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My recommendation is to read Mark Manson's "Models". This will be your foundation. I know you say you don't have time to read, but if it's really that big of a deal to you then you will set aside time to learn about this. If you have time to read books in college about stuff you'll likely not sure in your future, surely you have time to learn how to build high-quality relationships in your life. I would also recommend Todd V Dating's Youtube Channel. He has really good stuff there. His style of …
/r/seduction11/10/20 12:07 AM
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Good for you. Best of luck on your journey!
/r/seduction11/10/20 12:05 AM
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It becomes needy when you're seeking or expecting a certain reaction. If she rejects you and you're genuinely butthurt about it, you're needy. If she rejects you and you laugh it off and move on, it's all good.
/r/seduction10/10/20 11:49 PM
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lol
/r/seduction10/10/20 08:45 PM
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Regardless of whether you could have done more with the interaction (i.e. makeout, have sex with her, etc.), you did a good job. One thing I'm focusing on more and more these days is honesty with myself. If I don't genuinely find a woman attractive, I'm not going to hit on her even just for "practice". It feels inauthentic and unethical for me. ' That being said, with women who have customer-facing jobs (especially when you're interacting with them while on the job) it's hard to tell if they're …
/r/seduction10/10/20 08:45 PM
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I would say be wary of the advice that you find on Youtube or Google. Some if it is decent and has helped me a lot (for example, finding RSD's videos and some other seduction material online has helped to shape my mindset/mentality), but unfortunately a lot of material these days are watered down to appeal to the politically correct crowd. That means you'll get advice that is well-meaning but isn't really helpful (e.g. "Be yourself", "It'll happen eventually, just be patient", "Getting into a re…
/r/seduction10/10/20 08:40 PM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson and "3% man" by Corey Wayne. That will solve 99% of your problems in dating and seduction
/r/seduction10/10/20 02:56 AM
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So you cold messaged a girl on what appears to be Twitter, acted super needy, and you're surprised she blocked you? LMAO
/r/seduction10/10/20 02:55 AM
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Great question. I recommend you check out Todd V's videos on this exact topic, he covers this really well of how to convert a conversation from friendly to sexual in nature: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jU8c-XWpgsc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=og1DZLKpJSY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REIDB4NQ6lc In essence, the key is to come in with the mindset that you're being sexual from the start. Tell her things like how she's acting "feisty", how you think she's "dangerous" for you because she's …
/r/seduction08/10/20 01:34 AM
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As the other commenter said, make sure you're coming from a boyfriend/fuckbuddy vibe (whichever approach you're trying to do with her) instead of a friend vibe or she might get the wrong intention with you
/r/seduction08/10/20 01:01 AM
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I agree with this person.
/r/seduction08/10/20 12:59 AM
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I don't waste my time with the girl after that. There's a concept in sales called "qualifying" a prospect. What that means is making sure they're eligible to buy your product before you try to sell it to them. Let's assume I like a girl in a romantic/sexual context. If she says "I have a boyfriend" that either means: She's telling the truth. In this case, I don't want to waste my time with women with boyfriends because I believe it's a violation of my ethics/integrity to date/have sex with a wom…
/r/seduction07/10/20 10:31 PM
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Agreed. OP, listen to this guy
/r/seduction02/10/20 02:32 AM
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At what point does it go from "having an open mind" to "wasting your time"? What if she acts like a bitch during the first few dates, but she continues to act like that after sequential dates?
/r/seduction01/10/20 10:34 PM
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This isn't the sexy answer, but therapy also helps. Dealing with any emotional blockages you might have about yourself that causes you to feel depressed and down. Oftentimes our self-confidence issues stem from events in our past from friends and family that convince us we're not good enough or not worthy of love.
/r/seduction01/10/20 10:30 PM
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Their guard is more up and the'y're less likely to be receptive. I'm pretty sure you're a concern troll.
/r/seduction01/10/20 09:33 PM
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It depends on the context. Complete cold approach with a total stranger in the middle of the street during broad daylight? Significantly more difficult than picking up a drunk girl at a bar/club late at Saturday 11:30pm
/r/seduction01/10/20 08:04 PM
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First off, you mentioned you have aspergers. I'd be careful to NOT use that as an excuse to achieve your goals. It might cause you some more difficulties than other people, but it will not stop you from achieving what you want out of life. I've had several people attempt to use the term "aspergers" to describe me (including family members and friends) and I reject the label because I don't want to limit myself to how an aspergers person is supposed to act. I think you're putting WAY too much emp…
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:56 PM
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If you've read Mark Manson's book "Models", you would know that this is actually a good thing. You don't want to end up pleasing everybody because then you'll basically end up a follower, who is bland and with no real personality. Mark Manson advocates genuinely being yourself, which is polarizing. Some people will think you're super amazing and other people will think you're cringy and dumb. This allows you to weed out people who aren't interested in you anyway but are pleasant around you just …
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:51 PM
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My recommendation is to avoid using dating apps in the first place, they are cesspools and unless you're a very attractive male you're basically get bottom of the barrel women (if any women at all). I also agree to avoid using Instagram if you can and try to get the girl's number. ​ Honestly, it's hard to meet people in general during quarantine situation. My recommendation is to sit tight and wait until this COVID is done with and then go back approaching women. My recommendation is to make it …
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:49 PM
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So I think it's probably a mixture of both things: overthinking things, but you're also probably doing something to make your reputation like this. The problem with some people in pickup is that when they get really gung-ho about it, they start taking passes even when in situations when it's not really socially acceptable or they end up overdoing it. Sexualizing a conversation at a bar or club at night is VASTLY different from sexualizing a conversation at a crowded coffee shop in the middle of …
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:45 PM
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Maybe next time don't lie about your wife cheating on you. Also, if you're in a marriage maybe don't cheat on your woman. I'm all for having one night stands with women, but if you're in a committed marriage and your wife assumes your exclusive to her even though you actually aren't, that's a MASSIVE ethical issue in my opinion.
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:40 PM
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lol
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:36 PM
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I love how nobody really answered your question except one person, everyone else just pitied themselves about how bad their life is. If you want to make something of your life, it is up to YOU. You need to take MASSIVE action. Go out to bars and clubs to meet new people and make new friends. Join meetup groups, join hobby groups that you find interesting to meet new people. Make friends with the people at your work. You need to shift from a negative mindset to a positive mindset. Sounds simple b…
/r/seduction01/10/20 05:07 PM
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Completely disagree. I see in another comment you use online dating. That hasn't worked for me in the past. I'm not the worst looking guy but I'm not exactly great looking either. I find that talking to women in person significantly increases my chances of getting their phone # and going out with me
/r/seduction01/10/20 04:47 PM
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Well, you could always go pickup women at campuses even if you're not a student. It only becomes weird when you're in your really late 20s and early 30s. Other than that, you can meet women at bars, clubs, book stores, etc. You just need to get more creative with how you meet women
/r/seduction01/10/20 04:42 PM
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Completely agree, I've gone out alone and it's been very helpful in building my confidence in talking to women without having to rely on other people. I've been questioned a few times about why I'm out alone but it didn't seem to be a huge issue
/r/seduction01/10/20 04:32 PM
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The main difference between flirting and sexual harassment is attraction.... if the girl is attracted to you, it's flirting. If she's not attracted to you, it's sexual harassment. That's basically it
/r/seduction30/09/20 10:21 PM
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So, what was the point of this post other than to sound like Elliot Rodger? I'd recommend getting therapy/psychiatric help ASAP. 100% serious
/r/seduction30/09/20 10:10 PM
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Next time don't rely on alcohol to pick up women. It's a crutch to feel better in social interactions. Also, I'd recommend not using snapchat but just using text to setup logistics. Snapchat is for people who have too much time on their hands. Only time Snapchat is useful is for getting a woman's nudes without her feeling worried about you screenshotting it or saving it.
/r/seduction30/09/20 10:04 PM
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Maybe if you're in high school or middle school. People who use the term "crush" tend to be emotionally immature. Just tell your "crush" how you feel about them, either they feel the same way or they don't. If they feel the same way, they'll respond very receptively. If they don't feel the same way, they'll let you know and you'll stop wasting your time worrying about your "crush" of yours
/r/seduction30/09/20 09:40 PM
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The key is to talk to multiple women at a time. Believe me, I've been where you've been before. I've had SERIOUS one-itis for a girl that caused me to say and do cringy things. The key is to have multiple options so you don't feel as needy and like you need to do or say the perfect thing to keep one girl. Lack of neediness is great.
/r/seduction29/09/20 05:12 AM
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Thanks, I think I'm just worried because I've tried a few different things that didn't really work out. I have a lot of interesting stories from those situations, though, so I'm sure that's something women would love
/r/seduction29/09/20 05:06 AM
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Fair enough. I think the big struggle for me is finding a job that I really like. I'm doing sales right now because I feel like it's a really transferable skill and sales is important in any industry, but I worry about my future career a lot. I'm only 21 so I guess I still have like 9 years to figure things out lol.
/r/seduction29/09/20 04:24 AM
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What do you mean by "direction in life"? A high paying job?
/r/seduction29/09/20 03:43 AM
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This is actually talked about quite a lot in "pickup" communities and this concept has been popularized by RSD and other mainstream pickup companies out there. This concept is known as "self-amusement", and the idea is to basically amuse yourself first and foremost and to not worry about impressing a girl or anything else like that
/r/seduction28/09/20 03:11 AM
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Not sure it's indicative of you being "autistic", but if it worries you that much you might want to consult a psychiatrist about it and see what they think. I'm similar to you in the sense that I don't put people into headlocks or do "nipple cripples" (whatever that is LOL). I think the over the top touching that some guys do to each other can get cringy and can feel "gay" (for lack of a better term), which is why I don't do it that much. Around women, though, it was another story. I was also he…
/r/seduction28/09/20 02:50 AM
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Right now it's difficult to meet people anyway as a result of covid, so don't beat yourself up if you're having trouble meeting women during this unusual time. Working and lifting weights is really enough, but I'd recommend to try out new hobbies and see how you like them. As I said before, as a result of covid some hobbies are limited or simply off-limits that are difficult to do. Usually I'd recommend going to bars, clubs, or college campuses to meet women but because those are all basically s…
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:31 PM
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Same principles apply. You're in high school, where women are hitting puberty and are INCREDIBLY horny. Assuming your school is fairly large in student population, getting women is like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:58 PM
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He could be afraid of being emotionally vulnerable/open and could feel the same way you do. Speaking from a male's perspective, I know that I would be worried about saying "I love you" to a woman even if I actually did because I'd also be worried about the repercussions and if it backfires or she thinks it's too "clingy". I'd recommend bringing it up to him and telling him how you feel and that you love him. I think he will be more likely to open up to you if you tell him that first
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:56 PM
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As I was reading through this post, a LOT of red flags are popping up to me. I think you already know what to do. Leave her ASAP and forget about her. Being willing to get a VISA because you chatted with somebody you met on Reddit for 5 days who lives overseas is a MASSIVE red flag, and shows that she has poor judgement in my opinion. I wouldn't be surprised if she suffers from some sort of personality disorder. She is not worth the headache. Don't try to "win her back". You cannot force attract…
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:50 PM
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This is just as moronic as people who spend 100% of their time chasing and talking to women. The best approach is a balanced approach to talking to women.
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:45 PM
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It means she wants attention. Truthfully, it's neither good nor bad. I'd recommend avoiding using snapchat to flirt with women, btw, since women do stupid shit like this and it gets confusing
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:42 PM
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She likes you, but it doesn't necessary mean anything more than that. I'd recommend escalating physically with her by touching her and seeing how she responds
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:39 PM
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Join a hobby group that you're actually good at, don't just join a group to meet women
/r/seduction23/09/20 07:38 PM
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You move on. There's this idea in sales known as "qualifying a prospect". What this means is that you see whether the person you're talking to is qualified to buy your product/service. If a girl tells you "I have a boyfriend" or gives you a hard rejection immediately, then that means they're not qualified and you'd be better off moving on and talking to another girl. Unlike what some people might think in this subreddit, you cannot force attraction
