait your case is less strong. My finances are equal or better after divorce despite me paying a couple grand a month to her. she loved to spend money, i dont have to split net income anymore, and dont pay all the insurance for her.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 09:59 AM
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as they say, you've gotta pay the ransom. freedom is kinda priceless, so I think it's worth it after living trapped
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 10:27 PM
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I got accused of many horrible things. if your gal is an attorney, they should be dealing with facts and proof. your kid saying something is not very credible because kids lie and parents alienate them frequently. if there is no arrest, court finding, or dcf finding against you, and you have not admitting anything, then the accusation has as much chance of being true as you punching the pope. theres nothing you can really do to disprove it or sway the gal so just try to relax.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 10:34 AM
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My ex was very similar. My gut knew it was wrong at the time, but I wanted it to work and she was good at manipulating me. On the plus side, your son is pretty young, so thankfully he didn't lose decades to her.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 09:02 PM
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cool thanks for the reply. congrats on that also.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 11:51 PM
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awesome dude, good for you - you deserve the hard fought win!
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 11:11 PM
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sorry, i dont have comment on divorce, but how do you like the glp1?
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/26 10:58 PM
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spending time with him is probably the biggest. showing you love him like hugs is also great. I don't think anything else is needed beyond that
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 05:41 PM
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This is a tough one and hard to know how it would play out with a judge. I was going to say that I don't like your strategy of a buyout, because that loads her up with money that she could use to take more legal action against you. It also puts all your eggs in one basket and leaves you with not much flexibility or cash for emergencies. On the other hand, the house provides a compelling reason to keep the kids in the school district and you are really the only one who can afford all the upkeep a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:09 AM
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yeah, you should divorce soon and be done with her before she eats up more of you finances and possbily gets hostile and start accusing you of abuse. your finances are gonna be wrecked for another 6-7 years, but it could be much worse. every time I put it off I regretted it later. don't be like me
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 12:55 AM
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my ex alienated all of my kids and brainwashed them into believing i was abusing them, while at thf samt time she was physicslly and mentally abusing them. really sick stuff. she started repeatedly calling the police and dcf and was having the kids continually regurgitate the stories. if your gal is a lawyer, they are gonna go mostly off the police and dcf reports. anything anyone says is basically hearsay and while i believe gal automatically waives hearsay from the children, everyone should be…
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 10:52 PM
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your financial statements run through your lawyers so they know all the money you have. basically they'll bleed you dry and then put rights on your house equity or try to work at a deal at the end. went through my entire life savings - around $75k
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 10:01 PM
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shouldnt be much as you have a low salary. if your ex isnt working, make sure she has imputed income. the child support should be small after alimony is factored
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 03:46 PM
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-how quickly can you set trial date.? -how much will alimony and child support be? -how much income can we impute? -should i consult with any other lawyers that my wife might try to use who are jerks? -do you know the judges well and how are they? - how many years of exp. do you have? -how much is this going to cost? -what us your gameplan? -are you experienced with hostile divorces? you can find more example questions considerations in book divorce simply stated.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 03:34 PM
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Nah, don't get back with her. File for divorce asap and she if there is a way to file for temporary support from her in the meantime.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 08:57 PM
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dont tell her you are filing - just go do it asap. i did that and my ex ran to her lawyer to file first to control the narrative and start hostilities
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/26 04:57 PM
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few tips: - dont put the divorce off for work stuff. it can take years to complete the divorce once started due to lack of court dates and mandatory separation times. you are also going to wither more in the meantime and shd might go off the deep end or you may screw up. do it now. - dont try to quick end alimony. if she remarried it goes away. try to draw it out as becomes less with inflation
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 09:06 PM
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you need to ask for stuff just like all the women in your position do. alimony, child support, she needs to pay for your lawyers. you need to complain that the imputed income is too much. etc Don't let her off the hook.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 01:52 PM
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Glass half full it's better it happened earlier than later so she doesn't get your military pension or much alimony. You'll get BAH, tricare, and big raises without her around, so you'll bounce back financially. You learned some lessons, have alot of life experience that will serve you well, and a couple kiddos to play with. I agree with you on the values thing and it's a real shame.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 12:32 AM
