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I don't know which counts as easier: My roommate had a client over, for whatever business he was running. I saw her once before to say "hi." This time I was leaving my room to go out and I said: " you look hot in that skirt." She came into my room and took it off. Another time, I was leaving a club, by myself. I saw a friend on the landing with two girls. I stopped to say goodbye. 10 minutes later we were in a taxi going to my place. 6 days later I did the other girl, her plan.
/r/seduction14/12/25 07:36 PM
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Firstly, the world is a complex place, and multiple things are true at the same time. The bad boy thing is a bit of a first world phenomenon, where stability becomes stifling for some. However, in a country where chaos is the norm, the man who can carve out an island of stability becomes the wanted man. Of course, doing so is not a weak man's deed. Weak men sway with the currents of chaos.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 05:50 PM
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People, who don't know how to do stuff, look for instructions. They then think that there us one particular right way. When you know what you're doing, you do it without thinking and don't understand why others can't do it.
/r/seduction07/06/25 09:52 PM
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Get yourself put into social situations where you practice talking with people. It's a skill that you build. As you build that skill, you'll start to get more lucky. The thing is,you'll start talking without thinking of what to say, and it will become automatic. Then you will see more of situations ypu are in and manage them better.
/r/seduction28/03/25 05:15 PM
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Everything is on a spectrum of intensity. So, some small minority of women would be further on the force spectrum. Maybe abnormally so. For everything people do, some over do it, and sometimes these are classified as mental conditions. We already know that for everything that people could do, somebody does them. I would never want to take the guy's part in that, not my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 02:00 AM
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I don't know anything about the passport bro movement. However, I have lived overseas in a few countries, and it's not at all like you imagine. I went to work, but I socialized as well. There are plenty of normal guys who can do fine at home. There are also lots of normal women who are up to meeting foreigners, it's actually a much bigger thing now than it used to be. It's quite different in different countries, so I can't generalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:29 AM
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I know what your point is. The world should be different than it is because you think so. My point was to explain why things end up the way they are. Lots of things should be different, but they will never change.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 06:56 AM
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But demand is what causes value to occur. In the absence of the relevant factors, your argument amounts to little more than "I think so." Ideas are not judged in a vacuum. The demand for men, and their attributes, is almost completely by women. The demand for women, and their attributes, is almost completely by men. Men and women value different attributes, therefore there will be different value placed, or not placed, on men vs women. That's why the same attribute is considered, or valued, quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 01:21 AM
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Yeah, and I'm making the counterpoint by showing the weakness of your argument. because the skills have utility. That's demand. Demand is what makes something scarce valuable. Bitcoin has zero value. But there is demand and enforced scarcity, giving it a value to people who want it. If and when confidence in it disappears, the value could drop to zero. Demand is more of a factor than any other, and you ignored it completely, resulting in a completely false argument. Your long winded argument sum…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 07:33 PM
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A job, that is a skill that few people can master, gets paid much more than one that anyone can do. There is a huge disparity in pay between rare, highly skilled jobs and no skill jobs. The key is demand. A high skill that has no valuable use, is still not worth anything. But if there's demand and a shortage in supply, you have value. Girls seem to like a ladies man. There's your demand. None of this is rational. You're never going to get anywhere applying rationality to male/female relations. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:19 AM
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I have the vaguest concept of the difference between the two. Ireland. English North America is mostly protestant, in my area at least, while Quebec is Catholic. Maybe the US swamp south is Catholic too? Protestants are the ones with the work ethic, I believe while Catholics, not sure enough to say anything. They love babies? I thought it odd that a small town of 30 people had 2 churches.
/r/seduction27/12/24 12:12 AM
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A friend from high school, who went on to become a canon lawyer, used to go to confession and do penance for all of his sins with the ladies. As long as you do penance, you're good with God, for the flesh is weak.
/r/seduction26/12/24 02:24 AM
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Be fruitful and multiply. Not religious, but I've heard of this religious edict.
/r/seduction26/12/24 02:20 AM
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I split up with a great girl because she was too dumb. She was great in every other way, she was hot, nice pleasant, could cook, loved sex, great with people, everyone liked her. I just didn't see a future with someone who couldn't be trusted to make good decisions, of even to be on time for meeting somewhere. For what you described, not going near that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:47 PM
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Sounds suspiciously similar to when you intend to go shopping and just happen to get a date.
/r/seduction29/11/24 09:35 PM
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That's definitely true. Often they arrange a date date first. You know the ending, so you're just going through the motions. Always been the most boring, pointless dates.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:43 PM
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I once told a girl that she looked hot in that skirt. I was standing in the doorway to my room. She came in my room and took it off. So no more than a minute or 2. She was a client of my roommate, who did fire walking and such. Another time I was leaving a club and stopped to say goodbye to a friend, who was on the landing with 2 girls. 5 minutes later we were in a taxi headed to my place. The next week I did the other girl. In both cases I wasn't even trying, so maybe it doesn't count.
/r/seduction04/11/24 07:24 PM
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They'll always maintain plausible deniability with third parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:41 AM
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Can confirm. One girl, walking uphill to my place for a booty call, said: "my pussy made me come here."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 12:25 AM
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O just wanted to add that the other guy is correct. Everything about you is your attitude in your mind. The biggest thing stopping you from being better is belief in your mind. And, you completely wrong about ages.
/r/seduction01/10/24 04:56 PM
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I don't have much to go on, and your experience may not be similar, however your dates might not be the problem that you think that they are. I've been on dates where I know the girl wants to fuck and the date is just a formality. You know you are going to smash that night regardless, unless you seriously it fuck up. I think the girls are dropping you because you're not taking them home. Girls often do not take rejection well. They're going to feel rejected, like you don't think that they're goo…
/r/seduction28/09/24 07:18 PM
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(the reasonable, intelligent and graceful ones especially) need to dictate their own decent truths and their true way of living to life and to norms that are bothering most of us. I've always done this, and I've known women who do so too. It's not obvious because intelligent people also keep up the appearance of being typical. It's always like this. There's a benefit to fitting in to society, so smart people play both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 06:35 PM
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I've always automatically mirrored others ways, within reason. I didn't even know that I was doing it, It's just my natural way of being.
/r/seduction13/09/24 05:57 PM
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Part of it is that you spend your time on your education and career goals, not socializing. Getting good socially takes practice too. Once you spend more time on socializing, you get very good at it, and it becomes easy too. You get good at getting girls. The benefit of being smart is that you can get very good at at whatever you set your mind to. Getting good with girls has the added benefit that it shows in your body language and then you look more attractive. Girls can read it all in you. The…
/r/seduction05/09/24 08:01 PM
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That's a misrepresentation of the truth. You're noticing the smart guy who is socially inept. That's because these guys stand out so much. What you don't notice are the smart ones who are very good socially. These guys seem like everyone else, so you don't notice them. Smart guys, who are socially adept, know not to show themselves as being smart. They blend into everyone else, on purpose.
/r/seduction05/09/24 07:21 PM
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I've seen your issue in what you say, but you've confirmed it here. You don't know what to talk about, how to carry a conversation, plus possibly hi IQ syndrome. Which have a tendency to go together. High IQ often puts you out of touch with "normal" people, so, essentially, you're not normal. Being not normal puts you at a disadvantage, sometimes severely. You are "odd," particularly when you first meet someone. If you just meet someone and are "odd" it's a huge negative because they don't know …
/r/seduction02/09/24 12:46 AM
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People always report what they strive for, or the ideal, and ignore the ways people actually act. Your ideal sample has been busted by someone else reporting the truth on it. You're clearly looking at a superficial view of the world. I could bring up more examples of non monogamy, it's everywhere past and present. I lived overseas for some time in supposedly monogamous societies, but everyone is sleeping around and it's a well known fact. Married women were getting friendly with me. The infideli…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:33 AM
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Nothing like busting OP's fantasies. What people report, and do are completely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:07 AM
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ancient humans mostly lived in monogamy and that monogamy People live in a fantasy about history. Ancient humans lived in groups where people were doing who they wanted, or could get. Written history is written by those in authority who wrote about how things were supposed to be, not how people actually did things. The vast majority were illiterate, there were no gossip rags. Punishments for getting caught sleeping around. The oldest profession is just that. "Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 07:04 AM
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Even these people are justified in their own mind. "He had it coming to him." Or "they have too much money anyway."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:46 PM
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That's a kind of false distinction. People who do bad things, generally, don't think that they are doing bad things. They just have different ideas of what appropriate things to do are. They completely feel that the things that they do are right to do. It's just that other people think differently, so they are judged as bad. I think that dark triad traits are definitely ones where the person, generally, has no concept that they are bad. All of the, well known, worst people in history, believed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:34 AM
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I lived in Hong Kong for years. I had plenty of money, so didn't notice anything unusual, except a greater willingness to hang out, for both local and other expat women. I strictly avoid any women who are interested in me for money,.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 04:59 AM
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I've been with lots of women from quite a few countries. Connection has nothing to do with looks. You have a negative mindset. Positively is one thing that gets you "connection" Negativity repells. Girls feel your energy, your internal mindset. You have a lot of work to get there. First you must change your mind.
/r/seduction08/06/24 12:10 AM
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A lot of looks come from your internal attitude. Your facial expressions, posture, stance, gate all show your internal state of mind. A negative one shows on you, a positive one does too, and people like the latter, it makes you look more attractive. Find an actor who plays a laser and winner in different movies to see the difference. I've seen a few good ones of loser, but they're rare. Your biggest issue is your internal mindset, as the top comment explains. You have to decide to change, and s…
/r/seduction08/06/24 12:03 AM
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I became the guy, so you can do it. Practice talking to people that you don't know as much as you can, you keep getting better and better. Eventually all of the right words will come out of your mouth before you know what they are. However, it takes dedication, no quick path there. However, long before that level, things will be good.
/r/seduction05/06/24 12:04 AM
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One of the biggest activities throughout history is having sex and pretending to everyone that you're not. I'm sure it's going on there. Shotgun weddings are/were real, if you fail at hiding it
/r/seduction04/06/24 05:31 AM
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Not in US, but close so things pretty similar. People don't overtly talk about class, but they know who "their kind of people" are, and often stuck to them. However, there is no restriction on anyone moving among different kinds if people uf they want. People know who's beneath them and who's above, some try to move into different groups.
/r/seduction04/06/24 05:27 AM
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Not just bars, that's a charged environment. Just anyone, anywhere. It's the same skill to get good at in all ways, any chance you get. All people, men, women, old. Build up the ability in your brain before you apply it. When you're good, you don't look like you're trying, so you do better. And you meet girls in all ways too
/r/seduction28/05/24 05:14 AM
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I don't think, I know. You have to talk to new people constantly and be lively. Meeting new people is so much fun, it's addictive. Getting with new girls is also addictive.
/r/seduction27/05/24 05:30 AM
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That's the wrong mindset. You need to talk to anyone anywhere, without intent. This gets you the skills, it's easier when there's no pressure.
/r/seduction27/05/24 12:01 AM
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And more practice. I used to have no idea what to say to people I didn't know in certain social situations. So I set out to get better. A long time, and many girls later, all of the right words would come out of my mouth before I knew what they were. Once you can say the right things without having to think, you then become much more in tune of the situation, what it is and how to steer it. Just general conversation with people that you don't know, not with a goal. Doing this just gets you girls…
/r/seduction26/05/24 05:50 AM
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What men hate women? I don't know any guys that do. I love women, talking with them, it's so interesting. I love life and everything in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 06:12 AM
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I used to go out all of the time, see various girls. Then I met a hot girl at a bar, she used to go out a lot too. After a little while we became exclusive and never went out again. A few years on we got married. We have the same, non mainstream views, we do our own thing. She'd be perfectly happy in an off grid modest, self built, house growing our own food. Together, we have all the skills necessary to do so.
/r/seduction28/03/24 05:24 AM
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I've had female friends catch feelings for me. From my side, I had kept my female friends strictly friends; I was good at that. However, I think that you'll find that in this case, quite often guys will go with it, if available, sometimes even if not. Or they'll just remain friends. Actually, it seems that girls are willing to stay as friends for a long time without making an issue. Maybe the issue is actually that those nice guys can't manage that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/24 06:19 AM
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I wouldn't even call you a grown ass man yet. You most definitely appreciate hot women at 30 and beyond Get the idea of feeling old of your mind, how you feel never changes,you just know how to do better.
/r/seduction18/03/24 06:14 AM
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I worked on being more sociable and getting good at it. I wasn't even trying to get girls, but slowly getting girls started happening, then easier and easier. You can approach anyone the right way. Lots of practice with people makes all the difference, you get to be a master of people and the social game, but it takes time and commitment. Getting good socially effectively becomes quite a different personality. It also gives you a whole different point of view because you understand people so wel…
/r/seduction02/03/24 07:09 AM
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You need to understand the difference between people who talk and people who do. Ignore the former, spend time with the latter. I've known plenty of girls who loved me, they didn't talk what they wanted. People who talk are not doers, which is why they talk so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:54 AM
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Rights are always given by society. If you are alone in a forest, you have no rights at all. You are free, but you have little with which to exercise that freedom. If you are in a group of people in a forest full of wild animals, you have only the rights granted you by the others in the group. Your freedom is limited by the need to cooperate in order to survive. A smart person will not act in a way to harm the group or people in it, as his well being is tied to group success, so his freedom is l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 12:39 AM
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Spot on, that's exactly the case. I didn't really have time for more of my thoughts. The thing is, we've had centuries of unified messaging by relatively good people who put out a decent message. First paper publishing and then television networks. Prior to the printing press, nonsense dominated while the wealthy and intelligent kept to themselves. You had people dunking someone in the water to see if they were a witch, probably was the smartest person in town doing their own interesting things.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:52 AM
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There's a dichotomy here. Good people find and pair up other good people, usually early. They know who the others are. The leftovers are the shit show that the remainder go on about. I don't think that they are as good at reading and understanding people, hence the ideas they have; the different world they live in. I'm also just observing. I've kind of seen both worlds when younger. Reality has much more to it than any of the ideologie. It's nice to read your contrasting ideas, definitely not wr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 06:41 AM
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I used to think the same thing as you, see all that was wrong. But, I never reason down about because I had plenty going on in life. I also looked young for my age. What I did do is practice socializing, just in general. This made all of the difference, and I did a lot if it. Prior, I had missed opportunities with girls because I didn't think I was good enough. In the middle I was doing just fine, later I had more girls going than any one guy needed. It's all in your mind. You need a go get it a…
/r/seduction22/12/23 12:01 AM
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All wealthy and free er societies have ended. It's a moral double bind. Those with higher birth rates will dominate the future
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:13 AM
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This is completely wrong. You can't get on well with women by hating them, unless your a psychopath. I've slept around quite a bit. I love women; I love talking to them, doing things with them, getting to know them. I was never even trying to get laid, if just tends to happen a lot when you're friendly with women. The thing seemed to be that knowledge of, and experience with women is read on you, that attracts more women. Even a one night stand is a special, shared moment with someone unique. Ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:01 AM
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I strongly disagree with this. It sounds like an opinion without evidence. I have lived in some very different countries and dated women from even more countries. The variability of women within a country is greater than that between countries has been my primary observation, and personal experience. It's the outward surface appearance that looks different. Once you're living with a woman, they're all much more the same. I would say that women are more similar than men. I remember times talking …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:22 AM
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One of my female friends introduced my to a number of her friends. They were all better looking. I think that some were setups actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 11:00 PM
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I was a bit flippant, and brevity is misleading. The lifestyle that makes women interested in you is a bit costly. I was trying to imply that. It could be construed as a way to pay still, however, I chose it for my own purposes, just had unintended good side effects. When I was making good money I spent what was appropriate, I never even counted it. Like paying for a dinner was not something that even registered with me. But actually, sometimes girls simp for you. Even if you're well off, they b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 01:49 AM
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I can understand it, but it also reflects a lack of ability to see the big picture, outside of yourself. (Umm, aka self reflection) The problem with giving something enormous importance is that you could come to think that getting it will solve all of your problems. The trouble with getting sex is that a straight line goal, towards it, is the least likely way to get it. So the very strength of their 'need' seems to prevent them from getting it. What I don't like is that they claim to speak for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:41 PM
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If you don't spend money on women, you don't get girls like that. You just have to live a lifestyle that gets girls interested in you, for you. Once you get a girl, you spend nothing on her and she just wants the D.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:33 PM
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I find it funny that the guys that strongly maintain that guys only want sex, are the guys who can't get any.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:35 PM
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I'm 6'2", 185 at my best, hard to keep the weight up. But I have washboard abs, my muscles are practically shrink wrapped if flexing, plus pop up veins. Do some sit ups, it'll do wonders for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:20 AM
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I'm with you. I have a wife, not a partner. Wife implies a much stronger connection than partner. Partner is someone who is much easier to split up with, which is not something I want. I believe in commitment. Also, these new terms lose a lot of information because they're so bland and meaningless. It becomes a bland and meaningless culture full of people without heart and passion. We lose subtlety and nuance and complexity from life as you simplify language to rid it of what people are trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:29 PM
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My Dad met my Mum in an elevator. I think that that disproves any idea that it should only be allowed in certain place. My life depends on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 09:45 PM
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In my observations, the men who say that are the ones who can't get girls for whatever reason, maybe their unrealistic standards and lack of self care. The rest of us view women as real people and have a string of meaningful relationships before getting married and doing it well for a long time. People don't go around saying "everythings fabulous." People who do, do so quietly. People who don't, or can't, complain loudly about the "unfairness" and how they're owed what they put no effort into tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 04:57 PM
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What surprise is it that narcissistic people only think of themselves and have no concern for anyone else's feelings. This is why they're single. The problem is that a few examples of toxic people seems to be mistaken for all of a gender. Normal, well adjusted people are not even out advertising their normal, well adjusted opinions. They busy with their normal life with their SO. Goos people quickly pair up with other good people and stay off of the market. That's why those left over have it so …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 05:35 PM
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Since this is a CMV, I guess I'll follow the rules this time. You can't even get though your day without the things that men do for you. It's just that your need for men has been abstracted away, and you don't see it. Men built the society that allows you to be so "independent." Men pave the roads, drill and mine the materials that make modern life possible. They build the buildings that you work and live in, supply the water that you drink and shower in, and take care of everything that you flu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 10:59 PM
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I never brag, so it collapses down to a binary distribution. No, not even when she's hot.
/r/seduction01/11/23 08:59 PM
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Always been how I looked at it. Fuckable and regular women.
/r/seduction01/11/23 08:57 PM
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I just want to add something regarding the conversation practice, effortless and natural, and anxiety parts. If you're thinking, in your head, about what to say, you're losing. That's hyperbole, but you're far from best. Best is having all of the right words come out of your mouth before you know what they are. This leaves your brain free to now suss the emotions of the person you're talking to, reactions to you, choose a direction, know what directions you could go, manipulate your subject, sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:53 AM
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You make yourself a better person for your own reasons. You do what you think is worth doing in life, for your own reasons. It's not to get girls. Doing something to yourself just to get girls would be shallow and not meaningful. If what you do gets you girls, it's just an unintended side effect of your own goals and innate interests. I've never tried to get girls. I had lots of female friends, just to be friends. I like women. I'm genuine. Side effects are they have friends that want to sleep w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 02:16 AM
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You know that sometimes, when you are totally disinterested in a girl, they sometimes want to sleep with you. 0 effort on your part. Are you saying that Brad Pitt worked harder than me? I highly doubt it. He's got to have it so easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:47 AM
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I never put in hard work. Couldn't be bothered/had my own stuff to do. Sometimes hookups happen without really trying. Definitely a lot more in my late 20s. And, I am genuinely interested in women, fascinating to dig in and find what's in the depths of their minds. Every woman is completely unique, once you get to know them. I know what guys think, no surprises there. Guys are for doing things with, girls are for talking with, and shagging.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:38 AM
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You're stuck between 2 options, that are both not good. Having sex with an escort is not ideal, however, it's still sex with a girl. In my opinion doing so is the better option, you'll still learn a lot that will help you break out of a bad mindset and break the mystique that holds you back. One thing people rarely tell is that guys who get a lot of girls also pay sometimes. I've known guys like this. I never did, but if I had to do my younger years over again, I probably would, knowing what I k…
/r/AllPillDebate27/09/23 09:46 PM
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The rest of the world didn't have less war, it's just not reported as much in western countries. You have a biased view. Everyone has always been fighting their neighbours, everywhere. African tribes murdered their neighbours, native Americans murdered their neighbours. The Chinese, who battled for control if the other parts of their kingdom built a wall to keep our others who came to kill them. Southeast Asia had constant battles between the Khmer, the Burmese, the Thais and the Chams, who no l…
/r/AllPillDebate21/06/23 12:13 PM
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100% disagree. A hot girl is hot no matter what the skin colour. I do prefer the colour of a good tan. Don't like pasty white. I find it strange that non white men will like ugly light skinned girls over more attractive ones. I had a discussion about this with a Bangkok taxi driver once. Thai people vary from white to dark.
/r/AllPillDebate21/06/23 12:05 PM
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Intimacy is psychological. You shouldn't tie it to sex or imagine that sex is intimacy. Intimacy is getting close to someone in mind and character, something where you share the deep reaches of yourself. I think a fair number of people don't get this. Sleeping with many different girls let's me know the difference between sex, love, infatuation and real intimacy and how to navigate this. As others have said, you know what you are doing when you choose to be monogamous. I think that getting new g…
/r/seduction10/06/23 11:55 PM
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Therefore, men designed a system that actively promotes the existence of this archetype Men didn't meet up and "design" a system to promote anything. Nobody made any plans for how to do things, no one is in charge. Systems spontaneously evolve by the actions of many individuals acting by relatively simple rules. Computer modeling shows that highly complex systems are creates by a large number of individuals operating on quite simple rules. This is how society and nature works. No one designed it…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:42 PM
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It's not that simple, really. Generalizations can be made about a group when even significant proportion have some characteristic. It doesn't even have to be 50%, if the others are split into numerous tinier groups. The larger group will appear dominant even if it isn't the majority. That it is widely accepted shows how bad people are at discerning information about large groups. It's just an easy way to think quickly while you concern yourself with your daily life. The bigger error that people …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:34 PM
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The Asian population is about to collapse, way faster than any other, east Asian at least.