/r/seduction23/09/20 06:36 PM
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They're leaving pickup because the SJW/politically correct community is going after them HARD and trying to shut them down ASAP
/r/seduction20/09/20 03:09 AM
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They left the dating niche because Youtube has been going after pickup artists and shutting their Youtube accounts down. So they're moving into "self help" so that they appeal to a wider audience and they won't be shutdown by Youtube and the SJW/politically correct crowd. Furthermore, reporters and some countries have actually been convicting pickup artists for harassment and things like that, something I'd imagine RSD wouldn't want to be associated with
/r/seduction20/09/20 03:05 AM
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I completely agree with you here, man. I know how you feel
/r/seduction20/09/20 02:47 AM
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This isn't a romantic comedy. I recommend against it. It also depends on the context of the "date". Are you going into it with the expectation that this is a date and it's in a romantic context? Then it makes more sense to provide a flower
/r/seduction20/09/20 02:47 AM
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Hitting on every woman you meet indiscriminately is moronic
/r/seduction20/09/20 02:39 AM
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Don't make a big deal out of it, just act like everything is normal
/r/seduction18/09/20 09:19 PM
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Rather nervous than not approach at all. Look at it this way: Would you rather deal with the short-term pain of nervousness, or the long-term pain of regret knowing you could have talked to a cute/hot girl and you didn't?
/r/seduction18/09/20 09:17 PM
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Welcome to the community! First off, I think it's great that you're making an effort to approach and talk to men. Not many women are willing to do that and most women expect men to make all the effort, so it's refreshing when a woman goes out of her way to approach a guy. I'd recommend reading "Models" by Mark Manson. Even though it's targeted for men, a lot of the same principles and ideas from the book can be applied to women also. The key is honestly in your actions and how you live. Be hones…
/r/seduction04/09/20 09:08 PM
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lowkey that's kinda hot
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:30 AM
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TBH I kind of gave up on doing cold approaches during quarantine. All the restaurants and bars are shut down and we're forced to wear masks, making it damn near impossible to meet people.
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:26 AM
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I'd recommend you don't get into a relationship with a coworker and you learn to type a cogent paragraph
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:24 AM
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Are you serious? If so LOL but also I'm not sure that's a good idea. But you do you bro
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:23 AM
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lmao FACTS
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:21 AM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson. The book will answer 95% of your questions
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:21 AM
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I read the book "rejection therapy" that this is based off of. It really changed my mindset and how I approach things. I definitely recommend anybody looking to make their life more interesting and fun to read the book!
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:20 AM
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It's because people don't want to put in any work.
/r/seduction29/07/20 10:02 PM
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Why do you feel the need to keep a rotation of girls, other than to show off? 100% serious. ​ Just keep 1 or 2 of the girls around, you don't need to have 4 or 5 girls you're dating concurrently. That'll just become WAY too tiring after a while. Just be direct and honest with these women. "Look, I don't have the time to do this" or "I appreciate our relationship but I'm busy with other things and I'd appreciate it if you didn't text me as much as you do"
/r/seduction28/07/20 08:15 PM
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Don't be needy, don't get too emotionally attached, and don't idealize the woman.
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:57 PM
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Fix your depression issues before you try to get a girlfriend and date and have sex. Your depression will ruin any relationships that you potentially get into. Trust me on this because I've been there before
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:54 PM
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Not a girl, but I'll answer it: They want attention. Nothing less, nothing more
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:51 PM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson. This changed my fundamental viewpoint/mindset on how to attract and date women. That'll all you need to read
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:50 PM
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It doesn't mean anything. You're reading into it way too much
/r/seduction27/07/20 05:28 PM
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Don't shit where you eat
/r/seduction27/07/20 05:28 PM
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To be honest? I ended up working in sales and that gave me the ability to not give an F about rejection. This applied to me talking to women and now I'm able to approach women much more easily
/r/seduction27/07/20 05:26 PM
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Congrats but realize that sex and losing your virginity isn't the end-all and be-all of life. Sex is one aspect of a healthy lifestyle, that includes other aspects such as fitness, being productive, and motivating/inspiring others
/r/seduction27/07/20 05:22 PM
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The other people replying to you don't know what they're talking about. The fact of the matter is, even attractive women have trouble getting good, decent guys. Why? Because usually women are afraid to make the first move and so they wait for the guys to make the first move. The issue is that some (not all) men who approach women first tend to be fuckboys or guys just in it for looks. That cute introverted nerdy guy you think is really smart/funny/attractive? He's not going to be as confident in…
/r/seduction27/07/20 04:54 PM
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No, it's not, and I'm tired of people acting like "I'll let you know" is a soft rejection. OP, you need to polarize this girl by making it so that she either agrees or rejects you completely. Right now you're in an iffy territory. You polarize by being straightforward and honest with this girl and how you feel about her. That is all. Best of luck
/r/seduction27/07/20 04:40 PM
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"Models" by Mark Manson. I know it gets recommended often, but this book legit changed how I view relationships and dating. Basically, the key to being polarizing with women is to be completely and 100% honest and straightforward with them. There's more to it, obviously. "How to be a 3% man" by Corey Wayne is also decent
/r/seduction26/07/20 08:15 PM
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Depends where you're located at. It'll be difficult to pickup women in the U.S. right now due to the lockdown, probably wait until campuses reopen up again. In any case, 5'6 isn't particularly bad at all. I think men put height on a pedestal. I'm 5'7 and my height has never been an issue when it comes to the women I've been with. I'd say if you were 5'4 or under then it might be time to worry but right now you're good. Don't think of yourself as a "short man" or think that height is affecting yo…
/r/seduction25/07/20 04:32 AM
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You don't have issues with testosterone, unlike what some other Redditor in here is suggesting. This is completely normal and suggests that you're maturing emotionally/mentally. You're realizing women aren't the end-all, be-all that society paints them up to be. Instead, you're focusing on yourself. If an amazing woman comes into your life, great. But if not, you couldn't care less. That's how it's supposed to be for all men. Unfortunately, most men have been taught from a young age that women a…
/r/seduction25/07/20 04:21 AM
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agreed ​ I think it should be... go for the phone # first, then if she seems hesitant then close her with Messenger/Insta (snap is BS and complete crapshoot),
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:43 AM
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Are you referring to the instagram/snapchat approach or the "just get the girls phone #" approach? I personally think getting the girls # is 10X more effective than getting her insta/snap, but that's just me
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:38 AM
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No. You're overthinking this bullshit.
/r/seduction05/04/20 06:46 AM
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I would say Facebook > Instagram but that's just me. More people on FB, more stuff to do (not just for photos), can use it on your computer/laptop.
/r/seduction01/04/20 11:57 PM
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lmfao. I saw 7 notifications in my inbox and thought "damn I'm going viral on Reddit" and turns out it's the same dude seven times
/r/seduction01/04/20 09:16 PM
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she probably just needs followers to be able to monetize her makeup channel. Haha, so true. Yeah, that's why I disagree with RSD's approach to things. I don't think getting a mutual follow on snapchat/instagram is in any way a signal of attraction from a girl. Unless you're SUPER high status on instagram (like 100k+ followers), I don't think it'll really do you any good. But as I said before, worth it to try out and see what happens.
/r/seduction01/04/20 08:16 PM
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I remember that video. From my understanding, the advice given in the video was basically: Have instagram/snapchat Post cool pictures of yourself doing cool things and hanging out with other girls on instagram as social proof Post stories on instagram of you doing cool/interesting things, see which girls view your stories and then message them. post yourself doing cool stuff on your snapchat Use snapchat to get girls to send you nudes Add every girl that you meet on instagram and snapchat. Girls…
/r/seduction01/04/20 05:17 PM
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Do you only get women through dating apps or adding them on social media? If so, that's not going to work out for you. You're going to have to cold approach and do daygame/nightgame. It's basically a cheat code for getting attractive women while not necessarily being highly attractive yourself in looks, status, and wealth. All you need to do is spit good game
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:46 AM
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There are many funny male comedians who having incredibly attractive wives. These men are usually short, not particularly good-looking (or at least nothing extraordinary about their looks), and not your usual definition of a textbook "attractive man". Take a look at Joe Rogan (at least today now that he's bald). Joe Rogan isn't exactly a looker, but he has many traits that women find attractive: He's confident in himself, he's masculine, he's funny, he's charismatic, and he's interesting to list…
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:45 AM
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No, going up to a girl isn't being needy. What's being needy is being incredibly invested in the outcome of the approach, i.e. you are disappointed if the interaction with the girl doesn't go well. The key to acting aloof and non-needy is that you need to entertain YOURSELF first and foremost when you're talking to women, not the woman herself. Women who are into your style and yourself will be more attracted to you when you do this, and you ignore the women who are not a good match for you.
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:31 AM
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Don't be too invested into one girl. Also, you're only in high school dude. Don't sweat it if some girl lets you go. High school dating is some petty-ass shit anyway. Girls don't really know what they want in high school and will play ridiculous emotional/mind games because they're still trying to figure themselves out. Wait until college and beyond. That's when you'll be able to go out to bars, dance clubs, art shows, concerts (whatever interests you) and meet highly attractive women that are m…
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:30 AM
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Be clear with your intentions. Start with the mindset/intent of a "i want to be in a romantic relationship vibe" or a "I want to fuck you vibe" (whichever one it is that you're trying to go for, depends on if you want a longer term relationship or a friends with benefit type relationship) So for example, invite her out one on one to hang out with you. You don't need to call it a date (imo, that puts too much expectations on her and in 2020 calling things a date is "passe"). When you meet up with…
/r/seduction31/03/20 03:27 AM
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I disagree that the "cold approach" is terrible, it can be highly effective if done properly. I do agree though that the way OP did it here was fairly cringy
/r/seduction10/03/20 12:12 AM
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Completely disagree with you here. Saying to somebody "Just be yourself, bro!" works insofar as the person understands normal social cues and doesn't have approach anxiety, has high self esteem, has confidence, etc. Mark Manson Models is a good way of learning techniques/skills that you can use when picking up women while still "being yourself".
/r/seduction04/03/20 04:58 AM
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Can you DM me your info?
/r/seduction05/10/19 01:18 AM
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Wouldn't recommend posting your email publicly FYI, especially if you also use the email for work/personal stuff
/r/seduction21/04/19 05:46 AM
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Talk to a psychiatrist. This isn't a joke by the way, you clearly have a very poor viewpoint on women and it needs to be improved
/r/seduction04/03/19 02:57 AM
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In terms of the "right now", they were at the housing area and the boba shop was at least a 10 minute walk away. I felt like they were more asking "right now" because they thought I was asking them to get boba at that moment (again, there was a bit of a language barrier) not because they wanted to get boba at the moment. I might be wrong though. I'll try to keep that in mind though, might've been a good way to be cocky-funny In terms of Instagram, I have the girls follow me on Instagram through …
/r/seduction03/03/19 01:01 AM
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Not only is posting the actual video INCREDIBLY weird/creepy, but I'm also pretty sure it's highly illegal to post the video without her consent. I'd recommend taking the video down
/r/seduction02/03/19 10:55 PM
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Work on your finances first. Seriously, do it. Your future self will thank you
/r/seduction28/02/19 03:53 AM
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Btw, you can solve this problem by using instagram ;) ​
/r/seduction25/02/19 02:47 AM
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Honestly, without posting pics of what you're telling these women it's difficult to tell what's going on. Are they just not responding to you at all? Or are some women going out with you and then not flaking? I've certainly had both happen. My recommendation is to just keep pushing forward. Also analyze your messages and see if you're coming off as too try-hard or needy. I've certainly had that happen to me. ​ ​
/r/seduction13/02/19 07:07 AM
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I'm assuming you're referring to momentum in terms of cold approaching women (i.e. going up to women you've never met before and talking to them). This is easier to do at night, especially at bars/clubs, because people are generally more open at night and are free to talk. If you talk to one girl at a club at night and it doesn't go well, it's easy to build up momentum and talk to five other women in the club that same night. ​ On the other hand, approaching women during the daytime is significa…
/r/seduction11/02/19 05:16 AM
1

