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| 562 | The 100% best way to approach anyone | porn-chicken | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 10:31 AM | |
| 2 | Sage Wisdom, from the Sidebar of all places | porn-chicken | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 12:21 PM | |
| 1 | Trying to find a YT channel | porn-chicken | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 11:02 AM |
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| 5 | Did Tate help you change your entire seduction game (Explicit)The problem with all of this is there's no scientific way to debunk or prove it in either direction. What you attribute to his methods could well have been random chance. A lot of men go from doing nothing at all and having no success to doing terrible things and having some success. Was it the game that worked or was it just the fact you actually went outside? It's not easy to isolate the variables. This is where people like Tate get a foot in. We've seen people like him before in this communit… | /r/seduction | 12/05/23 06:13 PM |
| 3 | 26 approaches - 1 successThere's no such thing as a hardgainer. It violates the laws of thermodynamics. What you lack is consistency. 3500 is a lot for someone your size and probably quite difficult to maintain. Instead, just eat better at like 2500. Get more protein. Do a general bodyweight routine Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Go for a run on the other weekdays. Stretch before bed every day. Do that consistently for 6 months and you will see changes. Gym not necessary. Ironically, your persistence is probably a hindr… | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Failed to escalate Netflix and chill. What more could I have done?Don't put something on the TV that's more interesting than you are next time. | /r/seduction | 24/10/22 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else noticed this?Older people have better conversation skills since they have more experience. Young women are especially poor conversationalists since their experience is limited to other women of their age or men that approach them. This isn't a criticism, it's just an observation. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 10:19 PM |
| 1 | I’m a grown-ass woman, and I’m scared to ask this man out. Someone convince me to do it anyway!!The times I failed to act still weigh me down a decade later yet I barely remember any rejections. | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 01:28 PM |
| 5 | The fatal flaw with Mark Manson's ModelsI'm not sure why you have forgotten social norms and common decency. Being needlessly rude is a surefire way to come across as a tool. Vulnerability isn't unfiltered brainwaves without consequence, it means to be open and honest. For example, you meet a girl and you don't hide that you play dungeons and dragons because you think she's not into nerd stuff. The reason why this type of vulnerability works is because it's polarising. I imagine most women would think you're weird or cringe. But the o… | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Too white for black women and too white for everyone else?I looked at your profile and saw the picture you uploaded. It's not a flattering photo at all. You could do with a style revamp and you need practice taking photos. You are not ugly. By a longshot. But you are young and clearly still figuring yourself out. That is a difficult time for a man. Join a gym, take up a social hobby, work on your sense of style. You need a social circle, either way. You need to bring something of value to the table (more than just a penis). So what is it? Are you fun? … | /r/seduction | 01/07/22 12:18 AM |
| 3 | I have a naturally self-deprecative nature that I think is unappealing to women.Self-deprecating humour can be funny if it is obviously coming from a place of well meaning and self-confidence. Otherwise, it just comes across as a man who puts himself down in anticipation of others doing it. A grim joke coming from a cheery man sounds absurd. There is humour in the juxtaposition. A grim joke coming from a shy character sounds serious. The humour is lost to the awkwardness. Honestly, it's fine to drop the occasional self-burn. But keep it to a minimum and don't make people th… | /r/seduction | 28/06/22 12:50 AM |
| 2 | How to approach in clubs/bars when you’re f*cking deaf.Hearing any sounds at around 85dB for ~4hrs will cause hearing loss. Doubling the sound pressure level (+3dB) will half that exposure time. Headphones are capable of sounds in excess of 100dB. Clubs even more. I met several deaf musos while I was in that industry. One was DJ in his mid 20s with almost complete hearing loss above 2kHz in one ear. The youngest was a 16 year old with debilitating tinnitus. He was in a brass band and never wore ear defenders. TLDR Wear ear plugs if you value your he… | /r/seduction | 14/06/22 11:14 PM |
| 7 | How do you deal with not getting sex?Your issue is confidence. You are sabotaging yourself by going through life with timidity. Challenge the assumptions from your post ("I can't compete with other men" and "I'm nonexistent to women"). Challenge means to do things that someone who didn't believe those things would do. Ask yourself "what would I do in this scenario if..." when you are presented with an opportunity. You commented that you get matches - thats a positive sign. You just need to get out of your own way. | /r/seduction | 26/03/22 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Is it feasible to meet women in this day and age without using apps?Cut your hair. It will change the way people speak to you. I played in metal bands for 15 years and can tell you from experience that short or mid length clean hair is better in every aspect than long hair. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Is it feasible to meet women in this day and age without using apps?my social circle is small Do something about it then. I'm introverted Social anxiety isn't introversion. Introverts deal with people easily, but need alone time to recharge. Don't live in isolation. and I have a niche look and interests Cut your hair, clip your nails, brush your teeth. Go outside and try something new. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Review of Krakow, PolandThat's interesting. Arent catholics strongly against premarital sex? Maybe its a rebellious streak. I know from experience formerly religious girls can be absolute freaks... Doubt you'd see this in an Islamic country haha I suppose it depends on the area. Student-friendly and wealthy cities have always been my go to. My friend worked in China and absolutely tore through women lol I think any major city that has a party scene is ideal. Revolving door of people, all looking to make mistakes. I'm n… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 07:24 PM |
| 7 | Anyone else feel resentful of how they were brought up to view sex?Absolutely. I was very insecure as a teen which I attribute to my parents. Their own sex shame made them avoid addressing the topic if possible. My dad would rely on mockery and jokes to dissuade any tension and awkwardness, much to the detriment of my self esteem. My mother would yoyo between being an obstruction (threatening to throw me out if I asked any questions) and being too helpful (asking her friends which of their daughters would "help"). This left me with a lot of sexual shame and dee… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 07:09 PM |
| 10 | Review of Krakow, PolandPoland is extremely conservative so I'm not shocked. Plus, 30+ tinder is going to be an uphill battle wherever you are. I imagine your no nightclub rule and COVID anxieties played a role, though. So where are you off to next? The middle east? Haha | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Speed dating worth it?You have no idea what you're talking about. Despite the way social media and bipartisan news presents the issue, most in the UK are accepting and tolerant. London in one of the least segregated parts of England. Here's a pdf showing segregation is decreasing in London. Here's a pdf on racism against black people in EU. The UK is 2nd lowest of the western European countries. You can google the rest yourself. I don't expect your attitude to change so unless you actually have something to say that … | /r/seduction | 19/02/22 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Speed dating worth it?Clearly I guessed right lol No, you didn't. Incels like you only care about race when there's an opportunity to drag someone down. | /r/seduction | 19/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Speed dating worth it?He's in the UK, you racebaiting twat. We're significantly less racist here than the US. London is one of the most diverse and tolerant cities in all of Europe. | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 06:20 PM |
| 0 | Speed dating worth it?Firstly, fuck you for assuming my race. Second, if you weren't a braindead incel dumbfuck you'd realise straight away that if black men weren't attractive to women they'd die out. Many women still don't date outside their race, only date white guys, or simply don't find certain races attractive. Most people don't date outside their race. Men included. And when they do it is a fetishistic ideal that they expect. White men fetishise light-skinned Asian women. African American men fetishise white w… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Speed dating worth it?Ignore the incels. Your race is not going to be a deal breaker. In reality many white British women fetishise black men (which is problematic in its own way). POF profiles aren't representative of women. They're barely representative of OLD. Glasses aren't a deal breaker either, but you could get contact lenses if you felt like it. 5ft8 is fine. Don't even waste the brainpower on this. Frankly your lack of self-esteem is and transactional attitude towards sex is going to do you the most harm. I … | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Don’t see myself getting anywhereWhat would someone who believed it from within do? Do that. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 11:01 AM |
| 3 | [Question] How to deal with "White Knights"?The woman, herself tells her friend to back off, and that we're having a conversation She handled it. What else needed to be done at that point? | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Why are the single mums more receptive?They have extra baggage and are cognisant of it. Most young men will consider their options before getting romantically involved long-term. Women with children may struggle to commit as much as time to a new relationship. Young men without children of their own won't want the responsibility. Hence why the small number of young single mothers are in competition with young single not-mothers. It is a distinct disadvantage in dating. This is not as much of a problem for women +30, as men are more l… | /r/seduction | 11/02/22 08:30 PM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]It's not your autism, it's your inexperience. Social skills are skills and can be improved like all others. Yes, it's harder for you. But, with practice, you won't need to actively think about these things as they will be a habit. It takes time, confidence, and a little vulnerability. Don't try to rehearse conversations. What you call "chitchat" isn't a formulaic experience that rigidly adheres to a list of rules. Maybe give yourself some prompts, but try to be present in your interactions with … | /r/seduction | 03/02/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | how to seduce widower man"Hey, would you like to go for a drink?" | /r/seduction | 02/02/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Where the fuck do most guys learn this stuff?I disagree. While its undoubtedly true that might made right at one point in human history, that was what drove sexual attraction. Big men that can kill big threats and hunt big food were more effective reproducers. That programming is still within us, despite engineers and surgeons being "providers" in the modern age. From the way you've described it, barely anyone should qualify as an attractive partner. I think your problem is you are thinking of relationships as a list of quest items that yo… | /r/seduction | 29/01/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Where the fuck do most guys learn this stuff?You should know that really it's not learning how to. It's unlearning how not to. Sex is literally part of your biology. It's programmed into you on the deepest level. But social dynamics have evolved quite rapidly and the heuristics our minds use to evaluate and navigate it need recalibrating. Some people learn these skills that helps them early in life. Social skills, conversation skills, hygiene, manners, etc. For others, they do not, so they have to learn it later in life. | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Does fractionation work on men?Where have you heard this term? I know I shouldn’t just be putting this out in the open but I really can’t find any material or source that can answer this question. You really haven't divulged a hidden PUA secret. The modus operandi of fake gurus since PUA started has been to use "science" words to make the gullible think they know what they're talking about. | /r/seduction | 25/01/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Great insight. You are completely right. The commenter's response is a vulnerable one because you've touched a nerve. He obviously has some wounds he needs to heal. However, I don't think blame is an adequate word. It's not about blame, which implies fault. It's about ownership, which implies responsibilty. By taking the ownership mindset you're inheriting the responsibility to act upon things. Instead of relying on luck, kindness, charity, or pity, you're now in the driver's seat and can direct… | /r/seduction | 08/01/22 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Men who were once horrible with women but are now good, what changed?I got a penis extension, a race change surgery, stilts, pec implants, smoke 40 malboro a day to make my voice gravely, one of those guns that shoots dollar bills and a pimp cane for smacking hoes down. But seriously. You don't need to have some epiphany moment to become successful. You just need some consistent effort. You may have a moment that makes you feel motivated, but that motivation will fade. You need something that keeps you going without that motivation there. Let's be real. There's n… | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 03:36 PM |
| 1 | The monetisation of dating apps and why is doesn’t work for most of usIt's a weird entitlement isn't it? So many of these posters expect tinder to operate like a free rent-a-girlfriend service and get angry when they need to put the slightest effort in. You know you've touched a nerve with them when your comment ends up controversial lol | /r/seduction | 30/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 1 | The monetisation of dating apps and why is doesn’t work for most of usNobody is a part of your problem but you. Being "below average" is not a disability and nobody is required to meet you halfway just because you're feeling sorry for yourself. If everyday life is burning you out then tinder is the last of your worries. While ghosting isn't a pleasant experience, it's not going to harm you, only your ego. Stop putting so much of your self-worth onto women who barely know you. Let's get something straight here. You're not "monetising love". You're paying for a serv… | /r/seduction | 30/12/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]This is a weird question. You shouldn't waste your mental energy asking these types of questions. Writers are not inherently anything. What matters is perspective. Some writers can be sexy to some women. Some will be be seen as ugly. Are all writers sexy to all women? The answer is clearly no. The converse is also true. Now, is David Duchovny sexy? I know women who would say absolutely! A few men who would agree, too. Is his character sexy? He's written that way, sure. Are you him? No. Does that… | /r/seduction | 29/12/21 01:06 AM |
| 1 | I still can't do itThe idea of cold approaching terrifies me and I just walk around and get sad. Stop doing this and just do something else that doesn't make you feel like a criminal. Join meetups. Join a sports team. Something that will put you in social situations that require you to interact. You don't have a cold approach problem, you have a social anxiety problem. I'm too lazy to get vaxxed so can't go to restaurants/movies for dates That sounds like a you problem. Live with it or do something about it. I'm a… | /r/seduction | 27/12/21 11:43 AM |
| 4 | My little bro has had more sexual experience than me…Have you tried anything other than waiting to be asked out? | /r/seduction | 23/12/21 02:32 AM |
| 0 | Would you recommend black-and-white "hip hop techwear" for peacocking?Would this style be any good for peacocking? If you have to ask, no. Peacocking is about standing out by being unique. Copying what the kids wear on r/streetwear isn't going to make you stand out. I'm not really interested in suits, even though I do recognize their value when peacocking. Nobody is peacocking in a fucking suit unless it's neon green. You'd blend into an office within seconds. Hell, lets give it a PUA sounding name. Chameleoning. There, that's what that is. | /r/seduction | 22/12/21 03:22 PM |
| 7 | What's the psychology behind women who are into rough play, bdsm, slutty behaviour?You're going to get lots of correct sounding answers but really they are an ad-hoc rationalisation of something that probably doesn't have a sound explanation in science. We have wires in the brain and if something lights up the right pathway, then that's what it does. | /r/seduction | 15/12/21 08:53 PM |
| 2 | Do you like anyone in the group?Don't assume that people are out to hurt you. A question like that could be just a way of setting up small talk, or they might not know anyone in the group and want to find a clique. Assume the best of people until shown otherwise. | /r/seduction | 20/11/21 05:10 PM |
| 11 | I’ve been a good girl, a slut and everything in between: tips from a different perspectiveIt's a bot - should be banned anyway | /r/seduction | 15/11/21 06:49 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Lol they should worry about my past! I've banged some absolute munters after a few too many shandies... Once you get older, it's kind of assumed everyone has a history. I don't bring it up and neither do they. Make sure you get tested every time you get a new partner, then it's not anything to worry about. | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 05:58 PM |
| 62 | What are your tricks to keep conversation going?Purposefully steer the conversation into "uncharted territory" Safe topics are boring precisely because they are inoffensive. I'm not advising you talk about edgy stuff. Just something that might rock the boat a little. Think self-amusement rather than comedy routine, though. Another conversion trick is to tell a tangentially related story. It can be somewhat uneventful as long as you tell it well enough. Silences aren't always awkward. It's tense but sometimes it's nice to just hang out. Don't … | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 09:46 PM |
| 45 | A trick I've found works great for getting womenLmao at one point this could have passed as legit PUA theory | /r/seduction | 24/10/21 09:35 PM |