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my ex did that. real douche - false accusations and alienating the kids just out of selfishness. it was hell defending myself and costed my life savings but she did not win. life is grand now and they kids have gotten better. you are the strongest of men. up along with rocky, dude from sin city, etc.. they think they have the upper hand, but they arent going to win this war of attrition. you have nothing left those bloodsuckers can take. with you going pro se, she's dumping all her money on lawy…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 10:33 PM
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bunch of guys go through that. i did with a binch of kids and survived but you'll lose most of your money on lawyers. dont hyper focus on trying to disprove her stuff. work on relaxing, keeping calm, and trying to have fun. visit friends/family and exercise. try to talk to your lawyer the least amount possible - it just racks up more billable hours and probsbly wont change what they fo anyway. *"demand that your lawyer set trial date asap. ** this is highly important for many reasons. dont accep…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 02:54 PM
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you wont regret the decision
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 11:27 AM
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I let the ex buy me out of the house, so for the short term safe. check into workforce housing apartments. they gove incentives.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 04:34 PM
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Visit friends and family, work out, go on vacation, eat better and get plenty of sleep have fun, get reacquainted with your hobbies. I dont recommend doing the dating apps for awhile - if you do, play it passive with low expectations
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 04:13 PM
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if he's still upset after three years you shouldnt be together.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/26 02:17 AM
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there's a sub for this on reddit, but you do need to take steps to counter it and keep your childrens love. mine went from loving me to hating me and still trying to get them back to prior levels. read the books by Amy Baker. i think my kids would have been less alienated if i had read those sooner
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 05:33 PM
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fabricated evidence - such bs. hope karma comes back on her
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 02:27 AM
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geez, you must make high salary.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 01:27 AM
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you are probably forgetting to factor imputed income and then switch the alimony before calculating child support.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/26 01:20 AM
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she did convince me to stay several times and not file, but she never put forth any real effort to change and revert back to her old ways each time. i think you are following down the same path as me and it's a dark miserable one that i would urge you to do something about now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 01:04 AM
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We're 50/50, but I love my post-marriage life. On my off days, I either take it easy, accomplish things, work on my hobbies, or have fun - helps with my zest for life. When I have the kids I try to show them a good time and take votes of what they want to do for fun and what they want to eat. I try to be peaceful, fun, caring, and loving with them. I've chopped down the hours at work as much as I can - leaving mostly on time now as opposed to the guy who always stayed hours extra. Getting much m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:22 AM
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Chicks are just illogical or odd frequently. I was a great husband she would belittle me and then started looking for men elsewhere. The men she was gravitating toward were objectively not catches. Sometimes people take things for granted and think the grass is greener elsewhere. Other times they want to project their faults on you and declare you the reason they are unhappy rather than own their own deficiencies. Many women are unable to recognize and evaluate valuable traits in others and inst…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 12:13 AM
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yeah, cant control other people. as you go through this remember that you are valuable and awesome - she would be lucky to have you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 11:50 PM
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The worse your marriage was, the better divorce becomes. I'm not religious, but it's a real blessing. You have much more control to take naps or sleep longer without wife purposely preventing you from getting sleep. You can eat whatever you want to. Pretty much full parenting control. Can do whatever recreation you want to without interference, guilt trips, or complaining. Can invite friends over, decorate how ever you want to, play whatever music. Do really fun stuff with the kids that baby mam…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 10:52 PM
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I think you become grounded at any point in your life by loving yourself, being appreciate, and seeking enjoyment and fulfillment. On the bright side you have your kids, health, and money. Spend time with your kids, enjoy recreation time, and try to spend time with wife if it is enjoyable. if time with your wife is negative then minimize that and replace with something better such as time with your friends. you ate valuable, fun, cool, and a good catch for any woman. what your wife does is out o…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:46 AM
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You sound in a rough spot dude - feel bad for you. One of the common issues seems to be women, so maybe chill out on significant others for a while and hang with dudes more. I think finding some work of any kind would also do you some good. As for your gurls, how they act is out of your control, so just love them when able and hopefully they turn around. i deal with similar issues and tryto be appreciate than negative or it gets to me
