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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 0 | How long will it take?why’d you all separate? more context is needed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/23 06:16 AM |
| 16 | Everything feels like transactional value, what we bring to the table. Let me explain.“This is amazing!” yeah, that’s quite a stretch. when everything is transactional based, your relationships are truly superficial, which means the individuals that you’re involving yourself with, truly have no care for you as a person, what’s cared about is your possessions. yeah, it’s the world we live in, but it’s very illogical to call it “amazing”. if you lose your job, or endure an injury and become out of shape.. let’s see how “amazing” those transactional relationships are, that you’re so… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/02/23 10:24 AM |
| 8 | Is it better for a man to go back to his wife of 30 years…for familiarity and sentimental reasons….or move forward with new love and fulfilling sex life and risk not having full time companionship?Don’t leave your wife on the grounds of this new “potential” love, working out... The absolute last thing you want to do, is be in a situation where this new relationship fizzles out, and you realize that you should have kept your wife that you’d had beforehand. Sit back and think about you, yourself, for once. do YOU want to leave this marriage? Don’t involve any other “potential” women/love in your decision, simply think about what YOU want. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 10:21 AM |
| 6 | Next potential partner and protecting your assests/earningsAlimony | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Moving after divorceI’m going through the same thing. my advice is, outweigh the pros and cons.. moving 700 miles away, you’d grow apart from them.. there’s no way to realistically parent from that far away, unless you’re constantly visiting, which is unreasonable financially.. on the flip side, moving 700 miles away could also really benefit you mentally, and allow you to be the best version of you... you’d just lose the aspect of parenting, or it’d be pretty limited. weigh both options out and go with the one tha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | (29M) - my wife (30f) went through my phone while I was asleep, and found conversations between myself and other women, that were inappropriate. I know I was wrong, but I need advice.. We have a 5 month old child as well.to be fair, it was the outcome of deep depression and loneliness | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/23 11:53 PM |
| 2 | A little success story for the dayHOORAH! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Moving back in ...do not leave your room without a body cam on brother. don’t even think about sex either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/23 08:31 PM |
| 2 | How to protect myself in the future (wife is low income)get the marriage annulled, like now. save yourself the headache. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/23 08:32 AM |
| 2 | Young Veteran Divorce. Spouse is requesting spousal support.depends on the state. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Am I in Denial About This?that coworker is certainly banging your wife. respect yourself brother. leave. it will be hard due to the kids, yes... or are you okay attempting to reconcile a marriage with a woman who’s went out and fucked other men? it will be a long ride, but hang in there, we’re all here for support. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/23 11:55 PM |
| 10 | The Luckiest man aliveyou’re living in an unknown reality if you haven’t concluded that your “wife”, has been out fucking and sucking other cock, while being married to you. she’s enjoyed the male attention, and you are pretty much just in her way at this point. stop trying to be friends with her, you are behaving as a huge pushover, and she realizes that you have no respect for yourself. if you have any respect for yourself, you should go no contact with her, only communicating through email. get this divorce comple… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/23 02:56 AM |
| 1 | just got a gun pointed at me.divorce and lawyer up, like NOW. she’s cheated 3 times, and you’ve stayed? brother, you’ve got to respect yourself and leave. do you all have children together? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/23 01:30 AM |
| 5 | Wife changing her mindwhat in the entire f*** is wrong with you brother? WAKE UP. your “wife” had another sausage in between her legs and mouth, while being married to you, while you’re fully supporting her financially... and you’re considering reconciling? wake up man. you have the upper hand, file, and don’t be a pushover. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | I'm in the anger stage of grief, and it has opened my eyes to the truth of marriage.thanks for sharing mate.. social media has made it “okay”, for women to be shit bags, and effortlessly live off of men, while they (these shitbags) bring absolutely nothing to the table. this is exactly why I’d never get married again, and this is why i’ve lost all energy and effort towards pursuing any sort of relationship with women. at this rate, it’s almost as if they’re solely good for sex (one night stands). | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/23 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Enjoy the process because you ll miss it when you accomplish what you want“All my life I wanted to be where I am now” If that’s the case, you were never truly red pill.. you’d simply went through spurts of it. Red pill, you’d never move a woman in with you, especially without her understanding that you’ll be banging other women on the side. i’d say you’re more on the purple pill side, honestly. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/12/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Separation Agreement not included in decreego ahead and amend the agreement. as of now, you’re definitely getting bent over without lube. you deserve better. get the courts involved, and be sure you get a geographic restriction in order. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/22 06:46 AM |
