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| 1 | I can be the funniest guy a lot of people know. But I can also try too hard at times.How do I stop myself from trying too hard, but how do I also avoid being a boring stick in the mud?Being funny is a real asset. People like likable people. The problem is that being funny is only a part of who we are. It's good to be able to switch at any given moment. It's good to pay attention to the signals that your friends give you. Are they becoming quiet? Then tone down the jokes. Also when it's time to get sexy, jokes could really work against you. It's important to be able to look at the girl in the eyes. It's like the old expression, "the eyes are the window to the soul." When you l… | /r/seduction | 08/01/19 03:48 PM |
| 1 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpIt's all through practice. I go dancing every week which has helped me a lot the last few years. I learn to dance and feel comfortable dancing. I meet people and cute girls. It seems that I meet someone new every week. It's great. Just get out and practice. Dance is great because I don't go out to meet girls. I go out to dance, so it takes the pressure off of me plus learning to dance gives me a lot of confidence and boosts my self esteem. Plus, going to the same event every week, I have develop… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 10:39 AM |
| 1 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpI'd say confidence comes from not giving a fuck. Did you ever get really angry and have to interact with strangers. After a big fight, you are flustered and if someone comes up and is critical, you are just going to give them a look like, "are you serious?" Like the song goes, "Freedom is another word for nothing left to loose." It's about not giving a fuck. I'm polite and I enjoy talking to people but if someone has an attitude, I'm so out of there. It's not that I think I'm better. It's just t… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 03:42 AM |
| 2 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpI explain this in my previous comment but it's literally as easy as saying, "Nice weather." Stick to general subjects. If you direct your questions or comments to someone, it might make them uncomfortable, but if you say something like, "Man, it's a nice day." people are more inclined to respond. Also if you could make a funny or interesting comment about something in the environment, you increase your chances as well. Example, you are at a bar and you go up to get a beer. There is a girl next t… | /r/seduction | 22/12/18 03:34 AM |
| 5 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpYou have to find "the flow". Playing music or dancing is a great way to find the flow. The best conversations are not forced. They are just an organic outcome of the situation. Practice letting your mind wander. Spend time looking around your environment, allowing your mind to empty and just soak in all that is around you. Lately, while I am waiting at a register, I may, for example, look up, noticing what kind of ceiling is in the room. It's by getting out of your head and into the environment … | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 07:34 PM |
| 1 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpTrue. The way that I usually strike up conversations is by reacting to something in the environment, and those who are open will usually respond positively. For example, I am waiting in a check out line and some funky Motown is one. I might make a conversation around how the music makes you want to dance. "It's hard not to dance to this music." Then I might elaborate. "That would be funny if all the cashiers started dancing while checking people out. They could film it and put it on Youtube and … | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 07:27 PM |
| 39 | 22m Kissless Virgin needs helpThis. I meet people everywhere I go. In the convenience store. In the park. In restaurants. All over, where ever people are. People would be surprised at the reaction you get when you give a stranger a warm, genuine smile. Just think of a cute puppy or sweet child. I relaxed, genuine smile. Most people will smile back and a large percentage will go out of their way to talk to you. And I don't just talk to the hot girls. I talk to everyone. If you are focused on one thing, it's pretty obvious to … | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 05:15 PM |
| 5 | So I'm a hardcore people pleaser, which seems like a bad thing for attracting people. My issues mainly come with attempting to make people laugh and not make them mad. How do I break this bad habit?I was a people pleaser. I didn't even know that I was till I found out what that was. A people pleaser is effected when someone doesn't approve of his actions. Someone with confidence simply doesn't care if that person is mad or not, though I never do things that I think would annoy people. I am a genuinely nice person and if I have a dollar to share I will. And that hasn't changed even now. If I can help someone I will, but I have found that, at times, and to certain people, it makes you look w… | /r/seduction | 19/12/18 01:40 AM |
| 6 | The odds are good, but the goods are odd.When you treat a woman like a goal or statistic or a notch on your belt, they'll treat you the same. Half the time if guys actually thought about the women they went on dates with/messaged on apps/tried to hit on at bars and got rejected by they'd realize, shit, I didn't even like that girl in the first place. We didn't have a connection. We were incompatible. This is where I'm at. I'm stepping up for the women but I'm finding that the women are not stepping up for me. And I am not OK any more w… | /r/seduction | 12/12/18 02:53 AM |
| 36 | A list of things I would tell my younger selfOne of my favorite thoughts these days is, "There is ALWAYS the next one. And she is usually much better than the last." Never be so desperate that you get bent out of shape over a girl. Always remember that you won't even remember her in a year from now. Another helpful thought is that is to be thrilled at whatever level of success you have with a girl. When it comes to girls, we are ALWAYS looking at the glass half empty. No matter how much success you have, you always want more. No, you NEED … | /r/seduction | 08/12/18 12:37 AM |
| 3 | A list of things I would tell my younger selfAt some point in getting to know each other, there is always "the" conversation where you tell her what you are into and looking for and where she says what she is into and looking for. It's funny because you are talking in general, "I just want to have fun and hang out. I'm usually not happy in a 'relationship.'" but you are really saying what you want from her. It just comes up. Just be honest. Don't hesitate to say what you are looking for. | /r/seduction | 08/12/18 12:26 AM |
| 2 | I have a 95% success rate when I don’t really care about the girl I’m going for. This drops significantly as soon as I find the girl to be somewhat special. How can I work on this?Would you rather spend time with a nervous 10 or a fun 7? Hot girls get hit on all day long and gets really tiring for them, so I do the opposite of everyone else and practically ignore her in favor of people who I can joke and have fun with. The thing is that she sees me having a good time being authentic and will find you more attractive. Recently that 10 that I have been avoiding has come to tell me she likes my smile, so I'm doing something right. At the same time lately I'm finding myself c… | /r/seduction | 02/12/18 10:40 AM |
| 3 | I have a 95% success rate when I don’t really care about the girl I’m going for. This drops significantly as soon as I find the girl to be somewhat special. How can I work on this?At the moment I'm avoiding those girls that make me feel nervous. When I go out I look for girls that are responsive and that I have good rapor with and can flirt with. I've overcome my fear of approaching hot girls and can chat with anyone, so that's not the issue for me now. Now, when I approach a girl, I can feel her energy. If she's relaxed I can feel it and I'm relaxed with her. But if she's nervous I feel that as well, and it makes the interaction work for me. I'd rather be flirting with t… | /r/seduction | 02/12/18 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal as a man for girls to NEVER flirt with you or express interest in you?You need to learn body language. Learn to read others body language and learn how to respond with your own postures. This is the number one thing to learn in the art of pickup. Once you learn this, you realize how useless words are. I learned a lot about this from taking dancing lessons. I would talk to girls before dancing with them and found them to be stiff as a board, but once we got out on the dance floor, they were so passionate and such a different person. While dancing, they were so unin… | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 12:22 PM |
| 1 | I'm aware I'm using women to validate myself and I want to stop.You have to learn to enjoy your time more. You are looking for the love that you crave outside of yourself, and you will never find happiness this way. You have to fashion a life that "doesn't suck so much" or rather one that you have to take a moment to think if you really want a girl in your life. You have to learn to love yourself and your time so much that someone has to be really cool for you to spend time with them. When I finally faced my loneliness, I realized that my loneliness was actu… | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 10:07 AM |
| 7 | 13 ways to make a girl want youYou are lying to yourself in order to get out of actually doing something to make your life better. Please do yourself and everyone else a favor and get off of this old, tired train and get your ass into a gym. | /r/seduction | 13/11/18 05:02 PM |
| 5 | How far to escalate on this first date?Girls say that they don't want to fuck to weed out the frat boys from the real guys. She wants to make a connection before she jumps into bed with someone. I wouldn't count out sex. I actually wouldn't be thinking about sex just yet. You are setting up expectations which puts pressure on you to perform better. Be more carefree than that. Try to develop a "fuck it" attitude. "I don't really give a fuck if we hook up or not. I'm just out to have a good time." is the attitude I like to go with. May… | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 08:47 AM |
| 1 | How do you open with a woman you've known for YEARS, but you two have rarely spoken?One of the major things that I have been developing through seduction is to work on my scarcity mentality. When we focus too much on one person, we create scarcity for ourselves. Only that one thing can make us happy. Now, when I see myself focusing too much on any one girl, I make the effort to let her go and I remind myself that there are millions of datable girls in the world. I don't need to have this one. It's been a major shift for me. Now I am totally unphased if a girl isn't interested i… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 04:53 PM |
| 2 | How do you open with a woman you've known for YEARS, but you two have rarely spoken?"Hey, I didn't think you're the type of person that likes the bullshit I post" This is cool because you are so sincere and totally not trying to impress her. Calling your stuff cazzate is showing you are unafraid to look bad and makes people comfortable with their own humanity. | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 03:50 PM |
| 3 | How do you open with a woman you've known for YEARS, but you two have rarely spoken?This is a little tricky because you have no contact and you have to get her attention. I just don't target any girl. I usually just go with the flow and if a girl comes into my vicinity, I make random comments and see if/how she responds. I don't focus on a girl "trying to get her" and when I did, when I sent the text, "Hey, how's it going?", it never worked. I would say that check out her posts and see if one stimulates you in some way. I usually like to comment funny/ironic comments with an el… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 03:41 PM |
| 3 | ***7 Things Men Do That Turns Women Off***I actually often get laughs for my stupid jokes. It shows that I like to laugh and have fun, even if it's stupid fun. And it often works for me to my surprise. | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Key mindset to reach outcome independence, non-neediness and relaxed confidence. Choose. Don't chase.when you are talking to a girl, and you choose that you like her, and ask her out, and she says no...then you are choosing not to go out with her? Okay...sure. I don't "ask girls out". I flirt with them. I tease them. I have fun with them, and if that is working, the rest takes care of itself. This whole notion of "asking someone out" is such old school bull shit. Of coarse she will reject you if you ask her out, unless she comes from the sticks and has zero experience with guys. Only desperate … | /r/seduction | 03/11/18 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Key mindset to reach outcome independence, non-neediness and relaxed confidence. Choose. Don't chase.I understand what you mean and maybe you need to know the basics before you can do this. I go out to have fun and if I meet a girl that I can have fun with, then I'm happy, but if a girl puts up too many blocks to having fun, I go look for "more fertile ground". I really don't need to prove anything to anyone. If you like having fun and flirting, I'm all for that. If you want me to chase you, good luck with that. I've got better things to do. That's basically my attitude. I like to have fun and … | /r/seduction | 03/11/18 12:46 AM |