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 05:35 AM
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alone is a blessing rather than being around a negative individual who belittles you and sleep deprives you. that jerk would even try to guilt me out of going to chinese buffet
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 12:28 AM
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Dude, I went through what you are going through and it can get much worse. Recommend filing for divorce asap. What happened to me and may happen to you, is that she starts claiming that you are abusing her and the kids. You get hit with an injunction and not able to see your kids at all while owing max child support and alimony. Divorce is freaking great and the kids won't have to be near your ex for 50% of the time which will be great for them. Your risk of abuse claims goes down substantially.…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 08:24 PM
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I tried noise cancelling headphones - that doesn't work. Going to sleep doesn't work if she's crazy. Best is to leave the house or area. I would also go to the bathroom and lock the door. Another thing you can do is videochat with someone, and then if they hear and see what she is doing - they could potentially be a witness on your behalf.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 08:20 PM
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Dude, you need to do your homework before agreeing to proposals. That's really gonna bite you when the official negotiations begin. If you are separated, it's likely you are going to divorce and she doesn't sound like someone who is going to negotiate easily, so you need to be saving money for lawyers. Entry level lawyer is $400+/hr and and billable hours rack up easily. I'm not sure if your wife works, but if not there's still imputed income -> what she would make if she wasn't lazy and got a j…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 08:18 PM
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Appraisal from the bank who loaned her the buyout money. Just compare it to zestimate.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 12:36 AM
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good for you. secure your valuables and prepare for injunction. keep demanding that lawyers set trial date ASAP. take some vacations and stay away as much as you can. if you have any shared vehicles, check the title and make sure she doesn't retitle them all in her name - (Make sure at least one of them is fully in your name for injunction)
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/26 10:18 AM
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Don't tell her - just get a lawyer and file. I tried to be nice and give her a heads up. Instead, she files first and claims that I abused her and wants everything. I found out later that it's called narcissistic injury, and also for appearance if they are religious. If you file first, then there's something wrong with her and you control the narrative. Sick stuff. Also found out that the church community will think lesser of them if they divorce, so claiming abuse is their way out of that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 09:43 AM
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Get some alimony
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 11:52 PM
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get out now. i went through this and it wont ever get fixed. if you make up she'll eventually do it again and just keep disrespecting you more. right now you can get out with medium marraige and no prrpetual alimony. you also might get lucky and severe ties before she gets abusive and tries to take the kids away from you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 03:48 AM
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yeah dude, my takeaway from several months of dating is keep low expectations, chill out, don't move fast and the crazy chicks will reveal themselves so you can get away in time.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 09:27 AM
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ive found that people will threaten suicide to try getting what they want and to manipulate others. dont fall for this trick. this is a sign of mental illness and she may turn on you at random like mine did and start claiming abuse - good luck with that nightmare - not worth the gamble. make sure you have trial date set, try to keep on her good side and mediate, say little, and try to keep away from her. if you get back together with her this will keep happening. oh, and buckle up and prepare fo…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 09:10 AM
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dude, you arent evaluating the worst possible outcome. you can get nothing, have your kids alienated against you, criminal records, and no time with your kids if she starts false abuse claims. you will be fine if you divorce. i had a stay at home wife and more kids than you and the alimkny and child support wasnt killer.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 04:44 PM
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i came across the table with a lopsided offer in her favor that she did not accept as she wanted even more. i was frustrated at the time but glad she didnt as she got less later. in hindsight, i should have not offered anything over 50/50 as it encourages more selfishness and benefits them extra. definitely dont accept any timesharing under 50% - thats a hill to die on. Any huge disparity of assets such as taking a house is also worth going to trial over. judge is gonna do 50/50 split unless the…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 04:44 PM
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Set trial date asap or this will continue forever. you are not moving into car - stop paying mortgage and her bills if you are not living there due to shortage of money from your added cost and legal fees. keep in mind shes gonna ask for back alimkny and child support since your separation so your gonna pay twice, but your lawyer probably forgot to mention that. theres basically nothing that can be done about the alienation, other than documenting it by having lawyer write letter which worked fo…
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 10:38 AM
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divorce!
