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| 64 | I realize now that my best friend was a Pickmesha and who constantly put me down! | PICKME CULTURE | pencilbride2B | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:41 AM |
| 4 | Do you have any HVM in your life? Give me some hope that HVM exists! | WHOLESOME CONTENT | pencilbride2B | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Why do guys get butthurt when you suggest you want to be friends first? | DISCUSSION | pencilbride2B | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 07:41 PM |
| 1 | There are LVM men online who prey online on vulnerable women, this is what happened to me | MALE DEPRAVITY | pencilbride2B | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:09 PM |
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| 10 | I've read Models by Mark Manson 3 times. I'm 33 and still have never been with a woman.A lot of social experiment videos online are not real or exaggerated. I wouldn’t use them to learn about what to do in dating. A lot of online content is filmed to get more views. I don’t know any of my friends who has reacted violently to men introducing themselves. I think you need to unlearn a few things. You seem to think you are flawed in someway for never having dated. I understand why that makes you feel bad but if you keep having the thought that there’s something wrong with that you onl… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/26 06:56 PM |
| 15 | I've read Models by Mark Manson 3 times. I'm 33 and still have never been with a woman.Female here. I hear what you are saying. Dating is hard. I find it hard. That’s why I no longer date lol. I think you can be doing everything right and just not find your person. And maybe it isn’t your fault at all. Have you ever been to therapy? Maybe yoi should just try making friends with women. Forget dating. How is your friendship life? You say you network for a living, so clearly you know how to be social. But how is your friendship life? How many female friends do you have? Most of my re… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/07/26 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Dont know how to not resent women when having a small penis? (Please help)Go talk to actual lesbians a lot of them don’t use dildos or any penetration. Right now all your data points are online or imaginary or you assume them. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/06/26 05:52 AM |
| 23 | Dont know how to not resent women when having a small penis? (Please help)How about the fact lesbians exist and yeah some of them just do oral or fingers lol. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/26 04:22 AM |
| 1 | How to not become mysonistic during the war?lol you replied to a 5 month old response, but okay. I agree with drafting all the lesbian, trans, and infertile women, no problem with that. Rape happens to men but they dont end up pregnant becuase of it. I agree that men should do just as much parenting and caregiving. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/12/25 08:47 PM |
| 2 | How to not become mysonistic during the war?One large reason women are not drafted is they can have children. You need to understand if all the people who can make children are killed, that’s how an entire culture or country gets wiped out. Saving the women ensures even if everyone dies, someone will be alive to produce the next generation. The next part is child care, mostly women do the care caring if all women are drafted. Who will care for the babies and children who are literally the next generation. The last part is rape, rape is a … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/07/25 05:34 AM |
| 1 | How to not become mysonistic during the war?. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/07/25 05:34 AM |
| 16 | "The Ick"Exactly LOL | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/24 04:25 PM |
| 50 | "The Ick"Firstly these girls are girls, are they like 16? You don't get the ick with someone you already love. The ICK is just another way of saying a pet peeve or a red flag. There are dumb stuff online all the time. Get off tik tok stop watching and doom scrolling. Someone who actually likes you won't get the ick, haven't you seen all kinds of women stay married to all kinds of men. If everyone was getting the ick over small silly things, then no one would ever be in relationships. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/07/24 02:53 PM |
| 10 | Why aren't women attracted to men the same way men are to women?Exactly, my type are nerdy smart guys. My friend likes masculine men like the rock. Each women have different taste. I would never be interested in the men my friend is into. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/05/24 07:11 AM |
| 18 | So how many men are actually having casual sex?OP you sound like you are 18. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/24 04:07 AM |
| 9 | Beware, MRA roots are misogynistic and anti-women rights.This is a great post! It’s very insightful to anyone considering MRA ideology. I would like to add that as a feminist, feminism is also concerned about men. All feminist men I know understand this, that feminism is also concerned with gender roles that negatively affect men. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/02/24 06:46 AM |
| 13 | Why did she ghost meLOL my dude, is that how you respond to someone telling you how bad it made her feel? No wonder she up and left. That is a seriously weak response to someone you say you like. You had sex for the first time too. You needed to tell her how badly you messed up, call her right away. Tell her why she matters to you, take her out for a nice dinner, and let her know this will never happen again. That's what you should have done. Not sure why you were so unbothered by it. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/24 09:29 PM |
