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You wanted her to see the advice would be the same whether you were attractive or not? In her post it looked like you treated her moving across the country as no big deal + general signs of disinterest. Good luck in AA.
/r/RedPillWives17/11/17 06:25 PM
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I️ spent a good portion of my youth sleeping with beautiful women. I️ have never had problems attracting women I️ couldn’t spend my life attracting beautiful 20 somethings and nexting then. For the curious, one of the girls was apparently attracted to me (as I’ve experienced before) or if she decides to leave, fuck 20 somethings again (if I️ choose to), continue my mission to civilize while searching for new and younger wifey material These are so irrelevant for the purpose you claim. And the "y…
/r/RedPillWives12/11/17 01:57 AM
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Yes, so glad someone said this out loud. I understand not wanting to date her if she only stays out of attachment or lack of perceived choices. But the whole post and vibe just screams dread
/r/RedPillWives11/11/17 02:17 PM
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It's so great that your husband acknowledges that time and loss! It's not a given that men put much significance into a strictly feminine experience, but I imagine your communication makes it more understandable. I also like how you describe the differences in closeness, and I hope you'll find the missing pieces in your life.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/17 11:08 PM
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I'm sorry about your miscarriage, I can't imagine what that grief was like for you.
/r/RedPillWives04/11/17 10:59 PM
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Interesting! I interpreted it as proof they unconsciously did regard women and men as unequal. That women can affect men so little in this realm as to render their violence harmless.
/r/RedPillWives02/11/17 07:09 PM
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Love audio books! :)
/r/RedPillWives02/11/17 10:24 AM
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Yesterday we tried taking mucuna pruriens and take a nap to try lucid dreaming. It was really fun, I highly recommend it :p
/r/RedPillWives31/10/17 04:19 PM
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That is super sweet! :)
/r/RedPillWives31/10/17 04:18 PM
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Is there a kindle version? If there is I would love to read it with you! I appreciate the book rec, and the disclaimer, as reviews I've read otherwise would have turned me off. It just made me expect a low reward-effort ratio but even if there are some feminist elements I'm a fan of gleaning whatever valuable info you can. The author of Conscious Femininity wrote dismissively about "patriarchy" (which I didn't find her position about yet) but her work is still insightful. I haven’t actually gott…
/r/RedPillWives30/10/17 05:04 PM
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I wonder about the best parenting media you all have encountered? Personally I loved Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/17 02:50 PM
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I think people also keep track of the status of all the areas in home-keeping, health, comfort everything, and how they align with their continuously evolving aspirations. Women more-so than men in the home.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 06:48 PM
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I feel that men make plans all the time XD so I don't think birthdays and anniversaries are a big deal. Travel planning is a big one but it's not likely to get you burnt out unless it is your lifestyle. On our trips E arranges everything. He doesn't tell me about anything he has just had that responsibility internalized his whole life I think. But I realize there really is a lot to take into account, and I'm relieved to have no part of the logistics. I do experience a lot of emotional labor in r…
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 06:42 PM
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I don't read you as confusing complaining and problem-solving. Personally I can put a lot of pressure on myself and the relationship, but hearing real stories from other people's relationships grounds me.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 03:59 PM
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I'll just repost this pic :3
/r/RedPillWives27/10/17 12:08 AM
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Fun question! I had a number of qualities that used to be cited a lot as unfortunate for women. Divorced parents, not religious, mental illness. I know they were just markers not destiny, but it did feel bad because they can influence me negatively.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 11:38 PM
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I’m confused because I don’t see how the article would be different whether they think SO is real or not. I can’t see them advocating that homosexuality isn’t an error in sexual attraction at all :o Only that they’re trying to explain why it’s present when they reproduce less. I interpret it as genetic material that is useful in a woman being selected for in the combined gene pool. That it’s reproductionally disadvantageous when it occurs in a man, but advantageous for reproduction in a woman. L…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/17 11:33 PM
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This thread 😍
/r/RedPillWives25/10/17 12:58 AM
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Well I think that is just perfect <3 A quote from Modern Family that always makes me cry is when Jay says "the biggest part of being a dad is just showing up". The notion that if something is worth doing it's worth doing properly can be harmful if we get into an all or nothing mindset.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 11:46 PM
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A shot in the dark, but this is what I thought of. Hugs, I hope you get to the bottom of this.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/17 03:35 PM
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I just read this. Around half of all heterosexual men and women potentially carry so-called homosexuality genes that are passed on from one generation to the next. This has helped homosexuality to be present among humans throughout history, even though homosexual men normally do not have many descendants who can directly inherit their genes. "The trend of female family members of homosexual men to have more offspring can help explain the persistence of homosexuality, if we also consider that tho…
/r/RedPillWives23/10/17 01:19 AM
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Well whatever you want to call it :d I don't mean to say it isn't important, I just wanted to create an opening to shed some light on the different preferences of our men and discuss it further. I think many men would absolutely appreciate being told why, but also others react differently.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 11:52 PM
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This is all very encouraging! :) I feel like I have more insider-insight now. I just need to space my expenses a bit...
