pozerdm Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	I guess it’s a personal attack when a woman is comfortable in their own home	MALE DEPRAVITY	pozerdm	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/01/22 04:40 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
47	Men are an option Love it. It is better being alone and happy than being miserable with a partner. It is better to cook for yourself and have it be appreciated. Plan your own times to go out and never be disappointed by lack of effort. Not to share chores and know there’s no one you have to clean up after or remind to do basic chores. Quite frankly, I’ve been enjoying being abstinent after years of coercion and feeling like sex was an obligation. Being alone is underrated anywhere but on this sub. And I think tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/22 02:42 PM
48	What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you? Some great responses already but I’ll share mine We were together for 5 years. There were so many issues I turned a blind eye to because I figured if he never yelled and was never mean, that was enough. Never mind that he didn’t pay rent, didn’t work, played video games all day, and used his depression and low self esteem to coerce me into sex. I could never say no without it becomes a 2hour long conversation about how rejected he was. So I just started counting how many days I could get away wi…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/03/22 06:23 PM
31	Say to a man : "I don't trust men" They do know. The ones with shit friends are shitty themselves. They gravitate to each other because they provide justifications to each other. If all his friends are cheaters, he’s likely to cheat if he hasn’t already. If his friends are verbally abusive, he’s more likely to justify himself when he mocks you or yells at you. You get the idea. Men know. It’s a closed circle to protect themselves and each other. Tell stories of when it went wrong, how they got caught, how they got her back, or ho…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/02/22 04:26 PM
64	Valentine's Field Report Living my best life ignoring “I miss you” texts from LVM, and looking forward to hosting friends for singles night. What I can do without is the poor posts on the dating advice sub from women asking “is the bare minimum really enough?” And Reddit comments coming to the LVM’s rescue. One poor girl made strawberry chocolates and baked goods. He got her store bough chocolate and a bottle of wine (could easily be a 10min grocery run for under $30). She was just disappointed that he didn’t get her fl…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/02/22 08:16 PM
132	Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!! The main mistake I made in my last relationship (of 5 years) was thinking I needed an excuse to leave and not realizing all the different reasons I could pull from my pocket on why I should. It’s been one year. You’re young. And there’s definitely better out there.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/22 05:51 PM
3	I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪 When I look back at the gifts I got from my ex… The only one I was truly overjoyed for was just a romantic evening date on the beach. He got me the cake from his country that he knew I liked, my favorite dinner, and we picnicked at the beach. So I’m clearly not difficult to please. Most every year after that. Forget that he never planned any—even non romantic dates—his gifts were straight up low effort. He built a mini zen garden. Took him all of 30min to put it together and it fell apart a day …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/01/22 05:06 PM
463	Someone in the comments said stories like this are why FDS exists 😂 The dude mentions “soap dispenser” as a useless item… god, even without the fact that furnishing a home well does improve your quality of life—that one bit just told me he has no intention of washing his hands after he scratches his sweaty balls—let alone clean the home.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/01/22 04:20 AM
166	When dating POC men that come from patriarchal cultures... US based Latina who’s pretty much exclusively dated Latino men. Some things that help to know is how long they’ve been living here. Typically I avoid those who don’t speak English and who came over around high school age or older. Not to say folks who come over at an older age are necessarily more chauvinistic but… it lessens the probability. Knowing the language is important for me because I don’t want to play the same translator role I do for my parents. Besides that… honestly, same red flags …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/01/22 04:51 AM
161	Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up? A lot of changes have been happening overall The threat in the US to women’s reproductive rights has made many more people rethink the things we thought we could take for granted. While I’ve seen consistent articles about how women still do significantly more housework, I personally did not realize just how true that was until a year into the pandemic. Labor shortages and narratives about stolen wages and pay inequity are also coming into the home—perhaps not consciously, but I think these shift…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/01/22 10:38 PM
805	Sigh. Ladies, tell me what you think. Men love telling on themselves. Women who “don’t care about their own orgasms” are the ones who’ve been consistently disappointed and stopped having expectations. Sounds like that’s his primary experience.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/01/22 03:17 AM
2	On dating married men Definitely this. And it’s just too much energy to have to fact check every time—especially when they’re half truths and just enough so that it makes you question your own perception. But what I learned from this experience is that cheating is only a small part of the equation. I had wanted to break up for year. And it had been crossing my mind for longer. He had so many LVM qualities that I consistently excused and even encouraged. I was deep in the pickmeisha kool-aide The cheating only helped …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/22 04:40 PM
37	On dating married men She was local for 2.5 of those years. But yes he was cheating for 3.5 and me blissfully and stupidly ignorant	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/22 05:44 AM
168	On dating married men While I was def used by my ex and we were not married, we were in a long term committed relationship for 5 years. And living together for most of that time. He did leave me, and I was honestly relieved ‘cause I felt too much (misplaced) pity for him to be the one to break it off… After we broke up, two weeks later the other woman (whom I didn’t really know about) paid for his flight to go see her. She tried to get him to meet her parents. I guess after 3.5 years this was her chance. Well. I was …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/22 03:27 AM
52	Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized Trauma Similar experience! Though it was 2 years of free room and board and even when he was paying it was because I got him a job and he still didn’t contribute a fraction of what I did at home. He used his mom and how much she lied as a way to really emphasize the need for complete and utter trust. Turned out he was cheating. He also used his self esteem issues to guilt me into sex. Me saying no to sex always turned into a conversation about how he didn’t feel desired enough, about how hurt he was, b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/01/22 07:08 PM
87	Giving up sex with men has been the best thing ever Love this. The last month of my relationship, I had completely checked out of sex. I knew the end was coming and I finally gave myself permission to stop feeling obligated. Not having to have sex ironically helped me have a healthier sex drive. Really enjoying this sex free part of my adult life	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/22 12:20 AM