| 3 | Are there options for my affectionless and sexless marriage besides divorce or living with it?I agree with this, something must have happened to trigger this. OP you need to find out what it is. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/12/23 03:13 PM |
| 11 | Are there options for my affectionless and sexless marriage besides divorce or living with it?I’m going to say that maybe she just lost attraction for you. I know it sucks. I’m female and her whole story sounds bizarre, I wouldn’t assign any of what’s going on with her to her gender at all. I think you should deeply consider leaving this marriage. It sounds like you’ve done all you can do. You deserve better. If I was in your situation I would leave. It sounds like not only do you have a sexless marriage (which honesty I wouldn’t be able to endure), but also a lack of physical and emotio… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/12/23 03:12 PM |
| 11 | Are there options for my affectionless and sexless marriage besides divorce or living with it?Have you tried asking her about other stuff not intimacy, like how she feels about you or her marriage? Do you give her compliments and make her feel beautiful? Are there other stress issues like kids or other stuff going on? Have you tried talking to her about her worries and other things not related to sex? Is she depressed or having mental health issues? | /r/ExRedPill | 21/12/23 01:33 PM |
| 20 | A mini story on how me (23M)listening to the “redpill” fucked up my chances of dating with a 19F I met at the club. Plus rant.Honestly you should have just texted her the next morning like a normal person | /r/ExRedPill | 17/12/23 03:39 AM |
| 36 | The red pill says it's all about money, status, looks, and game. Is this true? What would you say are the top traits women ages 24-28 look for in a man when wanting a relationship?I'm female -I dont care about height that much, can be up to 3 inches shorter than me. I'm 5'8. -Empathy and emotional intelligence is the most important. Sensitive and in touch with their emotions. Able to cry in front of me. Likes talking about feelings. -Intelligent. Interested in politics and wide general knowledge. -Earns a decent amount, does not have to be 6 figures. Enough for us to eat, live and travel. Can be same amount I earn. A little less is fine. -Non-judgemental. This is really i… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/12/23 10:05 PM |
| 1 | (21m) I’m so depressed and scared to go talk to this girlObviously not. This is why ur afraid to speak to girls, you have this whole constructed reality in your head. lol | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/23 05:26 AM |
| 1 | (21m) I’m so depressed and scared to go talk to this girlLOL cos its adorable, and vulnerability is super attractive. I didn't realise which sub this was. Just be yourself. Also, how is that feminine? | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/23 04:43 AM |
| 1 | (21m) I’m so depressed and scared to go talk to this girlHow about messaging her and telling her I've wanted to talk to you but I've been terrified. Let her know you don't have to hide it. I'm female and I would find that super cute. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/04/23 12:46 AM |
| 9 | How do I get rid of the toxic and hypocritical mentality that women are less valuable because of their sexual history?In real life, no one's ex is going to come knocking on your door and be like I pounded your girlfriend | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/22 06:57 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend is a Red Piller and it’s ruining our relationship.You need to leave and save yourself. You do not stay in a relationship to be a caregiver or to fix someone. He has to do that himself. You need to leave and protect yourself from anymore of this negativity! Because he clearly is not going to protect you. I am glad you realise that his behaviour is not normal and is part of the red pill brainwash. However you must know that you deserve so much better. There are many more men who don’t believe in these strange beliefs. He is giving up a good thing… | /r/ExRedPill | 07/12/21 07:26 AM |
| 10 | A woman stopped dating me because I was a virgin. How do I keep from getting redpilled after this happened?Anybody who rejects you for being a virgin is just looking for a fuck buddy, not a relationship. I am female, i would not reject a guy I liked because he was a virgin. However If I was just looking for a fling or a one night stand I would probably reject a virgin because I do not want the emotional responsibility of taking someone's virginity. Losing your virginity, having sex for the first time, is something meaningful, I would not want to take that lightly, so if I did not like someone enough,… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/11/21 07:01 AM |
| 4 | Are women only attracted to guys they have casual sex with?Exactly | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/21 01:41 PM |
| 25 | Are women only attracted to guys they have casual sex with?I'm kinda confused by your post. I have many female friends who have casual hookups including myself, there's no "special" criteria for a hook up, the guys we hook up with are not so much hotter than the guys we end up in relationships with. If anything the guys I hook up with are people who are perfectly nice people but we don't get along in the way we would need to, to be in a relationship. Like they might not have the same life goals, we may not share similar interests. I also have never made… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/10/21 02:34 AM |
| 5 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?What I find so ironic about this subreddit, is a lot of women have the impression that men are the ones who don't like vulnerability. LOL. Coming onto this sub made me realise we are all human, male or female, we are not THAT different. We all want to be seen and heard and neither gender treats the opposite gender as objects. That, YES there are bad people of both gender but maybe if we stop generalising and thinking in absolutes, then we will all come closer to the truth. I'm glad you feel bett… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/10/21 04:32 AM |
