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It’s one thing to understand the consequences of an aging society and at least make a knowing choice, very few people even really understand the issues it seems like tho
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 05:34 AM
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I don’t know what you want me to say lol obviously that’s bad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:26 PM
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I usually take outer clothes off as soon as I get home 🤷🏻‍♂️ who lounges in a jacket Also not weird to make drinks for guests, even ones I know don’t want to have sex with me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:45 PM
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The study said 8.6 but obviously it’s bad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:44 PM
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My foot cramp issue involves from that category: Removing her own clothes, getting me a drink, focusing on someone unlikely to stop her, removing articles of my clothing, focusing on someone unlikely to tell anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:24 PM
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I mean people who’ve just met also have solvable problems as objections and also do token resistance as a way of being flirty I think survey respondents are more likely envisioning those types of situations than envisioning like “darkest possible scenario” as people here seem to be
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:09 PM
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I just think the situations survey respondents are most likely thinking of when they say oh yeah I did something like that, it’s more likely situations where it’s more socially acceptable and less pestering and coercive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 07:07 PM
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Yea maybe so but we have no idea what situation the guys in the survey are envisioning that fits the facts, but its more likely that they are envisioning something like helping solve a problem rather than being pushy and coercive
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:02 PM
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lol well I missed that when it was posted earlier in the thread Anyway it would still apply to some kind of clear solvable problem type objection, they happen all the time when meeting random new people It would still also apply to surface level objections that are not actually meant to be taken literally, again happens all the time in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:40 PM
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It fits into the survey and we have no idea how many of the guys responding yes are envisioning some kind of helpful situation like I was
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:30 PM
1

None of these facts are in the OP survey scenario, it’s just a situation that just says have you done x when someone expressed not wanting sex Her facts fit the survey just as much as someone being coercive, it applies to either situation Therefore, it clearly does not apply only to coercive scenarios. We have no idea what percentage of guys in the survey are coercively pestering for sex vs helping solve a problem like my gf did
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:23 PM
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I have a clear example in my own life that shows how wrong this is. Last week my girlfriend helped me w a foot cramp that was making me feel like not having sex and by so doing turned a no into a yes She didn’t do anything wrong and in fact I’m glad that she helped Sometimes an objection is like a covert no, sometimes an objection is a straightforward expression of some solvable issue
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:16 PM
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As expected this prompt is just a cue for people to insert their priors
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:08 PM
2

The survey is just not wanting to have sex it’s not telling them to never talk to you again or really anything other than not wanting to have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:03 PM
5

Have you ever been in a bad mood for an identifiable reason and someone helped you into a better mood by addressing the reason eg being hangry
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:05 PM
2

It’s the reasonable person standard - would a reasonable person in this situation find this behavior predatory
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:01 PM
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Sometimes there is an reason why no is “not right now” and there’s nothing wrong with addressing the reason Last week my girlfriend and I came home from a party and she wanted to bang, I told her no bc I had a cramp in my foot, it wasn’t coercive for her to help me with it. She cuddled me and kissed me. She told me things I wanted to hear. She got me another drink. She asked again later. So in that completely harmless interaction you have easily 4 from this list, 5 if you count taking me some pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:49 PM
2

My girlfriend has kept cuddling me and asked again later after I told her I didn’t feel like having sex at that moment How is that rapey
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:35 PM
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People change no to yes. My gf asked me to have sex last week and I wasn’t feeling it at the time, I don’t consider it rapey for her to follow up again later or to change my mood One time I had a cramp in my foot, she helped me deal with that and then I was feeling better, something like that fits the study but it is the farthest thing from coercion
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:31 PM
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My gf asked me to bang last week and I wasn’t feeling it at that moment, that doesn’t make it rapey for her to ask again later
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:19 PM
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Yeah going somewhere private to bang is fuckin crazy how did this get normalized
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:15 PM
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My gf asked me to have sex repeatedly this week guess she’s abusing me lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:13 PM
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A lawyer I work with works on old cars as a hobby, he’s definitely a liberal. Presents somewhat conservative coded at first tho My grandfather was a mechanic and solid democratic partisan. My brother in law worked in an auto factory, practically a socialist
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:37 PM
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I feel like having a big interest in technical details of computers is definitely masculine, it’s just not attractive lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:28 PM
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lol okay
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:19 AM
0

Oh okay they defrauded you and gave the money to their favorite charity then
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:26 AM
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Got it you’d be okay with it if somebody robbed you and then gave the money to their favorite charity
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:36 AM
0

Ok I see, for me I would probably describe that as like someone “attractive but I’m not attracted to,” and I 100% agree that there are women in that category for me personally Although me personally when I was single I would probably have had sex with someone like that just for the experience bc why not
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:33 PM
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In what sense do you find them attractive ? Like, not attractive to have sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:25 PM
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I mean your exclusions are the vast majority of cases where someone would want a test In the cases you are talking about, I kind of agree with you, and there is already a paternity presumption there so I get it, somebody who moves to rebut that presumption is potentially making an affirmative claim about paternity or no paternity. I really don’t read into proof questions the way you do so that’s just a first principles difference between us Anyway I’ll say that somebody who has been inconvenienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:08 PM
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Damages for fraud are generally easy to establish
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:55 PM
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What should be the punishment for asking questions about paternity testing policy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:54 PM
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I don’t view requesting someone to prove the paternity they allege as something that can be false, you’re just asking them to prove their claim. It isn’t accusing them of anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:51 PM
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I am not a Republican, I just live in a Republican area and this is how conservatives I know think. They don’t care if someone else gets a bigger tax break they are happy with any tax cuts at all, they don’t like government and they don’t like being taxed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:35 AM
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Men want guns and lower taxes how do republicans not deliver for them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 05:34 PM
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No? Obviously there are different people and I like and love some more and some less I feel like I’m missing the question or something
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:12 AM
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I like party girls but I’m a party guy so that’s my tribe. Also mediocre sex once a month is insane. I’m in my 40s and have cooled off a bit since my teenage years, but I’m not dead yet. Maybe that might be okay when I’m 70, who knows, maybe not. I’m def not writing myself off in advance. Why even be in a sexual relationship at all at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:22 PM
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Agree and disagree Agree obviously life isn’t like porn lol but I also don’t believe many people actually look at it that way Disagree you can see how lied to people are, even here you see people acting like men live some kind of easy mode life which lol ok bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:20 PM
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Yo why am I getting moderated this isn’t Q4X it’s debate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:18 PM
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Men DONT have to be providers and in fact many would argue that getting a woman via providership is a bad idea as it establishes the mans role as provider rather than lover I don’t know who is actually recommending providership to attract women, it’s a terrible idea, it’s a way better idea to hide those traits and find someone who thinks you’re hot and would fuck you if you lived in a cardboard box
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:40 AM
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And of course, pregnancy. It seems like many men totally write off some of the biggest downsides to being a woman and just assume it’s normal for women so nbd On the other hand it’s not like the women saying men have it better ever talk about how great it is to have a penis
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:17 PM
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Still way easier bc people care about women’s problems and will help them avoid bad outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:39 AM
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I just think there is way more common and awful downside for men to end up homeless, jobless, really stuck and no way out. Women are way more likely to find help that stops them from falling so low Men face greater threat of violence so yea idk at least someone will help them get back on their feet
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:48 PM
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Ease is less about being able to achieve good outcomes and more about being able to avoid bad outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:35 PM
1

Not strength and physical labor ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:33 PM
4