| 16 | Any sex advice for women?Learn how to give a handjob - nothing kills a boner quicker than a death grip with dry hands painfully tugging the skin. You'd be shocked how many women don't understanding this and can't or refuse to learn. Just try to imagine what a vagina is doing to a penis and translate that to your hand. Blowjobs - more lips and tongue, less teeth. Some guys like the noises, others don't. Don't be lazy - If you fuck like a mattress on heroin then expect to have boring sex. Get involved and take charge occa… | /r/seduction | 03/10/21 10:55 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Wanting sex is normal. Wanting sex so bad you'd fuck anyone. The type of seedy desperate that comes across when any woman so much as looks at you. That's a problem. Remind yourself that you have options and you are allowed to have standards. | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 02:36 PM |
| 5 | What are some things men can do to show romantic/sexual interest in a girl?Specific compliments cannot be canned. "You look good" is a generic compliment that means very little and come across insincere. "Your outfit looks good. I like <something specific>" is more personal and generally appreciated if kept appropriate for the situation. | /r/seduction | 23/09/21 09:59 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]I have no lack in confidence and can talk to women just fine but feel like because of my height they treat me as if i’m a child Nice. You have the same experience as every other man on the planet that can hold a conversation. Remember, most men are not attractive to most women. You cannot just grace them with your presence and expect to win them over. This doesn't mean you are ugly or undateable or whatever else people may read into it - it means you need to persevere. Yes, women will turn you d… | /r/seduction | 14/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]Lets clarify. Fashion can mean what you wear or it can mean brand obsession or it can mean chasing styles. What you wear matters because if you look like shit it affects how people perceive you. Buying clothes for the brand name alone is silly. It's not going to make up for terrible game. Chasing every new style because you think it will make you attractive or popular is silly. Cutting edge fashion is something most people aren't that interested in. It won't make up for terrible game. r/malefash… | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Norwood 2a-3 Receding taking toll on my self esteem. Need adviceNorwood 2 isn't that bad. A good barber can work with it. Just don't do the "cover my balding temples" comb-over or grow your fringe out to hide your forehead. If your hair is thin, then your receded temples will show through your hair and that looks worse than being bald. A good barber will hint at what works best if they think you're too self-conscious to say directly. They won't advise you to get an emo cut to hide your receders. Just be honest and say you're self-conscious. Ideally, have at … | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Picking up women in a club!Next time you have this brainwave ask yourself this. And? No matter the response, ask yourself this. Yeah, and what? Repeat until you realise you're being silly. | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 03:42 PM |
| 1 | How can I be less intimidating?This is sadly something tall men have to deal with. Some people find people much bigger than them scary and that's unavoidable. However, you can be mindful of how you are perceived. A tall guy with a bad attitude is gonna do worse on average than a tall guy with a warm, approachable personality. Consider is your facial expression. Resting Bastard Face is a real thing and it's hard to understand where the line is between looking mysteriously pensive or angrily scowling. Also, avoid doing the bug-… | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 10:28 AM |
| 59 | [22M] Just graduated university a kissless virgin. Absolutely devastated and have 0 hope. What now?Yes, there is hope. You are young and in a great stage of life. Just graduating puts you in a position ahead of lots of people. Now it's up to you to create a life you want to live. But it will be immensely difficult. Not because the task is difficult, but because you must do something outside of your comfort zone. Your little bubble of safety needs to be popped and you need to take the initiative. Become more social, more engaging, more expressive, and less hesitant to fail. Get a sense of styl… | /r/seduction | 25/06/21 07:43 PM |
| 2 | 24 y/o with aspergers, professionally successful but have never datedAspergers professionally successful socially inept Never dated Average height ugly virgin All those things. Discard them. They're useless. The only bit of info you need from this post is that you are a capable person, who is now successful in spite of the challenges they've faced, who needs to actually apply themselves to dating. You have enough self-awareness to recognise that you need to put effort into your appearance - so do it. You recognise that you haven't put yourself into situations tha… | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | UK folk - has covid completely decimated cold approach?UK cold approach is not well taught or understood. PUA is largely Americanised so it plays on American social attitudes and expectations. It is not considered confident to be as loud or brazen here as it is in the US. Boastful can be interpreted as rude. Openers need to be much more polite and apologetic than PUA would usually recommend. Like you said, we are not as welcoming of strangers. Very social circle orientated. Cities are better than towns in a way, especially ones with a university. Ho… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | In response to the "do girls like muscles" postYes, so many misconceptions in this subreddit. Working out shouldn't be a question. You should just do it. Everyone. No exceptions. Having a better physique makes clothes fit better. It makes the aches and pains of life bearable. It gives you peace of mind. It keeps you in good health for longer. It is a cheaper hobby than basically anything else. Just lift, stretch, and occasionally run. It's not that complicated and is immediately beneficial. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Brainstorming Practical Strategies Beyond Willpower & Motivation.You already have a motivation... stop kidding yourself. Your motivation just needs to outweigh your fears. You can grow motivation, or you can reduce your fears. Your motivation is fine, so work on reducing your anxiety - by taking responsibility. Paying a dating coach is silly. You're not taking accountability, you're putting the burden of keeping yourself accountable onto someone else. Instead, you must find a rule to follow at all times. One that is so easy that it's harder to break it than f… | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How to stop pedestalizing women.Because you are giving to get. You treated her the way you did from the get go, she didn't treat you the way you expected. The difference is that it was good enough for you at the start, you just expected her to change. That's not how people work. Read No More Mr Nice Guy. | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 02:21 PM |
| 2 | How to stop pedestalizing women.Good post. In short, handle life without the women you are attracted to. If you are emotionally resilient enough to be a good individual, you will be a great life partner. Let's be honest, everyone here puts pussy on a pedestal. We're here because we value sex and would like to have as much of the best sex we can get. That's an investment. Inherently, there's nothing wrong with having some investment in women. The issue arises when certain men put all women on a pedestal, simply because they are… | /r/seduction | 11/06/21 02:14 PM |
| 1 | How can I be more charming & charismatic around my female friends? **Someday, Please help me on this**Have you actually made a move on her? If yes, then she's not interested and it's time to move on. If not, then make a move. | /r/seduction | 30/05/21 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Why are so many of todays men so dumb and paying so much hard earned money into the escort/callgirl/sex work industry and letting these women make extravagant amounts of money....Not sure why you felt the need to clarify that you're straight, twice. #1 is an apex fallacy. Most prostitutes are poor, drug addicted, trafficked, abused, exploited, etc. The women who manage their sexwork business themselves through the internet make the majority of the money, but only represent a small portion of the industry. #2 No prostitute with two braincells to rub together will go near a dick without a condom on. Not even oral sex. STDs are bad for business. Referencing #1, "professiona… | /r/seduction | 27/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | As a younger guy, am I going to regret avoiding casual sex when I'm older?Nobody can say. It's personal. I don't think casual sex should be avoided, provided you take the necessary precautions and make good character judgements (basically wear a condom and don't bang intravenous drug users). I also don't think you should do it, either. One of my biggest regrets is not banging a girl who was into me before I moved away. We were really into each other and hooked up a few years before in weirder circumstances. I got a ride home as she started getting naked... I still kic… | /r/seduction | 08/05/21 02:41 PM |
| 1 | how do you respond when a girl says "wow you're tall"?"Nahh you're just short" always gets a rise out of people. | /r/seduction | 23/04/21 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever taken an advice from here and actually got laid? because I feel like it is bad idea to take advice from redditThat’s how you masturbate on Friday nights. Lmao i'm stealing this | /r/seduction | 19/04/21 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever taken an advice from here and actually got laid? because I feel like it is bad idea to take advice from redditThe general advice has changed over the years but this sub is actually helpful if you couple it with some reading materials such as No More Mr Nice Guy, Models, and Psycho-Cybernetics. I recommend everyone reads those books, not just men trying to get laid, since they're incredibly insightful. Reddit in general is breeder of hivemind-like cesspools, so don't assume the top answer is factual. Some repeat falsehoods in good faith, some spread disinformation intentionally, some are bitter and relis… | /r/seduction | 19/04/21 01:45 PM |
| 2 | I am a [19M] with dancing monkey syndrome. Help me find the cureRaising your voice occasionally or being animated isn't killing your dates. Your insecurity is. Stop trying to impress women and don't try to manage expectations. Learn to relax in your own skin so you can be authentic. You don't need to do a standup routine or be stone cold stoic to be attractive. | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | I can't forget my ex-girlfriend(we got engaged), she left me before 2 months and blocked me from everywhereYou are being pathetic in a way that's bad for your health. Your relationship was a sham by your own admission. Why would you want to return to it? You'd get back together, have a nice honeymoon phase, then go back to shouting at each other. Fuck that. You are lying to yourself about loving this woman - you are jealous and bitter. She broke it off with you, on her terms. She removed you from her life. I'm going to be honest. She was probably right to do so. If your post is anything to go by, you… | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 03:54 PM |
| 4 | Field report since my divorceThis subreddit is a goldmine for S-tier retardation sometimes but this one is definitely at the top of the list. Well done, mate. You've made my sides leave the earth. | /r/seduction | 02/04/21 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Can't seem to create sexual attraction with ANY woman."Hey, wanna come grab a coffee with me?" But wait... Are you trying to pull a specific girl? If you asked her out and she said no, just move on. You won't game a girl into loving you. The answer to the second question is no. You can go to a coffee shop purely platonically. | /r/seduction | 02/04/21 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Can't seem to create sexual attraction with ANY woman.Not everything you say needs to be a mindblowing observation that demonstrates your superior value. Just have some banter and do things. Being someone people can just be around is way more important than cool one-liners or observations. Learn to be good company. There's no awkward silence if the silence isn't awkward. Instead of just standing there like a lemming like you seem to do in your example, take her to a coffee shop. Then the silence and be used for drinking coffee. Or just relaxing. Th… | /r/seduction | 31/03/21 09:01 PM |
| 5 | Finding late 20's early 30's girls.You are romanticising a situation that cannot exist because you are fundamentally unhappy with yourself. Get help and fix what's wrong instead of blaming your relationship. | /r/seduction | 31/03/21 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Anyone in UK here - the girls I like just seem completely unattainable?Game works slightly different here. And differently again in that London/Essex bubble. In my experience, it's very cliquey and based heavily on superficialities like status and looks. Cold approach is extremely hard in these circles unless you know someone. The benefit is that the barrier to "knowing" someone is at a much lower threshold. Basically, meet someone on a night out twice and take a few pics with them and you can call them a friend. I will echo the sentiment of the other commenters. T… | /r/seduction | 05/12/20 10:38 PM |
| 7 | I have type 1 genital Herpes. Here is how it has affected my dating lifeA mate of mine showed me a dating app for people with incurable STDs he's been using. I don't know why I didn't think it would exist. So if all else fails, you could always just bang someone else with the same disease! | /r/seduction | 01/11/20 03:43 AM |
| 2 | Girl that I’ve been seeing and I both tested positive for COVID. She often checks on me and texts me for updates. Now that I really have no reason to not text her and I’m too available. Her attraction and efforts are falling very low. Do I just pull away or is this too inconsiderate?You're losing your mind assuming things. Stop it because panic makes you say stupid things. You aren't obligated to respond. Let her message and leave it for an hour or so. She won't die if you don't respond, I promise. Do 50 sit-ups or something if you want an excuse to not respond immediately. After you're both recovered try to put it behind you. Acknowledge it, of course, but try to just pick up where you left off. | /r/seduction | 13/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 2 | How can you talk to women like regular people instead of coming off as horny all the time?Habitually speak to everyone. You learn to moderate yourself better if you speak to a variety of people, especially people you don't want to smash. If you only speak to the hot girls in a room, and bypass every other woman and dude there, then you're gonna look like a sex fiend. | /r/seduction | 03/10/20 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionOkay, first point. Actions are what make someone stupid, not a lack of intelligence. Intelligent people often do stupid things. If I wanted to call you a retard, I'd just call you one. I'm implying that it's stupid to continually deny the truth and refuse to change. I have said before that I can tell you are not dumb. Again, a week after making the point, my answer hasn't changed. Exposure is the aim, so exposure is the way to start. There are two methods that were developed to help with confron… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 07:04 PM |
| 1 | The rules if text game is DRIVING ME CRAZY!Just minimise the amount of messages you send and you won't say something that hurts your chances. There are no rules, just common sense. Don't write essays, don't multi-text, don't be constant available. | /r/seduction | 22/09/20 06:37 PM |
| 1 | All pubs and bars in UK to close at 10pm instead of 2AM-3AM RIP NightgameIt is what it is and it won't last forever. Hopefully the numbers settle down by the year end and we can return to normal next year. | /r/seduction | 22/09/20 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionMate, I feel for you but you must be a special kind of stupid to keep this up. It's more effort than just trying. Money didn't get him laid. He didn't have sex for almost a decade because he played World of Warcraft instead of going outside. Everything else was his mind rationalising it. That's exactly the same kind of problem you have. You and him both shoot no shots and wonder why you haven't hit a target. You touch on an important point. He still has to learn to say no to women he isn't inter… | /r/seduction | 21/09/20 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionThat is called impostor syndrome, buddy. 12 years is a long time to live with the doubt and it must have eaten you up inside. Failure isn't anything to be afraid of. You only get one life and I cannot think of anything more terrifying than realising how many regrets you have on your deathbed, when you can do nothing about it. Whatever it is you want to do, immerse yourself in it now. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionAgain, you've commit a fallacy in your thinking here. You assume that self-esteem can only be damaged and that it needs protection from harm. You can actually build it up and make it stronger. The reason a lot of guys resist doing this is because they feel uncomfortable going against their habits. Even self-destructive ones like shying away from adversity, self-isolation, self-neglect, and self-harm. Instead of thinking of self-esteem as a fine china you need to shelter away in case it breaks, t… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 11:20 PM |
| 3 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionIf you weren't so myopic, you'd realise the inherent contradiction in what you've just said. It's blatant circular logic. Re-read this sentence. probably should not approach, since they have very low odds It makes no sense. If you have low odds at something, you should DO IT MORE. Whatever "odds" you have are multiplied by each attempt. Even 0.1% * 1 approach is an improvement over 99% * 0 approaches. See: SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY With that said, you actually shouldn't focus on approaching. Not … | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 05:02 PM |
| 13 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionThose other "barriers" are still your self-doubt. Unless you live somewhere you can be put to death for approaching someone, you'll be fine. The worst that's ever happened to me is an embarrassing rejection. After a few, you become numb to them. Most people are polite and friendly, even if they aren't interested. | /r/seduction | 13/09/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | I decided to take texting out of my gameIt's hard to sell yourself down the phone or over text, but easy to give the wrong impression. It's a weird way to bypass normal human interactions, so it's not wrong to be bad at it. In fact, since most human communication is non-verbal, it's probably more common than not. Basically, each text you send has a higher probability of fucking up your hard work with a girl than it does of maintaining or enhancing it. This is a problem, since a lot of the younger generations feel most comfortable send… | /r/seduction | 18/08/20 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Guys, how to be confident In yourself when you’re balding & hairline receeding?I'm not balding enough to justify having to shave it permanently yet but definitely have a mature hairline. It's something almost all men have to come to terms with at some point, so I don't sweat it. If it can't be helped, why stress? I think clean shaven heads are a good look for most men, it's just a culture shock if you've had longer hair all your life. Personally, i think it's the most masculine hairstyle a man can have. Done it a few times and loved it when I was younger (once during a hea… | /r/seduction | 18/08/20 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Do some of you guys avoid ONS at clubs just to avoid STD risk? Like do you get to know the girl first and figure what she's about and how she gets down, or do you not care? Or, do you meet in the club, but set-up a date instead to get a read on her?a girl who comes off as slutty is likelier to have said STD. If only I could go back in time and tell myself this wasn't true lmao Even the cute Sunday school girls who you'd take to meet your mother are riddled. I assumed it was just ugly, slutty, or desperate chicks that got diseases. Found out the hard way that appearances can be deceiving. | /r/seduction | 08/08/20 10:40 AM |