| 19 | Women of exredpill, is it true you don't like it when men are vulnerable with you?I not only want men to be vulnerable with me but I absolutely love it and value the men in my life more when they have been vulnerable with me. Let's take non-romantic relationships, I have male friend who I have known upwards of 10 years, who I have seen cry and upset over various emotional issues. It has only made me care about them more, I have spent countless hours talking with male friends going through hard times and helping them. They are still my best friends! I also love it when men I a… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/09/21 05:38 PM |
| 14 | This Is Why Men Don't Understand What Women Find AttractiveHonestly I don't care if a guy I date is super fit either, personality, kindness, and how he makes me feel ranks higher than looks to me. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/21 04:20 PM |
| 25 | This Is Why Men Don't Understand What Women Find AttractiveI am female and I 100% agree with this article. I absolutely would never swipe right on a guy posing with his muscles. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/09/21 02:30 PM |
| 11 | The normalization of casual sex culture among women encouraged the raise of TRPAgreed. Women should have the same right to pleasure and enjoyment. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/09/21 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Being alone just trigger some form of dread about being gayYou have to realise your environment shapes how you feel about things, and thats okay. You hate LGBT because your were thought to hate it subconsciously. But people change their minds all the time, have you ever disliked eating a certain food, only to try it and love it? Perhaps there was a movie everyone around you hated, so you didn't get to see it, but maybe one day you decide to watch that film and it turns out all the bad reviews were false. LGBT people come in all forms, not all of them ar… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/21 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Being alone just trigger some form of dread about being gayJust because some people feel a certain way, does not mean everyone agrees. They might be your parents but they do not dictate how you should live your life. Love whoever you want, it's not wrong to be LGBTQIA, I am straight and I fully support you. Be who you are! There's only one life. | /r/ExRedPill | 10/09/21 02:04 PM |
| 13 | I think one reason why a lot of men go into the red pill is because they genuinely do not know what makes a man attractiveI am female, and I can confirm: I think intelligent men who are kind, who do volunteering and can demonstrate vulnerability are attractive. I like seeing a guy appreciate art or musicals, who enjoys cooking or hobbies. A guy who is cheerful, and like going on long walks. I rather this than some billionaire guy who works out too much. I think a guy who runs maybe 2 -3 times a week is fit enough. I like guys who reads books and is aware of current events, doesnt have to be a Harvard grad. Just be … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/21 10:43 AM |
| 5 | What makes insecurity a turn offEverybody has insecurities. People who do not accept that are actually those who are most insecure deep down. I am female and I accept that whichever guy I date will have insecurities. I do not shame them for that. If you love someone you accept them, for all they are, strengths and weaknesses. We are all humans. You were probably dating people who are not honest enough with themselves. A lot of people are not honest with themselves. Try dating people with more self-awareness and EQ. You have cl… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/05/21 03:00 PM |
| 3 | 19M. Extremely insecure.As a female I agree with this, looks arn't everything. Volunteer, be commpassionate ,help society, I value that in a person. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/21 06:58 PM |
| 11 | TRP trauma I can't get rid of. Plz help.I am female, I've dated guys of all shapes and sizes shorter than me at times. I genuinely only care about personality, good hygiene and honesty. A great looking guy with bad personality is not at all interesting to me in the slightest. Get to know someone, share common interests and be a good human being, you will find someone :) I have no interest in guys who have 6 packs. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/21 07:48 PM |
| 42 | The more insecure a guy is, the uglier he will make you feelThis is absolutely true. Amazing you figured out. People who make you feel bad about yourself usually feel bad about themselves. How they make others feel is a reflection on them and not you. 😙 | /r/askFDS | 31/03/21 06:59 AM |
| 39 | You deserve to have high standards even if you are overweight.We need to end all fat-shaming in this sub, please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 03:32 PM |
| 26 | Now I might be crazy but has anyone ever noticed...Men have the privilege of looking awful, hardened, scarred, bruised, exhausted, rugged, and bare-faced, and being called manly, and strong. This is why. Women are limited to "acceptable" forms of these only if it looks pretty or sexy. This is still the ingrained sexism in our media. This is why we need more female directors who show women in our natural forms. | /r/askFDS | 23/01/21 09:02 AM |
| 110 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.His special Jigsaw on netflix is a MUST, actually, his stuff aligns with FDS pretty much. He rather be single than with the wrong person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 09:28 PM |
