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| 3 | Female here: Does negging work on guys, too? | peut-etre | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 08:29 AM |
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| 5 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?Preach. You'd be surprised how many men fuck this simple distinction up - enough so that I hate the term "neg" with a fiery passion and find it SO easy to tell who's been watching some of the more famous PUAs. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the teasing back-and-forth behavior that you're describing, but being flat out rude does not get me in the mood, end of story. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Do you think having female friends is important?Do you see every woman as a potential conquest? It might not be popular advice here, but if you do... Stop. Why do you have friendships with other men? Ask yourself that and really think on it. Most, if not all of the same reasons would apply in a friendship created with a woman. You need someone to talk to? Someone to hang out with? Someone to work out with? Someone to talk about (hobby) with? Women can be those things, if you stop imagining that they're all potential sexual partners first and … | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 06:43 AM |
| 6 | Do you think having female friends is important?You are dating the wrong women, really. It's bizarre and unhealthy for a partner to manipulate you into hating your friends, no matter what sex they are. | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 06:34 AM |
| 2 | What's a better way to say "How are you?"Reference something mentioned in a prior conversation if you can, like a class or a professor of whatever. Even if it's as vague as "hey, how'd that x thing turn out?", it gives her somewhere to go and starts a conversation. Also shows you've listened and taken note. If you don't know her well enough to do that (or you didn't actually listen, haha), I like the suggestion of pairing a statement about you with a question for her. Lead with an anecdote about your day, and then ask about hers. The q… | /r/seduction | 25/04/15 10:04 AM |
| 11 | What's a better way to say "How are you?""Anything crazy happen recently?" From a woman's perspective, I hate this. It's just super cheesy and would immediately make me think that the guy was scrambling for questions.. but then I don't usually describe things as "crazy" in the first place. | /r/seduction | 24/04/15 11:29 PM |
| 1 | What I've learned from fucking girls I met on Tindergirls in general consider themselves giving up sex as a prize and therefore don't attempt to do anything to improve their skills Dudes also consider sex as a prize - the issue here is not with women who commodify sex, but with people who do. Sex should not be a reward or something one person gives another, it should be something two people do and enjoy together. Unfortunately, we're taught from an early age that female virginity = 'pure' and good, male virginity = laughable and bad. Therefore it… | /r/seduction | 14/03/14 06:33 AM |
| 1 | What I've learned from fucking girls I met on TinderYou'd be surprised how rare you are. | /r/seduction | 14/03/14 06:25 AM |
| 3 | Why are we less witty with the ones we're attracted to? And seem to be a stand-up comic with the one's we're not attracted to?It's like women people can smell desperation, or something This happens with me and dudes :( It has to be a relaxation/confidence thing. I get into my own head and second guess everything I say when I actually want to connect with someone. It gets a lot easier to get thrown off by the smallest things, too. | /r/seduction | 27/02/14 07:49 AM |
| 8 | [FR] Epic shit test and the value of composureNo, she just sounds crazy - in the mood for game-playing and overly self-important. There are tons of great looking girls who wouldn't dream of trying to get a dude to physically chase them down once, let alone twice in one evening. | /r/seduction | 03/02/13 07:29 PM |
| 1 | "women want men that other women want"; a practical to-do listNot sure I agree with what you've said here (but, as always, I'm only one girl and can only vouch for what works with me). About the 'mystery' vibe thing.. with a girl like me, it doesn't really work like that. If I think a dude may be with someone, I'm not going to waste my time wondering how I can get between them - I don't have the time or energy to be involved in that sort of drama. So the guessing game thing isn't for me -- I'd actually much rather know that a guy is out with his friend (wh… | /r/seduction | 02/02/13 03:20 AM |