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 11:37 PM
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No wrists, arms, shoulders, neck, underbust etc? Is it hard to design your own patterns, or sew without a pattern? I literally dream of dresses in great detail, I would love to make some of them, but I don't know where to start. Thank you :) I have to learn this :)
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 03:13 PM
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In my relationship I think implicit trust and faith fare best. I know E doesn't react much to compliments, and I don't think he likes most of them. When I follow my unconscious conditions for verbal affection it has much more impact than conscious and deliberate expressing of what I feel in words. How does this fit into this theme?
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 02:59 PM
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How many measurements do you take, and how hard is it to fit your proportions exactly? And do you need a lot to get started? A sewing machine, materials, some..pressing, thing?
/r/RedPillWives22/10/17 12:21 PM
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Glad you found it so :) From what I remember in the article there was no difference before or after commitment (in form of exclusivity, or marriage). But it makes a huge difference. If a man backed out because of competition he would either not be interested enough or not interesting himself. But I see how having male friends can be unappealing in other ways. Is this too dark? The closest thing to my back-up mate is a nsfl.
/r/RedPillWives20/10/17 12:50 PM
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before I closed notepad and it disappeared lol. That sucks! I found it interesting that they were presenting all of these ideas of theirs as novel, when they were just describing everything we talk about in here with different language. Yes, it really confused me. a phenomenon that, up until now, has been explained by the ‘good genes hypothesis’: the concept that women have evolved a dual mating strategy – securing investment from one man while mating on the side with men who have better genes t…
/r/RedPillWives20/10/17 12:31 PM
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I think so, because of how associations work? or is it only me? I've realized I can also feel days and memories as normal when they happen, but later hearing the songs reminding me of them can have a big emotional impact. They didn't stand out from the immediately surrounding experiences and days, but after being sensorily reminded of them at a later date the mood is tangible.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 10:46 PM
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Music or scents or tastes that reminds you of a certain memory or time. They pin or anchor the emotions of one or a series of experiences to the sensory stimuli, making it able to 'retrieve' some of the emotions at a later time.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 09:40 PM
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The ideas of animals getting high and crossdresser snakes are very entertaining to me :) Also poor frogs whose defense mechanisms are dismissed as party tricks.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 01:07 AM
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Your dog sounds so cute haha!
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 12:43 AM
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Could you try to "make a big deal" sometimes when he has helped you with something? And maybe that will make a bigger impression than two forgettable minutes of switching a light bulb. Just something silly like buying a drink he hasn't tried, or have tried and loves, and write on it with a marker "I love when you change my light-bulbs ❤ (.Y.)". But adjust it to your natural personality. Maybe that helps him view it as a tangible chore?