| 7 | “If he was abusive, why did you stay with him?”They are also usually very intelligent and play into your worst fears. They play into things they already know you have some self-doubt about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:24 PM |
| 9 | “If he was abusive, why did you stay with him?”THIS reminds me of someone in my life, not, a romantic relationship. It is tough, because they make you feel it is your fault and you will never be loved by anyone else, unless you do what they say and what they want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 07:44 PM |
| 3 | I don't understand the men that infiltrate this groupThey dont like women fighting back, they want us to think we exist only for their pleasure. They DO CARE. Because they are scared they are going to die alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:12 PM |
| 30 | What is wrong with me? Why can't I get over this damn guy?You need to accept and think about all the reasons you DID LIKE HIM. Write a list or letter of all thing things about him that you enjoyed and values he showed that made you feel attracted to him. Then mourn the loss of the good you saw in him. Till you fully do so, you have not moved on because you are not allowing yourself to acknowledge what made you like him, and what you saw in him that you would like to see in other men you date in the future. | /r/askFDS | 28/11/20 10:54 PM |
| 4 | Isolating myself out of insecurity?Just to add to this I agree that social media can be horrible, but what I realized is you can curate your feed. I HIGHLY recommend unfollowing any pages that make you feel unworthy and only following body-positive pages, which represent your body type. This is another way to tackle the social media issue. It's worked for me. | /r/askFDS | 27/11/20 02:08 PM |
| 11 | How to stop craving male attention?Sadly society has made women this way, so don't blame yourself. Congrats on reaching this realization, you are already on your way. I felt the same as you and as I have worked on it I care less and less about this. Here are some things you can do! -Realize that no matter how attractive you are, there will always be people who will still put you down, so in the end, only do things for you because getting other's approval will never be guaranteed. -Work on tangible goals, you are worth more than h… | /r/askFDS | 04/11/20 12:09 PM |
| 6 | Spent so long thinking I was lost and blindly chased after the idea of someone who "feels like home." It's me, I am home. 💕I feel it took me years, FDS, and a lot of bad situations that made me finally realize this. Thank you FDS for reminding me everyday :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 06:57 PM |
| 74 | Someone find this woman and bring her here. What a SCROTE.He sounds just revolting, no wonder she feels horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:10 PM |
| 4 | Couldn't possibly risk being seen as feminine in any way.Oh my god, this statement quote just made a million lightbulbs go off in my head! DANG | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Imagine not replying for two hours because you’re studying and you come back to this...OH MY GOD, flashbacks, I had a few guys from Tinder like this. I go out and come back to 20 bipolar messages. Where they cycle from trying to get your attention to passive-aggressive attacks LOL Why are men like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 08:08 PM |
| 6 | I am gaslighting myself!Yeah, you understood what I meant. I think psychologically it helps you move on faster. Get your last words out, and move forward. | /r/askFDS | 25/10/20 08:56 PM |
| 7 | I am gaslighting myself!I think, and other ladies tell me if this is bad advice. But it sounds like if you want to you, if might make you feel better to call him one last time, and tell him exactly how he's let you down. Not because it changes anything, but it gives you a fresh start. If you wanna ask him why, you can do so but don't expect a proper reply. I think its normal to feel upset, its been a many-year relationship, and for him to just ghost is not just awful but cowardly as well. I think you know exactly, and … | /r/askFDS | 25/10/20 07:03 PM |
| 1 | Don’t go on “boat dates” with guys you don’t know well or you could be put into a situation you don’t want to be in. 😬I'm so sorry you had that happen to you but that sounds truly terrifying and could have gone so wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 08:56 PM |
| 6 | FDS changed my life. Thank YOUYou are a strong capable wonderful mother. YOU were the one holding the marriage together, if anything he exited. He was the coward who ran away because BOO HOO he didn't get enough attention, rather than helping you raise your family. I am so proud of you. You deserve so much better, not a partner who puts you down blames you, and offers no help. He wants to be a kid, he wants to run away from responsibility. You don't need him in your life. You have leveled up! Sidenote I hate people who excus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:23 PM |
| 29 | Can someone explain this so called “Nice Guy” phenomenon that men behold?If you need to say it, you ain't it. Sounds like an insecure dude who thinks he's a rare breed that expects women to fall at his feet because he thinks he does the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:15 PM |
| 6 | Do HVW feel lonely?You've said it right! I think what it is, is that FDS has validated my life experiences when it comes to dating and what I've seen men do. Here I don't have to defend how I feel, or feel gaslit about my real experiences. I do not feel like I have to fight to explain why I feel the way I do, and that is POWERFUL stuff. For the first time, I feel surrounded by women who support my decisions, my choices, and don't put me down for it. I cannot thank FDS enough, this came into my life right when I ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:10 PM |