| 4 | How can I tell if girls in general find me attractive?Assume attraction. Women are bad at giving clear signals. Men are bad at interpreting signals. Add these together and you get a lot of false negatives. Men are also good at listening to the doubtful voice in the back of their mind. It latches onto any insecurities if you let it. Don't let your self-esteem taint your estimation of peoples' opinion of you. Seek professional help if you need to. | /r/seduction | 07/08/20 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?I have been at this for years and folks still don't get it. You've spent years trying to convince a subreddit dedicated to self-improvement that it's wrong to tell you to try self-improvement, when you've never tried the suggested self-improvement. Just think about that for a moment. This was a thread about all out positivity, so lets jump back to that. Give it a go. Seriously, you have nothing to lose. Log off for 7 days and keep a diary. Be positive, do positive things, then post a field repor… | /r/seduction | 06/08/20 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?One of my friends is "high functioning autistic" and he runs a successful music studio - no small feat in the current economy of a declining music industry. He struggles with interaction due to social anxiety just like you, but plays to his strengths (his creativity and resourcefulness) and gets by. Some days he cannot be around people because it overloads him. But he's self-aware enough to find coping strategies. He also sought help and established a support network. He's very forthcoming about… | /r/seduction | 05/08/20 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Is it impossible to avoid STDS?Cling wrap! Haha! Its called a dental dam | /r/seduction | 03/08/20 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?You make it out like we live in an autistic apartheid, but in reality it's one of the most accepted learning difficulties out there. There are probably millions of people on the spectrum and who go through life just fine. ADD, too. Social anxiety is a manageable condition if you are willing to work on it. Emphasis on if. If you can't work full time, work part time. Anything but nothing. Volunteer for something low effort. A charity shop is as low pressure as it gets. Low consequence, low risk. Y… | /r/seduction | 03/08/20 12:28 AM |
| 2 | Anyone in a Similar Situation?Sounds like you need to re-read No More Mr Nice Guy, because not wanting to make girls uncomfortable can be one of the "nice guy" traits. It could be rooted in sexual shame, as a fear of getting cancelled (assuming in a #MeToo way) kind of implies that you see women as unwilling participants in your romantic encounters. Like it says in the book, there are two types of nice guy - "I'm so bad" and "I'm so good". I have a hunch you may fall into the second category as you listed all of your superfi… | /r/seduction | 01/08/20 01:26 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about going to prostituteYou realise that it's not just prostitutes who have STDs, right? I think the question is a moral one. Are you comfortable with the notion of exchanging money for sex with a stranger? Secondarily, are you using it as to avoid approaching? Are you doing it to make up for your lack of self-esteem? If so, you run the risk of becoming addicted to it. I've known several men who've fallen into this trap. A dry spell can't kill you. Going without sex isn't fun, but it's not unbearable. However, it isn't… | /r/seduction | 27/07/20 02:12 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?A homeless guy doesn't have a problem getting laid. He has a problem of not having stable living conditions. Not getting his dick wet is a symptom of the greater problem - being homeless. Why is he homeless? Might be drug problems, debt, mental health issues. If we swap you in and this hypothetical homeless man out of the metaphor, what is your issue? It's not that you can't get laid. That's a symptom of the overarching problem. You point out the superficial aspects of your situation, stuff you … | /r/seduction | 20/07/20 12:05 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?That's all pressure you've put on yourself. Let it go, mate. Instead of putting pressure on yourself to achieve a certain outcome, judge yourself on whether you did the necessary actions to achieve it. If you did, then you're making progress and you should be proud. For example, instead of saying "I must be xyz% bf and so many lbs", start saying "did I go to the gym today? If yes, I've done what is within my power". Moreover, you should just start hitting on women now. Don't do the whole "I'll d… | /r/seduction | 14/07/20 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?Ulcerative colitis is rough, you can't hold it against yourself. To me, it sounds like you put a lot of pressure on yourself to meet expectations that are quite unfair to hold yourself to. The world is drastically unfair, but you can't do anything to change it in one go. Nor should you. But you can live in a way that you feel is just and fair to others. It's slow, but that's how society progresses. And again, it's difficult to combat things like social anxiety. You should recognise that it takes… | /r/seduction | 13/07/20 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?That's a good list, but there could be many reasons. It could be that you lack a sense of perspective. Or need a new direction in life. Or maybe you're burned out and need a break. What's positive is personal. Are you genuinely fulfilled by those things? Gaming isn't fun to me anymore, but music is. Lifting is a cornerstone of my life, but maybe yoga is for you. Depression is an affliction that we're still yet to fully understand, but it's getting there. Perhaps it would be worth speaking to a p… | /r/seduction | 13/07/20 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?Cutting off negativity is good, but you need to fill the void with positivity. Otherwise you'll regress to the mean state, which has been negative for some time. For every negative you cut out, replace with a positive. Quit junk food -> drink water Quit incel reddit -> join toastmasters Quit video games -> join gym | /r/seduction | 13/07/20 12:37 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone benefited from Quitting Pessismism?We've spoke a few times on these forums I'm one of those people who spent too long in the woe-is-me camp. Got pushed around by an ex, couldn't pull girls like my friends could, jaded attitude held me back. Etc, etc. I totally attribute my growth as a person to attitude changes, and I'm not isolating that to my success with women. Now it's a good thing you're trying to change something about your mentality. A positive mental attitude is good for resilience and for recognising when you slip into n… | /r/seduction | 13/07/20 12:30 PM |
| 2 | Does height matter?The biggest man-slut I know is probably shorter than you. He just got married to an absolute babe who he met when she was 18 and he was 30. She's the same height as him, if not just a smidge taller. He played in bands with me in our teens and 20's, partied like an animal, and was just generally a good guy to hang with. Also shot his shot with literally every woman. He banged some U G L Y women, but he often scored "way out of his league". It taught me a lot tbh He was deeply insecure, but made u… | /r/seduction | 12/07/20 01:06 PM |
| 1 | How can I care about rejections less.I did few approaches got one lay only. Take out the word only and that's a positive statement. It sounds like you're doing the right things. Give yourself some credit for your success and don't sweat the rest. Post a FR and people can give you some feedback to help you make tweaks to your approach. | /r/seduction | 20/06/20 04:25 PM |
| 1 | Top 5 Men's Dating Coaches In 2020I've said it once, I'll say it again. We're in the age of "gurus" in the community. In my opinion, most Youtube channels won't educate you on anything valuable. Lots of them have pumped up numbers because sad lonely men love to binge infields so they can pick women up vicariously. They regurgitate the same points the OG's made and stretch them into 10-15 min videos with clickbait titles. The worst channels pay actresses for infields. The best channels repeat stuff Mark Manson or Neil Strauss wro… | /r/seduction | 20/06/20 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Really expensive meal as first date?Bro, I'd take myself twice. Fuck wasting that shit on some lass I've just met. | /r/seduction | 20/06/20 03:55 PM |
| 5 | DO GIRLS HATE DATING GUYS WITH SPEECH IMPEDIMENTS/ DISABILITIES?!I can tell you right now, people succeed in life despite of whatever perceived inadequacies may ail them. Physical attractiveness is one facet of attraction and is valued very differently amongst humans. Some women will not give you the time of day because of your stutter. It is what it is. However, not everyone is as judgemental. BUT... Let's have a frank discussion about something here. Is the problem actually your stutter, or your self-image? I think you know what the answer is. But because y… | /r/seduction | 19/06/20 03:27 AM |
| 2 | How to even start? My mind goes completely blank.Go step by step. Find the limit of your tolerance and go just outside of it. Instead of jumping straight to flirting, hold a conversation. Hold it for longer than you usually would. Find ways to challenge the assumptions you have about women and yourself. If embarrassment is a fear, put yourself in embarrassing situations. Realise that embarrassment can't harm you. | /r/seduction | 14/06/20 12:00 PM |
| 5 | How do you go about socializing and dating if you don't like to drinkI'm straight edge after years of drink and drug abuse. Found out quite quickly that you can be t-total and still make friends if you have the right energy. No big secret, just the right attitude. Maybe the club isn't your spot, but I could still go out and have a good time in my 20's. Gotta widen your search area as well, though. Meetup, clubs, hobbies. Put yourself out there. I have gym buddies, musician buddies, work mates, old friends from home, old school mates. Life doesn't stop after schoo… | /r/seduction | 13/06/20 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Do I look different between these 2 photos?Woah! Thats a different pic than usual! It is you! Hope you're doing OK, buddy. How'd that chat with the GP go? | /r/seduction | 12/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 2 | 8 WAYS TO PRACTICE & MASTER GAME AT HOMELove it. The real advice is always in the comments! | /r/seduction | 06/06/20 01:08 PM |
| 3 | Am I too skinny for a 6ft tall male? Get stared down often mainly my legs doMate, I could create a replica of you in a 3d printer just from the volume of photos you've posted to this sub. | /r/seduction | 11/05/20 01:47 PM |
| 4 | 6 Rules To Get The Date"You should be confident in the first place" Wrong. You need to act in spite of your confidence. ' How is this shit not being moderated? | /r/seduction | 06/05/20 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone else struggled with people thinking you’re gay? If so, how can I fix this issue.Right, so you're taking off the cuff comments to heart then? It's just banter, mate. Agree and amplify. Banter back. | /r/seduction | 06/02/20 08:24 PM |
| 5 | Is the PUA/seduction community dead?A lack of gurus is a good thing. You want actual players to build a community, not shills. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 10:43 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone else struggled with people thinking you’re gay? If so, how can I fix this issue.This is the right suggestion. Without seeing OP we have no idea if he really does look gay or is just sensitive to being called gay. | /r/seduction | 05/02/20 10:40 AM |
| 5 | Guys who are highly successful with women, was it always that way for you?Are you sure, or do you just perceive it that way? There is research that shows that people who do not socialise do not know how to interpret facial expressions accurately. Interpreting non-threatening expressions as threatening. The more you avoid it, the less you are calibrated. So the solution is to go out and do it. Questions you should ask yourself: Do they all need to smile back? Why? Can I tell what they're thinking? Can I really tell, or am I assuming that I can tell? Am I protecting mys… | /r/seduction | 04/02/20 06:48 PM |
| 1 | FR -2-set - bar - UKYou'll be glad to know that foreigners are more warmly received on cold approaches. At least that's what I have observed. In my experience, European and American men don't get as harshly put down. If you have an accent it means you are playing on Easy mode. Plus, there's the "I'm new here and don't know anyone" factor. I don't know about the Irish as I've never visited. I've always had good banter with people when I've visited Scotland, but I don't think there's that big of a difference between … | /r/seduction | 03/02/20 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Getting Desensitizing Condoms for first time having sexYou will bust a nut at some point. That is the point of sex. If you only last 30 seconds, tell her she was incredible and go back to foreplay until you can go again. | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | FR -2-set - bar - UKBrit here. "Game" like Mystery or Todd V's methods will not work with any consistency in the UK. It is far too brash. Those frameworks were calibrated against girls in big American cities and serve very little if any use in a culture as reserved as the UK's. You may get more milage in uni cities if you go out during freshers, but it still isn't as effective. The speech and body language you use is very important. Negs almost never work against UK women you would want to sleep with. The typical "… | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 10:56 PM |
| 3 | He's ignoring me?Either he isn't interested or hasn't got the hint. But what kind of friendship is one where you text 2-3 times and get a lukewarm response? Certainly not one i'd worry about losing. Ask him to hang out once again. Once you're there, make up any old bullshit reason for you both to be alone in a bedroom, like you need help changing a lightbulb or something. If he doesn't get the hint, or isn't interested, move on. | /r/seduction | 29/01/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Help Plz: I'm a Creepy LoserTrust me when I say that unless you are a convicted murderer, rapist or paedophile, you can repair whatever damage you've done to your reputation. I speak from experience. Moving to a new country is hard, but you cannot let your mindset hold you back. You are right to pursue entrepreneurship, but don't relegate yourself to tinder for no good reason. Networking is one of, if not the most, important skills for an entrepreneur. When you relocate, it's on you to get the ball rolling. It's an uphill … | /r/askTRP | 01/12/19 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive GirlsI was more pointing out the mentality more than anything. I get that you can't roll the dice again and get a new skull, but people get stuck in cycles of powerlessness that start with "I can't change my face" that end up as "I can't do anything at all". | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 08:49 PM |
| 2 | Lets have a discussion about something thats been bugging me: Unatractive GirlsCan you choose to go to the gym? Buy clothes that fit? Get a haircut? Brush your teeth? Eat healthy? You can change your looks, but it takes a bit more effort than sitting at your computer desk wishing you were Dwane Johnson. | /r/seduction | 30/11/19 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Help Plz: I'm a Creepy LoserI'm not gonna lie to you, money helps. But Bilzerian and all those dudes that film videos on boats with models are entertainers first and foremost. I can guarantee you they are not getting as much pussy as they want you to think. You only see what they want you to see. They script and edit their videos to the finest detail so they can get you to feel bad about yourself... so they can sell you some Get Rich Quick business plan, a ponzi scheme or some bullshit PUA coaching program. There's no such… | /r/askTRP | 28/11/19 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Help Plz: I'm a Creepy LoserIt's a crutch. The people who think it's the be all and end all expect to have women drop at their knees when they hit a magic number of income. Truth is, it doesn't work like that. Status is just one of the pillars of attraction. Looking like you have money helps give the impression that you have status. You know what else does exactly the same? Having a large social circle. As does having broad shoulders, being tall, having a deep voice or being a man of action. While you cannot check all the … | /r/askTRP | 25/11/19 02:50 AM |
| 7 | Help Plz: I'm a Creepy LoserYou're gonna be sorely disappointed when girls flat out reject you still, even after "moneymaxxing". Stop chasing pussy. There's no need for a profile picture of you in a lambo when you realise that there's no need for a dating profile. Go out, do cool shit. Be a fucking cool dude people wanna be around. Then approach directly. Looks are not your problem - being a desperate sadsack is. Getting a girls instagram through tinder and sliding in her DMs is desperate as fuck and girls smell it on you. | /r/askTRP | 23/11/19 05:36 PM |
| 1 | I am profoundly unhappy.Good shout. Psycho-cybernetics is the OG self help book, and still the best | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 03:04 PM |
| 1 | I am profoundly unhappy.You've gotta help yourself, mate. Until you actually change your attitude towards getting better, you'll stay like this. | /r/askTRP | 20/11/19 03:01 PM |
| 3 | I am profoundly unhappy.With respect, you haven't drilled down far enough. You've say you've gone far down but you only went until it was painful too painful to bear whatever it was you saw. This isn't the type of self reflection you can do on a Sunday afternoon, expecting Monday to be sunshine and roses. It can take years to sort through your thoughts. But you need to keep going. Get help from a therapist because you aren't gonna conquer demons of this magnitude on reddit. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 02:14 PM |
| 7 | I am profoundly unhappy.Why? Ask yourself why you do what you do. Why fuck women? Why earn money? Why lift? Why get up on a morning? Keep asking yourself why you gave the answers you did. Ask why again. Once you've drilled down far enough, you'll find the core beliefs that motivates you. Either you're ignoring them, which leaves you unfulfilled, or you have unhealthy beliefs at your core, which breaks you down eventually. It's up to you to figure out how to rationalise this. | /r/askTRP | 17/11/19 01:37 PM |