| 14 | Key mindset to reach outcome independence, non-neediness and relaxed confidence. Choose. Don't chase.I was just thinking something along these lines. I don't go up to a girl to attempt to take her to bed. I go up to a girl to find out if I want to take her to bed. This attitude adjustment changes a lot of the interaction that I have with the girl. When I approach her, I am totally relaxed and not anxious about the interaction with the girl. There is also an air of mystery about me because they don't know where I am coming from and can't quite figure me out. I can see in their eyes that they are… | /r/seduction | 02/11/18 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Girls say I’m nice looking but slow and without initiativehow did you make jokes with cashiers and how to start convo waiting bus, any examples for inspiration? I always say whatever strange thoughts that are going through my head. For example, while waiting in cash register line, Motown is playing and so when I get to the register I comment on how this music makes me want to dance and that the workers should develop a routine around the music to put on a little show for the customers. The cashiers like this. I usually say stuff that is fun and interes… | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 06:01 PM |
| 2 | Girls say I’m nice looking but slow and without initiativeExperience. Here's a good video about body language. | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 12:01 PM |
| 3 | Girls say I’m nice looking but slow and without initiativeIt seems that you are not comfortable getting sexual with girls. I have the same problem. When I first started getting sexual with girls, it was hard for me to be sexual without being threatening. You can try flirting with girls who you are not that attracted to, in order to get experience being sexual with girls. When you get use that intense energy, it's not such a big deal. to get use to the nervous energy, you can stand/sit/dance next to a hot girl, without hitting on her. Just dance next to… | /r/seduction | 30/10/18 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Girls say I’m nice looking but slow and without initiativeYou need to learn basic social skills. You have to learn to talk to strangers that you don't care about before you talk to the hot girls. Practice on everyone or anyone. I often make jokes with cashiers just for the fun of it. This helps me stay social. Start a conversation with someone while you are waiting for the bus or in an elevator. Just start a conversation with whoever wherever. This will help you when you want to meet a cute girl because you won't have to think of something to say when … | /r/seduction | 30/10/18 02:51 PM |
| -4 | Don't fear the friend zone. Friendships with girls are ok and she has friends who may be cute so don't be discouraged.I just saw a great video about getting out of the friendzone The idea is that when we are embarrassed about sexuality, girls friendzone us. Being too nice and accommodating is a big turn off for girls. Just like us, they need a little challenge and chase in order to feel attraction for a guy. This is why the "bad boys" always get the girl. They don't try to be the girls friend. They are their unabashed self; fun and sexy. The bad boy doesn't "try" to get the girls. He "attracts" girls to him wit… | /r/seduction | 29/10/18 07:28 PM |
| 55 | Girls say I’m nice looking but slow and without initiativeYou are too much in your head and not aware enough of your environment. When dating, body language means much more than what you say. Body language is what you are conveying with your postures but it's also being aware of the others postures and signals. Judging by your question, you have no clue about body language. The first thing to learn about body language is to mirror someone. We "mirror" someone that we get along with. You will notice that when walking with a friend that we enjoy, we will… | /r/seduction | 29/10/18 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeYou need to develop social skills. You need to learn how to interact with people and with strangers. We all need connection to feel good and healthy but we don't need all of the connection from one person. When we are lonely, we often shoot for the moon, a relationship with a hot girl. But this is doomed to fail from the beginning. You need to learn how to interact with people, all people, not just hot girls. And men can give us that sense of connection that women can. We can feel comradery with… | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeChange the focus from having it to be ok for them and focus on whether you are feeling ok or not. I will go out with a girl and I will notice she is not having a good time so I try to appease her so that she feels better but rather than making things better, they just get worse. Stop focusing on what's wrong and focus on what's right. If I'm at a bar with a girl watching a band and I notice she is not enjoying herself, I may offer to buy her a beer but if she still rejects my offer, I go on and … | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeThe point is that you are looking for someone to pass through. You have to find your company so interesting that you don't need anyone else to feel fulfilled. I use to have a gaping hole where my heart was and I desperately wanted someone to fill it. I can remember times where I was at a party and I had to go off alone and I felt so desperate. Now I know that those feelings were old wounds showing up. A trauma from my childhood caused me to develop these tendencies to feel desperate and alone. B… | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 08:10 PM |
| 8 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeDavid Deida nailed it when he said: “A man’s highest purpose is his priority, not his intimacy. Your woman knows this. Deep inside, she really wants it to be this way.” Don't invest in the girl or the relationship. Prioritize your interests and pursuits to the extent that, whether this relationship happens or not, you stay right on coarse with your projects. An insecure person will change his behavior to accommodate another person. When you do this, you give the signal to the girl that you are a… | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 07:57 PM |
| 7 | Oneitis = Lack of PurposeYou have to go out there and meet women but you don't have to invest emotionally in them. If I go out with my guy friend, I'm not investing in him emotionally so if we see each other or not, we're fine. The minute I get emotionally invested in a girl, the minute that I start picturing her good qualities and thinking about a future with this person, is the minute that one-itus starts. You go out. You meet women. If you had a good time, say so and maybe suggest that you do something together in th… | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 07:47 PM |
| 2 | I'm a straight female and welcome any serious questions from guys wanting advice on how to approach women/dating etc. (if this isn't the right place to post - sorry!)but the problem with me is that I literally can't find the right words in real life or on dating apps haha In my experience, it's not what you say that matters, it's the way you say it. If I see a new face somewhere, I may say "hey" but not with words. I say "hey" with my eyes. It's those looks that are exchanged that do the "talking". Just today I was at a coffee bar and a beautiful girl walked in. I followed her with my eyes, trying to figure out who she was, if I knew her, and if not, who is … | /r/seduction | 17/10/18 08:17 AM |
| 2 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needyYeah, I actually prefer this because then it leaves me free to chat with other girls rather than controlling myself because I'm afraid to offend her. It's not a fun place to be. | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 03:50 PM |
| 8 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needyIt was a test and if you past, she will have no interest in other men. But sure, there is the chance that she will do it again, in which case you just move on. | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 06:50 AM |
| 2 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needyIf they flirt with someone else...I leave and move on. So you don't test guys that you date? You don't find it necessary or are there other ways of finding out if they are clingy? | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 06:41 AM |
| 8 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needywhere is the line drawn here between being non-reactive and being a pushover? That's exactly the kind of reaction that they are looking for and the only way to pass the test is to not react. That way you show that you are a very calm and secure person. If your good friend suddenly got up and started talking to another dude, how would you react? I might be surprised but I would just assume that he has a good reason for it and move on to the next diversion. Just act like that. Any other behaviour … | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 06:35 AM |
| 6 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needyThis brings up something that I've been coming up against a lot. Girls who are avoidant types in the attachment theory. Many girls are very uncomfortable with having people like them, so if you show signs of liking them beyond just sex, they get spooked and run for the hills. They ghost you. They ignore you in public. They just make things awkward. I'm still working on this one. It seems that any expressions of affection are met with being pushed away by the girl. With this type you must never t… | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 05:55 AM |
| 43 | Best content I've seen on how to express excitement without coming off as needyThis is very true and there is good reason for girls to be nervous. When a guy gets too excited for a girl, he is a nuisance and can even be dangerous, by stalking her and getting angry over being rejected. One of the most important things that I learned about dating is to see the shit tests that girls usually put us through to test how anxious we become when we don't get the attention and response that we crave. A common one is, after a time of flirting, she will suddenly start to shower a rand… | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Unsure if shes into me/if I should make a moveYeah, you don't want her to take you for granted. You have to take care of you. You can't make her have fun, so if she starts to look bored, then find something to entertain yourself. If you are walking near a lake, start to skip stones on the water. I may fill space by talking about something that I find interesting, though you don't want to do that if you feel it causes more tension in her. I may just stay silent and see where she wants to take things. They say a lot without having to use word… | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Unsure if shes into me/if I should make a moveYou are getting too heavily invested in this girl and that is not healthy. Whatever you do don't get all flustered for this girl. She has showed signs of liking you but when you try to initiate things she gets quiet. Don't push it. If it were me, I'd be my usually charming self and wait to see if she comes around. She sounds afraid to get too close. Fear is a difficult one to work with. All you can do is be calm, steady and your usual charming self. If that doesn't work, move on to the next one.… | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 12:10 PM |
| 2 | I'm always confident/sexual at first, then feel as if I become needy... tips?You worry about what they think about you. You think too much about how you appear to them. As long as they are interested in you, you are fine, but when she cools off, and you don't have the upper hand any more, you get nervous. This is normal. We are social beings and we can tell when someone is happy or not. The thing is how you react to people when they are not engaged and participating in the connection. This is the shit test. Can you still be the same person when things are not going well … | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 10:37 AM |
| 10 | Would it be a bad idea to do cold-approaches in high schoolYeah, you have to be careful in a small group like that. If you create some sour situations, it might haunt you for the rest of your time at school. Just be fun and friendly. Tell jokes and have fun with friends. I often tell jokes wherever I go, i.e. convenience store, post office. I find these little jokes are great ice breakers, making people feel more relaxed around me, allowing for many more possibilities. Rather than looking to hit on girls that you don't know, what about trying to break i… | /r/seduction | 02/10/18 10:22 AM |
| 2 | How To make a woman feel like a woman without putting her on a pedestal (Question)All anyone wants is to feel a sense of connection with others. You want this and they want this as well. Everyone feels fulfilled when you make a real connection. This means feeling heard. This means caring touch. This means sharing a meaningful moment with someone, like enjoying an experience together. To share a great laugh together. Make the aim to really connect with someone. | /r/seduction | 28/09/18 03:47 PM |
| 2 | How To make a woman feel like a woman without putting her on a pedestal (Question)Sometimes one up vote seems inadequate. Should be to comment. | /r/seduction | 28/09/18 03:44 PM |