Definitely easier in terms of fallback options and willingness of others to care about their problems and provide help.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:32 PM
2

Being born as me in a woman’s body also sounds awful bc I wouldn’t have my dick anymore and expectations during sex would involve penetrating me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:22 PM
2

Yes great question when there are so many variables why is it that this one variable seems to stand out so much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:15 PM
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lol classic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:58 AM
1

You might be surprised lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:14 PM
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Red pill aren’t traditionalists, those groups have some of the same views as like “how they think the world fundamentally works” or “how the world is today”, but they have very different ideas about what to do about it from actual traditionalists Red pill = society is fucked, don’t worry about the big picture, you can only work on yourself so get fit and fuck bitches There is some overlap with redpill and right politics in terms of membership but there’s nothing inherently political about red pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:10 PM
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Sorry I just read it again, I had thought you said a couple hundred AT MOST, that’s my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:18 PM
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Your facts are way wrong it is not a couple hundred at most my friend doesn’t even make a ton of money and he pays $800/mo for one kid
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:11 PM
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Yea that can be really hard for some people
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:51 PM
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Bc what matters is how she feels about it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:42 PM
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See that’s a good trait to have Myself, until I really did some serious reflection, I was a huge taker and frankly am surprised so many people put up with it as much as they did
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:34 PM
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Who cares, “any amount of alcohol” is a ridiculous standard that nobody who matters actually believes anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:40 PM
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Yeh I kinda generally agree, for me once I gave my social relationships a hard look from a “giving vs taking” perspective it sorta got me to the same place
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:45 PM
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Seems like a roll of the dice, glad it worked out tho
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:38 PM
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Yea just my experience but ime women are generally more flexible than men
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:24 PM
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Yup lol “my friend just died and I’m gonna need a minute” is way different than “look out I’m pissed again”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:14 PM
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How enthusiastic about sex can she possibly be if she’s chosen to remain a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:05 PM
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Yall date some heartless women lol Ime most women are perfectly okay with a man showing emotion over big life moments like a loved one dying. Provided that these things are actually big life moments, and not daily dramas
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:46 PM
0

Would the gap in the fence even matter? My cats can easily get over a fence
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:07 PM
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Also, it means she likes it right now, tomorrow she might like something else
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:01 PM
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But also mixed signals Or more accurately women change their minds easily and often
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:59 PM
2

The competency is not being a bitch about doing work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:09 AM
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lol the secret to being happy is even simpler you just learn to actually enjoy doing work and chores. Not a big deal I still find it difficult to believe that women are constantly doing most of the chores in most relationships. Where on earth are these fucking women lol, I have dated around a lot, I’m always the neat and tidy one I will believe most women cook a bit. If you count like making sandwiches and quesadillas lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:56 AM
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IMO it’s the ideal way for a relationship to form
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:23 PM
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I would say 35 but still agree w the general point 30-35 were really good years tho and still in the upswing at least for me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:50 PM
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It depends on the girl. I have zero worries about my actual girlfriend in a club, but there are a lot of girls who I wouldn’t feel that same way about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 09:19 PM
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K
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 11:13 PM
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I don’t comprehend the idea of wanting someone to ram a penis into me, it seems like an inherently violent and painful act
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:37 PM
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Idk it’s stupid assigning blame and credit for things other men did Look I guess okay if that’s a rule of thumb that works for you personally great but don’t drag me into it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 04:35 PM
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I don’t understand what you are trying to say with your statistically thing but it doesn’t make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:51 PM
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Personally I can sense the ugly coming off this post just from how he writes, and I fully accept OPs explanation that he is simply too ugly to love
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 09:50 PM
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I would say it’s better to leave those problems to society and just work on yourself, you can solve the problems for yourself, with the bigger issues you can’t do much. If you really want to do some kind of activism go for it but if you want meaningful results work on improving your position in the world as it exists
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:03 AM
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Regardless of whether assholes and other various bad people are enabled or encouraged by others, they are still the ones primarily responsible for their own actions
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 10:51 PM
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If you’ve ever dealt with white knights this makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:36 PM
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I mean if you really want to thought experiment it, imagine that nobody can tell the difference and the guy is bringing her on dates or at least to social events lolll
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:51 AM
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I think most men don’t care for it. Ultimately a girl with a slutty past or present who is forward about it is probably not a great match for guys who have strong negative opinions about it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 09:14 PM
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I don’t think so but I’m very much a live and let live kind of person, if people want to live a rollercoaster of a life good for them, just don’t act surprised when not everybody wants the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:20 PM
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I don’t even think it’s necessarily just men who struggle to find sex who do this. Getting strange pussy all the time is a fucking rollercoaster of a life that most men really don’t want to deal with once they’ve had their fill, hence why even a lot of guys who could find someone new every day end up settling down and having a regular boring relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 03:58 PM
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Scroll to bottom Find downvoted posts There it is!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:23 PM
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Worst vs is worst is like Kill all men vs like women are property I mean they’re both pretty bad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 02:38 AM
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I agree with your point in the big picture but I also think it’s normal to want something more than a bare transactional relationship that will end the instant the gravy train slows down
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:19 AM
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False
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:17 AM
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Women cooking and cleaning is a myth lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:16 AM
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Yea lol so long as what she is is pleasant, loyal, adventurous, low maintenance, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:12 AM
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Could be lol Probably good not to take any of this stuff too seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 09:49 PM
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In my experience if someone doesn’t like someone else that much, they come up with a bunch of reasons why. The reasons why really don’t matter though. They’re often just post hoc rationalizations for a feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:48 PM
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What is the lawsuit for? Slip and fall injury? Your post tells me almost nothing about the underlying case how am I supposed to have an opinion about it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:22 PM
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lol yes limiting the pool of women for a sexual relationship to those who actually want sex does reduce the number of women in that pool, bravo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 02:51 PM
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I don’t like the part where I have to get a permit from the government for a relationship, especially one that gives me a worse bundle of rights than being unmarried
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 09:17 PM
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The main exception is when you are good looking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 02:31 PM
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Which side are you taking on this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:20 PM
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Everyone is entitled to their opinions tho. Really only a problem if they try to make it a rule or something
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 06:18 PM
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We can have a little bpd art hoe, as a treat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 01:59 AM
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Idk I am UMC and agree with a lot of the dating dynamics stuff. Really most of it is just not living in some kind of fairytale fair world but I mean yes some of it is very obviously lower classes coded. Applicable way beyond that tho , most of this is just human psychology and social dynamics dressed up in edgy shocky language Is women dating criminals really that common of a topic here? I guess I must tune that out or something or read it as an exaggeration to make a point
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:32 AM
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lol I don’t know how anybody could actually think this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:59 PM
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I mean it definitely shows some kind of social status. Having social skills is a display of social status. Bad social skills signals low status in and of itself
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 05:58 PM
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Cold approaching forces you to learn social skills and calibrate the approach. My numbers were never great from cold approach but being able to do it made it 100x easier to get laid from Tinder. Also being able to chat with people is just like a basic thing to be able to do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 08:44 PM
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I don’t really think there is any palatable systemic solution that’s why I fall back to personally actionable stuff, just accept the world how it is and improve your own position in it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 05:58 PM
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It’s like anything, if someone commits to it fully then they can learn it. It might completely change who they are, and they might become really a worse person for it, but go to bars and clubs 5 nights a week and try to get laid and you will get laid
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 06:12 PM
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I agree in general with 1 2 I agree with in some cases because it is talking about some specific theoretical woman, hard to make a general rule out of it Disagrees with overall title because I think really the vast majority of men can learn how and so should feel bad if they can’t figure it out
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 04:58 PM
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I disagree but I guess only to the extent that I don’t think it’s that incredibly difficult to find girls who are up for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 02:09 PM
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yea actually that is exactly what I agree to pay for
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:25 PM
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lol if a date showed up with a rotisserie chicken I’m not sure how I would react but it IS a nice gesture. Just not something you see everyday
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 09:04 PM
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Yea definitely my experience is mostly from bars and clubs and tinder it’s probably pretty dialed in to that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:25 AM
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What about the, and I use this word loosely, “dates” that they aren’t telling anyone about Ime there are times when all the rules go out the window
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 11:50 PM
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I kinda feel the same except, I think for me I really just want to avoid situations where that’s the main draw. Ultimately I know I’m a giver and I will end up doing a lot for the people in my life, I just don’t want to specifically attract people who are looking for that, I’d even say I’m a little wary of people who are looking for that. Not to a crazy level or anything but I don’t think it’s a great idea to lead with it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 11:49 PM
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I agree I think it’s weird too, my preference is to go round for round (I’ll get this one, you get the next) because it’s fun and a little flirty but going Dutch is fine too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:34 PM
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Maybe those date ideas just suck lol Lots of women are down to meet for drinks
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:13 PM
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Most women are fine with it lol and the ones who aren’t will still have sex with you if they think you’re hot The only women you lose by not paying are those explicitly looking for a pay based relationship who also do not think you’re hot. May I suggest it’s actually better to ward off that kind of interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:07 PM
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That isn’t true at all In fact not paying works better for actually getting laid Paying puts you in the provider zone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:02 PM
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Maybe I’m just slow I don’t get it 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:06 AM
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I just don’t think it’s hard to find things to talk about?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:28 AM
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I mean clubbing is actually one of my big hobbies I generally don’t find it super hard to talk about with someone else who is into it? If that fails there’s always stock topics (media, jobs, family, weather, travel) or just vibing and playing around
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:09 AM
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I was given the (slightly different) advice of “start your own hobby group” and idk while yes it was low direct roi, I did meet a couple girls directly through it but honestly being the guy who started the group also just reflected well on me when I’d meet women otherwise, they generally seemed kind of impressed by it or maybe just liked that I was passionate about something
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 12:04 AM
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I’m purple not flaired red so responding here In my life if I don’t lead, I won’t be satisfied with what gets done. I make plans, I set things up, I handle logistics, I get things done. If I don’t, it won’t. Theres a million unseen details and it seems like nobody really ever wants to handle them without prompting. If nobody really wants to follow my lead, that’s not ideal but it’s okay, I’ll be satisfied with what I set up for myself. I find that people do usually like what I have going on and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:11 PM
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100% wrong I didn’t know what casual sex was like, so I went out and did it. I realized that in some ways it was more than it was cracked up to be, and in some ways far less. And after a while I tired of it and settled down. But I did need to go through the experience. I wasn’t ever going to be satisfied if I was always wondering. I literally had to go get it out of my system
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 06:07 AM
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For me I wouldn’t put it exactly like that, it was more that it was just I wanted to have the experience to know what it was like, and I knew I’d never by satisfied if I was always wondering, so I went out and did it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 06:02 AM
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Creeped out in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:47 AM
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Sucks for guys who are dependent on that I guess. I like western women and didn’t have any problem in Europe actually found it easier than at home here in the USA. Kinda feel like guys who are all into traditional women are kinda coping tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:36 AM
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Yea I get that, in the hypothetical situation it matters to me how I find out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:18 AM
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Like your friend straight up told the new guy about fucking two other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:35 AM
1