| 2 | Fucked up my 20's, i am a 30yo loser.Bro you’re 30..... you make it seem like you’re old, with life ending. get back out there, that’s all you can do. the best day to get your shit together, was yesterday, the next best day, is today. get to it!! | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/22 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Wow. She's willing to give me more custody time to be with her boyfriendstop investing your emotional state into your ex, she’s been thrown to the wolves, and there’s a better partner out there for you, which just hasn’t come along yet. focus on your kids, and be grateful that you’ll get more time with them. i’d even look into having some sort of clause done, so that your stbx isn’t able to flip flop, regarding her custody wants. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Men who filed, what pushed you over the edge to finally do it?get out now brother. our situations sound identical. try to stick around for the nesting phase, if you have a newborn, but have the process rolling. now as far as the night shift, it sucks, but it’d be fair for you to take on at least a few hours of baby watch daily. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Men who filed, what pushed you over the edge to finally do it?being unheard was my reason. my marriage drove me into a very dark place, to the point of suicidal thoughts, and extreme depression. the constant feeling of being unappreciated, not listened to, and outright disrespected pushed me over the edge. my “wife” changed once i started making decent money. she became lazy, and decided to live off of my success and hard work, while severely under appreciating me. i’m waiting on things to finalize now. we have a little one, but life seems so much more bli… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Anyone’s ex wife not like giving blowjobs?yeah, there’s definitely women out there who love giving oral mate. these women are soaking wet just off of pleasing orally. you have three options: sex, or marriage counseling.. could be a reason why your wife isn’t into sex with you get a side piece that’s understanding of your situation (yes, plenty exist, and are willing). just use protection. divorce. you’ve got one life. remaining starved of sex is important, don’t allow society to make you think that it isn’t. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/22 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?brother leave now, and just be a bachelor, or have long term relationships... marriage is just not it, especially for those who are successful like yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support?there’s no benefit to your wife signing it, so she probably won’t. your best bet is to stop having sex with her, and file for divorce now. don’t waste time with women you don’t trust. the last thing you want is for her to randomly pop up pregnant with your child, then you’re really hooked. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 02:43 PM |
| 5 | Welp. She just reached outwhy did she file, and do you want to repair the marriage? we would need those two questions answered first | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/11/22 11:00 AM |
| 6 | Can my wife stay on my health insurance after we are divorced?you’d want her on your health insurance, while she’s out getting rammed by other men? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/22 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Can my wife stay on my health insurance after we are divorced?yeah, that’d be a silly move | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/22 08:25 PM |
| 5 | will she keep the house?“i trusted her back then” bro, no matter how good the relationship is, never trust anyone 100%. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/22 11:37 AM |
| 3 | When a woman say she was/is in an abusive relationship or marriage, Abusive is a Code word for women.FACTS. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/09/22 04:57 AM |
| 8 | (29M) My spouse and I (29F) had a “surprise” pregnancy right before I’ve started the divorce process. I’d appreciate any adviceyou have a point brother. I’ll be sure to get the test | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:54 PM |
| 5 | (29M) My spouse and I (29F) had a “surprise” pregnancy right before I’ve started the divorce process. I’d appreciate any advicewe’d ‘tried’ for 10 years .. this happened very surprisingly | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/22 07:50 PM |
| 9 | Going Through Itshe’s on dating apps within the “beginning stages” of the divorce. i’d say you dodged a bullet.. keep your head up brother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/09/21 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Is marriage worth it?the current divorce rate is 50%.. I think that says enough alone. we’re in modern times, and life isn’t comparable (marriage wise) to what once was in the 60’s and 70’s. there’s literally no benefit that a man gains with marriage.. especially if you’re doing well for yourself financially. keep it as a “serious relationship” and things will go much smoother. once you’re “locked in”, shit becomes different and many things become obligatory. also, can’t forget the payments of alimony once a divorce… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | (29M) - I make 100k a year, no kids, no assets.. I’m unhappy and undervalued with my spouse (29F).. I feel weight leaving my shoulders whenever she’s away. Is this enough to divorce?thank you brother. I agree, Ive never been truly happy while in this marriage/relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/21 05:30 AM |
| 0 | (29M) - I make 100k a year, no kids, no assets.. I’m unhappy and undervalued with my spouse (29F).. I feel weight leaving my shoulders whenever she’s away. Is this enough to divorce?I’m a people pleaser, so it’s tough man.. family will look at me bad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/21 05:29 AM |