I can't tell if this is serious or not, but in any case. I feel like the only reason you want these women are because they're "easy". I can guarantee you that there are high quality girls out there that are also easy and don't have issues with their father and are fucked in the head. ​
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:44 PM
1

Depends on where you're located, but generally I'll say that I'd recommend more of daygame stuff in this situation.
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:43 PM
5

I think the key is that as soon as you see a girl you want to talk to, you go in immediately. If you start thinking in your head of stuff to tell her or what to say, you start to overthink things and it becomes a mess. Just go for it without overthinking things, if you wait too long to talk to a girl you'll start overthinking what to do/say and it becomes more weird for both of you
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:42 PM
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Just tell her "Sounds good, let me know when you're available to hangout" ​ If she's interested, she'll followup when she's available. If not, move on and then when you see her again she'll already know you and it'll give you some social proof
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:40 PM
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She's incredibly far away from you and it seems the main reason she talks to people on Snapchat is to get attention and be flattered from men. You can still continue talking to her, but don't expect anything obviously
/r/seduction30/01/19 06:38 PM
2

I think it depends on the person, but I tend to agree that online dating (especially mobile apps like Tinder/Bumble/etc.) aren't particularly useful except for very good-looking men and very high-status/high-earning men
/r/seduction29/01/19 10:08 PM
2

I would definitely say be clearer with your intentions next time. You could even just say something like "I want to hangout to get to know you better and we'll see what happens from there", which is likely true for you but still doesn't pigeonhole you into the "friend' category immediately. Also, she's on Tinder. She's either looking to go on a date to get a boyfriend or have sex.
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:58 PM
1

I would say once you learn about something, figure out a way to immediately apply it to your life. I'll also say that when it comes to material on picking up women I probably only retain about 25% (if that) of the material that I consume. ​ I think the Mark Manson/Todd V approach is the best because it's fairly easy to remember once you learn the fundamentals and it can be applied practically anywhere
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:53 PM
2

So from my experience, Spanish (especially Mexican) women greeting men by kissing them on both cheeks is a relatively common experience. What I'm trying to say is that she just might be friendly. ​ I'd say move on to other women but keep her on the backburner if you're still interested. ​ ​
/r/seduction29/01/19 07:51 PM
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I'd say so too. It's like asking if eating a lot of protein will help with your fitness. If you're working out consistently, then definitely eating protein will help you get more fit. But if you're not working out consistently, then eating protein isn't going to make much of a change.
/r/seduction23/01/19 02:03 AM
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I'd say Instagram is more supplemental than anything else. If you're already getting decent results, you're confident, and have a cool/fun lifestyle then getting an instagram will certainly help. However, having an instagram isn't going to help you if you don't actually go out and talk to and meet new people.
/r/seduction23/01/19 01:46 AM
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She's playing "hard to get". She's looking for a reaction because she wants to see if you're going to get butthurt over her not kissing you or if you're cool with it.
/r/seduction19/01/19 04:15 AM
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They offer some good advice generally, but I would never recommend buying any of their products/services. I've seen out some of their products and it's pretty much just rewording/repackaging stuff that they've already said and published online for free. ​ The other problem is a lot of guys get stuck in the trap where they start watching Youtube videos but then don't do anything to actually take action. ​ To be honest, I feel most of their content can be easily emulated by going out to nightclubs…
/r/seduction18/01/19 10:17 PM
1

women are currently responsible for 100% of my suffering, sadness and depression. ' You're starting to get into Elliot Rodger territory with this statement. ​ First off, why do you assume that your friends are so lucky because they're all getting married? You don't know anything about their marriages, or how they actually feel about their partner, etc. Maybe they hate their partner but they're stuck with them because they have to. Maybe they're pretending to have happy marriages but in reality t…
/r/seduction18/01/19 10:01 PM
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Sure, it's "normal". But also go forward with action and try to get her contact info, phone #, that sort of thing so you can actually see it happen in real life and not just your fantasies
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:54 PM
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Just don't text her as often and don't initiate texts as often. Only use texting for logistics and talk to her in person
/r/seduction18/01/19 09:49 PM
1

Just ask her to give you a day when she's available to meetup. Then stop texting her
/r/seduction18/01/19 12:18 AM
1

Ye's he's interested. You're overthinking things way too much. The only way to determine for sure, of course, is to ask him out again and see what happens. If he doesn't respond or says he's not interested, then there's your answer. If he is interested, he'll either go out with you again or say he's unavailable but he'll make time for you.
/r/seduction11/01/19 03:09 AM
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Sounds like she's inexperienced and any guy who shows her some form of physical intimacy would be considered her "boyfriend". I'm assuming she's (relatively) young. ​ If you want to be her boyfriend, then just continue to hangout with her. I think it's also important to set the expectations of the relationship with her before continuing. If you don't see her as a girlfriend, I'd recommend telling her to slow things down.
/r/seduction11/01/19 03:06 AM
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What the other person said, it's not fucking rocket science. Look up a youtube video or an article if you're really overthinking this. She's using this as an excuse to get you to her apartment and have you touching her. The actual quality of the foot rub is, frankly, irrelevant
/r/seduction08/01/19 04:35 PM
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Overall, I think he provides an incredibly useful guide to create emotionally healthy relationships with women in your life. Using his approach will you end up losing some attractive women because they "play games" with you or shit-test you endlessly? Sure. But you'll also end up having to deal with less bullshit in your life in the long-run and you'll create genuine, emotionally healthy and fulfilling relationships with women
/r/seduction08/01/19 04:32 PM
1

Exactly. If you can get the girl through "fractionation" techniques, you could've gotten her regardless of whether you used the techniques or not.
/r/seduction06/01/19 10:07 PM
1

Most things in a life could be thought of as "putting yourself in a woman's frame" if you decide to frame it in a certain way. Why do most men want high paying, high-status jobs? Because it allows them to get money, which they can use to attract women by buying fancy clothing, going on expensive dates, traveling with a girl, etc. Why do most men lift? Because women find muscles attractive. The question is how you frame it
/r/askTRP05/01/19 03:49 AM
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First off, it's pretty obvious you're promoting your own video so good job on doxxing yourself. Second off, women flake because they're not interested. Move on ​
/r/askTRP05/01/19 03:47 AM
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First off, start reading "No Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. You sound like a textbook "niceguy" who is going to continue to get fucked over unless you read that book. ​ Second off, let's get this out of the way. You are desperate and needy as fuck. You're paying a girl's rent, and you think that entitles her to have sex with you? hahaha Go talk to other women, you'll recognize that this woman you've talked to isn't that special
/r/seduction05/01/19 03:28 AM
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Is that one of those Ross Jeffries techniques? I suppose it might work, but to me it just comes off as pretty slimey and manipulative stuff. Just be open, honest, and authentic with the girl that you're talking to and if she vibes well with you then she'll start to like you. No need to use "fractionation" patterns or whatever
/r/seduction05/01/19 03:21 AM
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What I've learned is that the longer you hesitate to talk to her, the more you begin to overthink things, become anxious, and "psyche" yourself out of not approaching by coming up with rationalizations. ​ My recommendation is to start small. If you see a girl that you'd like to talk to, just go up to her and say "do you have any recommendations for good restaurants to eat at around here?". Hell, you could even ask her directions to a specific location. Once you get used to talking to her, then y…
/r/seduction05/01/19 03:13 AM
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You look fine, I'm more concerned about the fact that you posted a photo of yourself here for validation about your looks. That signals to me that you have some self-esteem issues that need to be taken care of. If you're having difficulty getting women, I'd say it's largely due to your mental state and how you view yourself and others, and the mental frameworks that you're using. I'd recommend you stop focusing on looks and start focusing on building up your inner confidence. Don't rely on other…
/r/seduction05/01/19 03:06 AM
3

This girl probably doesn't look as good in real life, either. Stop putting women on a pedestal.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 05:35 PM
1

Ignore them and focus on yourself. Your results will speak for you.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:57 PM
1

she told me she was 19 but I later went to her ig and found out she was actually 14 LOL. Why do you care if she blocked you then?
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:56 PM
2

She wants attention, which you're giving her. Stop DMing random girls on instagram and talk to women in real life.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:53 PM
1

Don't hate the player, hate the game
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:51 PM
3

Thou shalt approach. If you're still worried about getting rejected, make it into a game where you succeed by TRYING to get rejected. For example, you go up to a girl and say "hey, just had to come talk to you and say hi". Ask her for her snap/insta/phone #. If you get rejected, then you were successful because the purpose is to get rejected. If you don't get rejected, then technically you "failed" the game but it's still a positive thing for you
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:49 PM
2

A girl is meeting up with you at your place from Tinder? Unless you act incredibly autistic, you'll probably at least get a makeout or something. Just be outcome independent. Overall though, a girl meeting up with you from Tinder at your place is like shooting fish in a barrel.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:46 PM
1

Move on, you're coming from a massive scarcity mindset. Just looked at your other comment though, tbh putting a picture of a statue of Jesus might've given her the vibe that you're super religious or something. Nothing ou can really do about it now, though
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:40 PM
1

Cool. Next time, I'd also recommend meeting up for a date at a place you'd go to anyway. That way, even if she's a no-show you'll still have a good time. For example, telling her to get lunch with you at a place you usually get lunch at.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 02:05 AM
1