Question: in this scenario, how do we find out that they are seeing someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:30 AM
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How would you know tho
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:30 AM
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Lmao no I would not date them. I wouldn’t date anyone who wanted to wait more than 3 dates for sex, but this situation would be especially egregious. I just fundamentally disagree with the notion that you should wait for sex if it’s an important relationship, I believe it’s better to have sex right away, that way if its no good then you are less attached and its easier to let go. If you wait too long then you might be tempted to stay with someone you aren’t even sexually compatible with due to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:20 AM
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Depends what you cry over and how you cry. Losing a family member and shedding a few tears is a lot different from ugly crying over some minor setback
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 10:14 PM
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Idk imo qualifying/disqualifying is a fun way to flirt or even just see how you are similar to and different from someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:42 PM
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Yea I get it, I always split the cost of dates 50/50, to me that just makes sense, unfortunately I’m not aware of any way to just split the effort like that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 08:34 PM
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This is also a big part of why guys will sleep with girls they have no intention of calling back. At least it was for me anyway. I’ve already done all the work and she’s up for it, so I might as well
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 07:20 PM
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And because deadbeat dads are not a political force that has any power whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 01:00 AM
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Sounds like millennial experience too tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:52 AM
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I’m older millennial and that all sounds pretty familiar
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:43 AM
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Yea I agree. People give bad advice because they don’t know how to do the thing. Like try to get advice on nutrition and fitness from the average person. It will likely be shit, not because they want others to fail, but because the average person’s ideas about nutrition and fitness are shit
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 11:14 PM
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I guess I just fundamentally disagree I think vibing well is a super important element of compatibility. Some people you click with and some you don’t, you can’t make it up because it’s how the two people fundamentally relate to each other, some lifestyle shit like having the same hobbies, liking the same music, anybody could do that if they chose to do it, or even just say they like it. Can’t fake a vibe tho
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:39 AM
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Yea I agree. Actually being honest about it and finding a way to express your truth can set you free lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:45 AM
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Yea I get it idk in my experience many people don’t want to be boring and will be fun if they get a chance. Sometimes tho it can be like pulling teeth
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:17 AM
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Yea I agree but I also think trying to figure all that out super quickly up front using words is a fools errand.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:13 AM
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Do guys not like leading anymore? Is it not possible to just redirect her to something more fun than 20 questions
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:11 AM
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How can you possibly know that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:07 AM
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Vibes are deep compatibility, words and explanations are superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:03 AM
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A lot of people are boring lame-o’s who do job interview style dates, that’s just the way of the world lol It’s possible to break a lot of them out of it by being fun tho. Be the change and all that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:53 AM
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Yes, someone’s experience with how well they’ve done in dating shapes their expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 05:17 PM
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“She” lol This is a strategy used to increase conversion rate when playing a numbers game, there is no specific “she”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 07:17 AM
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I don’t lol it leaves the ball in her court and most people are awful at taking initiative. If you want someone to do something, and this applies far more broadly than this topic, it’s best to serve it up to them in a way where they really just have to say yes and not much else
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 05:38 AM
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Yeah definitely I would say the guys I know have gone that direction, the ones that can anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:50 PM
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I have standards and boundaries too but I don’t have a need to shame people who aren’t a good fit. I find it works better to just keep them at an appropriate distance without making a big deal about it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 08:48 PM
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It’s wild that they can’t see it, it clearly comes from a reactive/defensive place
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:07 AM
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Surveys 🫠
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:05 AM
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I pay $1400/mo for my mortgage on a 1500 Sq ft house in an older neighborhood near our downtown, but I bought in 2013. Probably about $2200 today. Definitely not Bay Area prices but definitely not the Bay Area either lol. Small city life I get it you can make a lot of money doing labor. A lot of my friends work those jobs. I was kind of envious when I was 25, just starting out as a lawyer, loaded with debt, those guys had been making six figures for a while at that point. That gets harder as we …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:19 AM
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You might think that but there are parts of California that are fairly affordable. It’s not the coast tho. You are right tho I considered being a teacher and decided to be a lawyer instead largely bc I wanted to male more money
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:14 AM
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It’s not the worst paying job, depending on where you live. My girlfriend made over $100k last year. That being said my sister lives in another state and makes about half as much
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 02:03 AM
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Yea that part was cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 07:14 PM
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I disagree, these are all so vague that they could just as easily indicate success. He could be a doctor that drives a Supra and dates a model for all we know
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 06:58 PM
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lol oh well that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 04:12 AM
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Why do you fight men all the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 02:40 AM
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I don’t see anything in the OP saying that either of the two characters is more physically attractive than the other
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:12 PM
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lol what do you think therapy is Why would anybody go to therapy unless they had some kind of issues they needed to work out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:09 PM
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Old people care about sex much less than young people
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 07:09 AM
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lol aw I do actually follow a bunch of weird things I’m not a part of, like tall people, just to see what their lives are like. You might be surprised all the mundane stuff you find it’s kind of neat
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 11:07 PM
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I mean it’s something like 10-15% of divorces that end up paying alimony. Top 10-15% is not some crazy high earner amount. Google says $150k
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:08 PM
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It turns out if you keep going out and chasing, I can’t say I would recommend that for everyone but I had fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:40 AM
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Prime years lol I had my wildest dating life between 30-35, the things that happened in those years 20 year old me could have only dreamed of, and hell I was a party kid in high school, it wasn’t like I was some kissless virgin. Hell I’m in my 40s and shit still gets pretty wild sometimes Imo y’all just have extremely limiting frames of what your life should be like
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:09 PM
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Sure and some people could gain a lot with a little, and some couldn’t do much even with actual magic
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 10:43 PM
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Yea my festival experience is different, I’ve met a ton of friends that way. Sure there is some luck involved, not everybody you meet will become a new friend, but it does happen sometimes, and it won’t happen at all sitting in your room at home lol Honestly it depends a lot on the vibe and many times it’s dumb luck that circumstances line up in a way that leads to meeting new people. But I mean you’d have to be way luckier for that to happen in a not social situation
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 07:31 AM
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Oh I see now, yeah if you are just talking about men in general, yeah lol lots of men are definitely willing to pay. Women will never run out of men willing to pay for them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:50 PM
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lol that isn’t true at all, when I dated I didn’t pay for dates because it sets a providership dynamic and is worse than useless as far as finding a woman who is into me. Paying for a date wouldn’t get me anywhere, it works against me and wastes my time. If a woman would only go out with me if I pay, then she’s not interested in me. Who cares if she’s super hot or whatever, that’s all the more reason NOT to establish a providership dynamic and muddy the waters as to why she’s spending time with …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:18 PM
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For me anyway, I have to actually make a point to take pictures, when I’m in the habit of doing so, it comes naturally but if I slip out of the habit I’m just typically not thinking about taking pictures, it just doesn’t come to mind really