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 10:16 PM
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that driving thing was fully asinine, but glad to hear the guys get another win. mine also got a hell of a lot less than she would have. the frustrating part though, is that the guy's win is just what is mutually fair and both suffer for the one's selfishness.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 09:13 PM
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Dude, divorce asap. It lead to her being an abusive jerk and trying to destroy our lives.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 08:25 PM
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Nah bud, you'll get 50/50 unless they can prove that you are a danger to to the kids, and that is pretty tough to do. Yeah, you'll pay some alimony and child support, but you won't have to live with her, get half the week freedom for yourself, and get to hang out with your kids without her. No, you remember wrong or misspoke and your wife needs to get a job or be imputed income as though she has a job, as she is fully capable to work and doesn't get to be lazy.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 08:23 PM
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My exwife was unreasonable from the get-go and that lasted 1-2 years through failed mediation till the day before trial. Doesn't sound like yours is going to be able to meet you in the middle despite having a lawyer who should have already discussed reality. Recommend keeping your expectations very low and moving forward with your own lower help move this thing along. Unfortunately, in my case, the only thing that got us to settlement was actually setting trial date and having the a judge decisi…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 09:49 AM
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She sounds unreasonable and if you waited till June she would just change the date. Filing for divorce does not change your ability to mediate, so just have your lawyer file for divorce. She'll get served and maybe that will increase her desire to settle and not have to hire lawyer. If she gets a lawyer and still stalls, make sure your lawyer sets trial date. It can take 6+ months to get a trial date, so do it early.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 09:30 AM
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Because you are a good person, but you need to be more business-like and follow the law. You guys will share and eventually sell the house and split, or there will be a buyout.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 01:12 AM
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Gonna be tough proving any verbal or emotion abuse as they don't show bruises or blood that police can see. Your financial abuse accusation is flimsy like my ex's as you talk about paying everything and having finances - you likely won't be able to prove or convince anyone of that. Her verbal immigration threats are probably legal. Your only chance on some of this stuff is if you live in a state where it is legal to record conversations without the other parties' consent. Your down payment is li…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 08:41 PM
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Make sure she is paying child support and also child care.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 03:04 AM
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Brother, I dealt with 15+ years of complaining and guilt trips. It eventually devolved into hostile abuse and total disrespect. My gut told me all along that it was wrong and I needed divorce, but i foolishly kept sticking it out. I think you already know you need to divorce, so i can confirm that you need to file asap. dont give her a warning like i did, or its possible she will file first and start claiming you are abusing her and the kids to get an advantage. The longer you wait the worse it'…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 02:20 AM
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you might be surprised that your kids already understand. Mine have alot of friends whose parents divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 01:00 AM
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Been there dude. Counseling has up and down weeks. What I can tell you is that her desire for divorce will never leave. Would you rather divorce now or in another few years? i recommend divorcing now rather than later as it will get way crappier.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 12:44 AM
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jesus, good luck brother. keep up the good fight!
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 11:53 PM
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be careful with the lump sum alimony. sometimes it goes away with remarriage. my ex was trying to get me to do it knowing she was going to remarry soon and my lawyer didnt catch on at first but totally agreed.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 11:52 PM
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dude, Make sure to set trial date if you haven't already. That's the only thing that kept my case from going on forever. they wanted to file more motions but none of them would fit in the time span and we refused to move the trial date. first available trial date was like 9 months out so important to ask quickly
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 11:44 PM
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Finances are surprisingly manageable. I'm not a high earner, but as long as you get some income imputed to her, 50/50 timesharing, and get her off your medical plan, the alimony and child support wont be as large as you would think. Not splitting forward income and retirement, while not having to absorb her spending kinda balances everything out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 11:36 PM
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Brother, I'm your age on the other side of a hostile divorce that wiped out my life savings, alienated all of my children against me, and forced me out of my home. Once the stay at home mom finally figured out she wasn't going to win and might become homeless, she had her come to jesus moment and decided to work as a coparent with me. Life is a million times better not having her constantly complaining at me, belittling me, and sleep depriving/disrupting me - totally priceless. Half the month I …
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/26 11:11 PM
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Your dates come to your home?!?! Unless you are really good-looking, I need to start acting bored on my dates.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 10:30 PM
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Hey brother, your story is very similar to my story and I can tell you one way it ends. You notify her that unfortunately you can't take it anymore and want to have a peaceful divorce and be really good coparents. She proceeds to file for divorce instead and claims that you are physically abusing her and the kids and wants 100% of marital assets and most of your salary forever without you having any contact with your kids. If that wasn't worse enough, she starts alienating the kids against you. …
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:36 PM
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i took a road trip to see many of my good friends i hadnt seen in years
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:58 PM
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The second job may mean you get less in alimony and child support. Also, are you gonna be able to maintain the two jobs and still have energy for kids half time?