/r/AllPillDebate25/05/23 11:32 PM
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False dichotomy. It's not only those options. What's best is married to one woman and then you get to pursue your interests as well.
/r/AllPillDebate24/05/23 01:11 PM
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I wasn't really referring to a well balanced lifestyle like yours. I was making a short, quick, slightly flippant reddit remark. It's much more complicated than that actually. I was trying to convey that it's not quite the grass is greener idea people imagine, but I can't really put my ideas down in a few words. I went to a big city where I couldn't do my hobbies that I love, so it was either/or in my case. I realized the value of my previous ways after that, but I did find socializing addictive…
/r/AllPillDebate23/05/23 01:06 PM
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The Chad lifestyle is not worth it. It's an empty, hollow, alcoholic existence. Working and hobbies with a small circle of friends is way better. Create meaningful things in life. Been on both sides, good guy to bad boy, I regret the latter, I was real bad.
/r/AllPillDebate22/05/23 12:48 PM
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Almost your entire list is not how I think. I care about a woman's individual character most. For women, I don't understand how some have to twist everything around to blame you for what they do. Even things that you had nothing to do with. One girl did something dumb, and then she blamed me for not stopping her from doing it. I do tell her things, do them a better way, but she obstinately refuses to listen. Other times, after my way is demonstrated to be better, she adopts my way and refuses to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 10:04 AM
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The population of China is crashing. 30 years of one child per two people. Now the fertility rate is less than one. With real estate so expensive no one can afford kids. Young people don't want to support the authoritarian dictatorship, so are checking out.
/r/AllPillDebate08/05/23 01:52 AM
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The thing is, that anyone can resist the urge to act out evolved behaviours, but at a population level, they will still show up, because not everyone does, or not even everyone who wants to can be completely successful. A new area of research posits that the massive use of medication is causing significant population level behavioural changes, even though the changes in an individual's behaviour is almost imperceptible. I'm not disagreeing with your OP, just pointing out non obvious things peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 02:05 PM
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I've seen people try to deny physical laws before, but in what way did they try to prove that Special Relativity was sexist?it's hard to believe that they could even comprehend it's existence. Anything in the human world can be twisted to mean anything, but it's hard to twist up physics.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 01:58 PM
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My opening comment was about what it really is, not it's common name. It might be called "artificial intelligence" but it is still not intelligent. Language is like that. This confuses so many people it seems. So many expressions don't mean what the individual words, some are even the opposite of the words used.
/r/AllPillDebate06/05/23 01:59 AM
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Instead of discussing the issue intelligently, the subtleties and nuances of the topic, you played semantic games to try to assert that I was wrong. That's disingenuous. I was not wrong. I could dismantle every statement that you make regarding the definitions that you quoted. It looked quite dishonest to me. Every single discipline is contentious when you get into it. General terms are used for quickly referring to something among the general population. Everyone that has some in depth knowledg…
/r/AllPillDebate05/05/23 01:21 AM
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You're playing semantic games a bit. As well, things have been redefined through the years. The original goal of artificial intelligence is to think like a human. You've used the wrong definition of conscious. I didn't know you were so pedantic, I should have said consciousness. It's a completely different meaning. You are basically confusing similar, but subtlety different concepts. Hard to explain in text, hence the misunderstanding. By your limited definition, plants are intelligent. Programm…
/r/AllPillDebate03/05/23 01:44 AM
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It would have to think for itself, be conscious. It does not, is not. It's not even intelligent, it would be better called statistical computing. The goal has been to create actual AI, but this is the best that can be done so far, but the name stuck. I studied, a bit, the math at the heart of this. It's quite amazing, stunning actually, in what it can do. But it's still just math. I have tested it out a fair bit to find its limitations. I can trip it up and find things that it can't do. It's sti…
/r/AllPillDebate02/05/23 08:21 PM
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Sorry dude, your barking up the wrong tree here. I'm an equal opportunity dater, well actually I limited myself to OECD countries plus any rich countries not included. Why does what other people do bother you anyways. You're not going to do well in life being hateful and bitter.
/r/AllPillDebate01/05/23 12:44 AM
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The SE Asians are a racist bunch. Thai guys will take an ugly light skinned girl over a stunning dark one. I discussed this with a Bangkok taxi driver once. He did get my point. I think that most areas of Asia had darker skinned natives who got overrun and out populated by white skinned asians, and mixed too. Hence the variability of colour and features. I think that the most recent was the Chams of South Vietnam being pushed out by the vietnamese.
/r/AllPillDebate01/05/23 12:35 AM
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It's not really AI, it's a mathematical algorithm. The algorithm goes through text produced by people and finds the patterns in it. So it's just giving you prevailing public opinion. It doesn't think for itself or come up with any original ideas. Actually, if you pushback in a specific way, it will come back with different ideas, because it has the knowledge of the different ideas that different people have. So a general question will get the most vanilla answer.
/r/AllPillDebate30/04/23 11:59 PM
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Someone who speaks the truth. I spent a significant amount of time in the east Asian area, the people there are just as likely to be whiter than me, and they definitely all have smaller noses. My daughter is half Japanese and she definitely has my nose. The trouble with people, like in the video, is that all of these types start with a presupposition and then try to find any evidence that is consistent with their presupposition. However this is not proof that it is true, evidence gathered this w…
/r/AllPillDebate29/04/23 02:06 AM
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Where did you get the idea that it wasn't always like this? That's the real question. These games have always existed, nothing has changed, it seems, just the way to communicate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:01 PM
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Women would have continued to stay closer to the tribal home, because of child rearing. Having one baby per year tends to do that. Any tribe that has fewer children is wiped out and/or out populated by those that have more kids. Men would have hunted dangerous prey to eat and fought in wars, where the weakest would die in greater numbers, eventually resulting in larger males. The posited situation would revert back to the way it is. In this case, maybe all guys are over 6' now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:41 PM
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I never thought that I was good looking, however in my later 20s it was proving very easy to get women, even married ones were interested in me. Women were coming to me, some were married. I can say that I respected women less in this time, there was always another one. They even kept wanting to see me even if they thought I was seeing other girls. One married woman's husband worked for the phone company, I think that he was bugging my phone. She said that they had split up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 02:25 PM
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You need to understand how the world works. Smart, healthy people are busy doing useful, productive and healthy activities. They don't bother or have time to comment on the activities of other people, they don't really care. Stupid, unhealthy people have loads of time because they don't do useful things with their life. They resent people who do healthy, useful things and denigrate them as a way to feel better, rather than actually be better themselves. Don't pay attention to these people, they …
/r/AllPillDebate15/04/23 02:08 PM
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It's 2 forks of the same drive. That's what I was trying to say. Suppressed sexual energy manifests itself in creativity and drive in other pursuits. Remove the root drive and you'll lose the inventiveness too. That's not to say that married men can't be productive too, it's also a good place to pursue your goals, however you can't can't spend all of your time on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 11:44 PM
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Dude, it's a known fact that a lot of men accomplish great things with the existing sex drive. It can be channelled in amazing work, but it's where the drive comes from. Just think of almost all great things invented by men in history. Guys who get a lot of sex, or who don't have the drive, are more happy with the status quo. High drive men, who are also smart, want to change the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:24 AM
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You seem unaware that many, many men already do those platonic things that you mentioned. You can do everything. If some guys are sex obsessed, it's because they have no actual interests in life and one obsession grows to overcome them, like a drug addiction. You can add platonic friendships with women too. You can have a well balanced life. When you get laid regularly, you don't obsess over sex, you become just like you propose. If men really did lose their interest in sex, long ago, the human …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:59 AM
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Nah, you don't lose that capability. That's my favourite thing to do too. The very best of people are the best at both worlds. People who only know intellectual discussion seem a little off to many people. Knowing both sides helps you better make your argument, with whomever you're talking with. Understanding people makes you much more powerful as you can then know exactly how best to make your case to any audience. When your vibe is wrong, people will discount everything that you say and dismis…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 01:51 PM
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Some people just have a natural understanding of people and their feelings. When you have this, people can see it in you, so you look more attractive. It's an invisible world that you can't see, and no amount of thinking will let you see it. In fact thinking is the enemy of understanding this world. The more that you think, the farther you are from understanding it. People in the feeling world know that you're not in that world, you're not one of them and you're not attractive. But even people w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:40 PM
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This is the silliest idea I've ever read. It's a very simplistic idea that doesn't explain the world. The world is much more complex and nuanced. The modern industrial world, and later high tech world was created by Europe and their descendant countries. Later, some east Asian countries joined in. They dominate what you see on TV. People look up to these ideals. You'll see this in Asia where people look up to white, Japanese and, later Korean as Korea developed later. Also people like Hong Kong …
/r/AllPillDebate28/03/23 11:07 PM
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This is total bunk. When a girl loves you, she will do anything for you and you don't have to do anything at all, except be yourself. What kind of dysfunctional relationships are you having?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:35 PM
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TV news, and that they started to get caught.
/r/AllPillDebate27/03/23 11:01 PM
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I would much, much rather drive than face the utter boredom of just sitting as a passenger. Talking is great too, better boredom relief. Sometimes it would be the terror of how some girls drive, instead. Someone, of a couple, spending all their time on their phone is divisive, I'd rather drive alone in that case. People should talk together. Also, be copilot and help watch traffic and related to make driving safer and a bit easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:57 PM
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Don't buy the only young woman are good propaganda. I've always thought older women were great. Under 30 is still young. 30s women are great. Not everyone is the same.
/r/AllPillDebate16/03/23 02:29 PM
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That is not a pretty girl. She's going to be quite bad looking in 10 years.
/r/AllPillDebate13/03/23 10:29 PM
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You're getting with that specific kind of girl. I've had plenty of pretty girlfriends, none of whom cared about money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:56 PM
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Most of our knowledge of the world comes from reading, TV and other non fiction video sources. I've only lived in 3 countries so I don't know the whole world. None of the issues that I read about online do I see in real life. People are pretty much the same to me, in real life. But I don't go out and socialize with young people, like when I was young. One thing that is consistent with my younger life is that you meet strange girls, in my case, online. I did this as early as 1994. Had some fun ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:59 AM
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To be fair, quite a few people are obstinate about their measuring system. They think that one is somehow inherently better, on one side, or something to do with freedom on the other. Freedom to miss your destination planet entirely, or crash. Units are just tools, different ones are better for different jobs, but often there's no difference. However, units can be easily converted in a spreadsheet with practically no effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 12:29 AM
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Do you think that the feminist era, or the lack of 2 parent households, or something else, has made men worse than before? I'm older and just read around, but it seems to me that both men and women are worse people than before, on average, not everyone. I mean less able to get along with other people in groups and in relationships, than in decades before. When I was young everyone could get along with everyone. Now everyone is demonising everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:39 PM
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If you are trying to convey it, then you are not actually it. If you are trying, you are not being. If you're thinking, you're not doing. Thinking to yourself is the enemy of confidence. As long as you have this idea in your mind, you are not being confident. Confidence is not thinking about it at all, so you're not worrying about it, combined with certainty about how to navigate the feeling world. Of course, it's a bit of chicken and egg problem. I'm the intelligent guy. One day I set out to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 04:02 PM
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Apparently Napeleon was not so short. It's that the French foot was shorter than the English foot, at that time. It's why the French invented metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 01:04 AM
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The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence. Charles Bukowski It depends if you have true confidence, or if you are just acting confident. True confidence does not require any bravado. Acting confident is different than the calmness of true confidence. I can tell you that true confidence does attract women. I think that it is the main thing in attraction, for in person interactions. Different kinds of confidence will …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 12:58 AM
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It's a big effort and takes about 10 years. It changes who you are, it also takes you away from things that you like to do on your own.
/r/AllPillDebate19/02/23 02:59 PM
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I would say social skills are most important, because you can't change much about your base looks. Therefore that's the one you can do most about. But there is more to looks than you think. There's your stance, facial expression, how you carry yourself, gait, and more words that I forget, and how expressive you are and what's in you to be expressed. Having the right set of these makes a huge difference. People mistake this for innate looks when they are actually malleable. It's not easy to chang…
/r/AllPillDebate19/02/23 02:00 AM
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I can tell you from personal experience that confidence does make a difference. People read body language to tell so much about you. Then you talk and reveal more of your confidence, or lack thereof. Talking is a huge part making you look good. You can read a girl and tell if she becomes interested in you, or loses interest, if she's dtf or the moment that changes in her, all based on you talking. It's mostly not based on what you actually say, but the way you talk. I would say that practicing y…
/r/AllPillDebate19/02/23 12:45 AM
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Since lefties aren't having kids, right wing governments will be the future. Also, leftism brings disorder and crime, people vote right when it goes bad. See Sweden as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 09:51 PM
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It's much more complex than you think. No simple ideas explain things. Simple ideas can easily be gamed, so so complex strategies result. The sum of human evolution results in such strategies, and people have the most complex brain that has ever evolved. For example, males will keep a strong relationship with one woman when females are scarce or dressed modestly. If there is lots of female skin visible, males will then switch modes to want to be with many women. This is instinctive, not a consci…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 02:02 AM
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Sounds like a R.E.C.I.P.E. for a dysfunctional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:58 AM
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Curvy is used as a euphemism for fat, to make it sound better. Some guys like that, some do not. Many mindless folks follow trends, so fat asses are in, god only know why. A few examples contrary to rule don't disprove it. Thin is better than big anything. Most Asian women have big enough tits. I lived there for years and have been all over. You're describing a minority that seems to be regional. But there some ugly as f everywhere. So the ugly ones went to your city, lucky you. Yes, Zuckerberg …
/r/AllPillDebate18/01/23 04:14 PM
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Not everyone likes curves, aka too fat. Those propensities are average. It doesn't mean that everyone is the same place on the scale. There is huge variation, so a lot of overlap. Averages don't describe individuals, or small groups, by definition. So small samples are irrelevant. Where did you get your Asian women, Laos?
/r/AllPillDebate18/01/23 03:53 PM
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I don't think they feel insecure. On the masculinity-femininity scale, in looks, blacks are more masculine while asians are more feminine. Therefore black men and Asian women are winners while black women and Asian men are not so lucky. It's racial arbitrage, not insecurity.
/r/AllPillDebate18/01/23 03:45 PM
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I love women. I live spending time with them for whatever reason. Had many female friends. I don't even view sex as the point, but it does happen a lot. Had plenty of intellectual connections, some very deep. There's always so much to find in a woman, if you pry deeply. It's fascinating, and surprising. I know what men think, it's not complicated. It's more interesting to talk with women. You can talk about more topics with women and you don't have to be limited to guy stuff. I've spent inordina…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:59 PM
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It's not necessary to even discuss attractiveness, because you can see in photos, and people can judge for themselves. Yes, they are very hot, but many are not. No, I mean what people say about their character. There's plenty of stereotypes out there. Pretty much not true. I lived in Asia for 20 years, had girlfriends from 5 countries. They are all different. Every person is unique. Also, Western women in Asia are easy to get too.
/r/AllPillDebate17/01/23 12:52 AM
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The uninformed, in every area, speak nonsense about things. Astronomers don't pay attention to the astrology crowd. Most people are wrong about Asian women.
/r/AllPillDebate16/01/23 03:12 PM
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What does the opinion of women, by people who've never been with one, matter? Clearly they don't have real experience to go on.
/r/AllPillDebate16/01/23 03:09 PM
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The thing is, that under one system, some people feel disaffected. Then if you change the system, those people will be happy and another group will be disaffected. That exactly what we see now. Also, what's good for society as a whole, is also good for every individual, however it is indirect, so people don't see it, until society breaks down. What you want is a system that has the smallest group of disaffected people. So which way was better and saw a stable society, that fought off tyranny, ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:09 AM
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No one will come out better if the CCP invades them. Not even the Chinese people like the CCP.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 01:02 AM
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They sleep around more. They are not held back by Christian ideals. People overseas have the idea of dual reality. You are the one who is being fooled, already. You're never, ever going to find yourself a virgin
/r/AllPillDebate10/01/23 01:11 AM
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I lived in several other, far countries. Women are supposed to be virgins. Trust me, they're not. If they are are there is no way that they will fuck you. Many pretend to be virgins outside but will fuck you. Any girl that you get, as a visitor, will be very experienced, you'll be the one they take advantage of, if they will even go near you, depending where you go.
/r/AllPillDebate10/01/23 01:07 AM
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People were also sleeping around a lot and doing depraved stuff. There's a reason the bible makes special mention of not doing various things; they didn't imagine things to not do. It's a lot easier to not get caught before cell phones. History writes about how things should be, who's going to keep records of things they did that would get them in trouble? Chastity belts weren't for fun then. Historians also neglect the particularly sexual things that they find, so there is not a lot written on …
/r/AllPillDebate10/01/23 01:01 AM
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Dunning-Kruger in effect here. You have no idea what you're talking about. Reality is not what you think. The easiest rule is that less attractive girls are better than the hot ones,sometimes. What you really describe is inadequacy and lack of confidence in yourself and not really much about the girls. If you're going to love'em and leave them, experienced girls are best. The other case is just you trying to impress yourself with your nonexistent manliness. There are good girls everywhere, but f…
/r/AllPillDebate10/01/23 12:48 AM
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We don't really know. We do know that people have a tendency to pair bond for 7 years. But cave man societies weren't advanced societies. Monogamy is a feature of societies that did advance. It's not hard to see in what ways people act out their instincts. Many of those are expressly mentioned, to be forbidden, in the bible. Forbidding them made a successful society. Other societies, with different morals, clearly did not survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:32 PM
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You've circled around the pertinent concept without seeing it. What good for society is less good, directly, for the individual and what's immediately good for the individual is not good for society. However, what's good for society is good for every individual. If everyone is doing what is in their direct self interest, it will be bad for society, then a step later, it will be bad for them. As someone else said, we've had successful societies because people adhered to certain standards. Change …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:23 PM
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Ideologues have a simple understanding of society. They believe that their ideology explains it all and contains the whole solution to any problem. Those who understand the much, much more complex reality have no common ideas with ideologues. You cannot discuss complexity with them, it's like explaining colour to someone who sees only in black and white. You have to find your own people. They're usually not here, but sometimes, deep in the comments you do find like minded people. Ideology is not…
/r/AllPillDebate04/01/23 02:42 AM
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You hit the right word there, dogma. Ideological dogma is for people who can't think for themselves. Thinking people stick to themselves and steer clear of the dogmatic people. That's just the nature of society. You're never going to argue with dogmatic people, there is no point in trying.
/r/AllPillDebate04/01/23 02:28 AM
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Why do short girls like tall guys so much? This was true a long time ago even. Short girls can be a lot of fun, because they're so light, but it's nicer to be with a girl who's at least tall enough that you can't see over the top of her head. I think that matched set is better than odd couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:23 AM
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The first time I went to Thailand, I went on a trek in the north. The guide called one girl "baby elephant," she wasn't even that fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:56 AM
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Just ask guys, they know exactly which guys are jerks. Maybe the girls are just playing dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:14 AM
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You're confusing issues. Women do love sex, as much as men or even more, however, they're more picky on who they chose to do it with. Men are not picky and often any girl will do. That's the real issue. If guys are not getting sex, they're not the ones being picked. I have known plenty of girls who just can't get enough sex. This is especially the case after some kind of relationship has begun, or after the first time you do it. Often it was is girl who initiates sex. Once you start with a girl,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 03:36 PM
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It's both I believe. Kids old enough to be looked after as part of general population, of the tribe, and time to try a new partner if you don't yet have kids as someone is infertile. Modern society is more rewarding for longer term partnering. In a sense there's a dichotomy between what is good for the individual and good for society. Married for life is good for society. Also, what is good for society is also good for the individual, but you don't see it directly. If a few people do what's good…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:45 AM
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According to some academics, couples naturally reject each other after 7 years in a relationship, especially if they have no kids. There's a psychological basis. This is consistent with the "7 year itch." It takes work to maintain a relationship. As a culture, you are more successful in life if you can maintain a relationship, especially more so in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 03:44 PM
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So if one man commits a crime, you blame some other random man, or all other men. That a failure of logic, and wild ass lazy thinking. When someone does something wrong to me, I don't assume that all other people with vaguely similar physical characteristics are also to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 12:56 AM
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Putting women into the workforce, en mass, is what made it economically unaffordable. Dual income households bid up the prices so that single income households can't afford it anymore. In addition, many single income households increases demand even further, than if more people still lived together. For 2 and 3, this state of affairs means that there will no longer be a society to worry about. No kids is ok for the odd person, but not society as a whole. There will be unprecedented collapse in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:49 PM
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It lets already bad people be a part of conversations that they wouldn't otherwise be a part of.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:37 PM
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It seems to me that that those sensible things that you point out is just what was normal men, from 40 and more years ago. Somehow it was lost and to be rediscovered.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 12:48 AM
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The world is fundamentally unjust. It's taken thousands of years and a huge effort to get to where we are today. Let off just a bit and injustice returns, linked entropy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:08 AM
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I lived in Hong Kong for years, and travelled throughout much of Asia. It's not nice being liked for your ethnicity. One girl spent the night with me and said that she just wanted to try out a white guy.
