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Try not to worry. If you see her out, talk to her. If she looks away and walks the opposite direction, so be it. You can't worry about controlling someone else. It sounds like you genuinely don't have sore feelings that the spark didn't catch. If you're feeling ballsy, you can just tell her how you see it.
/r/seduction02/12/13 03:18 AM
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This is a phase that a lot of aspiring PUAs go through. The knowledge and experience the game brings makes them hate the game. These experiences are deeply emotional and challenge our sense of self as well as our understanding of what it is to interact with others. To make it even more complicated, we have confirmation bias and a need to protect our egos filtering these experiences. Women aren't shallow and dishonest. Neither are men. You've just got some hang ups about your self. Keep working o…
/r/seduction02/12/13 03:11 AM
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I usually keep texting in a normal way. If I feel like saying something to her, then I do. If she doesn't respond, I don't try to get her to. There's no, "Why aren't you responding?" texts. I have enough going on to where it will take a while before I notice if she didn't respond. If it's a shit test, I don't care, because the approach is the same either way.
/r/seduction02/12/13 02:56 AM
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Acknowledge the message and agree. Tell her that you think she is a sweet girl and that you had fun on your dates. If you see her around, be cordial and positive. Is there any reason why you would be an "enemy" that you're not telling us? If not, you're in the clear. I don't often find myself socializing with women I've dated and failed to develop feelings for. There have been a few that have become friends, but the majority became acquaintances. Something similar may happen here.
/r/seduction02/12/13 02:47 AM
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You answered your own question in the second to last paragraph. All is well. Don't worry about her not responding. There are a million things pulling her attention beside you.
/r/seduction02/12/13 02:25 AM
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Make eye contact.
/r/seduction02/12/13 02:06 AM
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I really enjoy how direct and authentic Mark is. His advice is sound for the most part. A lot of anxiety can be alleviated when the interaction goes from "I'm going to pick this girl up." to "I'm going to figure out if this girl is quality for me." Fun writing style. Looking forward to reading more.
/r/seduction09/08/12 02:24 AM
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This whole situation was incredibly important to you and that's what made you suck. You were feeling too much anxiety over something that shouldn't really be a big deal. Not trying to belittle your accomplishment or anything, but as you progress and as you have more experiences I think you'll realize that this milestone wasn't as big of a deal as it seems right now. You're still coming from a mindset of scarcity. This will change. Your anxiety will fade. How do you follow up and be alpha about t…
/r/seduction09/08/12 02:10 AM
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One year is a long time. Certainly long enough to develop lasting habits. There's a lot of good advice for someone just getting back on the horse, but I see one thing that's missing. Will power is something you can run out of. Every decision you make drains a little more of it. And you need to do things to replenish it. It's tempting to try and go at every aspect of your life as hard as you can, all at once, but this is almost a sure path to failure. Developing lasting positive habits is almost …
/r/seduction06/08/12 09:01 PM
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I used to pull my dick out all the time in college. This would be after I had isolated the girl and we were making out, roaming hands, whatever. I'd usually pull it out and put her hand on it. It just felt right.
/r/seduction27/06/12 08:27 PM
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Take it outside, buddy.
/r/seduction25/06/12 07:15 AM
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Sounds like you just weren't attracted to her. Good on you for sticking to your standards instead of going for the sure thing. Just be sure not to fool around with your room mate. ;)
/r/seduction24/06/12 06:36 AM
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At no point did I say anything about /r/seduction lacking morals. I was giving the OP a pat on the back for sticking to the morals that he dictated for himself. In that kind of situation, it's often difficult to not just go for the close whether it be a kiss or a lay. Good on him for choosing not to. I think that most of /r/seduction would agree that possibly causing trouble for a married woman, her husband and their possible children isn't the best thing ever and could certainly cause trouble f…
/r/seduction19/06/12 11:35 AM
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Every opportunity you learn from is well used. I'm also impressed by the way you held to your morals. Not something you hear about very often on this subreddit. Way to go.
/r/seduction17/06/12 09:10 PM
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Showed confidence, weren't needy, used eye contact effectively. Great job, you magnificent bastard.
/r/seduction17/06/12 08:55 PM
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Yes. Go in confident and talk to her for a little while. Ask for her number. You are over thinking this. Also, you should be approaching other girls as much as possible. You just got out of a LTR. It's understandable that you're excited by the interactions you're having with this girl, but you're too excited and it's hurting your game.
/r/seduction17/06/12 02:04 AM
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You're doing fine. Chances are nothing will come from it. Sometimes hot girls are just trying to collect FB friends, because they're hot.
/r/seduction17/06/12 01:59 AM
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He already danced with her and she rejected his attempts to kiss her and walked away from him. It would be smart to try something else and isolating is rarely a bad move. I agree that you don't always need to talk in a club setting, but this wasn't one of those situations. (you might want to toss that last bit in a comment directed at the OP)
/r/seduction16/06/12 03:28 PM
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Big up for mining the geeky/nerdy crowd. They are some of the most entertaining people once you get them in person.
/r/seduction16/06/12 01:51 PM
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You definitely had a good time, but it sounds like you need to work on calibrating the way you interact with people. This FR made it sound like you were doing everything at one level: crazypeacockpartyguy. Example. When the HB8 that you danced with poked you that was clearly an IOI, but you were in an area where you couldn't talk. Dancing with her previously didn't lead to anything special, but it did give you an in. You should have tried to isolate in a place where you could talk. Not saying th…
/r/seduction16/06/12 12:50 PM
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Great job going for the number and the meet quickly. Every aspect of seduction is better done in person. I often feel like people use dating sites and texting as a kind of substitute for real interaction. Sounds like you've been doing this for a while. How long have you been working at online game?