| 41 | Do HVW feel lonely?I never felt more lonely then when I was dating LVM, who made me feel crap about myself. I never felt less attractive then when I was going out on multiple dates to find "the one". If anything thanks to FDS, I feel less lonely than ever because I realized that there are many HVW out there who have woken up to being their authentic self and being strong. I realized that I was not an odd person, who had men treat them like crap. I've learned to relish the women around me more, to cultivate true fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:15 PM |
| 2 | If a man's supposed "romantic" advances are making you feel unsafe, cut them offGreat to know she's doing well and keeping up precautions :) Hope it just blows over. You are a good friend :) Do read it I read it years and years ago, but it's so relevant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | If a man's supposed "romantic" advances are making you feel unsafe, cut them offI would like to bring up the book "The gift of fear" by Gavin de Becker. It talks about stalking and murderers and abusers. What he mentioned in the book was that most violence occurred AFTER women had made protection orders or informed the authority. As this pisses off the creeps more. I would URGE your friend to still be extra cautious and to try and change her daily routine as much as possible just to throw him off. If possible move homes/dorms, don't stay out at night, always be with people,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Finally Done Learning The Hard WayWelcome to your new life of being a kick-ass woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:45 PM |
| 11 | Drew and Sharon on why they are done with dating. So relatable!YES! Women are awakening. This is so self-affirming! These are two brilliant, talented, capable and truly beautiful women who face the same issues as us. I love them for being so honest and upfront. Amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:33 PM |
| 42 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.I'm not even American, but yeah watching the long interview with her really showed me why she thinks the way she does. Cardi B is not unintelligent, she was just never given the opportunities, and shes been disadvantaged ever since. Fame has only brought more problems into her life, she feels imposter syndrome big time AND shes dealing with amounts of money she has never had before and all the issues that come with it. Including fake people using her and no one in her life who knows the real her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:25 PM |
| 10 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.Well to that, I guess the answer is she needs to start behaving like a HVW to get someone respectable to date her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:20 PM |
| 70 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.I agree, I've watched a long interview with her and I think what she really wants is acceptance, love and validation. She just wants to phrase in a way that doesn't make her sound vulnerable or what she thinks as "weak". I feel sad for her, she's simply a product of a troubled life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:17 PM |
| 17 | I don't understand male postpartum depression.However, I don't blame them for trying to repress their true feelings, as it must be incredibly hard and sad. However, at some point, they do have to confront the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:11 PM |
| 10 | How to avoid "forcing" a new friendship into the direction of a relationship, just because you haven't dated in a long time?I find that I time to time do this, how you can stop is, take a break from talking to him cold turkey. Sounds intense but it really works as a reset, tell him you are going to busy and can't talk for a while. Then take a 1 month break from any contact, I assure you this works for me every time. You just have to be willing to do it, it breaks the magic spell it has over you. | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 11:38 AM |
| 32 | LVM hate to be treated the same way they treat women.Once I dated a guy who hated how "non-clingy" I was. He expected me to beg him to be in a relationship, but I didn't. He would insult me and expect me to crumble and fall. No I just left I didn't go back. He insulted me by calling me a PLAYER! He told me I date like a man. LOL, No dude, I date like a High value woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 06:05 PM |
| 2 | My desperate pickmeisha storyThat's wonderful you are doing it for yourself, I love that! Supporting you all the way then :) Thats great to hear! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:45 PM |
| 2 | My desperate pickmeisha storyI would like to just add, you were perfect at you heaviest and your lightest. You don't have to lose weight to be worthy. He was an asshole who was disgusting and his opinion doesn't matter at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:14 AM |
| 2 | What made you realize you needed FDS?I realised my self-esteem was in the dumps, and I made a particularly bad decision to date down. He ended up being unstable and emotionally cheated on me. I also had a bunch of bad experiences with men in my life, and FDS made me realize that so many women have these shared experiences, and rather than blaming ourselves, like how we tend to do, maybe its time to put the blame on these losers who treat us like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Why I’m here.Well this just reenforces what a loser he is. He's sunk to such a low level that he's begging for validation from you! What a loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Why I’m here.The things he said to you made ME SICK. He is purely selfish. Awful. Now he's realized the error of his ways, he's lost a good thing, but you've gained so much strength. You do you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:04 AM |