/r/AllPillDebate08/12/22 04:37 PM
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Have you ever thought that it was the Finnish girls that are brainwashed? How can they be disgusted with someone that they don't know anything about? Clearly they are judging you by your outward appearance and not your character. Everyone is full of ideas that fall somewhere between correct and incorrect. A cognitive bias is to believe what they think is "correct." What is correct or incorrect is not even that because these ideas change so radically through history. Correct only depends on the j…
/r/AllPillDebate08/12/22 04:33 PM
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Class clowns can also be stupid and oblivious too, not confident. It can be fake compensating for lack of actual confidence. There's different kinds of clowning around, some good, in the eyes of some people, some just inane. Actual smart and confident people appear to follow soci6norms, but then do their own thing without drawing attention to themselves. Real confidence means that you don't need to show off. Showing off means you seek approval of others, and lack confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 03:40 PM
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You deleted your post, so I forget the context. You need to remind me of the situation. You need to say more too, so I know more about you. But, in general, be calm and cool, don't care too much. Being too into a girl too fast is a killer. For me, I found ambiguity to be fun. Like what did she say. I don't like texting games because I need to see someone face to face in order to respond correctly. I only have a bit of information to guess that you are like me. What's your ethnicity and backgroun…
/r/AllPillDebate29/11/22 03:32 PM
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Yes. I was a fully confident person, very good at many things. I also had good, strong and confident people as friends, even hot girls too. However, I was shy and not confident with people I didn't know. People would call me for jobs, even ones where I didn't know anything about, but I mastered in months. So there was the one area that I wasn't confident in. I set out to get good in that area too. After a lot of socializing I would get more confident in that too. Starting was the hard part. Afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 02:02 AM
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You sound similar to me. Hopefully I can tell you what to do, and do it faster than I did it. Are you a perfectionist who has to get everything just right? I forgot to stop at just good enough and kept going. I always had the be better, to get the hotter girl than last time. It's not easy nonetheless, all of the knowledge and ability comes only from experience. It's not thinking knowledge. Anything that you can read is not actually "it," it's just compensating for not knowing it. If you're think…
/r/AllPillDebate25/11/22 02:24 AM
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You imagine a lot from so little. I definitely not a liberal leftist. I'm not even normal. But everyone has sex, it's not a left/right or conservative/liberal issue. It's a does someone think you look good enough issue. Are you against human rights? You're not some dictator are you? How exactly are Western liberals (idiots) stealing your resources and labour? Colonialism is long over. You have to buy the stuff now. Of course the leaders take the money for their lavish lifestyle and leave the peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:09 AM
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Sex is a really good thing. Free fun that no other entity in society can control you with. There's no gatekeeper, no admission fee and it's a moment to be truly close to another human. External ideas on how you should do it are just other groups trying to control that part if you too. The only people against sex are those not getting any.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:22 PM
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That's a covert intelligence test right there. The inability to see that tells you how smart she is. Now you know. A great many people fail a basic logic. Speaking of that, I've been shamed for having casual sex on this very sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:03 AM
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Averages or generalizations of large groups don't dictate the behaviour of every individual. Women do ask guys out, or just to do various activities. Even in the past. 25 years ago there were women who pursued me. Making logical conclusions from the various things people declare to be true are not how people behave though, you can't expect this. People are more likely to be logically inconsistent than consistent. Everyone here expecting people to be logically consistent have all of the wrong ide…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:41 AM
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As a guy, you can become much better looking by a change of attitude, confidence and knowledge of women. Girls can see inside of you, because it is shown on your outside. Getting there takes a lot of work. It is something that can be done, I managed to do it. See my other comment. All of your muscles determine the shape of your face and body movements style. Most people think that this is fixed, but you can change it. It does take dedication though. This why you can tell Japanese from Chinese an…
/r/AllPillDebate21/11/22 02:51 AM
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Dude, you're a Quant, a math major, that's not normal. (My Dad was a math major, and very sociable and likeable, so it's not a certainty.) But I was a financial programmer and was not doing well with girls. Mostly I was busy on work or interesting things. I just set out to be more sociable and then, after some time of practice, I became more interesting to girls. There's a big change in mindset, demeanor attitude that it takes. There's so much knowledge to gain about girls as well. After you get…
/r/AllPillDebate21/11/22 02:29 AM
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What's with this expectation that someone in charge should do or tell you things? No one is in charge. There's just random people telling other people what they want to hear. Truth doesn't sell. If you want something that doesn't exist, you have to do it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 03:41 PM
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Was trying to think of that, but my whole view cuts across different lines. Smart vs dumb is another. I think that men view women as simple, while women tend to view men as simple. As opposed to complex, respectively. As a guy, I think guys are simpler, women are more complex (and thus more interesting for me.)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:23 PM
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I don't really see things as between men and women, more as between good people and bad people. These two groups both hold men and women. The goods men and women keep together while the others are left to their shit show. If you understand people well enough, it's easy to see who's good and bad. The problem comes when a good person gets conned by a bad one, doesn't matter if it's a man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:03 PM
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That's hogwash. But if you're overtly trying to get a girl, you're doing it wrong. You don't try too hard, sometimes not at all, then it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:29 AM
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Why does no one ever mention the fact that with people not having kids, there is no future to worry about anyways. Without people there's no future society. China's population is going to be cut in half in a few decades. The future will be determined by those who have kids, not by the childless. Those groups have different views.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 01:59 AM
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It seems more like you have a guy selection issue. How are you choosing your guys for that? For me, if a girl is not having a good time, then I'm not either. I can definitely say that casual sex has been a good experience and that it has often led to the girl coming back for more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 04:06 PM
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That's not at all what I meant. I meant becoming the guy who looks sexually attractive. There's much more to allure than static looks, although most people don't understand this. Your muscles change your look by holding you in different shapes, especially the face. It's often a reflection of your inner self, that's why people can read people, some people, but women are better at it than most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:15 AM
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In the words of Red Green (show), if she doesn't find you sexy, she better find you handy. However, self improvement does help you transition to becoming sexy. Becoming a guy that girls find sexy is quite the interesting experience. One of the more real posts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 02:16 PM
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Happy wife, happy life, right? That's an age old expression. It has nothing to do with red pill, unless they have adopted it. I don't really know about the pills, I live in reality which is much more nuanced and complex than ideologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:30 AM
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Ideologies are vast simplification, and don't properly encompass the complex reality. They frequently start with common sense and are extended to absurdity as ideologues get ever detached from reality. Your guy sounds a lot like how I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:21 AM
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Men are attracted to a woman's shape. Women's attraction to men is quite a bit by his behaviour. Good men have many male friends so are thus "attractive" to men too. When using visual mediums, we get a bias towards the visual, because other factors cannot be conveyed visually. So non visual factors get lost and not considered when thinking about it. Hence, the question is biased. The whole world, culture has become biased to the visual since the start of the visual medium era.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 01:35 AM
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Your analogy reminds me of the phrase "all's fair in love and war." Ambiguity is fun too. Stating things straight up can be less fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:49 PM
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To what degree are we talking? Very well. So well that you can manipulate them to do what you want. Depends on the girl of course. A smart girl is not as obviously manipulable but are so much more fun. Nah Your post was about how you found it so hard to understand women. It's hard when you don't understand. Depending on where you think that intelligence lies Analytical intelligence will not help you understand women. It's a hindrance. Some IQ dumb guys understand women well. The knowledge is fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 04:24 AM
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On the other hand, when a woman does want to have sex with you quickly, don't say anything meaningful, as she might change her mind. The worst is when she's on the fence and you have to say all of the right things to seal the deal. Women are not stupid, they know what you want, unless you're with a naive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:19 PM
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This is the imagination of someone who has no idea of what they are talking about. I lived in Hong Kong for years and have been around Asia as well. I know plenty of guys married to Asian women, as well having known many myself. Simplistic ideas about other people just don't cut it. People are much more complex than that. Asian women are very smart and know what they want. They are very independent. So many are online looking for Western men. They find that they get treated better by Western men…
/r/AllPillDebate27/10/22 04:54 PM
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I did that many years ago. I had no plan but to just go do it. It worked great. It wasn't my goal, but it did result in getting a lot of girls, after a while. After the first, difficult start, it just becomes fun and easy. Also, I don't think that social skills diminish like muscles do. Your peak pick up girls ability may diminish a bit.
/r/seduction26/10/22 04:19 PM
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When you understand women, it is a cakewalk. Many men do understand women. You don't, that's why it seems so hard. More men understand women than could ever be a rocket scientist. Plenty of dumb guys even, in fact intelligence is a hindrance to getting with women. The thing is, the knowledge of women can't be written down, it's all feeling, and understanding it. Once you come to understand it, it's like going from seeing in black and white to seeing in colour. And, you can't explain colour to so…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:36 AM
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There's no just world, especially in dating. It's the ultimate free market. However, whatever is not your fault, may be. But, what can you do? Try to work on things that you can improve, and personality is one I'd those things. Going on about the things that you can't change is just giving up. Worry about what you can change. Nothing outside of you is going to change in your favour. There is no communist option for dating, unless you want arranged marriages. The biggest problem is unreal expecta…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 02:21 AM
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Yes, never shagged a fat girl. Definitely my standards too. Never even an overweight girl. Being fat means that you don't have standards. Dud someone actually down vote me for not cheating on my girlfriend? Must be the pro fat squad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:13 AM
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This comes from having an ideal in the woman's head that is at adds with reality. She's looking for a guy to slit into her ideal guy idea. Now, when the guy doesn't live up to the ideal, she gets angry. Everything is a test that compares the guy to the ideal in her head. This is as opposed to getting to know a real human being and falling in love with a real person, and understanding this person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:30 AM
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You shouldn't get your ideas of what men like from guys who can't get girls. Their isolation makes them a bit crazy and stray from the mainstream. Extremes are attractive, reality is more mundane. Remember the people who are busy doing things in the real world are not talking about it. I lived in the real world and only tried reddit in the pandemic. Many different guys like different kinds of girls. What's most important is a girl's character. However it's hard to judge that, unless you're out t…
/r/AllPillDebate22/10/22 02:28 AM
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It's a video that still runs in my head. Sexiest girlfriend I've had, she could never get enough. Life gets busy and it's hard to find time to talk, people drift apart. TV and internet are bad for relationships, and sex. Before there were electric lights, people would sleep just after dark. They would wake up in the middle of the night, socialize or shag, talk. Then sleep again until dawn. Glad I could help.
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:58 AM
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Getting deep can take a while to get to in a conversation, so have time. After sex is a good time to talk, people feel open then. Afternoon sex is good. Talking is a long term thing, it makes you closer. Speaking of afternoon sex, one of my memorable incidents was going out after sex. My girlfriend stopped on the sidewalk, spread her feet a bit, and plopped out the result from earlier.
/r/seduction21/10/22 03:39 AM
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Sometimes the idea that you can do it any time you want, is the problem. As it doesn't actually get something on your to do list done, so it gets left until last. The top comment says a lot. I do concur with the intellectual intimacy. Knowing people at the deepest level makes you feel closer, and like shagging again. No matter how deep you go, there's always another level further down. As for things that you can do to revive stale sex, it mostly in the mind too, but in a different way. In genera…
/r/seduction21/10/22 01:53 AM
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I'll take the intelligent woman any day. You're better off in the long run, as there's more there to keep you interested and connected. I want to be challenged and intellectually stimulated. It's what I live for. I've had the dumb, attractive, nymphomaniac like girl, (a few actually,) no meaningful conversation, ever. It's fun for a while, then it gets hollow. It was great when life was just socializing, but when life gets serious, it becomes a bit like taking care of a child. If you get married…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 05:40 PM
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Any girl could think that. You found one that did. Many girls do have a tendency to this. I'm going to differ from some other people here. You're better off trying when not wanted than to not try when wanted. The latter can make a girl upset. When your inexperienced with women, you tthink that women will be offended by advances. Later you learn that they're not. They know what's up. When you get more experienced, you read when to do what. If you accept a 'no' then you're ok. Unless it's no as Bi…
/r/seduction19/10/22 06:19 AM
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You're not getting the point. People having drunk sex is a normal thing throughout history. You can't make standard social behaviours illegal. That's how dictators make laws so that they can put anyone in jail any time. It's only a very, very tiny number of times that it becomes contentious. Most of the time it's just another day for the people involved. My reference was about the state of the law. You noted a particular case. If your still on about the kids, this case said that the girl was bla…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 05:32 AM
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Humans natural predisposition is to serial monogamy. There is research on it, read it long ago, so don't know where. There's a thing known as the 7 year itch. It's the natural, average length before subconscious things start making people reject each other. Lifelong monogamy is good for your life in society and wealth building. People go against their natural instincts all of the time, because we're smart. Some people live out their feelings, others live out their thinking. The latter tend to be…
/r/AllPillDebate18/10/22 03:06 AM
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I don't really know what your trying to say. It doesn't appear to be a reply to my last reply. It's kind of incoherent and isn't making sense to me. Could you try to be more clear in what you're trying to saying? My initial statement appears to be true, according to what evidence I've found. If 2 drunk people have sex, there is no crime. It also appears that one drunk, but not too drunk person also can consent. You seem to be going on about other things. It's necessary to have a high bar of into…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:52 PM
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You're misconstruing what I said, over expanding it to cover other things that I didn't mean at all. Everything that you said, just now, I completely agree with. Most of my relationships have had almost nothing explicitly stated. They just "happen." All I meant was the initial interest phase, before you agree to meet and talk even. If you're interested, and pretend you're not because you want the guy to go to a lot of effort to get you just to meet up for the first time. That can be hard to dist…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:06 PM
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That's not what I was talking about. It appears the girl was incapacitated. "If a complainant consumes drugs or alcohol by choice, courts have "a very high threshold for incapacity, much higher than they would have applied in those involuntary intoxication cases." 'Clearly, a drunk can consent' While Lenehan's comment has sparked outrage in much of the public, he's not incorrect according to Canadian case law." https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/criminal-code-consent-gregory-lenehan-sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:01 PM
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I said that already, above. Having slurred speech, even, is too drunk to consent. And, I'm talking about Canada only.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 03:52 PM
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Yes, it gets complicated very fast. But apparently, for equality purposes now, you can't blame one gender and not the other. Case law gets set by precedence by past decisions at courts (if that the correct way to say that) so, yes, not necessarily in statute. Higher courts overturn lower court's decisions. You can be accused of rape, having done nothing at all, and still be in a bad position. I'll probably have to look into this more to clarify. I just specifically remember reading this, or I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:13 AM
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I just read it recently from an authoritative source. I never say things about facts that I am not completely sure of. It is not an opinion. It's hard to find now because there so many other things that show up first. Also, as it's law, it's a lot of reading. Some of these other things even let people get away when they shouldn't. You can search and read yourself. To clarify, 2 drunk people having sex together is not criminal. Unless you want to criminalise both or have a double standard. Drunk,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:39 AM
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Too true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:40 AM
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That sounds like a thought crime. Apparently now, in Canada, if both are drunk, it's considered consensual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:39 AM
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I could never do a fat girl. One time my girlfriend accused me of sleeping with a friend. My friend was a very large girl. Since we were about to shag, my mast went from full attention to fully lowered at the accusation. So my girlfriend knew that I never did such a thing with my friend. Best truth detector ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:32 AM
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The phrase: "All's fair in love and war" explains an awful lot of what people otherwise go to great lengths to explain. One strategy that you can do is to get experienced with not hot women and move up to better ones. Don't know why people think that they should start out at the top. Being experienced with women helps make you look more attractive. Besides, less hot women are better in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:26 AM
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That's why I said that there are fun games to play. There are so many fun and interesting times to be had, there's no need to spoil it with dumb games. Pretending that you're not interested in someone, when you are, is a dumb game. I don't like convincing girls to do things, it's a slippery slope to manipulation. People are manipulatable, it's something that I don't like to do. Your presumption is that if I don't like one particular game, that I don't like any, is incorrect. I think that I like …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 08:25 PM
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You're only going to get a certain kind of guy then. I never chase girls, it's stupid games to me. There are fun games to play, that's not one of them. I also see it as someone who can't make up their mind of what they want and go get it. It's much better to have someone who knows what they want and can be upfront about it. It makes your relationship much better. I've always had good, fair and drama free relationships. It's quick and easy to make joint decisions with women who don't play games, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:27 PM
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Saying that women have 'internalized misogyny' patronizing and condescending. It's saying that they have no agency of their own and can't think for themselves. It presumes that you are superior and know better than them. Women are smart and know how to do, and get what they want. They know how to get around obstacles and get what they want from people. I have known a lot of women from numerous countries. Everyone is completely unique and has their own ideas. Some people, some women and some men,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:11 PM
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That's fair. It's ultimately conceited to think that everyone thinks the same. The ancient Greeks did idolise the male form, you can see it in their statues. I couldn't tell you which guys are attractive and which aren't. Except for the unequivocally unattractive. However, I can comment on each attribute of the female form, as can my wife. She's way more critical than me.
/r/AllPillDebate16/10/22 02:50 AM
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The idea that it's immutable features is how they've given up. It absolves them of any responsibility to do anything to improve, so they can continue to be lazy. Their negativity is their main problem and a self fulfilling prophecy. Internal locus of control vs external locus of control. External people blame others for all of their problems. However, the only thing in your complete control is within you.
/r/seduction15/10/22 04:54 PM
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You have a one track mind. You ignore or misconstrue what I say, despite having asked the question to see ideas to the contrary. You make up stuff about me, that you can't possibly know, in order to maintain your preconception. You don't want to know anything else. I see the world of women in colour, and you only see in black and white. There's no way to explain colour to someone who can only see in black and white. Confidence and attitude are big part of attraction for women. They can read it i…
/r/AllPillDebate15/10/22 03:34 AM
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Stating the obvious. Women are the attractive half. Women are in men's magazines and women are in women's magazines. Women look at other women, but men don't look at other men. My wife and I can sit in public and check out other women together.