They're not complicated, you're just trying to force attraction when there isn't any. She didn't confirm, that means she's not going. If she does go and gets angry because you're a no show, remind her that she told you she'd confirm.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 01:18 AM
1

The book doesn't really teach you anything except how to regurgitate lines/routines at women. The book is fun as entertainment, but doesn't actually help you that much
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:24 AM
1

She wants her friend to be there in case you're weird/awkward/whatever as an excuse to leave. Also, her friend probably is trying to "vet" you. Go on the date but talk to other women in the meantime
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:21 AM
2

Texting a woman twice a day sounds needy af to me.
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:20 AM
1

You can't negotiate attraction. Forget her and focus on other women
/r/seduction31/12/18 12:19 AM
2

It's attention seeking behavior
/r/askTRP30/12/18 03:04 AM
1

If you're being serious here (which I hope you aren't), you don't need TRP. You need therapy
/r/askTRP30/12/18 02:15 AM
2

If a girl tells you you're cute, that means she's already interested in you. Just tell her something like "Thanks, you're pretty cute yourself." or something like that. It literally doesn't matter as long as it's not too crazy and doesn't make her feel like a slut
/r/askTRP30/12/18 02:08 AM
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Here's my thoughts for each point: She has a single mother, who has been churning out 7 kids. Probably from random boyfriends. Yikes. This behavior could have rub off on her. Father back home in another country. Hasn't seen him since she was a baby. She was born there but came here as a refugee. Lack of a father figure, probably has daddy issues. Women who grow up without strong male role models in their lives usually end up pretty messed up IMO. Apparently lost virginity to an ex bf who raped h…
/r/askTRP30/12/18 02:07 AM
1

I recommend moving outside of your country first, if possible. Your location isn't a good place to achieve your goals
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:58 AM
2

I recommend No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover, Models by Mark Manson, The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, and 10x Rule by Grant Cardone
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:57 AM
1

Trying to get laid in a foreign country where you can barely speak the language is going to be nearly impossible (not saying it can't happen, however). I recommend trying again back in your hometown ​
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:53 AM
2

First off, don't smoke pot or drink alcohol to cure your anxiety. It's a short-term solution with dire long-term consequences. ​ When you crush your anxiety and can approach girls without needing weed/alcohol, you basically go god-mode because you're fully aware of what's happening in the moment. ​ I'd recommend to stop using online apps and instead cold approach women in person. If you need help with that, read "Models" by Mark Manson and watch Todd V Dating's youtube videos. Maybe RSD for extr…
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:48 AM
2

Noice
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:45 AM
8

Hey! In a similar situation as you. I'd recommend not texting her at all while on break. Do fun shit during your winter break, and even go out and talk to other women if you'd like. When coming back from winter break, just send her a reminder text that you'd like to hangout. If you meetup, you can tell her all the cool stuff you've done over winter break and if not then hopefully you've met some other cool people by socializing during the break
/r/seduction30/12/18 01:44 AM
1

Ask her out, stupid
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:38 PM
2

Use a condom next time
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:34 PM
1

Agree with other people, don't have sex in an alley next time lol. You need better logistics
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:20 PM
4

You sound like an Elliot Rodger-wannabe. It's time you go to therapy and get some help. You have bigger problems than just women
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:19 PM
3

Agree with other commenter, don't send shit like that over text. I've done that before and it immediately kills any attraction that she has with me. ​ Seriously, just use texting for logistics
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:17 PM
9

Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. Your predicament is more common than you might think. Sounds like you're exhibiting typical nice-guy behavior
/r/seduction25/12/18 06:16 PM
1

Generally, I'd only try to slide into a girl's DMs if I've already met her in person and she gave me her instagram
/r/seduction24/12/18 05:14 PM
3

You can't do anything about it now. Next time, be open, honest, authentic, and vulnerable with girls that you talk to. If she asks you if you like her and you do, just say yes.
/r/seduction24/12/18 02:20 PM
1

With respect to what other people are saying, I think meeting people in person first would help also.
/r/seduction24/12/18 02:18 PM
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You get this natural confidence by going out by yourself and start approaching women you find attractive. You don't have to use some amazing or crazy line, as you can see from the fact that the lines you used were rather ridiculous and yet it still "worked". ​
/r/seduction24/12/18 01:50 PM
2

This sounds like BPD behavior (look it up if you don't know what that is). I'd recommend you hard next her, tbh.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 05:01 PM
1

No, but everything else being equal it would help if you were more muscular.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:55 PM
0

She's not yours, it's just your turn. She wants attention/validation. Either ignore her or agree and amplify (as you did, in this case).
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:53 PM
3

If you don't want to directly reject her, one advice that I've read before that I really like is to pretend to act incredibly chodey and needy with her so she won't be interested.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:52 PM
0

Dude, you have girls who told you that they want to hangout with you because you're a lot of fun. You shouldn't be the one with anxiety, they should have anxiety of wanting to be cool with you and wanting you to think that they're fun also. You're the prize, remember that. ​ ​ ​
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:50 PM
2

Uh... what? Why the fuck are you sending a girl random emojis and sending random letters. That's try-hard as fuck. ​ Next time, if you're interested in hanging out with a girl just tell her straight up "Hey, I want to hangout with you at X place at Y time". This will immediately remove women who aren't interested in you or are just texting you for attention.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:48 PM
2

idk, the whole her telling you that she loves you sounds like a classic case of BPD "love bombing" to me. https://hackspirit.com/love-bombing-10-ways-narcissists-use-it-to-control-you/ Read this and see if some of the examples apply. I would be extremely fucking careful with this girl if I were you. Do not make this girl into a long-term relationship and use protection. Make sure to save texts/calls in case she tries to pull something on you.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:45 PM
19

, "you know, if you recall I sent you a text and got no reply or acknowledgement. I think you must be a wonderful person based on my interactions with you. But I must admit I felt somewhat disrespected by that." ​ Saying that is incredibly try-hard and needy as fuck. That will almost guarantee that she will want nothing to do with you ever again. Just say "hey" if you see her again. If she's interested in hanging out again, she'll initiate contact
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:41 PM
2

not necessarily. There are a lot of girls I know who like me who don't reach out to me first and barely initiate contact. Just reach out to her. People saying shit like "if she doesn't contact you in 3 days she's a thot and/or she doesn't like you" is fucking ridiculous. Genuinely busy people have shit to do and won't just continue to you text you throughout the week/day.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 04:38 PM
1

I do think that over-texting is a common mistake that guys make. Texting about B.S. topics that they don't really care about without getting to the point (e.g. "Let's hangout at X place at X time"). That being said, if a girl rejects you for asking for a date immediately then she probably wasn't interested in the first place. Lean on the side of being non-needy and non-tryhard. Ask yourself, "Is what I'm doing try-hard?" and if it is then just stop
/r/seduction23/12/18 04:28 PM
1

It sounds like you're only talking about one girl here. That's not really a big sample size to go off of. Also, if a girl has 18K followers I wouldn't find it difficult to believe that she has thirsty followers who probably offer to buy her things. ​ Ignore her and talk to other women. You need to become abundant with the women that you meet in your life. That way, even if one doesn't reciprocate you stilll have others that you can talk to
/r/seduction23/12/18 04:25 PM
1

You sound needy and incredibly try-hard. Just because a girl said "I can't hangout today because X came up" doesn't mean she doesn't want to hangout with you. Just reschedule a time to hangout with her. If she doesn't respond, then no big deal. If she's genuienely interested, she'll give you a time that she can hangout
/r/seduction23/12/18 04:22 PM
1

I think there's a certain portion of men that are part of a minority racial group (whether it's black men, indian men, asian men, whatever) that feel as though they are disadvantaged in dating because of their race. I think part of the cause is that it gives them an excuse as to why they're not doing well in dating/attracting women as opposed to admitting "I need to go out and talk to more women". ​ I think that for the most part, it's a ridiculous notion that they're actually disadvantaged due …
/r/seduction23/12/18 03:43 PM
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Completely agree -- it's not about what you say, it's about how you make her feel. As long as you have a fun, good time in the interactions, then you're eventually going to meet a girl who will really vibe with that and want to hangout with you regardless of whether you're "rich" or if you're really hot
/r/seduction23/12/18 03:35 PM
1

My advice would be to do a "situational" or "observational" opener. This is where you approach her based on the situation going on at the moment. So for example, if she's lifting particularly heavy weights then you can go up to her and say something like "Wow, you can lift pretty heavy weights. I'm impressed". If she's running on the treadmill and sweating a lot, after she gets off the treadmill you can tell her "Wow, you really worked up a sweat on that treadmill." The "line" that you use to ap…
/r/seduction20/12/18 03:38 PM
1

The suggestion that u/Tidusblood gave actually could work. I saw two girls on campus who were staring at their phones. I asked them if they were lost and looking for a building and they said they were playing Pokemon Go haha. ​ ​
/r/seduction17/12/18 12:02 AM
1

Cool field report. I definitely think that once you experience rejection multiple times, you sort of become more "immune" to it. That's not to say that it doesn't hurt, but it hurts less than before. You also begin to take it less as a reflection of your value as a man and more as a reflection of her state and where she is in life.
/r/seduction16/12/18 11:59 PM
1

Dude, come on now son. She could've been busy with work, or working out, or god knows what. Just leave her a voice message. Even better, just text her instead. It's easier that way to respond
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:59 AM
1

She could've meant something like "If I weren't gay, I'd love to be with you and take your virginity". ​ In any case, I wouldn't read too much into it. People say stupid stuff all the time when drunk.
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:58 AM
1

Jesus dude, you're getting way more indicators of interest from these women than I do starting out LOL. Just go up and talk to them and say whatever the fuck you want. It doesn't so much matter what you say as how you say it and how it makes her feel.
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:56 AM
1

I agree with other commenters that this isn't exactly great advice. If you're just starting out, then maybe it'll help to get some indicators of interest from a girl before doing an approach. But the problem is that you're going to miss out on a lot of great interactions with women just because she didn't meet the arbitrary rule that you've created.
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:55 AM
1

I think, especially in relatively small cities, you're going to get that a lot. I wouldn't take it personally.
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:53 AM
1

I think it's a combination of several factors. There's the #metoo movement, which has made men more wary about doing approaches. There's also the fact that this stuff is becoming more well known and girls are becoming more aware of "pickup" methods. Beginners in PUA usually make it very obvious that they're doing some form of pickup and it's very apparent/obvious. Also, the market has become rather saturated with newbies who didn't know what the hell they were doing teaching other guys who didn'…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:52 AM
2

I'm going to repost what I told another person on here: ​ Alright, I'm going to give contrarian advice here (at least for this subreddit). I think the whole advice of "If she's not having sex with you, then just drop her" is ridiculous, naive, and somewhat childish. The fact of the matter is that girls can provide more value to you than just sex (surprising, I know). You can use this girl to get invited out to social events that she's attending, this girl can introduce you to her friends, this g…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:47 AM
2

Alright, I'm going to give contrarian advice here (at least for this subreddit). I think the whole advice of "If she's not having sex with you, then just drop her" is ridiculous, naive, and somewhat childish. ​ The fact of the matter is that girls can provide more value to you than just sex (surprising, I know). You can use this girl to get invited out to social events that she's attending, this girl can introduce you to her friends, this girl can give you social proof when you go out to a bar o…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:45 AM
1