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:57 PM
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I would say many (probably most) men do not make a big point of taking pictures of the activities they do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:42 PM
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Yea it’s probably a couple months of weekend activities to get a good solid batch of photos this way. Plenty of fun along the way tho which is kind of the point
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 05:20 PM
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I mean it’s just 99% having good pictures Basically if you do lots of things, take pictures wherever you go, and shamelessly ask people to take your picture, you are bound to get some great pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 04:57 PM
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I will say that sometimes women will call a woman who isn’t particularly pick me-ish a pick me because they are jealous of her and want to tear her down
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 02:43 AM
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I’m a lawyer
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 06:04 AM
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I don’t think that’s true. I think maybe the average guy might consider that if he wants to be more attractive and get more casual sex. Nobody is forcing guys to do this tho, I havent done any cosmetic surgery and don’t plan to
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:30 PM
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Many people do comsmetic surgery. Good work isn’t really noticeable to the untrained eye
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 10:08 PM
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I mean I’m a guy and I did very well for myself but I was always at the top of my class at school and my work always paid off for me. I know a lot of people who work much harder and achieve less, I can understand why they would maybe be more skeptical about the value of hard work
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 04:58 AM
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Look down on them how? I mean I don’t think it’s really like something to aspire to, if that’s what you’re asking. It’s generally extremely low prestige work, it’s aimed at serving base desires, some people such as the religious types think of it in terms of being morally wrong and want to prohibit it completely, it’s generally used by people who are lacking in some way. I wouldn’t say I actually look down on it, there are lots of jobs that need doing and I firmly believe in pluralistic society,…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:25 PM
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I don’t feel like it’s a normative “should” as much as it is just how things work. If I don’t take the lead in most things in my life, nobody is going to lead me or make cool experiences for me to my satisfaction. So I lead my own life, I tend to find that others like the life I’m leading and want to tag along.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 07:29 PM
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I mean to be fair what OP has described is very specific
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:08 AM
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Most people on steroids do not look like they’re on steroids lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:07 AM
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Power lifters that don’t take steroids 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:05 AM
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lol I have a girlfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 01:50 AM
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I’m not going to stop seeing artists I like if that’s where theyre playing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 10:10 PM
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Don’t be a dick, older people like music and dancing too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:23 PM
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Yea truly, it’s a test of the group how well it can make those people feel validated and heard while redirecting them towards the actual advocacy goals. In large part tho this is why it’s tolerated, because those people often can be redirected and made useful I would also say that it’s relatively more difficult as an out group member to judge this sort of thing, it’s relatively easier to understand the dynamic in one’s own group
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 06:08 PM
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I just think it’s kind of a weak criticism of men’s advocacy because the same criticism also applies to every other group, and it is generally considered a weak criticism of those groups
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 05:33 PM
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Women’s spaces also frequently stray from proper advocacy into man bashing. People tend to be more forgiving when their in group does this and less forgiving when some out group does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 05:11 PM
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Person C is with the child 24/7 and neglects them, when not neglecting them they’re abusing them, is this labor worth more than person b
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:37 PM
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I said how much work they’ve done not how much effort
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 08:12 PM
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A spends 1000 hours with kid and is a great parent, instills good behavior, raises a model kid B spends 2000 hours with kid and babies the shit out of them and raises an awful piece of shit Truly B has performed more valuable work
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 08:11 PM
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Some tasks lend themselves to it better than others, sure
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 06:42 PM
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Time spent is a terrible metric of how much work someone has done.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:35 PM
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It’s like you can describe settling but refuse to call it that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:30 PM
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Hm yeah it is and it isn’t Honestly for me growing up the hardest part was sifting through all the bullshit bad advice, even alot of my friends just had like these terrible dating strategies like taking girls out to nice dinners lol but back then I couldn’t really tell good advice from bad advice I was just trying to figure out what was what Idk a lot of things were that way in the 90s, then the internet came along and we had actual access to information at our fingertips and it became obvious t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:04 AM
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Yea wow it’s true, many people seem super addicted to negativity too. Like really many people just seem like they are making themselves so unhappy. I have my grumpy moments like anyone but honestly there’s a lot to be happy about in life and I wonder if people are tuning that out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:08 PM
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Use an immutable trait then Or just obnoxiously ignore the point what do I care
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:04 PM
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I guess you lack imagination then because it’s a pretty simple thought experiment to just imagine the same person except some quality is a little better
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 05:03 PM
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Ah yes men with their famously high bars for attraction which few women actually meet
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 04:34 PM
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Deciding to not keep going for something better is also settling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 04:32 PM
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Idk women are the ones always pushing for relationships. I’m supposed to explain this for them now?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 04:26 PM
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I think she just is okay living that way, her own spaces are always kind of a mess like that. In my personal opinion a bit of a bad value to have but in the grand scheme of things it’s inconsequential
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:40 PM
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Eh I find it kind of slobbish and disgusting to leave it overflowing. I just take it out if I see it that way and look down on people who don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:04 AM
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Aw dang that’s rough. Hope you’re doing ok
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:11 AM
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Yea idk I’ve always been an incredibly driven person it’s just that when puberty kicked on I had an extremely singular focus for the next 5-10 years or so. It’s still up there I mean as major lasting drives for things in my life if it isn’t number 1 then it’s easily top 3. What can I get you to agree to? Top 5? Top 10? Surely you must agree it’s at least in the top 10 major drivers of men’s behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:44 PM
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I mean it clearly seems to be what op intended
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 05:51 PM
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Are lives with parents and lives with parents not the same league of living arrangement?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 04:50 PM
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I feel like you can easily just ask about pay as long as you do it in a strong way, just don’t uptalk and act scared, vibe should be more like you are questioning them to see if they qualify
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:41 PM
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Lmao what no absolutely wrong I got laid the most times off of (1) tinder and (2) approaching women in drinking locations like bars clubs and parties with clear intent I did sure get laid a few times acting nice and making friends but it is a terrible strategy to get laid. Good strategy to make friends tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:39 PM
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Just talk to women as people is dumb bad advice idk what else to say lol Good way to end up with a bunch of women buddies I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 08:29 PM
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Who even argues that tho lol Like is there somebody saying women should do that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:59 PM
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Yea shitty people are shitty, fuck em 🤷🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 09:05 PM
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I feel like people talk about average like it’s going to be impressive or something. Median salary is $61k. Honestly I don’t even know how someone could even get by on that, it seems like it would barely cover housing and food
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 05:06 AM
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Oh I mean I do like most of that stuff in my household, well my share anyway, to me it’s only really a problem if it gets unbalanced. I have heard about these households where the woman does everything it’s just so foreign to me, I have never lived like that and kind of honestly have trouble believing that people do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 04:51 AM