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 11:35 PM
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1) No, tell the kids to make her something like a card or a picture. 2) No, you can text each other pics or whatsapp them.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 12:34 AM
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For the love of god, please demand alimony and a cut of her military retirement and benefits. It frustrates me that women demand the world but men let them off the hook.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 06:08 PM
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Do it asap - it's just going to get worse and you'll wish you had done it sooner. Be careful though as she'll probably accuse you of abuse and get an injunction to prevent narcissistic injury.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 05:48 PM
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if you have the finances to do so, lawyer up and have your lawyer set trial date asap. try to stay calm and keep your mind off it. prepare for injunction and get your valuables into storage. make sure she doesnt transfer vehicle titles into her name or steal from joint accounts. dont accept shite offers and rest easy knowing that she wont get anything extra if it goes to trial.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:33 PM
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you sell the house and use the equity to rent apartment. i have more kids than you and less money and its no problem. you unfortunately wont have houses but you will have flexibility, less headaches, and solid finances even if you lose your jobs.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:24 PM
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i got some big beautiful paintings at goodwill for a few bucks - stuff that would cost hundreds at galleries. for a dining table i got a folding table from home depot and the flexibility has been awesome - can fold up and use the space or bring to pool for parties. bed frames are cheap are easy to transport as well as kid mattresses. bought wire shelves instead of heavy wood dressers and cheap ikea tables off facebook marketplace. lots of pics of me and the kids on the walls as well as their art…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:01 PM
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I have more kids than you and my ex was a SAHM who was hostile. Your wife is sounding somewhat reasonable. The mediator route is gonna be way cheaper and more fruitful unless you guys are inflexible and unrealistic. Everything is split/divided 50-50. If she is selfish and wants more, then mediation may be a waste of time - try to figure that out beforehand. House will either be sold, or someone will have to buy the other out. Bills don't matter except the mortgage - you either need to keep the h…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 12:46 PM
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she a stay at home mom,?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 04:16 AM
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Where put the money with better interest rate, but equal or better safety and liquidity?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 08:55 PM
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yeah, a few times i was thankful i had an officewhere i could close the door
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 05:11 PM
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dude, your assessment is accurate. keep low expectations and proceed with caution. use them as a passive tool and dont entertain low/unequal effort. im actually trying to deprioritize dating or be more careful as i recently let chick get close to before i found out shes crazy. if you really dead set on meeting chicks, then start going to some salsa group lessons
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:55 PM
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file for divorce immediately. dont put money in joint account as will get stolen. can pay direct for bills you normally pay. keep same residence and try to stay as much as you can, but leave whenever you need to for your safety (friend house, hotel, or airbnb). if you dont have family nearby, get small storage and keep valuables there and some essentials in case she files false ex parte injunction. check your car title to make sure she does not switch it to her name and steal it. when you lawyer…
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:39 PM
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i faced the same thing a couple years ago. heres some stuff to think about. years of family law experience - more is better. big name firm can carry some weight occassionally, but you are paying a premium and i found that the junior lawyers absolutely will not go to the partners for advice like you would think. the lawyers who own their own small practice serm more likely to give discounts when the invoices come whereas large firms will not. supposedly if you meet with attorneys they cannottake …
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 05:18 PM
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Divorce as fast as you can. I was in your shoes and tried to stick it out. Unfortunately the situation will just progressively get worse. It's likely she will start abusing you, get an injunction claiming you are abusing her, take all the money you have, try to get you arrested, alienate your child against you, and try to take a large chunk of your future earnings simply out of selfishness. You have the opportunity to prevent all crappy stuff from happening to you. The earlier you do it the bett…
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 01:31 AM
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i just did it after 15+ years. If you use the apps recommend keeping expectations low, be cautious/careful, and go slowly. This was the advice given to me that I fully appreciate after not following it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 11:03 PM
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A few considerations: -Flexibility of apartment to move after a year or break lease. -Capital gains from house sales is not considered income in some states for the purposes of alimony calculation. -Apartment doesn't have big expenses like new roof that hit hard at one time. If you don't have much capital, then house can be scary. -House with mortgage is locked in rate that is inflation hedge. Can also refinance cheaper where apartments will usually go up. -House is investment vehicle. Basically…
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 08:30 PM
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How did you meet your new girlfriend?