Cool man, looks like you're on the right track. ​ I know therapy might be overdone for you at this point, but it still could help to talk to some people you can trust about this sort of thing. Whether it's a close friend or something like that. Good luck
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:43 AM
0

This is really dumb. Korean girls are just like any other girl, you're reading way too much into this stuff and finding patterns where there aren't any. ​ ​
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:38 AM
1

Alright, I'm just being honest. If you're committing self-injury because of a girl you matched with on Tinder isn't responding how you'd like over text, then you have bigger issues than just women. I recommend speaking to a psychiatrist and going through therapy because it sounds like you have horrible coping mechanisms to deal with rejection. ​ If you can't afford therapy (some can't, fair enough), then I recommend finding better coping strategies to deal with this sort of thing. Something like…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:36 AM
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Alright, if you're really afraid of asking for her phone # (which you shouldn't be, but you might be) then ask for her instagram. Instagram is generally more lowkey and women are significantly more willing to give it away. You can tell her "Follow me on instagram".
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:33 AM
2

I've run into that before. My recommendation if she doesn't respond after the date that you wanted to meetup, just text her a week later or so and say "Hey, you're probably pretty busy. Let me know when you're available to hangout to get something to drink." You can also add "If you're not interested, that's cool too" at the end if you'd like. That shows that you're non-needy and don't care if she rejects you or doesn't respond. At that point, mentally block her in your mind and assume she won't…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:32 AM
0

To be honest, the texts you're sending her sound uncalibrated as fuck. Look, I think this idea of the "friendzone" is ridiculous. If she keeps giving subtle rejections, then just be willing to hangout with her as friends. There's two ways I view women friends. One is the "Let's just be friends" that women give when they want a guy to not associate with them at all anymore, and genuine friendship with a girl where she's still wants to hangout with you and take you out to places, etc. Due to the f…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:28 AM
4

I recommend you read "No More Mr Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, "Models" by Mark Manson, and "The Subtle art of not giving a fuck" by Mark Manson.
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:23 AM
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No, you don't have to always kiss on a first date. The key is to be socially calibrated and aware of the social situation in the moment. If she comes off as cold or distant, kissing isn't a good idea. If by the end of the date, she's having fun, smiling, initiating touch (e.g. offering hugs, touching your arms/shoulders/etc.) then you can more likely get a kiss. If that's the case, then when you walk her to her car you can look at her and give her a compliment (e.g. "You know, you look really pr…
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:21 AM
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Don't text back and forth so much, it's generally needy. If you want to get to know her better, meet up with her in person and do that instead. Generally I only text to figure out logistics of meeting up with a girl (or replying to a question/message she's sent me first).
/r/seduction16/12/18 03:17 AM
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Stop using it. Go start talking to people in real life. Whether or not the girl is attracted to you, in person the interactions are SIGNIFICANTLY more interesting, and emotionally fulfilling, and the results you get will be better than what you could achieve through Tinder ​ ​
/r/seduction13/12/18 06:44 PM
3

Watch Todd V Dating's youtube videos
/r/seduction13/12/18 06:43 PM
3

Don't have sex with coworkers.
/r/seduction13/12/18 06:42 PM
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The truth is, "true friends" are few and far between. I can count on one hand the number of people that I would call a genuine friend in my life, even though I know many different people. ​ ​ ​ ​
/r/seduction13/12/18 06:41 PM
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Alright First off, you have to get better at talking to and interacting with girls in real life, not just through Tinder or any other online apps that you're using. At best, online apps such as Tinder, Instagram, etc. should act as a supplement but not as a direct source of how you meet women. I recommend you read "Models" by Mark Manson and maybe watch Todd Valentine's videos on daygame. Good luck
/r/seduction13/12/18 06:39 PM
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Just reading your replies and post here, it seems like you're massively fetishizing asian/Japanese girls to a ridiculous degree. ​ ​
/r/seduction12/12/18 05:45 AM
2

That's illegal bro. 18 years old and over. Come on, this should be self evident
/r/seduction12/12/18 05:44 AM
1

I'd recommend reading "Models" by Mark Manson to really figure out what being a "more interesting guy" means exactly. ​
/r/seduction12/12/18 03:29 AM
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Nope, you don't have to be "smooth" at all over text. In fact, I'd recommend using text minimally to only setup hangouts/dates/etc
/r/seduction11/12/18 11:33 PM
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I think you really need to calibrate your approaches. If you're using the same line each time on different girls, that's not gonna work. Also, your other comments were deleted. Not sure if you deleted them or if they were removed by mods. In any case, I'll just say this: You seem to have a massive victim complex. If 90% of people respond a certain way to you, then more likely than not it's something to do with you and not them. Either 90% of people are wrong about you or something's wrong with y…
/r/seduction11/12/18 11:31 PM
1

You sound massively bitter/resentful man. Don't get bitter, get better
/r/seduction11/12/18 09:58 PM
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If you actually get women who tell you "get away from me weirdo" regularly from women that you talk to, it's time to seriously reconsider how you're approaching these women and how you're portraying yourself in terms of clothing/fitness/cleanliness/etc. ​ You shouldn't be getting these sorts of comments. Read "Models" by Mark Manson for more info ​
/r/seduction11/12/18 09:44 PM
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Nope
/r/seduction11/12/18 09:25 PM
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As you said, she might or might not be interested. It's not a hard rejection, it's a "maybe" but leaning on "no". However, you have to ALWAYS ASSUME ATTRACTION. That's the key
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:20 PM
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Yes. The "I don't know what to say" is an excuse you use to not approach. What I've learned is that it doesn't really matter what you say to start the interaction, as long as you make the girl feel good about herself and you keep the interaction fun and positive. It's not bout what you say, it's about how you make her feel. You don't have to start telling her Shakespearean sonnets to get her attention. They might make for good romance reading, but that's not going to get a girl interested. You c…
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:18 PM
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Because dealing with rejection is difficult. This is why 99% of the time it's the guy asking the girl out, not the other way around. It's because a girl asking a guy out could lead to the girl getting rejected. And that's difficult to deal with. So she knows that by traditional roles the guy is supposed to ask the girl out, so she'll do that so she doesn't expose herself to the possibility of being rejected. ​ ​
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:15 PM
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Nice! I'm a big fan of his work
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:13 PM
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What you have to is what's called "Exposure therapy". You can do this by yourself or have somebody guide you through the process if you need extra help. In essence, what you do is you gradually encounter whatever it is that you are afraid of over and over again, in increasing large amounts, so that you can get over your fear. So let's say you're afraid of even talking to a beautiful woman. How would you get over this fear using exposure therapy? Maybe you go up to 5 women (don't have to be attra…
/r/seduction11/12/18 05:12 PM
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Nice dude! I'd kill to be 6'4", not sure why you're wording it like it's a negative haha. What I've learned is that whatever it is that you have, though, be willing to "own" that. I'm a 5'7 short white guy who's kinda nerdy, but I own that and the girls that I'd be interested in (nerdy/smart/artsy) often respond well to that. ​ There's a ton of attractive girls out there who would love to makeout and have sex with a tall black guy. Also, "relatively unattractive face" doesn't really matter as lo…
/r/seduction10/12/18 11:11 PM
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You sound like you're incredibly needy. I'd recommend reading "Models" by Mark Manson, I think the advice he provides could really be helpful to you. I used to be similar to you, I'd text girls a whole bunch, worry that they didn't like me when they didn't text me back after a few hours, etc. Use text minimally. If you want to talk to a person, do it either over the phone or (even better) in person. ​
/r/seduction10/12/18 11:00 PM
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Don't get bitter. Get better
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:37 PM
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Disagree with u/AHigherTruth. Always assume attraction. If you want to hangout with her, just ask her to hangout again for next year. You are overthinking this shit way too much. If she's not interested in you, she won't reply or she'll say she's not available to hangout
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:26 PM
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Just tell her you want to continue hanging out next year. Unless she's meeting up with a new guy every day, she's not going to forget you after a month.
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:24 PM
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Yes, you're overthinking things. She gave you a smile in the text and multiple exclamation points. She's attracted to you. ​ ​
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:23 PM
2