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Yea idk I hear a lot of gripes about how much time is being spent on tasks that in my experience don’t take very long for me anyway if I put my head down and get to work and also on tasks that sound a lot like hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 10:09 PM
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It’s like one of those questions tho, where sure there are obvious counterexamples but if we have to say one way or the other, it’s definitely the one way and not the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 09:08 PM
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I mean it’s good for my kids when I bring them to do my hobbies too, it’s hardly work though. I don’t even think I could keep a straight face saying, “I took the kids hiking there’s 12 hours of work for me”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 09:04 PM
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I actually prefer kinda low maintenance women but felt like I had to still learn all this stuff anyway just to date at all. If I ever got to feeling down about it or like overworked lol, I always tried to do little positive reframes with myself like “well at least I’m getting practice creating a bunch of random fun experiences, it’s a good skill to have”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:39 PM
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I read this post as being less about people already in relationships and more about the dating process where you have to do the work of sorting through a bunch of people
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:36 PM
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In my experience women volunteer for all kinds of extra unnecessary work with kids like it’s their hobby or something. Nobody is expecting them to make a bunch of trinkets or whatever they just do it. I consider this less in the realm of “work” and more in the realm of “play”. I mean sure if someone enjoys that go for it but it’s hardly work
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:26 PM
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Is showing signs of weakness and submission not disgraceful? I’m not even conservative but in general I mean yes obviously
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 05:20 PM
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I think of it more like social skills are a skill that narcissists and psychopaths abuse, idk I think of the skill itself of being good at relating to people as being value neutral, is it not?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:50 PM
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you dont think people can practice social skills or cultivate an interesting lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 08:32 AM
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Yes I agree one of the best things I ever learned to do in dating was to articulate the qualities that I look for and actively say I’m looking for those things and be open with them about how well I think they fit the qualities I was looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 08:29 AM
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Nobody thinks excessive complaining is being assertive and dominant, its not even really bitchy, it’s more whiny
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 08:18 AM
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A lot of people don’t bring much to the table. It’s pretty common, I agree that it doesn’t make sense to get into a relationship with someone that isn’t good company, a good partner, etc, but that’s kind of OPs point is that many women really aren’t good relationship material You might not have experienced this but many single women just expect to be entertained and led through a series of fun experiences created for them. Just kind of one of the realities of dating, I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 08:09 AM
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I mean I wouldn’t even say I resent her, in my mind it’s just a give and take. If I do catch myself feeling resentful, I try to remind myself that she does a lot for me too. Anyway yea I’m not sure if I fully get it, but I can see your point, getting plowed sounds awful in the first place, so it makes sense that the stars have to align to get her there
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 02:31 PM
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I think a lot of people including women can be dramatic about how much work they do. People often spin up narratives in their own head, it’s good to find someone who is aware of this and tries to at least be mindful about it and do it less. Someone who is like comparing how many favors is usually spinning narrative and only telling themselves half the story
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 02:05 PM
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I don’t understand how it connects to sexual attraction, my girlfriend is kind of scatterbrained and leaves a lot of things out of place or leaves trash on the counter, tables etc, I pick up at least 20 out of place items literally every single day, it’s a bit annoying but it has no connection whatsoever to whether I want to have sex with her
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 02:02 PM
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I honestly think a lot of people (not just in this topic area either) just want to feel heard and when they don’t feel heard they repeat themselves over and over with increasing frustration
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:47 AM
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Boo purple should be able to respond to these Anyway for me it’s more just about how the framework and dynamics of the relationship operates, I don’t want to lead with providership, sure I have a good job and can afford nice things but I don’t want that to be the attraction dynamic, I want a girl who would be into me even if she thought I was broke and I was just a fun guy she could have a good time with, imo that is a much much better dynamic for a good relationship than a “buy her things” dyna…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:23 PM
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lol this reminds me of me at 14 I guess I’m lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 10:31 PM
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Sure but most of those women are going to sit back and wait for you to come to them and offer value
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:53 PM
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I think better advice would be more like “make sure you don’t show too much interest and smother her”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/25 05:48 PM
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I rely heavily on logic at work such as setting up obvious syllogisms so people can follow my writing and see how the conclusion I’m reaching literally can’t be wrong given the premises Works well in that kind of context, less so elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:22 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 07:14 PM
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Aw I feel a little bad now
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 10:46 PM
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Tbf I have seen some men’s advice that had me legit scared of what it looks like when some uncalibrated guy tries to apply it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 09:51 PM
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The thing is if a group gives advice in a women approved way, the advice is going to eventually be super feminine and it will suck. Advice in a purely male space can also go the opposite direction and suck too, that’s why it’s best to pick and choose and as they say use it like a toolbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 09:24 PM
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Is that supposed to be a lot for a guy in middle age lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 09:17 PM
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Eh most guys are pretty clingy so it sounds reasonable to suggest being a bit colder and more distant, that being said I have no idea what these people actually said at all, so who knows, I’m not going to defend it. Clearly it wasn’t good advice here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 09:16 PM
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Aw but tbf generic advice is just that, generic, you can’t expect it to work in any specific case, you can really only rely on it in wide net situations
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 08:46 PM
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🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 08:43 PM
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lol right? This is more talking shit than cock blocking
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 08:33 PM
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Yea I used to get resistance from some guy friends when I started doing some self improvement stuff and trying to improve my dating life, eventually I just learned to ignore it or talk shit back. I don’t think this is a big secret that guys talk a lot of shit, for me I always just felt like part of growing up was learning how to deal with it and finding my own style in doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 08:33 PM
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Well if a girl is into a particular type there might be some kind of look that she’s going for, some sports the pros are not big because they aren’t training for that. Some are, I suppose if a girl likes linebacker types she probably likes big guys but if her type is rock climbers maybe not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 02:30 PM
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It’s kinda gotta be all of the above tho
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:54 AM
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Face gains are a big deal too, for some guys it can drastically change their facial appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:52 AM
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I don’t think it’s about being super jacked as much as just looking the part for whatever type that girl is interested in. When I was going super hard at backpacking I wasn’t big by any means but was lean and strong and fit and did very well at the time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:44 AM
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lol is this the mental load I keep hearing about
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 09:51 PM
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I mean it’s not like every woman who expects to be provided for in some way is a crazy gold digger, it’s pretty common
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:29 PM
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I contribute to society either way? I mean when I was younger I was a bit harder up but I still never really had a problem finding a girlfriend or occasionally casual things. Thing is tho it never seemed like enough when I was younger, I was very very driven and competitive Anyway when I was harder up I was just a lot less motivated to do the right thing, a lot more of my energy went to feeling emotional ways and also like destructive hell raising with the boys. So I was just generally less prod…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 02:30 AM
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Like I said I don’t like it, it just seems to be the way things are
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 10:00 PM
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Seems kind of consistent tbh typically guys learn how to roll with it but some don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:47 PM
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Guys talk a lot of shit, this is something a guy would typically learn early and how to roll w it. I personally don’t really care for it but it’s just the way of the world so I play the game as much as I have to
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 09:27 PM