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 06:15 PM
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very difficult to counter-prove it, so just absorb the attacks calmly and try not to get upset. prepare for ex parte injunction where you will abruptly be forced out of the house and no contact. get alot of money ready for court hearing and dont take any shitty offers.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 01:23 PM
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Sometimes the lump sum can be a trap. My ex asked for it knowing she was going to remarry soon. If I dod that, it would have been a huge feee windfall for her as alimony goes away upon remarriage in my state.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 04:09 PM
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thanks. i still hear all the time guys not taking anything
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:25 PM
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good going on the down payment. i feel you on the lawyers. i dropped like $75k fighting false abuse allegations also.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:24 PM
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how long after the divorce did she turn the kids against you?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:20 PM
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if she remarried does it stop?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:15 PM
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yeah, my sick ex was disrupting my sleep on purpose. people take sleep for granted.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:14 PM
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gotta pay the ransom as they say. epic financial devastation and i am loving the life i have gotten back. the ongoing alimony and child support seem to be roughly equal to the costs of her asinine spending and profit sharing i had to deal with.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 01:10 PM
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sounds like you need to move the process along. separation isnt defined well in my state but maybe your moving out can be considered that. im reading you have to be separated a year before divorcing. hurry up and meeting the timelines xnd dont let it drag out. protect yourself in case she tries to claim you are abusing her to gain an unfair advantage. you need to get a place much closer to her and your child school. child support not factored by hoirs, but by overnights, so you need to make sure…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 09:25 PM
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thanks for taking the time and effort for that reply
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 09:59 PM
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I faced this issue and did research on it. you actually get a bigger refund filing together so i decided to take a chance and work together with her. If she didnt i would have took a huge hit. luckily she worked together and it's been paying more dividends in goodwilll since
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 10:41 AM
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recommend reading some of amy baker's books to combat the alienation
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 10:14 AM
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only several months out after a long hostile divorce, but feels like a lifetime in a good way. cherish each day and people comment how i seem much happier. have fun with my kids each time i have them and learning to dance when i don't. spend less time at work and got adjusted to dating which was difficult for me. things that would upset and madden other people just slide right off me. divorce is probably the best thing thing that has ever happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 09:40 AM
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no, don't care about your age at all. far down the list of considerations
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 09:47 PM
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Never begged or pleaded, but she did often and i dont think that is good for anyone. You should value yourself and not want to be with others who are not interested. A relationship cant really work unless the partners bring each other mutual joy. Lastly, Louis CK said "No good marriage ever ended in divorce", so i hhink there's problems you are having trouble being objective about.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 02:44 PM
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only if you are recently divorced or have young children. ive had a few women bail immediately when they find i have both
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 10:04 PM
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how did you meet your new wife?
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 12:16 AM
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1600+ per month. sahm, ton of kids, and long marriage. 50 50
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 09:29 PM
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I have more kids than you and went through hellish divorce. one thing me and the ex agree on is that we should have divorced earlier instead of trying to make it work or staying together for the kids. based on what your description of what she said, the love is lost and you will eventually get divorced. the longer you put it off the worse it will be
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 12:04 PM
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let me guess... stay at home mom? did she verbatim say she wants everything? if so, you need to file asap and set final hearing date pronto so she cant manufacture plan against you.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 11:52 AM
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cheers man - congrats. agree with you on that last portion
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/26 07:20 PM
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haha, thats the same i was thinking.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 04:54 PM
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give her 15k from your retirement for buyout.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 04:45 PM
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right on. and if you like how it goes snag the cheap $30 dance shoes off amazon.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 04:51 PM
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almost always not enough men. often 2-1 ratio.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 04:22 PM
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yeah, me also. been horrible my whole life. many of the people attending will have as hard a time or worse, but you'll all laugh and have fun while slowly figuring it out. try salsa and bachata as those were the easiest ive encountered so far.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 02:45 PM
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highly recommend beginner group dance lessons. learning a skill, gets my mind off things, having active fun, and dancing with bunch of girls and making friends. each class is like $15-20. just go on website of your local dance studios and check their calendars
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 01:52 PM
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Dance classes most of the week, watching the new game of thrones episode, helping mentor a coworker facing divorce, and really just all the possibilities and open choices with my timesharing off week.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/26 01:31 PM
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Need to make up your mind on what you need are are willing to negotiate. playout in your head how the offers might go. if they ask you to go first, then they are just playing games. if they send you a dogshit offer then they are mentally not ready yet, so decline and leave to save your money and frustration. Dont let your lawyer talk you into accepting crap offers. Also lump sum alimony offer is a trick and your lawyer may not be privvy to all tricks so be skeptical. The mediators arent helpful …
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 10:31 AM
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Dude, honestly, i think you should chat with a counselor or therapist about some of these issues. your work should have s free EAP program and just single out each issue to get more series sessions. Recommend doing this before trying to date so you dont destroy your relationship , hook up with a bad apple, and have easier time dating. in the meantime, i highly recommend any beginner group dance lessons you can find for women interaction, fun, and self improvement
