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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 14 | Why "walk dates" are a thing on OLD and why they should be trashed every single time.Restaurants and public spaces are busy and getting back to normal, in many parts of the world. It's very desirable for many people. If it's not desirable for you, just don't date. He could do a socially distanced picnic. He needs to make effort and financially pay or NO DATE. It's also coming into fall. The weather is gorgeous for patio drinks or dinner. You can socially distance and follow protocols. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:49 PM |
| 8 | I pulled the plug on OLD, got sober, and am dealing with my social anxiety and isolation.Hi. Someone asked what a social club is. Here is an example of one. https://thepershing.com/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what do you do for someone's birthday you just started dating?Nothing. I wouldn't even get a card. Cards have a sentimental/romantic tone. Keep any gifts cheap and completely generic. I won't spend anything over $10 or so until I'm married. Think a mug or sports hat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Meeting his family + friends doesn't mean SH*T!This is true. Men will introduce anyone to his family. Men also know this is a big deal to women and they can get "relationship benefits" by doing so... Better indicators are how a man handles you and introduces you in his social circle, on social media, at work, and with his friends. There is more to lose here. Good signs- He makes it "official" on Social Media (such as relationship status on Facebook). HE should do this - not you. He puts pictures of you together on social media. Better yet, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 09:31 PM |
| 15 | I feel like OLD is not for me, & I think I'm honestly okay with that.I use OLD as a supplement. As a woman, the advantage of OLD is it allows you to keep your options WIDE OPEN 24/7 and never be totally invested in a guy if you don't want to. If you meet a promising guy, you don't have to get oneitis. Personally I get approached and asked out about once every 2 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 06:24 PM |
| 29 | What is the correct FDS answer to 'What are you looking for?'?I personally, do NOT think this is an unfair question. From either a man or a woman, on a date. It's a generic question and I would not assume a man is prying to get information by asking. I actually think answering this question honestly is a queen move. It will discourage the wrong ones. I am vague, but brief. "I'm looking for a good partner if he comes along." "I'm not willing to sleep around or casually date" - leave this out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:35 AM |
| 1 | What’s your experience with paid dating sites (Match or eHarmony) been like?10 years ago, eHarmony (and other sites) had a lot of HVM on it. This was before the apps (Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, etc.). The apps have ruined online dating, IMO. They have made things too easy, accessible and it's a race to the bottom. The apps are so easy and addictive, and more mainstream/socially acceptable. There is still some "stigma" attached, I think, to Match and eHarmony. Tinder or Hinge is seen as "normal" and not desperate. Nowadays, eHarmony is full of less attractive or social rejec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 10 | Jeremy Piven stands on tiptoes to appear taller!Jeremy Piven is the ultimate LVM fuckboy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 08:15 PM |
| 29 | How hard is it to put on a nice shirt?Last weekend, I quickly ended a date with an otherwise HVM because of his shirt. We met at a 5-star restaurant, but he was wearing a Guns N Roses t-shirt. The lack of awareness was so irritating. Bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Should I abandon dating websites and apps all-together?I generally hate dating apps, but they allow you to always keep your options open. Use them as a supplement to in-person dating and activities. Think 80/20 (80% in-person 20% OLD). If you meet a great guy in person, you can get oneitis. The apps allow you to spin plates and not get invested in one guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 11:15 AM |
| 7 | Pre-Screening Phone Call Script for OLD- Weed Out Time Wasters in 10 MinutesA red flag is if he says he's been on the apps for a long time. If they mention " You can also ask (if it comes up) how many times they've been married. I screened a guy who's profile said he was "divorced" - I knew that. Turns out he's been divorced 3 times. Never would have known this until the date without the prescreen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:32 PM |
| 55 | Having to explain the novel concept of a dinner date to a 36 year old man...I hear you, sis. I did a phone screen with a 35 year old man a few days ago. This man was very educated, MBA, socially connected, etc. This was our conversation- Him-"Want to meet up for drinks?" Me- "I usually would do something like a dinner date." Him- "Oh..... Well, I would be willing to do that." As if he was doing a big favor. Such a huge turn-off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:25 PM |
| 8 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!This is just my opinion. But your online dating profile is an Ad. An ad for the most important job. If you were selling your car (and want to be successful), you wouldn't post photos of your car in "casual mode". The car would be shinied up, detailed and washed beyond normal daily mode. Remember dating is not a normal, daily activity. Leave the casual outfits for a few dates down the road, after he's seen you in the flesh. I like the outdoors and nature photos. Just make sure you look high-maint… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:49 PM |
| 12 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!The only way a man can leech off you is you allowed it. Really simple, never give a dime or anything to a man - you will never be leeched. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:49 PM |
| 10 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!I swipe "right" on the profiles I like. I wait for matches to message me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 23 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!Pay attention to what a man DOES, only. In my experience, men almost always tell you what you want to hear. There is nothing wrong with saying you want, for example, an "ambitious partner". A man can't tell you he is ambitious. He either IS or ISN'T. Look at who he is, not what he says. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 10:46 PM |
| 51 | If a guy confirms a date the day of do you cancel?If I don't have a firm TIME and LOCATION the day prior, I cancel. Men who can't do this are either 1) directly inconsiderate/ do not care or 2) lack social understanding of how dates work. Men KNOW that women spend days preparing for a date. If he doesn't know, you don't want him. I end up canceling 30-40% of dates because of this very thing. It hurts sometimes but it prevents the wrong ones from coming into my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 11:31 PM |
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