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Aw my relationship is really nice and we’d both be really hurt to lose the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 11:29 PM
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Heh yea ideally I think it’s done more proactively so they aren’t actually addressing a specific threat but just kinda making sure even if things get bad at least everyone has food in their belly and some kind of activity to keep them occupied. I think that anger you’re seeing directed into xenophobia racism etc- I mean some of that is this same general discontentment no? Maybe we need some more lotteries or something idk what keeps the masses happy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:55 PM
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When I look at sex dynamics issues I would say that I definitely look at it very differently on the one hand, how I approach it personally and what is moral on an individual level, and on the other hand, how I look at it in terms of broader trends and systemic social issues I guess my point is that there can be a concerning social trend even in instances where all the individual actors are good people doing nothing wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:20 PM
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I think you’re misunderstanding what I mean by treating it like other discontent, I’m saying maybe the government should essentially try to ensure nobody is staving and there is plentiful entertainment and discontentment will never really get too bad
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 01:23 AM
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Yea to me it’s an interesting case of discontent but I guess ultimately it’s pretty similar to other things people are unhappy about and I guess probably addressed in similar ways, mostly by just acknowledging feelings and redirecting to something else
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:21 PM
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Where did you get involuntary sex work from, it’s giving bad faith to keep railing against it. Like I said I threw legalized/regulated sex work out there as kind of an off the wall idea, and I’m not even trying to defend it. Who is arguing for mandatory sex work lol where did the come from What about treating these guys similar to other societal discontent? Usually we don’t judge what’s causing the discontent too much we just try to make sure people aren’t getting too riled up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:41 PM
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I don’t have a lot of hard conclusions about this if you can tell me it’s not actually a problem that’s good to hear. I do think if society were breaking down like this that women should care at least somewhat because it would fuck up everyone’s quality of life with more crime and instability and less effective services Anyway if there is some kind of marginal cost solution like treating it the same as other discontent and throwing some gimmes at it, I also don’t really see support for that as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 08:03 PM
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Yea idk I’m not religious I don’t really think anything is sacred maybe in a figurative sense but I wouldn’t wanna get carried away with that. I’m happy with life and contribute to society
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 07:16 PM
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To me it’s something more like, “here is an issue, when men are sexless, those men become a problem for society. Look at other societies where this has happened, it has been a problem there. I don’t want that for our society.” I don’t have a solution and the idea of compelling women to have sex is repugnant and weird. Maybe legalize and regulate sex work, idk. Maybe just give people enough bread and circuses that they’re happy enough, again idk, I don’t have all the answers I just have a concern…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:51 PM
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I use like 5 different lotions for different situations
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:42 AM
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How am I a shill I couldn’t care less if you use it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:33 AM
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A lot of people in this space say hygiene when they mean grooming and appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:32 AM
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I disagree, retin a is a miracle product
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 05:30 AM
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Do you not consider skincare routine part of hygiene
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:14 AM
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Providing for oneself and not being at the mercy of another person truly trumps ANYTHING Indeed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:43 PM
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I don’t think a lot of people are super aware of just innately favoring more attractive people, assigning them good traits basically by the halo effect. It’s an implicit bias and it happens on a subconscious level. Maybe some people consciously do it intentionally but if they do it’s explicit bias which is something else
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:23 AM
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Literally no one will ever hold a sahp accountable for performance in any way, it’s basically just “am I happy with how I did?”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:15 PM
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Imo it’s more like people first feel attracted to someone (or not attracted) based on physical attractiveness and then later assess if they are nice or not nice
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 08:43 PM
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lol I said get the basics down
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:39 AM
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Yup not a problem go to parties be a party guy meet party girls have wild times
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:30 AM
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Just vibe then
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:19 AM
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It’s like a new sport even if you practice you are gonna suck for like 6 months just to get the basics down
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:18 AM
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Bars clubs raves concerts festivals etc then
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:16 AM
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Men also solve most crimes, how did you factor that in your collective assignment of worth
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:39 AM
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lol oh my
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:01 PM
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You’re looking at boomers tho and marriage rates are down drastically for millennials even as they age and more so for Gen Z
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:41 AM
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What is the metric, is it successful dating or marriage happiness because those are wildly different visions of success
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:38 AM
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I would say more disgust idk whether that is challenging your view or agreeing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:06 PM
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Who is saying that attractive men have to settle for women they aren’t attracted to? Men are typically attracted to a wide variety of women and attractive men typically have many options
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:49 AM
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Idk I found dating in Europe in some ways harder than dating at home in the states. In some ways easier tho too. Really not super different from home
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 07:13 PM
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Most women don’t want casual sex, except when they do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:41 AM
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l think 80% of families being messy is a stupid lowball lol not even just mixed families but all of them. Everyone has problems that could be characterized as being messy. Literally who doesn’t. Living well is more about how you make do
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:25 PM
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lol not true at all You think men ONLY lust after hot women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:44 AM
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I’m not super familiar with this phenomenon but do the men typically attach themselves to one specific girl
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:01 AM
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A lot of social dynamics are improved by having someone at least willing to take the lead role. Idk I like to lead but I dont make a personality out of it and am ok going with the flow as well. But a bunch of followers hemming and hawing sucks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 07:06 PM
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Oh well they’re not interested anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 10:50 PM
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It just seems like a better strategy to shoot your shot right away and find out sooner rather than later. That way if its a no, you can just move on to the next Dating for a guy is a numbers game it’s way better to get 50 no’s in a week than 1 maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:48 PM
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lol if only there were some kind of middle ground between friendly conversation and direct propositioning
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 12:18 PM
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But he would be able to tell in this hypothetical non-cold approach situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 06:04 AM
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You think people doing cold approach can’t tell whether someone is interested or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 09:09 PM
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You will not get great results in anything in life leaving the ball 100% in other people’s court. Maybe in getting left alone, it’s a good strategy for that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:19 PM
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How do you distinguish this from other approaches (like cold approach) where you also just walk away if she is not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:15 PM
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lol some uncalibrated moron is going to take this too literally
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:31 PM
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You’re SOL if he’s poor tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:39 PM
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It’s not like they’ve lost anything in that case
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:48 AM
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I honestly don’t understand how anyone doesn’t like party girl types better so much more fun lol Virginal girl seems like a path to a dead bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 04:34 PM
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Do the former not also see it as a means to an end lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:23 PM
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I’m average height and white-ish and this is my experience. Idk I was born in the 80s tho
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 04:40 AM