| 2 | From the same sub of libfem sw that called FDS nutjobs for being against female ”empowerment”. They’re clearly right, how could this not be an empowering way to make money? 🙄Anyone who has to say they arn't racist is most likely racist LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 07:29 AM |
| 5 | "... Don't need to be loved by you!"...great song. FDS vibes!I LOVE Miley, and especially this new empowered version of her. QUEEN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:56 PM |
| 11 | From the same sub of libfem sw that called FDS nutjobs for being against female ”empowerment”. They’re clearly right, how could this not be an empowering way to make money? 🙄HOPELESS ROMANTIC in WHAT UNIVERSE?! Ew that producer is delusional. You are right scrotes stand by other scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:52 PM |
| 60 | From the same sub of libfem sw that called FDS nutjobs for being against female ”empowerment”. They’re clearly right, how could this not be an empowering way to make money? 🙄I love Rose! What a queen! I hear shes doing well now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:30 PM |
| 31 | The "perfect" relationship 🤮YES! LOL totally, this guy is LVM lol. Any guy who doesn't go down is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:07 PM |
| 143 | From the same sub of libfem sw that called FDS nutjobs for being against female ”empowerment”. They’re clearly right, how could this not be an empowering way to make money? 🙄Ed (the dude from 90 day fiance in this picture) is a low life, low self-esteem creep who was trying to use the power dynamic of him being a "first world American with some money" to coerce the poor lady from the Philipines into an unhealthy relationship. He wanted her to submit to him. He knew no-one back home wanted him so he tried his luck with pushing it overseas. UGH i really REALLy dislike him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:05 PM |
| 10 | When the LVM reveal their true face. Is this a reminder not to trust anyone? How can we build a life with someone who we believe to be HV when literally anyone could be lying to us for years? It’s really scary to hear about such stories.I think the phrase that jumped out at me was "we never had a fight". This tips me off to he was putting on an act. It is impossible for two people who care about a relationship and who say what is truly on their mind to not have some disagreements, it doesn't have to be shouting but adults have disagreements all the time and then both of them come to an agreement on how to settle the issue. However this "we never had a fight" tells me either he was putting on an act the whole time and giving in,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Starting NewCongrats! Welcome to the club of awesome women! You are one too :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 01:01 AM |
| 9 | You aren't being 'loved' in secret, you're just being used. Don't let something intangible destroy you.Thank you for sharing! Yes any man should be proud of having an empowered and wise girlfriend as you! Anyone who wants to keep a relationship secret is a NO! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:31 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I'm so happy for you :) HVM exist !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 5 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want totoo right! It's about reclaiming sisterhood! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 11:01 PM |
| 9 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want toFDS is NOT about using men, or using some weird strategy to win or coerce men. Its about women learning its okay to be alone, that external validation is not that important and self-love and self-care is important! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:20 PM |
| 12 | Exclusivity? How does a HVW ask about this?Cut them the moment they stop showing effort. Its that easy, they don't earn your respect, they don't deserve to be in your space. Cut them off when they stop trying. | /r/askFDS | 11/10/20 07:45 PM |
| 13 | Does anyone notice this happens to them a lot?Yes! It is and they get worse and worse. After so much rejection the creep either becomes a PUA, MGTOW or redpiller from the low self esteem. OR they become super nice dudes who act like they would do anything for you, but they are just happy to find SOMEONE. They are seeking validation from women and will try to get as many as they can. But they are not genuine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:08 AM |
| 3 | Jeannie Mai says she’s Taking a 'Submissive' Role in her marriage to Young Jeezy. Sis has been really guzzling that Hotep Koolaid.I've watch Jeannie a lot, she has a youtube channel with her mum and had a lot of episodes covering the intergenerational trauma in their family, she's also been sexually abused by relatives and her mother stood up for her abuser and didn't believe her which led her to run away from home at a young age. I might be assuming a little here, but it looks like a classic case of an abused woman looking for a "dominant" man to protect her. I don't get a good feeling from this, and I get very VERY toxic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 09:00 AM |
| 50 | Does anyone notice this happens to them a lot?Creeps are usually ugly because they are desperate. They are desperate for attention, love, validation, and sex. Attractive men get these all the time, from friends, relatives, colleagues, women swipe right on them more. It becomes a cycle for creeps, they are so desperate for attention they come on too strong, which makes them even more unattractive. This further makes them feel unworthy, so they try even harder... they need to prove to themself they are worthy, by getting a woman to validate t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:11 AM |
