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Better be really sure this is what you want because it's a life altering decision for your fatherhood. Yeah, the risks seem to outweigh the potential reward. My family is a days drive away, and I've been visiting often. It could be much worse. I will at least stick it out for a couple years and see what happens. And, your child is at the age when they will have memories of you. Despite other commentators implications otherwise, whenever I think about the effect on my child I break out in tears. …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 02:10 AM
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Thank you. I can see how I might come off as ungrateful for the situation I have. And yes, I'm emotional. But I'm not packing bags -- I'm thinking through things. Part of my question is -- what are the consequences? How bad would it be for my kid to be raised by a single parent? I wouldn't necessarily want to cut off all contact (though I imagine I would not get as much say in it anymore). I would pay child support. Lesbians eventually turn into troubled and full-on physically abusive relationsh…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 10:24 PM
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If you want to move out of the area, do it for the right reasons, for yourself and for your child, have your attorney file a motion in the courts for the move, to make a better life for your child with a better school system Suppose I find a better area and school system. How likely is it that this would be approved? This is not the time to run around chasing women. The kid comes first. Would he be that bad off to be raised only by her if I wanted to start over somewhere else? She's not a bad mo…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 10:17 PM
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I do care about my child's life. That's why I am asking: Would he be that bad off to be raised only by her if I wanted to start over somewhere else? And as far as my life, where do I draw the line? Sure -- I have it great. That doesn't mean I can't think about alternatives. Should I 50% raise a kid in a terrible school system just because my ex refuses to move? In a place where my ex has family but I have none? I don't think the answer is that black-and-white.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 10:15 PM
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Not sure I agree with the others here. While I'd cut off all contact if I didn't have a kid, I'm amicably co-parenting. I help out with some things, but only because I expect help in return if I need a babysitter. That's it. Otherwise I set clear boundaries. When she asks for help, which my ex rarely does, I consider those boundaries before responding. In this case I might help somewhat (eg. move heavy furniture out of the house and on to a truck) but it'd be up to her to get it out of the truck…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/22 08:31 PM
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What if we share 50/50, but I make twice as much as my wife? I saw the online calculator for my state, and it used "combined adjusted gross monthly income", but I couldn't find a definition of that, nor how it handled splitting time.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 01:45 PM
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I'm also concerned when it hits her she has no left over money each month, that'll she'll "need" more CS all of the sudden. I managed our finances prior to starting to separate, and she just can't really afford the neighborhood. There's a chance her father may just buy the house, or a large portion of it so she can recast the loan to something more manageable. But that's a long shot.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/21 01:38 PM
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Uh, well it looks like it starts around $500 with a conservative estimate, not sure how to understand "combined adjusted gross monthly income", and goes to $1500 if it truly uses both of our incomes even though we are separated. What the fuck, who can afford that shit?
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 09:48 PM
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I dunno. I feel like we both make enough (70k/160k), I should not have to pay that much child support (something like $200/month sounds more reasonable). But reading up on child support, it looks like legally that doesn't matter and I've got a great deal. Especially if I look up the child support table for my state, I could be on the hook for $800+. Which is insane. We never spent $400 on our kid in a month, much less $800. I have to get my own house now, and the one I've found is bigger than I …
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 09:44 PM
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Actually, that's what we agreed to instead of $400/month, for the time being. Daycare is $940/month, I normally pay 66%, so $620 + $320 extra, + our joint phone plan to get it close to $400. Easier paper trail.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 09:37 PM
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It was before we married, but sure I suppose it could be a gift to both of us. Not sure I want to even try, though.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 06:00 PM
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Is there a specific name for an attorney to do that? That's exactly what we need.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 05:38 PM
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I spoke with an attorney. He was basically telling me to get another phone, record all conversations, etc. etc. to prepare for a court case. And to fight my wife over every little thing. But those are all great things to cover. What we really need is an attorney to just read over our agreement and ensure they are enforceable. I get along with her parents really well. If they have to help her pay for a lawyer, I don't think that would be the case anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 05:35 PM
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Yes, but her parents bought the previous home and she put all the equity into the new one. If I were to say "I want 50% because the law says so" that would not help us resolve this peaceably. An attorney I spoke to said I could be on the hook for $600/month temp spousal support + child care.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/21 05:32 PM
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