pandatitanium Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	My wife (29f) asked me (33m) to divorce. I want to make it right- i love her but we are fundlamentally different. Can we make it work? Dude I read this whole long post and see if you have kids. Sounds like no. Wife doesn’t love you anymore? Gotta move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 05:02 PM
0	Clumsy wife The worst part, your kids probably suck at sports. Kidding!	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/26 01:01 AM
1	Wife doesn’t respect me or my feelings Definitely don’t double down and buy a house or have kids at this stage. Maybe it works out but right now don’t do anything like that.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/26 06:23 PM
1	Soon to be divorced Do you have kids? If not, call it a wrap and move on.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/26 03:15 AM
1	Wife just asked to end our marriage I have 3 kids 10-15 and it’s pure pain. There can’t be much worse in this life than having to make a decision to only see your kids 50% of the time. Or to have that decision made for you…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/26 02:58 AM
17	Wife just asked to end our marriage On a scale of 1-10 for this forum, fortunately this one ranks low. Only 3 years and she’s already done with you… this was going to get ugly if and when kids were introduced. Getting out of this before the kids essentially just saved the second half of your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/26 03:26 PM
0	My Wife Joined an Ultraconservative, speaking in tongues, Evangelical Cult. It all depends on which side of the internet they end up on. My wife was/is ultra online liberal now she is referencing Candace Owen conspiracy. How about you get off of the internet and back to real life…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/11/25 01:33 PM
5	Girlfriend post divorce Sounds like a really good situation for now, considering it’s only been 7 months since the split.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/25 02:38 AM
23	Useless at 50 I get it. Who wants to f with all of the divorcees who probably did the same BS to their ex and now want to live their best lives. Gross.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/07/25 10:58 PM
1	Kids after Divorce/2nd marriage Being a parent is incredibly rewarding. Go for it. Hopefully you’ve learned a lot about yourself, women and marriage from the first time. We all know what we would have done differently.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/25 03:55 AM
9	Ex-Wife never posted pictures of us or our son when we were together. She has been posting regularly with her new boyfriend who she cheated on me and left me for. Any ideas why? I’m sure she’s looking for external validation from posting things. That’s all anyone who posts a lot is after. She wants people to heart it and say that they’re so happy for her. That helps make it all ok for her and justification for her actions.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/25 04:38 AM
8	Walk away wife syndrome - an observation Yep. I think my stay at home wife thinks we live in poverty (in our million dollar house with brand new pool) and multiple vacations a year. I’m still in the thick of hell but tell you what, if I get on the other side of this there won’t be any more princesses in waiting. Get the f out of here.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/25 10:19 PM
3	Did the amount of kids contribute to divorce? Overall, the answer is yes. It also depends on the kid. My second from day 1 put a ton of strain on both of us individually and together, and still does to this day. The kids make your family but they can be a threat to your relationship if you both aren’t aware of that and proactive. Real talk.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/02/25 12:09 PM
7	AITA for buying my ex wife flowers on V-day, after the divorce? I mean, she’s not “your” valentine anymore. This seems like a hard no if you are trying to move on. Maybe if you were hoping to reconcile.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/25 03:33 AM
1	I don't know what to do I quickly scroll down through these posts to find out if there’s kids or not. If you don’t have a good relationship and aren’t raising kids together, what are you holding on to here? If it’s just you, the relationship should be fulfilling and an overall benefit to your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 12:39 PM
1	Trying to make sense of it all and get through the holidays If she started working out 6-7 days out of nowhere that could be trying to get ready to start having physical contact with someone else. Ie decent chance she’s having an affair.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/11/24 01:07 AM
5	Living with a Cheating Spouse: Lies, Betrayal, and Feeling Alone First off, sorry. This is brutal. Can relate. If you just found out yesterday, just know that the affair is still going on and will probably be for quite a while. You finding out was an inconvenience for that relationship, not the end of it. It’s likely going to get more twisted and painful. The good news is…. If you don’t expect/need/want to repair the marriage you won’t really care what she’s doing.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/11/24 12:51 PM
2	Divorce dissonance Both options are probably true. I think unfortunately both men and women can learn a lot from failed marriages, and also being older and better in tune with who they are and the type of person that would be a good fit for them.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/03/24 02:16 AM