| 2 | Thank you FDS for teaching the importance of listening to your gut feeling!BINGO! you hit his sore point. He either saw you as a threat or he was looking to date someone who "looked up to him and needed him that he could control". You dodged a bullet there. He doesn't want someone over taking him at his career! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:37 AM |
| 3 | You guys finally helped me find my worth at 16 and probably saved my life in the long run. Thank you. (this was so hard to write)This is exactly why FDS exists! For once we have a safe space to support each other and to realize we are not the only ones going through these crazy mind games men play. Men have always sought to make us fight one another, we women are so much more powerful when we have each other's backs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Is it just me or has negging become the default for men?I knew of a bunch of male friends who would make vile jokes about each other's insecurities. I would see them act like they were so cool with it and that it was so funny, but then really struggle with it all the time, lime when no one was pointing that issue up. One of the dudes kept asking me if he was good looking or not and kept seeking reassurance about his face, all the while his friends would "JOKE" about how ugly he was. He too would make light of how this other dude was so single that no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 12:19 AM |
| 8 | Thank you FDS for teaching the importance of listening to your gut feeling!you are so wise and STRONG, emotionally strong to cut him off this early. Imagine he sucks so much he can't even keep his interest and intentions up for this long. I sense that you saying you had an interview triggered him, he probably is jealous... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 10:25 PM |
| 5 | It takes next to no effort to respond to a text.I've learned my lesson. I went on a date with a guy who so wasn't "my vibe". He was outstandingly sweet to me because I was out of his league. So i gave him a chance and dated him. Guess what after months of keeping up his sweet act he crumbled into a pile of insecurities, feeling that I was too good for him and that I was bound to leave him so he emotionally cheated behind my back. NEVER DATE DOWN. I've learned my lesson. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)yeah they divorced... and he married an actress who dies mysteriously while he was still serving his sentence.... mmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Yes! Thats the one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:36 PM |
| 2 | A guy I’m talking opened up that he was sexually abused as a child by his uncleRED FLAG. He's using your pity and emotions to manipulate you, RUN, don't walk. Bad things will happen if you stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 11:31 PM |
| 10 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Can someone explain to me why women chase after men like this? I saw a documentary about something similar in the UK where this woman was going crazy over this really violent prisoner and they even got married while he was still serving his sentence, the most physical contact they ever got was a hug on their wedding day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Just another reminder that many Disney films are a breeding ground for teaching harmful stereotypes to our young women. Prince Charming is a LIE.IS ANYONE GONNA MENTION I stan Garett Watts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:20 PM |
| 14 | Analyzing who HVW chose to be their husbandYes, the important turnaround was they went for therapy and he learned to see things from his families standpoint. He grew into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 05:26 PM |
| 3 | "You have no control over your body because my "hotdog" is more important than you as a person". Absolutely disgusting.ABUSIVE RED FLAG. she needs to have this child without him. She's being held hostage at this point not being allowed to meet friends till the end of her pregnancy?! that's called being locked up, is she in a prison of his!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:20 PM |
| 8 | Is it me?Its a good thing, that means LVM are avoiding you! You are miles ahead of any pickmeishas out there. You keep doing you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 42 | Is it me?It isnt you, if anything those men who are passing you up are shallow as hell. Perhaps try different social circles, go out of your way to meet different types of men. You could be mixing around LVM a lot, without realizing it. Try mixing it up, go to different places, join a class you would never have considered before, a book club or an art class. Try to meet new friends. If what you are doing isn't working, go do something else. Perhaps the men around you are too LV and cant appreciate you or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 05:14 PM |
| 7 | I feel a slight cultural expectations to settle on any lvm just to have the marriage titleWhat do you want out of all this? If you didn't live in this society of yours, what would you want? At the end of the day if you got married you will be the one coming home to that man every day, being alone with him in a bed. This is your life, not your family's life. They won't have to spend time being married to some random guy. What makes YOU happy? You don't have to do what your family or society pressures you to do. I also understand that I am not facing the same pressures that you do, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:46 PM |
| 23 | How to stop craving male attention so bad?In the end, seeking external validation is a bottomless pit. If one guy tells you, that you are pretty, you will want 2 guys to say the same, and on and on. The truth is nobody can convince you that you are attractive, but yourself. If someone pays you a compliment today, you will need to hear it again tomorrow, and what if nobody does for 4 months, then you will be even more starved at the next man you meet. Self-validation is the way to go. You must believe you are attractive to yourself. Look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:34 PM |