/r/RedPillWives18/10/17 12:26 AM
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I sympathise with your hurt. Even still isn't it a good thing the criticism was on something that isn't a fixed trait? However hard to struggle with weight it's actually changeable unlike other criticisms one might hear. I second the advice to concentrate more on diet. Personally hard exercise makes me super hungry. The greatest diet advice I can give is clean eating. I find CICO doesn't matter half as much! Fat cells are actually summoned to engulf toxins when they're too many for the body to d…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 01:17 AM
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Maybe her talk isn't really the charming part only a medium for her good vibes :) you can find ways to do the same that plays to your strengths. Most people actually find eye contact hard but it is one of the best people skills. I read somewhere that it increases testosterone in men, just having eye contact. I want to link to the memoirs of a geisha video where the girl caused a bike crash with one look :d
/r/RedPillWives17/10/17 12:14 AM
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He has been chained to the bed sick and despite his pain I've really enjoyed taking care of him the last days ❤ I was so scared for him but thankfully today he's better! He found it difficult not to help and somewhat guilty. We almost could not be close because of pain and had to sleep on each corner of a sofa. At one point I awoke every time he let go of my foot so when he couldn't sleep he just laid still for several hours with only his thoughts and holding my foot. Such a bizarre need from my…
/r/RedPillWives16/10/17 11:45 PM
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I can relate 100 % to being so oriented against hurting anyone but realize that he's already trespassing on your boundaries. His is not the behavior of respecting you, it is trying to lure you. Expensive gift before meeting you? Probably more stuff for tomorrow? Meet your family? Not signs of true interest. Don't feel you owe him for his 'kindness', if he says and does all you mentioned without stopping to see how it is received, it's not for you. Cancel and don't say why in a way that can be ar…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 09:15 PM
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My condolences :( so horrible, pets are truly family members. And thank you for this post. My bf recently lost a family member so this has been relevant for me lately. It reminds me of the notion that men are strong and women are resilient. Personally I can't handle death at all, whether it's someone I know or a stranger. But my bf and I were both able to be light-hearted at least some of the time. He said he forgot all about it for the while. In the event I would be too depressed to be a light …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 04:07 PM
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What I mean is other motivations explain bisexuality but not homosexuality. I don't think a culture's aversion today cancel out what was beneficial to encourage bonding throughout our times. SO is considered a demoghraphic I think? and for some reason people identify more with it than nearsightedness. A natural reaction to being historically chastised I guess. I think marketing would also take a really long time. And the implications to being something that has to be corrected, I don't know if y…
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 09:28 AM
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'sex is an effect and an expression of a man's sense of his value' Because he's making copies of himself? XD
/r/RedPillWives14/10/17 08:35 AM
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There is a third alternative to the fight and flight model which is freezing. It sounds the same as stonewalling since you become more passice (play dead basically) and it's common for people with anxiety. The way I see stonewalling is much more hostile, can it be that you just freeze?
/r/RedPillWives11/10/17 08:38 AM
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One thing I consider my (future) responsibility under Food, is to keep "emergency meals" or snack portions, in the freezer, that he can heat and have ready in minutes. I am also (as preparation, being an unmarried woman and all) collecting fail-proof recipes to have as an idea central for when meal creativity is low. I see that I've written notes to myself to learn to remove stains by spilling and practicing on old clothes lol. I also gather ideas for how to help him relax after work or in gener…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 10:42 PM
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I'm so so so sorry if this is rude, but is English your second language? Yes x) not rude, it's rather helpful to know when I mess up! That's kind of sweet! And when he sees you without makeup he knows you want to be cuddled haha. I want to always be close and touching with my boyfriend as well. It's interesting that excessive cuddling makes your husband anxious, I never heard about that connection before. Maybe it does my bf too? How did you know it made him anxious? I agree about forced abortio…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 10:08 PM
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I mean I would be deeply unhappy if my future husband didn't like my way of decorating, not only details I could switch out but had directly opposite wishes. I care a lot about my surroundings. If he cared just as much as me and we couldn't work out something we both liked, what would I do? This is where the interesting conversations are at. There is one point where you just aren't compatible anymore, but I don't think decorating is it.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 07:22 PM