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I see it all the time by people who otherwise seem smart so idk
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 02:15 AM
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I would say if you’re the kind of person who holds all men responsible for the bad things done by men, then it’s only fair to also credit all men for the good things done by men. I don’t buy it so I also don’t buy into stuff like patriarchy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:53 AM
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Idk there’s always some marginal case. If your point is that there are hopeless cases who are coping by believing they aren’t hopeless, sure, objectively, I agree. That being said believing you aren’t hopeless is an enabling belief so I’d generally recommend it either way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:11 PM
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Monk mode is not strictly related to sex and dating, I did that for a while to get finances in order and save money for a down payment on my house. Just work and gym, hiking as inexpensive hobby, cooking healthy at home, and saving money
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:29 PM
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Yea now and then someone irl will make a comment about women getting married very young in olden times, and of course I correct them but I’m surprised what a common belief it is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:22 PM
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Many men objectively get lots of sex and still want more lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:55 PM
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I mean this isn’t purplepillpickup. I’m not here to get laid and I would not in a million years try to debate my way into sex. Never again anyway lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 09:51 PM
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Is it some form of hell? Why on earth would I ever want that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 06:00 PM
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Truly nobody’s perfect but I mean some people actually are more enlightened than others
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 07:00 PM
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When I was single it was pretty obvious who was super into me and would be monogamous and probably fall for me, and who was just passing the time with me. Frankly if a girl convincingly faked that I would think she is some kind of sociopath
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:16 PM
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I just tend to be a little more skeptical of getting the government involved. I’m not really sure this is a problem that needs the government to step in. It seems like businesses can handle this on their own
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:58 PM
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Ehh idk
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:20 AM
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lol yeah obviously chasing at work is fraught
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 09:01 AM
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lol yea I agree I was joking
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 05:10 AM
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Yea I bet there are probably some good executions of getting nonverbal consent too
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 12:41 AM
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Honestly this is a good topic because people are so different in their preferences. Some people really do go 0-60 and like it that way. Some people really feel less comfortable reading nonverbal consent I guess you gotta do what fits your own style
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 12:16 AM
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I mean it sounds like you agree that not all attempts to obtain consent are sexy, sometimes the execution sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 12:00 AM
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Women already decided what the rules are, the rules are they get to change their mind at their whim and men have to deal with it or go home lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:46 PM
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lol arrested for clumsy flirting now? Shall I have her sign a waiver before I make a joke?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:40 PM
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Okay but I mean even objectively there are bad approaches and less bad approaches ya?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:31 PM
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Sure but the same awkward guy asking for consent isn’t somehow sexier it’s just less of an imposition lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 11:26 PM
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I mean there is obviously some middle ground between “express earnest sex negotiation” and “surprise tongue”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:36 PM
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Are there approaches to obtaining consent that you find more sexy and some that you find less sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:28 PM
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Kind of a stretch to say you’re risking your job, friends, and freedom by flirting? Arrest this man, he told me I looked fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:25 PM
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A lot of people approach it like this weird transactional earnest version of sex talk and it’s so gross to me lol I do think there’s a place for express verbal consent but honestly for me I would prefer to just be flirty, show sexual intent in a cheeky and lighthearted way, lead in that direction and see if she follows or pulls back
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:21 PM
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Kind of overkill to ask for express verbal consent to flirt, you can just do it and see if she’s into it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 09:11 PM
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Even if you get that, it’s super unrealistic to think a woman is going to consistently be like that for the rest of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:36 PM
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3 dates rule goes back at least to the 90s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:34 PM
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This is so dumb lol like there aren’t a million party girls (and guys for that matter) who grew up privileged and safe
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 04:45 AM
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Yea my girlfriend watches this stuff and says she watches it to try and pick up on patterns so that she can protect herself
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:36 PM
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That sounds kind of cold and lifeless to me. Next you’re going to tell me we don’t fight and make up either
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 06:03 AM
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he had the nerve to suggest they become FWBs the first time they met. The nerve lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 04:52 AM
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I wouldn’t ever take peoples lists too seriously, all that stuff flies out the window once a real person is in front of them and there’s a connection. For me personally let’s say I like some particular characteristic in the abstract, when it’s an actual person I don’t think of them like that, my girlfriend is a whole person not a collection of parts, I guess I can rationally break it down but that is something different from how I feel about her and the explanation doesn’t do the feeling justice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 05:39 AM
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Yes I agree, on average. But the men are more variable so the outliers either way are all men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 07:51 AM
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Characterizing facts is not lying, you can be completely truthful and create a narrative by weaving facts and opinions Like your own statement above, “sacrificed their own financial security and earning potential” and “built the wealth of their partner” those are value judgments that could apply to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:14 PM
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Idk seems pretty easy to at least pitch a narrative like that and have a decent chance of rando judge believing it. Or even just use that low probability of success argument to get like 25% of the original ask in a settlement. It’s not like I have some viable counter to any of this
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 05:32 PM
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What does “less than 10%” matter to you if you’re in the top 10% of incomes? As far as I can tell that just means I’m the sort of person who does have to worry about it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 01:30 PM
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Nobody is saying dating leagues are an iron law of dating. They are just general trends
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 10:33 PM
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Mixed bag, honestly just all over the place. I go out more than most and have approached and been approached so many times over the years, a lot of it does sort of blend together. I would say most were in my league but truly- how can I answer that objectively? I’m probably unintentionally framing the whole idea of “my league” through those experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 06:44 AM
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When my gf moved in she insisted that certain tasks were her tasks, it kinda sucks because I had a better system for some of them but there’s no reasoning with her about it. Oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 02:15 PM
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I guess my point is that if someone is communicating that they have no standards, that communicates a lack of options, which is repulsive, sure it’s probably not the sole reason why anybody is struggling but it’s probably a contributing factor
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:39 AM
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I mean having standards can also be effective because it communicates that you have options. If you don’t actually have any standards tho you could just make them up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:05 PM
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lol yea it’s honesty much like “yes that dress does make you look fat” is honesty, only someone who is far too literal would treat this as an honesty issue, “oh yes honey I have been having doubts about whether you’re faithful” like what good can possibly come out of being honest in that situation, these are situations where you tell a social lie
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 04:57 PM
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lol barf I’m glad I grew up with whatever toxic bullshit pushed me harder than this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:47 AM
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lol what bro I go to events all the time and there’s a whole crowd full of people bopping along with crappy two steps
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:46 AM
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I don’t get what’s misleading. I was dating around to find someone compatible for a relationship. After the bad sex I realized it wasn’t her
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:07 PM