| 3 | How to react when your target is being teased by other guy in social media?You should move on. Stop thinking so much about this one girl and get your lazy ass out there and socialize. At this point your relationship is all in your head and you have created such a story that it's literally impossible to ever achieve what you've created in your head. To me, what seduction is all about is getting out of our heads and actually doing what it takes to meet and be with women. In this case, you have built it too much. Stop thinking about her at all. Stop creeping after girls o… | /r/seduction | 28/09/18 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Tried talking to a girl and failed miserably. Need advice on how to keep a conversation going?I never know what I will do till I'm doing it. It's all very much about feeling what is fun or appropriate in the moment. I feel the situation out. If she is nervous, I'm not going to put more pressure on her, but if she is looking like she wants to dance harder or more sexy than I will. If she is looking board or I feel it's getting boring, then I will try some moves to spice it up. It's all about feeling what feels good in the moment. Also, for me dance is communication. She is telling me her … | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 07:18 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with a one night stand if you want to see her again.I have the same question. I have had sex with girls and stated my intention to see them again and it doesn't work out for me. If I am too active, I show neediness and if I wait too long, i show lack of interest or insecurity. I work to present the impression that I always got shit going on and I am not waiting for them but I feel even that isn't enough. Now I am at the point where I just avoid contact when we are in public spaces, giving them all the space they want. I have noticed that I often … | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 07:38 AM |
| 22 | Tried talking to a girl and failed miserably. Need advice on how to keep a conversation going?You are trying to connect on a verbal/intelectual level when you need to be connecting on a physical level. You mentioned that you failed in conversation, not in making a connection. Talking while you are dancing is something that I would avoid. You want to focus on the dance if you are dancing. Be aware of her body and hips. Responding to her movements, playing a little game with her. In the game of seduction it's not about connecting on a mental or emotional level. It's about connecting on a p… | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 07:22 AM |
| 3 | Do looks actually not matter as much as confidence or is that BS?Confidence is about not giving a fuck. Everyone gives shit tests and the only way to get through a shit test is to have confidence. I often get tested with girls to see if I will crack and bail or if I can deal with jealousy, and insecurity. If a girl is going to sleep with you, she wants to know what kind of guy you are beforehand. They have very high radar for insecurity because they don't want you stalking them after only knowing each other for a day. Can you deal with rejection, or are you g… | /r/seduction | 24/09/18 04:31 AM |
| 1 | No one values me. Im invisible.You have crippling insecurities. You think way too much about what others think. You've got to find yourself again. Be your relaxed self. Who is that? Does anyone like your relaxed self? Who gives a fuck. The important thing is that you like your relaxed self. When you enjoy yourself, you are more attractive to others. Everyone likes to have fun. Be fun. Have fun. Do things that you enjoy. One of the best ways to stop thinking about others is to exercise. Go run for a half hour and see if you ar… | /r/seduction | 22/09/18 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Anxiety before a dateYeah, I get that. I try not to force anything. If I don't feel it, I honor my feelings. But if I am committed and have to go through with it, I work to not blow it up in my head. I would stop looking at the girl as a potential lay and take a critical look at her and see her flaws. I don't want to put her down, I just want to see her realistically that way I don't inflate her to the status of idol or goddess. All girls are just people and they may be just as nervous about screwing up the date as … | /r/seduction | 22/09/18 03:35 PM |
| 2 | 53 years old...out of the game for years: is it all over?Younger women bring a lot to the table. Older women have often become jaded and lost that glint in their eye, if you know what I mean. It's harder for them to let loose and be free. They have the weight of life experience on them, while younger women are bright eyed, bushy tailed and more down for adventure. I much more enjoy the enthusiastic naivety of youth to the old war horse women. So, yeah, younger women are volatile and fickle but they are loads of fun. | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 04:35 PM |
| 8 | I’m so confused when I shouldn’t be. Need a quick advice.< But I don’t understand, why would a 10 like her be attracted to me, I mean I’m just average, without my pua skills I’m nothing special. It sounds like you have some self esteem issues. You should check those. Also you are putting this girl on a pedestal. You shouldn't. When you put people on pedestals, we create obstacles for things that might otherwise happen. She may be objectively beautiful and maybe she is use to men approaching her, and maybe she would prefer a more humble and easy going … | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 06:48 AM |
| 0 | Cross post from TIL; Dutch mimicry study: Waitresses who repeated their customers orders increase their tips by 70% over those who positively reinforce the order ("sure", "great choice"), Suggesting that we favor those who mimic our behaviors. • r/todayilearnedI just linked an article, I didn't claim to be a psychologist (that's a doctor that deals with how people think and act in case you didn't know.) | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 04:03 AM |
| 1 | 53 years old...out of the game for years: is it all over?I'm 49 and I often (by default) date much younger women. The first thing that I can say is, EXERCIZE! You quickly loose your shape and your energy as you age. In order to get out there, dance and have fun with younger girls, you've got to be fit enough to keep up with them. Erectile dysfunction is a reality for most men our age because the circulation gets weak. You've got to be able to run a few miles in order to just simply have fun and play with others. If your tired all the time, it ain't go… | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 03:52 AM |
| 1 | 53 years old...out of the game for years: is it all over?The problem with women is that they get more mentally attractive as they lose their physical assets. I really feel this. I'm 49 and dating and though I would love to find someone my age, most of the women my age are not sexually attractive any more. There is the rare woman who still has their original hair color and hasn't gained 50 pounds from her optimal youthful weight, but often even these women are not sexually attractive. There is something about youth that is attractive. I've been watchin… | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 03:28 AM |
| 3 | Cross post from TIL; Dutch mimicry study: Waitresses who repeated their customers orders increase their tips by 70% over those who positively reinforce the order ("sure", "great choice"), Suggesting that we favor those who mimic our behaviors. • r/todayilearnedWhy post this about waitresses and tips in seddit? Because it indicates that one of the most persuasive ways to get someone's favor is by mirroring them. In seduction this is important when you first meet someone and you want them to look favorably on you, you mirror them. A girl is leaning on a bar, waiting for her beer. Pop up next to her, using the same pose she is in. Mirror her and watch her reaction. More than good looks or dress or good jokes, mirroring is one of the most important aspect… | /r/seduction | 21/09/18 03:03 AM |
| 1 | If you don't want to date girls at the moment, how do you improve yourself?Find something that you've always wanted to do or learn and aim to do that. I've been finding learning drums very rewarding. I play them every day and every day I find that I improve over the previous day. Not only does it give me a sense of satisfaction but it also makes me a lot more interesting because I can pull it out and impress people but the main reason I do it is for meditative purposes. When I drum, I aim to "zone out" and "go on automatic". This is the Eastern state of "no mind". When… | /r/seduction | 20/09/18 11:00 PM |
| 18 | Tips on how to seduce a guy when you're a girl?Confidence is one of the most attractive traits in people, men and women. When you like someone, you are often nervous. Working on strategies that help you to relax is one of the best ways to develop confidence. | /r/seduction | 15/09/18 07:03 PM |
| 5 | This is why you're not getting laid: Asking a woman to have sex with you VS making a woman WANT to have sex with you.This is where I am at in my journey of learning seduction. I've been chasing girls and it has only got me frustrated. When someone chases you, you run. What would you expect from chasing someone. And even if they do relent, they are in complete control and you have been instrumental in creating this frame of sex crazed guy chasing hot chick. How else would you expect things to end? I'm tired of that frame. I want the girl to ask me to have sex with her. I want the girl stripping her clothes off … | /r/seduction | 12/09/18 10:58 PM |
| 11 | How to pursue women in your social circle without getting shun?I like this response the best. Be your bad ass self. Be fun and flirty without giving all your attention to one girl. If a girl shows interest, then start to give her a little attention to see how she reacts. It's like fishing, you put out the bait to see who bites. | /r/seduction | 09/09/18 03:22 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Handle Constant Failure?First of all I would say, don't try and you can't fail. We set ourselves up for failure by creating expectations. When you go out to get laid, 9 times out of 10 you will feel bad because of unfulfilled expectations. When you have no expectations, you can't be disappointed. So a date will be a fun diversion with a nice girl. The more I "date", the less expectations I have, so now when I go out with a girl, I have fun no matter what. That's what I'm there to do and I do it. Whether I sleep with th… | /r/seduction | 04/09/18 03:44 PM |
| 3 | How to handle being the least attractive between a group of friends?Just saw this video. In it he talks about how you shouldn't compete with other guys. This is my approach as well. I never go out of my way to hit on girls. I patiently wait for an opportunity to talk to girls. If I see a girl that interests me, I don't run over to meet her. I talk to whoever and wait for the moment to come naturally. This way you don't look desperate and the girls wonder at my level of interest. Mystery is very undervalued commodity. Keep them guessing. Show interest. Tell some … | /r/seduction | 02/09/18 03:36 AM |
| 10 | 21 year old kissless Virgin, idk how to change this.I think we have the misconception that seduction is all about conquering the woman. It's not about getting the number, or getting the date, or getting the sex. To me seduction is about learning how to talk the language of love, the body language, and establishing a communication with the woman on a physical level. You set yourself up for failure by making the kiss the thing. If you don't get the kiss, you feel like shit. If you don't get the date, you feel like shit. Once I learned about seducti… | /r/seduction | 29/08/18 06:59 AM |
| 1 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?While I think it's very important to get fit, not just for the girls but more so for the health and energy that it will give you, I know that it will not get you laid. I have known guys who are really fit who have no game. Game comes when you are over yourself and you go out and have fun. It's the guys who are the most care free that get the girls. Confidence and learning body language that gets girls. If you are in tune with girls, being able to read and convey body language, have zero nervousn… | /r/seduction | 26/08/18 01:56 PM |
| 15 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?Come on, let's not get nasty here. No one is a pancake. | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 09:01 PM |
| 1 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?Note to self - never start a reddit comment with, "There’s a lot of terrible advice in these comments." | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 08:56 PM |
| 5 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?I'd drink a tub of your bath water! | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 08:53 PM |
| 11 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?Yeah, you can be direct but I find it creates more tension and obstacles to establishing a rapport than helping establish a rapport. It's better to get her interested/invested in you first before you start to be more direct. A good example might be to walk up to her and talk about the desperate guy over there trying too hard to score or the silly styles people wear, or about a really drunk girl or guy that is tripping on the floor, just something funny that redirects the attention away from you … | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 08:48 PM |
| 32 | How do you open conversations with girls at bars/pubs?From my experience, it's all about rapport. You establish a connection from the first moment that you see her. As soon as someone catches my eye, I am glancing at them from time to time, to gage what kind of person she is and whether I want to approach or not. Some girls I feel immediately comfortable with and I can easily go up and start talking. With other girls I may feel too intimidated because, though I may feel a strong attraction, I may not feel any rapport. I may feel that we are too dif… | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 05:33 PM |