| 8 | Do you guys reckon race matters when it comes to pulling girlsCertainly. In my observations, lanky black dudes are heavily fetishised by white girls, just like tiny Asian girls are to white men. At 6"4, you're playing on easy mode. Go wreck some white girls pussy. | /r/askTRP | 26/10/19 01:16 AM |
| 3 | My condolences on your forthcoming ban by RedditYou, like every other person that said the same, will realise that it's not the tech, it's the users. Like in physics, a large mass pulls smaller objects towards it. It's the same here. Reddit just has too large a userbase to cause a significant shift. Unless a 2 or 3 major front-page subs perform a mass exodus, it'll never change. There's 100's of Reddit clones and these platforms never truly take off because it's small niches that migrate. Raddle and Voat were the two significant ones and they… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/10/19 07:57 PM |
| 4 | Is getting dates/hooking up supposed to be easy?Fuck me... This is what an incel larping as a chad looks like... Being shredded won't make every woman drop her panties for you. But being a pretty boy won't either. Men push you around because you're a pussy and they smell it on you. Ever heard the saying "It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog"? That's what a jacked freak with low self esteem is. A big dog with no bite. Even in this comment, you radiate an aura of "plz validate me! I need it!". Mark Ma… | /r/seduction | 12/09/19 03:54 PM |
| 3 | UPDATE: I humiliated myself. So far, things are looking pretty shit in terms of my SMV, approaches, and social skills. Where to go from here in your POV?The only times I find myself doing well in a social situations is when I'm helping other people or being a mentor. I recognise this. It's the "I'm only worth something when I'm useful" mindset. I really suggest you read No More Mr Nice Guy and Psycho-Cybernetics. The first will make you understand why you do certain things, the second will help you change them. | /r/askTRP | 12/09/19 01:47 AM |
| 1 | How to get rid of awkwardness?Typically, yeah. You get better at anything as you get more experienced. But that's also why we have an epidemic of shut-ins these days. Nothing just happens to you. You need to go out and actually interact with people. I regressed in my social skills when I sobered up, because I distanced myself from my old friends who still used and it took me a while to find replacement habits. It was painful for me to socialise. If you don't use it, you lose it. | /r/askTRP | 11/09/19 12:43 AM |
| 2 | How to get rid of awkwardness?Personally, I'd say just ride it out. It's awkward until it's not. But really, it sounds like you just don't like being uncomfortable. You should try something like Toastmasters. It's easily the most socially challenging thing an average person can do. Once you've done a few, you'll be immune to it. Failing that, try performing. Be it music, stand-up, improv, acting, whatever. This is a trial-by-fire way to learn how to tolerate nerves. It's an adrenaline rush just like fucking skydiving if you … | /r/askTRP | 10/09/19 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Pretty much every chick on tinder turned out a whoreBench. Squat. Deadlift. | /r/askTRP | 07/09/19 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Does TRP still apply when drugs are involved?Speaking as a recovering addict, stay away from drugs. Drugs rot your body and mind. The people who use them routinely are equal parts distrusting and untrustworthy. Girls who see a man who can provide them drugs are fucked in the head. Guys who see drug dealing as a sign of status are destined to a life of crime. Low level drug dealers live in limbo between delusions of grandeur and abject paranoia. They make just enough money to buy more drugs. One day they use too much to make their money bac… | /r/askTRP | 07/09/19 07:23 PM |
| 4 | A girl who I met at uni gave off really attached sexual-tension vibes when we first met at a club expo and her eyes were wide open and locked in like a hawk way beyond normal which made my red flag instincts kick in but I'm not really sure what this means. Any insight into what this might be?This. It says more about OP than the girl that he assumes that there's something wrong with her simply because she looked at him. | /r/askTRP | 04/09/19 11:31 AM |
| 3 | If a LTR says she wants to take a break and it’s not cuz of “us” “just needs to clear her head” what should I think of this?It's a non-committal way of un-committing. Keeping one foot on dock before she jumps ship in case it doesn't work out. Translation: move on. | /r/askTRP | 02/09/19 12:43 AM |
| 17 | Does everyone subconsciously think I'm a fucking pussy or am I just in the wrong headspace?You let a dude break whatever frame you had (if you even did) and then want to throw out that frame even harder by calling him a faggot to his face? No. Don't. It'll make you look like a pussy who can't take banter. Fighting him would make you look worse. Either you beat up a gay guy who bitched you out or you get kicked in by a gay guy. You want to fight him because you're afraid. It's your beta fight-or-flight kicking in. Resist. Instead, banter back. Agree and Amplify works on men, too. Next … | /r/askTRP | 28/08/19 12:31 PM |
| 18 | I can't focus at all in college because of the girls around me.Stop bashing your head against the wall. Yes, absolutely work towards your goals. But do not avoid women. ESPECIALLY not because of your negative inner monologue. The reality is, you need to work on your game as much as your appearance and your career. You can only do that with EXPERIENCE. Yes, some will reject you. Because you're skinny. Because you have acne. Because you have no experience. For whatever reason. Doesn't matter. Just do it. As long as you are on the path of self-improvement, app… | /r/askTRP | 25/08/19 10:00 PM |
| 2 | A 38 year old woman wants to meet for drinksStop being a pussy haha You catch feelings before you fuck, not after. As soon as you bust a nut, you'll return to your senses. You said she was a 5. If you're catching feelings for a woman who you rated a 5, then you got some inner demons you need to banish. | /r/askTRP | 14/08/19 09:51 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Advice for IntrovertsI reckon most RP guys are introverted, so don't worry. You're not alone. Also, don't get "socially anxious" and "introvert" mixed up. I'm an introvert but I'm not socially anxious (anymore). It just means I recharge my social batteries in solitude. Every day, I need a few hours where I don't see a human face or hear a human voice. If you are nervous or anxious around people, that's social anxiety, not introversion. You can conquer that by putting yourself in increasingly more anxiety-inducing si… | /r/askTRP | 12/08/19 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Lifting seems a chore instead of anything fulfillingIt is when you just start lifting. | /r/askTRP | 11/08/19 11:08 AM |
| 7 | Lifting seems a chore instead of anything fulfillingCycling is good, but is 30km necessary? You could be burning yourself out. If there's nobody to help with your form, I suggest you get a personal trainer for 3 sessions to help with your main lifts. It's a solid investment, since you get immediate feedback and it sets you up with the skills to learn on your own. The reason its so mentally draining is because its new. You need to actively think about it all as its happening. Eventually it becomes habit, and you'll not be phased by it. Keep it up,… | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 11:51 AM |
| 10 | Lifting seems a chore instead of anything fulfillingYou're probably doing more wrong than anyone can point out in a single post. Rather than fuck the whole thing off, take a moment and mentally regroup. What program are you following? Are you tracking your lifts? Are you tracking your bodyweight? Whats your form like? If you don't know, find out. What are your macros? This is important, so spend the time figuring it out. Half a kilo of chicken a day is dumb. ~140 grams of protein is not a large amount. You can easily hit that target while having … | /r/askTRP | 10/08/19 11:12 AM |
| 2 | What about having passions is attractive?You are trying to logically understand something alogical. The human mind relies heavily on heuristics and this is no different. Subconsiously, the thought process will go something like this. "Whatever you devote yourself to must be worth something, because you are devoting so much time and effort towards it". The mind can't distinguish what it is, but it recognises the pattern of [effort] => [activity]. To add on, your hobby can subcommunicate a lot more about your personality. Musicians and a… | /r/askTRP | 09/08/19 11:26 AM |
| 1 | Is it ok to agree to exclusivity with a girl you just like having sex with but consider a hoe?Read No More Mr Nice Guy. That book will educate you on why you feel the need to placate her. | /r/askTRP | 09/08/19 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Is it ok to agree to exclusivity with a girl you just like having sex with but consider a hoe?So you told her what she wanted to hear? | /r/askTRP | 08/08/19 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Thin white T-shirt and no braI dunno why you were so worried about looking creepy following her into the parking lot. I'm sure the 30 seconds of unabridged eye-fucking of her tits was creepy enough. Seriously, though. You could have said hi when you made eye contact. | /r/askTRP | 04/08/19 02:08 PM |
| 2 | [22M] Need some help fam.....The sidebar has the answers to all of your questions. Game isn't your problem, it's getting over your fear of rejection. Fact is, you will appear creepy to some women and there is nothing you can do to stop it. You will appear creepy, to some women. Fearing being perceived as creepy, ironically, makes you appear more creepy as you try to mask your intentions. Game will not make up for this. You have to learn to be comfortable facing rejection. I disagree that you should game differently for diff… | /r/seduction | 03/08/19 10:40 AM |
| 6 | Girls ain't giving me attentionIf your mindset is garbage, it shows. It makes you give off a bad vibe. Humans subconsciously pick up on vibes very well. You say you're lonely and depressed and have nothing to feel good about, so you need to sort that out. Forget women for now. Focus on yourself. | /r/askTRP | 03/08/19 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Why i get no matches on tinder even though im not bad lookingIt lowers your ELO score. Your score is determined by how many matches you get for your swipes. If you bulk-swipe, you'll have a lower ratio. Be a little selective. | /r/seduction | 02/08/19 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Not flexible enough for shoulder press? video insideKnock it down a step and do light dumbell OHP and work up to the bar. Do front and lateral raises with low weight and work on your shoulder mobility. Really warm the fuck up before you lift the weight. Stretches like this will help with flexibility. | /r/askTRP | 02/08/19 05:25 AM |
| 10 | Walking dates are seriously great for kino escalationKino in PUA terminology means touching. It comes from the word Kinesthetic, which means movement. I'm sure there's a "by name; by nature" joke in there somewhere. | /r/seduction | 01/08/19 08:45 PM |
| 1 | What percent of game is just looks, white privilege, etc?Why ask loaded questions? Just come out with it and ask "I'm brown/black/asian! How screwed am I?!". Actually, don't. We get enough posts like that. Nobody is collecting data on how well they do with women pre and post "game". There's no public API spitting out JSON data for you to analyse. The data you found is ONLY useful for those dating sites. It is useless for answering your title question. You will not find any nicely formatted spreadsheets comparing White vs [insert ethnicity]. Sociology … | /r/askTRP | 31/07/19 05:03 PM |
| 4 | How to just get head?"Come with me" once you arrive at your random place, say "Put my dick in your mouth" | /r/askTRP | 31/07/19 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Just got a decent gym membership, was a Linebacker in school, and maintained that frame from years ago somewhat, how should I build?Get a trainer who can show you how to lift and eat right and just lift clean for a while. When you're young, you don't need steroids. Use them when you're old and your body needs stuff replacing. | /r/askTRP | 31/07/19 03:42 PM |
| 7 | Those who openly flirt with multiple girls, what is your experience?Fuck me... I think you've got the wrong idea on flirting. It doesn't inherently cure your oneitis or do anything for abundance mentality. You cure your oneitis by realising you're fantasising, and snapping out of it. You don't cultivate abundance, you realise you are already living in it. You should flirt with all girls because it's natural. Don't turn it into an exercise. I flirt with everyone because i'm an habitual boundary pusher. I love pushing the boundaries of acceptable behavior. How far… | /r/askTRP | 29/07/19 09:05 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with sexual frustration?My condolences. | /r/askTRP | 29/07/19 08:29 PM |
| 23 | How to deal with sexual frustration?Its the goddamn weekend... International "go out, get wasted, fuck strangers" day. It happens every Friday, Saturday and some sundays. | /r/askTRP | 27/07/19 07:59 PM |
| 11 | How is any form of commitment, especially marriage, red pill?Prenups are not worth the paper they're printed on in the UK. Marriage is an archaic concept from an age long gone. Why would I bet my entire life savings and future income that I will love a bitch forever? No matter how kind, attractive, intelligent or worldly she is, I value my freedom over a contractually obligated relationship. | /r/TheRedPill | 27/07/19 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Worth going back on campus for university @ 26yrs old?Study on campus. I did a masters degree as an old fart compared to the other students. Loved it. Uni is literally made for socialising and the girls are all in self-discovery (read: vagina-discovery) mode. | /r/askTRP | 24/07/19 08:17 AM |
| 3 | My frame is weakened by mild aspergersYou smashed hotter girls because you were completely unaware of what frame even was. Don't go back to bp ways - go back to not giving as many fucks about it. | /r/askTRP | 24/07/19 08:11 AM |
| 1 | What can I do if my IQ is 75 ?Muhammad Ali had an IQ of 78. He was a technical marvel in boxing. He had a way with words that was so powerful, that he successfully negotiated the release of hostages in Iraq. IQ is a measure of intelligence, not potential. | /r/askTRP | 23/07/19 10:34 PM |
| 2 | How do I avoid butthurt when I see unnatractive men with girlfriends?If hes not better than me then why does he have a better life and manage to do things I cant?' One example does not prove or disprove anything. Your imagination is filling in the blanks. I think theres a clear correlation between attention from women and value as a human being, the whole point of attraction is to filter out people who shouldnt procreate u/TommyFury_Hater is right. That statement is retarded. You're gonna be depressed as fuck when you finally do convince a girl to give you a pity… | /r/seduction | 21/07/19 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Lifting causes an eating disorderYou can avoid it all you want, but diet will always trump exercise when weightloss is the goal. BJJ isn't going stop you from scarfing too much food. Bodybuilding is both the bulk and the cut. Embrace it. your approach to both should be equally meticulous. Keep lifting and be disciplined. | /r/askTRP | 21/07/19 05:48 PM |
| 3 | How do I avoid butthurt when I see unnatractive men with girlfriends?Live and let live. You hurt absolutely nobody but yourself holding onto bitterness like that. You compare yourself to others and come to the conclusion that because one dude gets female attention and you don't, he must be somehow better than you. Seriously, there's so much wrong with that mentality. One, women don't make you valuable. They are not the arbiters of man's worth. Two, you are biased by your mental state. No judgement of your self-worth is accurate when you are in a depressed state. … | /r/seduction | 21/07/19 05:33 PM |
| 0 | How to respond to: 1. Why are you on Tinder ? and during hook up .. 2. Do you this often ?It's an example of the type of sarcastic response he would give, not text that you should repeat verbatim. This style is also known as Agree and Amplify. | /r/seduction | 21/07/19 04:48 PM |
| 2 | What are your best tips to smell good everyday?Obviously hygiene and cologne, but people forget the next most important step. Wash and dry your clothes. Wash them with good detergent and fabric softener. Put them on a spin cycle, then air dry them when its warm outside or on a low heat tumble dry. Wet clothes get mildewed quickly if not dried adequately. Then iron things that need it, and fold them away neatly. Doesn't harm or help the scent, but your threads will live longer if you don't just shoot them into a drawer and forget about them. | /r/askTRP | 20/07/19 11:07 AM |
| 2 | Identity crisis at 18 - I'm not sure if you guys have felt this?18 and you can use a slow cooker? You're killing it, dude. At 18 I would have sold my slow cooker for drugs. | /r/askTRP | 18/07/19 06:07 PM |
| 6 | When are things too late?You've explained nothing. You gave excuses and complained a lot. Nothing you've said is straight-talk. Nobody's reading your posts because they're full to the brim with self-pity. What's shameful is saying it's somehow more shameful to work a menial job than not have a job at all, and to whinge about it on the internet. Autism is a learning difficulty, not a disability. It's a lie you've told so much you believe it. Quit saying it and you'll stop believing it. From what I see, you can spell perf… | /r/seduction | 18/07/19 11:50 AM |
| 6 | When are things too late?Alright, mate. I'm gonna help you out with some practical advice. Print it out and stick it on your fridge or whatever. Delete your Reddit account. No more of these types of posts. You've heard all of the advice you're gonna hear. Every time you feel yourself being compelled to write about your problems on the internet, go walk around the block. Run if you have to. Sprint like the thoughts are a pack of wolves chasing you down. Make a CV/resume and start applying for jobs. I don't care what jobs… | /r/seduction | 17/07/19 03:31 PM |
| 8 | India needs a RedPillI'm glad you've said this, because it's something I've noticed when working with Indian men and women. As software devs, they are the most bookish people I have met. If a textbook solution cannot be planted directly on top of a problem, then they will just keep planting textbook solutions on top of each other until it works. I only met two Indian musicians whilst sessioning and they were excellent instrumentalists but thoroughly lost without sheet music. When confronted with the prospect of impr… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/07/19 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Should I work with a trainer or on my own? I have issues with squat form and would rather work with someone who knows what they're doingI'm checking out the Dave Tate link now. Excellent resource! That video on the box squat he's doing is great info. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Should I work with a trainer or on my own? I have issues with squat form and would rather work with someone who knows what they're doinghttps://breakingmuscle.com/fitness/the-squat-progression-guide Honestly, I recommend getting a coach for 3 sessions just to start. They can put programs together and give you diet plans and it makes the process of walking into a gym and lifting shit as a beginner a bit more streamlined. Ask for training on squat, deadlift and overhead press. Those are the most essential lifts to get right, formwise. After that, a competent gymbro can help. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 03:33 PM |