Probably some reference to prostitution/drugs. ​ ​ ​
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:21 PM
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I think you're overanalyzing things WAY too much. Obviously there was some interest on her part, but something came up on her end. Maybe her ex-boyfriend texted her out of the blue and they decided to get back together. Maybe her mom just died. Maybe she's failing her classes and is stressed/depressed. ​ The point being, you don't really know what's going on so don't even try to analyze the situation. Just ignore her and move on, don't continue texting her. If she's genuinely interested and some…
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:19 PM
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You sound like you're in massive resentment territory just based on these comments. If a girl asks you a question and you answer, there's not really a need for her to continue the conversation on your part. ​ You need to do some self-reflection about how you're viewing these women
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:14 PM
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If a girl goes from hugging you, smiling, etc. to blocking you on social media, and multiple women are blocking you on social media, it's time that you do some self reflection on how exactly it is that you're approaching asking these girls out as well as the self-image that you give out to other people in general. I can almost guarantee you that when you're asking these girls out, you're coming across as super needy, cringy, and a "chode" (as much as I hate that word), and (even if might not lik…
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:11 PM
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Long-winded video that doesn't really add any value. If you're actually getting several dozen phone #s and all flake (as you've stated in the video), then you need to do some serious self reflection about how you're coming across in texts
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:05 PM
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She's asking if you're available. If she wasn't interested, she wouldn't continue asking you when you're available. Followup
/r/seduction10/12/18 07:01 PM
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Yes, but it can work. Maybe part of the reason you look like crap with a shaved head is because you're not fit.
/r/seduction09/12/18 05:57 PM
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Alright, here's the thing. You need to stop using routines and go about this more naturally. That doesn't mean you can't have a framework when you're doing approaches, but it does mean being able and willing to improvise within that framework. ​ Read "Models" by Mark Manson and internalize the message there. Good luck
/r/seduction09/12/18 05:56 PM
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I agree with u/GnarDogAwkward. ALWAYS ASSUME ATTRACTION. She likes you and she wants you to initiate being flirtatious.
/r/seduction09/12/18 05:52 PM
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Like the other guy said, you can't just straight up tell her a girl to "bring a friend next time" over text unless you're a celebrity like Brad Pitt or something or have god-tier looks. ​ If you'd really like to do this, start getting into a sexual conversation with a girl and ask her something about girls (e.g. "Have you ever kissed a girl before?") to see if she's even interested. If she responds with yes or she says no but she's interested, then you MIGHT (keyword MIGHT) have something to wor…
/r/seduction09/12/18 05:51 PM
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There's literally nothing to analyze here. You are overthinking things. Stop it. ​ It's going to be fine
/r/seduction09/12/18 05:48 PM
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Just reading your description of this woman gives me a headache. If I were in this situation, I'd probably lessen the amount that I'm hanging out with her. ​ ​
/r/seduction09/12/18 04:58 AM
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Just say, "totally fine, we can still hangout as friends" if you still want to hangout with her for platonic purposes. Don't see the problem with that
/r/seduction08/12/18 07:03 AM
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Sure, but why would you ever want to be in a relationship with a very overweight girl? Her being overweight tells me all I need to know about how she treats her body and how she treats her life in general
/r/seduction08/12/18 07:01 AM
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Agree, she needs to meet you in person and know who you are for this to work
/r/seduction08/12/18 07:00 AM
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Not a bad idea at all, but obviously be socially calibrated about it. Some people just want to get to their destination and not talk to people, so be aware of that if they're being very reserved when you start talking to them
/r/seduction08/12/18 07:00 AM
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always assume attraction and don't assume that she's playing games. She might genuinely be incredibly busy. Just reschedule with her
/r/seduction08/12/18 03:18 AM
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Be open and honest with your intentions. Perhaps compliment how she looks. Generally, a girl will bring up something like "I have a boyfriend" when they're not interested or don't want to seem like you're hitting on them
/r/seduction08/12/18 03:17 AM
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Stop using Tinder or other online apps to game, it is a crutch and it will cripple your game in the future. Do "cold approach" and "social circle" game. The percentage of flakes that you get will be much lower (because it's more difficult to completely flake on somebody when you actually met them and know them). Also, you'll actually significantly improve your social skills
/r/seduction08/12/18 03:16 AM
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Women generally don't like to be rejected, so they'll do things like that where they try to get around your presence so you'll ask them out
/r/seduction07/12/18 10:49 PM
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Only use texting for logistics
/r/seduction07/12/18 10:48 PM
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Fair enough. I've always asked girls to get a drink or eat with them sometime later and they'll say something like "just to hangout?" and I'll say yes. Again, it puts less pressure on the girl if she's not sure or if she has a boyfriend, or whatever.
/r/seduction07/12/18 07:56 PM
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I think there's generally two types of guys who learn about PUA Those who are generally secure in life in terms of work, money, self-esteem, etc. They're genuinely good guys but just seem to not have luck when it comes to girls. They learn some PUA techniques, internalize them, and in a year or so they're good to go with at least a girlfriend or a decent FWB. They're still the same good guys that they sued to be. ​ The second type are guys who are deeply insecure about themselves in almost every…
/r/seduction07/12/18 06:56 PM
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next time, ask to "hangout". It puts less pressure on the girl. ​ ​
/r/seduction07/12/18 06:43 PM
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Don't advertise on my posts man
/r/seduction07/12/18 06:40 AM
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Be yourself. Be open, honest, and direct with how you feel and what you want. Don't try to supplicate to her. Don't ask yourself "I wonder if she likes me" but ask yourself "I wonder what she's like"
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:46 PM
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ALWAYS ASSUME ATTRACTION
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:44 PM
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Some girls don't want to feel like they're just being used for sex and want something emotional in the relationship also. ​ Just tell invite her to go eat at a restaurant or something and say you want to get to know her better. ​
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:43 PM
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Just go up to her and talk to her after class. If she knows who you are already, just say you want to hangout outside of class and ask for her snap/insta/phone #/whatever. ​ ​
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:41 PM
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Learn to write better English first.
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:40 PM
1

I agree with theHalfMonty. Only use messaging/texting to figure out logistics of when to meetup or keep texting to a minimal.
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:40 PM
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You are way overthinking this stuff. She sent you a picture of her at work. She apologized multiple times. She's still interested. ​
/r/seduction06/12/18 11:04 PM
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Yes
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:41 PM
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Completely agree with you on this also. Offer as much value to other people as you can. Be a go-giver, not a go-getter
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:36 PM
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LOOL, good one
/r/seduction06/12/18 09:35 PM
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Watch Todd V Dating for good outer game stuff. I should also mention that there comes a point where you have too much theory and you don't take enough action. Don't use "I need to learn more game" as an excuse to not go out and talk to girls. You should be doing both.
/r/seduction06/12/18 06:36 AM
1

Approximately how many students attend your university? That's another key factor also
/r/seduction06/12/18 05:36 AM
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Tbh, that sounds like me before. I got some #s but I was way too needy and unconfident with myself so it led to nowhere. I definitely recommend internalizing the lessons from Todd V Dating and Mark Manson and then going out there and taking MASSIVE action.
/r/seduction06/12/18 05:30 AM
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If you really did "Hit on every girl", as you say, and didn't get any results then it's time to both seriously rethink how you're doing approaches and how you're presenting yourself in general. If you're a fat fuck who has dorito stains on your shirt and smell like mountain dew, then obviously cold approaching isn't going to work well at all. I'd recommend you read "Models" by Mark Manson ​ I also recommend you watch the following videos: ​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6V-G1CE1xc ​ https://w…
/r/seduction06/12/18 05:17 AM
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"Models" by Mark Manson
/r/seduction06/12/18 05:10 AM
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Hey man, as somebody who is 99% sure I have some form of aspergers I can tell you that you CAN improve your social skills and get better at talking to women. It'll take a bit longer than people who don't have aspergers, but I've noticed (at least for me) that once you get results then you start getting results exponentially because you can really understand the dynamics of a social situation because you view it from a very analytical framework. Don't let the aspergers label get to you. I've lite…
/r/seduction05/12/18 10:44 PM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson. TL;DR: Yes, you are massively overthinking this shit. Not everything a woman does is a shit-test. Not everything a woman does is a test to see how "alpha" you are. Not everything a woman does is her playing games with you. ​ Be willing to be direct, open, honest, and emotionally vulnerable to all the women you meet. If a girl invites you to something, and you genuinely want to go, just go. Don't focus on whether you're "chasing her" or if that makes you "alpha" or "…
/r/seduction05/12/18 10:35 PM
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Don't offer to carry her backpack. Comes off as way too try-hard and needy. If you're interested in her, just ask for her phone # then ask her out to get something to eat/drink.
/r/seduction05/12/18 07:19 PM
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read "Models" by Mark Manson
/r/seduction05/12/18 07:18 PM
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Just be open and honest with her about being sick. Nothing wrong with that, and if she's not batshit crazy she'll understand and reschedule.
/r/seduction05/12/18 07:18 PM
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Don't date coworkers ​ ​
/r/seduction05/12/18 07:16 PM
1

Disagree with using the line that the person above recommended, comes across as way too try-hard and is super cringy. My advice is that if it seems like you're being too try-hard, you should stop what you're doing. You don't need to use some specific "line" to impress a girl or make her laugh. Just text her what you really think/feel. Something like "Hey, I thought you were cute and would like to take you out to go eat sometime if you're interested. LOCATION is a really good place to eat"
/r/seduction05/12/18 05:30 AM
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Alright, here's the thing. I know this might come as a surprise to you, but women are people too. They are not simply sexual objects. Your problem is that you literally told her, directly to her face, that she is essentially just another notch on your belt of women you had sex with. You simply view her as a sexual conquest. Now, I don't know about you, but if I were in the woman's shoes I'd have a similar reaction also. ​
/r/seduction05/12/18 05:26 AM
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It's tinder. Get the fuck off of Tinder, bumble, and other dating apps and start meeting people in real life. You'll have a much lower flake rate, you'll meet higher quality women, and the relationships you get into will be significantly more fulfilling emotionally and physically
/r/seduction05/12/18 04:17 AM
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Like the other guy said, just talk to her motherfucker. She might have a boyfriend, she might be single looking to find a boyfriend, you never know until you make the approach.
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:50 AM
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I'll approach in grocery stores, etc and make an observation either about her or about the surrounding area. Although (at least for me) it's significantly more difficult to maintain a conversation with the girl when it's just at a random place like a grocery store because the girl usually has to go somewhere and there's not much to go off of. Still good for practice though.
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:49 AM
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/u/shugerdaddy 's suggestion is idiotic, try-hard, and self-absorbed. If you actually follow through with the suggestion, I feel bad for you. Come to terms with the fact that you're not always going to get closure with these sorts of things. Just take it as a rejection from the girl and move on. Doing things like sending her a picture of a hotter girl you're with just makes you come across as incredibly butt-hurt. Let me put it to you this way. Do you think Brad Pitt or Leo DiCaprio would give a…
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:47 AM
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You're overthinking this shit. If you're interested in hanging out, ask her to hangout and get food/drinks. If you're not interested, don't text her that. Be willing to polarize her so that she has to give you a yes or a no. Don't make it so that she's indifferent for too long
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:41 AM
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It's time to STOP. Seriously though, you're going out with these women for your own emotional validation and you seem to have no intention of actually wanting a relationship with them or having sex with them. Going out with these women is a waste of both your time as well as her time. Stop using online dating platforms such as Tinder, Bumble, etc. and start doing cold approach daygame/nightgame. I guarantee you that after doing this for a few months, the quality of women you get through cold app…
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:40 AM
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If you feel like you're "straight up harassing" women through daygame, then your approach is either INCREDIBLY off or you're continually approaching in the wrong areas. You can be very successful through daygame, as long as you do it in the proper environment. If you're in a shopping place on Christmas Eve while everyone is trying to buy presents for their family, they're probably going to be in a rush and won't be interested in talking. However, if you go to a yoga center or something and you g…
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:36 AM
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Maybe approach when you're walking outside the gym? I'd say as a general rule it's not a good idea to do an approach at the gym, but that doesn't mean it can't be done. If you see a good looking girl, feel free to give her a compliment and see how she responds. If she responds enthusiastically, then try to continue the conversation
/r/seduction05/12/18 02:32 AM
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Sure, if you want to
/r/seduction04/12/18 10:15 PM
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I'd recommend you read the book "Models" by Mark Manson. I think you'd really resonate with his advice. I'll mention a few things. ​ First, you CAN pull a girl but it probably won't be by the end of this year. Give it a few months at least. Your goal right now is to get better at approaching women, talking to them, maintaining the interaction, and asking for their contact info to hangout. Second, stop trying to pull at nightclubs. I can guarantee you that the type of girls who would be intereste…
/r/seduction04/12/18 09:35 PM
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You're overthinking this shit. Unless she tells you "I'm not interested", ALWAYS ASSUME ATTRACTION. Also, saw your response that she's "testing" you. Not everything is a test -- some women are just genuinely busy or have better things to do than respond to a guy who texts them "wyd?" Also, my advice is to only use text for logistics of figuring out when she's available to hangout/meetup. Only once you really get to know her well should you use texting for anything other than that reason.
/r/seduction04/12/18 09:26 PM
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Your post makes you come off as way too desperate/needy. Start cold approaching women through daygame/nightgame. You're going to have a don't give a fuck attitude soon with women like these
/r/seduction04/12/18 09:23 PM
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My advice is to also do "daygame". Generally, you can find higher quality girls through daygame than through gaming at a super loud club or a bar (at least in my opinion). ​ Another advice is to be outcome independent. When you're so dependent on one particular outcome (e.g. "Have sex with a girl"), that causes you to become needy, weird, and desperate. ​
/r/seduction04/12/18 09:20 PM
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My advice is to only use texting for logistics, or else you'll get way too needy and attached to the girl. obviously don't be autistic about it, if the girl texts you a question or sends you something first then respond obviously. Just give it a week or so. If she still says she's unavailable/not interested after the second invite, then text her something along the lines of "Alright, let me know when you'll be available to hangout. If you're not interested that's cool too". The second sentence i…
/r/seduction04/12/18 09:18 PM
1