| 2 | How do you engage/initiate holding hands with the girl youre seeing?So, the question is kind of weird from one point of view because you make it sound like you are trying to achieve something. Holding a hand is nothing. I can walk up to a complete stranger and take her hand, 7 out of 10 times. It's not about "getting up to" holding hands, it's all about chemistry. You either have it or you don't. You are way too uptight. You need to relax and have fun. When you are around the girl, just have fun. Look for clues of chemistry. Does she look at you intently while y… | /r/seduction | 25/08/18 03:37 PM |
| 44 | You can have all the looks in the world but if you’re socially awkward, timid, and unconfident nothing will happen for you.I have a tall and very good looking friend that I use to go dancing with. One night I'm roaming the club and I see my friend dancing and surrounded by 3 cute girls all trying to get his attention. He didn't see it and kept dancing and went home empty handed. That's what it means to be good looking and have no game. You've got to know a little bit about women and their behavior to get girls, because if you don't, girls could be sending you signals all day and you wouldn't get it. Looks help but y… | /r/seduction | 22/08/18 03:40 PM |
| 3 | 3 Body Language Tweaks That Actually Worksthanks for comment. I was feeling like the only one who didn't agree with the OP. These postures are strong and intimidating. Yes, you don't want to appear insecure and shy, but you can communicate this without sticking your chest out and talking loudly. Personally I really don't like guys like this as it makes them look insecure and over compensating and I have found that girls get very intimidated when I come on so strong. I agree that body language is key to pickup but I think there are bette… | /r/seduction | 17/08/18 03:39 AM |
| 5 | How To Get A Girl To Like You Back (4 Ways To Spark Sexual Attraction In A Woman)Yes, there is a huge difference and that is exactly why it excites girls, because when you make eye contact, it exposes EXACTLY how you do feel at any given moment. When you share eye contact, you are not just looking at someone, you are feeling what they are feeling and vice versa. It's a form of super communication or like starring into another's soul. When you try it, you will know exactly what I mean. But you can start with friends first and gain experience with people that you feel comforta… | /r/seduction | 13/08/18 08:19 AM |
| 4 | How To Get A Girl To Like You Back (4 Ways To Spark Sexual Attraction In A Woman)And so you are not the kind of girl I would be looking for. If a girl needs my full undivided attention, that's the female equivalent to neediness. I need a girl who is independent and doesn't really care who you talk to because she is secure in herself. A girl who needs to be validated all the time and doesn't let you talk to other girls brings a whole lot of requirements and will become jealous later on down the line. | /r/seduction | 13/08/18 08:13 AM |
| 22 | I was obsessed with learning ‘The Game’ years back when a friend of mine who was always scoring chicks left and right wrote this over to me on text. I saved it on notes exactly 3 years ago and thought I’d share it with you guys.Yeah, dressing nice is relative. Yes, exercise and work out. Taking care of your body shows that you have self respect. About clothes, wear things that say something about you. If you work in an office, it's appropriate to dress in a suit but if you work outside, a suit doesn't really fit who you are or say anything about you. Wear clothes that say something about you. And if there is nothing really special about you, find something that you enjoy that you can accent about yourself. Try an inter… | /r/seduction | 11/08/18 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Shy guy actually wants some freaking love but doesn't know howPursue your personal interests. Often shy people are introverted and have many interests. They are often some of the most interesting people that you will meet because while most people are going out and partying and being social, introverts are creating arts, crafts, music, science experiments, exploring tech. Peruse your interests that make you special and find ways to share it with others. for example Robert Crumb is an incredibly shy guy but he is a great artist and has said that when he bec… | /r/seduction | 22/07/18 02:02 PM |
| 6 | Would it be messed up to ask someone on a date if you only want to be FWBStay away from being overly emotional. You want to have FWB not a girlfriend so don't treat her like a girlfriend. Stay away from talking about personal stuff with her and focus on kino and eye contact. Be sexy and be forward about wanting FWB and tell her you are not looking for something serious. Create the frame that you just want to have fun and be that. If things start getting sweet and emotional, get up and dance. Flirt freely with girls, and allow yourself to be seen flirting with girls. … | /r/seduction | 18/07/18 04:07 PM |
| 1 | What to do when other guys start trying to dance with the girl youre dancing with and shes open to it?Not giving a fuck is one of the most important attitudes that you can develop. Having too many opinions kills so much good stuff. We over think, over analyze, over criticize. Just be simple. No one wants to be around someone that turns everything into a drama. | /r/seduction | 16/07/18 03:02 PM |
| 2 | What to do when other guys start trying to dance with the girl youre dancing with and shes open to it?LOL. So good. | /r/seduction | 16/07/18 02:59 PM |
| 4 | What to do when other guys start trying to dance with the girl youre dancing with and shes open to it?This. You don't own her. She's free to do whatever she wants. It's creepy to be possessive or jealous of a girl you just met and have no intention of even dating. Get over yourself. In fact I think all girls should do this just to weed out the creepy guys. Any guy that would get butt hurt about a girl that they just met has issues. When you are out, you are there to have fun first. Having fun is one of the most attractive qualities in a person. Who wants to spend time with people that are not fu… | /r/seduction | 16/07/18 02:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm 22 never had sex yet met a girl, she asks if I'm a virgin what to doJust like guys do, some girls find taking a guys virginity hot. There is nothing negative about it. It just is. | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Dropped 40 lbs (212 to 172) thinking I’d date all the women I wanted. But something strange happened instead.As I improve myself, my standards naturally go up. As I get more in shape, I require the people around me to be more in shape. As I become more active and productive, I require those around me to be more active and productive. Before I wanted just sex and anyone with a pussy would satisfy me but now I can't have sex with just any pussy because with those pussies comes a whole world of sad baggage. I need to look back and feel good about the people that I have had in my life because they are an e… | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 06:38 AM |
| 8 | I'm 22 never had sex yet met a girl, she asks if I'm a virgin what to doSome girls find it really hot to fuck virgins. Don't worry too much about it. And don't worry about your performance. The first time is often a big let down for many people. Just try your best to be cool and not think too much about it. Just enjoy it for what it is and do your best to not invest too much in it. We always do and we always get hurt but do you best to not get too caught up in it all. | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 05:23 AM |
| 1 | Dropped 40 lbs (212 to 172) thinking I’d date all the women I wanted. But something strange happened instead.That's where I'm at. I look at some of the girls I was interested in 2 years ago and I'm so glad nothing happened. As my confidence and charisma grew, my standards grew as well. | /r/seduction | 09/07/18 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Get friend zoned more often than not, whether through text or in person. Need help to change this situation.I have the same issue. You are too amicable. You may be a good talker, who says interesting things but you have to realize that there are two conversations going on. There is the above the surface conversation where you talk ideas and things but then there is another conversation going on, one where she is checking you out to see where you stand. Are you safe or not? Are you just making conversation or do you have other motives for talking to her? And if you don't have other motives, why are you… | /r/seduction | 02/07/18 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Showing vulnerability: weakness backfiresI think there needs to be a distinction between the vulnerability of starring into someone's eyes and the vulnerability of telling them your life story. One is super hot and the other is super not. Be vulnerable but nobody wants to hear your problems. Get a shrink if you want to talk about them. | /r/seduction | 02/07/18 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Showing vulnerability: weakness backfiresYes, this is my experience, and I have always been very open and vulnerable with people, but now I realize that it was what was preventing me from getting pussy. I had to learn to turn off my emotions and connect with my sexy part. If you are looking for a hook up, no body wants to know your problems. Seduction is like creating a fantasy. I don't want to know your life story and you don't want to know mine. It kills the buzz. Imagine a 10 pouring her heart out to you about how she was addicted t… | /r/seduction | 02/07/18 01:29 AM |
| 2 | The paradox of seduction: having desire for the girl you want but not never ever showing more desire than she does, otherwise you lose the gameI never talk about my attraction to women. It seems to turn them off. This is how you get friend zoned. You don't want to evoke her feelings, you want to get her turned on. So I express my interest with my actions. I am pleasant, asking questions and making jokes, and while I am engaging them verbally, I am giving them eye contact. Eye contact tells you a lot about what she thinks about you. And when the moment is appropriate, I enter into her personal space, a light touch on the leg or shoulder… | /r/seduction | 21/06/18 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal for women to quickly change how attracted they are to you?Exactly. And be grateful each step of the way. No one owes you anything. And yet, if a girl doesn't put out, we get so butt hurt. Just be glad that she gave you the time of day. More important than pussy, is someones attention. I'm sure you could orgasm by just looking into someone's eyes. It's not the big fuck that we should only count, it's all the baby steps on the way that make it so fun and rewarding. | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 01:52 PM |
| 11 | Extreme frustration, loneliness. time to changeJust always remember that you deserve happiness and you're gonna do everything in your power to find it. Also, always base that happiness within you. It sounds to me like your GF was that happiness. Don't do that, because if something happens it always leads to this. This is the key to true confidence. You have to be happy with ourselves, and being with ourselves. Always have something to look forward to, that is not about girls. Have your own interests that you do just for yourself, that doesn'… | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 01:10 PM |
| 18 | Is it normal for women to quickly change how attracted they are to you?It's about not being needy or false. you have to just be yourself unapologetically. It's really important to not jump the gun and go for the kill. Just be cool and everything will work out. I don't go up with the intention of sleeping with the women. It's way too soon to know if I actually want to sleep with this girl. I just met her. A lot of really beautiful flirting has to come first, and may even be more eventful and rewarding than the actual sex. And girls know this, and that's why they bai… | /r/seduction | 15/06/18 12:43 PM |
| 2 | As somebody who probably has an addiction to one night stands. This is how i approach women or groups of women at any location.Would you elaborate on the next step in the process. I can get numbers all day long but often fumble it on the text never mind taking them to bed. | /r/seduction | 11/06/18 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Friendzoned After Date With Makeout - Post Mortem?It could be just a shit test. I never look at what the girl is saying literally but rather try to understand what is her motive for saying this. the next question is, why is she shit testing you? Maybe she wants to see where you stand. Are you a player, or are you someone who will "fall in love" with her and limit her present freedom. The girls I meet are more concerned about guys falling in love with them than they are, being used for sex, because it's a more common scenario to have a guy becom… | /r/seduction | 09/06/18 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.Some guys like soft and gentle or some like loyal. The point is we are attracted to those traits that we are week in, so rather than looking for it in another, become a more well rounded person and attract someone who is also more well rounded and less of a headache. | /r/seduction | 07/06/18 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.True, but rather than making the aim to find "the one" I think it's much healthier to just look for the one right now, and, if while you are enjoying your life and friends, you DO find the one, it's a bonus. When we set our aims too high, we are heading for a fall. When we live life in gratitude for all the great experiences, we are in a much better place for the one to come. I tell all the girls that I am thinking about having something with that I am not interested in a monogamous relationship… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 06:56 PM |