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/26 10:20 AM
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keep in mind: if she buys you out, you dont pay the real estate agents and sale fees; house prices depressed due to interest rates, appraisals should be objective. sounds like you are not dealing with a huge sum of money and can justify possibly losing a little to have a quick resolution without a battle costing alot in lawyer fees.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 07:39 AM
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I just started taking group dance lessons and highly recommend it. The format is learning and practicing so it is fun, intellectually/physically challenging, and get to meet a lot of people and have lots of interaction. It's like $15-30 per class and ranges from 45min-2hrs. Often you are switching partners, so meeting alot of people. Mostly girls which is a plus if you are trying to date again, but it's also easy to bond with the dudes. So far the easier ones have been contra, waltz, and salsa. …
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/26 10:20 AM
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silver bullet recipient and 50/50 here too my brother. I don't know the age of your kids, but I would probably take it in your situation, especially if the overnights are scheduled in a way that is beneficial to you and the kids. I would probably lean toward not contradicting the judge. A couple things to watch out for is that financially she will technically get all the tax dependents, so you could try to negotiate something as compensation or a more reasonable child support / alimony.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 11:23 PM
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depends on what your city offers, but i go thrifting, music performances, and dancing. highly recommend all three.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 07:15 PM
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alimony payment reduces child support. if alimont ends, child support goes up.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 10:23 PM
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Since you doing well dating, got any tips on dates? What working well and any other insights you have would be appreciated
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:23 PM
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Dude, you sound like you got it figured out and totally cool. I might do similar at some point also. Cant wait to get a dog, but wanna get a house with a doggy door first
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 09:19 PM
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It's definitely like a weird high mileage used car lot with outrageous prices and underwriting. Everyone has serious issues, but their expectations and effort are unreasonable. Recommend going slow, try to have fun, relax, and keep cool. Personally, I've been disappointed with dates enough that I try to lean into dates I would do solo and that are free. Also I'm starting to think dance classes are the best way to go.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 07:38 PM
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i just went through something sorta similar. my ex was hostile and i worried about that and wrote in protections into our divorce agreement. When she had her come to jesus moment and realized she wouldnt win, she started working together. I didnt show up to her bank appraisal, but they are supposed to be legally or professionally responsible to be neutral. I dont know how hard she pushed, but the appraiser dodnt seem to care and mostly just used comps and probably zestimate. When making my decis…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 12:44 AM
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Only limited success on bumble, but hinge has been much better.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 01:58 PM
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Been there buddy. Divorce sooner than later or you will be kicking yourself in the butt regretting it. It costs more the longer you put it off too.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 06:48 AM
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dude, how often cute women asking for your number?
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 12:50 AM
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i think shes bringing you down. hearing some of the same stuff before mine got combative
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 08:49 PM
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keep strong. mine went like 3-4 months. final verdict no credible evidence. also ignore the shite offers before the hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 10:01 PM
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congrats dude. Im hoping for the same. you got any tips for dating?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 05:20 PM
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going sooner is way better. im kicking my self in the butt for skipping so many times
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/25 03:04 AM
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i just finished up a hostile divorce similar to yours and she settled at the last minute before trial. if you have nt set trial date do so asap - that's a huge motivator
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 12:09 AM
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bro, she sounds like the problem. dont worry about finances - i lost most of my savings and am so happy to be divorced. you'll be much better off soon. hurry and file for divorce if you havent already because she may make false abuse allegations to try getting everything
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 06:06 PM
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i went through years of the lights. so disrespectful. for years she did it just to disrupt my sleep
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 08:31 AM
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you need to hurry and file before the false abuse accusations start. could take 1.5 years to get a trial date.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 08:03 AM
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find a gold buyer with decent rate
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 12:55 AM
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with ya buddy. similar here.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:35 PM
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if you care about your children and want to see them, make sure you quickly divorce if she ever hints at false accusations of abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 12:09 AM
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recommend getting out of there before she starts calling the police with the false allegations. you can still get arrested. also start preparing for a false injunction/tro
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 12:22 AM
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Good going on getting out early.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/25 10:45 AM
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similar situation here buddy. I'm going through the good fight too just a little further along than you. keep strong and spirits up.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 07:15 AM
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My understanding is that a judge would be livid if she brought three little boys to a divorce hearing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 10:56 AM
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my story similar to yours. the dvpo.hearing went in my favor, but i think legal fees were around $25k ( just my side). its not clear to me if i would have had the same result pro se. it was many hours in court siently listening to accusations of me being a monster.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 10:55 AM
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few things: 1) if you don't you are contributing to your bad situation. 2) spouse may start making false abuse allrgations and further make your life miserable. 3) costs more longer you stay.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 05:50 PM
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similar situation here. trial coming up in few months hopefully. been waiting over a year now
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 11:41 PM
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does she want in camera interviews cause kids are alienated?