I guarantee you it's because you're coming off as way too needy and desperate. I'd know because in hindsight that's what happened to me with every girl that ghosted me or stopped responding to me
/r/seduction03/12/18 06:24 PM
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What do you mean RP? I'm acknowledging that you can still get girls even if you're not in the top 10% of looks/money, but I'm saying it's not going to happen through Tinder. It's going to happen through cold approaching in day game/night game. Besides, most girls on Tinder wouldn't want to necessarily be women I'd like to hang around continually anyway
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:29 PM
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Dumb advice.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:27 PM
1

You stop letting texts affect you when you become abundant with women. At that point, it doesn't matter if she texts you back or not because you have several other women you can contact at any moment
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:14 AM
1

To be honest, unless you're in the top 10% of men in terms of looks/money I'd say ignore online apps (e.g. Tinder) and only focus on night game and daygame.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:13 AM
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I've seen you post about this girl multiple times already. At this point, your posts are coming off as incredibly desperate, that you don't care about her feelings, and borderline stalkerish. Drop her and forget about her.
/r/seduction03/12/18 05:11 AM
1

fair enough
/r/seduction02/12/18 08:06 PM
2

Agree with the other commenter, this wasn't really a well calibrated approach. Going from "I like your nails" to "let me get your phone #" doesn't really make much sense. You need to have a premise for why you're getting the phone #. So continue the conversation, exchange names, then say something like "We should get food together around here sometime" or "I'm trying to meet new people in the area and it'd be great to hangout and get a drink". If she responds positively, then you can ask for the…
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:20 PM
1

Agree with what another commenter said. The way you get the "one perfect girl" is by being able to get and attract 10 different girls and then choosing the one you like the most
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:15 PM
3

Actually not a bad idea, considering that most of the people that would go to those schools would either be girls, gay guys, or meek guys.
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:11 PM
2

Not really much you can do, probably best you can do is a # close at that point.
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:07 PM
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Agree with the other commenters, I wouldn't want to be with a girl who surrounds herself with people who are negative towards you just because of your race. Not worth the time or effort
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:06 PM
1

Stupid method for sociopaths to use to manipulate women into sleeping with them
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:05 PM
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Could be a fake number, could be that you put the phone # incorrectly into your phone, maybe she just wanted to be nice to you to not hurt your feelings. Doesn't really matter. Ignore her and move on. ​ Also, I'd recommend texting from now on instead of calling. Texting is much easier for girls because girls can respond when they're available ​
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:04 PM
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Nice! Keep up the pimp game
/r/seduction02/12/18 05:02 PM
2

I think I mentioned this in another post, but I think the whole "just assume that every hot girl is a horrible person/idiot so you don't put them on a pedestal" is fundamentally bad advice, especially if you want to have a fulfilling long term relationship. The point is to be able to see the girl for who she actually is, without putting her on a pedestal anyway. There are a lot of girls I know who are smart, good looking, hard working, and generous. Still doesn't mean you have to put them on a p…
/r/seduction02/12/18 04:57 PM
2

Just being honest here. Doesn't seem like you did much wrong. Just be patient and wait for her to respond. If she doesn't respond, take it as she's not interested. Sometimes girls will still give out their phone # to be nice and won't do anything with it. If a girl is interested in hanging out, she'll reply and say "Hey I'm busy, how about another time" or she'll offer some other time. Just my two cents
/r/seduction02/12/18 06:41 AM
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I'd recommend reading Mark Manson's book "Models" for more advice on this. In essence, be willing to be completely authentic, open, and emotionally vulnerable with her. That means things like being willing to tell jokes that she might or might not find funny, being willing to tease her for flirting, telling her what you really think about her, etc. If you think she looks pretty in a dress she's wearing, or the way she smiles is completely adorable to you, tell her that. ​ That's also part of bei…
/r/seduction02/12/18 06:38 AM
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Unless you're in the top 10% of men in terms of money/looks (and even then, it's more about looks), then I'd stay away from online dating. It's much easier to get more fulfilling relationships with high quality women through cold approach and social circle game
/r/seduction02/12/18 06:32 AM
2

Eh, I don't think that's really a very healthy way of viewing things at least for a long term relationship. Maybe for a one night stand.
/r/seduction02/12/18 06:27 AM
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Yeah, I think the guy was coming off way too strong then. Could you give me an example of what he was saying to you? ​
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:44 PM
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Also, absolutely not true. When I walk up to girls and talk to them, often times they're laughing, having fun, smiling, etc. What you're describing is pretending to be nice. What I mean is that many girls are genuinely nice.
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:35 PM
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That still doesn't refute my point
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:33 PM
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What I look for in a girl: ​ At least average looking + good sense of humor (i.e. vibes well with my jokes and humor) + compassionate/generous+understands the value of hard work
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:12 PM
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It's fine to pay, but the key thing to note is that you shouldn't expect anything out of it (that's the "unspoken contract" that Glover is referring to). Instead, pay for her movie because you want to be a nice person. But again, don't expect anything out of it. Just because you paid for her movie doesn't mean she's going to be your girlfriend, or sleep with you, or whatever.
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:09 PM
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People are nicer than you realize, especially girls. Also, most people's lives are boring and if you provide them with some fun or entertainment, then they will want to hangout with you. ​ Rejection from a girl isn't as bad as you think it is ​
/r/seduction01/12/18 11:06 PM
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This is dumb as fuck. Manipulating women into sleeping with you will only attract manipulative, sociopathic women or super low self-esteem women because they're the only women that'll put up with that.
/r/seduction01/12/18 08:15 PM
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Agree with the other guy. If you're just lifting to get laid or get hot girls, you're doing it wrong. I lift now because it helps me feel more confident in myself and I feel like I have more "swagger" after a lifting session, if that makes sense. ​ But being buff isn't a necessary requirement to get hot girls, nor is it sufficient. You actually have to be willing to approach attractive women, and ask for their numbers, and be willing to be rejected. Look at RSDTyler as an example of a guy who is…
/r/seduction01/12/18 08:09 PM
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You came off as way to needy and desperate in the texts. Trust me on this, only use texting for logistics. Especially when you've just met the girl or you've only gone on one or two dates with her. ​ The reason why is because it's difficult to properly convey emotions through text. Also, asking her bullshit questions over text like "How's your week going?" isn't going to fucking cut it. ​ If you wanted to hangout with her, you should've just gone in with the following (this is an example, obviou…
/r/seduction01/12/18 08:07 PM
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I guarantee you it's because you're coming off as way too needy and desperate. Whenever it came to women who wouldn't respond back or flake on me, I've realized in hindsight it's because I became way too invested in her and needy. Also, the thing about girls is that they don't want to feel like sluts or like you're just using them. So if you're just telling a girl immediately "hey let's fuck" then that's not really a good premise/frame to approach the girl with.
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:57 PM
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Everybody else is giving stupid fucking advice, just being honest. I recommend you read the book "Stylelife challenge" and go through all of the challenges to get out of your comfort and to start building a solid social circle. Good luck! Also, even if you're rich, good looking, or muscular doesn't mean girls are immediately going to drop their pants and get wet as soon as they see you. You're still going to have to do some work, it'll just make things easier for you
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:55 PM
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No, although I would say that the common advice that's given here of "Just go to a club to meet a girl" is inherently flawed, in my opinion. Not every guy is going to vibe well with girls who regularly go clubbing, for example. If you're more of a nerdy, intelligent kind of a guy who looks for intelligent women then I'd say the best place to meet girls would be at or near a university campus, for example. ​ ​
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:53 PM
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Your last sentence makes you come across like an Elliot Rodger wannabe. Just go into an interaction without any expectations, have fun no matter what, be willing to be proactive when it comes to women. ​
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:51 PM
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You're overthinking this shit man. Just go to the movies with her and enjoy it, don't have any expectations from it and see what happens from there. She might want to transition more into a relationship, which is why she's offering this. Maybe she just wants to do something fun together with you.
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:49 PM
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Depends. Are you a girl trying to seduce a guy or a guy trying to seduce a guy? ​
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:48 PM
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Because, whether you recognize it or not, when you really really care about a girl you probably get a "needy" vibe that doesn't come off with other girls. I'd know because I've noticed that a similar thing happens to me as well. The only way to deal with this, IMO, is having more abundance of women and taking more action
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:47 PM
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What? After class, just ask her to hangout sometime to study or something for the class.
/r/seduction01/12/18 07:46 PM
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lookup "docdroid stylelife challenge pdf" and "docdroid mark manson models pdf" on google and you should find it
/r/seduction30/11/18 07:03 PM
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Several ways you can do this. Go on tinder, specify the age range to be older (30+ women). They're probably going to be easier to have sex with tbh, since they're not getting as much attention as before and they're more willing to go with a guy who will give them validation Go to bars, and approach older women
/r/seduction29/11/18 10:04 PM
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No, but you need to be significantly more calibrated in terms of how you approach. If you're a newbie, I'd recommend you practice at a mall or some other venue you don't usually go to get properly calibrated when it comes to approaching girls
/r/seduction29/11/18 10:00 PM
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Go home you're drunk
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:58 PM
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"Hail Mary Pass" is a metaphor from football. Essentially it means a move or action that has a very small chance of success that is only made if you're very desperate or have no other options
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:40 PM
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The guy who answered above is acting obtuse and is completely wrong. Please read my other response
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:37 PM
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Could be any number of reasons. Maybe she's busy studying for finals and can't be bothered to text you. Maybe her mom just died and she's grieving her death. Maybe she just wanted to talk to you for emotional validation, got what she needed, and doesn't want to talk anymore. Maybe you got the wrong phone #. Point is, doesn't really matter. Wait and be patient. If after a week she doesn't text you back, then I'd say ignore her. If you want to continue to pursue, then you can always text her and s…
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:36 PM
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So starting out, I'd approach using the smallest "bit" possible, usually with a question. This question would require at most a one sentence response. So go up to the girl and ask her "Do you have the time" (classic method for overcoming MASSIVE approach anxiety, because it's an incredibly innocuous question). If you're feeling particularly adventurous, you can ask her other things or make a statement about her that would allow you to stay in the interaction longer. For example, I've started usi…
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:31 PM
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Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:24 PM
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So here's the thing. When asking a girl out, I'd say stay away from using terms like "I'd like to take you out on a date". A "date" sounds way too formal, and you don't even know if you'll like the girl or not. Instead, escalate in terms of how you talk to her. So maybe say something like "You have the most adorable look on your face right now." or "I really like the way you styled your hair. It makes you look badass." The point is, the compliment should be genuine and authentic. Then just ask h…
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:23 PM
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To be honest, I'd say it's probably too late to text her now. Generally with these sorts of things, you want to text her ASAP (at least within the next day at the latest) so she knows who you are. You could try texting her as a hail mary pass, but don't expect anything. Next time, I'd say when you get the phone # then after you leave her, text her a few hours later and say "Hey it's [NAME], the guy you met at [LOCATION]. Really cool meeting you". Maybe reference an earlier topic that you had in …
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:21 PM
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Some girls want to "take things slow" because they don't want to seem easy. Respect that decision. Try to increase your comfort game
/r/seduction29/11/18 06:47 PM
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I'd recommend starting out small if you have difficulty talking to girls. Your problem is literally going up and talking to them, so START SMALL. Go up to girls you are attracted to and ask VERY basic questions that can be answered in a sentence or less. Something like "Do you have the time?" or "Do you know of any good places to eat around here? I'm looking for something new." This will get you used to actually going up and approaching girls. After you're fine doing that, then you can continue …
/r/seduction29/11/18 06:46 PM
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We don't need more shitty dating coaches
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:03 AM
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Like the other guy said, calling it a "date" puts way too much pressure on the other person. Just get to know her better, if she seems cool then feel free to escalate through touching, flirting, etc. If not, then you can just keep her as a friend ​
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:02 AM
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You're overthinking this. Some people are assholes. Ignore them ​
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:01 AM
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^ This. They clearly want a reaction from it.
/r/seduction29/11/18 02:00 AM
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You're overthinking this. If she likes you and wants to continue hanging out, she'll let you know when she's available. If she's not interested, she'll keep stalling and coming up with excuses. She might genuinely be busy next week also. ​ ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 10:59 PM
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So as a rule of thumb, I never assume a girl is playing games with me. Sometimes this can lead to situations where I lose a girl who wants me to chase super hard, but eh whatever. Not interested in dating those types of girls, anyway. She said "Hey, I'd love to [hangout]". That means she is still interested. Just tell her, "Oh ok let me know when you're available".
/r/seduction28/11/18 10:51 PM
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To be honest, you sound WAY too fucking needy. ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 10:46 PM
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Cool, glad you admit that. Yeah, tbh most "Dating coaches" teach similar stuff to "Models" and "stylelife challenge". Ultimately, it's just a matter of actually approaching, and asking for a phone # (at least daygame wise, I haven't really had success with nightgame). ​ ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 06:40 AM
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Hey man, Trust be told, you can do something similar for almost free by yourself. I recommend reading Mark Manson's book "Models: Attract women through honesty" and the "stylelife challenge". PM me if you want to get a PDF version of the book ​ Start doing approaches on your own. I recommend doing it in high traffic areas so you can do more approaches
/r/seduction28/11/18 05:08 AM
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I thought getting girls would solve my problems, turns out I just had a very poor deep-seated inner mentality and state in general that I needed to solve first. I'm generally 100% good in other aspects of my life, and getting girls is what i'm focusing on besides school/work
/r/seduction28/11/18 02:37 AM
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by "soft next", it means give her less attention in the future. Also, set boundaries by telling her that you're giving her the attention that you can and if she doesn't like it or she needs more, then she can find it with somebody else
/r/seduction28/11/18 02:36 AM
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You're 17. Obviously you're not going to have a lot of money. Invite her to take her somewhere where you can hangout for free (e.g. nearby park, on campus after class, etc.) ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 02:04 AM
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Only if you genuinely want to kiss her.
/r/seduction28/11/18 02:00 AM
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No, not immediately as least. Maybe once you know her well you can tell her that. ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 02:00 AM
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Exactly -- sounds counterintuitive but I love getting rejected by girls instead of indifference. Provides me with closure, I don't have to waste my emotional/mental energy thinking about her anymore, and helps me think on what I need to improve.
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:58 AM
1