| 1 | (29M) - I make 100k a year, no kids, no assets.. I’m unhappy and undervalued with my spouse (29F).. I feel weight leaving my shoulders whenever she’s away. Is this enough to divorce?thank you brother. would you mind going into more detail by “women would would leave me for much less”? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/21 05:29 AM |
| 12 | Thinking about divorceFile. your mental health and peace comes before anything | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/21 07:01 AM |
| 2 | Wife moved out todayFile brother. My situation is almost 100% identical to yours. I’d like to point out that, Your wife doesn’t give a damn about you being at risk, as this virus could possibly kill you.. very illogical of her to pressure you into such a big gathering of any kind during the middle of a pandemic. That’s a huge red flag and explains how selfish she is. Your wife values her family much more than the actual marriage.. her family’s opinions and advice will hold more importance than yours will (her own h… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 3 | Looking for male perspectiveLet go of the past.. or you’re going to waste your life away living in a false reality with this man | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/20 04:17 PM |
| 1 | Looking for male perspectiveThe answer is obvious. Leave. Your spouse is blatantly talking to other women, right in front of your face. Basing this from your post, but it seems like the only thing keeping you in this situation is a lack of confidence in yourself. You are 32, not 70. You have a ton of time to make a lot out of yourself. Ultimately this man will string you along until the trophy wife comes along (no pun). I’d get out asap, because as of now you’re basically letting life dwindle away with a man that does not … | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/20 09:33 AM |
| 7 | Need helpthis advice is fucking gold. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/20 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Told my wife I want a divorce, having trouble leaving.she’s trying to suppress your positivity amongst moving on from her. you have no kids, and no assets together from what I’ve gathered.. we are responsible for our own happiness brother.. sometimes it may come off selfish, but are you willing to waste more of your time that you will never get back? throw her to the wolves brother. it’s time to move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | So Long, and thanks for all the fish.enjoy your trip brother. so glad to hear that all aspects have improved for you | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/10/20 08:09 AM |
| 1 | There’s been no cheating (that I know), we have no kids, no mortgage, and no assets.. please guide me guys (27m)incomes both equal 100k annually when combined | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/20 11:38 PM |
| 1 | There’s been no cheating (that I know), we have no kids, no mortgage, and no assets.. please guide me guys (27m)I appreciate your response brother. I’m definitely leaning towards listening to you and the fellow men who left feedback | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/20 10:58 PM |
| 2 | There’s been no cheating (that I know), we have no kids, no mortgage, and no assets.. please guide me guys (27m)that’s exactly how I feel brother.. like i’m in a prison. I appreciate your feedback | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/20 06:53 PM |
| 2 | There’s been no cheating (that I know), we have no kids, no mortgage, and no assets.. please guide me guys (27m)will do brother. sex hasn’t even been a thought lately. I appreciate your feedback | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/20 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Another night seeing the bottom of the bottle. My “wife” has admitted that she’s no longer happy with me, and that she’d rather move on. I saw it coming, I’m just scared of not finding a quality womanBrother from the bottom of my heart I appreciate your words. you really uplifted me. your advice will definitely be taken | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/20 03:51 AM |
| 1 | Another night seeing the bottom of the bottle. My “wife” has admitted that she’s no longer happy with me, and that she’d rather move on. I saw it coming, I’m just scared of not finding a quality womanThank you brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/20 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Another night seeing the bottom of the bottle. My “wife” has admitted that she’s no longer happy with me, and that she’d rather move on. I saw it coming, I’m just scared of not finding a quality womanI will definitely give this a try. thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/20 04:04 AM |
| 1 | I’m unhappy with myself, and I don’t have the mental strength to make my wife happy anymore. Divorce is the only viable option I see on the tableNo we didn’t due to her family’s tradition.. had to wait until after marriage. Prior to marriage the biggest issue was there being quite a bit of resentment towards each other due to prior issues within the relationship | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/20 09:56 PM |
| 2 | I’m unhappy with myself, and I don’t have the mental strength to make my wife happy anymore. Divorce is the only viable option I see on the tableIt was pretty argumentative prior to the wedding.. but after marriage we moved in together, that’s when everything exploded | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/20 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Anything I should know before I file?no kids, no mortgage, no vehicles.. this should be a clear cut sign the paper and be done divorce. Get out before more time passes.. depending on your state after a certain amount of years in marriage, the wife can file for annulment. best of luck EDIT: just noticed I said “annulment”, I meant to say your wife can file for “alimony” after so many years in marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/20 01:17 AM |