| 6 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.I've always counted on and depended on others. I recommend being independent. I find woman and relationships very fleeting. These days, rather than looking for the one, I look for the one right now, and it's been amazing. As good as a relationship I have with one girl, I am finding that I will, without a doubt, have a much better one in the future. It's the scarcity mentality that forces us to hold onto our beautiful experiences. Only by letting go of that thing that you love so much can you mai… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 05:53 PM |
| 8 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.In addition to this, I have been finding recently that I am most attracted to girls who have the qualities that I would like to develop in myself. A fit girl is the most attractive attribute a woman can have for me. This tells me that I need to work on being more fit. If I felt that my fitness was all covered I might be more attracted to other qualities in woman, like say, caring, nurturing. Look at the qualities that you find attractive in another to give an indication where you can work to bet… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 05:41 PM |
| 7 | Don’t Fall In Love W/ Girls. Fall In Love W/ The Things That Get The Girls.This is the beginning of some painful lessons. Codependency is a real thing. If you don't put yourself first, you will put the girl first and WHEN that doesn't work out (when have you heard of a relationship working out?) you are going to be in some serious pain. You must have some healthy self esteem, being very grounded in your personal life and activities or else you will be swept away in the tumultuous storm of feelings that come up when you get the feels for another. Before you can love ano… | /r/seduction | 06/06/18 05:33 PM |
| 10 | Thought I didn't need seduction... Then I entered the world of businessThis is the most important aspects of seduction. People like to think that it's looks, but if you got looks but no game, you are dead in the water, but an ugly person with game can score. | /r/seduction | 30/05/18 03:35 PM |
| 5 | “Why don’t you have a girlfriend?”I think she may be asking, "What is wrong with you? Do I have to be on guard for something bad that is coming down the line?" i.e. are you an alcoholic, or a control freak. You don't want to go into why you are not hooked up. I tell them the truth. I've been in relationships and was not happy. Now I want to stay free and see how that goes. I am very open about not wanting a relationship because I don't want to have any unexpressed expectations coming up for me later. There is almost always shit … | /r/seduction | 22/05/18 08:08 PM |
| 1 | help! i’m a college girl. how do i meet men?This is so classic. Nerds are usually not considered in terms of sexual relations because they have an underdeveloped primal nature. They could be a genius and have a huge generous heart but these are not characteristics that bring out sexuality in others. You need to awaken the sexual being in yourself in order to bring it out in others. That means learning how to flirt and the language of the body. Learn how to give sultry looks to hot guys holding eye contact for a moment. Learn how to seduct… | /r/seduction | 16/05/18 04:31 PM |
| 25 | The Basis of Female AttractionWow, so right on. I have found that women run from emotion like the plague. If you want a girl to be attracted to you, DO NOT show emotion or encourage her emotions. Do not tell her how hot she is or how much you like her. These things kill attraction. You do not want to go there with her. You want to get laid. Watching a girly romance movie is not going to get the girl in the mood for hot sex. Something seductive and very edgy like Shades of Gray will. Girls have their emotional side. You see t… | /r/seduction | 16/05/18 04:20 PM |
| 0 | How does a guy like me get a girlfriend?In seduction, it's all body language. I find that, sometimes, being able to talk gets in the way. Attraction is all built on eye contact and body language. It's not what you say, but how you say it. The words are just there to help you get closer physically to the girl. If you have a speech problem, then I would learn mime. talk with your gestures. | /r/seduction | 15/05/18 11:28 AM |
| 2 | How do I stop thinking negatively all the time?You are addicted to perfectionism. It's a really annoying trait to have because nothing that you or anyone around you can ever reach it. People with perfectionism will usually put themselves on a pedestal, looking down their noses at everyone and everything and just when it's time for you to put your words where your mouth is, you get completely insecure because even you can't live up to your standards. I have many perfectionist friends that are alcoholics. They are quiet and reserved usually bu… | /r/seduction | 14/05/18 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Why do I only attract girls that I am not interested in?Get your heart broken a couple of times. We are very egocentric about girls and relationships and if a girl, we really like, doesn't return our attraction, we take it really personal, when it's not personal at all. Stop taking your interactions with hot girls personal. They have no responsibility to like you back. Another aspect of this is that, often we are committed and all in before we even speak to the girl. It's enough for us that she is hot, and we don't need to even hear her speak before … | /r/seduction | 14/05/18 08:14 AM |
| 4 | How to give off a hookup vibe instead of an I want to date you vibe?This is one of the most needed skills of seduction, to learn to communicate with your eyes and your body. I think of it like this. We have a brain that enjoys discussing ideas and philosophies. We have a heart that feels, for other people, good or bad. And we have our primal nature. It's what's going on when you are having sex. In reality, we are communicating with body language from the time you first lay eyes on each other. When she walks into the room and you notice how she walks, and she not… | /r/seduction | 11/05/18 03:03 AM |
| 4 | Step-By-Step Guide to Attracting Your Dream Girl… If You’re Underachieving with Women, This Is All YOU’LL Need… Or If You Are Experienced, You Can Use This To Attract An Abundance Of Beautiful Women, GUARANTEED!When I read the title, I thought, "yeah, right", but when I read the first step, to develop your passions, I got interested. Yes, this is a great post. Your points are right on. | /r/seduction | 10/05/18 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?I think that's the key, to enjoy the chase, enjoy the game. Wanting to have sex right away is like wanting the Super Bowl Cup without having played the game. Or like having an orgasm without the sex. Once you've had a few successes, you start to be a little more selective and you enjoy all that leads up to the sex, as much or more than the sex. | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Honestly, do you have better luck with the women you approach with a desire to sleep with? With women who you don't care about at all? Or with playing the numbers game and going until you get one that sticks regardless of if she is who you'd normally go for or not?When I started to pick up girls, I remember wanting girls that I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole now. I saw one recently and thought, "whew, I glad I missed that boat." I'm still not able to sleep with whoever I want, but I only go for girls who I'm attracted to. One big difference between before and now is that even my number 10's, I hold judgement till the last minute. I'm never 100% in. I'm always evaluating them and the experience from the first moment till we part ways. Good looks are n… | /r/seduction | 09/05/18 02:54 PM |
| 2 | I'm a woman and I don't know how to flirtYou are cute. I could see flirting with you and maybe trying to see if your interested in fooling around. The thing I would be looking for is, how innocent you are or how uncomfortable with sex and seduction you are. I go partners dancing every week. There is a girl there who is super friendly and cute but she seems naive and clueless. At times I will give her a steamy look and pull her in close and her reaction shows that she is really not comfortable being intimate, so I just be polite with he… | /r/seduction | 29/03/18 10:52 PM |
| 2 | I'm a woman and I don't know how to flirtNot necessarily, just don't lose sight of what you are doing. You are trying to seduce someone, so it's ok to joke but always come back to being attentive to your friend. I recently meet a red head named Ginger. I spent the next 5 or 10 minutes explaining how I thoughts red heads were crazy. Of coarse she lost interest and we separated, but she later came back and started another conversation. But I'm not at all invested in what I was saying. I was just making small talk and I never fight for a … | /r/seduction | 29/03/18 10:38 PM |
| 4 | I'm a woman and I don't know how to flirtSex and sexuality are physical. Get in touch with your physical side. Get in touch with their physical side. While your talking, mirror their posture, gestures and even what is being said. Look deep in their eyes as you do this. You will start to feel an uncomfortable pressure with all that eye contact and mirroring. Smile and lightly laugh it off. You want to create tension and relax into it. It's ok to be a little awkward but laugh it off. Once you get a few looks and laughs, then start with t… | /r/seduction | 29/03/18 03:24 PM |
| 2 | [Advice] My first date and night with a girl. Now I feel confused, would appreciate some advice.Yeah, that's what we think but I've had someone publicly call me out for rape for a lot less. Now there is all this talk of #metoo and getting verbal consent. I was just playing it safe. | /r/seduction | 08/03/18 10:56 PM |
| 1 | [Advice] My first date and night with a girl. Now I feel confused, would appreciate some advice.I've had this experience about a month ago. A girl I knew casually suggested that we go to the river to hang out. We had a great time and went back to my place. I ended up giving her a massage on my bed. Though I wasn't trying to seduce her (I was just going with the flow) it became clear that it was going that direction and that she was doing nothing to stop it. So I decided to talk to her about it. "I'm finding you very attractive and would like to sleep with you..." but I wanted to make one t… | /r/seduction | 08/03/18 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Thanks to this sub, I went from being a virgin to girls asking to have threesomes with me in one month. Here's what changed and what I learned.I was joking but I agree with you about acid helping give a new, more healthy perspective. | /r/seduction | 04/02/16 11:58 AM |
| 1 | Thanks to this sub, I went from being a virgin to girls asking to have threesomes with me in one month. Here's what changed and what I learned.< when I was high one day on LSD I realized I was fucking awesome and that I have a lot of friends, and that they all love me for who I am. So your advise is to take acid? | /r/seduction | 04/02/16 05:58 AM |
| 1 | How do you show strong intent without telling a girl she is hot?Keno is very important. While you chat you need to escalate the physical contact. Start with a casual arm touch and work your way up to touching their hair and becoming more intimate. This way you can gauge if they're interested without putting yourself out there too much. You are just casually joking around with a new acquaintance but you are also gauging her interest and setting her up for more intimacy later. You don't have to state your intentions and you can remain outcome independent becau… | /r/seduction | 14/01/16 07:15 AM |
| 42 | How do you properly touch and greet a girl that you are trying to flirt with?Touch is a way to make people feel comfortable with you. It disarms people, men and women and makes them feel more warm toward you. For example, you see a guy you know and you go up to him and grab his shoulder and say, "it's great to see you." Or with a girl you can go up and give her a hug. Always take the opportunity to hug girls, unless she has shown you that she is really uncomfortable with it. If you want to get her attention you might grab her forearm or shoulder to direct her attention o… | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Beautiful (older) customer seems to be flirting with me at work, it seems too good to be true. Should I go for it?I am notorious among my group of friends for overthinking Yes you are. From my experience, if you are nervous about it, it's not going to work out. Just be chill and try to have fun with it and enjoy the whole thing. Girls like fun guys, not nervous guys. Start learning to chat up everybody. Get good at joking and banter. What ever small chance that you have with this woman, The more you overthink things the worse it will hurt when it doesn't work out. Just try to have fun and let things happen … | /r/seduction | 23/11/15 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Guys older than myself, What are some things you wish you had known about women when you were 20?While you are dancing, just think about fucking the girl | /r/seduction | 28/09/15 12:20 PM |
| 99 | Guys older than myself, What are some things you wish you had known about women when you were 20?I had an epiphany recently. I was on a dance floor with so many hot woman and feeling overwhelmed. I wanted to connect but was afraid to. Suddenly I saw a girl dancing all hot a little ways away. I just looked at her and danced really hot toward her. She looked over at me and I just kept looking and dancing hot, letting her know with my eyes and my body that I was really into her. Most girls saw me and kept dancing as if they didn't see me, though I know for a fact that they did. If they didn't … | /r/seduction | 27/09/15 06:00 PM |