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 08:15 PM
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I was meeting girls online using usenet in 95. I have a lot of life experience. But I mostly met in real life. I have never known a relationship where the girl doesn't like me. Much of the time it's the girl coming to me, and I had more than one to choose from. Why would you be with someone who doesn't really want you? Never, in anyone I have known has it ended poorly for someone due to looks. I did argue that one friend shouldn't marry his ice queen fiancée in 92, at 3 am he agreed with me. But…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 05:24 PM
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You didn't finish reading my comment it seems. Skills that you need don't magically appear. You have to practice. I said this in my comment. Practice talking and after some time you will get better. Practice more and you will get great. There's nothing like becoming good at something that you once found so hard. I did it, that's why I'm telling you that it can be done. When you're thinking of what to say, you are losing, it can be seen in you, and you are not paying attention to the person you'r…
/r/seduction14/10/22 04:45 PM
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Half of people are below average. Everyone used to get married. So people did find someone. Most stuff online is not indicative of the real world. It's more what people wish or hope is true, plus an accentuation of people's negativity, it's twisting people up. You shouldn't get your knowledge and opinions of society from online. The majority of normality is not discussed. So your view gets distorted. Also, what you believe becomes what you are sensitive to. Change what you think and your reality…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 04:20 PM
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"For every hot girl girl, there's some guy who tired of fucking her." Just turned it around. Looks aren't everything. It matters much less when you know someone well and have to live with them. You don't even notice anymore and their character becomes primary. I once saw a hot looking girl across the street. As I looked, she morphed, like an alien shape shifter, into something else less hot, my girlfriend. If you think that looks are all that matter you're shallow and missing out on great things…
/r/AllPillDebate14/10/22 06:16 AM
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You need to be in the moment and not trying to think of what to say. When you think to yourself, you're failing. I managed to do this, go from not knowing what to say to saying all of the right things before I knew what I was saying. The bonus to this is that you then focus on the person and feeling of the situation, and when you see this, you better know what to say to this particular person. I did it by talking to as many people, that I didn't know already, as often as possible. In the beginni…
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:58 AM
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You said that it was harder for men to improve attractiveness. I said, no it's the opposite. It's only hard if you think it's hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 04:21 PM
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This is my real life. It has happened already. I socialized constantly for a number of years. Averages don't describe individuals. This is your mistake in reasoning. Most of the character in an individual is not captured in studies. If your only knowledge is studies, you're not going to know very much about people. Women in particular are different depending on the situation. The biggest bias in the world, these days, is between quantifiable knowledge and non quantifiable. The latter gets ignore…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 08:14 AM
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No, it's easier for a man to change. For women it's mostly looks. Bad personality with good looks will still be fine. For men it's confidence. You can work to gain confidence. Confidence changes your demeanor in ways that make you look better. I am case in point. I was not good with women. Then, after working on myself it became easy to get girls. Sometimes they came to me. No change in looks, obviously. I had become confident, even cocky, knew all of the right things to say, could read women. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 06:24 AM
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32, that's when girls were asking me out the most. Always attracted to girls, but getting more attention heightens your senses.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:46 AM
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Girls are horny too. I've known enough girls who wanted sex more often than I thought about it. They call you after bed time and say that they are coming over. Or they text you, asking you to visit them. Girls love a trusted guy who knows how to make them feel good. When you get enough sex, you never think about it. Only guys not getting enough go on about this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:08 AM
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Promiscuity and casual sex This worked out well for me. I had more than one girl interested in me at plenty of times, so it was really up to me to apportion my limited attention. Do you think that we should go back to the 50s. I think that you only care when someone else is getting more than you, and you resent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:05 AM
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That's the better attitude. Don't think of her as a hot girl, but as a person you know. Hot girl is for the girl in the distance that you don't know. Why would it not be a good thing? Why should you treat her any different from any other girl? Just that you worry about what to do is going to make you worse off. Doubt and self consciousness harms your confidence. I have have a different view, that is contrary to people who think that there is a friend zone. Relationships are amorphous and changea…
/r/seduction12/10/22 06:21 PM
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Yes, absolutely agree. When you are completely into your own life and enjoying yourself in it, girls come to you in various different ways. Even girls that you've known for some time suddenly decide that they want to sleep with you. I knew one girl, for a long time. One time I was doing my own thing and she suddenly decided that she had to sleep with me. Next time we met up, she wasn't having it, because, I thought that we would. A future time, I was seeing several girls, on a non exclusive basi…
/r/seduction12/10/22 03:00 AM
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Just practice talking to people, people that you don't know. You can also follow all the other advice here too. But talking to people will slowly increase your social skills. Never worry if it doesn't go well, it can be the other person, either way you will get better. I was a bit shy when young, because I didn't know what to say to people, or felt I wasn't good enough. After lots of practice, I would say all of the right things without any thought at all. Now, when you're not concerned with you…
/r/seduction11/10/22 04:06 PM
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Population level statistics are not a good measure of an individual. They are meant to apply to populations, not individuals. The reasoning is a bit complex for this space. However, people did not evolve to understand populations of 100s of millions. Statistics are not designed to describe the individual. Take one case, that x describes 20% of people. This x will show up in a population survey, but will still not describe most people. People are highly complex and varied. Population level statis…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 03:28 PM
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That you have that situation with your guy friends is not what I consider normal. I don't really know guys like that. On the other hand, maybe both men and women can, more or less, talk to women about certain topics. I wondered if you would be willing to give me your opinion on an idea? It falls within the purview of this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:21 AM
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It's the women doing the calling, making the judgement to not call the father, as specified.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:32 AM
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The problem with your argument is that you start with a presupposition and find evidence to support it, even if the reason may have another cause. That's like using a red filter and then saying that the world is designed to be red. Reality is much more complex, subtle and nuanced. People and society aren't that simple, as to make one simple idea explain it all. I'm not here to pick a side, just to point out faulty reasoning. If you look back 80 years, the law is objectively much more favourable …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 04:21 AM
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The saying "All's fair in love and war" comes to mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 05:06 PM
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I've had sex with a girl on the same night that we met, and still had a relationship. This makes for a great relationship because there's lots of sex. The idea that you know which person is good for a relationship at first meeting is a figment of your imagination. You build a character in your mind and fit guys into it, instead of getting to know a particular person. Also, if there are guys you'd fuck and guys for relationships, there would still be guys you'd fuck after you're in a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:58 PM
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My first reaction is to say, about guys in your life, what are those guys smoking. I can tend to like almost anyone. But if you want me to have a low opinion of you, criticize someone else. When I hear someone criticize someone else, and I then talked to that someone else, I usually find them to be the better person. To me, people live their life the way that they see fit. It's not for me to say how they should do it. I see people for the good things in them and judge them on how they are when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:10 PM
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The thing about men is that they are so easy to understand, for me. Sometimes, little more than a grunt can convey a complex emotion or state of mind. But I still think that they, usually, are more simple than women. I am not posturing with my guy friends. It's more like I have different parts of me that I express with different guy friends. With guys who are not my close friends, we still can share a lot, but can differ on other things (duh!), most notably, I sometimes find their attitude towar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:55 AM
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Absolutetly I don't think most people know this. I think that a lot of people think that the 50s was representative of history, or at least post industrial revolution. Can I ask if you'rea man or woman? My first reaction is to say, I kind of like to have my ideas judged on their own merit, without having them coloured by opinions of other people, with whom I share an immutable characteristic, and nothing else. Is this a wrong idea? I am a guy. The thing is, I don't think that I share a lot with …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:15 AM
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I think that it's necessary to remember the dichotomy between what people say the way things are, and the reality on the ground. The two things are quite different. I think that this is something that few people seem to realize. The model for Western values was written by homosexual men living with other men, in the middle ages. They literally wrote the books, by hand. Could the decadence of the late Roman empire have influenced the ideals of the new, conservative, era? (Is the West about to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 05:45 AM
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So, is your only purpose, when talking to a woman, is to wait to shag her? You can't do anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:24 PM
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Your reading comprehension is not good. I said waiting around to sleep with someone is not the way to do it. Do you think that anything that you do with a woman is just for the purpose of trying to shag? They have head too, a complete person that you can know too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 05:21 AM
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This is fine for a one night stand, but it doesn't mean anything for other types of relationships. There are many different kinds of women, and they each have different ways to do things. If you only know women who have an instant attraction, you will only know one type of woman. I've had numerous encounters with women that I've known for some time. Some times even years, of only occasional meetings. It really costs nothing to keep in touch with numerous women. Frankly, I think the best relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:51 AM
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I've always wondered about that. I grew up with many diverse skills and an interest in them. It was due to my Dad being so capable of so much, hard stuff he made look easy. So, is proclivity learned or natural? Do we have brains designed better for certain things, different for different people? There are some well known people who are talented at everything they try out. Enough people I've met can speak 4 languages, some people are known to speak 13 or more, I'm jealous. How much is innate, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:03 AM
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Well, you certainly notice the men on the extremes. Everyone wants to be like them, even women, you'd think from the rhetoric of some people. Other guys are invisible, especially in their own view. But there's always a price for being some extreme, no one sees that. Muscle memory. There's a term that the pedant in me hates, as muscles have no memory. Yeah, I was a member of the pendants society, a total joke, as was the [city] wing tasting society that we used to, successfully, convince waitress…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:01 AM
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comportment There's a word that I've forgotten. That's a good one for this. I think that a lot of the stuff on this, like TRP is analysis without understanding, so it's acting without being, but I'm not sure, don't know much about TRP. I changed myself, for other reasons, but found that the side effect was becoming more attractive. So I know the difference from the inside. It's a feeling that I can't put into words, it was being instead of thinking, so actually thinking less. When I spoke, all o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 05:33 PM
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You're blaming immutable factors, so that you can shirk responsibility for things you can change. Your inner self shines out of you in ways that people mistake for physical characteristics. Your muscles hold a shape that reflects your inner self. You can make yourself look better. Men much more so than women. See my comment below and elsewhere here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 04:08 PM
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Of course it's a good thing. You change your personality from the age of 2 to whenever you think is enough. For me, I never stopped. This change was a big effort, 10 years. Not a full time effort of course. But at 10 I learned that I could change. Then it was a 4 month effort to change from pessimist to optimist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 03:57 PM
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However, what people think of as looks can be affected. We read so much unconsciously from a person's look. These changeable factors can make you look better or worse. Demeanor, stance, expression, etc. We know if you are confident, convivial, gregarious or depressed and boring from looking at a distance. The state of your inner self shines out from you in ways that register unconsciously. You perceive this as better looking, when they are the characteristics that you, unconsciously, desire. Peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 03:49 PM
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"dont do drugs" thing is a scam The top and bottom if society do everything. The people in the middle believe that the facade of the top is the way to be. The top people keep it concealed and act the "correct" conformative way. They reap the benefits of both worlds. The bottom know no restraint and don't get the benefits of conformity. The middle buy the idea of conformity while everyone else lives off of their hard work.
/r/seduction01/10/22 05:41 AM
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Misplaced cause and effect. It's not the drug taking that gets you laid. It's personality traits that lead people to addiction also lead then to getting laid more. It's also that drug users hang out with a crowd of people with low inhibition. If your doing drugs, your not going to be regulating your other pleasurable behaviours. I got laid more when I started drinking more, because I was with a different crowd of people. Previously I was doing the straight and narrow.
/r/seduction01/10/22 05:32 AM
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I went through that learning curve. This sounds pretty accurate. However, I would say that the carrot does become prominent once you advanced enough. It really spurs you on then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 05:09 AM
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Interesting post. It gets at something that I came to understand from the other side. I was a shy, maybe socially anxious too, guy. Years later I became a gregarious extrovert. Late in my transformation, women were starting to approach me with specific ideas in mind. What huge change it was. I know exactly the different feeling and mindset that goes along with acting the "right" way. It's no small feet to get there; years of practice and experience. I don't think that it's something that you cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 04:51 AM
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When you don't know the "game," getting with a girl seems like a random event. You don't know how you got there, you randomly got lucky, because you did the right things by chance. Like getting the right combination on a lock on the first try, because you only get one try. When you are experienced, and know what you are doing, say you're older and managed to get lots of experience, you now know how to play the game and increase your chances of "winning." Now you're a locksmith. That's why people…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 03:42 AM
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I don't really get your point. You seem to just have unrealistic ideas about women, hot women in particular. I can tell you, for sure, that hot women are no different than any other. I've known some stunning women. However, less hot women are more likely to be better at sex. The only time I really notice how hot a woman is in the distance, or when I'm going down. Up close, I'm talking to a person who has a personality.
/r/seduction30/09/22 04:45 AM
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... continued What were you feeling at the time? There's a context to this. Later, I was in one of the world financial capitals. Good job, lots of money, glove trotting, socializing with smart and socially adept people from around the world whose motto was "work hard, play hard." I guess that you can't separate this from the casual sex part. So maybe a bit of feeling like on top of the world. You cheated? I don't really know what you mean by withdrawal. No I didn't cheat. Withdrawal, like I gues…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:00 AM
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I already did number 2, except she's hot too. It's worked out well. I had a lot of relationships and other adventures myself before. Your question can be rephrased as: you have a big pile of money to invest, for the long term, what do you choose: Bonds that get you 2% with no risk, or Stocks, that will invariably will reward you, but my crash sometimes, just hopefully not when you need the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:51 PM
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There's larger story around this, it wasn't an overnight change. Like what? I don't know the words for it, confident, satisfied with achievement. Not that I trying at all. I was getting better at one thing, and the casual sex happened by itself. I never believed in trying to "get" a girl. I like to talk and get to know someone, not that I always did. So sex just happened. But I had gotten better at reading girls and saying all of the right things. However, from my point of view, it was always th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:06 AM
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Exactly, and having your car at your destination is very useful.
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:24 AM
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No, a train is less hassle than flying, especially on short distances.
/r/seduction28/09/22 05:23 AM
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I went from a guy who found it hard to get with women, to one who had more than enough options and lots of casual sex. There was a certain kind of happiness but more of a drive, definitely a sense of satisfaction. I was always happy in life, so I can't say if I was happier. I was feeling great in other ways that I wouldn't call happiness. It went along me being more sociable, and being better at that. However, it was my enthusiasm and contagious zest for life that helped make me more attractive …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 05:22 AM
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Drive, a better way to travel, better adventure. For me, 500 km is an easy weekend trip, something that I've done many times. It's no big deal at all. I don't even know why you wonder about it. Planes make it seems so serious. The trip I mentioned was 1500 km, a nice drive. As someone else asked, did she offer you a place to stay?
/r/seduction27/09/22 06:36 PM
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I have travelled farther to meet a girl once. I did it for the adventure and love of travel. It was just an excuse to go somewhere. Unexpected things did happen. Every situation is unique. If you think travel is an arduous pain, it might not work out so well.
/r/seduction27/09/22 05:55 PM
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People here do know what it takes, if you ignore the pua formulas, yet the people asking always want the shortcut, or aren't willing to put in the effort because they don't get results early on. They have the wrong idea of how it works; you're changing yourself, not using some method. I was not doing too well in my early 20s, but I had started to make the point to be more sociable, talking to people in that time; talking to people I didn't know as often as possible. I was also very involved in m…
/r/seduction27/09/22 05:15 PM
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Men have prioritised sex for 300,000 years. It's why you're here to ask the question. How do you expect it to change? I'm sure that women have wanted to look good and get free stuff for just as long. I've never prioritised sex on a date. As long as everything else goes well, sex is inevitable. Getting to know a girl is exciting too, every one is unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 05:14 AM
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Some men, and some women are delusional. Some perfectly understand themselves and other people. The deluded ones just stand out more.
/r/seduction25/09/22 03:27 PM
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Every individual is different. I treat everybody a bit different, depending on their character and personality. Not on purpose, it's just naturally adapting to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 04:56 AM
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Having a burning desire requires you to have some carnal experience with women. Once you get some experience down, you, your experience of and outlook on the world will change. A part of you has atrophied, or never developed. There's an invisible world that you don't see yet. You need to develop the ability. Only then will you ever have a burning desire with someone. Getting started will be the hard part, a bit of a hump to get over. You should probably do it by any means possible. Male female r…
/r/seduction24/09/22 11:44 PM
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I only watch porn with my wife. It seems wrong to do it alone, besides being a waste of time. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 03:39 PM
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There is just no way to make everyone happy. In the traditional past and other countries some women are disaffected. Change it around and now more men are disaffected. Not to say that it's all one way or the other. There's also social ability, which some are not good at. Which seems more important now, with a less rigid structured society.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:37 PM
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Sorry, you don't understand evolution. Muscle cells evolved to shorten when told to. What happens when muscles pull is determined by other factors, that take millions of years to happen, one tiny step at a time. Evolution doesn't think in complex chains, it does one, simple thing at a time, which is why certain things in biology appear to be badly designed. Which first part?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:42 PM
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Yes, guys know which others guys are good and bad. Sometimes they even tell you how bad they are, to women, because they think that you are like them. Essentially, you pick the guy, don't wait for some guy to romance you. Better yet, have a bunch of guy friends to get to know, then pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:54 PM
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No, that's not similar at all. You clearly don't understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:42 PM
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Your penis is designed by evolution to remove the last guy's semen from the girl that you're shagging now. Don't tell me that pre historic men cared. It's much more complex, but I don't even want to start. Jealousy, maybe you should look into that. It's much more concrete.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 04:21 AM
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You fight to protect your wife, your kids and your parents. The guys fighting next to are doing the same. You'll note that Ukraine had no trouble finding men to fight the invasion. War is not an abstract concept. If you can't be bothered to defend your country, then you don't really have a country. Your first order responsibility is to maintain the territorial integrity of your country. If you can't do that, nothing else in your life matters. Ideally your apparent competence at war will make oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:35 AM
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You don't really have a girlfriend if you're not excited to see her everyday. I've done this at 3 different companies. It was great every time. Had a chance to make use of the boss's chair, overlooking the city skyline. A fair percentage of people meet their spouse at work. Don't miss your chance because of non-existent rules.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:51 AM
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But that's not my point, just that people use average and are mathematically wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:46 AM
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That was my point, if you've read more of my replies in this thread. However, my main point is that people here are wrong about, on average, women sleep with more guys than guys do. In the total population, the average is the same. It's mathematically impossible to be any other way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:36 AM
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So, is that a declarative statement, or some kind of criticism of my point? It's not clear what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:00 PM
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A scientific study is not a metaphor. The study may have been about the instinct for fairness. However, cooperating a bit with an opponent, so that both can do better than one outright winning, is what game theory is about. So he accidentally saw game theory at work. You'll note that the so called fairness, was to benefit the winner anyways. It's manipulative to do it in personal relationships. Humans are much more complex, we already know that people have a sense of fairness. I saw your idea of…
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/22 07:41 PM
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Maybe the way that you worded your post is not conveying what you actually meant. You're now telling me that you meant it a bit differently. I just responded to what you wrote. So clarifying is fair Also, you are using analytical skills to dissect personal relationships. This is mainly my beef with your post. Most people don't work like that. So in this sense I am saying that I know something that you don't. How do I know? I was predominantly analytical, then I got really good at people, seeing …
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/22 06:44 PM
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Arguing is not playing with your spouse. Getting into an argument is lose - lose. Winning is a hollow victory. You're not going to make your spouse smarter. The only way that this works is if your a smart guy who is with a woman who knows it, or you're with a smart girl who talks through everything with you, and you learn from each other. Otherwise, as someone said, emotions rule. Arguing is to be avoided, so is "winning" an argument. Knowing how to get along and agree, without ever arguing is h…
/r/AllPillDebate19/09/22 05:20 PM
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Simple rules don't explain a complex society. If a bunch of women doing hundreds of guys, then hundreds of guys are getting a bunch of women. You're talking about one subset of society, that seem to be vocal about themselves. I have had women begging me for sex, and I have had enough women available that I did need to see them all. Plenty of women are not sleeping with a lot of guys, they're just not telling you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:33 PM
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I understand, exactly. Your acting out a feeling. It doesn't work with math. Math knows exactly. Clearly some guy is hitting a lot of women. The average will still come out the same 100 men, 100 women. 5 guys bang 100 women each. The average for both men and women is still 5 for both. 95 guys complain on reddit, every girl has had more sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:31 AM
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Every time a woman sleeps with a man, a man is also sleeping with a woman. Do you see the logic there? It can't happen any other way. (I studied statistics) PPD, and much of reddit, has many guys who aren't those guys. I don't use the word slut, really. I don't judge people. I think that some guys rack up big numbers, while a few girls do. But more girls have a middle number and more guys have few. Sex is a great thing, more sex would make for a better world. But so many guys don't act the way t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:38 AM
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No, there are not types of averages. Average is exactly one thing. Mean and average are the same thing. Median is something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:50 AM
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Your anecdote has no bearing on my numbers. First, you don't have equal men and women in your class. The population overall has roughly equal number, most places. You clearly are not good at math. Assume that your class had 18 women and 18 men. Add a few guys to represent the population. You banged 7 women. The average for men is then 7/18 = 0.39 The average for women is 7/18, the same. Assuming no one else banged anyone. It takes one man and one woman, every. single. time. Most countries have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:52 AM
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I keep seeing impossible statistics here. In a population of about equal men and women, the average has to be the same for each. Say you have 200 men and 200 women and 10 women each sleep with 100 different men. The average number of partners is still 5 for both men an women. What is the cutoff number that makes you a male slut anyways?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:55 AM
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You're title and body text are two completely different things. Maybe knowing what you mean yourself would be one thing. Regarding your title question, talking on a deeply personal level. Really getting to know the girl you're with, and her getting to know you too. Of course, you can have a whole relationship without ever doing this. Regarding you're body text, to be appealing to a girl that you don't have yet. Talking in a way that makes her want to be with you. What that is, is different for d…
/r/seduction16/09/22 05:06 PM
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Thanks for being civil, correcting on reddit is a fraught affair. I wanted to note that the main victimization that single mothers were subject to in the past, was that of society blaming them and looking down on them as if they were lesser people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 06:06 PM
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Humans are also closely related to bonobos. Bonobos have completely different social structures than chimps. So it's no stretch to say that humans can yet have totally different social dynamics than related animals. Further, people have a remarkable brain that is amazingly adaptable. People can be made to behave completely differently depending on socialization. People also have the ability act differently due to their thoughts. Some people act out their feelings, and some choose not to act acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 05:37 PM
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Hid is past tense of hide. Otherwise, great comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 04:08 PM
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But that's not the way to make sense of things that you can't see. That's using what you can see, and thinking that it explains everything. It leaves out the majority of what counts. It's like people of the middle ages trying to explain weather or sickness without ever knowing physics or biology or even bacteria. People getting laid see things that people who don't, can't see and aren't aware of. When I was young, I was an analytical thinker, but I knew that there were things that people underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 05:43 AM
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That's not that bad of a way to go, quite logical. However, all's fair in love and war. If she doesn't like you, yet, it might not be best to confess, but play the game until she does like you. You could just hang out until she starts to like you all on her own. Others suggest ways. Don't be trying to make her like you, or do what you think she wants. It really depends on the type of girl. A good girl could take forever to get there. But it's fun. I was kind of in your position at about your age…
/r/seduction13/09/22 05:06 AM
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TLDR: You might have gone to school where people told you that you were perfect the way you are, that doesn't mean jack shit in the real world. If the other gender likes others of your type, but not you, you have to change, not them. Even if the other gender is completely wrong, you have to be wrong too, if you want them to want you. The real world sucks, deal with it. So say something original.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:20 AM
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It's not all on women. Not that this is absolutely true anyways, it's only partially true. A guy, with a partner, or even a less monogamous relationship, has a certain confidence, attitude and demeanor that makes him more attractive. The girls don't have to know that he has a relationship. I know that women were attracted to me more when I had close relations with other girls. They never knew that I did. This sub is highly stuck on quantitative factors and is oblivious to qualitative factors tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:35 AM
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For simple explanations, nothing. But I like to play with complexity. There are many versions of the truth, each one has some merit, but no single one is the one correct truth. (Most) People are very, very complex and fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 03:22 AM
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Some people would say that. You can make a case for various narratives that sound right. I don't subscribe to any particular one myself. Some people feel no desire at all to follow prevailing ideas, body image, in this case. Yet they still live in society. So it's much more complex. My point was to show how a case can be made, not to state it as a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:57 AM
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One could also say that women have internalized prevailing societal expectations, from media and other women as well as men so much that she can't separate herself from what is imprinted on her. If you both were alone on an island I'm sure the desire for different sized body parts would not be there. The idea of the ideal woman, physically, is so much more prominent today than it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 01:42 AM
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I don't think that it is a trend though. You're seeing a non representative, self selected sample. What people profess to believe and what they actually do are very different things. Historical records are written by cultural leaders about what people profess to believe. Only in the present are the views of everyone available. What we find is that people who can sleep around do, while those who can't, complain. I have lived in some, so called "traditional cultures" where women were supposed to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 06:22 AM
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Any time you are talking about "men" as in all men (or all women) you're going to be making broad generalizations. When you state a single viewpoint, you are going to be wrong. All different viewpoints are within the group of men. I've only ever seen guys caring about this on reddit discussions. It also seems that guys not getting laid are the ones who care the most. You judge a person by their individual actions as you get to know them, not by a group label.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 05:22 AM
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I like intellectual girls with long black hair too. Good luck finding one. You can't be too picky. I did always think personality mattered most too, so always try to get to know a girl and not judge on looks. Never did want a bimbo. However, I did end up with one once, for a few years. Was actually a fabulous time, one of my best, surprised me and challenged my self image a bit. Really nice, sweet and fun girl. Don't knock the bimbo. Still, you don't know if this girl was actually a bimbo for no…
/r/seduction11/09/22 11:39 PM
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Men don't say this, some stupid guys do. Reddit is not a representative sample of men. Do6get your info here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:50 AM
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Get used for sex is about misrepresenting the reason for getting together. I was used for sex once. It was a hot girl and a first date. I got over it quick, but still slightly bothered me, being deceived. I would have been fine if she had told me upfront.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:35 AM
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What a load of crap. I have had girls give me things for giving them great sex. I have has girls want me just for sex, the only thing I gave them was sex. They loved it and couldn't get enough. Girls love sex, if you are doing it right. My opinion is that a girl who doesn't love sex has never met a decent guy. I think that girls actually love sex more than men, but that so many women are conditioned to believe otherwise. Social conditioning is a powerful thing. A girl who loves you, wants to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:25 AM
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That is incorrect. You learn, have experience and grow as a person. Now the real person that you are is a better person. So fake it, get some relationships down then you will be a changed person for the next one. Further, you can permanently change who you are as a person. It's something that I learned to do. It's very effective and you completely forget the old way, like it never existed. It's not even that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:39 PM
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People are making thinking mistakes. They think that a population level statistic applies to every individual. That is incorrect. Standard deviation would tell a little about that. Population analysis is different from individuals. You can't treat an individual according to population statistics. People are very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 03:29 PM
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I listed my premises on this in my first comment, you have still never argued against that, you're trying to go sideways on other, unrelated things. I mean those who know something about ancient Rome. Btw, Rome did have slavery as part of their economy, and were poorer because of it. Just like the US south was poorer than the north because of slavery. Slavery is bad economics, machines create wealth. Slaves make one man wealthy, machines make everyone well off. The middle class live better than …
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 07:38 AM
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That's not a criticism of what I said. I wasn't talking about the world average, I was talking about one civilisation. When we talk about ancient Rome, we don't talk about the other people who didn't live as well. You're straw manning, invalid argument. My only point is that no one will ever live as well as one group of people did then. You're going off on tangents, I'm not doing a detailed and nuanced analysis of world history in a reddit comment.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 07:27 AM
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That may be true. Not everyone got to live those best of times. However, no newly developed country will ever exist under the conditions of the developed countries of that time. No more equal country will either. It's going backwards, greater inequality.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 06:03 AM
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So, you have all of the attributes, but you haven't got the right psyche in yourself yet. The top comment already says what I came here to say. After years of talking and practice in various situations, all of the right words would come out of my mouth before I knew what they were. No thoughts in my head at all except to go talk to someone, anyone, anywhere. Previously I had no idea what to say, and worried about it too. Practice really makes perfect.