| 1 | This says so much!!!!!!! I had my own similar fantasy. Did you?! 29 M. Divorced this yeargoodness, this is the best statement that I’ve ever heard in my life | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/20 06:23 PM |
| 1 | My marriage is dragging me deeper and deeper into depressionThanks so much for you feedback brother. I will certainly reach out | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/20 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Another holiday alone, close to seeing the the bottom of the bottle againI appreciate your feedback mate. You shed a different light upon me that I should take account of. Cheers brother 🍻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/20 05:02 AM |
| 3 | Anyone newly divorced into lockdown?including or excluding the current world situation, the divorce is still a great option because of your mental health being restored... I’d keep at it with your workouts and maybe learn a new skill for now... also lots of self care and mediation.. as far as getting out and meeting women, it fucking sucks right now brother. No reason for me to lie, it’s nice getting out and fucking other hot women to sleep every once in and a while... it can be a confidence boost at times. For now, keep your shit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/07/20 09:18 AM |
| 4 | People who gave the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech, what's your story?it’s just a nice way of saying “i care about you but there’s no love left and I no longer view you as a lifetime partner”. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/20 10:18 PM |
| – | My (27m) wife and I have finalized the divorce. What helped you get through post divorce depression?I should have mentioned that I’m a pro body builder. the majority of my time is already spent at the gym.. wanking just adds more depression for me | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/20 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Another night of depression and drinking.. my marriage is falling apart (27m)I appreciate your feedback brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/20 09:44 AM |
| 1 | Wife would rather watch Netlix over having an actual conversation with meI agree completely , thanks for your response buddy | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/20 10:15 AM |
| 2 | Wife would rather watch Netlix over having an actual conversation with methanks brother, I appreciate your feedback. From the looks of it, I'll be saving a security fund for now and hopping out of this marriage asap | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/20 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Better to do it now or wait?I’d say file now brother. The longer you wait the more time you’d be wasting from moving on/potentially meeting the next great woman out there. I’d also see it as a huge benefit now since the home is valued 200k more than the original value | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/20 12:22 AM |
| 3 | Everything just keeps getting worseBuddy, “time” is the key word.. I know it’s ridiculously tough right now but trust me, give it time.. you have a lot to live for, don’t allow your pos stbx (no offense) drive you off of the edge.. plus your daughter would die w/o you. my advice, take some time off from work and spend a week or so, just enjoying different hobbies you like.. have some YOU time... it may be hard to see it now but there’s a much better lady out there that you haven’t ran into yet. give it time.. my inbox is open and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/20 10:40 AM |
| 2 | I feel depressed when my wife comes around..your story is so got damn encouraging man. thank you for your feedback! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/20 12:42 AM |
| 1 | PCOSno my wife is actually very in shape, at a healthy weight for height as well | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/20 07:55 PM |
| 1 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorceI have not. by “life stage”, is my age considered a bit old for divorce, etc? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/20 04:19 PM |
| 3 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorceyou have a very very good point | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/06/20 03:06 AM |
| 2 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorcethat would have an entirely different dynamic to it, it’d be hard to say tbh | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/20 11:03 PM |
| 3 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorcethanks buddy. The man’s happiness is always thrown to the curb. Let’s not be so 1 sided here guys | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/20 11:02 PM |
| 3 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorceI appreciate you buddy. I will surely turn up the dgaf meter during the process lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/20 08:58 PM |
| 1 | I’ll sound like an a-hole, but my wife can’t have kids and I see it as a valid reason for divorcebest thing i’ve heard. thanks | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/20 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Hello divorcees, what red flags never to ignore selecting a partner? Where did you go wrong?Like the first guy said, extensive sexual history. In my book it’s a red flag because it’s almost like you’re taking leftovers.. just my opinion though. bedsides that, watch out for someone with these tendencies: anger issues, has no desire or ambition to improve themselves, and anyone who has eyes for everyone else | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/20 09:15 PM |
| 1 | PCOSSounds like you empathized with her well.. I'm (27m) in the same boat as you, my wife has PCOS (28M) and we've been unable to conceive for a few years.. It's taken a toll on the relationship to say the least.. sounds harsh, but your wife already filed.. if you're looking to start a family I'd move on and save all of the trouble.. plenty of great women out there bud | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/20 09:30 AM |
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