1	Divorce was my fault Ha - well she was a very annoying influencer-type, completely insufferable.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 11:35 AM
17	Divorce was my fault I think an obvious takeaway from reading this forum is that relationships just staying the same and remaining fine is rare. It takes a lot of work from both parties. I saw a stupid instagram lady making her whole thing about putting the marriage/relationship before everything else (kids/work/etc) at all times, and it kinda makes sense. I can see that strategy paying off actually. The hard part is that you can’t realize it until it’s too late. Just a painful way to learn from experience. But it h…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 01:47 AM
7	Why am I numb and paralyzed with inaction? How do I gain momentum to make a change? This could have been written by me. 18 months in the same situation (worse behavior from my wife). I am paralyzed because of my kids. If there were no kids we’d both be gone.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/02/24 04:18 PM
3	Severe doubts It doesn’t sound like the wife was a good answer to your issues. Sounds like you need to keep going and put yourself out there. Expect that it probably won’t happen soon.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/24 02:31 AM
7	How long can you tolerate this sh*t?? Have you cheated previously? That could explain some of the paranoia.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/24 03:52 AM
7	Might be time for a divorce? Also - 27 and no kids - at that age and without kids you gotta decide if it’s going to stay the same or get worse, if so you gotta go. Having kids will 100% make your relationship suffer more or at least more stressed.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/12/23 12:49 AM
3	Might be time for a divorce? Laying in bed, always on the phone and overall a little lazy are all signs of depression. That can lead to many of the relationship issues. Lack of satisfaction and happiness with everything in her life, eventually that includes you. Been dealing with a depressed wife for 2 decades. The challenge is staying in front of it and not let it steamroll into impacting everything else. I did not, and it sounds like it’s possibly too late for you. Might need intervention/professional help to save things.…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 11:58 PM
2	Might be time for a divorce? Sounds like she’s depressed. That needs sorted before the relationship gets any better.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 11:06 PM
1	Trying to keep cool, it's hard as F@#& Probably besides the actual point, I know.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/23 12:53 AM
1	Trying to keep cool, it's hard as F@#& Well I haven’t met this 19 year old, but probably a good thing for her to start being an adult and driving herself if she’s capable. ADHD typically doesn’t mean you can’t drive?	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/23 12:52 AM
2	Seriously thinking about abandonging my kids Pretty warped mindset. 300 miles definitely sucks. But honestly dude, you sound like a very crappy dad so I’m hesitant to believe you were the perfect husband. Coming through some serious **** on my end for the past 18 months, I can see the temptation to just let it all go away. But those are you kids, do you not have strong bonds with them?	/r/Divorce_Men	12/10/23 11:14 AM
14	It’s evil how fear can keep you from doing what’s best for you. Man, when I read the posts like this when there is no kids….. just go brother. There’s no reason to stay, there’s nothing holding you down.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/08/23 09:12 PM
1	Tell Me To Let Go Already Yeah, but I already do all of those things with my kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/23 05:06 PM
3	Dad is My life. It’s been nearly a year since I found out. Truth came trickling in and I’ve been in the guest room since September. It’s clearly not sustainable. Mostly just pretend like she doesn’t exist and hang out with the kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/23 01:19 AM
3	Dad is My life. Brother, I 100% feel exactly the same as you. My wife had an affair and is a lost cause. I didn’t want any of this but do realize we have less than 5% chance of making each other happy at this point. And yeah, I do not want to fucking leave my kids, for even one second. People say things like I need to find someone that treats me better, or my favorite - that the time with the kids will be more special. No. If it’s 50% less, it’s a fucking spectacular loss and there’s no putting a spin on it.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/23 01:14 AM
1	Tell Me To Let Go Already More valuable because it’s 50% less? I hear the positive spin all the time but still not sure I buy it	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/23 01:57 AM
1	Divorce with Kids Yeah, I here that argument a lot. I get that, especially if it’s severe fighting. But the alternative isn’t an ideal role model either. One parent and new dating partners in and out of the picture.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/23 01:34 AM
5	Splitting assets and material possessions A 400 dollar couch from 6 years ago? Gotta pick your battles…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/23 02:34 AM
3	Are these good enough reasons for me (31M) to divorce my wife (31F)? Definitely don’t have kids. You will love the kids but it will not make the marriage better. The marriage will suffer and you will be stuck forever.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/23 11:29 PM
2	Wife is delusional X3	/r/Divorce_Men	31/05/23 03:18 AM