| 1 | "women want men that other women want"; a practical to-do listTo repeat myself a bit here.. I think there's a difference between being able to display that women like you and want to spend time around you (ie why you'd bring female friends to the bar with you - helps you surpass the 'creep test' and piques other girls' interest in you) and looking like you're hitting on every chick in the room. I think 2 or 3 girls would be better than just having one. It takes away any questioning 'so.. are they together or..?' from prospective ladies which is always a po… | /r/seduction | 02/02/13 03:16 AM |
| 1 | "women want men that other women want"; a practical to-do listWell, just from my own experiences - I didn't feel competitive in the slightest, just bummed that I was led on before he went for another girl. I think there's a difference between being able to display that women like you and want to spend time around you (ie why you'd bring female friends to the bar with you - helps you surpass the 'creep test' and piques other girls' interest in you) and looking like you're hitting on every chick in the room. | /r/seduction | 02/02/13 03:12 AM |
| 24 | "women want men that other women want"; a practical to-do listSomething to add: make sure your body language with your girl friends doesn't indicate that you're with with them. Recently I met a guy at a bar and we'd been talking off and on all night with great chemistry. I was about to ask for his number when I saw him with another girl, speaking very closely into her ear and touching her in a familiar way. Instant turnoff. Turns out, they were just buds and he asked for my number in front of her while she gave the nod of approval.. but I could have just b… | /r/seduction | 01/02/13 03:09 PM |
| 2 | I've convinced myself that living at home, at age 24, to save money and complete my degree is enough of an excuse to not date since girls don't like guys in my situation. Should I continue with this mindset or change my attitude?21yo girl here. Obviously I can't vouch for all ladies, but I don't necessarily mind if a dude still lives at home - students have to do what they have to do, you know? Sure, it's great if he doesn't, but purely because of how still being at home can interfere with sexytime - especially if I'm living at home, as well. My advice would be to talk to your parents about the possibility of you bringing girls home - act more like a roommate in that sense. That way they won't be surprised/overly awkwar… | /r/seduction | 27/11/12 01:50 AM |
| 6 | Flirting for noobsDefinitely is a cultural thing - Canadian girl here, recently moved over to your side of the pond. I find it muuuuch less "ugh" from guys over here, simply because it's normal and not smarmy like it is back home. | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 07:46 AM |
| 13 | Flirting for noobsGirl here. I have to say that being called "babe" in any scenario is an insta-turnoff. It reeks of a dude who's trying too hard to be suave; like he wants to show you that he's already got it in the bag or something. Ugggh. Could be that I'm just not a pet-names type of girl, but I don't mind them when they're being used to tease a little bit - ie when I've passed a dude something or got him a beer or whatever, him saying "Aww, thanks, sugarplum," in an overly sweet, obviously-taking-the-piss ma… | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 07:44 AM |
| 1 | How do you handle asking a girl if she's clean?Echoing everyone else who's posted - people lie in pursuit of sex every day. This is not new. Use a damn condom. But if you're still asking anyways (I do, too), I would stay away from using a word like "clean" and instead say "Hey, just so you know, I got tested last week/month/whenever." If she doesn't reciprocally offer any info, follow it up with "Have you been tested recently?" and go from there. (Also, there have been a few posts on this over in r/sex.. if you search, you might find some go… | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, I have a confession. I keep a set of higher-end liquor bottles that I refill with with $10-a-handle liquor. No one has ever realized the difference. What techniques do you use in the course of seduction that you aren't exactly proud of?If some dude told me to try harder, I'd just feel like that was his way of passive-aggressively telling me it was my fault or something. So it reeaaally depends on the situation if you use this. On the other hand, great advice on just saying you're tired. It's not a big deal, I don't expect every dude to cum buckets with me every time (I doubt any girl does), so don't make it one! | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 06:48 PM |
| 3 | How to turn the conversation sexual. Here are my tips and I would like to hear yours.Does that really work? Not to be a dick about it, but.. eugh. The full-body creeper check out is not exactly enticing. | /r/seduction | 12/05/12 07:47 AM |