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Because on a real ship, the captain gets the final say about everything. If the captain and first mate disagree about anything, the final say goes to the captain. Always. Delegating gives local authority unless he goes in to intervene. The difference makes it seem like continuous vetting. Where you can't trust him to all of these: having the best intentions for the two of you, knowing where your expertise trumps his, and combining your abilities to arrive at the best place. One ship or many ship…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 07:08 PM
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Oooh, I think many would like to see this! Your vows are so beautiful, they speak to you and I haven't heard many people's vows but I think these aren't the cookie cutter run of the mill kind. And sharing about wife duties and areas of responsibility could spark many ideas for each other, it would be a great discussion too. What we consider our responsibilities and what each of them entails.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/17 05:58 PM
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Is tact a male trait? I was with a girl who started to ask me about my period in front of my boyfriend :s and others who keep prying on subjects that are clearly uncomfortable to the person being asked. Most of the men around me dislike talking a lot about any illness they should have or a time they were lost or cried as a child, but the women keep telling everyone or asking despite suggestions to stop. I guess they are things women don't mind sharing about themselves, but that is where tact com…
/r/RedPillWives07/10/17 01:56 PM
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Toxic masculinity” is a phrase we hear a lot in relation to male violence. It implies there is a non-toxic, healthy alternative. Why even go there? People who “don’t get” why we all need to own guns are precisely the kind of people we ought to be raising right now. Only in fairy tales are there a right and a wrong action. Decisions with no ideal outcome have to be made every day and taking a stand in them makes a better not a worse person :s If you have to use that horrible tragedy to debate mas…
/r/RedPillWives07/10/17 12:05 PM
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Absolutely the contraflow is very negatively viewed. It’s not my impression that sp/sx’s, sx/so’s or so/sp’s are compelled against people, or that synflows are „deeply human“ as if contraflows were not. I do like picking and choosing from the resources though and the valuable information from it was the origins of the flows relating to the needs hierarchy. I also think there is something valuable in the tendencies/word lists, but if they don’t fit they don’t fit. It’s very true for me and my bf …
/r/RedPillWives28/09/17 02:01 AM
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Mhm! Even if it's not the main issue there may at least be something staying with him.. I haven't heard of keeping dinner private before.
/r/RedPillWives27/09/17 12:37 AM
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I did notice that your post made it seem that sx was the only instinct that was seeking any kind of deeper one-on-one relationship, but I agree with you that one-to-one conversation is something done by all types. Hmm! Core revelation is as deep as it can go, but I mean mutual trust, teamwork, belonging and meeting on something, celebrating together, they also make depth in a relation I think? As a Social first, I do tend to seek commonality and a bond/link between another person, whereas a Sexu…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 07:53 PM
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I'm so happy you like it! :) I feel the same way about having a new way to look at some issues. I imagine he frees your burrowing tendency. Do you think it’s also true that so/sx has a stimulating effect on our sx side? There is a so/sx blogger that I like to read when the sx is coming to a halt and I’d like to reignite it again. They tend to be more open about their sx side which lights a spark for our own. We can burrow into it while they provide a steady drip. From what I read, I get more fro…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 04:23 PM
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The specific situation where I responded as quoted was today. I was laying on his chest and he was using Facebook on his phone to look up a pizza menu. I teased him that he had the shop in his favorites (he loves pizza and we jest about his obsession). He said that looking at someone’s phone while they’re using it isn’t okay and that it’s private. I apologized and (regretfully) rebutted, saying I didn’t think it was private because he was doing it literally inches from my face. He said it’s not …
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 02:05 AM
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This is so awesome! I love all this content and really respect and value the work you put into it!!! Even though I saw it, I’m blown away all over again!!! :) Thank you so much :) I feel completely lost without something to work on, some new goal, something new to create/achieve/be a part of. Just to be clear, for stability I didn’t mean not working on anything. I think that would make anyone go mad. I mean for example in a relationship that it is evolving instead of being in the same place, eve…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 01:57 AM
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The childhood karma holds true for me too as sx/sp. I was extremely social as a child, to the point of visiting friends on Xmas day. My family wasn’t tight-knit, and I definitely always wanted more deep connection and to be interesting to them. It is very interesting to hear your perspective, in that our stackings are opposite. More than anything, this has given me more material to contextualize my relationship with P and understand him more as a man. Now that I understand that his first instinc…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 01:18 AM