| 4 | So.. sexless existences.They are not mutually exclusive. You can start working on a career and still get laid. What's important is up to you. If money is important to you, then great, but don't expect it to get you laid. And don't sacrifice a career to get pussy. On the flipside, don't cut yourself off from society in the name of a career either. Work to live, not live to work. As for finding a fwb? It depends how much work you need to do. You don't seem like you're in a good place, mentally. Everything in life is hard… | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 03:05 PM |
| 4 | So.. sexless existences.And? When I was playing in bands, all my net worth was carted around in a flight case and I crashed on random sofas on a daily basis. I could barely afford food, and what I did earn went of drugs. I fucked more girls then than ever during that time. I had several threesomes too. I even baited one girl into paying for our date at a subway. She still put out. Swagger > Money. Especially when you're in your teens or early 20's. Stop putting roadblocks in your own way. | /r/askTRP | 07/07/19 02:06 PM |
| 2 | How should I take this girl at work? U.K.Minimum account age of 30 days and positive karma should be requirements to post here. It would at least slow down the influx of fucknuggets like this. | /r/seduction | 07/07/19 12:45 AM |
| 4 | Well I slept with a coworkerDo you work a minimum wage job, or one with high turnover? If so, fuck it, you'll be fine. If it's a career job, then just play it cool. Don't mention it but don't be weird about it. Suppose it can't hurt to think about tidying up your CV/resume, just in case. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 10:46 AM |
| 2 | Condom suggestions for someone who hates condoms? Amazon links appreciatedPolyurethane are way better. I got a ton of em when I started seeing a girl who was full-on anaphylaxis allergic to latex. They do tear easier since they arent as stretchy buy they are a little thinner and don't completely numb the sensation. | /r/askTRP | 04/07/19 02:30 AM |
| 2 | How/why do women become dream killers and prevent you from reaching your potential?Men that demonstrate potential (dreams, ambition, goals, drive, etc) are attractive to women because it speaks to their instincts (resource gathering). Once a woman has found a man, that potential is now a risk to the sense of stability she wants to maintain. Smashing dreams, as you put it, is basically a woman's way of saying "stay in line". You don't let them do this to you. Cut ties to anyone who's holding you down. | /r/askTRP | 02/07/19 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Girl looked like nothing on her profileYou did the right thing. If she's can countenance lying about her appearance and banking on you just letting it slide, what else will she try to get away with? | /r/askTRP | 02/07/19 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Any motivational music/posts?I think of every Friday night that I spent alone, under the influence of whatever I had available, jerking it to progressively more shameful porn... Kidding... sort of. That was my initial motivation. Nowadays, if I see an attractive woman I just remind myself that she's is the only motivation I need. There's an anxiety hurdle to cross, sure. But once you've done the damn thing a few times, it stops being as nerve wracking. | /r/seduction | 01/07/19 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Whats a high income skill you should learn in your younger years?Where can one start learning? For the basics try Codecademy Once you've done that try Udacity's Intro to CompSci Does one have to be good at math to learn how to program? No. You'll only need math if you get into the theoretical CS. For basic front end, you'll be fine. | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 10:04 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know how to handle my problems, and it’s getting to the point where I can’t deal with it anymore. And I don’t know how to go on with my life.Mate, it's not your fault. You aren't to blame for your grandmother's death. You aren't to blame for your grandfather's depression. As harsh as this may sound, your grandfather makes a choice within himself to piss his life away every time he drinks. Take it from me, a recovering addict, that it is nobody elses fault. He let his sadness eat him. He let himself become a victim. He didn't take the help that was offered. It's devastating to lose a loved one, but it doesn't justify making his loved … | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 07:16 PM |
| 6 | I can't be the only that notices how many women want to settle down laterIt's plain old myopia. Even men are guilty of this. People view the future through the lens of the present. That's why you get so many men that dedicate their life to working 70hrs a week for decades who wonder why they don't find the idea of clubbing in Ibiza for 8 weeks straight at the age of 55 as enticing anymore. Attractive women assume that their power over men will never dissipate. +30 year old women don't realise that the next wave of 18-25 year olds will have stolen their thunder by the… | /r/askTRP | 29/06/19 10:14 AM |
| 14 | Publishing and spreading the disrespect of men isn’t very appropriateBecause you can't have your cake and eat it that way, can you? | /r/MensRights | 28/06/19 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How To Make Attractive Instagram Stories With WomenFuck Instagram. Don't even dabble in that shit. It's chewing gum for the eyes at best and a shunt on your brain that draining you of your IQ and self-esteem at worst. Don't give me that 15 seconds bullshit. Instagram is a timesuck like every other platform. Pictures are the easiest dopamine exploit and they've capitalised on it. Even if you're not trawling the feed, you're sat watching the likes go up. You're still seeking validation from it. Dopamine is a helluva drug. Don't fuck with it. And w… | /r/seduction | 25/06/19 10:21 AM |
| 3 | I experienced a pretty cringy manic episode that started last week and spanned a few days. Need advice on how to process everything and how to handle "loose ends"i'm content letting all my 6 major plans die i'm asking trp what to do about my plans pursuing one or a couple of them Big, big contradiction there, bud. If one person here says "Yeah, sure. This plan sounds great. Do that" what's gonna make sure you don't skyrocket again? Forget your plans, totally. Chill out with the walls of text. Go get help. | /r/askTRP | 25/06/19 09:51 AM |
| 3 | Girl at the bus stop!Say it with the right level of sarcasm and/or confidence and it could work. Remember that most communication is non-verbal, so as long as you have a sense of hygiene and aren't a visibly nervous wreck you'll be okay saying almost anything. Edit: Why you'd bother when "Hi, I'm porn-chicken" works fine is another question | /r/seduction | 12/06/19 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How can an obese virgin become disciplined enough to lose weight?Food diary. 7 days. Record everything you put in your face. Weigh yourself. Next week. Eat exactly the same stuff, but only 2/3 of the amount. Weigh yourself - record how much you've lost. Repeat until you stop losing weight, then cut down to 1/2 amounts. Repeat until you stop losing weight. Congratulations. You're on a diet. | /r/askTRP | 01/06/19 12:06 AM |
| 8 | Applying RedPill strategies to making friends and not just datingBear in mind that RPers tend to be introverts. We're social creatures, so I don't see the issue with making friends as long as you don't get make shit ones that you let drag you down. Making friends has parallels with pickup. It's basically the same process, but a little more relaxed: approach > build rapport > exchange contact info > hangout > repeat Approach people who are interesting and make conversation. Get to know them a bit, see if you think they're fun. Add them on Facebook, get a phone… | /r/askTRP | 31/05/19 11:52 PM |
| 6 | Reminder: Wear a condom.Nahh, it's just easier to take matters into your own hands. I played in bands in my teens and 20's. learned quickly that it wasn't the ugly girls who had the clap like I'd assumed. I've got a friend with HIV because he was stupid enough to bareback an anonymous hookup. It's no secret loose girls are impartial to hard drug use. Arguably worse - I have several friends with children they pay for but only see on occasion, too. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/19 10:02 PM |
| 76 | Reminder: Wear a condom.Seriously, if she's fine taking a shot in the pussy from you when you've just met her, she's fine letting anyone shoot a load in there. And she likely has, much more recently than you think. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/19 04:07 PM |
| 5 | Remain UnreactiveGood on you, mate. Hopefully you can put what you've learned from OP's post to good use. CEO's are excellent examples of alpha behavior. It takes a special kind of person to handle that kind of pressure. Their frame control is world class. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/05/19 01:36 PM |
| 228 | Remain UnreactiveIt's actually staggering how powerful of a mindset this can be. We subconsciously know that people who aren't phased appear more capable, but we have had the habit of appeasement drilled into us from basically childbirth. Nod in agreement. Um and Ahh in agreement. Throw in shitty connectives like "of course", "for sure" and I agree, totally" for no reason but to keep each other talking. We're so scared of not being reciprocated that we've conditioned society to require it as a norm. I remember l… | /r/TheRedPill | 28/05/19 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Dear Red pilled dudes with a below 5 inch dickI'll spoon feed you what I was trying to let you realise yourself. Your dick is unlikely the problem. Very few people have monster cocks, despite everyone who says so around these parts. There are a multitude of more probable reasons that you can't even comprehend yet because you're so wrapped up in your insecurity and it's going to hinder your progress. People keep telling you to ignore it because it's the best solution. Short of risking plastic surgery (if you even can idk), you're just going … | /r/askTRP | 25/05/19 07:25 AM |
| 11 | Why You Should Never Get MarriedAlright. I didn't want to make it one of those antagonistic debates, but whatever. Those "religious" girls you talk about are some of the most promiscuous women I've ever met. The born again Christian girls touting "no sex before marriage" that have already played the field and need to revise history come to mind. I've met several in my small home town. One of which has a child from her pre-religion days. Absolutely beautiful, but full of shit about her escapades. Don't get me wrong. I may be an… | /r/TheRedPill | 24/05/19 07:49 AM |
| 140 | Can we get a Karma requirement for this sub?Totally in favor of this, as well as a 30 or so day minimum account age. | /r/seduction | 23/05/19 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Below average size=death sentence? (4,5 inches and low girth )Read my comments again. There's no anger or ego. In fact, it comes from respect. He really does need to "shut up". I used that language because that's what he used. He needs to shut up (read: stop bitching and rejecting any constructive criticism) and think about what he can actually influence as a man. It's about thinking from a position of power. From a position of control. What can he do to improve? He can't when he's too busy whining about having a tiny dick. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/19 05:16 PM |
| 5 | Below average size=death sentence? (4,5 inches and low girth )He got attitude because he came in with attitude and a closed mind. Read his post and his comments. Anything that isn't related to increasing his dick size is "blue pill". He doesn't want to be told that he's a man and he's capable of succeeding, provided he looks at himself objectively - he wants to be told what the cheat codes to unlocking a big cock are. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/19 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Below average size=death sentence? (4,5 inches and low girth )If reading the sidebar isn't hard then why have you found it so difficult? | /r/askTRP | 23/05/19 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Below average size=death sentence? (4,5 inches and low girth )Yes. Shut the fuck up. Shut up and learn. You posted here with that woe-is-me bullshit, screaming "Its not me! its my penis! There's nothing I can do!". What do you expect? If a woman will bang you but won't stick around, then you need to think harder about what could possibly be the reason. Hint; there's probably multiple. Yep, small dick could be a factor. You could also just be seducing shitty girls who aren't girlfriend material. Have you only worked on your appearance and not your whole lif… | /r/askTRP | 23/05/19 04:22 PM |
| 11 | Below average size=death sentence? (4,5 inches and low girth )Nope, you've got no hope. Your best bet is to buy a giant purple dildo off Amazon and use that instead. At least 9 inches. Duct tape it to your cock. When you're fucking her with your tiny dick, just let her assume you're fingering her. Then plug her with the dildo when she wants to feel a real dick. Don't let your insecurities fuck with you or blind you to your actual faults. Unless you have an actual micropenis, which you likely don't, then quit bitching. | /r/askTRP | 23/05/19 04:02 PM |
| 18 | What has been your worst Tinder experience?Agreed! I'm just saying that if I were her, i'd aim for a bit more than $500 and a shit book in exchange for a stinging ringpiece. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/19 02:46 PM |
| 33 | What has been your worst Tinder experience?I guess i'm old cause I never got into Tinder. but I did try the old dating websites like POF when I was younger. Surprisingly, mostly good experiences. Very few girls were just looking purely for hookups though. I had way more success on social media like MySpace and early Facebook. Got catfished hard by a girl a year or so older than me. Webcams were all potato quality back then and her photos were a few years old. Her lies got progressively unravelled the closer we came to meeting. I was expe… | /r/askTRP | 19/05/19 02:43 PM |
| 78 | What has been your worst Tinder experience?Fucking hell! She took a shot in the arse just so she could steal a book and a few hundred dollars off you! | /r/askTRP | 19/05/19 02:24 PM |
| 55 | What has been your worst Tinder experience?Wait, you fucking the shit out of a tiny, squirting Asian girl is a horror story? | /r/askTRP | 19/05/19 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Hapless guys in the game?What fucking planet are you on? You literally contradict yourself at every point. Yes, trying is better than not trying. Not trying at all is "no chance". Nobody has no chance at all. You just tell yourself that so you don't feel bad for not trying. What the fuck are you talking about odds for? Do you want a guarantee? Fuck that. There's only one guarantee in life and that's death. Nobody on the fucking planet has a 1:1 pickup to rejection ratio. I've been shot down more times than I've blown lo… | /r/seduction | 16/05/19 12:00 PM |
| 5 | How do i stop being the boring invisible nice guy that no one likes or cares about? I feel like i have to be perfect for people to like me and i do all the work for people to like me. Sometimes i think people are too cool for me.You desperately need to read Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/19 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Exercises I've used to improve my voiceYeah, it's just comes across as unsure or under-confident when you fill up the silence with ums and ahhs - even if you are confident. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/05/19 04:01 PM |
| 4 | Hapless guys in the game?Stop ruminating. The energy spent whining could be better spent pounding weights or approaching women. | /r/seduction | 12/05/19 04:53 PM |
| 8 | Exercises I've used to improve my voiceOP means a vocal fry. there's an example on the Wikipedia page | /r/TheRedPill | 12/05/19 01:13 PM |
| 79 | Exercises I've used to improve my voiceI'm a professional musician and performance is my area of expertise. The best tip I can give any man is to project their voice more. Better to be a little too loud than too quiet. Speak at 0.8x speed and say what you're saying to the space about a foot behind the person's head. When speaking to a group, speak to the back of the room. Overdo your mouth movement, particularly if you mumble or have an accent. Helps with enunciation. Stop touching your damn mouth. Hands block some sound but stop the… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/05/19 08:56 AM |
| 2 | is part of being a man, in game, rocking your own imperfections?Step one of becoming the best version of yourself is accepting, as objectively as possible, that you are what and who you are right now. Once you accept yourself as you are, you can critically evaluate your weaknesses and make an effort to make achievable change. Perfectionism is the enemy of adequate. | /r/seduction | 10/05/19 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Manscaping, keeping condoms? How much hope should virgins have?Lmao you should shave your pubes routinely because you prefer to be tidy, not because you're trying to entice a hypothetical woman. I've fucked plenty of women while looking like I have Tina Turner in a triangle choke - never been rejected on account of my pubes. Also, just get some condoms. It's not that deep. Don't sweat the small stuff. | /r/seduction | 10/05/19 10:27 PM |
| 3 | What qualities do seductive women possess, in your opinion?This is key. Too many women either play too hard to get and put men off by looking completely disinterested or are as coy as a pneumatic drill, which doesn't give men the thrill of the chase. Flirting for women is a balance between showing interest, hinting at her availability and putting up enough resistance to a man's advances to demonstrate that she has standards. It's almost like she has to sub-communicate the man's own worth back to him. Like she's saying "That easy shit won't work on me, b… | /r/seduction | 09/05/19 11:55 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Inconsistently trying to yearsOn the other hand, if you've never had success with a girl you found attractive, then I'm not sure what mind set one would need to have. Short memory and a shit ton of perseverance. Small acts of bravery are little victories - use them to keep you motivated. | /r/seduction | 08/05/19 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Really tired of guys latching on to this idea that 6' + and 6 figure + guys get all the girls...You need therapy, mate. In CBT they call that black or white thinking. | /r/seduction | 06/05/19 11:14 AM |
| 6 | Really tired of guys latching on to this idea that 6' + and 6 figure + guys get all the girls...Howay, mate... I've just seen your pics. Quit bitching. Regarding your appearance, maybe shave your head and use some moisturizer on a morning, but honestly you're fine. If you need to change anything, fix that shitty attitude and you will smash. Negativity is the biggest cock-blocker of them all. You've got things going for you that men would literally kill for. You need to check yourself and realise how fucking blessed you are, then go outside and put. it. to. work. "Do not pray for an easy li… | /r/seduction | 06/05/19 10:22 AM |