| 4 | How to turn the conversation sexual. Here are my tips and I would like to hear yours.This will show that my mind isn't on sex, it's on having an awesome conversation with you, and it just happens that my hand is on your waist and tickling your side, or stroking your thigh. Sorry I didn't hear what you just said, get over here, lean on me and wrap yourself around my arm so I can hear better and we can keep discussing our favorite books. I find this will really get them really hot; on the one hand you are getting them horny with all the kino, but the conversation is frustrating th… | /r/seduction | 12/05/12 07:45 AM |
| 2 | How to get female friends?You just really need to change your perspective from viewing women as the "other" and men as the norm. It will be healthier for all your future exchanges with women, whether they be platonic, romantic, in a work environment, with female family members, or in any other situation imaginable. I'm not quite sure how you're going to work on this other than to try and build these relationships in real life and get to know that females are people with flaws and quirks who do amazing/boring/stupid/funny… | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 06:22 AM |
| 1 | How to get female friends?:) No worries! Some of my best friends are guys, and I my life would be much less enjoyable without having them around -- so giving you some hints to get some ladyfriends is not a problem at all. So, how do you keep a friendship going? Well, understand that you're not going to be bffs after one conversation. Keep having nice conversations when you run into her and you'll lay the groundwork for having a good friendship later on. The beauty of the questions that pertain to time or state is that yo… | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 06:04 AM |
| 2 | How to get female friends?Don't be so quick to judge others without getting to know them. Hit the nail on the head, here. I think this is OP's main issue.. seeing girls as complex people rather than just inscrutable females. | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 03:05 AM |
| 3 | How to get female friends?You would be surprised to learn just how many girls are into the "nerdy" things that you are. Granted, it depends on what kind of girls you tend to surround yourself with, but that's true of guys as well. Say you start a conversation with "So, what did you get up to today/this weekend?", and she begins speaking about whatever. Talk to her about what she mentions and how it relates to you. [EX: "Oh, you rode horses on Sunday? I've never been much of a horse person, although I did try once when I … | /r/seduction | 18/02/12 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Hang out ideasOf course, you have to tailor your date ideas to who you're actually bringing on the date.. but I would say don't be afraid to try something unconventional! You'll definitely end up more memorable that way IMO (in a good way). BTW, I'm a chick and would love it if a dude took me (or let me take him!) on a lazer tag date. Seriously. Also: PEW PEW PEW | /r/seduction | 31/12/11 11:30 PM |
| 6 | Hang out ideasUpvotes for lazertag. A date and I once went to an arcade and alternated between pool and DDR/fps games/racing games/etc. It was one of the better dates I've had. Something less serious and more playful is unexpected and can be really, really fun, depending on what sort of girl she is. Edit: I'd nix the swimming, though (unless it's a trip to the beach). Some girls may not be super comfortable being half naked on a first date, and there isn't much chance to actually talk and get to know if eithe… | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Good response to "You have beautiful eyes"?But how to use this response on a dude? It feels aniquated and a little bit silly to call someone "handsome". | /r/seduction | 27/12/11 11:28 AM |
| 3 | Rule Checklist for texting or text based communicationEh.. I like all of the rules posted as of now, except for that 2/3 rule. It seems kind of stupid to put a numerical value on the amount of texts you'll send -- if she sends multiple texts in a row without pause for response, sure, know when to edit yourself. But if she's fairly matter-of-fact with her messages? Cutting your responses down to fit some arbitrary rule probably won't work out for you. I guess in all cases, use your judgement. And like you said, texting a girl too much is a one way t… | /r/seduction | 07/11/11 07:24 AM |
| 1 | constant logistics problem: i have no carWhy is her place out of the question? If it's closer, it might be better to casually suggest you head over there instead. If the time thing is a problem, think about leaving the party before it ends. Seriously, if you're f-closing, you're going to be having more fun anyways. Leave at midnight/one, walk to your place, still have energy for lovin'. Also want to second what peterclemenza said about the friend thing -- it's really not the big deal you think it is. You could tell her "I'm not driving… | /r/seduction | 19/10/11 07:15 AM |