/r/seduction16/06/12 12:34 PM
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I own it like there's no tomorrow. Granted, it's not like I have a natural sweater or anything. Just a very full chest and beard(sometimes). LTR often find it masculine and comforting. During hugs and cuddles, they just dive in face first. The ones who don't like it are just girls. I help them develop an appreciation. I help them become women.
/r/seduction11/06/12 08:08 AM
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Christ. Great name.
/r/seduction06/06/12 09:54 PM
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War pig?
/r/seduction06/06/12 10:51 AM
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Hey, buddy. I live in South Korea and was in Seoul last weekend. In some ways it's a whole other world here. In others, mostly foreigner communities and more liberal Koreans, it's just like being in the states. The language barrier is a problem, but there are a lot of cute girls in the bigger cities who speak English. If you're here long enough to make friends, it shouldn't be a problem. I've heard that LMR is a big deal, but never experienced it myself. I've found that if you can get past the i…
/r/seduction20/05/12 10:09 PM
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She may be eying you too and you caught each other. Either way, you should probably approach at that point. All situations are different.
/r/seduction14/03/12 09:12 AM
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I always give a little half smile when I catch a girl eying me. Depending on the situation your approach will be different. I find myself going for the direct approach more often. The important thing is to approach.
/r/seduction13/03/12 05:47 AM
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Strive to better yourself every day, which is something you should be doing anyway, and she will be likely to stick around. Women like a guy who is motivated and passionate. Whatever you think brings meaning to your life, do it as hard as you can without ignoring her. Bring her along for the exciting ride that is your life. Hopefully she is bringing something similar to the table. It's better to do a handful of little things to show her you're interested rather than a couple huge things. Leave a…
/r/seduction11/03/12 10:21 PM
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Posted this in another thread that was similar. We're talking about a new SO, right? There's a lot of basic stuff that will probably be covered, so I think I'm going to stick with one thing in particular that doesn't get brought up too much. Most people have a tendency to look at their SO through rose-tinted glasses. Both men and women do this. What this entails is overlooking their flaws and exaggerating their good points. Sometimes we think that our new SO meets every one of our criteria for w…
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:25 PM
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We're talking about a new SO, right? There's a lot of basic stuff that will probably be covered, so I think I'm going to stick with one thing in particular that doesn't get brought up too much. Most people have a tendency to look at their SO through rose-tinted glasses. Both men and women do this. What this entails is overlooking their flaws and exaggerating their good points. Sometimes we think that our new SO meets every one of our criteria for what makes the perfect mate, but this is almost n…
/r/seduction11/03/12 12:07 PM
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Good on ya! Way to stick with it when you could have gone home. It sounds like you did a good job of staying positive and being dominant. Is there anything you can take from this experience as something to work on in the future?
/r/seduction11/03/12 11:43 AM
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Should have held strong genital contact.
/r/seduction11/03/12 09:32 AM
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Yeah, that's what I do. I find the whole switching eyes or looking in between to be off putting.
/r/seduction11/03/12 09:31 AM
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I must be search dumb. Do you know a place where I can find it?
/r/seduction01/10/10 06:30 PM
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I've been using a sort of mental trick too. Every time I'm faced with a difficult situation or I lack motivation, I ask myself, "What would The Man do in this situation?" This exercise has helped me in situations ranging from those involving approach anxiety to taking out the trash. Good on you for figuring it out on your own.
/r/seduction01/10/10 02:54 PM
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They're sexy, I like it.
/r/seduction29/09/10 09:55 PM
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Save
/r/seduction20/09/10 01:58 PM
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A lot of people don't realize how important prioritizing can be. By choosing classes that interest you, you're increasing the chances that you'll meet people who are interested in the same things you are. If you're enthusiastic or knowledgable about the subject, people will see that and be attracted to it.
/r/seduction29/08/10 04:35 PM
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Thanks a lot. I'm a pretty confident wingman, so I think I'll try this out.
/r/seduction27/08/10 03:42 PM
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Care to give a few examples?
/r/seduction27/08/10 03:09 PM
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Those cavemanning are right. You're a tall guy. Women love that. If you're still a virgin, a bathroom f-close isn't the best way to go. Don't think you can't use the whole virgin thing to your advantage. Some girls will think it's a challenge, others will respect you and still others will be a little nervous because of it. It all depends on how you frame it. Either way, great job! Dancing is my favorite way to meet people.
/r/seduction27/08/10 01:09 PM
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Stories. My stories, your stories, other people's stories. I love telling them, hearing them and spreading them. I like the interview process, because it's so intimate(if it's done right). I love recounting stories for the same reason. With the right skills, a story teller is one of the most interesting people in the world. He's a man of much knowledge and an entertainer. He makes others feel good. I'm not there yet, but I will be.
/r/seduction07/08/10 05:09 PM
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It's pretty Alpha to be considerate of the feelings of others. It shows you care about your friends. If this guy's room mate is probably his best friend, he should already have a good relationship with her. Talking things over shouldn't be a big problem for them. Alpha is realizing that game isn't about hurting people, but about becoming a real man who has his life together. That attracts women.
/r/seduction05/08/10 11:19 PM
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This may not be the best idea. He does live with this girl. He should probably talk to her first, to make sure she's not going to be hurt by it. It's better not to shit where you eat.
/r/seduction05/08/10 07:42 PM
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Talk to her about the situation. Hit it head on. Be a man and communicate. Hopefully, you'll end up being sure about her feelings. This is probably your best friend. Do what you can to keep that relationship intact while living your life the way you want to live it. You never know, she might become a good pivot.
/r/seduction05/08/10 07:34 PM
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