/r/seduction07/09/22 03:38 AM
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The Easter islanders cut down all of their trees. It is suspected that the Mayans suffered an environmental catastrophe, that also affected the Romans. Not enough for a serious environmental problem, but enough to disrupt a highly developed civilisation.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 03:09 AM
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The pinnacle of civilisation is the post WW2 era. Not too many people, seemingly limitless resources, unpolluted environment that could withstand pollution, most biodiversity still existed, the environment not full of nasty chemicals. All of these prequesites of over. The future is one of austerity.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 03:06 AM
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Societal collapse means losing the means to maintain the technology. High tech is a very high stack of technologies. Lose one step in that stack and all all of your high tech is gone. You just have to lose the high level of education of the people who keep it going and wait until those who know get old and die to lose it all. Collapse, in historical sense, can be generations.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 02:57 AM
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Your probably using US statistics. The minority will always show a higher rate than the majority, it's just math. That doesn't really mean much.
/r/AllPillDebate07/09/22 02:35 AM
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I love women. Meeting new ones is so addictive, it's so interesting, and hard to stop. I did the casual thing enough though. A relationship is definitely better.
/r/seduction05/09/22 04:44 AM
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Pretty sure that that wasn't a thing when I was there. I think that it was seen as bad for a Japanese girl to be seen with a foreigner, then. I saw very, very few mixed couples, even in Tokyo, unlike Hong Kong where it was common. I met my Japanese girl in Thailand, not in Japan. She was neither positive or negative on it. She did say that some people would see her as bad for being with a foreigner. That was in Kyushi as opposed to more cosmopolitan Tokyo. It does seem trendy now. What's the rea…
/r/AllPillDebate05/09/22 04:25 AM
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Some women with lots of experience with men are much better at relationships than inexperienced ones. For most things in life, experience makes you better. People with problems are people with problems, no matter what their experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:52 AM
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Do Japanese women really like white guys that much, or is it just a minority? I lived in Hong Kong but spent a lot of time in Japan. I had a Japanese girlfriend, who was rather independent minded, she liked to get a dark tan. Japan is a rich country, they have no big need for foreign husbands. I found no such sentiment in Japan, even the contrary, there was some minor sentiment against foreigners. However, in a large group of people, there will be some of all view points. However, I do know that…
/r/AllPillDebate05/09/22 03:10 AM
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The comments on that post are completely insane. People who know nothing about the world, and who probably never had a proper relationship themselves, judging people from the other side of the world, who they have no idea about, to their holier than thou standards. They make themselves look like idiots to those who know that part of the world. I lived in Asia for a long time. Not only do people in different countries have different ideas, every person has different ideas. And they can think for …
/r/AllPillDebate05/09/22 02:54 AM
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I used to not know what to say as well. I could talk forever to a smart girl, but not any other one. Then I learned how, very well. Stop trying to think of witty or funny things. Your putting too much pressure on yourself. Almost every person will talk with you. Stop thinking to yourself, it's an impediment. Your worry is what stops you talking. It's the tendency to perfectionism. Most conversation is meaningless in content. What I did to learn was to just go out and talk to people, at any oppor…
/r/seduction04/09/22 04:12 AM
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Blanket statements don't get the complexity of people and society. Thinking that a single statement is right for all, is wrong. Your error is thinking that a population level statistic applies to every person, woman in this case. That is incorrect. Even if a small minority in a population has a preference, it will show up in a population level statistic. I have lived in a few non white countries. One wealthy and one middle income. The reason people mix up are quite varied. Sometimes people just …
/r/AllPillDebate01/09/22 03:38 AM
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Sheep. People who can't think for themselves, follow the easiest path, don't understand how they are being manipulated. Smartphones really, the masses have left their browsers for phone apps.
/r/AllPillDebate31/08/22 04:01 PM
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I mean, it was a logical extension of their idea. Not my idea. That extension was against their ideology. It showed the logical inconsistency of their dogma. It was guys who were against me. Not one person understood the concept. They were arguing against historical fact. They were arguing against feminist "facts" of the past, just because of the way it was worded.
/r/AllPillDebate31/08/22 06:18 AM
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That's because the discussion space is now dominated by large companies, whose goal is profit, not actual discussion. You can still set up your own website discussion forum, and say whatever you want.
/r/AllPillDebate31/08/22 04:31 AM
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Discussing any idea is not hate. Discussion and implementation are completely different things. You can even discuss ideas that you think are not true, for fun. We could discuss the most ridiculous things, and it's not hate. Unintelligent and close minded people, and people pushing their own, often hateful agenda, are the ones who can't handle idea discussions. You can't discuss ideas with these people, they won't allow it. In you case, people can't distinguish between the discussion of an idea,…
/r/AllPillDebate31/08/22 04:29 AM
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I changed myself. Became very sociable and a bit of a bad boy. Got lots of women, but I wasn't as good of a person then. Fortunately, the last girl that I met in this time liked who I was when I reverted back. Changing back was like withdrawal to an addiction. Wouldn't do it if I knew before what I knew after.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 03:45 AM
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There's a huge segment of society that would never, ever engage in paid sex. Doing so makes you a bit of a pariah. That some people engage in sex for money doesn't make it the norm. You just hear about it more, or notice it more yourself. You're falling victim to the squeaky wheel effect. Paid sex is a subculture, not the mainstream. Why should the fact that paid sex is what some people do, mean that it has to be normalised for everyone else? Plenty of women absolutely love sex, but in no way ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 02:53 AM
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You're missing the fact that good people, men and women, pair up together and stay together. Good people know who other good people are, and know to avoid the toxic people. It's not hard to do if you have half a brain. You don't hear from all of these people. They're living a good life. You hear from all of the toxic people complaining constantly. You don't have a representative sample from which to make your assertion. You're ignoring the rest. People, with nothing to complain about, are not he…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:30 AM
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Inappropriate, I hope you don't find this comment to be. The trouble is, what everyone thinks is appropriate is different. You can't know what a girl thinks is appropriate, until after you know her. It's the initial stage that is difficult, or even inappropriate. We all have to get through that. Judging a person by the first thing that they say to you is perilous, possibly even inappropriate. For guy, you can't know what each girl will find inappropriate. What one girl thinks is awesome, even hi…
/r/seduction26/08/22 03:29 AM
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There are many different kinds of men and many different kinds of women. You talk to them all differently. You talk to them differently in different contexts as well. The idea that all men are alike and that all women are alike is the big error of people on reddit. It's simple minded thinking. I find that you can talk more freely with many women. With men you have to be a man, with many women you can be completely yourself. With some women, you have to be careful what you say, like you said. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 02:39 AM
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There are billions of people in the world. Some are very open minded, some very close minded. Either gender can fall in either extreme or in the middle. You shouldn't try to associate this personality characteristic to one gender or another. People can be open and closed minded about different areas. Everyone is a bit of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:19 AM
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You're comparing girls who sleep around to guys who can't. That's a subset of the population. There are also guys who sleep around and girls who don't. The best people pair up early and stay together, what's left is a shit show of rejects. There are a few men that any girl would want to be with, and a few women that most men would want to be with. They get together and reject the rest. A lot the rest of the people are not good at getting along with anyone, hence the shit show.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:36 AM
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I think plenty of women experience this. Guys are notorious for fucking girls that they wouldn't marry. You're probably just not hearing about it online here. There are loads of crazy girls that are not marriage material for a guy who wants a stable life. I have had plenty of wild sex with girls that I wouldn't marry. You need to have wild, crazy sex to make up for lack of psychological intimacy. Sex doesn't have to look crazy to be great, there's many different ways to do sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:28 AM
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arent engaging with the question being asked This belies the disingenuousness of your question. You're looking to apply logic to emotion, customs and culture. That does not apply, therefore your question is not really valid. You're missing the full picture. There is logic there, that you ignore and others have touched on. I don't have time to go into detail. Short answer, feelings rule this realm not logic. Culture rules other parts. If everyone lived a hedonistic life, we'd have nothing and eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:13 AM
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Wouldn't you say that autistic character is somewhat like the uncanny valley effect in visual perception? When someone is just off of normal, a normal person finds it difficult to understand and off putting. If someone is far off of normal, that's easier to deal with as we treat it as a disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:55 AM
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I am a guy. I have slept around. I never cared how many guys any girl slept with. What matters is the present going forwards. I know that some were good girls and some were bad.Which were best was not correlated to whether they were good or bad. To me, it is the same. I don't think anyone has the right to judge others' activities, just to choose who they associate with. I have never used the word slut in my life. I don't think much of people who do. Worrying about this shows that you are insecur…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 03:15 AM
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Isn't it the feminist movement that wants women to be more like men? I've never wanted any woman to be like anything other than who they are. You don't dictate how other people should be, you accept them for who they are. I've always loved women for who they were; every one is completely different and unique. I've known a lot of women. In my experience many women do want sex all of the time, sometimes they couldn't even wait to get home. Who are the guys that want women to be like men? You do po…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:58 PM
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There are plenty of smart people who are very good at getting girls. You just notice the group that's not getting laid because that group stands out. People In it are very well aware of it. If you're smart and not good at socializing with girls, you can become so, however, it takes a huge amount of time. It's all practice. In the beginning it seems so hard, something smart people are not used to. You have to stop thinking so much and just do. With enough practice, you have a mindset change and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 01:23 AM
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I went from friend to lover and back to friends with a girl once. The transition back to friend was hard, but it was great afterwards. It's the only time I stayed friends. Just decide what you want. Friends are always good. Just be sure that's what she really does want, if you do. Don't view relationships as an exchange of things you want. Exchanges of things are for business deals, not real friends or relationships. If you view friends and relationships like that you will always have dysfunctio…
/r/seduction22/07/22 05:30 PM
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Different people have all kinds of different reasons for doing what they do. Trying to make a few simple rules to explain human behaviour is futile. Girls who want you will sleep with you pretty quickly. But some good things can also come from the reluctant ones. It's easy to overlook them when you can get other girls quickly. The quick girls can monopolise your attention and keep you from getting with the potentially great girls who are not going to sleep with you quickly. Girls can be shy and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:30 AM
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I never denied sex because of lack of confidence. I missed some opportunities early on because I was not confident. Once sex is on the go, it's no worries at all, I'm all in to the task at hand. Later I had complete confidence in myself. Never worried again, even though I wasn't perfect. Confidence is what gets it. Getting sex became a whole lot easier. It's really about your attitude, demeanor, how you carry yourself and how you talk sometimes too. When you're talking with a girl, you know the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 10:49 PM
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That's ridiculous. That's applying an arbitrary moral judgement that stands of outside of actual behaviour. If you're not in a relationship you can sleep with anyone who is also free to. Sex is a great thing to do. Humans are designed for it. There is nothing wrong with it. Hurting other people, who you have made a commitment to, is what's wrong. You can live life a different way at different times of your life. People with ethics can, at least. You have simplistic thinking. People are complex. …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:20 AM
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You talk like people don't have agency and are slaves to some instinct that they can't control. I fucked around a lot and then stopped when I met a great woman. Others tried to get me, but they weren't good enough. The reality is that there are good people and bad people, people without ethics, people without self control. Good people pair up with other good people and stay together. The remainder are left for the shit show that people complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 10:36 PM
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The fact is that your libido doesn't go away when you get older. You just have other priorities in life, and you have self control. Without self control, you're not going to successful at much in life. So you don't stop due to lack of interest, you do because your priorities change.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 10:09 PM
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Taking words outof context and making criticism on it is dishonest. I made no assumptions on it. I just just stated how a sample can represent the population, I didn't say it was or wasn't. I know because I studied statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/22 03:28 PM
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For population statistics, 2300 people is a large enough sample size to make reasonable conclusions about the whole population. It depends on how wide of a margin of error that you want the results to be. What matters is if it was a representative sample. It seems that it may not be, but I haven't looked into it in detail to determine if it is or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:58 PM
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Yes, anything manufactured to be eaten is taste tested until it is the item that makes sure that people can't stop eating it. Stopping sugar isn't that hard. The sugar filled food is useless for you, so you don't lose anything. It just takes a mindset change. What you think is not how reality is. Months, or a year after stopping all excess sugar, natural food all tastes great, again. Like vegetables. I think the reason that poor people are fat is because they are the ones without strong will pow…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 05:42 AM
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Solo travel is the best thing that you'll ever do. You meet new people every day. You will get years of experience in weeks or a few months.
/r/seduction13/03/22 01:54 AM
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I knew it was a mistake. I was trying to imply more on misleading because published articles have also had math mistakes, further compounding the problem. Reporters are not good at math either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 07:53 AM
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Speaking of misleading use of statistics, an increase from 30 to 60 is a 100% increase, not 200%
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 01:50 AM
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Nice story to read. Glad to hear that you've done well so quickly. I was similarly shy and not good in social situations where I didn't know people already. I had just set out to get more sociable, not to get girls. Of course you get with girls when you socialize in the right way. I had never studied anything on it. Years later I was deftly reading people and situations, and saying all of the right things without thinking first. By the end of it girls were coming to me. Something changes in you …
/r/seduction07/03/22 03:19 AM
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Maybe the traditional way things were is not that bad after all. It did exist for a reason. With one social structure, you have some people disaffected and not happy. Change the social structure and the previously unhappy people are happy, but now you have another group that is disaffected and unhappy. So is it any wonder that people who are not doing well now, but would do so in the traditional society, want to be back in the traditional social structure? Were more people better off, on average…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 01:19 AM
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There have always been guys who like fat asses. Two of my friends do. Somehow it's become the trend de jour. The people who like fat asses are having their moment in the limelight. Some are trend followers and change with the fashion, no true sense of self.
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:56 AM
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Trying to make what's out there trendy, and guys fall for it. A fat ass has always been unattractive to me.
/r/seduction03/03/22 01:58 AM
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Maybe depressed women are less likely to get married. People who have their life together are more likely to find a good spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:38 AM
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Some girls are pissed if you go too slow. You can drive safe and fast. Just don't follow too close and make reckless moves. Many girls do appreciate competent driving, a few like reckless driving. I won't drive recklessly for a girl, fast enough, but not fast enough for a ticket is ok. Find out if anything about your driving makes her nervous and don't do it. Nothing worse than a girl who can't wait to get out of your car. You need to make a girl feel safe, above all else.
/r/seduction02/03/22 01:41 AM
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I had a somewhat similar idea, from another angle. A society that gets men fully engaged in productive pursuits becomes a wealthy society. Whatever cultural mechanism is required to do that. I noticed that undeveloped countries have men largely doing not a lot while women did much of the work. Only when everyone is working does a society develop.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:56 AM
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That's too optimistic. With great individual freedom, there is no way to do what is good for society. You'll never get back the cohesive society there once was. What everyone has failed to realise, is that what us good for society, is good for individuals too. As society goes overly individualistic, individuals also lose, so everyone loses, except a few who win in the new society. But on average, everyone loses. The difference is that what benefits accrue to people in a more traditional society …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 08:03 AM
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Sounds like you know what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:24 AM
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Where's the American? Don't take statements out of context and then claim it's wrong. You seem out just make flippant remarks without any bearing on accuracy. Doesn't seem like you know anything about global reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:59 AM
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No one is starving, there's cheap food everywhere. That's a huge misconception people who don't travel have. The problem those girls have is that they are discriminated against by men in their own country because of darker skin. The men there will go with an unattractive white skinned girl instead of a darker skinned attractive girl. This is the biggest issue. So they look for foreign guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:35 AM
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You sound a bit like me when I was younger. I even liked older women too, and was great in workplace settings. I set out to practice being more sociable. Just socialised every chance there was, especially chances to meet new people. After a while it gets to be second nature, you say all of the right things without thinking first and people start to be more interested in you. The more you do, the better it gets. Go at it long enough and you start to be the one women want to know, after a few rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:57 AM
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Stop with the black and white thinking. Nothing works like that, except light switches. Most things in life are probabilistic. You do things to increase your probability of events occurring.
/r/seduction19/02/22 08:29 AM
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This is exactly true. When you're getting lots, it seems so unimportant relative to everything else in life. Especially when you're getting more than enough, if there is such a thing.
/r/seduction18/02/22 09:07 AM
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That's asking a bit much. I'm not sure the IKEA table will stand up under that workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:51 AM
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Would it be the case that the good people are taken? I have always noticed that good people get in relationships and stay in them. If it breaks, they get in another soon. It seems that some people are just not good with other people. Various defects in personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 09:41 AM
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I hadn't realised that my comment had led to a longer argument. That other guy completely misrepresented what I said. But you're right actually. Pussy is the prime directive in life. We can believe other things, it doesn't have to be conscious. Belief in purpose that also leads to more of it is all we need.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 07:29 AM
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Personal betterment and achievement is the cake of life. Validation that women want you is the cherry on top. It's not about the sex itself. You can get that with a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:41 PM
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I had the ideal life, I could hardly have been happier. But that's not what I meant, not in the way you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 11:28 PM
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Nah, sleeping with random girls is alot more than momentary happiness. If you haven't and then you start, it's a permanent increase in happiness. Beyond that it becomes an addiction without a further change in happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 09:17 AM
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I don't really want to get into such details. My point was paragraph 4 and 5, above. You're trying a recovery, not a good prognosis. You can't care much. But when you have nothing to lose, you can do whatever, but you can't be a fool if she's in your friend group. Too many constraints. You have to be very clear, just open to interpretation and deniability. You have to never care too much, while having your own interesting life. This is said over and over again here. Once you get used to hot girl…
/r/seduction12/02/22 03:03 AM
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I was much like the guy that you describe. What I never realized at the time was that I had very few rejections. That meant that I wasn't trying hard enough. But dating was intimidating. I was over 6 feet, wide shoulders, looked like the quintessential business man in a suit. That helped get good jobs. I set out to be more sociable. After an awful lot of practice, I found that girls started to approach me. My demeanor was different. Finally, I was in some commercials and movies and even had an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 09:48 PM
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It's not possible to say, when not in the situation, especially for another person. At 20 I didn't know what to do. By late 20s I could perfectly read a situation, and say and do all of the right things. It's not knowledge that you can get from reading. You only get it from trying, doing and sometimes failing. It's feeling, intuitive knowledge. Not thoughtful knowledge. No amount of thinking will help much. Guides, rules and procedures are crutches that help when you don't know the feeling, intu…
/r/seduction11/02/22 08:58 PM
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Scorched Earth means a lot more than not talking. Never done that. Hating someone hurts you more than the one that you hate. It's not a good thing to do to yourself. Hate lets them control you. Let people go, no matter what they've done.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 07:44 AM
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Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned. It sounds like she definitely wanted to do something that night, and you basically turned her down. One thing that I learned is that, when you're uncertain, it's way better to make a move when a girl doesn't want it, than to not when she does. It's never been a negative to try. My experience of hanging out with a girl in a social circle is that everyone else thinks you're doing it anyways, even when your not.
/r/seduction11/02/22 04:31 AM
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That's an interesting thought. I always thought that being friends with women was likely because I am. Also that marriage only works if you can be friends with women. But that some people cannot only seem likely after reading online for a while. What a sad life. Some people seem so closed minded to different ways of thinking. What is the difference between friends and friends that you sleep with. I can't actually think of a big difference, it's easy to cross the boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:07 AM
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In the main goal in society is to get married and have kids, most people do that. If you make the goal something else, something else will happen. Sometimes outcomes have unintended consequences from what was intended. The world is complex. On the other hand, if society all believes one way, one group or groups are happy and another is disaffected. Change things to make a disaffected group happy and you just have a different happy and unhappy group. No net net gain. (Nothing is implied that the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 03:22 AM
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It's easy to think that women don't crave sex as much as men, until you become very experienced with women. Then you start to see it more. Women are stirred by things, by a man. No one thinks about sex as much as a man who is not getting any. Women do not want that man, therefore he thinks women don't think about sex. When you are getting lots of sex, now more women want you, and you see women as wanting it. Women want differently than men.
/r/seduction08/02/22 07:34 PM
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At a party, I go talk to every single girl there. I have talked to thousands of women from many countries. I always look for someone that I don't know yet. Because I say that one thing happens, doesn't mean something else doesn't.
/r/seduction08/02/22 10:36 AM
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I don't need lines. All of the right words come out of my mouth before I know what they are. I can walk up to and chat with any girl that I feel like. The hottest one. I understand it all. I know my strengths and I know what niches were still to master, if I want to. I never said that it was only that way. I was just telling you that it's not always just like you said. Nothing is ever just one way. Every woman is a unique person.
/r/seduction08/02/22 10:23 AM
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I spent years socializing almost every single night. Even every day for months. I know women intimately, more than I can remember. Don't make up stories for what you don't know. You don't see anything but that I am too tired to explain the feeling world well in words.
/r/seduction08/02/22 09:41 AM
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They don't ask for it. I already said. They come to you and you know what they want. Or it's a mutual thing. No words about it need to be spoken, you know what going on. Words are for arranging where to go. That you can't see things that I can see doesn't make me wrong.