Stop using Tinder and start cold approaching and meeting girls through your social circle
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:57 AM
1

Depends on how soon you do it. If you're already dating her for several months and you compliment her boobs, I don't see how it'd be an issue (unless she's particularly prude). If you're complimenting her boobs as your opener or the first few times you talk to her, it makes it seem like 1. You're a horndog, and 2. You only view her as a sexual object and not as a person
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:56 AM
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Actually having more interesting experiences that were genuinely funny, interesting, or wild. Most "poor storytellers" are only bad storytellers because they don't have interesting or unique experiences. Telling a story about how you went to Disneyland isn't going to cut it.
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:54 AM
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If it's long distance, doesn't seem worth the effort IMO. At best she's a FWB. Sounds like she got needy, saw that you didn't need her, and needs more emotional validation from you to feel better about herself. I'd say soft next her, or set clearer boundaries ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:53 AM
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I think all you need is "Models" and "NMMNG" assuming everything else in your life is good, which is a big assumption. Oftentimes, a lot of guys want to get a girl because they think it'll solve other problems in their life (e.g. low self esteem, depression, etc.) Getting a girl doesn't fix those problems, unlike what many guys think.
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:45 AM
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Not sure what you're referring to, but I'd recommend leaving this girl alone and only texting her to setup logistics to hangout. If she responds, she responds. If she doesn't, wait a while then text her to hangout. Obviously, don't be autistic about it. If she messages you or asks you a question, then feel free to answer through text. But other than that, I'd recommend not using texts except for logistics.
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:42 AM
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That's a stupid line. I'd recommend not using canned lines unless you're opening a girl (and even then they're iffy).
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:38 AM
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Sounds to me like she's one of those girls who go to bars and hit on men to see if they still "got it", and was using you for emotional validation. I'd recommend forgetting about her. IF -- and that' a big IF, you think she might be interested then I'd recommend sending her something similar to this: "Hey, I had a great time with you at [LOCATION]. Would love to hangout again. Let me know when you're available. If you're not interested, that's cool too" Then emotionally forget about her. If she'…
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:36 AM
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Disagree with the other guy on it necessarily meaning you've been "friendzoned". ​ The term "date" has a lot of subtle emotional subtext to it, and I've often found it's easier to just tell a girl you want to "hangout". Just do what you'd normally do on a "date", just don't call it that. Talk to her, get her laughing, touch her if she looks comfortable with it. This will polarize her. When done properly, you can continue doing this or she'll say something like "Hey, I just want to be friends and…
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:32 AM
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This is an interesting one. ​ I'd say it's probably best to address the elephant in the room (the fact that you're wheelchair bound) very quickly so it doesn't become weird or awkward or the other person feels bad. Maybe feel free to make a light joke about the wheelchair to show that it's not a big deal -- it'll show you have a sense of humor and girls won't "pity" you like a lost puppy because they feel bad. It doesn't matter what you say so much as how you make her feel -- you could say some …
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:29 AM
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Simple. Start only use texting for logistical purposes (i.e. figuring out when she's available to hangout) ​ Texting is a very poor way of displaying your attitude/personality. Also, you're probably texting these girls WAY too much and often. Often a sign of neediness (e.g. you don't have anything better to do)
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:22 AM
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Sounds like she needs you for emotional validation. Doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship to me -- this could very easily lead to co-dependency if you're not careful. ​ Tell her you're giving her what you can, and that if she doesn't like that then she should find somebody else. ​
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:19 AM
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The lessons from Models, when properly internalized, leads to a significantly more fulfilling life for men and rock-solid "Inner Game". To be honest, I'd say "Models" and "No More Mr Nice Guy" are the only two books that men need to read in regards to relationships/dating
/r/seduction28/11/18 01:16 AM
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Read Mark Manson's book "Models"
/r/seduction30/07/18 12:07 AM
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Just continue the conversation, if she's not interested she'll stop responding eventually. Some women are just bad texters or conversationalists because they never had to learn how to get better because guys would pursue them anyway. That doesn't mean they don't like you or they're not interested
/r/seduction30/07/18 12:04 AM
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Just reported you. You don't want actual help, you want a pity party. I'm not giving you that satisfaction
/r/seduction30/07/18 12:02 AM
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So stop doing that. Take some fucking action. The "perfect woman" doesn't exist, because when you get to know any person enough you discover that they have at least some flaws. Maybe not looks wise, but could be personality wise. I know from personal experience -- I know some beautiful looking women who are fucking boring to talk to and don't do anything with their lives. I know some women who have amazing careers, are intelligent, fun to talk to, even though they don't have the best looks. Get …
/r/seduction30/07/18 12:01 AM
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Go find a therapist to talk to. Seriously. Your self-esteem issues are a bigger problem than your looks.
/r/seduction29/07/18 11:58 PM
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If you're making moves on her and she has a boyfriend, she'll usually tell you after a while. Just from personal experience
/r/seduction29/07/18 11:56 PM
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I'd say after the first time having sex with her, saying something like "I'm not looking for anything too serious" (i.e. a relationship)
/r/seduction29/07/18 11:56 PM
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The fact that you're posting on an anonymous internet forum to get validation tells me more about your self-esteem than anything else. I'd suggest improving your self-image first and how you view yourself. Talk to a therapist about this if you need to.
/r/seduction29/07/18 11:55 PM
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Sometimes you just gotta shoot your shot. Call or text her and ask her out to go somewhere. At worst, she turns you down politely (or doesn't respond). At best, you go on a date with a girl. The fact that you posted a wall of text about the entire scenario shows you're overthinking the situation too much. Focus less on thinking and more on actions
/r/seduction29/07/18 11:46 PM
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Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Waiting to reply to a text is a stupid game. Text when you're able to -- if you're genuinely busy then don't text back. This forces you to fill your time with other things so that you are **genuinely** busy so that you won't text back immediately. Believe me, it works
/r/seduction31/05/18 12:32 AM
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The number of followers you have on Instagram isn't stopping you from getting women.
/r/seduction31/05/18 12:28 AM
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Note that Tyler (Owen Cook) has a brand/product that he's trying to sell to people. He's obviously not going to show all the times that he tried to do this and he failed. There are probably times where he did this and girls got creeped out, walked away immediately, etc but he left that part out. Todd V actually mentioned in one video how RSD would purposely manipulate their videos to make them seem more successful at pickup than they actually are.
/r/seduction29/04/18 01:22 AM
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Don't run direct game. i.e., you should not be doing the same things that men do when they approach women as it can come off as overly aggressive and direct. Because guys rarely get attention like this, it can come off as you simply trying to sell them something or something like that. It can also come off as intimidating to a guy because they probably won't know what to do in that situation. Read Mark Manson's book "Models" also
/r/seduction27/04/18 06:22 PM
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Grant Cardone is a salesman with a lot of followers on Youtube, and he provides a lot of motivational videos and training videos for salespeople. He pretty much says exactly what you say. "Take massive action" is a phrase that he uses pretty often in his books. Another phrase he uses often is "if you're not first you're last" and "be obsessed or be average". He advocates for taking action, even if you're not sure of what action to take, because a lot of action is better than no action at all. Ju…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 05:44 PM
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Check out grant cardone. Similar thought process to you
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 04:39 AM
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Yes, I understand. And?
/r/askTRP24/04/18 03:11 PM
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either earn money online or save up and expat. that's one of the recommendations he provides in the book. He only recommends living a minimalist lifestyle if you continue to live in the United States, as it minimizes the amount of tax dollars that the U.S. government can take from you. He only recommends the "smith and wesson retirement plan" when you've become a geriatric
/r/askTRP21/04/18 05:30 PM
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I've noticed that when I'm too needy they will often stop interacting with you.
/r/seduction05/04/18 06:43 AM
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Agreed. Whenever I've showed too much investment then the relationship screwed up
/r/seduction03/04/18 04:30 AM
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