| 1 | How do I become more fun?Learn some jokes that you like and tell them to whoever will listen. By telling jokes you evoke in others the desire to laugh. Sometimes people will go, "Ohhh" but often people will either smile or laugh and even join in telling jokes. You will begin to stop caring what the reaction people have and you will be able to weed out those people who want to have fun too. It's a good exercise to do. | /r/seduction | 16/08/15 11:38 PM |
| 1 | I'm 37, divorced, 3 young kids, and just broke up with my girlfriend of 1.5 years. I don't know how to be alone. Help!There must be some groups that can help you with this. I've heard of the Mankind Project which helps men find themselves. Look into local support groups that might be helpful, as well as meditate. Spend time alone and ask yourself the big questions. Take a half hour to an hour every day just to be alone and think or write about yourself. "Who am I?" "What makes me most happy?" "What do I want out of life?" It's really important to ask these questions. Life only has mean to what you give it, so g… | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 05:42 AM |
| 3 | How do you date good looking girls when you're not a good looking guy?You're coming at this from a defeatist point of view. Sure many girls will turn their cheek as soon as you approach them but not all. Not all girls are that superficial. Your job is to weed out the shit from the shinola. You don't know if they are that superficial until you approach them and that's when you let them see your other really great traits. I have friends who are much better looking than me but when we go to bars, they sit on their asses and wait for the girls to approach them. I go o… | /r/seduction | 03/08/15 12:08 AM |
| 3 | How do you date good looking girls when you're not a good looking guy?You are putting way too much importance in looks. Looks are important to an extent but they are kind of superficial. Even you yourself say that you don't want "too hot" a girl because you understand that probably many of them are airheads and not fun to be with. If you are not that good looking work on those things that you have control over like - your body. Exercise. It will make you feel better and give you more confidence. Your personality. Everyone wants to be entertained. If you can be the… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 10:14 PM |
| 14 | I approach 3 to 5 girls every day. Here is my secret.This is excellent advice. When I approach I try hard to not overthink it or work up courage. If I am sweating it, I've already lost. I say the first thing that comes to mind. If she has interesting shoes, I tell her. If I like her hair, I tell her. Maybe it will be a comment about our surroundings. If it's cloudy, you might look up in the sky and say, "Wow, it's cloudy today." Then glance over for some recognition. The point is to stay natural. Never overthink it and be spontaneous. I've said so… | /r/seduction | 28/07/15 04:45 AM |
| 81 | I'm afraid I'm going to be alone foreverIt's so easy to pick on "the loser" but there is so much empathy and compassion in this post. There is so much experience here. I can hear your own struggles coming through with this post. And I can hear you've come out of it. Thanks for the wonderful reminder. It's important stuff that we need to keep fresh. | /r/seduction | 27/07/15 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Missed out on part of life where you learn to make friends. Should I just focus on gaming women, are friends necessary?I made a big breakthrough when I stopped trying to pick up girls and just started to talk to random people. When I go out to bars I talk to whoever will listen to me. I introduce myself and just start chatting, maybe joking if the spirit arises. Once you start to talk to anyone, you put yourself in a situation where you are enjoying yourself and make yourself more attractive to women. Then when you see a girl by herself or sitting next to you at the bar, you don't even think twice about introduc… | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 07:30 AM |
| 4 | How do I finish this before the friend zone?If you feel that things are becoming stale it's always good to put some distance between you. If she really likes you she will contact you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. You put yourself in the friend zone when you make yourself too available. Do something super exciting like going to a music show or go hiking in an exotic place. Make yourself the kind of guy that people want to be. Make yourself too busy having an awesome life to see this girl. If she likes you she should pursue you. Giv… | /r/seduction | 26/07/15 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Help. Girl says that she loves me but obviously doesn't.yeah, we had a very intense weekend together at a festival. When we left the festival we were telling each other how much we loved each other. It was very intense and I haven't ever experienced such an intense experience before. When we got back home our normal minds started to kick in and I became a little needy and insecure while she got a little distant, though she still insists that she loves me. It seems Ikr she might just wanna be your fuck buddy. That would be awesome though she has said … | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Help. Girl says that she loves me but obviously doesn't.I have decided to not call her because I don't want to sound needy. After a week of not talking she sent me a message on Facebook, "Hey babe, just wanted to let you know I've been thinking about you and hoping that you've been doing so good and feeling nothing but beautiful things! Sending you so much love xo" I didn't want to tell her how much I've been thinking about her and how hard it's been not talking to her. She just wants to hear positive stuff from me. Nothing too heavy so I sent her th… | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 05:18 AM |
| 1 | (23, m) I have Asperger's and I'm ugly (pics included), I feel totally inadequate around girls and don't know how to deal with itI'm into comics. They got me through a very rough breakup. I just use that as an example but you can fill in the blank. The point I was to cultivate some interest that makes your life feel more rewarding and interesting and to make you a more interesting person. | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 11:24 PM |
| 3 | (23, m) I have Asperger's and I'm ugly (pics included), I feel totally inadequate around girls and don't know how to deal with itDude you are a good looking guy. I'm not a good judge of male attractiveness but my first thought about you is that you look like an interesting person and one I want to know better. You seem to have a little weight but that's fixable if you are motivated and there are fat guys scoring hella chicks out there. Your problem is that you feel ugly. You have to stop doing that to yourself. If you want women to like you, you have to start liking yourself. You have to start treating yourself the way yo… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 04:41 PM |
| 7 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?One thing I've learned is to not try to get them but just go out and meet random people. When I go out, I talk to whoever is around. I go out and enjoy myself and if a girl happens to be standing next to me, I talk to her. I don't over think it. I don't have any aim other than to say hello. What ever happens beyond that is a plus. If we don't vibe I move on. If we do, I continue. Though I work my keno the whole time. Touching their arms or shoulders as I talk to them. I introduce myself and hug … | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Field report: girl who asked for my NUMBERUse her as your wingwomen etc. This is cool because if nothing else she can help you find a girl, but on the other hand, she might feel a little jealous and competitive for your attention. Either way you win. | /r/seduction | 01/04/15 06:50 PM |
| 2 | I think I figured out a huge secret to seduction. People ask what women want and I think it's as simple as "to be wanted and desired."Framing it is a key. You are not some needy guy looking for sex, you are some guy having fun and not giving a fuck. You are not dependent on her answer for your happiness. You are having a blast letting all hang out and they can join you if they want, or not, it doesn't really matter. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 10:16 PM |
| 3 | I think I figured out a huge secret to seduction. People ask what women want and I think it's as simple as "to be wanted and desired."< For one if you're nervous to tell a girl you like her, keep in mind that doing this is the CORE of attraction. Showing and telling are very different. If you nervously walk up to a girl and tell her that you really dig her, she might be really creeped out. On the other hand if you walk up to a girl and give her strong eye contact and a smile, she will probably engage with you if she has any interest at all. It's human nature to smile back at someone who smiles at you. Being open and friendly a… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 03:57 PM |
| 1 | A Facebook Gem about "Nice Guys"People so misunderstand this subject. Nice guys are not "nice" as a strategy to getting what they want. They are nice...to everyone. The idea of having an strategy does not enter a nice guys mind. He is noce to girls he is not interested in as well as those that he is. Tough with the pretty girls, he does get hopes as anyone would. It's not the nice guy who is manipulative, it's the people and the girls that are often manipulative. They act like they are sincerely interested and only when they g… | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 06:43 PM |
| 1 | A Facebook Gem about "Nice Guys"This, so this! Don't treat women differently than you would treat anyone else. How do you do that? Everyone gets nervous around that hot girl. It's human nature. It's about not giving a fuck one way or the other. Yeah, she's hot but so what. Just have fun, if something isn't fun, go find what is. | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 06:06 PM |
| 1 | A Facebook Gem about "Nice Guys"The frustration is not so much toward the women who go after the bad boys, it's society telling us that we should be nice and respectful of women when that is not what they want. It's the misrepresentation. I was a nice guy who was walked all over because I respect women too much. Now I am a guy who doesn't give a fuck what anyone says or thinks. I do what I do and like what I like. Ironically the girls that society puts on a pedestal are exactly the ones that I could give a fuck about. It's the… | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 05:53 PM |
| 6 | A Facebook Gem about "Nice Guys"I not saying girls Owe us anything, but you would be a fool to not demand something in return and be willing to walk away if you aren't getting what you want. Exactly. Only a fool would make efforts only to be abused. What we do, we do for a payoff. If the payoff is negative, you are not a healthy person. | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 05:47 AM |
| 17 | A Facebook Gem about "Nice Guys"Finally someone puts it into coherent words! This post is so full of shit! You get friends by being nice and sometimes even respect from society but you don't get the girl. Girls go for the alpha male so if by being nice you become the alpha male then you will get the girl but generally the only thing you get by being nice is friends. it's this false message that girls and society perpetuate that frustrates me. Girls say they want a nice guy but they totally step over them to get to the alpha ma… | /r/seduction | 22/09/14 05:42 AM |
| 2 | So how do you actually get a girlfriend?Well coming from the "chivalrous" mind set, I have let a ton of girls go only to see less "chivalrous" guys pick them up. I'm thinking being chivalrous isn't all it's cracked up to be. Better to live with regrets at what I had done than envy at what others dared to do what I didn't have the balls to. | /r/seduction | 03/02/14 02:30 AM |
| 4 | 7 Emotions Men Need to ControlI have had several conversations with women who are intelligent, well placed in society, and very open minded but when I tell them that these feelings are primal they look at me like I am not speaking English. I've experienced this as well and it's almost as if they are intentionally trying to mislead you or misdirect you. Why would they do that? Because you would be easier to control and manipulate. The ironic thing is that once you become manipulatable you are no longer datable. Now when I see… | /r/seduction | 23/01/14 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Why I was a "nice" guy, why you may be one, and why you need to stop right now.I speak from experience when I say you don't want the woman who'll pick an arsehole over a nice guy. They'll cheat on you, lie to you and if you're really unlucky their boyfriend they didn't tell you about will start threatening to stab you. No but I would like a sex life. And I would like one without having to deal with other peoples baggage. Now I realize it's not about being nice or being an asshole, it's about being yourself and not giving a shit about anything else. Now if I like a girl, I … | /r/seduction | 15/01/14 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Why I was a "nice" guy, why you may be one, and why you need to stop right now.Yeah if "a pussy" is kind to the people around him and actually considers others feelings. Yeah, I am and it's something that I'm working really hard to getting rid of. If only I could be the jaded callous people I see around me then maybe I wouldn't hurt so much. Just think about yourself and your needs and fuck the rest. | /r/seduction | 15/01/14 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Why I was a "nice" guy, why you may be one, and why you need to stop right now.yeah I think that the only ones who get it confused are the ass holes who have a problem with taking advantage of others. Anyone who confuses it can wallow in their confusion for all I give a shit. | /r/seduction | 15/01/14 05:18 AM |