/r/seduction08/02/22 09:32 AM
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Sorry dude, you don't understand what I'm talking about, obviously. Who would talk about getting a girl that you already slept with, that's a non issue. That was just about new women. You get to be the guy that women want to sleep with by looking just right. You get that by having the confidence of lots of experience and understanding. Your state of mind shows through you, it's read in your look. It's how you carry yourself, your demeanor, expression, stance. It's the feeling, intuitive world an…
/r/seduction08/02/22 09:09 AM
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Women absolutely love sex. Frequently they want to do it more than a guy. Maybe you've never had that experience.
/r/seduction08/02/22 05:14 AM
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I disagree with the guys who say having sex fast means that there is something wrong with the girl. It see it more as I am, or I did, or I said something right. It's not necessarily something that happens with anyone or any time. It's a unique moment. There is no reason not to take a moment together if you're both into it. What happens after still depends on what you want or how you feel. You can still judge a person after, that's not the defining characteristic of a woman. Is that a fair charac…
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:55 AM
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Women do act on impulse. I've seen it. Enough times having sex having just met a girl. What we need to be concerned about is impulse control. This is what varies widely with different people. But sometimes there is no need for it, and sometimes there is. You just need someone has impulse control and good judgement on when to use it. Fixed rules are for people who can't make good judgements on the spot. People who follow fixed rules are more likely to break those rules, they mean well, but they a…
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:35 AM
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That's not true. Sometimes women have the idea of having sex with you. It was not your idea, but they come to you wanting to have sex with you. You just have go along. Sometimes they may just come home with you, or sometimes they go through the ruse of a date, but you know what's happening at the end of the date. Sometimes at a party you go look for a free room upstairs. Not everything happens one way. There are many different ways to get there. When you're young getting sex seems random. When y…
/r/seduction08/02/22 04:23 AM
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The above comment made me think of something. As a guy, friends judge you based on the quality of the woman that you show up with. Even if I go to live in far away another city, I hang out with the same kind of people. It's natural. If I have a not very smart girlfriend, I am not considered as good, even if she's hot. And when I have a higher level girlfriend, like an executive, I am considered much better, especially by my original university friends. In fact a hot girl is a negative reflection…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:43 AM
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This is closest to reality. No large, diverse group will have all members act the same. People make errors when they expect that. Some people are always going to take advantage by cheating on any norm created and adhered to by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:19 PM
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I don't really agree with your points, it's cynical. However the concept that men are more romantic than women, until women teach them otherwise is spot on. But I think that it comes from evolutionary biology. Men want something from women, women have to discern if men are truthful or not. The best way to be truthful is to believe what you are saying. Men fool themselves by their romantic feelings. This is why we have post nut clarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 07:17 AM
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Traditional marriage is literally the father handing over his daughter to the husband, almost as a possession. We see it as a meeting of equals now, or I do, at least, no pun intended. I believe in making a strong commitment, I don't do it lightly or without taking it seriously. I do not like the idea of divorce. Not willing to make a strong commitment of actually getting married tells me that someone is not necessarily that serious about a commitment. Marriage in the traditional sense may appea…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 06:20 AM
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Nonchalance about everything nudity or sexual. She's seen it all before and nothing surprises her. You can't shock her no matter how outrageous of a thing you can say.
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:29 AM
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In a roundabout way, you've noted the fact that what is good for the individual is bad for society, and looking for an alternative. But look around the world and the past, has any society found a better solution? On the other hand what's less good for the individual, is good for society, but indirectly good for the individual. We had the most successful society structure for a long time, and it shows. So everyone benefits from the traditional social structure; even when they had some problems, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 04:30 AM
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Your making a logical error in your thinking. The actions of some women is not representative of every woman. You can't say that every woman who talks to you is going to be like some other one. They are all different with different ideas. Further, if you expect certain motivations in the women that you meet, you will interpret their actions as being in some way related to your expectation. This way you will miss the very thing that you want when you do find it. A negative outlook begets a negati…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 09:16 AM
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It's also a bit of "the medium is the message." Intuition and feeling don't translate to words well. And you only get those by spending time with people. You can't learn it from text.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 09:21 PM
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Has no one ever connected the idea that the 666 male is the proverbial devil himself? No wonder people are having problems with their wants. They want the baddest of bad boys. . For the people who calculate the statistical probability of the 666 guy, the likelihood that a tall guy is a 6 figure earner is greater than thar for the population as a whole. Tall people are more likely to be successful. There is correlation in this case. Now is a big person more likely to have big body parts too?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:34 PM
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That's the conclusion that I had been coming to. Too little understanding of people so they make up an alternate way to explain things that are beyond them. Then pretend it true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:23 PM
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I have. When I was young it seemed impossible. Get some experience in life and confidence and then it can happen.
/r/seduction30/01/22 01:44 AM
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They are very possible. I've done a fair number of them. Wasn't ever trying, it's just luck. You just happen to meet a girl that you get a strong vibe with. Alternatively, you might be just the lucky guy when some girl just has to have it, or other reason. It's probably creepy to try hard for it.
/r/seduction29/01/22 06:18 AM
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You know when someone just wants you for money, and to avoid it. Genuine passion stands on its own. It's not so different than a ONS with someone you can talk with, you're not there to talk anyways. Two people are captivated with each other. Sometimes there's just the pretence of having a "date" you already know where you'll end up.
/r/seduction29/01/22 01:14 AM
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This is a lost concept. I did just that. I worked to become a guy that girls wanted. Night and day change. A lot of "work" socializing. It gives you a really interesting view on humanity and people vis-a-vis people who are naturally talented or those that never try to get it. Those guys that can't are blaming their physical features in order to relieve themselves of the responsibility of putting in the effort. Lazy. Women's intrigue into men owes a lot to his character. It's read as look, but no…
/r/seduction29/01/22 01:02 AM
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It's a language that you can learn. It takes a lot of effort if you don't get it. Do you want it or not? Saying it's hard is giving up. Sure it's natural to some, but you can learn, if you dedicate yourself to it.
/r/seduction29/01/22 12:50 AM
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There's feeling in people, you don't even need to talk. You vibe right, things get going. There is a natural attraction to the different, the exotic. I can't say that I've never fucked a girl who could hardly speak English.
/r/seduction29/01/22 12:42 AM
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Practic, practice, practice. Have several girls on the go or on the back burner and then you don't worry about any particular one. Best way to be cool when it counts. Being confident and occupied with others things makes you come off the best. Not necessarily they best way to live, but it works. You work your way up to better girls until that's your norm.
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:18 AM
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Keep in touch, pursue other girls. You have no relationship with her now. Sometimes you know someone just a bit during a while, then something starts at a later date sometimes it doesn't. Stop worrying about it, live life, keep in touch with many people.
/r/seduction28/01/22 10:11 AM
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Men are not a union, just like women. Other men can be losers if they want. It's not my job to make them follow 'rules,' I don't have time for that. I live my life, they live theirs. It's not like saying anything will make a difference anyways. Why waste anyone's effort. Some guys have always been like that, just now you see it. So, no, this would never be effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 03:28 AM
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Are all Western women white? I personally had a rule to only date women from OECD, or similarly rich countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 03:20 AM
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The best thing that you can do is talk to as many people that you don't know as possible. You don't always have to get a number or date. Doing this will get you towards saying all of the right things for any situation. If you have think of what to say, you are not doing your best. When you are practiced enough, you will say all of the right words without thinking. When you do that, you will be focused on the situation and not on yourself. You will never be concerned about what to say. You don't …
/r/seduction27/01/22 10:28 PM
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I don't know why these think that they can't improve. It works very well, it's something that I did. The difference was huge. I think that when they can blame it on factors out of their control, it relieves them of the responsibility of actually having to put in an effort. So they can blame many other factors, but not themselves. It's childish really, crying about something instead of doing something about it. If the ways to improve were better known, and it was known to work, they would have to…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:56 AM
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I love to talk with women. They have different ideas and different points of view to explore. Conversations can go on for hours. You can talk about more things with women than with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 02:56 AM
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Yes, it's called CMV. I started with some premise and then went to a conclusion. I concluded that you shouldn't worry about it. You should just get experienced and get better at it. Even people who do get sex in first date, don't always. It's not a problem, you don't need to. So don't worry about. The whole argument seems to me, like a kid complaining that another kid got a bigger piece of cake, trivial.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:34 PM
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I have never delayed sex for any reason. If people have a passion together and want to have sex, you have sex. No reason to no do it. Just sometimes it's not an instant passion situation, it takes time to get there. Different girls are different too. You can't expect everything in life to go the same way. Variety is the spice of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 10:17 PM
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People die between 60 and 95. The mode will not help you much. You can't predict your max age. You can live healthy, that's the best thing that you can do. Even the people who do everything the best sometimes die in their 60s. It's a random thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:12 AM
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I've had one female friend want to have sex with me. Another suggested it and then torpedoed it by saying that she gets clingy to guys that she sleeps with, and another got together into a mutually romantic situation all by itself. There you go, disproven. The key is to be actual friends, not perving on your female friends. Girls like a guy that has a passion for life, not clingy. The friend zone seems to be for when a girl doesn't want a relationship with you but just to keep in touch, not an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:31 PM
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This whole argument is nonsense. It applies to only a certain situation. I have had plenty of ONSs. Some girls that I fucked on the day we met became a girlfriend, with others we had sex a bit later. This is life. There's no rule. It doesn't really matter what the girl was doing because I may or may not have been fucking other girls too if I'm not exclusive. I have had a ONS with a nice girl that I would have liked to see again. It sucks a bit, but life goes on. Some girls wanted to see me more …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 07:53 PM
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That's not how it works. Some people die earlier and some later. Statistics that you look at give average lifespan for people born today. If you reach 50 and have no risk factors, like being fat, it's a random thing. Since more men die young, that brings down the average for all men. So if you're a man and you do make it to 50 you're safe now. That statistic doesn't apply to you anymore. It doesn't apply to anyone over 20. They don't publish statistical life expectancy for those at older ages fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 06:54 PM
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That's not manipulation. That's a lame ass attempt by a nice guy. Manipulation is using your Jedi level skills with women to induce the desire to have sex with you in her and have her think that it was her idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:42 PM
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That's my question. Is it even cheating if you have sex with someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:17 PM
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Only if marriage was in cards and sex would happen then. I was faced with that once, a budding relationship that never happened. Mostly because we ended up in separate places. It's conceivable that I didn't drive the distance because the upside was not high enough, though I didn't think it explicitly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:13 PM
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That's a lot of work to make a violent and angry woman. There are much easier ways, you don't have to do anything at all, if you choose the right time. There are better things to not do than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:04 PM
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The age thing is a bit of a fallacy because people misuse statistics. 106 boys are born for every 100 girls. Boys die younger, showing off, greater chance of sickness, etc. By marrying age it's almost 50/50. Then men have more dangerous jobs. So if you're over 30 and your guy is not doing a dangerous job, doesn't smoke, do drugs or drink too much, eats healthy, you're not really going to outlive him. Be wary of applying population averages to individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 11:35 AM
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Are guys that stupidly fooled. I was seeing a smart girl with the fashion sense of my 90 year old great aunt. Under it was a hot body. I thought, if I showed her how to dress nicely she'd have dozens of guys chasing her, why do that? I also, once advised my hot af girlfriend to skip the makeup at times. She loved it. A naked girl on her back looks the same no matter what clothes she has hanging around. You need to be able to see through the smoke screen. Women are drawn to guys who stir their pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 05:40 AM
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Practice, practice, practice talking to people and girls. After a while you will say all of the right words without thinking first. When you are a master at words, you'll put them together in clever ways to be funny, or show your true personality. You cannot develop this skill by passive means or by thinking. You must stop thinking and do. Thinking is the enemy of doing. The more that you tmaster the worse you will do. Once you have to think of what to say, you've lost. You'll think of the best …
/r/seduction23/01/22 10:41 PM
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I've read through a bunch of this. I think that what everyone fails to realise, is that "all's fair in love and war." This means that anyone can use whatever strategy they want to get whatever they want. You are also free to use whatever strategy that you want. Some people have a better strategy than others, some are too dumb to change their failing strategy. What you don't get to do is to tell others how to behave in order to benefit you. No one owes you anything. Someone told women to choose o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:44 PM
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She's very shy. What you know about girls is going to be wrong about her. On your next date, ask her to tell you about whatever it is that she is very good at. Listen and ask questions, even if they're dumb. Do not dismiss whatever that is if you want to get with her. I just got a shy girl, who answered questions in terse, monosyllabic answers, to tell me her life story after 5 minutes.
/r/seduction22/01/22 08:39 PM
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Smart, shy and conservative. Normal rules don't apply to her. I know the type. She said that you were attractive, at least twice. She may well have wanted to smash, maybe not. Such girls do think about sex too. But they're also good at self control, so you never know what they will do. You put in some time and she will open up and become more easy going. There is a way to get such shy girls to open right up quickly. It helps to have empathy for what it's like to be shy, instead of viewing it as …
/r/seduction22/01/22 08:29 PM
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To make it more complex, I've always been myself. Early I didn't have many women at all. I worked on myself and later I did have women and I didn't care about any particular one. Then more kept coming on their own. So yes, not needing or caring works, but it's much more complicated and nuanced. You need to care in the right way, but not in the wrong way. There's a psychological trick where you give random and inconsistent reinforcement and that makes someone much more tied to you than if they kn…
/r/seduction22/01/22 10:39 AM
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A woman dominated field is probably as bad for you as a male dominated one is for guys. Not just the lack of opposite gender, but way of thinking that reinforces your own gender's way of thought, when you need the different way. I was lucky to be in a field that was 50/50. When you understand people very well, you can manipulate them to get them to do what you want. You can create, or evoke feelings in them so they feel like it's right. The best can do this to even experienced people. When you'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:03 PM
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That's just the talking part, I never said it was everything. But it's very important. Talking is a lot, you "convince" a woman by talking, correctly. You can still talk a lot and know nothing about women. But the interactions will lead to experiences. Experience will get you the other part, moods, body language, non verbal communication. All of this occurs non verbally. When you're thinking to yourself in words in your head, you're losing. All of the strategizing is a proxy for the real game, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 07:16 PM
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You're so negative. Being negative will not get you anything. I meant socializing as much as possible, talking to people that you don't know as much as possible. Doing this gets you two things: 1. You meet more women who might be interested in you. 2. You learn all of the right things to say. When you know the right things to say, you will then know how to get a woman interested in you and how to close the deal. All of the right words will come out of your mouth before you know what they are. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 05:31 PM
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Be careful with men. I am a guy, I know what so many men think about and do with women. I advise you to try going out with a similarly inexperienced guy. It won't go perfectly, but you'll be equal. You pick the guy, irl. Talk regularly with a guy or guys that do interest you in some way. He'll likely be too shy to ask you out if he's still inexperienced at that age. After you talk periodically for a while, suggest doing an activity together. If a talking date seems challenging, do an exciting ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 11:06 AM
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Yes, that's what I meant. Maybe he didn't bother reading the second paragraph where I mentioned relationships came naturally out of being sociable. Edit: I actually meant talk to people, people you know and especially people that you don't know, whenever you get the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 09:48 AM
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I was very shy in my early 20s. I made a point to practice getting more sociable. I went out and did what seemed so hard to do, social events. One trick I did was to just plan or sign up for something without thinking what will happen. Deal with it when you get there. You have to stop thinking ahead. After starting it got easier, so I practiced more. Nothing bad ever happens by going into a scary social situation, people just want to be friendly. Then I became quite gregarious and outgoing. Rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:53 AM
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It is a problem. Most people just don't know to recognize that it is. Leaders never seem to be concerned about the long term these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 10:09 PM
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A relationship is supposed to be 2 people together against the world, not like 2 empires in a state of detente making chess move for advantage against each other. How are you going to be successful together if you're battling each other for power? There are 2 ways to have a relationship, first you have an idea of what a partner should be and you find a person to fill that role. Second, you love a person for who they are. In the first you can't show anything outside of the role you're filling, in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/22 02:29 AM
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Depending on the country, your only going to meet a certain subset of people open to meeting foreigners. That's a very self selected group of people who are not representative of the country. If your a tourist, you're going to meet people out to get your money. The worst of the people often. If you live in the country, and date local women there, your only going to meet ones more adventurous and open to trying things out of the ordinary. Sometimes they have a fetish for foreigners. If you date e…
/r/seduction19/01/22 10:27 AM
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I would never wish to be perfectly normal, there are too many benefits. I love exactly the way that I am, even if I had never mastered the social scene. I would trade all of my fun times in to marry earlier and work on my various projects more, my passion in life. Fitting in is different than mastering socializing, but it was really good enough. I overshot the target. No need to manipulate people. People are best the way they are. You can do it, to get shy people to open up and show their true s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 07:05 PM
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Don't joke that way with a shy girl. See my main comment.
/r/seduction18/01/22 06:18 PM
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If you do it right, you can get her to open up and talk freely about her real feelings and desires. Are you there yet? There is a way to do it with shy girls. Then you can dig deeper find more, and get towards your point. Six dates, it's time to get deeper and probe more. She could be waiting for you to go for it, because she's shy. Shy people have a lot going on inside, but they'll never say it. When you get them talking, always be serious and show that her thoughts are valid and worthwhile. Do…
/r/seduction18/01/22 05:48 PM
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I've known that I was different from 1st grade. In grade 3 or 4 I was in some testing, that was never explained to me. I just found out a few years ago from my Mum's friend. They wanted to put me in special classes, but my parents insisted not to. What prompted that I can't imagine. All I remember was that school was too easy and I didn't take it too seriously. Doesn't seem too abnormal to me. My best friend at the time knew the stuff that I didn't understand, he knew I didn't know, but he never…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 11:24 AM
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Better than dumb "that's what she said" is taking something that the girl said, that can be interpreted as sexual, and turning it back on her, as if she made the sexual remark. This is the easiest, but you need to catch it when it happens. No matter how dumb it is, you didn't say it.
/r/seduction18/01/22 03:11 AM
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You get good at that with practice, and after having been with lots of women. With practice, the right words come out without you having to think much. As someone also intellectualizes, I find that you are better the less you think. I don't know how to say how to get good. I just did lots of practice until it was automatic, all of the right words came out of my mouth before I knew what they were. I could never have thought to say the things that I did. But I can say that you need to not be focus…
/r/seduction18/01/22 03:03 AM
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This is an interesting comment, to me. I spent much of my early life wondering why people always interpreted the words that I say to mean something that I didn't say. I just said words that meant exactly what I want to say. Does this mean that I was neurodivergent?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 09:02 PM
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That's different, jobs have fairly consistent requirements. People know what they are. You become them to get a good job. Different people consider very different things as good points. Good for one, might be not good for another. Obscure things may be important to only some people. Features that you bring to the table, kind of means that they are looking for a person to fill in their features list, not actually getting to know a person. That's kind of how I interpret that, it's kind of condesce…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 08:27 PM
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That's crazy. I guess that they think it's like buying a car. What features do you have? Is there an extras package? People are often unaware aware of their own strong points, because it's normal to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:28 PM
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You're so kind. It was late, I was to tired to think then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:08 PM
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Yes, it was cheesy. I thought that they could do a better job of the idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:07 PM
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Confident women are just fine. I have spent my life with them and looking for them. That's just normal to me. Confident people are not usually aware that they are confident. They're normal. Other people are strange. If you have to actually declare that you are confident, I might think that you have issues and might not actually be confident. Confident people are not obstinate or petulant, they don't need to tell you, they don't need to have their own way. Confident people are humble and cooperat…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 07:00 PM
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I can't remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:45 AM
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There's a French, movie I think, about that on Netflix
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 10:37 AM
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I am not sure sex based clubs came across as you meant it. But there are clubs for that. There are also plenty of clubs based on other shared interests too. I think that there are fewer than there used to be though. People have always been getting together based on shared interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 03:09 AM
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I don't really understand criticism of a huge group for the actions of a few members. I think that people are better split by intelligence than gender. Men and women of high IQ are more alike together than they are with anyone of a low IQ. You just can't see it to make lazy judgements. No one ever discusses this factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:43 AM
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Moral itself is defined by the self. People are just reimagining the past through current morals and feeling superior. The future will see it differently again. Every time people think the future is full of peace, something happens. Everyone throughout history has believed themselves to be their true self. Self actualization may be a luxury, it may be beyond many people even. People in other countries think Westerners are strange, in a certain way. They are just as sure about themselves being ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:52 PM
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I also think that there are fewer good men than good women. But that is based on the past. Don't know now. Some men are nice but don't have women, because they are unwanted. I saw some men being oblivious to the concerns and interests of women, and some being downright not nice to women, behind their backs. I always found it interesting when guys tell me how they deceive women, they thought that I was on "their side," just because I was a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 08:24 PM
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Even when I was young, I thought of all people as equal. I didn't pay much attention to popular media. I kind of resent the outside world for putting ideas in my head that I don't like, more recently. There are a lot of dumb ideas out there, that are contrary to my experience in life. Everyone is a different individual. I can hardly stand to say much about it without feeling deceitful. Hard to write short comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 07:48 PM
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I am not sure. I hold my own views, that are often not what society says that I should think. More based on real life and fairness. Are people really that programmable by outside influence? People I know aren't, but maybe because of how I choose friends. The popular misconception is that being independent is the opposite of prevailing opinion, it's not. Opposite is just as defined by others as agreeing. I have a vague idea that some of the traditional masculine traits, seemingly lacking now, are…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 07:41 PM
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I have have read through much of these comments for some reason. Your purple head runs through it all. I actually think that you are a normal well adjusted person. Something that we all should be. A long time ago I thought that a lot of men were not great as partners for women. Not through any ill intent, but just from being oblivious to fairly considering the concerns or interests of women. I never had the chance to discuss this idea much so it remained just an idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 10:34 AM
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At 20: D At 31: A+ I studied very hard in my 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 03:00 AM
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I really don't like people telling me what I am thinking. You could at least say, you might think or many of you think. A bit too condescending to finish reading. What puzzles me is all of the hate for smart women. In my experience, the very smartest women are the best. My two very closest female "friends" were valedictorians. One from high school, one from university. The first one was the most fun girl that I've ever known. Wickedly facetious banter, fun flirting and games punctuated with deep…
/r/seduction13/01/22 10:18 AM
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You're looking for a specific definition of a casual concept. You shouldn't bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 10:13 AM
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Happiness does not have to do with how hot your SO is, unless your super superficial. After you've had hot girlfriends, you lose the attraction to hot girls. They just become normal people and character is what becomes important. Ok, you don't lose it, but the idea that you must have one, fades. You lose it for the one you're with, because their character is now dominant over their looks. I think people in the past were happier when they weren't all trying to have some ideal looking one, that do…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 09:00 AM
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People like simple ideas that try to explain a very complex society. They are not smart enough to understand the complexity. They reduce it to simple ideas in order to feel better about not understanding it. Also, the presumption that there is some fixed hierarchy relieves low ability people from the self responsibility of improving themselves. Now they can be lazy and blame outside factors for their lack of success. It's really just a concept for dumb people. Smart people don't believe this cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:37 PM
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Yes, exactly. They are adventurous ones too, you have lots in common with them already. They are all sociable. You just go to any one and chat them up. Every expat is happy to talk to another. Don't overlook those from other wealthy countries too, like Japan, S. Korea, Singapore, Taiwan. Any expat in your social scene, really. Singapore girls are very Western like. And the Western born Chinese. They're called bananas, yellow on the outside, white on the inside. It's a slightly derogatory term, d…
/r/seduction08/01/22 06:48 PM
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There is no "right" way, no rule book that you have to follow. You can do whatever you want. Your not missing on dating others, so what is the worry. Things happen randomly, something could happen with anyone that you see. Things change unexpectedly at any time. Enjoy life and it's randomness. A romance can take years to get going, due to various life circumstances. If you feel like seeing her, see her. Don't worry about what you're going to do. Talk with her and see what she likes to do. There …
/r/seduction08/01/22 02:54 PM
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Your writing is not clear. If you could write better, I would understand better, so I try to guess a bit. Guesses may be wrong. For example: The result ends up being that phone especially in the case of women as feminism has pushed the mindset that women to advance forward should behave in this sort of manner, but it's done is it's promoted this sort of extreme selfishness that leads to this issue right here. That's a run on sentence that appears to have one incorrect word and does have bad gram…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 09:51 AM
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I am older. My two closest female friends, or more, were valedictorians, one at my high school and the other at my university. People are the same at all ages of the past, even in ancient Greece. Some smart guys can be driven to do dumb things though, especially in l'affaire d'amour. Sirens of The Odyssey. Maybe that's why the older women say what they do. Dumb men outnumber smart men, so on average, it's correct. I had a dumb girlfriend for a bit once. She was a really, really nice person, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 06:37 AM
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I think the problem is that often times people feel as though they need to be extremely combative and competitive to push along their intelligence to shine, Only dumb people, trying to act smart do that and some toxic ones. Smart people are usually more humble, they don't need to show off, they are already self assured. Insecure people show off. It's not clear what you mean next. But pushing an agenda by being combative rather than thoughtful and measured is not going to go well. Intelligence is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:53 AM
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I have to agree with the guy that you are replying to. Smart women are much better. Smart men usually match with smart women, but their guy friends are also smart. Smart people hang together, it's how society works. No one talks about intelligence. It's a factor people usually leave out when discussing relationships. Smart people don't want to be with dumb people, except some smart men will be ok with a pretty dumb girl. This will leave some smart women without an equal. I prefer to talk with wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:03 AM
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Guys blame unchangeable characteristics about themselves because it absolves them of any personal responsibility to improve themselves. This way they can blame all of their failures on others or society. It's indicative of their approach to life and the real reason women don't like them. The real way to think is to not worry about what you can't change but to be concerned with what you can improve in yourself.