| 7 | Don’t take everyone’s advice on this subWhile that second paragraph gave me a headache, I agree with the first somewhat. It's not so much the tone that bothers me - it's the content. There are redditors who post very frequently, rehashing other peoples' content. Not much issue with that on it's own (especially when it's good advice), but when they're selling courses or advertising private groups... that bothers me. There's no verification process to post here and I'd like to keep it that way. But I'm not sure what the solution is... E… | /r/seduction | 04/05/19 09:38 PM |
| 11 | Plate I’m talking to brought up a guy she’s interested and wants an LTR withThis is probably it. OP is taking what she's told him at face value when she's really just trying to be cute about attaching strings to their relationship. | /r/askTRP | 04/05/19 05:50 PM |
| 13 | When going back to the game sometimes just isn’t worth itMachiavellian? What you mean to say is that you're not being honest with her. Or yourself. Let her know you're not looking to be tied down and let her react however she wants. Either you get to fuck her anyway or you don't. Sunk cost or not, it's not worth keeping up a lie just so you can get laid. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/05/19 12:36 PM |
| 5 | Did these girls like me or mocking me? U.K.Why the hell do you keep posting this? Seriously, you must have asked this same question over a hundred times if you count all the other subs you bombard. You've had so many answers now that you must have heard the one you want... So what is it that you want to hear? What answer do you want? | /r/seduction | 04/05/19 09:18 AM |
| 1 | Does acknowledging or making fun of your own flaws help or hurt with attraction?There's a big difference between saying something that makes you come across as humble and saying something that makes you seem like a sadsack. People who have terrible self esteem struggle with making jokes about themselves, because it can come across as genuine self-hatred. Conversely, making jokes at others expense also comes off incorrectly, since its out of character. People who are confident in themselves can big other people up without coming across as a kissarse and also playfully put pe… | /r/seduction | 26/04/19 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Anyone know a "homework" style program for fixing your game?Stylelife Challenge | /r/seduction | 21/04/19 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Need helpStart at level 0. Do it once and move up a level. Level 0 - Ask random old man for the time. Level 1 - Ask random person for directions. Level 2 - Ask a girl for the time. Level 3 - Ask an attractive girl for directions to a coffee shop. Level 4 - Compliment an attractive girl and walk away. Level 5 - Ask cute girl for directions to a coffee shop, then ask her to go with you. Level 6 - Compliment an attractive girl then introduce yourself. Level 7 - Say "Hi, I'm [name]" to a cute girl and play i… | /r/seduction | 21/04/19 02:32 PM |
| 1 | I regret not approaching moreIt's a shit test. Agree and amplify, like it says in the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 21/04/19 12:53 PM |
| 4 | I regret not approaching more"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now." Also, "Men age like wine and women age like milk." Cut out the self-pity and you're golden. Most men never realise what you've realised. | /r/seduction | 19/04/19 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Dissapointed in Models by Mark Manson1) That's not exactly honesty. That's being vulgar. It will also work more often than not saying anything forward at all (withholding your intentions is a lie of omission). 2) Models literally tells you the opposite of "dancing around the topic". Manson urges you to be up front with your intentions. Instead of letting a girl assume you want a LTR, you tell her up front "I'm not interested in something long term". 3) What's dishonest about cold reading, breaking rapport or any of the other "pua" … | /r/seduction | 17/04/19 07:01 PM |
| 1 | I get really triggered hearing about people hooking up and talking about sex like it's so easy.Then you are doomed to a life of endless torment, bro. "Do what you fear and the fear disappears" - David Joseph Schwartz | /r/seduction | 17/04/19 06:57 PM |
| 2 | I get really triggered hearing about people hooking up and talking about sex like it's so easy.Castration is literally stupid. I've heard that it only removes your ability to cum. otherwise we'd be castrating pedos and sending them back out of prison without a care. Sexual urges would likely still plague you. if i were you i'd just try get laid instead of being a wet flannel about it. | /r/seduction | 17/04/19 06:03 AM |
| 4 | Your fucking friends don’t know shit.The mistake you make is that you chase her and don't let her chase you. She needs the mystery and the excitement of doubt to decide she is attracted to you. She needs to doubt that you are as invested as she is so she can invest more. She needs to doubt that she is as sexually valuable as you are - why would she settle for a man she could do better than? She needs to doubt that she can play you and get away with it - a sign she should act sooner rather than later because another woman may steal … | /r/seduction | 14/04/19 09:52 AM |
| 2 | two guys wanted to fight me tonight. [field report]I do some martial arts Some people really are just stupid. I always tell people that it's just too risky to start punch-ups for no reason these days because you have no idea how many fucking savages there are with boxing, karate or BJJ skills hiding in plain sight. Even a white belt will fuck your day up if you have no training. Good on you for handling it like you did. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/04/19 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Listen to your gut feeling.No, absolutely don't listen to that pussy you call an inner monologue. His intent is to keep your fragile ego from being hurt. Sure, he'll berate you when you don't get laid, but he'd rather protect himself from rejections. If a girl likes you, I promise, she will show it. No. Not always and even less guys can see it because they spend too much time listening to the nagging voice in the back of their mind saying "Nahh, she isn't that into you". The only 100% true fail-safe sign a girl is interes… | /r/seduction | 12/04/19 10:45 PM |
| 5 | How to correctly pin a girl down?Start by holding her by her wrists and pin them just above shoulder height. It's not rocket science, mate. You avoid being awkward by getting to work and getting her off. Trial and error is the key. Look at her face: :) Not bad, you can go a bit harder :( you're hurting her and should tone it down a step. :O then you're doing it right | /r/seduction | 12/04/19 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Chaotic life, need a changeFocus on making a lifestyle that makes you happy and the opportunities to meet women will appear without extra effort. I bet tons of women dig crossfit. I've met a bunch doing yoga classes. | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 09:48 PM |
| 0 | Confused and frustrated: am I attractive or not?One week is nothing in the scheme of things. Just keep approaching. Practice on men and women you aren't attracted to. If you didn't learn anything, it's because you didn't critically reflect on it. Emphasis on critically. Write notes down and try things out. It's the only way to improve. | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 03:53 PM |
| 0 | Confused and frustrated: am I attractive or not?Dude... You are putting all your effort into Tinder. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Take some of those eggs from the Online Dating basket and put them in the Cold Approach basket. Online dating is basically cattle farming for cocks. EMBRACE REJECTIONS They are good for you. They are character building. Getting "rejected" on tinder isn't a true rejection. Nobody told you "no thanks". They just didn't say "yes please". You still feel hurt by them because you haven't genuinely been rejected… | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 02:21 PM |
| 4 | Confused and frustrated: am I attractive or not?/u/Putins_bishop is on the money. You give too many fucks and try too hard. | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 02:13 PM |
| 1 | Chaotic life, need a changeStart small. Small victories here and there will up that confidence and bring you back to yourself. Women are the least of your concern right now, as you need to develop a social circle that does not include your ex. You could start by taking your workouts to the gym. That way, you can acclimatise to being in a social setting again. Then, you can join some classes. Training at work is great, but try open up your training to your work friends. They might not join in, but it stops you being as iso… | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 02:11 PM |
| 18 | How do you stop putting women on a pedestalEnvision the girl you are obsessing over sat on a dingy toilet seat in a grubby cubicle at the gym taking a rip-roaring shit. Diarrhea, fart noises, grunts, the full works. After all, she's human and does all of the shameful shit we all do. | /r/seduction | 06/04/19 01:45 PM |
| 1 | How Do You Sell Yourself as Someone She Wants to F*ck?Share the concepts you've learned for sales and lets see if the concepts translate into pickup. | /r/seduction | 02/04/19 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Responds to shit tests?Her: "Can you hold my bag/purse/drink/etc?" Me: "No" That's my go to. Fuck am I holding shit for anyone. Her: "We are not gonna have sex/hook-up tonight" Me: "Well, obviously. It'll be tomorrow morning by the time we get back to yours." Drop this then pretend like nothing was said. Purposefully misinterpreting statements works wonders. Her: "You are short" Me: "Who are you?" or Me: "I'm 6ft 3'" For me, I'd be telling the truth. It'd be funny if you were like 5ft 3". Her: "You are not my type" Me… | /r/seduction | 30/03/19 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Men not having sex at an all time high. What happened in 2008?The graph kinda follows the economy. No seriously! We had the dot com boom and subsequent bust around 1998 and a major financial crisis in 2008. Things have been getting better since. The graph correlates with exactly that. I would wager that the stress of a lack of financial security is a MAJOR influence. | /r/seduction | 30/03/19 05:17 PM |
| 206 | This "macho" writing style is getting ridiculousAgreed. It really makes me doubt the authenticity of the posts. There's an awful lot of "gurus" posting the same shit on a routine basis. And they all want to set up Telegram groups... Is Reddit not supposed to be a platform for discussion? The mods should probably do a background check on the most prolific ones. Best case, they're legit and now we know. Worst case, they're trying to con the inexperienced ones into buying premium content. | /r/seduction | 24/03/19 05:16 PM |
| 8 | 28yrs old here, feeling VERY down. I need someone "skilled" to talk with because I'm going insane. Please PM me.What's bothering you, mate? | /r/seduction | 24/03/19 05:05 PM |
| 10 | I think girls like dad bods.I actually agree somewhat with your text but not your title. Tastes are subjective. Some women have a preference for muscular men. Some women dig slim, athletic guys. Some women have a thing for artsy looking hipster dudes. Some women like skater dudes. Women largely have preferences for a certain personality types. Funny, outgoing, stern, shy, nerdy, etc. It's all about the feeling she gets from the man. This sub quickly forgets that women have types just like men do, except they base them on a… | /r/seduction | 23/03/19 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Dating is a fucking joke when you are a short guy in collegeIt's a numbers game for everyone who plays. Approach more and you raise your odds. Simple as that. | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Tooth whitening100% do it. Most women can forgive acne, receding hairlines and slightly crooked teeth but will absolutely revile yellow or stained teeth. In fact, just look after your teeth in general. Flossing is probably a meme at this point but I've noticed a dramatic improvement since I started flossing daily about 2 years ago. That and a daily mouthwash with a magical ingredient called Chlorhexidine are fixing my fucked up mouth. The big brand name is Corsodyl here in the UK (may differ in US), but there … | /r/seduction | 25/02/19 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Huge Realization I Had While HighDon't always assume it's a flaw that caused it. Don't always assume it's a bad thing to have flaws. Realise that you have to suck at things before you are great at them and that means embracing failure. Learn the difference between introspection and rumination. | /r/seduction | 22/02/19 10:34 PM |
| 25 | Huge Realization I Had While HighKeep repeating these positive statements and you'll internalise them. Mantras are as close to essential as it gets for strong inner game. However, I think a more helpful mantra would be "Bad things will happen to me and that's okay, because I can handle them" That way, you are reinforcing your belief in your ability to endure and overcome problems, which is an internal locus of control. Believing that nothing bad can ever happen to you is an external locus of control and you'll be set back when … | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 08:39 PM |
| 1 | Went out with a single friend for the first time since separating from my wifeYour divorce could have been an easy excuse to wallow in self-pity. Instead, you pushed through the fear and did something positive. Good on you, mate. | /r/seduction | 16/02/19 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Seducing your S/O?There's no trick, bud. Be more assertive in the times when you usually wouldn't and stop letting her walk all over you when she does and there you go. Over time, you'll get better at it. Being assertive means you are the one who makes decisions and takes responsibility for them. So make some decisions for yourself, instead of letting her do them for you. Even better yet, take the initiative in life and make decisions for both of you. Small decisions like choosing where to eat out are a good star… | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Seducing your S/O?It's not about being correct it's about assuming the role. "Fucking up" is no reason for you to assume the role of the woman. Take charge and be the one who wears the pants, as you put it. Don't ask for permission, just do. She will challenge you and force you to break - DON'T! It is a test. Giving the control back to her is a failure. | /r/seduction | 10/02/19 05:20 PM |
| 2 | How important are physical looks in attraction?Generally speaking, your physical looks are not as important to women as other qualities such as your personality, confidence or social skills. Being slightly unfortunate looking isn't going to stop you smashing pussy if you are an absolute motherfucker with rock solid confidence just like being Brock Lesnar jacked won't do a thing if your social skills are shitty. Your appearance can be a major factor, however. It doesn't matter how charming you are if you have dirt under your finger nails or y… | /r/seduction | 08/02/19 11:00 PM |
| 3 | I’m starting to get into the beginning of “older” virgin territory and I think this might be my only chance, what do you think?What are the odds this works Slim to none. Why? Because you want to do it so you can avoid the thing you are most afraid of. Being vulnerable and APPROACHING A WOMAN Being jacked won't make her approach you. Desensitise yourself to your fear. Either throw yourself in the deep end and go approach women with the aim of being harshly rejected. Tell the worst joke off r/Jokes then ask for their number. Or slowly immerse yourself by approaching 1 person (male or female) a day and asking for the time.… | /r/seduction | 01/02/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Silent speed-datingHonestly, I'd just wing it. If we're confined to a table, I'd try to do something that requires us to touch hands a lot. If not, I'd try get us both moving - that way I can judge how fit she is, how shy she is and how well she dresses. | /r/seduction | 26/01/19 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Silent speed-datingSilent speed dating sounds like a great idea! It means you can't say something to fuck it up AND you have a great excuse to use touch more liberally than you normally would. It sounds silly as all hell so just have fun with it. It's not like you lose anything. | /r/seduction | 21/01/19 02:50 PM |
| 2 | I'm seriously considering taking an enema before my first dates...That's actually a biological response to stress! 100% natural. Fight-or-flight causes you to tense up the muscles used for violence or escape like your arms and legs and relax the ones not used like your stomach. It sounds new-agey, but if you are mindful of your body you can sorta deal with it. So when you notice yourself shallow breathing, start doing slow and deep breaths. If you notice yourself tensing your shoulders, relax them. Push them back and down. If you notice yourself clenching your… | /r/seduction | 21/01/19 02:45 PM |
| 30 | Is not giving a fuck attractive?Cockiness is usually a compensation for a fragile ego as well. Truly confident people are comfortable knowing they aren't always going to be the centre of attention. | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 11:16 PM |
| 1 | How do i make friends and not being a loser? I dont know my self and i dont know how to stop this ass licking seeking approval.There's a reoccurring theme in your post that I think if you can truly realise, then you'll make huge progress. It's the notion of being above or below others. Little phrases like people dont care and dont value about me. and my opinions dont matter and im invisible say a lot. It sounds like you put a lot of weight on the opinions of other people. That's a surefire way to go through life unhappy. You also jump from extreme to extreme. You want girls to be crazy about you. You call yourself brain… | /r/seduction | 04/01/19 11:11 PM |
| 2 | Another failure - only practise beats theory and yet...feared."look how beautiful she is, look how elegant she is dressed, your lifestyle cannot handle this girl, there is nothing you can provide to her" That is a shitty assumption from your inner voice, there. Her physical beauty has no bearing on whether you can handle her. You also don't need to "provide" anything to her just because of her looks. A good way to get over these negative mindsets is to make it your mission to test out the assumptions your shitty inner voice makes. They are assumptions, not… | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 11:57 PM |
| 2 | I can approach and talk to girls just fine, they just aren’t interested in me at allHere's a question for you: Are they actually not interested or are you just assuming that because they aren't throwing themselves at you? Answer: Doesn't matter. Men are oblivious and women are coy. Just assume they are attracted to you until they tell you otherwise. | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Worried about aging out before reaching full potentialDon't assume that the you in the present is the same as the you in the future. Right now, you want to date very attractive women in a particular age group. However, in 10 years, you've (hopefully) been round the block a few times and will likely value different qualities in the women you attract. You'll also be in a different stage of life and have 10 years more wisdom from which to make sense of the world. Maybe you get sick of the grind. Maybe you want to focus on a career. Maybe you have a ch… | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 10:34 PM |