| 2 | How do you say "I'm still a virgin" without losing value?"You know I hate the double standard of how if a girl sleeps with loads of guys, she's a slut, and if a guy does it, everyone calls him gay." This is awesome, and if it made me laugh reading it off of a computer screen, it would definitely work irl. All of them are pretty good, actually. Excellent tips! | /r/seduction | 26/09/11 02:48 AM |
| 2 | Friend zoned. Here's how I handled it.If friendship is what's in order then I obviously won't be trying to bang you, will I? Do the two have to be mutually exclusive? | /r/seduction | 23/09/11 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Rudest thing I've ever heard from a girlHmm.. that makes sense. I guess I just put myself in the shoes of the non-bitchy one and stayed there. As a girl, the lying down comment just skeeves me out in this context. | /r/seduction | 24/08/11 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Rudest thing I've ever heard from a girlIt doesn't really fuck with her though, as she doesn't give a fuck in the first place. Would it not be more alpha (and impress her friend/other witnesses, regardless of whether or not you're going to return to them later) to be the bigger person and either laugh or just walk away? | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 01:04 AM |
| 4 | Three New Ways to Kino-Neg a GirlTwo would literally make me stop talking mid-sentence, turn around, and walk away. I don't speak for all of us, but I seriously can't imagine a female who'd think it was cute or persue contact with you after that. Just sayin'. | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 08:34 AM |
| 30 | Rudest thing I've ever heard from a girlEuuugggghhh.. That girl was a colossal bitch, for sure, but this response wouldn't have made OP look suave.. just fucking creepy/juvenile. Seriously, this is right up there with "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" | /r/seduction | 22/08/11 08:00 AM |
| 1 | I'm just going to say it... stop hitting on other guys gfsI really dislike how, across all subreddits, almost every response when cheating is even mentioned is a "black and white", "good vs evil" kneejerk reaction. Generally speaking cheating may not be the nicest of activities -- but each situation is individual and thus, all cannot be condemned together in one fell swoop. The contents of a relationship are only known to the persons inside of it. Thanks for being the first person I've seen to understand this. /rant. | /r/seduction | 19/08/11 01:33 AM |
| 8 | What do you do when a girl's being self-deprecating?There are two kinds of self deprication... the casual, joking sort ("I can't even walk and chew gum at the same time, you don't want me on your <insert sport> team..") and the insecure sort (anything regarding looks or weight). If she's using the latter, contradict her then change the subject. Do it in a short and succinct manner and move on quickly -- Don't give her time to elaborate or dwell! ie, "You look great. So what would you like to do after dinner? Etc." | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Just make them laugh?Exaccctly. One or two self-depricating jokes that are well placed can be successful, but after a while.. it really just comes off like you've got nothing else to talk about and don't really have a ton of confidence. Kills the mood. | /r/seduction | 18/07/11 03:05 AM |
| 5 | What to say/talk about? How to flirt and build attraction?Talk about something that excites YOU. If you're having fun, so will she. Mmm, not so fast with that advice. Sure, talk about things that you think are awesome (enthusiasm can be infectious), but remember to keep it relateable and to keep an eye on how receptive she is. You might be infatuated with the special effects on a new zombie miniseries, but that won't necessarily stop her eyes from glazing over. | /r/seduction | 13/07/11 08:16 AM |
| 2 | Some opener advice from my improv teacherLast I checked it wasn't usually the tradition for a wife to take the first name of her husband, add an S, and use it as her last.. so, no. | /r/seduction | 02/06/11 10:25 PM |
| 7 | Some opener advice from my improv teacherLast I checked it wasn't usually the tradition for a wife to take the first name of her husband, add an S, and use it as her last.. so, no. | /r/seduction | 02/06/11 10:25 PM |
| 1 | [LR] - Token ResistanceI think the issue might be that it's an internet thread targeted asking people to use common sense. I know some girls who do the whole "You're so bad... we can't.." etc, all while massaging some dudes dick and clearly not seriously saying "no" (totally fucked in my opinion -- isn't it sexier to be just as enthusiastic as your partner? Fuck all that fake virgin BS) -- and this thread is targeted at those situations, where consensual sex is going to happen if things progress. That being said, some… | /r/seduction | 23/05/11 09:12 PM |
| 2 | running with a girl you like?Must.. remember.. this.. | /r/seduction | 22/05/11 11:22 PM |
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