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Yay :) Looking forward to hearing more!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 12:55 AM
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I ran out of characters but I’m going to post more resources: Here is some more on synflow and contraflow. I see synflow as nurturing the good, and contraflow as focusing on weeding out the bad. When I read this I thought it was harsh about contraflow (direction towards being antisocial, compelled against people), but I’ll link to it because I can’t find many other sources, and it explains its origin. Looking for more on sx/so weightings I re-found The Three Instincts. It includes fleshed out de…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 12:51 AM
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I am sx/so and M is sx/sp! Wohoo \^‿^ I spent a lot of time reading about the theory this weekend so my thoughts are based on both your post and what I’ve read. Most of the sx material seems really biased against this instinct, especially against sx/so. I do think that your description of sx is lacking a focus on curiosity, fulfillment, power, and other positive dimensions. I didn’t get a sense of repelling being necessary to sx when I read other posts so I’d love to see some more information on…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/17 12:50 AM
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Wow, I'm so glad it engaged you! Can't wait to hear your thoughts :) I did not expect it to be tagged RP theory. In this case I must mention that in addition to all over feedback I especially hope to update on the types soc/sp and sp/soc after hopefully hearing from those more familiar with them.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/17 03:11 AM
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I love that big purple flower beside the post titles so much!
/r/RedPillWives22/09/17 09:11 PM
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I like being early with gifts too! Usually I will start planning right after their birthday, even if that's in January.
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 10:46 PM
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anything vanilla or cinnamon gets him disappointed when he finds out I'm not baking anything Aww 😂 just a candle
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 10:40 PM
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:)
/r/RedPillWives15/09/17 01:34 PM
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Not sharing but I wrote a song for my bf, I will record it for him and put it on a usb. Has anyone else done this or something related?
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 11:56 PM
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Yes, just a funny contrast :)
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 09:59 PM
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I see where you are coming from! You sound so good to each other I have no doubt you'll figure it out.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 09:48 PM
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This picture!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 09:42 PM
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So the equivalent of men gifting flowers to women are ... rifles? :p
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 09:08 PM
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Oh god. I would have puked them in the face :S When I respond in a way my man likes, or dislikes, he probably adjusts accordingly as he deems valuable. This has been something both uncomfortable to accept, and obvious. I think my take away is to become more sensitive to his cues, to find the correct response more quickly and do it immediately. This is interesting! I agree that it is impossible not to, but feel the distinction that matters is between authenticity and artificiality instead of cond…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/17 08:32 PM
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Or just an open discussion thread? I'm sure there are many who would contribute!
/r/RedPillWives13/09/17 06:05 AM
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His response was awesome. I don't think those reasons are selfish! They weren't top of his priorities, and you listened and found the best solution together :)
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 09:47 AM
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It is a female experience to me too! For me however it's more that the 'messy' outweighs the 'frightened'. And it's so interesting that you and Camille lean to this side, I'm doing a post soon if mod approved which I think you might enjoy.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 09:47 AM
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Love this ❤
/r/RedPillWives07/09/17 09:45 AM
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He asked my opinions about rings and made me try on the ones I liked 💋
/r/RedPillWives31/08/17 07:14 PM
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You are the winningest wife!!
/r/RedPillWives05/08/17 10:22 AM
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Excited to get to know you too! 😊
/r/RedPillWives04/08/17 11:28 PM
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♥ everything my boyfriend does when he’s distracted/asleep/less than perfectly conscious. He just becomes so see-through. Last night I awoke drawing closer to him. It was clear he was dreaming, and he said (what translates closest to) "no, did you put your cold flesh/leather on?" And as I changed position, I lamented the lack of pillow and said as much. Claiming more of the pillow still mostly asleep he just pulled the widest grin ever while turning away so I wouldn’t see o.o Sometimes when he's…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/17 06:58 PM
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Absolutely! Can I ask what you're reading at the moment/ your latest loves?