| – | Worried about aging out before reaching full potential26 is fuck all mate. You haven't even peaked. Good mate of mine left his girlfriend of many years for a girl almost half his age about 3 years ago. He was 30 and she was just about to hit 18. Personally, I don't condone it but the age of consent is 16 in the UK, so fair play to him. Point is, age is mostly irrelevant. Look after yourself (i.e. lay off the drugs and alcohol, moisturise your face skin) and you'll attract girls from any age bracket well up until your 40's. What I will say is this; … | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Hit me like a truckBro-psychology at its finest. I like it! | /r/seduction | 26/12/18 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Anybody ever have issues with sexual avoidance?I've never been fat but I have had body image issues due to Vitiligo. Coupled with a few bad experiences when I first started trying to attract women, I can relate to you. In as succinct a way as I can describe, I have cow-print skin, including my dick and balls. I always found excuses to keep it hidden from women, as it was the source of a lot of my insecurity in my teens and early 20's. I would be 90% of the way with a girl and then "find a way" to get out of the scenario when it came time to … | /r/seduction | 23/12/18 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Sage Wisdom, from the Sidebar of all places100%. You can either say "I'm powerless and it's not my fault" or you can choose to make a difference in the things you have control over. Having an internal locus of self-control, self-worth and self-love isn't new age bullshit - it's the cornerstone of a healthy mind, which is what makes a man attractive. | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 04:02 PM |
| 1 | how do you stay positive when people looks-shame youNo, I'm saying it's playful banter. It's not that deep. Don't read into it so much. Also, try reading the material over at r/socialskills. Succeed Socially is a great resource. | /r/seduction | 21/12/18 12:57 AM |
| 2 | I [M25] can't get a date or hookup, and no idea why!This guy is full of shit. I doubt he's seen one counselor, yet alone ten. We've been DMing back and forth since his last post that is basically a carbon copy of this one. He keeps changing his story whenever the onus to change is put on him. He's obsessed with his looks and is convinced women will never be attracted to him. He won't be happy until someone tells him he's ugly and needs to get a prostitute. | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 11:46 PM |
| – | I [M25] can't get a date or hookup, and no idea why!Did you not pay attention to the advice you were given by myself and others last time you posted with this exact same question? We even had this same conversation in PMs. You do have an idea why you can't get a date, you just don't want to face the truth. edit: Okay, I'm calling bullshit now. You keep changing your story. I'm betting you haven't seen any counselors. | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 11:36 PM |
| – | how do you stay positive when people looks-shame youYou've posted this same question before. You are obsessed with your looks and descend into pathetic self-pitying diatribes in your replies when people give you good advice. i made some comment about "getting booty" and the guy looked at me and said "good luck" It's called banter, mate. You need to work on your social skills. | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 07:54 PM |
| – | 5'7.25 Indian male with double digit lay count (mid) and have dated girls up to 6ft tall. AMA5'7.25 How much of your success do you attribute to that extra .25 inch? Should all the other 5ft7 Indian guys be spiking their hair up? If you were 5ft8, do you reckon you could have dated any girls up to 6ft1? | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 07:39 PM |
| 7 | When looks aren't an issue, what are some other common factors that may prevent men from having a successful dating/sex life ?Poor social skills. Sadly, lots of men are terrible with other people. | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Question about No More Mr. Nice GuyI find that there is always room for improvement in whatever I do, and believing that I am “good enough” at something is a mindset that will stunt my growth There's being competent at something and then there's the intrinsic value that you place on yourself. Dr Glover is referring to the intrinsic value. Nice Guys operate on the belief that they aren't worth enough. It's pretty easy to conflate the two and is actually kind of what Dr. Glover's touching on. It seems like we're quite similar - I a… | /r/seduction | 20/12/18 07:07 PM |
| 1 | If I meet a girl that I really like, I automatically think I'm not good enough for herReplace "approaching" with "escalating" then. You're out of your comfort zone, just further up the ladder than the approach anxiety stage. | /r/seduction | 15/12/18 10:56 PM |
| – | If I meet a girl that I really like, I automatically think I'm not good enough for herThis is, in theory, equivalent to perpetrators of sexual assault No, it is not. At all. OP has low self esteem and is talking himself out of approaching because rejections hurt his fragile ego. This is the kind of shit that gets you put on r/iamverysmart. | /r/seduction | 14/12/18 05:56 PM |
| – | Negativity on this subHe does my tits right in... Not just because of the incessant posting, but also because he just won't listen to reason. No matter what answer he gets, he'll post again. And it's not just our sub he bombards. He's posted a few times on /r/socialskills as well. I also saw he called someone who replied to one of his posts a racial slur. He's a genuine freak. Hopefully he gets IP banned sometime soon. | /r/seduction | 11/12/18 06:46 PM |
| 3 | I shit the bed [FR]Exactly this. You were in the foreplay stage and just didn't do anything with it, OP. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Problem with hypersexualityAre you saying you just want no-strings sex or are you putting up barriers? Might be worth thinking about that one. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 10:08 PM |
| 2 | Help. Commitment issues as a guyThing's change, mate. As you get older your priorities change. It's hard to keep up that kind of lifestyle past your mid 20's. The same things you appreciate now (spontaneous happenings, random encounters, partying nonstop) can be problematic later in life. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 08:38 PM |
| – | Problem with hypersexualityThat's not a high sex drive, that's a healthy sex drive that you keep repressing. Every time you don't approach a woman you find attractive you're basically saying "this is too much to handle". Porn, dating apps, stalking socials... They all give you the buzz that sex gives you without any of the challenge or risk. Now you are faced with a dilemma - approaching women is scary because you've been conditioned to getting that gratification digitally. | /r/seduction | 10/12/18 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Confident while flirting but afraid to ask women outDon't overthink it. Just ask. Yes, you're going to be nervous but you need to just do it anyway. | /r/seduction | 09/12/18 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Having oneitis is like casting yourself as Gunther from F.R.I.E.N.D.S in your own lifeGood on you for turning a negative into a positive, mate. I say my breakup was the best thing that ever happened to me because I became a better man as a result of it. | /r/seduction | 08/12/18 08:43 PM |
| 1 | im 24 but look like a baby and girls dont want me so i'm not going to even bother until i look older....i guessYou literally just contradicted yourself. You have not accepted your appearance for what it is. Despite people telling you that you don't have a baby face and offering suggestions, as well as the fact that women are not as motivated by looks as men are, you still are being fatalist. While I'd usually be hesitant throwing diagnoses around, you sound like you may have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. | /r/seduction | 07/12/18 10:37 PM |
| – | im 24 but look like a baby and girls dont want me so i'm not going to even bother until i look older....i guessI'm telling you it is. Read the sidebar, mate. It's literally call it "inner game". You can lift all the fucking weights in the world, but if you're in the wrong frame of mind then you'll still fuck up with women. You can look like Steve Buscemi and still fuck women. | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 10:57 PM |
| – | im 24 but look like a baby and girls dont want me so i'm not going to even bother until i look older....i guessNext time someone says you look 12, agree and amplify. Turn it back on them. Next time someone says you look young, say thanks. It's probably a compliment. If that pic is you then you don't even look young, mate. Not to me at least. Actually, you kinda look like a not quite as genetically gifted George St Pierre. Stop flapping about looks. I've seen men that make Quasimodo look sexy pull fucking stunning women. Attitude is literally 9/10 of game. | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 10:41 PM |
| 0 | How to not come off as desperateYou come of as desperate when you need her to respond a certain way. Approach her and make your intentions known despite the risk that she shoots you down. | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 08:41 PM |
| – | I feel like I won't find anyone...You didn't really answer the questions entirely, but I'll do my best. All of them said they didn't really know what's wrong Sorry, but I don't buy it. The dead giveaway was "shouldn't have issues" No counselor worth their time would give such bollocks advice. Every person on the planet has issues. Counselors are supposed to help you accept your faults so you can work on them. You have a very obvious pessimistic attitude. That is the first thing you need to work on if nothing else. I'm not into a… | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 08:36 PM |
| 3 | What's the deal!Often because it's a shallow compliment. Men give unspecific, generalised and superficial compliments like "You look beautiful". It gives the impression that you haven't really paid much attention to her and that you're doing it with an ulterior motive (even if it was a genuine compliment). "I really like your foundation! It makes your cheekbones look amazing" is the type of compliment a girl would make to another girl because they recognise what kind of effort went into their appearance and giv… | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 08:06 PM |
| – | I feel like I won't find anyone...We're not here for comfort but we can help with advice. However, your post is a little sparse. So, if you could please answer these questions, hopefully someone can help you. You say "I've gone above and beyond to fix this" but what have you actually done? What advice did your counselor give you? What advice did your dating coach give you? You mention that you feel the only way to experience intimacy is with an escort. Why do you feel that is the case? What do you think is the reason why? | /r/seduction | 06/12/18 07:56 PM |
| 1 | [SERIOUS] Expert or Master level PUA's: For those of us who have been in the game longer than r/seduction or most PUA material existed, looking back, do you think having such a wide variety of material is a help or a henderence?Are there even any "master" level pickup artists left? Are there even any PUAs here that were around during the original movement? I imagine that if they were any good they'd be married/settled down by now. To answer your question; why would having resources not be beneficial? Humans have made leaps and bounds throughout history by documenting things. It lets us build on the discoveries of others. It lets us be scientific. It lets us compound our experiences. Just because you stumbled across som… | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 10:51 PM |
| 1 | A QUESTION TO ALL YOU GUYSDifferent men want different things at different stages of their lives. There are so many variables to consider that it is basically useless to ask this question because everyone wants different things. | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 10:33 PM |
| 4 | A 25 virgin seeks changeHesitation is your issue. The apprehension in your post is palpable. Instead of taking action, you did things that appear like action. You bought 4 or 5 books instead of reading only one. You made a post here about The Stylelife Challenge instead of just doing the damn thing. Nothing anyone says on here will make a woman sleep with you. Only you can make those changes. Do not expect dramatic change tomorrow. No book is quite that profound. In fact, don't expect anything to change dramatically fo… | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 07:37 PM |
| 3 | How to initiate sex with GF?I'm guessing that you spend a lot of time in your head, so here's a logical progression for you to follow. Create a scenario where you are alone and in close proximity. Sitting on a bed or couch and watching TV is the typical setup (You've got this one down). Start making physical contact. Start small and work up slowly to a hug. You can start working on this before you even get to location. Kiss her. Be slow. Pretend you're dipping your toe in a hot bath at first. Then, when she relaxes, start … | /r/seduction | 02/12/18 11:39 AM |
| 1 | My overweight friend has more luck at picking up girls then i do. What am i doing wrong?Also, rejection is never something to take personally. She's not interested and she's done you a favour letting you know. It's her loss. Next her and move on. I ALWAYS say that to myself, even if its a lie. I say it and I believe it. There are always more women out there so it's basically crying over spilled milk to get upset over a rejection. If she attacks you personally, then she's a bitch and you can do better than that. | /r/seduction | 27/11/18 10:18 PM |
| – | My overweight friend has more luck at picking up girls then i do. What am i doing wrong?Okay so this is where the problem most guys have is, so don't feel bad. Most guys can copy the action, but they can't understand it or break it down. Copy the mindset, not the jokes. Copy the dynamic that it creates, not the delivery. So, actually, no. Don't copy him. Be yourself. Trying to be him will be like driving the wrong way down the street. He's obviously someone who doesn't take himself very serious, so if you are the opposite, then you'll just come across as contrived. You should play … | /r/seduction | 27/11/18 10:10 PM |
| – | My overweight friend has more luck at picking up girls then i do. What am i doing wrong?Yep, it's not logical but it is what it is. The thing about doing stupid jokes like the Jedi Mind Trick is that they risk falling flat. You really do make a little gamble - you bet that your charm will turn a negative into a positive with the risk of looking silly. Most men are loss averse and are extremely fearful of looking silly, so they play it safe, but that's why they work. Take a leaf from your friends book and start joking around with women more. Be a tease. Say things that you think wou… | /r/seduction | 27/11/18 09:40 PM |
| – | My overweight friend has more luck at picking up girls then i do. What am i doing wrong?Sorry for the delay. Here's my thoughts. I approach them and they usually just go "Hey, my friend is over there, better go say hi." and they leave. You keep giving me more evidence to point the finger at a lack of social skills. This is not some black magic, mate. You're doing something at some stage of the interaction and only you can sit down and analyse the interactions and learn from them. You either come off too strong by being too forward or give off a creepy vibe by not being forward enou… | /r/seduction | 27/11/18 08:58 PM |
| – | My overweight friend has more luck at picking up girls then i do. What am i doing wrong?So you got the cold shoulder from one girl and now you think you're doomed to a life of celibacy? Get real. Women aren't attracted to men like we are to them. They are less motivated by physical attraction and more attracted to the interpersonal and social skills a man possesses. You lack what your friend possesses. That's it. You give off a victim vibe and women have a 6th sense for it. No matter jacked you are, or how nice your hair is, or how low the crotch is on your tracksuit bottoms - Soci… | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Gaming in frigid weatherYeah, don't do daygame outside in the cold. If you do, move the convo to a coffee shop or something if you can. It's baltic right now in my city and people are notably more resistant to conversation in the street. There's less people out and about, too. Summer may be short-lived here, but there's no better time for daygame. | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 07:39 PM |
| 4 | How do i walk up to a girl without seeming like a awkward creep?I'm also a big guy at 6'4 and have a bad habit of accidentally terrifying people. I've got a big, deep voice, too. I've learned to never approach people from behind for a start. I've also learned to use more inviting body language. That means keeping my hands out of my pockets and using them to speak. Open palms say a lot. Standing up straight instead of bearing over people - that's a tough one, especially if I'm talking to a tiny person. Another is being careful with the harsh jokes - I'm a bit… | /r/seduction | 24/11/18 11:21 PM |
| 1 | Studying psychologyFuck that. You think it'll help you learn game, but what you'll learn is that you'll spend 80% of your time reading about egg salad sandwiches and learning how to make a duck think it's mother is a shoe. Source: studied psychology. | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumblePropecia? Fuck that shit. Shave it and get on with life. | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 08:08 PM |
| 1 | American tourist gaming in UK nightclubs?I've never gamed outside the UK, but I reckon you'll be fine doing what you usually do. My advice - You are an American, so play on it. You could get away with so much more just because of that. I bet the accent alone will make girls sopping wet. Find lone girls and ask them to introduce you to her friends because you're new in town. | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 08:06 PM |
| – | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleHe is balding. | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 07:59 PM |
| – | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleYou realize this thread is a month old? Whatever... In his case, yes. Buzzcut 100%. Look at his responses - he has no idea how to look after his hair. He should get a manageable style. | /r/seduction | 20/11/18 07:55 PM |
| – | Do men actually peak at age 31?Exactly! I've read in places that a mans physical peak is ~35, but that is to do with fast-twitch muscle fibres - not anything to do with pick-up... Frankly, I think Mark Manson is a narcissist who loves reading his own work. Which is ironic because he definitely needs a proofreader. Models was okay, but the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck was trite. His good ideas are recycled concepts from the two best in the self-help field - Dr Maxwell Maltz and Dr Robert Glover. Because of that, Models is a… | /r/seduction | 12/11/18 10:52 PM |
| 3 | How do you protect yourself from bad women?Sorry for the late reply. The two you got are good replies, but I'll expand on what I mean. Setting boundaries means having a personal line that you ask your other half not to cross. Sticking with the metaphor, every guy has lines, but let them get crossed, inch by inch. They let it get crossed and redraw the line in front of her again and she steps over it because she's learned that she can. The examples I gave are personal. I received a disability benefit when I was younger for epilepsy and my… | /r/seduction | 12/11/18 10:36 PM |