| 31 | let him rise to meet your standards sisWell he did :) and his hair will thank her too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 30 | I thought this video was an interesting analogy of how to respond to nagging. “Let’s be honest, you don’t value what I do. It doesn’t matter what price I charge, you’re not going to pay it. I’m not losing a costumer, you never would have been a one in the first place.“Well to be fair there are men who hate others who own supercars because they can't afford one! LOL The same way they hate women they can't have ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:14 PM |
| 3 | so very tiredthanks I'm new here too :) but FDS has only validated how I feel about the tired dating game :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:11 PM |
| 135 | I thought this video was an interesting analogy of how to respond to nagging. “Let’s be honest, you don’t value what I do. It doesn’t matter what price I charge, you’re not going to pay it. I’m not losing a costumer, you never would have been a one in the first place.“The fact they are pissed off because THEY WANT WHAT THEY CANT AFFORD. They are just trying to get us to lower our value to what they are willing to part with. Love this video! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 16 | This is disgusting.Can someone explain to me whats going on here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:48 PM |
| 8 | The low value men in my life have confirmed that everything FDS says is trueFat, ugly and old, thats what they use as insults. I would like to add that there is nothing inherently wrong with being fat, ugly or old, are they saying that anyone who is either is undeserving of love? This is precisely why they are LVM, because they are shallow as hell. Like you said if we are all truly not their type why does it bother them, are we not doing them a favor by not dating them LOL? I'm not the one crying because incels don't want to date me, I'm here rejoicing that they have el… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 10:02 PM |
| 6 | Men can communicate very clearly when they want toInteresting, I was dating a guy who always held men who were great husbands/boyfriends on a pedestal, he would go out of his way to point out "aww how sweet what a loving husband" . He would also talk about how much he hated insecure men. Guess what he turned out to be the most insecure guy I dated, and the one that cheated on me.... Thanks for bringing this us, I've read the gift of fear ages ago, but looks like i need a refresher. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:32 PM |
| 47 | so very tiredTake a break, do things that you enjoy, focus on making more friends. Read, pick up a hobby, you are not alone, you can find friendships and love in different forms. Dating when you are drain never gives good results. Take a step back from all dating, delete those apps, and decide an amount of time that you will take a break for, maybe 2 months? Find other things that bing you joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:23 PM |
| 7 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?I dont like this language, LOL, I can't be the only one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:04 PM |
| 10 | I wish all of you ladies that feeling. 💪😎Sometimes it takes weeks, months or even years, but know that eventually, this will be true. Even for those who you thought you would forever want, one day you will come to a realization, and gosh does it feel great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:44 PM |
| 121 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.This is the secret garden I know!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:53 PM |
| 17 | This poor woman 😭This is so sad, glad she knew immediately that he was a LVM. But sucks that he couldn't even show up at her moment of need. Awful, wonder if there were other signs she missed out on before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:42 PM |
| 8 | How to be a femme fatale.not quite feeling these tips | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:30 PM |
| 9 | I was feeling lonely... So I got out and got me some flowers.This is so beautiful! Lovely as you are! You are the love you give yourself <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Red Flag: Abuse starts off with control and devaluing the abused partner’s dreams & achievement’s. Throw the whole man out sis!He is jealous! Simple as that! He wants to stop her from succeeding in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:38 AM |
| 239 | Don't ever move for a manThe good news is she still has a killer scholarship AND an awesome job! She doesn't need him, and can still have a great time in Germany! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:30 AM |
| 2 | I realize now that my best friend was a Pickmesha and who constantly put me down!It is sad! When women pick such bad choices! I have tried over the years to tell her to leave these LVM but it is what she wants! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:16 AM |
| 2 | I realize now that my best friend was a Pickmesha and who constantly put me down!Some women want to live their life like that! Yes she did do that video call, the sad thing is I was not even offended I felt pity for her that she needed male validation in front of me. Thank you for your support!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:15 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020Its sad that women who have boundaries are hated on by men AND other women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:35 PM |
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