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I mean fair but bad sex is also an easy rule out for long term compatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 11:05 PM
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Go gauchos
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:51 AM
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Idk I mean this content isn’t targeted at women it’s telling guys to lift weights and don’t be a soft people pleaser since it communicates low value. I don’t think that’s trying to “logic women into attraction” quite the opposite really it’s telling guys to actually develop attractive traits
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:17 PM
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Nobody uses “toxic masculinity” in the original academic sense, ie aspects of masculinity that are counterproductive and hurt the very men expressing their masculinity in that way. The classic example is being too proud or macho to see a doctor and submit to medical care when facing a serious medical issue. It is not really ever used like that anymore, when people use this term most of the time they are saying “masculinity is toxic” or “men are toxic” and usually it’s someone just using it as a …
/r/MensRights09/04/24 05:49 AM
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I don’t get it though if you’re sexually conservative why do you want a sexually liberal wife. Wouldn’t a sexually conservative woman be a better match
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 07:20 AM
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I’ll be frank no woman is going to ever admit their duplicity in this regard, it’s a lost cause, just stop chasing it and trying to get their approval
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:59 AM
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God I’m ugly I just like to party I’ve had all of those things happen except some “every single night” shit What’s the scale of this. Like a period of 4 years?! Fuck off that’s like 500 nights of going out, crazy shit happens after midnight 🤷🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:55 AM
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Yea for sure it happens I feel like there is a disconnect in this sub between people who go out a lot and people who don’t. 99% of guys never make a random connection?!? Okay 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:50 AM
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I feel like if you go to clubs often this stuff does happen now and then for average guys. They’re just having fun it isn’t meaningful
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:44 AM
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Bruh like if you go out to clubs a lot getting a handful of random small play is not unheard of why do you think dudes go out to clubs or call it “getting lucky”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:42 AM
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It’s not a humble brag like I’ve had that happen but sometimes it doesn’t mean anything honestly sometimes women are just “having fun” and for them like rubbing on random dudes in clubs to feel something is more encouraged than anything else
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:40 AM
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I mean it can definitely be tough to read tho sometimes. Like I’ve had girls give me big anime eyes when we first saw each other, lean into me, but then not want to take it anywhere or only want to move insanely slow, I’ve also had girls be cold but then have sex with me a couple hours after meeting them. Idk maybe I just can’t see the patterns right, it feels like such a crapshoot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:17 AM
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Rates of detransition are higher among transgender women (11%) than transgender men (4%)
/r/MensRights10/01/24 05:17 AM
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Yes this is it 100%, men’s rights is about systemic issues and systemic injustice, a lot of people have personal solutions that make that stuff better personally and sure that definitely works for a lot of us (personally I’m fine) and I’d definitely recommend self improvement or whatever but the scale of many of these problems is more than that like alot of guys aren’t capable of working against these forces and I guess I feel for them too
/r/MensRights06/12/23 06:15 AM
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I don’t want to hear a dude talk about his erections either. Maybe this is one where the current social norm gets it right
/r/MensRights09/11/23 06:20 AM
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It isn’t harassment unless it’s severe or pervasive. A single one-off approach can’t be harassment unless the person approaching does something extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 03:34 PM
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I’ve done well in life, I would 100% not be where I am if I didn’t have a powerful sex drive that I was able to channel into other pursuits. It’s a great motivator to work hard and make a good life
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:54 PM
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Don’t most people in the military do like spreadsheets or boots or whatever I have 3 close relatives that have served they were a mechanic, a cook, and a radio operator
/r/MensRights28/07/23 12:08 PM
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Oh I agree they’re not starting a movement they would just talk shit about it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:59 PM
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Lmao bruh do you have sisters? Lmfao yea women never get upset about some bullshit feature of a fictional male character I swear nobody can give a hard look at anything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 08:22 AM
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Please hire a lawyer Your questions are ignorant of how this will work, I know it is costly please interview like 3 lawyers and assess what they will give you and what they cost, also ask them, “if I didn’t hire you; who should I hire?” Give those attorneys interviews too
/r/MensRights19/04/23 06:32 AM
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Yea I guess. Idk I’m trying to look at it more from the perspective of the choices most women make. Very few SAHW without kids, those few are very privileged. Honestly those women are generally making out very well in divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:25 AM
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How can atheists/agnostics find unity with you? Like I’m agnostic catholic, I believe in those stories symbolically but like- symbolically. Idk how to reconcile them with someone who actually believes all of that stuff is real
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:21 AM
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Let’s follow the logic- if a woman wants to be like a man she can forswear children and only seek value in her work. She can see how that goes for her but she still has the option. Most women find that option undesirable
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:09 AM
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I mean realistically she’s gonna ruin her body to provide someone with children, marriage or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 05:06 AM
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It’s hard to say? Idk I don’t think about it like that in person, often times I’d just feel a vibe and escalate if it felt right. It’s gotta be at least several hundred, but then often the vibe isn’t right or whatever Online it’s very explicit which is easier in a way
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:37 AM
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Idk pre pandemic I went out all the time and talked to girls all the time in public, honestly I like going out and I still do now post pandemic but I just don’t think it’s a great way to meet people, my experience is that it was way easier lining up dates online.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:25 AM
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Is it tho? I don’t know any venue I’ve ever been to where the ratio is 1:1.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:06 AM
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Some people are just more online oriented and do better that way idk, taking good pictures and being good communicators in text messages, those kind of people are well served by OLD
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 09:05 AM
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I feel like you can’t answer this question without addressing how men feel about sex By all objective measures I’ve had a lot of dates, one night stands, relationships, threesomes, fuckbuddies whatever, it’s just I have a sex drive and my internal state tells me I need to meet new girls and if I don’t I feel like I’m struggling It’s calmed down a bit in middle age but I mean that’s not saying much it was like all consuming before now it’s just strong
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 05:49 AM
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I’ve watched women try to pull and from what I’ve seen like 15-25% of them have it, the others have no clue
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:30 AM
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I don’t like JP, so maybe you’re misreading me there. I’m saying he’s not relevant bc he’s a different subject matter area. Also I don’t see what is a scam about dating coaches. Some of them have good material. Some of them don’t. I know people in many fields that suck at their jobs, that doesn’t make them scammers. A lot of times dating coaches are working with guys who have absolutely no idea how to talk to women in a bar or a club setting. Do you think that there is nobody who has that skill …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:10 PM
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I don’t get this perspective bc in my experience becoming very fit and having a lot going on in my life is broadly appealing to women, not just some weird particular subset of shallow women
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:15 AM
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False premise how are they charlatans? Lots of guys can really benefit from advice on how to flirt
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:07 AM
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Bruh Jordan Peterson is not a dating advice coach or anything remotely similar he is at best like a sort of “clean your room” coach. In the dating realm he acknowledges hypergamy but doesn’t even get into depth about it Also how are dating coaches even scammers? Most of them post a ton of free materials that are basically like “here are ways to be fun and flirty.” Like I guess you don’t see the value in that but I certainly wouldn’t consider it a “scam” in the classic sense, they’re offering a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:04 AM
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lol it’s a cope usually meaning something like “I can’t hang”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 06:58 AM
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Frankly I don’t know why anyone would even keep dating someone they weren’t super compatible with sexually, except maybe casually while pursuing other options. This guy has already made this girl his fiancé so based on that I’m thinking his values are pretty different from mine. Seems like he doesn’t really value sex that much tbh. If he did, why wouldn’t he set the pace of a highly sexual relationship from the start?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 07:24 AM
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Oh if that’s traditional then yes, I do like trad girls. Traditional party girls lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 05:51 AM
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Bro are you really being honest with yourself? You think rich and famous men date young models because they can’t get anyone else? Be real
/r/MensRights07/08/21 03:56 AM
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