| – | Should you keep approaching if you have a 100% failure rate?What's gonna stop you from succumbing when you stop approaching? Approaching costs nothing. You spend mental energy when you beat yourself up, not when you get shot down. | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 08:22 PM |
| 116 | How do you protect yourself from bad women?Maybe this applies to you, but it certainly was something I've taken to heart when it comes to avoiding toxic women. Have strict lines and do not let them be crossed. It's been difficult to admit, but I was a pushover before. I would tolerate minor transgressions (not cleaning up after themselves, starting arguments for no reason, taking my money) and rationalize them away. Subconsciously I was making an exchange - Something like "I'll put up with your shit, so you'll ignore what's wrong with me… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 08:05 PM |
| 1 | I just sat through the most awkward 45 minutes of my life...I think I need serious helpSomewhat. People judge based on looks primarily. People also use dating apps. You can't upload a personality but you can try to convey it accurately. | /r/seduction | 23/10/18 04:32 PM |
| – | I just sat through the most awkward 45 minutes of my life...I think I need serious helpYou have approach anxiety. You've gotta just learn to feel fear and go approach anyway. Do a 5 Why's to help get to the root cause of your anxiety: Why are you nervous? Why do you believe that? Why? Why? WHY? Also, you touched on something interesting. I probably have a sense of scarcity However, you also make a choice to limit yourself, creating your own scarcity. I would rather date someone "average" than a social butterfly and I refuse to use dating apps I'm not saying grab Tinder and try hoo… | /r/seduction | 22/10/18 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Good dancestyle for clubsI did a cursory search and found this. | /r/seduction | 20/10/18 10:33 PM |
| 1 | not going out again until i am confident/congruent enough to approachDon't not go out. Just only have one drink. Also, you can literally just get up right now, go outside and say hi to a woman. You should do it right now so you get over your AA. | /r/seduction | 20/10/18 10:24 AM |
| 5 | Was I attempted to be made fun of here?You again? The answer is yes. Resoundingly. Now delete your account and go get some help. | /r/seduction | 19/10/18 04:28 PM |
| 9 | How To Be Cool (in a woman's eyes, at least ;) )Is so untrue. Wanna a tip ? Just be yourself . Ooohhh the age old sage wisdom, passed down by many a woman.... It's bad advice. Most men should absolutely not be themselves. Most are shy and lazy. Very few are masculine. Way too many are completely neurotic. They can be authentic and true to their core values, yes. But they do need to change. This way you will enjoy the conversation "Just be yourself" means that they probably won't even initiate a conversation. If they do, they do it badly. they… | /r/seduction | 19/10/18 08:25 AM |
| 2 | Daygame: I think it's a seriously bad strategy to tell the girl you think she's cute right in the opener...Yep, totally agree. Just remember that we colour our perception of the world and start seeing signs that confirm our assumptions. That's why inner game is so important. It's not just about assuming she's attracted, it's also about believing she actually can be attracted to you in the first place. | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 05:11 PM |
| – | Daygame: I think it's a seriously bad strategy to tell the girl you think she's cute right in the opener...Respectfully disagree. I feel like making your intent clear from the get go is smart, especially for inexperienced men. Expressing intent is something most men seem to struggle with. If we don't make our intent clear then it's easy to friendzone yourself. To be clear, this has little to do with women. It's about the man and getting him to actually express attraction. If women are guarded when you speak to them, it is probably not the expression of intent and more likely your delivery. If I'm goi… | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 08:00 AM |
| 2 | Havent been approaching for a year, how to get over the anxiety? I'm a beginner againSimple: Just fucking do it. Simple doesn't mean easy. | /r/seduction | 16/10/18 07:09 AM |
| 1 | Is it reasonable to not date a girl because of promiscuity?Yes! Allan Watts was straight up ganster. Insightful and funny in equal measure. His recorded lectures are well worth a listen. | /r/seduction | 15/10/18 10:27 PM |
| – | Is it reasonable to not date a girl because of promiscuity?You've got to let it go if you ever want to be happy with a woman, dude. That guarded mentality is the real problem, not her past conquests - it's the way you rationalise being afraid of opening up. You should confide in her that you're insecure. Don't ask her to assuage your fears, but let her know out of honesty. Be vulnerable and open yourself up. If she ends up being a manipulative bitch like you fear then kick her to the curb. You're a man and you can deal with anything that comes up. But y… | /r/seduction | 15/10/18 05:35 PM |
| – | Is it reasonable to not date a girl because of promiscuity?I feel sorry for you, mate. Really, being that insecure must be hell. There could (assuming you've been with more women than just this one) be a significant number between those two points. If you've only got her as a notch on your bedpost and she had one more, that's double, right? Gonna break up? What if that one was a 9 month relationship that ended amicably? It's not a ONS. Does that make it OK now? Do any lesbian experiences count? Here's a question; What if you've been with double the amou… | /r/seduction | 15/10/18 07:02 AM |
| – | Is it reasonable to not date a girl because of promiscuity?Call it what it really is, dude. Don't say it's because you "have higher standards" now. It's because you're insecure. You even said you don't know what her "body count" is, so you've jumped the gun already. Something to consider; What number would you be okay with? Because it's unlikely to be 0... Would you ditch an otherwise perfect girl for that? The reason promiscuity bothers me is because I believe it says something about the person. Idk what even to say to that... If it bothers you that mu… | /r/seduction | 15/10/18 06:12 AM |
| – | U.K.) girls liked me or not? Idk what to thinkYou need to get a grip, mate. The answer is no. The girls are not into you. At all. Period.You're weird, obsessive and creepy. I'll be reporting each one of your alts and each copy of this post you make. Here's hoping they IP ban you. Edit: calling someone racial slur because they gave you advice you didn't like is fucking stupid. Go see a therapist. | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 07:41 PM |
| 1 | U.K.) how do I take this from these girls? Idk what to thinkThere will only ever be one way to be 100% sure about that, to ask them outright, because there is no other way to tell. If you have to ask us, the answer is no; there is no way to know beforehand. Try reading the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 01:45 PM |
| – | U.K.) how do I take this from these girls? Idk what to thinkHonest question. Do you have autism? Because this is literally how all interactions are evaluated. If you struggle to work out emotions and social situations then no wonder this is confusing to you. It's more about the overall feel, which yeah, is to do with tone and body language. You sub-communicate way more with actions (unconsciously) than with words. | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 12:37 PM |
| – | Trying to find a YT channelI'm on my phone, mate. The YouTube app changed the curated feed where I saw the videos when I made an account just a few hours ago. | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 12:26 PM |
| – | U.K.) how do I take this from these girls? Idk what to thinkLike I said before, mate. No idea, I wasn't there to observe. We only have your account of the event. Girls are just as sleazy as men when they are in the right groups, so it's possible, certainly. But your awkward silence probably hurt your chances. Learn from it and move on, mate. | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 12:19 PM |
| – | U.K.) how do I take this from these girls? Idk what to thinkIt's not so black and white, mate. It's also impossible to know unless you ask them. Too late for that now. The lesson to learn is that you let them push your buttons and wield their sexual power over you, so it doesn't matter either way. When she asked "do you have a gf?" you had an opportunity. The frame of your encounter was in your hands. Her friend's response tells me you froze up. A man who felt confident in himself could have responded (or not, it's all in the delivery), because he doesn'… | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 11:46 AM |
| – | U.K.) how do I take this from these girls? Idk what to thinkThey were teasing you by the sounds of it. It's supposed to be playful. If I get the right picture from your description, you probably came across as nervous and kind of awkward. They probably noticed you staring and thought they'd toy with you. Groups of women do that sometimes, since it's a non-committal way of both signalling "plz chase me a little" to men but also setting up a "he's kinda lame" pretense for the other women. Next time you're in a similar scenario, return the playful vibe. Tea… | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleYeah, you're right. If you get well fitting clothes they can look really good despite the pricetags. | /r/seduction | 13/10/18 10:57 AM |
| 7 | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleWith respect; Your hairline looks drastically worse because of the length. A good barber could trim it in a way that makes it much more flattering. Show pictures and ask for styling tips. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | More knowledge isn't the answerIf you read the game a decade ago but still need canned lines, are you're sure you're not doing something wrong? I'm the better part of a decade sober. It gets easier as you go. You'll probably need new hobbies and daygame will be your new focus. Keep it up, mate. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 08:40 PM |
| – | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleYour hair gives off the impression that you play World of Warcraft for 40 hours a week. I'm being mean because it's true, except most don't say those things out loud. You could shave your head bald and you'd improve tenfold. Get a buzzcut and a designer t-shirt and you could be a God. Edit: I used to play in a metal band. I've had a mullet. I had an undershave and top knot. I've had dreadlocks. I've had hair like yours too. Girls like well groomed men - long hair aint the issue. Shit hair is the… | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 08:00 PM |
| – | Pro tip: Delete tinder and use bumbleStop spending money on fucking premium dating services and spend some money on a haircut and you'll do way better. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 07:46 PM |
| 1 | How not to be ashamed of being proud??Let it go, mate. Don't hold on to hate for hate's sake. Put the energy into changing into a better, happier person. Thankfully, our neural plasticity lets us change those old behaviours and rid ourselves of the scars. | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 07:38 PM |
| – | How not to be ashamed of being proud??Catholic, eh? I'm atheist now, but my school was horrendously Catholic. Alan Watts pulled the Catholic mindset apart in one of his talks and it all made sense to me after that. Let me have some sympathy for the teachers who I'd hated for years beforehand. Basically it stems from the "I'm so good" line of thought. The way Catholic schools operate instills this core belief that you are shitty and worthless, so you learn to bring everyone else around you down in your mind in order to bring them to … | /r/seduction | 12/10/18 02:58 PM |
| 3 | My gf broke with me. How to get into the game with her?Let her go. You told us not to say it because you know it's the right thing to do. For whatever reason, she's not into you anymore. Take some time to heal, then go find someone who actually is into you. | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 08:29 PM |
| 7 | Is it foolish to save your first "love" for someone that means something to you?Whatever romantic idea of "first love" you have constructed is holding you back in finding a girl. You've no doubt missed several opportunities to form potentially meaningful relationships due to this mindset. Being in a relationship is inherently vulnerable. You risk being humiliated, taken for granted, taken advantage of and abandoned. But that's what makes them worthwhile. You open up to someone and learn to trust them. In time they learn to trust you. However, you want to jump straight into … | /r/seduction | 04/10/18 08:20 PM |
| 3 | This is my reasoning on why indulging in Porn has the potential to cultivate if not outright create BP tendencies in otherwise functional men.Porn isn't the problem. It's the sex-negative mindset that's fucking pandemic these days. There'd be no issue if men were comfortable sharing their porn with their women. Guys are told 100s of times each day sex is bad! Having desires is something to be ashamed of, according to feminism. IMO The most recent feminist movement, rigid religious taboos and prudish parenting have all contributed to the notion that you have to be indirect when it comes to sex. If you believe that if sex is bad, (which… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/12/17 06:35 PM |
| – | Help getting over an inferiority complexI feel ya. Its often not enough to just know that you hold a bullshit core belief. Holding a bullshit core belief means you don't interpret the world correctly anyway, so you often ASSUME that your experiences PROVE IT CORRECT. You need experience to prove it wrong! The best way to start with any mindset related self-improvement is work out the base form of a core belief. To do that, ask yourself why you feel that particular thing five times. This is called 5 Whys Example: I need my friends' app… | /r/seduction | 04/12/17 06:34 PM |
| 2 | Being a virgin is ruining my life- is there even a point?I'm gonna go through your post and pull apart what you say. You have a rigid way of thinking that is preventing you from getting past this and you need to challenge it to move forward. By not having any fun the past three years, i also have a 3.95 GPA which makes me fairly competitive. So you've paid for it with your happiness? What was the point of it then? If you answer happiness, then you're going to be in for a shock in the future... But as i open my eyes to whats around me, i see my peers, … | /r/seduction | 14/11/17 05:54 PM |
| 2 | What do you consider as a quality woman?For me, they have to stand by their convictions. I dont mean flat out ignore evidence or rational logic, but I do mean challenging me when I hold a differing opinion. E.g. If they are vegan, don't eat steak just because I do. That kinda thing. I've been with women in the past who would morph into their version of what they think I want as we got to know one another. The thing is, what they think and what I really do want are not the same. They can only maintain the appearance for a short while, … | /r/seduction | 26/10/17 03:18 PM |
| – | “You’re future girlfriend is gonna love you.” Am I basically screwed?We can read your fucking username above your post! Haha! Signing off on a comment makes it look like you think you're more important than other commenters. Nobody gives a fuck about your brand here, apart from you. Were all equals on Reddit. Write good comments and maybe they get upvoted. | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 02:34 PM |
| – | “You’re future girlfriend is gonna love you.” Am I basically screwed?Man, you gave some decent advice but the fact you sign off on comments with your name makes my cringe gland go into overdrive. | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 02:00 PM |
| 11 | A thought exercise that will help you get real with yourself very quickly.The hottest girl I know has a type that she goes for. She likes extremely outgoing white guys with dreadlocks and ratty clothes. Most have a pot habit and struggle to hold down a job. I know this is supposed to be a motivational post, but it's worth knowing that you can do all the right things and still not get that girl. Do the right things just because. | /r/seduction | 22/10/17 01:47 PM |
| – | Is it normal for a man in his 20’s to not like casual sex/ hookups?It depends why. I've been in a steady relationship for almost 10 years now. In my opinion it's easier and more rewarding in the long term to focus on one person, than to have to go through the awkward "getting to know you" stage with several other women per month. If you're feeling dejected and down because of rejections, feeding into preconceived notions of how relationships are this glorious, magical experience and everything will be just fine if you could get one girl... That's the pedestal y… | /r/seduction | 19/10/17 01:25 PM |
| 1 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneYou're right in a sense, approaching during the daytime requires a certain level of restraint and social awareness while you can get away with being less calibrated and more aggressive at night. So you have to read the room. You can't expect good results if you're interrupting people running for a bus to tell them the hilarious story about your pet schnauzer. You could talk to the girl who's waiting at the same bus stop you are about the crazy bus driver who sings Metallica songs as he drives, t… | /r/seduction | 02/10/17 06:06 PM |
| 1 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneYou can still do all that, just in a different order. Think of it like this: most times clubs/bars are too loud to hear you speak, most people don't care enough to remember your name at first and most guys build up the importance of an opening statement to the point of ridiculousness. Get people invested with meaningful conversation first, then tell them your name when they legitimately want to know it. But as the saying goes, there is more than one way to skin a cat. If a classic "hello" does t… | /r/seduction | 02/10/17 06:48 AM |
| 17 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneThat's pretty an interesting way to see it! I suppose we always have being human in common don't we? | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 05:37 PM |
| 8 | The 100% best way to approach anyoneYou've got to read the room a little and adjust your approach. If you have a choice between two girls with closed body language in the far corner and three girls looking bored in a booth, don't bulldozer your way to the corner just to be told to piss off. A good trick is to involve someone close to you in your conversation with someone else. Example: "What? No way that Mario beats Sonic in a race? Mario's an out of shape plumber! Hey, settle this for us..." | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 05:34 PM |
| – | The 100% best way to approach anyoneI think this is way easier in cities. There's a revolving door of people at all times and those people are there to socialise. This is double for university cities where the girls are thirsty and the guys have no experience yet. Small towns can be clique-y. Never let it get to you, though. Just speak to people and you'll fine. | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 12:24 PM |
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