| -1 | Why I was a "nice" guy, why you may be one, and why you need to stop right now.I get so frustrated with people like lunchboxweasel. You're confusing being a nice guy with being a pussy. No we mean that we are nice guys and not respected for it. Being nice is something that is not respected in this society. Nice guys are those that you use to your own ends. As the saying goes, "nice guys finish last." Basically nice guys get shit on. I've had people tell me how important it is to be nice or kind but these people were just looking for a patsy to take advantage of. And anyone… | /r/seduction | 15/01/14 04:48 AM |
| 1 | I don't know when to stop talking, halp!I'd recommend eating out alone. It can be quite uncomfortable sitting there and feeling like people are looking at you thinking that you are some looser with no friends. Get comfortable with not caring what people think about you. You could also try wearing flashy clothes that make you stand out like a hat with a peacock feather in it. Or meet people and make an aim not to talk about yourself or what you think. Just sit there and ask about them. Think about what they are saying and if a thought … | /r/seduction | 08/01/14 06:55 PM |
| 1 | [FR+Q] Club Night with a Bisexual GirlI would say that she lost interest. It seems that you needed to escalate and didn't or needed to hit on someone else. I've seen this happen where guys hook up with a girl, they are hot for a time and then the girl looses interest. The trick is how to keep their interest and I think it's about escalation though I'd love to hear others point of view. | /r/seduction | 08/12/13 05:13 PM |
| 8 | New study: Men With Attractive Wives Report Higher Levels Of Marital Satisfaction; Women Aren't Affected By Husband AttractivenessI was married to an attractive woman and it definitely did not make me happy. She was more jealous and insecure than anyone I've ever met. she thought because every guy was hitting on her that it meant I was hitting on every other girl. It was hell and though I loved her, I had to let her go for my sanity. | /r/seduction | 20/11/13 10:35 PM |
| 1 | If anyone is familiar with Eckhart Tolle can you please help answer my question?You need to start off by getting better social skills. When at a bar I talk to guys, the bar tender, anyone who is around. This puts me in a chatty mode and, because I am in that mode, is much easier to approach girls. I don't have to think of what to say. I just say what I said to the other people. It's no big thing. That's where you need to get; "It's no big thing". And you get there by practice. When you are in a chatty mode, you don't think of what to say, it just happens. It's "no mind", it… | /r/seduction | 19/11/13 08:24 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys keep yourself from getting overly attached?WE mind fuck ourselves. When you find yourself thinking overly much about her go out and do something to get your mind off of it. Go out with the guys; go to the gym; Go play sports; basically GET A LIFE separate from her. Love is all in the head. The only real love is the love and respect that you have for yourself. Girls know this and look for guys that got this. When you got it you no longer have to game. | /r/seduction | 28/09/13 04:28 PM |
| 4 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?Some of the best sex I had with an unattractive girl. The attractive girls can be really prissy in bed. I don't want a token wife or a woman to love me, I just want to get my mojo on sometimes though preferably with someone that turns me on. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 09:13 PM |
| 5 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?Who said anything about a relationship, it's just to get the fucking ball rolling (the fucking ball). Then Women look at you different. When I was married all of my wife's friends would hit on me. It was hard but nice at the same time. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?Thank you for the intelligent well thought out response. Yeah I live in the country where the selection is slim. I guess maybe I should move to a city or lower my standards. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 08:53 PM |
| -39 | Basic question; She rejects your advances. You still see her in social circles. How do you act?Though this puts you in the friend-zone and that much harder to score in this social circle. Sometimes I feel it's better to be disliked than to be liked in a patronizing way. | /r/seduction | 22/08/13 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Advice on seducing a 45MOne of the best tips I heard on here is treat him as if you are already in a relationship. Be comfortable and close touching him when appropriately. Confidence goes a long way. | /r/seduction | 12/08/13 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Warning! Rant ahead: I'm tired of seduction!It's not really even about fucking women. To me, it's about embracing the idea of being a man and being in control. That's why I'm here. It's not about fucking every woman. It's about having the option to fuck who you want. It's about being in charge rather than being the desirous young guy who can't get what he wants. Basically it's about being the best you that you can be. Though no matter how good you are at bringing a girl to bed, if you are not happy with yourself, you won't be happy. Seduc… | /r/seduction | 31/07/13 02:09 AM |
| 1 | The Secret Society [Advanced material]: A clever frame to use when infiltrating elite social circles and when gaming womenWell the ones I've met aren't very stable. On the other hand the stable couples I've met are not very enviable either. | /r/seduction | 29/07/13 03:20 PM |
| 0 | The Secret Society [Advanced material]: A clever frame to use when infiltrating elite social circles and when gaming womenGreat read. I've always called this secret society the vagina cult. It's all about being the gatekeepers to the sacred vagina. They keep a huge pad lock on the gate that the harder you knock the stronger it becomes. The secret is that what's behind the lock is really not that special. It only makes sense that if you got one, it's not something that you desire so the lock comes off and you've got easy access. The thing is that the vagina is the females social currency. It's what they use to fulfi… | /r/seduction | 28/07/13 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Why You Get Used By WomenYeah I do. I understand what he is saying but I thought I'd just let loose and try to see what came out. The thing is, when I hear talk like this (which is real popular on this subreddit) something always seems real off. the explanations never seem to match up with my experiences. I actually think it's more about a product of the American culture and how it creates expectations in our women or creates this warped sense of what is sexy, equal to the bleached beach bimbo which is sexy for shallow … | /r/seduction | 20/07/13 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Why You Get Used By WomenI have a hard time with this subject. I show my interest by listening to her stupid stories or taking her around to bars and restaurants. Aren't my intentions obvious judging by my actions? Do I really have to stick my tong down your throat for you to get the fucking hint? The answer apparently is "yes". I'm terrible at pushing things forward. I can listen and do the kino but when it comes to making the first move, I hesitate, the whole time I think I'm being the gentleman and respecting her eno… | /r/seduction | 19/07/13 08:39 PM |
| -6 | 23 Y/O (m). I'm interested sexually in older woman but have no idea how to approach them.Let's be real. At 40 the boobs are starting to sag and the skin is not as elastic as it use to be. Even the most fit girls start to show signs of aging at 45. If you don't feel a little insecure about it, you are in big denial. But your confidence seems to work well for you so keep it up. | /r/seduction | 17/07/13 03:04 AM |
| -1 | 23 Y/O (m). I'm interested sexually in older woman but have no idea how to approach them.Great points. One of the biggest differences older woman have to younger ones is that older women (late 30's early 40's) feel like they are getting old and unattractive. They feel they don't have what the young girls have and can't compeate, so if you flatter them, they'll really feel appreciated and wanted and may go for it. The one thing I'd be careful about is bringing up the old feelings of being a young and desirable girl with all the premadonna attitude that comes with that. It seems that … | /r/seduction | 16/07/13 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Need help on how to approach this one girl. (Running out of time)I find that when I focus too much on a girl it usually ends badly. I wouldn't get my hopes up for this one but it soulnds like you really need practice. I'd recommend using this girl as a way to get practice approaching girls. You could say "I think your really cute" but I find that it creates tension for me. I'd start simply. Walk up and say "Hey how's it going?" and see what happens. The most important thing is to be relaxed, and if you cant be relaxed than go up anyway and try to fake it. You… | /r/seduction | 05/07/13 05:14 PM |
| 2 | How do I get to know girls on a deeper level once they find me attractive?Good post. Shared experiences makes people closer and brings more depth to a relationship. Another aspect is that if you want to bring depth to a relationship you've got to be a deep person or at least be capable of taking something seriously. I'm the opposite of you, I am able to have deep meaningful relationships but have a hard time attracting girls and having the fling or casual relationship. One of the reasons for this is that I'm a serious person. I love to look at things in depth. For exa… | /r/seduction | 29/06/13 04:03 PM |
| 1 | A reminder - don't be the Nice Guy.They marry the nice guy and fuck the bad boy. So the nice guy gets all the responsibility and none of the fun and vice verse. | /r/seduction | 17/06/13 07:03 PM |
| 0 | [FR][daygame] "how I didn't see the forest because of all the trees" it or "things not to do!"I've been here before. I think you've got to take away what you did well and scrap the rest. Just drop her, get back on your horse and find more chicks. It seems that the only place this one can go is serious and seriously flawed. About your mistake, it seems like a no-win situation. Once the talk about sex starts and you start analyzing you're sex lives it seems that it kills the whole thing. I think you've got to keep up the mystery and excitement of this new, unexplored person. In hindsight I… | /r/seduction | 11/06/13 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I'm a good looking guy (people's words, not mine) and I've never even kissed a girl at 19 years old. Any tips?Yeah, try talking to some girls sometime. You've got to take the first step and increase your social circle to increase your chances of hooking up with someone. After that You start talking to girls regularly, you've got to start the kino. It's not hard, it just takes some practice. The hardest part is getting out of your own way and letting it happen. | /r/seduction | 05/04/13 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenI actually think you can fake it pretty good if you try. All you have to do is be willing to listen and say "Uh hu" sometimes. You don't have to spill your guts, you just have to listen to them spill theirs. All you got to do is to ask questions and listen. Listening is a huge thing that I think is overlooked often. If you can patiently listen to someone spilling their guts it looks like caring. That's all you need to know. Just ask the girls a lot of questions about their favorite subject, them… | /r/seduction | 25/03/13 03:07 AM |
| 31 | Emotions versus Logic: the Biggest Mistake Guys Make with WomenThis is one of the best seduction posts I have read. It touches on the dynamic between male and female so much better than anything I've ever read. Now if I could only learn to apply it. | /r/seduction | 24/03/13 08:15 PM |
| 1 | On Why You Should Never Take Dating Advice from WomenGrasshopper, you have gained much knowledge. | /r/seduction | 15/03/13 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Since writing our top post on relationships, “My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl,” I’ve helped a lot of Sedditors via PM. I’m now a professional dating coach specializing in relationships. AMA!Eventually, I worked up to a point at which I could meet and attract women, but I couldn't close, which was my main sticking point. Did you have any simple tips to help people with this sticking point? What do you teach your clients? | /r/seduction | 12/03/13 04:39 PM |
| 2 | What Sex Really Means to WomenI'm coming to seduction to learn how to avoid these intimate relationships. I want to enjoy a women without having to get that into her. The thing that scares me is actually coming in contact with a girls vulnerabilities and insecurities. I've met too many girls who appear confident while dating only to wind up looking really insanely insecure. The thing is that you don't know this until after you have invested yourself in her and it's too late for you to pull out (figuratively speaking). I'm ge… | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 06:02 PM |