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 11:34 PM
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ditto - go knicks
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 01:24 AM
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going through hostile divorce now. my wife was like that. run now
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 05:59 PM
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is there anything that could have been added to divorce decree to prevent trips back to court? have you had any problems being your own lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/25 10:27 AM
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I've had many instances of stress after calls. In retrospect, that really did not help anything. Honestly some of the best advice is to get your mind off of it and focus on other productive things such as spending time with your family. The other big thing I have learned and one of my mentors taught me, is that you will survive no matter what happens. Knowing that makes it much less stressful. If you don't already have a therapist, try to get some free sessions through your company's EAP.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 08:14 PM
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brother, i been through an absolute nightmare of false allegations for years and just trying to take care of my kids and be a great father. after all that i still had to call a few friends and family for support today and looking forward to speaking with my therapist tomorrow. check to see if your employer offers the free therapy appointments. ours is called EAP. get support from some of you friends and coworkers who have been through divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 05:04 AM
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I'm going through a similar situation. How did it all pan out for you? Do you have any good tips for me?
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/25 12:01 PM
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went through similar. best advice i can give is to divorce before she starts with the false abuse allegations
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 07:58 PM
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im going through this also. stay strong brother!
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 02:38 AM
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screenshot and save them. good time to start privately journaling also
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/25 01:22 AM
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i see alot of similarities in your situation and it can get 1000 times worse. recommend proactively divorcing before the false allegations start and your kids get alienated from you. i dont know if you're getting abused now, but sounds likely.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/25 11:58 PM
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See if your employer offers EAP which provides free therapy/counseling sessions. I do mine over zoom and your supervisor may even let you go during your work shift.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 09:54 PM
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the stock market just lost like 15-20%.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 09:51 AM
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Thanks for sharing your story. I'm going through similar and helps to know that others have been there and can get through it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 10:09 PM
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^^^^^^^
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 10:30 PM
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Going through the same thing right now. Been hopping airbnb's. As long as you have a credit card, you should be able to get those either way. It's more than renting, but you also don't have utilities, first, last, or deposit and everything is already taken care of. From my preliminary search, it's around 50% less to have monthly lease rental vs. airbnb.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 01:57 AM
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start protecting yourself now. likely shes going to call the police
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/25 11:20 AM
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I think the horrible experience has helped me find my purpose. First and foremost I really appreciate my family and friends, and want to spend time with and take care of them. Second, I really want to teach people how to protect themselves and prevent them from making all the huge mistakes that I did.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/25 02:46 AM
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sounds very similar to my stbx. i recommend getting out now. you will try hard and it will just get worse. if you stay you will regret not taking this oppotunity to divorce and risk your relationship with your child and own personal well being. learn from my tragic mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/25 04:09 AM
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Used to run cross country for years and then took like 1-2 decades off. Started walking again just a loop around the neighborhood for 15 mins any day I can and made a difference after only like a month. I mix in a few sets of push ups also. Muscle memory came back quick for those also
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:40 PM
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thanks alot for your detailed explanation!
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 10:28 PM
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roughly how many thousands of dollars do you think spent on legal fees total over those 2 years?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 01:10 AM
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how did you win against the false accusations? any tips?
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 10:41 PM
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Well, i recommend getting planning and splitting up sooner than later. Otherwise maybe resentment builds up and you guys start actively becoming jerks to each other. Try reading the ebook Divorce Simply Stated to get an idea of the effect it will have on you financially. Since you guys aren't jerks yet, have you made a serious attempt to regain compatibility or share time together? If you can think back to your younger days, you probably didn't give a shit what the activity was if you were spend…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 11:13 PM
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