/r/RedPillWives29/07/17 09:42 PM
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From this I'm most drawn to the warrior archetype. I would say that's my bf, he has so much purpose, loyalty and integrity. He has the traits of the king but doesn't go out of his way to influence people, like I think the king archetype would step in a little like a father to everyone? Sometimes people ask him about me even if I'm standing closer to them. Like what's her name, has she done this that, it makes me feel mentally disabled? For now I am chalking it up to some trait of his rather than…
/r/RedPillWives27/07/17 03:47 PM
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When I started knowing my boyfriend, I didn't really want children, but I wanted his children hard... like competing forces within myself with my body seducing me to act impulsive and my mind not wanting to deal with that yet.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/17 08:26 PM
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❤
/r/RedPillWives23/07/17 10:14 PM
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My boyfriend is so hot that I look at him and forget that there is imperfection in the world and when I look into the mirror I have seriously forgotten what I look like and become a little disappointed because the way he acts towards me makes me think I'm very hot too. I do have constant motivation to look better but I honestly think we both would benefit from me caring less >< he likes to pick me up with mere minutes' notice, and I would be less annoying as a whole.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/17 11:39 PM
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Bought this for my bf :) finally some peace of mind.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 09:46 PM
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You're right, but the implications make me feel warrrm. Also, I've recently found that I'm intolerant to dark chocolate :( :( Noo :( I've never heard that before, do you know what in dark chocolate? and you'll be glad to know that in the study they mostly ate milk chocolate!
/r/RedPillWives21/06/17 07:28 AM
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I'm grateful for all my skin and beauty problems because they have driven me to get healthier, and still do. That my boyfriend suggested that I tattoo his name on me. I haven't but I like feeling claimed by him. That my boyfriend will be moving closer to me <3 although I am sad to leave his old place. I have a new favorite wine, and this article <3 Those who ate the most milk and dark chocolate had lower rates of all major diseases compared to those who ate little to no chocolate. The health ben…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/17 06:59 PM
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I was moved by this and am so glad that your words helped your mother-in-law. I appreciate the post because while I have experience someone close losing a family member, I have never been in the midst of a funeral process. It's not about what you would do for a spouse, it is a hard topic and gives perspective that can help others in the same situation. Perhaps it is obvious to more experienced people but to me it highlights stressors I might not have thought of in someone who may express himself…
/r/RedPillWives19/06/17 08:34 AM
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I got 4v2, artist/romantic and helper :) I used to be 5 the observer and its description helps balance the other two to fit a little closer. I think this system is more about your motivations or values than the other? The Romantic - How to Get Along with Me Give me plenty of compliments. The Helper (the Two) - How to Get Along with Me In Intimate Relationships Reassure me that I am intersting to you. Reassure me often that you love me. Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with …
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 04:43 PM
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yeah sweet potato!!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:29 AM
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I love the answers in this post!!!
/r/RedPillWives16/06/17 07:23 AM
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I am grateful for my boyfriend’s care when we were flying. He was almost comatose for several hours, during which we had some turbulence. In his almost-sleep his hand started reaching for my belly, patting it in different places. It looked as if he was feeling for something and I realized he was searching for my seat belt, checking if it was on. I put it on and he fell back to sleep. I cried. for how quiet it is at night where I moved to, and the dramatic effect it has had on my sleep. and I fee…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/17 07:59 PM
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Creepy as fuck prescriptivist attitudes
/r/RedPillWives12/06/17 07:26 PM
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I love it!