/r/seduction07/01/22 09:31 PM
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I went to countries for travel and adventure and personal development. Then I went to work in one. Dating other expats and locals was not something that was even on my mind. It happened anyways. It was more a case of moving from a small city to a big city. It went 24/7 and everyone was more outgoing and adventurous, that suited me. I, personally, made the divide between OECD countries and less developed countries. Women from OECD countries don't need your money, so they're normal. Any of them ar…
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:22 AM
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I have told you already. It's basically experience and the confidence that comes with experience. Also your unwillingness to try do do things the way that most people do things, the idea that you are correct in your ideas. You first need to acknowledge that there is much that you don't know. I also had an idea that the world was wrong, it wasn't logical. But I didn't complain or blame anyone. I just stepped into it and learned the ways. It was really very enjoyable after the difficult start. It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 09:40 AM
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That was very interesting. Quite the extremes. Of course, muscle weighs more than fat. Fortunately I haven't had to be concerned about it for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 08:04 AM
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You mean the 3 key measurements? Men know exactly how to interpret those. I also know exactly how much you should weigh for a given height. Memorized from previous girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:39 AM
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Younger girls don't want you because you're older, they want you because you are experienced with women, something you get when older. You're not, so that won't help you. You're literally saying that you don't want to be a guy that women like, and then complaining that no woman wants you. You either become who women want, or get used to being alone. That's your choice. Women don't exist to serve you. They don't come made to order for you. The world moves on without you. It's your choice to join …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 02:03 AM
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You clearly have the wrong ideas about women and society if you think that it is that simple. Objectivity, you are not the one that women are chasing. Therefore, something in your view is incorrect. Either you're wrong and the world is right, or you're right and the world is wrong. But even if you're right and everyone is wrong, that still makes you wrong vis-a-vis everyone else, you still have to learn the other way of thinking to be successful with them. I know all of this exactly. I know both…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 01:52 AM
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You sound entitled. You don't deserve love, you earn it. No one owes you anything. Become the man that women want, it will change everything. But you can't do it until you change your mentality. Women don't exist to serve you. You have an imagined sense of superiority. When your good at things in your individual life, you think that it's easy. However, relationships are a whole different thing than that, now you deal with real people with their own ideas. What you learned in individual success d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 10:13 PM
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You're dealing with the troubled difference between the way you wish the world to be, and the way that the world is. The world doesn't exist to satisfy your ideals. You can wish as hard as you want, but it will never change to suit your ideal. As others have said, the best, for your criteria, is to get married early. You've missed that boat, it's a different world at 26. You can wade into the world as it is and master it, then you will be the one taking applications. Or you can keep wishing for …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:44 PM
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The girl who was the best at sex, is not someone who you can live together with. There is no way that you can select to just be with the person that you had the best sex with. There are so many factors in a relationship. No one can ever be the best at everything. One is the best cook, another the best at sex, another the most organized, another is the most spontaneous. You can't have the best everything in one person. Being a savant in one discipline can make you deficient in others. People don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:48 PM
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Intelligence - the number one hottest thing. This is what I look for. Competence - good at something. I don't like to have to have physical preferences, but one has nonetheless: Slim, very. I justify this by saying that it matches me. Black hair. Don't care for blondes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:22 PM
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That's an immense simplification. Once you have a woman's love, you don't have to be disinterested, you have to be strong and steadfast, and appropriate. Lazy is not right, no wonder it's going to end. Cooking and stuff, at times, is immensely beneficial to you. Just that you can. But then if you spend your time working on something that you love to do, and that somewhat benefits the household, you are completely absolved of that. Just don't be seen taking it for granted. If you don't take someo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:57 PM
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You don't have a problem then. Just more experience gets you better at going up the attractiveness ladder. At the higher levels, your intuitive knowledge of women and verbal skills are what get hotter girls than you. It's a game then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:54 AM
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As another, formerly unsuccessful guy, I can confirm that any sex is good. In fact, even when you're getting lots, any more is good. I have never thought any of the things that you say guys say here. People just complain, it's not a true representation. I don't know if you've heard the saying: "even bad sex is good sex." But I'm an optimist, not a whiner. If a girl is not active, I drive, I don't complain. I also don't think that more attractive people are having more passionate sex, that's got …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:40 AM
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I can answer that for you. Get good at socializing, practise much as possible. Stop the screen time. It's slow and very, very hard to start, but it gets easier. Then it snowballs. 10 years later, women started to approach me. Organized events, parties are great to start. If you're shy, liquid courage is essential to start. Later I did a few solo travel trips, where you meet new people, and women, every single day. And they're out for fun. But it's a long slog to get really good, but you get some…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 08:07 AM
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This is your best response. You can't find the best woman right at the start. It's not like comparison shopping. Having lots of experience at life will help you attract better women. You need to be someone who a worthwhile woman likes. Having attributes does not make you a worthwhile person, just as it doesn't for the "best woman." So, get yourself any date to start and don't look down at anyone. Anyone can be a gem. At a random time, out of your control, you will meet a good one. You can't even…
/r/seduction05/01/22 06:20 AM
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You have the righteousness of a Spanish missionary to the new world, with an army behind him, or a vegan. Anybody who is not for your position is not worth considering. You have a conclusion in search of justification. I don't talk to people like that even if I agree with their point, they have no objectivity. A YouTube video is not evidence. Neither is a single account of anything. Your argument is the type of reasoning that makes me think that the opposing view likely has merit. Objectivity is…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 03:35 AM
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Many people here have given you the correct answer, and you keep denying it. If you go around with a lecherous mindset, you have a problem. It kind of sounds like you don't know women well. Treating them as a normal, competent, intelligent person usually works well. You'd be surprised. But if you have any mindset that is less than honourable, it will show in you, then you look creepy. Playing games with pretenses is less than honourable. I learned something a long time ago: "it doesn't hurt to a…
/r/seduction05/01/22 02:53 AM
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All of the right answers are up there already, OP. Listen to them. Let her come over for servicing at your convenience, but keep your attention on others in your life.
/r/seduction04/01/22 09:34 PM
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Exactly. It's so easy to tell by the way people characterize things that they are not to be taken seriously. Less over the top would help them. But they are not interested in debate, just pushing an agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:46 AM
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Much of this is clearly bunk. It's reaching language and is clearly scare tactics for anti cut propaganda. Being more reasonable in claims would make it seem more reasonable. But going all out, being clearly wrong in so many ways makes the whole thing lose any credibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 08:39 AM
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What a nice discussion between you 2 guys. You have nicely laid out ideas that I had come to on my own through observation and experience. Nice to see some thoughtful people here, I was beginning to think that it was all toxic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 04:35 AM
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I figured that, after you corrected me. That's why I made the polite reply of correct usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:40 PM
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As a story set in the past, you just say my girlfriend, or, my girlfriend at the time. Ex in that context means she was your ex when you had lunch with your female friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:28 PM
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Why does your ex care? And how would you be cheating in that situation? Ex means that they don't care about you anymore and have no say in what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:48 PM
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They don't have to talk. They don't even need to see you with another woman. They can see it in you when you know women well and that you have attained the correct attitude towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 05:02 PM
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It depends on what "emotional" means. It a wide range that goes from normal life events to any manner of defective. We can't really know. But I can see a defective girl going bad from normal life emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:21 AM
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It kind of is, but I can't know if you're fine or not. There are right and wrong and defective ways to behave. I was always a stoic person. But my girlfriend was there when my mum died unexpectedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 10:17 AM
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No. Women like men who act a certain way. Acting that way makes you look several levels better. Acting like a wus makes you several levels less attractive. On the higher end it leads you into asshole behaviour. Source: changed from nice guy to asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:40 AM
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What do you mean choices society makes? It seems more like your referring to innate human nature that works at a subconscious level. It seems that sometimes society is trying to go against that, hence the problems. Though it's obviously not clear your specific issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:26 AM
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There's a right way to couch "disclosure" that satisfies her need to know without over sharing. It's not that hard. The girl didn't leave because of what he said. Just saying it affected her subconsciously, she is not aware of why she lost interest. Knowing how girls feelings work lets you manage everything, to get whatever you want. Reading a girl looks like mind reading to those that can't read women. But every sign is showing, you just need the experience to know how to see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 09:16 AM
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This couldn't be more true. When you haven't had a girlfriend, no girl wants you. You're nice but not good enough. Once you have had several girlfriends and a number of ONS, girls are coming to you. It snowballs. They sometimes don't even mind if you are seeing several at the same time. Now you're not nice and new girls keep coming. Now you're expected to turn them away, and they try to train you to stop it. The best way that I ever got a girlfriend to end her hissy fit was to go out with anothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 08:46 AM
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Yes, I have acknowledged that in a later reply to the same person
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:43 PM
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This statement is binary. It is either true or not true. Since there are many men in the world, the statement is both true and untrue, because some men are and some are not. Statistically, and it a hard thing to be certain about, it seems that a rough average of surveys gives us a rough value of 50%, with a wide margin of error. Whenever you declare a large group of people to have one characteristic, you're going to be wrong. All cases exist in a large population.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:13 AM
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You made me remember something. Now you have me thinking too much. That first girl that I was very close to. Despite being the obvious "good girl," she was asking about guy's views on women and sex in our conversations. So she was interested in understanding guys. However, she was clearly atypical, she later was the school valedictorian. I think that most people on the internet are stuck on a superficial understanding of people. Many don't have a good understanding of the complex and varied worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:35 AM
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Yes, I understand that about women. So I suppose that it's logical for women to presume the same of men. I have to consider this idea moving forward. I haven't seen women changing their views, except in discussions with me. You just can't lose your sense of attraction. I think that I did once, when very young and I knew a very, very special woman. But I didn't have much of the idea, or care about attractive women at the time. I cared about character only. No, my wife is very her own person, she …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:53 AM
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But wouldn't you say that, the idea that women might think that a man in a relationship should never look at another woman to be itself culturally inculcated? We are not born knowing any view. Your view seems to be a romantic ideal. From movies, maybe. Women from different countries have quite a different understanding of men. That's not to say that all in any country are in anyway the same. But there are surface level similar ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 06:07 AM
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Women do understand. You don't. Most women I know do understand, but not all. You don't speak for all women. One relative gets to screw other women, sometimes, because his wife says so, and they are the ones with the best relationship together vis-a-vis othe couples. Knowing something is not the same as understanding it. I am not giving a male POV, I understand women quite well because I have spent my life listening intently, discussing ideas with, and paying close attention to the women in my l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:40 AM
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That sounds like a narrow minded view based on fear and insecurity, rather than a real commitment. I can look at other hot women and comment on them with my wife. She looks too and we compare. I don't go off and screw other women, because I am loyal. Fantasies about human nature are an impediment to a good relationship. Understanding reality makes you better at it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 05:06 AM
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I see the effort to change the connotation of the word. But I see it used both ways. I think that redefining the word is an effort to change things without actually changing anything meaningful. That's just painting an old car to appear new, it changes nothing. The real task should be to change the behaviour of those who behave badly. My bias is against people who criticize other people. They are the lowest to me. It became my habit to find and talk to a person who was the subject of criticism. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 04:34 AM
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All of the simple minded ideas of how women work, from guys who can't get women. They think that they know how women work. The fact that they can't get women is the proof that they don't know how women, or the game works. They are just making excuses for how they can't get women rather than trying. If they truly knew how it all works, they would be able to get women, at least some now and then. It's all so convenient to imagine how the game works, and that it's a game that you can't play, rather…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:49 AM
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Yeah, that's for sure. The trouble is people conflating choices on sex with good or bad life choices. Sex is independent of that. The whole argument here is that casual sex is the causal variable. Good and bad life choices is the real difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 11:13 PM
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I lived in Asia for quite some time. It's not quite how you characterize it. It's completely different from the West, lacking the historical Christian sin idea. There is a certain conservative element to it, but it's also quite sexually liberal as well. Japan is a bizarre place for those judging from Western standards. I don't know how you think it's conservative towards sex. I think that girls there are sleeping around more than you think. They just keep it private because of society. However, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 11:07 PM
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Yes, you do go through life without opinions on everything. The people with the most opinions are also the people with the least knowledge. Opinions are a barrier to gaining new knowledge. If you think that you know things, you are closed off to actual facts, you ignore truth that's inconsistent with incorrect opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 09:58 PM
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Just using the word slut is judgemental. I have never used that word in my life, I've never even thought of it. I think that it is a highly derogatory term. There are just different people with different ways of doing life. I might think differently about women who sleep around a lot vis-a-vis ones who don't at all. But it's more a case of adjusting myself to act appropriately for the situation, how someone else expects to be treated. It's not at all the case that one is better than the other. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 09:09 PM
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You have given your judgement by presuming one that the commenter did not say or imply. That comes from you, not the commenter. You are criticising the commenter with your opinion. Therefore you have shown your opinion. Judgements are made from the opinions of those making the judgement. You may even think that your opinions are immutable facts. Which would be why you can't understand someone who does not judge others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:56 PM
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You're trying to force your opinion onto someone else. Because you are a highly judgemental person, you can't imagine that someone else can be not judgemental. Therefore you have to imagine an opinion for someone else. It is not necessary to judge people as good or bad. Different people have different ways that work for them. What you believe that you paraphrased is absolutely not what the commenter said. You're twisting it into your twisted world view. You are the one with the bad opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:24 PM
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Someone gets it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 06:47 PM
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Every generation seems to think that they just discovered fucking. As someone from a previous generation, I can assure you that there was plenty of fuck first, talk later, or don't talk ever, going on. Human nature hasn't changed. I believe that the pill made this a more viable lifestyle. The only difference now seems to be that people are broadcasting it over social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 09:42 PM
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Your presumption is that the same things that women do to make themselves look good, are the things that men would do to look better. That's not true. Men do different things. One of the big things is character. This is a hard one to change, but when you do, it makes a huge difference. Most things that make a man attractive have nothing to do with prettyfication. They have to do with demeanor, attitude and behaviour. Being the right kind of guy can make you a level or 2 more attractive than your…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 05:39 PM
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They used to ban certain terms about the CCP in China, in Chinese. I think one was wu mao, and another was 50 cent army.
/r/AntiFeminists27/12/21 10:37 AM
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I don't know really know. They really don't know what's good for themselves and can't keep their life goals on point. Not really the kind in my peer group. Except one woman just leaving her husband who went out with me for years. It was very exciting. Clearly women who leave for that reason are not good at knowing what they want and making good choices, both when marrying in the first place and running off. Guys run off for excitement too. Guys are not divided into bad boys and nice guys, there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 02:21 AM
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If 50% of women like a certain type of guy, and the rest like various other types of guys, the media will exclusively show that former one type of guy. This is how the world works in every area. Don't presume that the media speaks for everyone. They just speak to the low hanging fruit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:42 AM
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I can confirm that, at least in the past in HK, a nice cut suit with good hair, the perfect businessman look, had girls approaching me regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:33 AM
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Our cats never climbed the tree. Except for one as a kitten, that then fell and ended up hanging like an ornament from the lights wire around its neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:46 AM
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University students are not a representative sample of society. Different studies will give different results of course. According to one single chart that I saw just now, the entire university IQ distribution is almost completely above 100. This is consistent with what my university prof said once, that everyone here, in 4th year, had an IQ between 120 and 140 I don't really feel like going into this deeply. But, just off the top of my head, within that self selected crowd, it may be statistica…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:29 AM
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You're exactly right about monogamy being enforced in order to ensure that low ability men are productive members of society. Most people think that that is just the natural order. Kind of seems to be breaking down now. What's good for the individual is not good for society and vice versa. Except that what good for society is indirectly good for people, they just can't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:54 AM
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I thought that you might have meant 120 and up, but that still doesn't seem correct. Given the difference at 140, I doubt that there are enough at the higher levels to make the total to be double.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:02 AM
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You seem to exaggerating the difference in IQ. The male IQ distribution is flatter than the female one. The 2 curves cross just below the 120 mark, meaning that there are almost as many men and women at 120 IQ. Even at 140, men outnumber women by only about 35%.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:19 AM
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You're completely missing the point. People are socialized with the idea of what social behaviour to engage in while growing up. There is no absolute right one and wrong one. Without socialization, there is no basis at all for what decisions to make. So how someone grows up has everything to do with the decisions that they make. You're not born with ethics and morals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:07 AM
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She was an Asian girl. She just wanted to "try" a white guy. I suppose any ONS is just used for sex, but you understand that implicitly. This was different. Objectification maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 10:52 PM
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I have outright turned down girls who were out of spec. There was no personality to make up for it. Except one who had a sultry sexiness. I just didn't end up back on location to reconsider.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:42 PM
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There are no hard rules. Anything can happen. You lose out when you assume hard rules. I had two friendships get romantic, another, that one of them introduced me to, wondered if we would have sex. Then she put me off by letting it out that she gets real clingy when she sleeps with someone. She was a four hour drive away, a safe distance, should have gone for it. Another, I just asked outright because we had time and were sharing a room. She declined and it was like it never happened. I later go…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:38 PM
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I was used for sex once. The girl told me in the morning at breakfast. I still remember the feeling, even though it was long ago. I made sure not to show it. I "decided" that I was ok with it. Is this what a girl feels like? Do women feel worse than me? Strangely, I kind of liked her for her rationality. Ambiguous feelings. I would have been perfectly ok with it if she had told me the night before. I guess it was the deceit then. I thought, along time ago, that I do feel sorry for women, because…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:49 PM
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And what do you do with cute guys? There are so many situations that this can happen in, so it depends. Being in the situation makes you think of the best thing to say. That was one potential response.
/r/seduction17/12/21 03:49 AM
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False dichotomy fallacy. Look that up. It is not an either or proposition. Don't repeat it. My original reply to your statement was that you made a nonsense statement. That stands. You continue pushing under the precept that you have a valid position. You do not. You make one logical fallacy after another when you think you're being smart. You can't even make an argument worthy of being refuted. A bunch of anti social internet trolls are not men. They are a tiny group guys who can't even get a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 03:20 AM
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Yet you keep replying, with the same tired out line. You don't even try to any actual points. You just repeat your self described superiority. The delusional person is looking at you in the mirror. I don't need to find anyone now, I have a very good woman with me, stunning too.