| 1 | What Sex Really Means to WomenThough the author does leave out a woman's sexual pleasures because he wanted to focus on one topic This is what I'm interested in. I've had one to many clingy girlfriends, I'd like something a little less needy and demanding. | /r/seduction | 10/03/13 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Why Americans are the Weirdest People in the world - Very interesting article that may help explain why American seduction tricks don't work as well elsewhere in the world"You are unique...Just like everyone else." | /r/seduction | 28/02/13 04:07 PM |
| 4 | I can't actually imagine myself being with a girl at all. How can I get out of this mindset?I was in the same boat when I was younger. When a girl said she liked me, my first reaction was "Why?" I couldn't imagine what anyone would see in me. In a way I still feel that way but now I don't care if they like me or not. I know that some people like me for whatever reason and some don't like me for what ever reason just as I like some people for whatever reason and some I don't. I think part of my problem was that I didn't think much about myself. Not that I didn't like myself (which may h… | /r/seduction | 07/02/13 05:17 PM |
| 34 | Useful seduction facts.In a way the whole art of seduction is based on the Franklin effect. Check out the related Foot-in-the-door technique. You start with something small and you progressively ask for more with the idea that it's more likely they will say yes to bigger stuff once they have said yes to smaller stuff. | /r/seduction | 28/01/13 06:45 PM |
| 6 | So many dudes are screwing up Qualification: How NOT to Qualify + How to Qualify for realI'm very strict about qualifying girls. "Do you have a vagina... because if you don't, just forget it!" I'm kidding. I think I actually do qualify girls too much without realizing it and fuck myself out of potential sex partners. My last sexual partner didn't know what the Tower of Babel was. I said, "Oh it's just an old Bible story." She said, "Do you think I'm stupid?" "Nnnooo." | /r/seduction | 17/01/13 11:11 PM |
| 2 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.I think just from percentages there's got to be single women in your neck of the woods you just have to connect with them. Practice your social skills. Be open. Don't beat yourself up. | /r/seduction | 24/11/12 03:38 PM |
| 0 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.I've found that some people can take kindness without feeling uncomfortable or taking advantage of your kindness you just have to find those people. I once gave something to someone that I know needed it and I wasn't using it. He asked to repay me and I said "no it was given to me and I wanted to give it to him". He became really quiet and uncomfortable to be with. Like I said you just have to know who to give to. I think we need to put ourselves first so that it really doesn't matter if we give… | /r/seduction | 23/11/12 02:08 AM |
| 0 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two."yeah but I hate those ass holes! Who wants to be like them?" Seriously the whole competing stuff is really silly and childish. Trying to put on a facade for the world; trying to one up others all the time... It's just childish and stupid. I enjoy being direct with my friends... that's why they are friends. Friends are not people that you use to try and get something out of, even if what your looking for is simple empathy from another. Alphas suck. | /r/seduction | 23/11/12 01:53 AM |
| 1 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.I think that may be what is fundamentally different about "nice guys", they don't keep score; They don't think "you owe me" after doing a favor. And because they don't value their efforts or their niceness it leaves them open to being taken advantage of. Add to this the fact that they are afraid to ask for what they want. Like the OP said, it's extra hard for "nice Guys" to admit that they want something. It's very hard to look at a hot girl with eyes of lust. I may feel that way about her but f… | /r/seduction | 23/11/12 01:46 AM |
| 1 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.One person told me that you should bargain with the person or say "you owe me..." With my ex I ended up doing this. She would keep a tally of all the times she helped me or that I pissed her off and use it as ammunition in a fight. I ended up having to do the same to defend myself. The funny part is that when I did she would accuse me of holding on to this stuff out of anger toward her, like I had a big grudge. I eventually understood that that is what she did and if I wanted to understand her I… | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 07:27 PM |
| 7 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.Dude, you've got a whole slew of single moms to choose from! Get off your ass and do stuff with your kids. Take them to their extracurricular activities and you'll be meeting a slew of hot MILFs! | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 06:38 PM |
| 1 | As a recovering nice guy, I thought I'd share the best pieces of advice I've learned throughout the last year or two.I remember being in a situation where I really liked a girl. She was moving. I had an overwhelming urge to help her, not because I wanted to get in her pants (I did, but that was not the impetus) but because I liked her and doing nice stuff for her was a pleasure for me. I fought the urge because of a bad experience I had helping a girl I liked and being used. As I nice guy I honestly don't think I am looking for rewards. If a fried asks me to move him, I say sure because he's a bud, but if I wa… | /r/seduction | 22/11/12 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How to remain attractive/sex worthy to your female friends? Social Circle GameI saw it a long time ago. I just looked under body language. It was really interesting. They talked about The president and leaders of nations and how they fight over who goes last being the position of power, or who pats the other guy on the back like indicating "Good boy". | /r/seduction | 21/11/12 01:05 AM |
| 7 | How to remain attractive/sex worthy to your female friends? Social Circle Gamewatch how other girls will touch other girls when talking. When they are excited about something they will touch their arm or shoulder. When they are being empathetic they will touch them in a comforting way. It's a way to show comfort and closeness. You might greet them by touching their arm or lower back. You can also try this stuff with your guy friends. There is a whole game of dominance that goes on with touching and body language. I saw a video about it on Youtube. From there, when you are… | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 10:05 PM |
| 12 | How to remain attractive/sex worthy to your female friends? Social Circle GameOne thing to remember is that girls are competitive for guys attention. If a guy is hooked up it makes him more attractive to the other girls. You need to play the social butterfly and go from girl to girl. If you have your sights set on a girl, don't go flirt with her but rather let her see you flirting with other girls. Sounds messed? Yes. Does it work? Try it. | /r/seduction | 20/11/12 10:01 PM |
| 2 | How do I stop giving off the boyfriend vibe when I meet girlsI've had this same frustration. I started to just be slightly obnoxious (for me). I make sexual jokes and say adamantly that I'm not looking for a relationship. Also I act like I'm not trying to impress them. I just say what I think. But at the same time I give them eye contact, attention and some light touching on their arms. I really enjoy saying all those things your not suppose to say around girls like making sexual jokes and I like when they are vulgar too. Girls want sex like we do. I appe… | /r/seduction | 18/11/12 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Asked a girl out after talking to her a few times after lectures, this was her response. Have I just been rejected/friendzoned nicely?You are thinking way too much about it. Girls smell desperation a mile away. Be confident! Go with no expectations and see what happens. You've got to be cool and own the situation! If you are sweating it, you've already lost. If you are cool, you can't go wrong! | /r/seduction | 11/11/12 05:08 PM |
| 1 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'I haven't read the book but I really resonate with the father stuff. For the longest time I had no feelings what so ever about my dad. I really couldn't care if he lived or died. And then I had a revelation about how I felt that he didn't love me which was a huge shock. AND when telling a friend this revelation, I started to cry for like 5 minutes. It was a shock for both of us. The best I can make of this is that it happened when I was so young that the memory of the events leading up to this f… | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 05:06 AM |
| 1 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'This is a great reply. You've said a lot of stuff that I need to think about. One question I have is, isn't a persons happiness something of value? Or how about asking them to pass it on to someone else? I'll have to think about it. | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 12:11 AM |
| 1 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'It's interesting what you said about doing favors without asking something in return. Recently I gave something to someone (a guy) who acted really funny afterward. He clamed up, becoming really quiet and serious. This something was an object I wasn't using or would miss so it wasn't a big deal for me but for him it obviously was. I still don't understand why the strong reaction but I realize if I want a friendship with this person I have to be more selfish just to keep the peace. | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 10:41 PM |
| 2 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'Ah...Yeah, exactly. | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 10:32 PM |
| 2 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'I have a difficult time not "Falling for" women. When I like a woman, I really like them probably to an unhealthy degree. I would do anything for them without thinking of the consequences. I was interested in a woman and helped her move only to find out that after the move she had a fat date set up with a guy who apparently was too good to ask for help. It was devastating and humiliating. to make things worse, when I confronted her about it she said "Oh, but that means we can't be friends..." No… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 10:16 PM |
| 6 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'They use the word "nice guy" to describe a type of person. It may not be the best description but it's what is being used. It describes someone that feels compelled to be nice to others, not because he wants to but because he is afraid of the consequences of not being "nice". You are obviously not this type of person. You are empowered and not only make efforts for yourself but also make efforts for others. And these efforts are rewarding to you. It's just the opposite case from the one being de… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 10:00 PM |
| 3 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'I find that I often try to validate others probably because I feel inadequate myself. I spend too much time and effort telling others how good they are not understanding that this actually has the opposite effect on them and what you intended. Not only do they not feel better about themselves, they don't like you very much as well. I always say that it's ok to give to others but only to the extent that you do not give to much of yourself away and would hurt you later, like giving someone else mo… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 09:52 PM |
| 5 | 20 Life-changing things I learned from Robert Glover's book 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'I've tried to talk to friends about this and they all think I'm insane or a bad person. I tell them I need to be more selfish and they look at me like I'm crazy and tell me that "Selfish" is a bad thing. The worst is those that spout off about being unselfish and are not only more selfish than most people but take advantage of your unselfishness after telling you this. You give to them and they say, "See isn't it nice to be unselfish?" (Me) "If being so unselfish is such a good thing then why do… | /r/seduction | 30/09/12 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl says, "I just want to be alone for now."I'm going to recommend that they make you a moderator because not only is it obvious that you are a master boneman but you also have a way with explaining ideas simply and directly. I've never been called a whackjob so eloquently! | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Girl says, "I just want to be alone for now."There you go! Words of wisdom! I can feel the light coming down on me! | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Girl says, "I just want to be alone for now."Lay it on me "Bro" because you seem to know what the fuck you are talking about! | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Girl says, "I just want to be alone for now."I can't even begin to respond to this because it is so blatant that we are talking different languages. All I can say is read - http://seddit2.pbworks.com/w/page/47057894/FrontPage | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 03:55 PM |
| 1 | [PSA] "It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel."They are true and good quotes. | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 02:38 PM |
| 2 | [PSA] "It’s not so much what you say that counts, it’ how you make people feel."And if you want sex? What? Give sex? It doesn't really work that way. | /r/seduction | 21/12/11 02:08 PM |
| 1 | She just wants to be friends. Help./r/sex sent me here. I tried relationships and they said that it belonged in /r/dating. What I want to know is where is the /r/sleeping with friends? | /r/seduction | 23/10/11 03:36 PM |
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