/r/RedPillWives14/05/17 10:19 PM
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My boyfriend refuses to give me a 10/10 on any dish I cook, because then "I will relax". If he were to criticize some dinner or makeup it wouldn't stay with me like if he had thought something bad about my (non-dynamic) looks. If I think this is happening I am crushed. I know it will make eyes roll but it feels like my life is ending. I generally am more tactful on the scale of truthful/tactful to people less close, and more on the truthful end the close that person is. My boyfriend is very non-…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 08:34 AM
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I don't have sex outside of a relationship, and I let that be known as soon as I start seeing someone. I guess he will not yet know whether he wants a relationship with you at that point. Imagine how strange it would sound if the man you were seeing announced that he wouldn't have a relationship before having sex. But I think that as long as your instincts tell you not to have sex with someone then that is really important information to you :) and when you find that person that you are really a…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/17 09:37 AM
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Congrats about that! I'm glad you like the idea:)
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 09:53 PM
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Right, I need a dollar bill reserve. :)
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 09:53 PM
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Hahaha. I can see this as a problem in a children's maths textbook.
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 09:52 PM
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Good idea, I'll try and remember. Well if I check in on others I think I have to make one myself. It's just my bf and I don't live together/share finances, so it's a bit awkward?
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 09:51 PM
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Yes probably, but I thought traits like analytical was masculine ;o
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 04:20 PM
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I love your point about not being someone who was specifically desired, but rather someone who was convenient. Brilliantly put, and it's kinda amazing that more people don't realize that that's what they're advocating for when they expect men to have less standards. Great observation :)
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 03:22 PM
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http://i.imgur.com/zFPhO0y.png you have more luck than me o.o 0 % masculine and 86 % feminine, even though I thought I had a number of masculine responses.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 03:10 PM
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Thanks. I'm only insecure about specific things, and they can tear on the energy of my relationship. I suppose I don't really want to be secure if it's false, you know? There are just some "truths" imprinted deep in my body, and as long as I don't rationally know if they are real or not, I can't erase them.
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 02:22 PM
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My husband and I have been going through something extremely difficult and it is nearly the exact same situation he went through with his late wife. And, for some reason I can't put my finger on, it's made me very jealous and very mad (internally - I've managed to keep it to myself). do you feel like sharing?
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 09:52 PM
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Being insecure
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 07:08 PM
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Wow. I did not know that was a girl question! How do I know??
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 03:07 PM
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Thanks for sharing that :) I never saw it this way before, but now I think I too was in a gmm until about 21. It is interesting what you say about seeing boys as something to fit in with other girls. That was definitely the extent of my interest for them, and for many of the other girls around me too. We only wanted boyfriends if some girlfriend got one, and then we dumped them on a whim. Then in later years the culture changed a bit and we started becoming friends with boys, and they turned irr…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/16 01:16 AM
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Great sense of humor :)
/r/RedPillWives20/06/16 09:31 PM
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I like clean styles. And I love cerise :) 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 minus ring and bag imo 9 10 11 but a cold light brown boots
/r/RedPillWives16/06/16 10:38 PM
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Well the romantic part of relationships is romance. If someone doesn't want to have sex before marriage that is not treating a man badly. Why would he stay if it were?
/r/RedPillWives13/06/16 08:38 PM
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For so long I looked for products to protect my hair when.. the best treatment for my hair is actually its own oils :)
/r/RedPillWives09/06/16 08:16 PM
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I love the quote from your husband! I have been wondering what trust really is for a while. And I believed that it meant that you were not afraid. And I wondered what on earth is wrong with me, when I still need so much reassurance before I stop worrying? It makes me happy that being afraid is not the be-all and end-all.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 02:07 PM
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Dry skin brush before showering While in the shower I oil pull with coconut oil Read until my hair is dry, and then braid it Water plants and open window to let fresh air in Oil up :)
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 03:41 PM
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There goes my Sunday :)
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 09:25 AM
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So interesting! I think sexual attraction is not infallible. It doesn't line up all that well with the ideal mate in terms of offspring. Proximity for instance is such a big influence since having sex at all is more important than who we do it with. That we attach meaning to sex in ways other species don't, and the association to family and babies. I think SO is not an inherent trait (just helpful to name the expressions) independent of others. Bisexuality can be explained easily since there are…
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Sounds fun! What are its main themes?
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