/r/seduction16/12/21 07:20 AM
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To really get that vibe, you need to be having sex, lots of it. Then it will start to show on you. Others have said what it does to you. I know that this is chicken/egg problem. But it's what makes the real difference. You'll get the vibe, the knowing look, you'll have confidence oozing out of you, you won't be shy or desperate, you won't need anyone. Lots of other good advice here, fake it until you make it. People have different ideas on this, it's not so black and white in my opinion. Female …
/r/seduction16/12/21 05:50 AM
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I don't know why you were continuing anyways. You have this bizarre idea that you know my life than I do. You're never going to understand. I am sure that you're stubbornness will not help you keep a good woman. All the things that I did worked well for me, and that's all that matters. Your opinion is truly worth nothing on this matter. If you go up to yesterday's comments, you'll see that I got up votes while you got some down votes.
/r/seduction16/12/21 04:30 AM
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You have proven nothing. You're really bad at this.
/r/seduction16/12/21 04:17 AM
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Did I say that? You're making the false dichotomy fallacy. Why do you have to call someone that anyways? That in itself is subjective. And is just a slur. Only people who are not good themselves use the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:13 AM
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Your claiming that a subjective opinion on a subjective subject, that different people have different opinions, on is somehow a fact. Even if people here did agree, it's still a tiny fraction of people. I have been around a lot of places and I rarely hear people go on about sluts. No decent person uses that term. Only low class people go on about it, and they are the ones sleeping with them. So clearly, they do like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:58 AM
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You're still trying to tell me that things that I know to be true, are not. This is the problem. You're so insistent that you're correct, instead of trying to understand. When I try to explain, you just double down on criticising. Who has the ego? My attempt to elucidate gave you the impression that I had an inflated ego. That is not so, just less than ideal words for a hard to convey concept. I just stated the way things happened for me, and that I wasn't even trying hard. I know exactly what I…
/r/seduction16/12/21 03:30 AM
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Facts are independently provable, your assertion is not. Your statement is nothing more than your opinion. It's only a fact in your dreamworld.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 01:52 AM
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You made the assertion that "men hate sluts." That's not an argument. Hence, there is no counter argument to be made. You must prove your assertion with an argument first. You do not make wild assertions and then require someone to prove a negative. That's not how debate works. You are the one in the hole with an unproven assertion. Such assertion is baseless.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:25 PM
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Such an articulate person well versed in the complexity and subtlety of complex issues, aren't you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:17 PM
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You're just cherry picking in order to make your confirmation bias claim. One word is a useless comment, as is your original one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:13 PM
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False assertions do not need counter arguments. You have to make an actual argument in order for a counter argument to be made.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:11 PM
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That's total bunk. Nobody told me how to behave growing up, I did my own thing. I always had close female friends, I often felt more myself around women. You need both in your life. Well adjusted men love women, correctly, how could you not like them? I do think that many men do not know how to be close to women and only like them for their attributes, never knowing how to be truly close. I see that in some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 11:08 PM
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That's a false claim too, you're just as bad, calling women derogatory names
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 10:55 PM
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That's quite the specious claim. Some men would, that's undeniable, some men would not. People are always making claims that men this and women that, as if all if each group are the same. Whenever someone makes claims like this, we know that they are narrow minded false claims because not all people are the same. It really just comes down to people making confirmation bias claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 10:53 PM
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I highly doubt that that's a representative sample of men. Loser ones tend to group up and act out. I've never seen guys act like that. And, maybe that's an attack on Tik tok personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 10:47 PM
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Different experiences for different people. No one can say what is right for other peoples' experiences. Every single woman is different too and each interaction is unique, that's why it's so much fun. I know for a fact that several of the same night girls were not sleeping around because I stayed with some of them for some time afterwards, months or years, and I got to know them well. Others, I can't say, but I knew what kind of girl they were. I play all of the timeframes, not even trying hard…
/r/seduction15/12/21 09:46 AM
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You're wrong there. Sometimes that true. Sometimes two people captivate each other. But as a guy, you have to have the confidence that can be seen in your persona, and you have to be able to read a woman's body language to know that's what she wants once you've captivated her. Women work on feeling and guys who are really good can instill that feeling in them. But just reading it is a great help. When you don't know you are oblivious to this, and it's a total mystery.
/r/seduction15/12/21 07:15 AM
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It was their idea. I just lived up to the expectation and made sure that we ended up where we needed to. By their, I mean different girls at different times. One time it was a girl's friend's idea. But her friend took me home a few days later. Kind of similar to others here. I wasn't looking or trying, just doing my own thing, uninterested in others around me.
/r/seduction15/12/21 07:00 AM
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I don't want anything about it. I do think that you should spend some time talking to women instead of trying to study them through pseudo academic work. There's a lifetime of study to be had, and it's so much fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 09:32 PM
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This sounds like somebody's coloured pill, wildly slanted view. A highly simplistic, warped view of women contrary to reality. Reality is much more complex and subtle. I think someone is misunderstanding the relationship between evolutionary psychology and how people think and feel in day to day activities. Everyone is quite different, or our lives would be so boring. You can find a study to say anything that you want when it comes to people and what they do. What most people don't realise is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 09:20 PM
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If she's going to go there have fun with it. Don't make it a fact based Q and A. There are so many ways to make a fun answer out of those questions, however, they're personality and context sensitive, so I won't try to suggest an example.
/r/seduction14/12/21 08:21 PM
1

It won't be a trend that lasts forever. If everyone lives the single life, there will be no kids to follow a trend later.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 06:54 PM
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One girl had a skill, something that I didn't know was possible. No other girl ever, did the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 07:40 AM
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I have made no opinion known here, just a statement of fact and some speculation, not based on opinion. Your mistake is to read into it opinions that you imagine. You don't even show that you understand what I wrote. That's a very poor criticism. Your whole thought process is revealed to me by your statement and replies to others. You actually suffer from a lack of understanding of people and society and have removed yourself from it, because you can't manage it. In order to protect your self im…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 03:55 AM
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This is disingenuous. All that you need to survive is a concrete cell with a hole in the corner, where sh*t goes god knows where, and someone to bring you gruel and water twice a day. You might go crazy, but who needs sanity. . If you ask someone who has been in such a predicament for a long time, to list 10 things that they would most like to add to their life, it would be interesting to see how many put sex on that list.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 02:55 AM
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You're right. Why the hell is that, screwed up in the head? One girl that I was with for a while went into a mental hospital, again as I found out. Then she became a stripper. What ride she was. One hot starfish complained to me about another, average girl that I had been seeing, the one with a special skill. Criticized her looks of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 02:16 AM
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That's hilarious to me. Mr. Fucking Rodgers. That's actually my name. She meant Mr. Rogers Surely that was just the final straw anyways.
/r/seduction14/12/21 02:00 AM
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No girl I've had a relationship with would act like that either. And that is pretty crappy. I also would never have used that particular choice of words. But there are lots of girls like that out there. I'm sure that there was more to that than the one statement.
/r/seduction14/12/21 01:55 AM
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All of those numbers are not that far apart. So differences are not huge, except we don't see the distribution. What's the standard deviation for those stats? On a different note, less attractive girls are much more likely to be great in bed than hot girls. Edit: spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:41 PM
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Logically you're correct. But it doesn't work logically, that's life. You either play the game or just watch other play.
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:50 PM
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Women in Asia may be somewhat more traditional, but they're not submissive in any way. They have a real set of expectations that a husband should fill, especially a Western one, unless you want a dumb one. They are smart and independent and know what they want and how to get it. The men there are a mix of bad and good, so there's plenty for a Western guy, however, online has them all out meeting Western guys already. In some places, women do a lot of the running of things, except for prestigious…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:17 AM
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That's true. I wasn't good when young, I got good later. However, I had good female friends and amazing fun talking with them. I often felt more myself with girls than with guys because you could talk about more things with them. Two of my closest were both valedictorians, both were so much fun. Couldn't have been more polar opposites. Early one was a wait until you get married type, but not afraid to talk details about anything. The other had great trouble with monogamy and was closest to guys,…
/r/seduction13/12/21 08:21 AM
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You have to decide what you really want. Is the process of getting there more important than the end goal? Sounds like it is to you. I'm a formerly shy guy who worked hard to get good at the game. It fun to flirt and play all of the time. However, I don't hold it against a shy girl whose inexperienced if she's great otherwise. You seem to like the game more than any particular guy. It's almost like you are requiring a magical incantation, from the guy's point of view, to move forward. Is that re…
/r/seduction13/12/21 07:19 AM
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
/r/seduction13/12/21 04:58 AM
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"Be a good person." This will come back to you in spades. Word gets around. I too practiced by talking to as many different kinds of people as possible. It's also not just getting people to say the things that you are looking to know, even if offhandendly, but picking up on revealing bits in amongst other things. Just recently, I got a very shy woman, who would only make single syllable answers, to animatedly relate her life story to me, 5 minutes later. Is this manipulation? Once you know what …
/r/seduction13/12/21 04:19 AM
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I am not a normal guy. I highly value time spent with a great woman, especially an intelligent one. I once spent 12 hours talking with a very intelligent girl. Totally unaware of what was going on outside our space, day turned to night unnoticed. It was unbearable to have to stop. It is one of my best memories. I have had many other amazing conversations, with other women, it is one of my favourite things to do. As well as doing things together. I love to work together with someone. However, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 10:59 AM
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There's honesty and there's over sharing. You over shared. The other guy is right. There are things everyone knows, but don't talk about at times. A lot of things.
/r/seduction10/12/21 06:26 AM
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Keep dating other girls. If you guys have a real "thing" together, that will take care of itself. Remember: "All's fair in love and war."
/r/seduction09/12/21 02:51 AM
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You're playing a game. Focus on her. I don't know of a formula, just how to read a situation and play. Each is different, and you only know with experience. I just wanted to say that I have turned several friends into more. Had another subtlety suggest it, but I didn't take her up. They were all so different. It's not so bad to start from, as everyone keeps saying, in my opinion. As a friend, you get the opportunity to get really personal with her, then you have the basis for a relationship. Get…
/r/seduction08/12/21 10:11 AM
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I have to concur with the guy above. I went from nice guy, not pushover though, to a bit of a bad boy. After the conversion, women were coming to me. (note that this took 10 years.) I didn't do bad things per se (I'll never say), I was always decent person, I was exciting, brash, confident. It's so hard to put into words, the difference. You could say that girls revolved around me, not me around them, I did my own thing. There's a brash confidence that you get when you have known numerous women,…
/r/seduction08/12/21 08:19 AM
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Are you sure that you're not always feeling for the unattainable girls, and disliking the girls that like you because they like you? It sure seems like a pattern, that you're unaware of. You need to break that pattern. Spend a bit more time with the girls who do like you. The more experience that you have in relationships with women, the better women you will attract in the future. Standards are the enemy of experience. You can't start at the top, work your way up.
/r/seduction04/12/21 07:04 PM
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I get a feeling from your comments that you may not be that approachable. People show an attitude, or persona, without knowing it. It may be that you look too strong. Even though I, personally, find strong women attractive, fun and enjoyable, that doesn't seem to be the consensus among most men. So essentially you're not getting attention from the kind of men that you want. People's public persona is frequently quite different from their real personality. It's also possible that you are a bit fu…
/r/seduction04/12/21 01:36 AM
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Yes, it is. Once you get experienced, you will be able to assess a girl, and know her level of experience. Whether she is more innocent or worldly and experienced herself. Also, all of the right words will come out of your mouth before you know what they are, appropriate for the type of girl and situation. It becomes so much fun. And then you have an abundance of girls and don't even have to try, or, you're just taking up opportunities without effort, not sure which. I just wish that I knew, whe…
/r/seduction03/12/21 03:22 AM
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Imagine, the whole of human history, pre internet, was a cheat code, the audacity.
/r/seduction03/12/21 03:11 AM
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They're reticent and cautious. You have to get to know them well before you get physical. You have to go slow. You've already kissed her, so not that slow, late 30s so also not too slow. I knew a goody two shoes in high school, there was never a more virtuous girl.
/r/seduction02/12/21 08:35 AM
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Nothing goes automatically. Female friends sometimes sleep with you, it's just natural. Nothing is set in stone. Goody two shoes types are different from most girls, so be careful when thinking of those usual "rules" you hear.
/r/seduction02/12/21 02:38 AM
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I got married a long time ago. My wife is absolutely stunning. She was one of the fashionable, snobbish club girls. We both stopped all of that when we got together. She's one of the most down to earth people that I know, except for her huge collection of nice clothes that she never wears.
/r/seduction27/11/21 03:25 AM
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I am very introverted, and extroverted too. I am good either way. Can be alone for months and never be bored, too much to do. Or party every night. I do have the tendency to want to stay with whatever mode that I am in. I don't want to do the other, or just keep feeling doing the same once I am deep in it. So I don't know which I really am. I do like doing my projects alone, it's more useful. I do get addicted to socializing though. I have heard the term ambivert. So I don't really understand ha…
/r/seduction26/11/21 09:57 AM
5

How to not be shy. If you want to do this, you're going to have to do hard things, but just sometimes. And persevere. This is how I did it. A bit at a time. Just doing the things that seemed so hard. Go out and socialize. I can't remember the early days much, but it was very hard to start. I have forgotten just how shy I was. So afraid to do so many things. But I was determined, you need to be. The starting point is to decide to do the things that seem hard. Go places and try to talk to people. …
/r/seduction26/11/21 09:45 AM
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Yes, absolutely. It's how I changed my way to be better. But then it's not pretending any more, it is now a part of you. You have learned and you are now a different person. So now you're not pretending, it is you now, and you're so much better than pretending. Pretending has a connotation of hiding your real self. And the point of other people is that pretending makes you less effective than when you are being yourself, if yourself knows what to do. One word, 2 connotations. I don't consider le…
/r/seduction26/11/21 02:18 AM
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You can't pretend either. If your shy and introverted, you have to change your character. I was shy, and I changed. Never shy again, I became the ultimate sociable guy. Then it was easy because I was myself, the different me.
/r/seduction26/11/21 12:43 AM
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The thing is, people who know can't really tell people who don't how to do it. You need the experience. You have to sense the situation, know what to do and say without thinking about it. It's all about feeling and not thinking. Once you start thinking, you've lost. You can only get that way after lots of good experiences. You can tell who on here knows, if you already know how to do it.
/r/seduction26/11/21 12:39 AM
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The more girls that you get with, the easier it all gets. Dive in and don't be scared, you will always deal with it. It will work out. It just seems so hard the first time, getting feelings, I mean.
/r/seduction25/11/21 04:30 AM
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That's what you think when you're young. Your feelings on that come from expectations of other people. I didn't get into a relationship early on because the girl was a wait until you get married type. I then went through a lot of girls, it was a fabulous time. But I never really found someone as good as that first one. Even when you do, they don't necessarily want you. Hot doesn't make up for character. This was a harder choice. Had I gone the other way, I wouldn't know what I know now. Can't kn…
/r/seduction24/11/21 08:02 PM
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The best way to get this is practice with lots of girls. You learn the language that you were oblivious to before. You learn it best by having sexual relationships and numerous other relationships. I can't think of ways to put it into words, you know without even knowing how you know. Then you know the things to say that are appropriate for the girl that you are with, cheeky, suggestive, facetious and never rude or cheesy. When you know well you are playing a game and you are full of confidence,…
/r/seduction22/11/21 02:00 AM
2

It all depends on the girl. Doing it right in front of her is different than it being known that you do. Some, nice, girls could be put off by this. However, you have a crush on her, doesn't she just consider you a friend or acquaintance at this point? It all depends on the context of your invite and status of your relationship, which isn't clear. There's fine subtleties in there that make the difference, we don't know that.
/r/seduction16/11/21 09:26 PM
1

A big country that has changed a lot in recent years. More unknown to me. Likely confident, modern and cosmopolitan, but still more traditional in gender roles. Occasionally Asian girls expect you to be a "man," more than we're used to here now. The good parts, of course. I do remember that Chinese girls were very impressed that I could, and did cook.
/r/seduction12/11/21 09:43 PM
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Be careful about sneaky. She may not understand the intent. Being from Asia means that she may have completely different ideas in this. It also depends on how long she has been in the US. Which country is she from? Each one is completely different from the other. She could be ultra conservative or bang anyone without compunction and you couldn't tell the difference. I lived in Asia for years and got to know it well. Your conservative approach would be to continue to be friendly for a while and a…
/r/seduction12/11/21 08:25 PM
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It's completely up to you to make something out of it. You can be picky and wait for responses that you like, or you can play the game and make something out of your less than ideal responses. It's for you to make something out of it. They are responding to you, so that's good. Since it happens a lot, you can practice. Others have given you some good ideas. Just don't be negative, no one one likes that. Positively is infectious. In person is always best, no one is real until you meet them. So ar…
/r/seduction16/09/21 01:23 AM
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"... the stupid are cocksure while the intelligent are full of doubt."—Bertrand Russell I was full of doubt while at the same time being seen as very good at what I did, work wise. After many years of practice I became fully confident, socially, while saying all of the right things without any thought about what I said. Being confident changes your look, how you stand and projects an image without saying a word. You don't actually have to be good to act confident, which is why it works for peopl…
/r/seduction12/09/21 04:52 AM
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Be confident, a bit cocky even. Don't care, be strong. Don't think in your head, about yourself. Focus on and think about those around you. I changed to that at about 27, but it took lots of practice, but with practice all of the right words were coming out of my mouth before I knew what they were. But you have to talk a long time to get there. Probably varies by person. Some people have always talked without thinking. You lose self reflection, caring, but girls are attracted to you. But wait, a…
/r/seduction24/08/21 08:42 AM
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I was leaving a club and going down the stairs, when I saw one of my friends on the landing talking to 2 girls. I stopped to chat a bit and 10 minutes later we getting in a taxi to go to my place. 7 days later I did her friend too.
/r/seduction21/08/21 06:46 AM
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I beg to differ, a bit. Not because I disagree with the idea, but because of my lived experience. I was a strong, confident and capable person who was nice by nature. Not this new definition of nice that is weak and deceitful. I did things for people because things needed to be done and I was a very type A person. I do for fun what other people call work. I didn't put up with BS or bad people. I know how to get things done and get through difficult situations with certainty and confidence. I was…
/r/seduction10/08/21 03:55 AM
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There's a difference between liked by all and respected. How you behave will determine the kind of friends that you attract, what kind of people will like you. You can be can choose from various ideas here for social situations, for this it just takes practice to be more sociable. It's hard at first, but it gets better. You can be liked and in many social activities, but not taken seriously by people, they won't respect you. If you want to be trusted and respected and friends with respectable pe…
/r/seduction25/07/21 11:23 PM
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He doesn't mean to presume that all women like you, just to act or stand with the persona that everyone likes you. This confidence shows in you even when someone looks at you from afar. And that is part of what makes you look attractive on first sight. You can have the air and look of a confident person while still speaking as a humble person. There are people that command a presence without saying a word, that's attractive. Having an air of confidence increases your apparent attractiveness. I d…
/r/seduction31/03/21 11:32 PM
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Took me 10 years to go from afraid to go to a party to walking about brash and cocky, (not purposefully, I didn't know I'd changed) and having lots of girls want me. Now, there is no need to go that far. I did not set out get girls, just to be more sociable. By that time all of the right words were coming out of my mouth before I knew what they were. Self consciousness is your enemy. Hot girls are just normal, sometimes they're pissed that they get treated differently. When you get experienced y…
/r/seduction16/03/21 05:02 AM
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The brain centre thing is something that I am not sure that I remember correctly, but you may be able to search for it. Maybe it's like you say, you need to be in the correct state of mind to do a task well. I know that I have always waited to do certain tasks until I was in the right state of mind; then the task was done faster, better and more easily than if I had forced it earlier. That did include socializing. Whether work or socializing, practice makes you better. For me, I always want to d…
/r/seduction06/03/21 04:23 AM
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I don't know how to define it. I think that this whole area is particularly hard to put into words. When you know, you see who knows and you see who doesn't. When you don't know, it all seems mysterious, you don't know how the people who do it, know what to do. Then when you know, it's like a fog clearing and you see all of the people, their type and level, it's like you can now see inside everyone. It seems that you are doing quite ok already and that your only real issue is worrying. As soon a…
/r/seduction03/03/21 08:51 AM
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This is both true and untrue. Every person, every woman is a completely different person than another. Every relationship is different than another. If all of your experiences are the same it's probably a reflection on you. I have been both nice and bad. Nice, except for the cheesy parts. When I was bad it was not because I was bad, but because I was confident and didn't need anything so I was not worried about how I acted. I carried myself differently and could be dangerous in how I spoke. In t…
/r/seduction10/02/21 11:00 PM
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That's when you walk up near the girls, oblivious but confident, and look at something yourself. How they act determines what you can do. They might just run away. This is where your experience let's you know what to do, but you could just say 'hi' and see. I have got a date like this. I started by going to parties, there you have some drinks and a single crowd. Even if you don't know everyone yet, you can talk to anyone, that's what it's for. Instead of staying with just the people you know, ge…
/r/seduction08/02/21 10:03 PM
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This is based on my experience only, not anyone else's ideas. I know what I did differently because I have lived both lives. I didn't change what I did, I changed how I felt about myself and that changed others people's perceptions of me. What I did do is practiced doing seemingly hard or scary things until it was second nature, then it became enjoyable. It's all in your attitude, in your own head, as you have found out. Your persona, your demeanor, your stance, outlook, posture, facial expressi…
/r/seduction07/02/21 10:55 AM
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No kidding! I actually feel like it made me dumber, from the way that rational logical people are smart. I put in the effort and got really good at getting girls. In retrospect, I think that I lost my traditional intelligence, but I gained a new one. It was way less thoughtful and more feeling. It was like having a new sense, and a focus that was not in your head but in other people. It was a huge effort, I had done what they say and talked to hundreds of people that I didn't know, mostly girls.…
/r/seduction19/10/20 08:53 PM
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Only Redditors and other geeks. Don't lose before you start. If everyone thinks like that then how many people are left to try? Be one of those.
/r/seduction11/09/20 04:00 AM
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